OKAY LUCY BABE this is one of the first sex education videos I've seen (not from a trans UA-camr) with just like the casual use of 'person with a womb' etc. THANK YOU !!
This is why I get tested regularly. When I told my friends I was getting my first STI test they looked at me oddly. I wasn’t worried about having an actual STI, it was the point of getting into the routine of getting regularly tested. Not only that but I thought it would be good to get it out of the way now, so if an emergency was to arise, I would know the procedure and in general, just be a bit calmer. I also got tested around the time I became official with my boyfriend. Either way, I’m super glad I did it and I will continue to do so every year, despite the odd comments
"I was single until I was twenty years old" And my eighteen-year-old self instantly feels so much better. Why do I feel weird about having never been in a relationship? I don't know, but I know that this video made me feel better.
I was extremely lucky here in Portugal because in the school's I was in, the sex education was great. We had our school's concelour talk to us about consent, feeling comfortable/ready, the classic banana, of course, and she invited us to her office for any advice we needed or any questions we didn't feel comfortable asking in front of the class, and even if we needed condoms (this was in seventh grade). Then in high school we had a more serious discussion about domestic violence, rape in relationships, sex as a way with coping with pain, and most my teachers were open to any worries we might have had.
Ana Carolina Rodolfo sex as a way of coping with pain? That is incredible, I wish I’d learnt about that! And rape within relationships, would’ve saved me one hell of a 2017!
I’m certain this is the best video on the internet! Lucy this was such amazing sex education, not shaming anyone for having too much or too little sex! So brilliantly worded and concise, I’m so happy there’s a resource out here for everyone to learn about healthy sexual relationships!!
Great video, I love when people talk naturally about stuff like this! I'm 19 and still a virgin, but I really like to feel that sex is not a taboo topic anymore
I want to add something at 6:08 : Not everyone thinks this way. A lot of my friends believe sex is like half of the relationship, sometimes more, sometimes less, which is obviously absolutely fine. Whoever it can seem a bit difficult to find someone who also thinks it's just a "nice addition".
I think when it comes to anyone who is underage, as in before the age of 18, a good rule of thumb is 'don't send/post/say things you don't want your parents hearing/seeing/reading', as putting things online can make someone particularly vulnerable, at that age especially. But it doesn't necessarily apply to adults tbh! It's a standard I kind of lived by when I was young, even though I didn't know I was living to that motto. Personally think the Internet is a more dangerous place now? Idk?
Also, side note: I was not mainstreamed as a disabled youngster. I was in a school specifically for disabled children, and provided NO sex education. This has SO MANY ISSUES. I think disabled people are in a position where they need consent discussions as a PRIORITY.
Just a note for some people who might not be comfortable with going to a GP/clinic, you can order a FREE chlamydia testing kit straight to your door at checkurself.org.uk
Yessss Lucy I live for your videos! I'm so excited to watch this I love that you're always so open to talking about sex and other similar topics! Always nice to see that you don't sugarcoat "taboo" topics 💕
I'm about to start uni in September and sex is the number one thing that I have been worrying about, over all the things that I could be worrying about and it's sex at uni. This video has made me feel so much better omg! Thank you so much!
Since I only had "relationship sex" I always had the opposite feeling, that casual sex is the magical type of sex. Like it's so wild and hot and just woowww! But I just don't think that would be something for me. To each their own I guess.
this is such a great video! lucy is so wonderfully positive, it just makes me feel so much calmer and relaxed knowing that we're all not alone and we all have a voice. what a lovely human being she is x
Girl this was so interesting to watch and you make it so accepting and safe. Could you please backtrack and do a Sleepover video about Losing Your Virginity? Love from New Zealand xx
this is the first video i have ever seen by you and i felt like you were the big sister figure i never had growing up and it’s so endearing seeing a video like this so many years later
I think it is GREAT that you talk about sex. A lot of the things you mentioned made me really nervous when I was younger as well. I especially like how you worded things, it felt very inclusive and positive to me. One thing I noticed: around 3:46 you said "If you have a womb you could get pregnant and anyone could catch an STI." I think you should have added that if you have a penis and testicles you could get someone pregnant. It otherwise really shifts the responsibility to the person who is able to become pregnant. Of course, the weight of the responsibility often IS put on the person that is/can become pregnant, but it definitely shoulnd't be. If someone is able to impregnate another person, they have to be equally as responsible, careful and thoughtful about it. Thanks for the great video, I really enjoyed it and am looking forward to the next one!
