I’m a kiwi, he’ll be perfectly comfortable sleeping on the couch. The way you eat dinner- veges and grill meat is same as in NZ , he’ll feel at home. Sit around a firepit with a beer and chat at night and look at the stars. Get a ball and kick it around that lawn
Over the moon for you knowing your son is coming to visit you in France, he will be able to see your home and the way you live which is so lovely, hopefully you can make some great memories together. :)
Marc, your house & garden is a credit to you & your hard work, and your gratitude shows. Any negative comments are from some very jealous people.... Your well rid ! P,ease put a bench in that haven thats your nature reserve. Enjoy special time with your boy 💙💙
Im glad for you that your son will be visiting you ... Don't feel pressured into filming any of his visit UNLESS he really wants to be featured .... but keep it private and special between the 2 of you . Keep up the good work with the house Mark.
Wonderful he clearly wants to see you - take the step forward, nothing but the future to build with him. You might ask him what he would do with your house design. 😊
Mark we always put our children first but unfortunately you didn’t have that chance but I know he is aware that you love him And I am so happy for you that he is comeing to see you he will find it so peaceful And I hope he will visit you more often for a Holidayxxx
I'm so happy to hear that your Son has agreed to come to France and see where you live. We can't look after anyone else, if we don't look after ourselves first. Having said that, putting the needs of others first, over our own, is being a servant or in service to those around us, Putting others before yourself actually says a great deal about you. It says you think others are important, that you are not selfish all the time, that you are comfortable in who you are, that you are kind, that you are a good friend.
I have problems with my eldest son who i am currently separated from. It isn't easy and not what i hoped for as he grew up but that's life. I wish you every happiness when you meet up with your son hope all goes well.
Hi Marc. So love your garden. Very pretty. Hope the plants live. Lots of water. I moved a rose bush three times and it lived. Lots of water. So happy your son is coming to see you. He can see where you live. You’ve done so much with your place. It’s beautiful. Bargain buy. ❤❤❤❤❤of course you’re worthy. You made it all happen. You are meant to be in France living life there. I can see you’re grateful for it so yes, you deserve it. Love the bunny. So cute. You have to know I’m living in France vicariously through you. lol.
You live in a little haven and your lad will be very lucky to share some time with you there. Expect nothing and you'll be extremely relaxed and pleased with your visitor staying over with you. Enjoy - and I hope the rain stops!
Hi Marc smashing news about your son coming to visit. Now it's clock watching to get your house the way you want it for the visit. Your garden is beautiful. I hope the hydra
I do that, everyone else is more important than me, I literally put myself last, there's a line in the film "The Holiday" the older gentleman tells the young lady that she should be the leading lady in her own life..I've never been that on any level..I may be a doormat but I don't have much guilt apart from towards myself.
Absolutely put yourself first, self-care, I have discovered, is imperative. Once you have filled your own vessel, you can then be of service to others. Works for me. Do you deserve what you have now? Yes!! And you have gratitude, which is key. Anyhoo, this is my hard-earned and discovered wisdom.
Great to hear you count your blessings and appreciate the beauty and tranquility of your French home. You’ve made it happen though. Master of your own destiny. Well done Mark. Ps: think that was a hare not rabbit as looks on the big side. Still miss Dave x
I’m one of your oldie followers Marc….my mother was a stay at home housewife….she did everything for us…. I regret being so selfish when I was young and not helping her with “stuff “ ….l’m sure I’ve been programmed to be like her as it’s only fairly recently that I’ve been able to put myself and my needs before others. ….although I still agree to do things,because I feel when I have time for me, to just sit and watch UA-cam or read,I’m really being selfish when someone “needs” me…..And that’s from someone who taught Assertiveness for years! Easier to teach than practice!
My husband and I every single day remark about how lucky and blessed we are to have our home and land. Do we deserve it? Yes, I believe we do otherwise it would not have come our way - just like yours. As long as we realise life is a gift and we need to have a humble and grateful heart! As for putting others first......well one school of thought is a desire to please, to be a people pleaser. When done to a point of neglecting oneself it could stem from lack of confidence or low self esteem. I have been there. Past tense.
