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Seeing all sides? Oh yes! It is so overwhelming to be a type 9 in the world right now, with all of the conflict and disagreement in this political atmosphere. From opinions on the pandemic - to the presidency- to race relations- I find myself getting emotional randomly throughout the day because of the unrest.
Because of that, I was really good at writing persuasive essays in school. I even wrote a persuasive essay to my parents to let me get Assassin's Creed (1) because they weren't letting me. They let me get it after that.
As a 9 I don't do everything to avoid conflict, and I'm not terrified of it. I think it's more that I will go to great lengths to preserve my peace, and that i need to be really passionate about something to take the energy to be aggressive. If something goes against my value system, or someone threatens my physical or mental comfort I definitely will engage with my anger and get upset or defensive. I think sometimes in these videos about type 9s they overlook type 9w8 because they're less common. Everything else you talked about I definitely relate to though.
I also think this has a lot to do with the level of health that you are. You sound like a healthier 9. I am a 9w8 and I understand what you are talking about and agree a lot of times the teachings are more about the 9w1. Thanks for sharing your wisdom of being a 9.
@@enneagramandcoaching that's a good point, I think there were definitely times in my past where I was more of a pushover. I can see how it would be related to our type even if it's not a trait I feel like I currently display.
Wow, I love the language you used here. I’ve been back and forth between different numbers because I don’t avoid conflict either and it doesn’t scare me. I’ve even been watching/listening to things tonight to see if I might be a 6 instead. 😅 But a friend once called me a peacemaker, and what you mentioned about going to great lengths to preserve your peace really resonated with me. I can relate to almost everything about a Type 9 except for being conflict avoidant. I also relate a little with both w8 and w1, but heard someone once say if your environment is very important to you, it means you lean more strongly toward w1...which does describe my feelings. (Order vs. Chaos) Anyway, Interesting perspective - Thanks for sharing! 😊
To your statement that all nines LOVE being outside, I'd add this caveat--I like the outdoors when it's comfortable. As a self-pres nine I'm SUPER focused on comfort so I often associate the outdoors with being too hot, too cold, too many bugs, and too far from simple pleasures of technology and blankets and cleanliness. Under ideal circumstances, I absolutely love the outdoors, but I'm definitely content to stay inside a lot of the time!
I don’t think 9s have a problem asserting themselves but others have often denied their reality. They have not stopped to actually listen and try to understand their needs. This has trained them to be really cautious about opening up. Or they give up because they have been hurt many times. “Pull yourself up by your bootstraps” advice ends up just being offensive in the end.
I used to think I was a type 4 but the more I look into it, pretty sure I’m a 9. I avoid conflict at all costs. Making decisions is super stressful. I HAVE to do my bed time routine or I can just not sleep well. And I’m the queen of procrastination.
Ok I thought I was a 5, but I resonate so much more with 9! Conflict and confrontation is *the worst* like viscerally. All these are very relatable. Very go with the flow, and I’m very in tune with nature. I relate to the intellectual side of 5, but I relate more to the core motivation of 9.
I get small tasks out of the way so that I have order around me and therefore I have the mental capacity to tackle the larger task. A larger task starts with a systematic approach (usually a list) and I don’t want any frustrations or distractions. When I go in, I go in deep, and for the long haul.
I resonate with tons of stuff in this video! I often have a hard time knowing what I like or what I want to do, but I always know what I DON'T like or DON'T want to do. And it is weird to reconcile being super stubborn with being super go with the flow. Nines are just full of contradictions!
Type 9 here....I need to have my downtime. Part of my routine. I dislike conflict...but if needed I will participate and get it done just to bring the peace again. I will go with the flow. I hate feeling like people dislike what I picked. I always know what I don’t want..but don’t know what I do want sometimes. I love being outside.❤️ minus the bugs biting me. Yessss, biggest things I put off...the simple and fun things get done first. I know I can accomplish those things that are small, and the big things take time and I need to focus. If I have time to focus then I’d do that. I will be quiet in large groups. I’m better one on one. And yes, I can see allllll sides. I understand points of views easier than others. It’s good to put yourself in other peoples shoes.
With the side seeing, I relate so hard too. My mom was soooo PO'd at my sister and wanted to type an apology text (she's a type 2 fyi) and I deleted everything and handed it back to my mom and she was like "wow, this is amazing..." and ever since she's always recommended: "oh, Alyssa's good at apologies! You should ask her what to say!" And its really sweet 😂 I can always see why someone is upset, but I must admit, my oldest sister is the hardest to see through because she always shuts people out when things get hard and never tells why (she's a type 1). My 2nd oldest sister is a type 8 and always struggles with her type 4 husband, because he's the daisy flower of the group, I suppose you could say 😂 he likes things a certain way, and is incredibly moody, which drives everyone nuts! He has depression and anxiety and OCD which has given him a lot of trouble and we're honestly worried about his verbal abuse as their conflicts follow that cycle of conflict, honeymoon period, conflict, honeymoon period, conflict, etc. Sorry that got deep... anyway, then we have my brother who is also a type 9, and will always hide from conflict whenever possible. I believe he's a 9w1 while I'm a 9w8 so I REALLY struggle in conflict. I'm always so angry but I can't bring myself to say half of what I want to say because I'm terrified of them hating me or thinking I'm nuts. I want to be loved, and I want to love, and conflict should always be forgiven so we can learn from each others mistakes. Yup. Oh and as a baby the only thing that kept me happy was being outdoors. Literally cry all day and immediately fall asleep as soon as the wind brushed my cheeks. And procrastination? Then perfectionism? Fire? That's basically my life story when it comes to school 😂 routine? I would die without it. I like to know what is happening what days things are happening
Love my routines! I always thought I was eating the same breakfast all the time because I’m not a morning person and needed the routine to keep from thinking. Weekends throw me off because my routine gets messed up. My husband and I also go through the whole “what do you want to eat?” “I don’t care.” “How about pizza?” “No, I don’t want pizza.” Just about every time we eat. He has finally realized that I really don’t have something in mind to eat and I really am not just trying to make him guess it.
When you said nines like the outdoors because they can get a break from the emotions and opinions of others, that really resonated with me. I love people but they're alot. There's always conflict. I mean I understand why they're upset I just don't always understand why they want to put so much energy toward being so upset.
Hillary, this was great! I relate to so many of these. Regarding routines, I’ve found it’s hard to get myself started with something (exercise, self-care, a set bedtime, etc) but once it feels like a routine, I’m good for the long haul and I don’t feel the need to change anything up.
My husband is a 9w1 he's eaten the same thing for breakfast for 3 years, major procrastinator on things he doesn't like but super thorough on the things he likes, and absolutely hates conflict. Yup!
I resonated SO SO SO hard with every single one of these... like you just described my whole essence. My heart races any time someone makes any form of conflict, and TOTALLY relate to the all-side-seeing, omg, yes......
I think I’ve found a kindred spirit! Loved this video and it definitely resonated with my 9 self! In fact, I was lying to bed in the middle of the day procrastinating when I found it. Now I’m working! Sometimes just validation helps to get us going! ❤️💕
I am a type 9 watching this video while doing laundry and procrastinating a large project. LOL. I'm not sure if it's actually a type 9 thing but it's spot on for me. Personally I procrastinate because I know I want the thing to be perfect and once I start I won't be able to stop.