i really wish you read comments because i just wanna say that i love these type of videos that you make and i really miss the time you made a bunch of them. i learn a lot from you so please make more and share more. you’re like the sister i never had. more power to you you beautiful soul. i love you 💓
Lucy this is so important, thank you for making this video! I learned all of this the hard way and I think more people need to have conversations like this before they start having sex
I'm still a virgin despite my age and I'll probably will be all my life because I look like a potato but hey this video is still really interesting ! This is an important topic and it's not discussed enough, and having you talking about it, really honestly and not how school or medias might talked about it is really great !!
I finally made the decision to get an IUD after two years on the pill and continuously forgetting to take my pills. It’s been about a month now and I’ve had no problems with my IUD, the insertion of it was a bit uncomfortable but other than that I’m so relieved that I don’t have to take a pill everyday
I love you and I love this...I’m 16 and I’m shook but you know what I’m waiting until I feel comfortable..quite disgusting how now days pretty much every teen has had it young. This helped me loads thank youuu made me feel worth and makes me feel little less stressed about not having it because of my appearance xxxxx
I always do this. I always watch your videos drunk. Now I have to watch this video again tomorrow and then realizing that I’ve seen it before. I think you are an amazing UA-camr. Much love from Holland, see you tomorrow.
Honestly, because of youtube and people like the wonderful Hanna Witton, I was able to be very comfortable and safe with a person I trusted for my first time. Being on the internet for a majority of my life and having a community that openly talked about sex and how to not have it be god awful physically and emotionally really helped me. So thanks lucy and everyone sex positive online!
"casual sex is an important part of being single" i'm single and i don't like casual sex ahah, not because it's not okay, but bc i'm demisexual. For me a big part of being single is crushes. crush crush crush.
This was pretty helpful for me as a 19 year old starting to figure out this portion of my life. It's something that I had been having anxiety about too recently. I'd really appreciate more stuff like this. Also, if you would have any advice for me as a guy in these types of situations, that would be wonderful. Thanks.
Very interesting video. I appreciated the part about STIs, it's incredible how common they are yet still there are lots of people who are not conscious and have unprotected sex.
Margaret Hemenway it could be because we have the free hpv vaccine in schools that the majority of 13/14 year old girls have?? Idk for sure but it could be that!
I think HPV is just as common in the UK but literally no one talks about it. We get an HPV vaccine at school but it is only for the main cancer causing strains - most people still have HPV without knowing!
human papilloma virus - its a largely undetected virus spread from skin to skin contact (condoms won't necessarily protect you, hence why so many people have it and often don't realise). Some strains appear as genital warts (which we are taught more about than hpv itself - in the UK at least). And some strains cause cervical cancer, which is why there is a vaccine!
It is the first impression i got about you. Honestly i like your vibe and attitude. Also! i feel like i need this kind of videos i am almost 18 and i feel like i want to experiments this things(without rush). I need this kind of videos and i also like it how you treat them. You make me realize that i need to check my little down there because idk if i have something like STI, there has being a lot since i left my bfriend. I feel like the worst thing can happen is getting pregnant or VIH. Nice video.
ok, so, idk if this is weird, but for some time I've been questioning my sexuality, concretely whether I might be asexual, since I am not only uninterested but entirely repulsed by sex and don't even really get when a guy is "hot" and stuff like that. but I'm only fifteen, so there's always the thought of "maybe I'm just a late bloomer", so I just wanted to ask: when did you guys start to experience sexual attraction or how did you generally feel about sex at my age?
“Casual sex is an important part of being single”. I feel like by using the word important here you’re almost shaming those that are single and not having casual sex. If you’re single you can do what the hell you want and shouldn’t have to feel like what you’re doing is wrong. Just a thought....
