Tw: rape I understand what you mean about defining sex within lesbianism. In my sociology class, the teacher provided a definition of rape that I didn’t agree with. It excluded lesbian sex, and I pointed that out. No one understood what I was talking about, and I made shit awkward (really the teacher started it) just to have to resolution. Absolutely an injustice to have this issue in a sociology class of all places, lesbians can be raped or be rapists.
It also implies that the more ability one has to be "penetrated" the less likely they can be to be a perpetrator of sexual assault. As in, it excludes perpetrators that dont got a dick and victims that have a dick. Its the exclusion that transphobes love to rely on.
On behalf of children of alcoholics, I’m sorry people treat you that way. My mom is an alcoholic. Never once has anything you’ve said about your alcoholism triggered me to think about my mom. I’m sorry people are treating you like that. ♥️
literally lmao my dad is an alcoholic but I’ve never even thought to say all alcoholics abusive or horrible people? like my dad is a horrible father AND an alcoholic, they’re not synonymous
My femme-presenting wlw friend is dating a masc-presenting wlw and she told me the other day that she can’t understand femmes being attracted to or dating other femmes. Her reason: she doesn’t understand who initiates sex. She just said she thought it was really funny, weird and didn’t make any sense. I was sort of taken aback by her comments. Based on other things she has said, I think she still falls into the trap of a lot of heteronormative ideals and feels like there should be a “man” or masculine presence in a relationship. There’s literally nothing wrong with that, but when you make fun of or invalidate other people’s queer relationships because they don’t fall under the same umbrella, then it’s a problem. She even said that a shorter femme dating a taller femme looked absolutely bizarre and that it “defeated the purpose.” I’m not sure to which purpose she is referring, but whatever. I just feel like gender expression and sexuality don’t always have to be so connected, and I’m way more open to discussing and exploring nuance in regard to those things. It’s always crazy to me to hear heteronormative and borderline homophobic things coming from queer people, but hey, we do live in a society.
I realized I was a lesbian rather than bi when I accidentally ended up on a date with a guy friend to see Wonderwoman and spent the whole movie wildly swinging between thirsting over the main actress and plotting my escape from this date I was too oblivious to realize was a date. I realized I liked girls to begin with when I was 14 and very seriously came up with a list of qualities I needed in a guy to like him and by the end of it I had just perfectly described a girl instead. I SHOULD have realized I was a lesbian when I was 8 and watching americas next top model with impure intentions but we can't all be winners 🤷♀️ Thank you for the good pod, I felt seen 💞
Stick It was for sure one of my first gay awakenings that I didn’t realize was a gay awakening till I was older… I remember thinking “I wish I was a gay so I could have a crush on her, she’s really pretty”
The Walmart that i work at in a small town in the Midwest, is very supportive of the LGBTQ. There very kind and have made me very comfortable coming into work as myself. ❤
I feel anything sexual is sex and virginity is a construct. Like if someone asked if I've had sex or had sex with someone they're asking in general. Like I could clarify what happened but if we did SOME stuff and not penetration the person I'm talking to won't say "well that's not sex might as well said no" like what?! Y'know?
My dad has been an alcoholic my whole life and I wish he would get help but he just won’t, so it’s huge that Sarah did and stopped drinking props to her ❤
I really love how open Sarah is with her past alcoholism and how getting sobers changed things. I was literally having the same conversation about sex with my partner now that i dont drink as much and its been hard to figure out why it feels so weird and its just nice to hear someone voice the same issues. Another great episode ❤
I worked at a Lowes in North Carolina when I was in college and we had a lot of men come in open carrying. My favorite reaction I ever saw to it was a man walking, happily whistling and clearly having a good day was about to pass this guy with a gun and Happy Guy completely froze, mid whistle. Then locked eyes with the gun owner, said "Oop, no thanks!" really loud with finger guns and spun on his heel and walked the other way, still whistling. I about died laughing.
I started this podcast being unsure.... then a few eps in i was like hmmm maybe but you've both really come together in such a nice way! Keen to keep listening and laughing with you both :)
I’ve been slowly working my way out of the closet, similar to how Sarah has. Unfortunately for me, it took 20 years with a mentally abusive boyfriend/husband to realize I needed to get out of this shit and just be myself!
