Emily Post: "Table Manners" (1947)
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- Опубліковано 2 сер 2011
- Another odd little entry in the "How To Eat Right" film canon, which seems to change the rules from film to film. Ahh, but gentle reader, we get the grand dame of rulemaking herself, Emily Post, doing the narrative, so she SHOULD have the final word on the subject, right?
Well, I'm not so sure. We first see her in her garden, lamenting about the fact that the number one concern people have is how to eat properly. She then takes us on a tour of courses, and how to eat each one.
While some of it is certainly practical, there are other "rules" I'm surprised she's endorsing. For example, she says it's perfectly acceptable to pick up your soup bowl, put your lips to the bowl, and sip away. And her guidance on buttering bread seems at odds with the bread-buttering advice of other table manner films (and hey, where IS the dinner roll plate?). She also, incredibly, says that salad is to be eaten with a knife and fork, something which totally looks archaic today.
After all that, I guess she realizes she has some time left to kill, so, bizarrely, the film jumps to points on how to eat spaghetti (spoon not required!) how to eat asparagus (!!) and finally, eating sticky desserts (napkin dab, napkin dab).
The subjects used in these films look like zombies, especially when they're eating soup.. Bzzt, take dainty spoonful, bzzt, put it to mouth.. Bzzt take spoonful...
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I can't quite explain it, but I get such a thrill from these sort of things!:-) I even quit my teaching job of over ten years just to be able to teach etiquette fulltime! What a joy it is to be able to share these social and dining skills with others!
Thank you for decicding to help that way. It sure is sorely needed in ths age of eating with the hands (McDonalds et al.)
are you serious? people actually want to learn good manners?
I get on my son for eating too fast. How on earth do you handle a 12 year old boy?
@@axiomist1076 Whats wrong with eating cheeseburgers with hands lol
Nothing! I was just making the point that people may have become so used to 'eating with their hands", from so much fast food, tht they may not take easily to any kind of mannerly teaching. It's a joke.
When the host is serving biscuits, be mindful not to exclaim, "ya'll got any mo' jelly?"
+ssjlkrillin this made me laugh harder than it should have. hahaha
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ssjlkrillin I'm glad people remember that commercial!
Lmao!!
I use to work at a retirement home. It's amazing to think back on how many ladies I use to see to implementing all of these habits
I took an etiquette course when I was 12. Two years later as a freshman in high school, I remember people looked at me oddly when I ate...I guess with manners instead of gobbling like a hog. LOL.
Well, considering that dinner manners are really just the social etiquette of dining, in a way, you were the one who's manners were off if everyone else was just shoving their faces.
Of course, the more civilized one, but technically wrong in that situation.
I take small bites of food, honestly I'm not messy like most girls are, chewing out loud is disgusting.
+MsSilentsiren Yes, indeed. Some people do not even wait until they've swallowed the food that is already in their mouth before they're shoveling more inside.
@@ohsnapitspat6270 i remember in elementary school this girl wanted me to take a big bite of my cheeseburger. I opened my mouth and she ended up pushing my head to get a big bite. Years later I find out I just have a small mouth apparently. Small bite gang.
@@GEhotpants101, just cuz a majority does something doesn't determine whether it's right or wrong. They were in the wrong. Manners is to show that you have respect for those around you as well as yourself.
How do I end up watching 1947's table manners in the middle of night when I really should be sleeping
Me: it is 3.30 am at night and i can't sleep. Greetings from Germany.
Same and it’s 2 am for me 🤣
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It's 2:45 am and here I am 😴
My mother taught me these manners when I was 5 years old, and always told me I was ready to eat with the President (if ever invited to do so); it appears she was right.
My mom (and grandmother) were the same way! My sister and I were raised with "proper" manners at every meal, period. It's completely unreasonable for people to think that a person can do things one way every day and then be prepared and comfortable doing it some other way for a special occasion. In the beginning of this video As Ms. Post says "manners at the most formal dinner party are exactly the same as they are at home." That's how I was raised, and you, Carol. :D
Yes! I didn't use a paper napkin at dinner until I was about 10 years old (in 1970) when we started having "casual" meals on Sunday evening. We had cloth, damask napkins every meal up until that time. I can still remember the first time I was allowed to go out to dinner with my parents at around 5 years old. I was expected to sit quietly in my seat, without causing a commotion, and to chew with my mouth closed. I sometimes feel like an "old fogie", but I'm often appalled at the behavior of younger folks in restaurants these days.
