How to Help Someone With Depression: 32 Tips for When They Don't Want to Talk: Depression Skills #2
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Depression can be debilitating, and when your friend, spouse, child, or someone else you care about has depression, you want to know how to help them. But what if they don't want to talk about it? You want to know how to help them anyway!
In this video, I teach 32 ways to help someone with depression that don't require you to talk about depression! These skills are essential for friends and parents of someone who is depressed.
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Seeing your loved ones suffer from this kind of illness is so hard.
I feel you
Yes
Mhm...
Seriously ...☹️
It’s even harder suffering from it
I have a boyfriend struggling with this and I just don’t want to lose him and I want to help him find a brighter path and I want to let him know that things will get better
You’re a keeper I hope he realises that
Same here😬
Leave him. He’s going to ruin your life. Sorry but you can be a friend.
@@patientzero5685 ?
@@stvrrlight7 🤷♀️ truth
I imagine most people on this are watching it because they're trying to help someone or want to know what to do incase they need to help someone in the future so I'm gonna say what always works for me, when you're helping someone you have to show them that you care, tell them you won't let them go until you are certain they're ok, don't make them feel under pressure but make them feel that opening to you is the best thing to do and keep it between yourselves and tell them you're always there for them and mean it
How would I deal with it if it’s my mother. She’s been isolated by anyone and everyone for years. It recently all hit and now it’s really showing how hard it is for her to go everyday feeling like she’s accomplished nothing in life. She haven’t made friends. Haven’t gotten a job. Doesent have any social interaction and I’m here feeling scared to help.
Just tell her you love her and ask if there is anything she'd like you to help with, talk to her about the good times your remember. Pray for her too. Hugs hun. It's hard to be in a place where your past your prime and alone--even if the alone part is in your head.
@@lismaf3007 i’m a bit late to reply but you need to try to help take her mind off the negative stuff, it’s obviously a very tough time but never feel scared to help, tell her she’s loved and try to compliment her a bit to make her feel better about herself and ask her questions about better times so she can speak about good times to hopefully cheer her up
@@lismaf3007 I would start by simply spending time with her, and that can be in various ways but the point being that she gets that you enjoy her company, so for example: doing whatever she likes to do, or maybe something low pressure where she doesn’t have to talk as much (cos if you’re really depressed and isolated it might not be easy to talk at first) like going to the movies or taking a fun class together, sometimes being ok with being in silence together is extremely helpful 💛
How to help her if she doesn't want your help even if she's not willing to talk to you ......
My gf going through this im trying my best to help her its so painful.
Good luck man
Hey man, i am in the same situation... we've only been together for a few months, but i really love her and want to help her, it is so difficult... at first she wouldn't tell me absolutely anything, and without any experience i just exaggerated, but i understood my mistake, i stopped trying to force her to tell me what is going on, i tried creating a safe space, she still hides from me sometimes and refuses to let me help her, choosing to be alone thinking she is bothering me, and i do not try to force her to accept my help, i just show her that i am there to help and she can always seek me because i want her to be ok and happy... it's really difficult, but it started to get better, and that gives me hope... i love her so much and i really want to help her, but it is not an easy thing to do and it takes time...
This is just my experience, and i really needed to get this of my chest and mind, but i hope you find something helpful in it, and also hope things get better for you.
Update: today she finally thought about talking to a professional but she is afraid and already wants to give up the idea beacuse of her parents... makes me so sad to see that some people just refuse to open their eyes...
Another edit: she talked to a friend about this, who struggled with this too and it got so much better. She really started opening up and talking more about this, and it makes me so happy to see that she's doing better and better by the day.
Bro same im trying my best but its getting hard i hate seeing her really upset and down good luck with urs tho bro love
Same here brother, stay strong king 👑
@@laicalascona2109 Stay strong
Dad I’m trying my best to help you I hope you can be okay just know I love you and I’m here for you just as you are here for me
I watched this video for my dad as well😢
Ur a hero keep going
I’m in your exact same shoes rn bro good luck
My brother is suffering from depression and I want to help him because our parents doesnt believe he's not fine :( Thank you for this video!