✈ 🇺🇸 🇫🇷 Hubby, our 2 Maltese dogs & I moved to France 17 days ago from NC USA. We had to visit the Hope Charity Shop you mentioned in Confolens on Friday since we were in Cognac shopping for a house. I picked up some really well priced British & Irish yummy foods! Even though we were in Ireland shortly before, one can never have enough Cadbury and we could only travel with so much on the flights. Lovely village, shame so many trucks move quickly through there, it should have a detour for them. It was a delight to see all the British people in a small village store open during close time 12-2! LOL. So many dogs too! Still getting use to the 12-2 store closures, no lunch after 2 and the 7:30 pm closure of grocery stores and the Sunday closures which are especially hard when you are living in a hotel. We normally eat lunch out at 2 to avoid the crowds and stores haven't been closed on Sunday since the 70s in the US. We were sad to see the fish & chips shop closed, but found some at the cafe. Why were so many restaurants closed?
So pleased your son is coming to France to see his dad ,less stress that way i think ,I collect hare's not real ones lol that wasn't a rabbit you saw ❤❤❤
Gratitude is a very wholesome place to get to, and yes you are WORTHY. Letting go of horrid situations, painful to your Soul, being angry of one's lot, seemingly given, is part of life, some have more than others, and when someone tells you, you must let go, and you resist, you haven't reached that next onion layer, yet. Life is like that. Keep growing at your own pace, like the Hydrangea, plucked from the soil, you have choices moving forward. Yes, you are fortunate to have all that beautiful land, but you made it that way. You spill all your love into that land (and you can see!) now it's time for you! Be kind to yourself. Enjoy your hard-earned efforts, you are not just a care taker, you are a provider of shelter to beautiful birds singing and Mr Bunny. You can be grateful for your son coming over, some folks lose theirs totally, never to see them again. You have the opportunity to rekindle what you didn't have during the periods he wasn't there, by just being interested in your Son now. :) Beautiful reserve, enjoy the sunshine, darn wet and cold again in UK
I’ll bet a little terrier would chase those moles and bunnies away ! I think it’s part of out natural evolution as Homo Homo sapiens that evolved in clans/tribes to put others first and to have a yearning to belong. At least our more evolved frontal cortex can help us understand that better now and sometimes make a concerted effort to put ourselves first for a change. Enjoy your visit with your son….have some barbecues, do a little tourism, go for a bike ride (if you can borrow a second bicycle). Above all, try not to put any pressure on yourself. Stay in the moment. I’m sure your son will fall in love with your gorgeous property. What a beautiful setting for a reunion. Maybe you can plant a tree together. Cheers Mark.
Really enjoying your channel, you’ve really done a spectacular job with the land! Oh & by the by your doing great! Glad your son is coming, that will be fine too! I could possibly be purchasing a holiday house in France or Italy, it’s a big decision….. I’ve a few months to decide and all your advice about moving is helpful! Thanks for the videos! Holly in TEXAS
I enjoyed the walk down to the nature reserve today . The Garden look's amazing .I love how you are chatting then stop to listen to the bird's ...May i just say your word's today made so much sense ( alway's do :)) Keep knocking the mole hill's over :) Thankyou
Your garden and wetland looks really good now.. When we feel down or used or not our usual self it's always good to think of people in a worse situation that would swap places with you any day...that's how I view it...
Hi Marc, I really enjoy watching you in the garden. The transformation is amazing. It’s great news to hear that your son is coming to visit you in France. In many ways, it’s much better this way. Neutral ground and you have the security of farm to relax and be yourself. I’m not sure where I read this but It me hard. Here goes, The moment is wasted on the past you no longer control. Procrastination and arrogance is the belief that there’s always tomorrow! I can identify with you regarding putting others first. I’m not really sure where it comes from. Perhaps it learned or maybe it’s some kind of calling. I’m not even sure where I’d start if I tried to put myself first. I guess the healthiest way is to try and balance it, so that you’re not doing to the detriment of yourself. You know better than everyone that seeing your son is going to be difficult because you have to let him go again. Wow, I feel for you. Make the most of the time you have will him and give him one more reason to stay closer to you. Yes you do deserve this! All the best. Rob.
It took me 50 years to put myself first. a long process. 4 years ago I decided not to fly to Germany to visit my family. Flights that are too long, fear of being caught in a pandemic again and now the high flight prices. I'm approaching 70. I have to get by on my pension including private health insurance and a car. It is the right decision because no one has visited me here in Thailand so far. So I come second for the family members. Everyone has their own life
That's fab that your son is coming to stay with you. Garden is looking lush ... can't wait to see your new flower bed finished. Look at Bugs and his fat ol' arse ...he's a healthy & happy looking furball!