Now, just to find one worth eating with....
Carol Melancon "Eat with the President!" That's so cute.
Do Americans have to cut their food with a fork? . I cant imaging what the royal family will make of Megan Markel at the dining table in the Palace if she eats like this.
Re: the soup confusion. The actor was drinking soup from a cup, with handles, which made it acceptable. Not from a bowl. Know your soup containers!
Exactly. A cup with handles is obviously different than a bowl. I thought that was obvious, but apparently not for some people..
I usually just use a straw, which is especially handy when drinking from the tureen
And it would have to be broth, or pureed soup. You wouldn't drink a chunky soup directly from the cup -- at least, I hope not!
Nowadays if you don't eat like a rampaging toddler at a meal you're doing a good job.
+perkidanman And they say they do not know why most people are overweight.
Its also a bit dangerous to eat at a restaurant or food that other people have prepared cause people can be cursed very badly through food and sex. Fornication or food that is unclean and cursed will bring you to complete ruin so pray for yourself.
@@nineball5058 lolwut
@@nineball5058 I feel like I did crack just by reading this
I was actually taught to cut the salad that way in Finishing School as a teenager in the late 90s early 2000s so it can't be that outdated for coming from 1947. This video was pretty spot on. The only difference being that today we are less likely to use finger bowls with water for blotting, we have more wet naps/cloths. It really isn't common to drink the cup of soup though, I never saw that in all of the fancy dinners I attend, and there are many but maybe it's preference. Love these videos!
I am amazed at the amount of people who lack knowledge about basic table etiquette. Growing up, my mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother and so forth kept linens, silverware, dishes, specialty dishes and so forth. All of these things were passed down to each generation. It bored me so. Now, as a mom, I am enthused with such things. When there are a large number of guests and a need to set each table just so, I am happy to do it. I love to collect certain dishes and table linens and I even get some sick thrill out of pressing the linens and folding them into various things to accentuate the rest of the table setting. What I'm thrilled with is my children love helping me. I spent many a night at the family dinner table teaching my children about manners and etiquette but more in a fun, less rigid way. What struck me is how they would later employ those same lessons when it was needed. They have since learned that formality, though less recognized, does serve its purpose and function. In today's society, it is just as important to teach children not to comment on guests who don't recognize, know, care, or understand when a guest disregards these formalities. It is far ruder to make any comment about such things because they are your guest and it is important for guests to feel welcomed when you are the host. If doing such things would alienate all or most guests, then it should be avoided unless it is agreed upon beforehand that this is how things will be and if your guests agree to it by their presence. Even then, when a guest understands but disregards the formality altogether, it is far better to enjoy your guest than to pay attention to their etiquette, or else do not invite them if this is a concern.
You're very lucky. An American bomb landed on my mother's home during WWII and took out everything. No linens, no baby brother too. But moving to the United States, I realize I have table etiquette and manners, something free that most people here can't be bothered with.
Thank you Amber.
@@plaineswalker I'm sorry about what happened. I'm glad you notice and enjoy manners or those who do not have them/were not taught. I loved all the things I was taught and I agree how lucky we are/how brave some have been in WW2. I enjoyed this film. Enjoy your weekend.
"Do not begin eating until your food for that course is on your plate." Yes, it is important not to eat food until you actually have food. If there is no food to eat, it is impolite to eat it. I realize she probably means not to start eating until all the dishes for that serving have been distributed, but it's still clumsily worded.
+dm3588 I think they mean if there is more than one item (meat and mashed potatoes lets say for an example) don't start eating the meat until you have the potatoes.
I was taught not to begin eating until the hostess has lifted her fork, i.e., until everyone has been served, including the hostess.
She meant don't stab some meat off the serving dish and bite off some before putting it on your plate to cut bites
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Really - the main reason I grew up to be so rude was the lousy grammar of my etiquette teachers!!?!
My teacher showed me and my friends this video in school. She explained that the video was in black and white and said that she was sorry. I told her that I love black and white videos and that they're the best.
I used to think these table setting manners were just obnoxious but I've learned there's actually a beneficial point to them. It's like homemaking - an efficient, safe and sanitary system for your family and guests is what makes it mannerly.
