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Not really. Just get your self a passion or a dream/goal and fully commit to it. That’s probably going to give you all 4 of those things without you even noticing.
1) Look People in the Eyes 2) Listen to People 3) You Smile 4) You ask Questions 5) Dress Right 6) You take Care of Yourself and Your Possesions 7) HEALTH is Attractive 8)
Yea they save the friend zoned guys for after they’re done experimenting. So basically you’re right where you want to be for long term relationships. Not for scoring quickly. Different animals.
Tbh i don’t mind the friend zone and it’s not as bad as most people claim. To me the friend zone is like a sanctuary as it buys me extra time to better myself. See use the fz as personal time to get better. That’s what I use it for. I don’t use it to be miserable and incel like cuz that’s not my character. I use it to get better and make myself even more attractive. I mean I am attractive but I always strive for more. Also Melanie, might I add sign of attraction #18: always raise the bar for yourself. If you don’t raise the bar or challenge urself, ur never gona improve. It’s like that hamster on the wheel not going anywhere which fits with ur direction step. And also girls like it when the guy has purpose and direction. Cuz they wanna have the support and security as well.
As a person who has severe autism I had to learn my whole life how to behave in a social environement, how my actions are received and how people react because none of these comes natural to me. Even if it is not to have a relationship, watching your videos helps me a lot to understand other people, their reactions, but also to understand myself and my self image. Thank You!!
I was never diagnosed, however I do believe I have asperger's. I spent so much energy and time as a younger person learning what to do and when. Now, many years later, I am consistently praised for my understanding and "way". I always say "it's more than half intentional" in a humble manner.
haha, me too. I have no idea what is going on socially, and like other ASDs, I choose "earnestness" and "just be yourself" advice, which is not effective. Sure, people may "like" you, but you provide no "social titillations" that attract people beyond a "hello."
+1 undiagnosed here. I know what it is... Keeping artificial eye-contact, keeping some appropriate kind of 'smile', following a conversation which is spoken (and not written)... With all the respect to the lady who did the video - it's the Neurotypical version. We'd benefit more from an 'Autistic' one.
@@Impericalevidence "I was never diagnosed, however I do believe I have asperger's. I spent so much energy and time as a younger person learning what to do and when." I had exactly this experience, so extremely grateful I saw it through at some point, with the help of very dear friends, and even ex-girlfriends (one of whom is now diagnosed with autism herself and we uncerstand each other so well on hindsight ♥).
My best friend was the shortest guy in our school. Somehow he got with the hottest girls.. freshman princess, sophomore princess, junior... etc. He married a really hot woman from a rich family. I don't know how he did it though. He was kind of crazy and talked a lot.
@@xFlared You do have to talk dude, but open with anything that can be short, concise and leaves popential for your targets input to get a convo started.
Good for you! Allow yourself to be proud of that. However, I realize how frustrating it is to have so much to offer and still be alone. I help men just like you every day. As important as attraction is, it's not the whole picture. It's simply one piece. If you don't have a girlfriend it's because you are missing the other pieces. If you have any other questions about this feel free to email me (melannie@coachmelannie.com) or DM me on Instagram or Facebook!
@@teemoleague907 not always. Women are hypergamous by nature. She may leave because she no longer sees you as alpha. It can be money related, but also it might be because you lack ambition, and you got fat and lazy.
I am now traumatized after having a 2 year relationship with an extreme female super Narcissist. It scared all desire to date or even try again for the last few years. Trauma avoidance still I think.
I understand and I am so very sorry! These videos will help you so much! ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Let me know if you have questions! God bless! 😀
I feel that, i have avoidance trauma me too, 6 years with a narcisist girl 😒 but i have study psychology and sociology and philosophy and now im very good better than before
I found that I had success when I was either working out, running, or just being active. I felt like it improved my mind where it gave me the confidence to not overdo it. In fact, I met my wife when I was running.
Melannie, thank you for your videos! You have helped me in getting a girlfriend-- someone I've known from undergrad, and even dated before--and she has even started talking with me about 5, 10, even 20 years down the road! Thank you again for all you do!
This woman is beautiful inside and outside. Imagine if all women had her mindset, the world would be absolutely amazing. I just found her channel and subscribed. So grateful.
I don’t usually comment on UA-cam/social media but I just want to tell you all watching to always love/believe in yourself. You do not need anyone in your life to validate and/or complete you! Stay gold kings!
Hooray for chivalry. Bring on the flowers, bring on the romance, bring on the eye gazing, this could be a long list lol Kindness makes sense. Brings to mind a saying. 'Always try to be nice, but never fail to be kind'. Nice that physical appearance wasn't really on the list, it should be heart that wins someone over.
The growth mindset was an interesting one that I've never heard of before?! I've got a dating coach so I'm planning to go over that one. Thanks for your assistance! You're so kind and beautiful 😘❤ plus I think also "wanting to learn new things." That should be on the list.
A dating coach? Seriously? Do you think people starting relationships in previous generations had to use dating coaches? Why are we making something natural become so damned complicated?
Thank you for your reminder! Sometimes a video like this is worth watching and SO VALUABLE! Thank you for your time and effort to help men who have been affected by other situations!
It's worth watching so you know what not to do. These women who answered the survey questions are speaking from the perspective of the bad boy who did them wrong. Not the 80 percent of men they don't even notice. They want Chad and Tyrone to be more nice not the guy she friendzoned who was already nice. Don't listen to fish on how to catch fish. Listen to the fisherman.
Your list describes my husband of 18 years perfectly! They do exist. #1 on the list - he's a Christian! I wasn't one when we met but shortly after he started taking me to church (dates) I was baptized!
Love your enthusiasm Melannie! Doesn't surprise me kindness is at the top of this list. It shows you care like nothing else can. That's the whole point, right?
What a wonderful world this could be, if parents taught KINDNESS instead of deceiving children with santa, tooth fairy, and Easter bunny, etc. 1 in every 68 children are under the autistic umbrella, most from negative reactions to vaccines, and a lot go undiagnosed until late in life.
