#1 What I wish I knew BEFORE starting to DECLUTTER

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  • @antiquesrestoration3874
    @antiquesrestoration3874 11 днів тому +14

    The "sunk cost fallacy" was a revelation to me when I finally accepted that the money was already wasted when I made the purchase. Passing the items on was cathartic and helped me move past that particular roadblock. Plus, it was a learning experience each time. What a fantastic attitude your dad has about sending items on to their new homes as well.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  11 днів тому +3

      @@antiquesrestoration3874 I am so happy for you! 🎉🎉 It’s a toughy, but when we get past that lost money mentality, it’s full steam ahead! I hope you subscribed, because I released the 2nd video in this series last week on sentimental items and this week and next week, the last 2 in the series will come out on clothes and household items. Let me know what you think about those. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

    • @antiquesrestoration3874
      @antiquesrestoration3874 11 днів тому

      @@downsizetoupsize just subbed.

  • @Karla_Finch-Cluff
    @Karla_Finch-Cluff 26 днів тому +130

    It took me five minutes to realize you were talking to a spatula, and it made my day!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  26 днів тому +21

      So funny, but I was wearing a shirt that just wouldn’t cooperate with my little mic. 😂 Necessity is the mother of invention. 😊

    • @denisecarter5117
      @denisecarter5117 24 дні тому +3

      Me too.ha

    • @palmerhouse3733
      @palmerhouse3733 24 дні тому +5

      Ohmagosh! Same. 😂

    • @Carolyn-qd8mj
      @Carolyn-qd8mj 23 дні тому +2

      I guess I’m pretty sharp today…I saw it right away! 😆

    • @Karla_Finch-Cluff
      @Karla_Finch-Cluff 23 дні тому

      @@downsizetoupsize and a fun one at that!

  • @CassieW-97
    @CassieW-97 21 день тому +53

    First time viewer. Liked this video. I emptied my parents house 6 yrs ago and my dad’s senior apt 4 yrs ago. Not one grandchild wanted any of their stuff. I kept a tea cup set my brother kept tools. After both of these huge jobs I came home to my husband and said, “ we will not do this to our kids!” We have declutterred about 75% of our stuff… 2000 books, we read almost everything digital or use library now, a college was thrilled to get my husbands theology books, 42 bins of Christmas to one bin and a 4ft tree. I love everything we kept and the time I save cleaning, dusting, storing has freed me up so much.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому +5

      @@CassieW-97 You don’t just get 1 gold star! You get 5 GOLD STARS! What an incredible accomplishment especially on your holiday items and books. I always loved to declutter but after having to deal with the contents of my grandma’s and dad’s houses, I had the same epiphany as you did. My kids and my sister’s kids took things like one scarf or a sweater and the rest, we had estate sales and donated. I just like less to manage in general. Please subscribe if you haven’t already. I just released a new video TODAY and plan to post a new one each Friday. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

    • @missygold9315
      @missygold9315 21 день тому +3

      New sub

    • @martifreedman4067
      @martifreedman4067 19 днів тому +5

      42 bins of Christmas? Holy patoly.

  • @oldanduncouth
    @oldanduncouth 14 днів тому +21

    It's the spatula for me
    best multi-use i've seen this month

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  14 днів тому

      @@oldanduncouth Awwww thank you! 🌸💕 My daughter got me this shirt and it was not cooperating with the mic so I thought what can I use. 😆 I hope you subscribed, so you can get notified, because I just released the second video in the series and two more will be coming out over the next few weeks. All the best, Bren

    • @janetta5827
      @janetta5827 11 днів тому +1

      Took me half the video to realize why she was holding a spatula. 😂

  • @shutterbugkc
    @shutterbugkc 24 дні тому +70

    I have a large game room that I have been using as a storage shed for too many years. It looks like a hoarder’s nightmare. I dream of using that room for home Bible study groups and large family gatherings. I have stumbled upon something that truly helps me with decluttering it. Every time I walk into that room for a decluttering session I say out loud, “Nothing in this room is more important than the people I want to have over!” That declaration really helps me with purging the sentimental stuff because instead of stressing about keeping the old memories I’m focusing on the new memories I want to create in this space. ❤️

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +6

      @@shutterbugkc I absolutely love that and it is so true. No possession is more important than people! Filling that room with people enjoying each other’s company outweighs the clutter any day of the week! Good for you to come up with such a good way to motivate yourself. I’m sure you will make it happen with that kind of mindset. 🥰💕

  • @goulash64
    @goulash64 24 дні тому +50

    I love the way you're holding your mic. That's genius.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +9

      @@goulash64 oh thank you so much! My daughter bought me the shirt I wore and the mic would not cooperate so I thought what can I use and my spatula spoon won. 😂🌸

  • @deborahdevane6330
    @deborahdevane6330 13 днів тому +12

    Thank you. I'm going through this right now. The hardest stuff to get rid of are the items that have a family back story to it that is precious. But you're right, our kids do NOT want our crap (their words for it).

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  13 днів тому

      @@deborahdevane6330 I love it! We are a family that uses the word crap, too! 😂 I think of it like this: they can take what they want, but they also deserve to get things that speak to their taste and make them feel good. Sounds like you know exactly what I mean. I hope you’re subscribed, because I’ll be releasing episode 3 on clothes in this series this week and the 4th and last episode of this series will be the following week on household items. The second one was on sentimental items in case you missed it. Way more to come after that, too.
      All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @gailwhite8796
    @gailwhite8796 25 днів тому +65

    One thing that helps me when I’m decluttering is the concept that every item I own also owns me - because I have to maintain, clean, dust, or store it. So, when I’m deciding whether to keep, donate or toss an item, I ask myself, “Do I really want to be owned by this item?” Usually, the answer is a clear Yes! Or No!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  25 днів тому +2

      @@gailwhite8796 I love that Gail! Thanks for sharing that thought. It better be worth all the effort if you keep something, because you are so right things can own you and not the other way around. I used to struggle with the yes or no thing. Often times, I would try to justify something when I knew it was a clear no. 🌺💕

    • @Jennifer-bs6oy
      @Jennifer-bs6oy 22 дні тому +5

      I hate dusting

    • @sophiabright8371
      @sophiabright8371 19 днів тому

      ​@@Jennifer-bs6oyBANE OF MY EXISTENCE! I'M ALLERGIC!!!

    • @katie7748
      @katie7748 12 днів тому +1

      ​@Jennifer-bs6oy
      I find it therapeutic but I understand why others don't lol

    • @Jennifer-bs6oy
      @Jennifer-bs6oy 11 днів тому

      @@katie7748 happy holidays Katie. Love your name. From Tucson

  • @terrihubbard1437
    @terrihubbard1437 22 дні тому +34

    First time viewer. When you said that our kids don't want our stuff I was in!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      @@terrihubbard1437 I’m so glad! I understand how kids don’t want brown furniture…it’s not their color maybe but my white dishes did surprise me. That said, I admire them for only having things they truly love in their space. Good for them! I hope you subscribed, because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday and possibly a bonus one this Sunday. All the best, Bren

  • @MyBlessedNest
    @MyBlessedNest 22 дні тому +17

    I rarely regret decluttering anything and usually forget about the decluttered items very quickly! Great tips! 💓💓💓

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      @@MyBlessedNest I’m the same as you! I struggle sometimes with an item even though I know the answer…I will try to justify it. An example is an old handbag I sold this year. That thing sat in my cabinet for years unused. I did love it at one point, but no more. I parted ways with it and I haven’t thought about it until I was trying to give you an example. I still do NOT regret it. I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday at 2:45pm. Today is Friday. 💕🎉🌸 All the best, Bren

    • @MyBlessedNest
      @MyBlessedNest 21 день тому

      @@downsizetoupsizeI subscribed! Thanks Bren! 🤗

  • @ReginaChristenson
    @ReginaChristenson 24 дні тому +31

    I loved your dad saying, “we sure made people happy”❤

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +3

      @@ReginaChristenson I lost my dad a few years ago and his voice is often in my head when I’m trying to figure something out. I love that saying, too! 🥰

    • @labradorite8256
      @labradorite8256 21 день тому

      😍

  • @livingthedream923
    @livingthedream923 24 дні тому +26

    My community has a garage sale once a year in the spring. I am decluttering and pricing as I go, using my son’s old bedroom (he recently bought his own home) as a storage unit until the sale. In the spring, everything will be priced and ready to go. Knowing I will make a little money back is helping me part with things and my husband and I have already agreed that whatever does not sell gets donated to the thrift shop.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +2

      @@livingthedream923 Such a SMART idea to use your son’s old room to store the stuff you’ve decided to sell. I love that idea because you can just close the door and it’s not invading your living space. It’s awesome your husband is on board with donating afterwards. You’ve given me a great idea: price as you go. With as many sales as I’ve done, I have never priced as I go, but I sure will do that going forward! Thank you so much! Every Friday, I’ll be putting out a new video. If you have any suggestions as to what you’d like to hear about, feel free to let me know! All the best, Bren 🌸💕

    • @laurie-jeannelister1029
      @laurie-jeannelister1029 5 днів тому

      I find when my community has a garage sale, I don't sell very much. Too much competition! I create my own garage sale and put ads up online. hang a few signs, and be prepared to start very early. Then I sell a lot.

