ClutterClarity's 3 Essentials to Enjoy Downsizing (Decluttering, Organizing, Moving)
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- Опубліковано 1 сер 2024
- We all know decluttering is emotionally messy work. It's made even harder when we try to squeeze the work into our over-stuffed calendars, right? Feeling overwhelmed, of course, we procrastinate.
In this thoughtful, content-rich one hour presentation by Clutter Clarity, you'll learn the three essentials to turn getting rid of your stuff from "It's so hard" to "I'm enjoying myself." Imagine that!
With Clutter Clarity, you get ready properly, and getting it done isn't so hard, after all!
Get more than decluttering and organizing tips: a deeper understanding of what it really takes to get ready properly so you CAN enjoy decluttering, organizing, downsizing, and even moving.
Three workshop attendees said, "This is the best decluttering workshop I’ve ever been to!"
Sustainable relief from the mess and stress is possible with Laura Moore, M.Ed., Professional Organizer, Downsizing Coach, and Move Manager. Read more testimonials, to learn the true impact of Laura’s unique approach.
A special thank you to Nancy West, www.nancyshohetwest.com/, journalist and memoir writer for inviting me to speak for the Council of Aging.
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This video has a slower start, though it is the most popular. Best to start 6 or 7 minutes into this video. Enjoy! Laura
Thank you. ☘️🌝🌲
Thank you for this really well thought out and respectful method of dealing with the emotions and the rushing through the task that are the real heart of the problem for folks who have chronic issues with parting with stuff that no longer serves their life. I have found only people who show how to 'clean', and simply tell you to declutter, with no mention how!!
@@cassstephens9910 Thank you for your thoughtful response! Lots of resources out there about what to do, not how to think it through, how to manage your emotions, trust your decisions. Complex work in complex times, but many ways to make made easier, even enjoyable. Thanks for subscribing. More videos and online courses coming ASAP! Take good care, Laura
Clutter makes me impatient
Is the handout for this great talk available? Please???
I am in the process of decluttering so that I can downsize. A few weeks ago I was getting very anxious and stressed at the thought of decluttering my home but now that I have rehomed a few items I am feeling a lot better. I sat this morning looking out of the window, as the leaves were falling off the trees and I thought, the trees don't hold onto their leaves for years and years, they let them go because they don't need them in winter and God provides new ones in the spring.
That is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I will remember the analogy of a tree shading its leaves.
Clutter is decisions not made. The decisions are hard but so necessary and it feels so good when you have made them. I'm making these decisions so my children don't hate me when I'm gone. Also, my son's system will be to just get a skip and I hate the thought of useful stuff going to landfill! I'm half way through and this video is really helpful
This presentation is great for older people especially. I’m in my late 60’s. We simply don’t have the energy to do a rapid declutter or a ‘full day’ or week long one. We watch some of the other videos on the net and feel guilty because we can’t do it at that pace. A few hours a week is all that many of us with heart problems, arthritis, osteoarthritis and other conditions can manage. Thankyou!
My trouble is that I sit around watching these videos, rather than getting on with what they tell me I should be doing!
I get what you mean. There are only so many hours in the day. You have a routine for watching videos. Build a routine for decluttering. 1/2 hour less of video, 1/2hr, decluttering. 1... 2 hours a week. Do both, videos and decluttering. Repetition and frequency builds momentum. Good luck!
I know what you mean. Build a routine throughout the week to declutter, and then relax watching the videos 👏 Subscribe if you want to get notice of others coming this summer, each week on Fridays. ENJOY!
Here is an idea, watch the videos while you declutter
People tell me that they do watch while they work!
Clutter Clarity I am listening whilst I iron.....it makes ironing much less boring and educational!
I love how gentle her philosophy is. If decluttering becomes stressful, clutter creeps uo again bec we go shopping again to feel good.
I think that is what is happening with me
At age 71, I'm through with buying over. Getting rid of is not my problem but I don't have the energy I once had.
so true! I strive to stay on a "shopping diet" or it if feel I need to go I am sure to work at getting rid of a whole bag of other stuff at home and then immediately trying to sell whatever I bought (unless it is something I am using right away like gloves or clothing for myself or whatever). Shopping is an addiction! Especially for people like me that sell items for a living because it is a chance at making $$$ --this makes it more difficult--so I force myself to only buy expensive "sure things" that I will make over $100 on and then run to give away unsaleable cheap items. It is all a struggle but I am happy to be alive and try and tell myself every day "It's better to be a Hoarder than a Whore".... this makes me laugh and I can move forward and just enjoy my process.... it is all about us in the end and how we feel about ourselves. Good luck to everyone!
I needed this for years because my problem really started when a lot of people died at the same time and I ended up with all their stuff...
My son said "It doesn't matter if you declutter (before you die). I know how to light a match." It helped me realize he doesn't value any family heirlooms, etc.
My son too. Not even his Great Grandmother's 22k gold China or the 1800s China cabinet its in now.
@@deehuntley1712 Things value tend to sink over time unless some rich person decides to hype it. That goes for most art and crafts.
Swedish death cleaning is a way too reframe what I should,d be saving for my daughter.. will she want to have to take card of this when I go and will my memory be honored by it?
That's awesome. Must feel so freeing for you.
@@deehuntley1712 I think somethings like that should be passed down for future granddaughters. But not too many to overwhelm. Ask them if anything they would like saved before downsizing.
This is the best decluttering speaker I have listened to. She’s got it. She understands that an entire declutter cannot be achieved in a weekend. Thank you 🙏.
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“Throw out all the stuffffffff” ,……charge! ……People don’t register. Just tossing things many hold because they are valuable and they see tossing out say 1k cash vs releasing stuff unused and unwanted and causing stress. I think she addresses everything better than those types.
100% agreed! Laura Moore has wisdom, respect, dignity, unravels what's crazy and integrates what's important...thank you!❤️🙏
@@janicecastaneda9605 hello Janice.
