HOW TO COME OUT TO YOUR PARENTS | NOAHFINNCE
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My dad saw me watching this video and now he thinks im gay.
*im just a noah finnce stan dammit*
me toooo
nvm i'm gay lmao
me
I'm not gay or trans.
But I just love Noah so much 😊
Ha I'm gay
I hid in my closet with a pair of pans and waiting for my mom to come looking for me and when she walked in my room I came out of the closet screaming "IM PANSEXUAL" hitting the pans together. She was annoyed but then looked at me and said:
"That's fine. I'm bisexual."
AJ's Closet omg😂😂😂
WOAH
PLOT TWIST
Omg that's amazing!! 😂😂😂
OMGGG, IM PAN AND THATS SUCK A FUN WAY TO COME skskskksk. - haven't come out yet but thats a great idea ty C:
You made my day
“im noah, im... gay.... and a dude....”
literally me trying to explain my gender/sexuality situation to everyone at school smh
Alexzander Howell nice name
Ok Kik peteryanes
Same its quite funny in my head
Me too.
yeah, another way i explain is "i'm gay, and a trans dude but thats unimportant now leave me the fuck alone"
If you come out in a jokey way then your parents might think it’s a joke.
True
Depends on the family….
Take a shot everytime Noah trips over his words
I can't move whyd ya say it
Y u tryna kill us
The ultimate drinking game
I'd be black out drunk
0:01 omg im drunk
I’m a bisexual female and still in the closet. I’m in 8th grade. I live in a very conservative area and no one is very accepting of non-heterosexual relationships. I made a bracelet that is bi flag colors and I wore it everyday. No one understood the significance of the colors. But one day I saw a girl in my class wearing the same colored bracelet. I told her I liked her bracelet and I had one the same colors. I asked if she was bi and she said yes. Now we just make jokes about being bi and no one else knows. It’s so nice to have someone who I can talk to about this stuff. The moral of the story is that u don’t have to rip off the band-aid and be like “HELLO WORLD IM GAY AS FUCK” u can slowly come out to people u trust so u know u have allies if coming out to ur loved ones doesn’t go as planned. I doubt anyone actually cares about this but I just thought I’d put it out there just in case. Remember to always spread love😊❤️🏳️🌈
Sincerely,
A young girl who’s bisexual as FUCK
That’s a really sweet little story💝 go you! Hope all turns out good
That’s really smart
I have the same situation that you had. You got like THE DREAM
I love this story as I am in somewhat of a similar situation myself, Thank you for sharing this.
Sincerely,
A young guy who's bisexual as FUCK
Awww this is cute. Im glad you found a friend. That bi bracelet tho 👌 smart move
My mom thinks the lgbtq community isn't human and think we're all confused and my dad is a HUGE Ally to lgbtq
Jose Robles hahahaha let's move in together when we're old enough
@@skylarbeeyotch2070 oOf I'll try😂👌
Sameee my mom thinks all these lgbt people are just gerting confused by our corrupt society. My dad seems chill, i feel like he'd accept me just cause im his daughter ^^
Both of my parents are VERY homophobic
Same but opposite
"Hipe for the best, prepare for the worst" love that Hobo Johnson lyric
That's just a very common idiom..
When my dad was younger he was kinda homophobic and stuff but then when his brother told him that he was gay, he realised that it didn't make sense to be homophobic when he loved his brother.
That’s sweet
My dad related being trans to eating cat hair...at that moment I knew that I would be in the closet all throughout school
what
Wait what
Um... huh?
if you think your dad should shut up clap your hands (clap clap) @liv men
Thanks for the tip, boi!
I love your videos!!
Bubba!
Winshard WHAAA I DIDNT EXPECC TO SEE U HERE
Can I have your animating skills? :””)
How do I know if I'm trans? Coz like.... its bothering me lol
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h e l l o
watching this on full volume praying my parents will hear this
I'm an idiot so I just got a card that said "it's a boy" and crossed out the "it's" so it said 'I'm a boy" and my parents didn't appreciate it
CatsInSpace that’s genius, why on earth didn’t they appreciate it xD
@@reubenoreilly7513 they were upset that I didn't tell them in person
CatsInSpace Well it was a damn good joke, well done, you’re doing a great job buddy!!!