Hello, how are you and your brother doing? I’m going through similar situations (brother depressed, mother being harsh saying ‘he needs to man up) and I am willing to do everything in my power to help him
how he is now bro???
@@JH-qg1zq I have the exact same situation 😭😟
This kinda made me cry, lol. I am going thru a depression phase myself. And I am seeing things Anxiety symptoms in my little sister and I just want her to let go. Of things. I wanna be the best older sister .. thank you
Hey, I'm glad its going good for you. Do you have any tips i can use with my online depressed friend?
Currently dealing with the exact same thing with my little brother. I wish you guys nothing but love determination and positive energy 🙏🏽
I’m going through this with my bf. He doesn’t want to open up and I respect that some ppl like to figure things out on their own. I’ve given so many opportunities to talk about it and created an environment where it’s non judgemental and patient. I didn’t force it as much as I want to help, that’s his decision. I just tell him I’m here for him and he knows that. I really hope he gets professional help soon because it’s hurts to see him like this.
I am also suffering from same situation... How is he now and how is your relationship now
I’m sorry to hear that :( we broke up a year ago but we’re best friends now! He’s much more open and honest with me, I think he just needed to see that I’m always there for him to trust me more (even after the breakup, when he needed space, and whenever he’s going through depressive episodes). I hope your situation gets better, sometimes you have to fall with a person multiple times for them to truly trust you with their feelings, just make sure you don’t feel responsible to help them get better 💕
@@concertsintoronto why u guys broked up .....he is also asking for breakup...he doesn't have any valid reason for breakup ..he has feeling for me...i know....he just don't want to talk to anyone and he feels guilty that he is hurting me through his behaviour that's why he don't want relation anymore... I don't want break up for even for sometime because after that he will be all alone and more in depression.....what to do..
@@harshitagupta1975 omg, it's like I read about my own relationship and my own feelings about it... My bf, or should I say ex bf now, is the same... The guilt, the responsibility he felt towards was crushing him, these thoughts he has are evil... He loves me so much and I love him too but he doesnt want to hurt me anymore so he chose to break up with me a month ago.... We still talk every day as if nothing has changed but he occasionally makes it clear that we have indeed broken up... I am still looking for ideas to help him get over it. I know how he is when he is not consumed by this illness and I know that he would never do that had he not been in this situation... I hope we all find the strength to overcome this and everything to be okay ❤
Thank you 😣😭
I don't want to give up for my boyfriend. 💖
I hope this will help me to understand him more.
Understanding others will take you away from understanding yourself.
Don’t be a vessel for him to throw his emotional baggage into
@@yesno4065 but how can i help someone with depression if you say that
@@alexander-vi5nu let them throw there emotional baggage on you, but when they do you have to help and act on it aswell, not just here what he says and say “alright i heard them now its fine” you have to help them to, suggest starting a hobby or something. i think thats what the guy above meant
@@lukegay8043 thank you for your response ❤️
I watched this video to help myself, more or less. As someone with depression, I find it so inspiring to look through the comments and see so many people who genuinely want to help (i don’t have much of that in my own life). Honestly, the person dealing with depression wants space but at the same time knowing they have people that care about them and are willing to listen or help out whenever needed; it is Everything. Feeling depressed, feels lonely if no one is around that cares to help, but the opposite (someone wanting to over help or “fix it”) is also overwhelming. Anyway, just literally spending time with them, even if its in silence means the world to them, i promise (even if they don’t show it) 💛
Totally my experience; people who help too much, too quickly trying different things, just makes me irritated with them to the point I start despising time with them.
Tip 33; don't be dismissive when we/they finally reach out. If you don't know how to help, say so. Don't promise to help, or to be there, if you aren't going to.
