Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone ♥️♥️ Sending loving energy to you all!! Thank you for allowing me to share my heart with the authentic struggles of hoarding disorder and responding in a loving encouraging way! It’s that loving circle of encouragement and has created so much healing in this journey ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Both my parents were hoarders, my mum died 17 years ago and I'm still dealing with her stuff. My dad died a few months ago and it's just impossible. Please people... Sort your stuff out before you pass. For your children.
Agreed. It's just too much. My mom has hoarding tendencies. She will NOT even throw away any return address. It's that bad. She's miserable in her 80's because she can't keep up with it all and it falls on us girls. Please, for the love of God. Start somewhere on the journey. ANYWHERE!!
Thank you for sharing. It is sad that you're still dealing with it. It is robbing you of your time and energy. It isn't fair on you. I appreciate your words and advice. I do not want to do this to my kids. And I need to keep on being reminded of this. I am working on it though. I go through my things periodically. Just donated last week. And I have just done another bag full. Watching videos and TV shows help me a lot. I have to change my mindset about buying though, and not bringing things in. This is my downfall and I want to change it very much. I know why I buy things and I need to check my emotions and change my behavior. My parents are elderly 89, and 90. They have a home full of stuff. They won't get rid of anything despite being spoken to about it over the past few years. So it'll be left to my sister and I to deal with. Mostly my sister as she lives closer. I live in a different country. It is going to be a huge undertaking as they have tons of stuff. Some stuff could go to Thrift stores (charity shops) and given away but Some of it is nice vintage and antiques and will have to be appraised or auctioned I would think. It is just going to be a lot of work and figuring out. It just isn't right to burden family with this kind of thing on top of grieving too.
I really appreciate SwedishDeath cleaning. I’ve had people tell me they were just going to let their family deal with the mess when they are gone--that makes me so mad and it is so unkind. I lost so much of my life over many years to my in-laws hoarded basement and closets. Take care of your own stuff and don’t burden others with your mess.
I don't understand why people think they have to deal with the stuff their parents or grandparents leave behind. I would either get stuck in and take it all into the rubbish dump, if I felt physically able, or pay someone else to clear it and dump it -- unless you know that there are valuables among the trash. But personally, I would weigh up the monetary value of saving stuff "in case," or saving myself a mountain of work!!! I know what would win. Life is too short...😊😊
@@turtleanton6539Many people end up paying for storage. That's what pushed one of the Minimalists into minimalism - having his hoarder mother's absolute junk in a storage building for years until he realized how ridiculous it was.
Swedish death cleaning was the answer for my cluttered basement. I had kept stuff, sentimental as well as practical, for my adult children. They really didn't want most of it. I sent pictures of the items to my children, who all live far away, and they claimed what was important to them. The rest was donated.
This happened to my husband and his sisters a year ago this month. Their mom had hoarded in the same house since the 50’s. It was grueling work that took months and it was difficult because they had no idea what stuff was family heirlooms and what was junk from thrift stores, sides of the road etc, and it was so hard to sift through when they were grieving.
I know how difficult it was your hubby and siblings ❤️🙏🏼❤️ Hoarding Disorder is often hidden and not talked about. That’s why I want to be open about it, so people can start their healing recovery too ❤️🙏🏼❤️
@@ahoardersheart yes you sharing your journey is so wonderful. I always enjoy watching you. It brought her joy so we all just let her be. But it’s difficult to be the ones left after. Honestly even if we had just helped her organize so we knew what was really sentimental like you have been doing would have been a huge help. 💕
My good friend's mother had an immaculate house, but when she died, my friend said her mother was a pack rat. She had a hard time emptying the house. First, she got a dumpster and just started throwing good stuff away. She finally had an estate sale. If she had that much trouble, I shudder to think what our kids will have to deal with.
I don’t mean to be light about this because my father was a hoarder and had 10! storage facilities and a huge hoarder property. But if you cannot tell the difference between valuable and trash, it’s not worth the time. I took a few treasured items I remembered from my youth and walked away.
As a swede I really loved that book. My mother passed away when I was 20 and she left so much stuff behind. It's taken me many years, and I'm still not done to go through everything little by little. I still live in my childhood home so I had the possibility to keep a lot. Just know it takes time, sometimes years. What I have left now is the sentimental stuff and I do one drawer at a time. All I know is I don't want to leave my children that much stuff when I go, it's a huge burden. Keep going strong your doing great! ❤️
Having watched someone leave quite a mess for their grown children (multiple properties, cars, unorganized files), I vowed to never do that to my kids! My paperwork is in order. If they want to donate all my items, that's fine! But I will make it as easy as I can for them, while still enjoying my home myself while I'm still here!
That’s great! I hear all too often stories of kids and family having hard going through loved ones items and all their belongings and payments and such. I try to help my parents a lot even when I was in highschool, they would just accumulate so much and not let go of things even if they didn’t use it or it wasn’t needed. We would get rid of several trash bags full of just paper each time over the years and several bags full of donations and tons of furniture to sell or donate. Luckily they have gotten better about it and things don’t accumulate anymore and they use systems put in place to organize and keep on top of paperwork.
Thank you for giving us the horders version of Swedish death cleaning. Having had to go through my mother’s things: sentimental collectibles, everyday items and tons of paperwork, I definitely don’t want to leave that much for my children but it’s still hard to deal with. Good for you in your baby steps decluttering.
Thank you my sweet friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️ I definitely felt how hard that was for you and sending you virtual hugs!! But it’s a hidden blessing for your children when it’s time for them.
One of my friends has a box in the basement marked for each of her kids. This is where they can keep their important items from the years. They get to decide, but if it doesn’t fit, they don’t keep it (books don’t count). Great idea when I see other parents struggling with attics full of their kids stuff that has been left behind without a care.
Honestly, by categorizing and labeling the way you do, you have already started the process. Letting your family know that you are OK with them giving away your things after you are gone is the gift you give them. You are doing the hard work now, and say for example...years from now, when you are gone, if they don't craft, they will know which boxes to donate to a crafting group or elementary school for supplies. Burden lifted. Keep up the great work!
I found myself mentally involved with what you were saying. I have never really dealt with my hoarding issues. I did, however, discover why I hoarded and it was because of having things to hide behind so I would not be beaten (this was a mental decision because I was abused as a child) and from the death of my only child when he was 20 years old (this pains me right now and I have tears in my eyes). Through your channel, I am finding myself beginning to deal with my hoarding issues and learning to allow my feelings to come to be. For many years I could turn my feelings off or on as I wanted; most of the time they were off because it was too painful to deal with what I was going through and what I had gone through. It has taken your channel for me to deal with my hoarding issues and I thank you for it. I obtained so many things by getting them free and buying them. In the past year, I have found myself doing this again. I have chosen to no longer get items free the way I used to, but I struggle with not buying things. I have recently prayed that God would help me stop spending the way I have been. Today I decided to let go of an empty box. I've had it empty for the past year and I don't need it. I say, good for me. I'm slowly letting go of things that I don't need. I'm also in the process of doing a project for my Creative Space. I need to get rid of the clutter in my Creative Space in order to put in the furniture I have acquired. I just want peace in that area of my home. It is a place where I go to relieve stress. Thank You for reading my long comment.