We have to protect this bean at all cost
If you heard a scream somewhere in the distance, don't worry, it was me laughing so loud
Last time I was this early I was heterosexual
What the heck XD ? You just won an imaginary prize for making me laugh :')
Someone help me I’m stupid and don’t understand
@@jasminechukwuma4401 heterosexual means straight. Last time I was this early to a video I was straight (or at least in the closet)
Personally I don't plan on coming out to my parents, I don't owe them that and they don't need to know
wish i came to that conclusion a year ago... good choice
That’s what I’ve decided too for now
yeah me too.
same why do they need to know ab my sex life and who i’m attracted to. straight ppl don’t have that conversation with their parents
@@davina6897 Do you think you`ll come out to them eventually or are you happy keeping it on the dl for now?😊
When I came out to my mum I knew I wouldn't have the balls (ha) to go to her first and sit her down so I waited for her to come to me. She rang me in the morning to tell me when she was coming home from work, I put my trans flag on the bed and waited for her to come into my bedroom. This way I had nowhere to run because I kept putting it off for no reason. She came in and sat on the bed, I asked her if she knew what the flag was and took it from there. I had a bag packed on the floor waiting just in case and a place to stay if it got messy. Always plan, people.
How did it turn out? If you don't mind me asking
Howd it go?
It went okay. She cried and I cried it was kind of wild haha. She's very confused and uneducated but I know she's trying. She's not using my name and pronouns because I haven't told my dad yet (he's the real worry) and she's worried that nobody will want to be with me because I'm trans. I know her enough to know that she's probably been googling stuff to understand more as that's what she always does. She reacted the way I knew she would, the bag idea is mainly for my dad. I'm moving to uni in 2 weeks so I'll be telling him before I go if everything goes to plan because then I have a place to go that isn't my friend's caravan on his front lawn.
I'm glad it went okay😊
@@ilooklikeatoe6596 Proud of you!❤️ Great advice too👍
I came out to my dad a month ago, he said the loveliest thing ever
“You are who you are and you can be what you want, just know, that I love you no matter what.”
I wish my parents were like that they just say YoUr A gIrL yOu DoNt KnOw WhAt YoUr tAlKiNg AbOuT aNd YoUr NaMeS mIcHeLlE nOt AsH and your not non binary or this blah blah blah I got mad so I've given up on telling my parents
@@ashytashy Stay strong Ash you are who you are, Ash. Ash support Ash 💙
last time i was this early i thought i was cis
dead memes M E
👏My 👏 entire 👏life
When you commented this I thought the same way
As a parent I find it really sad that LGBTQ+ have to *”come out”* in the first place.
A heterosexual doesn’t sit their parents down & say “Mum & Dad I have something to tell you......
.... I’m straight”
I don’t understand why a parent would disown a child based on their sexuality, like how is that any of our business 🤷♀️
Thank you for making such informative video’s & educating this older (46) Mum
Love from Australia 🐨 🇦🇺 🦘
You have really nice hands.....sorry this is weird😂.
Patience Barfield even his hands are going through puberty
Wait srsly?! I didnt notice he did
he knows
I thought the same thing I always notice ones hands
You’re the most gorgeous dude I’ve ever seen in my life.... 🙌🏽
He fact that u do t edit out when u can’t get ur words out is the best 😂 xx
I legit just texted my mum “I’ve got a girlfriend now” when I was 14 lmao
Jess McGrath well you are brave. It took me a lot of time to tell my mom that i liked a girl
Zuza Klecha took my like 3 months of being in a relationship and like 6 months of knowing. I never fully came out tho I just got a girlfriend and people assumed I was gay ever since and it was dead easy for me. I was just kinda like fuck it
my mum was like :
'i think people just say it to be popular'
I was like boiii panic! at the disco in my head 'LOVE IS NOT A CHOICEEE"
My town had a pride for the first time today! ❤
Lucky!
i went to a pride parade last year and it was a weird and fun experience
I didn't really come out actually. My mum asked me if I was trans and I broke down crying because I was really confused and didn't know who I was. I'm happy to say that I now know that I'm definitely a trans guy and my mum fully accepts me
This give me so many help...
So many help right now
**Trying to think of some clever, witty and satirical to say in the comments and realising this is just a really good video so saying that instead**
I was like “idk how to say this nicely so I’m just gonna jump right in there. I’m not a girl.” And then we had a convo and cried and shit. She sort of talked to my dad about it and for the most part we kind of just ignored the whole thing for a year. Until I scheduled my top surgery. And started going by a different name and pronouns. Then I came home for Christmas and we were playing the game of things and my card was “Things I want to get off my chest” and my dad just looked at me and was trying not to laugh. And under my breathe I smiled and said “tits” and my dad starts laughing and said that was what he was gonna say. So we are all good. Still working on name and pronouns but at least we are to a point where it can get brought up without them getting emotional
I just wanted to say, thank you! People skip over the part about how every home is different, and every coming out is different. I just wanted to say thanks, and I love ya!
