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The story of my life. I have been naturally generous my whole life and it has brought me nothing but shame and frustration. I live a hermit life now. I am done with people all together. Because I never found the wisdom I needed to balance my kindness.
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@@Phoenix-od2bp Who said I was not kind? I think you might be wrong about you self. Someone kind would not take any time pointing out peoples insecurities.
@@Survivalguy In fairness, your statement of "I am done with people all together" suggests bitterness. I don't suspect they were merely trying to be mean since they also note resonating with your comment. I, too, hope you find the wisdom to be kind and generous again without experiencing any shame or frustration. Too often I think people associate their kindness with being a personal sacrifice, when it should be every bit as beneficial and rewarding to yourself as those around you. If it isn't, then I hope others follow your same example and attempt to better understand themselves first.
How about the people who act kind on outside, but when people try to take advantage of him or her that beat the person's but! In real life people are a big Wimp or a Big Jerk! The truth are in the middle. The secret is being BALANCE!
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@@SoJangHo37 True. But suffering usually results from one's follies / vices, not one's virtues. Kindness is perceived as a virtue, and hence, suffering resulting from one's virtues is all the more painful to endure.
@@j01150126 Don't wish to wade into theological beliefs as most of them are unsubstantiated by verifiable facts. BTW, there's no archeological evidence of even the existence of either Jesus Christ or Prophet Mohammed. It's all created from secondary accounts centuries after these supposedly lived. Besides, we ordinary mortals ought to lead a life of moderation, not extremities. Let's leave those to saints n monks 🙂
It’s odd how this video appeared to me right when I was thinking about how in my life I’ve ALWAYS helped others and in return I always received pain and suffering,🤔I am starting to understand now,🤨.thanks,😌👍
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It would be wonderful if we lived in a world where those who take advantage of others would be so willing to admit they were wrong and actually regret their actions. Unfortunately, we’ve been shown that there are too many who will never change their ways.
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@@thelifespirit I think quite the opposite, and it really brightens my world. Based on what we see around us, it seems that remorse, change, kindness, and generosity are practically the norm for humanity. Rather, the success or attention those who aren't bring to themselves makes news far more often and makes us think their poison is commonplace. If it weren't, we simply wouldn't have made it this far. :) One day maybe we'll beat it all together, but until then we'll just have to keep on being kind--within our means.
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
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I got exploited many times mentally. It is really helpful for me to set boundaries. It is extremely important to protect ourselves because if we lose ourselves, people will lose one helper or kind person who can help thousands. It is not only you; it would be bad with thousands of bad people. To care for yourself means you are making yourself ready to help thousands of people in future.
Such a powerful reminder that kindness must be balanced with wisdom. Suda's journey shows us the importance of setting boundaries to protect our own well-being while helping others.
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Beautiful sharing. Thank you. People come into our lives to teach us lessons. The scammers, narcissists, betrayers etc. Many are learning the lesson of how not to be deceived and manipulated. Wisdom and discernment is key in knowing when to say "no ". And listening to our intuition we are also guided by our inner voice/self when something is not 'right' or 'false'. Becoming more conscious and aware is necessary. And after learning the lessons we too can share with others how not to be deceived and manipulated. This is how we grow spiritually and be of service to others. 🙏❤
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Yes, its an amazing story. Please allow me to interrupt. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. My apologies 'to the life spirit'.
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I found this a hard lesson to learn initially, but this is spot on, you can still be yourself, kind and helpful but not to your own detriment People often see kindness as weakness and this is not the case at all, by setting boundaries we show this.
I have always loved helping people, I was willing to give myself to anyone who needed me, however now, I’m NOT willing to make someone else’s problems MY PROBLEMS anymore. It’s about trying to find that balance.
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I’m glad I saw this video this morning. I needed to see this video years, decades, ago! Before I knew what it was to “Have a heart, but be SMART!”. However, it is still on time, because it assures me now, today, that I’m doing the right thing in having found balance. BOUNDARIES and DISCERNMENT = WISDOM 😊I’m so much stronger in protecting “what is precious”, which a kind heart is. I still have my faults as there’s some very deceptive, evil people who know how to get close to you. “Beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing .” Or see it another way, “Though you’re clothed as a sheep beware of the wolves who hunt you.” Finally “Although be harmless as a dove, be as WISE as the snake that hunts you.” Getting trampled and depleted can leave a closed heart full of bitterness and resentment, and shame for having allowed ourselves to be eaten alive by the advantageous. Distributing love, kindness, should not hurt!
