I got a few that I endured as a child/teenager. - In school, teachers actively try to avoid picking you to answer questions, even if you haven't answered anything all day, until they have no one left to pick, and then they sigh and pick you. And then you don't get enough participation points by report card time. - People try to exclude you from group photos or cut you out of them, or when you make it in, you have people writing that you ruined their otherwise perfect photo. - Security/employees at stores let all your friends in, but ask you to leave, as you make the store "look bad", or if they can't kick you out, they walk away so that you don't get any assistance. - Every one of your relatives or your parents' friends always ask about your siblings, but could care less about how you're doing. - Babies that were smiling and giggling start to frown, and then burst into tears when they see you. - School photographers for yearbooks/student IDs make all your friends look good, even taking multiple shots, but for you, they haphazardly take one shot, and then call for the next person, and then your photo becomes the yearbook joke. - A girl comes up to compliment you, but she and her friends just burst into maniacal laughter immediately after. - You go out to eat with your family, and the server gets your and your order only wrong, more than once, that you start to think that it's no longer just an innocent mistake. - People in public transit go out of their way to avoid taking the empty seat next to you, even if the vehicle is packed. - So, in an attempt to change all of that, you try to make an effort into improving your appearance, like smiling more, dressing more nicely, growing your hair out more beautifully, walking with a better posture/gait, etc. but then you get mocked for trying because everything you do, you just fall flat on your face. - Despite the above, people tell you anyway that you will look better if you work out/join a sports team, only to find out no one wants to team up with you or give you any kind of encouragement, and would do anything to make sure you don't play on their team or even show up. You also know that it isn't your body that is the issue, because you have both a healthy BMI and a healthy body fat percentage, and your physical examinations all turn out fine. - Also, did I tell you that your friends and family constantly invalidate you if you tell them about any of these misfortunes? You would hear things like "You know, this probably happens to everyone at some point in their lives" or "It can't be because they think you're ugly, they probably just had a bad day and it worked out like that, stop crying." After hearing so much of this, you learn that you just can't trust those who claim to love you, because God forbid that they admit to your poor treatment being due to your lack of physical attractiveness. P.S. People tell me that I look good now, and I believe it, but it took years before I stopped questioning whether they were just saying it as a cruel joke.
"If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." ~ Roald Dahl / The Twits
When I was single and using Tinder, I was talking to this guy for a day or two. I was on break at work and it was summer, so I was pretty sweaty. He asked me if I could take a selfie and send it to him. I asked if I could wait until I got home, since I was in the middle of work and my face was all red and sweaty and my hair was a mess. He said he didn't mind and to send one anyway. So I did. He asked "That's you?" And I'm like "Yeah, should I try taking a better one?" And he goes "Nah I'm good" and never spoke to me again. It's funny now looking back, but at the time I wanted to cannonball into a volcano.
@frog9304 please don't make this into a gender thing, women get rejected and have their looks insulted all the time too, it's not rare. But thank you! I've been married for 5 years now to the most amazing person I've ever met, so I'm doing great now :)
I kinda hate how some people actively try to make people that feel or are ugly feel better by saying "so what if you don't find love and no one ever wants you, you can make FrIeNdS tHaT LoOk Up tO YoU" the lonely people WANT love, that's why it hurts them so much. They WANT to be DESIRED, that's the entire point. It feels like an inconsiderate attempt at feel good vibes. let's get real for most healthy marriages, your S.O. will begin to, more and more, become far and away more important than your friends. that includes the ones you look up to as well. at the
Lot of the stories talk about how basically beauty is subjective and putting stock into looks shouldn't matter. I think those points work against themselves. Because if 'ugly' people find a match then they were at least attractive enough to someone, and to that person who found them attractive...looks did matter. Idk I guess when I meet someone who brings up how "looks aren't everything" and "it's about personality" I love to bring up Sloth from the movie 'The Goonies' & no how he can be the greatest guy out there, but no one is trying to hop into bed with his fish breathe
i'm for sure below avarage in looks but i have nice hairs (i hope they will stay for a while) and nice eyes so during covid people consider be handsome cause they didn't seen uglines behind mask it is what it is at least my female friends are stuning cause i'm not afraid of talking with good looking people cause i really believe looks matter only short therm
In what twisted universe does the compliment of “You’re so intelligent” mean “You’re ugly”? Ladies…take a tip from old auntie Gen X here. Being pretty is nice but fleeting. It’s better to be PRETTY SMART. And as far as being told that you are “not in someone’s league”…oy gevalt! My answer to this has always been “Sunshine, I have a 150 IQ. YOU are not in MY league.” Just find something about yourself that you are proud of and create your own version of that sentence.