My grandma taught me a lot of these things. She ran a small etiquette course, and we would go to tea parties at local tea houses together.
To the person saying she was surprised she did not stand to greet her guest. While in general you should of course do this but there are exceptions such as age, disability, etc... she is obviously quite a bit older than her guest, therefore she does not have to stand, she did shake her hand instead which is perfectly acceptable in this situation.
+Kayleigh Brianne What about that La Biche junk they do now? You should certainly say, "Dahlingg.."
How refreshing to see this. It's actually from the year I was born, but it was still in use years later in the early 60s. It's gradually eroded away, but it's nice to read some of these comments and see there are still people who activelly do this or teach it. This video reinforces my habits learned in my youth. Thank you for posting Miss Post. I'd never seen her.
I've always been intrigued by etiquette and have a collection of books and pamphlets, including several by Emily Post. I had no idea there was films like this, thanks so much!!
Same, same, and same!
Stay Classy ladies..🌼
And gentlemen*
Indeed. Don’t blow smoke in your neighbors face lol
"If you have explosive diarrhea, discreetly excuse yourself from the table and try not to shoot it all over the chair, push your chair in gently and walk gracefully to toilet, wash your hands afterwards and return to table and apologize for having diarrhea"
Yet she slouched throughout the entire dinner..
It's sad so many people make fun of etiquette guides. I wish I had access to these type of videos growing up! I was raised by a domineering mother who was combative, gruff,, loud and mean. Needless to say I didn't learn much about being ladylike, and this cost me dearly when I entered the workforce. Fortunately I was able to attend a "finishing school for adults" for lack of a better description, and this helped me tremendously both personally and professionally.
try a mother who smokes while your eating jee
mj carollson Please. Being "ladylike" is highly overrated. I refuse to let society dictate every little thing I do.
Like what?
+Hairity How's the dating scene looking for you?
I remember taking a home ec course in high school and the table setting we had to learn was even larger than that. I haven't ever had to use all that knowledge, but it was interesting learning it. You really do just work from the outside, in.
This is the kind of thing my father used to cause WASPy nonsense, but then one day I opened my eyes and realized just how revolting it was to share a meal with him.
Once my family is a bit bigger (I don't really see a point when it's only 2 of us), I enjoy the idea of serving a meal in courses. I normally just place everything in bowls on the table (since I don't cook very large meals) and we pass the bowls and such for whatever we'd like. But I admire minor etiquette. Plus, I think it helps make sure you get proper nutrition.
If you don't get used to do it when it's easier, you will think that is hard when you have children
Thank you ever so much for sharing this with us all! :) I am ever so glad I found this!
Vintage mukbang.
Everything old is new again
Yes!!
Old school teaching but still the way it is done in formal dining. Best rule is try and be considerate of others at any dining event, and have a good time.
I truly enjoyed this video.
Thank you, Sincerely
Your plates are served from the left...removed from the right....she didn't mention that. This was made in the year I was born, the rule shave not changed.I learned all this as a child and was told, "you will be accepted anywhere and comfortable in palaces to cafes if you use the rules". It was true. Manners became perfectly natural over childhood. My daughter who went to military officer’s school in the 90's was astonished that the military had to have a course on table manners for potential officers.! She could not believe people grew up not even knowing what side of plates the silverware belonged or to chew with their mouths closed. I can always tell the background of someone of my generation and younger generations too. Manners are meant to show respect and kindness to others , to consider THEM, not only yourself. They will never go out of date with thoughtful people.
EXCELLENT & EXTREMELY INFORMATIVE!!! I'M GOING TO USE THESE TABLE PRACTICES AT DINNER OR BREAKFAST TODAY!!! THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!😱😳😀😀😀
Love these videos! I really wish these manners get taught at school, it's just so useful later in life especially if in the corporate world. I'm so greatful my mother and grandmother forced me to learn these things when I was 4. I cannot tell you the amount of bad manners I've encountered at business events, I'm just happy that most companies are embracing corporate etiquette workshops now. Better late than never!
They didn’t mention the elbows. NEVER put your elbows on the table. Ever.
Yes, but I was also surprised to see the woman put her left/right hand under the table and besides her body whenever she wasn’t using it. My mother always told me to keep both hands on the table, but not your elbows.
Dip spoon *away* from you? I'm so on that now! Just started watching too!