My partner has just been breaking down seemingly out of nowhere and having these awful, silent, body-shaking sobs. Just started sobbing in the grocery store today, then again at home. When asked what's wrong, their answer is "nothing in particular" or "I don't want to talk about it". I feel like I'm doing at least 15 or 20 of the things in this list and it is just so maddening because it feels like they never feel better and never seen to notice or appreciate it benefit from my efforts so it just feels like I'm spinning my wheels. I don't mean to make it about me, but it feels like I'm doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result. At least today they finally said they would be willing to see a psychiatrist to talk about getting help with this. I'm worried about what happens if that doesn't help them. Please keep my partner in your thoughts, won't you?
Your partner is in my thoughts and prayers ❤️ I hope they get better... really I do.
Update please
I never went through something as near as depression but i already felt so bad (suicidal thoughts, doubting self-worth,...) I get it when you say you feel like you wanna end everything.
It just feels so helpless seeing someone you know going through things like that. I just hope that someday i might be able to help people who are struggling with mental illnesses.
Please remember: You are loved. You are enough ❤️
My friend is currently in a depressive episode and they told me, that they don't want to talk about it. So I let them be. I text them every morning, telling them that they should rest if they feel like it, I tell them that I'm always here for them. They texted me today and said thank you.
If someone doesn't want to show you their wound, give them a hug. You can't force them to show you but you can make them feel less alone. Just don't be obnoxious
I've been listening to my sister alot, she's the kind of person who talks about her deppression in a joking manner. She says that she doesn't want help nor want to talk about it, I still worry for her though. So thankyou for the video, she's not much of an outdoors person but I'll try to follow most of these when hanging out with her. To everyone searching this video up for someone they care about, I'm rooting for you!
With the coronavirus happening, i'm just gonna send funny tiktoks and keep reminding her that she's actually not invisible. That a lot of people sees her and love her.
so i tried to end my own life a few years ago. my friend chelson phoned me to tell me how much he appreciated me. he ended his life about a month ago.
my best friend (let’s call him adam) has been depressed lately, but all of a sudden he has become withdrawn completely and i’m terrified that he might take his own life, so thank you for this video. ❤️x
Update
Thank you so much for this video, and all your others but I love how you made this one for the loved one of a depressed person helping give ideas on how to get better, or at least make it better. ☮️💖🌞
I’m depressed and have social anxiety, it’s so hard but I try and cope with it but I just can’t, I literally cry myself to sleep thinking about these things and all I’m doing is overthinking and I know it, but I won’t stop because I can’t.
You need to have someone by you. It'll help. Though that's also a hard part to achieve. A moral support can help.
I'm here for my father... He don't talk to anyone he says he is only living for me but he also don't share anything with me... I don't even know how can I help him that's why I am here... Pray for my father 🙏
I'm here for both my father and my mother, so I completely understand. praying for yall 🙏 and sending love, kindness, healing and understanding your way 💛. never give up
Really great topic and tips ~ so many times people who are hurting don’t want to talk.
But obviously we love and want to help them. 💕
My boyfriend whom i really,really love is also struglling with this condition.What i do since he loves singing and has good voice? I sing for him everyday thru an app 😊 he lives far away from me so it’s more difficult because i can’t do anything for him physically like hugging. So,that’s what i do.I dedicate my songs for him and thank God coz he’s getting much better now ❤️
Extremely helpful video. Very precise with a variety of things to do with someone who is depressed and not willing to talk. Keep up the excellent work 👌👍
Here after my friend almost killed herself... she's way too suicidal...but I trust God...He will catch her...
Never stop praying for your friend. God hears your prayers and is not limited to any circumstances
Same
Anxiety or depression increases more when you pay much more attention to it. Just change your thought process gradually. Believe that you are brave and beautiful.
Lol
As someone who suffers from severe clinical depression (meaning it lasts weeks to years at a time); yeah, that's not how it works. You must be the type who thinks 'thoughts and prayers' actually help.
"Don't be depressed. Be happy, with happy thoughts!" is probably the single worst thing you can say to someone with depression. It tells them you 1) Don't believe them. 2) Don't understand what depression is. 3) That you don't even know them if you think that's all it'll take. 4) You are going to drive them even further away into their own seclusion. 5) They may never reach out again until something drastic happens; or worse, it's too late.
