if 50% of india are forced to just think of marriage, adjusting to worthless marriage life and producing child and babysitting...toh kaise barega India!?!
@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน dude give feminists what they want.pump and dump them in their 20s .the wall will take care of the rest
Wonderful. I often feel marriage is horrible for woman who doesn’t feel connected with the man. It scares me and may be that is the reason i am still unmarried still at 32
@@AI-ji2sq no. It's a subjective matter.. Of you ask me.. I will say I want a sexless marriage.. Because Couples should have sex to Procreate a new life not for Recreation purpose..
@@AI-ji2sq It is the wife's duty to satisfy her husband sexually, but for that, he should be a strong, responsible man. He should work hard, earn money, and protect the family. If women do not find such a capable man, then they can stay single and die alone. A woman indulges in sex not because she needs sex but because she respects the man.
oh god.. I didn't know there is a word for my problem! i thought maybe i am just too scared to have it... was just randomly reading comments and saw that word and Googled it. it described me! 😭
True. They say s*x lies between the ears. There's a lot in the mind, including impressions during one's childhood or growing years, that can manifest in issues related to intimacy, not just coitus. Many men can't get it up due to stress though aetiology includes some medical conditions and medications.
In the past and to a certain extent even now, marriage has not been about pleasure or affection or love it has been about children, sharing resources and making strategic alliances to maintain wealth.
And yet it remains one of the most dominant forms of human relationship globally Founded on both a rational structure and emotional need of companionship...along with societal responsibility and offcourse societal pressures. Not ideal yet popular I suppose pleasure is a momentary sensation? Like pain or disgust? Affection well that's different. I don't see anything wrong with an alliance based on practicalities as long as the individuals maintain a healthy relationship and respect along with healthy emotional investment......
It's like a business arrangement. I told my husband this. When I hesitantly brought it up to a friend her advice was to just ignore it and go to work raise my kids. I miss having a connection with my husband though. 😕
@@a.l.a7901 If you don't mind me asking Is your husband disinterested? I haven't posed that question to you since you seem to be the one who wants to be actively involved Bad lifestyle choices including work induced stress kill libido faster than Bolt sprinting 100m .....although if asexual beings do exist and your husband is one of them then I cannot comprehend your situation and experience
@Prathamesh Adsul yes he does. He does all sorts of nice things for me. 10 years later he still holds my hand. He takes care of his family. He just isn't an intimate person. Never really has been. It was infrequent before children and now it's nonexistent. I try really hard to be positive about it. He is a good guy. I'm lucky to have him. Even if we don't quite match up.
@@nishaad771993 he isn't interested in anything sexual really. I can initiate and hint to it and it goes over his head. He doesn't understand. He eats well and we don't have a ton of stress. We have no money problems. We own our home. We have our health. We have good jobs with flexibility. He truly is asexual. His last ex left him due to this. I've stuck it out 10 years. Goodness it's tough. I remind myself often of all the good things about him. It helps. We are working on things. Scheduling time to be intimate so he knows it's the night. 🤣 He CAN function. And he does enjoy it when it happens. Like he isn't grossed out. He's just different
ITS A ONE SIDED STORY - IF A WOMAN IS IN SEX LESS MARRIAGE THEN ITS SIMPLE THAT EVEN THE MAN IS TOO - THE OTHER PART OF THE SAME MARRIAGE. IF YOU SAY, MALE HAS EXTRA MARITAL SATISFACTION THEN FEMALE TOO HAS IT. A PARTIAL VIEW
India wasn't always like this. There was a time when sex was seen as sacred. Look to Tantra for answers. In ancient times things were actually different, pre-colonization and pre- muslim invasions. This is the land of Kama Sutra after all.
I disagree. The foundation of marriage is respect if it's sex then you are better as an animal. In India wife is considered religious wife. Every pleasure has its own dismal end.
You ladies ought to lead the way. Bring out awareness about your feelings and what you want regardless of what men think or say. Revolutionise the fact that women are not pieces of furniture in the house!!!
Right. We are not there to adorn men, to make men feel good. We are not jewelry. We are humans and should have the same rights as men. This scares men. Then they would have to step up their game, examine themselves and actually maybe have to grow up. That, I think, is the problem.
I am married since last 35 yrs. My wife doesn't allows me to touch her due to religion. In the beginning of the marrige we use to have 300 times sex in a year. Now if she wants to change clothes she will tell me to get out of the room. This is very frustrating. At at the age of 57 years Feel fully energetic
Sir, I don't know whether you read this or not I think you are old and had sex all your youth now be religious and supportive and lead her in your spiritual life.
In India it is not easy to divorce the husband, my mother, me my sister are suffered with dad for 25 years. My mother fightes for the divorce but my dad managed the lawyers with his money not to get the divorce everyday is like a hell my mom, me and even my little sister got beaten by my worst and moron father. When I am doing the job i used to stay in hyd bcoz of sister education my mom and little sis used to stay with my father then I got to know he started Harrasing them like anything then I stood up take a decision and filed a case against my dad and shifted my family to hyd. No relatives supported us, and they used tell my mother to adjust or else I won't get married without a father. For a freaking marriage I don't want put my family in worst suitation I am doing job from 6 years and taken care of family sister education and everything. There are only few persons who supportes from family are my mamaji and his family. I recently got a match that idiotic relative of that boy asked questions to mother in a worst manner. I cancelled that match I am not dieing for marriage if I got a person who will understand me then I will do marriage or else I wont. If I really don't get married also no problem I want focus on my carrier, takecare of family and wants to adopt a kid.
You hv tkn a very wise nd best decision for ur fmly.. society nd relative cannot sail in ur boat. They don't knw hw ur shoe is biting u everytime u try agn.so, give them a damn... similarly a guy who cannot understand ur jrny with ur mom n dad painful life cannot lead happy fmly life with u...take loads of time to choose partner ,I'm nt saying u will not get good guy, bt it's hard to find them actually in India😂once u find them only opt marriage ..trust me..choosing wrong partner Makes your life hell evn if u r financially secure nd from good fmly...coz fmly is same everywhr which forces a girl to adjust always n run a bad wedding whole life by her one way/side sacrifices only..marriage is two way connection and bond..if u r in wedding whr u feel emptiness and restricted to choose ur choice or likes or meet ur fmly then it's Bttr to stay single whole life rather! Take care of urself nd ur fmly too..good luck👍😊
I am really glad that I came across this discussion...... Although I think that men also face the same issue. Its not just women. What if a woman is asexual and she is married just due to parental and society pressure? I mean obviously it would be a loveless, sexless marriage. In India, majority of the marriages are arranged.... So I think it will obviously be sexless, loveless. I dont understand why sex has to be so important in marriage? Why cant it be about 2 ppl taking care of each other, trusting each other, respecting each other. Basically what I am asking is - Is it wrong to be in a sexless, loveless marriage? Personally, I dont get excited at all hearing the word ' marriage' or 'relationship'.... Rather I get irritated and angry. I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life..... I can take care of myself and handle things on my own. I want to be financially independent and live life on my own terms. ' My life, my rules'
Yes, if you choose to remain celibate it is your life. However, the beauty of having a partner for life is the caring and sharing. Besides, the opposite gender adds spice to the living. As the saying goes "If you have lemon 🍋 make LEMONADE". I guarantee you when find the right spouse with whom you can tickle each other, tenderly smooch him/her and basically lose into each other's arms and legs, essentially blend into each life will take a different meaning. I sincerely pray 🙏 that each and everyone of you obtain the life of pleasure PLUS achievement.
I heard it completely, and now I conclude that English speaking couple have 80 percent sexless marriage, but to the contrary Hindi speaking couple have 80 percent excess sex.
U can't say it infront of a gynaecologist too..she starts smiling..may be they do not like the fact that the other person is know the term... And very well said "it is a porn educated patriarchal country"
Finding a younger gynac specialist or even just a younger obgyn helps. Most of them can be down to answer your questions without judgement. Of course not all doctors are made equally even in that but I have seen that the older obgyns are the ones who are most likely to be sometimes frustrated by their jobs and be very condescending or dismissive to women's plight and questions.
These ladies are knowledgeable. They know well what they're talking about. However, despite all the efforts of these great ladies it will take a long journey before women find a respectable position in the society thanks to the poor educational status and predominantly religious trends in the society.