I'm definitely an INFP enneagram 9w1 sp. One enneagram expert and coach explained/broke down my true enneagram type so well based on my characteristics and traits. I can finally start to learn more about myself and finally grow.
Oof sign 10 hit me hard. I consider myself the "neutral party" in everything. A type four close friend sometimes would rant about things and then I'd be there explaining what the mother would feel or what would the other friends feel and the type 4 would be unamused for not taking their side ahahahh
I love this video. I knew i was 9 but hearing all these things that made me 9 is so awesome.. i love routine, and usually go to bed around 9pm. I hate conflict it makes me feel rotten from within. I usually do not know what to do when asked but when presented with options i know what I don't want to do... I really appreciate this video.
oh my goodness, I can relate to almost all of these. I love being outside reading a good book, and my dream would be a cabin in the woods with a self sustaining garden. I also agree that it is hard for me to enter a conversation because I am second guessing myself and by the time I decide to say something the topic has completely changed. I hate being able to see both sides because I think it's weird often times I know what I think is right but also see another point of view. Last I hate making decisions even like picking my ice cream flavor, before hand I decide to try something new but 9 out of 10 pick the ones I always get. Great video keep up the good work
All of these describe me pretty much exactly with the one exception of the outdoors. I like looking at the outdoors (I love photos of landscapes), and I don't mind taking a walk outside sometimes, but as a general rule the outdoors have too many bugs and too much heat for my tastes lol
I relate so much to almost all of these...except the routine thing. I love being home but I’m too much of a free spirit to have a routine 😂 not sure if any other nines relate??
So glad to read this. Me also 9 but I don't like eating the same foods every day or sleeping at the same time, those kind of routines are not for me at all. I would say I live by my feelings and I need to do what feels right in the moment. Even for example the walk I do often with my dog, it really annoys me that it's always the same. I do have some OCD-related routines like needing to check things before leaving the house and before going to sleep, but that's out of anxiety, not out of enjoying the routine.
There are some routines I like (coffee every morning, sleeping in when I don't have to get up early, watching videos before going to sleep etc) but yes, I don't like to eat the same foods everyday (except cereal often for breakfast) and I do like being a fee spirit and trying different things (if there's a new menu item I will usually have to try it and sometimes I like to go somewhere new just to experience it) so I can relate to both.
@@jessicaclem8013 Ah wow yes, interesting that u bring that up, for some reason I didn't make that connection yet. I'm a type 9 but on the autism spectrum and the more I research the more I have been thinking ADHD is one of my comorbidities. That's probably why! Thanks
I am dizzy from the amount of sense this made! It’s like you explained me better than I ever could! The only thing is that I don’t like the outdoors so much, but I live in Texas so that might be why haha!
the fact that I avoid conflict at all coasts!!! also the other day talking to two different people about the same TV show I told one I liked it and the other that I didn't lol. I see both sides!!!! lol
I'm also a type 9 but im not an outdoor person cause of the.. procrastinating the hard work and I'd rather take a rest in my room after all of the tiring day. but i do really like the nature and hoping i could go there as my self reward! Anw thank you for making this video ❤️
This was such a helpful video! I have been struggling not knowing if I am a 9 or a 6 as my scores were tied, but I am definitely a true 9. I think my anxieties go to a 6, which is what made me think I was mistyping myself. Glad to be a 9!!
Love this! You described me to a “T”. I know without a doubt I’m a Type 9 now. I was watching this video while sitting outside lol!! Confirmation! Nailed it!
It's so painfully difficulty to be the real me, even to myself... i suppress everything out of fear, quite possibly out of consciousness of how people would do in response. i fear my energies and misunderstand even when i am alone.
The 10 is not always a gift. I had a friend back then who had a conflict with our friend group, and because I am talking to her and to the others she thought that I'm a two face person. Although, I wasn't taking any sides, that not taking any sides could unfortunately cause another misunderstanding.
I am a type nine and I am a teacher. This is my strongest form of routine because outside of school I am all over the place but at school we follow the timetable and I understand that my year will be planned out for me. The idea of having a job where I have to self regulate my time throughout the day sounds incredibly stressful and overwhelming. I would simply procrastinate to the ends of the earth and not get anything done (kinda what I am doing now tbh).
The outdoors is calming but not boring. Clutter can be stressful when it reminds me of things I need to do or want to do or whatever. People can be stressful when I'm anxious about keeping the peace and can tell when someone's upset. So sometimes it feels like it's either boring or stressful, but in nature it's full of different things, funny looking trees, different plants... none of which are stressful. I may not even be looking at them, but they're around me and it's different than being indoors. Also sunlight! The sky!
So I'm definitely a type 9 but I'm mixed feelings about routines lol because subconsciously I like them like one of the things I miss about school when I was younger you had structure like this is when you do this and that even though I hated being told what to do but that's my issues with routines the fact it feels like it tells me what to do and I don't have the freedom to choose but I need the choice is easier than choosing it helps give me peace so it's a love hate relationship if that makes sense lol
I've been told my entire life by friends, family, and co-workers that I need to speak up and be more assertive. Especially in government jobs. Also, I usually know what I dont want as well. My husband has learned to give me 2+ options. Over the years I've started becoming resentful of always doing what everyone else wants and have been forcing myself to speak up more when that stubborn streak kicks in and I want to get my way.
I definitely have routines that bring me comfort every day. I try to do the good habits every day so I don't get out of the habit of doing them, even if I am on vacation, because it is SO hard to get started again. I drink coffee and listen to podcasts every morning, even if I have to wake up early to be able to have that slow wake up time in the a.m. I have one or two favorite items off the menu at each restaurant I go to., and will order those every time unless I make myself try something new for the sake of adventure. :)
Hi, just found your videos and I was already pretty sure I'm a 9 but now it's confirmed. A chaotic one though, very stuck atm. Everything resonates except the routines, I don't follow any consciously but I guess I have a lot of habits that could be considered so.
I haven't always had routines, but as I've gotten older I have a morning routine. I turn on the coffee maker, grab my computer, check my on-line banking, check the news, new ancestry matches, Facebook, UA-cam. I do love the outdoors and the one that hits home the most: putting off what really needs to be done. Most of my life I haven't wanted conflict and I couldn't assert myself, but as I've aged, I'm getting more opinionated. One thing I notice: I REALLY want everything to just be easy, so when I find clothes or shoes I like, I buy more than one of the same thing. This also means I'll cook something I like and eat leftovers for 3-4 days. I almost always choose one restaurant and eat the same thing every time I go there.
