Thank you for posting the video of "faffing around trying to leave the house" because it makes me feel so much more relaxed about my own spirals of decision-making. Honestly, I just try and avoid any situation where I need to make a choice... which is not that practical. The ending of you trusting yourself was extremely satisfying and lovely ❤
Very relatable. Thank you for sharing. It really helps sometimes to just have someone share their raw experience instead of always trying to offer solutions. So much of the content out there is focused on "this is why you can't do that, do this instead." which in a way just seems to perpetuate the feelings of 'less'. So much of what you do gives me/us the feeling of "we are not alone", and this is greatly appreciated.
Hi Rachel! You are so adorable! 😊 I love that you show yourself as you are! That has become very rare today. Keep it up! 👍 PS: Today's video made me laugh again! It's nice to see that I'm not the only one who feels this way (male, 45, diagnosed with ADHD a year ago).
Interesting to see how you overthink to find the best solution for yourself. My „workarround“ for that issue is to just deny myself everything in that situation to get to a quick solution, so i dont have to think about it.
Ohh this is interesting, I'm gonna give that a try! Do you find you end up fighting yourself? I'm worried feeling denied will make me want to rebel haha
@@rachdoesyoutube i feel like your approach is better, because i feel neglected from time to time by myself like that and its hard to find a middle ground.
Hope your hip gets better! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and thought process. Not seen you as a coach but it kinda feels like showing a pure moment of living what you're preaching. Watched Amanda Palmer (the exhiled from the world of the well with Sophie Strand at the Rubin museum) the other day, and one of the things she said are that the ones talking about taking time for one self. Often are the people that most need to hear that message. And this feels like you really giving your self that type of break to be yourself as kind your whole channel is to give all of us ND people the courage and safe place to be our authentic selfs. To be ND is not to be unwell but there definitely are some similarities with the main society and some limitations on what some ND people can do in a Neurotypical world. And one can be neurodivergent and have other medical conditions. I'm overthinking and overcomplicating my thoughts, and since in Sweden Christmas is celebrated on the Christmas eve not the Christmas day. Marry Christmas. And definitely hoping to catching more videos from you in 2024. Consistently not needed for me because definitely not something I can promise myself. Phrase that works, works!
Goodness it's like being in my own brain with all that indecision 😅 So so hard sometimes. But so relatable!! Have a happy Christmas break and all the best for the new year.
Sometimes it's good to just be positive, enjoy the crazy and take what wins you can and appreciate them. I feel that progress and getting something done even if its not what was planned is just as good. Not getting something you expected to do done at the time you thought does not have to be a negative.
I relate to this completely! I put one sock on and then brush my teeth, then other sock, then floss . . . thanks for putting this out there. It is so much clearer than any description of such symptoms could ever be.
Thanks! Yeaaars ago my ex bf used to watch get me ready in the morning baffled and be like 'you know you can brush your teeth, then put your shoes on, you don't need to do them at the same time' and I'd be like 'oh yeah, didn't realise I was now holding a shoe' hahaha
I often start to leave comments after your videos because they are so thought provoking. 🥰 However, I get lost in in the translation from my brain to the keyboard. So, this isn't what you got me thinking about, haha. Well, okay here is a little of it.... I have been paying close attention to motivators and how to leverage what works for me. Urgency is the one that works the best but I have always thought of myself as a failure for not getting ahead on things like I plan. It is so stressful. Now I see that it really is my best tool and I can accept that it is the way it will be no matter how hard I try to make it otherwise. The stress is not as bad since it is from the actual work, not from beating myself up. I hope I can remind myself of this little nugget of insight when I'm in the midst of my next run up to a deadline. 😂
I think everyone who knows anyone who has ADHD should watch this to see how we over think the simplest things and cause lateness indecision, anxiety, overwhelm😳 I eat badly because it takes so long to get things done.
Understand perfectly, for me it's not the fact that it takes a lot of time, when I am in the middle of the things (let's say cooking) most of the times the "energy" simply vanishes and the anxiety for finishing already, creeps in. I end up rushing the cooking to get to finish and not even tasting the food.
Wow! Thank you for sharing. That was like watching a mirror of myself. It’s so validating to know that I’m not alone in my struggles. Wishing you a lovely Christmas and best wishes for the new year.
