I know Mak said the menace energy was due to stuff going on in her life but the sheer silliness and giggling of The Menace was so fun and Mak I hope you get to experience the giggly energy more often
I gotta add an advice for disabled people struggling : Get disabled friends !!!! Seriously, do it. You can talk about more stuff, help each other out, maybe join or create an association, and just having friends is great. It's about creating a chosen family Take care, mask up, be gay, do crimes
all my life I wanted a family. When I was 5 my mom chose drugs over my little sisters and me. My dad was never there. I was homeless and moving from place to place. before I was adopted and I didn't care if I had a home I just wanted my two little sisters to have a place. Luckily they end up in a home, and nobody wanted me because I was older and thought I was crazy (because I was dealing with an eating disorder and addiction) I would love to have a place to share my story so if you are reading this please spread awareness. 15 years later I got adopted by my sisters. My adopted dad knew that I was gay before I knew. When I knew I try to tell my mom and she thinks is fake because apparently ""everyone is gay" which I honestly understand. I just want everyone who is reading this: to be aware that children in foster care do exist and are wanting a home. I'm glad I can call this podcast my home too
just wanted to say that the way Alayna answers questions just SHOWS how great of a therapist she can be, because she just hears so many levels of the question, breaks it down and finds the point where it can be about the person and not about other people, who we cant control, like she said. Alayne, the way you talk reminds me of my own (amazing) therapist. seriously, congrats.
@@1SophieDEF1Tried this once, cuz the timing is similar for me: Bad idea😂 I looked like a mad person laughing so hard, I vowed to always watch this when I'm comfortable
Ashley I know I say this literally all the time but I love how happy Jen makes you and how soft you get when you're around her. When you were convincing her to say hi and when you called her Jenny, you just got so soft and it was adorable. Also your hair looked so gorgeous in this episode and I couldn't stop staring at it. I bet part of the hair wonder and Jen happy was cause of taking the days off, like Mak and Alayna said you did seem more relaxed this episode and I hope your stress continues to ease as you allow your body time to relax and have fun
Mak The Menace Merch!!😍😍😍 Also im sending so much love and light around you Mak!❤🥰 Also, as a fellow college student, I'm so proud of you Alayna for starting school and pursuing this path and I believe in you!❤🥰 And Congrats Ashley on your picture getting put up on the wall!🎉😍❤ Love all of you!!❤❤❤
I love that this podcast drops at like 2AM you don't expect to get content at this time. For some reason it makes me feel better for being awake on UA-cam when I should be sleeping. Like its okay to be up your waiting for the CFP you're not a terrible POS. So thank you
CLAM jam put that on a t-shirt Mak was On Fire today. Ashley I think you're just training comedians, after having Bree on your show and now Mak the Menace!! Also this is the crossover we never thought we needed. Mak the Menace on Seth Meyers 🌜💣
I always think about the little Fly and if it has a family🥺♥️ Also, the way Ashley talked about Jen being excited to see her as soon as she wakes up melted my heart🥺♥️🥰 Love you all, and Needed this today, thank you each for always making me laugh🥰🥰🥰 I'm so glad you're all here in this world❤❤❤ I'm also in WA, and would love to go to Forks!!😍
I'm a chronically ill disabled person with a long list of diseases and my own healthcare is my full time job, so I'd like to speak on the first question asked/answered. Long answer incoming below. Bottom line is, they're not fully going to comprehend it because they're not in your shoes. Choose the people who are the most important to you, that inner circle of trusted friends, and explain it to them. Explain the nature of invisible illness, and how when you can't do something, it's not because you don't care, that when you have to cancel, no one is more bummed than you are. Establish some back-up plans, like just hanging out together at home, if you are in a state where you can see someone but don't have the energy, pain levels, mobility etc to go anywhere. Explain that a lot of the time, even that isn't going to be possible. There are going to be circles outside of that inner circle that don't get it. Confide in your inner circle and let them know that you trust them to explain to those in the second circle why you can't do stuff. In that way it's an establishment of trust and they can feel 'useful' in fielding negative comments for you and correcting people on the situation. Also let those in the inner circle know that it's a mutually reciprocal safe space, and that if they ever need to cancel any plans they had with you, whether it's due to physical health, mental health (also invisible), work, family life or what have you, that it's ok, that they never have to prove the 'worthiness' of why they're cancelling, that you guys are all doing the best you can and first and foremost you want your loved ones to have the time and space they need to properly take care of themselves. Send them a summary of "spoon theory" (they can look it up, and you can send it to them), explaining how you have limited energy, often borrowed from the next day if there is too much in the day, and the unpredictable nature of chronic illness, which is what makes making plans difficult. It's ok to also find good articles or summaries on youtube explaining situations in just the right words (maybe when you couldn't find the right words yourself), and send it to them. Someone might not get it right, right off the bat. But if they continue