I read your words and I am so sorry those things happened in your life. You didn’t deserve that happening to you. It is wonderful that you have started to realise this for yourself and that the way out starts with you loving yourself and respecting your space. I know deep down that you see simply buying or acquiring things to soothe your pain is a quick fix which never resolves or releases the emotional burden and the toll it is taking in your life. Getting to the point of fully processing that the only true way to heal is by allowing yourself to feel the emotions and work through the pain of them; finally allowing yourself to release those deep emotions is a very hard thing to do. However, if you get to that point I am sure it will be so worth it in the end. It sounds like you’ve made a start with wanting to have a creative space, I really wish you luck with that and wish you well for your future.
Have you ever seen the UA-cam channel “Curiosity Incorporated”? An antique dealer in Canada, bought a house full of stuff, and he declutters and saves what he can sell. “The musicians hoarded house” series was very interesting. Not about Swedish death cleaning, but gave people glimpses of what it takes to clear out hoarded house. So much work, but done very beautifully. Yeah you definitely don’t want to wait till you are 80 to tackle decluttering. I’m so glad you are on this healing journey. You have done so much for your family already ❤
Thank you for your perspective. My mother in law passed very recently and she was a hoarder. We've been working on clearing it with many people for many weeks. Luckily the end is nearly in sight. Your perspective helps me to be compassionate towards her and not only feel overwhelmed and even upset with the gigantic task she left for me and my husband.
I have listened to this book a couple of yrs ago, and it helped me a lot. But have to say-being here, watching how you overcome so much fear, stress, anxiety, and how strong you became, and is still growing, helps me even more, as it is real and "touchable". Cheers to All in this community! Have a wonderful day!:)
Thank you for this video. I am not exactly a hoarder but I’m headed in that direction if I don’t get my stuff in order. The main thing that got me to really want to clean and declutter was a near death experience where all that was going through my head was that I felt bad my parents would have to go through all my junk and how tough that’d be. I looked for videos for help but they were all people who aren’t very messy cleaning or people cleaning high level hoarder houses. It wasn’t very helpful for what was going through my head. This is it. This is helping.
Mainer Mom says she thinks of it as Life Cleaning., for her future life is the emphasis. Facing a serious illness, I am grateful I have been steadily doing this. You are a beautiful person inside and out!❤
I read Swedish Death Cleaning a few years ago. I never thought about how it could trigger someone who's recovering from hoarding disorder. I'm glad that you were able to discover some positive take-aways! My biggest takeaway from that book was that just because I think something is great doesn't mean that my family is going to want it after I pass. 🙂I've been consistently decluttering my house because I don't want my family to be burdened with so much stuff. I think the way that you're systematically cleaning your basement & the rest of your home, and grouping like things with like, is the perfect way to help your loved ones! It's not something you want to dwell on, but I think giving your family permission to let go of any or all of your sentimental items is the right thing to do. 🥰
This is fascinating. As you have to think, would my sons want this once I'm gone. This is definitely a level you are not at the moment close to, but one day, you will get there. You have come so far since starting this channel ❤️
I started throwing 10 things a day away. I got rid of all the things that were not mine. All of the butter ware and take out containers. And dishes I don't use and silver ware. So this was very helpful.
I’m currently in the process of decluttering my home and I’m using that process right now. About the only thing I hoard these days is paper so I decided to put all my paperwork in house in one big box so I can go through it at my own pace. But, as far as other stuff I’m asking my daughter or other family members if they want the item and if they say no then it’s going in the donate pile. I’m getting older and to damn tired of the mental inventory of stuff. I’ve also gotten to the point I’m no longer managing my husband or my daughter’s stuff anymore if they can’t find it that’s their own fault.
Happy Valentine’s Day Mrs. Heart! A few years before she passed, my husband’s grandma had one of her sons film her telling the stories of her favorite treasures. Once she passed, the treasures were made all the more special by having the story and the videos to go with them. ❤
This concept is what brought me to minimalism. We were left with so much from our in-laws it was emotional and over whelming. We seem to have just dealt with it and continue to part with our own possessions.
After multiple pregnancy losses and no siblings, and no next generation in my wider family - I’m not sure who is going to go through my stuff when I’m old. This puts a slightly different spin on Swedish death cleaning - not so much protecting my impact on loved ones but avoiding the shame of random carers or the authorities dumping my stuff . There will noone who wants any of the family photos or anything to remember me, it’s a weird feeling…😢
I'm there with you. I have gotten rid of so much stuff, but intend to enjoy my favorite things. I don't think there is shame of someone dumping your stuff, you won't be there. We have no children, so I guess it will be up to my niece and nephew to empty out the house. I don't think that they will be wondering "why did she keep this or why does she have this" lol. That happened when we cleaned out my Grandma's house. Oh my the rubber bands, paper bags and plastic ziploc storage containers. People of her generation did not want to throw anything away. So very different from our present throw away society.
Dear Melanie. You are doing so great! I have been following you some years now. You have really come a long Way. I look forward to when you Will declutter your craft stuff. That is my Big problem. I have done some decluttering, but never enough. I have read the book too, and it is a great idea, but We Will have to do it in our own pace ❤
Hun, I just love to see your videos, your progress, your strength, your character and your heart. Your channel just radiates that you must be a person that just pours her love into every person that needs it. (So much so that you have to be careful not to drain yourself too much.) Take care!
Thanks for the video. And just a thought about sentimental objects. On one of my decluttering binges I picked up something and thought "Aww... this reminds me of Grandma" and put it in a keep pile. A little bit later I found another Grandma thing, then another. I realized that I don't need 20 different things to remind me of my Grandma. Most of them would mean nothing to other people. I'm the one with the memories. Why keep all of them? Maybe 1,2 or 3 things would be enough for me.
Thank you very much for demystifying this topic. I could not even watch the videos, much less read the book. I very much appreciate that you both listened to and read about it...I am blessed by your "takeaways," without me having to tangle with that book. "You are allowed to keep your sentimental items...and your family has permission to get rid of them when I am gone." Thank you very much.
Thank you for sharing your healing journey. You have a beautiful spirit and are very wise in how you demonstrate self love and positivity in your process.
Your videos are very helpful. I found myself having trouble breathing with this one. I'm proud of myself for having started while I still have time to leave things easier for my kids but even more because I am finding life easier and calmer with some spaces that stay clean. You are doing an awesome job!
Thank you so much for making this video. It was very helpful. My mom was a hoarder due to her various past traumas. She passed away 5 years ago, but I still haven't had the courage to clean out her stuff. It feels so overwhelming and I wasn't sure where to start, but this video gave me an idea. Just subscribed to your channel!
I'm glad that I found your channel. I am also a hoarder. It all started when I had my daughter. She is now 25. I thought I would be having grandkids, but that isn't the case. I kept toys, clothes, school papers... You name It, I kept it. And then there is my stuff. My parents died in the last two years and my father will be gone a year next month. They were my best friends. I did everything with them. I now have my father's stuff to go through, and it is so hard. I did start this weekend. You sound so much like me. I have no help and will have to do it myself. I can barely get around. There is more to what I'm going through, but that is for another time (?) But like I said, I'm glad I found your channel.
