Oh no, you broke your SOBER STREAK?! Now what??? - Asterisk Method (Episode 148)
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Watching your videos are realy helping thank you im in a struggle I go for a bit I I fail because of a stupid excuse and then I realize it and try harder instead of giving up and making more excuses thank you it is a challenge and with all the videos you and everyone is putting out it realy helps
That's why we do what we do, to help you be a better you!
Keep on striving to improve yourself Clinton B. I hope you can find a reason to embrace sobriety consistently.
I fall off too. We can't fail if we keep trying. 💚
You aren’t the only one struggling I stopped drinking for a week and thought what harm can a few beers do
I relapsed for 2 weeks to the extreme. I stopped that train wreck cold Turkey. 1 week of dts I handled on my own. Horrid guilt and shame for breaking down. My therapist told me it took courage to admit it, relapse is part of recovery, and I stopped just short of dying. I am grateful for the experience in that I can be of help to others💝
Sounds very familiar 🤔
THATS WHAT ITS ALL ABOUT!!! Learn how to beat it, and teach others! amen
How's it going Ruben 😇
Congratulations to you Lisa Dempsey. for getting back on track. Keep striving to improve yourself.
@@GettingSoberAgain 💞😘🤗💐
hello Jae As I have said before, the getting back up is more important than the stumble and fall. 92 percent success during a six month stretch is still a big achievement.
I’m 32 days sober. A couple weekends ago I had a celebratory shot at a bachelor party to celebrate with all my friends.. I was disciplined enough to not drink the remainder of the night. It felt like the right thing to do, I did not get drunk and I don’t feel bad about it. I’m not beating myself up.
EDIT: No I’m not recommending this to anyone who is trying to quit drinking. I do however recommend my mindset.
look at you practicing moderation! proud of you 🫂
Congratulations to Dank Jenkins on your extreme restraint. Keep up the good work. Congratulations on 32 days of sobriety.
Sober curious..... went to treatment... loved it... late husband(26 years) was still drinking...I stayed sober... he died of alcoholism a year + after we divorced. He was an amazing human being!!! I couldn't stay. Went through so very much......I am blamed for his death... we were in a cult on top of it....... i woke up.
Stayed sober for a year... was abused bad by new partner.... he got me drinking again.... he encouraged it and it was just nuts.... so with loss of man I loved, loss of everyone I ever knew(harsh complete shunning) and was shunned by everyone I knew, so he could abuse me physically, mentally, sexually and financially...... so I am back in the throws of alcaholism....
Just not so simple
Love your videos!!!!! You are very encouraging and thank you for your work!!
thank you for sharing your story. this is a difficult reality to experience I'm sure, and I am grateful that you are finding value and comfort in our content.
stay in contact, there are certainly others who will relate to your story and benefit from your wisdom!
I am sorry to hear that you have suffered so much from so many angles. I hope you can find some people who will give you friendship, kindness, and good advice.
Sending so much love your way!
You can, and will, get through this. Alcohol doesn't help with healing. Stay curious! 🥰
I was in a similar situation as you and alcohol seemed to be the only thing that helped. Or so I thought. It took awhile but I finally made up my mind one day that enough was enough and that my health mattered. Long story short, I stopped drinking. (Only 6 short months ago) with the help of my doctors. I always say that if I can do it, anyone can do it. Because, I'm telling ya, that drink was glued to my hand! Day and night. I am currently in counseling, which has helped a lot. But being sober has really cleared my mind and it's easier to manage my emotions/triggers. Keep watching these videos, attend the livestreams, we are a very supportive community. I would also suggest reaching out to a doctor or counselor when you are ready. It has literally changed my life. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! And we are here for you!!
This is why I love this channel so much. Giving myself the permission to be kind to myself and keep going on this journey rather than beating myself up about it and starting it all over again? Such a relief! After a week of bullsh*t that culminated into the day from hell, I just couldn't stop dwelling and gave in. I was fully aware the whole time and even ended up pouring a lot of it down the drain towards the end of the evening. I knew it wasn't going to give me the relief I wanted, and (lo and behold!) it didn't. The asterisk will just be further confirmation to myself that drinking alcohol didn't work in dealing with my stress and not to even consider it in the future as an option. 38* days, onwards and upwards.