to refuse to listen, to not put in the effort at all to try to understand, then that's rather hypocritical to call you lazy. Like when someone sees an advertisement for some mobility aid like a device to help put on socks and someone says "oh how lazy do you have to be". I think, well, not as lazy as the person who just lazily assumed everyone's able-bodied. It takes minimal effort to just listen to someone explain their situation and respect their abilities and boundaries. Whereas it takes a LOT of effort for a lot us (a rare muscle disease is one of my diseases) to hold our arm up to brush our teeth. Then we need to recover afterwards. If you ask a friend if they want to go to an art exhibition, and they say "I ran a marathon yesterday, so I'm recovering" or "I climbed a mountain yesterday, so I'm recovering" or "I just came off a double night shift at the hospital, so I'm taking it easy today" or "I only got one hour of sleep last night so I'm spent", you would understand, and you wouldn't push. Let them know, it's basically the same thing. Having chronic illness - especially for a lot of us who are down the multiple diseases end and the severe end - is like constantly running on no-to-little sleep, running a marathon, doing overtime 24/7, living in constant pain which is exhausting, and basic tasks taking way more energy. People find it hard to get their heads around chronic illness. With illness, what they're used to, is either: you get sick then you get better (eg a cold) or you get sick then you die (eg cancer). They don't understand this in-between, where it's just there all the time, forever. They also find it hard to wrap their heads around the fact that a disease doesn't have to be cancer to be serious, or debilitating. I run a support group for one of my rare diseases. A lot of the people in our group have died from our disease. With chronic illness, a person's response is often "thank goodness it's not cancer". But I can assure you, that for the most recent person who died from our disease in my group, 31 years old, two small children, her family and friends weren't at her funeral saying "thank goodness it wasn't cancer". If it doesn't make sense to say in death, it doesn't make sense to say in life. Look up some lists on the website The Mighty, lists titled things like "Things people with chronic illness are sick of hearing". e.g. "you don't look sick", "at least it's not cancer", "must be nice to not work and stay home all the time" etc. Send them those lists. Let them - your inner circle, that is - know that, initially, you know it's supposed to be well meaning or maybe just awkward because chronic illness isn't a language they speak. But intent doesn't equal impact. Let them know those are the sorts of negative comments that you'd love them to 'field' and correct when others say them about you - that way they learn the language and the impact, and they don't feel accused, and they feel useful. That's a good segway into when people say "I wish there was something I could do" - give them that as their thing to "do".
Thank you so much for taking the time and using your energy, which is precious to write this helpful and thoughtful reply. I have a rare chronic condition and relate to this a lot
Loved the role reversal today with Mak the Menace and Zen Ashley. 🤪😌 And Alayna just being all 😄 her usual self. Really needed this today, y'all, thank you ❤
@@BEANS518 thanks! I just assumed it would come out at a more reasonable time in the US. I know there are various time zones, but it would still have to be pretty early across the whole country. I suppose people often listen to podcasts in the morning...
I have always needed more sleep than other people. For a long time, I let other people make me feel guilty about it. A couple of years ago, I was severely depressed and dealing with frequent meltdowns. After reading something about how significantly sleep impacts enotional regulation, I started prioritizing it. When I start to feel overwhelmed, distressed, or agitated, I let myself take guilt free naps. I also started taking my sleep medication regularly and aiming for 10 hours of sleep a night. I feel like a different person. I'm happier, less volatile, and honestly just a better person when I'm well rested. If I have to say "no" to things or leave early, I think it's a small price to pay to be able to show up and be fully present when it counts. "The people that mind don't matter, and the people that matter don't mind."
Mak you are so much more than thirst traps please never go anywhere because of stupid tik tok ppl I know you didn't mention it this episode but I get so mad at ppl not appreciating how great you are.
Ashley saying she's Jen's little masc princess and I LIVE! So adorable ❤ Mak, I'm sorry that shit's getting crazy...but you'll be in LA with your girl soon! Keep your eyes on the prize, kiddo!😊 Alayna, your giggly energy is boosting my mood! (Stabilizers, lol)
I read medical charts of senior citizens literally all day for work, one of the first things I noticed is how many seniors have mental health diagnoses/are on mental health meds vs the reputation this population has for “sucking it up”. There are a lot of seniors on mental health meds. A LOT. I genuinely hope the growing awareness in society re: these issues has helped seniors who had been struggling feel comfortable asking for help Edited for clarity
I absolutely love you guys, thank you so so so much for helping me be more comfortable with my gay ass and being the queer family I never had 💚~ Love from Ireland
I’ve been living in chronic pain for the past seven years, I’ve had seven back surgeries and I’m currently on disability. I really appreciate you guys talking about chronic pain and so many other issues; it makes me feel less alone in my frustration, in the same way this podcast make me feel less alone in my queerness.