Look up an M.S. group in your area, they may be able to point you in the direction of some help. Also, check in your local library and community center. Ask the people who work there as they have much local information at their fingertips if, you explain to them what your needs are.
I am so sorry that you lost your daughter, I can’t imagine what that must be like. She would wish that you would contact local bodies to ask for the support that you may need. Do ask. If people don’t know, they can’t help you.
My best wishes are for you to be ok.
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Holy moly, are we sure she doesn't have her Masters in psychology and not teaching or better yet both? Just WOW to some of her statements about the emotional regulation and that feeling of being trapped! I was already aware of my feelings of being trapped my many aspects of my life but her statements REALLY hit the nail on the head particularly with shame. I'm pretty sure this video will be watched multiple times on my end particularly when/if I start hitting that wall and need to refocus. Wish I could give this video multiple "likes"!
Thanks so much, Chelsea! Glad my videos are making a difference. Thanks for subscribing to get notice of new ones. This is emotionally messy work, so back off and refresh how you're thinking if you get overwhelmed. Slow and steady is better than pushing too hard. Take care, Laura
@Chelsea she's not saying anything new. If that was so helpful to you then you should watch the TED talks by Kristen Neff. She is the amazing one.
Yes, I do focus on the emotional aspects of the work. If that doesn't get decluttered, it's harder to get anything done, right? Enjoy and thanks for subscribing! Laura
Chelsea Smith I concur!
:) May I humbly suggest that masters degree isn't worth as much, since plagiarism and buying degrees is on the rise worldwide? I have met illiterate construction workers who helped me more than dozens of masters degree whatevers. In fact a man who swims in ice water in his shorts for fun taught me much more about decluttering. Massively letting go of stuff to deep breathe, stretch, be outdoors and get ready to climb Mount Kilimanjaro. The stuff I need to go backpacking is mostly all I need and I am almost 50.
I used those plastic tubs to organize seasonal clothes, sewing fabric, decorations and stacked them neatly in the back of the closet. I realized how frustrating it was to dig through, how overwhelmed I felt by this extra stuff so I started donating stuff to thrift shops and clothing exchange and local charity auctions in the plastic tubs. Feel so much better without the tubs on the floor of the closets. Free up floor space. I only keep what will fit in drawers and those drawers are lightly filled. As things break, like electronics and appliances, I have decided not to replace them. A knife and a cutting board are my food processor and fancy choppers, a good stainless French press has saved me hundreds when compared to the numerous coffee makers that have broken. I ha e donated all but a few books. Now I go to the library regularly. I think about waste, carbon footprint, living small, lowering my impact on the earth. It is fun once I got through the emotionally tough stuff that I had been hanging on to.
Sounds like you're doing great! Enjoy your progress and new habits. Laura
Sounds like you've also discovered the truth of "You don't need more storage, you need less stuff"
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Excellent! Reminds me of being a kid in the 1970’s and going with mom to the library and leaving with a bunch of books. Inside I knew I would have to return the book so I knew I had a time limit to read it. Simplicity is so delicious.
Great post.
I LOVE that the door in the background is marked "STORAGE!!" LOL
I'm not even a clutter bug but I love listening to your message, because it goes way beyond clutter. It's all about mental clutter
Amen Laurel Brooks!
I really appreciate the different perspectives given in this and the very approachable steps. Ppl often place so much value on stuff and yet not one person can take one thing with them. It will all outlast everyone of us.
Hi - so true. The stuff remains while we move on. One reason why people hold on tight to their stuff. Resisting our impermanence makes decluttering more difficult. Glad you found the video helpful. Thanks for subscribing and sharing! Take care, Laura
So true. And if it doesn’t work, or you don’t love it, get rid of it.
@@ClutterClarity "Resisting our impermanence" along with, "if we take care of our n o w, the future will take care of itself...helpful. Thank you!
We'll be moving to a condo this spring that is 1/3 of our current square footage. In preparation for this, I've been digitizing and decluttering bit by bit for two years. It takes a whole lot to sort through and decide what to do with a lifetime of possessions that we've bought, made, been given, or inherited. My takeaway from this video is to let go of the anger and resentment that I've attached to this process. That's very timely and helpful. Thanks so much.
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The best of this very special video was your definition of clutter, 'things which do not support our *present* lives'. Your voice is calming and encouraging, gently inviting the hearer to a wider perspective.
Yes, make all the decisions of what "adds value" to your present life (memorabilia, photos can be different) Visit your past, plan for your future, but decide what's true for you now, around a year. Makes all the deciding easier. Enjoy💕
Thank you for your kind comment! Please subscribe if you like to get new videos, posted on Fridays. ENJOY!
Yes, we make all the decisions in the present, what adds value to your present life, around now, within a year or so. Thank you for your comment. Enjoy more videos, if you like, by subscribing. New ones posted on Fridays!
downbntout I found out early on that it cannot be done at one time. If you try to do it all at once, you do not get rid of enough stuff. I did keep my old Xmas decor though. I used the little trinkets to decorate Xmas wreaths for Xmas presents. They are beautiful.
She does have a dynamite voice. "Easy listening."
I’ve never heard you before, but I was asked to speak to a group of seniors to Declutter for health reasons such as entry ways both for falling hazards and access for fire or ambulatory services. Also not to draw pests in their homes, animals that are pooping in the house.
The emotional stress, etc etc - I wish I could have you speak to them. You are so gifted and just wow!!!
Thank you Ms Laura. I was listening to this while decluttering for an hour. I am not tired as you recomended. Your soft and clear voice is such a blessing. Thank you
Hi Lau, You must be from the South if you refer to me as Ms. Laura. Love that! There are lots of ways to pace yourself instead of push too hard. More videos and an online course coming asap. Thanks so much for subscribing here, and if you wish, follow me on ClutterClarity by Laura Moore to find out about future ways to stay connected for more kindness and understanding as we dig out from the mess. Take care, hugs to you, Laura
This is one of the best decluttering videos on the Internet.
