9 THINGS "NICE GUYS" DO WRONG (INSTANT ATTRACTION KILLERS)!
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- 9 THINGS "NICE GUYS" DO WRONG (INSTANT ATTRACTION KILLERS)! // Tired of being the "nice guy" no one wants to date? Ready to be the "nice guy" who steals her heart? You are in luck! In this video, you will learn how to stop being the "nice guy" who’s looked over and why "nice guys" don’t finish last WHEN they know the right strategy. If you want to know how to be more confident and how to attract women, you will love what you are about to hear. Ready for these tips to not be the "nice guy" no one wants? Let’s dive in then with 9 Things "Nice Guys" Do Wrong (Instant Attraction Killers)!
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God bless you.
I PROMISE!
7:30 Yeah, women "pursuing" is basically her giving you the opportunity to pursue her.
That's a good way to look at it. God bless! 😀
@@CoachMelannie You say men should be confident, place boundaries and >>take action
You hit the nail on the head with three things "nice guys" typically miss: taking action, having boundaries, and having ambition. I was a nice guy in high school and continue to be a heartthrob since college. Learned the skills by taking action, became more attractive by setting boundaries, and became a heartthrob by having interests and ambition. This was a great video! #niceguy #bloopers 😉
Thank you! God bless 🙏
Dress nice, smell nice and learn to say no and stand your ground ✌️
Say no to who?
If something doesn’t seem right or ask to do something you don’t like. Just be brave and say no. To who ever you want to date. In a nutshell stop becoming a people pleaser. When it comes to a relationship. 👊
@@robertgilmour494 Well I'm not being asked to please other than that one occasion, what film and pizza I want. I'm just trying to arrange a nice day with a nice girl 😅, but I'm not getting yes or nos, just an interest but then not they're not available/interested the day or time I suggest.
Like why can't they just say, no I'm not interested but thanks for asking.
Sorry to hear that! Sounds like they aren’t interested. No date no result. People have habit of leading people on just for attention. Be your self and move on to someone new. No point if your not getting an answer.
I promise! It is so true that "taking the cat 🐈 out the bag" and saying how beautiful she is or pouring out your heart before there is a commitment is a big attraction killer. Great advice.
Eeyore is my favorite Pooh character. Having a negative outlook on life isn't bad by itself, it's what you do with it. I am prepared for the bad and pleasantly surprised when things are good. Being an optimist and getting disappointed when thing go wrong sounds depressing.
I'm 35 and giving up on dating. There's just so many of these things that I've tried with women, some of them take things totally differently,i had a girl who broke up with me because I did NOT express my feeling towards her quickly enough, like one of your points in this video, just as one example. It's really a tough dating world I feel bad for all the guys out there in this race trying so hard and failing.
D😅nt give up. Learn, study, accept. You are here for a purpose. Ying-Yang my dude. It will burn and refine you. It is about you. Shine.
Subconsciously, I believe that after getting to know a lady most men are in, I don't know about this mode. We can get stuck between she's cool to hang out with but..? At least for me that's what used to happen when I was dating. Today I hear stories of how difficult some women can be and I realise that despite being single maybe dating ain't worth the effort and the reward may not be worth it.
Not having the right self-respect cost me 10 years of marriage, now divorce, and a lifetime of alimony payments. This will definitely be helpful for future potential dating / relationships.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that!
@Melannie Say you're in the 'friend zone' with an old love from the past; is it possible to get back to romantic love without being creepy? Someone's got to initiate, and there lies the 'creep risk'. Thanks.
I'm not Christian - although spiritual - but I find Melannie's dating advices very much in line with my own values and styles. Thank you Melannie!
Thanks for your kind words! I'm so happy you like my videos 🙏
Same here
If you keep searching, you’ll find Jesus.
Why aren't you a Christian? I don't want you to end up in hell. I'd reconsider if I was you.
@@andre1987ephJesus does not accept only Christians. Spiritual people reject the dogma of churches
Bloopers! And today's epic bloomer segment... hilarious! 😂 P.S. Awesome, helpful advice - you somehow always deliver it so positively, clearly and kindly ✌
I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
Thats interesting. I figured being forward about interest would be a win. Thats curious
There was something in my eye. Medic! I think that’s funny Coach Melannie.
