One day I explained to my daughter that the authentic pearl bracelet from her grandmother was "only for special occasions", and she very calmly said "Life is a special occasion." Children understand more than adults do. Life is a special occasion y'all so live it well 🤍
Omg, I found this as Emily is currently BLOWING UP and I'm straight up bawling my eyes out. I really needed to hear this message. Emily, you are an amazing, inspiring woman!!
@@TheEmilyDBaker thank you for what you’re doing and the community you’re building on UA-cam! I’m not a social person so I don’t interact with community’s or creators much but you’re something very special!
@calyppy SAME! I've been loving her Erika Girardi videos! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I'm not necessarily a "driven" career person, but I always just kind of innately understood that I was going to be in ministry as a profession for the rest of my life. When I left my faith - or as I like to say, my faith left me - about five years ago, I don't think I ever mourned the loss of that life trajectory because I was too busy mourning the loss of my faith itself. Even though that time in my life seems so far removed from where I am now, I'm realizing that I never took the time to recollect, re-figure out, or re-dream my life. Thinking it might be time to reconnect with the me from five years ago with a new perspective and a new hope for a more fulfilled life moving forward. Sorry for the rant 😂 Emily, you're awesome!
@@baybae92 I get it about mourning the loss of your faith. I was part of a cult for 7 years and when I finally left a huge hole was left in my life and my heart. It took me years to get over it. Hugs from one survivor to another!
This happened to me... at 40 years old, 20 years in children's mental health... my work environment was toxic and I struggled for years until I resigned. It took years for me figure out a next step because I had defined my life around being a child a youth worker. And I was a darn good one. I loved my job. I loved my clients. I'm now 45 years old and going back to school to get my ba in human resource management.
I've told my three children to consider John Lennon's wisdom: "When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
I had no idea seeing the full you extremely vulnerable would be so different, but it's great!! You are so genuine to yourself and your followers. Keep up the good work.
Wow! I found you with the Depp heard trial. You mentioned this and I had to hear it. At 50 I am in the middle of thinking about my life and the box I put myself in. I'm finally thinking through what works for me.
😂 I just hollered! God bless Elaine lol. At the end of the day, she'll be one of the cast of characters that made this trial addicting. Not knowing what she'd do next. May her microphone always be "on".
Just came to this video for the first time and I started watching Emily during the Depp trial and I just literally laughed out loud to myself. Thank you! 🤣😂🤣 ELAINE!!
EDB Probs won't see this but damn, 10 years in a job and my backs given out. I've had TIME to step back and evaluate, weeks off work and at a loss, like wtf, I am more then my job. I think EDB is a boss witch, yes witch, as this is the talk I didn't know I needed right now, she's a magical witch, thank you!
@@tland2u22 😂 It was important in a trial about defamation and I heard Camille saying that in my head. It's not original but neither are we going every day like "good morning, words matter, have a nice day" 😂
I'm not interested in law, or any of the cases that Emily covers on youtube, but I'm really drawn to her personality and that's what brought me here. Great presentation!
@@rjmunster9600I also loved her personality and her videos, but something was off about her I thought, but couldn’t put a finger on what it was exactly, so I looked her up a little bit and it put me off against her completely. I mean, I don’t care about UA-camrs’ political views in general, but her being a Trump supporter, her stance on the Bryanna Tyler case AND her victim blaming, it doesn’t paint a pretty picture of her, rather one you wouldn’t want to have as it’d kinda discriminatory against a Republican, but I can’t take her seriously when I know what she thinks of women.
Emily - I found you on LawTube because of the Johnny Depp Trial - and found this Ted Talk you did and found it very inspirational and so true. I'm glad you found how you wanted to be in your life, and I'm glad you're doing what you do because it shines so brightly allowing others to benefit from your insight. Can't wait to see more of your content.
My three words are *I DON’T KNOW* - most people are scared of admitting it, even in school, where you need to say it more than anything else. If we don’t know what we don’t know, how can we learn? I love taking tests because they’re the best way to find out what I don’t know. And knowing what you don’t know is the first step to learning.
You nailed it. I just wish people would realise its not a weakness but a strength to be able to admit a lack of knowledge and then ideally link it to a desire to find that knowledge. What a boost it could be if politicians could say "I dont know but my job is to be a manager and to source the best bunch of advisors and they will know and I will guide them to a resolution, and together we'll come up with the best plan we can, and if THAT doesn't work we'll try the next plan." But for THAT to work there has to be an environment that encourages and respects the honesty and integrity of the words "I dont know" and we all have to make that environment happen.
It took me almost 1.5years but i finally found a start to my 3 words - Self-sufficient Sustainable Homesteader. None of which will be easy with autism and borderline - but having ASD and BPD are the EXACT reason why normal jobs dont work for me without going into burnout...
Interesting perspective on test taking. I see tests as a waste of time and effort because all you have to do is regurgitate what the teacher wants to hear on them. Typically tests are worded in such a way (on multiple choice) where there are at least 2 correct answers, if you're open minded enough. You have to assume which answer the teacher wants, so it's essentially a game of psychology (from my perspective). That doesn't help me learn, it only helps me understand my teacher's mind - that's different from the source material.
I ‘met’ Emily on her UA-cam channel. She’s a great teacher in breaking down aspects of lawsuits and legal matters. That has added a lot to my knowledge. But the best part, is her contagious joy, laughter, and keeping perspective. Thanks, Emily!!!
Wow @Emily D. Baker new member here. This is my 1st time seeing this. Since i started following you 2 years ago. I always felt i related to you, understood you, and most importantly respected you. After seeing this, i relate to you even more, understand you even more, and most importantly, respect you even more. This message was so profound.
Wow, glad I finally watched this. A few years ago I became too disabled to work, so my answer to "what do you do?" became nothing. Before that I was a chemical engineer, and every time I told someone they were impressed, inspired, and then I suddenly became "nothing". There is very little in my life I get to choose, but a job certainly isn't the most important
So this hit hard for me. I am a mother who currently is on disability after 8 back surgeries. The embarrassment of even telling some doctors I’m on disability is incredible. I am 36 years old and just this year I finally realized that I have no clue what I ever wanted to actually be when I got older. I never had the dream job or even wanted to do something besides be a mom until this year. However being chronically in pain wasn’t something on my list either. This ted talk was a sign for me. That no matter what, I can be something I am proud to tell people. I have never really cared what people thought about me. Until I realized that telling people I have no job… no career was embarrassing to me. Thank you for this Ted talk. Out of all the ones I have watched this one resinated with me the most.
I got stuck in "I wanna be a mom," for 38 years. Now I have to find "ME". I love Emily. I've been a Law Nerd all year, but this is the first time I've watched this. I'm getting my paper & pen now.
Emily is great. She is a straight talker. I’ve watched her UA-cam channel again and again. I listened to this talk before and still enjoy her common sense.❤
I spent my 20s and 30s pushing myself through college, jumping from job to job to make as much money as I could because my husband wouldn't accept anything less. I divorced him and took a non profit job helping my community and I've never been happier 😊
That's what I would love to do! May I ask if it is easy finding enough income as that is a non profit and would assume wages aren't the highest. There wasn't enough money for me to go to college so it's proving hard for me since at the end of the day I have to pay bills and take care of other people.