I forgot commenting this
my cousin came out as gay transgender and they were supportive and have been educated but they admitted to being sad not to have biological grandchildren
my mum just came up to me one day and was like “hey, are you a lesbian?” so i didn’t even have to come out 🤷🏼♀️
i told my parents theres a secret i have been keeping from them and I will tell them when I'm ready... SO THEY DUG UP IN MY DISCORD AND FOUND OUT IM TRANS at least they are supportive all my friends know I'm trans they are supportive thankfully I live in a very lgbtqia+ friendly area
0:02 people HATE when I do that😂
My mom hates it. It makes her vomit
Your jawline is SHARP
*One small tip for supportive parents and bringing it up casually* , I did that with my mum, she was fine with it but I just wanted to change the subject immediately but she of course wanted to know what pansexual meant (yes if it's something more unknown don't expect them to know, it's not there fault) she knew i'd told her but forgot and she just wanted to talk about it which I get! But I wasn't ready, so maybe expect they may ask questions and not just be like "oh ok" and move like they may, i have friends who i know there parents would do that if they were LGBTQ+ but do think they probably want to know a bit more info, about what you're coming out as or when you realised, all that stuff, at least at some point... there we go my small tip😂
Hope it was useful in some way.
I know that it will be a while before I get the confidence to come out to my parents 😑
Just a Queer Kid And when that confidence comes I wish you the best of luck! 😁
Take your time❤! I'm not ready to come out to my parents either
Have you come out yet?
To the person reading this, hello 👋
Samantha Mangold hey there, how's u?
hi there !
Matt B hi
Hello, you alright? ❤️
Hello, how's your day? :)
I was out with some girls I knew from elementary. And me, being Bi came up in conversation. "But even if your Bi you are gonna eventually settle for one or the other. Not as a partner would make you straight or gay immediately but your preference will be decided." (Paraphrased from my language) and I was like "no. There can be a preference, cause most people are not 50/50, but being by and still being turned on by both (sorry, multiple) genders is valid." Then another, who doesn't like labels but is dating the same sex and dated guys before agreed with her that if I'm more into girls then I'm not bi. I'm fucking done with how other community people treat Bi folk. Wth. That's exactly why I don't wanna come out to my parents. But at the same time I've been thinking in the last few weeks that a lot of the socially expected of me bullshit would be gone if they knew what's up. I won't have to here the "when are you gonna get a boyfriend, why aren't you socializing?" And then be talked to about how all my friends I go out with are freaks. "Mom, sorry that Anna feels good having 20 face piercings and shaving her head and hand poking tattoos for kicks. I'm sorry that Esther, my most caring friend lost her best friend last year to suicide and she's not okay. I'm sorry that some of my friends are going to my elite school and working harder than others because they're from the wrong side of the tracks. I just wish I could tell them all of this in my own language this passionately and bluntly.
My mom's always like "oh yea I support the lgbtq community but I wouldn't be a fan of my own children being a part of it" but my dad's all like "as long as they're happy!!" Lmaoooo
when i came out as ftm to my dad he flipped. i called him and told him which was probably a bad idea. he was on his way home from work and he worked over an hour away and i didn’t want to wait. i wasn’t really concerned too much with coming out, because i knew what was right and what was wrong. it didn’t go over well with my step family either. my dads girlfriend likes to pretend she’s a christian and make her 4 kids exactly like her. she would literally tell me, “god doesn’t make mistakes.” it got so bad i failed out of school, i had cps called on my dad twice, almost got sent to a suicide hospital, then my dad took me out of school before the year ended and sent me back to my home state. i told my mom to fight for custody and she won. it’s now been over a year and two months since i came out, and i was sent to my home state the end of may. i lived in complete hell for a year. my mom is applying me for medicaid so my and top surgery will be covered, and my dad can’t do a thing about it. there’s so much more to the story, but this comment would become a book before i knew it😅😅
"im literally hugging myself" MEEEEEEEE 😂😂😂❤️
"There's nothing worse than an angry Tranny"! I want that printed on a tee shirt! Noah, you gave lots of sound advice and suggestions. I'm proud to see young people today being brave enough to comeout. In my day we didn't even tell our friends. It was lonely. As role model you are helping someone to prepare for what they want to do. And yes, accept it, you are a role model! I wish I had one when I was young. BTW I never came out to my parents, I did to my younger Sister but she disowned me. I fairly sure she never outed me. She just hated me from afar. Bisexual was such an ugly word to her. She was really confused when I got married.