I'm happy you learned from the experience and have a further commitment to your sobriety journey 😎
No. No. No. No. No.
Just messing. I'm early in this adventure but wonder how we can find a better measure.
I was dropping 15 to 20 beers every night. I've had 1 asterisk, data point for my fellow Annie Grace folks.
It seems we focus so hard to break our habits/cycles we get crushed when we find we're human. That's not a license to revert back to our stupid days. The goal isn't perfection; it is mastery and health.
Hope all y'all are well and hopefully
73 and God bless
Good for you! *"If at first you don't succeed, beat yourself to a pulp!"* is not the 11th Commandment!👍😇
The human condition is such a wild and contradictory ride :)
now that's rich!
I had a day from hell with lawyers and accountants, two boards of directors and a lot of the stress that triggers me. I smoked a little pot. Zero condemnation for myself. I made it. It has been days like that that triggered me into a binge from hell on alcohol and drugs... I jokingly said that day should have counted as 6 more months, I got through it and was coherent and present through the whole experience. I am proud of myself for not having a drink or even a major hissy fit :-)
"It's times like these, we learn to live again" - Foo Fighters
Congratulations to Robbie Felix for resisting the temptation to take a vacation from reality and get lost in a chemical fog. Keep up the good work. You faced your frustrations head on and did not lose your composure. You should give yourself a big congratulations for facing your problems head on without flinching.
That is a huge accomplishment! Way to go!
HUGE win!
This is absolutely correct.
Sobriety is a journey and you have to keep practicing. If you slip up and drink, just keep going.
What has helped me was keeping a wall calendar and a pack of gold stars. Every day I didn’t drink, I put a gold star on the calendar. And every day I did drink, I’d write the number of drinks I had that day in red on the calendar.
Instead of perfection, the goal became to have more gold stars than red numbers. Each month the amount of gold stars increases. My whole calendar used to be more red numbers than a stock market crash.
Point being, it’s about gradual improvement and accepting failure while you keep going. Holding yourself to a standard of perfection will only cause you anxiety. Track your behaviors, it will help you hold yourself accountable for your gradual improvement.
It's like life came back around full circle! I remember the kindergarten teacher using the same good star method and it totally worked then and totally works now.
rewiring and building new associations is the name of the game!
Can't do it. When I relapse I restart the clock, but I fully understand why someone would want to put an asterisk. It's not a fail or step backward. It's learning and growing. There's no failure in that
no failure indeed! just learning experiences :)
Im trying to stop at least for a week 🤦🏻♀️
That's great to hear! what's your plan of attack? How are you scheduling out your days to make sure that you stay busy and to keep your mind off of alcohol in the toxic people, places, and things that might tempt you or make you want to cave during that very precious week?
Congratulations on being willing to experiment with being sober RebK. Keep striving to improve yourself
Asterisk method is a great way to keep your momentum going!!!! Great video. So helpful!!
Heck no I stumbled at first but I prevailed victorious.., You can too👍💪
You can do it!
I have been “flirting “ with an idea of quitting Alcohol before, but thinking there is only one way - To join AA group. I value my time as much as my health and going to frequent meetings would be super annoying. Most of all I don’t like the idea of starting from the beginning- mentally very discouraging !!! Not that I want to drink ever again but … who does have that confidence to say “I won’t make mistake again “ ???!!!! And If it happens, seems to me not fair that all the previous hard work doesn’t count… just because of one beer !!! The ASTERISK METHOD seems to me more human and actually it was THIS video what made me decide to START my sobriety !!!
YAAAAAAAAAAASSSSS!!!!!! Let's DO this, HUMAN STYLE!!
I agree completely. And people in AA wonder so much why people who have years of sobriety go on month long benders when they relapse with only a couple drinks. It's because of the guilt and shame of having to tell their group that they need to reset their time. They figure, if I have to reset it anyway, I may as well have some fun for a couple months first. Then they fall deeper into the pit.