I thought I had already replied to your comment. Thank you so much! Love to know what you found so helpful. Good luck with your decluttering. Take care, Laura
I've been watching decluttering videos for the last three years and totally agree!
@@ClutterClarity I love the knowledge you provide from a serious yet very understanding perspective. It's wonderful to have an elder teach you such valuable things. I feel like I am listening to my mom, or my Aunt who really knows what she's doing. Thank you for sharing your tips and life experience! I'd have to wing it otherwise!
@@GameChanger597 Thank you so much for you kind words. You made me smile! Thanks for subscribing, more videos and online courses coming ASAP! They'll be announced in our newsletter too. Stay well, and happy :-) Laura
“Turn your worry into wonder” - just what I need to hear and to do!
Thank you so much for your calm encouraging words of wisdom that ease the anxieties and guilt that plague and paralyze. Stuff does not need or deserve to hold power over us. We invited the stuff in, we can decide to remove it when the time is right. I feel so liberated after watching this.
You are the first person to say that downsizing, and the attendant de-cluttering, is emotional. I am halfway through your video and will certainly watch the rest of it - in fact I need to watch again from the beginning. But first, I have to stop crying. .
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I love the story with the husband and wife at the beginning. Yes, he was not going to help her. but that in no way should invalidate her feelings. Sometimes, we just want the people in our life to appreciate us a bit more and understand the things we do to create a happy home and healthy surroundings for them, for us. Great video. :)
I did not expect this. I waited for you to demonstrate a new physical decision technology for decluttering, storing, packing, selling and doing it all mindlessly. I need to move and I don’t like moving because it’s possibly the summit of multitasking. Every outcome is a fundamental piece of my life and it feels more threatening than challenging. I have a MS Ed and MA in Counseling yet never considered your point of view until now. I appreciate and thank you for sharing your powerful professional insight in a calm and reassuring manner.
Hi Scout, Thanks for your comment. The work is complex, emotionally and logistically. Moves are made much harder than necessary when under pressure with not enough time or support. You want to do the work mindfully. Reach out to NASMM.org or NAPO.net for help if you want. Thanks for subscribing! Take care, Laura
I am a survivor of domestic violence and have moved over 40 times since I left my high profile Ex in '93. For obvious reasons, none of the moves were made in an orderly fashion. Need to honor myself for still functioning although it is at a much lower level now than it was 28 years ago. Appeciate your emcouragement to go slow and be kind to ourselves as we wade through our stuff. Have a fair amount of difficult memories to sort through and intend to take all the time I need to do so.
This was the best video on decluttering I have ever come across. I'm an/ organizing declutterer but hate when people are shamed or put down about their inability to do this.
This seminar is so helpful and inspiring 👏. I listen to it daily while doing my chores or I put my earbuds under my pillow and listen to it while I wind down from the day try to relax and go to sleep. I never get tired of it. Thank you for sharing 👍👍. Stay safe healthy and happy ✝️🇺🇸❤️
“Organizing is not the solution to clutter.” That hit home with me because my brain is geared to organizing, then to declutter. Example: I gather up all my nail polish, then I decide what I want to keep. I gather up all my shampoos and decide what’s working for me and what’s not. Organizing first actually helps me in my process.
Beyond excellent-You are dealing with the very root of misguided thinking spirit, soul and body. Thank you Lord!
A jewel, indeed. Very profound statements throughout; A must-see video. I am so grateful to have stumbled upon this video while searching for a popular Japanese organizer.
Declutter your emotions then your calendar...Nailed it!
Hi Katherine, Thanks for your enthusiastic response! And for subscribing... more videos to come soon. Take good care, Laura
Listened to this wonderful discussion while clearing off my desk, and you really have the gift of bringing peace to the process. I had my husband listen to a part as well, and I was able to talk calmly about where I was in the process, and where I see myself going bit by bit. Thank you so much for publishing this. Crystal
What a gift you have! I was so inspired by your last story that I'm convinced that God gave you wonderful gifts to help us!
Just what I needed to see tonight, Laura you answered so many questions I've had coming at me and reminded me what I was exactly doing,, it's not the stuff it's about me and my life in the present. "if you take good care of the present the future will take care of itself'' thank you, am feeling much better.
What a great presentation! Dad passed 5 years ago; mom has dementia and 3 years ago moved in with me. I'm an only child, early 60's. I've been cleaning out their house for the past 3 years - sometimes full force, other times haltingly as time and energy permit (I have a slight neurological disorder which sometimes hinders me). I just want to THANK YOU SO MUCH for touching on the resentment aspect - it is sooo true! I love my parents dearly, and really don't mind helping them in this way, but sometimes the resentment I often feel toward mom (whose house was thankfully, always in apple pie order and no clutter), is palpable. And yes, she had no clutter, BUT, one persons (mom's) cherished possessions are another person's (my) purging nightmare. She'd often say she didn't want to leave me with cleaning out the house after they were gone, and although I urged her to just start purging some of her clothing (because I knew then, and yes, am experiencing now as I knew I would...the pain of having to 'ditch' something as personal as her clothing), well, I'm stuck with purging her clothing, and dealing with all the those emotions. The resentment - thank you for touching on that, it is so very true about children resenting this monumental task being dumped on them. It can be overwhelming, and the task feel like a bottomless pit that will never end. What I really want to thank you for is for SAYING IT WITH A STRAIGHT FACE. Seriously. The audience chuckled and I expected you to break out in to a grin of agreement. YOU DID NOT. Thank you for that. You didn't treat it as a laugh line - you stayed deadly serious even during the chuckles, and I can't tell you how wonderful and validated you made me feel by keeping a straight face at that moment. You know. You really know. THANK YOU.
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@@gaiagenesis966 GO CLEAN YOUR ATTITUDE! Nothing but positive & helpful here...GAIA GENESIS indeed? Choose an appropriate handle or DONT UGLY IT UP W/SNARK! Some come for guidance & appreciate others joy, elation, stories & GRATITUDE! She artfully has UNLOCKED for some; what they needed to painlessly purge & GET ON WITH LIFE. YOU MAY GO NOW.