Being a type 2 I resonate with not liking conflict but for me it's more about being painted as a bad person/ not being liked / being misunderstood. I also like being wanted by others but I don't have to be NEEDED on a one-to-one basis. More in a societal sense. So I do get confused with 3 and 9 sometimes 😅
Took the test. I am a type 9. Omg, this is so me. About the assertiveness; being youngest in my family and only girl my voice wasn’t heard or opinions not cared about. That is something (childhood wounding, I guess) that I still get upset with. I end up being very resentful.
being outside, caring too much about small decisions, not voicing my opinion this is literally me wtf. The only thing is that routines make me feel kind of depressed maybe its just because i live in London
Type 4 and I'm a tea addict 😂 I'm really needing my tea to be comfortable. I can go without breakfast but without tea I'm not ready for the day. Also being barefoot and getting into my nightgown the moment I'm home. I'm safe at home and don't need to feel the "borders" of my body like I need it outside so I slip out of my form-fitting clothes asap. The interesting thing is, I'm very clearly a 4w5 from what I learnt so far, but I really do go strong on the 9, too! 😂 I could relate to many things you listed. It's like a "if I wasn't a 4, I'd be a 9" and being and INFP, it makes a lot of sense to feel a close relation. I really really appreciate your videos. Thank you so much. You're communicating things very well!
So hard to choose just one. EVERY one of these resonated with me... big time! But at this moment I would have to say, #5 Procrastinate and #8 Put off the hard tasks/do easy first, since I am sitting here watching your videos instead of doing taxes. LOL! But hey, I just heard there is a deadline extention. Off to the next video :)
I took one test instead of the type 5 and then I took it more in-depth test and it said I was more than likely to type 9 and I must say most of the things you said in this video resonate with me
You said say things you do everyday, I eat cinnamon toast with my Boston Terrier, Rosie, for breakfast. She has mast cell tumors that came back after surgery and has not had them get much worse since we started eating cinnamon toast for breakfast together in 2017. I read that cinnamon cuts off cancer in the cell. She is also taking prednisone prescribed by her vet. I also wash my clothes after I wear them everyday, drink coffee, read my devotion, say my declaration and pray everyday. I have some nine traits but I think I am a 2. I go to 8 pretty quickly when I need to. I go along a lot with what other people prefer. I like to be outside if the weather is nice. I have dogs and sit outside on the patio while they eat and walk in the yard every evening. I usually can see all sides in an issue. I also feel the energy of the people in the room like a 2.
Yes completely agree with knowing what I don’t want to do but don’t want to put out there what I do want. And totally agree with seeing both sides when someone would think I’d take their side I can see the other persons side
My comforting routine starts early every morning....I must be alone, I must make my French Press coffee and I must drink it while watching my you tube news videos. I do not respond well if my routine is interfered with! It took me a while to decide what my number might be but I kept circling back to the 9!.
Hello from Gilbert! Just found your channel and I’m super excited about this 😆 I would love to see a career one for type 9’s I struggle with this so much! I have an idea of the things I’d like to do but idk 😂
Nine of the 10 are totally me. The one I am not is a procrastinator. If I need to get something done, I never put it off. However, during this current season of this pandemic, I see my list that I've made for myself not getting done. So in "normal" life, I don't procrastinate. In a nebulous time, can't get things done. Yep.
I am a 9 and yet I have a reputation in my family of not liking outdoors. I live in Houston. It’s 105°F here in the summer, and the humidity is insane. Get me anywhere else, and I’m outside all the time!
My morning routine is a must. Also I have certain ways I like to do things as if I am in the middle of a task I don’t want someone coming in and changing the way I am doing it. I hate making group decisions. I hate conflict and confrontation but if it comes down to protecting friends and family I can get confrontational. CAMPING AND THE OUTDOORS IS MY HAPPY PLACE I def procrastinate and do the easy stuff first. I get easily overwhelmed and then get anxious and toss my hands up and say screw it iwont do anything then I feel bad for not doing anything. I also get overwhelmed if I have to many good things happening- like back to back weekend plans. I need downtime and alone time to recharge. I can see all side of things which sometimes gets overwhelming too
Omg that’s me totally! You told me more about myself then I knew! I figured my presence didn’t matter because I was in fourth child of seven I was seen but not heard! Invisible! Yes super stubborn! I’m lost without a routine! I also go to bed at eight or nine! Even if it’s just laying down and playing on my phone! And I’m a procrastinator but once I get going I’m OK but just getting going sometimes it’s really hard especially without my usual routine! Thank you this is so much fun
I believe I'm a type nine but the outdoors is the opposite of calming for me. I dislike the bugs, wind, pollen, and blinding sun 🥲 I love the quiet and coolness of the indoors that put me at peace
I'm a 7 so of course we want everybody to be happy so I will do the whole, letting others choose but I am the same way. I know what I don't want to do. So, I will sometimes say pick 3 things and I'll decide (and hopefully they don't pick the 3 things I don't want) lol. I can often see everyone's side too but more often than not I get in trouble because I point out what the other person's perception may be...not usually what the person is wanting from me which is validation for their feelings.
Idk my type, but I can relate. In my eyes, if someone comes to me with a problem, it only makes sense to take the problem itself (even if it's someone else's behavior) as a given and start building on what that person can actually do to solve it or cope with it, but this way it's easy to come accross wrong, thus requiring you to act out an entire script to make sure the person feels you're on their side before you can start giving any real advice every single time. Then again, maybe I'm just a 5 lol but the exhaustion is still real.
Is it very characteristic of a 9 to not know what type they are? Because I have been going back and forth between 1 and 9 for months and I seriously just want someone to tell me who I am already! Edit: It’s now 5 months later and I have decided that I’m a 9w1! (surprise surprise 😂)
Yeah I think type 9s are known for this. I do the same thing. I think because we're accustomed to putting ourselves in other people's shoes and thinking about things from different angles, we do the same thing here and see all the possibilities and ways we relate with the different types.
I desire peace BUT, I've chosen a side in politics and I have positions I advocate for. I'm in the minority where I live, but I decided that, no, I shouldn't sit on the sidelines anymore. I must fight for what's right, even if it's uncomfortable. I can relate to the 9 a lot, but I'm not neutral on everything.
That’s great. Real peace comes from stepping into things and potentially having conflict…9s generally settle for false peace…because If they don’t step into any conflict and have opinions then nothing is disrupted. Thank you for sharing. This is great.
9w1 here, i can definitely relate to not knowing what i want to do. i’m turning 18 next month and even though i know what i want to do with friends i’m letting my mum plan what we’re doing with family because i have no idea what i want to do😭 however i really like to plan ahead too, like i have plans for stuff happening next year already and when those plans get changed i can become quite anxious, though i never voice this
I related with all the topics, except topic 9, since childhood I can express my opinion freely and certainly. I remember playing with friends and something making me mad or sad and my little friend would ask ''are you mad?'' and I would say ''YES, I am mad, because you did this and that'' hahahaha and I'm like this to this day.
I took the test and scored equally the highest for type 2 and type 9. So for three years I thought I was a 2. But when I studied the type 9 I learned that without any shadows of a doubt I’m a 9. I seem to be more of a 9w8, but I can also identify with the 1 wing. But more dominant with 8 wing. I’m having trouble identifying which subtype I am. I resonate with social and self pres, but there are some things about the 1 on 1 that are there too. I’m having allot of trouble with the subtype.
I love the outdoors btw. I hate conflict, it really bothers me, I feel unbalanced in conflict, I avoid it, but when it happens, and if I can’t avoid it, I explode, like an 8, then feel bad about it afterwards.
