12 Chivalrous Habits of a True Gentleman That Make Women Melt
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- Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
- In a world filled with late-night booty calls, infidelity and a general “hit it and split it” mentality, it’s easy to become jaded by today’s dating scene.
As women, we brace ourselves for the worst, proceeding with extreme caution during the first few months, for fear of falling victim to the aforementioned debauchery in which so many men partake.
It’s a welcome relief, then, when we stumble upon those few true gentlemen. They exude chivalry with even their smallest actions, and remind us that there are still good ones out there.
It doesn’t take a grand gesture or costly display of affection to win a girl over. Often, it just takes a little sincerity and display of genuine romantic interest.
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I'm a 22 year old girl, currently wheelchair dependent, and one of the tiniest people in the world; so when people hold open doors for me, not only do I thank them, I always make sure that I do it with the biggest smile on my face [even if I feel like sh*t that day, which happens quite often] because there's no rule that dictates that someone always HAS to or SHOULD be opening doors for me [especially in this day and age] so if it does happen, it's always met with much appreciation from me. Same for last bites of food, I never take the last bite until I ask the entire group if they want it before I make sure that everyone is okay with me taking it.
aww! you're sweet.
You are a healing soul❤
I hope you are doing well, mate. Maybe one day you'll be able to walk and do that yourself and be proud about it 🫡
My heart skipped a beat thinking about a guy putting his jacket on my shoulders. Its such a kind, loving gesture.
Its also rape in California
Rape wtf 😂😂😂😂😭😭
Navigating El 😂😂
These guys have good manners.
Me being a girl and watching this video, this is super true. It makes me very happy to see guys trying to bring chivalry back
You guys are really rare examples of modern day gentleman. Bravo.
Maria Li Thanks :-)
@@TheChenDynasty love your channel
You guys are amazing.
My guy does most of these but giving your umbrella away made my heart melt. That would make my week and I would never ever forget it.
And this is why when I do chose to actually start dating, I am not looking forward to my generation of guys' "manners". Chivalry is in my generation is so rare, you'd probably win the lottery before actually seeing many people with manners. Well, at least in Canada we almost always hold the door open, so I guess that is still alive...
I know- I wasn’t looking forward to my generation’s manners 20 years ago when I started dating. There were guys with bad manners (or a lack of manners). My husband has the best manners! Don’t give up. You’ll find a guy with good manners.
a kiss on the forehead is basically a sign of protectiveness, that's why we girls, love it! We all love feeling protected. :p
From my point of view as a 19 year old girl, I agree with nearly every point you brought up. I do want to say though, the forehead kiss, while it's definitely not chivalrous, it is some how really sweet in my mind. I don't know, something about that feels very genuine. Let's be honest, a lot of young guys only ever kiss on the lips and then expect to be made out with not long after starting to date. So a kiss on the forehead instead, (to me at least) seems like he's more interested in her as a person and isn't just looking for instant gratification.
And OH MY GOSH! Usually, people where I'm from are pretty good about opening doors for each other, but I have seen guys rush to get in front of a lady to get through the door first and let it shut on her! I don't see it often but it happens. So rude!
"I enjoy being a guy who treats a girl special"
YALL ARE SO ADORABLE!
I'm so glad there are guys like you in this world
You guys are awesome. Moms/Dads, if you want your sons to have a lady, teach your sons how to be a gentlemen. And if you want your daughters to have a gentlemen, teach them how to be a lady. It all boils down to respecting one another.
Oh my goodness thank you guys so much! Honestly I’m so sad thinking about how many guys would have no clue what you’re talking about. On behalf of the female population, thank you guys so much and I really appreciate it!! Bring chivalry back! 💗
I agree with what you guys are saying. But on the fill up the gas in the car. What they mean is that the man shouldn't just sit inside the car and let the woman go inside and pay for the gas, and to fill it up. If that make sense.