You have done a lot of good improvements in/on and around your property. Moles and Rabbits! Nature reserve...It is great that your Son is coming to visit you, have a great reunion and enjoy the time together😊
It's definitely not luck Marc.....it's your choices and lots of hard work. So pleased your son is coming to stay with you you'll have a fantastic time together. The past really should stay there always look forward no good comes from looking backwards. 😊
I call the 'negative commenters' the keyboard cowards. Let's be honest here, how can you have respect for someone who won't say anything to your face and yet is so opinionated behind a 'screen'. Just keep blocking them Mark, and move on. Pleased your son is coming to France. ❤. Have a good time together 😊
Mark I still suffer pain as a result of what happened to both me and my children but life had to go on forty years ago I divorced him sometimes I am so glad I am so free from the Rat
So glad your son is coming over to visit you in France. About putting others first, I am a nurse, and that is simply part of our makeup. But, as a young child, we are self-centered. The rest, I am assuming normal progression of life. There's always those who never progress beyond the self-centered part. Then we learn empathy and treating others as we want to be treated. Then, we start putting the needs of others before ourselves. Especially if we have children , since they are dependent upon us to survive. After a point, they don't need us so much, one hopes, and we can start dusting off our dreams and care less about what others think.
Putting others first is necessary to have a decent society in which people help out each other, strengthening social bonds by doing so. That's probably the reason so many religions and some philosophies argue in favour of altruism. Of course, there's two important things to remember - the process is reciprocal, so you do favours for me, putting me first, and I do favours for you, putting your first. And secondly, like with so many things, don't go to extremes - of course you take care of your own needs too! It's great that your son will be able to visit.
You are very lucky to live there indeed,and it was made for you,or you made for it,with you're love of gardening, and the wildlife, its perfect,we only need a few rooms to live in,you can keep your mansions. Really glad your son is coming to you,as you can now share your life properly. As for putting people before ones self,that's me all over. A few years ago I was in a very dark place,and I mean dark, and one I say I took 3 orc4 overdoses, then you get just how dark. And I was continually being told by my mental health team,to start putting myself first,but if was hard as I felt selfish,but no its not,you can still be kind to others ,but what use are we to others if not in a good state ourselves. So now 4 years on,I'm doing that,still putting people first but thinking first. But it's an odd one for sure. Love your bunny,one of my favourite animals,if you get a hare ill be well jealous, they are my favourite wild animal. We had that rain in Keng last night,its now sunny. ❤
During the pandemic, I used to listen to a podcast about setting boundaries. Now that I practice that, it helps me prioritize and help others without sacrificing myself. So glad your son is coming to France so there is a fresh start for your relationship in a new environment. ❤️
I know how you feel, you sort of feel you are in a limbo, I have a similar situation like you though for 12 years no contact with two of my children who broke all contact with me, my husband and their siblings.I often wonder if they decide to come back to the fold how would we handle it. I am so happy your son is flying over to you Marc. Enjoy and I pray it all goes well.
I think we do think are we worthy or do we deserve things. But I am not sure if deserve or worthy has anything to do with it. Because there are people all over the world who deserves a good life yet suffer. We all have a story to tell . We just have to live in the present as much as possible and try to live our best life ❤️. Well thats as much as I have learned at 53 and believe me that changes every day . The more I know the less know 😂. Hey have a great life ❤
I think for myself I grew up as a people pleaser and that's hard to shake off, I always knew everyone else was more important, I'm getting a little more selfish :-)
Do you think that your son might fall in love with your home and think about a life change ? One never knows. After all it looks amazing and I am sure he follows you on your channel 🤗
In Eastern spirituality, there is the concept of karma. So what is happening for you according to this is... your good karma is what you are experiencing...simply the results of your good deeds...past lives and present. By taking care of your land and house and expressing gratitude, you continue to create more good karma. As for being perfectionist that you have mentioned before...check out the Japanese concept of wabi-sabi. Your hydrangea loves a half day of sun and lots of water ...so keep it hydrated especially when the weather gets really hot...check now to remove any dead stems. As for putting others first, check out the Meyers-Briggs personality test ...you may be an INFJ: ...helping others often putting their needs firs, enjoying & needing time alone, has a hard time making decisions because they need to weigh all the options..et al. Your son's visit is just what you need to make some needed decisions...he is the impetus. Check out your wildlife preserve for some good compost. There is conservation land across the road from my house and there is lots of great compost from decaying leaves et al.