57 year old here, buying for a decade,came from a place of scarcity. My 25 year old daughter said to me the other weekend, plz mum don't leave all your shit for me to have to find time n emotions for...she lost her dad last year 💔my shit,my responsibility..am on this NOW. Thank you universe for bringing this video into my space n your comment...namesta
Having a flood in my house enabled me to learn how to throw things away. Forced to let them go because they were now molding. I'm allergic to mold! I began to feel freed up from all the emotional chains that were attached to those items. They represented a memory I enjoyed visiting. I was 56 then . It made me get comfortable & even excited to go through my things, periodically & thin them dowñ each time. I have let go of most of my antique furniture that enslaved me to take care of it for kids, who don't want it anyway. I now love having furniture that can be used for grandkids, knowing it can easily be replaced. I'm free to enjoy life in my home now .🙂
Maybe I need a flood in my house?! I am 66 and should grow up 🥴🥴🥴
@@sandyk378 it truly was an unforeseen blessing.😉
@@praisingirl Yes, God does work in mysterious ways 💯‼️✝️🙏❤️ God Bless you abundantly ✝️
I hear you
Absolutely brilliant. Especially the photos and the overwhelming paper and old bills. Can't wait to get started. X
After ten minutes I wrote a list of emotional reasons that I want to declutter, then practical ones. I could instantly see how the emotional ones would satisfy me temporarily and the clutter would come right back. The practical ones felt like they were very concrete and the benefits would keep me from allowing re-clutter to happen. You have a very workable approach. Thank you.
Hi N, Thanks for your comment. Sounds like you have a very workable approach, too! We can't keep all that we want, but we can decide what really adds value to our present life as we unburden ourselves, prepare for our future. Thanks for subscribing, more videos to come soon. Take good care, Laura
N: this really intrigued me,would it be possible for you to share a couple of examples of both reasons? (I’m racking my brain to think of any examples myself) 😬🤔😩 Thanks in advance!
What an incredible video! I didn't understand that I had a lot of shame and self-condemnation. I always have new hobbies and this causes clutter as my interests change. Thank you so much for helping me understand myself and my patterns!
By GOD, SHE'S GOT IT EXACTLY!! Thank you unto eternity for putting into words that almost everyone feels!😘😘😘😘😘😘🎉🎊
Thank you so very much
Have daughter in law just had baby and her Mother gave her all her Fathers things lives in small house .
Thank you so much! This is awesome information! My husband always tells me to slow down and not look at the stuff I didn’t get done in a day but to write down all I did get done. When I do that I’m amazed at how much I forgot I did!
Hi Che, So glad you are benefiting from the videos. It's very important to not hurry, you need time to think, not just do the work. Appreciate your progress, and keep going. Enjoy, and thanks for subscribing! Laura
I add items onto my list that I've done, then cross them out, to remind myself what I did get done while trying to tackle items already on the list.
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Yes, I remember learning from somewhere yrs ago that I will feel good to think about all the things I did get done when day Is through. I journal those things as well as what I need to do. Been my habit for years now.
I've been very happy donating items to the Mormons. They have thrift stores and can use a wide variety of donated items.
I am not a Mormon myself but I have received help, and have known others in my senior community who have received help from the Mormons.
Some of my items are quite nice and in mint condition. These things could be consigned or sold online, but all of that takes time and energy that can really slow the decluttering process down to the point where I lose motivation because I'm not seeing the progress I want.
Donating my "stuff" to the Mormons has been a Godsend for me. They are very well organized and will figure out the best way to use the items I donate. When I "take the easy way out" and donate my sellable items to the Mormons I don't feel like I have lost out on something; I feel like I've contributed to the well being of the community.
Great video. These people are all excellent, you can just tell by their attitudes: kindness, gentleness, patience. The main lady speaker has such a calming voice, and affirming way about her -- a gem. Thanks for this excellent video.
You are so very welcome! Enjoy your decluttering, more to come 👏
Very interesting comments. I haven't watch the video. I will save it to the last. The comments are all brilliant!
Great talk . I am in the process of cleaning out my storage unit and as I listened , I was visualizing different aspects of that process that have been stumbling blocks for me and this talk was easing the stress and creating solutions... ( Ahh I need a flat space, table etc to set up in the storage unit in which to sort and categorize). Sounds simple but when you’re trying to manage overwhelm you can’t see what tools ( a flat space ) will absolutely help so that you can get moving forward again.
Thanks so much Laura !
I was in tears about my photos and vinyl records 3 minutes ago. The universe showed me you and I am now ok.
That's so sweet, Lori! Take your time, and putter through to decide what to keep or let go, and how. Photos are a big project, so perhaps don't think of them at the same time as you think about your vinyl. Keep a few, let go or sell the rest if you think that is the right thing to do. Decide what feels right to you. So glad you're enjoying the videos, and thank you for subscribing! Grateful, Laura
Photos can't be recycled, all the more reason to go and stay digital.
We are retiring and moving to a home we have been renovating for 8 years. Our old home is Victorian with smaller rooms. Our new home is open design and there are fewer walls to put furniture against which also means we wont have as much storage. I knew I had to purge big time but lived in fear of doing so. We have the opportunity to move in stages and allow the new home to digest our items. I quickly realized that I had to purge A LOT!!!! I was scared. As time went on I started to donate boxes and boxes and more boxes and car loads of stuff. This was not the old me by any stretch, but quickly became me as I felt the satisfaction of not having the stuff nagging at me to DO SOMETHING with it all. Last weekend we had a garage sale and sold so few things even though we have nice quality stuff. I had had enough of moving it, pricing it, packing it and at the end of the sale we hauled 98% of what was left from the sale to a charity shop. IT FELT AMAZING. Since last weekend I have been absolutely ruthless at purging. There is not ONE THING out of all those “precious” items that I have missed. Now I even want to purge some of what we have moved to our new home! I cannot explain how great it is to be FREE of all the stuff. I still have a ways to go but the house feels so good. When all is said and done I bet we will purge 50-75% of our stuff and feel good about it. To everyone GET INTO IT AND DO SOME PURGING EVERY DAY or WEEK no matter how little. Best tip.... put the filled boxes in your car so you forget about what you packed and so you are not tempted to bring it back into your life!!! As the saying goes. “JUST DO IT” Trust me, it feels fabulous to let it all go.