The most important thing is to have a relationship with YOURSELF first, before you think you should have a relationship with others. Look at yourself first, be with yourself. It's all about mind, body, spirit. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of a little over a year, watching this video I can see how we both developed some of the unattractive things from this video, and how they split us apart, she’s really speaking facts here boys trust her.
I'm sure sorry about that! Dating can be a numbers game and that does happen. However, sometimes it's because she's toxic.. Here are some videos that will help you if that's the case. ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Please let me know if I can answer any questions for you! 😀 Thanks for watching!
My wife and I have been married for 26 years and we met through a mutual friend. I guess we were kind of meant for each other because when we first started dating we couldn’t stop looking at each other or keep our hands to ourselves. 3 kids later and some things have slowed a bit we are still very happy. I watched this out of curiosity
Great advice! Spot on! Thank you dear! Some of my past (and current) problems were that I attract women with major issues - drama, alcoholics, liars, baggage, etc... I need a better vetting process...lol
Your a beautiful woman with a soothing voice. I never thought I was attractive at all but I guess I am after watching this. Thank you for the priceless advice Coach Melannie. God Bless
@@creativethinker6691 its because dentistry is a scam. Removing teeth fucks up the foundation of the neighboring teeth- so inevitably they start to wobble and eventually fall out. Next stop Gumsville.
Very good advice. The word "Toxic" has become so overused just like the word "dysfunctional". When works become overused that mean people have used them to label just about anything to fit that state. It's non-specific and really doesn't mean or say anything. Please be specific and identify exactly how, when, and why.
This is a great list! So much of the dating advice out there centers around channeling aloofness and "alpha" traits. While there is merit to that line of thinking in the initial attraction stages, it will only work for awhile. Then you better have substance to back it all up, like what is discussed in this video.
What an awesome voice! From your very first words I heard they gave me goosebumps. And being a vocalist myself (as well as a songwriter, musician and body builder) I've heard a lot of voices and yours absolutely incredible. Your boyfriend or husband is pretty lucky to get to hear that voice all the time.
Great video Melanie, From a middle aged perspective, I feel women want to be loved, respected, and taken care of (not necessarily monetarily) however, have our best friend want to enjoy doing things together. We want to compliment eachother with a respectful attitude, we want similar values, we want to put eachother first (after God, that is.) It's not as easy to find a good partner as you age because many of the good ones are already committed. Most importantly, we want to share a deep love, joy, trust, and commitment with a soul mate, therefore, grow old together as one. Many of us are in a bad relationship's but are afraid to move on, it becomes very difficult to transition the older we get because we develop disabilities, or medical issues, etc...not to mention it's hard for most people to afford to live on just one income. In my opinion, the ideal relationship is based on true love, (not based on sex), but desiring your best friend by your side, it's about sharing a similar faith, political views, laughter, responsibility, and family values....it's about putting eachother first, after God. What do you think?
@Babyface Nelson that would be nice but it's virtually impossible to find a man who wants anything other than one thing - it bothers me that it's their priority.
@Babyface Nelson That term is ridiculous and over used. You're putting women on a pedestal like , pick me, pick me. eff the ones who are quick to judge.
Loved the video. I have the woman of my dreams but could not understand what she saw in me until I watched your video. Now I know. The 17 things you mention I have always held close to my heart. I also strive to protect and support her when she has problems (rarely). Thank you for reinforcing my beliefs ❤️
Enjoyed the video. Happily married, myself. The kindness one is interesting. Before I finally found my wife, one thing that a lot of women found attractive was seeing me in violent situations. That I was capable of defending things but I was never mean about it. And women worth being with recognize that distinction. So much is spot on... learning how to dress nicely, keeping a clean car and clean sink. Laundry folded. It doesn't have to be perfect. Just look like one cares. An interesting one that didn't go anywhere but still led to a date, a lady I knew saw me changing a diaper of a friend's child I was watching. But that has to be natural. It's part of kindness. I can't count how many times I have called my wife and said: Hey. I am going to be late. It's pouring down rain and there is someone walking. Let me see if they need a ride. And my wife adores me for it. (Side comment: I am careful about giving rides to strangers and evaluate each situation carefully. ) The eye contact one is.a tricky thing. Abused people don't like eye contact. Good video.
Melannie, your 17 signs are absolutely spot on!! I am that person after the Dentist sorted my teeth, now with that extra confidence and good smile, I have so many ladies wanting my attention everywhere I go, even passing in the check out at the supermarket, I get that extra smile and gleam from her eyes and some nice personable comments. You are right, my age (65) does not bother the lovely ladies I meet (18-45), that is not what they care about. I love your videos, they have confirmed my life long philosophy that the great virtues of being a gentleman/chivalrous/kind/generous/happy/fun /creative/expansive/healthy/well groomed and confident are what all men should strive for. Thanks for being beautiful as well :)
Also I love how well all this useful information is presented. I definitely fall into the "clueless guy" category. It's nice to understand what women are actually looking for/interested in rather than just what society and media tell us. Keep up the good work!
Thank you for your sincere advice ma'am Melanie...I was happy to see that I naturally do some of the things on your list. I used to be an emotional fool who didn't what girl loved him and what girl didn't. But with nuggets like yours I am a more knowledgeable man and I still believe in christian dating,godly relationship and marriage. Thank you for helping us navigate through these murky waters. Thank you for bringing so much value to the table.
Great video thank you, It's really nice to know that there are some people out here still trying to preach kindness and niceness as a way of not just being a better person but as a way to succeed. Thank you bunches 😁.
@@dallasstiles118 Not gonna lie I clicked on because of that reason! Her look is so my type! But she's cool though 😊 I hope she's not married I don't wanna be gawking over someone's wife
So nice to hear from a Christian Dating Coach. First time of watching and listening to your video. You have a gift of communicating and teaching that makes people want to get out and be who they are make a difference in their lives and other people. Looking forward in watching more of your videos. What I have noticed is that women are always smiling at me and I smile back but am hesitant to communicate more because I know that they are not Christian and will not have anything in common. Do not want to get involved and have her liking me and then hurt her feelings.
