When She Was Bad (1979) | Full Movie | Eileen Brennan | Dabney Coleman | Nicole Eggert

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  • Опубліковано 10 вер 2024
  • Stressed by a recent move and being a stay-at-home mom, Teeny takes out her bottled-up rage on her daughter Robbie. Only the help of her friends, family, and counselors can stop her.
    Starring: Eileen Brennan, Dabney Coleman, Nicole Eggert
    Directed by: Peter H. Hunt
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  • @sheltonkristy
    @sheltonkristy 2 роки тому +693

    I'm so glad that I was strong enough to break the cycle of abuse when I had my children . My mother denies all she has done to this day and I'm in my 40s. All I have ever wanted to hear was an apology and for her to be accountable. I chose to be better, not bitter. I forgive but will never forget. I hope I am the mother for my 3 children that I always needed and continue to need , even at my age. Sending all my love to everyone who didn't get it as a child. We are strong and worthy of love.

    • @princesspiplaysbass
      @princesspiplaysbass 2 роки тому +32

      Same here. My mother never admitted to her cruelty, both mental and physical. I still have bad days, especially on my birthday which she would forget or when she remembered she told me how much she regretted having me. So I understand.

    • @kelliecraft9176
      @kelliecraft9176 2 роки тому +18

      Did your mother know my father? Sounds like the same person. Has never once acknowledged their horrible behavior without trying to justify it in some way. Not genuinely at least.

    • @truffaut650truffaut6
      @truffaut650truffaut6 2 роки тому +14

      Love to all of you.

    • @ltong1999
      @ltong1999 2 роки тому +10

      Bless you for your wisdom and strength to break the evil cycle of violence. Your children are very very lucky. 👏👏👍👍

    • @richardgamlin1459
      @richardgamlin1459 Рік тому +11

      I find it unbelievable that my daughter's mother has no memory of the abuse she laid on them and me . Talking with her last week was a fantasy world in her head . both my daughter have mental health issues but are caring mother's to my grandchildren. For as long as I can I will guide as best I can. All i can do.

  • @rebeccahernandez3460
    @rebeccahernandez3460 Рік тому +1523

    I can remember being a very small child and being very afraid of my mother. She loved to slap us across the face. I was born 11 years after my brother and I guess she thought she was done with her family...Surprise! I can remember the looks she gave me and how she treated me with screaming and yelling for the tiniest infraction, slapping me and occasionally beating me, but being careful to not leave any marks. Then when I was 13 I overheard her tell my dad how she hated me and wished I'd never been born. I still remember how it felt sitting there feeling as through my heart was being torn in two right inside my chest. I tried to do better by my 2 children and sometimes I failed, but they NEVER had have any doubt to think I didn't love them, or wouldn't do anything on earth for them. I've tried to forgive my mother, she dead and gone. But even today, sometimes I can hear those words inside my head. I'm 66 years old now, and it still has the power to make me cry. Sometimes the worst pain you feel isn't was blows, it's from what you hear a parent say to you or about you. The tongue is the only body part that has the power to cut like a knife and once it's out it can never be returned.

    • @miapdx503
      @miapdx503 Рік тому +187

      Bless you. I had a similar childhood. I'm also in my sixties, and all of my adulthood has been about healing. We do heal, but it still hurts.

    • @abc-rp2nf
      @abc-rp2nf Рік тому +128

      Rebecca. I'M so sorry this happened to you. Your story made me.cry.

    • @abc-rp2nf
      @abc-rp2nf Рік тому +89

      I'm so sorry you had to endure that pain, Rebecca.

    • @cathyt144
      @cathyt144 Рік тому +100

      I totally understand your pain and carrying those memories can hurt until you forgive her in your heart. My parents had friends over one night and they were up playing cards. All 4 of us kids were in bed,but not asleep yet. I was 13 and my sister 15. We were laying in bed listening to them talk. Mama blurted out,"I DIDNT WANT CATHY" i cried like a baby. I felt my heart break in half. I didnt understand. My sister got very angry too. I spent the rest of my childhood and adult life until she passed trying to prove to her she didnt make a mistake by giving birth to me. I overcompensated and stayed out of trouble and worked and did anything she asked without argument. I later forgave her in order to find peace. Im now 62 yrs old and mama has been gone 19 yrs,i was holding her hand when she died just 6 wks after my husband passed. I still miss them both daily. I dont hold grudges against my mama tho. Ive forgiven her and will every day in my heart.

    • @rebeccahernandez3460
      @rebeccahernandez3460 Рік тому +36

      @@miapdx503 I'm sorry you had to go through that too. It does still hurt, you're right about that. My heart has never been healed from overhearing that.

  • @solidcatink
    @solidcatink 2 роки тому +473

    Man, I'm glad that my mom was chilled out, happy, and balanced. I really feel for those who had mothers with psych issues.

    • @susanford2388
      @susanford2388 2 роки тому +6

      Actor Michael Landon was a kid with a mother who had psych issues alas.

    • @nadinedavid1501
      @nadinedavid1501 2 роки тому +22

      I’m very blessed too. My parents were normal and I have no psychological issues ever !!! May they both RIP 🙏🙏❤️

    • @solidcatink
      @solidcatink 2 роки тому +6

      @@nadinedavid1501 bless them xx

    • @nadinedavid1501
      @nadinedavid1501 2 роки тому +11

      @@solidcatink thank you, my mother died 1 year ago today. She lived a full life and that’s a true blessing. 🙏🙏

    • @SS-cd6ie
      @SS-cd6ie 2 роки тому +37

      My mother still remains a horrible vile angry rageful human being. She destroyed my childhood but at 32 I'm trying to start over. These woman are sick in the head.

  • @missmel9605
    @missmel9605 2 роки тому +714

    Even after all that child went through...she only wanted to hear I love you and feel her mother meant it. Isn’t that what we all want? To feel loved and accepted especially from our parents. Some of us will never know what that feels like our entire lives.