  • @Prodrig817
    @Prodrig817 25 днів тому +46

    I added personal photos. I am of the era when pictures were printed. I had 20 albums of pictures that got heavy if I had to pack them and move plus they only gave me something else to dust. I pulled out 5 of the most significant periods, happy periods, and dumped the rest. My family does not want pictures of me upon my demise. And work binders, I had a 20 plus year career as a financial consultant and I still had all the binders related to that career, I dumped those as well. Now, if item reminds me of the past, I dump it because it is distracting me from the dear precious present. Thank you for sharing your experience.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  25 днів тому +8

      @@Prodrig817 oh I just LOVE what you shared! I think those photos can be a burden. I completely get it. When my grandma passed away, I inherited all the pictures. Early this past year, I put them in albums and it was honestly depressing, but at the same time, something very good came to me. I thought to myself that all these distant relatives (great, great grandparents etc) are all gone and they have no more opportunities to live their best lives. In that moment, I decided to make sure I remember that and live my best life. I’m glad you parted ways with things that didn’t make you feel good or gave you bad vibes/feelings! Who needs that stuff! GOOD FOR YOU! ❤️🥰🌸

    • @Prodrig817
      @Prodrig817 25 днів тому +6

      @@downsizetoupsize thank you for your kind words. It took courage and acceptance that the life I lead was excellent because I worked really hard to make it so, but it didn’t turn out like I thought it would. I appreciate the mention that the photos kept are the ones that make me feel good. It takes valor, to move on, while there is life to live. Viva the current life! 🎉

    • @LynnStAubin-od5qe
      @LynnStAubin-od5qe 23 дні тому +5

      I just spent two nights at a friend’s home specifically so we could go through pictures. We’ve been friends for 50 years so many life experiences overlap for us. We swapped some family pictures and laughed about old school pictures, etc. Biggest thing was, she emptied 2 large bins and I emptied one.

    • @Prodrig817
      @Prodrig817 23 дні тому +4

      @ Congratulations 🎉 I had to do it by spurts because the emotions that came up to the surface were painful to process all at once. Then I realized the albums were more of a burden or distraction like something I still have to get to. For example, a book that I haven’t finished reading yet. That gave me the energy to push through the emotions that were weighing me down.

  • @GBev7
    @GBev7 24 дні тому +24

    I take a picture of the item I don’t need anymore.
    I had luggage, the old kind without wheels that my parents had given me as a HS graduation gift. We stored those pieces for years just because of the sentimental factor. Finally I took pictures of the luggage inside and out and let them go.
    Having pictures is just as sentimental and makes it easy for me to let go of stuff.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому

      @@GBev7 What a great point. You don’t need the physical item to have the good memories associated with it and taking pictures of it is absolutely just as good! It might even be better because it’s so much easier to access pictures. Happy you let that luggage go! Good for you! 💕🎉

    • @laurie-jeannelister1029
      @laurie-jeannelister1029 5 днів тому +1

      That is indeed an excellent tip!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  5 днів тому

      @ I agree 100%! Thank you for participating in the conversation. 😊 I hope you subscribed because the final episode in this series will be posted the day after Christmas. It will be on household items. Episodes 2 & 3 in the series go over sentimental items and clothes and accessories. Hope you get a chance to watch those, too. Around New Year’s Day, I’ll be posting a Whole House Cleaning video on those forgotten places we never clean. I hope you have a wonderful day! All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @andTheLadyMondegreen
    @andTheLadyMondegreen 25 днів тому +28

    You have a really calming voice to listen to. Loved listening to you in the background while I did my own decluttering.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  25 днів тому +2

      @@andTheLadyMondegreen That makes me feel so good that you had me on while you’re decluttering! So sweet of you and I appreciate the compliment. 🌸

    • @laurie6644
      @laurie6644 24 дні тому

      Yes, her voice reminds me of the actress who plays the mom in the movie 'Elf'.

    • @dawnriddle-knowlton9932
      @dawnriddle-knowlton9932 12 днів тому +1

      Her kind voice makes it seem like a gentle process

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  11 днів тому +1

      @ You win the award 🏆 for the sweetest comment of the day! Thank you so much for watching! There’s one other video on sentimental items in this series out already besides the one you watched and 2 more coming this week and next on clothes and household items. I hope you’re subscribed so you’ll get notified. Around New Years, I’ll be posting a clean with me whole house deep clean video. Let me know what you think of these. I’d love to hear from you again. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @StacyVescial
    @StacyVescial 11 днів тому +3

    When I was small I used to stand on the fire hearth and sing into our ice cream scoop!😂

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  11 днів тому

      @@StacyVescial Such a sweet memory! Sounds like it made a great mic! 🥰 Thank you for sharing!! My shirt would not cooperate with my mic so I thought to myself….what can I use 😂. I hope you subscribed because the 2ND episode in this series posted last week on sentimental items & episodes 3 and 4 will post this week and next week on clothes/accessories and household items. Around New Year’s Day, I’ll be releasing a whole house deep clean video. If you get a chance to watch any of these, please let me know what you think. Have a wonderful day!
      All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @JeanKLYOW
    @JeanKLYOW 15 днів тому +7

    I love how you put the mic on a spatula. Genius!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  15 днів тому

      @@JeanKLYOW 🥰 Thank you so much! I love to wear these cute shirts my daughter found for me, but even my little mic rolls on this type of shirt, so I had to come up with something. 😂 Glad you enjoyed it. I hope you’re subscribed because I just released the second video in this series and the final 2 will post over the next 2 weeks. Around New Year’s Day, I’m going to release a deep cleaning house video. You have a wonderful day!!! All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @maryjaynejordan
    @maryjaynejordan 13 днів тому +5

    I retired from teaching in 2021. I got rid of some school clothes but kept some that I really like. Now I substitute teach occasionally and I’m glad I still have some of my school clothes. My problem is with the dressier stuff: graduation, wedding etc. I need to select an item to be buried in (just kidding I’m leaning towards cremation) Anyway I need to get into that closet and clean house on the dressy stuff, then I can store quilting fabric in its place until I get to those projects. Thanks for the pep talk!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  13 днів тому

      @@maryjaynejordan I love your comment! I’m a kidder, too! 😂🎉 We don’t have to get rid of everything when we quit something, especially if there’s any chance we might have to pick it up again like you did with substitute teaching. Keeping all of it is a mistake, so you did really good.
      You are in LUCK! The video you watched is the 1ST in the series and the 2ND video released last week on sentimental items like a wedding dress. The 3RD one will be posted on clothes this week and the final in the series will post next week on household items. Then around New Year’s Day, I’ll be posting a whole house deep clean. I think from your comment, that you might find all of these videos useful. You can even have me on while you’re going through your items for some company.
      I hope you subscribed because I have a ton of videos planned and I’d love to hear from you again. Thank you so much for sharing!
      All the best, Bren 💕🌸

  • @mushroom_thrillers
    @mushroom_thrillers 18 днів тому +7

    Love the spatula microphone. My kind of Mom!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  18 днів тому

      @@mushroom_thrillers Awwww! Thank you so much! I’m definitely going to use it again because some of my shirts just won’t support a mic. 😂 I hope you’re subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every week (hopefully this Wednesday). This week’s will be episode 2 of “what I wish I knew before I decluttered” and sentimental items will be discussed. All the best, Bren

  • @Shareebysea
    @Shareebysea 28 днів тому +22

    Very good advice as I’m going through my own downsizing and decluttering process! It is so hard to sell clothing for cheap or give it away knowing how I much i spent on it. But the lesson is to maybe stop buying so much stuff lol! Thank you for all of these great tips!!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  28 днів тому +3

      You can do it! It will feel so good to have only the things you love in your closet and it will leave room for new things that make you feel like a million bucks when you wear them. If you sell clothes on eBay, sometimes you can get more $ listing them as a "lot" in the same sizes/styles. Also, you would be amazed what you can get for vintage clothes these days, ESPECIALLY brands like Gap. If you have anything that is over 20 years old, check Poshmark and eBay before donating or selling at a garage sale.😍 90's & early 2000's thrifting is a real thing.