Glad you sorted out your son Marc I am sure it will be fine. Yep I think thats is called a circle of life you put people first to help them in way one or another to make sure they can be happy but sometimes it can you feel like you have missed out and are second in the line.. Your nature reserve is looking like just what you intended it for😘
Hi Mark, you were interested in why people watch your videos ? Well I watch because I'm 55, nearly 56 and always thought I would love to be living in France in my later years. I don't have an EU passport, my wife does, so since Brexit, I'm basically screwed, 😢. However, I'm spend my weekends and spare time maintaining my property and mostly gardening, listening to the birds and trying to improve and tidy the outside space, I live in Suffolk in a lovely town,with my wife and four children, 3 grown up, 2 of them still live at home and I have a 13:year old too, your videos are great,some similarity for me in terms of how we think as older men, love to here your thoughts as you work and watch your efforts to improve things. We're all on a budget, whatever it is there are constraints and we have to think, research and decide, sometimes put off and sometimes just accept that it can't be done. As mentioned we potter to get things done and there's always something to do, I love watching you potter, here your thoughts and identity with your process and seeing little things progress is so satisfying, your videos, vlogs offer some escapism for me, in terms of that life in France but ultimately I dentist with your views on life and approach to stuff that needs doing. As you would say I haven't explained this very well 😂 your vlogs are just interesting and funny offering a taste of the outdoors even when it's chucking it down, good luck and keep on pushing forward, a little at a time, pottering is the best way, if you get fed up with one thing, tackle something else, then go back and finish.all the best for now Simon.
Just knowing that you need to move on is huge progress.Gardens looking fantastic.I live further south than you and I have to grow hydrangeas in pots and must water them everyday in the summer,the clue is in the name hydra ,water.Take care
I hope having your son visit you turns out to be a positive experience for both of you! We are having a mole invasion as well. I think they're heading west. I wish they'd move on a bit faster.
As u get older u learn to become more selfish this isnt a bad thing more self presevation im sure youll have a wonderfull time with your son youll find plenty to talk about and hell love your house and land just enjoy yourselves❤
garden looka great , its lovley u take pride in it , its all worth it ,yes start thinkin of number 1 /yourself because i know whats its like ,my daughter came n stayed 3 days this week all she did was moan abt how cold my house is , i said its costing 140 quid a month gas bill , electric , ur have to put up with it ,so tough to her ,she treated me awful so im gna let her get on with it , her dog stayed , dog hairs everywhere , as u see i aint got a dog ,shes so ungrateful ark ,so keep ur head up and do stuff for urself
Not putting yourself first is classic ADHD and autism traits. It’s people pleasing. It’s my downfall! I make a plan for myself and someone says can you do this for me… I always put them first
I’m a kiwi, he’ll be perfectly comfortable sleeping on the couch. The way you eat dinner- veges and grill meat is same as in NZ , he’ll feel at home. Sit around a firepit with a beer and chat at night and look at the stars. Get a ball and kick it around that lawn
Over the moon for you knowing your son is coming to visit you in France, he will be able to see your home and the way you live which is so lovely, hopefully you can make some great memories together. :)
Marc, your house & garden is a credit to you & your hard work, and your gratitude shows. Any negative comments are from some very jealous people.... Your well rid ! P,ease put a bench in that haven thats your nature reserve. Enjoy special time with your boy 💙💙
Im glad for you that your son will be visiting you ... Don't feel pressured into filming any of his visit UNLESS he really wants to be featured .... but keep it private and special between the 2 of you . Keep up the good work with the house Mark.
Mark firstly your garden looks Beautiful .I am also so pleased with the news about your son enjoy every minute.
So wonderful to hear your son is coming to visit you ❤
You did a fabulous job with the garden and house. A real lil heaven on earth.
Wonderful he clearly wants to see you - take the step forward, nothing but the future to build with him. You might ask him what he would do with your house design. 😊
Congrats for your son is coming to France🎉❤ That's really special!
