Why Most Retirees Secretly Struggle

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  • @Mitzi73
    @Mitzi73 13 днів тому +118

    I am 51 and spend most of my days alone, on purpose. People have caused me nothing but trouble since I have been a child. I can love others better when I am not in the room.

  • @hammertyme8392
    @hammertyme8392 13 днів тому +67

    I retired 4yrs ago at 57 and couldn't be happier.
    I don't distance myself from people to teach them a lesson, I distance myself because I finally learned mine.

  • @flygirl5633
    @flygirl5633 13 днів тому +105

    As an introvert, and a person who has been single most of her life, I absolutely love time alone. OK, maybe not just sitting in a room with no reading or writing materials, but curling up with a good book, playing the piano for hours, going for a long walk, or tackling a sewing project are some of the things I enjoy in retirement. I also like traveling alone - less wrapped up in conversation with travel partners and more time to observe the surroundings. I do spend one day a week volunteering and golf every other week so that I have *some* interaction with the outside world.

  • @kwfannin
    @kwfannin 7 днів тому +37

    "I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in maturity " A Einstein

  • @user-qd4yc4vf7c
    @user-qd4yc4vf7c 10 днів тому +41

    The worst part of retirement is that it comes at the end.

  • @Retiredtraveler1961
    @Retiredtraveler1961 12 днів тому +30

    I'm 63 and retired three years ago at 60. My wife and I are both retired and we do not miss working one bit! Without getting too detailed, we are financially set thanks to pensions (plural) coupled with great health benefits from the department of Defense. We spend our leisure time exercising at the gym daily, traveling all over the world comfortably, and traveling all over the states, visiting family and friends. We are very grateful for what we have.

  • @TheOriginalMarimoChan
    @TheOriginalMarimoChan 11 днів тому +30

    Other people are making my life shorter by giving me stress and drama. I'd rather be in my garden and with my plants and pets instead.

  • @josephjuno9555
    @josephjuno9555 13 днів тому +44

    I am 62, single man never married, have lived alone for the last 35 years? I work Part-time now but soon will be fully retired. I'm not lonely but sometimes wish I had someone to travel with? I do many things alone, if I want to do something, I just do it

    • @paulh6096
      @paulh6096 12 днів тому +6

      You could do a travel club where a group goes together. they have singles travel clubs as well where everyone is there to have a good time and build some friendships.

  • @threeoaks8477
    @threeoaks8477 13 днів тому +29

    As a therapist nearing retirement, after seeing this, I should spend more time teaching my clients how to appreciate and make the most out of solitude. Great video!

  • @anthonys5568
    @anthonys5568 12 днів тому +46

    I"m nearing retirement and a I appreciate your insight. Thank you Sir.

  • @Crowns57854
    @Crowns57854 6 днів тому +7

    Im retired 2 years … let me comment.
    1. Yes. I went from being important to not being needed. DONT SELL you soul to a company that doesn’t care about you. I heard that, thought … not me! . Prepare for the next step. I struggle(d) with depression.
    2. Health is Key in retirement. Work out hard. Don’t drink. Eat clean! Thats the investment people miss.
    3. Yes… work on dropping the fear and retire. Live on a budget but still live.
    Thank you so much for bringing in a relationship with God. After focusing on my career for so long, this is made a huge impact and getting back to what’s important so thank you.

  • @9liveslisa
    @9liveslisa 7 днів тому +8

    Undistracted solitude lowered my blood pressure. I'm golden in retirement.

  • @dlg5485
    @dlg5485 12 днів тому +11

    I've always been a solitary guy, so being alone with my thoughts is the default. However, as I start to think about how I want to spend retirement, I feel compelled to reinvent myself to some extent. I do love being on my own, but I also think there's value in getting out of my comfort zone. A big part of being successfully retired has to be pursuing new experiences.

  • @christopherprice3226
    @christopherprice3226 13 днів тому +22

    I enjoy Solitude. I spend 90% of my 12 hour workday alone with podcast. Love my wife and family but I need an extra hour alone when I get home to chill. My Job is complex I mix and deal with explosives for mines. A bit stressful,I enjoy silence.

  • @jazzjokesjalopies
    @jazzjokesjalopies 13 днів тому +17

    We’re both introverts, and cherish the quiet time retirement affords.

  • @Monipenny1000
    @Monipenny1000 12 днів тому +12

    I'm use to spending time alone, so this part of growing old should be no problem for me.