  • @dpoon11
    @dpoon11 26 днів тому +17

    That was so helpful! Thinking about "making someone's day" does make it easier to let go. You motivated me. The struggle is real.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  26 днів тому +3

      @@dpoon11 I agree 100%! After my dad said that to me, I thought to myself that he was so right and every time I part with something I’m not using….i still remember his words. Thank you for finding that valuable. 😊🌺

  • @r.1599
    @r.1599 22 дні тому +18

    I have decluttered one-of-a-kind items (including clothing) that a decade later, I still regret donating it. I've never been able to replace them.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  18 днів тому +7

      Awww.. I'm sorry that happened to you. I do understand. I have had a few things that I thought I regretted, but then remembered why I got rid of them in the first place which made me feel better. Try not to be too hard on yourself. All the best, Bren

  • @cynthiaakacyndsmith6539
    @cynthiaakacyndsmith6539 22 дні тому +9

    This is helpful. I don’t bother trying to sell any thing. It is more hassle than help. But then again I don’t have pricy things. The kids do not want any thine so if it is to be- it is up to me.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому

      Thank you so much for commenting! I think it’s nice to donate if your kids don’t want or need anything. It always helps people that need something at a good price. I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday. I have a new one out today actually. All the best, Bren 💕🌸

  • @Shelly_B
    @Shelly_B 26 днів тому +12

    Brenda- having the same storage containers is brilliant. I look in my garage where we store our stuff and everything is in different containers. It doesn't look cohesive or peaceful. Thanks for the tip!!!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  26 днів тому

      @@Shelly_B it’s so true Shelly! A small space like a garage can look so much bigger even if the storage is in the same color scheme even. 😃

  • @juanav9200
    @juanav9200 23 дні тому +9

    I like the color of your blue spatula it blends with your shirt. You have great tips enjoying your video.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому

      @@juanav9200 It just so happened that my shirt wasn’t cooperating with my mic and I had a matching spatula. 😂 I didn’t think of it at the time, but I noticed it for sure afterwards. So funny! I’m glad you enjoyed the tips. I hope you subscribed because I’ll be releasing a new video every Friday and I just might be able to squeeze in a bonus video this Sunday. All the best, Bren 💕🌸

  • @scriptimonicaonset
    @scriptimonicaonset 27 днів тому +9

    Great video that Brenda! The part about not getting rid of stuff because of money really resonates with me because that’s one of my reasons for not getting rid of stuff. Glad to know I’m not alone.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  27 днів тому +3

      @@scriptimonicaonset You’re definitely not alone. I think a lot of people struggle with it. If you let it go, you prob won’t even think of it again though. 🥰

  • @dottiehall9219
    @dottiehall9219 21 день тому +7

    I am guilty of holding on to so much stuff! Everything from clothes 4 sizes too small, scrubs I will never wear again, heels I will also never wear again, and those "collections". I still have bins of beanie babies, holiday barbies, hideously ugly beer steins my husband has collected. I really need to start decluttering (and get him to do it too)!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому +1

      @@dottiehall9219 You are not alone!!! I’m happy you are going to start going through these things and lighten your load. It will also lighten your mind as you make progress! ❤️ Please subscribe if you haven’t already because I’m going to post a new video every Friday afternoon (today is Friday 🎉) and you don’t want to miss any. You can even have me on UA-cam as you work through your stuff if that helps you. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @twonder4
    @twonder4 28 днів тому +11

    The doozy on your list - keeping something bc you spent good money on it is a tough one for me. We still have two platters that I insisted we needed that have spent 29 years in their original boxes! Love the clear bin/shelving and tip of buying your containers after you’ve decluttered.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  28 днів тому +1

      Thank you so much! I totally understand your platter situation. Those are sometimes the hardest things to let go of. It's crazy, but when I went into those storage bins, I found stuff I thought I got rid of. Blasts from the past! Re bins...I feel that if you buy them right, you buy them once. Saves $ for sure. 😍

    • @eileenlehonnyberg1576
      @eileenlehonnyberg1576 23 дні тому +1

      Platters I insisted we needed and still in original boxes - something like my wedding china place setting. We use about 6-10 times per year but one setting still in the box and NEVER use the coffee cup and saucers that were included. Why I even bothered selecting “wedding china” - DOH!

  • @laurie6644
    @laurie6644 24 дні тому +10

    It's true, adult kids often don't want most of your stuff. However, you never know what unusual item of yours they may want. Maybe we can ask ahead of getting rid of specific things. Give/Gift items Now... rather than waiting. (Unless You Love it, use it, etc.,etc.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому

      Oh I agree 100%! If I'm not using something, I always ask my kids. Then, if they don't want it, I feel good about donating or selling it. I hope you subscribed, because I will be posting new videos every Friday. All the best, Bren

  • @valp.5095
    @valp.5095 22 дні тому +4

    Selling items that are no longer wanted can be satisfying but I find it particularly rewarding to give stuff away to someone who wants or needs it. We have a group chat with neighbours and we always offer things to each other. Maybe your kids do not want it or you do not have children but someone else in your friend and family circle does. I can remember how nice it was when my colleagues gave me items they no longer needed when I first moved into my own rented place and I had hardly anything.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      @@valp.5095 ABSOLUTELY PERFECT POINT! 🎉 We have a group chat with our neighbors, too. It is such a wonderful thing to consider your neighbors friends. Often times one of us (especially me 😂) will ask if somebody wants something. Our next door neighbors have kids that are 5-7 years younger than my girls. They have said yes to many of their items. You’re right…it just makes you (the giver) feel so good! I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday at 2:45pm. Today is Friday. 💕🎉🌸 All the best, Bren

  • @kc8718
    @kc8718 17 днів тому +4

    I have put a box in my living room and when I find something I no longer want . When the box is full I take it to a charity organization. I’ve been doing this for a couple of years. When my grandkids come by they may go through the box and take what they want and my kids. The box go emptied this last time. This way it gives me time to really know if I want to get rid of it. I don’t want to do garbage sales or sell on social media.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  16 днів тому +1

      @@kc8718 Garage sales can take so much time. I feel good about giving things away, too. It’s especially nice if loved ones take an item. I hope you subscribed, because I just released episode 2 in this series and it’s on sentimental clutter. Have a great day and thanks so much for commenting! All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @Green4CloveR
    @Green4CloveR 14 днів тому +2

    I agree with the picture hack, I’ve done it. It works. You get to keep the memory but able to physically let things go.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  13 днів тому

      @@Green4CloveR Yep! I think being in the present also contributes to letting things go. If you want a space that fits your life now, parting ways with things will be much easier….if that makes sense. I hope you’re subscribed, because I’ll be posting 2 more videos in this series: clothes and household items and then around New Year’s Day, I’ll be posting a deep house cleaning video. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @debicraddock5603
    @debicraddock5603 24 дні тому +8

    Thanks for supporting people with Down Syndrome by doing the Buddy Walk!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому +3

      @@debicraddock5603 My pleasure! Thank you for commenting. 💕🌸 We were supporting family friends with a 6 month old girl. She is so precious and we were honored to participate in the walk. There’s tons of walks and runs here in the Cincinatti area, but this one is extra special! Thanks for watching. I’ll be posting a new video every Friday, so please subscribe and check back. All the best, Bren

  • @karenaleman2059
    @karenaleman2059 13 днів тому +2

    This is going to be our Winter project to go through. things and declutter.. Some of these things make for a very hard decision but as you said, will I really miss them