You’re welcome Mak. I used to be a social media snooper and honestly I saw how unhealthy it was and moved away from that behavior when it wasn’t important and only do so now when it matters. Your life is important for you and is your life, not for us to investigate and make our entertainment. I wish people cared less about celeb dating lives and more about the climate or rising fascism and how to stop these pressing issues and which politicians do better at handling these policy positions. Not saying fans here don’t do that. Just that so many people do this shit and should reconfigure their priorities if they do
23:03 Ik I'm super late watching this but I'm not far from Nashville & I missed Ashleys last show in Nashville. PLEASE COME BACK TO ZANIES ASHLEY!!! Seeing your show in person is on my bucket list.
The fact the Ashley doesn’t believe them that Alayna can’t see her or hear her 😂😂 I believe Alayna bc she usually giggles during bits when it is definitely a bit💀 love the pod !!
I am physically disabled, have chronic pain and mental illness stuff. Ashley, what u said abt needing to ‘prove’ ur disability in order to be have it taken seriously, is so fuckin real. I live in poverty and lately haven’t been able to afford both enough food & my pain medication. I tried having less of these things, and my body got dangerously sick. The long story short is that if I don’t get enough food and pain meds, I will get cancer in the next few years. When I told her this and asked her for some financial help, she said, ‘I really have to look out for me right now.’ Meaning she wants to save for retirement (6 years away). She has a great job, well-paid, lots of benefits. Even if she gave me hundreds of dollars a month, she would still have twice that leftover to save. I think she won’t help me because she doesn’t really believe (or understand ?) that I’m disabled. Or if I am, she thinks all my disabilities are completely overcome-able and I just have to ‘work a little harder.’ I’ve been overexerting myself since Monday trying to get my basic needs met. She also said she would no longer give financial help. Ever again. I thought of arguments abt how paying for a funeral would be more expensive than helping me stay alive. Same with gas if she came to visit while I went thru chemo (she’s 5hrs away). But I’ll make it (I hope). I’m not gonna die to prove to her I’m disabled. I’m doing everything I can. I’m gonna make it through this year if it kills me.
I don’t typically comment but I felt this was important enough. I live in Virginia and I feel like there are more and more mosquitoes here every year. If less bugs is a sign of the apocalypse it’s not starting here.
Discovered this podcast through the shorts. Started watching the full episodes like a week ago and so happy to have caught up! It is so fun to hear you all joke around and encourage and inspire people. Excited to keep watching each week! Also, would be so cool if any of you came to Hawai’i! 🤙🏽
Why settle with one of them, they could all go and make a podcat there, Ash could do a standup and then a meet and greet, of course Mak will sell the Menace merch too...
with whgs on monday and chosen family on wednesday we need either alayna and mak to have a friday release podcast so we can have a full week of content
Mak the Menace merch now plz!!!!! 😁 Also... thee Mak the Menace in me says absolutely NO to clam jam! As soon as you said it.. all of these really gross visuals came to my brain!!!!!😬😵💫 hahaha We can do so much better!!! Anyway... hope things get better for Mak... love to hear the school updates Alayna... and for Ashley.. it was sooo wonderful to see you in a better place this episode! Great seeing sweet Jen too!!!! Love you all.. and this was a such a heartwarming one with lots of laughter. Loved it!!! 🤗🥰 Cheers from Ontario, Canada 🍁
As a chronic pain sufferer I’ve found my friends are great at understanding my limits and are not upset if I have to say no or change plans at the last minute. My family on the other hand struggle more with my condition. I think because our family always had a push through it mentality. In fact I’ve learnt that my chronic pain has actually been negatively impacted by me trying to push through my pain early on in my initial injury.
Mak thank you so much for bringing up mental issues from parents. I myself was bullied in school from grade school through high-school, and my parents just told me to deal with it. Thank you.