You guys crack me up. Getting home after a rough day, I end up just watching you guys while I'm making dinner, and it just brightens me up. Thanks for doing these videos.
ELIZABETH WOOLDRIDGE nice! Thanks for watching :-)
And you guys single? Hopefully not. You two are the definition of a gentleman and chivalry.
Just thinking that one day a guy will do all those things to me, I get happy and my heart melts ahead.
I bet you got many of those in your friendzone already...
If they're single, that should tell you something about women's interest in chivalry.
Nice guys finish last, remember.
New York suddenly doesn't sound that inviting to me anymore hhahahha...I thought holding doors for people was a common thing. I mean, as a girl I do it too, even for men. Chivalry overall may be dead but luckily there are still some guys like you who have manners! Don't ever lose that!!
Yeah! I hold doors open as a girl. I don't think that it should be something that only guys can do, it's a polite thing that you should do when you reach a door before someone, and "thank you" should be a given, even though it's not....
Guys should more often hold doors for women though, he should be a gentleman. Girls can open doors too, but men are stronger and should treat women gently.
@@foxxy1851
And that's why you, are sexist.
@Everrett Kleen move to another country lol. Or just be very attentive and make sure you do that only for feminine women
You guys are such gentlemen!! I wish more guys would act like you!!
Nikola Kurmele Thanks :-)
Double Chen i don't need chivalry. i have sexy nipples.
***** perhaps because you didn't tip the fedora at m'lady
Nikola Kurmele well if most guys would do that , they would be labled as sexist
Tauri Auri Why would they be labled as sexist?
I remember when my best friend, who lived a few blocks away from me, would walk me always home, he wouldn't let me go alone, especially when it's dark
and that's why you kept him as just your friend.
Hey! It's Me! I was thinking the same 😭😂
Thank you, guys, so much I have been trying to keep up my chivalry and this is bringing my attention to more chivalrous acts and polite things to do. Thank you!
Dan was like: "Who does that, who does that??!!" at 22:50 and I couldn't help but LOL!
I kinda understand the meaning behind a kiss on the forehead (which goes well along with a warm hug).
Not only does it melt my heart but it is also a very subtle way to show that you are caring and wanting to prortect your significant other.
To me, it's an act of motivation too, like when you're having a hard time at work or with your study and your GF or BF kisses you on your forehead, you'll feel instantly better and safe, knowing that your significant other is here for you and he or she will always back you up no matter how down you are.
It's almost therapeutical O.O
So to sum up: small gesture but great effects!
Thx for the vids guys, I really enjoy watching them ;)
Rachel Kieu Trang Reitmair Thanks :-)
I completely agree with y'all! It makes me happy to see how strongly y'all feel about this subject. I wish more guys had proper manners as "muscle memory". Also, I totally agree with the closing statement that not being chivalrous shows selfishness.
I freaking love you two. Thank god for you guys saying this! And with the walking a girl home thing, I was only in New York for a couple weeks and I didn't want to walk along those streets alone! A couple of these things would probably make me stare at you like you're crazy, but the majority of these I do for the people I date! (I'm bi) And the random gestures thing is seriously the one that always makes people so happy. I've literally had a past girlfriend look like she was about to cry, and a guy choke up a bit, because she felt loved from just buying her a copy of her favorite book.
And to explain the forehead thing: It feels safe, at least for me. I anxiety and my Dad would hug me and kiss my forehead to calm me down. Now my best friend and the majority of the people I've dated will do it. It's a thing about being shorter then the person kissing your forehead (I'm 4'10'' on a tall day.) and it just feels like a simple comforting thing. And they make me so much happier then a cheek or lips kiss.
Anyway, lots of typing, love you guys!
Lily Wood love you too! :-)
Chivalry is dead and feminists killed it lmao.
THE ACCURACY
***** not only that, it has more than one definition you know...
I wished equal rights weren't sacrificed for common courtesy
Let’s keep it dead.