    • @Frenchman27801
      @Frenchman27801 2 роки тому +41

      I am one of those people. I was black balled because I am the only girl. My mom told me that she likes boys better. It certainly showed in the way I was treated both physically and mentally. My parents taught my brothers that it was okay to beat on me and make fun of me because I am the only girl.

    • @madtcw4754
      @madtcw4754 2 роки тому +48

      I'm so sorry. I can't say my mom didn't love me but she was very hard on me and a working alcoholic. Always tried to do better and really didn't lack much. But she was a yeller a screamer and had a lot of anger and bitterness that directed a lot towards me I only remember her beating me once for stealing 40 cents. She told me when I was older that she resented me because my grandpa treated me better than he did her and it showed when I was growing up. We were never close and I left the night before I turned 18. Controlling with narcissistic tendencies. Im so sorry for anyone who felt that it was their fault for how they were treated. All we can do is forgive so we can move forward and be better parents than ours were. ❤️

    • @catmeissner4795
      @catmeissner4795 2 роки тому +5

      What are you talking about? All WHAT the child "went through"?
      The child is a Total brat. I felt for the poor mom!

    • @gregguralnik2512
      @gregguralnik2512 2 роки тому +27

      @@catmeissner4795 I don't blame the little girl. Look at who raised her!!! A man-child who was image conscious and a very troubled woman who was emotionally immature due to her own trauma.

    • @zofiajutro7930
      @zofiajutro7930 2 роки тому +15

      @@gregguralnik2512
      She's not immature. She's highly sensitive. You must be narcissistic.

  • @purplelilac1387
    @purplelilac1387 2 роки тому +573

    I was beaten everyday by my miserable evil mother, just me not my siblings. I always said I would never hit my kids and I kept that promise! I broke the cycle and you can too

    • @musicmaker4him901
      @musicmaker4him901 2 роки тому +24

      Good for you! My kids are grown now, but I also broke the cycle❤️

    • @maggieb9842
      @maggieb9842 2 роки тому +23

      I hope I can break the cycle.

    • @camillelombardo2980
      @camillelombardo2980 2 роки тому +7

      Sorry

    • @lavenderblu253
      @lavenderblu253 2 роки тому +8

      ❤️

    • @taraji_b
      @taraji_b 2 роки тому +15

      @@maggieb9842 you can do it Maggie, I believe in you. If I can do it so can you, what helped me a lot was to always start my day and end my day with something I was grateful for, no matter how small.

  • @marcieanderson6601
    @marcieanderson6601 Рік тому +125

    The husband's denial is incredible. He even knew she was abusing her and said "she's not hurt" that part was sad. I broke the cycle of abuse in my life thankfully. My daughters have never known what it feels like being slapped and i am so grateful about that. My first day of kindergarten my mother backhanded me into the wood pile. I got on the bus with blood all over me. But Mom lied to then and told them i fell. I was sexually abused by her and many other family members. It was horrible. I spent years and years in therapy and feeling ashamed of myself. I am 50 years old now and i forgave all if my abusers. Forgiveness changed my life.

    • @qqq848
      @qqq848 Рік тому +11

      Sending you love

    • @sarahquinn2224
      @sarahquinn2224 Рік тому +9

      Sending you a big bear hug.❤

    • @AmandaHW1984
      @AmandaHW1984 11 місяців тому +14

      Unfortunately forgiveness doesn't come with forgetfulness.

    • @teeteeme5752
      @teeteeme5752 11 місяців тому +10

      Omg...the people in this world can be so cruel. I pray you get all the healing you need.

    • @natalieasselman1886
      @natalieasselman1886 8 місяців тому +1

      Omg .im so sad you had to go true this,but so strong..... I hope you find some luck now in your life.xx

  • @Tammissa
    @Tammissa Рік тому +86

    My mom was abusive but so were my grandparents to her. I broke the chain of abuse. I was so scared to have kids but once I saw my child after birth I couldn’t believe how anyone could hurt their child.

    • @angierudolph1007
      @angierudolph1007 Рік тому +6

      I have one child and she 20 yrs old now and I never hit her . I can’t believe my parents beat us like they did. My mother is still emotionally abusive to this day and I’m 57 yrs old

    • @theresayap5449
      @theresayap5449 Рік тому +4

      I can relate to your comments. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you. Anybody can break the chain. I chose to as well. Many people don’t realize what they are doing or how to stop. When you share you help people, so thank you again!

    • @Bird1964
      @Bird1964 11 місяців тому +3

      ​@angierudolph1007 I completely relate to your situation. It's tough no matter how you slice it or dice it.

    • @cristianm7097
      @cristianm7097 10 місяців тому +2

      I broke the cycle of abuse by not having kids.

    • @beverleyferguson8942
      @beverleyferguson8942 6 місяців тому

      @@cristianm7097So what did you achieve by not having children?

  • @theresarasche3173
    @theresarasche3173 2 роки тому +324

    I was one of the lucky ones... I was born into a wonderful family. Unfortunately I lost my parents when I was only 24 and wish my kids knew them!
    My heart and prayers go out to all who had horrible childhoods ❤️🙏

    • @bridgetlarson5443
      @bridgetlarson5443 2 роки тому +13

      Your so lucky I wish I had that but God blessed me with a wonderful friend who was like my dad but I lost him to our Lord I hope I see him again !!!

    • @kathybritz5017
      @kathybritz5017 2 роки тому +7

      Same here so blessed we did not go through that

    • @Ysabelcast89214
      @Ysabelcast89214 Рік тому +1

      @@kathybritz5017 29:19

    • @bobs1356
      @bobs1356 Рік тому +1

      Me to. That was nicely said.

    • @meredithcole2862
      @meredithcole2862 Рік тому +1

      You are indeed...

  • @evamarek5205
    @evamarek5205 2 роки тому +67

    It takes a lot of self-awareness and courage to admit one has a problem. Not everyone has these, sadly.