Mark we always put our children first but unfortunately you didn’t have that chance but I know he is aware that you love him And I am so happy for you that he is comeing to see you he will find it so peaceful And I hope he will visit you more often for a Holidayxxx
Your garden is looking really beautiful….and it’s all down to your hard work. So pat yourself on the back.
I'm so happy to hear that your Son has agreed to come to France and see where you live.
We can't look after anyone else, if we don't look after ourselves first. Having said that, putting the needs of others first, over our own, is being a servant or in service to those around us, Putting others before yourself actually says a great deal about you. It says you think others are important, that you are not selfish all the time, that you are comfortable in who you are, that you are kind, that you are a good friend.
Just love the sounds of the doves and the chickens and the other birds chirping, A great soundtrack
I have problems with my eldest son who i am currently separated from. It isn't easy and not what i hoped for as he grew up but that's life. I wish you every happiness when you meet up with your son hope all goes well.
Another great video Marc. Love the new flowerbed. 🌞
Hi Marc. So love your garden. Very pretty. Hope the plants live. Lots of water. I moved a rose bush three times and it lived. Lots of water. So happy your son is coming to see you. He can see where you live. You’ve done so much with your place. It’s beautiful. Bargain buy. ❤❤❤❤❤of course you’re worthy. You made it all happen. You are meant to be in France living life there. I can see you’re grateful for it so yes, you deserve it. Love the bunny. So cute. You have to know I’m living in France vicariously through you. lol.
Your garden looking beautiful. Can’t believe the transformation from those first photo’s.
You live in a little haven and your lad will be very lucky to share some time with you there.
Expect nothing and you'll be extremely relaxed and pleased with your visitor staying over with you.
Enjoy - and I hope the rain stops!
Marc you have worked bloody hard for what you have achieved in your home and your land so it's not luck but hard graft 😊 paul
Such good news that your son is coming to France! Relax Marc, all will be well.
Hi Marc smashing news about your son coming to visit. Now it's clock watching to get your house the way you want it for the visit. Your garden is beautiful. I hope the hydra
I do that, everyone else is more important than me, I literally put myself last, there's a line in the film "The Holiday" the older gentleman tells the young lady that she should be the leading lady in her own life..I've never been that on any level..I may be a doormat but I don't have much guilt apart from towards myself.
Absolutely put yourself first, self-care, I have discovered, is imperative. Once you have filled your own vessel, you can then be of service to others. Works for me. Do you deserve what you have now? Yes!! And you have gratitude, which is key. Anyhoo, this is my hard-earned and discovered wisdom.
Great to hear you count your blessings and appreciate the beauty and tranquility of your French home. You’ve made it happen though. Master of your own destiny. Well done Mark. Ps: think that was a hare not rabbit as looks on the big side. Still miss Dave x
Skills there Marc, your new beds have given the space a great shape. I think you have a bit of paradise there.
Thank you Glenn :-)
I’m one of your oldie followers Marc….my mother was a stay at home housewife….she did everything for us…. I regret being so selfish when I was young and not helping her with “stuff “ ….l’m sure I’ve been programmed to be like her as it’s only fairly recently that I’ve been able to put myself and my needs before others. ….although I still agree to do things,because I feel when I have time for me, to just sit and watch UA-cam or read,I’m really being selfish when someone “needs” me…..And that’s from someone who taught Assertiveness for years! Easier to teach than practice!
Amazing what you have achieved in the garden and paddocks.
What a treat seeing nature that lovely rabbit
That is not a Rabbit but a Hare.
So pleased your son will be visiting you, a new chapter in your life for you, enjoy and embrace.
That looks like an absolute dream. ❤
My husband and I every single day remark about how lucky and blessed we are to have our home and land. Do we deserve it? Yes, I believe we do otherwise it would not have come our way - just like yours. As long as we realise life is a gift and we need to have a humble and grateful heart! As for putting others first......well one school of thought is a desire to please, to be a people pleaser. When done to a point of neglecting oneself it could stem from lack of confidence or low self esteem. I have been there. Past tense.