Janette Lavender thank you for sharing your inspiring story. Are you settled in your new Home now?
happyflowers1212 No not yet. The old house is still for sale. I continue to purge. We have discussed garage sales and have things listed on eBay and Letgo but that is an agonizing and slow process trying to unload stuff this way. So off to the thrift store the stuff goes!! I just cannot bother to do another failed garage sale. I am loving living in a much less cluttered home even though it is one we are leaving and hopefully very soon! 😉
@@AcornHillHomestead wondetful information!! Thank you so much. What pri c e. Would you travel to Houston, T x?
Thank You for your help. Oh my name is Debbie.
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Love how at the conclusion of the video she says how "enjoying the process" can turn the de cluttering experience this way turns it into a whole different experience. Worth while listening to.
Your video is helpful to me in recognizing the need to deal with the emotional part of the "overwhelm" first, dealing with all problems that cause us not to make the time to do what needs to be done and also the grace to allow ourselves to slow down and do what we can a bit at a time. I can identify with one of your illustrations about the couple and realize my need to stop expecting so much, yet it can be frustrating when you clean and organize for another only to find the mess gathering up again quickly and it feels like the time has been a waste. Would like to hear more about how to actually enjoy the process and not just do it out of obligation or because it has to be done. Organizing for myself is easy but organizing for family is harder.
Hi Sharon, I often work with women who have similar frustrations with family. It's possible to learn how to negotiate better agreements. Cleaning and decluttering is a family affair. It's often up to the wife/mother to make that happen. Routines, clarity, good agreements, and making the work more enjoyable can all be pieced together. Even a little change can make a big difference. Don't give up, learn a new way. Let me know if you want help along the way.
Very profound statement...Hurry should be an option not a lifestyle!!!
Yes, hurrying makes everything harder! Doesn't give you time to think what's best for you. Make time to think, then the physical work is so much easier. Thanks for subscribing so you get notice of future videos. Enjoy! Laura
I couldn't help but be a little amused when I saw the storage closet behind you. This is a great video....thank you for your inspiration!!
You're not the first to laugh at that. When I saw the room, it really was the best location to present from. Happy you've been inspired! Thanks for subscribing, more to come! Laura
I am gonna get back to this but in 30 seconds of listening I know this is a teacher who speaks with her heart, soul, mind and stores /analysis of knowledge. Respect Mam
When I realized how painful it is to let go of things I have spent a lot of money on that I no longer "love" as I did when "I just had to have it," I realized how important it is to really consider how I might feel about the the thing I'm about to buy .. down the road and imagine myself having to let go of it. That's a great deterrent to buying things I really don't want to begin with. And I think about whether I really have space for it. The less you have the more time and money you have for the really important things. And the less you have to keep in repair and keep clean. Less really is more. 😀
Gina 1965.. Thats an awesome way to think before buying. x
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Gina, that is an awesome view, and one person said that when you buy what you do not need, you are stealing from yourself...............now, I am so guilty of that.........it looked so good in the store on the shelf, and that is exactly where I should have left it, lol lol
Laura,
this is brilliant. wish I had known how fun this could be. with YOU! All of life is about creating SPACE - love it. Thanks for the laughter and putting yourself out there. Namaste, Elizabeth
What a nice surprise, Elizabeth. Despite it's slower start, it's the most popular video. Creating SPACE, indeed, allows the spirit and answers we're seeking to enter. A bit of light heartedness goes a long way when letting go! It will be great to see you again soon. Hope you and family are feeling healthy and hopeful! Thanks for subscribing, more videos to come soon, Laura
Hi Laura - Great video! Please help me! I need to work on regaining my confidence and stop procrastinating. But, I am disabled and I might need some physical help as well. Can you provide this?
What a brilliant lady! I love how you explain decluttering.
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Thank you Laura Moore for a wonderful lesson in how to get started in the process of letting go of things that we no longer need.
It's true what you said regarding how stages of our lives change. In learning this from you, it's given me an incentive to get started
with this task. I really never realized that emotion and slowing down could be a major part of this. It all makes sense though. Just
listening to you made me feel like I was in therapy with your soft spoken voice. You made all of this decluttering and emotional mess,
make sense. Main thing that I learned from listening to you, is to slow down. Life is all about time... I don't need to rush it. Thank you again.
A beautifully supportive video, that encourages the person to address many of the underlying issues/blockages to clearing clutter in a clear and step by step way.
I totally agree with her. Some of the other ways of doing it wouldn’t ever work for me, because they just don’t fit who I am. The one where you get everything out in a room and lay it down, oh my God, I don’t have the energy to get through it in one day. And I know it’s not true that once it’s done it’s done for the rest of your life! Yes, it’s bs!
THIS woman has the right idea!!!
When she says "take your time" she is soooo right! Downsized to a condo from a VERY large house and was able to gradually move things to the condo garage while waiting for house to sell. Now, 4 months later, i am gradually moving things from garage into home.
Even though I de-cluttered ALOT, I still brought too much here and am still donating. I can see what fits and is most important to keep with the space i have.
Hi Diane, Sounds like you're really doing a good job pacing yourself - persevere with patience! Thanks so much for subscribing and sharing videos with loved ones - Grateful! Take good care, Laura
@@ClutterClarity thank YOU! I watched your video BEFORE starting the move!
I relate to your comment. It was almost to the letter the process I followed to downsize from a single family home of 40 years, to a smaller condo.