Speaking from experience.
I wanted to be with her however with the current situation (covid 19) how can i be with her ? If i cant go out
MEGUSTA™ just go I’m from Cali and we are locked down but I go anyways my gf lives 2 hrs away from me but I go bc I know she isn’t doing good with all this and part of it was my fault not going lie but I recently went and fixed it and let me tell you if she tells you you never listen even if your just messing around she low key means it I learned the hard way but I learned listen to her deeply and never take her rants as complaining or tell her stop being a baby just listen and tell her it’s okay things will be fine everyone is different sometimes people want advice so figure out what she wants but kind words and just listening is what they want you don’t even have to say anything don’t fix her problem just sit there but I’m saying all this as if I know you can drive or something lol but if you can’t drive or have a car call her face time here and just have a day with her threw your phones just let her know even with all this that’s going on your still there for her no matter what just try it it’s better to do something then wishing you did something good lucky friend
Facetime maybe
Text messages
you can zoom then and play games together or what i do, i help her with school because she struggles a lot with it
Facetime, google duo, finding a good MMO RPG game to play together can give you two a goal and something to work towards together as talking can get old if nothing else is going on
My sister most likely has depression. My mother me, and my older sister went through our younger fazes of this and think my little sister is going through this now. Thank you. My mother is coming to me for advice because I'm the empath and basically life coach of the family.
Sending love to everyone in here and to their person who is struggling with this. There’s always light to be found ❤
I wish someone cared enough about me to do this.
How are you, my Dear? I hope you're doing well now.
This was so helpful for me. Many of the suggestions I am trying with very, very slow progress. Thanks for the encouragement to keep going and that I am making a difference.
This is so helpful. Now I can easily help and support my depressed friend ❤️
This is so helpful thanks a lot!!
Thanks it gives me more ideas to make my clients feeling better
what a great video! thank you so much - so helpful!
You can write or connect virtually. It's a step. A small one can yield huge benefits. I wish you well.
Thank you for your valuable inputs
Thank you for these valuable suggestions.
I love your voice ... this is really your field ... thanks a lot
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Thanks, I will try all of these.
Now I'm educating my self to prevent anyone from helping me to get through depression. But in the same time this still helps by helping anyone else with depression even I think no one cares about me and I don't care about most people I still don't want to see anyone suffering like me.
Thank you so much ❤
thank you so much, i am trying to change the life of this amazong girl.
Aww that’s so sweet🥺
I have tried to encourage him to do many of the things suggested in this video but he's not intetested. He just feels annoyed with me suggesting them.
I watched another video made by a young man who has suffered depression. He said to always be there for him and never expect anything in return; unconditional love. I feel thats all I can do.
Does it worked?
I am depressed and just watching this hoping to find tips to help myself knowing that no one else is gonna do this for me.. 😢 😔
May Allah swt ease all your difficulties and may he envelope you in his mercy to bring peace and tranquility in your life.
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My friend over discord is depressed. I never met him but he’s my best friend I know. My family member committed suicide about 8 years ago and I’ll never forget it. I keep telling him so many people love him and so many people will be effected by it. I got him to get help about it.
And 14 year olds pretend that depression is the Coolest Thing
So true! I said in a joke that I was depressed - which is true, I just didn't know how to tell them- they only believed me when I burst into tears, I don't cry from depression, I cried because I was scared. If people didn't joke about it, maybe they would have listened....