Nobody:
Not one single person:
Noah: *Cracks knuckles at the beginning of the video*
I know you’re probably never going to read this, but I do have a question-.
What if I’m young, (not going to say my age, but I’m quite young) and I’m absolutely positive I’m not comfortable in my own body. I always thought this was normal, and that it was just insecurities, but I’ve recently became more- I don’t know how to put it, amazed? No, wait, inspired I guess I could say, like something I’m 100% sure would bring me happiness, and i feel the absolute need to do it, to the idea of transitioning. I am biologically a female, but I don’t feel comfortable with anything involving my sex. (Not going to get much into- *that*, but mainly girly things, things I’m supposed to like but don’t, etc etc) I’ve looked into it, and I’m already planning to start the small steps of transitioning when I move out. That’s the thing though, *when I move out*. Both of my parents are homophobic, transphobic, and basically against the idea of the LGBTQ+ community. They hate it. Every time I try talking about it, or at least the way I feel, they just say that I’m either, A. Being dramatic and overreacting, B. Trying to ‘follow the trends’, or copy my friends, because I think it’s ‘cool’, or C. I’m being dumb, as I’m too young to have decided that stuff. I’ve come out to most of my friends, and my cousin, and they all support me, but the most important people wouldn’t, or, I’m too scared to find out. They’re not bad people! They’re just.. against that idea. Mom yells a lot, and I have anxiety, so her, or anyone’s yelling scares me. Knowing her, she’d go into a yelling fit if I came out to her. I guess, what I’m asking, is should I even come out to them? I still have a few years before I move out, and Im exceptionally good at bottling things in/not telling anyone, but I don’t know-
(Thanks btw for anyone that read this hella long thing, and sorry for boring you)
I would not come out they sound supportive I think when I move out then u should tell em because u don't have to worry about getting kicked out of the house but who I am to tell I haven't come out
Unsupportive is what I meant
Honestly, just make sure you’re safe and if you can’t bottle it up any longer make sure you have a place to go. If one of your friends families is excepting you could possibly go stay with them or some thing. Just like I said, stay safe. I am in a similar situation and hiding in the closet because my family is extremely religious, hope things go well.
im a closeted trans girl my parent found out in ways I didn't quite like but at least I have supportive friends and parents and I live in an overall lgbtqia+ friendly area
Finally! I love Noah and I’ve waited so long for thissss
I came out to 2 of my friends in a hot tub 👏 like ya do and axdently came out to my other friend coz i forgot they followed my fan account 🤣🤣
Vylad Kelly That is brilliant! 😂
@@Casual_Letdown ikr 😂 it was terffing 😅
Vylad Kelly Well I’m proud of you!😂 I might have to use that one for myself!
@@Casual_Letdown thank you very much!! i hope everything goes well if you do! ❤
Vylad Kelly Thank you! 😊 Lucky I’m already out to my family but I will use it the next time I need to.
Dude when I come out my grandma is gonna drown me in water and hold a cross and read bible verse😂😂🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
"I'm not who you think I am,I'm a man."
Your arms and shoulders look so buff!!! Wow!!! The man juices are doing a good job!
I didn't come out to my parents, I just told them who I liked and they were all left snatched 😤
this is actually like a really good video, its cool seeing u be serious and for real talk about stuff. idk u cool.
I love how he makes this funny yet so useful at the same time. Thanks, this will help me a lot!
yeah regarding the last point, my mom had to reconstruct what she imagined my future would be like after I came out as gay. she isn't homophobic, she just had to "grieve" for who she thought I'd turn out to be: a woman with a husband and kids.
This is actually extremely helpful wow
BUT HOW DO I COME OUT TO MY DOG!?!?!
I love how it's 3:09Am and this is what i'm watching right now and I don't need headphones because nobody is awake
Noah this is super smart. One of your best videos yet 😄
This is honestly the best coming out advice video I’ve ever seen
Listen to his voice- ahhhh that makes me so happy 💕
i love this. it was so calming and vulnerable and amazing.
yay Noah's back and with the video I needed Thanks Noah!!!!
You don’t know how much this helped me, thankyou. 💖
Thank you! This is the best advice and tip video for this subject. Helped a lot!
TYSM! The letter idea is great becuase I jsut cant talk face to face or I'll jsut be a mess so I'm going to wright a full on essay.
Ahhhhhh Noah's voice is everything 😍😍😍
I was on a walk with my dad. He was asking me what’s wrong and why I’m depressed all the time. I just shrugged. He goes do you think you are a guy? Are you a guy? And I looked at him and I was like “yeah”. I asked home how he knew. He laughed and said he had thought it for a little while. So that’s how I (kinda) came out as a trans guy.