It's a blessing and a curse. Back when men were more chivalrous, women couldnt vote
You two are great! I love watching your videos. I never have binge watched a youtube channel. More guys need to be like you!
How to get cheated on /How to get in the friendzone 101
I 100%agreed about opening the door, mostly people don't say thank you, when I hold the door. I still help my gf put on her jacket and the flower and kissing forehead is just an act of love towards your significant other. The others so call chivalrous habits are questionable.
I notice nowadays when i do some of those things, girls really don't appreciate it or think it's weird.
Dan I agreed with walking a girl home. When I offer to bring a girl (gf/friends) home after a late night of some event. They think you are trying something more than being nice, but really you just want to be nice to them and make sure they're safe. (most of them never had a guy walk them home)
Opening doors is just a given...except for the car door, I would rather just get it myself instead of standing there and waiting for hubby to do it for me, especially if it's cold out or raining - I'm hopping in as fast as possible! And I'm just impatient xD
I need to hear this information.
Thank you for sharing.
You guys are gentlemen and courteous. And I hope others can do this not just to impress the women they like only but to practise courtesy to the people they are meeting too.
I hate when people open the door for me when I'm quite far away, not that I hate manners but it just pressures me to get rid of my standard walking pace and walk faster to not trouble the other person for too long :/
Same I run for the door like my life depends on it.
+Ren Check out the passive/aggressive door holding game on google.
Me too but I make sure I do the same to the next person lol
I agree with the comment below by Nikola, you guys are true gentlemen. Its wonderful how you act.
because of the length of my comment I sent it to you guys via message instead since I know people on youtube dislike long comments but it was on the subject of your video and meant for you guys so you guys should still receive it.
Now if you'll excuse me youtube is suggesting more from you guys~ so I got more vids to go to
I teach my kids to help elderly and anyone that seems to be struggling, to hold doors, always let ladies go inside the door first, and help people who is disable.
First time coming across you guys, and I must say, you both are extremely refreshing to hear! Thank you for the insight and video :-)
This video: *exists*
Me walking in with my armored horse, shield, and longspear: wait, so what's all this about manners?
Good old fashioned manner and courtesy.. you guys are after my own heart... awesome keep it going
Generally the things on that list are pretty nice (except the elevator thing. I honestly hate that; just get out tha way!), but if someone insists on doing any of them even if the other person repeatedly says "no thank you" or asks them to stop, it becomes an issue.
For example, I've seen it happen a few times on public transit where a man will offer his seat to a woman who is standing, and then, despite her saying "no thank you" over and over, will stand up anyway and insist that she sit. A person can be chivalrous all they want, but the moment they don't respect someone else's choices, it stops being chivalry. I think that's generally what people have a problem with.
I love chivalry. I am in my sixties and the chivalrous romance would work for me. Thanks for preserving the chivalrous cultures.
oh my goodness. you guys are awesome and give me a little hope for guys. thank you for doing this video! :)
You guys are the bomb diggity! Such gentlemen :)
Fantastic British accent Mike! I live in England and I have to say, it's spot on :) Love you guys and I wish every man was a gentleman like you two x
Weronika Płonka really? awesome! glad im pulling the accent off :-)
Nice points guys... N yes, all of these are appreciated! Not always necessary, but definitely appreciated! Personally, I'm a girl and I tend to do a lot of these things as well... I actually wrote a rant on rude people and one of my thoughts was that 'common courtesy is actually NOT THAT COMMON'!
Gosh, they don't make guys like this nowadays anymore, what a shame. Can I get a Mike or a Dan somewhere, please? :)
"WHO DOES THAT! WHOOOO DOES THAT?!?!" 22:52...that cracked me up so hard!!!
I appreciate so much what you both said in this video! And I should go compliment my younger brother for continuing with his chivalry, even if girls constantly misunderstand his good intentions for 'flirting'. I told him to stop it, but watching this, I'll go apologise now :-) AND this video proved another idea. When I began watching this video, I didn't think much about how attractive you guys were, but listening to what you believed etc, I was smiling and wishing I meet a guy like youz! YOUR GIRLFRIENDS ARE BLESSED to have youz! Keep up your great (coz your honest with healthy analytical points of views) work!!