I agree but you have to be careful because some people aren't actually attention seeking and struggle with it
I know I can’t tell if my friend is saying things for attention or if it’s actually serious
@@Pardon_Anan_draws what you have to do is ask them what's up if they struggle opening up you have to promise them that they can trust you also if they're not normally down they're probably not attention seeking if they say pretty much the same thing to you all the time they're probably attention seeking but if you seriously think something is up you have to make them 100% certain they can talk to you about anything and trust you with it and ALWAYS keep the conversations to you and that person don't share someone else's issues with anyone else
Not really I am now 15, and I have had depression since i was 12 and almost all my frnd also had ACTUAL depression since 12/13
Finally, this should help me help her thanks :)
Ok thanks for the info, i will try to make myself act like i dont have depression to prevent making people thinking im overreacting
Lol my friend is an online friend
Dude I need to help an online friend too
I am trying to help 3 online comrade at the same time...
@@mr.erenbabus3927 That's really really noble of you. You have my upmost respect
being an online friend is great too. sometimes people feel more comfertable talking with somebody they dont actually see. the fact that you are aware of this person's problems is a sign that they already consider u a 'safe space.' just do ur best to listen, and dont expect anything in return. (not a psychologist, just been on the other side.)
Rafamize if you are a girl give me your snapchat:), I’m sorry but I’m not allowed to add boys :(, I’m here to make friends
Thanks ❤
I have a friend thats dealing with this and i rly wanna help. Watching this rly hit me and my emotions but i will try this. Thanks alot
Thanks mam 😊
I hooe it will work..
What if they do not corporate at all or they are very unwilling to help themselves? 😞
I met this guy in depression, and now that I met him I can’t really ditch him
If anyone wants to talk im here, I also have depression and been to therapy so I may have a better understanding than others. We can make a groupchat or jus talk in private. Dont be afraid to talk to someone. Have a good day💗
Thank you for the tips wish me luck with my best Friend
but what if that person says no every time you want to hang out or do something? ignores when you want to talk?
I used to be like this. But I still suffered from social anxiety. I had depression really bad during school days. You add them both during your childhood and you'll be stuck in the darkness.
What do you do when whenever anyone tried to care for them, express concern or spend time with them they get angry and tell the person to go away? :(
Have you got any way to deal with it plz share..
quarantine :) can't do any of these, i'll keep it in mind when it's over tho
I loved the girl guides and land rangers….so social and enjoying to be with others and in the open air.
When I was in school, I had to look my teacher in the eyes and it kinda helped it. Help me talk about it because I knew I was safe and someone cared about me. It’s good look someone in the eye I know it’s scary, but I promise it would help someone in the eye can help you comfortable try staring at their forehead. I could also help but it’s better if you look right in the eye.❤
How much do you have to spend time with them?
when my best friend gets here in 3 years i better have the best tour planned out for her
My elder sister has depression, although she has gone through treatment and all yet she still suffers with panic attacks and flashbacks.
In her depression journey, she did open up to me and our bond grew too strong. But unfortunately, she had a lot of expectations from me and failing them meant "you knew it all, yet you did this" to her. I tried so hard to meet them, and trust me, it was all going well, until I too got lost in my own life.
Now, I see her suffering again, it kills me. And I know Ive lost her this time. I feel guilty.
Can someone pls help me how to win her trust again.
It would mean alot to me.
All these things would have helped me so much as a teenager. I especially love the advice of just sitting with them; you do your thing and they do there's. It would have comforted me so much just to have someone do that. Just wanting to be in the same room as your child can mean a whole lot.
I thought you would explain a little bit more on each one, or have an example for each one to clarify or sum up what they each do to person
My friend said that she's having anxiety and I'll try my best to reduce it. I hope it will help
I have a loved one that i think is struggling with depression or some mental illness and she only opens up to just say shes feeling low and so she can get her love language meter filled. I'm really struggling with getting her to change her view on mental illness and realize just because she needs help that shes not crazy
It's so hard to see my best friend suffer from unexpressive habits. I get really concerned when she doesn't talk about it at all. And then it only comes out when unconscious or drunk. Which feels very dangerous to me. I hope i can make her feel better and let her feel that it's okay if life doesn't go your way.
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Thanks maam. My sister suffering now from depresion.
