Main reasons why an ex moves on quickly after the break up : - They've had another person, not necessarily cheating but a crush on a colleague or a friend - They're weak, they are afraid of loneliness - Their ego has been hurt, they want revenge.
I also think some of them are just weak and afraid of loneliness. Like my ex who got a bf, but the problem is she has a depression and ADHD and doesn't make good decisions in life, so not only won't she heal from a breakup (she was crying a lot), also sometime in the future shell probably dump him
You're speaking Truth. The Breakup allowed me to see the type of person I was dealing with all along. I certainly didn't appreciate how the Breakup was done, especially with the time, love & loyalty he was given. If you're going to Breakup with someone, do it Respectfully in their face, not a text message/phone. That's low class dirty.
Hi Coach blac how do i move on yet the pain is still to much however am at least trying to move on coz he blocked on everything n it helped me i also blocked him n even deleted his telephone numbers but can really my ex come back after a shaming me during the very very bad break up even Infront of his family members.
My ex wife ended our 17 years marriage over messenger. 2 weeks later she was with another man. It completely destroyed our 13 year old daughter. I have seen what hell looks like and slowly recovering.
The real real truth here is that a person that moves on quickly is a low value, low quality person. Any real high value person will take time to heal, re focus themselves? Improve on their mistakes and become a better person before they go back into dating. When I met my ex she said her relationships usually last 6 months, and she also says she’s never single… guess what, she treated me like a king for 5 months and then the shit started, we broke up around 6 month mark 😂 I’m certain she’s already on to the next guy…she’s a lovely girl but low values and character due to not knowing better and not being willing to put in the work. If a person you were with jumped onto the next quickly after your relationship then you should be thankful… they were not mentally and emotionally equipt to be a great partner for you as they lack the values and characteristics of a solid long term partner.
That's how I feel, 13 years we were together. Four months after we separated, she was already in a new relationship posting on social media, and I'm pretty sure they are living together. All while I'm still heartbroken and also talking to a therapist 🫂
I think I need a therapist for sure Big time after 1 year we broke up and now their posting their pics all over social media We attend same sch and in same department while the other guy is in other departments gosh this hit hard
I’m currently dealing with this how can someone pretend to love you for over 1 year everything was great attention great sex good everything was great but now not just 3 days ago she has started posting her new partner
@@Iamtheone-x8w they pretend calling you for hours, they pretend shearing you pictures with their family’s, they pretend calling you videos calls for hours they pretend cooking for you, they pretend making love with you, they pretend hmmmm
I just want peace! I tried and tried to explain to her that talking to men on social media and putting herself like a single woman is and was unacceptable. The best thing to do for my sanity is to walk away with my head held high. Fellas when you communicate and set your boundaries with a woman and she constantly is being disrespectful... walk away and focus on healing and put God first always. God Bless 🙏
Yes I should’ve walked away when I complained about that too.. My ex dragged me and shamed me infront of everyone.. I begged for mercy and she didn’t stop… 😢
It’s been sloshing around in their head for a while. Just be strong. If it’s meant to it’s meant to be. Remember there are billions of people in this world and plenty of other desperados out there not only for your ex but you too. The longer you get hung up about it the longer your ex is winning real estate in your mind. Go out and see what’s out there. Learn to smile again and make yourself better. That’s how you get over a break up 👌Life is way too short!
This is one of your best videos. I work with my ex and she very much wanted to be friends…No ma’am, she has a boyfriend and she can be HIS friend. Give them the reality of the breakup.
How did it go? My ex monkey branched to her best friend she only knew for 4 months but we were together for 5 years. She reached out aft 5 weeks of NC to be friends because she treasures the friendship. I told her i couldnt give her an answer yet. Im guessing i should say no?
Same. I gave her space and let her go like she asked me, after I wrote a long ass letter. She initially said a few things that gave me false hope. It seems any contact or attempt to talk after that just made things worse. I had the hot and cold treatment and eventually indifference. She made it clear with body language she did not want to talk to me at all. I was not able to transfer so total no contact was impossible. I didn’t want to see her either as it was holding back my own healing. But I imagine he was telling her not to talk to me also. After 6 mths of pain and processing wtf happened with us, she moved in w the guy she monkeybranched with. I think she might have been waiting for me to change my circumstances which was the root of out incompatibility. That never happened and she’s gone gone. Def time to move on but it’s frustrating still seeing her but not being able to hear her side of the story just for my closure. Hope this helps anyone in the same situ.
This is exactly my story, she finally told me she need space and separation and finally said she’s in a relationship and dating. I cried all night and nearly end my life but God help me. This is exactly my story
Yeah brody I just broke up with my girl of 5yrs last Sunday and ain’t text her since and I’m trying to be strong as well brody but don’t u ever love her so much more then yourself that you would rather end your life because you can’t have her. She shouldn’t have that much power and if she’s too dumb to notice your love for her she isn’t deserving of that and that just means you got a whole lot more loving to give yourself. Stay strong buddy your not alone!
Going through this at the moment. Only thing is we have a child together. Having to see her every other day through exchanging our kid. Have to be reminded of that constantly. A lot harder to get over. Life really can suck.
Hey bro I’m going through the same shit. Found out last week she’s been seeing a dude for a couple of months and wants to introduce him to our son. So conflicted cuz I want her to be happy but I don’t just want dudes coming in and out of my sons life
I went through brotha. I had to actually fall back from the kids until I got into a better place spiritually, mentally, emotionally to have the strength to deal with their mother. That woman is a demon.
i did the breaking up because he cheated. it took 2 weeks of no contact for him to start seeing someone new consistently. literally have no idea how to process it it hurts so much
I dated a girl for 4-5months she broke up with me. Got with the guy a "week"later so they say but she was hanging around him prior and when I brought it up that I wasn't liking that she assured me shes with me not him and that she would always choose me... 2 weeks later I was single and she was sleeping with him. Kicker is we slept together that morning and she said I love you 8hrs before she broke up with me (last time i seen her between work and sleep) . And she did the break up over text. Saying "hey we need to talk Your not gonna like what I say or even be happy about it but I have been doing this more for you then for me and that I need to work on myself I am not in a good place at the moment and that you deserve better. So we're done please give me back my key" Ps do you want the necklace back. (It was a small skeleton key necklace with a heart for the handle.) Which if she did take time didnt date the new guy and warm her lap before it was even cold I would've been fine and alright with that and maybe pick things up again but she lied she cheated (may not have been physical or maybe it was) but it was emotional as best intimate at worst That was 2 months ago. It hurt like hell got super depressed over it and reopened old wounds that my other ex's put on me. I personally wouldn't get back with her ever. she will ruin this new relationship too and move on.