  • @standdown4929
    @standdown4929 Рік тому +69

    My mother told me she hated me since I was a newborn baby and had always wished I was dead. She passed almost 2 years ago and never took it back or said she was sorry and didn't mean it. I just turned 63. It hurts at any age.

    • @nancyburt8791
      @nancyburt8791 Рік тому +9

      I'm so sorry to you had to go through that!! It was do unfair! I am now 63 and still have problems dealing with the way my father hurt me so much. He loved using his belt on me. He didn't care where he hit me or how badly it hurt. When I was 16 he slapped me so hard across the face and made me hit the back of my head so hard I passed out. He thought I smarted off at him, but didn't. He was deaf in one ear and barely heard out of the other. I can still remember word for word what I said, and wasn't smarting off. I knew better.
      After I came to, I told him that if he ever touched me again, I'd run to a neighbors house and call the police. I meant what I said. He never apologized. He thought he was always right! My mother didn't support me and that hurt me so badly.
      They are both gone now and I still have problems forgiving. I'm a Christian, and know that's very important. I want to forgive, but don't know if I can. I need to set myself free, but it's easier said than done. I pray that you will be set free. I've heard it's the most wonderful feeling in the world. God bless you! You are so worthy of love!

    • @standdown4929
      @standdown4929 Рік тому +4

      @@nancyburt8791 I am trying to forgive, but just not there yet. Thank you for saying I am worthy, because that is one thing she would say, that I am not worthy. I am also a Christian. I also got the belt or a back hand. I am sorry you had it bad also. God loves us.

    • @nancyburt8791
      @nancyburt8791 Рік тому +1

      @@standdown4929 Yes He does! 🙏✝️💕

    • @AnastasiaLUVSU
      @AnastasiaLUVSU Рік тому

      It was obviously a demon speaking theough her.

    • @matildamaher1505
      @matildamaher1505 Рік тому +3

      It's hurtful, parents need to be careful how they speak to their children

  • @kaybee4132
    @kaybee4132 2 роки тому +217

    This is how it should be. Admit you need help and get it - despite the naysayers. I pray someone sees this and is encouraged! 🙏🏽

    • @lashellecoleman2754
      @lashellecoleman2754 2 роки тому +18

      It's weird because in the black community what she did was normal in not considered abuse

    • @wendycarstens9970
      @wendycarstens9970 2 роки тому +6

      Amen 🙏 💖 🙏 💖

    • @wendycarstens9970
      @wendycarstens9970 2 роки тому +7

      @@lashellecoleman2754 So sad 😞 😔

    • @nicoeeek.7181
      @nicoeeek.7181 2 роки тому +4

      @@lashellecoleman2754 really??

    • @lashellecoleman2754
      @lashellecoleman2754 2 роки тому +9

      @@nicoeeek.7181 yes we're taught to discipline are kids physically I was whooped 6 to 8 times

  • @melindakiser9994
    @melindakiser9994 Рік тому +38

    I'm 56 years old and still have bad 😞 thoughts of my childhood,no one should ever talk down to or abuse there children in any way!!!....The Tenn Girl.

  • @autumnoday1325
    @autumnoday1325 2 роки тому +225

    It's the father I hate. The mother keeps trying to reach out for help, and tries to help her situation, and all the father does is humiliate her for it.

    • @hoomancatslave1738
      @hoomancatslave1738 2 роки тому +44

      YESSSS THANK YOU. So many people throwing hate at the mum, but she was a victim of DV and clearly desperately trying to get support so she could be a better mum to her child. Also her child seemed a bit bratty so I couldn't imagine her being easy to parent

    • @autumnoday1325
      @autumnoday1325 2 роки тому +25

      @@hoomancatslave1738 I agree that the child seemed bratty and couldn't be easy to parent. However, I can't blame the child. She acted out because she was abused by her mother and neglected by her father.
      I don't see a reason to throw hate at the mother considering she, several times, tried reaching out for help. It was the father that made it extremely difficult.
      But, like Harmony May said under you, both of the parents were doing the best they could. So, I suppose no hate should go around, but I have to admit that I still see the father as the main culprit of the abuse. If he didn't make getting help so difficult ...

    • @autumnoday1325
      @autumnoday1325 2 роки тому +4

      @Harmony May LOL @ knocking seven bells! I've never heard that one before.
      Yeah, you're right, they both had different coping mechanisms, and both were doing the best they could.
      I've been told, by a wise life coach, that everyone is always doing the very best they can, even when their best doesn't seem good enough.

    • @teijaflink2226
      @teijaflink2226 Рік тому +16

      Yeah, he isn't physically violent but seems totally emotionally unavailable and doesn't listen when she's begging for help. He seems to totally ignore his daughter too like doesn't even answer when she yells for him (he maybe doesn't hit her but he's totally neglecting his daughter).

    • @autumnoday1325
      @autumnoday1325 Рік тому +11

      @@teijaflink2226 You're right, he does seem totally unavailable, especially for his daughter. And it seems the only time he's available for his wife is to either ridicule her, manipulate her, or do as he pleases to and with her. He's utterly disgusting!!
      Now, I don't think she was right, whatsoever, to physically harm her child, on the other hand, she DID keep trying to reach out to many different people.

  • @ummzahra9196
    @ummzahra9196 2 роки тому +166

    Her husband just didn’t understand that she needed a break desperately. High stress can make you react in different ways and make irrational decisions. In know way is it right what she did to her child and I’m happy that at least she got the help she needed to become a better mother that is the first step. Not trying to be perfect but being a happy mom is what matters to children. As long as your children have shelter, food, clean clothes, and have fun that all that matters. If you can’t make them a dress buy them a dress it’s ok. You don’t have to make everything from scratch buy Oreo cookies. To the moms out there take care of yourself, love yourself, and treat yourself to nice things without feeling guilty. Because if mommy is not good no one under her care will be good. Being the best you is important because your kids are counting on you.🥺

    • @rochellekeels8026
      @rochellekeels8026 2 роки тому +7

      Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen Amen ❤️, God bless

    • @UmmMahirah
      @UmmMahirah 2 роки тому +2

      Naam

    • @face1647
      @face1647 2 роки тому +16

      He was in denial. She kept asking for help and he wouldn't let her get it. I noticed the little girl never threw her tantrums when he was around. Kids are not for everybody. Everybody can't handle that type of stress. You have to have a lot of patience.