There is at least one straight man that watches and supports you guys (to be fair tho, I am still in the community as a binary trans man lol). 🦆 Edit: This didn't age well 😅... I'm bi lol
I tried to listen to this two days ago on my way home from work but at a stop light I saw a spider in my car and tried to help it out the window via a piece of paper and it fell onto me as the light turned green and I had to pause so I could make room to contain my anxiety on the drive home
I feel I have the same experiences, as I also was caught multiple times kissing a girl under the school tables in 1st grade...I also would watch reality TV as a kid and think, "okay then just leave him 💁" lol. I definitely also liked boys then and men now but I also know I'm not 100% straight. I don't really just say I'm bi mainly because I've never been with woman and I'd be worried to be seen as trying to be a pick me 😂 I know it's ridiculous. Also when I was in high school in 2004-2008 sexuality really wasn't thought about among my peers. There were a few lesbians/bi girls I went to school with but no one really thought anything of it, or at least didn't speak on it.
I think my wake up call should’ve been in 8th grade when I got my guy best friend to break up with my boyfriend for me at recess and thought absolutely nothing of it. and my boyfriend and friend were also friends so my bf just had his best friend telling him “your gf wants to break up” while walking around the soccer field 💀💀💀
I feel like I'm pretty happy with being bisexual. If I weren't, I probably would've been a lot less nice and empathetic. (No offense heteros sorry) I just think maybe that alternate me wouldn't have worried at all about queer injustices or gender/sex injustices because I would have had a relatively easier life. I stopped being Christian when I was like 14 when I discovered I was bisexual. I still mourn the fact that I couldn't explore much of my sexuality as a teen though. Me and Kendahl had really similar experiences apparently. 😂 But also I did go to a religious school for like 7ish years. You would get kicked out if you had sex, were queer, got pregnant, did underage drinking, or did drugs. So I imagine a lot of kids I went to school with either were very very sneaky about that sort of thing or didn't do anything at all. I also didn't date much in college bc I was so focused on getting good grades that I'm afraid I don't have tons of dating experience. 😞 2020 was gonna be my "let's try dating" year but...........yeah. :/
like none of my friend group in high school dated/had sex so i was always so shocked when i heard ppl were haha, makes a lot of sense now that we all know we're queer
as someone with an alcaholic father i dont talk about other peoples alcaholism just like i can talk shit about my dad all day but as soon as someone who dosent know him starts talking shit then im pissed off especially when i was younger because he was still my dad
Me realising through the course of this video that i didn't have any genuine feelings for guys I 'crushed' on or 'dated' in my childhood and early teens lmao. the apathy Kendall keeps mentioning was just the norm for me, relationships kinda just felt like another passtime and I didn't understand people getting emotional, until my late teens when I had a ton of friendship / situationship breakups and couldn't deal with the emotions (autism yayyy). I kinda knew since everyone is always like, to this day in my 20s, (small world, London) "ew you wanted to fuck THAT guy?" and i'm like "no????? never even crossed my mind" lmao. My crushes now I think about it were always just incredibly intense friendships, with maybe some small desire to kiss. I do definitely like men, I'm attracted to them, but for me the sexual and romantic longing aspects were always sooooo far removed from eachother. Meanwhile my attraction to women, recently rediscovered as it is (knew i was bi at 12 then repressed it) is very cohesive? Like it's pretty well meshed, I'm just terrified of women though lmao. Sidenote, I totally get what Sarah was saying about having trouble identifying with children of alcoholics etc because I have the same issue with seeking help for Narcissism, every single resource is about only helping survivors of narcissistic abuse and theres zero resources for people actively seeking help with their narc traits because they've hit a breaking point. I'm sure Sarah has also experienced this since she's brought up narcissism before
OMG. the dating app I was on had a conversation starter section that you could fill in. Being the dickhead that i am, I went into this existential bullshit about "Are humans able to control our future. Or are we going to sleepwalk into extinction" Its an interesting talking point. but it really didn't work at all in that situation. ....yeah...