I get that each 'person's number' is made a big deal where maybe it shouldn't be and that shouldn't hold someone back from sleeping with someone if everyone involved is willing but I think it's still important to think that maybe it might be an issue for a future partner and potentially hinder a future relationship. People should do what they're comfortable with, especially when it comes to sex, but I've noticed a lot of people online saying it's judgemental for people to care about how many people someone has slept with before but that doesn't mean it never happens and it's important to some people. Like I said; do what you want and what makes you happy but I think a lot of people have gone so far into not 'slut shaming' that society is shaming people who haven't had sex or only have sex if they're in a relationship and that's just as bad as 'slut shaming', just transferred onto different people.
I loved this. As someone who’s only had sex with one partner in a relationship and wasn’t amazing despite more than 5 times. But it doesn’t matter. I appreciate this sm, thank you!!
i can completely agree about feeling confident and comfortable is important but saying that'll lead to great sex i'm not 100% sure i agree . My first time was technically terrible , we didn't know what we were doing and it hurt considerably however to me it was still perfect because i was with someone i love and felt completely comfortable. i think i mostly agree with you and although i wouldn't want to scare people about the first time i also wouldnt want to set up expectations that it'll be "great sex' because i feel like thats unlikely.
OKAY LUCY BABE this is one of the first sex education videos I've seen (not from a trans UA-camr) with just like the casual use of 'person with a womb' etc. THANK YOU !!
I’m really trying to work on my gendered language atm! Drop me a message if I slip up x
Lucy Moon You are amazing 😉 it’s a very important thing to do. Language matters
bless lucy
Hey would that trans youtuber be Ash Hardell?
This is why I get tested regularly. When I told my friends I was getting my first STI test they looked at me oddly. I wasn’t worried about having an actual STI, it was the point of getting into the routine of getting regularly tested. Not only that but I thought it would be good to get it out of the way now, so if an emergency was to arise, I would know the procedure and in general, just be a bit calmer. I also got tested around the time I became official with my boyfriend. Either way, I’m super glad I did it and I will continue to do so every year, despite the odd comments
YAY!! Such a solid vid! So not shame-y and normalizing!
Self care tip: watch Lucy moon.
Raechel P. Like a video on the different types of birth controls and their effectiveness
"Sleepover Club is a series where we have some honest, some frank, some personal chats, me and you."
Isn't that this whole channel?
"I was single until I was twenty years old" And my eighteen-year-old self instantly feels so much better. Why do I feel weird about having never been in a relationship? I don't know, but I know that this video made me feel better.
Earl grey with coconut milk is THE drink
Sophia Finucane ew
I was extremely lucky here in Portugal because in the school's I was in, the sex education was great. We had our school's concelour talk to us about consent, feeling comfortable/ready, the classic banana, of course, and she invited us to her office for any advice we needed or any questions we didn't feel comfortable asking in front of the class, and even if we needed condoms (this was in seventh grade). Then in high school we had a more serious discussion about domestic violence, rape in relationships, sex as a way with coping with pain, and most my teachers were open to any worries we might have had.
Ana Carolina Rodolfo sex as a way of coping with pain? That is incredible, I wish I’d learnt about that! And rape within relationships, would’ve saved me one hell of a 2017!
YES THIS IS THE CONTENT YOUNG PEOPLE NEED 😍😍💕🧡
Great video Lucy! I agreed with most of what you said. I had really appreciate a candid chat about intimacy, cheating, staying together etc.
such a great video Lucy
love your channel!
I’m certain this is the best video on the internet! Lucy this was such amazing sex education, not shaming anyone for having too much or too little sex! So brilliantly worded and concise, I’m so happy there’s a resource out here for everyone to learn about healthy sexual relationships!!
YES Lucy, I’m so proud of you for doing this video. Sex is NOT a taboo subject, all us girls should be able to freely and comfortably talk about it x
Great video, I love when people talk naturally about stuff like this! I'm 19 and still a virgin, but I really like to feel that sex is not a taboo topic anymore
I want to add something at 6:08 :
Not everyone thinks this way. A lot of my friends believe sex is like half of the relationship, sometimes more, sometimes less, which is obviously absolutely fine. Whoever it can seem a bit difficult to find someone who also thinks it's just a "nice addition".