The moment you first mentioned coffee, I was like 'no! You won't have a free hand' 😂 Thankyou for this. It was like watching myself 'get ready' for something and was both amusing and comforting to watch from an outside perspective. I think that's why even your unplanned vlog videos work so well. You're true to yourself and just show how it is. Have a great new year x
This has become one of my new favorite channels. So down to earth and open about your experience. It's the style something I've been toying around with trying, just haven't followed through
Yesssss. I feel you. I enjoyed your process! Thank you! There are some words I just cannot tolerate. Just no. But I do like the word "continuity'. For me, it's about a pattern of quality which doesn't require specific time allotments. I don't need to make a date to complete it. (although, generally I am propelled forward by deadlines) It feels like a goal(s) with spontaneity. See you next year! xoxo
With every video you post, you help encapsulate some of my experiences negotiating with my own brain. Which for the life long of me, I have had so much anxiety about over the simplest of details. And, boy am I a detail oriented critter. But I'm feeling more empowered, little by little. Thank you for making choices to care for yourself and for letting us come with for the ride!
I love this!! 'The stress isn't as bad since it's from the actual work. not from beating myself up!' - wise! It's amazing how far some self acceptance can take us.
Indecisive😃👍 relatable and I'm a 46 yo presumably Audhd male 😂 For getting out of the door I"ve started leaning into my now knowledge of ADHD treating it as any deadline since I'll be late anyway. Then I might even be able to plan out what to pack and lay it out sometimes and then I'll power through and maybe only be arround 15 mins late at the most, providing my ocd-ish checking does'nt act up too much.
this is how my brain is all the time. Thank you for the Validation, Rach. Have a lovely Festive break
Thank you, and great to see you in the comments section as always! Happy New Year!
Thank you for posting the video of "faffing around trying to leave the house" because it makes me feel so much more relaxed about my own spirals of decision-making. Honestly, I just try and avoid any situation where I need to make a choice... which is not that practical.
The ending of you trusting yourself was extremely satisfying and lovely ❤
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We are not alone!
Very relatable. Thank you for sharing. It really helps sometimes to just have someone share their raw experience instead of always trying to offer solutions. So much of the content out there is focused on "this is why you can't do that, do this instead." which in a way just seems to perpetuate the feelings of 'less'. So much of what you do gives me/us the feeling of "we are not alone", and this is greatly appreciated.
Oohh thanks for saying that, I hadn't thought of it that way but very true!
Hi Rachel!
You are so adorable! 😊
I love that you show yourself as you are! That has become very rare today. Keep it up! 👍
PS:
Today's video made me laugh again!
It's nice to see that I'm not the only one who feels this way (male, 45, diagnosed with ADHD a year ago).
Interesting to see how you overthink to find the best solution for yourself. My „workarround“ for that issue is to just deny myself everything in that situation to get to a quick solution, so i dont have to think about it.
Ohh this is interesting, I'm gonna give that a try! Do you find you end up fighting yourself? I'm worried feeling denied will make me want to rebel haha
@@rachdoesyoutube i feel like your approach is better, because i feel neglected from time to time by myself like that and its hard to find a middle ground.
Thank you for sharing these, Rachel. These videos are actually quite validating to watch. I see my experience as I'm watching your experience. 💓
i like the 'commitment' vs 'consistency' distinction!
Hope your hip gets better! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and thought process. Not seen you as a coach but it kinda feels like showing a pure moment of living what you're preaching. Watched Amanda Palmer (the exhiled from the world of the well with Sophie Strand at the Rubin museum) the other day, and one of the things she said are that the ones talking about taking time for one self. Often are the people that most need to hear that message. And this feels like you really giving your self that type of break to be yourself as kind your whole channel is to give all of us ND people the courage and safe place to be our authentic selfs.
To be ND is not to be unwell but there definitely are some similarities with the main society and some limitations on what some ND people can do in a Neurotypical world. And one can be neurodivergent and have other medical conditions.
I'm overthinking and overcomplicating my thoughts, and since in Sweden Christmas is celebrated on the Christmas eve not the Christmas day. Marry Christmas.
And definitely hoping to catching more videos from you in 2024. Consistently not needed for me because definitely not something I can promise myself. Phrase that works, works!
Thanks Rebecka! I appreciate you saying that :) Hope you had a good christmas, and happy new year!
LOVE the pink coat😍😍😍
Goodness it's like being in my own brain with all that indecision 😅 So so hard sometimes. But so relatable!! Have a happy Christmas break and all the best for the new year.