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  13 днів тому

      @@karenaleman2059 I’m very happy for you! Winter is a perfect time to go through your stuff and declutter. If you get stuck on an item, just set its side and keep moving. You can circle back to the hard decision item later.
      Sentimental items can be especially difficult. Last week, I released the 2ND episode in this series (this one you watched is the 1ST). I hope you subscribed because the last 2 episodes in the series will be released this week and next. Then….right around New Year’s Day, I’ll be posting a whole house deep cleaning video.
      You’re going to do great on parting ways with things! Your home will feel so good to you when you’re done.
      All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @angella7576
    @angella7576 8 днів тому +1

    Ok you seem super sweet and i agree 100% with everything youve said so far [im1/2 way through] especially about prioritizing kids over declutering. The clutter around you is giving me anxiety. But its a good thing. You're using items to demonstrate a point. Im going to subscribe.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  8 днів тому

      THANK YOU SO MUCH! I am so glad you subscribed. Waking up to such a positive comment from someone who took time out of their day to say something nice to me is just so AWESOME! I appreciate it.
      I have one more video on HOUSEHOLD CLUTTER in this series of 4. It will post next week. The other videos are on SENTIMENTAL ITEMS AND CLOTHES AND ACCESSORIES. Hope you get a chance to watch those, as well.
      I have so many more videos coming your way that I have a. feeling will be right for you.
      Have a wonderful day! All the best, Bren 🌸💞

    • @angella7576
      @angella7576 7 днів тому

      @@downsizetoupsize I will watch those thanks. Sending wishes for happy holidays and blessings in the new year!

  • @apriljoklumb9573
    @apriljoklumb9573 23 дні тому +7

    Love your ideas. One thing i do and am actually doing today is i get like 3 or 4 boxes ( 1 of them always being a box i dont care if it goes). I separate my things in keep, maybe, sell, donate. Pluse a garbage bag. Now keep is obvious, maybe are things i havent decided and could swing possibly bkth ways, sell are things i want to try and sell first BUT if not sold in per say 2 weeks will go for free or donate, then the donate box i close as soon as it is full and either put in car to take somewhere or if i really dont want to haul it i put it on FB. I also will put stuff on the edge of my lawn ( if it is nice weather). But even this i post on FB saying feww stuff at my adress. This works out pretty well. Nope wont hold that stuff. First come.
    I used to watch a show, darn if i remember name, very old show, they had tarps out for keep etc. And were only allowed to keep as much stuff as would fit on that tarp. If anyone remembers the name, let me know.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому +4

      @@apriljoklumb9573 I love your comment. I implement a lot of what you said but I use bags vs boxes and I don’t use a maybe bag but I probably should. 😂 I will try that next time. I will definitely be using the idea of putting things at the end of my lawn to see if anyone would like it. I appreciate your suggestions! 💕🌸 WAS THE SHOW CLEAN SWEEP BY ANY CHANCE? I’ll be posting a new video every Friday and this week I’m going to attempt a special Sunday video. I hope you have the best day!!!! Bren

    • @labradorite8256
      @labradorite8256 21 день тому +3

      ​@downsizetoupsize I have a maybe bag. For most of it I've gone back 2 weeks later and culled more stuff. Some people say why the double handling but i honestly dont regret letting it go. You're right to say you don't have to do it all in one go. Ours is so piled up I've wanted to get it out TODAY,but I've had to accept I actually need that time to process some decisions.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому +3

      @ What we need to remember is everyone is different and we have our own speeds and processing rates. As long as you are making progress, I think that’s a good thing! 🌺

    • @sarahsmom1002
      @sarahsmom1002 14 днів тому +1

      @@downsizetoupsize Clean Sweep with organizer Peter Walsh came to mind for me, too. I enjoyed watching that show.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  14 днів тому

      @ I LOVED THAT SHOW! Remember Neicey?

  • @susansampson3488
    @susansampson3488 19 днів тому +3

    I filled up a trash can with old teacher stuff. My neighbors are also retired teachers. We cheered when the trash collector dumped the can into the truck.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  18 днів тому

      I LOVE IT! It is so nice to get rid of things from our past that are no longer in use. I love that you guys cheered. It's sounds like it was a lot of fun. Good for you! I hope you subscribed, because I will be posting a new video every week. This week, I will be doing a "What I wish I knew BEFORE starting to DECLUTTER " episode 2 focused on SENTIMENTAL clutter. All the best, Bren

  • @katl6426
    @katl6426 24 дні тому +6

    I like to ask myself what i'd actually genuinely really be shattered about if there was a fire that was so quick there was no time to grab anything & my home was burnt to the ground. When i imagine that, there's nothing that would override the relief that there was nothing i could have done to save stuff & at least i was still alive. It really puts things in perspective. The nuisance of having to sort out passport, contracts, etc was the only thing that stressed me

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому

      @@katl6426 Asking yourself this question really makes you think about what’s actually important and it absolutely puts things into perspective. When we think about things that way, it makes it all very clear for us. I really appreciate you sharing! I’m putting a new video out every Friday. If you ever have a topic you’d like to hear about, please let me know! 🌸💕🌺 All the best, Bren

  • @lindabourketempleton4040
    @lindabourketempleton4040 24 дні тому +4

    Use your good dishes every day

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      @@lindabourketempleton4040 Thats exactly right. So happy I got rid of my white ones because the ones I use everyday make me happy when I look at them. I’ll be posting a new video every Friday. Thanks so much for watching and for sharing a comment. It means so much! All the best, Bren 🌸💕🌺

  • @rrgoodwill2914
    @rrgoodwill2914 15 днів тому +2

    I'm 39 as I write this, but I'm always open to decluttering rips! Most of these, I already knew, so thanks for the confirmation and reminder. 😁
    Just putting this out here, though: Always ask your kids/grandkids if they want your stuff (like you did). There were certain things of my grandmother's that I wanted (including a ring she promised me when I was little), but most of her personal possessions disappeared after she died. Probably my uncles took them to the thrift shop. Thankfully, there were still plenty of mementos left when my family went to help clean out the house (including Grandma's wedding gown and Grandpa's Navy uniform from 1944!)...but it would have been nice if my uncles had waited until all the family could have a say. /RANT
    Your advice is helpful and very logical--liking this video so I can come back to these tips when I need a refresher. 😊 Thanks for sharing!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  15 днів тому

      @@rrgoodwill2914 Thank YOU so much for sharing! It is so unfortunate when those in charge of estates don’t consider the entire family. They should have been more thoughtful than they were! I’m sorry that happened to you! ❤️ I don’t know why that is. My aunt gave me my grandmothers ring. I was so touched by that. Apparently, my grandma told her she wanted me to have it and my aunt remembered. I found a picture of her wearing that ring when my uncle was born. ❤️ It must’ve meant a lot to her. I’m glad you found my channel. I’ll be posting 2 more videos in this series over the next few weeks. One on clothes and one on household items. Then on New Years Dat, I’ll be releasing a deep cleaning and organizing house video. Next time I do a video….maybe I’ll say I this will help everyone especially if you’re over 40 bc I don’t want to exclude anyone for sure. The over 40 crowd really struggles with this stuff though so that’s why I said it. Thank you for understanding and still watch it even though you’re 39. 😅😂 All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @exhibitdesign901
    @exhibitdesign901 19 днів тому +2

    Just found your channel. Loved how you divided up each tip into segments. Thank you!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  19 днів тому

      @@exhibitdesign901 THANK YOU! When I watch something, I like when it’s organized like that, too. So sweet of you to notice! I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday AND today, I’m releasing a bonus holiday video at 10am est. all the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @christinesnitkin9619
    @christinesnitkin9619 20 днів тому +5

    Here are two tips that have helped me declutter. 1) Set a timer. Somehow if my brain knows in advance that the difficult task is limited to a short time, I'm much more efficient. 2) Ask for help. I helped a friend with purging her closet, and another time I hired a neighbor teenager. I did the sorting and purging and the teen did all the packing and carrying of donations to my car.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  18 днів тому

      GREAT TIPS! I will try a timer, too. That's a good one!! I think sometimes if we have someone with us, it's just easier for some reason to declutter. I love it when my daughter and I work together on our closets. I hope you're subscribed, because I'll be releasing a new video every week. This week, I will be posting episode 2 of "What I wish I knew BEFORE starting to DECLUTTER" which will focus on SENTIMENTAL items. All the best, Bren

  • @SierraKilo76
    @SierraKilo76 24 дні тому +3

    Good tipps. Love them. Even though I'm still in the beginning of my journey, I do prefer to buy bins out of a line up from a name brand or in a standard*.
    Reasons:
    1) I can buy more, when I need them, even years after my first purchase
    2) I need them in different sizes and with all of them being the exact same design, it's still not to cluttered and they stay stackable (I stick to 2 sizes lenght* width and 2 sizes hight).
    *standard: I live in Europe and there is a standard "Eurobox."