Her voice is so soothing.
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My grandmother was a stickler on table manners.
I am learning alot from these videos
God, thank You that I was raised by deep Southern parents who taught us these things before we entered elementary.
It was long before my time,
but I think that of all of the decades of the 20th cen.,
women were their most beautiful in the 1940's.
I agree. Certainly some very ugly women today
Loveeeeee this....💗💗💗💗🍟🍕🥓🎂...thanks.😘
ahh that glitchy ending is hilarious! LOVED this!
I want to see how she eats a fried chicken wing "correctly" lmao
With watermelon ya!
With a fork and a knife.
Blueevoy_6000 like a hooters girl probably, tbh they seemed to have mastered how to eat a chicken wing with ladylike manners
Blueevoy_6000 I'm pretty sure serving fried chicken wings at a formal dinner is frowned upon.
With fork and knife, not hands like Muricans do.
I usually lick the bowl clean
I can relate.😕
You wouldn’t be invited back.
Thank you for posting :)
This is just another neurotic reason why I'm on cymbalta
JA S Oh honey, don't you worry your pretty little head about this nonsense. You be you. You are perfectly made.
Back when Sandy Hook CT was known for nicer things.
You noticed that too...
+Pianoman 70s style Sadly and ironically these are Sandy Hook CT elementary teachings.
The only drawback I see is how far from the body she keeps her elbows. They should be kept near your body when eating.
She is somewhat rigid, which makes her appear self-conscious or ill at ease. That said, common sense dictates most of these rules, making serving and passing easier and dining more 'fluid' and graceful...
She seemed to think left handed people didn't exist.
I hope you don't mind my comment, but the way to hold fork and knife have nothing to do with being right or left handed. The fork is held by the left hand and the knife by the right. Come to think of it, it is probably easier for left-handed people! ;-)
Eu Sei I still don't see how it doesn't have anything to do with being right or left handed.
+GingerGilligan left handedness was actually thought to be a disability
ARandomPlayer 11 not at least where I came from. Still, the way they are showing in the video is how I learned during etiquette classes.
GingerGilligan It has nothing to do with being left or right handed, but the correct way to behave at the table. When you set a table, the fork goes on the LEFT side; knife and (soup) spoon on the right. I could actually make the point that this setting benefits left handed people!
OMG, I forgot the finger bowl!
Luann DeLuca That was barbaric. I don't want to see someone fliddling their phalanges in water and then wiping their mouth. That is disgusting. Go eat outside, ya animal.
This film is really out of date. People don't have dining tables any more they balance food on their laps in front of the TV or eat one-handed whilst on facebook.
+Suilven Mountain So true, but if you are ever invited to a nice resturant, a lot of these rules still apply:)
Nothing says "out of date" quite like eating like a savage during a date or business dinner.
I'm proud to be out of date!!!
Fair enough. I really enjoyed watching this.
All meals in my home are eaten at the dining room table.
"The point about manners is that---as we all know, whether we're writers or not---they keep the ball rolling. One could paraphrase Marianne Moore: using them with a perfect contempt for them, one discovers in them after all a place for the genuine. In writing a novel or poem of manners you provide a framework all the nicer for being more fallible, more hospitable to irony, self-expression, self-contradiction, than many a philosophical or sociological system. Manners for me are the touch of nature, an artifice in the very bloodstream. Someone who does not take them seriously is making a serious mistake. They are as vital as all appearances, and if they deceive us they do so by mutual consent. It's hard to imagine a work of literature that doesn't depend on manners, at least negatively. One of the points of a poem like Ginsberg's 'Howl' is that it uses an impatience with manners very brilliantly; but if there had been no touchstone to strike that flint upon, where would Ginsberg be?"
---James Merrill, in an interview with Donald Sheehan
CONTEMPORARY LITERATURE, Winter 1968
* * *
MANNERS
for a Child of 1918
My grandfather said to me
as we sat on the wagon seat,
"Be sure to remember to always
speak to everyone you meet."
We met a stranger on foot.
My grandfather's whip tapped his hat.
"Good day, sir. Good day. A fine day."
And I said it and bowed where I sat.
Then we overtook a boy we knew
with his big pet crow on his shoulder.
"Always offer everyone a ride;
don't forget that when you get older,"
my grandfather said. So Willy
climbed up with us, but the crow
gave a "Caw!" and flew off. I was worried.