"that's what you get for smoking" is such a gen z comment. I get you don't like cigarettes **unless it's attached to a grim reaper-looking wyt man**, but mind the flippin' business that pays you. yall so aggy
"gay men are not gay bc they hate women, that would mean all straight men are gay" ILY
kendals mom is so good i literally forget it’s a character 😭😭😭
I'm the oldest of 3 bisexual siblings and I think we're like this because as kids we rented the 1998 version of Cats the musical on VHS too many times
Also Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat
SAME HAT!!!
did your parents turn bi watching it with yall too
Literally
LETS GO LESBIANS ! RAAH 🦅🤍🧡💖 fellow lesbians who support the pod rise uP!
Tw: rape
I understand what you mean about defining sex within lesbianism. In my sociology class, the teacher provided a definition of rape that I didn’t agree with. It excluded lesbian sex, and I pointed that out. No one understood what I was talking about, and I made shit awkward (really the teacher started it) just to have to resolution. Absolutely an injustice to have this issue in a sociology class of all places, lesbians can be raped or be rapists.
It also implies that the more ability one has to be "penetrated" the less likely they can be to be a perpetrator of sexual assault. As in, it excludes perpetrators that dont got a dick and victims that have a dick. Its the exclusion that transphobes love to rely on.
I want a hug from Kendahl’s mom IRL😩
Kendahl's mom absolutely destroys me 😂
On behalf of children of alcoholics, I’m sorry people treat you that way. My mom is an alcoholic. Never once has anything you’ve said about your alcoholism triggered me to think about my mom. I’m sorry people are treating you like that. ♥️
I second this!!! Except it’s dad not mom for me
same my mom was a huge alcoholic and i’ve never felt weird abt it
SAME!!
literally lmao my dad is an alcoholic but I’ve never even thought to say all alcoholics abusive or horrible people? like my dad is a horrible father AND an alcoholic, they’re not synonymous
My femme-presenting wlw friend is dating a masc-presenting wlw and she told me the other day that she can’t understand femmes being attracted to or dating other femmes. Her reason: she doesn’t understand who initiates sex. She just said she thought it was really funny, weird and didn’t make any sense. I was sort of taken aback by her comments. Based on other things she has said, I think she still falls into the trap of a lot of heteronormative ideals and feels like there should be a “man” or masculine presence in a relationship. There’s literally nothing wrong with that, but when you make fun of or invalidate other people’s queer relationships because they don’t fall under the same umbrella, then it’s a problem. She even said that a shorter femme dating a taller femme looked absolutely bizarre and that it “defeated the purpose.” I’m not sure to which purpose she is referring, but whatever. I just feel like gender expression and sexuality don’t always have to be so connected, and I’m way more open to discussing and exploring nuance in regard to those things. It’s always crazy to me to hear heteronormative and borderline homophobic things coming from queer people, but hey, we do live in a society.
Happy pride to all my queer pals in the chain! 🌈🌈
sounding off as a bisexual woman who makes her cishet husband listen to y’all and he loves it! Happy pride y’all 🏳️🌈
love it! Hi fellow jami! I spell my name the same way & am also bi/pan 🫶 happy pride 🏳️🌈
I realized I was a lesbian rather than bi when I accidentally ended up on a date with a guy friend to see Wonderwoman and spent the whole movie wildly swinging between thirsting over the main actress and plotting my escape from this date I was too oblivious to realize was a date. I realized I liked girls to begin with when I was 14 and very seriously came up with a list of qualities I needed in a guy to like him and by the end of it I had just perfectly described a girl instead. I SHOULD have realized I was a lesbian when I was 8 and watching americas next top model with impure intentions but we can't all be winners 🤷♀️
Thank you for the good pod, I felt seen 💞
Stick It was for sure one of my first gay awakenings that I didn’t realize was a gay awakening till I was older… I remember thinking “I wish I was a gay so I could have a crush on her, she’s really pretty”
The Walmart that i work at in a small town in the Midwest, is very supportive of the LGBTQ. There very kind and have made me very comfortable coming into work as myself. ❤
Kendahl is right! Penetrative sex is only one kind of sex. Sexual educators agree that something like oral sex is sex! Etc!!
I feel anything sexual is sex and virginity is a construct. Like if someone asked if I've had sex or had sex with someone they're asking in general. Like I could clarify what happened but if we did SOME stuff and not penetration the person I'm talking to won't say "well that's not sex might as well said no" like what?! Y'know?
“gay ballerina” that’s the one. Love this podcast, it’s literally the best 😂❤
I came out on my snap story when I was 15. A black screen saying “I can’t do this anymore, I’m gay”. My friends continue to talk about it to this day
The children yearn for midnight episodes. no more premieres cluttering subscription feeds!