I drank 8-12 cans of beer per night for over a decade. On Day 151 sober now. I agree with the asterisk approach because if I slipped up and had a beer today, it doesn't erase 151 days of progress. Onward and forward!
🎯ONWARD AND UPWARD!!! Day 152 here we come!!!!
Forty two days and no asterisks - *BUT!* I've learned not to make the 'count' the be all and end all as perfectionism is a thankless taskmaster & fails to take account of our human frailty & weakness that got us here in the first place - and that's ok! Perfectionism has been the single biggest cause of overwhelming paralysis & a punitive attitude toward myself that just doesn't help me cope with life, so I've put the Big Stick down and am trying to learn from my mistakes - a lot like how I'd raise a child - *with kindness & compassion!* Thanks for another thoughtful vid Jae and love & hugs to all who are on this journey!🤗🥰👍🏴
42 days is amazing! Congratulations ! Passion and kindness. You are correct!
Let's prove to our inner child that weed and turn out so bad after all🙂
You are correct Carol D that it is time to put down the Big Stick of punishment and be compassionate to yourself.
@@gwillis01 👍😇
Congrats on 42 days, Carol! That is a huge accomplishment!
@@lisaquick1196 Thank you Lisa!👍😇
I drank a bottle of wine a day for about 6 years. I tried many times to stop lol…yeah. I was coping. Life sucked as I knew it. I thought everything sucked and I hated everything and everyone including myself. I put on 60 pounds, looked awful and felt about 2000 years old. Can anyone relate? 😊
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10 weeks, then a few beers. Threw out the remaining ones, and poured out a full one after the first sip. This video was much needed, thank you
Today is day 289. i made a solid one year no drinking commitment and I’m gonna see it thru. Where the road goes after that, we’ll see, but it definitely will be better than the roads I’ve traveled on in the past. Thanks Jae. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for being our favorite sober Outlaw! Good luck with THIS one...authorities 🤣
@@GettingSoberAgain 😆😆😆
Hello Brando AKA Outlaw Keep the positive momentum going! Keep striving to improve yourself Outlaw
Keep pointing yourself in the direction of sobriety. Keep striving to improve yourself.
Align with our higher purpose :)
I got sober this year but I've found myself awakening from a dream into a kind of nightmare, I'm not sure how others dealt with this but I'm sure this will be a familiar story for many of you, I got sober and awakened to find id lost everything, which is to say everyone had gone, everyone important, every reason to just keep drinking because I drank everyone away, the ultimate blues album in the flesh, how the hell do you start a new life knowing full well you wrecked the old one? people got emotionally hurt watching me do this to myself (not physically) but it seems my destruction of me proved too much, cant change things, prob just walk away is best maybe?
Hey Jayde! this is in fact a very relatable comment in that most of us feel a sense of loneliness and depending on your environment and/or how you were raised, maybe also to a sense of abandonment.
I always suggest people in early sobriety that If they can afford to, to sign up for therapy. It's nice to have a professional rather than a friend or relative who sees you for who you currently are keeping in mind where you came from and what your goals are and to help to give you the tools that you may be missing moving forward.
We always talk about in our episodes in our live streams about repairing the damage to our bruised egos, our tarnished reputation and integrity. It is a fact that if we've made mistakes that it is our responsibility to mend what we can, how we can when we can.
That's not to say that once you're a week sober or a month sober you go out and tell everybody that you're changed person because it does in fact still matter That's the people who were affected most by our previous behaviors. still hold and reserve the right to feel how they feel about you and or what was done in the past.
just like job performance, or school performance, we may flunk some quizzes, tests, or even grades, but we do get the opportunity to revisit similar tests in life and to ace them the next time around.
You see everyone's not gone, Because you are in fact still here. And everyday that you are blessed with another opportunity to make better decisions instead of worst decisions. you get another opportunity to create and manifest the future that you believe that you deserve.
And it will come one minute at a time, one day at a time, one month, one year, etc.
It takes a lifetime to gain the trust of a person and only one second to lose it.
and take you 30 years to get sober for one week, but only one drink to lose yourself to alcohol... Again.