@bryanalexismoya397 my experience has been that non profits don't pay as well. I am very fortunate to have found one in my city that is well funded and pays a great wage. I have a 4 yr degree, but half my team doesn't have a college degree. It takes a little longer to work up to the higher paid positions, but it will get you in the door.
@@rjmunster9600 yeah, if you really want to call that victim blaming. Bc I agree as someone who used to solely run around with drug dealers. Yeah, we really shouldn't be around them. Crazy how when you're sober those issues fall away
Dear Emily I wish I knew you in real life. I’m sure we would never stop talking. I felt really touched as you started your talk, I felt so bad for you and was teary as you talked about your shoulder injury (how is it now?) and then when you talked about two back surgeries I sobbed because I have been there. For me it was life changing. I’ve had those surgeries too. And I’m faced with more. I’ll be doing more thinking while I’m recovering too. I remember the day I looked in the mirror and didn’t know what I liked or didn’t, what my hobbies were or weren’t, what my values were. I’d been something for someone else for longer than I could remember that I didn’t know myself. In the past 8 years though, I’ve discovered happiness. You are so right, it’s not a job! So I am now working to turn my interests and hobbies into something fun and interesting and hopefully successful. I found you through your UA-cam and I feel so honoured to know you! Thank you for sharing your wisdom here, you are a special sparkly shiny badass!!! 😄💗💐
I found you when watching the Depp-Heard trial. My son had ADHD- his school years were heartbreaking: now he is in Heaven. You are a genuine treasure! You have an amazing heart and great wisdom. Best regards, Deb
Oh, Deb. I'm so sorry about your son. ADHD is rough... Not everyone grows out of it and for some, it gets worse as they transition into adulthood. I'm struggling with it right now, and it sucks. I often wonder which direction my life would've gone in had I received treatment early on and didn't get misdiagnosed so many times.
@@nissan_skyline ...you don't..."grow out of" having ADHD, you have it for life. There's a lot of ways people choose to deal with it, through medication, therapy, masking, friends who understand, but it's not something that goes away. You indicate that you have ADHD yourself, so I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and say you phrased that incorrectly, but...if that's how you've been taught to believe? Stop it, it's very harmful rhetoric.
@@LoreCatan Uh I didn't mean it literally. I know you don't grow out of it. The point I was trying to get across is that for some, it gets worse or the symptoms become more prevalent into adulthood. Calm down.
@@nissan_skyline There's no other way to take it than literally, is English not your first language? Your point was made without adding the "grow out of it" in front of it, it's just phrased really badly. And I was giving you the benefit of the doubt, so it's really bad form to reply with "calm down" when you're wrong. You could've just said "Yeah, I phrased that incorrectly, I meant it this way ___" and it would've been fine, but you just couldn't admit you were wrong.
Deb, I’m so sorry. My five year old grandson is having problems in preK. He is being evaluated for ADHD. I feel so bad for him. He is so smart and so adorable but has social problems. He just can’t seem to contain his behavior. It’s heartbreaking.
Great talk here Emily D Baker!!! I did the same thing... quit my corp job after 27 years, starting at 19. I already was a Mom at 18 so working was making money not a dream job. I remember within the first year saying out loud in the bathroom at work "There has to be more than this!" and I struggled with the grind threw the years. I felt "stuck", by 26 I purchased my 1st home on my own, got married and had another child... I had to work and I felt angry that I wasn't home with my kids! I did everything to change that, I even quit the company after I had my 2nd child... worked as a contractor for them for a year, and then they stopped those jobs and I went back to the same company again... all my skills where there. I could of grown to the much desired management position... but I chose being a Mom instead... I grinded it out by working 2nd shift, then 3rd shift... anything to be home when they got home from school. I hated that they owned me 40 hrs a week! When the kids got older and I had the opportunity to make a change, I took it! The company offered early retirement, but I was short 3 years for my pension... but I ate it and ran! I can now do my dream job and I had had enough of being "owned". Well... there year I left... I got sick... something that I could die from any day... but also it may never be a big issue either... sort of a gamble yet nothing I can do to change it.. so I do my appts and make sure all is stable and forget about it from there :) I am just starting to get my life to where I want it... but a lot of things to work around, like elderly parents that need me and such... if I was at that job, I couldn't be there for them! Even though I don't have the income I had, the freedom of the collar being removed is much more valuable to me! I chose TIME over MONEY! Thanks for the reminder sister!!!!!! Rock on!!!
This is amazing. Wow. I’m here after Emily blew up. She deserves everything! What a amazing sparkling woman.. I wanted to be a orca trainer too. When I was a kid. I love orcas and am totally and completely obsessed with them. But then I learned how they where bing treated and abused. Now it’s my goal to become a marine mammalogist and study the residential community of orca in the puget sound.
SAME! Born and raised in Olympia, WA! I grew up loving orcas and wanted to be a marine biologist until I learned that wasn't a guarantee to hang with orcas all day so it shifted to an orca trainer! So much for that tho. I'm an accountant in Tacoma LOL
Funny that I ran across this. I have always told my children and grandchildren: get the job you are happy with, because you will love going in to work each day. It isn’t the money, the title, it is about what interests YOU have, and what makes you happy. If you are happy, everyone that loves you will be happy too! I know Emily from YT channel, love you Emily D.Baker! I always got this vibe from you . You are a very friendly, personable, loveable person, who has a very kind soul! Congrats on reaching 500,000 subscribers!!!
In France it is considered very rude to ask someone what they do for a living, especially upon first meeting! Love this chat Emily love your channel!! Learning so much from you Thank you❤️
I think in the US it depends on the situation. You can be prying & overstepping or you can truly be getting to know someone. I wouldn't ask a random stranger what they do while we both happen to at a coffee shop. But if we had already been talking and hitting it of and school or work came up asking what their current major or job is I don't think is rude, I wouldn't mind in the reverse.
In Italy is almost the first thing they ask you and if you're young they ask what's your parents job. I always found it very rude although is what everybody does.
Go Emily!!! Choose your life. Three small words that damn near have me in tears. I need to do this but don’t even know where to begin. I have words in my mind that I would love to describe or explain me, but to put them in action...no clue. I need Ted Talk part 2!
year later .... hope you're both beginning to find Your starting point it's your life only you can do that ........ best of luck in your lives what ever your choices I'm sure you'll get there
@@orlalolo4585 wow! Do you have some timing or what?!? I was diagnosed with cancer not long after my comment. Chemo, double mastectomy and radiation. Yesterday was my last day of treatment. TODAY is the day I get to more fully take charge of how my life is going to go. Thank you for your best wishes. They just came in extra special for me today!!!
The only only only caveat to this is that we can’t ignore the economic limitations placed on some people. When survival is paramount, I think it’s very difficult to choose things. But it can be a good reminder to try and focus on the things you can choose.
I needed to hear this today. I’ve been a subscriber for awhile now and every now and then I click on this video thinking I haven’t seen it, but it’s those moments when I really needed to hear and listen to this again. Cheers Emily and to your sparkly badass self!