I do love the fact that dating takes challenge coz I do love problem solving. And I am a geek/ weird type. But presenting yourself as a who you are is what makes you naturally attractive.
Melanie your sincere advice and lovely delivery puts hope and encouragement right before me. Your fore-thought and Christian advice is willingly received so be sure I shall put into my day by day life plan. Thank you so much Melanie. Henry
This surely is without color meaning that love is blind and love is what we all need. Great list. To be current, all lives matter and , blindly + deftly, goes without saying.
It's not important physical attraction, but if you are 1oo% attractive, emotionally, physically, and socially, and spiritually you are the whole enchilada.
As a follower of Jesus, I love seeing the confirmation from you. And my wife is as crazy about me as I am about her. She's a blessing. Keep up the good work, Melannie.
Idk where I was but I literally got Galway through this video and realized this was aimed towards men 🤣🤣 I’m over here checking things off the list and then I’m like wait a minute 🥸 😂
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Melanie, thank you - so grateful I found you for the first time just now, and beyond grateful for your warm, comforting, upbeat advice. You gently reminded me of things to be proud of and things I can work on. So helpful to be reminded, especially in these strange if not scary times to be dating. Thank you so much for a much-needed shot of encouragement and confidence. You're amazing, keep up your awesome work!
@@CoachMelannie there could be a million reasons why someone does not want to smile or think somthing is funny.....you are a shallow boring character not to mention the fact that you claim to have better channels on this subject makes you also arrogant. 👎
I’ve recently started watching “Gunsmoke” from the 1950’s. I feel like Marshall Dillon basically embodies all these good, attractive qualities. It’s been very enlightening.
I have like 15 out of these 17 traits, yet I feel totally unattractive. I just got out of a 2 year relashionship and my self esteem is at an all time low. It was a very toxic relashionship, but I haven't really felt attractive pretty much my whole life. This video is very validating yet also mind boggling for me. How can I have all these traits, yet have so low self esteem and feel so unattractive?
I'm sorry to hear that! What you are experiencing is actually very normal. It's so good that you have these attractive traits! Now what you need are solid dating and relationship skills. This is what makes you repel toxic relationships, gain real confidence and get the girl of your dreams. Feel free to email me if I can help! melannie@coachmelannie.com
That's why I became a coach. I want good guys to be able to have happy, healthy relationships. Please let me know if I can answer any questions. instagram.com/coachmelannie/ facebook.com/coachmelannie/ melannie@coachmelannie.com
Hi Coach Melannie!! The sign number 8, Take care of yourself and your belogings; it was kind of surprising. I never thought a girl observes the stuff I use to see if they are mistreated or dirty or have missing parts. And smile is one of this traits I usually forget to do.
That is why you have failed. Women don't want respect from a man. They only want what they can't totally have. Game is the only way to them. They don't want an equal. They only desire a man that is better than them. Reality vs Hollywood man
Wow, Melannie. I’ve got it all. 😅 Now I have to work on my humility. 😂 No, seriously, thanks for this. You’ve given me a lot of confidence going forward.
Sadly, that does happen. Here are some videos I've done on this topic if you are interested. ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Take care!
Great video, I don't think you left anything out. Being a good person has a ton of layers to it. About the physical attraction part, I do think it's an extremely important ingredient. Women all have their specific preferences but many like you say value health and appearance just as much as men do to women. Looks and physical stature get your foot in the door. But that's exactly the point. Many doors will remain closed if a woman is simply not attracted to you physically. Some men can talk their way into furthering attraction with good game and confidence, but if he doesn't meet her prototypical default, then not a ton can come from it after (at least long term)Men at the core value looks and fertility with women for reproduction and women want strong physical genes from the male. I will say all of the things you listed in this video are definitely key, but that can only happen after the physical standards have been met. On the flip side with men, if there's an extremely attractive woman physically but she has no other qualities, then a fling is all that can happen from it. Intelligence, being articulate and open minded are my first 3 traits after I check the foot-in-the door box of physical attraction. Again, GREAT VIDEO and terrific insight. Best~
Thank you Melannie, I took notes and it will be helpful with me to develop the self confidence and improve myself toward finding that girl of my dreams. So far, I've liked all your videos and just keep doing what you are doing. 😊
I am so glad I found your series - thank you for sharing your expertise with us! I'm a widower who has recently re-entered the dating world, and had a backlog of things to learn, so much of this has been part of my recent experience. Also: I'm impressed by your delivery. Your facial mannerisms, and /especially/ your voice modulation, is very effective. It also helps a lot that you're cuter than a box of puppies. ;)
It has always puzzled me how total strangers will tell me their life's trial's and tribulations upon just meeting me. That seems easy to make conversation. But so much harder when trying to attract a ladies attention.
Been there so many times throughout my life, a few times literally an hour or two after meeting. I’m always happy to help, but far less do I get support in return. The few that do help in return are those I’m closest to, friend or spouse.
I have people tell me some crap I do not want to know. Had client tell me he wants bump his wife off. People open up like crazy to me. Like they new me for 40 years. Aquarius.
2:58, 1) Look people in the eyeball 👁️. 3:44, 2) Listening… intently. 4:25, 3) Smile for goodness sake! 5:16, 4) Ask questions, be interested. Aka: Active Listening 5:40, 5) Knock, knock, ya boring! Practice in the mirror. 7:23, 5.2) Laughing together brings us together. 8:11, 7) Upgrade those threads. 9:13, 8) Shower, groom, and pick up your place. 9:48, 9) Make good health decisions. 10:40, 10) Why so judgy bro? 11:12, 11) Be positively, POSITIVE! 11:55, 12) Confidence really is key. 12:45, 13) Make chivalry great again. 13:32, 14) You got $5 I can have? 13:57, 15) How do you want to grow as a person? 15:10, 16) Got to get to the next level mindset. 15:54, 17) How do you treat the waiter when they make a mistake? 17:30, Bonus) It’s ok to want to get physical with them… after the wedding.