I for one am happy that you reached out. And if you had to start somewhere, one person at a time, well you've got a pretty good ally in me.
stay blessed. keep your head up. know that you are not alone. We are all spread out around the country and around the globe. And you wouldn't be the only person in this community who has had similar thoughts of simply relocating. If you genuinely believe that you've burned enough bridges and there's just too much damage done and you're genuinely sincere about your sobriety and becoming a better person, then it sounds like a fantastic idea to give yourself a fresh start and a fresh place 💪🏽
think of it perhaps as a moral bankruptcy. I know from having gone through a financial bankruptcy that there is definitely life afterwards. I filed for bankruptcy 11 years ago, and it's since fallen off my record and now my credit is finally excellent. But it took going through that bankruptcy for me to appreciate and respect my past self, to honor the efforts that I had gone through to not disrespect my past self by throwing away money in the presence or in the future.
I'm certain that as you continue to make better friends, and establish healthier relationships, you will be eternally grateful for these new beginnings 🙏🏼
16 days sober. I averaged 5 units daily and 8 units on weekends.
It all adds up!
That is a very good topic!👏
I had been meaning to make this episode for such a long time and kept forgetting :)
You have an AMAZING channel, sir. 12 days and going strong after 20+ years.
Thanks bro! There's a new video today btw, check it out!
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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I’ve been writing down your count videos. Like the “14 tips” and “22 signs” and what not.
You’re totally awesome and have hit every damn nail on the head!!
🙏🏽🚫🍺🍻
Gosh, Jae, this was so timely. I had 7 days sober, was using all kinds of tools to manage my stress, and except for day 1, it's been pretty easy. Until today. Stress built, my tools weren't working, and once the thought came in my head that a drink would work, I don't think anyone could have talked me out of it. Had 2. Now I'm afraid that I'm right back on the damn bandwagon
I'm so tired of drinking, and trying to quit. 15 years on this merry go round.
2 asterisks in 6 months is still about 99% SUCCESS! that's how I like to look at it.
I meant to comment, not reply to myself! 😅 goes to show where 2 drinks gets me!
Love this ❤ 100% agree with everything you said Jae. Your * method, (No judgment sobriety) has literally helped me more than 30 years of the starting at 0 plan.
I always like when you go over this subject and this episode just layed it all out, short & sweet. BE KIND TO YOURSELF & PRACTICE POSITIVITY! Best episode ever IMHO.💜💜💜
I knew you would like this one 😻
I’m so upset, I made it almost 50 days and had 10 beers last night. It really bothers me. This video helped tremendously. But I wish I wouldn’t have caved. And it wasn’t even worth it, I didn’t have as much fun as I thought I’d haved while borderline drunk
10?!? lol, those 10 just came out of nowhere and ganged up on you it sounds like!
anyway, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, saddle up and pickup where you left tomorrow.
no sense in getting down on yourself and playing the victim.
write a list of 5 things you learned from your sobriety detour. keep it on your desk, in your car, next to your bed or wherever to remind yourself of what not to do next time!
message me back when you get that next 24 hours sober in the BANK!
Thanks
No problem!! Happy to hear from you again 😀😀😀
Thank you!!! 🫶
No problem!! I'm glad that you're here :)
Hey Jae, to my shame I was drinking 2 liters of Vodka and orange a week....the start of being sober was hard, very hard........it felt like being hit but a car, everything ached BUT.....here I am 335 day sober..........and feeling good.
Thanks for your videos, the common sense approach to staying away from the booze !!!
How long can I keep going........one day at a time.
Keep safe and well (and sober)
THIS IS AWESOME!!!! You are really doing it my guy!!! Make sure you go to our website and fill out the sober signup form so that we can keep track of your upcoming sober milestone
Keep the positive momentum going Dave!! Keep on striving to improve yourself Dave
I came here beating myself up for breaking my streak. I went from having nearly 8oz vodka a day to 5months sober with 2 asteriks - i felt that these 2 slip ups nullified my entire effort. This video was really helpful in keeping me from falling off. Thank you ♡
That's what we aim to achieve! thank you for staying true to yourself and staying on course :)
You’re so right, Jae. The key is indeed to be kind to oneself. Even after a slip, one does not start from scratch - I am fairly new on my sobriety journey and was 57 proud days in, when I had a short relapse period lasting a few weeks…the first few days it was just a few beers, but I eventually found myself right back in the hellhole doing half a bottle of vodka + some wine + some beers daily again. So … I found my way back to the sober path 10 days ago, and discovered your channel. Your philosophy and look on life has really helped me out.