I think when it comes to anyone who is underage, as in before the age of 18, a good rule of thumb is 'don't send/post/say things you don't want your parents hearing/seeing/reading', as putting things online can make someone particularly vulnerable, at that age especially. But it doesn't necessarily apply to adults tbh! It's a standard I kind of lived by when I was young, even though I didn't know I was living to that motto. Personally think the Internet is a more dangerous place now? Idk?
Also, side note: I was not mainstreamed as a disabled youngster. I was in a school specifically for disabled children, and provided NO sex education. This has SO MANY ISSUES. I think disabled people are in a position where they need consent discussions as a PRIORITY.
queenlucysroyalmaid1 are you in the UK?
Idk, some people have complicated relationships with their parents and it is normal to not want to discuss certain things with your parents
Just a note for some people who might not be comfortable with going to a GP/clinic, you can order a FREE chlamydia testing kit straight to your door at checkurself.org.uk
Yessss Lucy I live for your videos! I'm so excited to watch this I love that you're always so open to talking about sex and other similar topics! Always nice to see that you don't sugarcoat "taboo" topics 💕
I can’t wait for part 2 of this!
so many different kinds of lighting in this video but all i can say is that all of them look great!
I'm about to start uni in September and sex is the number one thing that I have been worrying about, over all the things that I could be worrying about and it's sex at uni. This video has made me feel so much better omg! Thank you so much!
Just, thank you so much? You may not be able to talk to 15 year old Lucy, but there's a lot of young girls who your advice has really helped
I wish I had watched this as a teenager. This is a gift to everyone who is just beginning to discover and have sexual experiences. Well done!
Incomplete or straight up incorrect sex education is a huge problem in the U.S. as well. Thanks for shedding some light on the topic :)
Since I only had "relationship sex" I always had the opposite feeling, that casual sex is the magical type of sex. Like it's so wild and hot and just woowww! But I just don't think that would be something for me. To each their own I guess.
this is such a great video! lucy is so wonderfully positive, it just makes me feel so much calmer and relaxed knowing that we're all not alone and we all have a voice. what a lovely human being she is x
Girl this was so interesting to watch and you make it so accepting and safe. Could you please backtrack and do a Sleepover video about Losing Your Virginity? Love from New Zealand xx
Your hair 🤩🤩
this is the first video i have ever seen by you and i felt like you were the big sister figure i never had growing up and it’s so endearing seeing a video like this so many years later
DID YOU JUST REFER TO YOURSELF AS TERMINALLY SINGLE 😂😂😂
I think it is GREAT that you talk about sex. A lot of the things you mentioned made me really nervous when I was younger as well. I especially like how you worded things, it felt very inclusive and positive to me. One thing I noticed: around 3:46 you said "If you have a womb you could get pregnant and anyone could catch an STI." I think you should have added that if you have a penis and testicles you could get someone pregnant. It otherwise really shifts the responsibility to the person who is able to become pregnant. Of course, the weight of the responsibility often IS put on the person that is/can become pregnant, but it definitely shoulnd't be. If someone is able to impregnate another person, they have to be equally as responsible, careful and thoughtful about it. Thanks for the great video, I really enjoyed it and am looking forward to the next one!
i really wish you read comments because i just wanna say that i love these type of videos that you make and i really miss the time you made a bunch of them. i learn a lot from you so please make more and share more. you’re like the sister i never had. more power to you you beautiful soul. i love you 💓
I’d love a podcast from you. Your voice is so soothing as well
Lucy this is so important, thank you for making this video! I learned all of this the hard way and I think more people need to have conversations like this before they start having sex
I personally have not noticed a difference in quality between casual sex and relationship sex. What makes the difference is comfort level.
I'm still a virgin despite my age and I'll probably will be all my life because I look like a potato but hey this video is still really interesting ! This is an important topic and it's not discussed enough, and having you talking about it, really honestly and not how school or medias might talked about it is really great !!
I dont know how you look but I know that you're beautiful and someone out there is for you!! so dont worry and live your life babes xx
awww thank youuu
Amazing video, Lucy! So lovely to see someone talk about this and be so gender and sexuality inclusive :)!