    • @yvonnewilliams4610
      @yvonnewilliams4610 2 роки тому

      @@face1647 my
      J77

    • @face1647
      @face1647 2 роки тому

      @@yvonnewilliams4610 you said, J77. What's that?

  • @melissathefam
    @melissathefam 2 роки тому +134

    This brought me to full blown tears I am a victim of Child abuse by my mother! When she slapped her it reminded me of the time my mom smacked me so hard I hit my head on a nail in our kitchen doorway. It split my head open, she told me dad I fell down the stairs. He didn’t believe her. I told him the truth the day I moved out at 18! He just passes away Dec 18, 2021 I miss him

    • @hollylynn9322
      @hollylynn9322 2 роки тому +9

      Sorry for your loss🕊

    • @linaleblanc8288
      @linaleblanc8288 2 роки тому +14

      I remember getting slapped away from the table, pinched in church, popped in the mouth at a ball game, being dragged by the hair. Geez, I could write a book. I didn't mention the sexual abuse

    • @jennyyy78
      @jennyyy78 Рік тому +1

      @@linaleblanc8288 🙏🙏🙏

    • @leanneswift2445
      @leanneswift2445 Рік тому +1

      🙏❤️🖤💙💜🤎💛🧡💚🌻

    • @lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241
      @lyndsaysrebornnurseryoffib4241 6 місяців тому

      I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @libragirl4471
    @libragirl4471 2 роки тому +481

    This brings back so many memories of my short fuse, my anger and isolation as young mother in the 80s. I didn’t drive and had no way to reach out for help. I carry so much guilt for what I know now was pure verbal abuse. My kids must hate me

    • @benitaesq_
      @benitaesq_ 2 роки тому +132

      God forgives and you can ask for His forgiveness. God is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins and cleanse us of all unrighteousness. Peace be unto you.

    • @harriettemacy7399
      @harriettemacy7399 2 роки тому +71

      LibraGirl I do understand. And I do hope you can find the path to forgiving and loving yourself and heal, guilt and remorse are terribly painful, and have their use but they cannot help you move forward. You clearly love your children. Sending you big hugs. 💜

    • @karenq2073
      @karenq2073 2 роки тому +129

      Best thing you can do is be open and honest with your kids let them know what you did was wrong no excuses and ask their forgiveness even if they don’t forgive you God will and in time they may

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 2 роки тому +88

      Remember that only the good feel bad for not being good enough. The bad people don't care so if you care, you're not bad. Much love and Merry Christmas.

    • @jennimadden1061
      @jennimadden1061 2 роки тому +57

      You did the best you could with what you had at the time. i often feel guilt but we have to think that looking back with what we know now is not fair to who we were then.

  • @kellyclinton6451
    @kellyclinton6451 2 роки тому +130

    Wow I remember this movie! The husband wanted the “perfect wife”, perfect house, perfect kid, perfect wife at night. The stressors of every day life are just too much sometimes, we all need a break and we all need someone to listen to us. There was obvious abuse in both parents lives as children, and I guess they just let that cycle continue without addressing it. I am glad the wife kept pushing to get help. Now it will help them all!

    • @Ysabelcast89214
      @Ysabelcast89214 Рік тому +2

      55:56 I..don’t know why she wants her cute daughter to be a big girl tho

    • @brandicancino1232
      @brandicancino1232 Рік тому +4

      I’m so glad someone acknowledged the husband’s part in all of this. He didn’t listen to the wife and minimized all of her concerns which made it even more difficult on the wife, not to mention he didn’t have time to listen to the wife.

    • @Ysabelcast89214
      @Ysabelcast89214 Рік тому

      @@brandicancino1232 hehe… tell me about it. When my master is losing his mind. He wouldn’t throw things or hit them or smash them or hurt them or anything! I-I was getting scared ever since mr sebastian was there with me! I d-don’t see why Sebastian was getting upset calmly and I HATED IT😫😫😫

    • @simonenugent2535
      @simonenugent2535 Рік тому

      Husband is rubbish

    • @anitawarnock6326
      @anitawarnock6326 Рік тому

      ​@@brandicancino1232😮

  • @duibhiruimaolmmhauid9039
    @duibhiruimaolmmhauid9039 2 роки тому +54

    i was horrifically abused in everyway imaginable, I determined to never hurt others in the way i was hurt. I may occasionally raise my voice, but absolutely no abuse has ever entered my home or my childrens lives. it can be stopped! love yourself, remember you do not need forgiveness.... you didnt do anything wrong.. you were only a child.

    • @molliwilson5639
      @molliwilson5639 2 роки тому +3

      Too many self- disclosures in the comment section

    • @punchanella_0
      @punchanella_0 Рік тому +1

      @@molliwilson5639 & you read every 1 of them.

    • @punchanella_0
      @punchanella_0 Рік тому

      @@joyanniekelly9261 but where did she learn to act like that?

    • @AnastasiaLUVSU
      @AnastasiaLUVSU Рік тому

      ​@@molliwilson5639 Right... The child needed the good old fashioned belt. Such a brat. Discipline puts kids in line. Bratty children grow up to be bratty teens and adults.

    • @duibhiruimaolmmhauid9039
      @duibhiruimaolmmhauid9039 6 місяців тому

      i have the same ethos. well done in being a better mother ❤

  • @davidcopperfield-notthemag397
    @davidcopperfield-notthemag397 2 роки тому +182

    Well...already I can see that the father is selfish, disconnected from his family and priorities wrong. He yells at his wife and puts her down. The mother isn't the only one that needs to change.