The story narrated is lovely. Please allow me to interrupt. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you.
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Same here I can't do anything freely because of my overdharma and fear of God which will hit by karma, so I am afraid of everything.i think wisdom is more good than dharma optimism . Without wisdom kindness is blind , I understood in my life by my own surroundings.
As a Life / Relationship Coach, I always say its great to be kind, trustful and caring, but only to those you feel deserve it. Otherwise you will burn yourself out and nobody will appreciate you in the end, unfortunately. Much Love ♥️
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when I was younger, I used to help around in the church, be it house moving, painting, fixing pc, cooking for charity, witnessing to all of my church friends, but mostly IT support as that was what I do. But when I need their help to move house, none of them were willing to help me despite my support for them throughout the years. That sadden me, and from then onward, whenever they ask me for IT support or other menial work support, I will turn them down. The final straw came when I have doubts about my religion after decades in the church, so I went through a phase of unbelief. And because of that, everyone there cut their ties with me. Imagine having being their friends for over 2 decades and they can drop me like a hot brick. I came to realize that we are all alone in this world. Everyone is out to make use of you. None of them deserve my help.
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I've had the same experiences. Help, give, volunteer, reach out first. Never get anything back and no one there when I need them. I only give in certain circumstances. Hope this finds you ok, just a 👋 for you😊
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Yes, his story is lovely. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. Thankyou.
Very important for Buddhism and other religions to know this instead of pushing people to always be giving and giving and giving and then people wondering why they are not happy 🙏
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I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. I hope you understand.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom I have in the past given when saying no was the more wise response. Giving cut into time with family and did the recipient no favors. Perhaps learning more about Buddhism will help me find balance in life.
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The story of Suda and King Ananda is truly inspiring, highlighting that kindness must be balanced with wisdom to avoid exploitation and ensure harmony in the community
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This message arrived when I needed it. I let myself be used by another long ago without boundaries and I've been trying to make sense of the pain of it all.
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I wish I had learnt this valuable lesson of balancing kindness with wisdom before myself becoming penniless and incurring huge debt. Thanks for waking me up !!!
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Dr. Gabor Maté came to the same conclusion from a different perspective somewhat later in time :) The body signals ferociously when there is only kindness and no wisdom. When interested, read ‘When the body says No’. Or watch one of his videos. I like it when insights coincide.
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Great teaching. I'm learning each day and realise that I was kind without boundaries or mindfulness, then got taken advantage of and became resentful and untrusting. I'm working on myself by learning from people like yourself ❤🥰 xx
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I have been too kind myself too and the world was brutal to me. My family took advantage of my kindness and used me to the extent they could. My so called friends never appreciated me for everything I had done for them. The work colleagues had exploited me and literally drained me of all energy - got all the work done and tossed me aside like I never mattered to them. I wish I came across this wisdom a long time ago. I am unable to change my attitude toward people and I know that this compassion, kindness will be the end of me - I am unable to limit the generosity or the kindness with which I look at another living being. How unfortunate.
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Same with me! My boss gave me all the work which my colleagues didn’t want to do, and I tried to do everything immediately to please my boss and my colleagues. And when I asked my colleagues something they always said they have no time for me but continued further chatting with some female colleagues. And I never asked for more salary when I was working 14 years in that company because my boss never shouted me and it was enough to keep me happy. Also I did help a lot of people with all the money I earned. I did also lend money to be able to help others because one Buddhist monk told that helping others until it hurts. In the end when I have no money left I asked the people which I helped but they denied me with a lot of reasons why they can’t help me. I was so depressed lately and live a hermit live now doing grocery once every 2 weeks buying only some rice, noodles of flour. Please send me some loving energy to restart 😢!
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Protect yourself and what is precious for you . That said , help others too . But don't forget to help yourself too. Its like they say on the planes , in an emergency, first secure your own mask , before helping others
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Actually, I was in a lot of pain today.. I just clicked on this and I now realized something.. At least most of the pain is gone in minutes.. Thank you so much.. I'm sorry that my words will not describe all..
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Such an inspiring story! One should set boundaries to protect inner self. In today’s society more people suffer and depressed because of not setting boundaries and getting hurt more either by same or different people, who take advantage of them. Don’t feel bad for saying no. Even if others make you feel guilty Ignore and live your life peacefully. This video gives a new vision on how to live happily👍🏻
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Please allow me to interrupt. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. Thanks.