Yes! Melannie a very awesome and informative video. Thank you for the inspiring video. I had a very bad day today. Your video it really uplift my spirit. Your bloopers were uplifting to me. Once again thank you for the amazing and awesome video. Keep up with the awesome work. God bless you,family, and friends. Have an awesome night. Stay well and safe.
Physical attraction IS important. I’ve experienced women who openly weren’t interested due to looks whilst other women who think I’m hot wanted me. It IS important and always be your best.
Kindness and being generous is very very important. Example , how u are interacting with a waiter at a restaurant 🤗 thanks for the video ! U have a lovely smile and great vibes . All the best
L9sing job 3 years ago car accident losing Dad getting COVID added up to me feeling lousy. I still Pray. You brought qualities I'd forgotten. Thank you!
Some people want to stay single but they like the attention. Or they wait until the girl finds them. There’s a saying you don’t find love, love finds you. But could take a while. I’m always on the fence.
The way I like to look at is why take the chance that love won't find you? Many people wait their entire lives only to be alone. Others get a game plan and make it happen. In my mind there's a LOT more hope and happiness in a game plan 💪
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@Steve A sounds like u left it way too long so she's making u pay by appearing uninterested plus maybe she's genuinely moved on from when she liked u
You are freaking adorable.... What hair!!! Just beautiful... I think your correct on all your points.
It's tough being a guy. We have to do so many things all at once. Wisdom, discipline, respect and authority.
Or you could be yourself.
and then we also need to look like Thor or Cpt Amerca
it is not, Just buy adventure bike and live your life.
Not really. Just get your self a passion or a dream/goal and fully commit to it. That’s probably going to give you all 4 of those things without you even noticing.
@@charli4815 Not only LOOK like them, but ACT like them 💯
1) Look People in the Eyes
2) Listen to People
3) You Smile
4) You ask Questions
5) Dress Right
6) You take Care of Yourself and Your Possesions
7) HEALTH is Attractive
8)
Yeah I stopped @ nuber 8 too, she's so boring
Only made it halfway through the video?
@@Makta972damn 😢
Talking to ppl in real life is way better .
But I'm sure you don't do that so that's why you here lol😂@@Makta972
I feel like this is the perfect map to getting friend zoned.
Here are some videos about that. ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-XdKzj6IIcUEdcSb4HimAAe.html God bless!
Yeah you're not wrong...😆😂🤣
Yea they save the friend zoned guys for after they’re done experimenting. So basically you’re right where you want to be for long term relationships. Not for scoring quickly. Different animals.
Tbh i don’t mind the friend zone and it’s not as bad as most people claim. To me the friend zone is like a sanctuary as it buys me extra time to better myself. See use the fz as personal time to get better. That’s what I use it for. I don’t use it to be miserable and incel like cuz that’s not my character. I use it to get better and make myself even more attractive.
I mean I am attractive but I always strive for more. Also Melanie, might I add sign of attraction #18: always raise the bar for yourself. If you don’t raise the bar or challenge urself, ur never gona improve. It’s like that hamster on the wheel not going anywhere which fits with ur direction step. And also girls like it when the guy has purpose and direction. Cuz they wanna have the support and security as well.
I didnt hear her mention money... I mean come on, these things might get someone to talk with you but its money and status that keeps a woman.
I already know I am attractive, It's my drool that makes me irresistible.
Let's givk
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Did anyone ever tell you you're a dog!
@@waynet8953 😂
As a person who has severe autism I had to learn my whole life how to behave in a social environement, how my actions are received and how people react because none of these comes natural to me. Even if it is not to have a relationship, watching your videos helps me a lot to understand other people, their reactions, but also to understand myself and my self image.
Thank You!!
I was never diagnosed, however I do believe I have asperger's. I spent so much energy and time as a younger person learning what to do and when.
Now, many years later, I am consistently praised for my understanding and "way".
I always say "it's more than half intentional" in a humble manner.
haha, me too. I have no idea what is going on socially, and like other ASDs, I choose "earnestness" and "just be yourself" advice, which is not effective. Sure, people may "like" you, but you provide no "social titillations" that attract people beyond a "hello."
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+1 undiagnosed here. I know what it is... Keeping artificial eye-contact, keeping some appropriate kind of 'smile', following a conversation which is spoken (and not written)... With all the respect to the lady who did the video - it's the Neurotypical version. We'd benefit more from an 'Autistic' one.
@@Impericalevidence "I was never diagnosed, however I do believe I have asperger's. I spent so much energy and time as a younger person learning what to do and when."
I had exactly this experience, so extremely grateful I saw it through at some point, with the help of very dear friends, and even ex-girlfriends (one of whom is now diagnosed with autism herself and we uncerstand each other so well on hindsight ♥).
I’m a 5’1 dude so any attractive traits I may have immediately goes into the garbage disposal 😂
I'm a 5'10 and 3 quarters dude. I feel you brother. Women only like men 6 foot or taller
@@supaflywhiteguy7635 5”1 and 5”11 are nowhere near bruh
@@supaflywhiteguy7635 that’s not true. my short friend got a gf before I did, and my cousin’s wife is taller than him.
My best friend was the shortest guy in our school. Somehow he got with the hottest girls.. freshman princess, sophomore princess, junior... etc. He married a really hot woman from a rich family. I don't know how he did it though. He was kind of crazy and talked a lot.
@@hatbpto5180 not all men are created equal sadly
I'm the best listener. The only issue is that no woman ever talks to me.
Hahahaha man 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.... She's full of it... She knows you gat to be mean to get em chicks. Fc nice
@@chumadoshi6987 Rule #1: Don't ask a fish on how to catch other fish.
Well maybe you gotta start talking to women. If your as good as a listener as you say then work on you and what you present
@@xFlared
You do have to talk dude, but open with anything that can be short, concise and leaves popential for your targets input to get a convo started.