Mine too. & my heart aches for her because i feel incapable of helping her
my heart goes out to both of you and your family members suffering with this horrible illness. i truly hope you learned a few things from here that can help you help them grow and get out of that bad mental space they are trapped in. ❤❤
excellent for single parenting my 3 kids.. thank you!!
thank you. im using this for my boyfriend
Did it work? I’m trying to help my bf since I can’t see him we text, he’s being distant and thinks that he’s hurting me when I really love him, I just wanna help him
I’m here for my beautiful girlfriend. We’ve been dating for ten months now and I’ve been trying to find ways to distract her and and let her open up. She’s been fight this for basically her whole life and I wanna be that support for her that no one could do. I love her so freakin much and it pains me to see her so sad all the time. It’s been kinda rough lately but I’m pushing through she wants to give in to this depression so bad but I’m not letting up. I just want to know how to properly comfort her I messed up pretty badly and it was my fault for making her more sad. I tried telling her I know how it feels and that depression is horrible and I know it’s pain. It made everything worse now I’m just typing this at 3:00 am because I’m trying to be a better partner for her. I want to Learn more about this illness but it’s hard to understand I have sever anxiety and I tend to over think a lot and I’m pretty sure that’s what happened when I just blabberd out that nonsense. I just want to be better for her and for myself
i hope she’s doing better mentally right now :)) and that you’re taking care of yourself too! i’m so proud of the both of you, and all of you reading this rn. do you realize how amazing it is that you’re able to wake up everyday? even just that is so amazing
I just did the same with my gf i have no idea how to help
What do I do if my girlfriend wants to abandone all her friends because she doesn’t want to hurt anyone. Her therapist said it would help to just isolate herself but I don’t think that’s right.
Isolation never helps
Wtf is wrong with her therapist??
3:55 insanely specially if they tell you they don't want help and only want to live to a certain age. it hurts so bad to see them like that
My gf is going through that, unfortunately i can't be there irl to hold held, i will take any advice to help her !!!
In this pandemic most of these impossible.....it's worse i can't see him suffer like that......it's painful....
It's taking my depression in a higher level......i don't know what to do....we are both suffering.....everything is messed up.....but I'm not going to give up on him.....
Can u share the playlist ?
Could you share your "depressing playlist" with us?😅
I hoe this works I have a friend that legitimately love, and last night they said they were debating about killing themselves. I expressed my feelings and did everything I could and she said it helped, I hope this video will help us out even more. But the thing is we live in two different country’s.
What did u tell her/him do you have any tips i can use with my online depressed friend who's thinking of ending their life
If someone is in a long distance relationship how do they help their partner? My friend has been sending texts of motivation and wellness etc but her bf doesn't respond when he is in a depressive state. It makes her worry more and more.
kinda cant do most of these things when we’re long distance but i’ll still try
I have a friend online, and her brother shares an account with her. He told me she hasn’t been coming out of her room, and hasn’t eaten for days. He doesn’t want to try and force her out because she had always been scared for reasons I can’t really say. Every time he try’s to talk to her she just says “go away” and her door is locked. Anybody in the comments have any advice?
It’s every man for themselves at my house, everyone is just busy with their own stuff and I’m the depressed one out
So hard to work, and it’s Asian countries where people just make babies with no knowledge or care about their mental health
My boss just wants me to work independently and not bother him and I’m just struggling so much
I am really sorry. I know it’s a bit late to reply but Just stay strong. Stay strong for yourself. Someday someone will come to pat at your back saying you did a good job, but before that, try to pat your back by your own. Everyday.
How many notes do you have to write?
Me and one of my friends cut but haven’t been diagnosed with depression but I think we both do
Yes lol ivebeen struggling with depression for a really really long ass time now and I feel like giving up on my fight at times but not always
I watch this not for helping my friend but for myself
I know this comment was an year ago, but I'm sure you'll feel better!
My boyfriend has a friend group one of them is depressed. They went to his house today but he wouldnt come out and his toxic parents just shut the door. None of them are emotionally very smart so they dont know how to help really so I want to help him but his parents took his phone and he hasn't been in school for 2 weeks....