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Damn… I really needed to hear this… Wisdom lies in knowing when to give and when to withhold. I’m so excited to use everything I learned in this video just because I’m naturally a kind and giving person and honestly I don’t want to change that about myself but I didn’t need to stop being kind and generous… I just needed stronger boundaries. Because true kindness is about balance! My I guess “garden” filled with flowers is pretty empty but time to rebuild it with strong boundaries around it!
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I TOTALLY agree "Kind Without Wisdom Leads to Suffering" Had experienced it myself, I was always kind to my friend but in the end I am always taken advantage of and they even treat me like servant. I am even been hurt very deeply by my own family member and I also experienced Domestic Violence. I am DONE with being too kind. I always hear people saying : "Keep Being Kind Even if They Hurt You" "Return Evil with Kindness" etc..... bla bla bla All of that saying is BS for me. Return evil with kindness is called EXPLOITATION. It already more than good that I did not take revenge to all the people that hurt me. I just move on. I really HATE this saying "Return Evil with Kindness" That's why I LIKE Budhha's Teaching (Full of Compassion but Wise, Logical and Realistic with Life). I will keep being Kind BUT with My OWN WAY. Good Video, Thankyou 🙏🌻 May All Being Can Live in Peace and be Liberate from All Kinds of Suffering🙏🙏♥
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Most religions are a cult they don't teach, they force their bullshit onto others. Many religions say "be kind and give us money/food/shelter etc" that's manipulation for greeds sake when they have food, shelter etc. I've seen what being kind does to a person. My own mother always puts others before herself and then she is left with little else... Her words "I always put myself last" I've explained to her over and over "you keep giving because you choose too. You've trained yourself too be that way because of your childhood. You can unlearn it if you want" she doesn't listen. Yet she still hasn't and still complains. I silently watch. I've learnt from her and my experiences in this world that being kind offers your throat to the cunts of this world. This world moves aside for assholes I've noticed... So an asshole I've become it works. I'm not pushed around or fucked about as I used too be. I'm kind when necessary and only when necessary.
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If you ever listen to anything while reading comments, let it be this - go to borlest and read the book whispers of manifestation, then come back and thank me
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Lesson is always prioritize one's own need. you can only help out given that it will not cost you your own needs. set clear boundaries. make sure your kindness will not be taken for granted.
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Difficult to differentiate the two. A lesson taught from exhaustion. I enjoy the feeling of having helped someone but being used goes hand in hand so this is helpful. Hard to say no so this gives an example to say no I appreciate it.
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It’s tough to learn those lessons, but it sounds like you’re committed to making sure it doesn’t happen again. Keep pushing forward! Thanks for the support. It means the world to us. Please like and share the video and subscribe to our channel for more insightful videos. Thank you.
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Even as i write this i was taken advantaged of recently. So what will i do? Use wisdom in how much i can extend myself, use knowledge of the situation, use understanding of how the world works, realizing sometimes its not always in your best interests. But what im not going to do is be a stone cold hater to everyone because that means you'll become the very thing you hate. Loveless, selfish and cold.
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The story of my life. I have been naturally generous my whole life and it has brought me nothing but shame and frustration. I live a hermit life now. I am done with people all together. Because I never found the wisdom I needed to balance my kindness.
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@@thelifespirit I have been through so much it could be its own channel.
I resonate with you,unlike you I have become kind to bitter.
@@Phoenix-od2bp Who said I was not kind? I think you might be wrong about you self. Someone kind would not take any time pointing out peoples insecurities.
@@Survivalguy In fairness, your statement of "I am done with people all together" suggests bitterness. I don't suspect they were merely trying to be mean since they also note resonating with your comment.
I, too, hope you find the wisdom to be kind and generous again without experiencing any shame or frustration.
Too often I think people associate their kindness with being a personal sacrifice, when it should be every bit as beneficial and rewarding to yourself as those around you. If it isn't, then I hope others follow your same example and attempt to better understand themselves first.
If someone is misusing your kindness you must stop them. We are not tissue paper. Thanks for sharing 😊
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Many kind hearted feel like a wet towel at some point in their life
We must nothing. there are 100 other Kind ways to Show thr Person what you feel or think. No need "to must stop them"
"We are not tissue paper." A very trenchant remark. Thanks.