Evan would be so proud of that pun haha
Mark e-o evaaan x
I didn’t get the notification for this but, after a lot of random videos on UA-cam, I found it. Thank god 😂 Loved this so much 💛
Lucy giving us the information school fails to give👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️❤️❤️
I'll be honest i was anxious to watch this video. But im so so glad i did. Lucy you are the absolute best!!
Also this is the best set up yet I've seen on your channel; the lighting, the background, the focus, YOUR PAJAMAS. It's beautiful. You're doing great
I finally made the decision to get an IUD after two years on the pill and continuously forgetting to take my pills. It’s been about a month now and I’ve had no problems with my IUD, the insertion of it was a bit uncomfortable but other than that I’m so relieved that I don’t have to take a pill everyday
I love you and I love this...I’m 16 and I’m shook but you know what I’m waiting until I feel comfortable..quite disgusting how now days pretty much every teen has had it young. This helped me loads thank youuu made me feel worth and makes me feel little less stressed about not having it because of my appearance xxxxx
As usual an EXCELLENT, informative and chatty video lucy, can i ask what lipstick you're wearing - it's stunning x
Hahaha fruitless i actually laughed out loud
What a lovely video! Well done for being able to have this conversation in such a gentle, truthful way. X
Thank you for making this video Lucy- v informative!
I really loved this and i would love a longer video on the same topic
i love love sleepover club!! i hope this series continues for a while
I absolutely adore your videos. They're so helpful and calming
Yaaaaaas talking about sex is so important!
Can you talk about communication in sex? i think is important, films, porn and no book talks about it
I always do this. I always watch your videos drunk. Now I have to watch this video again tomorrow and then realizing that I’ve seen it before. I think you are an amazing UA-camr. Much love from Holland, see you tomorrow.
Yes to these honest conversations! Thank you Lucy xxx
This is ridiculously comforting, I wish I would’ve seen more of this when my sex life began
Love how you tell the truth miss moon
a) great vid! b) love your pajamas!
Honestly, because of youtube and people like the wonderful Hanna Witton, I was able to be very comfortable and safe with a person I trusted for my first time. Being on the internet for a majority of my life and having a community that openly talked about sex and how to not have it be god awful physically and emotionally really helped me. So thanks lucy and everyone sex positive online!
Honestly thank you, this video was really useful as barley any schools ever teach you about these things x
"Sleepover club" is a very interesting series of videos. Keep up the good job Lucy 😁
"casual sex is an important part of being single" i'm single and i don't like casual sex ahah, not because it's not okay, but bc i'm demisexual. For me a big part of being single is crushes. crush crush crush.
Wow ur content is great thanks for doing ads (getting that coin) on things you actually want us yo hear about ily ok bye
Your voice is so calming and gentle 😍
Now this is my kind of advert! Some of these are useful unique points, especially for relationships. Thanks for making :*
This was pretty helpful for me as a 19 year old starting to figure out this portion of my life. It's something that I had been having anxiety about too recently. I'd really appreciate more stuff like this. Also, if you would have any advice for me as a guy in these types of situations, that would be wonderful. Thanks.
Very interesting video. I appreciated the part about STIs, it's incredible how common they are yet still there are lots of people who are not conscious and have unprotected sex.
Love this!!! More weekend chats like this please. Keep doing what you're doing X X X
Thanks for the video!! and also u look so much like Keira Knightley in this video. wow
ok..teacher lucy,your lesson is very instructive for us! Thank you!
It's interesting how HPV is the most common STI in the USA but in the UK its Chlamydia? Why is that?
Margaret Hemenway it could be because we have the free hpv vaccine in schools that the majority of 13/14 year old girls have?? Idk for sure but it could be that!
I think HPV is just as common in the UK but literally no one talks about it. We get an HPV vaccine at school but it is only for the main cancer causing strains - most people still have HPV without knowing!
What is hpv?
human papilloma virus - its a largely undetected virus spread from skin to skin contact (condoms won't necessarily protect you, hence why so many people have it and often don't realise). Some strains appear as genital warts (which we are taught more about than hpv itself - in the UK at least). And some strains cause cervical cancer, which is why there is a vaccine!