My dad has been an alcoholic my whole life and I wish he would get help but he just won’t, so it’s huge that Sarah did and stopped drinking props to her ❤
Such an incredible fucking episode. This will become an emotional support episode. ❤
Love this! I’m so excited to be celebrating my first pride as an out lesbian❤
Holy shit, Darla is so spot on my mom I'm in tears laughing. Misusing the word twink is perfection
I really love how open Sarah is with her past alcoholism and how getting sobers changed things. I was literally having the same conversation about sex with my partner now that i dont drink as much and its been hard to figure out why it feels so weird and its just nice to hear someone voice the same issues. Another great episode ❤
I'm a simple queer, I hear the words "Stick It" and my mind immediately conjures the ice bath scene
i needed these lesbian conversations this week thanks fellas
I worked at a Lowes in North Carolina when I was in college and we had a lot of men come in open carrying. My favorite reaction I ever saw to it was a man walking, happily whistling and clearly having a good day was about to pass this guy with a gun and Happy Guy completely froze, mid whistle. Then locked eyes with the gun owner, said "Oop, no thanks!" really loud with finger guns and spun on his heel and walked the other way, still whistling. I about died laughing.
kendahls hair looks so good!!!!
this podcast really makes me feel so comfortable and safe. thank you guys
oh i didn't know about this podcast, happy to see you kendahl!!
happy pride month from your newest bisexual subscriber. 💗💜💙
kendahl looks so good in this episode i cant get over it
Happy Pride month ladies!
yeehaw! I do love being a lesbian as well, happy pride! You guys make every week so bright and good
I started this podcast being unsure.... then a few eps in i was like hmmm maybe but you've both really come together in such a nice way! Keen to keep listening and laughing with you both :)
B-day episode ❤❤
i love yall so much
"ARgans...dohnating my ARgans..."
I relate to Kendall’s naïveté so hard. I was out in high school, but I didn’t realized just how sheltered I was until college. 🤦♀️
HAPPY PRIDE MONTHH 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I’ve been slowly working my way out of the closet, similar to how Sarah has. Unfortunately for me, it took 20 years with a mentally abusive boyfriend/husband to realize I needed to get out of this shit and just be myself!
I can see kendahl being a fedora kid 😂🫶🏼
Please do the coming out video episode
Lesbians rise up!
IT'S PRIDE Y'ALL!!!!
OMG DARLAAAA
I love Kendahls mom🥰🥺
There is at least one straight man that watches and supports you guys (to be fair tho, I am still in the community as a binary trans man lol). 🦆
Edit: This didn't age well 😅... I'm bi lol
Lol I'm at the end of the podcast now it is fantastic cant wait for video.....❤
I tried to listen to this two days ago on my way home from work but at a stop light I saw a spider in my car and tried to help it out the window via a piece of paper and it fell onto me as the light turned green and I had to pause so I could make room to contain my anxiety on the drive home
I feel I have the same experiences, as I also was caught multiple times kissing a girl under the school tables in 1st grade...I also would watch reality TV as a kid and think, "okay then just leave him 💁" lol. I definitely also liked boys then and men now but I also know I'm not 100% straight. I don't really just say I'm bi mainly because I've never been with woman and I'd be worried to be seen as trying to be a pick me 😂 I know it's ridiculous. Also when I was in high school in 2004-2008 sexuality really wasn't thought about among my peers. There were a few lesbians/bi girls I went to school with but no one really thought anything of it, or at least didn't speak on it.
I’m with Kendal, I’m a Leo too girl 💁🏽♀️ I don’t have a type at all.