How about the people who act kind on outside, but when people try to take advantage of him or her that beat the person's but! In real life people are a big Wimp or a Big Jerk! The truth are in the middle. The secret is being BALANCE!
Learning to say NO ! Without guilt is the greatest freedom!
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Kindness without wisdom leads to suffering - such powerful wise words ! Experienced it and totally relate to it.
Very true 🙏
Suffering exists and you can't Avoid it
@@SoJangHo37 True. But suffering usually results from one's follies / vices, not one's virtues. Kindness is perceived as a virtue, and hence, suffering resulting from one's virtues is all the more painful to endure.
So Jesus Christ suffered for nothing? I doubt it. There is no ascension without sacrifice.
@@j01150126 Don't wish to wade into theological beliefs as most of them are unsubstantiated by verifiable facts. BTW, there's no archeological evidence of even the existence of either Jesus Christ or Prophet Mohammed. It's all created from secondary accounts centuries after these supposedly lived. Besides, we ordinary mortals ought to lead a life of moderation, not extremities. Let's leave those to saints n monks 🙂
It’s odd how this video appeared to me right when I was thinking about how in my life I’ve ALWAYS helped others and in return I always received pain and suffering,🤔I am starting to understand now,🤨.thanks,😌👍
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u r blessed... Universe witnessed your pain and sufferings and gifted u relief in form of this video.. gratitude 💞
It would be wonderful if we lived in a world where those who take advantage of others would be so willing to admit they were wrong and actually regret their actions. Unfortunately, we’ve been shown that there are too many who will never change their ways.
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@@thelifespirit I think quite the opposite, and it really brightens my world.
Based on what we see around us, it seems that remorse, change, kindness, and generosity are practically the norm for humanity. Rather, the success or attention those who aren't bring to themselves makes news far more often and makes us think their poison is commonplace. If it weren't, we simply wouldn't have made it this far. :) One day maybe we'll beat it all together, but until then we'll just have to keep on being kind--within our means.
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
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I got exploited many times mentally. It is really helpful for me to set boundaries. It is extremely important to protect ourselves because if we lose ourselves, people will lose one helper or kind person who can help thousands. It is not only you; it would be bad with thousands of bad people. To care for yourself means you are making yourself ready to help thousands of people in future.
Very true, It's crucial to prioritize self-care and set boundaries to protect yourself from exploitation.
Anything bad that happens to you is just an instrument used by God to give you your share of Bad Karma
Such a powerful reminder that kindness must be balanced with wisdom. Suda's journey shows us the importance of setting boundaries to protect our own well-being while helping others.
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Beautiful sharing. Thank you. People come into our lives to teach us lessons. The scammers, narcissists, betrayers etc. Many are learning the lesson of how not to be deceived and manipulated. Wisdom and discernment is key in knowing when to say "no ". And listening to our intuition we are also guided by our inner voice/self when something is not 'right' or 'false'. Becoming more conscious and aware is necessary. And after learning the lessons we too can share with others how not to be deceived and manipulated. This is how we grow spiritually and be of service to others. 🙏❤
It’s kindness when it feels good, it’s something else when it feels like resentment.
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Absolutely amazing story and video. Love the way you present it. Thanks for sharing.
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Yes, its an amazing story. Please allow me to interrupt. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. My apologies 'to the life spirit'.
Wonderful and inspring story. Thank You!
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A lesson the United States needs to learn.
I found this a hard lesson to learn initially, but this is spot on, you can still be yourself, kind and helpful but not to your own detriment
People often see kindness as weakness and this is not the case at all, by setting boundaries we show this.
I have always loved helping people, I was willing to give myself to anyone who needed me, however now, I’m NOT willing to make someone else’s problems MY PROBLEMS anymore. It’s about trying to find that balance.
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I’m glad I saw this video this morning. I needed to see this video years, decades, ago! Before I knew what it was to “Have a heart, but be SMART!”. However, it is still on time, because it assures me now, today, that I’m doing the right thing in having found balance. BOUNDARIES and DISCERNMENT = WISDOM 😊I’m so much stronger in protecting “what is precious”, which a kind heart is. I still have my faults as there’s some very deceptive, evil people who know how to get close to you. “Beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing .” Or see it another way, “Though you’re clothed as a sheep beware of the wolves who hunt you.” Finally “Although be harmless as a dove, be as WISE as the snake that hunts you.” Getting trampled and depleted can leave a closed heart full of bitterness and resentment, and shame for having allowed ourselves to be eaten alive by the advantageous. Distributing love, kindness, should not hurt!