How would he know where to go?
But he flew a little way at a time
from fence post to fence post, ahead;
and when Willy whistled he answered.
"A fine bird," my grandfather said,
"and he's well brought up. See, he answers
nicely when he's spoken to.
Man or beast, that's good manners.
Be sure that you both always do."
When automobiles went by,
the dust hid the people's faces,
but we shouted "Good day! Good day!
Fine day!" at the top of our voices.
When we came to Hustler Hill,
he said that the mare was tired,
so we all got down and walked,
as our good manners required.
---Elizabeth Bishop [1911-1979]
QUESTIONS OF TRAVEL, 1965
وَالطُّورِ الم طه كهيعص
this is so great
i, too, am old enough to remember having to use all these manners at family get-togethers. one of my grandmothers, as well as my mother, used beautiful china at christmas, thanksgiving, and easter. also, whenever i spent the weekend with those grandparents, the "everyday" dishes were nice. good table manners were expected, both at home and at the grandparents'. i grew up knowing most of these things (hating to have to learn them as a child, but glad to know them later). i even learned to eat spagetti noodles that way, but learned as an adult that the "real italian way" was with a fork and spoon, to better facilitate wrapping the noodles around the fork.
wow! this is a lot of information
I was raised like this... you never forget it
lol 2:45 "In a house without a maid"..my have things change. And that food looks less than appetizing.That spahh-ghetti looked like worms.
Back then, children often had nurses. Parents seldom saw their children. Crazy, right? What's even the point?
It was also unhealthy to show much affection towards children back then
Nah they mean the black help, had plenty of those back in the day before more black women had the nerve to do the education thing.
@@desireelafleurhernandez9002 Thank god, thats why children now are so spoiled.
Many houses today have maids, what are u talking about..
oh wow, I have an old copy of her 'bible' I love reading it because it is so different from UK , thanks for posting
Amy Vanderbilt wrote books on the subject a generation after Emily Post and the instructions, especially for soup, were exactly the same. I have her books from the early 50's to the mid 60's and little changed.
how women were so elegant i this time used dresses hairstyle is nice who can do the same hairstyle today nobody in today's salons
@6motion6 - surprisingly, most of this is now not followed, even at formal dinners. Most diners would be shocked to see anyone raising a bowl to their lips (even with handles). The only rules observed now are that you use the utensils from the outside pairs first. However, in China and Japan, you're obliged to finish your rice and broth by lifting the whole bowl in one hand and drinking from it...
I still do this
Except for the 'Finger Bowl' bit; I'm surprised I knew most of this stuff. Thanks Mom (even though she always said I ate like my Dad!)
she is so beautiful!
Your are so s1mp
10 years later the Beverly Hillbillies taught us about the Fancy eatin room, the pot passers and meat stabbers. And our course critters were not only courses, bit seating companions, Fairchild the Bear and the Thanksgiving Turkey and Cousin Bessie
I wasn't aware of the big differences in table manners between europe and america :) . Especially the hand under the table. the amount of times I was told and retold and scolded for putting one or two hands out of sight under the table... and only eating with a fork... and all that time it was perfectly good manners to do so in the usa. If only I had known that argument :p (not that I think it would have mattered ;) respect for your own culture and such...)
she said if the soup is served in a cup its okay to pick it up sip directly. I don't see anything odd in endorsing that manner
Seems like everyone grandmother including mine, were brought up that way.
Mine would show me how all the knives, forks and spoon should be laid out.
3 glasses for water, white wine and red wine.
What plates to use and how to sit. Seems a shame this isn't a thing now
Good, good stuff!
It's better to learn them just in case rather than one day be in the situation where you are expected to know then but don't.
Um, Miss Post? MISS POST?? What's the correct way to eat delicious Lunchables (the special kind with a Capri Sun because I DON'T SKIMP at my dinner parties)? And for the crudités, I serve cheese+crackers (Ritz, because, again, I don't SKIMP) - should I allow the guests to peel their own pack, or should I pre-peel them, and add glitter to the red cheese spreading plastic thing as a special gift my guests can take home to remember our glorious evening? Thanks, Miss Post, for any advice you might be able to give!
I especially enjoyed the "don'ts" in this one
She is eating her soup with a desert spoon - quelle horreur!!!!