    • @fionagallagher9974
      @fionagallagher9974 Рік тому +35

      Exactly... and let's be fair, the kid was not easy - didn't deserve abuse, but the way everyone is pointing the finger solely at the mom here is crappy.

    • @JanelsJoint
      @JanelsJoint Рік тому +22

      @@fionagallagher9974 totally agree the dad's behavior plays a big part too

    • @davidcopperfield-notthemag397
      @davidcopperfield-notthemag397 Рік тому +21

      The way the little daughter screams and throws fits is wrong too. She needs to be disciplined for it without using violence or abuse and taught why speaking kindly is best for her. The parents need to set a good example. "Discipline" comes from "disciple". They all need to become disciples of what is good and right. It can be done. Many people have changed their personality. (Colossians 3:9; Ephesians 4:24)

    • @jayeparker8150
      @jayeparker8150 11 місяців тому +2

      ​@@davidcopperfield-notthemag397exactly 💯 I'm glad somebody said it

    • @Zaners82123
      @Zaners82123 3 місяці тому

      She begged for help over and over. I've been in that situation of begging for help. Never ever raise a hand to my kids but did know when I couldn't cope well.

  • @poppylove3673
    @poppylove3673 Рік тому +49

    When someone says they really need help, please get them help. 😢

    • @lisamcdonald1014
      @lisamcdonald1014 Рік тому

      Words have impact on other people

    • @user-xy3ks9sp3t
      @user-xy3ks9sp3t 7 місяців тому +2

      Yes I totally agree. Sometimes asking for help takes alot of courage.

    • @user-tu6rp6bn5n
      @user-tu6rp6bn5n 22 дні тому

      Probably is hes never there

  • @hazelsmith5628
    @hazelsmith5628 Рік тому +20

    I found the strength to leave an abusive relationship with my three little children when I suddenly saw the fear on my little girls face one morning when I turned around unexpectedly. Sadly I didn’t get help then ,and today I’m paying for all those earlier years of immaturity ! Three of my children don’t want anything to do with me !😢 They don’t trust me anymore. How one wishes to go back and live life differently…

  • @evamarek5205
    @evamarek5205 2 роки тому +217

    Robert Urich was such an excellent actor and a cutie! He's so missed! RIP🙏.

    • @Official_HaveYouHeard
      @Official_HaveYouHeard 2 роки тому +13

      I remember him from briefly appearing on "Soap" great actor n easy on the eyes lol

    • @NovemberReigne
      @NovemberReigne Рік тому +10

      He was a handsome actor

    • @pattizapf4135
      @pattizapf4135 Рік тому +8

      He was so handsome. Only 34 in this movie& the shower scene was hot!

    • @beasaroseco5840
      @beasaroseco5840 Рік тому +3

      🤩🥰😘

    • @Ysabelcast89214
      @Ysabelcast89214 Рік тому +2

      @@beasaroseco5840 29:19 I don’t think she likes it..

  • @sweetnsoursassy
    @sweetnsoursassy 2 роки тому +97

    The mom realizes she has a problem but her husband won't let her get help.

    • @lindaportuguesinha6065
      @lindaportuguesinha6065 7 місяців тому +1

      Common reaction back at that time. Due to mental "roles" of gender and a lot of prejudice about the health profession workers. Back then if you went to see a scrink you would be seen as a weirdo that probably as some mental condition and people will drift away from your company, your family... PREJUDICE. So the men would be very resistant to the idea of his wife - wile he is out working - to seak assistance. Why should she? If he does all the work and provides the family with everything and the wife just has the "simple" job of staying home and enjoy the fruits of HIS labor? - thankfully mentality changed. Altough now we see men expecting women to do all that and still have a job and they are OK if they just stay in the sofa drinking beer and watch sports on TV. The weight they felt to be the provider no longer there... Generally speaking of course.

    • @kristinab1078
      @kristinab1078 7 місяців тому +1

      In general, people didn't discuss mental health issues as much back in the 70s. Her husband also was beaten when he was growing up while his sister's could do no wrong. This was mentioned towards the end of the film. It seems many viewers overlooked this. At the end of movie, we see how he realizes he was wrong and regretful in not supporting his wife to get help sooner.

    • @lindaportuguesinha6065
      @lindaportuguesinha6065 7 місяців тому

      @@kristinab1078 that's what I've been saying. This movie is a story about the prejudice of seeking mental help. Those who went to a "srink" were seen has having something wrong up there, would be marked as such and was common for society to set them aside as if they were loonies. Fortunately that prejudice is no longer massive, but in some neaches it still persists. Seek Mental Health is something we all should do frequently. Its what some reach when they read the bible or the coran... the effect it produces is almost the same - its enlightment. Self knowledge. One can search for this without a psychiatric but a professional will help you get there faster and healthier.

  • @ninaprague4798
    @ninaprague4798 Рік тому +52

    Brings back memories. Lot of shouting, spanking, anger, resentment, guilt trips, alcohol. Always feeling unwanted, in the way, being a burden. Never felt loved. Only recently I found out that my mum just did exactly what her mum did to her. But that unfortunately does not take my childhood back. I learned to live with her eventually, because being sorry for myself was just damaging my life too much. We never really spoke about it because to this day she does not feel responsible for my childhood pain. She did her best, she did not know better. I understand that, but some kind of remorse would help. She feels she did better than her mum, so why am I complaining.
    I know I will never have children because I just dont trust myself.

    • @jat6547
      @jat6547 Рік тому

      How's this. Your mom calling you The Devil..

    • @miapdx503
      @miapdx503 Рік тому +15

      I felt the same way. But when my first one was born I was flooded with maternal feelings. I never repeated the abuse that I went through. We don't have to become our parents. Best wishes to you 🌹

    • @smiley9872
      @smiley9872 Рік тому +4

      @@miapdx503 God bless you.