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому

      @@SierraKilo76 Great points on bin purchases! I buy the brand name ones, too. They’re definitely more durable! It’s nice to be able to add them in the same design as you need more. You’re so right! Thank you so much for sharing! I’m posting a new video this Friday. I hope you check back. 🌸 All the best, Bren

  • @nikkipoon1695
    @nikkipoon1695 28 днів тому +5

    Excited to get started decluttering!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  27 днів тому +1

      @@nikkipoon1695 I’m excited for you!!! Feels so good and fresh after you’re done.

  • @marylynnmellens5597
    @marylynnmellens5597 25 днів тому +5

    First time to see this channel. You have a lovely speaking voice

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  25 днів тому

      Thank you so much for your kindness. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. I finally finished my bachelors degree in May after years of wanting to accomplish that goal. I had to take speech class to graduate. I was terrified, but I think it really helped me. My professor was tough, but really caring & I learned a lot. 💕🌸 I’m going to put another video out this week on Friday (which will be my normal day each week) and possibly a bonus video on Sunday…please watch so we can stay in touch. I’d love that! Have a wonderful day! ☀️

  • @ladyybugg2
    @ladyybugg2 18 днів тому

    I love you calm vibe. I'm excited to have found you and learn more about how to downsize and declutter...even though I don't meet your 40 and above criteria, but it is essentially impossible to find anything about downsizing that doesn't imply that you have to be of a certain age, it just feels exclusionary, like I'm not allowed to want to better my life until I reach a certain age.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  18 днів тому

      YOU are ahead of the game!!! I LOVE IT! Good for you! I'm proud of you! It is so nice to encounter someone that understands the benefits of downsizing at a younger age. WELCOME! 🥰 I am so happy you found me. 💗 I think EVERYONE can benefit from downsizing. I did it when I was 40. I wish I would've done in so much sooner (like you). In fact, if I would've known how much I love living in a small house, I wouldn't have lived in a big one and I would have focused on experiences instead of stuff. It took me time to learn. Please subscribe if you haven't because I am continuing with a series on this video that you watched. Episode 2 is going to deal with sentimental items. Again, thank you for connecting and know that you fit right in here on this channel! All the best, Bren

  • @carolsipala1639
    @carolsipala1639 12 днів тому +1

    It took me a long time to dig in to declutter. I would have it in my head that on so and so day I would dig in. Well I got all pumped up but as soon as I opened a closet door to tackle it, I became suddenly overwhelmed and ended up closing the door. Eventually I started with decluttering a drawer. That was manageable and got me on a roll to tackle the closets. I would always tell family and friends please don't buy me anymore cloths or Nick knacks. How many shirts or pants should a person own ? Not that many that you only end up wearing the shirt once a year. Too much ( stuff ) causes me terrible anxiety, plus my family was not honoring my request, which added to my anxiety. I like neatness and order and it seems they would load me with stuff they didn't want. I'm feeling so much better knowing I regained control over my clutter situation.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  9 днів тому

      @carolsipala1639 I’m so happy for you that you regained control. I’m right with you on your point about having too much stuff & it causing anxiety. I think your family has great intentions and they don’t want you to feel left out when gift giving occurs. Have you tried asking them to give you consumable gifts vs physical items? That way, they can still gift your something, but it won’t stick around your house forever. You’re right, how many pants or shirts do we need.
      Please subscribe if you haven’t already, because I just released a clothes and accessories video in this series. You might like it since you struggled with decluttering your closet. It’s the 3rd video in this series. The 4th and final video in the series will post next week. It’ll be on household items.
      I hope you have a wonderful holiday season! All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @sandraolson8635
    @sandraolson8635 22 дні тому +10

    Don’t keep something just because you paid good money for it. Bam! That one was aimed at me.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      @@sandraolson8635 Oh it’s one of my biggest things that I tell myself! I have to remember that how I feel in my space is way more important than the money that’s long gone. 😊🎉 If you haven’t already, please subscribe to my channel because I will be posting a new video every Friday & rumor has it I might do a bonus one this Sunday. 💕🌸

    • @labradorite8256
      @labradorite8256 21 день тому

      I had a lot of clothes that were just a size too small. There was a plumbing issue in the neighbours and we had moisture under our house but no one realised, until we got mould in one wardrobe. I cleaned that kne out, and then realised another wardrobe was starting to get musty. I got rid of it all so quick before it was absoltuely useless to anyone. Most things won't last forever. They rot or denature. If you spent money on it and its not something you can sell, get it back out on the world before it's gone anyway.

  • @carimonaghan3519
    @carimonaghan3519 23 дні тому +5

    Love your mic stand

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому

      @@carimonaghan3519 Thank you so much. 😂 Every once in awhile, I’m going to have to get creative like that. My shirt was not cooperating. I sure appreciate your comment! I’ll be posting a new video every Friday and if I can swing it, this week I might do a special Sunday one. So please subscribe if you haven’t so you will know when they’re available. All the best, Bren 💕🌸

  • @aroundthehousewithcheryl
    @aroundthehousewithcheryl 24 дні тому +4

    Thanks for sharing 😊 I have been going through my photos and trashed blurry pictures and pull out some to give away as Christmas gifts.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      Great idea on gifting pictures for Christmas! People take so many pictures on their phones these days and don’t print them, so I’m sure everyone who gets this present from you will love and appreciate your thoughtfulness. Awesome job on decluttering those blurry pics! 🌸💕🎉

  • @maryd253
    @maryd253 21 день тому +2

    Thanks for the video. Nice, helpful tips.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому

      @@maryd253 I’m so glad you enjoyed the video and found the tips helpful. I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video on Fridays and rumor has it that I might be releasing a bonus holiday video tomorrow. 💕🌸 All the best, Bren

  • @Kirkble-d2c
    @Kirkble-d2c 24 дні тому +4

    I regretted decluttering something once but it’s not what you think. Etsy sells these lovely art prints and I purchased and printed one for holiday decor. It was an 8 x 10 frame. I decluttered the frame with the Christmas print in it. Later, I remembered that my children’s and families past photos were behind that print. I specifically remember leaving them in there. I went back to goodwill to rebuy it or at least open it up to remove the personal photos, but it was gone.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      @@Kirkble-d2c That is a loss. 😩 It’s so frustrating when something like that happens. I understand. I hope that situation doesn’t happen again to you. 🌸💕 Thank you for sharing! I’ll be posting a new video every Friday, so please check back and comment again if you get a chance. All the best, Bren

    • @eileenlehonnyberg1576
      @eileenlehonnyberg1576 23 дні тому +2

      Thanks for the reminder about emptying the frames. And check pockets and inside books.

  • @LynnStAubin-od5qe
    @LynnStAubin-od5qe 23 дні тому +3

    Very good points made in this video.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому

      @@LynnStAubin-od5qe Thank you so much! I spoke from my heart and from experiences I’ve had. I am so happy you liked my points. I hope you subscribed, because I’ll be releasing a new video every Friday and if I can squeeze it in, I might do a bonus video this Sunday. All the best, Bren 🥰🌺

  • @TwistsNTravels
    @TwistsNTravels 25 днів тому +4

    Great information! Thank you

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  25 днів тому

      @@TwistsNTravels So happy you found the information useful. I’ll be releasing one new video each week on Fridays, so please check back.