Lol
Ok, according to your list I'm the perfect man and here I am, single, I don't get it 🤷🏻♂️
Good for you! Allow yourself to be proud of that. However, I realize how frustrating it is to have so much to offer and still be alone. I help men just like you every day. As important as attraction is, it's not the whole picture. It's simply one piece. If you don't have a girlfriend it's because you are missing the other pieces. If you have any other questions about this feel free to email me (melannie@coachmelannie.com) or DM me on Instagram or Facebook!
Dont be a simp and stand around brother get to work!!!
Women like looks or money or your house. That's why they branch to other men.
@@teemoleague907 not always. Women are hypergamous by nature. She may leave because she no longer sees you as alpha. It can be money related, but also it might be because you lack ambition, and you got fat and lazy.
If u stack that 💰 they will come👌🏾
“A fish can’t tell a fisherman how to catch fish!”
No, but Jesus can.
Sometimes fish bite sometimes they don’t, key is keep fishing .
I am now traumatized after having a 2 year relationship with an extreme female super Narcissist. It scared all desire to date or even try again for the last few years. Trauma avoidance still I think.
I understand and I am so very sorry! These videos will help you so much! ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Let me know if you have questions! God bless! 😀
I know the feeling
I feel that, i have avoidance trauma me too, 6 years with a narcisist girl 😒 but i have study psychology and sociology and philosophy and now im very good better than before
Well narcissist won’t be with you if you’re not attractive. They do everything to gain….
I found that I had success when I was either working out, running, or just being active. I felt like it improved my mind where it gave me the confidence to not overdo it. In fact, I met my wife when I was running.
Don't project you're trying to get with girls... demonstrate your happy with being yourself regardless
Melannie, thank you for your videos! You have helped me in getting a girlfriend-- someone I've known from undergrad, and even dated before--and she has even started talking with me about 5, 10, even 20 years down the road! Thank you again for all you do!
Women are quick to say what they want but never what they are willing to give.Relationships and partnerships are 50/50.
For those who want to skip her long intro it starts at 2:58
This woman is beautiful inside and outside. Imagine if all women had her mindset, the world would be absolutely amazing. I just found her channel and subscribed. So grateful.
Thank you for being so kind. I'm happy you are here! Have a great day 😀
@@CoachMelannie WOW! Thanks! 😊
She isn't real man
@@rob7296 🤔🤔🤔
Guys love redheads
I don’t usually comment on UA-cam/social media but I just want to tell you all watching to always love/believe in yourself. You do not need anyone in your life to validate and/or complete you! Stay gold kings!
Hooray for chivalry. Bring on the flowers, bring on the romance, bring on the eye gazing, this could be a long list lol
Kindness makes sense. Brings to mind a saying. 'Always try to be nice, but never fail to be kind'.
Nice that physical appearance wasn't really on the list, it should be heart that wins someone over.
I believe this stuff is important after having a job, having a vehicle and your own place, plus showering daily helps, maybe having a sense of style 😉
No, it's that eye in the middle of your forehead.
Hierarchy of needs 😁
Melanie talks about that stuff actually
Too sophisticated.
My blow up doll doesn't care that i don't shower...
The growth mindset was an interesting one that I've never heard of before?! I've got a dating coach so I'm planning to go over that one. Thanks for your assistance! You're so kind and beautiful 😘❤ plus I think also "wanting to learn new things." That should be on the list.
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A dating coach? Seriously? Do you think people starting relationships in previous generations had to use dating coaches? Why are we making something natural become so damned complicated?
Thank you for your reminder! Sometimes a video like this is worth watching and SO VALUABLE! Thank you for your time and effort to help men who have been affected by other situations!
It's worth watching so you know what not to do. These women who answered the survey questions are speaking from the perspective of the bad boy who did them wrong. Not the 80 percent of men they don't even notice. They want Chad and Tyrone to be more nice not the guy she friendzoned who was already nice. Don't listen to fish on how to catch fish. Listen to the fisherman.
Never ever listen to a woman about dating advice. never. ever. to any woman, ever. consider this your one and only warning, for your own good
Your list describes my husband of 18 years perfectly! They do exist. #1 on the list - he's a Christian! I wasn't one when we met but shortly after he started taking me to church (dates) I was baptized!
Love your enthusiasm Melannie! Doesn't surprise me kindness is at the top of this list. It shows you care like nothing else can. That's the whole point, right?
So true! Thanks for watching! 😀
What a wonderful world this could be, if parents taught KINDNESS instead of deceiving children with santa, tooth fairy, and Easter bunny, etc.
1 in every 68 children are under the autistic umbrella, most from negative reactions to vaccines, and a lot go undiagnosed until late in life.
@@CoachMelannie thanks for your video, KINDNESS really is the answer!
"Kindness knows no shame." - Stevie Wonder
The most important thing is to have a relationship with YOURSELF first, before you think you should have a relationship with others. Look at yourself first, be with yourself. It's all about mind, body, spirit. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
Please make a video regarding signs she might be getting ready to file an order of protection against you
Anyone can do it whenever, so just live a life of paranoia or get one on them first
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For me it's never been about needing to attract anyone...it's about how to know she is worth it.
I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of a little over a year, watching this video I can see how we both developed some of the unattractive things from this video, and how they split us apart, she’s really speaking facts here boys trust her.
She is right!!!!! I've done all 17 things and they all have worked for me and I got the girl I wanted. The problem was that she wasn't the right one 😕
I'm sure sorry about that! Dating can be a numbers game and that does happen. However, sometimes it's because she's toxic.. Here are some videos that will help you if that's the case. ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Please let me know if I can answer any questions for you! 😀 Thanks for watching!