Amazing7race Equality or chivalry?
Feminist double standards ?
I'm sorry? I don't know why you're bringing up 'Equality vs Chivalry'...nor 'Feminism' into what I was saying. All I wanted to say was its good to be reminded of social mannerisms, this case, about men. The context was that I saw my brother being a gentleman to girls ever since he was a boy. But as he grew up, girls misunderstood his kindness for 'flirt and signs of interest' because they, and myself included, no longer really were treated with respect and 'chivalry'. Not wanting to see my brother get be labeled as someone he wasn't, I use to tell him to stop being too considerate, especially to girls coz myself included, we get confused by guys being 'nice'. But watching this video reminded me its a good thing that my brother could be kind to girls without having to calculate everything because this world needs more people like him. He's equally kind to guys as well, and him and his guy friends have respect as the basis of their friendship. The reason why my comment may have been interpreted as something I wasn't intending to say was perhaps I left that bit out? I didn't think that was as relevant to comment on so I didn't. He treats women the same way he treats me and my mom because thats how my dad and my mom taught us. To be kind. I'm equally respectful and kind to guys because I want to treat them the way I would want my brother or my dad to be treated by women in general, so instead of viewing my comment in any different light, I hope you and others don't get any other meaning out of this. Don't overanalyse it. I was just very glad that my brother wasn't the only guy who had 'chivalry' in them (which in my definition is being kind, respectful and considerate, regardless of sex, age, race etc)
omg Dan's face at 17:53 , I'm dying XD
I can't believe I've only just found your channel. I love your lists and ideas that you talk about.
About what I like about Chivalry, and don't like. For both men and women.
1. Opening Doors.
I'm English, and I have always been taught by my mum that opening doors is something that you should do for the person following behind you. And that should make no difference whether you are a man or woman. If you see someone disabled, a child, an elderly person, you should go out of your way to open a door for them to prevent any problems.
And if a guy ever opens a door for me in particular, I look him directly in the eye and say thank you. It makes no difference what his age, size, or colour is, I just think it's good manners.
Elevators
2. Last bite of food....
Well, I only share with certain people, 'Boyfriend', 'Best Friends', or 'Family'. If it's with other people... no way!
And I don't really want to eat the guy's left over pieces of food. I would prefer to know he is full, and enjoys the food rather than knowing he was watching the last piece going into my mouth and observing whether I like it or not. Because if it is the last bit of food it is probably cold by that time. I'd prefer him to eat it.
3. Spending time with the family.
If a guy doesn't like my family, or if he doesn't want to spend time with them. I'm dumping him then and there. It might make me cry for a week, but I'm quite sure I'd get over it eventually. There's nothing worse that a guy could say to me. He could call me fat, he could say he cheated, but if he said he didn't like my family, that would be the end of our relationship.
4. Suffered through a girly movie.
What?!? A man who's too manly to enjoy a movie from a woman's perspective??? I still don't get the men that think themselves above romantic dramas or women who star in movies. I don't understand. I love watching action, sci-fi, thriller, and drama, so why can't more men think it's totally fine to watch girly movies too. They lump all (Chick Flicks) romances together. I particularly found this the case in New Zealand, when I lived there for seven years. Men in general would refuse to watch romances with their wives, and would cringe when valentines day came around. I don't get why? Does that make you cool and more manly among your guy friends...?
I will say, I'm attracted to people with strong opinions, but not if they've never even watched the material they're condemning. I wouldn't consider a guy who enjoys Romantic movies to be chivalrous because I would want to believe he was in the mood to watch them with me, and not suffering through it. If anyone is suffering while watching a movie, it is usually me first, and I'll switch it off or change it!!! I have only ever watched the Bridget Jones... movies once, (with friends) and only once, didn't really like them that much, but Pride and Prejudice.... many times.