  • @valerie718
    @valerie718 24 дні тому +3

    Tha is my first time watching one of your videos. I enjoyed it very much. You are so calming and logical in your decluttering advice. I have about 10 items I think are worth selling on eBay. I may give it a try before I donate. As I am retired now, I have the time to learn how to sell.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      @@valerie718 That’s the sweetest compliment. It means a lot to me. Thank you! I’m a continuing learner, too! 😊 eBay is so easy! Just type in the item you’re interested in selling in the search bar. Then go to the filters and find the “sold” icon and press it. That will give you an idea if your item is worth selling or not. I’ll be posting videos every Friday afternoon so please subscribe and check back. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

    • @valerie718
      @valerie718 24 дні тому

      @ thanks for the filtering tip. That will save me some time. I look forward to your next video.

  • @Witchymortician
    @Witchymortician 23 дні тому +2

    First time viewer! You have me some great tips about selling on eBay.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому

      @@Witchymortician So happy to hear that! Thank you for sharing. People are intimidated to sell on eBay, but it really couldn’t be easier. Please subscribe if you haven’t already because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday and I might do a bonus video this Sunday if I can squeeze it in. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @joanderson2055
    @joanderson2055 22 дні тому +5

    I'm into my 2nd year of decluttering😊 Eventually it'll get done, I promised my son there would be minimal stuff for him to deal with in the future.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      @@joanderson2055 Good for you to do that for your son. That is what I call LOVE! Please subscribe if you haven’t done it already because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday. All the best, Bren

  • @antonianovoa6416
    @antonianovoa6416 18 днів тому +1

    Good ideas! Thank you for sharing!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  18 днів тому

      @@antonianovoa6416 Thank you so much for your comment. I love the feedback and interaction. Hope you can watch my next video!!! Have a wonderful night!

  • @SpeakTruthBeKind
    @SpeakTruthBeKind 24 дні тому +3

    Good post. Thank you for sharing.❤

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      @@SpeakTruthBeKind I LOVE your name! Thank YOU for commenting! It’s so appreciated! I’ll be putting out a new video every Friday afternoon. If there’s ever a topic you’d like me to cover, please let me know. 🥰🌺 All the best, Bren

  • @sheliadean9548
    @sheliadean9548 20 днів тому +1

    Just found your channel tonight. I really enjoyed your videos. I subscribe and thank you so much.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  20 днів тому

      @@sheliadean9548 THANK YOU! 🎉 I sure appreciate you subscribing! I’m so glad you enjoyed the videos. I sent a reply to your previous message but I didn’t know you had subscribed yet. I have so many great videos coming out every Friday, so stay turned! 😊 Have a wonderful night! All the best, Bren 💕🌸

  • @berits.2346
    @berits.2346 23 дні тому +3

    Asking your kids if they want something or not is a tricky one. Depends on their moment in life. My mother asked me if I wanted the Christmas decoration my father had made himself in younger years ( he was a glass blower) when I was at University. Of course I didn't, living in a one bedroom appartment, so she gave that unique stuff away. Guess who regrets it now every winter.
    Also: reduce plastic!!! You may as well store everything in pretty cardboard boxes, you label everything anyway.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому +3

      @@berits.2346 I totally agree with you on the stages of life your kids are in. That is a good point. 🎉 Back in the day…I tried to use cardboard boxes but the weight of items would often cause them to be unstable or they got dented or crushed over time when the cardboard would get worn out. The good news is I’ve had all my clear bins for about 15 years and none have broken. Yay!! I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday & I’d love for you to continue watching. Rumor has it that I might do a bonus video on Sunday if I can swing it. 🌸💕

    • @lyndelgado6138
      @lyndelgado6138 12 днів тому +1

      U r so rt about cardboard! It deteriorates esp when uneven loads r inside. It doesnt keep out silverfish, moths or mice. N it esp doesnt stay nice if the pipes spring a leak at moms n u dont chk for 2 weeks! N animals can pee or barf n compromise cardbpard n contents. 14:52

  • @simmiedavissimmiesings8185
    @simmiedavissimmiesings8185 13 днів тому +1

    I am now making a list of every I just got rid of in 2024. Because I moved. So much still in storage, though!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  12 днів тому

      @simmiedavissimmiesings8185 I think making a list of things you parted ways with is an amazing idea and it will allow you to see just how much progress you made. 🎉🎉Good for you! I hope you subscribed to the channel because there’s 2 more videos in this series on clothes and household items that will be released this week and next. Episode 2 is available if you haven’t seen it yet on sentimental items.
      I hope you love where you moved and that it’s a great space for you. Let me know what you think about the other videos. I look forward to hearing from you again.
      All the best, Bren 💕🌸

  • @EmerySand
    @EmerySand 19 днів тому +1

    When I come across something I am on the fence about, I leave it out and visible. So when I walk past it or have to walk around it or trip on it, I am aware of it and I have a reaction to it. More often it is "Why don't I just get rid of that?" and it makes it easier to put it in the donate box (or trash). If I just put it back in the closet or in its box, it will just continue to exist as hidden clutter. And continue to "own" me by its presence. This forces a decision.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  19 днів тому

      @@EmerySand WOW!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 In all the years I have been decluttering, I have NEVER heard such a good tip! I absolutely love it and I am going to USE it! Sometimes it’s very hard to part with something and if you leave it out, like you say, you recognize just how unimportant it is to you! I will mention your tip in an upcoming video! I hope you subscribed because I’m going to release a new video every Friday. This week’s is going over sentimental items. All the best and thanks for that AWESOME tip! Bren 🌸💕

  • @missygold9315
    @missygold9315 21 день тому +2

    Thanks for this because I been wanting to do this because I have so much stuff that I don't even display anymore but most of it is pricey and I been holding on to them for my son and grandkids can sell them when I pass but I'm thinking now I should go ahead and sell them and buy them stuff now so they can enjoy things while I'm alive is there a site you recommend selling antiques

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому +1

      My pleasure. Thank you so much for your compliment. 💞 I'm glad you are considering parting ways with your items if you can bear it so your loved ones won't have to do anything with them. For me, I know that it was difficult. I just wanted to do very little when my dad passed, but there was quite a lot to do. Please subscribe if you haven't already, because I intend to do a video going over this, but in the meantime, I know that Etsy allows only items over 20 years old and there's a place in Ohio that only takes expensive items and it't called Everything But the House. I sure hope that helps you.

  • @MyLittleRealities
    @MyLittleRealities 22 дні тому +1

    Just found you and subscribed. Thank you for inspiring!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      @@MyLittleRealities YOU just made my day ☀️. Thank you so much for taking the time to share that. It’s so appreciated! Thank you for subscribing, too. I will be posting a new video every Friday & rumor has it I might do a bonus one this Sunday. 💕🌸

  • @sandyonashoestring
    @sandyonashoestring 24 дні тому +5

    Would you please share on a video how you do ebay? 5 minutes per listing?! 🎉

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому

      ABSOLUTELY!!! I will put that on my list for an upcoming video. THANK YOU for your suggestion and input. It's very sweet of you. I hope you subscribed, because I will be posting new videos every Friday. All the best, Bren

  • @mgmartin51
    @mgmartin51 17 днів тому +1

    I have the most trouble getting rid of stuff given to me by family. Recently, I asked them not to give me anything I couldn't eat or drink or blow up. Also, I don't buy an item of clothing unless I get rid of two. Same with books. I read a book, then donate it, unless I loved it so much I want to read it again.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  17 днів тому +1

      @@mgmartin51 EXCELLENT points! THANK YOU much for your positive contribution to the discussion. 🥰 It helps people when comments like this are shared. I think a lot of people struggle with the same things. It’s especially hard to part ways with a gift from a loved one because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, but ultimately, you have to do what’s right for you. GREAT idea to give them an alternative option vs saying don’t give me anything at all. That probably wouldn’t work. LOVE the blow up option. 😂😂😂 I’m a book reader, too, and I do the exact same! As it turns out, I will be posting a NEW video today. It’s the second episode in the series of the video you just watched and….its on sentimental items. I hope you’re subscribed, so you get notified when it comes out.All the best, Bren

    • @mgmartin51
      @mgmartin51 17 днів тому

      @@downsizetoupsize Cheers!