@@allalala9916I have a goal of keeping as many sentimental clothes as will fit into each diaper bag. I was just looking through the box with my 8yo and she took out a little doll I'd crocheted for her as a baby, and now she's sleeping with it. 😍 My mom brought me a tiny suitcase of my old baby clothes when I had my first daughter, and I enjoyed it very much. I didn't keep or use all the items, but a few are being passed down to my grandchildren when they come, and then my kids can decide what to keep from that. Having the diaper bag (that was sewed by my mom) as a container helps me pick out only a few things to keep.
Consistency is the key! I decluttered all my posessions 8 years ago and I still go through my house. Some items just lose their meaning and new stuff comes in and we change. So I don't thin we are ever ready or done. I also think " Would I move this to new house", If not why I'm having this item + I hate moving 😅
I always look forward to your videos. I get so much encouragement and confidence from your gentle and loving approach. It is starting to work - I was able to tidy my bedroom in time for the en-suite shower room re-do. Everything is stowed away in a reasonable manner, but I know that I can have another pass later on & get rid of some more stuff. You are teaching me loving compassion.
I’m not a hoarder; quite the opposite, actually. I have to say, I love your videos! I’ve been following you for about a year or so and I’m so impressed by your ability to go through this process! I try to get my family on the decluttering band wagon, but I have not been as successful as I’d hoped! I don’t have a hard time getting rid of things but that doesn’t mean I’m not sentimental! (Contrary to popular belief lol!) I just wanted to send an encouraging note your way ❤ watching your videos satisfies my brain on so many levels I can’t even explain it 😂 you’re awesome!
I go for a walk every day and I pass an old run down house. I knew a senior lady lived there. She may not have been a hoarder but she was past the physical stage and perhaps mental stage to de clutter. She recently passed away and her family sold the house as is. I saw the new owners throwing everything into a dumpster.
Awesome! In recent years in my family we were cleaning three houses after the seniors died and they were all so hoarded and messy, it was extremely overwhelming, time-consuming and awful. To be honest I was really angry at these seniors (in my thoughts), it was like “did you really think you would live forever? you were just having fun and too lazy to declutter and did not care about us having to deal with your crap. How absolutely selfish and irresponsible’ I know that hoarding is a mental disorder and we should be empathic. But you know what? Humans have imagination and free will. There are hoarders who apply these and decide ‘ok I have a problem, I need help’ and who choose to change, even if they struggle with it. They decide to leave their comfort zone - and others dont, even if they get all possible signs from life that it’s time. So I think it is so awsome and loving that you are thinking of it and cleaning now ❤
You are so brave! Thank you for being transparent and sharing your thoughts and feelings. This is encouraging to me and I’m sure others! Happy Valentine’s Day!
Your thoughts are very important because you are very important our dear Ms. Heart. Are you aware of how many people your helping understand how to go forward or support a friend or family member? You are a true delight ❤
@ahoardersheart I really appreciate your candor and honesty. You are a leader. You are loved. You are beautiful. God is good. Sending up prayers for your journey. :)
I am and know many hoarders. I ask myself all the time if my family will want my stuff and the answer is no. 95 to 99% of it will be donated or tossed out. Also, would they be willing to spend the time sorting it? Or just have it taken away? I am decluttering bit by bit like you, sorting and labelling. It would be selfish not to. I really enjoy your videos, you inspire me.
When my daughter moved out, I loaded up a bunch of things I had saved for her, (report cards, certificates, awards, pictures and even a few prom dresses.) in empty suitcases and threw them on the back of the uhaul truck. She wasn’t very happy with me, when she arrived at her destination. But it wasn’t up to me to decide what she felt sentimental about or important. Nor was our house unpaid storage place. Did the same thing with my youngest son’s stuff. If they wanted to toss it, sell it, keep it, donate it that was their decision.
My mom "dumped" all my childhood memorabilia on my butt years ago. It does sting at first. Thinking of my own kids' stuff, I can't imagine parting with it. They are still young, though, and I can see unloading it on them in the future, as an emotionally-acceptable alternative to throwing it all away.
@@ninii394 I would have. But she was living in Fl then and we were in Va. while she was still living in Va. whenever she came home I tried to get her to deal with her things, and she’s just blew me off. When I finally threw her things in a suitcase, was the same time we were downsizing from an almost 5,000 sf home to a 2200 sf home in another city.
@@kayo5291 my kids were in their 20’s or older and had their own places. We were downsizing ourselves from a large home to one of 2200 sf. I got rid of whole rooms worth of furniture. Formal dining room set, living room, family room. 5 bedrooms. We just weren’t going to have room in a much smaller home, with an open floor plan.
In my first month of retirement, we made a schedule of what days to work on decluttering. So far, it's working for us. Yes, there are arguments when two of us are working together. He thinks we are not getting rid of enough items. I kept reminding him that this was our first round of going through stuff. There are piles for the kids, family members, donations, burn, recycling, and trash.
How have things come along since you posted? Did you get more done, still working on it? I think it's understandable to have some disagreements in these situations but hopefully you'll come to a point where you're both satisfied wth the progress and outcome. Keep on going.
My old foster mother is an art teacher who doesn't get the funding she needs and so she is always asking people to donate stuff like the little toys in your sentimental box to her art class so that the kids can use them in their projects. Maybe something like donating a junk box of those items for art would be a way to help you let go of those things and know they will be appreciated. She also takes things that might go in a junk journal or collage. I don't know what area you are but if you ask local art teachers they might be really grateful because they often have to buy their own art supplies from their wages.
Keep up the good work! Little by little is how we are decluttering too. Just a few minutes a day decluttering had really changed our house. We are almost finished in the kitchen, and we are picking one category a month to declutter in the basement. Appreciate your channel along with Cas, Dawn and Dana.
Hi🖐️😀💐 Thank You for your videos. I had to clear out a lot of my hoard realty quickly ( l am a level 4 hoarder too.) But repairs had to be made to our home and l had to make room for the men to find all of the problems and get in there to fix it. Now I am suffering from the loss of things that l should have kept. Some photos of my children and art work they made. a vintage lampshade. I can't believe I threw them out. Now it's like hitting a brick wall and I can't make myself continue. I started out determined to clear out our home and now I just cry a lot. Is there anyone else who has dealt with this and how do you move forward when you deeply regret making some bad choices about what to throw out? Much love to you all💐
Slow and steady wins the race. Thanks for the recommendation of the books and a briefing on them too. You are doing a fantastic job decluttering. Thanks for always keeping it real. Happy valentines days. Miss Pepper is really enjoying her time in yer bed. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏🙏💪👍🤞🙏💐🐈🦄
Hi, love your videos. I have similar hoarding tendencies. I'm wondering if you've explored mental health treatment or therapy as part of your approach towards hoarding?
I came to Swedish Death Cleaning after I had already done a lot of decluttering and worked on my mindset. It helped me take minimizing things to the next level. So I'm saying it might not be the best place to start.