That's one of my favourite things about my wife too- when she wakes up in the morning & sees me & smiles before she's even fully awake. It's so sincere ☺️ And yes Alayna was totally doing a bit at the start 😅
born and raised in seattle, none of us exist or have friends, we just eat coffee and rain and brood about rain and how dark and rainy it is while drinking coffee and gazing whistfully off into the distance wishing for more coffee
Great advice about being open about chronic medical condition with your friends and family. People who don’t have any health issues can’t understand what it’s like to have a body that doesn’t work all the time unless your honest about it or they see it first hand. It might be embarrassing or awkward to tell someone why you can’t do something but it’s always better to have an uncomfortable conversation than risk your health to keep up appearances. Great podcast by a great group of people and one menace. ❤
I recently found the pod, and I'm in love with it, I don't know how I'd watched all three of you guys for so long and not heard of it! It's been a week and I'm now fully caught up :D
Okay lol, so when Mak was talking about her fly problem, it reminded me of this bug vacuum I got a few years ago, and it's so helpful for getting flies safely out of my house alive!!! It's such a better alternative to swatting. Also it's really fun hunting the bugs with this thing. The one I have is called BugZooka
Another comment! I think the person talking about being perceived as "lazy" could mean at work too, or at least that is what is happening to me right now, though I get it a lot from close family and friends, too. I wish I knew how to better combat this too, at least as far as work goes, because it is hard to explain especially when you might not have a clear or straightforward or even common diagnosis, for chronic and debilitating conditions that may be invisible to everyone else.
Cliterference and twat swat are my absolute fave terms for WLW blocking.
These are great! My go to is Clam Jam 😅
I have added new words to my vocabulary 📝
What’s that tho
Yes, I call it a twat swat as well!! I love Cliterference though! Will def use that in the future.
I’ve always heard Beaver Dam, but I think that’s pretty old 😂
We all have a little Mak the Menace in us 🦖
Want mak the menace in us*
😆🦖
@@datghettoazn127 Horny jail
@@datghettoazn127I-... I mean, you're not wrong
Mak the Menace is a state of mind
" Smooth seas never made a skilled sailor."
- Mak the Menace
Ty for the fabulous cast, Happy Pride everyone. 🏳🌈🇨🇦
😂"the podcast where we answer your questions, unless we don't.." 😂Very fitting description. Lol
Another hilarious episode 🤣
I feel Mak the Menace's energy is closer to Mattea's usual youtube persona and I love it 😂
I know Mak said the menace energy was due to stuff going on in her life but the sheer silliness and giggling of The Menace was so fun and Mak I hope you get to experience the giggly energy more often
I gotta add an advice for disabled people struggling :
Get disabled friends !!!! Seriously, do it. You can talk about more stuff, help each other out, maybe join or create an association, and just having friends is great. It's about creating a chosen family
Take care, mask up, be gay, do crimes
Yes yes yes so much this!!!
all my life I wanted a family. When I was 5 my mom chose drugs over my little sisters and me. My dad was never there. I was homeless and moving from place to place. before I was adopted and I didn't care if I had a home I just wanted my two little sisters to have a place. Luckily they end up in a home, and nobody wanted me because I was older and thought I was crazy (because I was dealing with an eating disorder and addiction) I would love to have a place to share my story so if you are reading this please spread awareness.
15 years later I got adopted by my sisters. My adopted dad knew that I was gay before I knew. When I knew I try to tell my mom and she thinks is fake because apparently ""everyone is gay" which I honestly understand. I just want everyone who is reading this: to be aware that children in foster care do exist and are wanting a home. I'm glad I can call this podcast my home too
You’re strength is very admirable ❤
@@RN-um4il I appreciate that ❤❤❤
I’m staying in forks Washington rn
just wanted to say that the way Alayna answers questions just SHOWS how great of a therapist she can be, because she just hears so many levels of the question, breaks it down and finds the point where it can be about the person and not about other people, who we cant control, like she said. Alayne, the way you talk reminds me of my own (amazing) therapist. seriously, congrats.
33:55 i’ve heard it being called cliterference!! lmao
This is my favorite and I will forever be using it now thank you😂
I don't typically comment on people's appearance, but Ashley's hair is looking magical today. ❤
IKR SHE LOOKS RADIANT IN THIS ONE
100% agree!!!! I thought this the instant I saw the thumbnail
Words cannot describe my love for this podcast it sucks that it comes out at 8 am when I need to go to sixth form
It comes out at 3am for me 😭✋🏻
@@HoneyM1lkart samee my post notifs wake me up right when i fall fall asleep 😭😭
Saaame, I usually end up listening on the bus on the way to uni bc I can't wait oops
@@1SophieDEF1Tried this once, cuz the timing is similar for me: Bad idea😂
I looked like a mad person laughing so hard, I vowed to always watch this when I'm comfortable
@@kemizehabib-mohammed8791 Hahahaaa saaame, I've just resigned myself to always look insane by laughing at nothing in public
Ashley, as a fellow disabled person, I appreciate your advocacy and sick riffs on behalf of the community! 🌈🌺
Ashley I know I say this literally all the time but I love how happy Jen makes you and how soft you get when you're around her. When you were convincing her to say hi and when you called her Jenny, you just got so soft and it was adorable. Also your hair looked so gorgeous in this episode and I couldn't stop staring at it. I bet part of the hair wonder and Jen happy was cause of taking the days off, like Mak and Alayna said you did seem more relaxed this episode and I hope your stress continues to ease as you allow your body time to relax and have fun
I LOVE to start my Wednesdays with a chosen family pod
But Really Though 😅, I actually said out loud: "Aha! It's Wed, there's a new episode out!"...