  • @GowdyStuff
    @GowdyStuff 11 днів тому +5

    Great video Dave...totally hits home. I have been retired for 2 years now, (currently 63), and I find myself going through cycles of being busy with hobbies and travel, and then periods of boredom, too much TV and drinking...all of those things that you mentioned...very accurate. Your message is clear - look out for those negative aspects of retirement and work on eliminating or improving upon them. Focus more on community, God, family and relationships.

  • @caoillainn
    @caoillainn 12 днів тому +12

    I'm introverted, but after 10 months of near total isolation, I'm definitely lonely. I guess I better find a senior walking group or something.

  • @joyblevins8712
    @joyblevins8712 12 днів тому +9

    I recently retired and plan to have zero before I die. Spending money and having a great time traveling

  • @stevepoland4578
    @stevepoland4578 13 днів тому +11

    Dave, your videos are awesome! I drive by Dave Ramsey's HQ all the time and you are way better. Your whole strategy about the psychology of retirement is spot on. I'm months away from retirement and I have tremendously enjoyed your videos. I think it is time that you make yourself more of a national brand!

  • @jeffb.2469
    @jeffb.2469 12 днів тому +11

    Love your videos! You always make it a point to focus on things other than money, and you always make me think about what's really important.

  • @dominic8218
    @dominic8218 9 днів тому +5

    My wife hates to see me enjoying myself alone. Help 😂

  • @iczemi
    @iczemi 13 днів тому +15

    I retired. I go hiking periodicaly alone, in the nature. No phone

  • @cato451
    @cato451 13 днів тому +12

    Good video. Some of these things do throw people off. As a natural introvert I had no problem lol.

  • @kimhayes3828
    @kimhayes3828 13 днів тому +5

    EXCELLENT video. The psychological side of money & retirement are so very
    Important to our experience. More of this please 😊😊

  • @MidwestMoney
    @MidwestMoney 13 днів тому +6

    Great video! Everything you went over is spot-on with my personal experiences and beliefs. That "life satisfaction" graph unbelievably mimics my life so far in a nutshell. I'm 100% sure I'm retiring at age 49. I love my alone time and will fill that time with figuring out how to contribute to the other categories in the pie chart. A human can do many great things if he/she has the time to do so.

  • @DB-rr1eo
    @DB-rr1eo 13 днів тому +8

    The struggle of life never ends. FACT! Until life ends. Be ready for the end.

  • @louisapdjones
    @louisapdjones 12 днів тому +3

    Your brother is awesome and wise beyond his years 😮

  • @NipItInTheBud100
    @NipItInTheBud100 12 днів тому +1

    That quote perfectly describes how I want to be able to spend my retirement!!

  • @cbdane
    @cbdane 11 днів тому +1

    Thank you Dave. This is just what I needed this morning in some challenging circumstances away from home. I feel like I know these four things in my head but sometimes need to strengthen the conviction of my heart.
    Fear of growing old; the acronym is FOGO and means fire in my second language (Portuguese). I will remember that!

  • @7SideWays
    @7SideWays 12 днів тому +2

    Thank you for discussing non $ issues in retirement. Working on my relationships and purpose portfolio now.

  • @petermolloy8710
    @petermolloy8710 11 днів тому +2

    Excellent video!personally I find prayer very important along with a curiosity that keeps the mind active

  • @Yette
    @Yette 13 днів тому +9

    Regarding the Kitsis references, I was pretty successful savings for retirement, my problem is the spending. I developed many frugal tendencies which remain difficult to overcome. I fear I will pass with a huge unspent surplus

    • @johnzemetra6106
      @johnzemetra6106 13 днів тому +5

      I agree 100%. We just bought a new car, got rid of a 20 year old car that had lots of problems. It was still hard to buy a newer car. I am 70 years old and used money I inherited from my father from 12 years ago. It took me a couple months to convince myself to spend $40,000 on the largest and most expensive car I have ever owned. We are also very frugal, but it really is ok to spend money on things that can improve your life.

  • @icedteamama176
    @icedteamama176 10 днів тому +1

    Súper helpful especially the triangles! Thank you very much! ❤

  • @Muller_Andr
    @Muller_Andr 13 днів тому +5

    Increasing tax rates are the reason I rolled over my 401k to a Roth. I don’t want to be 59 paying taxes on current income on withdrawals made from my retirement account.

  • @DionTalkFinancialFreedom
    @DionTalkFinancialFreedom 12 днів тому

    With age comes wisdom.
    The way Dom to know being alone is the best time we get.

  • @W.Eric.Anderson
    @W.Eric.Anderson 12 днів тому +2

    Excellent info....thanks for making !