My mother-in-law hoarded throughout her entire life. When it came time for her to move into a senior's home, we had an almost insurmountable mess to deal with; one giant orange hefty bag full of plant pots from the greenhouse, another full of onion bags, rolls of bread bags in tin foil boxes, a freezer stuffed with food that would sustain a village, un-finished knitting projects, chenille pipe cleaner peacocks,old smelly furniture, a porch swing in the basement, beautiful clothes she never wore(we donated those), the list goes on and on. That was just the tip of the iceberg. It took a week and a half to truck her crap to the dump. What an unbelievably inconsiderate and selfish act. Do not do that to your children folks.
I have a friend I’ve known for years and every time she moves her new place is clean and open and unfortunately in a very short time it is filled up with stuff. You have to step over things and move things in order to just sit. She buys organizing stuff that just takes up more space. She always says my house is messy I haven’t had time to clean. It’s cluttered stuff everywhere I can’t even sit and relax in her home. I avoid going to her place due to this.Her car is stuffed too. I’ve tried to help in the past but it’s never ending. What do you say ? or how to respond to someone when they ask why you don’t come over anymore? I don’t want to be mean but I can’t take it anymore. Is there anyway to really help her ? or just avoid it altogether.
Would you share how you currently handle bringing less to the house, did you break the hoarding cycle or you still struggle bringing things into your home
Yes, you have already started the "death cleaning" with all the decluttering, labelling, organizing etc. One never knows what happens, but I think that Margareta Magnusson wants us to enjoy the things we love and don't let the excess get in the way. My father's aunt used to give him beautiful glass bowls (she lived close to a glass factory where they make both art and tableware) these recent years, and I got a framed photo of myself as a baby. She said, one day no one will know who this is, it was better that I got it. She died at 98 y old last autumn and I'm happy that I have my baby photo, but of course, most of all I'm happy for all the memories of her. And even if it's possible to involve loved ones when you want to transfer the joy, I don't think Margareta M meant a big hoard, but more like unique or precious thing. But don't let the talk about death stress you Ms Heart, the most important is to make a good life now, and you are doing that every day by choosing yourself, your mental health, your family etc. Decluttering is just one of the things you are doing to create a good life for you and your family. Loooots of love from one of your Swedish friends!
What a beautifully written message, I especially loved your family story, that framed photo of you as a baby is so precious!! Thank you for your encouraging message, it means a lot to me!! I cannot wait until the day I can visit Sweden for myself!!!
It's funny to look at the nightstands by your bed - one is clutter free and neatly arranged, the other is a jumble of various chargers, a remote, a red solo cup....not what I would consider "hoarder" level but just kind of a jumbled mess. We have places like that in our home, too. The other thing that struck me is how you have your stuff binned and labeled - yes, there's a lot of it but at least you know what is in each bin.
I do have a question. (you were brave so I’m going to be brave and ask this question) The question is… how do I find out what kind of hoarder I am and to what degree?
Hi there, I know this question is for Melanie but I thought I would mention books I read a few years ago that broke down the levels. I can't recall which did the levels but it was either 'Stuff: Compulsive hoarding and the meaning of things' by Randy O. Frost or 'Buried in Treasures' by Randy O. Frost. Both books are amazing.
I adopted the flylady system after a professional burnout. And it helped me a lot to get rid of the surplus stuff. Now I keep and buy only things I love. I’m not à horder, but my small home wasn’t made for so much stuff. I just think one can die every day and I like to have my home in order. I hope you’ll make your way.
Happy ❤Day, Miss ❤!!! Anxiety ain’t no joke. I find my strength in knowing this world is passing. Lots of self talk and talking to God. It’s absolutely not easy. But one paper out, IS a baby step to two papers out!!!!
I think of it as a phase. Of course, the perspective can be interesting at every phase of life. But I am with two little kids still expanding. I keep the income of things low but as they grow they need stuff. Next year my son will need school supplies, a proper desk… You are in a phase of keeping a nest for bigger kids. You still have time to reduce, to consider what is important. You do not declutter for the next generation and the time after you but for you and your family to enjoy the spaces NOW! I think it is very understandable that you were triggered by the book.
My family would have no problem with my stuff since I’m quite minimal and don’t have sentimental items. It’s just stuff.. the memories will be there when the items aren’t.
I believe you are fulfilling your purpose on this Temperal Earth 🌎. If only you knew what a Wonderful Blessing you are to so very many people. Thank you and God bless you so much.
Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone ♥️♥️ Sending loving energy to you all!! Thank you for allowing me to share my heart with the authentic struggles of hoarding disorder and responding in a loving encouraging way! It’s that loving circle of encouragement and has created so much healing in this journey ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for all you do for all of us, but especially for yourself and your family 💕
Please continue to do more book reviews! How a recovering hoarder reacts to decluttering books series 😊
You are doing amazing, I do small declutters I cope better with that. ❤️
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Both my parents were hoarders, my mum died 17 years ago and I'm still dealing with her stuff. My dad died a few months ago and it's just impossible. Please people... Sort your stuff out before you pass. For your children.
Can you not just throw it all away, and I don’t mean to be cruel
Agreed. It's just too much. My mom has hoarding tendencies. She will NOT even throw away any return address. It's that bad. She's miserable in her 80's because she can't keep up with it all and it falls on us girls. Please, for the love of God. Start somewhere on the journey. ANYWHERE!!
Lets just say when mine goes,its all just trashed. And its the sad reality of this stuff. So much heavy load on environment AND humans.
💯 I've already told my ageing parents that lm not cleaning up their Crap ...otherwise a match and kerosine will be used
Thank you for sharing. It is sad that you're still dealing with it.
It is robbing you of your time and energy. It isn't fair on you.
I appreciate your words and advice.
I do not want to do this to my kids. And I need to keep on being reminded of this.
I am working on it though. I go through my things periodically. Just donated last week. And I have just done another bag full.
Watching videos and TV shows help me a lot.
I have to change my mindset about buying though, and not bringing things in. This is my downfall and I want to change it very much.
I know why I buy things and I need to check my emotions and change my behavior.
My parents are elderly 89, and 90. They have a home full of stuff. They won't get rid of anything despite being spoken to about it over the past few years.
So it'll be left to my sister and I to deal with. Mostly my sister as she lives closer. I live in a different country.
It is going to be a huge undertaking as they have tons of stuff. Some stuff could go to Thrift stores (charity shops) and given away but
Some of it is nice vintage and antiques and will have to be appraised or auctioned I would think. It is just going to be a lot of work and figuring out.
It just isn't right to burden family with this kind of thing on top of grieving too.
I really appreciate SwedishDeath cleaning. I’ve had people tell me they were just going to let their family deal with the mess when they are gone--that makes me so mad and it is so unkind. I lost so much of my life over many years to my in-laws hoarded basement and closets. Take care of your own stuff and don’t burden others with your mess.
I got two hoarder homes worth. Has taken me about 15 years and I’m still going through stuff!
I don't understand why people think they have to deal with the stuff their parents or grandparents leave behind.
I would either get stuck in and take it all into the rubbish dump, if I felt physically able, or pay someone else to clear it and dump it -- unless you know that there are valuables among the trash.