Snatch stopper. Pussy preventer. Clam jam. Comedy gold. I have never cried laughing so hard while at work 🤣🤣🤣
Mak The Menace Merch!!😍😍😍 Also im sending so much love and light around you Mak!❤🥰 Also, as a fellow college student, I'm so proud of you Alayna for starting school and pursuing this path and I believe in you!❤🥰 And Congrats Ashley on your picture getting put up on the wall!🎉😍❤ Love all of you!!❤❤❤
I love that this podcast drops at like 2AM you don't expect to get content at this time. For some reason it makes me feel better for being awake on UA-cam when I should be sleeping. Like its okay to be up your waiting for the CFP you're not a terrible POS. So thank you
_you’re wonderful POS_❤
“Who are you fighting?” reminded me of Jenna Marbles saying “Who you fightin’?” which made my heart happy & sad.
I live for the weekly Twilight references 😂 always team Jacob, Mak
CLAM jam put that on a t-shirt
Mak was On Fire today. Ashley I think you're just training comedians, after having Bree on your show and now Mak the Menace!!
Also this is the crossover we never thought we needed. Mak the Menace on Seth Meyers 🌜💣
I always think about the little Fly and if it has a family🥺♥️ Also, the way Ashley talked about Jen being excited to see her as soon as she wakes up melted my heart🥺♥️🥰 Love you all, and Needed this today, thank you each for always making me laugh🥰🥰🥰 I'm so glad you're all here in this world❤❤❤ I'm also in WA, and would love to go to Forks!!😍
I'm a chronically ill disabled person with a long list of diseases and my own healthcare is my full time job, so I'd like to speak on the first question asked/answered. Long answer incoming below.
Bottom line is, they're not fully going to comprehend it because they're not in your shoes.
Choose the people who are the most important to you, that inner circle of trusted friends, and explain it to them. Explain the nature of invisible illness, and how when you can't do something, it's not because you don't care, that when you have to cancel, no one is more bummed than you are. Establish some back-up plans, like just hanging out together at home, if you are in a state where you can see someone but don't have the energy, pain levels, mobility etc to go anywhere. Explain that a lot of the time, even that isn't going to be possible.
There are going to be circles outside of that inner circle that don't get it. Confide in your inner circle and let them know that you trust them to explain to those in the second circle why you can't do stuff. In that way it's an establishment of trust and they can feel 'useful' in fielding negative comments for you and correcting people on the situation.
Also let those in the inner circle know that it's a mutually reciprocal safe space, and that if they ever need to cancel any plans they had with you, whether it's due to physical health, mental health (also invisible), work, family life or what have you, that it's ok, that they never have to prove the 'worthiness' of why they're cancelling, that you guys are all doing the best you can and first and foremost you want your loved ones to have the time and space they need to properly take care of themselves.
Send them a summary of "spoon theory" (they can look it up, and you can send it to them), explaining how you have limited energy, often borrowed from the next day if there is too much in the day, and the unpredictable nature of chronic illness, which is what makes making plans difficult.
It's ok to also find good articles or summaries on youtube explaining situations in just the right words (maybe when you couldn't find the right words yourself), and send it to them.
Someone might not get it right, right off the bat. But if they continue to refuse to listen, to not put in the effort at all to try to understand, then that's rather hypocritical to call you lazy. Like when someone sees an advertisement for some mobility aid like a device to help put on socks and someone says "oh how lazy do you have to be". I think, well, not as lazy as the person who just lazily assumed everyone's able-bodied.
It takes minimal effort to just listen to someone explain their situation and respect their abilities and boundaries. Whereas it takes a LOT of effort for a lot us (a rare muscle disease is one of my diseases) to hold our arm up to brush our teeth. Then we need to recover afterwards.