Yea this happened to me.. my girlfriend moved on the next month. I found out from her friend she was already seeing another man and trying to couple with him
😂 I had this happen to me 3 weeks ago with my avoidant ex GF. She even said she would only break up face to face with her previous ex's. Damn I call it lucky escape but I'm still in therapy for it I even knew her as a friend for 15 years, you think you know these people and they cause deep physiological issues through emotional abuse!
THIS WHY I STAY ON MY OWN REAL LOVE IS NOT OUT THERE i stay young at 61 years old look at my picture i dont want no one i have been hurt by relateship s its best i stsy onmy own so i dont get old to quickly. In the old days live was love now itz about money car house whos better than who trust me
well said 17 yr marriage she wakes up and tells me she wants a divorce...3 hrs later she leaves. Moved to friends house..Turns out her parents knew and her friend I found it horrific that we were going around like we did for years but she was almost sociopathic still telling me days before she loves me and kissing me........we had horses together I asked her what are we going to do with the horse which were a big part of our lives? she didn't hesitate just said sell them. a few months later she had a new guy...and now moved half way across the country...that was a huge chunk of my life down the toilet.
I did it and got dumped 70 days after we reconnected. It is never worth it. Once you break up, you will have to do your best to let the pain run its course and move forward. My ex was a big liar, gaslighter, cheater, many other things. She showed up sweet, open and loving at first but that was a mask of a Dismissive Avoidant. Honestly, I tried to make a garden tool 304 into a respectable girlfriend and didn’t realize it until after the fact. Now I see why she didn’t have committed boyfriends after her second marriage. She was out there 304-ing it up and smart men saw that she was emotionally unavailable and had issues and either dodged her altogether or just banged her and did not invest anymore in her. My simple a$$ came through with empathy and pity for what she went through. I am recovering and healing post breakup (about 3 weeks now) but there is a small part of me that kind of want her back. I think because I knew I should have broken up with her (I reached that point 2 days before she broke it off with me) and didn’t and she actually did it 2 days later, I believe that it was making me want her. Now, I’m just eating better, working out, reading and staying busy working on myself. I’m not dating anyone seriously right now. I don’t even want to date until I fully process this to include strengthening my boundaries, get better at spotting and responding to 🚩 quicker and more. I have myself to blame a lot because I saw lots of 🚩 with her early and still walked right into the trap. I have learned my lesson and got the scars to prove it. While this is a hard breakup, it is also awakening an Unstoppable Warrior within. My dating and relationship game is going to be tight when I start dating again. I will communicate clearly, directly and in a straightforward manner. My needs, boundaries, dealbreakers and expectations will be communicated and I will seek the same from my partner. This relationship has cracked me a bit but it did not break me. It just showed me what I need to work on and the bounce back will be simply amazing.
My ex already talking bout having a baby with this girl & he love her & he met no more then a month ago he gave that up for 5yrs , he said I didn’t understand him 😴 I did everything for him smh..
Break up is not healthy at all!! I'm going through it presently and it's really hurt because I don't want to be with this person for the first place and he beg me to give him chance his going to proof it to me not all men are the same. Then I finally have feelings for him due to the efforts and care he showed me!!! Now he left without saying any words isn't that hurt 💔
@@richardmagombo6647 I know! hopefully I'll get better quickly so that I can move on and focusing on my child and myself. From abuse relationships to this narcissist guy again so draining my energy 🙏
I feel this is exactly what happened to me, and I'm dealing with it now 💔 I'm not in contact with him...... we are not together, taken one day at a time. Trying to heal......... Thanks
Me and my ex lived in the same apartment building. She broke up with me three months ago, saying she was under a lot pressure and that she wanted to focus on her child. Last month I realized she was with another guy. The worst thing was I heard them entering her apartment while at the same time they were trying to be as quiet as possible. I was just shocked and devastated. Left my apartment the same night and moved to my parents house temporarily. I've never felt so sick and under so much pain in my entire life. Almost 2 months later I am trying to pick up my pieces and move on. Trying to find a new place to live and forget about this drama. Not easy though...
I’m sorry to hear this brother. I am going through pain and hurt as well… It hurts when a woman submits her body to another man… Specially when you did gave all to protect her… you will be okay. I once survived a break up in prison.. very heart killing and I made it. And I’m going to survive this one too.. keep going to work, keep moving through the pain… ❤️❤️❤️ please don’t hurt yourself brother.
My ex with whom I was 4 years in a relationship after we broke up in few months he got married with someone else. I was the one who broke up because he was cheating on me and he was long time left emotionally. But guess what,he regrets every single day for what he did he is unhappy and miserable now he was stocking me and sending his friends to add me on social media as he know I will never accept him. It took me 1 year of healing and I had a lot of emotional pain ,and I regret that I didn’t finish that relationship long time ago. Is impossible to jump from one person to another in that way for me is unnatural…
@@HealWithJess32honestly they’re usually not even if they don’t reach out to tell you. Trust me that grass is greener syndrome is very real and usually by the time they do you’ve moved on and are okay without them
Talking from my own perspective.. I try to make it work for a very very very long time.. I am truly someone that understands relationships are hard work. Am willing to look at my own flaws and work on that too.. Cus nobody is perfect and love itself is not enough. Compatibility and the willingness to work things out make a big chunk of it. But if your partner doesn't have the same mindset.. After a long time of trying you start to check out.. You prepare for the breakup.. You are allready going through the grieving process while still hoping something changes. But unfortunately most of the times it doesn't. So by the time you finally are at the point of break up.. Your allready done grieving. You have allready spilled your tears and are ready to move on. I agree that moving on too fast isn't good and taking a breather and assess what you wanna do now is a better strategy.. but on the other hand.. You broke up. You don't owe each other anything anymore.. 😅 If you meet someone amazing.. Are you gonna let them slip because of your ex? Heck no
I will not be compared to an employee. I know i was a good wife and he won't find another of my calibre with my morals and what i brought to our relationship. I know my value. He was the one who was a serial cheater. He has the issue from unhealed bs and insecurities. He is immature and can't be alone.