✈ 🇺🇸 🇫🇷 Hubby, our 2 Maltese dogs & I moved to France 17 days ago from NC USA. We had to visit the Hope Charity Shop you mentioned in Confolens on Friday since we were in Cognac shopping for a house. I picked up some really well priced British & Irish yummy foods! Even though we were in Ireland shortly before, one can never have enough Cadbury and we could only travel with so much on the flights. Lovely village, shame so many trucks move quickly through there, it should have a detour for them. It was a delight to see all the British people in a small village store open during close time 12-2! LOL. So many dogs too! Still getting use to the 12-2 store closures, no lunch after 2 and the 7:30 pm closure of grocery stores and the Sunday closures which are especially hard when you are living in a hotel. We normally eat lunch out at 2 to avoid the crowds and stores haven't been closed on Sunday since the 70s in the US. We were sad to see the fish & chips shop closed, but found some at the cafe. Why were so many restaurants closed?
Looking at the pics you took of your property before you moved in you can see you've done wonders with it. Looks like a lovely place to live.
Mind you that Rabbit looked well fed
Thank you so much. Why should people be so negative towards you ? Brilliant video especially the sound recording .
Try cutting the Hydrangea back not to much for the plant to support and water well. Good luck.
I like the flowing lines of that flowerbed. Go with the flow.
Hello Marc, Hydrangeas need a lot of water.
So pleased your son is coming to France to see his dad ,less stress that way i think ,I collect hare's not real ones lol that wasn't a rabbit you saw ❤❤❤
Gratitude is a very wholesome place to get to, and yes you are WORTHY. Letting go of horrid situations, painful to your Soul, being angry of one's lot, seemingly given, is part of life, some have more than others, and when someone tells you, you must let go, and you resist, you haven't reached that next onion layer, yet. Life is like that. Keep growing at your own pace, like the Hydrangea, plucked from the soil, you have choices moving forward.
Yes, you are fortunate to have all that beautiful land, but you made it that way. You spill all your love into that land (and you can see!) now it's time for you! Be kind to yourself. Enjoy your hard-earned efforts, you are not just a care taker, you are a provider of shelter to beautiful birds singing and Mr Bunny.
You can be grateful for your son coming over, some folks lose theirs totally, never to see them again. You have the opportunity to rekindle what you didn't have during the periods he wasn't there, by just being interested in your Son now. :)
Beautiful reserve, enjoy the sunshine, darn wet and cold again in UK
I’ll bet a little terrier would chase those moles and bunnies away ! I think it’s part of out natural evolution as Homo Homo sapiens that evolved in clans/tribes to put others first and to have a yearning to belong. At least our more evolved frontal cortex can help us understand that better now and sometimes make a concerted effort to put ourselves first for a change. Enjoy your visit with your son….have some barbecues, do a little tourism, go for a bike ride (if you can borrow a second bicycle). Above all, try not to put any pressure on yourself. Stay in the moment. I’m sure your son will fall in love with your gorgeous property. What a beautiful setting for a reunion. Maybe you can plant a tree together. Cheers Mark.
❤your gardens so lush
Really enjoying your channel, you’ve really done a spectacular job with the land!
Oh & by the by your doing great! Glad your son is coming, that will be fine too!
I could possibly be purchasing a holiday house in France or Italy, it’s a big decision….. I’ve a few months to decide and all your advice about moving is helpful!
Thanks for the videos!
Holly in TEXAS
I enjoyed the walk down to the nature reserve today .
The Garden look's amazing .I love how you are chatting then stop to listen to the bird's ...May i just say your word's today made so much sense ( alway's do :)) Keep knocking the mole hill's over :) Thankyou
Your garden and wetland looks really good now..
When we feel down or used or not our usual self it's always good to think of people in a worse situation that would swap places with you any day...that's how I view it...
Hi Marc,
I really enjoy watching you in the garden. The transformation is amazing.
It’s great news to hear that your son is coming to visit you in France. In many ways, it’s much better this way. Neutral ground and you have the security of farm to relax and be yourself.
I’m not sure where I read this but It me hard. Here goes,
The moment is wasted on the past you no longer control. Procrastination and arrogance is the belief that there’s always tomorrow!
I can identify with you regarding putting others first. I’m not really sure where it comes from. Perhaps it learned or maybe it’s some kind of calling. I’m not even sure where I’d start if I tried to put myself first.
I guess the healthiest way is to try and balance it, so that you’re not doing to the detriment of yourself.