This is my first time seeing any of your videos and youre so adorable?? Thank you for the advice 💞
you have a piece of fluff haunting your room Noah and also thank you sm for reading my comment on your live xxx
Thanks for this! Im already out and stuff but this is helpful to other guys!!!!! Also give your parents lots of time, they usually will come around, it takes time!
Thanks for the tips, I agree, its not something people cant just explain the perfect way to come out, but this still helped, I'm not ready yet, but definitely have a lot more confidence in it how, thank you Noah!
0:59 GLAD WE’VE ESHTABLISHED DAT
Oh my god this is really weird. I've been thinking about coming out as trans for the first time in ages today!!!
One question!! So, I know that I'm completely safe if I do come out, but my dad is transphobic and my mum isn't but she might not believe me. I'm just a bit unsure.
Oh, noah, I have another question. Is there a way I could dm you or privately message you about the situation? Idk, I just feel like my coming out situation is barely talked about and from what i've seen you've experienced close to it. Thankyou 💕
@@goblindude4242 Heyy, is there anyway we can chat? We`re in kinda a similar situation👀 I`m a listening ear if you just need to get it out!❤️😌
love that summer in the city wristband!!
the beginning is so real bless
Jerhaje wait, that such a good idea. If I write a freaking note then tell them to write back in note form bruh- so much awkwardness and possibly sadness is just ✨gone✨ with that method. You're genuinely a lifesaver!!
I came out to my mom while eating chicken wings
The best way 🏃
Thanks for this amazing video. I agree with your tips. And you are looking amazing like always mate
These tips really helped thank you so much continue to be amazing 😁😁👌👌💗💗
Appreciate this video noah. Its hard when youre still trying to figure out what u feel and then hoping you explain it in the right way :))
I remember coming out to my parents and getting yelled at for 2 hours straight and them telling me that I should focus more on my studies than "unimportant" stuff like this. Also, when I said I was gay, they just asked me "so like, you like one of your cousins?" and the trans thing they responded "Trans men don't have periods" and I was just like. I'm too forward thinking for this shit-
ur good at talking and thanks a lot. this video actually helps compared to other coming out videos
Or if you’re a mess and cant verbally communicate because you’ll just break down, have a panic attack and cry writing a letter is also great :) my mum was very supportive but writing a letter helped express all my feelings that I knew i couldn’t actually say to her . Great video you’re the cutest 💞👍🏻
Thank you so much this really helped me come out to my catholic parents.You saved my life i was living in a shadow pretending to be someone that i am not
So helpful! Thank you!
This helped me so much. Thank you.
this is just on time for me wow
turk bulmaktan korkuyordum :( umarim iyi gecer
Jesse McCrory coming out yapmayı şuan düşünmesem de saol sadece zamanı iyi
Gosh you deserve 1mil subscribers.
Love from Italy xx
Thanks mate, I came out a year ago to my parents. They (mostly my mom) didn’t really understand and said mean things about it, and they still don’t understand. It’s really tough sometimes, but I’ve started gender therapy now. Going on my second appointment this month. My dad is more understanding and at least avoids to use my name and pronouns, but my mom asks me if I even need gender therapy. That hurts a lot, since I’m suicidal due to gender dysphoria every day. But, I know that someday I will be able to live as myself. It won’t be easy to get there, but it will happen. Also started to cry while writing this which I almost never do. You inspire me Noah, you have helped me to accept myself.
Thanks for all that tips ....there are gonna help me so much
Your intros are a mood
I kinda needed this like RIGHT NOW. THANKS!
My mom is one of those “it’s fine if my kid isn’t that but I don’t understand it and therefore it’s weird and why would people do that” kind of a person
My dad is pretty cool about it, he’s told me “I don’t understand but I support it!”
I’m still not planning on coming out until I turn sixteen or unless I really feel like I have to. Like if the dysphoria gets to be too much, I’ll find the time to tell my dad
My reason for waiting until I’m sixteen specifically: I want to be able to drive, just in case. I know my dad wouldn’t let my mom kick me out, but he’s usually at work during the day and gets home late; he can’t stop her if he’s not there.
i love your hair🤩
I told my gran gran. She’s the only one in my fam who knows. She says as long as im happy. I love gran gran
best how to come out video i’ve ever seen lmao this will actually help so many people
YOU REACHED YOUR GOAL ON GOFUNDME :)
Ily ily ily ily
I mean I’ve already come out but will always watch your videos Noah ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The beginning was so satisfying 😂
Love the vid 💪🏻