My wife and I have been married for 26 years and we met through a mutual friend. I guess we were kind of meant for each other because when we first started dating we couldn’t stop looking at each other or keep our hands to ourselves. 3 kids later and some things have slowed a bit we are still very happy. I watched this out of curiosity
Great advice! Spot on! Thank you dear! Some of my past (and current) problems were that I attract women with major issues - drama, alcoholics, liars, baggage, etc... I need a better vetting process...lol
Your a beautiful woman with a soothing voice. I never thought I was attractive at all but I guess I am after watching this. Thank you for the priceless advice Coach Melannie. God Bless
I was attractive until genetics and my teeth started falling out
Well quit smoking crack lol
@@Buckeye_4_Life_ 😂
Wow, your genetics fell out? Damn, that's brutal. Are you still the same species? Or are you now, a horse 🤣🤣
Had a lot of dental work done and they still fall out
@@creativethinker6691 its because dentistry is a scam. Removing teeth fucks up the foundation of the neighboring teeth- so inevitably they start to wobble and eventually fall out. Next stop Gumsville.
Very good advice. The word "Toxic" has become so overused just like the word "dysfunctional". When works become overused that mean people have used them to label just about anything to fit that state. It's non-specific and really doesn't mean or say anything. Please be specific and identify exactly how, when, and why.
Step one have a high paying job, step two look like you have a high paying job. Good looks doesn't cut it anymore.
This is a great list! So much of the dating advice out there centers around channeling aloofness and "alpha" traits. While there is merit to that line of thinking in the initial attraction stages, it will only work for awhile. Then you better have substance to back it all up, like what is discussed in this video.
I’m so happy it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 😀
This was written by a 14 year old indian in a click farm
You don’t have to be completely aloof or snobby but you don’t have to be needy either 😬
I was a stud in my 20’s I had a different gal in every town I went. Not so anymore in my 50’s but oh boy was it fun while it lasted.
😍 I can agree with all this! A growth mindset is at the top of my list.
There's probably a lot on your list, lol
Thank you Melannie , So sweet to explain this complex things with the simple terms ...well done friend
Thank you! God bless 🙏
What an awesome voice! From your very first words I heard they gave me goosebumps. And being a vocalist myself (as well as a songwriter, musician and body builder) I've heard a lot of voices and yours absolutely incredible. Your boyfriend or husband is pretty lucky to get to hear that voice all the time.
Great video Melanie, From a middle aged perspective, I feel women want to be loved, respected, and taken care of (not necessarily monetarily) however, have our best friend want to enjoy doing things together. We want to compliment eachother with a respectful attitude, we want similar values, we want to put eachother first (after God, that is.) It's not as easy to find a good partner as you age because many of the good ones are already committed. Most importantly, we want to share a deep love, joy, trust, and commitment with a soul mate, therefore, grow old together as one. Many of us are in a bad relationship's but are afraid to move on, it becomes very difficult to transition the older we get because we develop disabilities, or medical issues, etc...not to mention it's hard for most people to afford to live on just one income. In my opinion, the ideal relationship is based on true love, (not based on sex), but desiring your best friend by your side, it's about sharing a similar faith, political views, laughter, responsibility, and family values....it's about putting eachother first, after God.
What do you think?
That is exactly how I feel as a guy. I don't understand why it is so hard to meet someone. It is getting scary the more time that goes by.
@Babyface Nelson that would be nice but it's virtually impossible to find a man who wants anything other than one thing - it bothers me that it's their priority.
@Babyface Nelson That term is ridiculous and over used.
You're putting women on a pedestal like , pick me, pick me. eff the ones who are quick to judge.
This is so great. Thanks for sharing these down to earth tips. You’re the best, I so wish there were more women like you!
She’s the ultimate hype woman haha 👏🏻
It is fantasy bro.
@@beachbum4166 It's so nice to see some guys that are not simps and believes this long list of crap.
Loved the video. I have the woman of my dreams but could not understand what she saw in me until I watched your video. Now I know. The 17 things you mention I have always held close to my heart. I also strive to protect and support her when she has problems (rarely). Thank you for reinforcing my beliefs ❤️
You are so welcome
Great video. Quite the contrast to all online toxicity 😃
Enjoyed the video. Happily married, myself.
The kindness one is interesting. Before I finally found my wife, one thing that a lot of women found attractive was seeing me in violent situations.
That I was capable of defending things but I was never mean about it.
And women worth being with recognize that distinction.
So much is spot on... learning how to dress nicely, keeping a clean car and clean sink. Laundry folded.
It doesn't have to be perfect. Just look like one cares.
An interesting one that didn't go anywhere but still led to a date, a lady I knew saw me changing a diaper of a friend's child I was watching. But that has to be natural. It's part of kindness.
I can't count how many times I have called my wife and said: Hey. I am going to be late. It's pouring down rain and there is someone walking. Let me see if they need a ride. And my wife adores me for it.
(Side comment: I am careful about giving rides to strangers and evaluate each situation carefully. )
The eye contact one is.a tricky thing. Abused people don't like eye contact.
Good video.
Melannie, your 17 signs are absolutely spot on!! I am that person after the Dentist sorted my teeth, now with that extra confidence and good smile, I have so many ladies wanting my attention everywhere I go, even passing in the check out at the supermarket, I get that extra smile and gleam from her eyes and some nice personable comments. You are right, my age (65) does not bother the lovely ladies I meet (18-45), that is not what they care about. I love your videos, they have confirmed my life long philosophy that the great virtues of being a gentleman/chivalrous/kind/generous/happy/fun /creative/expansive/healthy/well groomed and confident are what all men should strive for. Thanks for being beautiful as well :)
Can you please summarize the points, please?
Thanks for your 17 points. Very clear. I appreciate my friends and the ladies i am associated with more.
There’s a distinct difference between being “Kind” and being a “Nice Guy”
In other words, being genuine and being fake
Also I love how well all this useful information is presented. I definitely fall into the "clueless guy" category. It's nice to understand what women are actually looking for/interested in rather than just what society and media tell us. Keep up the good work!
I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
Thank you for your sincere advice ma'am Melanie...I was happy to see that I naturally do some of the things on your list. I used to be an emotional fool who didn't what girl loved him and what girl didn't. But with nuggets like yours I am a more knowledgeable man and I still believe in christian dating,godly relationship and marriage. Thank you for helping us navigate through these murky waters. Thank you for bringing so much value to the table.