Thank you! And a happy new yeeeeaarrr
Sometimes it's good to just be positive, enjoy the crazy and take what wins you can and appreciate them.
I feel that progress and getting something done even if its not what was planned is just as good. Not getting something you expected to do done at the time you thought does not have to be a negative.
I relate to this completely! I put one sock on and then brush my teeth, then other sock, then floss . . . thanks for putting this out there. It is so much clearer than any description of such symptoms could ever be.
Thanks! Yeaaars ago my ex bf used to watch get me ready in the morning baffled and be like 'you know you can brush your teeth, then put your shoes on, you don't need to do them at the same time' and I'd be like 'oh yeah, didn't realise I was now holding a shoe' hahaha
I often start to leave comments after your videos because they are so thought provoking. 🥰 However, I get lost in in the translation from my brain to the keyboard. So, this isn't what you got me thinking about, haha. Well, okay here is a little of it.... I have been paying close attention to motivators and how to leverage what works for me. Urgency is the one that works the best but I have always thought of myself as a failure for not getting ahead on things like I plan. It is so stressful. Now I see that it really is my best tool and I can accept that it is the way it will be no matter how hard I try to make it otherwise. The stress is not as bad since it is from the actual work, not from beating myself up. I hope I can remind myself of this little nugget of insight when I'm in the midst of my next run up to a deadline. 😂
I think everyone who knows anyone who has ADHD should watch this to see how we over think the simplest things and cause lateness indecision, anxiety, overwhelm😳
I eat badly because it takes so long to get things done.
Understand perfectly, for me it's not the fact that it takes a lot of time, when I am in the middle of the things (let's say cooking) most of the times the "energy" simply vanishes and the anxiety for finishing already, creeps in. I end up rushing the cooking to get to finish and not even tasting the food.
Wow! Thank you for sharing. That was like watching a mirror of myself. It’s so validating to know that I’m not alone in my struggles. Wishing you a lovely Christmas and best wishes for the new year.
Thank you! Best of wishes to you tooooo!
I thought I was the only one who thought in circles of undecision like this. Thanks for making this
It's a comfort for me too to realise it's not just me! Thanks for being here 😀
The moment you first mentioned coffee, I was like 'no! You won't have a free hand' 😂
Thankyou for this. It was like watching myself 'get ready' for something and was both amusing and comforting to watch from an outside perspective.
I think that's why even your unplanned vlog videos work so well. You're true to yourself and just show how it is.
Have a great new year x
Thank you! And happy new year to you 💛
This has become one of my new favorite channels. So down to earth and open about your experience. It's the style something I've been toying around with trying, just haven't followed through
Thank you!! Thanks for watching. I say, take the plunge 😀
Yesssss. I feel you.
I enjoyed your process! Thank you!
There are some words I just cannot tolerate. Just no.
But I do like the word "continuity'. For me, it's about a pattern of quality which doesn't require specific time allotments. I don't need to make a date to complete it. (although, generally I am propelled forward by deadlines) It feels like a goal(s) with spontaneity.
See you next year!
xoxo
Oooh i like what you say about continuity! Goal with spontaneity, nice!
With every video you post, you help encapsulate some of my experiences negotiating with my own brain. Which for the life long of me, I have had so much anxiety about over the simplest of details. And, boy am I a detail oriented critter. But I'm feeling more empowered, little by little. Thank you for making choices to care for yourself and for letting us come with for the ride!
If I could give this video three thumbs up I would ❤ omg I love all of what happens in this vlog !!!
I love this content! And you're amazing. Merry Christmas!
Thanks so much! Happy New Year!
Yes, commitment instead if consistency, great advice! Love this video, Oh no, tea or coffee?!,😂😂😂
I love this!! 'The stress isn't as bad since it's from the actual work. not from beating myself up!' - wise! It's amazing how far some self acceptance can take us.
Go, write! 👏❤️❤️❤️❤️
6:35 Flamingo glass!
hehe a personal favourite
lol, tea or coffee. 😊
Indecisive😃👍 relatable and I'm a 46 yo presumably Audhd male 😂 For getting out of the door I"ve started leaning into my now knowledge of ADHD treating it as any deadline since I'll be late anyway. Then I might even be able to plan out what to pack and lay it out sometimes and then I'll power through and maybe only be arround 15 mins late at the most, providing my ocd-ish checking does'nt act up too much.
9:40 👏👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
For you! and me.... but also for you 😂
tea or coffee 😂😭
The never ending quandry
Hi rachel
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