This video was so incredibly helpful to me, thankyou! I watched it in 2023, so late to the party, but I'd definitely be keen to watch more videos like this one. Thankyou for all of your awesome content 🙏😊
So there’s this girl from my church that I really like and I was looking at her during the service and when it was time for communion her and her family got up and they walked up to get communion and on the way back she went down the isle.I had an isle seat and she walked down my isle instead of the the isle she was supposed to go down.Is she checking me out? She wasn’t even following her family when she did this it was just her walking right by me I was the only boy that was on that isle. Am I reading to much into this? Did I mess up because I did not look at her when she did this? BTW she was also not going to the bathroom when she walked down my isle so It seems like maybe she was trying to get a good look at me.I mean why go to an isle that is far away from your seat just to walk in a half circle?
It's hard to say why she did that for sure. These videos will help you a lot with this! ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-WjotkCVLvYKp30QhuvcKDN.html Let me know if you have questions after watching! God bless 🙏
When I saw my wife who lived 6 miles away i got on the bus went to her town knocked on the wrong door and found her family only to learn she was sleeping at her sister 6 miles in the other direction. I went and found her to be married for 40 years. I called myself a predator pursuing prey. If you like this girl, get up, go and get her. Don't let another man get there first. Write a short letter and give it to her or her mother. That may sound brave but fortune favours the brave. Good luck.
@@evertonbrome2539 This girl goes to my church? How do I talk to her?Or give her a note when the service is over Everyone leaves right away and I can not talk to her before the service. And she is always with her family! What should I do to pass her a note or talk to her?
@@tomedgerton9603 If I were you...I'd pay attention to what the Sermon is about, and say 3 key points. Act like you are getting your jacket or off to the washroom, or say on your way back from washroom, and stop and tell her what you learned from this Sermon. Her parents will find it hard to tell her to "Pick someone else" as you (obviously) were not playing on your Device,... YOU of all the boys were taking notes! She will appreciate that as well. Now, if you go all slouch after she says yes, then you'll run into the "What happened to the (Tyler/Adam,etc) I met 5 months ago"? They all expect consistency.
with great pleasure I watched this extremely instructive and interesting video from which I learned so much.
Thank you 😊🤗☺
I’m so happy it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 😀 Have a great day!
I would use appropriate boundaries first.
Hi, thanks for posting your videos, I was surprised how different they were to so many of the others on UA-cam. Yours stood out to me because of their sincerity and the fact that they aren't about trying to hook up for one night. They 'really' mean something! You've a really good positivity and enthusiasm that makes a viewer feel that things can will change. Many thanks Melanie. great work
I'm a good guy Melannie, I cross on the green, not in between. I also eat apples, stop to let butterflies cross my path, I shoo flies instead of killing them. I act like a confident man, I always look people in their eye when I ask for my change at the grocery store. I get pushed around Melannie, but in my defense I'm not running on those slippery floors at Macy's for no one day sale. Those people can have all of that.
Sounds like you are doing great things! God bless 🙏
I don't know if you'll read this melanie. But I'd really like to hear what you have to say about how to not get caught up in the meetoo movement. A LOT of men aren't making moves because they're afraid of getting meetooed. Also with the huge rise in women empowerment, a lot of men feel it's the womens turn to make the moves. Just sayin. Hope to hear from you.
As a lifetime Christian, a martial arts instructor and Personal trainer. Your super right man it's dicey out there and they have a lot of power on both sides of the coin so to speak. Thank God I don't do dirt because I have had 3 false accusals from women I never even saw outside of work/the gym or wherever we had a forced togetherness. My reputation and being very smart about documenting things for proof of innocence saved me. Pretty sad because this evil world has made it that if you are good and genuine most girls don't believe that you are and if you try "too hard" to prove it you come off needy or weird. The juice doesn't seem worth the squeeze anymore especially when you can lose everything you've worked for in a moment.
I think I’m attractive in my own way.
I think I have drive and ambition.
I’m guilty of not taking action.
I’m enjoying this video.
Blooper! I watch the bloopers.
I believe in mutual pursuit.
I just wanna say this to guys who have no clue about the friend part. What she means to say is that women are damaged and they don't like organic friendships. They don't have time for that. Unless you're around her somehow (class or work or whatever), if she's in public, she doesn't have time to get to know you and even if you get her number. Even if you're extremely charming and attractive, most will not respond and even if they do, they won't continue because they think you want a fwb thing. So they want to know for sure that you are romantically into them so you have to kinda get into your bedroom voice instead of a fanboy voice when you talk to them and try to act like a Chad rather than someone sweet. You have to act a bit like a player for a moment (but keep it clean) to get them to believe that you're not just looking for a fwb relationship. They have been burned too many times in the past by aholes so they don't understand what nice guy means. They think you aren't looking for a relationship if you don't get let them know in some way that you're interested in them as more than a friend.
I’m tired of being the nice guy that no one wants to date Coach Melannie.