100% on point at 11:21 mins into this. actually on point throughout this video. Lifted my spirits
Great video thank you, It's really nice to know that there are some people out here still trying to preach kindness and niceness as a way of not just being a better person but as a way to succeed. Thank you bunches 😁.
I've been wearing red clothing lately and my crush at work have been given me a lot of compliments.i never thought that red would suit me. Who Knew 😊
I'm so happy about that! Way to go!!👍
Don't believe her. She is only seeking attention.
Red is more attractive to people, there are studies on it. Don't ask me why😁
@@CoachMelannie speaking of people who are very attractive, Melanie, you dress up youtube really well😁
@@dallasstiles118 Not gonna lie I clicked on because of that reason! Her look is so my type! But she's cool though 😊 I hope she's not married I don't wanna be gawking over someone's wife
Longterm relationship of my dreams? Subscribed! ☺️
Thanks for the sub!
So nice to hear from a Christian Dating Coach. First time of watching and listening to your video. You have a gift of communicating and teaching that makes people want to get out and be who they are make a difference in their lives and other people. Looking forward in watching more of your videos. What I have noticed is that women are always smiling at me and I smile back but am hesitant to communicate more because I know that they are not Christian and will not have anything in common. Do not want to get involved and have her liking me and then hurt her feelings.
I do love the fact that dating takes challenge coz I do love problem solving. And I am a geek/ weird type. But presenting yourself as a who you are is what makes you naturally attractive.
Tbh same
yes glad to see your Christian based you won't lie or exaggerate !
No, but she's judgemental and materialistic.
Melanie your sincere advice and lovely delivery puts hope and encouragement right before me. Your fore-thought and Christian advice is willingly received so be sure I shall put into my day by day life plan. Thank you so much Melanie.
Henry
I’m so happy to hear that! Thanks for watching! 😀
This surely is without color meaning that love is blind and love is what we all need. Great list. To be current, all lives matter and , blindly + deftly, goes without saying.
It's not important physical attraction, but if you are 1oo% attractive, emotionally, physically, and socially, and spiritually you are the whole enchilada.
Melanie you are amazing..!!
This gives us all confidence to realize we are doing fine and just need to polish up a bit....
As a follower of Jesus, I love seeing the confirmation from you. And my wife is as crazy about me as I am about her. She's a blessing. Keep up the good work, Melannie.
Thank you! God bless 🙏
What does religion have to do with this post?
@@russellscala5930 calm down Jamal
Well, this is refreshing, a real down to earth sensible woman.Kudos to you !
Idk where I was but I literally got Galway through this video and realized this was aimed towards men 🤣🤣 I’m over here checking things off the list and then I’m like wait a minute 🥸 😂
You might also be looking to make yourself more attractive to women... no judgement. ;)
😂🤣😂🤣 me too!
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Melanie, thank you - so grateful I found you for the first time just now, and beyond grateful for your warm, comforting, upbeat advice. You gently reminded me of things to be proud of and things I can work on. So helpful to be reminded, especially in these strange if not scary times to be dating. Thank you so much for a much-needed shot of encouragement and confidence. You're amazing, keep up your awesome work!
Thank you so much for your kind comment! It makes me so happy to know my videos are helping! God bless! 😀
@@CoachMelannie there could be a million reasons why someone does not want to smile or think somthing is funny.....you are a shallow boring character not to mention the fact that you claim to have better channels on this subject makes you also arrogant. 👎
I’ve recently started watching “Gunsmoke” from the 1950’s. I feel like Marshall Dillon basically embodies all these good, attractive qualities. It’s been very enlightening.
Yes more like this please. I'm divorced and 51 and I hope that God has a" special "next someone for me, in time. God bless you Coach 😉
I have like 15 out of these 17 traits, yet I feel totally unattractive. I just got out of a 2 year relashionship and my self esteem is at an all time low. It was a very toxic relashionship, but I haven't really felt attractive pretty much my whole life.
This video is very validating yet also mind boggling for me. How can I have all these traits, yet have so low self esteem and feel so unattractive?
I'm sorry to hear that! What you are experiencing is actually very normal. It's so good that you have these attractive traits! Now what you need are solid dating and relationship skills. This is what makes you repel toxic relationships, gain real confidence and get the girl of your dreams. Feel free to email me if I can help! melannie@coachmelannie.com
Act enthusiastic and you'll be enthusiastic.....Dale Carnegie.
Get in the gym. Build a monster. It works wonders. It what I did and I feel so much better and way healthier.
I was surprised at none of the 17 points. I need to work on several of them. Thanks for your positive attitude.
Guys, at the end of the day, put yourself out there, and see who likes you back! Be you, and believe in yourself most of all!!!!
Have all 17. Still single. Focusing on enjoying the journey right now.
That's why I became a coach. I want good guys to be able to have happy, healthy relationships. Please let me know if I can answer any questions. instagram.com/coachmelannie/ facebook.com/coachmelannie/ melannie@coachmelannie.com
Hi Coach Melannie!!
The sign number 8, Take care of yourself and your belogings; it was kind of surprising.
I never thought a girl observes the stuff I use to see if they are mistreated or dirty or have missing parts.
And smile is one of this traits I usually forget to do.
Where's the 17 signs in the comment section? Where are you..
Long-winded is very unattractive.
I thought I was thee only one thinking that.
KIndness surprised me You would think that was a given. But i was brought up treating everyone with respect especially women
Kindness does surprise some people. I’m so happy it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 😀
That is why you have failed. Women don't want respect from a man. They only want what they can't totally have. Game is the only way to them. They don't want an equal. They only desire a man that is better than them. Reality vs Hollywood man
Good video! I scored highly but am the proverbial "can't get the girl." I know I could use work on confidence.
I feel like these make it sound simple. But then in practice it seems hard.
There are a lot of contradicting messages from women advise givers on you tube. Just take the co census on topics they agree on. Peace
They are simple they just take some practice. It's just a skill. Don't you think you (and your dream girl) are worth the effort? 😀
This video was fun. I didn't know there was a thing as a Christian Dating Coach.