I have worked as a teacher with temporary contracts for two and half years. Teaching was my plan B. I wanted to be an author, but I knew it would be hard to make money. The reason I wanted to be an author was because 1. I could write stories which I love, and 2. I could write from anywhere in the world. But I spend so much time on my plan B. I went to school, and because I had problems finishing my education, I wasted my 20s doing that. I did some writing online, got followers, but I never spent as much time as I should on my plan A. Now I am 33, no schools are inviting me for a job interview and I am unemployed. I took this as a sign that I don't have to be a teacher anymore. I didn't hate being a teacher, but I didn't love it. It is a lot of work, and I have to bring work with me home. This video really spoke to me. I get to choose my life. Yes, I need to make money, but have I truly done enough to make my plan A happen? No! I was so worried that I would fail my plan A that I spent all my energy on my plan B. That is going to change. I am going to do so much more to make plan A happen.
I can't believe I have never seen your TedTalk, I watch you every day. This made me cry like a baby. I hate my job, I want to leave, I need to leave for my mental health, but I stay because it's an incoming paycheck that I can't be without. This Talk was everything, Emily. Why this isn't more popular I don't know. This really touched me this morning. You have truly become a shiny, sparkly badass. I am so proud of you. All my love to you and yours. 💜
This an amazing talk. Found you through your channel following Depp trial. And even before listening to this, I could relate to you in that I have a son who also passed the bar the first time, went to law school in southern cal, and is not practicing law but instead has a fabulous job that he loves. I've lived in CA for nearly my whole life until I picked myself up and decided to be happy! Divorced and moved out of state. Now, even at my old age, it's time to ask myself, finally, what my three words are.
I've felt like I've been stuck in a rut since late spring (Covid has put A LOT into perspective) so I took a chance and applied to college. I'm currently sitting on acceptances to 3 different programs but it didn't feel real - I wasn't excited like I should be. After coming across Emily a week ago and watching her channel/podcast blow up, I started to feel that excitement. And now after watching this, I am SO motivated and ready to make this big change. Thanks Emily✨❤️✨
I've been following Emily's legal commentary for quite a while now, but I hadn't seen this wondrous TEDtalk yet. Brilliant! It's not surprising that she absolutely rocked it, but it is astounding how this sparkly, shiny badass can continuously inspire me. What a wonderful message to share and live by.
@Emily....I found your UA-cam channel during the Murdaugh Trial...I like when you give your expertise and opinions throughout the Trial. The more I learn about you, you are an inspiration ✨️ to me and others.
I've taken to responding to "what do you do?" by talking about literally what I do. Sometimes my job, but just as often, like, I read books and cook and make art, because I think those things are as much a part of me as what I do for money.
Thank you so much for your TED Talk! I absolutely loved it! I also love every minute of being a Law Nerd! Thanks for being YOU! That's all that matters!
Man I wish I would have heard this when I was a little 9 year old girl!! Emily you’re amazing the world is a better place because of you and your someone people dream of being friends with.🖤
I’ve been wanting to watch this for a while. I have been a subscriber to Emily B for a while I love everything she does this today I needed more than anything I needed to hear in my entire life! I am a mother of seven and a grandmother to six doggy mom a wife.. I’ve had too many jobs to count in with so many places in my lifetime and finding who I am is sometimes hardest thing I do in the day thank you Emily for showing me different perspective after all these years and my age difference sometimes we just need to hear. Is it what we were raised to believe is not always the way things work in the real world changes hard and changing our minds is even harder. Thank you for all the love, kind, smart words and the patience you have
...and I found Emily on law tube as well during the Depp trial and there was this moment during the cross with Camille (I believe) when Emily, who was part of a panel of lawyers was listening carefully, and she did a joyful "YES!" to something she heard. I immediately loved her. A human being who not only knows her stuff but wants to see justice. She rejoiced in the truth. I thought to myself, if I ever needed a lawyer, I would want her in my corner.
I just recently, at 32, discovered this for myself. I always spent every moment trying to make sure everyone else was happy but never myself and ALL I ever wanted was to be happy. I am slowly accepting that more and more in my life and it has be one of the best decisions of my entire life. This definitely brought me to tears, especially having watched you for years and not view this. I thought I loved you then Emily... but it wasn't like this. ;) Love you, you shiny, Sparkly Badass!!!
This desperately needs an update. From online consulting to 700k subs on UA-cam 💜💜💜. Love how many new comments here are. UA-cam just decided its time for lawnerds to watch this again
I've always quietly felt the same. I never wanted a career, I just ended up with one, and when it's over I won't give it a second thought when I close the door on it. I mean, why do we put so much energy into something we detach ourselves from at retirement. Work to live, don't live to work. Find some life balance and don't be just your job title.
"Words matter on a cellular, fundamental level in our beings." THIS is why verbal abuse is particularly damaging. It leads to the destruction of one's very being.
Thank you for this. I cannot wait to show this to my son. He is 21 and still asking 'What do I want to be?'. He asked me the other day what I wanted to be when I was young. We talk constantly and have open communication but I don't think I've ever been able to express the thoughts you put into this. I at 50, have a brand new career that Covid helped me fall into and I love it. I am a true crime content creator here on UA-cam and the happiest I've ever been. I used to work in computers and hated them. But I cannot wait to watch this with my son, so thanks for sharing this Emily. Truly.
I found you on UA-cam for the Johnny Depp Trial and your beautiful inside and out. Thank you for sharing your stories about ADHD , I struggle with Bipolar and depression all my life and I found myself getting up just to hear your Podcast and I really want to see more of your accomplishments because you inspire me to get up and show up.. Thank you
😳 This is a gem 💎 I became a law nerd over the amazing commentary while the Johnny Depp & Amber Heard case is going on. I used to be weary of the legal system and anything and anyone associated in this legal domain. You, Emily, have changed this! Thank you for opening my eyes to this domain and not being afraid of it. Thank you for being you, without apologies.
Emily I am a grateful law nerd. You are my hero and a role model for anyone who ever lacks confidence in their abilities or talents. I watch everyday and you are gloriously bright and thought provoking. I’m sharing this to my peeps. I love you Sista.
I got an MBA chasing that important status. I now work from home as a sales rep and my quality of life is so much better. I had to drop a lot of restricting thoughts to align myself with the life I want. I thought the office/corporate work I put in defined me, but now I get to be at home with a much less stressful job and I can focus on my art and health.
I've watched a lot of Emily's youtube content recently, and only now found this TED talk. Very inspiring, and thought provoking. Seeing a successful fellow neurodivergent who has made her life suitable for her instead of trying to fit into boxes gives me hope. 💗
I just started watching Emily when she started covering the Karen Read trial, ,and I absolutely love everything about her! Now that I watched her amazing Ted Talk I am even more impressed (if that’s possible) and it’s definitely given me plenty to think about.
I found your channel a year ago … I hardly ever watched because the lawnerd chat was so fast and green(connected) I couldn’t afford to join as a member, so I would lurk like most of my life has been spent. My bit of background is born in Vegas and got out when my kiddo turned 10 in 2002. I wanted to go to law school my dad said I could argue with the best… Im a nail tech and love it (32yrs now) at 55 I feel stuck… I have a client who did a Ted talk 3-4 yrs ago in Boise Idaho it was amazing and just as inspiring as yours … I just feel like it’s too late for me … ugggg
As a mom of two teens who are choosing colleges and careers, this is so important!!!! My daughter gets it, but my son doesn’t. He says he wants to be a doctor but I am warning him how much he is going to have to work! I wish he would be a math teacher and a coach. I think he would be much happier! But, I guess we all have to make our own choices and experience things for ourselves. Me, I’m 51 and I would love to go to law school! Or stay home and make jewelry all day, or become a pet-assisted therapist. But I work for the state so I can provide benefits for my kids. But maybe once they’re off to college I can make some changes. I love your channel and listen to you all day long at my boring desk job. Hugs mama!