I was also obsessed was Emma Stone growing up lol
I think my wake up call should’ve been in 8th grade when I got my guy best friend to break up with my boyfriend for me at recess and thought absolutely nothing of it. and my boyfriend and friend were also friends so my bf just had his best friend telling him “your gf wants to break up” while walking around the soccer field 💀💀💀
I feel like I'm pretty happy with being bisexual. If I weren't, I probably would've been a lot less nice and empathetic. (No offense heteros sorry) I just think maybe that alternate me wouldn't have worried at all about queer injustices or gender/sex injustices because I would have had a relatively easier life. I stopped being Christian when I was like 14 when I discovered I was bisexual. I still mourn the fact that I couldn't explore much of my sexuality as a teen though. Me and Kendahl had really similar experiences apparently. 😂 But also I did go to a religious school for like 7ish years. You would get kicked out if you had sex, were queer, got pregnant, did underage drinking, or did drugs. So I imagine a lot of kids I went to school with either were very very sneaky about that sort of thing or didn't do anything at all. I also didn't date much in college bc I was so focused on getting good grades that I'm afraid I don't have tons of dating experience. 😞 2020 was gonna be my "let's try dating" year but...........yeah. :/
Gaaaayyyy I love you, thank you for the validation podcast!
happy pride!!!!!!!!!!
❤️🧡🤍🩷💜 let’s goooo lesbians
pretend like it’s the correct shades 😚
@@oscarkamalathey're close enough!!!
I get tonsil stones all the time theyre so uncomfortable and gross to deal with
Gargling warm salt water helps!
happy pan pride everyone 🏳️🌈🥹🩷💛💙
Stick it changed my life too lmao
My mom found out I was gay when she found so many photos of Demi Lovato and Jade Thirlwall on my phone and I couldn't offer a decent explanation.😅
The girl from stick it was my gay awakening as well lol
like none of my friend group in high school dated/had sex so i was always so shocked when i heard ppl were haha, makes a lot of sense now that we all know we're queer
as someone with an alcaholic father i dont talk about other peoples alcaholism just like i can talk shit about my dad all day but as soon as someone who dosent know him starts talking shit then im pissed off especially when i was younger because he was still my dad
We out here
Me realising through the course of this video that i didn't have any genuine feelings for guys I 'crushed' on or 'dated' in my childhood and early teens lmao. the apathy Kendall keeps mentioning was just the norm for me, relationships kinda just felt like another passtime and I didn't understand people getting emotional, until my late teens when I had a ton of friendship / situationship breakups and couldn't deal with the emotions (autism yayyy). I kinda knew since everyone is always like, to this day in my 20s, (small world, London) "ew you wanted to fuck THAT guy?" and i'm like "no????? never even crossed my mind" lmao. My crushes now I think about it were always just incredibly intense friendships, with maybe some small desire to kiss. I do definitely like men, I'm attracted to them, but for me the sexual and romantic longing aspects were always sooooo far removed from eachother. Meanwhile my attraction to women, recently rediscovered as it is (knew i was bi at 12 then repressed it) is very cohesive? Like it's pretty well meshed, I'm just terrified of women though lmao.
Sidenote, I totally get what Sarah was saying about having trouble identifying with children of alcoholics etc because I have the same issue with seeking help for Narcissism, every single resource is about only helping survivors of narcissistic abuse and theres zero resources for people actively seeking help with their narc traits because they've hit a breaking point. I'm sure Sarah has also experienced this since she's brought up narcissism before
Woot wooooot
BIG Gay!!!!!!!
The main girl from Stick It will forever be my first REAL lady crush
Missy Peregrym! she killed that role
OMG. the dating app I was on had a conversation starter section that you could fill in. Being the dickhead that i am, I went into this existential bullshit about "Are humans able to control our future. Or are we going to sleepwalk into extinction" Its an interesting talking point. but it really didn't work at all in that situation. ....yeah...
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OH YEAH
I feel like every lesbian watched a movie, got a feeling, and was like, oh, ig im gay now
Like a movie that really fetishized girl on girl
loved this episode so much!! being a lesbian is awesome im proud as fuck to be one shout out to my gf Mars shes hot
I LOVE LESBIANS -a gay man
16:39 amberlynn reid? Hahahhahahahah
please don’t do the Wisconsin mom advertisement, I can’t sleep to it
I’m not against hating feminist men because I been duped by too many performative soft boys
YAS
I was the 100th like
Heyo
Hundred comments
i always thought sex was anything that can make you orgasm? but then again i am just a gray asexual with no experience of sexual acts with anyone.
"that's what you get for smoking" is such a gen z comment. I get you don't like cigarettes **unless it's attached to a grim reaper-looking wyt man**, but mind the flippin' business that pays you. yall so aggy
today i learned what tonsil stones were live laugh lesbian 💗🧡💛🤍💛🧡💗
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