Lying About Our "Healthy" Relationships - Ep 26 - GeniusBrain w/ David So & Joe Jitsukawa
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- Опубліковано 28 лип 2024
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It's great to see this rare amount of honesty. -PD
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7:23 about being right/solving problems/compromise
9:18 victim mentality
11:18 joe and jess talking opening to david about their relationship and issues
15:00 **ad**
17:07 divorced parents/troubled past baggage
20:00 venting sessions
24:10 treating significant other as a “pet” mentality
29:00 joe talking about jess’ dad parenting vs asian parenting and how that affects your relationships
34:34 how words affect you/your partner
38:11 “perfect” relationships and being unhappy, figuring out solutions for relationship problems
42:30 resentment in a relationship, how to fix the hurt
48:14 funny story about david getting upset at mariel
48:55 patience in a relationship
51:22 working through stuff, taking that time and effort
54:57 cheating & hard times
57:05 david’s story about him and mariel on forgiveness
58:42 superficial relationships vs thankful for actual relationships
1:05:16 joe’s room lol + jess’ cleanliness
1:11:10 looking back and being grateful for your relationship
orangej god among men
orangej You’re the MVP
I knew Joe & Jess were struggling I felt Jess energy day one ( from discovered JK) She had the RBF while Joe is Living happy Hour.
Problem with Joe & Jess was Jess meditating on negative self fulfilled prophecy. I was Married to a Cancer she did the same thing. She kept predicting negative outcomes and being angry while she waited for it to come to pass she literally pushed our Marriage which actually had no real issues into sabotage by her fear & worry. That's hell for us Fire signs ( Sag,Aries Leo) who want to just have fun & be happy .
The Prolific Network I don’t know why you act like you know these people personally and you know what went wrong in the relationship because of astrology
I definitely got brain fucked on this one. Some real wisdom here to utilize.
Goddamn that was the most enlightening hour I've had for a long time. Not gonna lie, I was hella skeptical when this channel turned into GeniusBrain but after listening through 2-3 episodes, you got me good David. Thanks for always keeping it real man, it really helps me gain more perspective on my own life.
Hearing about this, makes me feel better about choosing to be single. The relationships I've been in were super long term, but I'm realizing now, that it's pointless to try to meet common ground with someone, if you don't even know who you are.
i don't know about staying single. What about starting your own family? Your parents are going to die off. Your siblings will have children, and you just go home alone, every day?
"choosing to be single" ok buddy
Wassuo joemalian!
@@Meelameels lol what makes you think it aint her choice?
FW Poon she’s probably saying that she’s gonna be single for a little bit while she works on herself and figures out who she is/what she wants in life. When you know what you want in life, you can better figure out what kind of partner you want to share your life with
Dude y’all don’t know how happy i am to see David get sponsors, I’m still skipping but i happy for you David lol
LOL
Tired Siren a little bit of both really it all started when...wait what was the question?
LMAOOOOO
And the podcast listening, BEGINS!
-- I love how honest and open Joe and David are in this podcast, and they learn from eachother, and David really does love Joe and Jess, what an amazing friendship.
It's reassuring to know that wanting to work on a first serious relationship isn't a "waste of time" as some have told me. Thanks David and Joe on being real about your private lives it helps it helps me feel like I'm not alone here....
1. Patience is key
2. Love is unconditional
3. Checks and balances
Idk why you're not getting more 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼. You 🔩 it!
Genius brain is the perfect work radio, cause it’s not distracting to follow the conversation while working, but isn’t gonna make me snooze, thanks guys!
"Learn to listen better. You have to manage your emotional reactions long enough to be able to hear your partner and try to understand where they’re coming from. When a person feels their point of view isn’t being heard - even if they would later agree they were wrong- they often fight to the end for it because what they really want is to just be considered. If they feel like their position is seen as valuable, they’re more willing to compromise"
"Don't use blaming language like, “You’re so irresponsible with your spending” because it is likely to lead to defensiveness from your partner. But if you say, “ I’m concerned and worried and I need us to be able to talk about this” most partners will agree to enter into the conversation. With both partners feeling heard it is much easier to develop solutions. When we are not feeling like we need to be defensive, we have more access to the cognitive part of our brain and are more able to be collaborative and come up with creative ideas."
-Took notes from a magazine
LOL AMEN TO ALL RELATIONSHIPS BC THEY ARE FUCKIN HARD. I HAVEN'T FIGURE OUT MYSELF YET AND ALL THE UNKNOWN "DAMAGES"/EXPERIENCES THAT INFLUENCE MY BEHAVIOUR/ WHO I AM TODAY. AND NOW ADDING A SECOND PERSON WITH ALL THEIR PROBLEMS AND CLASHING THEM WITH ALL MY OWN PROBLEMS = US PROBLEMS.