But personally, I would weigh up the monetary value of saving stuff "in case," or saving myself a mountain of work!!!
I know what would win. Life is too short...😊😊
@@kensiblonde4203ouch
@@judylloyd7901it must be more expensive to keep it if you pay for storage😊
@@turtleanton6539Many people end up paying for storage. That's what pushed one of the Minimalists into minimalism - having his hoarder mother's absolute junk in a storage building for years until he realized how ridiculous it was.
Swedish death cleaning was the answer for my cluttered basement. I had kept stuff, sentimental as well as practical, for my adult children. They really didn't want most of it. I sent pictures of the items to my children, who all live far away, and they claimed what was important to them. The rest was donated.
This happened to my husband and his sisters a year ago this month. Their mom had hoarded in the same house since the 50’s. It was grueling work that took months and it was difficult because they had no idea what stuff was family heirlooms and what was junk from thrift stores, sides of the road etc, and it was so hard to sift through when they were grieving.
I know how difficult it was your hubby and siblings ❤️🙏🏼❤️ Hoarding Disorder is often hidden and not talked about. That’s why I want to be open about it, so people can start their healing recovery too ❤️🙏🏼❤️
@@ahoardersheart yes you sharing your journey is so wonderful. I always enjoy watching you. It brought her joy so we all just let her be. But it’s difficult to be the ones left after. Honestly even if we had just helped her organize so we knew what was really sentimental like you have been doing would have been a huge help. 💕
My good friend's mother had an immaculate house, but when she died, my friend said her mother was a pack rat. She had a hard time emptying the house. First, she got a dumpster and just started throwing good stuff away. She finally had an estate sale. If she had that much trouble, I shudder to think what our kids will have to deal with.
I don’t mean to be light about this because my father was a hoarder and had 10! storage facilities and a huge hoarder property. But if you cannot tell the difference between valuable and trash, it’s not worth the time. I took a few treasured items I remembered from my youth and walked away.
As a swede I really loved that book. My mother passed away when I was 20 and she left so much stuff behind. It's taken me many years, and I'm still not done to go through everything little by little. I still live in my childhood home so I had the possibility to keep a lot. Just know it takes time, sometimes years. What I have left now is the sentimental stuff and I do one drawer at a time. All I know is I don't want to leave my children that much stuff when I go, it's a huge burden. Keep going strong your doing great! ❤️
Having watched someone leave quite a mess for their grown children (multiple properties, cars, unorganized files), I vowed to never do that to my kids! My paperwork is in order. If they want to donate all my items, that's fine! But I will make it as easy as I can for them, while still enjoying my home myself while I'm still here!
That’s amazing!!! 💜🦄🌟🙏🏼
@@ahoardersheart It took me a long time to get to this "mindset", believe me. It wasn't easy.
That’s great! I hear all too often stories of kids and family having hard going through loved ones items and all their belongings and payments and such. I try to help my parents a lot even when I was in highschool, they would just accumulate so much and not let go of things even if they didn’t use it or it wasn’t needed. We would get rid of several trash bags full of just paper each time over the years and several bags full of donations and tons of furniture to sell or donate.
Luckily they have gotten better about it and things don’t accumulate anymore and they use systems put in place to organize and keep on top of paperwork.
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Thank you for giving us the horders version of Swedish death cleaning. Having had to go through my mother’s things: sentimental collectibles, everyday items and tons of paperwork, I definitely don’t want to leave that much for my children but it’s still hard to deal with. Good for you in your baby steps decluttering.
Thank you my sweet friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️ I definitely felt how hard that was for you and sending you virtual hugs!! But it’s a hidden blessing for your children when it’s time for them.
It was definitely eye-opening to see how someone who identifies so closely with their belongings comes to grips with keeping or tossing.
One of my friends has a box in the basement marked for each of her kids. This is where they can keep their important items from the years. They get to decide, but if it doesn’t fit, they don’t keep it (books don’t count). Great idea when I see other parents struggling with attics full of their kids stuff that has been left behind without a care.
That is a very good idea indeed 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
Honestly, by categorizing and labeling the way you do, you have already started the process. Letting your family know that you are OK with them giving away your things after you are gone is the gift you give them. You are doing the hard work now, and say for example...years from now, when you are gone, if they don't craft, they will know which boxes to donate to a crafting group or elementary school for supplies. Burden lifted. Keep up the great work!
I found myself mentally involved with what you were saying. I have never really dealt with my hoarding issues. I did, however, discover why I hoarded and it was because of having things to hide behind so I would not be beaten (this was a mental decision because I was abused as a child) and from the death of my only child when he was 20 years old (this pains me right now and I have tears in my eyes). Through your channel, I am finding myself beginning to deal with my hoarding issues and learning to allow my feelings to come to be. For many years I could turn my feelings off or on as I wanted; most of the time they were off because it was too painful to deal with what I was going through and what I had gone through. It has taken your channel for me to deal with my hoarding issues and I thank you for it.
I obtained so many things by getting them free and buying them. In the past year, I have found myself doing this again. I have chosen to no longer get items free the way I used to, but I struggle with not buying things. I have recently prayed that God would help me stop spending the way I have been.
Today I decided to let go of an empty box. I've had it empty for the past year and I don't need it. I say, good for me. I'm slowly letting go of things that I don't need. I'm also in the process of doing a project for my Creative Space. I need to get rid of the clutter in my Creative Space in order to put in the furniture I have acquired. I just want peace in that area of my home. It is a place where I go to relieve stress.
Thank You for reading my long comment.
I read your words and I am so sorry those things happened in your life. You didn’t deserve that happening to you. It is wonderful that you have started to realise this for yourself and that the way out starts with you loving yourself and respecting your space. I know deep down that you see simply buying or acquiring things to soothe your pain is a quick fix which never resolves or releases the emotional burden and the toll it is taking in your life. Getting to the point of fully processing that the only true way to heal is by allowing yourself to feel the emotions and work through the pain of them; finally allowing yourself to release those deep emotions is a very hard thing to do. However, if you get to that point I am sure it will be so worth it in the end. It sounds like you’ve made a start with wanting to have a creative space, I really wish you luck with that and wish you well for your future.
@@bethstratton3391 Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. I really appreciate it.
Sending you blessings Becky. 💖
Hugs and encouragement to you Becky!
@@bonesareheavy Thank you so much.
Have you ever seen the UA-cam channel “Curiosity Incorporated”? An antique dealer in Canada, bought a house full of stuff, and he declutters and saves what he can sell. “The musicians hoarded house” series was very interesting. Not about Swedish death cleaning, but gave people glimpses of what it takes to clear out hoarded house. So much work, but done very beautifully.
Yeah you definitely don’t want to wait till you are 80 to tackle decluttering. I’m so glad you are on this healing journey. You have done so much for your family already ❤
And "The Potter's House" they did was amazing as well. So much respect for the owner.
Yes both great episodes. Love that channel as well.
Thank you for your perspective. My mother in law passed very recently and she was a hoarder. We've been working on clearing it with many people for many weeks. Luckily the end is nearly in sight. Your perspective helps me to be compassionate towards her and not only feel overwhelmed and even upset with the gigantic task she left for me and my husband.