@@mn1856 this discussion is what has offended ppl I was just laying down facts and giving an idea. Lekin knowing MRA ik you'll come here and just well vent ans spam and say shit. Hum aurat hai sir. Bus main travel bhi kisi ka haat lage bina nahi hota ye stupid comment main itni takat nahi ki offend kare
@@VerticalTV_ hum men hai madam galti se kisi aurat ko haath lag jaane k baad bhi jail ho jati hai. Humko pata hai madam hum men jaan ki kurbaaniya dete hai border pe. Humko pata hai sacrifice kya hota hai... Itne stupid se video jisko aaj kal k log problem bolte hai, humko pata hai humare problems k aage aise videos kuch bhi nahi.. Isiliye bola ki offend mat ho jaiega humare comment se nahi to hum mardon ko sidha jail jaana pad jaata hai na faltu mein.
@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน we don't want your seats keep them. We can stand. Keep your hands off us we are veey much happy standing
Marriage is about two souls finding a union. Respect, feeling connected and mutual trust are important pillars. Intimacy eventually develops and progresses to making love due to the closeness felt, both emotional and physical. The natural biological urge (also due to hormones released) plays its part. Intimacy helps bonding, is de-stressing and undoubtedly the most beautiful way of expression for humans. Sex, as opposed to making love, is for some an expression of animal instinct. Though women and men are built differently it is mutual adjustment that holds the key. There are sexless marriages which, if not out of choice for both spouses, end up in disaster. Marriage is work in progress all your life. Many battles start from the bed due to dissatisfaction. Or general dissatisfaction with the marriage ends up affecting intimacy between the couple. Though it can't be generalized men are thought to be more physical and women more emotional. It is the loving, caring, sharing and constant mutually adjustment that makes a relationship fulfilling.
I got a proposal from my sister's friend's relative...my mom told he is interested in marriage based only in friendship...I have asked for his number...my sister told it's the guy who should ask for your number.. not girl... even vr told that day it's should be the man who should ask woman. not other wise ...my question is why it is like that?? Why it's wrong that if a woman express her feelings???
My friend has been in a sexless marriage for close to a decade... Yes, her husband has not initiated physical intimacy for ten years now... This horrifying situation was brought to light when she couldn't bear it anymore... But what shocked me is that she normalised it for so many years... Not surprisingly, society also normalises this kind of marriage and makes it difficult for women to walk out... I also believe that women who stay in such marriages have some issues themselves - deep insecurities that have been unresolved... My friend continues to stay in the marriage, probably having made her 'peace' with the abnormal situation... I personally believe her husband is a closeted gay who has not come to terms with his own feelings...
Hey...it happens on both sides. I've been in a sexless marriage for 18 of 20 years..been 16 years now. I feel empty and a part of me wants to die. I'm a man in good shape but my life is f empty
Maybe he is asexual. My husband is. No sexual desire at all. We used to do it often 10 years ago. Now absolutely nothing. It's a killer on my confidence. We could go on vacation without kids and I could be standing there in the hotel room butt naked and he wouldn't think anything of it. And then I'm left embarrassed. Mortified. And wanting to die. I put on my pajamas and take a Valium and go to sleep. I told him today I want a divorce. I'm done. I love him but this is too hard on both of us. He deserves someone more like him or someone that can accept him like he is. I told him yesterday I couldn't promise celibacy forever. I miss having a connection. 😔
@UZI wy did he spoill her life??he should hv discussed abt his sexulality before the marriage itself. .Do u even undestand hw the society treats women if they don bare a child?? Even nw in some parts of india women will b blamed if they give birth to girl child... My answer would b same if the roles were reversed.
It is not so easy to take decision for everyone. Especially after becoming parent. We need to give equal importance to mental health of the child as much as physical health. We can't be so selfish about ourselves. We need to respect our child. Some times headache is better felt and can't be explained well.
So sad to see, so many butt hurt, whiny men in the comment section. Let the ladies have their moment and discussion. Stop making everything about yourselves.
No sex with husbands, but it doesn't mean these women don't sex outside their marriages. Most of Indian marriage are having affairs with young men outside their marriages.
5:15 That is so true. I often read the Sexpert section of the newspaper and grieve over some questions, thinking that "Have they never learnt about this in school?" Those questions make me realise how fearful are the lives of people who haven't had proper sexual education. They are scared to do literally anything. If something weird happens, which in reality is very common and healthy but they don't know, they start to fear if something goes wrong.
A good sex education in India would hopefully solve many of the issues... Including consent, emotions, confidence, etc. Unfortunately this concept hasn't been understood in India..... Even though Kamasutra originated from here. It's a paradox.
But honestly speaking,,,I DON'T WANT THIS SEX IN MY LIFE 🤞🤞🤞 I just want my two boys to grow up well n healthy... nothing else!!,I m very peaceful without sex...I m so irritated by it now,,🙌🙌
As a bachelor i think marriage is all about Love ,patience ,kind and forgiveness if this three qualities you wouldn't develop after or during the marriage i think it becomes disease....whether it is sexless or even in while sexual intimacy..as a Christian it may be some demonic problem or past lives or some family curse etc....well lastly keep praying....
I am staying in sexless Marrige... My wife only busy in pooja, paath and simran of Radha Swami Baba... My married life is totally finished.. What can I do... I have loosing my age of healthy sex and married life...
@Hasan Many men marry for the same reasons as well. Besides, most marriages are arranged. However, sex loses steam after a while in any partnership. The point being, is the couple willing to accept where they lack and work on intimacy. Or part ways and look for greener pastures. But time flows in only one direction and most couples have children. This conversation is from the perspective of women. Perhaps, marriage is meant to get stale after few years, that's its destiny.
@Hasan You are wrong there. There are plenty of other factors for men as well. Besides, women arent saying yes to men without meeting them a few times.
It s not only female men also suffer partner not put effort as physical or emotional level . Not every man want to go prostitute for completing need . socity want men live without sex. How it's biological possible.
Guys ...there are both asexual and sexual people and we must talk about it before marriage ... it's not gender issue but this channel is she ... about women problems ...
Rightly addressed. As men are testosterone driven so it's not easy for them to live without sex. Women are always manipulative since from the begining. They r having issues from inception
I am so glad that you are doing this story. It is about time! Women in India deserve better. I have lived here for 17 years and while I love the culture, the repression of women is something I find so difficult to digest. I am doing similar work, working with the sacred path of Tantra to empower and uplift women in all aspects of their lives, including sexuality of course, as it's such an essential part of life and relationships. After all we come from sex! Love is the source of it all... women must learn to love themselves first and then create the lives that reflect that self-love. If you are interested to have a conversation some time on this topic I would be happy to contribute.
Sorry I just stumbled on this..... not to interfere in your sisterhood but I have a simple answer..... stop looking for the ideal partner..... start being one.....
Very Good 👍😊 Topic. Not Only in India. But In JAMAICA, Trinidad and All Over the World. It is a Very Serious Problem with Women in Loveless Marriage. Very Serious Problem 👌
Most of the women who are working are overburdened with work and household responsibilities....that sexual life takes a back seat....moreover midlife crisis. e....menopause......makes them automatically move away from acknowledging....physical pleasures in a marriage....over the period of time...
If your husband or wife doesn't initiate *YOU* initiate and ask them what is wrong and how can we fix them. Most of the time they are tired by one sided effort and think that the other person don't like it but doesn't say anything. If you are the person with that one sided effort go and talk remember you had the advantage of taking responsibility previously. This won't be a smooth conversation but an important conversation.
Rofl . As if u guys dont hv any priorities while getting married 1. Fair, slim, good looking, age( mandatory.. Guys look fr super bful women n ltr cry abt feminism) 2. Property( priority of all guys n thr family.. Shamelessly ask fr dowry in 2021. If girls do the samething, den dey r called gold diggers) 3. How many siblings? 4. Education 5. Career oriented 6 family back ground 7. Who can look after his parents Etc etc If women cant conceive, guys easily divorce her.. If its vice versa den wife should stay wd husband...
@@yoginagowda7410 I don't agree with the post above. But yours is far worse. Every single one of the points you listed is also something women look for. "Shamelessly ask for dowry"? Lmao if y'all actually get equal shares by not letting your male siblings rip you off, no one gives a shit about "dowry" (Atleast in the literate, progressive families). Instead the man (if he's an only son) gets fleeced by having to provide for you with his family's hard earned money while also being at massive risk due to the extreme bias towards women in marriage laws. Spare me your false sense of morality lol.
Even some more reasons r there for a women to stuck with a unhappy marriage.. 1. Societal fear 2. Emotional blackmails 3. Prioritising other needs like financial stability, family background n many more 4. A popular phrase "sex is not everything"🤦🏻♀️ 5. Women considered as slut of she talk about sex... Many more reasons are there...