I can be a confident man in who I am.
Being a genuinely nice and kind person is fine, but being an assertive man is what makes her attracted to you.
You are the perfect example of a person who is comfortable in her own skin. And yeah, STAR WARS, which like you havent seen in a million years ... A LONG TIME AGO ... Have a great day.
I promise!
Hi. I have a female friend and we've been getting quite close lately. The other day i said i wasn't worth anything. The she said "you dont know that" or something like that. And on valentines day she said(when we where walking alone just to be clear) "Now you have an opportunity" What should I do😭 Oh And i forgot to say that I think im in love with her.
I like to do nice things
Nice guy!
Knowing that as you say 'not to show feelings' to her early in a relationship?
Or getting put in the 'friend zone.' This is something I keep doing without realising it. So to discipline myself not to do this will be hard for me. It is a revelation to learn that what I have been doing all these years is totally wrong! Wow! Women and Men are both on different wavelengths and agenda's! 😅
I promise
Bloopers I really like them makes me feel happy.ty keep up the great work good bless you
Glad you like them! You are very kind! God bless 🙏
Wow, you have just said something that I have told so many of my friends (all my friends are born again and married bar one)
I tell them this is why the church and one has just closed down because it didn't grow and that is waiting for God to do it when scripture clearly says that we are to go out into all the world!
The Greek word for "go out " is the word Ek-bolo means to cast out or throw out.
Jesus used it to describe casting out demons.
We, the church, are commanded to go out with the same force.
Yes, I totally agree with you, coach Melanie. we are to go find her.
There are so many single Christians in the church who have waiting years unnecessarily for their dream guy/gal!
I live and work as a farmer You know there ain't many women who want to live with guys like me. Your discussions are all about very young people.. Get real lady.
I promise Melanie cuz I'm guilty of some of those things my emotions get me before we even start that's what happened with my last girlfriend I said it I said it was starting to have feelings too early but I assumed that she had a son that she wanted to move things kind of progressive but thank you for sending me out I've done that in the past I had got a girl's phone number in Walmart and is going well but I didn't say I had feelings for I was thinking it in my head but I didn't tell her but I was kind of pursuing her fast and she wanted to sell things down and then she I realized she told me she was a lot younger I knew she was in her twenties I thought she was 25 turns out she was 22 I'm 30 going to be 3839 so she wasn't comfortable with that we had some of the same emotional issues to but we bonded over when we first met but now I realize that I must have done something wrong thank you Melanie
CoachMelannie....I promise to never say I love you till we've actually been on several dates to get to know each other. I'm sorry if I took things tooe far for you.... !
O I apologize for going too fast forgive me and I'll try my best to do better next time..,. As I got a little carried away sorry!
I promise, i will keep these tips in mind .. thank you! :)
I’m so happy to hear that!👍
im a little confused is she saying that you cant tell her u have feelings for her to go on a date, i always thought thats where dating starts. im not looking for anything serious, but i was just gonna say that i liked her so we could go on a date. or is that sort of thing supposed to be kept a secret and just meant as a hangout until your ready to show your feelings
Nice guys being nice are labeled losers, and losers are labeled hot. Go figure. Forget women.
Fellas, don't be afraid of the "friend zone." It's not necessarily a life sentence.
Applause!!!
Yeah it iz bruh don't lie
@@deshawngivens5883 it is if you are being manipulative to your lady friend. You aren’t being nice if you do things for others. But, expect something in return
That’s because you showed interest. You do not want to be their friend because They probably have five guys just like you that they have a holding pattern and you deserve better than that.
Nice is needy and they sense that. Nice guys finish last. Do not be nice be kind and be firm and tell them that you want to be just friends with them that will spin them to the moon and they’ll want you like no tomorrow
This coach corey wayne mentions pursuing only 20% of the time MAX. Guess thats not right
Damn ! 70 years old attracted to a 66 year old that looks 45. And, you just struck a major chord. It's been said that old dogs don't learn new tricks... Well, I'm a rabbit owner and (unlike dogs) old bunnies do learn new tricks....okay, cue the TRIX commercials. 😅 Thank you for this.
I'm 65 this year, and to me Melanie's teaching feels like a real revelation I feel like I am just 'waking up!'
I could have benefitted from this advice decades ago!
As for the 3rd thing. I had a mentor tell me once that waiting on God is an active thing.
So two people who put God first, how should a woman behave in that scenario?
Don’t sound like women need to do anything. Damn those ladies!!!
You should do instant attraction Killers for women on the nine things that women do wrong. Or at least nice women do wrong. I can guess the very first one on that list lol
Ok💥👊🏆🌹!!! NEGATIVE😠👔💥......GOTZ' POINT!!!!! OK!!!!