Usually I disregard TEDx, but this here Emily is something else!!! Just found her because of Anger Heard v Johnny Depp and her commentary his been great!
Audacity for the win as usual! Sounds like you got this well under control. When you decide you're going to win in life, 90+% of the battle has already been won. Not to sound like Charlie Sheen (I'm slightly more sane), but it sounds like you're WINNING already. I'd say "good luck", but you don't need luck. How about 'keep it up'?? 😃
since they raise us to "become" a Job Title... they also judge our entire persona based upon our J.O.B. Yes, i was a teacher, I was a radiology surgical tech, Yes, i then left that and became a pharmacist. NONE of those JOBS define who i AM, because on the side who I REALLY am, was the creative self who made music, wrote, sang, produced short films and worked with people from all over the world in this niche where i WISH I could have made it my Job. but nope, to earn the right to do what I Loved i had to go to the JOB first. we dont always GET to get paid to do what we Love, but the Ultimate life plan is to end up that way... Love you, EMily. and I finally got to watch your TedTalk. LawNerd always... pharmacist by day. creative always..
Came here after finding Emily’s channel during the Depp v Heard trial. Emily you’re amazing! This is so true and I’m so glad so many follow you because the advice you gave here was so good. “What if any changes have you made to your life plan?”
This is the most amazing speech I’ve ever watched! I’ve been fighting stage four cancer for five years, and I’ve enjoyed this speech more than anything…
This is so great. I was a stay at home mom for years and always felt I had to explain my choice to leave the workforce so I could be home with my son and eventually homeschool my kid with special needs and now he is pursuing his dream job.
I ♥️ Emily’s channel and this was everything!! I admire her even more now than I did 20 minutes ago. Such a fantastic speaker and a wonderful message. It was weird without the “cursey words” though 😉
I totally agree. I write a lot about how we don’t teach mindset, psychology, purpose or transformation to our kids, and we focus on tests and scores. I hate it. We need to get back out soul.
I’m a relatively new law nerd and this video just came up. Thank you for your words of wisdom. On a side note I played on the men’s waterpolo team for three years in high school too. I wasn’t a great player but it was fun.
Emily! I attended CSULB from 1981 - 1987 and then from 1992-1995 for my masters. I watch you on Your UA-cam channel and I LOVE YOU!!! I found this ted talk via your channel. 🎉🎉🎉. I also had back surgery in 2013 with the result being a knicked nerve and forever pain. My career journey heavily depended on my desire to always be learning and changing the norm. It was an exciting rollercoaster. It was wonderful until I went through 3 rounds of cancer from 2012 - 2016. In 2016, I also changed my life. I haven’t figured out what my next step is, but listening to you has set my perspective in the right direction!! You are beautiful!!!
Who else is here because of Emily's amazing UA-cam channel!!?
Where my Law Nerds at ?
Law nerds unite!
MEEEE :)
Here......;)
I’m here ❤️
Pennoyer is still valid law.
I am both a law student (on leave) AND a recreational provocateur. Does it show?
One day I explained to my daughter that the authentic pearl bracelet from her grandmother was "only for special occasions", and she very calmly said "Life is a special occasion." Children understand more than adults do. Life is a special occasion y'all so live it well 🤍
Thank you for sharing this. It really touched my heart ❤
That’s beautiful.
Wow she should probably be a lawyer or scholar on debate team lol
How I've been a law nerd for practically two years and never watched this is beyond me.
Everyone should watch this. EVERYONE.
SAME!
Omg, I found this as Emily is currently BLOWING UP and I'm straight up bawling my eyes out. I really needed to hear this message. Emily, you are an amazing, inspiring woman!!
Me too. I really really needed this
@@TheEmilyDBaker thank you for what you’re doing and the community you’re building on UA-cam! I’m not a social person so I don’t interact with community’s or creators much but you’re something very special!
@calyppy SAME! I've been loving her Erika Girardi videos! This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning.
I'm not necessarily a "driven" career person, but I always just kind of innately understood that I was going to be in ministry as a profession for the rest of my life. When I left my faith - or as I like to say, my faith left me - about five years ago, I don't think I ever mourned the loss of that life trajectory because I was too busy mourning the loss of my faith itself.
Even though that time in my life seems so far removed from where I am now, I'm realizing that I never took the time to recollect, re-figure out, or re-dream my life. Thinking it might be time to reconnect with the me from five years ago with a new perspective and a new hope for a more fulfilled life moving forward.
Sorry for the rant 😂 Emily, you're awesome!
Love that woman!
She's inspirational, real --- a beautiful woman and soul!
@@baybae92 I get it about mourning the loss of your faith. I was part of a cult for 7 years and when I finally left a huge hole was left in my life and my heart. It took me years to get over it. Hugs from one survivor to another!
I thought for sure that the three words were going to be "Facts not F*ckery."
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This comment wins😂
@@TheEmilyDBaker I love your content!
@@tootieramsey9766 I'm relieved, I finally got a win somewhere in 2020! Hahaha happy holidays
@@TheEmilyDBaker
Uhhhhmazing Ted talk!!!
This happened to me... at 40 years old, 20 years in children's mental health... my work environment was toxic and I struggled for years until I resigned. It took years for me figure out a next step because I had defined my life around being a child a youth worker. And I was a darn good one. I loved my job. I loved my clients. I'm now 45 years old and going back to school to get my ba in human resource management.
proud of you Michelle!
@@scullyscully5328 thanks! I'm really proud of myself!
Badass!!! You go girl!! Very proud of you.
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Late comment, but good for you. Working with kids is great prep for HR BTW! (From someone that did HR for awhile!).
I've told my three children to consider John Lennon's wisdom: "When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down 'happy'. They told me I didn't understand the assignment, and I told them they didn't understand life."
I had no idea seeing the full you extremely vulnerable would be so different, but it's great!! You are so genuine to yourself and your followers. Keep up the good work.
Such a brilliant quote from John Lennon. He's totally right. Thanks for reminding me of it.
Oh, that’s so good!
He was an incredible song writer who was an abusive husband and father to ex wife Cynthia and first son Julian 😢
Wow! I found you with the Depp heard trial. You mentioned this and I had to hear it. At 50 I am in the middle of thinking about my life and the box I put myself in. I'm finally thinking through what works for me.
Me too! It just feels like it's time.❤
Same .. didn't know why this popped up on my recommended but I don't believe in coincidences so 👍
Sameee!! Watching her daily lol
Me to
She really is a badass !
I admire you, Emily. Thank you. My three words are Find your passion.
The 3 words: "What if any..." 😂
😂 I just hollered! God bless Elaine lol. At the end of the day, she'll be one of the cast of characters that made this trial addicting. Not knowing what she'd do next. May her microphone always be "on".
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Just came to this video for the first time and I started watching Emily during the Depp trial and I just literally laughed out loud to myself. Thank you! 🤣😂🤣
ELAINE!!