Sincerest sympathies to you 🙏💐
@@josephdaly2015 Thank you so much, Mary💚
You are never alone in your decluttering and neither are we... because we have you and you have us... Love you Miss Heart...❣️❣️❣️
Love love love your message ❤️❤️❤️ We are never ever alone, we’ll always have each other!!!
I have listened to this book a couple of yrs ago, and it helped me a lot.
But have to say-being here, watching how you overcome so much fear, stress, anxiety, and how strong you became, and is still growing, helps me even more, as it is real and "touchable". Cheers to All in this community! Have a wonderful day!:)
Slowly but surely is the best way for us hoarders. One box at a time.
Thank you for this video. I am not exactly a hoarder but I’m headed in that direction if I don’t get my stuff in order. The main thing that got me to really want to clean and declutter was a near death experience where all that was going through my head was that I felt bad my parents would have to go through all my junk and how tough that’d be. I looked for videos for help but they were all people who aren’t very messy cleaning or people cleaning high level hoarder houses. It wasn’t very helpful for what was going through my head. This is it. This is helping.
Mainer Mom says she thinks of it as Life Cleaning., for her future life is the emphasis. Facing a serious illness, I am grateful I have been steadily doing this. You are a beautiful person inside and out!❤
I read Swedish Death Cleaning a few years ago. I never thought about how it could trigger someone who's recovering from hoarding disorder. I'm glad that you were able to discover some positive take-aways! My biggest takeaway from that book was that just because I think something is great doesn't mean that my family is going to want it after I pass. 🙂I've been consistently decluttering my house because I don't want my family to be burdened with so much stuff. I think the way that you're systematically cleaning your basement & the rest of your home, and grouping like things with like, is the perfect way to help your loved ones! It's not something you want to dwell on, but I think giving your family permission to let go of any or all of your sentimental items is the right thing to do. 🥰
This is fascinating. As you have to think, would my sons want this once I'm gone. This is definitely a level you are not at the moment close to, but one day, you will get there. You have come so far since starting this channel ❤️
Thank you so much my friend, your message is so uplifting ❤️🙏🏼❤️
I started throwing 10 things a day away. I got rid of all the things that were not mine. All of the butter ware and take out containers. And dishes I don't use and silver ware. So this was very helpful.
I’m currently in the process of decluttering my home and I’m using that process right now. About the only thing I hoard these days is paper so I decided to put all my paperwork in house in one big box so I can go through it at my own pace. But, as far as other stuff I’m asking my daughter or other family members if they want the item and if they say no then it’s going in the donate pile. I’m getting older and to damn tired of the mental inventory of stuff. I’ve also gotten to the point I’m no longer managing my husband or my daughter’s stuff anymore if they can’t find it that’s their own fault.
Happy Valentine’s Day Mrs. Heart!
A few years before she passed, my husband’s grandma had one of her sons film her telling the stories of her favorite treasures. Once she passed, the treasures were made all the more special by having the story and the videos to go with them. ❤
This concept is what brought me to minimalism. We were left with so much from our in-laws it was emotional and over whelming. We seem to have just dealt with it and continue to part with our own possessions.
Hey! just wanted to say as the child of hoarders, you're amazing for sharing your experiences! Thank you!
This has reminded me that I need to keep working on thus, especially my will etc funeral plans ...thanks for encouragement ❤️
Absolutely my friend ❤️🙏🏼❤️
After multiple pregnancy losses and no siblings, and no next generation in my wider family - I’m not sure who is going to go through my stuff when I’m old. This puts a slightly different spin on Swedish death cleaning - not so much protecting my impact on loved ones but avoiding the shame of random carers or the authorities dumping my stuff . There will noone who wants any of the family photos or anything to remember me, it’s a weird feeling…😢
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I'm there with you. I have gotten rid of so much stuff, but intend to enjoy my favorite things. I don't think there is shame of someone dumping your stuff, you won't be there. We have no children, so I guess it will be up to my niece and nephew to empty out the house. I don't think that they will be wondering "why did she keep this or why does she have this" lol. That happened when we cleaned out my Grandma's house. Oh my the rubber bands, paper bags and plastic ziploc storage containers. People of her generation did not want to throw anything away. So very different from our present throw away society.
You are not alone! I have wondered this about myself one day 😢❤
Dear Melanie. You are doing so great! I have been following you some years now. You have really come a long Way. I look forward to when you Will declutter your craft stuff. That is my Big problem. I have done some decluttering, but never enough.
I have read the book too, and it is a great idea, but We Will have to do it in our own pace ❤
Hun, I just love to see your videos, your progress, your strength, your character and your heart. Your channel just radiates that you must be a person that just pours her love into every person that needs it. (So much so that you have to be careful not to drain yourself too much.) Take care!
Thanks for the video. And just a thought about sentimental objects. On one of my decluttering binges I picked up something and thought "Aww... this reminds me of Grandma" and put it in a keep pile. A little bit later I found another Grandma thing, then another. I realized that I don't need 20 different things to remind me of my Grandma. Most of them would mean nothing to other people. I'm the one with the memories. Why keep all of them? Maybe 1,2 or 3 things would be enough for me.
I love your open honesty with your journey. I appreciate it. Thank you.
Thank you very much for demystifying this topic. I could not even watch the videos, much less read the book. I very much appreciate that you both listened to and read about it...I am blessed by your "takeaways," without me having to tangle with that book. "You are allowed to keep your sentimental items...and your family has permission to get rid of them when I am gone." Thank you very much.
Thank you for sharing your healing journey. You have a beautiful spirit and are very wise in how you demonstrate self love and positivity in your process.
Your videos are very helpful. I found myself having trouble breathing with this one. I'm proud of myself for having started while I still have time to leave things easier for my kids but even more because I am finding life easier and calmer with some spaces that stay clean. You are doing an awesome job!
Thank you so much for making this video. It was very helpful. My mom was a hoarder due to her various past traumas. She passed away 5 years ago, but I still haven't had the courage to clean out her stuff. It feels so overwhelming and I wasn't sure where to start, but this video gave me an idea. Just subscribed to your channel!
I'm glad that I found your channel. I am also a hoarder. It all started when I had my daughter. She is now 25. I thought I would be having grandkids, but that isn't the case. I kept toys, clothes, school papers... You name It, I kept it. And then there is my stuff. My parents died in the last two years and my father will be gone a year next month. They were my best friends. I did everything with them. I now have my father's stuff to go through, and it is so hard. I did start this weekend. You sound so much like me. I have no help and will have to do it myself. I can barely get around. There is more to what I'm going through, but that is for another time (?) But like I said, I'm glad I found your channel.
@@allalala9916I have a goal of keeping as many sentimental clothes as will fit into each diaper bag. I was just looking through the box with my 8yo and she took out a little doll I'd crocheted for her as a baby, and now she's sleeping with it. 😍
My mom brought me a tiny suitcase of my old baby clothes when I had my first daughter, and I enjoyed it very much. I didn't keep or use all the items, but a few are being passed down to my grandchildren when they come, and then my kids can decide what to keep from that.