However, what you get out of a relationship is SO MUCH. You learn SO MUCH about yourself and uncover SO MUCH shit about your own self that you probably didn't even know existed. But it's kinda fun once you look back and realize how dumb we all are LOL
Alleesia Ella well said
I usually dont comment but Joe's monologue about unconditional love resonantes so hard with me, it got me in tears. Im actually struggling with this, in my own relationship, its exactly like he said, it feels foreign and its so hard to do.
Because it goes against our natural survival instincts to give without expecting anything in return. And possibly, the fear of getting hurt.
Makes me think about how I deal with challenges in relationships. I have zero tolerance for meanness or disrespect. Once someone begins to act consistently "mean" or even just bored around me, I leave...I don't know if I just give up on relationships way too easily. I used to get pushed around a lot as a kid and now compensate by being unwilling to put up with negative things, because it brings up too much shame.
Being mid-20s coming up on a 6 year relationship we often argue about why it’s worth it. You both said all the things we have been feeling but can’t put into words. It really made me feel proud to have worked on our relationship thus far. Thank you for your wisdom 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I appreciate David and Joe for the insight. I also battle my own demons with abandonment issues and family abuse.
In my early life my parents would leave me with strangers for months at a time. Of course they would leave without a word. I remember them driving away as I ran after their speeding car.
This also happened to my siblings.
My older sister resorted to drugs to cope with her issues. She ended up getting really high one time and almost killed me with a knife.
I haven’t been able to forgive my parents or sister. Trying to move forward a day at a time but I feel stuck.
you don't have to forgive them if you're not ready. prioritize yourself, your self-care and your mental well-being. please look for trauma-based therapy if you need. you DO NOT need to get through this alone. tbh, the fact that you're still here despite all that shows how strong you are. you're SO fucking strong and resilient (you been thru some shit) that a lot of people haven't. you got this.
This is gold. Joe and David fill the place of good role models in my life. Thank you. I love you guys.
It's awesome to see when people come to the realization that "true love" is MORE than a feeling, but a commitment, a daily choice, and a conscious choice to place the well-being of another above your own self.
On a similar note: MAD respect to any and all people who can show the best of being "manly" AND "nurturing." Cuz being loving is one of the STRONGEST things anyone can do!
Wow these podcasts are like psychology lessons!!
I agree as a Licensed Professional Counselor. Joe and David have very good relationship insights to share.
These video/podcasts are dope. Makes me want to talk to my boyfriend because we're TOO similar and we think we are always right LOL
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Joe was talking about the most realest shit about relationship!! David as well. Especially about that feeling of love mixed with hate for your significant other that can’t really be explained. This hit hard in a good way. You can really tell Joe is pretty self aware
You and joe together is one of my favorite podcast duo. I can listen to you guys for hours.
It’s amazing how many lives these fine young gentlemen are changing, just by sharing their life experiences ❤️🙏❤️
We dont need to pay relationship counselors to help, we just need friends to talk with to help with each others relationship. That's the best because everyones relationship is different and its nice to share with each other and get opinions and suggestions to keep the love alive. #friendgoalsforreal
Bruh why am I crying 😭 y'all explain yourselves so well and hearing y'all makes me appreciate the time I have being single to work on myself and understanding my baggage ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for uploading more podcast content. David!
I love this man. It’s real and raw.
Thank you for being humble & honest. Communication is key! Married almost 20 years and we're still learning about each other.
This topic of loving unconditionally really hit me hard. Need to learn this myself. Thank you! Keep growing, learning, and sharing!
You know what I've been curious about? David always talks about how his mom was a fiesty mom. Surely the relationship wasn't a great one when he was growing up, right? But now they're best friends.. how did that transition come about? Bc i hated my parents growing up, and i still do lol
definitely would be a good topic to talk about
Yes I would love an episode about bettering your relationship with your parents
Maybe growing up and realizing that parents are just people trying to figure it out. Parenst are not perfect, will never fulfill our standard/expectations, will fail us again and again, and yet they spent their lives raising us despite us never giving them anything back to them.
David's kind of joked about this before, but as you age you start to realize how similar you are to your parents. That empathy can either bring you closer or apart.
@@orangejmoothies 🔩 it!
Literally can’t put into words how much I love and value this channel. Thank you!
can never get enough David and Joe
20 minutes into this and I am LOVING it. That’s what I needed! COME THRU with the AMAZING TALKS❤️
this podcast is the most real and relatable content. thank you for sharing this! can you guys talk about how to work through reoccurring problems. i know you sorta answered it near the end of the podcast but i want to hear specific examples.