To address some of the things in your description...
A.) Eating salad with a knife is practical sometimes because either 1.) the chef decided they were just going to give up on life and throw bits of vegetable the size of their palm into bowls, or 2.) there's this new salad trend (which apparently is a thing) of a "wedge salad" which is pretty much just a head of iceberg lettuce that's been quartered thrown on a plate. Good luck getting through either of those salads without a knife helping. (Those salad ruining bastards.)
B.) Picking up a soup bowl _is_ much more quiet (presuming you're not slurping) than scraping your spoon annoyingly against the bottom of a bowl to get the last of a perfectly good soup.
C.) Who eats spaghetti without a spoon...?
I do!
Lucia Tilyard You must be some kind of spaghetti robot that can get noodles on to a fork unaided. Or like, some kind of noodle demi-god.
Oh, a demi-god, of course!
A wedge salad is the only civilized salad.
Orenthal James Filthy wedge salad mongrel.
I guess there was too much info for me to process and I missed some important advice! Such a shame since I threw many formal dinner parties over the holiday :)
I'm left handed so I'm confused
I just discovered your little films and am enjoying them.
Ms. Post didn't say to pick up a soup bowl. She said you could pick up a soup cup (the kind with handles on the sides). Bread plates are not part of the formal dinner service, and unbuttered bread should be placed on the tablecloth near your plate. You can use a knife when your salad has a piece of lettuce that is too big to fit on your fork. You don't have to use it on the whole salad. I hate to see people eat pizza with a fork!
I'm shocked Emily didn't know that!
1:24 i don't know why but I really like their interaction
what about standing up and taking a dump on the desk
Remember, it is always correct to keep your left hand under the table, snugly nestled, or furtively juggling, in your crotch. Attempting to gracefully rest your wrist on the edge of the table is for the uninitiated. And no need to muster enough dexterity to place your food on your fork using your knife; just use a piece of bread...heck, use your fingers. Your humid, saucy, torpid digits -- and self - will be fondly remembered after every dinner party.
dahlialala And don't forget your finger bowl!
It is remarkable how these films continue to be current and can help us in this 21st century all messy and meaningless!
Growing up in England I observed some strange table manners, for sure. A next door neighbor always poured his hot tea into the saucer and blew on it before drinking, a simple high tech cooling method! At a factory canteen one guy always cleaned his plate by wiping it wit a slice of bread!
All strange and ignorant but true. No invited to the Queen's garden parties guaranteed!
did she just put a piece of bread directly on the table?
The left handed handshake was a bit of a snub
When I was a kid, I was taught the appropriate way to (for example) eat a banana in front of the queen. That's when I realized why these "manners" are so impractical: It's all about classist exclusion. There's no other reason for most of this. Only a few table rules are based in reasonable consideration of your fellow diners, or your host.
they said nothing about licking the plate
@imajika2 Maybe it was a rare food in the USA in 1947?
Libraries are full of books teaching elocution and deportment.
We can't go wrong using good manners.
1947...Jesus Christ that was 71 years ago...
How polite society has crumbled.😷
Edward Gaines 72 now
They are eating with the wrong soups. Inconsiderate of left handed people. But hey, it is bad now cause people eat however they are comfortable doing.
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Use the subtitles.
You won't regret it. XD
I can't hear
Things have really changed.
and for the worst.
@@phoenixgrove Only when it comes to class and manners. But things like sexism and racism back then are thankfully in the past
We watched this at school
So many dishes to wash!
hat blonde just keeps on scarfing food - never stops to talk or take a breath!
+Bonnie Kuhn She is bullimic & will be bringing it up in the ladies room after. It is bad manners to vomit in front of ones fellow guests.
It's a short film.
Haha this is too cute!!!!
Ugh! I never liked these impractical rules! I can understand chewing with mouth closed, etc, because that impacts others, but why must we (for example) sip from the side of the spoon? It only increases the likelihood of spilling, and it's needless! The tip of the spoon is shaped that way for a reason!
So I’m left handed, would all the small details (place the plate on the left, use the serving spoon with the right, use the serving fork with your left to assist you) be opposite??
I follow the majority of these rules when I eat out or at a family/friend get together; hurray for mom for teaching me!
However, eating at home, forget the rules! /two hands in mashed potatoes.
Dearest Charlotte