Having the diaper bag (that was sewed by my mom) as a container helps me pick out only a few things to keep.
You have come such a long way in just a few years. Sending much love your way! 💐
Consistency is the key!
I decluttered all my posessions 8 years ago and I still go through my house. Some items just lose their meaning and new stuff comes in and we change. So I don't thin we are ever ready or done.
I also think " Would I move this to new house", If not why I'm having this item + I hate moving 😅
I always look forward to your videos. I get so much encouragement and confidence from your gentle and loving approach.
It is starting to work - I was able to tidy my bedroom in time for the en-suite shower room re-do. Everything is stowed away in a reasonable manner, but I know that I can have another pass later on & get rid of some more stuff.
You are teaching me loving compassion.
I applaud you for reading this book. You are doing amazing in your journey!
I’m not a hoarder; quite the opposite, actually. I have to say, I love your videos! I’ve been following you for about a year or so and I’m so impressed by your ability to go through this process! I try to get my family on the decluttering band wagon, but I have not been as successful as I’d hoped! I don’t have a hard time getting rid of things but that doesn’t mean I’m not sentimental! (Contrary to popular belief lol!) I just wanted to send an encouraging note your way ❤ watching your videos satisfies my brain on so many levels I can’t even explain it 😂 you’re awesome!
I love how your side of the bed is so organized. Leaps and bounds you are making.
I go for a walk every day and I pass an old run down house. I knew a senior lady lived there. She may not have been a hoarder but she was past the physical stage and perhaps mental stage to de clutter. She recently passed away and her family sold the house as is. I saw the new owners throwing everything into a dumpster.
Thank you for sharing your journey, hugs n prayers.
Happy Valentine's Day! You are LOVED! ❤
Awesome! In recent years in my family we were cleaning three houses after the seniors died and they were all so hoarded and messy, it was extremely overwhelming, time-consuming and awful. To be honest I was really angry at these seniors (in my thoughts), it was like “did you really think you would live forever? you were just having fun and too lazy to declutter and did not care about us having to deal with your crap. How absolutely selfish and irresponsible’
I know that hoarding is a mental disorder and we should be empathic. But you know what? Humans have imagination and free will. There are hoarders who apply these and decide ‘ok I have a problem, I need help’ and who choose to change, even if they struggle with it. They decide to leave their comfort zone - and others dont, even if they get all possible signs from life that it’s time.
So I think it is so awsome and loving that you are thinking of it and cleaning now ❤
As a mental health professional, your channel is such an inspiration. I just know you are changing lives for the better. 😊😊😊😊🥰🥰
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences as a recovering hoarder. As a child and sibling of hoarders it helps me to understand them better.
You are so brave! Thank you for being transparent and sharing your thoughts and feelings. This is encouraging to me and I’m sure others!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Congrats on another step forward in your journey! 👏
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability in this video.
Thank you for sharing your personal journey that resonates with so many people in this world...including myself. ❤
Your thoughts are very important because you are very important our dear Ms. Heart. Are you aware of how many people your helping understand how to go forward or support a friend or family member? You are a true delight ❤
Awe, you are so incredibly kind and a pure delight too!! Thank you so much for your uplifting message 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
You have come so far. I remember wanting to see your face. You're an inspiration to so many people. So proud of you!! 💜💜💜💜
Cheers and more cheers to you for doing the work to mange your hoarding disorder.
@ahoardersheart
I really appreciate your candor and honesty.
You are a leader. You are loved. You are beautiful. God is good.
Sending up prayers for your journey. :)
Great talk and great job! You can actually see some of the fireplace in your basement!! That's huge!!!
I am and know many hoarders. I ask myself all the time if my family will want my stuff and the answer is no. 95 to 99% of it will be donated or tossed out. Also, would they be willing to spend the time sorting it? Or just have it taken away? I am decluttering bit by bit like you, sorting and labelling. It would be selfish not to. I really enjoy your videos, you inspire me.
Just order the audible book buy nothing cant wait to listen to it thanks for your inspirational video so much enjoyed it 🥰🦄💜
This was such an interesting video. Thanks for your insights they have been so inspiring for me ❤
When my daughter moved out, I loaded up a bunch of things I had saved for her, (report cards, certificates, awards, pictures and even a few prom dresses.) in empty suitcases and threw them on the back of the uhaul truck. She wasn’t very happy with me, when she arrived at her destination. But it wasn’t up to me to decide what she felt sentimental about or important. Nor was our house unpaid storage place. Did the same thing with my youngest son’s stuff. If they wanted to toss it, sell it, keep it, donate it that was their decision.
You're so rudee !!....you should have dumped it to her place instead of dumping to the truck ,since your house is not a unpaid storge you're so evil
My mom "dumped" all my childhood memorabilia on my butt years ago. It does sting at first. Thinking of my own kids' stuff, I can't imagine parting with it. They are still young, though, and I can see unloading it on them in the future, as an emotionally-acceptable alternative to throwing it all away.
@@ninii394 I would have. But she was living in Fl then and we were in Va. while she was still living in Va. whenever she came home I tried to get her to deal with her things, and she’s just blew me off. When I finally threw her things in a suitcase, was the same time we were downsizing from an almost 5,000 sf home to a 2200 sf home in another city.
@@kayo5291 my kids were in their 20’s or older and had their own places. We were downsizing ourselves from a large home to one of 2200 sf. I got rid of whole rooms worth of furniture. Formal dining room set, living room, family room. 5 bedrooms. We just weren’t going to have room in a much smaller home, with an open floor plan.
you have come so far and we all are wishing you the best
In my first month of retirement, we made a schedule of what days to work on decluttering. So far, it's working for us. Yes, there are arguments when two of us are working together. He thinks we are not getting rid of enough items. I kept reminding him that this was our first round of going through stuff. There are piles for the kids, family members, donations, burn, recycling, and trash.
How have things come along since you posted? Did you get more done, still working on it?
I think it's understandable to have some disagreements in these situations but hopefully you'll come to a point where you're both satisfied wth the progress and outcome.
Keep on going.
My old foster mother is an art teacher who doesn't get the funding she needs and so she is always asking people to donate stuff like the little toys in your sentimental box to her art class so that the kids can use them in their projects. Maybe something like donating a junk box of those items for art would be a way to help you let go of those things and know they will be appreciated. She also takes things that might go in a junk journal or collage. I don't know what area you are but if you ask local art teachers they might be really grateful because they often have to buy their own art supplies from their wages.
Excellent video and analysis. You’re a wonderful person and excellent motivator.
Keep up the good work! Little by little is how we are decluttering too. Just a few minutes a day decluttering had really changed our house. We are almost finished in the kitchen, and we are picking one category a month to declutter in the basement. Appreciate your channel along with Cas, Dawn and Dana.
LOVE the picture of you reclining on your horad!!!
Your amazing!!!! That’s tough!!! Just 1/2 way thru video but I’m inspired and impressed!!! And I look great on camera!!! ❤️❤️
Hi🖐️😀💐
Thank You for your videos. I had to clear out a lot of my hoard realty quickly ( l am a level 4 hoarder too.)