You know better than everyone that seeing your son is going to be difficult because you have to let him go again. Wow, I feel for you. Make the most of the time you have will him and give him one more reason to stay closer to you.
Yes you do deserve this!
All the best.
Rob.
Thanks Rob :-)
I'm not sure about getting wiser. I'm 64 years now and still waiting to be wiser :)
It took me 50 years to put myself first. a long process. 4 years ago I decided not to fly to Germany to visit my family. Flights that are too long, fear of being caught in a pandemic again and now the high flight prices. I'm approaching 70. I have to get by on my pension including private health insurance and a car. It is the right decision because no one has visited me here in Thailand so far. So I come second for the family members. Everyone has their own life
So nice to see you are feeling more upbeat Marc, after yesterdays was feeling a bit worried about you.
That's fab that your son is coming to stay with you. Garden is looking lush ... can't wait to see your new flower bed finished. Look at Bugs and his fat ol' arse ...he's a healthy & happy looking furball!
You have done a lot of good improvements in/on and around your property. Moles and Rabbits! Nature reserve...It is great that your Son is coming to visit you, have a great reunion and enjoy the time together😊
Hi Mark the best of luck to you and your son
Thank you Thomas :-)
It's definitely not luck Marc.....it's your choices and lots of hard work. So pleased your son is coming to stay with you you'll have a fantastic time together. The past really should stay there always look forward no good comes from looking backwards. 😊
You work hard at your home, you deserve what you have..live it and love it :-)
I call the 'negative commenters' the keyboard cowards. Let's be honest here, how can you have respect for someone who won't say anything to your face and yet is so opinionated behind a 'screen'. Just keep blocking them Mark, and move on. Pleased your son is coming to France. ❤. Have a good time together 😊
Mark I still suffer pain as a result of what happened to both me and my children but life had to go on forty years ago I divorced him sometimes I am so glad I am so free from the Rat
So glad your son is coming over to visit you in France. About putting others first, I am a nurse, and that is simply part of our makeup. But, as a young child, we are self-centered. The rest, I am assuming normal progression of life. There's always those who never progress beyond the self-centered part. Then we learn empathy and treating others as we want to be treated. Then, we start putting the needs of others before ourselves. Especially if we have children , since they are dependent upon us to survive. After a point, they don't need us so much, one hopes, and we can start dusting off our dreams and care less about what others think.
Putting others first is necessary to have a decent society in which people help out each other, strengthening social bonds by doing so. That's probably the reason so many religions and some philosophies argue in favour of altruism. Of course, there's two important things to remember - the process is reciprocal, so you do favours for me, putting me first, and I do favours for you, putting your first. And secondly, like with so many things, don't go to extremes - of course you take care of your own needs too!
It's great that your son will be able to visit.
Well said!👍💯
You are very lucky to live there indeed,and it was made for you,or you made for it,with you're love of gardening, and the wildlife, its perfect,we only need a few rooms to live in,you can keep your mansions. Really glad your son is coming to you,as you can now share your life properly. As for putting people before ones self,that's me all over. A few years ago I was in a very dark place,and I mean dark, and one I say I took 3 orc4 overdoses, then you get just how dark. And I was continually being told by my mental health team,to start putting myself first,but if was hard as I felt selfish,but no its not,you can still be kind to others ,but what use are we to others if not in a good state ourselves. So now 4 years on,I'm doing that,still putting people first but thinking first. But it's an odd one for sure. Love your bunny,one of my favourite animals,if you get a hare ill be well jealous, they are my favourite wild animal. We had that rain in Keng last night,its now sunny. ❤
During the pandemic, I used to listen to a podcast about setting boundaries. Now that I practice that, it helps me prioritize and help others without sacrificing myself. So glad your son is coming to France so there is a fresh start for your relationship in a new environment. ❤️
I know how you feel, you sort of feel you are in a limbo, I have a similar situation like you though for 12 years no contact with two of my children who broke all contact with me, my husband and their siblings.I often wonder if they decide to come back to the fold how would we handle it. I am so happy your son is flying over to you Marc. Enjoy and I pray it all goes well.
I'm sure you guys will have a wonderful time together. 😊
That’s one big rabbit 😂
I think we do think are we worthy or do we deserve things. But I am not sure if deserve or worthy has anything to do with it. Because there are people all over the world who deserves a good life yet suffer. We all have a story to tell . We just have to live in the present as much as possible and try to live our best life ❤️. Well thats as much as I have learned at 53 and believe me that changes every day . The more I know the less know 😂. Hey have a great life ❤
Bugs Bunny so sweet to share.