AND … I do not start from scratch - I learned a lot during my slip; like, why did I slip, why did that slip last so long, where did those initial few beers take me (right back in the hellhole), what was the situation I put myself in to provoke that slip - all important lessons regarding what I need to be careful about on my continuing journey.
So, long story short, there are lessons to be learned even from a slip.
Got your email 😁
There will always be lessons to learn, otherwise you're just a victim of a lack of awareness. Keep moving forward!
No judgment society!!! Yeaaaa!!
You guessed it!
I'm so glad I came across this beautifully said video.I was beating myself for drinking this past weekend thinking I would have to start over. My bf was feeding me negative words for my drinking thinking my Sobriety was over and i would have to stay from the beginning. But watching your video made me feel so much better about myself and how far I have come. Thank you.
It's easy to feel bad, it takes work to truly feel good! I'm happy you came across this video!
Is this the first one you've seen?
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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i was not struggling at all until i broke my nearly 4 years of sobriety which makes me wonder if i was already struggling but in denial of it, when i came clean about it and got honest with everyone i felt like shit instead of feeling like a weight was lifted... im somebody who needs to be kind to herself.
It's natural to feel that way when we already knew better. It's simply an exercise in self compassion, of which most of us are out of shape.
There's no sense beating yourself up over it. Learn from the takeaways of your sobriety detour. Strengthen your resolve and put the temporary detour behind you.
Your road to your best is in front of you, not in the rearview mirror
I'm here after over 100 days sober . Got redirected from our friends here . Honestly don't think 100 plus days is the end keep going
KEEP GOING 💪💪💪
No judgement sobriety. I love that because we don't need to be judged, we need support. And the asterisk is a good way to keep a positive mindset. When I first quit drinking over a year ago I thought I was going to drink when I went on vacation but I didn't but if I did that would have been a good time to use the asterisk. But I want to mention too that right from the beginning of my sobriety I new I needed a good support system so I'm always vocal about this. a good support system gives you layers of back up if your feeling like having a drink. things to include in a support system are family that you can talk to about drinking, meditation, joining a sobriey group such as AA or groups on line like gettingsober...again. I'm sure there are other groups on line but I like this one ;) friends that don't drink are always good to be around and to talk to; even carrying a prized possession around with you like a crystal or a collectable coin thats special to you. Something you can dedicate to your sobriety and hold on to when needed. Another thing to add to a support system is routine. What did you do when you drank, find something different to do that would change your routine in a way that it would keep you away from drinking like keeping busy with projects you need to get done but never did because you were always drinking. Maybe you always wanted to take music lessons. Get creative. The more things you can put in your support system the more it can strengthen your willpower and sober mindset. Hope this helps and this was a really great video Jae!!! One last thing. If you do break your sobriety don't sweat it. use the asterisk and carry on like Jae says in the video because life is about learning and some times learning what works and what doesn't work. Learn and grow spiritually is a god given right. That's why we're here ;). Sorry I ranted Jae lol!!!
Please "rant" on every video Chuck! lol
This community can ALWAYS use more unique perspectives, especially ones that are speaking the truth!
I have a drink every now and then just to be reminded that it doesn’t have that spark that it did when I started. Keep up the good work 👍
ooOOOooh lala, does tight rope walking run in the family? 🤣 you're a brave one 💪🏽
@@GettingSoberAgain my life is definitely a circus 🎪🤣
@@citiessportsbar6475 🤣🎪
Be careful Cities Sports Bar. That's as risky as trying to lick honey off a flat knife blade without cutting your tongue. Be careful you don't do it too often.