@Prathamesh Adsul listen brother being a man is itself an advantage for you, u can never even imagine what women go through with.. all men talk about the topic very casually as If these are not at all issue to think about. And keep telling us to accept things as it comes in the name our protection. It's better men can educate themselves about the existence of a women is equally important and needs as men.
@Precious Moment so concluding your message is "a women can't talk or discuss anything that's related to sex but she can survive with only love and care right". Then what's the need marry some one if you are looking for love and care? That your your parents have also gave you right? Then y to marry? Their is reason to a MARRIAGE! Having a partner is not just being beside some one(that a friend can also do) but sharing your every emotion and feeling can be done with your partner only. Yes sex is not everything but it's a unavoidable need of every living thing!! But my question was If a man can talk about it then why can't a women can??????????? Leave it you don't understand it.. You MEN still be hippocrates and try to make Women to compromise what she will be served..
Well I think society has to grow with the thinking marriage should be a beautiful relationship of frndship , love, respect n trust without 1 single element it will not work properly
The discussion is on how to reject marriage for the sake of sex! Sex and emotional bonding is same? Beyond sex there are many aspect on the basis of which couples are happily living together within the system of marriage. How could you disregard them?
Actually marriage concept should be removed from Society. Everybody should live indivisual. Achieve their dream. Live in same minded community...keep happy relatoinship with anybody you want. Then this blame game of wife blaming husband.. Husband blaming wife will go..feminine..Musculine these things will go. Everybody will live equal and happily. Crores of divorse cases will never exists.
Wanted to be a part of discussion. So, financial independence is the most important factor that helps in maintaining a relationship like this. India is a country where marriage is not a neccessity it's an act of just getting rid of the girl child that too honourably. Hardly families rejoice the girl marriage. Whether it's dowry or poor family conditions most marriages are done on the girls behalf that she will be compromising and eventually everything will workout. So girls feel they have to be a part of sexless marriage because they are expected to live in any condition. Another thing is, the reason of sexless marriage. It's a physical problem, a mental problem or some other relationship that is leading to such situations. Every aspect is curable. But it is no point of discussing things among girls only. Boys or men who are equally responsible should be a part of this discussion.
13:59 the exact answer my mom gave me when I asked what if I don't marry?? So she was like in India you can't have casual sex without marriage,log kya kahenge?? License to sex, that is what it is.
@Hasan excuse me??what are you on??do you live in another world??casual sex? in India?? Plsss And you are saying it opposite,no matter how the boy looks or how his personality is,if he earns well he'll get a woman easily,whereas women have to stay slim,stay in limits dress properly, should cook,clean, do this do that to fit societal standards and are most criticized for how they look!! No matter how much they earn or do something great, it doesn't matter! I know men have their own pressures but you have to accept,it's more for women especially in India!! And if somebody does have it,she is instantly labelled as impure,whore,slut, etc...the image of pureness to virginity of women is so ingrained,that ppl will criticize women who aren't
What 70-80% really?? If the value is really such high then how come the population has reached to 130crore. It's all about how you please your partner and keep their desire. It's all about awareness of self-need and respect. And meanwhile a true relationship doesn't rely on SEX.
Sexless marriage !!! You know what that means right?? ..you can have kids and still have sexless marriage ..and for a very sexual person sex is very very important ..if you think sex isn't important but your partner thinks ..you need to talk about it before getting married and decide for yourself ..
Sex is important as oxygen for people like me i am hypersexual i need sex 5-6 times a day so depend on people I see sex as most important thing in relationship/marraige
@@abhijeet4799 I am talking about different sex drives ...some people are just more sexual ....some are not that sexual .. you can have 4 kids and still not very sexual 😂 .. that's probably what I meant .. it's one year old comment so 🤣
You should have some male panelist in this discussion. It's like you are simply making an agenda with only one side of a coin. If you wanted a balanced discussion the other side of the coin is also to be seen. Where women don't talk about sex??? Which age are you living???
No, but I think she means she was married for a long time before having a kid. Society and family start expecting children as soon as marriage completes 1 year. I have seen my own family members gossipiing about other couples who have been married for more than 2 years and have no kids yet.
Exactly lol, I was wondering same. It goes for both the sides but guess what they want to show only the side where a women is vulnerable not men. Lol these are actually the type of content that brings gaps between genders.
See most of the girls consider that sex means for enjoyment and if we boys speak about this subject girls consider boys as very bad people but according to medical terms sex helps both boys and girls to maintain a good health and lots of health benefits are there for the partners if they involve in regular sex and it is also a part of married life and why the partners should be with each other because both will be involved together and a strong bonding will be with each other as partner
70-80% sexless seems too high. I mean there are 1.4 billion Indians. How exactly does this happen. I think in india space is also an issue. Hard to have sex in a small home in a joint family. There’s no privacy.
I am man here watching the vedio .. arrange marraige is nothing but aggrement between two people .... that is not love...but after some days month we start liking loving the person .... we learn and understand how to love anyone in any situation...then you are good understanding person ... life is always black and white... there is need to understand life more better and accept the truth of life.. i hope you guys are talking about arrange marraige not love one .. if its love marraige then both person must compromise ....because both have done mutual aggrement and promise to each other.. but problem is that everyone now want to live single life because now situation are changing girl can choose with whom they want sex ..and to be in relationship ... that is not love that sex.. we all must understand love always have sacrifice for our patner.. if anyone have tendency to not sacrifice for your patner and priortize yourself first .. then living relationship is good choice for them..because marraige is not good option......if you are selfmade independent women you have full right do what you want...but i will request dont do marriage because your priortize sex and not love....marraige is not good option marraige is for love and sacrifice for our patner....marriage is not for sex..
If you think you are asexual or have no sexual desire start exercising both of you the desire will automatically manifest itself. Regardless of gender you need to force not emotional blackmail. Only you can fix your life.
Seriously why is only women’s point of view is taken always? No one talks about what a man goes through, I am the real life example and more like me I know, I have been living sexless life for 18 years still taking care of family and all the things he comes along with wife and her wilderness😩, can you please pay little attention to men as well and find out what’s happening in their world? Please please
I empathize with you for what you have been through but it's a discussion about women...I have no problem in listening to a guy's perspective but it can be done seperately
Nobody cares for you bro.. If you speak you will be slapped with 498A, domestic violence and what not. And feminist will then say that marriage is not about sex and you will be charged with unnatural sex for even asking. These are feminist or leftist radicals. What more can you expect. Simple
bro why are u so badly against sex if someone and their partner wantsto get married and have sex what so wrong with it , you woudnt be born without sex too
My wife does not give me sex. I dont give her my interest or time. We are on a pathway to divorce. We have a daughter who is 5 years old. I would rather invest my time in learning and making money 😂. We live like room mates and act like a couple in front of friends and family. Our young daughter knows something is not right between us but accepts it
yeah marriage is not for everyone !! we men either don't want to stuck in marriage too 👍 India has a huge population and I don't want to let suffer my next generation in this mess
Ye India hai... yaha per ek nahi bahot saare pressures hai females pe... aur chalo ek aisi marriage se bahar aa bhi jaye koi to 2sri marriage sahi ho ye to jarrori nahi...aur agar single reh ke aap partner dhoondhte ho to 1 nahi 1000 milenge per last mein aapko hi galat bata ke chale jayenge... respect bhi jayegi society mein so alag... man mentally here in India is different.. so if someone wants happy peaceful life then stay in one marriage with or without... or stay single gracefully...haa vo baat alag hai if u r lucky to koi aachi sahi soch ka true love wala band mil jaye to.. per aise men kum hai society mein ... aur divorce dadh gaye..hai.. to personal life to hamper hogi hi..per better hai..peacefully jeena har kisi se istemal hone se lakh lakh guna aacha hai... n u don't know insaan ke face pe to likha nahi hota hai.. ke vo kaisa hai....
@Prathamesh Adsul yes sir absolutely right.. but where only one side is dominant always n even if the other one is on very much right way n she or he has to compromise n get insulted all the time... what will the person do..I personally feel like blood relation we have to adjust with them we can adjust here too...but many people choose divorce... what to do... it's their personal choice
@@anityaworld1172 Jarur rakhenge ji Par thank u for ur wish. Bhagwan bholenath ji ek din jarur milayenge achhe insaan se I am optimistic abt that but I m not in hurry even @ 27
Guys! Women can live lot longer without sex compared to men who just resort to paying a hooker after a long dry spell - that desperate men can become when not getting sex. These women are simply married to men they aren't attracted to but like the "luxury" and things that come attached with the marriage, they've not married the man but the things that come with him, so naturally they don't feel like having sex with their husbands. In short, don't marry a woman who just want things that you're to offer and who doesn't feel attracted to you. If she's attracted to you, she will make efforts for you, she will initiate more etc...etc... don't feel trapped by women seeking luxuries.