My ex boyfriend treated me like shit In are relationship he never put any effort in are relationship we never had time to date and he's been seeing this girl behind my back
Avoidant never even broke up with me after 2 years of dating. They got distant . When confronted about entertaining other ppl they had no reasons. It went from talking 24/7 to only being messaged once a day. Then once a week & within a month they were claiming this random ass person publicly. It completely shattered my soul. This person showed me they had morals or respect . It gave me no choice but to accept REALITY & depend solely on myself to get out of the dark mental hole of depression & heartbreak … Some people are so foul. If it was supposed to be a learning lesson it was completely dismissed by them.
What you said is exactly what is going on with me, my husband checked out even before I broke up with him he’s cheating on me and now he moved out of the house
It's 1 year now of my break up since I have been watching Coach Blac. He really helped me see the light. I'm in a better place without my ex. I prayed so hard for the lord to help me to forget him even though my ex has contacted me every month. I did meet up with him for breakfast in May and he told me that the person he picked was a big mistake 😂 I really wanted to hear that from him. Is the only reason why I went. I'm good now and definitely move on knowing that he will never change. He has to blame himself for his stupid decisions and believe me he stuck and can't find himself out that other relationship after what he told me about that other lady. Anyway to everyone out there who's going through this with their ex listen to Coach he is right do your life and better yourself. No matter how much we love our ex's is better to move forward and not backwards. Remember that God has something better for all of us. Pray, Pray and pray talk to the Lord believe me he will help you and guide you to the right path 🙏 Thank you Coach Blac for your channel it really helped me in so many ways 🙏 Appreciate it
I don’t understand my breakup with my ex, when she asked to be friends I gave her the breakup, I was giving her the breakup but then she starts begging me to come back, I told her I cannot be your friend, (I personally don’t see me going to be friends with someone I dated for 5 years, I’m not a 2nd place guy), so she starts begging me back and I said we can continue being in a romantic relationship but I’m gonna need effort from you, she agrees, but then months later she admits that she was seeing someone else during that time and I left without a word. Why is it that she wanted to breakup and I give it to her but not want to breakup but then she starts dating someone else?!?! :/ it confuses me
@@joncarbone it’s been about a year, it lingers in my mind still cause I feel I did the breakup wrong and everything is my fault (I also feel I ghosted her), I started going back to college and I graduate this March, gonna enter the field I went to school for after I graduate
You can see that this is not your fault at all. All decisions she made were on herself. It hurts but it’s great to know that it’s not your fault. As how I read from how you said, shows that she’s confused with what she wants in life or she’s immature. I hope you move on and heal quickly and hope you’ll never find that type of person again
In my case I was the one who broke up with her because she told me that she was seeing a “friend” (who she just had met at her job) and she was doing things for him that she had never done for me. I didn’t break up with her because I had someone else, but because I didn’t feel like a priority in her life. 2 weeks later, boom!: she receives flowers from the other guy, and starts dating him .
My ex left me after 18 years. We were separated for about 3 years but talked everyday hung out all the time and i supported her. Now she doesnt say anything to me hardly. Moved in with another man has my daughter there. I barely get to see my daughter. Its like i was never there never was even a person in her life.
Business is never personal , especially when you know it's a per diem or when needed so you are never guaranteed a position however it might sound like a relationship will or will not happen after dealing w/the person 2-3 mos. Also it depends how this person came in to the situation IT ALLLLLL DEPENDS ! And sometimes you have to be mature to look at the situation from all angles , perspective it's up to you how you want this situation to go !
True!! We're on and off but everytime I'm moving on he comeback to me. 1 time he told me that he started talking and dating few girls. Then he came back to me again then he broke up with me after a few weeks he posted on fb that he is in a relationship with other girl. He accused me that I am cheating with him but I never. Then I found out he has new gf. 💔
I'm assuming he means when SHE moved on so quickly, because most men don't have that opportunity. But anyway, it depends if they left you and then started seeing someone else, or if they left you FOR someone else. Because if she left you for another guy, it's over. Plain and simple. The moment she got butterflies for him, all interest and attraction for you vanished. As a bonus, she won't even have to feel the pain of losing you because she'll be too busy getting railed by him. And it's totally possible for everything to be fine, she's still giving you looks of lust and desire, begging for bedroom fun, planning trips etc., only to do a complete 180 the moment she meets him. It's not always planned in advance.
My avoidant ex called me to tell me she was seeing someone else. Thats it’s serious. Shes in love. We broke up mid February. Don’t really hurt. The Next morning she calls me to talk. Talked for 3 hours. She turned it sexually and it turned to phone sex. A couple hours later she showed up at my apartment. We hooked up and hung out for hours. She than left and went on a double date with her bf. And eventually told her bf what happened and chose him. This all happened last week. She said she is with him and working on it and doesn’t want to be with me. I’m blocked on everything. No apology. Nothing.
We only got married last October. He left end of March and had a new "love of his life" 3 weeks later. You're telling me a newly wed man was planning to leave?
Even though that your ex moved on and he moved to his new girlfriend in the hell, did he move too quick even though that I want to move on, is he going to find out he still cares
Okay so he cheated on me we've been together for almost two years he cheated on me... And the girl he cheated on me with tried to jump me along with her friends HE ALOWED IT mind you I didn't do NOTHING after that incident they continued being together. Two months after our breakup he got the girl PREGNANT. They now been together for 5 months
Yea i gave her the breakup and she is with a new guy spending nights at his house. F this noise, if you love them fight for them, if she still insist on leaving let her go. Easier said than done especially with kids involved i know.
I was in a relationship for 1 year, we were young (20yrs)and agreed not to have kids .in situation of pregnancy she know what to do. She got pregnant so i thought she knew the deal but she birthed anyway disregarding my opinion. I stepped up anyway for the kid,selfish ? i couldn’t trust her after the fact and as it hurt me . I noticed she didnt have female friends found that weird ,the so called friends she met through her friend zoning the guys ,later on she started going to the gym, loosing weight and then a couple months she broke up with me , its fair coz i was cheating when she was pregnant, never told her she was surprised i took the break up too well. Now i realise i was hurting to 🏃 but the child kept me
My ex bought new windows and a new bed before he dumped me. But we didn't have any Convo -- he just got angry and blew up at me. He mentioned a breakup on Christmas Day too. Uggghhh
I love a black girl so much but she is dating right now and claims to be dating me right now and is therefore using me for money right now but is suicidal without my love. What do I do to make her mine permanently?