Namo buddhaya 🙏
Namo Buddhaya 🙏🙏
The story narrated is lovely. Please allow me to interrupt. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you.
@@buddhaexhumed9922 well i am not a buddhist , still nice to know this information .
@thelifespirit What sutta is this story drawn from?
@@frankiebanks What story.
I will comment here again after 2 years of nourisment ,when MY river and garden are rebuilt and flowing.With Kindness and Wisdom.
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Love thy neighbor like yourself= meaning, love yourself first.
Kindness without wisdom filled me full of hatred... Took a while to recover and understand my mistakes...
There's a saying: take care of your kindness
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Same here I can't do anything freely because of my overdharma and fear of God which will hit by karma, so I am afraid of everything.i think wisdom is more good than dharma optimism . Without wisdom kindness is blind , I understood in my life by my own surroundings.
As a Life / Relationship Coach, I always say its great to be kind, trustful and caring, but only to those you feel deserve it. Otherwise you will burn yourself out and nobody will appreciate you in the end, unfortunately. Much Love ♥️
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@@thelifespirit You got it 👍🏼
Beautiful story 👌
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If I lend someone 10 euro's, and I never ever see them again for the rest of my life, it was worth the money.
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👍 true indeed
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Learning WHEN to give, and to who, and HOW MUCH. Self love first. And never enabling a user or unappreciator!
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when I was younger, I used to help around in the church, be it house moving, painting, fixing pc, cooking for charity, witnessing to all of my church friends, but mostly IT support as that was what I do. But when I need their help to move house, none of them were willing to help me despite my support for them throughout the years. That sadden me, and from then onward, whenever they ask me for IT support or other menial work support, I will turn them down.
The final straw came when I have doubts about my religion after decades in the church, so I went through a phase of unbelief. And because of that, everyone there cut their ties with me. Imagine having being their friends for over 2 decades and they can drop me like a hot brick. I came to realize that we are all alone in this world. Everyone is out to make use of you. None of them deserve my help.
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I've had the same experiences. Help, give, volunteer, reach out first. Never get anything back and no one there when I need them. I only give in certain circumstances. Hope this finds you ok, just a 👋 for you😊
Good judgment comes from experience and experience from poor judgment.
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Yes, his story is lovely. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. Thankyou.
Much needed video ❤ I feel like this happens to me too. I'd have to practice mindfulness. And I will
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Just now going through the same experience it was so soothing to hear it Thank you ❤️ for sharing
Very important for Buddhism and other religions to know this instead of pushing people to always be giving and giving and giving and then people wondering why they are not happy 🙏
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Soooo insightful ❤️
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God bless you! All this time I thought I was a greedy scrub but now I realized that I was practicing mindful gratitude
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I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. I hope you understand.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom
I have in the past given when saying no was the more wise response.
Giving cut into time with family and did the recipient no favors. Perhaps learning more about Buddhism will help me find balance in life.
Be kind and observe those who would be ungrateful and make them suffer.
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The story of Suda and King Ananda is truly inspiring, highlighting that kindness must be balanced with wisdom to avoid exploitation and ensure harmony in the community
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Buddha knowing distant stories and so many events that happend eons ago is fascinating
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I'm impressed for your work 😊 really you giving knowledge to apply there life 💕
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This is beautifully narrated and the message is awesome. Thank you
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Thank You Lord for kindness in Wisdom, boundaries, protection...no to exploitation etc.🙏
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I was clear now with my understanding of kindness and generosity ,I got a guidance through this video today. Thanks to the creator of this video ❤
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This message arrived when I needed it. I let myself be used by another long ago without boundaries and I've been trying to make sense of the pain of it all.
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Very inspiring & meaningful
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Thanks fam
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I learned this lesson of kindness the hard way. Now I am very discerning.
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I wish I had learnt this valuable lesson of balancing kindness with wisdom before myself becoming penniless and incurring huge debt. Thanks for waking me up !!!
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Thanks for clarifying my doubt.
Dr. Gabor Maté came to the same conclusion from a different perspective somewhat later in time :)
The body signals ferociously when there is only kindness and no wisdom. When interested, read ‘When the body says No’. Or watch one of his videos. I like it when insights coincide.