The thing with Type 9s is most of them can relate to all 3 subtypes. I think we have had to develop all 3. It's very common for a 9 and 2 to be mistyped for each other.
Morning routine: I eat 2 eggs and 2 pieces of toast. I recently started swapping the toast with hash browns. I change how in cook my eggs. Also, I'm usually not looking to be outside, especially when it's hot (over 75 degrees). I procrastinate, a lot, and I put off the hard stuff deferring to the easy stuff. I do mediate at work and I can definitely see all sides. Often I say there is always n+1 viewpoints to every story/event.
Yeah as nines, we're stubborn. One has to remember we're in the head triad - and the types in the head triad have an issue with anger. While the 8 handles that by asserting control and the 1 wants others to conform, the type 9s deal with anger is by supressing it. I guess our stubborness and passive-agressiveness seeps out when the repressed anger isn't allowed to come out. :)
On every Enneagram test I’ve taken, I’ve placed as a 9. However, I feel like I’m somewhat of a chameleon because the only things I really, really identify with about my type is feeling invisible, tendency toward sloth, lack of career motivation, easy-going nature, and needing a sense of calm. Although I dislike disharmony, I rarely have trouble finishing arguments and seeing value in constructive conflict. I also feel much more decisive than stereotypical 9s. I am agreeable with strangers and friends (perspective-wise), but in my heart, I know what I believe even if I’m not vocally asserting it. I’m really proactive with important tasks, but I’m sometimes too laidback with mundane chores. LOL
I feel like I aspire to be like a 9 sometimes since I want to understand all sides. I want to be able to be someone who can bring peace. I think the big ones I related to were avoiding conflict, being stubborn, and feeling like I don’t matter sometimes or that I’m secondary. In the past decade I’ve had a harder time making choices and just let other people decide things since people usually don’t listen to me and I don’t want to make a choice I’ll regret. I didn’t relate to all the traits though. I have to start with what I don’t want to do so I don’t have to worry about it later. And I find that routines bring structure. It helps me to be productive and feel like I’m doing something. Otherwise I will veg. If I don’t have any responsibilities I literally do nothing. Definitely seeing the parts of the 469 tritype in play though.
Oh my god. When the pandemic started, I made a habit of always getting indian take out to the point that I would even stick to one specific place, and it wasn't until I found out I was a type 9 that I realized the "thing" I have about it. Like I couldn't imagine getting any other takeout. for 2 years straight. I didn't understand the joke about 9s not knowing what they want for different but it turns out I'm just more self pres instinct.
I find it nearly impossible to figure out which type I am. I’m feeling frustrated at this point. I went from thinking I was a 5, to 4, to 6 and now maybe 9. But honestly, I don’t exclusively relate to any of the enneagrams. I feel like I’m a mix of 9 and 6. Growing up I was often anxious due to circumstances. I faced all me fears so I could find my inner peace and build a better happier life for myself. Then once I found my calm and grounding, I no longer want validation from others. I behave more life a 9 but have no problem asserting myself and setting boundaries. A skill I had to learned being on my own for 11 years. I’m wondering if the confusion comes from my life experiences and personal inner work I’ve done or if I can actually just be a blend of various types. One of the discoveries I made this past year are that my feelings matter. So I always remind myself each day “my feelings matter”. I feel like that’s a 9 thing. I’m just so confused at the point. I really hope I can figure this out because it’s driving me nuts not being able to figure it out. 🙈😱
I'm not entirely sure whether I'm a 9 or a 7. And I don't relate to every single one of these, but the ones that I do relate to resonate very deeply and are pretty defining characteristics for me. (Not 9-ish: I almost never procrastinate and routine absolutely terrifies and repulses me! Very 9-ish: I am stubborn, I absolutely see all sides, I go along to get along, and I love love love the great outdoors). I guess I need to check out the video for 7s now!
OMG, that was like coming home. That is so me. I Love the outdoors, my daughter complained-mom are we going to be home more than five days in a row during the summer? Because we go camping so much. I will go to great links to avoid conflict, I am very stubborn, and it’s very hard to be assertive. I struggle with indecision and procrastination. I have a strong social desire to fit in and be with people. 😕
I actually hate the fact that I see all sides of issues... I feel bad about it a lot. Like a huge part of me has always longed to have concrete convictions etc but I find myself understanding ALL outlooks and opinions and points of view to the point where it feels like I have zero sense of who I am and what I stand for .. 🥺
INFP 945.I don't go with the flow.My friends actually become very frustrated and angry because stubornness and lack of wanting to do things with them.Conversation is another thing we can talk about whatever you want.I thing i have strong 4 fix
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Seeing all sides? Oh yes! It is so overwhelming to be a type 9 in the world right now, with all of the conflict and disagreement in this political atmosphere. From opinions on the pandemic - to the presidency- to race relations- I find myself getting emotional randomly throughout the day because of the unrest.
I so hear you! It’s tough right now.
I felt that... I felt that so hard 😭
Because of that, I was really good at writing persuasive essays in school. I even wrote a persuasive essay to my parents to let me get Assassin's Creed (1) because they weren't letting me. They let me get it after that.
The constant conflict between everyone nowadays leaves me exhausted all the time 🥴
As a 9 I don't do everything to avoid conflict, and I'm not terrified of it. I think it's more that I will go to great lengths to preserve my peace, and that i need to be really passionate about something to take the energy to be aggressive. If something goes against my value system, or someone threatens my physical or mental comfort I definitely will engage with my anger and get upset or defensive. I think sometimes in these videos about type 9s they overlook type 9w8 because they're less common. Everything else you talked about I definitely relate to though.
I also think this has a lot to do with the level of health that you are. You sound like a healthier 9. I am a 9w8 and I understand what you are talking about and agree a lot of times the teachings are more about the 9w1. Thanks for sharing your wisdom of being a 9.
@@enneagramandcoaching that's a good point, I think there were definitely times in my past where I was more of a pushover. I can see how it would be related to our type even if it's not a trait I feel like I currently display.
Yes! I’m a 9w8 and I completely agree with you.
Wow, I love the language you used here. I’ve been back and forth between different numbers because I don’t avoid conflict either and it doesn’t scare me. I’ve even been watching/listening to things tonight to see if I might be a 6 instead. 😅 But a friend once called me a peacemaker, and what you mentioned about going to great lengths to preserve your peace really resonated with me. I can relate to almost everything about a Type 9 except for being conflict avoidant. I also relate a little with both w8 and w1, but heard someone once say if your environment is very important to you, it means you lean more strongly toward w1...which does describe my feelings. (Order vs. Chaos) Anyway, Interesting perspective - Thanks for sharing! 😊
To your statement that all nines LOVE being outside, I'd add this caveat--I like the outdoors when it's comfortable. As a self-pres nine I'm SUPER focused on comfort so I often associate the outdoors with being too hot, too cold, too many bugs, and too far from simple pleasures of technology and blankets and cleanliness. Under ideal circumstances, I absolutely love the outdoors, but I'm definitely content to stay inside a lot of the time!
I’d have to agree with you! Same for me!