Outer appearances are only skin deep. Who is the heart of the man?
yeah ! to be a successful guy , you must have a positive attitude. Focused and to be confident in order to be competent. as coach Melannie advised. WOW!!
Love those bloopers. So, holding their pet hostage is ok? 😁
Don't stop believing!
-Journey
Have any of your clients been guys with autism?
Great work, ‘love-coach’!!!!
This is like a damn math college course lol
I'm so sorry it feels that way! I promise it really isn't! God bless! 😀
@@CoachMelannie thanks
THANK YOU FOR YOUR WISDOM , MELANNIE, MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU
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Nice guy, and also pursuing her
I promise.
(Because I'm a nice guy.)
I tell a woman upfront on a first date or just talking...is that most 'American women find me boring and uneventful because I'm not an Alcoholic, Drug Addict, and I Don't Beat up on Women'. I also tell them that I don't Compete with other men. So, if they find someone that they like or that they are attracted to, 'I tell them, well have a good time' and I'll see you later. End of story. I don't stick around. However, I find European Women much more mature than American women. American women live in a fantasy world...they watch too much television and think that real life is like what they see on T.V. or movies. They think that a relationship is about 'THINGS'...such as diamonds, fancy cars, fancy clothes, etc. So sad.
Same I basically have given up on women
Haven’t watched for a while but I’m happy you’re going into detail on things now and you make some really good points.
Thanks for watching. 🙏
Are you married/in a relationship?
good advice thanks, nice guys,
Nice Guy....Freak out...silly u
This is straight forward and I appreciate your insight. This is something as a Christian man and been out of dateing game for a very long time. And am empowered by your approach. Thanks
I promise nice guys thanks
Todays mindset has changed...women seem defensive and far too closed off. Sorry but I disagree with the nice guy thing too. Guys who are thugs and borderline criminal seem to walk around with women that hang on them...i assure you this type of guy did not have to do much to get this attention while a nice guy will continue to search.
The nice guy always finishes last. This video isnt in line with the reality that bad boys attract female partners faster and easier
It sounds like there have been a lot of toxic women in your life. Here are some videos that will help you identify that they are toxic sooner so you can avoid them ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Remember that toxic women use good guys while classy women love and respect good guys. The key is to know how to attract the classy women instead.
What do i do or say to not be in the friend zone?
Oh well, afraid it's hopeless
Nice Guy! Still praying for the one God had for me.
I try not to have a negative attitude.
Nice guys, More, More, More.
I promise, nice guys!
I am definitely a nice guy
I promise
I promise and nice guy
This is a great video. I’ve had the tendency to get serious too quickly. Knowing that about myself and hearing you emphasize it will help me tone down my approach to keep the woman I’m dating feeling safe.
Blooper girl! So flirty!!
I promise.. Nice guys
I promise! Nice guy
I promise, nice guy
Im interested in what you said about don't express feelings too early. I'm in a complicated situation with a friend of mine who I have a crush on. I've known her for a year and liked her for a long time but I was married. She was my wife's best friend but my wife died at the end of last year. So now I'm ready to considering I should pursue my friend. I have hinted by text with flirting and with compliments. But not sure what to do next. Don't want to freak her out.
Women have too much drama
I promise….
I'm the definition of a nice guy! Almost everything that you said I have done with the girl who's my dream girl of over a year. I do date I just can't seem to get her and she definitely knows how I feel about her!!! She's a special case! LOL
I love those bloopers at the end!
Let me know if you have any questions! Thanks for watching! 🙏
*bloop* *bloop* *bloop* blooper!
I like your channel alot :P i bet you know why XD it helps me alot to understand this crazy aliens called woman :D And I laugh my @ss off here XD :P Thanks peace one love !!!!
You're a treasure, Coach Melannie!
Thank you, that’s so kind of you to say!🙏
I promise Melannie
Bloopety Betty boop
Hello, you mention pursuing a lot. How does that work?
Great question! These videos will help! ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-UMVqc5Y0QDhYxWRW-2yKT8.html
Get a good studio apartment first, study yourself to find out what is the philosophy that drives your life, start doing something for your life that you love too much and fight to make it happen for real, save some good money as a leeway in case you fail, always look after your mother, wear some good men fragrances that defines both the personality of who you are and the one that you are going to be. Then, you will be surprised that you are not just a nice guy but actually a bad boy.
I promise
Blooper reels are awesome fun.
Did you know, Jacky Chan was the one to introduce outtakes at the end of films..?