I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching! 🙏
Don't get confused. Christian girls are exactly the same as all the others. They only pretend for church.
there isn't.
Wow, Melannie. I’ve got it all. 😅 Now I have to work on my humility. 😂 No, seriously, thanks for this. You’ve given me a lot of confidence going forward.
The problem with being generous is when you meet toxic girl, which is only taking, not giving. So be careful with that one :)
Sadly, that does happen. Here are some videos I've done on this topic if you are interested. ua-cam.com/play/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA.html Take care!
Remember, you are generous for yourself and others not her. She just sees it.
give twice, ask once, not getting anything, kick her out
You're very beautiful and you don't need the pop filter since you're speaking away from and not directly into the mic. Love your video.
🤣 what a guy
All of those are true!I"m 67!Too old to worry too much about future relationships!But can relate to all of those!
Number one sign you're attractive: your grandma told you you're one good looking boy.
Great video, I don't think you left anything out. Being a good person has a ton of layers to it. About the physical attraction part, I do think it's an extremely important ingredient. Women all have their specific preferences but many like you say value health and appearance just as much as men do to women. Looks and physical stature get your foot in the door. But that's exactly the point. Many doors will remain closed if a woman is simply not attracted to you physically. Some men can talk their way into furthering attraction with good game and confidence, but if he doesn't meet her prototypical default, then not a ton can come from it after (at least long term)Men at the core value looks and fertility with women for reproduction and women want strong physical genes from the male. I will say all of the things you listed in this video are definitely key, but that can only happen after the physical standards have been met. On the flip side with men, if there's an extremely attractive woman physically but she has no other qualities, then a fling is all that can happen from it. Intelligence, being articulate and open minded are my first 3 traits after I check the foot-in-the door box of physical attraction. Again, GREAT VIDEO and terrific insight. Best~
I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching! 🙏
I love your hair and your adorable blue eyes Melannie!!
Try hard much?
Thank you Melannie, I took notes and it will be helpful with me to develop the self confidence and improve myself toward finding that girl of my dreams. So far, I've liked all your videos and just keep doing what you are doing. 😊
Wonderful! Thanks for your kind words! I'm so happy you like my videos 🙏
Lost my confidence long time ago
Great video! First time I have seen you and I will look at your other videos
I am so glad I found your series - thank you for sharing your expertise with us! I'm a widower who has recently re-entered the dating world, and had a backlog of things to learn, so much of this has been part of my recent experience.
Also: I'm impressed by your delivery. Your facial mannerisms, and /especially/ your voice modulation, is very effective. It also helps a lot that you're cuter than a box of puppies. ;)
Thanks for watching! I'm so glad it was helpful! 🙏
She got it lets put it that way.
@@CoachMelannie that's code for he wants to date you
@@InNateWayz 😂
It has always puzzled me how total strangers will tell me their life's trial's and tribulations upon just meeting me. That seems easy to make conversation. But so much harder when trying to attract a ladies attention.
you a scorpio?
Been there so many times throughout my life, a few times literally an hour or two after meeting. I’m always happy to help, but far less do I get support in return. The few that do help in return are those I’m closest to, friend or spouse.
I have people tell me some crap I do not want to know. Had client tell me he wants bump his wife off. People open up like crazy to me. Like they new me for 40 years. Aquarius.
2:58, 1) Look people in the eyeball 👁️.
3:44, 2) Listening… intently.
4:25, 3) Smile for goodness sake!
5:16, 4) Ask questions, be interested. Aka: Active Listening
5:40, 5) Knock, knock, ya boring! Practice in the mirror.
7:23, 5.2) Laughing together brings us together.
8:11, 7) Upgrade those threads.
9:13, 8) Shower, groom, and pick up your place.
9:48, 9) Make good health decisions.
10:40, 10) Why so judgy bro?
11:12, 11) Be positively, POSITIVE!
11:55, 12) Confidence really is key.
12:45, 13) Make chivalry great again.
13:32, 14) You got $5 I can have?
13:57, 15) How do you want to grow as a person?
15:10, 16) Got to get to the next level mindset.
15:54, 17) How do you treat the waiter when they make a mistake?
17:30, Bonus) It’s ok to want to get physical with them… after the wedding.
Yes! Melannie a very awesome and informative video. Thank you for the inspiring video. I had a very bad day today. Your video it really uplift my spirit. Your bloopers were uplifting to me. Once again thank you for the amazing and awesome video. Keep up with the awesome work. God bless you,family, and friends. Have an awesome night. Stay well and safe.
I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
The unpleasant truth is that just be an Orc but an Orc with money then you are attractive to most of the women. Period.!!
Magnificent, nice voice! Very useful tips.
Physical attraction IS important. I’ve experienced women who openly weren’t interested due to looks whilst other women who think I’m hot wanted me. It IS important and always be your best.
Wow you have completely opened my eyes👀 you ma’m have a new subscriber
Welcome aboard! I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
Pro tip, if you are the exact opposite of all the things she just laid out, a lot of women will find you extremely attractive, and I have no idea why.
Kindness and being generous is very very important. Example , how u are interacting with a waiter at a restaurant 🤗 thanks for the video ! U have a lovely smile and great vibes . All the best
Thank you! And thanks for watching 😀
You are a breath of fresh air. You have a pleasant voice and content and I'm instantly comfortable listening to you.
I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
@Hardy Harhar I'm terribly sorry Mr. Harhar. I was just offering support. She's all yours.
L9sing job 3 years ago car accident losing Dad getting COVID added up to me feeling lousy. I still Pray. You brought qualities I'd forgotten. Thank you!
Some people want to stay single but they like the attention. Or they wait until the girl finds them. There’s a saying you don’t find love, love finds you. But could take a while.
I’m always on the fence.
The way I like to look at is why take the chance that love won't find you? Many people wait their entire lives only to be alone. Others get a game plan and make it happen. In my mind there's a LOT more hope and happiness in a game plan 💪
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We'd probably be more interested to know how trainwreck guys always have girlfriends.