Yessss lol
Yessss lol
Yes, I just want to sun bathe, but I keep getting "attacked" by wasps (as in I see one and I run screaming)
My sister too
I don’t think 9s have a problem asserting themselves but others have often denied their reality. They have not stopped to actually listen and try to understand their needs. This has trained them to be really cautious about opening up. Or they give up because they have been hurt many times. “Pull yourself up by your bootstraps” advice ends up just being offensive in the end.
I used to think I was a type 4 but the more I look into it, pretty sure I’m a 9. I avoid conflict at all costs. Making decisions is super stressful. I HAVE to do my bed time routine or I can just not sleep well. And I’m the queen of procrastination.
Ok I thought I was a 5, but I resonate so much more with 9! Conflict and confrontation is *the worst* like viscerally. All these are very relatable. Very go with the flow, and I’m very in tune with nature. I relate to the intellectual side of 5, but I relate more to the core motivation of 9.
I think I'm a 9w1 and the outdoors are nice, I guess, but I can easily shut myself in my room for days on end
I can relate to you. I didn’t really enjoy the outdoors until I realized it could help me get away from the chaos of life sometimes.
@@enneagramandcoaching y'know as I read this, I realized that I have been appreciating the outdoors a lot more due to the quarantine.
THIS IS SO ACCURATE,i know because my husband is a type 9
I get small tasks out of the way so that I have order around me and therefore I have the mental capacity to tackle the larger task. A larger task starts with a systematic approach (usually a list) and I don’t want any frustrations or distractions. When I go in, I go in deep, and for the long haul.
Yes! Same!
I resonate with tons of stuff in this video! I often have a hard time knowing what I like or what I want to do, but I always know what I DON'T like or DON'T want to do. And it is weird to reconcile being super stubborn with being super go with the flow. Nines are just full of contradictions!
Yes they are! 😂😂😂
Type 9 here....I need to have my downtime. Part of my routine. I dislike conflict...but if needed I will participate and get it done just to bring the peace again. I will go with the flow. I hate feeling like people dislike what I picked. I always know what I don’t want..but don’t know what I do want sometimes. I love being outside.❤️ minus the bugs biting me. Yessss, biggest things I put off...the simple and fun things get done first. I know I can accomplish those things that are small, and the big things take time and I need to focus. If I have time to focus then I’d do that. I will be quiet in large groups. I’m better one on one. And yes, I can see allllll sides. I understand points of views easier than others. It’s good to put yourself in other peoples shoes.
Love this!
With the side seeing, I relate so hard too. My mom was soooo PO'd at my sister and wanted to type an apology text (she's a type 2 fyi) and I deleted everything and handed it back to my mom and she was like "wow, this is amazing..." and ever since she's always recommended: "oh, Alyssa's good at apologies! You should ask her what to say!" And its really sweet 😂 I can always see why someone is upset, but I must admit, my oldest sister is the hardest to see through because she always shuts people out when things get hard and never tells why (she's a type 1). My 2nd oldest sister is a type 8 and always struggles with her type 4 husband, because he's the daisy flower of the group, I suppose you could say 😂 he likes things a certain way, and is incredibly moody, which drives everyone nuts! He has depression and anxiety and OCD which has given him a lot of trouble and we're honestly worried about his verbal abuse as their conflicts follow that cycle of conflict, honeymoon period, conflict, honeymoon period, conflict, etc. Sorry that got deep... anyway, then we have my brother who is also a type 9, and will always hide from conflict whenever possible. I believe he's a 9w1 while I'm a 9w8 so I REALLY struggle in conflict. I'm always so angry but I can't bring myself to say half of what I want to say because I'm terrified of them hating me or thinking I'm nuts. I want to be loved, and I want to love, and conflict should always be forgiven so we can learn from each others mistakes. Yup. Oh and as a baby the only thing that kept me happy was being outdoors. Literally cry all day and immediately fall asleep as soon as the wind brushed my cheeks. And procrastination? Then perfectionism? Fire? That's basically my life story when it comes to school 😂 routine? I would die without it. I like to know what is happening what days things are happening
SORRY my sis just texted the group chat that she's canceling the trip to Nashville tomorrow, gotta go!! She's angry again 😭😭😭
You nailed it. It’s funny to watch some of these and realize how spot on they are.Especially the love of outdoors. No denying I am a 9!!!
LOL! Love this!
100% resonate!! Especially in knowing what I DON’T want to do!!!! Agree with all of these!
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Love my routines! I always thought I was eating the same breakfast all the time because I’m not a morning person and needed the routine to keep from thinking. Weekends throw me off because my routine gets messed up. My husband and I also go through the whole “what do you want to eat?” “I don’t care.” “How about pizza?” “No, I don’t want pizza.” Just about every time we eat. He has finally realized that I really don’t have something in mind to eat and I really am not just trying to make him guess it.
LOL! Weekends throw me off too!
When you said nines like the outdoors because they can get a break from the emotions and opinions of others, that really resonated with me. I love people but they're alot. There's always conflict. I mean I understand why they're upset I just don't always understand why they want to put so much energy toward being so upset.
Hillary, this was great! I relate to so many of these. Regarding routines, I’ve found it’s hard to get myself started with something (exercise, self-care, a set bedtime, etc) but once it feels like a routine, I’m good for the long haul and I don’t feel the need to change anything up.
Yes! Same.
My husband is a 9w1 he's eaten the same thing for breakfast for 3 years, major procrastinator on things he doesn't like but super thorough on the things he likes, and absolutely hates conflict. Yup!
I resonated SO SO SO hard with every single one of these... like you just described my whole essence. My heart races any time someone makes any form of conflict, and TOTALLY relate to the all-side-seeing, omg, yes......
LOL! Welcome to my life 😂
I think I’ve found a kindred spirit! Loved this video and it definitely resonated with my 9 self! In fact, I was lying to bed in the middle of the day procrastinating when I found it. Now I’m working! Sometimes just validation helps to get us going! ❤️💕
Yes! Love this! ❤️❤️❤️
I am a type 9 watching this video while doing laundry and procrastinating a large project. LOL. I'm not sure if it's actually a type 9 thing but it's spot on for me. Personally I procrastinate because I know I want the thing to be perfect and once I start I won't be able to stop.
🤣🤣🤣 yes! I totally relate!
I'm definitely an INFP enneagram 9w1 sp. One enneagram expert and coach explained/broke down my true enneagram type so well based on my characteristics and traits. I can finally start to learn more about myself and finally grow.
Oof sign 10 hit me hard. I consider myself the "neutral party" in everything. A type four close friend sometimes would rant about things and then I'd be there explaining what the mother would feel or what would the other friends feel and the type 4 would be unamused for not taking their side ahahahh
I found this video SO helpful in confirming a 9 as my type. Thanks so much!!
You're so welcome! Thanks for sharing!
I love this video. I knew i was 9 but hearing all these things that made me 9 is so awesome.. i love routine, and usually go to bed around 9pm. I hate conflict it makes me feel rotten from within. I usually do not know what to do when asked but when presented with options i know what I don't want to do... I really appreciate this video.
Awww I’m so glad!