Make them life hell by not hearing anything, no spending on them. Simply saying go and get a job for u and house will be run with both of us equally contribute
Good and open communication between the partners. Men not finding partners attractive. No sexual chemistry between the partners because of arranged marriage etc.
I personally, okay with Sexless marriage. Because I strongly believe --> *Sex is for Procreation (creating new life) instead of Recreation (Fun)* Sex ≠ Love in any shape or form 😒
But for men it is not okay. Stay single. It is the wife's duty to satisfy her husband sexually, but for that, he should be a strong, responsible man. He should work hard, earn money, and protect the family. If women do not find such a capable man, then they can stay single and die alone. A woman should indulge in sex not because of her sexual needs but because she respects her husband.
@@returnofkings1442damn..... I just felt like I'm living in the last century after reading your comment. All your pints about being strong and making money can also be done by a female. And again it's not only a female's job to satisfy her husband it's also the husband's job to do the same to his wife.
@@baghyasrib6929 So, you marry weak and unemployed man. Men don't have any problem marrying unemployed women. They prefer young, beautiful and feminine women over women's degree or job.
As long as you inform your man about your stance and he's cool with it, that's okay. Some couples don't have this discussion and end up being thoroughly unsatisfied.
It's funny how this is titled "Why women stay in sexless marriages"🤔😂 You act like it's always the husbands who don't give sex when it's the other way round.🤷🏻♂️ Funny but not surprising coming from Shethepeople.👀
@@saylip2674 well I would only reference "real feminism" if it had any place in a modern feminists's life and social activism. 2nd wave feminism is unfortunately outdated by their standards and no longer their priority.🤷🏻♂️
@Krishnkant Singh Educate yourself more thoroughly of what today's feminism stands for and if you don't see anything wrong with it then sorry to say but you're the latest impressionable young victim of this highly toxic disease or even worse you're already indoctrinatinated.😪
One survey… how many people were surveyed? Men ? Women? Age? Urban population? Rural where is this 70% magic number coming from ? Vulva Vagina is not ‘dinner’ table conversation in ANY country🙏you women brought up good topic but your message is convoluted! TEACH your daughters to understand what pleasure means to you and it’s give and take and communicate without offending your partner !
if 50% of india are forced to just think of marriage, adjusting to worthless marriage life and producing child and babysitting...toh kaise barega India!?!
@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน dude give feminists what they want.pump and dump them in their 20s .the wall will take care of the rest
@@sahadevswain3078 Well said buddy!!! ✌️😂
Wonderful. I often feel marriage is horrible for woman who doesn’t feel connected with the man. It scares me and may be that is the reason i am still unmarried still at 32
Do women need regular sex in marriage?
@@AI-ji2sq no. It's a subjective matter..
Of you ask me.. I will say I want a sexless marriage.. Because Couples should have sex to Procreate a new life not for Recreation purpose..
@@AI-ji2sq yes they need. We are not machines to produce babies 👹👹👹👹.
@@AI-ji2sq It is the wife's duty to satisfy her husband sexually, but for that, he should be a strong, responsible man. He should work hard, earn money, and protect the family. If women do not find such a capable man, then they can stay single and die alone. A woman indulges in sex not because she needs sex but because she respects the man.
Iam 32 also still Unmarried...
There are also real issues like vaginismus which need to be identified addressed and treated Thank you girls for starting these important talks
Yes! I learnt about it after watching a web series surprisingly.. :D
oh god.. I didn't know there is a word for my problem! i thought maybe i am just too scared to have it... was just randomly reading comments and saw that word and Googled it. it described me! 😭
True. They say s*x lies between the ears. There's a lot in the mind, including impressions during one's childhood or growing years, that can manifest in issues related to intimacy, not just coitus. Many men can't get it up due to stress though aetiology includes some medical conditions and medications.
Girls with any health issues should openly disclose it to her partner.
In the past and to a certain extent even now, marriage has not been about pleasure or affection or love it has been about children, sharing resources and making strategic alliances to maintain wealth.
And yet it remains one of the most dominant forms of human relationship globally
Founded on both a rational structure and emotional need of companionship...along with societal responsibility and offcourse societal pressures. Not ideal yet popular
I suppose pleasure is a momentary sensation? Like pain or disgust?
Affection well that's different.
I don't see anything wrong with an alliance based on practicalities as long as the individuals maintain a healthy relationship and respect along with healthy emotional investment......
It's like a business arrangement. I told my husband this. When I hesitantly brought it up to a friend her advice was to just ignore it and go to work raise my kids. I miss having a connection with my husband though. 😕
@@a.l.a7901
If you don't mind me asking
Is your husband disinterested? I haven't posed that question to you since you seem to be the one who wants to be actively involved
Bad lifestyle choices including work induced stress kill libido faster than Bolt sprinting 100m .....although if asexual beings do exist and your husband is one of them then I cannot comprehend your situation and experience
@Prathamesh Adsul yes he does. He does all sorts of nice things for me. 10 years later he still holds my hand. He takes care of his family. He just isn't an intimate person. Never really has been. It was infrequent before children and now it's nonexistent. I try really hard to be positive about it. He is a good guy. I'm lucky to have him. Even if we don't quite match up.
@@nishaad771993 he isn't interested in anything sexual really. I can initiate and hint to it and it goes over his head. He doesn't understand. He eats well and we don't have a ton of stress. We have no money problems. We own our home. We have our health. We have good jobs with flexibility. He truly is asexual. His last ex left him due to this. I've stuck it out 10 years. Goodness it's tough. I remind myself often of all the good things about him. It helps. We are working on things. Scheduling time to be intimate so he knows it's the night. 🤣 He CAN function. And he does enjoy it when it happens. Like he isn't grossed out. He's just different
ITS A ONE SIDED STORY - IF A WOMAN IS IN SEX LESS MARRIAGE THEN ITS SIMPLE THAT EVEN THE MAN IS TOO - THE OTHER PART OF THE SAME MARRIAGE.
IF YOU SAY, MALE HAS EXTRA MARITAL SATISFACTION THEN FEMALE TOO HAS IT.
A PARTIAL VIEW
India wasn't always like this. There was a time when sex was seen as sacred. Look to Tantra for answers. In ancient times things were actually different, pre-colonization and pre- muslim invasions. This is the land of Kama Sutra after all.
You are absolutely correct
I disagree. The foundation of marriage is respect if it's sex then you are better as an animal. In India wife is considered religious wife. Every pleasure has its own dismal end.
@@cityofjoy8830 the foundation of any relationship is friendship not respect.
Marriage should be banned
This should be seen as a serious #HealthIssue!
That can stop violence on women, empowerment, divorce, rapes and many social issues.
You ladies ought to lead the way. Bring out awareness about your feelings and what you want regardless of what men think or say. Revolutionise the fact that women are not pieces of furniture in the house!!!
Right. We are not there to adorn men, to make men feel good. We are not jewelry. We are humans and should have the same rights as men. This scares men. Then they would have to step up their game, examine themselves and actually maybe have to grow up. That, I think, is the problem.
I am married since last 35 yrs.
My wife doesn't allows me to touch her due to religion.
In the beginning of the marrige we use to have 300 times sex in a year.
Now if she wants to change clothes she will tell me to get out of the room.
This is very frustrating.
At at the age of 57 years Feel fully energetic
What religion is she
@@sparkled6547 jain
@@rashid6437 certainly not Jain 🙃
Divorce her.
Sir, I don't know whether you read this or not I think you are old and had sex all your youth now be religious and supportive and lead her in your spiritual life.
Why get married in the first place, if you're not going to love and meet your wifes physical, emotional, and even financial needs, and vise versa.
In India it is not easy to divorce the husband, my mother, me my sister are suffered with dad for 25 years. My mother fightes for the divorce but my dad managed the lawyers with his money not to get the divorce everyday is like a hell my mom, me and even my little sister got beaten by my worst and moron father. When I am doing the job i used to stay in hyd bcoz of sister education my mom and little sis used to stay with my father then I got to know he started Harrasing them like anything then I stood up take a decision and filed a case against my dad and shifted my family to hyd. No relatives supported us, and they used tell my mother to adjust or else I won't get married without a father. For a freaking marriage I don't want put my family in worst suitation I am doing job from 6 years and taken care of family sister education and everything. There are only few persons who supportes from family are my mamaji and his family. I recently got a match that idiotic relative of that boy asked questions to mother in a worst manner. I cancelled that match I am not dieing for marriage if I got a person who will understand me then I will do marriage or else I wont. If I really don't get married also no problem I want focus on my carrier, takecare of family and wants to adopt a kid.