@@gwillis01 absolutely right 🙏
Had an *on day 4 of sobriety and I’m upset with myself as it’s Saturday evening and i said to myself, I’ll go from 7 nights a week, down to 2, a Friday and Saturday night and I’ll see how that goes after 5 straight years of drinking every night. -Bob
Sounds like an opportunity to recap the video 😀:
Find the silver lining.
Practice positivity.
Don't quit.
Keep moving forward.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF 🙏🏼
@@GettingSoberAgain Absolutely. Thanks for all you do. Much appreciated.
Keep up the good work Weather Bob! Keep on striving to improve yourself Bob
Keep up the great work! Always stoked to see a new episode. Hope y'all are doing well!
Thanks Brandon! how's life treating you?
Hi Jae. Many thanks. It’s Paulie in Japan. I totally agree with this method. To simply erase previous sober days is absolute madness. I’m actually 2 weeks away from 6 months now. In my case, I also did 3 months from October last year. So that’s almost 9 months in total during a one year period. I did cave in around January and drank often for almost two months.
Despite this, if I continue I’ll slam dunk 10 months sober in one year which is nothing short of a miracle for me.
Anyways, love this approach. Progress not perfection. Anyways Jae many any thanks. Gonna go surf now. Ttys. Paulie.
Change one thing,
Change everything………………….
What a dope message! I am happy to hear from you Paulie... We don't have many friends in Japan yet! 10 months out of 12 sounds like a passing score to me, so lets keep practicing positivity, catching waves, and no karoshi!!!
What's your story in Japan btw? Born, work, relationship, other? What do you do out there other than surf? I've never been and surely want to visit
@@GettingSoberAgain hey the Jae. Many thanks for your kind reply. It’s great we are making progress with AF lifestyle. Videos also appreciated and inspiring.
I came to Japan about 20 years ago now. Originally from UK. I have a Japanese wife, n house here just 1 kilometer from the ocean. Hence, surfing everyday. My wife has her own ballet studio and we work that. I also have some English lessons on the side ( not surprisingly haha. ). If u ever make it over I’ll try to help u out. It’s a fascinating country. The only downside is that they are heavy drinkers here ( which was fun for a while ) but they have no “back up” for when the drinking becomes an issue. Rehabilitation centers are far and few between. People often ignore the fact that someone might have a drinking problem. Heavy drinking is seen a “macho” to some extent. Luckily through sheer determination I’ve managed to get beyond the worst of my addiction on my own. And believe me it was soooo hard. I was really hooked for decades ( albeit functional and very very active - always doing various sports etc ). I’ve also had the habit of drinking at least 3 liters of water every day for years n years now. Those two habits may have helped ameliorate the damage to some extent. I certainly hope so. However, my reliance was real and growing. I was COMPLETELY owned by alcohol and felt quite desperate. To some extent “Hello Sunday Morning “ app did give me some support so I haven’t done this completely isolated. Ideally, after a year sober I’d like to be able to have the occasional drink at special occasions only. I realize how dangerous this may be. But I might give it a try someday. For now I’m focused. I’m sure never to forget how alcohol raped me of my freedom, mental and physical health, money, confidence and mental clarity. To only mention the tip of the iceberg- as you well know. Despite my obsession with getting MUNTED I feel I have to some extent proven that A.A is not the necessary direction for everyone. And for that reason I fully support your program, ideology, and approach. For that my friend, I applaud you. Many, many, many thanks. Paulie in Japan
Hello Tony. Keep the positive momentum going! Keep striving to improve yourself
12-13 beers a day with 2-3 shots of Jager added in....I did a modified 10-1 method (did 14-1 and got down to the 4 drink day mark) and then went a couple days with nothing.....now I am averaging 8 beers with a day off here and there....I never realized how hard it would be to change literally 25 years of habit.....I have only watched a few of your videos so far but they are helping me change my mindset....also this is the first time I have ever admitted to how much I drink....I realize this is something I want but I know its going to be a long road.....Like you said in another video you don't show up to marathon without months of training.....that quote has completely changed how I think about this.....thank you for letting me speak here.