Bruh same thing happened to me love a black girl so much See what to do here bruh just give her space a very good space a good one focus on yourself and stop giving her money ok
Can someone tell me if it's possible to still get my ex back after no contact if I logged into her Instagram account, which I know it's an invasion of privacy, but her info was saved on my pc before even the break up and I couldn't resist the temptation and found out that she was talking to another guy, which happens to be a guy a met in Miami , which we live in Pennsylvania and he keeps trying to visit her and she was all into it like "baby when you visiting me" she sent me screenshots to prove that he did not come here, but she was doing this to get over me according to her that it wasn't serious, but to me is her actions that count. I then rejected her and played the reverse card on her and haven't talked to her since it's been about two weeks. I was respectful and will she come back with no contact after all this?
Hi my ex boyfriend broke up with me his reason was because he can not accept my kid's after 2 years of been together it broke me but I started to see that I was going to be okay so I started chatting to a guy no intentions to it my ex took my phone and found the chat now he says I'm cheating on me am I really cheating I'm confused
Hi coach. My ex we have been no contact 2/2 month. But suddenly he called my sister. Whats wrong with my ex . He didn't reach out instead reaching me . He talks to my sister. I don't understand what happened to him?
I broke up with my bf and it didn’t take him more than 2 days for him to start texting his ex and act like our over a year relationship was nothing to him 😢
Took my ex back. Found out she hooked up with her ex after the fact. Broke up again over that info. Flew to Rio for NYE. Sent her a video of the baddie I was with twerking in my Airbnb. Stay toxic.
Oh man i wish i could talk to you personally she did it dirty by moving to a another guy so quickly i don't know what to do even if it is worth to wait for her to come back to me don't know man
We were never officially a couple but there’s no question that we were planning for me to move 2K miles cross country to build a new life with him. In December he even sent me the union agreement for a hospital near his house. Then he made a quick trip home for the holidays and suddenly he got quiet. In January he said that my happiness was more important to him than his own and that his personal life was, “broken in many ways.” He also mentioned that he knew it was possible to love someone and not act on it. I wish I asked him why anyone would do that but I assume he’s learning that lesson the hard way. He’s probably telling himself that he’s doing me a favor. Two years ago he said he wasn’t willing to take me away from my family. I know he’s scared that I might abandon him like his ex wife did for her family.
Right! Take your self out of the friendzone and move on! Focus on you and do you! Live life and hopefully along the way you’ll meet someone much better who sees your worth and won’t friendzone you. If the person you’re trying to get out of the friendzone with later starts to notice you and wants to be more than friends, then it’ll be up to YOU to decide if you want to be with them or not. Don’t give them that power by saying they have you in a “friendzone”! You can walk out and away from them at any moment!
Main reasons why an ex moves on quickly after the break up :
- They've had another person, not necessarily cheating but a crush on a colleague or a friend
- They're weak, they are afraid of loneliness
- Their ego has been hurt, they want revenge.
All unhealthy reasons
I also think some of them are just weak and afraid of loneliness. Like my ex who got a bf, but the problem is she has a depression and ADHD and doesn't make good decisions in life, so not only won't she heal from a breakup (she was crying a lot), also sometime in the future shell probably dump him
Or that's what I wish for, so I also could help her with her health problems and make our plans happen. I'm trying to heal but it's very hard
Or they a ho or narcissist
You sucked at bed, thats another one.
You're speaking Truth. The Breakup allowed me to see the type of person I was dealing with all along. I certainly didn't appreciate how the Breakup was done, especially with the time, love & loyalty he was given. If you're going to Breakup with someone, do it Respectfully in their face, not a text message/phone. That's low class dirty.
Hi Coach blac how do i move on yet the pain is still to much however am at least trying to move on coz he blocked on everything n it helped me i also blocked him n even deleted his telephone numbers but can really my ex come back after a shaming me during the very very bad break up even Infront of his family members.
Facts my got pregnant after a year &abit found thru her friend she’s pregnant I dodged a huge bullet
Have this same experience a month ago
My ex wife ended our 17 years marriage over messenger. 2 weeks later she was with another man. It completely destroyed our 13 year old daughter. I have seen what hell looks like and slowly recovering.
Unfortunately I had to do mine thru the phone she was always "busy" and couldn't give me the attention I wanted
The truth hurts but it's also a blessing.
The real real truth here is that a person that moves on quickly is a low value, low quality person. Any real high value person will take time to heal, re focus themselves? Improve on their mistakes and become a better person before they go back into dating. When I met my ex she said her relationships usually last 6 months, and she also says she’s never single… guess what, she treated me like a king for 5 months and then the shit started, we broke up around 6 month mark 😂 I’m certain she’s already on to the next guy…she’s a lovely girl but low values and character due to not knowing better and not being willing to put in the work. If a person you were with jumped onto the next quickly after your relationship then you should be thankful… they were not mentally and emotionally equipt to be a great partner for you as they lack the values and characteristics of a solid long term partner.
Needed this
Thank you. I also needed this. You summed it up perfectly
Agreed
He's moved on...like 5 yrs wasn't Jack...and I'm on the couch like Tony Soprano talking to a therapist. 🥺
I pray it gets better for you
That's how I feel, 13 years we were together. Four months after we separated, she was already in a new relationship posting on social media, and I'm pretty sure they are living together. All while I'm still heartbroken and also talking to a therapist 🫂
I think I need a therapist for sure
Big time after 1 year we broke up and now their posting their pics all over social media
We attend same sch and in same department while the other guy is in other departments gosh this hit hard
I love this. Made me laugh as that’s exactly what I’m doing too
@@bee2765 💪💐 just strong
They never loved you they pretended to love you
I’m currently dealing with this how can someone pretend to love you for over 1 year everything was great attention great sex good everything was great but now not just 3 days ago she has started posting her new partner
How can I heal from such and now were in same department and she’s dating someone new from same faculty
So for people can pretend to love you for up to 5 years God don’t let me fall into such hands
@@Motivation-_powerI feel you bro , same story it's time you move on too bro, reset your mind
@@Iamtheone-x8w they pretend calling you for hours, they pretend shearing you pictures with their family’s, they pretend calling you videos calls for hours they pretend cooking for you, they pretend making love with you, they pretend hmmmm
It hits different when they leave with someone you introduced them to.. hurts like hell
I just want peace! I tried and tried to explain to her that talking to men on social media and putting herself like a single woman is and was unacceptable. The best thing to do for my sanity is to walk away with my head held high. Fellas when you communicate and set your boundaries with a woman and she constantly is being disrespectful... walk away and focus on healing and put God first always. God Bless 🙏
Yes I should’ve walked away when I complained about that too.. My ex dragged me and shamed me infront of everyone.. I begged for mercy and she didn’t stop… 😢
He was aready with someone before breaking up with me.