5. Sending/Giving Flowers
I've never receive real flowers from a boyfriend or any guy, but there was this one guy that liked me that made me an origami flower and I kept it for years. It was beautiful and brilliantly made.
Although I haven't received flowers from a guy, my younger sister has. When she received them she called me up to tell me, and when I saw her her face was glowing. She hadn't really even noticed the guy beforehand, but after he send her flowers she went on three dates with him.
My Uncle always sends my mother flowers for her birthday, my dad rarely does. They always get put in the centre of our dinning room table, or above the piano, or on the dresser, but a good array of flowers is always shown in pride in our house.
And talking about considerate giving, it really doesn't need to be flowers or chocolates. For me, if a guy gets me a gift from the place/country he has just been too. The quality of the gift (whether it was made in the local area and so on) really catches my attention more than if he just bought me the latest thing. For example, a Japanese guy I had just met, whom had just one date with me. Didn't give me flowers or chocolates when he came back to England from Scotland, he gave me a box of different Whisky bottles. I was stunned and surprised. I had never been given that before, and I also knew it was something that Scotland was famous for, and... well I like my whisky. I was so happy about his consideration for Scottish history and not just giving me a typical girly gift, that I took him out to the Imax Cinema in Waterloo London to watch Interstellar before he had to leave to go back to Japan.
6. Walking on the outside of the Pavement (Sidewalk)
Always do it. Adults do that for their children, elder siblings for the younger ones, and boyfriends for their girlfriends. But... I don't like men I've just met doing this for me, or to put it simply, the men I don't like doing this for me. It feels to personal and too protective. If the guy has expressed their admiration for me, and I'm still in the unsure period of acceptance or consideration I find it attractive and kind. If the guy has declared he loves me and I have accepted, it even sweeter. But if a guy that has admitted his feelings for me, and I have flatly refused him and don't want much to do with him, but he's in my friendship groups... and he tries to stand there........ well, I would prefer to run ahead and pretend that he isn't there, and get splashed on by as many cars as possible, than to have his protection.
I also think it has a lot to do with the guy's mannerisms. Don't get all creepy, act natural.
7. Kissing your forehead.
My Dad, my ex-boyfriend, and some of my uncles do this when saying goodbye to me. And when they're tall and a bit out of reach this is one of the nicest things to do. As they aren't trying to stoop over and pull you up into an uncomfortable hug, or give you an awkward kiss on the cheek. It's somehow more respectful than a kiss a the cheek, and the only men I know who have done this to me have been men who are very thoughtful, wise, and kind. Speaking from experience, I think in general the men that kiss women on the forehead, are men that listen. They are showing that they admire the woman on the inside rather than what might be seen on the outside. This has happened when I have told a man a secret or a problem that I have had, or am having, or talked with him about a serious current issue and we have had a long in-depth discussion about it. Touching the forehead says to me, that he admires my mind, and kissing the forehead says he loves the way our conversation went. I have never forgotten a kiss to the forehead.
8. Filling up Gas tank??
Well, In England if any guy offers to service your car for you, you immediately think he's a great guy. Petrol so expensive here... and if he pays for it as well... then first you ask when they've hidden the cameras and if they aren't any, you ask for his number. Because that is just too hot!
If your boyfriend's borrowing your car... no if anyone is borrowing your car you give it back with a full tank. That is just common curtesy.
9. Helping to put Jacket on
Great. I like it when the guy actually holds my a jacket open for me, but I'm also a very giving person myself, and I will often do the same for him.
10. Walking girls home.
Again, for me it depends on whether I trust the guy. If it's a guy I just met a friends party. No way. If he's a handsome guy I just met... no way. Even if I like him. But a long time friend, acquaintance, brother, boyfriend then yes. Great consideration. But only if they themselves are sober enough to do so. I've had a few chivalrous men ask whether I want to be walked home when they have been totally drunk, and I flatly refuse.