But repairs had to be made to our home and l had to make room for the men to find all of the problems and get in there to fix it. Now I am suffering from the loss of things that l should have kept. Some photos of my children and art work they made. a vintage lampshade. I can't believe I threw them out.
Now it's like hitting a brick wall and I can't make myself continue. I started out determined to clear out our home and now I just cry a lot.
Is there anyone else who has dealt with this and how do you move forward when you deeply regret making some bad choices about what to throw out?
Much love to you all💐
Thank you for your videos and for sharing your struggles and successes. Wishing you a Happy Valentines day! 🌟🌸🌷😘❤
Slow and steady wins the race. Thanks for the recommendation of the books and a briefing on them too. You are doing a fantastic job decluttering. Thanks for always keeping it real. Happy valentines days. Miss Pepper is really enjoying her time in yer bed. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏🙏💪👍🤞🙏💐🐈🦄
For me, the bottom line of Swedish Death Cleaning was to declutter what you don't use & love. And you're already doing a great job of that.
Haven’t even watched the video but I gotta say I am loving the thumbnail for this one.😊 Your such a wonderful human Miss Heart.
Maybe clean out the attic and put all the sentimental bins up there 😊
That’s a good idea!!
I would love to see CAS from clutterbug come do a storage makeover for you for FREE you are deserving for all that you have accomplished ♥️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I love love love your eye makeup in this video! ❤❤❤
Hi, love your videos. I have similar hoarding tendencies. I'm wondering if you've explored mental health treatment or therapy as part of your approach towards hoarding?
I came to Swedish Death Cleaning after I had already done a lot of decluttering and worked on my mindset. It helped me take minimizing things to the next level. So I'm saying it might not be the best place to start.
I've worked for 45+ years in a system for keeping bills, statements, tax receipts, etc. in order. It gets better every year.
My mother-in-law hoarded throughout her entire life. When it came time for her to move into a senior's home, we had an almost insurmountable mess to deal with; one giant orange hefty bag full of plant pots from the greenhouse, another full of onion bags, rolls of bread bags in tin foil boxes, a freezer stuffed with food that would sustain a village, un-finished knitting projects, chenille pipe cleaner peacocks,old smelly furniture, a porch swing in the basement, beautiful clothes she never wore(we donated those), the list goes on and on. That was just the tip of the iceberg. It took a week and a half to truck her crap to the dump. What an unbelievably inconsiderate and selfish act. Do not do that to your children folks.
I have a friend I’ve known for years and every time she moves her new place is clean and open and unfortunately in a very short time it is filled up with stuff. You have to step over things and move things in order to just sit. She buys organizing stuff that just takes up more space. She always says my house is messy I haven’t had time to clean. It’s cluttered stuff everywhere I can’t even sit and relax in her home. I avoid going to her place due to this.Her car is stuffed too. I’ve tried to help in the past but it’s never ending. What do you say ? or how to respond to someone when they ask why you don’t come over anymore? I don’t want to be mean but I can’t take it anymore. Is there anyway to really help her ? or just avoid it altogether.
September 2023. Hi, I just wondered if you have sorted the stuff in the attic yet. Tina, Al's wife
I love Pepper's Pep Talk!! Gorgeous baby!! 💖🐱💖🐱
Would you share how you currently handle bringing less to the house, did you break the hoarding cycle or you still struggle bringing things into your home
Yes, you have already started the "death cleaning" with all the decluttering, labelling, organizing etc. One never knows what happens, but I think that Margareta Magnusson wants us to enjoy the things we love and don't let the excess get in the way. My father's aunt used to give him beautiful glass bowls (she lived close to a glass factory where they make both art and tableware) these recent years, and I got a framed photo of myself as a baby. She said, one day no one will know who this is, it was better that I got it. She died at 98 y old last autumn and I'm happy that I have my baby photo, but of course, most of all I'm happy for all the memories of her. And even if it's possible to involve loved ones when you want to transfer the joy, I don't think Margareta M meant a big hoard, but more like unique or precious thing. But don't let the talk about death stress you Ms Heart, the most important is to make a good life now, and you are doing that every day by choosing yourself, your mental health, your family etc. Decluttering is just one of the things you are doing to create a good life for you and your family. Loooots of love from one of your Swedish friends!
What a beautifully written message, I especially loved your family story, that framed photo of you as a baby is so precious!! Thank you for your encouraging message, it means a lot to me!! I cannot wait until the day I can visit Sweden for myself!!!
Thank you for this video.
Sentimental items are so hard…but you are doing great 😊❤️
It's funny to look at the nightstands by your bed - one is clutter free and neatly arranged, the other is a jumble of various chargers, a remote, a red solo cup....not what I would consider "hoarder" level but just kind of a jumbled mess. We have places like that in our home, too. The other thing that struck me is how you have your stuff binned and labeled - yes, there's a lot of it but at least you know what is in each bin.
On a sidenote: Your bedside table / nightstand still looks very nice. Good job keeping up on it!
I do have a question. (you were brave so I’m going to be brave and ask this question)
The question is… how do I find out what kind of hoarder I am and to what degree?
Hi there, I know this question is for Melanie but I thought I would mention books I read a few years ago that broke down the levels. I can't recall which did the levels but it was either 'Stuff: Compulsive hoarding and the meaning of things' by Randy O. Frost or 'Buried in Treasures' by Randy O. Frost. Both books are amazing.
I adopted the flylady system after a professional burnout. And it helped me a lot to get rid of the surplus stuff. Now I keep and buy only things I love. I’m not à horder, but my small home wasn’t made for so much stuff. I just think one can die every day and I like to have my home in order. I hope you’ll make your way.
Happy ❤Day, Miss ❤!!! Anxiety ain’t no joke. I find my strength in knowing this world is passing. Lots of self talk and talking to God. It’s absolutely not easy. But one paper out, IS a baby step to two papers out!!!!
I think of it as a phase. Of course, the perspective can be interesting at every phase of life. But I am with two little kids still expanding. I keep the income of things low but as they grow they need stuff. Next year my son will need school supplies, a proper desk… You are in a phase of keeping a nest for bigger kids. You still have time to reduce, to consider what is important. You do not declutter for the next generation and the time after you but for you and your family to enjoy the spaces NOW! I think it is very understandable that you were triggered by the book.
My family would have no problem with my stuff since I’m quite minimal and don’t have sentimental items. It’s just stuff.. the memories will be there when the items aren’t.
Love her!! Great advice! Great progress too! ❤ Love that Sacred Heart of Jesus prayer card! I saw it in another video and make me smile!
Enjoyed from Texas!
it is a good book. that is for sure. good job big hug Ellen
Big Hugs right back at you my friend 💜🦄🌟🙏🏼
Happy Valentine's day and I loved that book
Wow, your hubbys nightstand is much more cluttered than yours. That made me laugh🙂
He's got an awful lot to declutter in the basement too🙂
He’s a hoarder too but seems to be able to dodge that fact.
I believe you are fulfilling your purpose on this Temperal Earth 🌎. If only you knew what a Wonderful Blessing you are to so very many people. Thank you and God bless you so much.