My bf is dealing with this illness.
It's so hard because we are in an LDR I want to help him and let him know that I am here for him.
I always send him messages and make a phone call.
If you have any ideas or ways I can help him please let me know.
He's so important to me.
I dont know but just let him to ur going to be there whenever they want to talk, hugs help alot. Just don't be judgmental and let him know ur going to be there. Don't annoy him k, be gentle, and spend time. Not necessarily talking and stuff just be there. U got this. I hope it gets better I know its scary. Let him know u need him and u care
It’s not really depression (probably)
But i have 2 friends that have trust issues. What should i do to gain their trust and make them feel good around me? How can I support them or help them?
my bf ’s struggling with depression.every single day..these past weeks it got worse,he doesn’t want to talk with nobody,not even with me.he’s been this way since i met him,and i never stopped loving him.i just want to help him ,i don’t force him to open up ,i’ve told him that he can speak only if he feels comfortable doing it..i’m trying my best,i wish i could do something about it.i wish i could be better than this..i don’t wanna lose him..
I don’t know how to explain it exactly because my Mum won’t tell me what’ making her this way, and it’s hard to see her cry at times because of her overwhelming thoughts. I just don’t want to have to stand there, not knowing what to say that would fix everything. She also says “Oh don’t worry, I’m fine” to “ I’m struggling “ Pls help?
I need a link to that playlist 😤
Yea and what if after all this they still fall apart when one thing doesn't work out? I don't know how to deal with that
Trust me. Just be there for them. It is actually a major play role. Even if they break down, they're never truly alone even if they think so.
i really want to help my friend but it's very hard because he's just my online friend, he lives very very very far.. when he's on a breakdown, i just cry cause i really dont know how to help him, all i could do is be at his side and be worried. i suck at making jokes but i do all i can to make him feel better. it's very hard when family is the reason why he's suffering.
How do I help an internet friend help through this? I just need some very specific stuff I can say because I'm extremely terrified that I can mess stuff up. Also, what are things I should say suggesting they get diagnosed and get professional help?
I'm crying so hard rn tysm. my girlfriend has always struggled with suicidal thoughts and she never talks to me and I'm so scared I'm gonna lose her. I've been doing everything I can.
Me too. How's it going rn? My gf is going through a really rough time and has constant thoughts of suicides and attempts. She doesnt want to see me or talk to me but man I've been giving it my all to care for her in those moments when she does open up. I hope your gf is doing better, peace and love my friend 🙏🏻
I have a friend that suffers from clinical depression, and has suicidal tendencies. I try to always comfort her and talk about stuff she likes, cute animals like cats and otters, we also talk about anime, and cooking videos in youtube, I really try to learn some new things and any other stuff she might like just so we can have something to talk about and something to help her with her depression. But it always somehow ends up with her being sad even if i try not to get it to that point. I cant even go to her given the current situation we're in, we can't go out being minors, because of the lockdown, and mandatory quarantine. She lives far away from me. All i can do now is just message or call her. I need help to help her somehow, no matter how small it is.
Please I need some advice.
She's really important to me. I really want to help her.
She is also open to me, and also talks about her depression quite openly. But my dumb, retarded self doesn't know how to respond. I only listen to her I don't know what to advice her. I just feel like a useless friend
I also have a friend who struggles with depression. It’s not easy, but don’t give up. Sometimes listening is the best thing you can do, and even if it feels like it’s not making a difference, it is. Showing her that you’re there for her, and that you care and are willing to listening are some of the best things you can do right now. I know it’s harder given the current situation, but texting her, calling her, and just showing her you’re thinking about her can really make a difference. Make sure your also taking care of yourself too. It’s easy to lose track of yourself when helping others (believe me, I know). Even if it doesn’t always feel like you’re making a difference, you are.
@@plannedcoast9172 I am here for the both of you if either of you need it. You are not dumb nor useless. You are there for her, that is what matters. Get back to me and I will be happy to give out a number or social media if you want some extra help and a new friend!