You hv tkn a very wise nd best decision for ur fmly.. society nd relative cannot sail in ur boat. They don't knw hw ur shoe is biting u everytime u try agn.so, give them a damn... similarly a guy who cannot understand ur jrny with ur mom n dad painful life cannot lead happy fmly life with u...take loads of time to choose partner ,I'm nt saying u will not get good guy, bt it's hard to find them actually in India😂once u find them only opt marriage ..trust me..choosing wrong partner Makes your life hell evn if u r financially secure nd from good fmly...coz fmly is same everywhr which forces a girl to adjust always n run a bad wedding whole life by her one way/side sacrifices only..marriage is two way connection and bond..if u r in wedding whr u feel emptiness and restricted to choose ur choice or likes or meet ur fmly then it's Bttr to stay single whole life rather!
Take care of urself nd ur fmly too..good luck👍😊
Woww good for you hero I am so sorry what happened in the past but you did great job 👍❤️
I think we should about men too. They are going through the same. Why it is always about women only.
Bas kar yaar rula degi kya 😅
Thank you! Finally someone and a girl(which is more imp., looking at the crowd in this video xD) said it.
Thank you so much mam.
Guys. She is the woman. We finally found her. Protect her at all costs !!!!
Thank you
I am really glad that I came across this discussion...... Although I think that men also face the same issue. Its not just women.
What if a woman is asexual and she is married just due to parental and society pressure? I mean obviously it would be a loveless, sexless marriage. In India, majority of the marriages are arranged.... So I think it will obviously be sexless, loveless. I dont understand why sex has to be so important in marriage? Why cant it be about 2 ppl taking care of each other, trusting each other, respecting each other. Basically what I am asking is - Is it wrong to be in a sexless, loveless marriage?
Personally, I dont get excited at all hearing the word ' marriage' or 'relationship'.... Rather I get irritated and angry. I'd rather stay single for the rest of my life..... I can take care of myself and handle things on my own. I want to be financially independent and live life on my own terms.
' My life, my rules'
Yes, if you choose to remain celibate it is your life. However, the beauty of having a partner for life is the caring and sharing. Besides, the opposite gender adds spice to the living. As the saying goes "If you have lemon 🍋 make LEMONADE". I guarantee you when find the right spouse with whom you can tickle each other, tenderly smooch him/her and basically lose into each other's arms and legs, essentially blend into each life will take a different meaning. I sincerely pray 🙏 that each and everyone of you obtain the life of pleasure PLUS achievement.
If you are asexual then you should probably be with a asexual person and not with sexual person and expect him to turn asexual for you
Actually you have a choice but probably the best is live life of.a HERMIT or dedicate to a Monastery. In marriage there is need for bonding and love.
yeah
what you described, is called being "asexual"
Ohh my gosh,I am lucky I could see this discussion 😌
I heard it completely, and now I conclude that English speaking couple have 80 percent sexless marriage, but to the contrary Hindi speaking couple have 80 percent excess sex.
What do you conclude about Russian or marathi speaking couples ?
No hate. Just curious 😂😂
@@ArchanBiswas Marathi people are interested in sex they can enjoy 3 times in a day😂
😂@@ArchanBiswas
U can't say it infront of a gynaecologist too..she starts smiling..may be they do not like the fact that the other person is know the term... And very well said "it is a porn educated patriarchal country"
Finding a younger gynac specialist or even just a younger obgyn helps. Most of them can be down to answer your questions without judgement. Of course not all doctors are made equally even in that but I have seen that the older obgyns are the ones who are most likely to be sometimes frustrated by their jobs and be very condescending or dismissive to women's plight and questions.
Yes. Porn acts as a catalyst in the messed up gender dynamics of the society. Porn ruins things in patriarchy further.
Thank you people for talking and making women aware of all these before getting stuck somewhere unknowingly.
These ladies are knowledgeable. They know well what they're talking about. However, despite all the efforts of these great ladies it will take a long journey before women find a respectable position in the society thanks to the poor educational status and predominantly religious trends in the society.
@@bhijit184 Certainly, but shouldn't we level up our comparison ?
60 to 80%!? Seriously!? Sexless, appreciationless? Something is mighty wrong.
It’s true
How they got this data, it's their fantasy
This channel is for women. So the men complaining plz get a break and conduct such a discussion yourself or ask some MRA group
Equality .......!!!!!!!
We can come. You don't have any rights per se on this channel or comment section. xD
Ohh I'm sorry did I offend you in some way or the other. 😂
@@mn1856 this discussion is what has offended ppl I was just laying down facts and giving an idea. Lekin knowing MRA ik you'll come here and just well vent ans spam and say shit. Hum aurat hai sir. Bus main travel bhi kisi ka haat lage bina nahi hota ye stupid comment main itni takat nahi ki offend kare
@@VerticalTV_ hum men hai madam galti se kisi aurat ko haath lag jaane k baad bhi jail ho jati hai. Humko pata hai madam hum men jaan ki kurbaaniya dete hai border pe. Humko pata hai sacrifice kya hota hai... Itne stupid se video jisko aaj kal k log problem bolte hai, humko pata hai humare problems k aage aise videos kuch bhi nahi.. Isiliye bola ki offend mat ho jaiega humare comment se nahi to hum mardon ko sidha jail jaana pad jaata hai na faltu mein.
@อาร์ทิมิส อะโฟรไดท์ ไดโอนีซอส ซุส เฮร่า อพอลโล โพไซดอน we don't want your seats keep them. We can stand. Keep your hands off us we are veey much happy standing
I broke up with my ex gf because she wasn't giving me s3x. Hope nobody is offended.
You did right buddy. I wish I had done this before I got married. It ruined my life.
Marriage is about two souls finding a union. Respect, feeling connected and mutual trust are important pillars. Intimacy eventually develops and progresses to making love due to the closeness felt, both emotional and physical. The natural biological urge (also due to hormones released) plays its part. Intimacy helps bonding, is de-stressing and undoubtedly the most beautiful way of expression for humans. Sex, as opposed to making love, is for some an expression of animal instinct. Though women and men are built differently it is mutual adjustment that holds the key. There are sexless marriages which, if not out of choice for both spouses, end up in disaster. Marriage is work in progress all your life. Many battles start from the bed due to dissatisfaction. Or general dissatisfaction with the marriage ends up affecting intimacy between the couple. Though it can't be generalized men are thought to be more physical and women more emotional. It is the loving, caring, sharing and constant mutually adjustment that makes a relationship fulfilling.
Hmm
I am glad this channel is here 🥳
Means
Simply I will say
Thank you 🤗
@@milimathpal8684 😅
India shamed to talk sex topics but population is increasing rapidly 😂
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Wonderful discussion. I wish I had such discussion with someone before my marriage itself ..
Really? I have been trying to get a girl and sexual preference if my priority but they leave when I talk about it.
I got a proposal from my sister's friend's relative...my mom told he is interested in marriage based only in friendship...I have asked for his number...my sister told it's the guy who should ask for your number.. not girl... even vr told that day it's should be the man who should ask woman. not other wise ...my question is why it is like that?? Why it's wrong that if a woman express her feelings???
My friend has been in a sexless marriage for close to a decade... Yes, her husband has not initiated physical intimacy for ten years now... This horrifying situation was brought to light when she couldn't bear it anymore... But what shocked me is that she normalised it for so many years... Not surprisingly, society also normalises this kind of marriage and makes it difficult for women to walk out... I also believe that women who stay in such marriages have some issues themselves - deep insecurities that have been unresolved... My friend continues to stay in the marriage, probably having made her 'peace' with the abnormal situation... I personally believe her husband is a closeted gay who has not come to terms with his own feelings...
If it was vice versa am pretty sure by this time her husb would hv married other lady.. Shame on him..
Hey...it happens on both sides. I've been in a sexless marriage for 18 of 20 years..been 16 years now. I feel empty and a part of me wants to die. I'm a man in good shape but my life is f empty
Maybe he is asexual. My husband is. No sexual desire at all. We used to do it often 10 years ago. Now absolutely nothing. It's a killer on my confidence.