Glad i found you guys.. Great show with fun!!!
the guy with the red shirt should learn how to let other people finish their talk.. the guy with the blue shirt tries to do his saying and you just keep rushing and hushing and just cut him off...
So, I just came across all your channels a few days ago and have watched half your vids already! You guys are great! Please instill your values on some guys where I live! Lol!!!
This is awesome!
I have known women who reacted with hostility to men who have done for them some of the things you mention. I consider many common courtesy, or kindnesses. I don't understand the hostility at all. Keep doing what you do - there are A LOT of us who appreciate it...plenty of us melt too
Women these days don't DESERVE to be treated like this anymore.
WOW!! I absolutely love this video and soooo agree with this more!!
One parent told their daughter this: if he doesn't open the car door for you - don't come out!
That's rather mean - but you get the point!
You two are way too entertaining. :)
wow. You guys are so cool. in school in the morning if there is someone behind me even if they are kinda far away i will hold the door for them and sometimes i get thank you but sometimes i just get a weird look. I live in Sweden, but im a girl and im in middleschool so maybe im just weird. Anyway you guys are AWESOME.
Y’all forgot about the stairs. Always follow her going up the stairs, and always walk in front of her going down the stairs. The reasoning behind this is to make sure you’re positioned to catch her if she trips or looses her balance.
You guys are awesome!! I think it's gentlemanly when he waits for you out side the restroom. Especially in a strange place.
wow. just wow. I watched tihs and just was awestruck. I'm and girl and no guy has ever done any of these for me. It is so nice to know that at least two men in the world know how to do the right thing. Your girls are so lucky.
you guys are wonderful! Thanks for showing that men can still be caring and respectful ie chivalrous!
You two make made my day!
You guys are right, seems like people now a days are more prone to instant gratification rather than something deeper. My bf is very gentlemen like, always insisting on doing certain chores that are outside, not because I can't do them, but because it's safer if he goes rather then a small Asian girl. I've always been very independent, but I totally appreciate his devotion to the small things that make traits like opening the door, holding it for strangers, going out of his way to help people helps me love him all the more.
Selfishness is unattractive and has a week ora, and Selflessness builds karma :)
Maybe it's just the part of New York I live in but everyone opens the door for each other and says thank you.
i really enjoyed it. great video
I have been married for 30 years my husband is a southern gentleman from day one and has never stopped.
Man should always make sure the female makes it home safe
You guys are wonderful!
love you guys, good points.
This applies to women too. One time at my apartment lobby entrance, there was an Asian lady and the apartment janitor who had a bucket of water and mop about to go in. The lady opened the door and the janitor said "thank you," but the lady just walked right in and didnt bother to hold the door for him. Although I was behind them, it irritated the crap out of me. I ended up holding the door for him. Low faith in humanity.. help me.
One thing i think is chivalrous, is when a guy and a girl are driving in a car (this could just be for friends, or it could be for a couple) and the guy says "Hey, what kind of music do you want to listen to?" I think thats really sweet and thoughtful. So guys, if you and your girlfriend or friend thats a girl are driving in the car together going wherever, let her pick the music or at least offer. Im sure she'll appreciate it.
you guys are so sweet, I like a lot how you think :) And Mike, you are downright hot (okay, now I blushed)
Sig Linde lol Thanks :-)
You guys have some really good points, especially the first few actions. Some of these would completely annoy me as a woman though... seriously? pull out my chair every time? Make me wait for someone to open my car door? ^ ^; Omg no thanks. I know a gentleman when I see one, but you can't go overboard and treat me like I'm useless. Aaaanyways, thank for this. You two are adorable :)
Please teach a course! Whoever you ever date they are REALLY lucky. Chivalry is not completely dead after all
some of the ones aren't even chivalry anymore, u guys are too sweet :) rock on
at around the 15 min mark, I do have to say something. Not all women will respond to gifts the same way. I read this book called "the Five Love Languages" and it talks about different ways that people like to receive love and that everyone has a different love language. Me, I do like gifts, but what would make me very happy are hugs. Hugs are awesome. My mom, she likes acts of service. My brother, gift giving. Yeah, we had an entire night where we talked about this, but it also explained why certain reactions are different and it can help people grow closer to each other.