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Great teaching. I'm learning each day and realise that I was kind without boundaries or mindfulness, then got taken advantage of and became resentful and untrusting. I'm working on myself by learning from people like yourself ❤🥰 xx
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My kindness was taken advantage of with this simple video
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I have been too kind myself too and the world was brutal to me. My family took advantage of my kindness and used me to the extent they could. My so called friends never appreciated me for everything I had done for them. The work colleagues had exploited me and literally drained me of all energy - got all the work done and tossed me aside like I never mattered to them.
I wish I came across this wisdom a long time ago. I am unable to change my attitude toward people and I know that this compassion, kindness will be the end of me - I am unable to limit the generosity or the kindness with which I look at another living being. How unfortunate.
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Same with me!
My boss gave me all the work which my colleagues didn’t want to do, and I tried to do everything immediately to please my boss and my colleagues.
And when I asked my colleagues something they always said they have no time for me but continued further chatting with some female colleagues.
And I never asked for more salary when I was working 14 years in that company because my boss never shouted me and it was enough to keep me happy.
Also I did help a lot of people with all the money I earned.
I did also lend money to be able to help others because one Buddhist monk told that helping others until it hurts.
In the end when I have no money left I asked the people which I helped but they denied me with a lot of reasons why they can’t help me.
I was so depressed lately and live a hermit live now doing grocery once every 2 weeks buying only some rice, noodles of flour.
Please send me some loving energy to restart 😢!
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Kindness without wisdom leads to void within, sense of emptiness and loneliness but the moment wisdom comes its as if illuminating the dark place❤❤❤❤
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Protect yourself and what is precious for you . That said , help others too . But don't forget to help yourself too. Its like they say on the planes , in an emergency, first secure your own mask , before helping others
Very important subject. Thank you! Also a good voice.
I'm 53, this lesson is valuable. Always seek knowledge
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Actually, I was in a lot of pain today.. I just clicked on this and I now realized something.. At least most of the pain is gone in minutes.. Thank you so much.. I'm sorry that my words will not describe all..
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😊👍beautiful,very wise story,a little too much of ANYTHING ain’t good.
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Such an inspiring story!
One should set boundaries to protect inner self. In today’s society more people suffer and depressed because of not setting boundaries and getting hurt more either by same or different people, who take advantage of them. Don’t feel bad for saying no. Even if others make you feel guilty Ignore and live your life peacefully.
This video gives a new vision on how to live happily👍🏻
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Please allow me to interrupt. I feel Buddhists should know this. I do research on how Buddhism disappeared in Bihar. I realized it never disappeared from Bihar. Buddhists simply failed to research Indian Buddhism. They looked at Buddhism through the sphere of their own cultures searching for only the Buddha. Buddha had a myriad of names in different villages according to his teachings there. Example. His favorite teaching was 'Lust and desire causes pain. Remove lust and desire, and pain is removed'. Translated into Bihari (where the Buddha story took place) it is DHUKH HARAN meaning to remove dukha. Three dozen villages pray to DUKH HARAN Baba. Its clear that DUKH HARAN Baba is none other than the Buddha. Problem is Buddhists are searching only for the Buddha. In the real Vaishali the Buddha begged for alms. The locals there pray to 'BHIKHAINI' Baba (Beggar Baba). Bhikhaini was mispronounced by Buddhists as Bhikshu. Who is BHIKHAINI Baba. The Buddha no doubt. But people are searching for a man called Buddha. In the real Vaishali, in Beluha the Buddha suffered a sickness and felt he had grown old. The locals pray to 'BURHA' Baba (Old Baba). Who is BURHA Baba. The Buddha no doubt. In the real Vaishali the Lichavies pressurized Buddha not to die. They trailed him to Bandagawan pressurizing him not to die. To put pressure in Hindi is DABESHWAR. Three dozen villages around the stupa where Buddha gave the Lichavies his patra, the villagers pray to Baba 'DABESHWAR NATH' meaning the man who won the pressurizing game. It was the the Buddha no doubt as he gave the Lichavies his patra and succeded in sending them back. But Buddhists are searching for the Buddha. Forgive me for commenting out of the topic. I just wanted to impart this information to you. Thanks.
Give a man a fish, watch them starve.
Teach them to fish, watch them thrive.
That is true kindness. Spread knowledge and wisdom.
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Damn… I really needed to hear this…
Wisdom lies in knowing when to give and when to withhold.
I’m so excited to use everything I learned in this video just because I’m naturally a kind and giving person and honestly I don’t want to change that about myself but I didn’t need to stop being kind and generous… I just needed stronger boundaries.