If you ask a friend if they want to go to an art exhibition, and they say "I ran a marathon yesterday, so I'm recovering" or "I climbed a mountain yesterday, so I'm recovering" or "I just came off a double night shift at the hospital, so I'm taking it easy today" or "I only got one hour of sleep last night so I'm spent", you would understand, and you wouldn't push. Let them know, it's basically the same thing. Having chronic illness - especially for a lot of us who are down the multiple diseases end and the severe end - is like constantly running on no-to-little sleep, running a marathon, doing overtime 24/7, living in constant pain which is exhausting, and basic tasks taking way more energy.
People find it hard to get their heads around chronic illness. With illness, what they're used to, is either: you get sick then you get better (eg a cold) or you get sick then you die (eg cancer). They don't understand this in-between, where it's just there all the time, forever.
They also find it hard to wrap their heads around the fact that a disease doesn't have to be cancer to be serious, or debilitating. I run a support group for one of my rare diseases. A lot of the people in our group have died from our disease. With chronic illness, a person's response is often "thank goodness it's not cancer". But I can assure you, that for the most recent person who died from our disease in my group, 31 years old, two small children, her family and friends weren't at her funeral saying "thank goodness it wasn't cancer". If it doesn't make sense to say in death, it doesn't make sense to say in life.
Look up some lists on the website The Mighty, lists titled things like "Things people with chronic illness are sick of hearing". e.g. "you don't look sick", "at least it's not cancer", "must be nice to not work and stay home all the time" etc. Send them those lists. Let them - your inner circle, that is - know that, initially, you know it's supposed to be well meaning or maybe just awkward because chronic illness isn't a language they speak. But intent doesn't equal impact. Let them know those are the sorts of negative comments that you'd love them to 'field' and correct when others say them about you - that way they learn the language and the impact, and they don't feel accused, and they feel useful.
That's a good segway into when people say "I wish there was something I could do" - give them that as their thing to "do".
Thank you so much for taking the time and using your energy, which is precious to write this helpful and thoughtful reply. I have a rare chronic condition and relate to this a lot
Saving this comment in my notes app for when I might need it 💜
This
Beautiful advice thank you
“I now know why the mosquitoes don’t bite you anymore” 😂😂😂
Loved the role reversal today with Mak the Menace and Zen Ashley. 🤪😌 And Alayna just being all 😄 her usual self. Really needed this today, y'all, thank you ❤
Clam jam is def a classic
So excited for chosen family! I love Wednesdays!!
Omg new episode!!! It’s 2am rn but I shall watch immediately
Yess same for me
Saaaaame😂
What?! Which country?
@@zazajf central time I think United States so Missouri and stuff
@@BEANS518 thanks! I just assumed it would come out at a more reasonable time in the US. I know there are various time zones, but it would still have to be pretty early across the whole country. I suppose people often listen to podcasts in the morning...
We have been blessed with the legendary chosen famliy content ❤ happy pride month!!
Good morning Chosen family! Love listening while I get read6 for work.
I have always needed more sleep than other people. For a long time, I let other people make me feel guilty about it. A couple of years ago, I was severely depressed and dealing with frequent meltdowns. After reading something about how significantly sleep impacts enotional regulation, I started prioritizing it. When I start to feel overwhelmed, distressed, or agitated, I let myself take guilt free naps. I also started taking my sleep medication regularly and aiming for 10 hours of sleep a night. I feel like a different person. I'm happier, less volatile, and honestly just a better person when I'm well rested. If I have to say "no" to things or leave early, I think it's a small price to pay to be able to show up and be fully present when it counts. "The people that mind don't matter, and the people that matter don't mind."
Mak the Menace is officially my favorite online persona
Mak you are so much more than thirst traps please never go anywhere because of stupid tik tok ppl I know you didn't mention it this episode but I get so mad at ppl not appreciating how great you are.
Ashley saying she's Jen's little masc princess and I LIVE! So adorable ❤
Mak, I'm sorry that shit's getting crazy...but you'll be in LA with your girl soon! Keep your eyes on the prize, kiddo!😊
Alayna, your giggly energy is boosting my mood! (Stabilizers, lol)
I’m so here for Mak the Menace. Feels like ADHD energy.
Ashley’s intros are pure chaos and I’m here for it 😂
I read medical charts of senior citizens literally all day for work, one of the first things I noticed is how many seniors have mental health diagnoses/are on mental health meds vs the reputation this population has for “sucking it up”. There are a lot of seniors on mental health meds. A LOT. I genuinely hope the growing awareness in society re: these issues has helped seniors who had been struggling feel comfortable asking for help
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I absolutely love you guys, thank you so so so much for helping me be more comfortable with my gay ass and being the queer family I never had 💚~ Love from Ireland
omg another irish listener! never thought i'd find another one haha
can I just say to Danny or whoever made the patreon ad at the end of the video, the ad slaps, you killed it
You really did. My broke ass is considering signing up with money that doesn't exist 😂
I’ve been living in chronic pain for the past seven years, I’ve had seven back surgeries and I’m currently on disability. I really appreciate you guys talking about chronic pain and so many other issues; it makes me feel less alone in my frustration, in the same way this podcast make me feel less alone in my queerness.