The world needs more guys like you. Chivalry seems to be dead for the most part. Ha ha, I love how animated you got. "Who does that?!" :p
what you said about holding doors open in New York is so true
I'm watching this to not be chivalry. Because sometimes I'm too nice and I don't like that.
However, I don't mind being chivalry to men only because at least they thank me. 😊
I really like your guys point of view :) and mostly I always agree with Mike ^_^ keep it up with this great topics ^_^ greetings from Austria
aicha01 Thanks :-)
am already in loveeee ..you guys rock.
I personally don't like the car door one unless both people are approaching the car around the same time. Otherwise it feels awkward to watch the guy walk all the way around the car
in the past year I've done the door holding, the food bill paying, the last piece offering, the walk home escorting, offered to share my umbrella, reminded about a jacket, and all to females i just was getting to know as a friend with no expectations or ulterior motives. That's how I was raised, its not a submissive thing, not a desperate thing, its having civilized manners and not thinking only about yourself. If it were to have gotten to date level, then pulling dining table chairs, and opening car doors, but yeah whats wrong with refinement, it just proves your not constantly in a fight with everything thats not you.
Thanks for the info.
I agree with Dan's statement about the feminist magazines telling women what to think and how to act to be an "awesome, empowered woman, etc" and there are seemingly no written things for men about behavior and maturity.
You said what we are all thinking right there. WHY GIVE US THE BREAD IN THE FRIST PLACE! hahahaha
Really wish all guys were like you two!
I really enjoy you guys videos! Its both mature and has many words of wisdom and hidden messages in them.. It makes me laugh too in many ways.. and I agree I think chivalry is as much alive as women allow them to be.. Its only dead when its not the way YOU want it to be... But chivalry is can and could be anywhere.. Being a gentleman myself I realized that I do it just to do it because it is who I am as a person.. I do hold doors for girls but as well as elderly people and I smile I dont ask for a thank you, which many people are rude nowadays but It doesnt bother me. The point I am making is being a chivalry guy or girl is truly shown when you show it without noticing it yourself... Not just to impress the person whom you are with but also your environment.. Imagine you are going out on a date at a fancy restaurant... See how your partner treats the waiter and youll see who they really are as a person. Being a waiter myself I find it funny how they can treat you like a dog and yet be sweet to their partner.. Fake much? but i mean it depends in all cases... I think women only say chivalry is dead or make it seem like it is because it doesnt fit their "criteria" as in what is a gentleman truly is for their eyes... To me in my case it just seemed like they wanted something I couldn't change.. Like Dan & Mike, Im considered the nice guy, but that doesn't mean I get stepped on. I may open and hold doors for others than my partner? Does that make me a push over? No it means I was well raised and know my manners. When you try clothes on at a store do you throw them at the person who is in fits? Or do you bring back the hangers with the clothes on..? Its not about "part of the job" or this or that but its rather a Moral Principle.. Its logic. Its common sense. The way I see it.. Ladies.. and gents... Chivalry is as alive as you accept it to be just the way that person is.. True he/she may not be a casanova to the world but if they are just normal regular people who can love you just the way you are and take good care of you? Put the douches in the friend zone and bump them up for the love zone, ive seen so many gentleman just change who they are because of constant "friendzone" and being too "nice" but there is no such thing.. as being too nice. its called a privilege not an obligation.. so people like that shouldnt be taken for granted.. I think people see this as too good to be true or something... anyway im ranting but being older now i sort of see how the world sees and its sad for the most part.. but for anyone out there who still believes in chivalry being a good thing whether you are a girl or a guy.. just hang in there, we may finish last but at least when we get it its ours for life.. most of the time..i think... ha ha ha... ok i ll shut up now.