  • @didlidoodles343
    @didlidoodles343 23 дні тому

    You had me at "Your kids don't want your stuff"! 😆 I've veen telling this to my very good girlfriend for years, but it doesn't compute. 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому

      @@didlidoodles343 Your comment made me smile and laugh! Thank you so much! I have friends like yours. They really feel their kids will want something especially if it was expensive, but the kids don’t look at it that way and I admire that. They should only have possessions they love. I’ll be posting a new video every Friday. I hope you subscribed so you’ll know when they get released. I might squeeze in a special Sunday video this week, too. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @bettydoty2266
    @bettydoty2266 9 днів тому +1

    Where to buy the black labels on your tote and bins?

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  9 днів тому

      @@bettydoty2266 Hey Betty! Thanks for asking. I got them on Amazon. I will find a link and post it in the description in this video for you so you can get the exact kind I did. They’re awesome and easy to use and they wipe off in case you make a mistake. You will also need chalk pens. I post a link to those, as well.
      Thanks for watching .I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video in this series this afternoon. There will be a total of 4. Last one is coming out next week. Have a great day! Bren 🌸💕

  • @Shelly_B
    @Shelly_B 26 днів тому +2

    Brenda- what is your opinion on estate sales? We had a huge one 10 years ago when we moved into our house bc the elderly man who sold us the house left stuff he did not want. The estate sale was a success, but he had left mostly tools and equipment.
    I recently got an email from the estate sale company that we worked with those 10 years ago and they said they are no longer conducting estate sales. The company said that people no longer want to buy dishes and housewares, etc., which seem to be a majority of what people have to sell at an estate sale. I was disappointed to hear that trend but I guess it makes sense. Most everyone has the dishes, etc, that they already need.
    Are estate sales still popular in your area? What do you think about estate sales?
    My Mom and Dad have a house filled with dishes and servingware and knick knacks, etc. My Mom, at 81, will not part with anything or downsize or do any meaningful decluttering. While my Mom is still in excellent physical and mental shape, I wish she would see that she only uses a fraction of all of her stuff.
    Sorry to ramble here... back to the topic! I was hoping to use an estate sale service to help clear the house when she eventually passes. But if estate sales are no longer popular for selling housewares, then should I just donate everything to a thrift store? I won't throw out these items because they are in good shape and can be used by others.....
    Thanks for your opinion, Brenda!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  26 днів тому +3

      @@Shelly_B Hey Shelly! WHAT A GREAT QUESTION! I love going to estate sales here in the Cincinnati/Northern Kentucky area with a few of my kids who are in their 20’s. They are always on the lookout for unique items. They love thrifting more than shopping in a store and that is very common in their age group. This includes furniture, dishes, clothes, handbags etc. It’s not me dragging them to these sales…it’s their idea for sure. All their friends do it, too. Trust me, it’s a whole thing with this generation. I think the main problem with an estate sale run by a service versus an individual is the price of the items. The estate sale company splits the sale total with the owner of the items and that means they charge a lot more than an individual running their own sale.
      You won’t be able to convince your parents to downsize now it sounds like, so unless they come around to the idea, I would just enjoy the time you have with them and worry about the rest when you need to. 🥰 Here’s what I suggest when the time comes, go through your parent’s home and locate the most valuable items. Anything with a brand name is something you should check on. You can get a company like Everything But the House to just sell that stuff or sell it on eBay yourself and then you can do a massive estate sale yourself if you feel comfortable. The set up is honestly more easy than you think and you can invite people into the home to go room to room so you don’t have to put it all in a garage outside. You might even sell their home that way. You can list the sale yourself on a site called estatesales.com with pics of the best items. I had a guy come from Atlanta to get a clock from me when I did my dad’s estate sale. If you think you’d like to see a video on this topic, please let me know and I would be happy to do it. 🌸 Thank you so much for asking your question and if you haven’t already, please subscribe because I have so many more videos coming your way.

    • @dianebeggs983
      @dianebeggs983 17 днів тому

      Would love a video on DIY estate sales!

  • @anon-mx4jx
    @anon-mx4jx 19 днів тому +1

    Whether your kids want your stuff depends on the stuff and your kids. Just ask them. I for my part collect vintage and antique items and I am so sad my grand parents and parents gave most of their older things away or even put them in the garbage. It actually hurts to think about it.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  19 днів тому

      @@anon-mx4jx It absolutely makes all the difference if your kids want your stuff. You have a fondness for antiques and would’ve loved to receive something like that. It does just depend on the person. I think parents should always ask their kids, but if the kids say no….thats ok, too. Thanks so much for your comment. I hope you subscribed, because I’m doing a series on this topic. The video you just commented on is the first one and the next one in the series will be out this week regarding SENTIMENTAL items. Sounds like that is a good topic for you based on what you shared. All the best, Bren🌸💕

  • @FleurCross-wd9sm
    @FleurCross-wd9sm 24 дні тому +1

    Mom has a collection of Iris and Herringbone, but I am on the fence since I have my own teacups and cake stands. Maybe the granddaughters?

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому

      If you have dishes you love already, I would absolutely see if the granddaughters would like them. You never know. If you take them, you will always choose the ones you love over these and in that case, it's just not worth it. I hope you subscribed, because I will be posting new videos every Friday. All the best, Bren

  • @aaronedmunds4829
    @aaronedmunds4829 21 день тому +1

    another alternative: Invite all your kids over on the same day. Ask them what they would like from the house, etc, have them write their name on a piece of tape and place in an inconspicuous place. when you're gone, thet take the item(s) and discard the rest.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  21 день тому

      @@aaronedmunds4829 What a great idea! My dad did something like that with me and my sister. It was just for a few categories of items he didn’t want any longer and we shared what he gave us with our kids. Whatever can reduce stress later on, is my kind of tip. Thank you for sharing! I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video on Fridays and rumor has it that I might be releasing a bonus holiday video tomorrow. 💕🌸 All the best, Bren

  • @jamesbriggs5740
    @jamesbriggs5740 23 дні тому +1

    I only have $30 a month to spend on personal items ( including eating out). Therefore I can't afford to replace things.
    Kathy B
    I have a long running list of big-ticket items like the microwave repair, it needs a new door 😊handle.

    • @denisedaisy3357
      @denisedaisy3357 23 дні тому +4

      In my area microwaves get tossed fairly often. They also have common handle sizes. It's likely if you take a lot of walks for health you can score one. Bring a screwdriver. That's how I replaced my door handle. Best wishes

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      I would pick take out, too. HANDS DOWN. ;) Everyone needs a night off cooking. I hope you subscribed, because I will be posting a new video every Friday. All the best, Bren

  • @scriptimonicaonset
    @scriptimonicaonset 27 днів тому +7

    My thought is, is it giving me more stress to keep it or more joy to give it?

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  27 днів тому

      @@scriptimonicaonset that’s the perfect gauge on whether to keep something!

  • @violetxoxox
    @violetxoxox 22 дні тому +3

    10:23 Boy, those two polka dots (are they polka dots? I’m not sure) on the top of the center sparkler-waving woman are in very unfortunate spots. 😳🤣🤣🤣

  • @lindabourketempleton4040
    @lindabourketempleton4040 24 дні тому

    I moved from a 3 bedroom house to a motor home I donated everything except a few family heirlooms, they are in historical society display as my children done want them , I gave my children their childhood items I saved and I put all photos and other paperwork on ancestry account.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      @@lindabourketempleton4040 You sure did a great job downsizing. I bet you feel a weight off of yourself. Thank you for sharing. I’m happy for you! I’ll be posting videos every Friday, so please subscribe and check back. All the best, Bren 🌺💕

  • @createone100
    @createone100 23 дні тому +1

    As a Canadian it always makes me laugh to hear Americans say ‘go ahead’ all the time. We don’t say that in Canada. 😄

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому +1

      @@createone100 That’s a great observation. Guilty as charged 😂 I grew up in Detroit and spent most of my life living in Michigan. I do love a good Canadian accent. Michiganders often say something I know you will recognize that we adopted from Canadians: eh 😂 My husband still says that all the time. I enjoyed your comment. I’d love it if you’d subscribe. I’m going to post a new video every Friday. All the best, Bren 🌸

    • @susannovak8263
      @susannovak8263 9 днів тому

      I notice that, too. Completely extra words that don’t add anything to a sentence. But I certainly enjoyed this video and can make use of a couple of the great tips.