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oh my goodness, I can relate to almost all of these. I love being outside reading a good book, and my dream would be a cabin in the woods with a self sustaining garden. I also agree that it is hard for me to enter a conversation because I am second guessing myself and by the time I decide to say something the topic has completely changed. I hate being able to see both sides because I think it's weird often times I know what I think is right but also see another point of view. Last I hate making decisions even like picking my ice cream flavor, before hand I decide to try something new but 9 out of 10 pick the ones I always get. Great video keep up the good work
I totally can relate to all of this! ❤️❤️❤️
All of these describe me pretty much exactly with the one exception of the outdoors. I like looking at the outdoors (I love photos of landscapes), and I don't mind taking a walk outside sometimes, but as a general rule the outdoors have too many bugs and too much heat for my tastes lol
I relate so much to almost all of these...except the routine thing. I love being home but I’m too much of a free spirit to have a routine 😂 not sure if any other nines relate??
So glad to read this. Me also 9 but I don't like eating the same foods every day or sleeping at the same time, those kind of routines are not for me at all. I would say I live by my feelings and I need to do what feels right in the moment. Even for example the walk I do often with my dog, it really annoys me that it's always the same. I do have some OCD-related routines like needing to check things before leaving the house and before going to sleep, but that's out of anxiety, not out of enjoying the routine.
There are some routines I like (coffee every morning, sleeping in when I don't have to get up early, watching videos before going to sleep etc) but yes, I don't like to eat the same foods everyday (except cereal often for breakfast) and I do like being a fee spirit and trying different things (if there's a new menu item I will usually have to try it and sometimes I like to go somewhere new just to experience it) so I can relate to both.
I think maybe 9 w/ADHD looks a little different. I'm always getting bored w/the same old things.
@@jessicaclem8013 Ah wow yes, interesting that u bring that up, for some reason I didn't make that connection yet. I'm a type 9 but on the autism spectrum and the more I research the more I have been thinking ADHD is one of my comorbidities. That's probably why! Thanks
For me I NEED a routine. It doesn’t have to be the same exact thing everyday I just need to have things planned out in order to get anything done.
Productive procrastination!
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I'm a 9 but i'm not a routine person and I don't see myself as stubborn.
I am dizzy from the amount of sense this made! It’s like you explained me better than I ever could! The only thing is that I don’t like the outdoors so much, but I live in Texas so that might be why haha!
Very insightful. I am just getting into learning more about the enneagram types. I am MBTI ISFJ, and I am a 9w1 enneagram type.
Thanks for sharing! ❤
Me too, I'm ISFJ and Enneagram 9.
the fact that I avoid conflict at all coasts!!! also the other day talking to two different people about the same TV show I told one I liked it and the other that I didn't lol. I see both sides!!!! lol
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I'm also a type 9 but im not an outdoor person cause of the.. procrastinating the hard work and I'd rather take a rest in my room after all of the tiring day. but i do really like the nature and hoping i could go there as my self reward! Anw thank you for making this video ❤️
You have just completely described me. Every single point was spot on. I too have got in trouble for seeing the other side 🤦♀️
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Great video, Hillary!! ♥️
Thanks Abbey!
This was such a helpful video! I have been struggling not knowing if I am a 9 or a 6 as my scores were tied, but I am definitely a true 9. I think my anxieties go to a 6, which is what made me think I was mistyping myself. Glad to be a 9!!
Love this! You described me to a “T”. I know without a doubt I’m a Type 9 now. I was watching this video while sitting outside lol!! Confirmation! Nailed it!
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It's so painfully difficulty to be the real me, even to myself... i suppress everything out of fear, quite possibly out of consciousness of how people would do in response. i fear my energies and misunderstand even when i am alone.
The 10 is not always a gift. I had a friend back then who had a conflict with our friend group, and because I am talking to her and to the others she thought that I'm a two face person. Although, I wasn't taking any sides, that not taking any sides could unfortunately cause another misunderstanding.
it depends on how you look at it and the situation!
I am a type nine and I am a teacher. This is my strongest form of routine because outside of school I am all over the place but at school we follow the timetable and I understand that my year will be planned out for me. The idea of having a job where I have to self regulate my time throughout the day sounds incredibly stressful and overwhelming. I would simply procrastinate to the ends of the earth and not get anything done (kinda what I am doing now tbh).
Hehehehehe!
The outdoors is calming but not boring. Clutter can be stressful when it reminds me of things I need to do or want to do or whatever. People can be stressful when I'm anxious about keeping the peace and can tell when someone's upset. So sometimes it feels like it's either boring or stressful, but in nature it's full of different things, funny looking trees, different plants... none of which are stressful. I may not even be looking at them, but they're around me and it's different than being indoors. Also sunlight! The sky!
So I'm definitely a type 9 but I'm mixed feelings about routines lol because subconsciously I like them like one of the things I miss about school when I was younger you had structure like this is when you do this and that even though I hated being told what to do but that's my issues with routines the fact it feels like it tells me what to do and I don't have the freedom to choose but I need the choice is easier than choosing it helps give me peace so it's a love hate relationship if that makes sense lol
I am a nine and i have popcorn every night! I LOVE the outdoors! I am a bit stubborn LOL. I HATE conflict! I merge very easily.
LOL!!!! We are very similar 😂
@@enneagramandcoaching I also am a social 9w8 :)
This.is.spot.on!!! Wowwwwwww
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I've been told my entire life by friends, family, and co-workers that I need to speak up and be more assertive. Especially in government jobs. Also, I usually know what I dont want as well. My husband has learned to give me 2+ options. Over the years I've started becoming resentful of always doing what everyone else wants and have been forcing myself to speak up more when that stubborn streak kicks in and I want to get my way.
I definitely have routines that bring me comfort every day. I try to do the good habits every day so I don't get out of the habit of doing them, even if I am on vacation, because it is SO hard to get started again. I drink coffee and listen to podcasts every morning, even if I have to wake up early to be able to have that slow wake up time in the a.m. I have one or two favorite items off the menu at each restaurant I go to., and will order those every time unless I make myself try something new for the sake of adventure. :)
Hi, just found your videos and I was already pretty sure I'm a 9 but now it's confirmed. A chaotic one though, very stuck atm. Everything resonates except the routines, I don't follow any consciously but I guess I have a lot of habits that could be considered so.
Thanks for sharing! ❤️
I defiantly think im a type nine. this video was very helpful!!
Glad it was helpful!
I haven't always had routines, but as I've gotten older I have a morning routine. I turn on the coffee maker, grab my computer, check my on-line banking, check the news, new ancestry matches, Facebook, UA-cam. I do love the outdoors and the one that hits home the most: putting off what really needs to be done. Most of my life I haven't wanted conflict and I couldn't assert myself, but as I've aged, I'm getting more opinionated. One thing I notice: I REALLY want everything to just be easy, so when I find clothes or shoes I like, I buy more than one of the same thing. This also means I'll cook something I like and eat leftovers for 3-4 days. I almost always choose one restaurant and eat the same thing every time I go there.
Love this. Thanks for sharing!
Being a type 2 I resonate with not liking conflict but for me it's more about being painted as a bad person/ not being liked / being misunderstood. I also like being wanted by others but I don't have to be NEEDED on a one-to-one basis. More in a societal sense. So I do get confused with 3 and 9 sometimes 😅
My morning routine is coffee, phone check, reading, snack, exercise, shower.