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EDB Probs won't see this but damn, 10 years in a job and my backs given out. I've had TIME to step back and evaluate, weeks off work and at a loss, like wtf, I am more then my job. I think EDB is a boss witch, yes witch, as this is the talk I didn't know I needed right now, she's a magical witch, thank you!
Lawyer, then UA-camr… Emily could have a third career as a life coach or therapist. I am in love with her channel, and this TED talk is fantastic.
I was thinking the same thing - damn she’d be a good therapist.
Bottom line. Raise children to have a well rounded life. Clear identity and healthy self esteem.
amazing woman!!!!!!!
Hi lol
Inspirational and powerful. Thank you, Emily.
Oh hey its you lol
@Adam McIntyre 🙌✨
I agree!!
She really is amazing❣
Omg, this is amazing...
"Words matter..." - Emily D. Baker, Lawyer, 2017.
"Words matter..." - Camille Vazquez, Lawyer, 2022
I immediately thought of Camille, too
Damn what a good comment
“The sky is blue” -2022 (now if anybody else ever says this phrase from here on, they are copying me!!)lol
I heard it the first time.
@@tland2u22 😂 It was important in a trial about defamation and I heard Camille saying that in my head. It's not original but neither are we going every day like "good morning, words matter, have a nice day" 😂
I'm not interested in law, or any of the cases that Emily covers on youtube, but I'm really drawn to her personality and that's what brought me here. Great presentation!
I love what she has said. Chose your life, and not a title..
Same here. Although there have been cases she's covered that I found interesting, most videos I just watch because I love her personality
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@@rjmunster9600I also loved her personality and her videos, but something was off about her I thought, but couldn’t put a finger on what it was exactly, so I looked her up a little bit and it put me off against her completely. I mean, I don’t care about UA-camrs’ political views in general, but her being a Trump supporter, her stance on the Bryanna Tyler case AND her victim blaming, it doesn’t paint a pretty picture of her, rather one you wouldn’t want to have as it’d kinda discriminatory against a Republican, but I can’t take her seriously when I know what she thinks of women.
Emily - I found you on LawTube because of the Johnny Depp Trial - and found this Ted Talk you did and found it very inspirational and so true. I'm glad you found how you wanted to be in your life, and I'm glad you're doing what you do because it shines so brightly allowing others to benefit from your insight. Can't wait to see more of your content.
Ditto!!!
Me as well..
Talk about inspirational ! She was also in our Australian major main stream news today re her insights on the Johnny dep case
Yup! 😸
Hi 👧👧❤❤🌷🌷
"There was no plan after that" I feel that so much. I am crying
My three words are *I DON’T KNOW* - most people are scared of admitting it, even in school, where you need to say it more than anything else. If we don’t know what we don’t know, how can we learn? I love taking tests because they’re the best way to find out what I don’t know. And knowing what you don’t know is the first step to learning.
Should be mine as well. So much trouble in my life could've been circumvented by those three words.
You nailed it. I just wish people would realise its not a weakness but a strength to be able to admit a lack of knowledge and then ideally link it to a desire to find that knowledge. What a boost it could be if politicians could say "I dont know but my job is to be a manager and to source the best bunch of advisors and they will know and I will guide them to a resolution, and together we'll come up with the best plan we can, and if THAT doesn't work we'll try the next plan." But for THAT to work there has to be an environment that encourages and respects the honesty and integrity of the words "I dont know" and we all have to make that environment happen.
I think its maybe a little trial and error. Try it, you don't like it? Great! Next one.
It took me almost 1.5years but i finally found a start to my 3 words - Self-sufficient Sustainable Homesteader. None of which will be easy with autism and borderline - but having ASD and BPD are the EXACT reason why normal jobs dont work for me without going into burnout...
Interesting perspective on test taking. I see tests as a waste of time and effort because all you have to do is regurgitate what the teacher wants to hear on them. Typically tests are worded in such a way (on multiple choice) where there are at least 2 correct answers, if you're open minded enough. You have to assume which answer the teacher wants, so it's essentially a game of psychology (from my perspective). That doesn't help me learn, it only helps me understand my teacher's mind - that's different from the source material.
It's now 2023, and Emily is aging backwards! Love her!
Right!?!!
Happiness does that, I look younger now than I did a few years back but not without a little botox in my forehead 😂
I ‘met’ Emily on her UA-cam channel. She’s a great teacher in breaking down aspects of lawsuits and legal matters. That has added a lot to my knowledge. But the best part, is her contagious joy, laughter, and keeping perspective. Thanks, Emily!!!
Wow @Emily D. Baker new member here. This is my 1st time seeing this. Since i started following you 2 years ago. I always felt i related to you, understood you, and most importantly respected you. After seeing this, i relate to you even more, understand you even more, and most importantly, respect you even more. This message was so profound.
Wow, glad I finally watched this. A few years ago I became too disabled to work, so my answer to "what do you do?" became nothing. Before that I was a chemical engineer, and every time I told someone they were impressed, inspired, and then I suddenly became "nothing". There is very little in my life I get to choose, but a job certainly isn't the most important
I went through something similar and it broke me. I'm slowly rebuilding my sense of self.
omg I’m here lol! Hi guys
Hi Slo4n! ❤️
Heeeeeeeeey !!!!!!!
Oh heyyyy Sloanyyyyy
Thanks, @SL04N !!!
Whoa!!! Sloan was here ha
So this hit hard for me. I am a mother who currently is on disability after 8 back surgeries. The embarrassment of even telling some doctors I’m on disability is incredible. I am 36 years old and just this year I finally realized that I have no clue what I ever wanted to actually be when I got older. I never had the dream job or even wanted to do something besides be a mom until this year. However being chronically in pain wasn’t something on my list either. This ted talk was a sign for me. That no matter what, I can be something I am proud to tell people. I have never really cared what people thought about me. Until I realized that telling people I have no job… no career was embarrassing to me.
Thank you for this Ted talk. Out of all the ones I have watched this one resinated with me the most.
I got stuck in "I wanna be a mom," for 38 years. Now I have to find "ME". I love Emily. I've been a Law Nerd all year, but this is the first time I've watched this. I'm getting my paper & pen now.
You've got this Steffi!!!
Same, and I still have kids at home, but soon I won't, and I have no idea what comes after that.
This is where I am. And the thought that runs through my head is how did I get so lost.
Emily is great. She is a straight talker. I’ve watched her UA-cam channel again and again. I listened to this talk before and still enjoy her common sense.❤
I know I am late but I just watched this today. I just love you and this message. I have been working on my self lately. I get to choose my life!!❤
AMAZING EMILY! Another Law Nerd here!! Be very proud of yourselves!
I spent my 20s and 30s pushing myself through college, jumping from job to job to make as much money as I could because my husband wouldn't accept anything less. I divorced him and took a non profit job helping my community and I've never been happier 😊
That's what I would love to do! May I ask if it is easy finding enough income as that is a non profit and would assume wages aren't the highest. There wasn't enough money for me to go to college so it's proving hard for me since at the end of the day I have to pay bills and take care of other people.
@bryanalexismoya397 my experience has been that non profits don't pay as well. I am very fortunate to have found one in my city that is well funded and pays a great wage. I have a 4 yr degree, but half my team doesn't have a college degree. It takes a little longer to work up to the higher paid positions, but it will get you in the door.