  • @desireelevesque634
    @desireelevesque634 20 днів тому +3

    I gifted my mom a copy of the Swedish death cleaning book and she gave it back to me.😂 Now I'm stuck going through all of her crap and getting rid of it myself b/c I don't want it and her 3 other kids and 2 kids-in-law don't want to help so eff them, no knick knacks or coffee mugs or stuffed animals for them!
    It's literally hundreds of thousands of items that I have to force my adhd brain to make decisions about whether to keep, donate or trash, where to donate, how to recycle, etc while working 2 jobs and trying to get this cleanout done in a timely manner so my bf can move in before his lease expires. Burnout is real... exhaustion, mental, physical and emotional. I love my Mum b/c we're blood, but I honestly don't like her much even though (or perhaps because) I devoted 18 years of my life to being her caregiver.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  20 днів тому +1

      @@desireelevesque634 I completely understand your frustration. I’m glad that you will never do that to your kids after having to go through what you did.

    • @susannovak8263
      @susannovak8263 9 днів тому

      You’re certainly in a tough position and need all the support that you can get. Seeing as you have ADHD, I urge you to stay on whatever meds you’re taking and don’t hesitate to contact your physician if you feel you need a change there.

  • @janicewolk6492
    @janicewolk6492 24 дні тому +2

    We were raised to value family hand me downs, because we couldn't afford to replace them. So, if nothing else, boomers didn't increase land fills. Much of that stuff was used by several generations so we we were not a throw away group of people. Of course, my kid doesn't want this stuff, and I understand. But it is cutting ties with his history.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому

      @@janicewolk6492 I completely understand. There were things I thought my kids would want, as well. When my kids were little, they also used hand me downs from each other and from friends. It’s a very good thing to do. Thank you for sharing. 🌸 All the best, Bren

  • @Shelly_B
    @Shelly_B 26 днів тому

    Brenda- you did such a nice job on this video! Great content and ideas! The editing was well done, as well. As I am a new subscriber, I might have missed the explanation, but I find the utensil and microphone you are holding up while speaking to be very distracting. Was there a meaning or symbolism behind that? Thank you again for your video- I really enjoyed it!

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  26 днів тому

      @@Shelly_B Thank you so much Shelly. The shirt I was wearing was sagging with my mic so I improvised. Thank you for your comment. I have since purchased a little mic that I can clip onto my shirt. So exciting to get this little gadget. 🥰

  • @lindabourketempleton4040
    @lindabourketempleton4040 24 дні тому

    Omg your memory room is the size of my motor home

  • @walkietalkie2193
    @walkietalkie2193 23 дні тому +1

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  23 дні тому

      @@walkietalkie2193 Thank you so much! So sweet of you! Love your UA-cam name! I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday & I’d love for you to continue watching. Rumor has it that I might do a bonus video on Sunday if I can swing it. 🌸💕

  • @ellencourtney7187
    @ellencourtney7187 13 днів тому +1

    Didn’t need to know a medium size shirt was just too big for you. Sigh. Nice video though. I really need to go through all the clothes I will just never wear again. A curated and thoughtful closet would be so wonderful

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  13 днів тому

      @@ellencourtney7187 Sorry about that. 🥰❤️. You are in luck…because part 3 in this series will be posted this week! And guess what? It’s on CLOTHES. It’s something we all struggle with believe me. I hope you subscribed, so you get notified when it’s released. The 4th and final episode in the series will be on household items. Then around New Years, I’ll be doing a deep house cleaning video.
      If there are any topics you want discussed, please feel free to let me know. Thanks for commenting. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @nunya257
    @nunya257 14 днів тому +1

    Replacements pays so low though, don’t they? How is it even worth it?

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  14 днів тому

      @@nunya257 That’s a great point. Here’s the answer. It depends if they have too much of your pattern of dishes. For me, mine was more rare and fetched a higher price. Even within a pattern some pieces are valued higher than others. They give you a quote and you are not obligated to sell to them if you are not happy with their offer. Thanks for your thoughts. 😊🌸💕

  • @JeffMelsonVlogs
    @JeffMelsonVlogs 28 днів тому +3

    That was an impressive number of items you have sold on ebay, lol.

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  28 днів тому +4

      24 years and counting. 😂 Plus, I've sold things for others on eBay, garage sales and estate sales. I really do love it. I feel that if an item is in your house and you're not using it, you can turn it into money and use it for things like travel.

  • @jaclynhinkle3046
    @jaclynhinkle3046 23 дні тому +2

    Did you check to see if the doll was worth money?

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому +1

      Thank you for asking. I did check and the condition it was in made it not worth selling for me. I sure appreciate your question. I hope you subscribed, because I will be posting a new video every Friday. All the best, Bren

  • @Jelinofficial-sr1vf
    @Jelinofficial-sr1vf 24 дні тому

    😊😊👍

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому +1

      @@Jelinofficial-sr1vf THANK YOU SO MUCH! 😊🌺 New video this Friday afternoon, so please watch for it!.

    • @Jelinofficial-sr1vf
      @Jelinofficial-sr1vf 24 дні тому

      @downsizetoupsize sure dear.'ve already subscribed 😊 whenever i get time i'll watch 🤝😊

    • @Jelinofficial-sr1vf
      @Jelinofficial-sr1vf 24 дні тому

      @@downsizetoupsize if you don't support mine also 😊

  • @juliebee61
    @juliebee61 24 дні тому

    I wish you could whisper this in my husband's head. he will not part with "stuff". it will become my problem when he goes.😢😢

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  24 дні тому

      @@juliebee61 It can be very difficult when I loved one doesn’t see things the way we do. You can be an inspiration to him by example with your own things. People are definitely more important than things. Just takes a bit of time (& maybe never) for others to understand. In the meantime, you keep feeling good about your progress and love your husband just the way he is. ❤️

  • @juliesmith6228
    @juliesmith6228 22 дні тому +1

    The space is worth more than an object you no longer USE

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  22 дні тому

      @@juliesmith6228 That’s so true! My husband once said “I like to see the floor”. I thought to myself that I do, too. Things that take up space should be useful and if they’re not, you shouldn’t worry about getting rid of them. I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every Friday and maybe a bonus one this Sunday. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @lindabell5534
    @lindabell5534 20 днів тому +1

    Unless they can sale them. Lol

  • @AwedOne
    @AwedOne 19 днів тому +2

    Use real pictures in your videos, not stock photos, and show what you're talking about - like you were in the kitchen, but you didn't open the cupboard with the special dishes to show them and the room they take up. And the Shirley Temple doll! Would love to have seen that. lol

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  19 днів тому +1

      @@AwedOne GREAT TIPS! I will absolutely implement all your suggestions. I sure wish I had a pic of the Shirley Temple doll. I would look one up if I could do it over again. Thanks a bunch for taking the time to comment. I hope you subscribed because I’ll be posting a new video every week and with help like you gave me, I’ll do better each time. All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @inthevortex-de1rh
    @inthevortex-de1rh 12 днів тому

    Why over 40 ?😮😮😮

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  12 днів тому

      @@inthevortex-de1rh Thank you for your question. This particular series is focused on people over 40 who have years of built up clutter that they haven’t dealt with ever. That certainly doesn’t mean everyone cannot gain something from the series, but people over 40 that are becoming empty nesters or close to it, really struggle, so I focused on them this time around.
      If there’s a topic you would like me to cover, please let me know. I would love any suggestions you might have.
      All the best, Bren 🌸💕

  • @avocadomegs4189
    @avocadomegs4189 10 днів тому +1

    I was in full swing of declutterring a few months ago until there was a communication breakdown and a bag full of library books accidentally got take to the curb and that basically stopped me in my tracks 🥲 I explained what happened to library and they have been very understanding and even held out hope whoever got them will realize they’re library books and return, but ultimately I owe the library $325 for that declutterring mistake 🥹

    • @downsizetoupsize
      @downsizetoupsize  10 днів тому +1

      @@avocadomegs4189 OH NO!!! 🥹 How unfortunate. You have to forgive yourself for making that mistake. It happens to all of us, trust me. Some mistakes, like yours, are more expensive than others. I sure hope you can move past it and get rolling again with your decluttering. I have one more video already posted in this series on sentimental items and then this week and next, the final 2 episodes in the series will post on clothes and accessories and household items, so I hope you’re subscribed so you get notified. 🌸💕 All the best, Bren