Some people are weird, one guy disturbed me to tell me his friend likes me…the guy shot him a look. I asked him if this high school. That doesn’t happen anymore but it used to get to me as a teen.
@BigandKind The fact you believe being thin makes someone attractive is absolutely vile. If people think you're pretty, it's certainly superficial, as you're ugly on the inside. Kind, you're not.
@ ima 7 at best, and I don’t think being 300lbs is good for you. Neither does science or common sense But you got me, I do like thin If that makes me unkind then, I guess I ain’t allowed opinions, dang
@BigandKind You're not allowed to be an asshole. Which is what you're being. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to drop weight safely, or even at all.
When the guy in the white van runs out of candy and he found his puppy.
I got a few that I endured as a child/teenager.
- In school, teachers actively try to avoid picking you to answer questions, even if you haven't answered anything all day, until they have no one left to pick, and then they sigh and pick you. And then you don't get enough participation points by report card time.
- People try to exclude you from group photos or cut you out of them, or when you make it in, you have people writing that you ruined their otherwise perfect photo.
- Security/employees at stores let all your friends in, but ask you to leave, as you make the store "look bad", or if they can't kick you out, they walk away so that you don't get any assistance.
- Every one of your relatives or your parents' friends always ask about your siblings, but could care less about how you're doing.
- Babies that were smiling and giggling start to frown, and then burst into tears when they see you.
- School photographers for yearbooks/student IDs make all your friends look good, even taking multiple shots, but for you, they haphazardly take one shot, and then call for the next person, and then your photo becomes the yearbook joke.
- A girl comes up to compliment you, but she and her friends just burst into maniacal laughter immediately after.
- You go out to eat with your family, and the server gets your and your order only wrong, more than once, that you start to think that it's no longer just an innocent mistake.
- People in public transit go out of their way to avoid taking the empty seat next to you, even if the vehicle is packed.
- So, in an attempt to change all of that, you try to make an effort into improving your appearance, like smiling more, dressing more nicely, growing your hair out more beautifully, walking with a better posture/gait, etc. but then you get mocked for trying because everything you do, you just fall flat on your face.
- Despite the above, people tell you anyway that you will look better if you work out/join a sports team, only to find out no one wants to team up with you or give you any kind of encouragement, and would do anything to make sure you don't play on their team or even show up. You also know that it isn't your body that is the issue, because you have both a healthy BMI and a healthy body fat percentage, and your physical examinations all turn out fine.
- Also, did I tell you that your friends and family constantly invalidate you if you tell them about any of these misfortunes? You would hear things like "You know, this probably happens to everyone at some point in their lives" or "It can't be because they think you're ugly, they probably just had a bad day and it worked out like that, stop crying." After hearing so much of this, you learn that you just can't trust those who claim to love you, because God forbid that they admit to your poor treatment being due to your lack of physical attractiveness.
P.S. People tell me that I look good now, and I believe it, but it took years before I stopped questioning whether they were just saying it as a cruel joke.
If the society was a PC, it would bluescreen all the time and say "Error Error Error Error Error Error Error Error".
When the only time cute guys talk to you is when they're asking you about your cute friend
If you look into a mirror, then your reflection smashes it, you caught the ugly.
😂
I see that Spongebob reference 👀
Or you just stink
Or you could just have bad breath?
LOOK AT IT!
"If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly.
You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."
~ Roald Dahl / The Twits
ironic thing is, the same thing happened to him
These stories just make me sad.