I've watched this TED Talks from Emily aboutn10 times during these last 5 months.....glad I have the opportunity to call your Friend Emily D.
I love Emily! She is so eloquent, intelligent, relatable, and has a way of capturing her audience.
@@rjmunster9600 yeah, if you really want to call that victim blaming. Bc I agree as someone who used to solely run around with drug dealers. Yeah, we really shouldn't be around them. Crazy how when you're sober those issues fall away
OMG. This was... exactly what i needed to hear. Inexcusable how few views and likes there are on this vid. where my new law nerds at?
law nerds unite!!
We are slowly trickling in 😁
Just got here ❤
Del Mathews 👋 here.
!here✋🏽here!
Dear Emily
I wish I knew you in real life. I’m sure we would never stop talking. I felt really touched as you started your talk, I felt so bad for you and was teary as you talked about your shoulder injury (how is it now?) and then when you talked about two back surgeries I sobbed because I have been there. For me it was life changing. I’ve had those surgeries too. And I’m faced with more. I’ll be doing more thinking while I’m recovering too. I remember the day I looked in the mirror and didn’t know what I liked or didn’t, what my hobbies were or weren’t, what my values were. I’d been something for someone else for longer than I could remember that I didn’t know myself. In the past 8 years though, I’ve discovered happiness. You are so right, it’s not a job! So I am now working to turn my interests and hobbies into something fun and interesting and hopefully successful. I found you through your UA-cam and I feel so honoured to know you! Thank you for sharing your wisdom here, you are a special sparkly shiny badass!!! 😄💗💐
I found you when watching the Depp-Heard trial.
My son had ADHD- his school years were heartbreaking: now he is in Heaven.
You are a genuine treasure! You have an amazing heart and great wisdom.
Best regards,
Deb
Oh, Deb. I'm so sorry about your son. ADHD is rough... Not everyone grows out of it and for some, it gets worse as they transition into adulthood. I'm struggling with it right now, and it sucks. I often wonder which direction my life would've gone in had I received treatment early on and didn't get misdiagnosed so many times.
@@nissan_skyline ...you don't..."grow out of" having ADHD, you have it for life. There's a lot of ways people choose to deal with it, through medication, therapy, masking, friends who understand, but it's not something that goes away. You indicate that you have ADHD yourself, so I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and say you phrased that incorrectly, but...if that's how you've been taught to believe? Stop it, it's very harmful rhetoric.
@@LoreCatan Uh I didn't mean it literally. I know you don't grow out of it. The point I was trying to get across is that for some, it gets worse or the symptoms become more prevalent into adulthood. Calm down.
@@nissan_skyline There's no other way to take it than literally, is English not your first language?
Your point was made without adding the "grow out of it" in front of it, it's just phrased really badly. And I was giving you the benefit of the doubt, so it's really bad form to reply with "calm down" when you're wrong.
You could've just said "Yeah, I phrased that incorrectly, I meant it this way ___" and it would've been fine, but you just couldn't admit you were wrong.
Deb, I’m so sorry. My five year old grandson is having problems in preK. He is being evaluated for ADHD. I feel so bad for him. He is so smart and so adorable but has social problems. He just can’t seem to contain his behavior. It’s heartbreaking.
Loved: I choose a job but never choose a life. Trapped in my dream job.
I love Emily D. Baker. 💜🗣
Great talk here Emily D Baker!!! I did the same thing... quit my corp job after 27 years, starting at 19. I already was a Mom at 18 so working was making money not a dream job. I remember within the first year saying out loud in the bathroom at work "There has to be more than this!" and I struggled with the grind threw the years. I felt "stuck", by 26 I purchased my 1st home on my own, got married and had another child... I had to work and I felt angry that I wasn't home with my kids! I did everything to change that, I even quit the company after I had my 2nd child... worked as a contractor for them for a year, and then they stopped those jobs and I went back to the same company again... all my skills where there. I could of grown to the much desired management position... but I chose being a Mom instead... I grinded it out by working 2nd shift, then 3rd shift... anything to be home when they got home from school. I hated that they owned me 40 hrs a week! When the kids got older and I had the opportunity to make a change, I took it! The company offered early retirement, but I was short 3 years for my pension... but I ate it and ran! I can now do my dream job and I had had enough of being "owned". Well... there year I left... I got sick... something that I could die from any day... but also it may never be a big issue either... sort of a gamble yet nothing I can do to change it.. so I do my appts and make sure all is stable and forget about it from there :) I am just starting to get my life to where I want it... but a lot of things to work around, like elderly parents that need me and such... if I was at that job, I couldn't be there for them! Even though I don't have the income I had, the freedom of the collar being removed is much more valuable to me! I chose TIME over MONEY! Thanks for the reminder sister!!!!!! Rock on!!!
Bless you, and I hope your health gets to a much better place! You sound like a great Mom, and daughter 💙
This is amazing.
Wow.
I’m here after Emily blew up. She deserves everything! What a amazing sparkling woman..
I wanted to be a orca trainer too. When I was a kid. I love orcas and am totally and completely obsessed with them. But then I learned how they where bing treated and abused. Now it’s my goal to become a marine mammalogist and study the residential community of orca in the puget sound.
That sounds like an amazing job.
@@pinkpugginz it would be a dream come true! Orcas are so amazing. Each pod has different cultures and language and dialects. It’s really fascinating.
I wish they would release any captive Orcas
I wanted to be an orca trainer too!!!❤ Go get it!
SAME! Born and raised in Olympia, WA! I grew up loving orcas and wanted to be a marine biologist until I learned that wasn't a guarantee to hang with orcas all day so it shifted to an orca trainer! So much for that tho. I'm an accountant in Tacoma LOL
Funny that I ran across this. I have always told my children and grandchildren: get the job you are happy with, because you will love going in to work each day. It isn’t the money, the title, it is about what interests YOU have, and what makes you happy. If you are happy, everyone that loves you will be happy too!
I know Emily from YT channel, love you Emily D.Baker! I always got this vibe from you . You are a very friendly, personable, loveable person, who has a very kind soul!
Congrats on reaching 500,000 subscribers!!!
In France it is considered very rude to ask someone what they do for a living, especially upon first meeting! Love this chat Emily love your channel!! Learning so much from you Thank you❤️
Same in UK
where i live, they ask teenagers that hahahah, i keep saying that they don't let people be people but production machines.
I think in the US it depends on the situation. You can be prying & overstepping or you can truly be getting to know someone. I wouldn't ask a random stranger what they do while we both happen to at a coffee shop. But if we had already been talking and hitting it of and school or work came up asking what their current major or job is I don't think is rude, I wouldn't mind in the reverse.
In Italy is almost the first thing they ask you and if you're young they ask what's your parents job. I always found it very rude although is what everybody does.
In France it's the first thing anyone asks. And it makes a HUGE difference how you answer.
Go Emily!!! Choose your life. Three small words that damn near have me in tears. I need to do this but don’t even know where to begin. I have words in my mind that I would love to describe or explain me, but to put them in action...no clue. I need Ted Talk part 2!