Thank you for admitting to drinking Jager lol I didn't know people did it voluntarily 🫡😉
@@GettingSoberAgain well it’s what I started on back when I turned 21….I do believe I am the only one where I live that drinks it lol
I love this concept! I like to think about it in terms of percentage: Say you are sober for 30 days, then drink on 1 day, and then are sober for the next 19 = only having slipped up on 2% of the last 50 days. Now that's doing well in my book!
Positive thinking for the win!
This is a great way of looking at it Jae. Thank you. For me, yesterday was not explicitly about wanting a drink, it was needing a release after a long time of living month to month, so my wife getting her job was a massive weight off our shoulders. Anyway, I love the idea of the *, because I can still ultimately say I quit drinking on May 30th, in the sense that drinking was a chronic issue. The key will be to keep the streak going as long as I can. Hell, if it means I can actually regulate myself that would be a huge W. As always, thank you for putting your videos up Jae and being so active in replying to people. I am writing this with a big fat smile 😊
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Day 100🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 cant believe it! Thank you for being a huge help along my journey! God...my previous intake was ummmm average 12 to 18 units a day probably. I was def topping the late 70s 80s 90s in units weekly. God ive not actually said that aloud before. Yeh i was in a right s****y place. Hanging on by im not sure what, barely able to do my job or teach my classes on the side. What a change. It took a number of goes the past 11 years and failing as couldnt do the AA thing, but I just knew this time I was ready, I was prepared (😊), and Id found the right support systems in groups like you have. Life is legitimately mine! Im not a fraud anymore and can look my own self back in the eye and at last be proud. Thank u again for your fab channel ❤❤
Woah this is great news!! May I share your comment with the community??
@@GettingSoberAgain oh gosh yes of course!!! 🙂 yay famous and alc FREEEEEE!
Just made a list of Pros and Cons of Alcohol and DAMN! The Cons def. wiped out the pros. lol
August 14th is my 1 year sober date! 💪😎
NICE WORK!!!! Make sure you fill out the sober celebration form so we can celebrate your milestone: www.gettingsoberagain.com/sober-signup
Keep up the good work Timbo. Keep striving to improve yourself
Glass of whisky a night but not the small movie portion lol so I’m guessing 10 units as well
Thank you...I like the "asterisk" method - you're accountable but not shamed ('m hard enough on myself on a good day). The "all or nothing" approach to any program is unrealistic. That a person could be long term sober from any addiction, relapse one time and all the previous work is erased; just doesn't seem quite right. Yes, it would be great if there aren't any relapses or "cheats" but that isn't how life works.
You said it! The goal with sobriety is to get to a place that you don't want to drink and that you don't crave alcohol.
most people have a very hard time reintroducing alcohol because they end up finding themselves daily. drinking again for 6 months or a year or longer and find themselves having to get sober... Again.
through my own experimentation, this is been the case, and I'm confident now that I could drink if I wanted to without becoming a daily binge drinker, but I still know that it's in my best interest not to drink and it doesn't really help in any way.
I love my life now and the last thing I want to do is numb myself, time, travel, and waste time!
We are all terribly hard on ourselves which is a reason why a relapse can be so devastating because the guilt and shame can be horribly overwhelming.
I relasped for a weekend FOMO which after two drinks i realised i was not actually missing out on anything but that did not sop me drinking all night then all weekend back on the wagon now and 10 days sober and feeling good again sober.
What are the 5 takeaways you learned from that experience?
1 day of Drinking is equals = 10 days of liver recovery
Results vary from person to person =)
Here is more information for anyone looking to find out more!
www.aspenridgerecoverycenters.com/abstain-from-alcohol-to-repair-liver/
Thank you Jae for all you do on this channel! I stumbled across you a week ago and am on day 3 today 💗
The live yesterday really helped. Feeling hopeful, supported and grateful! Many thanks!! 🙏
I'm super happy to hear from you! Thank you for staying in contact...
When the going gets tough, a lot of people get going. I want you to practice positivity, be kind to yourself, and keep moving forward despite how uncomfortable, or doubtful you may become.
My favorite thing to do in early sobriety was NAP! We need to recover right? There is no shortage of ways that we can heal our body, but remember, you've been poisoned for years on end. POISONED. Your body needs time to heal. Go to bed early, wake up late if you have to, nap 3 times if your body needs it.