  • @kentuckyleisure4289
    @kentuckyleisure4289 13 днів тому +2

    Love the triangle. Very informative. Well darn, I may just retire at 61 years of age now 😅

  • @FindingGod365
    @FindingGod365 6 днів тому +4

    Why would you have no phone, TV or books and just sit alone with your thoughts?

  • @kenfrank2730
    @kenfrank2730 12 днів тому +2

    My retirement is very good. But I have a neighbor who retired from a pest control company after 30 years. He has no pension, only his 401k. He's living off of his social security income, which is not enough to pay his monthly bills. He's taking money out of his 401k just to make ends meet. He's afraid he'll deplete his 401k and have nothing for the future. So he's looking for a part time job, at age 67.

  • @MrGus.1
    @MrGus.1 8 днів тому +3

    This may sound funny, but a dog can really help one learn about being comfortable with alone time.
    The way a dog just wants to be with you, helps us learn to want to just be with God. We wil spend eternity with God, so we better learn how it's done.

  • @Moana9055
    @Moana9055 12 днів тому +3

    Love how you Talk about retirement as a whole and that you address the value of our relationship with God.

  • @PWalsh-e5p
    @PWalsh-e5p 13 днів тому

    Your best video yet! Thank you

  • @Mark-we6xq
    @Mark-we6xq 12 днів тому +1

    Love the content ! But the sound makes it hard for me to listen to. I keep checking to make sure I've not inadvertently set it faster than normal. The sound so often sounds sped up slightly and thus a bit 'electronic'. But it makes the videos so hard to listen to and watch. I wish this could be fixed.

  • @medrich1
    @medrich1 13 днів тому +14

    Get a pet

  • @NewGuy2024
    @NewGuy2024 10 днів тому

    As an introvert who gre up in a VERY large family and spent 20 years in the corporate office.....I am alone but NOT lonely....
    Got a work from home job for the past 3+ years and it was a good way to test the water for retirement....and it fits me well....

  • @MrOsasco
    @MrOsasco 7 днів тому

    One reason to not work so hard is that you will not have problems adapting. A friend estates pot.

  • @johngarceau541
    @johngarceau541 12 днів тому +1

    Good info

  • @willnguyen4502
    @willnguyen4502 13 днів тому

    Check the audio. It's cutting off constantly!

  • @lee-ui6zx
    @lee-ui6zx 13 днів тому +2

    Great perspective!

  • @clivebaker9720
    @clivebaker9720 11 днів тому

    Good advice & insights… other than the occasional mention of prayer… 🤷🏻‍♂️. What’s that got to do with the subject.. or anything else for that matter

  • @maxsmart8954
    @maxsmart8954 9 днів тому

    As a therapist for 40 years I have documented case studies that most loaners by choice that are in that mind set because others do not tolerate their personality.

  • @Marthas-r4c
    @Marthas-r4c 13 днів тому

    People who are able to retire early are lucky . I have 15 months till 65 and need to look at calling it quits, my only fear is running out of funds much later, thus keen on investing. What could be the safest possible ways to invest for cashflow, in order to afford lifestyle after retirement?

  • @frankdibiase3372
    @frankdibiase3372 7 днів тому

    Medical insurance is the issue. I retired at 62 and paid $1000/month for it til Medicare.

  • @RichardGeorge-uj9iu
    @RichardGeorge-uj9iu 12 днів тому

    Being unemployed and having just turned 39 is making me feel lost. What chances for passive income do I have with 425,000 saved for an early retirement at 50, 10,000 in an HSA, and a property that could generate an extra 200,000 in income?

  • @colleenconger5265
    @colleenconger5265 13 днів тому +8

    There should be a very easy answer, and the answer is prayer
    Even for you to have to talk about this just goes to show how far gone our society is

  • @kentuckyleisure4289
    @kentuckyleisure4289 13 днів тому

    Sitting in a room alone....
    Doctors office. Boring 😊

  • @ChrisTison224
    @ChrisTison224 13 днів тому

    I am holding a cash position right now, of about 300k. I know a dip is supposed to be the buying opportunity, so whats the best stocks to dive into?

  • @barbiec4312
    @barbiec4312 13 днів тому +1

    Stop drinking all together.

  • @sandsmarc
    @sandsmarc 12 днів тому +4

    I don’t think mysticism or prayer helps anything. Instead, take action and actually do something.

  • @MitchellStevens-bt7gf
    @MitchellStevens-bt7gf 11 днів тому +2

    instead of being an introvert doing nothing why not spend your time studying the stock market it can help on the long run

  • @lareggiejones6617
    @lareggiejones6617 12 днів тому +3

    Family values dictate that. Stronger in the south, less divorce, more God, more family