Love this! 👏
Took the test. I am a type 9. Omg, this is so me. About the assertiveness; being youngest in my family and only girl my voice wasn’t heard or opinions not cared about. That is something (childhood wounding, I guess) that I still get upset with. I end up being very resentful.
being outside, caring too much about small decisions, not voicing my opinion this is literally me wtf. The only thing is that routines make me feel kind of depressed maybe its just because i live in London
Type 4 and I'm a tea addict 😂 I'm really needing my tea to be comfortable. I can go without breakfast but without tea I'm not ready for the day.
Also being barefoot and getting into my nightgown the moment I'm home. I'm safe at home and don't need to feel the "borders" of my body like I need it outside so I slip out of my form-fitting clothes asap.
The interesting thing is, I'm very clearly a 4w5 from what I learnt so far, but I really do go strong on the 9, too! 😂 I could relate to many things you listed. It's like a "if I wasn't a 4, I'd be a 9" and being and INFP, it makes a lot of sense to feel a close relation.
I really really appreciate your videos. Thank you so much. You're communicating things very well!
So hard to choose just one. EVERY one of these resonated with me... big time! But at this moment I would have to say, #5 Procrastinate and #8 Put off the hard tasks/do easy first, since I am sitting here watching your videos instead of doing taxes. LOL! But hey, I just heard there is a deadline extention. Off to the next video :)
Hahahahaha! Love it!
I took one test instead of the type 5 and then I took it more in-depth test and it said I was more than likely to type 9 and I must say most of the things you said in this video resonate with me
I don’t mean this to be weird but your eyes are really pretty.
Not weird at all! Thank you!
This helped me realize I must be a 9w8 and not an 8w9. I resonated with being an 8 but much more as a 9.
You said say things you do everyday, I eat cinnamon toast with my Boston Terrier, Rosie, for breakfast. She has mast cell tumors that came back after surgery and has not had them get much worse since we started eating cinnamon toast for breakfast together in 2017. I read that cinnamon cuts off cancer in the cell. She is also taking prednisone prescribed by her vet. I also wash my clothes after I wear them everyday, drink coffee, read my devotion, say my declaration and pray everyday. I have some nine traits but I think I am a 2. I go to 8 pretty quickly when I need to. I go along a lot with what other people prefer. I like to be outside if the weather is nice. I have dogs and sit outside on the patio while they eat and walk in the yard every evening. I usually can see all sides in an issue. I also feel the energy of the people in the room like a 2.
This is awesome. I didn’t know that info about cinnamon. That’s good to know. I love that you have your routines. I’m such a routine girl.
Yes completely agree with knowing what I don’t want to do but don’t want to put out there what I do want. And totally agree with seeing both sides when someone would think I’d take their side I can see the other persons side
My comforting routine starts early every morning....I must be alone, I must make my French Press coffee and I must drink it while watching my you tube news videos. I do not respond well if my routine is interfered with!
It took me a while to decide what my number might be but I kept circling back to the 9!.
Hello from Gilbert! Just found your channel and I’m super excited about this 😆 I would love to see a career one for type 9’s I struggle with this so much! I have an idea of the things I’d like to do but idk 😂
👋🏼 from Chandler! That’s a great idea! I will be doing a video on this subject! Thanks!
Nine of the 10 are totally me. The one I am not is a procrastinator. If I need to get something done, I never put it off. However, during this current season of this pandemic, I see my list that I've made for myself not getting done. So in "normal" life, I don't procrastinate. In a nebulous time, can't get things done. Yep.
I am a 9 and yet I have a reputation in my family of not liking outdoors.
I live in Houston. It’s 105°F here in the summer, and the humidity is insane. Get me anywhere else, and I’m outside all the time!
All of the above for me!
My morning routine is a must. Also I have certain ways I like to do things as if I am in the middle of a task I don’t want someone coming in and changing the way I am doing it.
I hate making group decisions. I hate conflict and confrontation but if it comes down to protecting friends and family I can get confrontational.
CAMPING AND THE OUTDOORS IS MY HAPPY PLACE
I def procrastinate and do the easy stuff first.
I get easily overwhelmed and then get anxious and toss my hands up and say screw it iwont do anything then I feel bad for not doing anything.
I also get overwhelmed if I have to many good things happening- like back to back weekend plans. I need downtime and alone time to recharge.
I can see all side of things which sometimes gets overwhelming too
Omg that’s me totally! You told me more about myself then I knew! I figured my presence didn’t matter because I was in fourth child of seven I was seen but not heard! Invisible! Yes super stubborn! I’m lost without a routine! I also go to bed at eight or nine! Even if it’s just laying down and playing on my phone! And I’m a procrastinator but once I get going I’m OK but just getting going sometimes it’s really hard especially without my usual routine! Thank you this is so much fun
I believe I'm a type nine but the outdoors is the opposite of calming for me. I dislike the bugs, wind, pollen, and blinding sun 🥲 I love the quiet and coolness of the indoors that put me at peace
YESSSS THIS IS FACTSSSS....
LOL! Right?!?! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Yes x 10!
I'm a 7 so of course we want everybody to be happy so I will do the whole, letting others choose but I am the same way. I know what I don't want to do. So, I will sometimes say pick 3 things and I'll decide (and hopefully they don't pick the 3 things I don't want) lol. I can often see everyone's side too but more often than not I get in trouble because I point out what the other person's perception may be...not usually what the person is wanting from me which is validation for their feelings.
LOL! Love it!
Idk my type, but I can relate. In my eyes, if someone comes to me with a problem, it only makes sense to take the problem itself (even if it's someone else's behavior) as a given and start building on what that person can actually do to solve it or cope with it, but this way it's easy to come accross wrong, thus requiring you to act out an entire script to make sure the person feels you're on their side before you can start giving any real advice every single time. Then again, maybe I'm just a 5 lol but the exhaustion is still real.
Is it very characteristic of a 9 to not know what type they are? Because I have been going back and forth between 1 and 9 for months and I seriously just want someone to tell me who I am already!
Edit: It’s now 5 months later and I have decided that I’m a 9w1! (surprise surprise 😂)
Yes! The 9 can feel like all types. I do have a 1/hour typing session over zoom that would help with this. The link is in the description.
Yeah I think type 9s are known for this. I do the same thing. I think because we're accustomed to putting ourselves in other people's shoes and thinking about things from different angles, we do the same thing here and see all the possibilities and ways we relate with the different types.
well u are probably 9w1
I desire peace BUT, I've chosen a side in politics and I have positions I advocate for. I'm in the minority where I live, but I decided that, no, I shouldn't sit on the sidelines anymore. I must fight for what's right, even if it's uncomfortable.
I can relate to the 9 a lot, but I'm not neutral on everything.
That’s great. Real peace comes from stepping into things and potentially having conflict…9s generally settle for false peace…because If they don’t step into any conflict and have opinions then nothing is disrupted. Thank you for sharing. This is great.
I only find it hard to assert myself into a group I know disagrees with me.
THat's a good point.