    • @Bassgirl42
      @Bassgirl42 Рік тому +3

      Love and light to u xx

  • @nataliemadrigal899
    @nataliemadrigal899 2 роки тому +103

    I lived back then and remember well the 70s and 80s. This was a good movie back then. Still sends a good message to parents.

  • @D.I.V.A.Journey3758
    @D.I.V.A.Journey3758 2 роки тому +150

    The husband's complete blindness to the stress his wife was under is just ridiculous. The thinking used to be that "stay at home" moms didnt work. I am SOOO glad, as women, we have made society change most of that perception! Mothers get tired and inpatient and that's ok! All of that "super woman" Bullshyt is for the birds!!!

    • @barbaradavis1402
      @barbaradavis1402 2 роки тому +5

      So true

    • @junemarie5965
      @junemarie5965 2 роки тому +7

      Be selfless and pure and simple no more options visit people who need you pray for the sick and tired and stressed and may God bless you when you do right not wrong right ok do volantry work for God and the church and receive the HOLY spirit in us the good spirit of God and be selfless and happy

    • @junemarie5965
      @junemarie5965 2 роки тому +4

      Don't worry either

    • @nickfraser422
      @nickfraser422 Рік тому

      women have done a lot of damage; men are not men anymore.....so emasculted........more ppl living on their own.....because women put career first and end up living alone

    • @EricaYE6
      @EricaYE6 Рік тому +11

      I don't like how he talks down to the mother in front of the child. That's not cool. Do that in private.

  • @bleibgesund6413
    @bleibgesund6413 2 роки тому +33

    This is so sad, they need help. The husband is not supportive and leaves his wife alone in this overwhelming stress. The child is hard to handle for her. I think nursery school would be good for her.She needs other children in her age and the mother needs space top care for herself. Only if she is ok she can be a good mother for Robbie.

  • @SugarSugarCreek
    @SugarSugarCreek Рік тому +41

    The mother obviously would benefit from good counseling, but I can't help wondering if maybe the WHOLE family would have benefitted from counseling?

  • @beelauren7711
    @beelauren7711 2 роки тому +198

    This movie was my entire childhood, except my psycho mother felt not a shred of remorse. Haven't seen her in 18 years, and hope I never do.

    • @misslee3700
      @misslee3700 2 роки тому +17

      Sorry for what you went through. Hopefully you found healing in your adult life.

    • @tiffanyann5069
      @tiffanyann5069 2 роки тому +27

      I also endured a terrible childhood at the hands of my mother and I am on year 14 of not seeing or speaking to her. I have forgiven her and moved on and healed from my past but I also hope I never see her again as well. I pray you’ve found healing as well 🤍

    • @deborahhernandez1505
      @deborahhernandez1505 2 роки тому +6

      I understand. Prayers to your heart.

    • @bernadettehays453
      @bernadettehays453 2 роки тому +6

      Ben! I am so sad to hear you went through something similar. Talk about The Sins of The Father! The Sins of The Mother Can Do So! So! Much harm. God Bless You. I hope you have found happiness.

    • @angmoulton8528
      @angmoulton8528 2 роки тому +7

      Some mother's feel guilt others don't

  • @fabulous40sIV
    @fabulous40sIV 2 роки тому +96

    This woman apparently was deeply unhappy being a stay at home wife and mom. And then the husband wants to give her ANOTHER baby. She also has depression. And little Robbie seems to have emotional issues as well which makes her difficult to deal with.

    • @robinbrown2256
      @robinbrown2256 2 роки тому +36

      That husband was awful. He was a total narcissist. Very unsupportive and controlling. He expected her to be happy stuck in the house all day with a little child, with no transportation, no job, and nothing to do all day. And he constantly belittled her, talked down to her, and wouldn't let her do anything to improve or further herself. He completely lost his sh!t when she was trying to talk to him about her going to school and putting Robbie in nursery school. He didn't want to do anything that might give her a feeling of self worth imo, because he would lose his control over her. It was despicable how he just decided what she would do with her own body when he decided it was time for her to have another baby. I'm glad she left him in the end.

    • @fabulous40sIV
      @fabulous40sIV 2 роки тому +19

      @@robinbrown2256 I agree with everything you said. He only cared about his image of the " perfect" family in his new town.

    • @GlassOnion602
      @GlassOnion602 Рік тому +2

      Yeah, he isolated her and that’s a form of abuse, the true definition of masculine toxicity.

    • @claudiakrizay
      @claudiakrizay Рік тому

      little Robbie is a brat.

    • @Poetikaliz
      @Poetikaliz Рік тому +1

      @@GlassOnion602 so true

  • @robertwhitaker5718
    @robertwhitaker5718 2 роки тому +46

    Spouse is not being too supportive and gas lights and makes her feel guilty.

  • @SLRPAZ
    @SLRPAZ Рік тому +11

    This brings reality to my life as a mom. I am very short with my kids. Sometimes, I say things I don't mean, but I say them. Words are hard to forget (having gone through physical/mental abuse, I know). Watching these types of movies makes me see things from the outside looking in. My behavior as a mother in some ways is unacceptable.

    • @AmandaHW1984
      @AmandaHW1984 11 місяців тому +4

      It's never too late to turn things around and break the cycle. ❤

  • @carolpowell8142
    @carolpowell8142 2 роки тому +95

    Cheryl Ladd has Always been an Amazing Actress; in Every role she plays!! Excellent movie 💞

    • @gilliangrant8764
      @gilliangrant8764 Рік тому +5

      Yes I agree. I can't help wondering why she is not listed as a star of this film in the description

    • @pamelaprivette5361
      @pamelaprivette5361 Рік тому +3

      Cheryl Ladd played that part so well---because she was actually raised with an abusive parent!