I say this sincerely but Joe and Jess, I feel need to go to therapy individually because therapy will give you tools for how to handle situations that you may not know how to deal with yourself. You may not find the therapist that you vibe with your first time but you should shop around, many people who go to therapy the first therapist they start isn’t always the one they settle with.
Love your podcast. Much love to you and Joe. Always listen to it everytime it comes out. Thank you so much for the podcast. Looking forward for more.
This is my favorite podcast by far, thank you for always being real Joe! Truly life long friends ❤️
Thank you for this episode. I truly enjoy the honesty in all of your episodes. This one was much needed. 😊
Loved how much I can relate to this. Relationship are hard and I liked hearing how relationship grow and change.
I think it is good to talk about bad/turbulent times because it shows that even through it all you still love that person.
The thing about conditional/unconditional love really caught me. Cause it is true. It is so hard not to just love conditionally since that's how society like to portray love. But once you learn unconditional love it leave you with a sense of peace. Loved it!
This couldn't have come out at a better time. Thank you so much David & Joe.
i always come back to this podcast every time my boyfriend and i have a fight or problem and it helps me realize that if he’s not willing to sit down and resolve the issue with me, he’s not worth my time and energy. so thank you joe and david for opening my eyes to things like these.
This was such an insightful podcast!!! Would love to hear Jess' story and also the advices for single people to start meeting people! Cant wait for more Genius brains hahaha
This podcast is amazing. It really opened my eyes.
I love y’all for always keeping it real. From watching you guys in middle school to being an adult, I’m glad I found your channels. So many life lessons learned.
Such a raw conversation... really reevaluating all my past relationships
I rarely leave comments but this podcast has seriously enlightened me. I'll think about what you guys have said and reflect upon my relationship. Thanks David & Joe!
This was very opening eyes to hear this thank both of you much love
brilliant thoughts - loving your podcasts!
GREAT podcast i loved almost every single part of it joe and davids commentary cracks me up especially when they add humor into very intimate subjects lol
Unconditional love for Asian parents: Come eat dinner
Literally the ONLY podcast I listen to lol y’all are hilarious and so enlightening! I love it I love it ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow, this really helped me out. I have similar problems in my relationship. I related so much with having fights over stupid petty shit and being grateful for that. We had a fight over her eating my snacks and then not getting me gummy worms (my comfort food) when I was feeling down. But we were both feeling down, and I wanted to hurt her back by not letting her eat any of my snacks. (I know this sounds so petty). Which hurt her in a different way then what I had intentioned. She thought we were past that like how David had thought, and she was right. I took it back right away. This podcast was so real and your advice helped me out; reminded me to be grateful for what I have, and to try to fix arguments the right way. You guys are my role models, peace! ✌️I'd also appreciate you guys talking about those lonely people who want to get a relationship but don't know how. I have a friend who appreciate it.
Keep it up! I've loved every episode so far!
I greatly enjoy these talks you guys are having.
Definitely one of the best Podcasts I've heard in a long time. Great topics. I'm really digging the real topics all of the Asian influencers are putting out lately, including you guys'. It's relateable, it's interesting, it's genuine. Young or old, everyone always has something to learn about nurturing relationships. Unless you regularly read up on relationship maintenance, go to couples counseling or, have access to mentors with healthy relationships, there's no easy access to information on how to nurture relationships. So, thank you for delivering valuable information and sharing your personal experiences here with us. This is the type of content I came to UA-cam for.👍🏼
❤️ from Long Beach
Jess and Joe's relationship is so amazing. Thanks for sharing.
Please do more of these relationship type podcasts!! And whatever the topic yall sorta mentioned at the end
I needed this. It makes so much sense why we and my girl argue like that and still love each other
Damn I'm tearing up. I love these conversations. I'm learning 😭😭
Hi David! Hoping to hear you both discuss about using credit cards to our advantage & getting out of debt at some point! ALSO!! I wanted to thank you all for discussing how you started hobbies (BJJ & martial arts for joe) at a later age. It really inspired me to start BJJ myself as a 25 year old for the first time! Would love to hear about how u got into it (if u didn’t already say). It made me feel like it was actually not too late 😊
This podcast taught me so so much in an hour and I'm so glad I found it
I love Genius Brain because it shows us more and allow us to see the people we like on a personal, deeper level.
joe, you two both know what you want in a partner (Jess and you mentioned in a previous video, someone like your mom or dad, the parent's you were raised by). But, growing up, you didn't have the example of what a good partner was to that ideal person. It's not just about coming from single parents, but how the relationship problems are solved around you. I'm so glad david and joe have found people who make them want to try to be better people. Not just for their significant others, but beyond that, for themselves.