9w1 here, i can definitely relate to not knowing what i want to do. i’m turning 18 next month and even though i know what i want to do with friends i’m letting my mum plan what we’re doing with family because i have no idea what i want to do😭 however i really like to plan ahead too, like i have plans for stuff happening next year already and when those plans get changed i can become quite anxious, though i never voice this
I related with all the topics, except topic 9, since childhood I can express my opinion freely and certainly. I remember playing with friends and something making me mad or sad and my little friend would ask ''are you mad?'' and I would say ''YES, I am mad, because you did this and that'' hahahaha and I'm like this to this day.
I took the test and scored equally the highest for type 2 and type 9. So for three years I thought I was a 2. But when I studied the type 9 I learned that without any shadows of a doubt I’m a 9. I seem to be more of a 9w8, but I can also identify with the 1 wing. But more dominant with 8 wing. I’m having trouble identifying which subtype I am. I resonate with social and self pres, but there are some things about the 1 on 1 that are there too. I’m having allot of trouble with the subtype.
I love the outdoors btw. I hate conflict, it really bothers me, I feel unbalanced in conflict, I avoid it, but when it happens, and if I can’t avoid it, I explode, like an 8, then feel bad about it afterwards.
Here’s the irony, as much as I hate conflict, I’m exceptional at resolving conflict between others. Almost as if I were meant to do that.
I’m also a Taurus on the zodiac.
The thing with Type 9s is most of them can relate to all 3 subtypes. I think we have had to develop all 3. It's very common for a 9 and 2 to be mistyped for each other.
I came in just about equally 2 and 9 as well. One time it was equal, the next time I had 1 more 2 than 9. Interesting.
Morning routine: I eat 2 eggs and 2 pieces of toast. I recently started swapping the toast with hash browns. I change how in cook my eggs. Also, I'm usually not looking to be outside, especially when it's hot (over 75 degrees). I procrastinate, a lot, and I put off the hard stuff deferring to the easy stuff. I do mediate at work and I can definitely see all sides. Often I say there is always n+1 viewpoints to every story/event.
You MUST try Dandyblend! It’s an herbal coffee and it’s so good....no caffeine though. 😉
Ok! Sweet! Thanks!
Yeah as nines, we're stubborn. One has to remember we're in the head triad - and the types in the head triad have an issue with anger. While the 8 handles that by asserting control and the 1 wants others to conform, the type 9s deal with anger is by supressing it. I guess our stubborness and passive-agressiveness seeps out when the repressed anger isn't allowed to come out. :)
On every Enneagram test I’ve taken, I’ve placed as a 9. However, I feel like I’m somewhat of a chameleon because the only things I really, really identify with about my type is feeling invisible, tendency toward sloth, lack of career motivation, easy-going nature, and needing a sense of calm.
Although I dislike disharmony, I rarely have trouble finishing arguments and seeing value in constructive conflict. I also feel much more decisive than stereotypical 9s. I am agreeable with strangers and friends (perspective-wise), but in my heart, I know what I believe even if I’m not vocally asserting it. I’m really proactive with important tasks, but I’m sometimes too laidback with mundane chores. LOL
Routine: Literally every day of allllll of grade school I ate a sandwich for lunch. For 4 years in a row, it was pb&J with apple juice.
We are the same person! 😂👏🏼
Hillary McCaskey 😅😂🤣
I feel like I aspire to be like a 9 sometimes since I want to understand all sides. I want to be able to be someone who can bring peace.
I think the big ones I related to were avoiding conflict, being stubborn, and feeling like I don’t matter sometimes or that I’m secondary. In the past decade I’ve had a harder time making choices and just let other people decide things since people usually don’t listen to me and I don’t want to make a choice I’ll regret.
I didn’t relate to all the traits though. I have to start with what I don’t want to do so I don’t have to worry about it later. And I find that routines bring structure. It helps me to be productive and feel like I’m doing something. Otherwise I will veg. If I don’t have any responsibilities I literally do nothing.
Definitely seeing the parts of the 469 tritype in play though.
Yes I know what I don’t like I am 9 wing 8
Oh my god. When the pandemic started, I made a habit of always getting indian take out to the point that I would even stick to one specific place, and it wasn't until I found out I was a type 9 that I realized the "thing" I have about it. Like I couldn't imagine getting any other takeout. for 2 years straight. I didn't understand the joke about 9s not knowing what they want for different but it turns out I'm just more self pres instinct.
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My routines for comfort: my nighttime routine, my sunset walks. I get upset when they get upset. LOL
I have 9 in my tritype. I don't like seemingly or actually overwhelming things.
I hate routine or rather I resist them!
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I find it nearly impossible to figure out which type I am. I’m feeling frustrated at this point. I went from thinking I was a 5, to 4, to 6 and now maybe 9. But honestly, I don’t exclusively relate to any of the enneagrams. I feel like I’m a mix of 9 and 6. Growing up I was often anxious due to circumstances. I faced all me fears so I could find my inner peace and build a better happier life for myself. Then once I found my calm and grounding, I no longer want validation from others. I behave more life a 9 but have no problem asserting myself and setting boundaries. A skill I had to learned being on my own for 11 years. I’m wondering if the confusion comes from my life experiences and personal inner work I’ve done or if I can actually just be a blend of various types. One of the discoveries I made this past year are that my feelings matter. So I always remind myself each day “my feelings matter”. I feel like that’s a 9 thing. I’m just so confused at the point. I really hope I can figure this out because it’s driving me nuts not being able to figure it out. 🙈😱
I'm not entirely sure whether I'm a 9 or a 7. And I don't relate to every single one of these, but the ones that I do relate to resonate very deeply and are pretty defining characteristics for me. (Not 9-ish: I almost never procrastinate and routine absolutely terrifies and repulses me! Very 9-ish: I am stubborn, I absolutely see all sides, I go along to get along, and I love love love the great outdoors). I guess I need to check out the video for 7s now!
Nines often throw difficult tasks to others and only do easy things.
OMG, that was like coming home. That is so me. I Love the outdoors, my daughter complained-mom are we going to be home more than five days in a row during the summer? Because we go camping so much. I will go to great links to avoid conflict, I am very stubborn, and it’s very hard to be assertive. I struggle with indecision and procrastination. I have a strong social desire to fit in and be with people. 😕
I think im a type 9 i think but i only related to the procrastination thing, the tasks and the seeing all sides thing, now I'm not sure
Hmmm....that’s okay. I’d watch a few more type 9 videos and see if you relate to those. Let me know if you need any help.
What are the great difference between 5s and 9s?
I actually hate the fact that I see all sides of issues... I feel bad about it a lot. Like a huge part of me has always longed to have concrete convictions etc but I find myself understanding ALL outlooks and opinions and points of view to the point where it feels like I have zero sense of who I am and what I stand for .. 🥺
All the time I thought I was an 4w5 but i might be a type 9 uhhhhm I don't know how to handle this right now haha
Look at the cores of the 9 and 4. Also I have a mistyped series. I'd watch the type 4 and 9. Hope this helps!
@@enneagramandcoaching Thank you so much for your answer!! I'll definitely check your series out :)
Hee hee... This is me! 😊
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INFP 945.I don't go with the flow.My friends actually become very frustrated and angry because stubornness and lack of wanting to do things with them.Conversation is another thing we can talk about whatever you want.I thing i have strong 4 fix