We could go on vacation without kids and I could be standing there in the hotel room butt naked and he wouldn't think anything of it. And then I'm left embarrassed. Mortified. And wanting to die. I put on my pajamas and take a Valium and go to sleep. I told him today I want a divorce. I'm done. I love him but this is too hard on both of us. He deserves someone more like him or someone that can accept him like he is. I told him yesterday I couldn't promise celibacy forever. I miss having a connection. 😔
@UZI wy did he spoill her life??he should hv discussed abt his sexulality before the marriage itself. .Do u even undestand hw the society treats women if they don bare a child?? Even nw in some parts of india women will b blamed if they give birth to girl child... My answer would b same if the roles were reversed.
That's seriously horrible situation
It is not so easy to take decision for everyone. Especially after becoming parent. We need to give equal importance to mental health of the child as much as physical health. We can't be so selfish about ourselves. We need to respect our child. Some times headache is better felt and can't be explained well.
So sad to see, so many butt hurt, whiny men in the comment section. Let the ladies have their moment and discussion. Stop making everything about yourselves.
Most of the comments by girls are shaming these women
No sex with husbands, but it doesn't mean these women don't sex outside their marriages. Most of Indian marriage are having affairs with young men outside their marriages.
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5:15 That is so true. I often read the Sexpert section of the newspaper and grieve over some questions, thinking that "Have they never learnt about this in school?" Those questions make me realise how fearful are the lives of people who haven't had proper sexual education. They are scared to do literally anything. If something weird happens, which in reality is very common and healthy but they don't know, they start to fear if something goes wrong.
A good sex education in India would hopefully solve many of the issues... Including consent, emotions, confidence, etc.
Unfortunately this concept hasn't been understood in India..... Even though Kamasutra originated from here. It's a paradox.
I don't see the point of staying married if the sex is absent or not fun.
@@sunnyahuja9055 Exactly 👍👍👍
@@sunnyahuja9055 Obviously but if the sex is not satisfying are you going to resign your life to dull or none, that would be strange and stupid.
@Mamta Sharma Your statement has no relevance. I didn't say which party was the cause.
@@KS-cl8br nah... Ever heard about asexuals they would love to have a romantic life with their couple without any sex 🤷🏻♀️
@@bhavyjyotisharma3642 Who would want to marry an asexual.
But honestly speaking,,,I DON'T WANT THIS SEX IN MY LIFE 🤞🤞🤞 I just want my two boys to grow up well n healthy... nothing else!!,I m very peaceful without sex...I m so irritated by it now,,🙌🙌
True after certain time with out emotional connection its irritating 😆
@@sheelanair6753 it's like k I m fed up of this,,abb to bas bache aur ghar dikhta h bas.
It depends on ur partner, Agar dono ki chemistry same ho to 24 hours and 7 days a week sex ka hi dil krta hai
U women have child is your top priority. What about your husband needs and your responsibility towards them.
this is such an important topic omg! nobody wants to admit this. arranged marriages have nothing for women. not even sex in most cases.
As a bachelor i think marriage is all about Love ,patience ,kind and forgiveness if this three qualities you wouldn't develop after or during the marriage i think it becomes disease....whether it is sexless or even in while sexual intimacy..as a Christian it may be some demonic problem or past lives or some family curse etc....well lastly keep praying....
Amazing content!! Go ahead
I am staying in sexless Marrige... My wife only busy in pooja, paath and simran of Radha Swami Baba... My married life is totally finished.. What can I do... I have loosing my age of healthy sex and married life...
May I have a link to the survey confirming 80% marriages in India are devoid of mutual pleasure, please?
Yes please #sheteam , shut these haters down
@@jaspreetkaur9575 I'm just curious to know if Indian bedrooms is a tragedy.
@@jaspreetkaur9575 it will be manipulated statistics to prove their point. 🤷🏽♀️
@Hasan Many men marry for the same reasons as well. Besides, most marriages are arranged.
However, sex loses steam after a while in any partnership. The point being, is the couple willing to accept where they lack and work on intimacy. Or part ways and look for greener pastures. But time flows in only one direction and most couples have children.
This conversation is from the perspective of women. Perhaps, marriage is meant to get stale after few years, that's its destiny.
@Hasan You are wrong there. There are plenty of other factors for men as well.
Besides, women arent saying yes to men without meeting them a few times.
In our adolescent if we spoke a word about sex, a frying pan would be hurling towards us.
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It s not only female men also suffer partner not put effort as physical or emotional level . Not every man want to go prostitute for completing need . socity want men live without sex. How it's biological possible.
The requisite not all men comment 🙄
@@priyankan7604 what did you just say? Lol really?
Guys ...there are both asexual and sexual people and we must talk about it before marriage ... it's not gender issue but this channel is she ... about women problems ...
Rightly addressed. As men are testosterone driven so it's not easy for them to live without sex. Women are always manipulative since from the begining. They r having issues from inception
I am so glad that you are doing this story. It is about time! Women in India deserve better. I have lived here for 17 years and while I love the culture, the repression of women is something I find so difficult to digest. I am doing similar work, working with the sacred path of Tantra to empower and uplift women in all aspects of their lives, including sexuality of course, as it's such an essential part of life and relationships. After all we come from sex! Love is the source of it all... women must learn to love themselves first and then create the lives that reflect that self-love. If you are interested to have a conversation some time on this topic I would be happy to contribute.
Both women and men are repressed you fool. We are a developing country so it's bad for both the gender. Stop this one side victim agenda bullshit.
Sorry I just stumbled on this..... not to interfere in your sisterhood but I have a simple answer..... stop looking for the ideal partner..... start being one.....
Thankyou for your advice. All women will definitely look at this one.
What exactly is your idea of an ideal partner ?
@@jaiku99 start being one the like you want your partner to be....
Good advice. If everyone follows it at least half of the problems will go away.👍
@@sheffalisharma5718 I don't think so.
Very Good 👍😊 Topic. Not Only in India. But In JAMAICA, Trinidad and All Over the World. It is a Very Serious Problem with Women in Loveless Marriage. Very Serious Problem 👌
Glad this channel exists !! ❤️ Open and informative .
How often sex should be done and how long should sex last to satisfy a woman?
This is the true form of a Feminist Picture.
Lovely Content Strong Topic. Looking forward for more 👍👍👍
Most of the women who are working are overburdened with work and household responsibilities....that sexual life takes a back seat....moreover midlife crisis. e....menopause......makes them automatically move away from acknowledging....physical pleasures in a marriage....over the period of time...
What about men?
@@iampigoinkoink5185 they don't age as per anil Rofl
@@yoginagowda7410 yeah they are immortals ..how can they age 😂
If your husband or wife doesn't initiate *YOU* initiate and ask them what is wrong and how can we fix them.
Most of the time they are tired by one sided effort and think that the other person don't like it but doesn't say anything.
If you are the person with that one sided effort go and talk remember you had the advantage of taking responsibility previously.
This won't be a smooth conversation but an important conversation.
It is bcoz before marriage ur priority is a rich guy rather than a good guy.... So things happens... as simple as that
Good old victim blaming strategy. I’d rather die then be with a “good guy” like you. Your thinking stinks.
Rofl . As if u guys dont hv any priorities while getting married
1. Fair, slim, good looking, age( mandatory.. Guys look fr super bful women n ltr cry abt feminism)
2. Property( priority of all guys n thr family.. Shamelessly ask fr dowry in 2021. If girls do the samething, den dey r called gold diggers)
3. How many siblings?
4. Education
5. Career oriented
6 family back ground
7. Who can look after his parents
Etc etc
If women cant conceive, guys easily divorce her.. If its vice versa den wife should stay wd husband...
@@yoginagowda7410 I don't agree with the post above. But yours is far worse.
Every single one of the points you listed is also something women look for.
"Shamelessly ask for dowry"? Lmao if y'all actually get equal shares by not letting your male siblings rip you off, no one gives a shit about "dowry" (Atleast in the literate, progressive families). Instead the man (if he's an only son) gets fleeced by having to provide for you with his family's hard earned money while also being at massive risk due to the extreme bias towards women in marriage laws.
Spare me your false sense of morality lol.
@@Sriram-ij2hh 😂😂🤣🤣 blah blah bhah...
@@yoginagowda7410 You've just showed what your words are worth 😂
Ma'am men have issue's also...... But he can't show because of social pressure
yes we know. then talk about it on a dedicated platform. why bring it up when women's issues are discussed? it only distracts from the main topic.
Channel is SHE ...
Guru apna dukhda khi or ro jake yaha koi na sunega teri
It should be in hindi too..it must target large audiences...
It should even be in Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam, to reach a lot more indians ♥️
Right.