I always thought about it as a sign of politeness instead of chivalrous. Holding the door for the one who's coming behind should be a normal thing to do.
Mei Wang Very true. It's rude to slam the door shut on the face of the person who's coming behind you. That too with the automatic doors these days. They close so fast.
Same. I though you held the door open for everyone.
LOL you two are awesome!
God what happened to chivalry 90% of what you mentioned I wish a guy would do for me. Most of the time I am the chivalrous one:holding the door open, helping people with there coats, holding the elevator, standing on the bus/subway so a person older then me can sit down or someone in need can. I hate looking around n the subway and seeing people my age (mid 20's) sitting and a person obviously older standing infront of them. Like come on get up let them sit, it's not difficult. Another thing I find is that I am always the last one off the elevator I always hold the door and let everyone else off first even if I am closest to the door. This goes for people of all ages I always let them off first and it drives me nuts when I see young men get off before me or a senior (unless they are right by the door) but half the time they push past to get off first. Arggghh. I am so glad to hear that chivalry is not completely dead but just a rare find. Keep up the videos guys, love them.
You gentlemen are the best!
I am a woman who is lovin’ it ✨❤️❤️✨😁😁
Gentlemen are definitely rare nowadays so you two are gems!
I just want to say, I want a boyfriend like Mike xD
Mike and Dan please come to Moscow whenever possible! I'm a chinese studying here, and I'm more than happy to bring you guys around if you happen to drop by! :)
OMG!!!! You watch Gilmore Girls?!?! I watch that with my mom as our together time!!!! I love that show, and I think it's so cool that you watch it!!!!
Wow!! Where do you find guys like this? They are such gentlemen. I'm so impressed.
The best conversations happen when you're walking home, that's why
yall are right its especially bad when theres two sets of doors and you hold the door for them and then they just blow through the second .
Sending a thank you letter. This is great not only after a date but also in business and every day life. Everyone is so into sending emails or texts, I think people highly underestimate the power of a letter hand written stamped and mailed. Or if you have a nice dinner the meal was awesome. ex. write down a note to the chef and let them know that you appreciate there talent and you enjoyed it to the fullest. Not only does this make them feel special but also can change the complete mood of all the staff and this leading to more satisfied customers.
Whenever I find myself a girlfriend, I will do all these chivalry things out of my own joy, it sincerely brings joy to my heart. I don't expect anything back, if it makes her feel special, desired and respected I will do them because it makes me feel good and potentially even make her day! I can already see myself doing these things 😊
(I was an unhappy asshole in my past relationships because I wasn't behaving this way, which I believe is my true self)
You guys are hilarious when you freak out about little rude things like the bathroom and the chair. I laughed until I coughed! I do agree with you though, the girl should go to the bathroom first.
you two are great! love how you guys talk about serious topics w/out the serious atmosphere!
Anyway, I would like to hear what you guys think about the Maslow's Hierarchy of need -- the relationship edition. I believe guys who start to treat their partners 'not as sweet anymore' is because they have realized they achieved the 'pysiological' level of the triangle (i.e. the guy know he got the girl with him physically). However, I think most people would just 'fall off' the triangle completely instead of moving up. What do you guys think? It would be great if you guys can make a video on that. :)
well done gentlemen
The cause it to conduct yourself if anyone else is thankful or not
Thank you and hope you have a great day.
Being a gentleman truely makes the world a better place
So funny story. My hubby and I moved to Japan a few years ago. For the first few weeks he opened my car door for me. He NEVER did this for me in the states. It took me a while to realize that he was only opening my door to cover up the fact that he'd walked to the wrong side of the car out of habit (we drive on the opposite side of the road from the US here in Japan). He was not trying to be nice. It was very disappointing. Gentlemen, OPEN THE DOOR! He has many other amazing qualities, though.