    • @suemcdermott2947
      @suemcdermott2947 Рік тому +1

      Loved her in Blue Grass, wish they would show it

    • @millyriley9615
      @millyriley9615 9 місяців тому +3

      I can’t see Robert Urich in the cast either and he’s a really good actor too

  • @Mynamestartswithk
    @Mynamestartswithk 2 роки тому +121

    I just want to smack that husband. He’s more at fault than she is. She begged him to get help. The little girl seems so bratty, but she’s just acting out.

    • @angmoulton8528
      @angmoulton8528 2 роки тому +28

      She's acting out because she's deprived of things

    • @rebekahlascheit5837
      @rebekahlascheit5837 2 роки тому +25

      The child was copying her mother's behaviour, mother didn't think before she acted in response, like in the milk incident, she was retaliating to child's behaviour instead of responding in adult manner

    • @ashleyadams3453
      @ashleyadams3453 2 роки тому +4

      You cant be made at him he also was abused

    • @AnastasiaLUVSU
      @AnastasiaLUVSU Рік тому

      ​The only thing robbie was deprived of was an ass whipping.

    • @Disneyfan82
      @Disneyfan82 11 місяців тому +3

      @@rebekahlascheit5837 The girl was taking all her mother's behavior towards her on her dolls. I had a bad childhood myself and I took all that negativity out on my toys sometimes.

  • @carinal3977
    @carinal3977 2 роки тому +122

    Shout out to the other people that were raised by a neglectful or narcissistic parent. It's not forever 💘

    • @miapdx503
      @miapdx503 Рік тому +4

      Amen 🌹

    • @ldavanzo44
      @ldavanzo44 Рік тому +4

      Love you , thank you.

    • @lilliandenton5359
      @lilliandenton5359 Рік тому +8

      Yes it is...I'm 62...my mom is 83 and still abusive...my guilt of caring for parents keeps me taking her her shit. Narcissists live forever

    • @miapdx503
      @miapdx503 Рік тому +5

      @@lilliandenton5359 I'm also 62, I'll be 63 in April. My mom passed three years ago on Christmas day, my firstborn child's birthday. I couldn't raise a tear. I felt so strange, like I should have felt sorrow but I didn't. Everyone else felt the same...

    • @jocelynirvine3582
      @jocelynirvine3582 Рік тому +3

      Thx 😁

  • @snoopyhotsauce8801
    @snoopyhotsauce8801 2 роки тому +53

    It's more like he wants kids and she had her because he wanted one then he asked for another one. When one partner isn't ready for kids or doesn't want kids that marriage is doomed from the start, she seems fine and under control but having a husband like him that doesn't support anything she wants is even more stressful. Never force your other half to do something they don't want because that's where resentment starts.

    • @terriehumphries6028
      @terriehumphries6028 2 роки тому +14

      To me he purposely wanted her to have another kid to keep her at home because she had asked to go to college when the other started school. She was crying out for help and he did not want to listen. He wanted someone to take care of him and their daughter and parade herself around when it benefited him.

    • @p.o.p2077
      @p.o.p2077 2 роки тому +1

      True

    • @p.o.p2077
      @p.o.p2077 2 роки тому +2

      @@terriehumphries6028 true

  • @jaxxmariecambridge5212
    @jaxxmariecambridge5212 2 роки тому +65

    I actually remember watching this when I was about 5 years old and I felt so sad because my mom was the same way towards me.

    • @aprillang205
      @aprillang205 2 роки тому +11

      And my mom watched it with me knowing she was doing the same thing

    • @sandravaccarella7971
      @sandravaccarella7971 2 роки тому +10

      Kids are so smart, they see so much. Adults should realize this,they don't want to realize this because then they have to admit they are wrong

    • @punchanella_0
      @punchanella_0 Рік тому +3

      I haven't seen this, but I've watched similar movies with my narc mother. She'd say things like, "you think I'm so bad. Look how they're getting treated." - "I've never done that." Watching certain types of abuse. If I pointed out she was like an abusive person in a movie, she'd lose it & yell about I took TV fantasy too seriously & stop comparing everything to her. 😃😄😂

    • @danettejachalke5818
      @danettejachalke5818 Рік тому

      🙏❤️

  • @sarahhumphreys3980
    @sarahhumphreys3980 2 роки тому +43

    The cycle of abuse. Makes things complicated for future generations. Glad the mum got help.

  • @idklol616
    @idklol616 2 роки тому +107

    Being a parent, is NEVER an easy job. So glad I have the Lord in my life. I probably wouldn't make it through, without him..

  • @andreamagyar5541
    @andreamagyar5541 2 роки тому +117

    I'm surprised reading the comments, that child is painfully neglected.
    Not once she is spoken to , or asked anything.
    She is not spoiled or whinny, children learn by modelling, she is the perfect copy of her parents behavior .
    Sadly it is not recognized.

    • @tjp2109
      @tjp2109 2 роки тому +6

      I thought it was about the child from the title, but quickly see it's about the parents. Was kinda hoping it was lightweight but it's been emotionally draining to watch.

    • @andreamagyar5541
      @andreamagyar5541 2 роки тому +7

      @@tjp2109 human are very bad parents, I belive it is a root cause of all problem's in adulthood.. generational dysfunction.

    • @cbluejay2499
      @cbluejay2499 Рік тому

      ​@@andreamagyar5541 why you said human ? You are NOT human?

    • @Hevva67
      @Hevva67 10 місяців тому

      I recognise it, I witnessed abuse and was much like the little girl, I wish there had been someone there for me and my mum after my Dad died. Or even before that.

    • @andreamagyar5541
      @andreamagyar5541 10 місяців тому

      @@Hevva67 🙂 love & light

  • @fionagallagher9974
    @fionagallagher9974 Рік тому +40

    I am saddened for anyone who has suffered abuse (myself included), but if you need an example showing that the mother is not a heartless monster: 1:01:36 and that is just ONE example of the countless times this mother tried so hard to protect her daughter from herself.