My ex did this to me too, in less than a week he already had comments from the b*tch on his things...💔
I can feel your pain. My ex moved on tooooo quickly after ghosting me out of blue. He looks completely fine and doesn't even care to respond
May have been thinking for months, but still spoke to people about our future
Here’s the truth, there’s was always rebounds. Currently out from a 7 year relationship, she was out there same week we broke up.
mine got someone new same day
It’s been sloshing around in their head for a while. Just be strong. If it’s meant to it’s meant to be. Remember there are billions of people in this world and plenty of other desperados out there not only for your ex but you too. The longer you get hung up about it the longer your ex is winning real estate in your mind. Go out and see what’s out there. Learn to smile again and make yourself better. That’s how you get over a break up 👌Life is way too short!
Same after with my ex gf after 9 years
Your rite bruh dat just lets you know they where cheating while y'all was together....
Damn same shit broken up after 3 years and I'm still on her phone plan after having the phone for a month should I just give it back
This is one of your best videos. I work with my ex and she very much wanted to be friends…No ma’am, she has a boyfriend and she can be HIS friend. Give them the reality of the breakup.
Do you still apply no contact
You did the right thing! I’m doing the same with my ex. Friendship is off the table.
How did it go? My ex monkey branched to her best friend she only knew for 4 months but we were together for 5 years. She reached out aft 5 weeks of NC to be friends because she treasures the friendship. I told her i couldnt give her an answer yet. Im guessing i should say no?
@@sps9542 Definitely no! Make her realize what she lost in having you in her life!
Same. I gave her space and let her go like she asked me, after I wrote a long ass letter. She initially said a few things that gave me false hope. It seems any contact or attempt to talk after that just made things worse. I had the hot and cold treatment and eventually indifference. She made it clear with body language she did not want to talk to me at all. I was not able to transfer so total no contact was impossible. I didn’t want to see her either as it was holding back my own healing. But I imagine he was telling her not to talk to me also. After 6 mths of pain and processing wtf happened with us, she moved in w the guy she monkeybranched with. I think she might have been waiting for me to change my circumstances which was the root of out incompatibility. That never happened and she’s gone gone. Def time to move on but it’s frustrating still seeing her but not being able to hear her side of the story just for my closure. Hope this helps anyone in the same situ.
This is exactly my story, she finally told me she need space and separation and finally said she’s in a relationship and dating. I cried all night and nearly end my life but God help me.
This is exactly my story
Respect her decision, forgive her and heal yourself to be better in life
she wasn't yours , it was just your turn now it's someones turn . accepting it will set you free
Yeah brody I just broke up with my girl of 5yrs last Sunday and ain’t text her since and I’m trying to be strong as well brody but don’t u ever love her so much more then yourself that you would rather end your life because you can’t have her. She shouldn’t have that much power and if she’s too dumb to notice your love for her she isn’t deserving of that and that just means you got a whole lot more loving to give yourself. Stay strong buddy your not alone!
This guy is exactly right. I felt my wife had been planning this for some time. Very cold and haertless. So glad I heard you, thank you thank you!!!
You are truly a blessing to us who are going through breakup..
This is the most accurate video out there. Thanks for your support. We are getting healed.
Going through this at the moment. Only thing is we have a child together. Having to see her every other day through exchanging our kid. Have to be reminded of that constantly. A lot harder to get over. Life really can suck.
Same situation, literally have to step back from my son until it’s figured out in court. Hurts like hewl
Hey bro I’m going through the same shit. Found out last week she’s been seeing a dude for a couple of months and wants to introduce him to our son. So conflicted cuz I want her to be happy but I don’t just want dudes coming in and out of my sons life
Why didn't you use protection? Lol.
I went through brotha. I had to actually fall back from the kids until I got into a better place spiritually, mentally, emotionally to have the strength to deal with their mother.
That woman is a demon.
i did the breaking up because he cheated. it took 2 weeks of no contact for him to start seeing someone new consistently. literally have no idea how to process it it hurts so much
I dated a girl for 4-5months she broke up with me. Got with the guy a "week"later so they say but she was hanging around him prior and when I brought it up that I wasn't liking that she assured me shes with me not him and that she would always choose me...
2 weeks later I was single and she was sleeping with him. Kicker is we slept together that morning and she said I love you 8hrs before she broke up with me (last time i seen her between work and sleep) . And she did the break up over text.
Saying "hey we need to talk
Your not gonna like what I say or even be happy about it but I have been doing this more for you then for me and that I need to work on myself I am not in a good place at the moment and that you deserve better. So we're done please give me back my key"
Ps do you want the necklace back. (It was a small skeleton key necklace with a heart for the handle.)
Which if she did take time didnt date the new guy and warm her lap before it was even cold I would've been fine and alright with that and maybe pick things up again but she lied she cheated (may not have been physical or maybe it was) but it was emotional as best intimate at worst
That was 2 months ago.
It hurt like hell got super depressed over it and reopened old wounds that my other ex's put on me.
I personally wouldn't get back with her ever. she will ruin this new relationship too and move on.
Omg same
Yea this happened to me.. my girlfriend moved on the next month. I found out from her friend she was already seeing another man and trying to couple with him
Same. 4 months later after it didn't work out she came back begging.
@@jumpedintheriverwhatdidise5499What did you do, take her back or let her remain out of your life?
Yeah, your right my ex didn’t give a crap for me. What a waste of years waiting for more from him 😢
I’m sorry ma’am
😂 I had this happen to me 3 weeks ago with my avoidant ex GF. She even said she would only break up face to face with her previous ex's. Damn I call it lucky escape but I'm still in therapy for it I even knew her as a friend for 15 years, you think you know these people and they cause deep physiological issues through emotional abuse!