*Ditto.*
year later .... hope you're both beginning to find Your starting point it's your life only you can do that ........ best of luck in your lives what ever your choices I'm sure you'll get there
@@orlalolo4585 wow! Do you have some timing or what?!? I was diagnosed with cancer not long after my comment. Chemo, double mastectomy and radiation. Yesterday was my last day of treatment. TODAY is the day I get to more fully take charge of how my life is going to go. Thank you for your best wishes. They just came in extra special for me today!!!
@@gerri1135 Best wishes to you, Gerri! I wish you nothing but great health from now until a ripe old age.
@@Limuh2 God I love kind strangers. Thank you. ❤️
I feel this so hard. I had to quit working as an RN due to health issues. It's so difficult to lose who you think you are.
After retiring, I felt my arms and legs off. My identity. Emily summarized it.
Same here dap. I have lost my meaning my purpose in life. I did Nicu for 38 years and now nothing but issues.
I don't know what I'll do when I'm not an RN.
@@triciagrant2315 you’ll always be an RN. We worked hard for and with that title but you’ll def miss the professional work.
@@deedunn6983 I hope you are getting to travel, or garden, or enjoy life.
The only only only caveat to this is that we can’t ignore the economic limitations placed on some people. When survival is paramount, I think it’s very difficult to choose things. But it can be a good reminder to try and focus on the things you can choose.
I needed to hear this today. I’ve been a subscriber for awhile now and every now and then I click on this video thinking I haven’t seen it, but it’s those moments when I really needed to hear and listen to this again. Cheers Emily and to your sparkly badass self!
Ok but I could listen to Emily talk all day
I freaking love this woman. I am hooked on her UA-cam channel too. I love watching her and hearing her. Very motivational. ❤❤
I have worked as a teacher with temporary contracts for two and half years. Teaching was my plan B. I wanted to be an author, but I knew it would be hard to make money. The reason I wanted to be an author was because 1. I could write stories which I love, and 2. I could write from anywhere in the world. But I spend so much time on my plan B. I went to school, and because I had problems finishing my education, I wasted my 20s doing that. I did some writing online, got followers, but I never spent as much time as I should on my plan A. Now I am 33, no schools are inviting me for a job interview and I am unemployed. I took this as a sign that I don't have to be a teacher anymore. I didn't hate being a teacher, but I didn't love it. It is a lot of work, and I have to bring work with me home. This video really spoke to me. I get to choose my life. Yes, I need to make money, but have I truly done enough to make my plan A happen? No! I was so worried that I would fail my plan A that I spent all my energy on my plan B. That is going to change. I am going to do so much more to make plan A happen.
I can't believe I have never seen your TedTalk, I watch you every day. This made me cry like a baby. I hate my job, I want to leave, I need to leave for my mental health, but I stay because it's an incoming paycheck that I can't be without. This Talk was everything, Emily. Why this isn't more popular I don't know. This really touched me this morning. You have truly become a shiny, sparkly badass. I am so proud of you. All my love to you and yours. 💜
sameeeeeeee
She is an amazing presence online. She’s doing awesome!!
Here after Emily's chan blew up! 🥰
Me too someone suggested it. ❤️❤️ love her
Same here and I’m so glad I found her
Same🤗
Same haha
Same!
This an amazing talk. Found you through your channel following Depp trial. And even before listening to this, I could relate to you in that I have a son who also passed the bar the first time, went to law school in southern cal, and is not practicing law but instead has a fabulous job that he loves. I've lived in CA for nearly my whole life until I picked myself up and decided to be happy! Divorced and moved out of state. Now, even at my old age, it's time to ask myself, finally, what my three words are.
I Am Fabulous 😍
I've felt like I've been stuck in a rut since late spring (Covid has put A LOT into perspective) so I took a chance and applied to college. I'm currently sitting on acceptances to 3 different programs but it didn't feel real - I wasn't excited like I should be. After coming across Emily a week ago and watching her channel/podcast blow up, I started to feel that excitement. And now after watching this, I am SO motivated and ready to make this big change.
Thanks Emily✨❤️✨
I've been following Emily's legal commentary for quite a while now, but I hadn't seen this wondrous TEDtalk yet. Brilliant! It's not surprising that she absolutely rocked it, but it is astounding how this sparkly, shiny badass can continuously inspire me. What a wonderful message to share and live by.
@Emily....I found your UA-cam channel during the Murdaugh Trial...I like when you give your expertise and opinions throughout the Trial. The more I learn about you, you are an inspiration ✨️ to me and others.
I've taken to responding to "what do you do?" by talking about literally what I do. Sometimes my job, but just as often, like, I read books and cook and make art, because I think those things are as much a part of me as what I do for money.
Can't get enough of Emily Baker since I started watching the Depp/Heard trial..obsessively..
Thank you so much for your TED Talk! I absolutely loved it! I also love every minute of being a Law Nerd! Thanks for being YOU! That's all that matters!
Man I wish I would have heard this when I was a little 9 year old girl!! Emily you’re amazing the world is a better place because of you and your someone people dream of being friends with.🖤
I’ve been wanting to watch this for a while. I have been a subscriber to Emily B for a while I love everything she does this today I needed more than anything I needed to hear in my entire life! I am a mother of seven and a grandmother to six doggy mom a wife.. I’ve had too many jobs to count in with so many places in my lifetime and finding who I am is sometimes hardest thing I do in the day thank you Emily for showing me different perspective after all these years and my age difference sometimes we just need to hear. Is it what we were raised to believe is not always the way things work in the real world changes hard and changing our minds is even harder. Thank you for all the love, kind, smart words and the patience you have
I love EDB and have been watching her for a few years on UA-cam. I’m 7 years late watching this but now I love her even more❤
I started watching you with the DeppvHeard trial. This is such a strong and inspirational talk. You truly are amazing, thank you.
...and I found Emily on law tube as well during the Depp trial and there was this moment during the cross with Camille (I believe) when Emily, who was part of a panel of lawyers was listening carefully, and she did a joyful "YES!" to something she heard. I immediately loved her. A human being who not only knows her stuff but wants to see justice. She rejoiced in the truth. I thought to myself, if I ever needed a lawyer, I would want her in my corner.
I feel like everyone needs to hear this message at some point in their life. Thank you for sharing this Emily ❤️
Came from a trial, staying because of the ted talk, Emily you are amazing and so inspirational, thank you!
I said I needed an adulting video from you and this is amazing. Thank you so much for being you and sharing yourself and your knowledge with us!
I just recently, at 32, discovered this for myself. I always spent every moment trying to make sure everyone else was happy but never myself and ALL I ever wanted was to be happy. I am slowly accepting that more and more in my life and it has be one of the best decisions of my entire life. This definitely brought me to tears, especially having watched you for years and not view this. I thought I loved you then Emily... but it wasn't like this. ;) Love you, you shiny, Sparkly Badass!!!
i could listen to you talk forever. 🥺🙏🏻
well you can, she has a law podcast and youtube channel lol
yep, i know. it was just an expression 😅
Yup! She’s easy to listen to.
This desperately needs an update. From online consulting to 700k subs on UA-cam 💜💜💜. Love how many new comments here are. UA-cam just decided its time for lawnerds to watch this again
I've always quietly felt the same. I never wanted a career, I just ended up with one, and when it's over I won't give it a second thought when I close the door on it.
I mean, why do we put so much energy into something we detach ourselves from at retirement.