Here for mak the menace. the little Patreon dance and sound effect, I can’t🫠
Idk how to describe it but Mak's dancing was so Gen Z humour I would 100% do that.
I love this podcast, I love you guys, and I love our family. May the menace be always within us. 🔥
Mak you need one of those magnetic door nets to keep bugs out!
Mak the menace is just mattea
ASHLEY, i just paused at 20.42 because you look SO FUCKING BEAUTIFUL, that is all
You’re welcome Mak. I used to be a social media snooper and honestly I saw how unhealthy it was and moved away from that behavior when it wasn’t important and only do so now when it matters. Your life is important for you and is your life, not for us to investigate and make our entertainment. I wish people cared less about celeb dating lives and more about the climate or rising fascism and how to stop these pressing issues and which politicians do better at handling these policy positions. Not saying fans here don’t do that. Just that so many people do this shit and should reconfigure their priorities if they do
23:03 Ik I'm super late watching this but I'm not far from Nashville & I missed Ashleys last show in Nashville. PLEASE COME BACK TO ZANIES ASHLEY!!! Seeing your show in person is on my bucket list.
The fact the Ashley doesn’t believe them that Alayna can’t see her or hear her 😂😂 I believe Alayna bc she usually giggles during bits when it is definitely a bit💀 love the pod !!
I am physically disabled, have chronic pain and mental illness stuff. Ashley, what u said abt needing to ‘prove’ ur disability in order to be have it taken seriously, is so fuckin real. I live in poverty and lately haven’t been able to afford both enough food & my pain medication. I tried having less of these things, and my body got dangerously sick. The long story short is that if I don’t get enough food and pain meds, I will get cancer in the next few years. When I told her this and asked her for some financial help, she said, ‘I really have to look out for me right now.’ Meaning she wants to save for retirement (6 years away). She has a great job, well-paid, lots of benefits. Even if she gave me hundreds of dollars a month, she would still have twice that leftover to save.
I think she won’t help me because she doesn’t really believe (or understand ?) that I’m disabled. Or if I am, she thinks all my disabilities are completely overcome-able and I just have to ‘work a little harder.’ I’ve been overexerting myself since Monday trying to get my basic needs met. She also said she would no longer give financial help. Ever again. I thought of arguments abt how paying for a funeral would be more expensive than helping me stay alive. Same with gas if she came to visit while I went thru chemo (she’s 5hrs away). But I’ll make it (I hope). I’m not gonna die to prove to her I’m disabled. I’m doing everything I can. I’m gonna make it through this year if it kills me.
Ashley will you by any chance be touring in Australia some day? Loved the episode Alayna, Ashley and Mak the Menace 💖
Gotta get on her text alerts and then you will know if she does as soon as you can 😊
@@nicoled4416 I really do! 😅
24:44 yes!!! To taking your days off!🙌
I don’t typically comment but I felt this was important enough.
I live in Virginia and I feel like there are more and more mosquitoes here every year. If less bugs is a sign of the apocalypse it’s not starting here.
Discovered this podcast through the shorts. Started watching the full episodes like a week ago and so happy to have caught up! It is so fun to hear you all joke around and encourage and inspire people. Excited to keep watching each week!
Also, would be so cool if any of you came to Hawai’i! 🤙🏽
Why settle with one of them, they could all go and make a podcat there, Ash could do a standup and then a meet and greet, of course Mak will sell the Menace merch too...
I was diagnosed with epilepsy about 6 months ago and your answers to the question hit me so hard I actually started crying. Thank you so much💗
Mak, you can get a screen that hangs/sticks in you doorway to help prevent flies from entering when you have the door open
“Cat-caging”
Ashley- I was at your Nashville show and I’m so glad you had a great time! You should be commemorated 💕
Congratulations on the picture on the wall of Zanies! This is huge.
with whgs on monday and chosen family on wednesday we need either alayna and mak to have a friday release podcast so we can have a full week of content
As a Seattle based fan, totally will meet you guys in Forks 😂 (and yes, I was at your show Ashley 🎉)
I love that Dani consistantly never calls the videos what Mak, Alayna and Ashley say she should
Happy pride month, everyone!!