Thank you... I have been giving myself too much grief over the time it has been taking me so long to get through this process. I’m the only active child in this process of a blended family. With that said; his stuff, mom’s stuff, their stuff, my stuff, starting a business and physical limitations. When you mentioned years took a great weight off my soul.
I am so happy for you Rebecca! A fresh perspective really helps. Persevere with patience and compassion, now understanding the emotional complexity. Take care!
me too Rebecca Kennedy I have guilt that it's taking too long even to start. I am 68 and have less energy.xx
arts 🎭 off to you! 💋
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Wow, I just teared up while listening to you describe the difference between embarrassment and shame..
Hi there, Thanks for writing. Lovely to learn the difference, isn't it. Check out Brene Brown's work. She masterful, a teacher for the Ages. You'll be glad you did. Compassionate, funny, heartfelt and meaningful. ENJOY Laura
I have done this and it is very 'freeing' to have less! Less to clean, worry about and simplicity is the clue to amazing...
Hi Margie, Congratulations! It's even better when people feel free WHILE doing it, too. Enjoying the process, not just the results cuz we declutter for life, as our life changes. Thanks for subscribing! Laura
Has anyone ever told you, you look like Betty White? Your message is right on time. Thank you! ❤️
They are upset. That's good. It got them motivated to get help.
Yes!!!
Hi Roxanna, Sometimes things have to get really bad before we finally show up to make things better. We all have a tipping point, some people are motivated by getting away from the clutter. Others are motivated to move towards clarity. Take care, and thanks for subscribing! Laura
@@ClutterClarity Thank you! You're voice is so soothing to me. I am working on letting go of everything that does not bring me joy. Issue by issue. Tissue by tissue..
And box by box. I've recently realized my "home" shows how life affects me. I've decided that I have to be the energy behind my home makeover, or the clutter will only be replaced. Be blessed💞
@@roxannareneerantz638 We all gotta let go and grow into who we are now. take good care of your present life and prepare for your future. We just can't take everything along with us. Take care, Laura
This is the MOST useful talk on decluttering I have ever heard. THANK YOU SO MUCH! I have been overwhelmed for so long that when I start, I get so discouraged at making such a small dent that it makes me want to just go back into denial and ignore it. I plan to put your suggestions into practice and see if I can make some visible progress and if not, will certainly reach out to you online. I wish you were in my city! I would hire you and your team in a heartbeat!
Yes! This! Exactly.
I love the idea of putting it on the calendar. Making it a priority. I have found the more I let go.. and I'm just focused on keeping what I love and smile about my unhappiness has really taken a turn for the better!!! It's amazing how letting of of things that's spark negative memories enhance my life!
If it sparks negative memories, the object is clutter... let it go, indeed! As a single mom, literally scheduling time is one way to help keep you present to what needs to be done with less worrying. Your calendar is the container of your priorities. Plan days in advance, and you'll be amazed how your days are less stressful! Enjoy, and thanks for subscribing and sharing videos with your family and friends. Take care, Laura
Thanks for posting this. We're retiring into a tiny house and I couldn't have run across this at a better time! Thanks.
This was the best video I have sent on decluttering. Thank you so much!
Hello Helen, how're you doing?
"Procrastination" is my middle name. Thank you for a very informative and helpful video! ❤️
I know this video is over three years old, but I want to share a "photo" idea my mother had. She passed in 2008, but some years prior she called me on a Saturday morning and asked what I had planned and did I have any extra manilla envelopes. I did and headed to her house, finding her in the kitchen with 100s of photos laid out on every flat surface; table, chairs, counters, folding table, etc.
She had me look at all the photos and take anything I wanted. I believe I took about 6-8 photos. She then proceeded to gather photos by family (her cousins), told me who they were for, and had me write the name on an envelope, and placing the photos in it, and sealing it; laying it aside. After all the cousins were attended to, we discussed the remaining photos, which were former neighbors, people she or my father worked with, etc. Because we didn't know where they were or how to contact them, we discarded them.
The best thing of those photos were taking them to a family reunion, handing them to the cousins, and hearing the wonderful stories that resulted.
I agree wholeheartedly! While I am still able, I am giving the items that would remain after I pass to the people I want to have them. I ask first, and if they want it, I give it to them and get the pleasure of seeing them enjoy it. In that process, I am decluttering my environment, both emotionally and physically. Also, nobody has to fight over my belongings or wonder what they will get after I am gone. Initially, my children were uncomfortable with it, but then my 89 year old second cousin who lived 1.5 hours away, died and we had to empty her house.. in winter! That got them over it real quick.
She was a - how did Laura put it? - "person who lived in possibility". She fancied herself a collector and when HER mom, uncle, cousins died - in her house- she inherited their stuff. Then I inherited it all! It was very difficult and I am still in the process of dealing with it, and since some of it truly is collectible but not Sotheby's level, I am in process of keeping what to give to consignment and what to keep while it appreciates in value. Laura's video is very helpful.
Another sidebar, I notice that as I declutter, I am losing weight and sleeping better. A lot of my stuff is ideas of things I wanted to accomplish ((businesses I wanted to start, writings for a book I want to publish). As I sort through my papers, I am organizing them and acknowledging my success for whatever I did accomplish and forgiving myself for what I haven't accomplished yet (thank you, Laura, for that!)
You have presented a whole different thought on how to declutter without all of the emotions that most of have to get started, I feel relieved and calmer for the days ahead to get started, I will listen to this again its motivating. Thank you💜
Rushing defeated me. I now schedule 1/2 hour a day to de-clutter, then stop. I text a friend when I’m done with my daily 1/2 hour. I stop & read old letters, look at photos deceased relatives, which has turned the process beautiful instead of rushed.
I love your answer to photos! I need to get a recorder. There are so many stories to tell! I'm 76 and have a huge family starting with 6 children. They've all wanted me to write the book I never got around to doing!
Go for it.
"this needs attention" ... love it!