El Budgie oh mad ok
This are the type of videos i like and need, please keep doing this.. love from spain !
thank you so much for this video! really helped me out as a teenager starting setting foot in this area!
I kept getting distracted because I wanted to know what sweets she was eating 😆
Yeah why was the packaging blurred out?
Lazy Days I assume it’s some sort of copyright thing so she doesn’t have to pay royalties, but I still wanna know cause they looked 😋
They kinda looked like the candy kitten watermelon sweets but idk
Been meaning to get tested for no other reason than keeping in good health - sorted it today, thanks for the nudge!
This was a great video!! Thank you so so much for making it!
It is the first impression i got about you.
Honestly i like your vibe and attitude. Also! i feel like i need this kind of videos i am almost 18 and i feel like i want to experiments this things(without rush).
I need this kind of videos and i also like it how you treat them.
You make me realize that i need to check my little down there because idk if i have something like STI, there has being a lot since i left my bfriend. I feel like the worst thing can happen is getting pregnant or VIH.
Nice video.
im so ready for thissss
Super informative and you're just such a babeee!
Never been so early for something
ok, so, idk if this is weird, but for some time I've been questioning my sexuality, concretely whether I might be asexual, since I am not only uninterested but entirely repulsed by sex and don't even really get when a guy is "hot" and stuff like that. but I'm only fifteen, so there's always the thought of "maybe I'm just a late bloomer", so I just wanted to ask: when did you guys start to experience sexual attraction or how did you generally feel about sex at my age?
lovelovelove videos which show how all school systems around the world seem to lack a lot of crucial info when it comes to sexual health education:)
“Casual sex is an important part of being single”. I feel like by using the word important here you’re almost shaming those that are single and not having casual sex. If you’re single you can do what the hell you want and shouldn’t have to feel like what you’re doing is wrong. Just a thought....
Ahhh this was so lovely and exactly the kind of thing I need rn
lucy please make like a list of where did you get all of your mugs i just need them all
I really like this idea of Talking openly About 'tabus' btw I loved your hair in this one :)
I get that each 'person's number' is made a big deal where maybe it shouldn't be and that shouldn't hold someone back from sleeping with someone if everyone involved is willing but I think it's still important to think that maybe it might be an issue for a future partner and potentially hinder a future relationship. People should do what they're comfortable with, especially when it comes to sex, but I've noticed a lot of people online saying it's judgemental for people to care about how many people someone has slept with before but that doesn't mean it never happens and it's important to some people. Like I said; do what you want and what makes you happy but I think a lot of people have gone so far into not 'slut shaming' that society is shaming people who haven't had sex or only have sex if they're in a relationship and that's just as bad as 'slut shaming', just transferred onto different people.
I loved this. As someone who’s only had sex with one partner in a relationship and wasn’t amazing despite more than 5 times. But it doesn’t matter. I appreciate this sm, thank you!!
Where do you go to get tested for STI’s like do you just go to your GP or are there clinics for it?
is banging book club done? I wanted to start reading along but nothing has been posted for a while. Please bring it back!
great video!!
i am wondering why you blurred out your snacks?
*likes video before watching it
Deepika Parya same lmao
hello i’m in love with ur pajamas where are they from ??
Thank you for this video! It was really empowering! Xoxo
LOVE this series!
Honestly, my sex education has come from you tubers like you and Arden and Hannah. School literally taught me nothing
Can u do a vid about advise for demisexuals??? So many ppl don't know what that is and may be having forced sexual relationships. So unfair 😐
no matter what someone’s orientation is, forced sexual relations is never okay
she’s not demisexual so i don’t believe she will be able to speak on it as she hasn’t experienced it
Have to tried Evan Edinger, I think he talks about it sometiems
Yes yes yes please
I actually liked this video so much
Just stumbled upon your video. YOU ARE UHMAZING.
i can completely agree about feeling confident and comfortable is important but saying that'll lead to great sex i'm not 100% sure i agree . My first time was technically terrible , we didn't know what we were doing and it hurt considerably however to me it was still perfect because i was with someone i love and felt completely comfortable. i think i mostly agree with you and although i wouldn't want to scare people about the first time i also wouldnt want to set up expectations that it'll be "great sex' because i feel like thats unlikely.