@Aishwarya Janakiraman I feel my locality need to know more..they are hindi speaking people
@@voiceofshru ...why not hindi...?? Hindi is our national language...you know this na..??
@Prathamesh Adsul however they understand
Even some more reasons r there for a women to stuck with a unhappy marriage..
1. Societal fear
2. Emotional blackmails
3. Prioritising other needs like financial stability, family background n many more
4. A popular phrase "sex is not everything"🤦🏻♀️
5. Women considered as slut of she talk about sex...
Many more reasons are there...
@Prathamesh Adsul listen brother being a man is itself an advantage for you, u can never even imagine what women go through with.. all men talk about the topic very casually as If these are not at all issue to think about.
And keep telling us to accept things as it comes in the name our protection. It's better men can educate themselves about the existence of a women is equally important and needs as men.
That's they sexual compatibility should be discussed before marriage
@Precious Moment so concluding your message is "a women can't talk or discuss anything that's related to sex but she can survive with only love and care right". Then what's the need marry some one if you are looking for love and care? That your your parents have also gave you right? Then y to marry?
Their is reason to a MARRIAGE! Having a partner is not just being beside some one(that a friend can also do) but sharing your every emotion and feeling can be done with your partner only. Yes sex is not everything but it's a unavoidable need of every living thing!! But my question was If a man can talk about it then why can't a women can???????????
Leave it you don't understand it..
You MEN still be hippocrates and try to make Women to compromise what she will be served..
@Precious Moment oh waw you got it right...!!! This is what I was trying to tell, from so long🙏🙏🙏 thank you aapne samjha tho🙏🙏🙏🙏
@Precious Moment agree👍👍
Well I think society has to grow with the thinking marriage should be a beautiful relationship of frndship , love, respect n trust without 1 single element it will not work properly
No. That happens in dreams. Welcome to reality dear.👍
The discussion is on how to reject marriage for the sake of sex! Sex and emotional bonding is same? Beyond sex there are many aspect on the basis of which couples are happily living together within the system of marriage. How could you disregard them?
Absolutely
@@armaansharma5169 they have just repressed sexuality.
Actually marriage concept should be removed from Society. Everybody should live indivisual. Achieve their dream. Live in same minded community...keep happy relatoinship with anybody you want. Then this blame game of wife blaming husband.. Husband blaming wife will go..feminine..Musculine these things will go. Everybody will live equal and happily. Crores of divorse cases will never exists.
@Prathamesh Adsul Have children. Community will take care.
So true! Marriages are so overrated...Unnecessary adjustments
Not true. What about those who want to focus on other things than love? Arranged marriage acts as a backup plan for them
What about kids ..I doubt people will stop having kids ...
@@iampigoinkoink5185 Its enough friend. How much human we are going to produce. Lets other species also survive..
Wanted to be a part of discussion.
So, financial independence is the most important factor that helps in maintaining a relationship like this. India is a country where marriage is not a neccessity it's an act of just getting rid of the girl child that too honourably. Hardly families rejoice the girl marriage. Whether it's dowry or poor family conditions most marriages are done on the girls behalf that she will be compromising and eventually everything will workout. So girls feel they have to be a part of sexless marriage because they are expected to live in any condition.
Another thing is, the reason of sexless marriage. It's a physical problem, a mental problem or some other relationship that is leading to such situations. Every aspect is curable.
But it is no point of discussing things among girls only. Boys or men who are equally responsible should be a part of this discussion.
Am in sexless marriage and tbh am very happy coz I never like intimacy with my wife still we love each other and take care of our house
Horrible..,..
Shame, guilt and ego totally ruins sex life for both genders.
13:59 the exact answer my mom gave me when I asked what if I don't marry?? So she was like in India you can't have casual sex without marriage,log kya kahenge??
License to sex, that is what it is.
Exactly. I don't believe in love. I don't want to get married. I see nothing wrong in two adults being Friends With Benefits.
@Prathamesh Adsul I know, I was stating what it is in India. I mean love emotions etc all aside that's also the main reason, especially for girls
@Hasan excuse me??what are you on??do you live in another world??casual sex? in India?? Plsss
And you are saying it opposite,no matter how the boy looks or how his personality is,if he earns well he'll get a woman easily,whereas women have to stay slim,stay in limits dress properly, should cook,clean, do this do that to fit societal standards and are most criticized for how they look!! No matter how much they earn or do something great, it doesn't matter!
I know men have their own pressures but you have to accept,it's more for women especially in India!!
And if somebody does have it,she is instantly labelled as impure,whore,slut, etc...the image of pureness to virginity of women is so ingrained,that ppl will criticize women who aren't
sex is not everything in life. Love is only everything in life. Sex is only a part of life.
What 70-80% really?? If the value is really such high then how come the population has reached to 130crore. It's all about how you please your partner and keep their desire. It's all about awareness of self-need and respect.
And meanwhile a true relationship doesn't rely on SEX.
Sexless marriage !!! You know what that means right?? ..you can have kids and still have sexless marriage ..and for a very sexual person sex is very very important ..if you think sex isn't important but your partner thinks ..you need to talk about it before getting married and decide for yourself ..
Sex is important as oxygen for people like me i am hypersexual i need sex 5-6 times a day so depend on people I see sex as most important thing in relationship/marraige
@@iampigoinkoink5185 what are you talking exactly?
@@abhijeet4799 I am talking about different sex drives ...some people are just more sexual ....some are not that sexual .. you can have 4 kids and still not very sexual 😂 .. that's probably what I meant .. it's one year old comment so 🤣
But how do women get out off marriage, if the man is happy with the same boring life, for a woman to ask for separation become so difficult!
You should have some male panelist in this discussion. It's like you are simply making an agenda with only one side of a coin.
If you wanted a balanced discussion the other side of the coin is also to be seen.
Where women don't talk about sex???
Which age are you living???
They could have exposed
@@advittripathi4457 dont marry most women control mennwith sex
If she wants a new things which are costly she just forces husband with sex
I am a 39 year old male ,a bachelor and I had never had sex and no sex life either .What can I do ??
Go to thailand.
@@ashishtiwari1912 🤣🥳
@@ashishtiwari1912 Disgusting.
"I was married sometime before I even had a child" 😂😀😂. Is this a special case for this lady? 2:01
No, but I think she means she was married for a long time before having a kid. Society and family start expecting children as soon as marriage completes 1 year. I have seen my own family members gossipiing about other couples who have been married for more than 2 years and have no kids yet.
ITS NOT ONLY WOMEN, MEN ARE ALSO STUCK IN MARRIAGES
This question can be asked conversly too, why do men remain stuck in these marriages then?🙄
@Prathamesh Adsul means they are more exploited than women and here these feminazis🙄
@Prathamesh Adsul 🙄there is already justice for them.
@Prathamesh Adsul they are already empowered i guess🙄but dunno what to say further...
@Prathamesh Adsul i think it should be a mutual decision ,only then it can be better.
Exactly lol, I was wondering same. It goes for both the sides but guess what they want to show only the side where a women is vulnerable not men. Lol these are actually the type of content that brings gaps between genders.
See most of the girls consider that sex means for enjoyment and if we boys speak about this subject girls consider boys as very bad people but according to medical terms sex helps both boys and girls to maintain a good health and lots of health benefits are there for the partners if they involve in regular sex and it is also a part of married life and why the partners should be with each other because both will be involved together and a strong bonding will be with each other as partner
More men stay in sexless marriages.
So, on this channel, can some ladies introduce themselves so that we can utilize common interests!
Marriages suffer because of ignorance. Kamasutra is what we need to educate.
70-80% sexless seems too high. I mean there are 1.4 billion Indians. How exactly does this happen. I think in india space is also an issue. Hard to have sex in a small home in a joint family. There’s no privacy.
Marriage in India sounds toxic. Both men and women are victims in different ways.
Yes. It's better to be single. Many girls play with boy's feeling boost their ego
I am man here watching the vedio .. arrange marraige is nothing but aggrement between two people .... that is not love...but after some days month we start liking loving the person .... we learn and understand how to love anyone in any situation...then you are good understanding person ... life is always black and white... there is need to understand life more better and accept the truth of life.. i hope you guys are talking about arrange marraige not love one .. if its love marraige then both person must compromise ....because both have done mutual aggrement and promise to each other.. but problem is that everyone now want to live single life because now situation are changing girl can choose with whom they want sex ..and to be in relationship ... that is not love that sex.. we all must understand love always have sacrifice for our patner.. if anyone have tendency to not sacrifice for your patner and priortize yourself first .. then living relationship is good choice for them..because marraige is not good option......if you are selfmade independent women you have full right do what you want...but i will request dont do marriage because your priortize sex and not love....marraige is not good option marraige is for love and sacrifice for our patner....marriage is not for sex..