THIS WHY I STAY ON MY OWN REAL LOVE IS NOT OUT THERE i stay young at 61 years old look at my picture i dont want no one i have been hurt by relateship s its best i stsy onmy own so i dont get old to quickly. In the old days live was love now itz about money car house whos better than who trust me
well said 17 yr marriage she wakes up and tells me she wants a divorce...3 hrs later she leaves. Moved to friends house..Turns out her parents knew and her friend I found it horrific that we were going around like we did for years but she was almost sociopathic still telling me days before she loves me and kissing me........we had horses together I asked her what are we going to do with the horse which were a big part of our lives? she didn't hesitate just said sell them. a few months later she had a new guy...and now moved half way across the country...that was a huge chunk of my life down the toilet.
na, idk why but this got me tight. if i was your best friend id be offering to crash out for you
I can’t see the logic of taking back a woman who belonged to the streets.
I did it and got dumped 70 days after we reconnected. It is never worth it. Once you break up, you will have to do your best to let the pain run its course and move forward.
My ex was a big liar, gaslighter, cheater, many other things. She showed up sweet, open and loving at first but that was a mask of a Dismissive Avoidant. Honestly, I tried to make a garden tool 304 into a respectable girlfriend and didn’t realize it until after the fact.
Now I see why she didn’t have committed boyfriends after her second marriage. She was out there 304-ing it up and smart men saw that she was emotionally unavailable and had issues and either dodged her altogether or just banged her and did not invest anymore in her. My simple a$$ came through with empathy and pity for what she went through.
I am recovering and healing post breakup (about 3 weeks now) but there is a small part of me that kind of want her back. I think because I knew I should have broken up with her (I reached that point 2 days before she broke it off with me) and didn’t and she actually did it 2 days later, I believe that it was making me want her.
Now, I’m just eating better, working out, reading and staying busy working on myself. I’m not dating anyone seriously right now. I don’t even want to date until I fully process this to include strengthening my boundaries, get better at spotting and responding to 🚩 quicker and more. I have myself to blame a lot because I saw lots of 🚩 with her early and still walked right into the trap. I have learned my lesson and got the scars to prove it.
While this is a hard breakup, it is also awakening an Unstoppable Warrior within. My dating and relationship game is going to be tight when I start dating again. I will communicate clearly, directly and in a straightforward manner. My needs, boundaries, dealbreakers and expectations will be communicated and I will seek the same from my partner.
This relationship has cracked me a bit but it did not break me. It just showed me what I need to work on and the bounce back will be simply amazing.
My ex already talking bout having a baby with this girl & he love her & he met no more then a month ago he gave that up for 5yrs , he said I didn’t understand him 😴 I did everything for him smh..
Break up is not healthy at all!! I'm going through it presently and it's really hurt because I don't want to be with this person for the first place and he beg me to give him chance his going to proof it to me not all men are the same. Then I finally have feelings for him due to the efforts and care he showed me!!! Now he left without saying any words isn't that hurt 💔
It's all about time , you will be fine
Sounds like he used you and was full of crap. So Sorry..
@@shawny979 you're very right, thank you
@@richardmagombo6647 I know! hopefully I'll get better quickly so that I can move on and focusing on my child and myself. From abuse relationships to this narcissist guy again so draining my energy 🙏
I feel this is exactly what happened to me, and I'm dealing with it now 💔 I'm not in contact with him...... we are not together, taken one day at a time. Trying to heal......... Thanks
Facts, great content my guy
Thanks bro 🤞🏿
Lee & Blac best coaches!
Me and my ex lived in the same apartment building. She broke up with me three months ago, saying she was under a lot pressure and that she wanted to focus on her child. Last month I realized she was with another guy. The worst thing was I heard them entering her apartment while at the same time they were trying to be as quiet as possible. I was just shocked and devastated. Left my apartment the same night and moved to my parents house temporarily. I've never felt so sick and under so much pain in my entire life. Almost 2 months later I am trying to pick up my pieces and move on. Trying to find a new place to live and forget about this drama. Not easy though...
I’m sorry to hear this brother. I am going through pain and hurt as well… It hurts when a woman submits her body to another man… Specially when you did gave all to protect her… you will be okay. I once survived a break up in prison.. very heart killing and I made it. And I’m going to survive this one too.. keep going to work, keep moving through the pain… ❤️❤️❤️ please don’t hurt yourself brother.
Thanks bro❤
@@andreaspantazatos7924how r u now
My ex with whom I was 4 years in a relationship after we broke up in few months he got married with someone else.
I was the one who broke up because he was cheating on me and he was long time left emotionally.
But guess what,he regrets every single day for what he did he is unhappy and miserable now he was stocking me and sending his friends to add me on social media as he know I will never accept him.
It took me 1 year of healing and I had a lot of emotional pain ,and I regret that I didn’t finish that relationship long time ago.
Is impossible to jump from one person to another in that way for me is unnatural…
Same here,for 10yrs ..
So he was not happy with who he chose
@@HealWithJess32honestly they’re usually not even if they don’t reach out to tell you. Trust me that grass is greener syndrome is very real and usually by the time they do you’ve moved on and are okay without them
Oh wow. This makes a lot of sense.
Talking from my own perspective.. I try to make it work for a very very very long time.. I am truly someone that understands relationships are hard work. Am willing to look at my own flaws and work on that too.. Cus nobody is perfect and love itself is not enough. Compatibility and the willingness to work things out make a big chunk of it. But if your partner doesn't have the same mindset.. After a long time of trying you start to check out.. You prepare for the breakup.. You are allready going through the grieving process while still hoping something changes. But unfortunately most of the times it doesn't. So by the time you finally are at the point of break up.. Your allready done grieving. You have allready spilled your tears and are ready to move on. I agree that moving on too fast isn't good and taking a breather and assess what you wanna do now is a better strategy.. but on the other hand.. You broke up. You don't owe each other anything anymore.. 😅 If you meet someone amazing.. Are you gonna let them slip because of your ex? Heck no
But it’s not love then is it
No it's not
I will not be compared to an employee. I know i was a good wife and he won't find another of my calibre with my morals and what i brought to our relationship. I know my value. He was the one who was a serial cheater. He has the issue from unhealed bs and insecurities. He is immature and can't be alone.