Hi there, thanks for your comment! Yes, notice without the judgement, stuff gets messy or piles get bigger as we move through our days. Nothings wrong, that's natural. It simply needs more of our attention. So much easier to take care of our stuff without all the self-criticism. Thanks for subscribing, and take good care! Laura
Wonderful advice and lots of it! My friend/neighbour began a 30 day declutter challenge where day one was to get rid of 1 thing, day two to get rid of 2, day three, 3 etc. We got to day six and nine respectively. I now realise that it was the too much too soon problem. Trying to keep on top of it without any real planning was bound to fail. I am so much more prepared to get the job done properly now. We both knew the emotional side of things was affecting us and have talked it through but your emphasis on it and time management BEFORE the How and What has shone new light on our progress. I can't thank you enough for your advice and approach. Oh and I loved the photo party story😊
I started working with professional organizers in 2005 getting one to work with a friend in a crisis. It was awesome and I hired her for myself and my children. She helped my daughters,as high school seniors, organize their belongings to move into a dorm room at college. When she retired I hired a new one.I love love love the organizers I have worked with through the years!!! The original systems they established I have maintained. I am down to paper work. I make scrapbooks and do have many many bins of paper clutter . I have soooo much artwork from my children growing up now grandchildren. I had bookshelves built to enjoy my scrapbooks.
These are the best videos about decluttering!
great video. Unfortunately, I only have 2 weeks to go from a 4 bedroom with attic, basement and garage to a small 2 bedroom, no attic, no basement, no garage. But, it is now just me and my husband, so this is a positive move and time for us to focus less on stuff and more on experiences. This is our mid way move. In two more years he retires and we will be downsizing again into a rv to travel. I thought it would be super easy as I normally love decluttering. But, really struggling to let stuff go.
Have you done it before? It can lose a bit of charm after about week 2 :)
So glad that I stayed with the video - You really understand how to overcome all the difficulties involved in decluttering - thank you 🙏
i am fasting right now and i feel like i want to just write down these principals she is teaching and get them into my brain so i can use them later thats something i can do thats coming from a place of being inspired thank you
Hi Teresa, So glad the ClutterClarity principles inspire you! So much of this work is how to think differently, so it's possible to move forward with ease and enjoyment. The attitude in which we enter the experience is much more important than doing the physical work perfectly. Being willing to learn... it's complex work, for sure. Honored that the principles suited your fasting! Thanks for your subscribing, and enjoy! Take good care, Laura
Nailed another scarf! Plum on lime 🖒
Finally someone who makes since. Too much of my stuff came from my mother after her death so it is very charged with feeling. Also no one can ever make me do anything.
Same with me. I am releasing them now and also the resentment for being dumped on and so overwhelmed I've kept these things more than 20 yrs. Laura, such an excellent program and way of presenting the information.
@rocky mountain lass I am so sorry. That is such a tragic loss. I can understand the difficulty. Best to you.
Fear works! It's to bad we can convince ourselves that we are going to take our stuff somewhere with us. We like our stuff! Especially when it's good stuff! Because of not wanting my kids to do a job only I can really do properly, and financial reasons, I did it! I emptied a whole pod myself; with prayer and inviting all the people I ever loved in spirit; to be with me. It wasn't easy at first; emotionally I was challenged. But, the first day, 2 hrs. The next, 3. Not every day; through cold, rain, and overcast weather. But there was a man on the property that kept checking on me☺. It is good to have someone around. I gave most of it away. To a rescue mission, thrift shop, New to You, friends, and some consignment. It took a little more than a month. Being 69 helped a lot!😂 That was Jan. My other unit😌, which is what I sorted and thought I might keep; is next😳 I can do it! And it does feel good to let it all go to people who can use and need my good stuff! If I had space to live I probably would want to keep more. But I don't. And I'm not getting younger!😍It's really quite O.K and I definately have more peace of mind about my future.
These comments are answers to my prayers.
I asked my youngest son for help with tidying and decluttering. But I feel lost and disorientated in my own house afterwards and guilty for losing valuable stuff...
I'm in the early minutes this is soo so good! Your calm manner and emphasis on the emotional is gratifying. As you said we need to understand to be able to sustain change.
I am listening to you and cleaning out the fridge! I think about projects for days or weeks before doing them. That is my motivation and it works!
Good for you, Fred! Build a routine and do about 2 hours a week, you'll see great progress sooner that way. Good luck, and thanks for subscribing! My best, Laura
End of year classroom clean/declutter, your method helped putter through it and I didn't feel the usual overwhelm and confusion. Thank you.
Thank you, say all the custodians who need to move mounds of things to clean classrooms each summer. Bless you.
I'm glad I watched this video because it reminded me that "organizing is not the solution to clutter" and slow down. Thanks.
I Super de-bachlorized myself. I got rid of all my plates and silverware except one set. Now, no more dishes stacked in sink, and the knife, fork, spoon and plate are always clean.
Sounds like you did a phenomenal reversal. Mind bending!!
you make perfect sense to me!! having lived in Worcester, Ma for 43 years and dealing with the hustle and bustle of raising my sons. now, living in Clover , SC, for the last 5 years, I've learned to be slower. (having just moved into my 1st house} Being emotionally and financially bent on fixing up my grandmother's property, I was needing everything to be done NOW. Your just the therapy I need but I refuse to be a DIY person because the need to be perfect is insane. It's better to hire a perfectionist. I went from giving myself 4 months to fixing this shack to cottage to 12 months inside and 12 months landscaping. Life is great again.
I'm not much of a DIY person either. Always good... Instead of perfection, aim for ease in function! People's expectations cause the stress, not the physical work... spreading out, to give yourself the time to enjoy what you're doing is a lovely experience. Take care and thanks for writing. Please subscribe. More videos to come in a couple of weeks :-) Life is great!
Terrasse, Now that's excellent. You learned, you got motivated, you accomplished!! Rocked it Terrasse!