Do what you must to get thru these early days SOBER.
And don't forget to comment each day on a new video to keep me updated on your progress. I WILL RESPOND ❤️
@@GettingSoberAgain thank you so much! Will do! 🙌
Keep the positive momentum going Erika!! Keep striving to improve yourself Erika
I'm 2 days sober and just got fired from my job. I really need a drink!
How'd that go?
@GettingSoberAgain 11 days sober. Not craving it at all. Feeling good!
@@MyWellnessJourney1 LETS GOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! 💪💪💪💪💪
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Thank you for your compassion
Working on it 🥰
You do awesome videos! Definitely sober curious and love when you hit the nail on the head with thoughts/experiences.
Well aren't you just the jam in my donut
Hi jae im back trying to stay sober...again, sorry for the pun i couldnt resist 😏😀 good video, we got this 💪
Ahoy matey! Good to have you back on the Sober ship 🚢
@@GettingSoberAgain good to be back 🤙
thnak you!! thats all I have to say
Thank you 😊 !
What's going on!! great to hear from you :)
Great episode !
I'm really glad that you liked it because it was very fun to make and a very helpful topic in my humble opinion :)
Thank you for another great video. Much love. Day ZERO got me 😂
THUD!!! 🤣
Keep striving to improve yourself BaconFrancis. The getting back up is more important than the stumble.
I was drinking every day anywhere from 4-10units. Im on day 6.5 now sober.. It was a habit .
Thank you for sharing this very helpful
I drank a fifth a day 750ml at least....I'm 16 days in and so far no asterisks. But this is definitely not my first attempt.
That's why the channel is named "Getting Sober...AGAIN". It takes practice, patience and PERSISTENCE !
Unfortunately, AA seems to diminish motivation in large numbers because of the unforgiving nature 😕
That's what I keep hearing 🥴
270days-1 ....it was one puff of cannibas and felt awful
Thank you for what you put out. This is powerful information
Glad you enjoyed it!
These videos are great, different 👌 👏 🙌
Thanks Andrea! We always love to hear your feedback to help us make better content 🙏🏼👍🏼😎
Great content man! Appreciate you bro
ayyy I appreciate you practicing positivity this morning!!
Hello Cee Dub Congratulations on finding our lovely community
Great stuff❤❤
Gee whizz I use to drink about a 30 case of beer a night . Some clean time I have had many * … again still fighting never staying down also I don’t like to count days anymore gives some anxiety
One day you will stop, pause and think to yourself "man, it's been awhile since I drank or had a craving!". And the rest will be history!
Thank you Jae
@@chuygomez9500 my pleasure my guy!
Keep up the good work Chuy. Keep striving to improve yourself
Another way to possibly think of it to put it in perspective is the average number of drinks per day over a given period of time.
If you drink 0 drinks over 364 days of a year and slip up and have 1 on one day, that's an average of 0.0027 drinks per day instead of 0.0000
It's not an excuse to drink, just another way of looking at what would be an imperfect but otherwise very successful year of not drinking by anyone's standard.
We are all perfectly imperfect! Great way to reframe the mind!
About 12 beers or More daily🚫, great * method ‼️
Forgiveness = Progress
I want to get an Asterix now too 😂. But no… not for no reason…
Hahahaha 🤣 NOOOO!
@@GettingSoberAgain maybe it should have a less nice name 😂. Its possibly not known in the US, but where I come from Asterix is a
Famous Cartoon hero (I am a german, living in sweden btw) so it sounds a bit like a reward 🤣 like that smiley sticker we got in primary school for xtra good work 😝🤣🤣
4-6 units every night. now none for 28days,
WHAT AN IMPROVEMENT!!!
I had 12 days and I blew it. 🥺
Staying down or getting back up?
35 days sober i had my first drink don’t really know how i feel about it
Well, tell us. How do you feel?
14 to 20 units
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Had to stop this video because you can't say "asterisk" correctly 😂😂😂
I wonder what other excuses in life you let get in the way of the blessings that were on your way 🤷🏻 oh well
2-3 1.5lr wine at least 😮🫢