Ps ….so pleased your son is going to visit
I think for myself I grew up as a people pleaser and that's hard to shake off, I always knew everyone else was more important, I'm getting a little more selfish :-)
Do you think that your son might fall in love with your home and think about a life change ? One never knows. After all it looks amazing and I am sure he follows you on your channel 🤗
In Eastern spirituality, there is the concept of karma. So what is happening for you according to this is... your good karma is what you are experiencing...simply the results of your good deeds...past lives and present. By taking care of your land and house and expressing gratitude, you continue to create more good karma. As for being perfectionist that you have mentioned before...check out the Japanese concept of wabi-sabi. Your hydrangea loves a half day of sun and lots of water ...so keep it hydrated especially when the weather gets really hot...check now to remove any dead stems. As for putting others first, check out the Meyers-Briggs personality test ...you may be an INFJ: ...helping others often putting their needs firs, enjoying & needing time alone, has a hard time making decisions because they need to weigh all the options..et al. Your son's visit is just what you need to make some needed decisions...he is the impetus. Check out your wildlife preserve for some good compost. There is conservation land across the road from my house and there is lots of great compost from decaying leaves et al.
INTJ probably :-)
Glad you sorted out your son Marc I am sure it will be fine. Yep I think thats is called a circle of life you put people first to help them in way one or another to make sure they can be happy but sometimes it can you feel like you have missed out and are second in the line.. Your nature reserve is looking like just what you intended it for😘
Hi Mark, you were interested in why people watch your videos ? Well I watch because I'm 55, nearly 56 and always thought I would love to be living in France in my later years. I don't have an EU passport, my wife does, so since Brexit, I'm basically screwed, 😢. However, I'm spend my weekends and spare time maintaining my property and mostly gardening, listening to the birds and trying to improve and tidy the outside space, I live in Suffolk in a lovely town,with my wife and four children, 3 grown up, 2 of them still live at home and I have a 13:year old too, your videos are great,some similarity for me in terms of how we think as older men, love to here your thoughts as you work and watch your efforts to improve things. We're all on a budget, whatever it is there are constraints and we have to think, research and decide, sometimes put off and sometimes just accept that it can't be done. As mentioned we potter to get things done and there's always something to do, I love watching you potter, here your thoughts and identity with your process and seeing little things progress is so satisfying, your videos, vlogs offer some escapism for me, in terms of that life in France but ultimately I dentist with your views on life and approach to stuff that needs doing. As you would say I haven't explained this very well 😂 your vlogs are just interesting and funny offering a taste of the outdoors even when it's chucking it down, good luck and keep on pushing forward, a little at a time, pottering is the best way, if you get fed up with one thing, tackle something else, then go back and finish.all the best for now Simon.
Just knowing that you need to move on is huge progress.Gardens looking fantastic.I live further south than you and I have to grow hydrangeas in pots and must water them everyday in the summer,the clue is in the name hydra ,water.Take care
I hope having your son visit you turns out to be a positive experience for both of you!
We are having a mole invasion as well. I think they're heading west. I wish they'd move on a bit faster.
Don’t film but a smiling photo of you two together as your thumbnail would be fun to see❤
As u get older u learn to become more selfish this isnt a bad thing more self presevation im sure youll have a wonderfull time with your son youll find plenty to talk about and hell love your house and land just enjoy yourselves❤
garden looka great , its lovley u take pride in it , its all worth it ,yes start thinkin of number 1 /yourself because i know whats its like ,my daughter came n stayed 3 days this week all she did was moan abt how cold my house is , i said its costing 140 quid a month gas bill , electric , ur have to put up with it ,so tough to her ,she treated me awful so im gna let her get on with it , her dog stayed , dog hairs everywhere , as u see i aint got a dog ,shes so ungrateful ark ,so keep ur head up and do stuff for urself
What kind of snakes are native to your area?
Grass snakes mainly, I think there are Adders and Vipers too :-)
First again 😮
Not putting yourself first is classic ADHD and autism traits.
It’s people pleasing.
It’s my downfall!
I make a plan for myself and someone says can you do this for me…
I always put them first