That's too show me not to take back a ex
Your right ,don't quit your job until you got another, no contact, they can't come back, because you moved on .
My ex boyfriend treated me like shit In are relationship he never put any effort in are relationship we never had time to date and he's been seeing this girl behind my back
Exactly, that happened to me😢...You give great advice
U are the best coach I have ever watched u so calm I like ur voice u sound genuine
Yeah ,Coach Blac im with you bro ............................................. Right On!
Avoidant never even broke up with me after 2 years of dating. They got distant . When confronted about entertaining other ppl they had no reasons. It went from talking 24/7 to only being messaged once a day. Then once a week & within a month they were claiming this random ass person publicly. It completely shattered my soul.
This person showed me they had morals or respect .
It gave me no choice but to accept REALITY & depend solely on myself to get out of the dark mental hole of depression & heartbreak …
Some people are so foul. If it was supposed to be a learning lesson it was completely dismissed by them.
If you had to give them surprise about how much you got in your bank account they’ll change their mind about the breakup instantly 😂
What you said is exactly what is going on with me, my husband checked out even before I broke up with him he’s cheating on me and now he moved out of the house
It's 1 year now of my break up since I have been watching Coach Blac. He really helped me see the light. I'm in a better place without my ex. I prayed so hard for the lord to help me to forget him even though my ex has contacted me every month. I did meet up with him for breakfast in May and he told me that the person he picked was a big mistake 😂 I really wanted to hear that from him. Is the only reason why I went. I'm good now and definitely move on knowing that he will never change. He has to blame himself for his stupid decisions and believe me he stuck and can't find himself out that other relationship after what he told me about that other lady. Anyway to everyone out there who's going through this with their ex listen to Coach he is right do your life and better yourself. No matter how much we love our ex's is better to move forward and not backwards. Remember that God has something better for all of us. Pray, Pray and pray talk to the Lord believe me he will help you and guide you to the right path 🙏
Thank you Coach Blac for your channel it really helped me in so many ways 🙏 Appreciate it
But if they moved on , then how r they returning to u? Makes no sense pimpin
You are Absolutely right
Don't bother her nor ever take her back. Neeevvvveeerrrrr
I don’t understand my breakup with my ex, when she asked to be friends I gave her the breakup, I was giving her the breakup but then she starts begging me to come back, I told her I cannot be your friend, (I personally don’t see me going to be friends with someone I dated for 5 years, I’m not a 2nd place guy), so she starts begging me back and I said we can continue being in a romantic relationship but I’m gonna need effort from you, she agrees, but then months later she admits that she was seeing someone else during that time and I left without a word.
Why is it that she wanted to breakup and I give it to her but not want to breakup but then she starts dating someone else?!?! :/ it confuses me
fuck that man, I know it’s hard but you gotta grieve it out, then put the energy on you. Improve man, make her regret leaving you
That’s female nature. She thought she could do better. My ex did the same thing. Now she’s all sad cuz I don’t want to see her.
Don’t be friends with an ex. They are an ex for a reason EX FRIEND, EX LOVER EX everything
EXIT out of my life ❤
@@joncarbone it’s been about a year, it lingers in my mind still cause I feel I did the breakup wrong and everything is my fault (I also feel I ghosted her), I started going back to college and I graduate this March, gonna enter the field I went to school for after I graduate
You can see that this is not your fault at all. All decisions she made were on herself. It hurts but it’s great to know that it’s not your fault. As how I read from how you said, shows that she’s confused with what she wants in life or she’s immature. I hope you move on and heal quickly and hope you’ll never find that type of person again
In my case I was the one who broke up with her because she told me that she was seeing a “friend” (who she just had met at her job) and she was doing things for him that she had never done for me. I didn’t break up with her because I had someone else, but because I didn’t feel like a priority in her life. 2 weeks later, boom!: she receives flowers from the other guy, and starts dating him .
I moved on fast because in November 2022, I became a FREE AGENT and was motivated to join the winning team.
Thanks for the advice will what I must
@elvinobaron5508 one day at a time big dog.
Now I understand... Tt wasn't a breakup but a layout... Went away all on a sudden n never contacted me
My ex left me after 18 years. We were separated for about 3 years but talked everyday hung out all the time and i supported her. Now she doesnt say anything to me hardly. Moved in with another man has my daughter there. I barely get to see my daughter. Its like i was never there never was even a person in her life.
Business is never personal , especially when you know it's a per diem or when needed so you are never guaranteed a position however it might sound like a relationship will or will not happen after dealing w/the person 2-3 mos. Also it depends how this person came in to the situation IT ALLLLLL DEPENDS ! And sometimes you have to be mature to look at the situation from all angles , perspective it's up to you how you want this situation to go !
True!! We're on and off but everytime I'm moving on he comeback to me. 1 time he told me that he started talking and dating few girls. Then he came back to me again then he broke up with me after a few weeks he posted on fb that he is in a relationship with other girl. He accused me that I am cheating with him but I never. Then I found out he has new gf. 💔
Well said.
What if you are the one that broke up with them because of a 3rd party interference?
I'm assuming he means when SHE moved on so quickly, because most men don't have that opportunity. But anyway, it depends if they left you and then started seeing someone else, or if they left you FOR someone else.
Because if she left you for another guy, it's over. Plain and simple. The moment she got butterflies for him, all interest and attraction for you vanished. As a bonus, she won't even have to feel the pain of losing you because she'll be too busy getting railed by him.
And it's totally possible for everything to be fine, she's still giving you looks of lust and desire, begging for bedroom fun, planning trips etc., only to do a complete 180 the moment she meets him. It's not always planned in advance.
But why they be texting back after sometimes crying and trying to come back thou?! 😂
My avoidant ex called me to tell me she was seeing someone else. Thats it’s serious. Shes in love. We broke up mid February. Don’t really hurt. The Next morning she calls me to talk. Talked for 3 hours. She turned it sexually and it turned to phone sex. A couple hours later she showed up at my apartment. We hooked up and hung out for hours. She than left and went on a double date with her bf. And eventually told her bf what happened and chose him. This all happened last week. She said she is with him and working on it and doesn’t want to be with me. I’m blocked on everything. No apology. Nothing.
We only got married last October. He left end of March and had a new "love of his life" 3 weeks later. You're telling me a newly wed man was planning to leave?