Work to live, don't live to work.
Find some life balance and don't be just your job title.
"Words matter on a cellular, fundamental level in our beings."
THIS is why verbal abuse is particularly damaging. It leads to the destruction of one's very being.
Thank you for this. I cannot wait to show this to my son. He is 21 and still asking 'What do I want to be?'. He asked me the other day what I wanted to be when I was young. We talk constantly and have open communication but I don't think I've ever been able to express the thoughts you put into this. I at 50, have a brand new career that Covid helped me fall into and I love it. I am a true crime content creator here on UA-cam and the happiest I've ever been. I used to work in computers and hated them. But I cannot wait to watch this with my son, so thanks for sharing this Emily. Truly.
I found you on UA-cam for the Johnny Depp Trial and your beautiful inside and out. Thank you for sharing your stories about ADHD , I struggle with Bipolar and depression all my life and I found myself getting up just to hear your Podcast and I really want to see more of your accomplishments because you inspire me to get up and show up.. Thank you
😳 This is a gem 💎 I became a law nerd over the amazing commentary while the Johnny Depp & Amber Heard case is going on. I used to be weary of the legal system and anything and anyone associated in this legal domain. You, Emily, have changed this! Thank you for opening my eyes to this domain and not being afraid of it. Thank you for being you, without apologies.
Emily I am a grateful law nerd. You are my hero and a role model for anyone who ever lacks confidence in their abilities or talents. I watch everyday and you are gloriously bright and thought provoking. I’m sharing this to my peeps. I love you Sista.
Free, present, patient ♥️
I got an MBA chasing that important status. I now work from home as a sales rep and my quality of life is so much better. I had to drop a lot of restricting thoughts to align myself with the life I want. I thought the office/corporate work I put in defined me, but now I get to be at home with a much less stressful job and I can focus on my art and health.
I've watched a lot of Emily's youtube content recently, and only now found this TED talk. Very inspiring, and thought provoking. Seeing a successful fellow neurodivergent who has made her life suitable for her instead of trying to fit into boxes gives me hope. 💗
Law Nerds are here for EmilyB
I just started watching Emily when she started covering the Karen Read trial, ,and I absolutely love everything about her! Now that I watched her amazing Ted Talk I am even more impressed (if that’s possible) and it’s definitely given me plenty to think about.
One of my favorite TED talks. Great speaker, funny with a great message. 😊
I found your channel a year ago … I hardly ever watched because the lawnerd chat was so fast and green(connected) I couldn’t afford to join as a member, so I would lurk like most of my life has been spent. My bit of background is born in Vegas and got out when my kiddo turned 10 in 2002. I wanted to go to law school my dad said I could argue with the best… Im a nail tech and love it (32yrs now) at 55 I feel stuck… I have a client who did a Ted talk 3-4 yrs ago in Boise Idaho it was amazing and just as inspiring as yours … I just feel like it’s too late for me … ugggg
Very empowering Emily. I constantly argue that words have power! You are an inspiration for little girls who don't fit the "normal" mold? Bravo!
As a mom of two teens who are choosing colleges and careers, this is so important!!!! My daughter gets it, but my son doesn’t. He says he wants to be a doctor but I am warning him how much he is going to have to work! I wish he would be a math teacher and a coach. I think he would be much happier! But, I guess we all have to make our own choices and experience things for ourselves. Me, I’m 51 and I would love to go to law school! Or stay home and make jewelry all day, or become a pet-assisted therapist. But I work for the state so I can provide benefits for my kids. But maybe once they’re off to college I can make some changes.
I love your channel and listen to you all day long at my boring desk job. Hugs mama!
Usually I disregard TEDx, but this here Emily is something else!!! Just found her because of Anger Heard v Johnny Depp and her commentary his been great!
Love this!! Sharing w my college age daughter! Thank you! ❤❤
Shift happens! At 45yo I'm shifting my life into something absolutely audacious. 💯 Never too late to BE who you are.
Audacity for the win as usual! Sounds like you got this well under control. When you decide you're going to win in life, 90+% of the battle has already been won. Not to sound like Charlie Sheen (I'm slightly more sane), but it sounds like you're WINNING already. I'd say "good luck", but you don't need luck. How about 'keep it up'?? 😃
Sonia. Great comment
since they raise us to "become" a Job Title... they also judge our entire persona based upon our J.O.B. Yes, i was a teacher, I was a radiology surgical tech, Yes, i then left that and became a pharmacist. NONE of those JOBS define who i AM, because on the side who I REALLY am, was the creative self who made music, wrote, sang, produced short films and worked with people from all over the world in this niche where i WISH I could have made it my Job. but nope, to earn the right to do what I Loved i had to go to the JOB first. we dont always GET to get paid to do what we Love, but the Ultimate life plan is to end up that way... Love you, EMily. and I finally got to watch your TedTalk. LawNerd always... pharmacist by day. creative always..
Came here after finding Emily’s channel during the Depp v Heard trial. Emily you’re amazing! This is so true and I’m so glad so many follow you because the advice you gave here was so good. “What if any changes have you made to your life plan?”
Dear Emily, you have to do more talks, on ted or wherever. You have a real talent!
This is the most amazing speech I’ve ever watched! I’ve been fighting stage four cancer for five years, and I’ve enjoyed this speech more than anything…
You’ve got this Hollie!!! Sending you thoughts of healing!!!!
Hope this message finds you healthy and happy living your best life1
How are you doing Hollie?
Hope your here. Here with ya.
This is so great. I was a stay at home mom for years and always felt I had to explain my choice to leave the workforce so I could be home with my son and eventually homeschool my kid with special needs and now he is pursuing his dream job.
Favorite TED talk ever. Thank you for inspiring my inner badassery.
So glad I found this gem!💜
I ♥️ Emily’s channel and this was everything!! I admire her even more now than I did 20 minutes ago. Such a fantastic speaker and a wonderful message. It was weird without the “cursey words” though 😉
Lol! I love the "cursey words". That's a real person.
EDB is such an inspiration, why have I watched hours of court coverage but not this yet? Saving to my favs for sure.
Emily is my hero! I watch this frequently to remind myself that I have to work on myself. Not ADHD, but strongly dealing with anxiety and depression!
I totally agree. I write a lot about how we don’t teach mindset, psychology, purpose or transformation to our kids, and we focus on tests and scores. I hate it. We need to get back out soul.
“What if any” are the 3 words!
No, that’ll be Elaine’s starting 😂 speech 🎤 what if any 😆
I’m a relatively new law nerd and this video just came up. Thank you for your words of wisdom. On a side note I played on the men’s waterpolo team for three years in high school too. I wasn’t a great player but it was fun.
Wow! You are amazing! Thank you!
Emily! I attended CSULB from 1981 - 1987 and then from 1992-1995 for my masters. I watch you on Your UA-cam channel and I LOVE YOU!!! I found this ted talk via your channel. 🎉🎉🎉. I also had back surgery in 2013 with the result being a knicked nerve and forever pain. My career journey heavily depended on my desire to always be learning and changing the norm. It was an exciting rollercoaster. It was wonderful until I went through 3 rounds of cancer from 2012 - 2016. In 2016, I also changed my life. I haven’t figured out what my next step is, but listening to you has set my perspective in the right direction!! You are beautiful!!!