Because true kindness is about balance!
My I guess “garden” filled with flowers is pretty empty but time to rebuild it with strong boundaries around it!
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I TOTALLY agree "Kind Without Wisdom Leads to Suffering"
Had experienced it myself, I was always kind to my friend but in the end I am always taken advantage of and they even treat me like servant. I am even been hurt very deeply by my own family member and I also experienced Domestic Violence.
I am DONE with being too kind.
I always hear people saying :
"Keep Being Kind Even if They Hurt You"
"Return Evil with Kindness" etc..... bla bla bla
All of that saying is BS for me.
Return evil with kindness is called EXPLOITATION. It already more than good that I did not take revenge to all the people that hurt me. I just move on.
I really HATE this saying "Return Evil with Kindness"
That's why I LIKE Budhha's Teaching (Full of Compassion but Wise, Logical and Realistic with Life).
I will keep being Kind BUT with My OWN WAY.
Good Video, Thankyou 🙏🌻
May All Being Can Live in Peace and be Liberate from All Kinds of Suffering🙏🙏♥
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Most religions are a cult they don't teach, they force their bullshit onto others.
Many religions say "be kind and give us money/food/shelter etc" that's manipulation for greeds sake when they have food, shelter etc.
I've seen what being kind does to a person. My own mother always puts others before herself and then she is left with little else... Her words "I always put myself last" I've explained to her over and over "you keep giving because you choose too. You've trained yourself too be that way because of your childhood. You can unlearn it if you want" she doesn't listen.
Yet she still hasn't and still complains. I silently watch.
I've learnt from her and my experiences in this world that being kind offers your throat to the cunts of this world. This world moves aside for assholes I've noticed... So an asshole I've become it works.
I'm not pushed around or fucked about as I used too be. I'm kind when necessary and only when necessary.
Those who I have helped... And never seen them back .... Help no one
I needed this ❤
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Wow, this is soooo great! It's an excellent learning tool for those struggling with relational attachment issues, codependency.
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If you ever listen to anything while reading comments, let it be this - go to borlest and read the book whispers of manifestation, then come back and thank me
BALANCE BALANCE BALANCE BALANCE BALANCE BALANCE BALANCE BALANCE!!!!!!!
I'll thank you now and not read it.
@@nickturner4150your loss Holmes
You mean go there and download the book for $12.99?
@@SP-LW.55.11.5 No, I will write a book with title! "I'm a NICE GUUUYYY"!
Kindness without wisdom can lead to suffering.
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Good really true.i have also been like this.they have left me nothing.i needed effection.they gave nothing but pain
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Gautama Buddha was dharmic ideals.. following his dharma. And he was the sixth Buddha 🙏🏽
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learned that lesson the very hard way . Now it s me first then others and not the other way around .
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i am also clear now. thanks buddy
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It’s true our kindlyness receiver not valuation our kindly repeat same
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I don't have wisdom so I'll practice generosity not miserliness until I do.
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People really do take kindness as weakness...
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Good points.
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Lesson is always prioritize one's own need. you can only help out given that it will not cost you your own needs. set clear boundaries. make sure your kindness will not be taken for granted.
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Do not be so tight-fisted, for you will be blameworthy; nor so open-handed, for you will end up in poverty. - Quran
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My wife and i needed this very story on this very night. Thank you for sharing.
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Good story, it helps me lot
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Great story🍻thank you🥳may everyone see it😁
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Thank you for the lovely story. Love the art works in the video 😍
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Difficult to differentiate the two. A lesson taught from exhaustion. I enjoy the feeling of having helped someone but being used goes hand in hand so this is helpful. Hard to say no so this gives an example to say no I appreciate it.
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I wish I watched this video years ago.
How do you overcome the regret from being exploited?
Thank you for the lesson.
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It’s true , learned from my experiences 😔😔😔 I might not be fit in to this world
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Very timely with todays world events
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i failed to protect myself and i am still paying for that to this day. But that will not happen again
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Somebody send this video to European leaders
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Never pour from an empty cup.
Fill your cup first and whatever overflows, that you donate with wisdom.
Even as i write this i was taken advantaged of recently. So what will i do? Use wisdom in how much i can extend myself, use knowledge of the situation, use understanding of how the world works, realizing sometimes its not always in your best interests.
But what im not going to do is be a stone cold hater to everyone because that means you'll become the very thing you hate. Loveless, selfish and cold.
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