Please come back to Seattle and I would absolutely drag all my friends out to see all of you!!!
oh my gosh this was a good one, ashley you look ESPECIALLY good today.
Listening to the Chosen Family Podcast should come with a warning: Side effects may include snorting, giggle, and a sore funny bone.
I just want to say, all three of y’all look so good today, like glowing and beautiful. I don’t know how to explain it but you all look happy ❤
Mak the Menace merch now plz!!!!! 😁 Also... thee Mak the Menace in me says absolutely NO to clam jam! As soon as you said it.. all of these really gross visuals came to my brain!!!!!😬😵💫 hahaha We can do so much better!!! Anyway... hope things get better for Mak... love to hear the school updates Alayna... and for Ashley.. it was sooo wonderful to see you in a better place this episode! Great seeing sweet Jen too!!!! Love you all.. and this was a such a heartwarming one with lots of laughter. Loved it!!! 🤗🥰 Cheers from Ontario, Canada 🍁
I appreciate when you look at the camera either at the same level or a little above eye level. Thanks!
As a chronic pain sufferer I’ve found my friends are great at understanding my limits and are not upset if I have to say no or change plans at the last minute. My family on the other hand struggle more with my condition. I think because our family always had a push through it mentality. In fact I’ve learnt that my chronic pain has actually been negatively impacted by me trying to push through my pain early on in my initial injury.
Ashley looking at her fingers silently and then decide thats her kock. Thats just great.
mak was very much much a MENACE this ep
I would love a Chosen Family Movie Night! Also why isn't 'bit blocking' for everyones Flimsy Bits!
Congratulations on the photo Zanies club wall🎉
And the Springfield Blue Room😉
Seeing Ashley so wife is the fucking cutest 😭😭😭
Mak thank you so much for bringing up mental issues from parents. I myself was bullied in school from grade school through high-school, and my parents just told me to deal with it. Thank you.
35:47 "Cock block is not a "life style", Dad, it's who I am!"
Thank y'all for discussing chronic illnesses so much, as someone with chronic migraines I really do appreciate it!
woahh this is the earliest you guys have done the intro for the podcast 😂 Loving the episode as always!
I love mak the menace 😂
Thank you guys so much for these regular episodes, I look forward to the week just because of this podcast ❤
That's one of my favourite things about my wife too- when she wakes up in the morning & sees me & smiles before she's even fully awake. It's so sincere ☺️
And yes Alayna was totally doing a bit at the start 😅
It's cliterference! 😂
This wins!!!!
That ad for the Patreon at the end was really good.
You’re very welcome Mak I hope your personal life gets better soon
Ashley is glowing today
I love this podcast. Ashley please come to Dallas!! ♥️
No dads were menaced during the making of this production 😅😂💜
As a Washington native I get so much entertainment out of y’all’s jokes about it 😭😭😭😭
Ashley’s hair looks so good
born and raised in seattle, none of us exist or have friends, we just eat coffee and rain and brood about rain and how dark and rainy it is while drinking coffee and gazing whistfully off into the distance wishing for more coffee
Great advice about being open about chronic medical condition with your friends and family. People who don’t have any health issues can’t understand what it’s like to have a body that doesn’t work all the time unless your honest about it or they see it first hand. It might be embarrassing or awkward to tell someone why you can’t do something but it’s always better to have an uncomfortable conversation than risk your health to keep up appearances. Great podcast by a great group of people and one menace. ❤
I recently found the pod, and I'm in love with it, I don't know how I'd watched all three of you guys for so long and not heard of it! It's been a week and I'm now fully caught up :D
Okay lol, so when Mak was talking about her fly problem, it reminded me of this bug vacuum I got a few years ago, and it's so helpful for getting flies safely out of my house alive!!! It's such a better alternative to swatting. Also it's really fun hunting the bugs with this thing. The one I have is called BugZooka
Alayna I'm glad school is going well!! I loved how excited you seemed about the things you were learning and everything involved with it
Keeping me company during chores thanks love the energy of the podcast always!
Ashley and Jen are just so cute!!!! ❤❤❤
Another comment! I think the person talking about being perceived as "lazy" could mean at work too, or at least that is what is happening to me right now, though I get it a lot from close family and friends, too. I wish I knew how to better combat this too, at least as far as work goes, because it is hard to explain especially when you might not have a clear or straightforward or even common diagnosis, for chronic and debilitating conditions that may be invisible to everyone else.
Omg love the new outro. Also this was just a hilarious episode! 😂😂 Would love to see/listen to a live taping of this pod when/if yall do it ever!
How are there already 33 episodes, keep ‘em coming!!