This was a good one. It’s funny that I know it’s a podcast but I always wanna just watch. An hour well worth it. Learning how to grow in a relationship is never a bad thing. ☺️
Thank you for this it really gave me a good outlook on how I should love my boyfriend! I'd love to see more stuff like this and the stories of the struggles that come in a relationship.
First ad in forever I’m actually interested in. Sounds dope
This was the most informative and relatable episode ever. ❤️
It all comes down to communication and understanding where each other is coming from. Sounds easy but it’s the most difficult and is never-ending. Especially if you love someone, it’s worth the time and effort.
An episode on how to love unconditionally, please!
Priceless advise in this one.
This is the most relatable podcast from you guys ☝🏻
I rarely comment on videos, but I just want to say thank you soooo much for this. This video in combo. with the video with you guys & Jess has really given me a lot of comfort. I recently got married and this shit is haaaard fucking work lol. Everything that you guys are saying is so real and true and it really makes me feel less alone and less caught up in all that day to day bs. No one I really know has exp in any sort of successful longterm relationship and I also come from a broken home so I've never had any sort of examples, but I am still trying to break the cycle and make a new family. My husband and I are working hard to address those dumb shit issues and these podcasts have really let me reflect and have a bit of different perspective on some of these things. I really appreciate it. Keep this content coming!
@50:00 Yeah. Damn- it's something that I knew but then to hear it out loud, it hit hard.
i love these thankyou guys
I really needed to hear this ❤️❤️
I love these raw conversations. I think it's a combination of relating to the "I'm always the most logical one in the situation" mentality, as well as just loving the conversations you & Joe have; this including the Asian parenting one. It's great to open up dialogue with honesty, and it's nice to hear people discuss all the real parts of being in relationships, including when *you're* wrong or need to improve yourself rather than always blaming the other party. That as well as how important the past is and how we don't acknowledge it.
Especially since I first started watching you & JK in middle school & now am in university, it's crazy how you guys have changed; witnessing the process of ppl changing is actually so amazingggg. A conversation that was so worth being engrossed in for over an hour! ILY U GUYS, KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK W THESE PODCASTS DAVID
Awesome episode!
i love these why havent i discovered them sooner
David's honesty and knowledge always catches me off guard..!
Would love to hear you guys talk about dating in the 21st century with the use of dating apps and how to find a relationship of sustenance. I'm pretty young (18) but it feels like everyone within my dating pool 18-22 is looking for a casual relationship, hookup or fwb whatever you want to call it. How do I get someone to take me seriously because I personally don't fuck with hookup culture and want to find someone who wants to build something with me.
Millen Doan you have to be upfront and honest from the get go and not have hopes that someone may change their mind if they only want something casual. Also stay away from tinder and apps that are known for hook ups. I think there are more substantial apps that are more targeted people who want relationships and not just a hook up.
i wanna see a podcast about self-harming and getting over it, i don't self-harm but i wanna hear the wisdom(s)
Great podcast!
Here I am still lying in bed at 8:30 since an hour and a half ago. This made me want to get up, so I'm up lol
Omg i love this sponcer
Awesome guys
To be completely honest, when I would watch JKN I thought joe and David were friends but not super close and when I listen to GeniusBrain and hear them talk I honestly love that they are friends and their friendship and I am so happy for them!!!
these sponsored videos remind me back when David used to say 'sponsor me McDonalds!!' so proud to see the growth. You have sincerely helped me through some hard times dealing with my immigrant experience so thank you. keep it the fuck up
1:02:00, You honestly almost made a man cry. WoW!
best ep so far imo
COME TO MALAYSIA SOME DAY PLS!! We have good food for good sendfoodz content. Loving the podcasts btw. They make long drives feel like nothing
Its humbling to know im not the only one with these woes🤣🙏 love the podcasts.
“This ain’t Hollywood, it’s UA-cam.” LOL. Maybe try telling that to alllllll the fake youtubers.
Love how authentic you guys are. I always enjoy these videos. Super interesting and enlightening. Keep it up! 😊
True! Lol
It’s hard dealing with someone that isn’t emotionally intelligent.
i fuckign love your guys' podcasts
David, I like your view on doing favors for family. I think that applies to friends too, especially ones we consider brothers. I need to not take tally of anything.
Joe Jizzakawa
I remember my sibling would bully me to tears and in a fit of rage I started hitting saying "I HATE YOU"
and they would scream just as anger " I LOVE YOU!"
I was that baby meme that screams after he throws something LMAO!
Hell yeah scent bird is dope been using it for a year
David you gotta get your brother on here!!
I felt like I just took in 10 years of wisdom. I never realised I had such bad habits for love. I’m gonna see things from a different light :)
That's a good idea, having someone seeing the same problem from a different perspective.
How do you know when you're ready to get into a relationship?