Even though that your ex moved on and he moved to his new girlfriend in the hell, did he move too quick even though that I want to move on, is he going to find out he still cares
Because the ex lied plastic heart not a human being fake Promised even betrayed to God.
Im the best 😇💓
Okay so he cheated on me we've been together for almost two years he cheated on me... And the girl he cheated on me with tried to jump me along with her friends HE ALOWED IT mind you I didn't do NOTHING after that incident they continued being together. Two months after our breakup he got the girl PREGNANT. They now been together for 5 months
Just let it go and move on story will tell the rest. They’ll never be happy
Yea i gave her the breakup and she is with a new guy spending nights at his house. F this noise, if you love them fight for them, if she still insist on leaving let her go. Easier said than done especially with kids involved i know.
Why do they stay if they are emotionally checked out ?
I was in a relationship for 1 year, we were young (20yrs)and agreed not to have kids .in situation of pregnancy she know what to do. She got pregnant so i thought she knew the deal but she birthed anyway disregarding my opinion. I stepped up anyway for the kid,selfish ? i couldn’t trust her after the fact and as it hurt me . I noticed she didnt have female friends found that weird ,the so called friends she met through her friend zoning the guys ,later on she started going to the gym, loosing weight and then a couple months she broke up with me , its fair coz i was cheating when she was pregnant, never told her she was surprised i took the break up too well. Now i realise i was hurting to 🏃 but the child kept me
She left without ever saying a word, straight to another guy for a resort in Mexico. After 3 years no good bye, nothing just disappeared "poof" gone
He moved on with her woman the same say we broke up but few days he called for to give him a second chance but no just move on
My ex bought new windows and a new bed before he dumped me. But we didn't have any Convo -- he just got angry and blew up at me. He mentioned a breakup on Christmas Day too. Uggghhh
Thanks very helpful!!!!
What about if the person you broke up with is absolutely fine?
I left him but he never stopped me this time. I’ve been gone 8 days he alr has sb in his apartment and bed. I’m so hurt by it
Give them the break up yes yes yes thanks coach…
I did the dumping but Ngl it stings that not even a month has passed and she already had the replacement two weeks before I dumped her .
I love a black girl so much but she is dating right now and claims to be dating me right now and is therefore using me for money right now but is suicidal without my love. What do I do to make her mine permanently?
Bruh same thing happened to me love a black girl so much
See what to do here bruh just give her space a very good space a good one focus on yourself and stop giving her money ok
Can someone tell me if it's possible to still get my ex back after no contact if I logged into her Instagram account, which I know it's an invasion of privacy, but her info was saved on my pc before even the break up and I couldn't resist the temptation and found out that she was talking to another guy, which happens to be a guy a met in Miami , which we live in Pennsylvania and he keeps trying to visit her and she was all into it like "baby when you visiting me" she sent me screenshots to prove that he did not come here, but she was doing this to get over me according to her that it wasn't serious, but to me is her actions that count. I then rejected her and played the reverse card on her and haven't talked to her since it's been about two weeks. I was respectful and will she come back with no contact after all this?
Where can I get incontact for help cause I need it
I'm getting divorced. We haven't even filed and he already has a new person. 3 weeks after we stopped being intimate he told me about a new person. 😢
Oh so this is what happen Smh!!
Hi my ex boyfriend broke up with me his reason was because he can not accept my kid's after 2 years of been together it broke me but I started to see that I was going to be okay so I started chatting to a guy no intentions to it my ex took my phone and found the chat now he says I'm cheating on me am I really cheating I'm confused
That's so true you hit the Nile in the head
Woooooooo thank u so much
Coach wat if you doing no contact with you ex girlfriend at work..
Hi coach. My ex we have been no contact 2/2 month. But suddenly he called my sister. Whats wrong with my ex . He didn't reach out instead reaching me . He talks to my sister. I don't understand what happened to him?
I broke up with my bf and it didn’t take him more than 2 days for him to start texting his ex and act like our over a year relationship was nothing to him 😢
You broke up with him?
Do I stay in no contact with a kid involve?
Took my ex back. Found out she hooked up with her ex after the fact. Broke up again over that info. Flew to Rio for NYE. Sent her a video of the baddie I was with twerking in my Airbnb. Stay toxic.
Shows you are the hurt one
@@ewm4266 absolutely I was hurt - shit sucked
@@ewm4266 naaaaaah. City boys for life
@@californiacombativesclub202 Still butt hurt she moved on
@@ewm4266is he really the hurt one or is it you 😂?
What if your ex plans to move put of state in 30 days
Oh man i wish i could talk to you personally she did it dirty by moving to a another guy so quickly i don't know what to do even if it is worth to wait for her to come back to me don't know man
23 yrs .. down the drain
Same
but he proposed to me a few months before breaking up :(
Coach is a math Genius we need a formula of love .... x × y / z = loveeeee
nah genuinely im hurt me and her broke up 2 days ago and she already talking to someone
What are you going on about? CEO
Thanks 😊
She reached out...
What happened
Dear sir thankyou so much for your support ALLAH bless you and give you better love partner which can satisfy you and lead you to heavens.
Seen that today.
We were never officially a couple but there’s no question that we were planning for me to move 2K miles cross country to build a new life with him.
In December he even sent me the union agreement for a hospital near his house. Then he made a quick trip home for the holidays and suddenly he got quiet.
In January he said that my happiness was more important to him than his own and that his personal life was, “broken in many ways.”
He also mentioned that he knew it was possible to love someone and not act on it. I wish I asked him why anyone would do that but I assume he’s learning that lesson the hard way.
He’s probably telling himself that he’s doing me a favor. Two years ago he said he wasn’t willing to take me away from my family. I know he’s scared that I might abandon him like his ex wife did for her family.
Can you make video:How to get out of the friendzone step by step?
No video needed. Just stop being a friend. Don’t do favors, don’t provide and type of support (financial or emotional), don’t simp over her.
Walk away A slap in the Face
Right! Take your self out of the friendzone and move on! Focus on you and do you! Live life and hopefully along the way you’ll meet someone much better who sees your worth and won’t friendzone you. If the person you’re trying to get out of the friendzone with later starts to notice you and wants to be more than friends, then it’ll be up to YOU to decide if you want to be with them or not. Don’t give them that power by saying they have you in a “friendzone”! You can walk out and away from them at any moment!