Turn your worries into wonder your concern into curiosity. Lovely information, thank you 😊
Well said
I have to say I feel like a whole new person. I was thinking I have a problem . Yet I was like the mature woman in the basement you spoke about in your session I lost myself in what I loved. I wanted a small shop after I retired. Than I became ill life started to really happen one thing after another. You gave me so much hope tonight put a completely different perspective widowed 42 . My 2 nd husband shamed me for all what I call my treasures . Lol I knew I wanted to go through it & I would get rid of what I could each time I could find enough energy to do it. Thank you Laura for a new perspective.
Linda, you are so welcome! Glad the video helps. No one gets to keep everything they love, need to expand your criteria to respect your current circumstances, space, age, health to prepare for our future. Just part of life. Take good care, and thanks for subscribing! Laura
not just my stuff. 3 generations stuff.. I'm a senior, single, no one to help, big house, sentimental stuff. Tough!
What you did with the old man and his pictures is so beautiful ❤️
My husband died two years ago. I could not give away his clothing until now. The time had to be right.
shadrach my husband died last year and I find getting rid of his things is SO hard. I have found places that will benefit from his clothing, but can only work a little a week going through them. I find as I clear his clothing I also give away my clothing I no longer use. This seems to ease the pain. I also have saved a few of his favorite pieces of clothing to make a memory wall hanging from pieces of each. I am keeping down to a few of his very favorite pieces. I also plan to incorporate some of his other special treasures that will work to enhance the memory wall hanging.
shadrach You don't have to get rid of ALL his stuff. You can keep a few key items that mean alot or remind you and comfort you.
shadrach Been there I held onto my late husband stuff until he appeared to me in a dream and told me to get rid of his stuff would you believe it? But when he appeared to me he was wearing a complete new outfit Crombie hat and coat to match then the penny dropped, he doesn’t need this stuff anymore he’s got a whole new wardrobe on the other side!!! That very next day I took all his clothes and stuff to the nearest charity shop.
Autumn Spring I got rid of all my late husbands stuff because he told me to in a dream but I did hold onto one coat that still hangs behind the bedroom door, he died 13 years ago this November
Kathie Sweeney my deepest heartfelt condolences for the loss of your husband it’s still early days it took me 5 years to get over the loss of my husband I cried every day 😭
A big reason people are clutters/hoarders is this kind of chore is solitary and most people don’t like being by themselves and can’t compartmentalize and become overwhelmed. It’s a vigilance to put the things you own away (in their place) and maintain that.
Emotional Management .. choreographing your day with your calendar
Wow I love that
I want was this woman has ..
thanks
Hi there, Thanks for letting me know what you love! Grateful. New shorter video posted today. Thanks for subscribing and sharing,. Know that you can have what I have! What I know is learnable. 🙂 Maybe the group coaching would be a good fit for you - go to link is in the new video to learn more! Hugs, Laura
This is perfect for me today. I've been tiptoeing toward this declutter minimize project for ages, and even watched this ages ago I think. But yesterday and today I realized minimizing in slow and gentle steps, I'm already making new habits. Even having a new calendar/journal thet I was given today it all seems to be coming together!
Hi Rebecca, Yes, persevere with patience as you learn new habits. Having the new perspective and tools help you manage your emotions and time so you can show up to take care of your home through time. Thanks for writing, and subscribing! Enjoy, Laura
I am the collector in my home and my husband nags me constantly to declutter our space. He always tells me what I or we should get rid of and I love all my things and find it very sad and I resent him telling me which items should go. We are moving to an 1150 sq ft condo when the 2500 sq ft house sells. The first thing he sold was the entire back deck furniture ,chairs table side tables umbrellas etc one day when I was out. He was very excited about the sale but my heart was broken because he got rid of "our" stuff. It was a very bad day for me and I was totally destroyed to say the least. Since then he has sold lots of furniture that would not fit into our new place and I realized that that was the right thing to do. I still get a very sad feeling when I am asked to go through my stuff to either sell or take to a resale store and I cannot shake this awful feeling. Am I just being greedy or I like everyone else? You are very in tune with this decluttering so your input would be appreciated. Thankyou.
Thank you for creating this Enjoying Decluttering video…Right on!
Hi Jessie, Thanks so much, and for subscribing! More videos to come soon :-) Take care, Laura
This makes more sense than the books I have read
Hi Joan, Thanks so much for your comment! There's certainly some good books out there, but decluttering and downsizing is emotionally and logistically complex, and that gets ignored when we're trying to get stuff done as fast as possible. Glad you found the video interesting/helpful. Thanks for subscribing! Take good care, Laura
Thank you for this!! It was very helpful! I am one of the many who inherited all the rest of the family's stuff and have to "go through it all." I have 3 generations of pictures that are in books and bins let alone slides, films and videos. Thank you for your points of habit, schedule, and 2 hours a week. This has been really helpful. Your story of the widower and his pictures was so validating as that is exactly what I had planned to do with my vast quantity of pictures. Thank you so much! Please keep adding UA-cam videos. They help so much and I am very grateful!
Hi Kathleen, Thanks so much for your comment! Very glad you find the video helpful. If you haven't already, please subscribe so you get notice when new videos are posted. There won't be too many more in 2018, but I have 3 webinars coming up, starting next Thursday. For descriptions and registration, visit ClutterClarity.com. They will go deeper with new content than the ones now on You Tube. Love to have you join me! Good luck with your decluttering. Enjoy,, Laura
@@ClutterClarity ..Thank you Laura.
Learned alot from your video " 3 Essentials... " . Are you still doing videos? It almost sounded that the one(s) done in 2018 might be your last.
I just lost teaching my job of 20 years and have a lot of educational materials. Don’t know where to start… I look at small corners but reading and throwing stuff takes a lot of energy.
I have moved my house trailer into a storage unit and my current shared house. I have emptied 40 hangers of closet clothes and donated this and other stuff. I have less of a storage unit, but it is still full. This is quite the job!
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