If you think you are asexual or have no sexual desire start exercising both of you the desire will automatically manifest itself.
Regardless of gender you need to force not emotional blackmail. Only you can fix your life.
17 minutes of pseudo feminists rant !!!
let all get out of marriage and join with Rajneesh OSHO movement? this will solve the issue
The background music should be removed
First and foremost marriages should be abolished then everything works
There r men too who r in sexless marriage...talk abt them too
Seriously why is only women’s point of view is taken always? No one talks about what a man goes through, I am the real life example and more like me I know, I have been living sexless life for 18 years still taking care of family and all the things he comes along with wife and her wilderness😩, can you please pay little attention to men as well and find out what’s happening in their world? Please please
I empathize with you for what you have been through but it's a discussion about women...I have no problem in listening to a guy's perspective but it can be done seperately
Nobody cares for you bro.. If you speak you will be slapped with 498A, domestic violence and what not. And feminist will then say that marriage is not about sex and you will be charged with unnatural sex for even asking. These are feminist or leftist radicals. What more can you expect. Simple
This channel is for women so they spoke about the female's point of view. But I agree males issues too should be taken up.
Men ka bhi hoga dnt worry we aren't biased here and we don't even mean all men
@@samirmajumdar882 are yaar Aisa Nahi hai not all women are fake
Save semen
Use your ability to bring joy to the people
Serve humanity
Seek liberation
Sex is a major distraction
bro why are u so badly against sex if someone and their partner wantsto get married and have sex what so wrong with it , you woudnt be born without sex too
Great video
These women are so awesome.
Love yall ladies. 🥰
What awesome they should not have married in the first place screwing everybody lives!!
Tanya r u setisfied in ur life
I want u
My wife does not give me sex. I dont give her my interest or time. We are on a pathway to divorce. We have a daughter who is 5 years old. I would rather invest my time in learning and making money 😂.
We live like room mates and act like a couple in front of friends and family. Our young daughter knows something is not right between us but accepts it
yeah marriage is not for everyone !!
we men either don't want to stuck in marriage too 👍
India has a huge population and I don't want to let suffer my next generation in this mess
So true. I want to have kinds but now I don't wanna be in a relationship. Girls just lie. I will surely adopt a kid.
Good bro
hey wait, what about men continuing in sexless marriages? How come no one talks about that?
That is on men's channel... Go there
Red light area is the solution
Ye India hai... yaha per ek nahi bahot saare pressures hai females pe... aur chalo ek aisi marriage se bahar aa bhi jaye koi to 2sri marriage sahi ho ye to jarrori nahi...aur agar single reh ke aap partner dhoondhte ho to 1 nahi 1000 milenge per last mein aapko hi galat bata ke chale jayenge... respect bhi jayegi society mein so alag... man mentally here in India is different.. so if someone wants happy peaceful life then stay in one marriage with or without... or stay single gracefully...haa vo baat alag hai if u r lucky to koi aachi sahi soch ka true love wala band mil jaye to.. per aise men kum hai society mein ... aur divorce dadh gaye..hai.. to personal life to hamper hogi hi..per better hai..peacefully jeena har kisi se istemal hone se lakh lakh guna aacha hai... n u don't know insaan ke face pe to likha nahi hota hai.. ke vo kaisa hai....
@Prathamesh Adsul yes sir absolutely right.. but where only one side is dominant always n even if the other one is on very much right way n she or he has to compromise n get insulted all the time... what will the person do..I personally feel like blood relation we have to adjust with them we can adjust here too...but many people choose divorce... what to do... it's their personal choice
Same goes for males. You alone don't have all the problems we have it too.
@@anityaworld1172 same for men also.
Achhi ladki milna shaadi ke liye bohat muskil hai abhi India mein
@@AshishPanthee62 bilkul sahi....per agar mile to khush rakhiyga use ... aur vo aapko...😊
@@anityaworld1172 Jarur rakhenge ji
Par thank u for ur wish. Bhagwan bholenath ji ek din jarur milayenge achhe insaan se I am optimistic abt that but I m not in hurry even @ 27
That's because in-laws in Asia treat their daughter-in-law like a family asset or a farm-hand as conditions like 500 years ago still prevails.
Guys! Women can live lot longer without sex compared to men who just resort to paying a hooker after a long dry spell - that desperate men can become when not getting sex. These women are simply married to men they aren't attracted to but like the "luxury" and things that come attached with the marriage, they've not married the man but the things that come with him, so naturally they don't feel like having sex with their husbands. In short, don't marry a woman who just want things that you're to offer and who doesn't feel attracted to you. If she's attracted to you, she will make efforts for you, she will initiate more etc...etc... don't feel trapped by women seeking luxuries.
If women's not want sex then why get married and spoils husband's life's ?
Make them life hell by not hearing anything, no spending on them. Simply saying go and get a job for u and house will be run with both of us equally contribute
Good and open communication between the partners. Men not finding partners attractive. No sexual chemistry between the partners because of arranged marriage etc.
Whoever reading this comment, I hope your parent's have a happy life ✨️✨️✨️💓💓💓
@goenje shuya 😅😂🤣
@@armancontractor8006 I was just giving blessing to your parent's, I take it back If you don't want
Thanks!
This is the epitome of being in a traditional Indian marriage 😏
Sb preshan hi jisko sex chaiye uske pass partner nhi h jiske pass partner h uske pass sex nhi h 😔😔....
I personally, okay with Sexless marriage. Because I strongly believe --> *Sex is for Procreation (creating new life) instead of Recreation (Fun)*
Sex ≠ Love in any shape or form 😒
But for men it is not okay. Stay single. It is the wife's duty to satisfy her husband sexually, but for that, he should be a strong, responsible man. He should work hard, earn money, and protect the family. If women do not find such a capable man, then they can stay single and die alone. A woman should indulge in sex not because of her sexual needs but because she respects her husband.
@@returnofkings1442damn..... I just felt like I'm living in the last century after reading your comment. All your pints about being strong and making money can also be done by a female. And again it's not only a female's job to satisfy her husband it's also the husband's job to do the same to his wife.
@@baghyasrib6929 So, you marry weak and unemployed man. Men don't have any problem marrying unemployed women. They prefer young, beautiful and feminine women over women's degree or job.
@@baghyasrib6929 And if a man is heterosexual then women can't remain unsatisfied. It is impossible.
As long as you inform your man about your stance and he's cool with it, that's okay. Some couples don't have this discussion and end up being thoroughly unsatisfied.
It's funny how this is titled "Why women stay in sexless marriages"🤔😂 You act like it's always the husbands who don't give sex when it's the other way round.🤷🏻♂️ Funny but not surprising coming from Shethepeople.👀
It is because the channel is focussed on the problems women face, they are not trying to say that the same situation doesn't happen with men
@@rahulmohanan2026 ofc they will not mention it. They are a feminist channel after all.🤷🏻♂️ Feminism is rooted in hypocrisy.💩
@@Noproblem396 then u don't know real feminism! Go educate urself
@@saylip2674 well I would only reference "real feminism" if it had any place in a modern feminists's life and social activism. 2nd wave feminism is unfortunately outdated by their standards and no longer their priority.🤷🏻♂️
@Krishnkant Singh Educate yourself more thoroughly of what today's feminism stands for and if you don't see anything wrong with it then sorry to say but you're the latest impressionable young victim of this highly toxic disease or even worse you're already indoctrinatinated.😪
Dr. Tanaya ❤️❤️
Omg if you give me a sexless marriage I'll probably NEVER leave you(but I won't sacrifice love).......yea ace life guys....
The Host is very very toxic my Sister's.
Yes there are problems faced by both Men and women. 🙏
True story about our society, people still think saying word "SEX" in a conversation is shame ... Really a good discussion ❤️
How often sex should be done how long should it last to satisfy a woman? Do breasts plat any role in providing any pleasure to a woman?
@@AI-ji2sq STFU
@@coolNerdnextdoor who is this PS ass
@Akash Akks and u the joker 😂
@@AI-ji2sq And you the pervert
Love u ladies for such a wonderful conversations.
One survey… how many people were surveyed? Men ? Women? Age? Urban population? Rural where is this 70% magic number coming from ? Vulva Vagina is not ‘dinner’ table conversation in ANY country🙏you women brought up good topic but your message is convoluted! TEACH your daughters to understand what pleasure means to you and it’s give and take and communicate without offending your partner !