When I was single and using Tinder, I was talking to this guy for a day or two. I was on break at work and it was summer, so I was pretty sweaty. He asked me if I could take a selfie and send it to him. I asked if I could wait until I got home, since I was in the middle of work and my face was all red and sweaty and my hair was a mess. He said he didn't mind and to send one anyway. So I did. He asked "That's you?" And I'm like "Yeah, should I try taking a better one?" And he goes "Nah I'm good" and never spoke to me again. It's funny now looking back, but at the time I wanted to cannonball into a volcano.
That's usually what guys go through with women, actually. I feel bad about what happened to you, hopefully you find a good partner soon.
@frog9304 please don't make this into a gender thing, women get rejected and have their looks insulted all the time too, it's not rare. But thank you! I've been married for 5 years now to the most amazing person I've ever met, so I'm doing great now :)
@@onionbubs386 lol and there goes any sympathy right out the window. Sounds like he finally got to see you unfiltered 🤣
@@BC-gh3my just put the fries in the bag, virgin
@@onionbubs386 lol no looks and no personality. The smell of cat piss is strong in your future 🤣🤣🤣
As that weird al's song goes, " Your dog would much rather play fetch by itself"
I can count on one hand how many truly ugly people I have encountered.
According to my friend, you will be keenly aware of the difference between seductive gazes and subtle glares of horror.
Thats a win
I kinda hate how some people actively try to make people that feel or are ugly feel better by saying "so what if you don't find love and no one ever wants you, you can make FrIeNdS tHaT LoOk Up tO YoU" the lonely people WANT love, that's why it hurts them so much. They WANT to be DESIRED, that's the entire point. It feels like an inconsiderate attempt at feel good vibes. let's get real for most healthy marriages, your S.O. will begin to, more and more, become far and away more important than your friends. that includes the ones you look up to as well. at the
Lot of the stories talk about how basically beauty is subjective and putting stock into looks shouldn't matter. I think those points work against themselves. Because if 'ugly' people find a match then they were at least attractive enough to someone, and to that person who found them attractive...looks did matter. Idk I guess when I meet someone who brings up how "looks aren't everything" and "it's about personality" I love to bring up Sloth from the movie 'The Goonies' & no how he can be the greatest guy out there, but no one is trying to hop into bed with his fish breathe
I like to think that there's some minimum threshold for attractiveness. Below that, one should consider being a nun/monk.
i'm for sure below avarage in looks but i have nice hairs (i hope they will stay for a while) and nice eyes so during covid people consider be handsome cause they didn't seen uglines behind mask it is what it is at least my female friends are stuning cause i'm not afraid of talking with good looking people cause i really believe looks matter only short therm
Yo wtf does story 3 look like? An orc? 💀
Literally💀
In what twisted universe does the compliment of “You’re so intelligent” mean “You’re ugly”? Ladies…take a tip from old auntie Gen X here. Being pretty is nice but fleeting. It’s better to be PRETTY SMART.
And as far as being told that you are “not in someone’s league”…oy gevalt! My answer to this has always been “Sunshine, I have a 150 IQ. YOU are not in MY league.” Just find something about yourself that you are proud of and create your own version of that sentence.
Story 15 sounds like it takes place in India with their caste system.
"conventionally" like its just some arbitrary societal thing lol
Some people are weird, one guy disturbed me to tell me his friend likes me…the guy shot him a look. I asked him if this high school. That doesn’t happen anymore but it used to get to me as a teen.
early
Please just lose the last 40 lbs, went from a 4 to a 7 instantly
What an ugly thing to say
@ I disagree, being a healthy weight helps a lot. For most cases.
But the chubby chasers are there for the big boned ones
@BigandKind The fact you believe being thin makes someone attractive is absolutely vile. If people think you're pretty, it's certainly superficial, as you're ugly on the inside. Kind, you're not.
@ ima 7 at best, and I don’t think being 300lbs is good for you. Neither does science or common sense
But you got me, I do like thin
If that makes me unkind then, I guess I ain’t allowed opinions, dang
@BigandKind You're not allowed to be an asshole. Which is what you're being. Not everyone has the luxury of being able to drop weight safely, or even at all.
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