  • @DragonsOfSnow
    @DragonsOfSnow Рік тому +22

    Not everyone is meant for parenthood. It's sad when all society ever cares about is your marriage and/or child baring status. Makes people feel pressured to do the whole married with kids thing even if you know that's not what you want. People need to learn to not care what society thinks. They'd be a lot happier in the end if they did.

  • @vickyCA1643
    @vickyCA1643 Рік тому +45

    How nice that she had a parent that cared about losing control and hurting her. Most of us had an experience of abuse, whether emotional or physical, where the parent couldn’t handle the guilt of their behavior so deny it ever happened. Mine even paints false stories of happy fun times that never took place. It must be awful to grow older knowing how you have treated your children without being able to admit what you did and that you need help. I do appreciate and find it healing that those who had good childhoods saying they are sorry for those of us who had horrific ones. Very kind. Thank you.

  • @lisaperry5999
    @lisaperry5999 2 роки тому +56

    Makes me sad to read all the comments of abuse. Those who became healthy and broke the cycle awesome and those struggling you can change get help..
    I was emotionally abused,to this day,as a child and adult, got help,my abusers didn't and when I put up boundaries it got worse. I removed myself from their life
    How cute is Nicole Eggert

    • @christinequint1732
      @christinequint1732 Рік тому +2

      WOW! I missed the beginning credits & I just didn't recognize the little girl to be Nichole Eggert! She did a great job here ! ( preparing her for Baywatch in a few years lol).... I'm someone who grew up the youngest of nine and was given overflowing love & endless attention as the baby, and sometimes think an overabundance of a good thing can be negative too; but, that's not true!! There's really nothing wrong with an enormous amount of love- my heart hurts for abused children and wish I could save them all!!

    • @Bird1964
      @Bird1964 11 місяців тому

      ​@@christinequint1732it's shows that you have an extremely kind heart 😊 You're very blessed.

  • @louisemoran1323
    @louisemoran1323 Рік тому +12

    Our mother was a narcissist. Everything was about her, and we were there to mirror her if she was happy and try to work out what we’d done wrong when she wasn’t.
    And of course, we never could because when she wasn’t happy she just wanted to take that out on someone, and we were it.
    I broke the cycle and have never hurt or hit my children. We’ve had our arguments and misunderstandings, but our family is full of love xxx

  • @kulrich10
    @kulrich10 2 роки тому +17

    My mother was brutal….my grandparents tried to buffer her behavior….they could have taken her to court but in the 80 s they would have lost…my mother and I have a very very hard relationship…it’s constant bickering and I FRIGGIN REFUSE to be voiceless or to let her get away with anything….I try hard to make sure my children don’t grow up like I did…I waited to have children because I feared that I would continue the cycle…therapy and my own education helped me see and break the cycle….

  • @teresaann3402
    @teresaann3402 2 роки тому +25

    I love my mom ,I was blessed to have wonderful parents.

  • @christineduran1896
    @christineduran1896 2 роки тому +66

    Many couples need to really see this movie. Lots of understanding and learning about being parents.
    I understand it’s very old fashioned to the new generations, but it certainly has lots of necessary information for couples to understand.
    Genie was a beautiful house wife raising a small child with her husband. But she was carrying lots of abuse from her past.
    Love how she looked for help elsewhere. Her husband seemed to not want to listen, and that is probably what happens in many households today. She is very lucky to be a stay at home mom. With the world we live in now, both parents have to work, especially with rent, groceries, gas, day care going up.
    Husbands should really take the time to listen to their wives, or significant others. Helping around the house a bit, some jobs now in days allow the spouses to take time off from work to do so.
    It’s a blessing to be a parent. And giving love to a child is not rocket science. If it’s a bad household a person is brought up in, break the cycle. Never carry bad memories to your own family.
    The husband wanted the picture perfect image, beautiful wife, child, house, cars. But he wasn’t giving of himself. Then it was all around him. Other men talking highly of their families, until he realized he messed up his own family.
    Doesn’t take much to listen to your loved ones. Take the time before it’s too late.
    Robert Urich was gorgeous in this movie too❤️.

  • @citticat2
    @citticat2 2 роки тому +107

    My mother was abusive and she never admitted her problem or sought help - it was easier to blame me.

    • @artsy31802
      @artsy31802 2 роки тому +8

      Same with mine.

    • @shereenagibson4716
      @shereenagibson4716 2 роки тому +7

      😞 sorry I pray 🙏 🤲 that your happy in life now ......

    • @theoryofpersonality1420
      @theoryofpersonality1420 2 роки тому +4

      Exactly

    • @citticat2
      @citticat2 2 роки тому +7

      @@shereenagibson4716 The good part about being an adult is that we get to choose what kind of life we want vs what others want for us.

    • @louniece1650
      @louniece1650 2 роки тому +5

      @@citticat2 But it's not easy for many of us. We need to be shown HOW to create what it is we want. It doesn't happen magically for most.

  • @sofiabravo1994
    @sofiabravo1994 2 роки тому +67

    This young mom is obviously traumatized and has absolutely no personality she’s living solely to please her husband and has abandonment issues, She’s got no identity of her own, just play house look pretty…and her daughter is emotionally neglected by both her parents…her husband treats them like pieces of nice furniture…I’m sure he loves them but he doesn’t know how in a healthy way.

    • @angmoulton8528
      @angmoulton8528 2 роки тому +5

      It all is stemmed on how they were raised my partner leaned a lot of negative things such as love is buying gifts and toys and clothes not actual love, he still to this day struggles to he affectionate and loving in a normal way even just ways he views things scream big on how his parents are and their personal views, he has no conception of of what is normal and what isn't so sad

    • @whyme6534
      @whyme6534 2 роки тому +3

      Nicely put 👏 👌

    • @RitchellVilleta
      @RitchellVilleta Рік тому

      Gloria too😟

  • @TherapistTamaraHill
    @TherapistTamaraHill Рік тому +70

    She needed so much help. She recognized that and tried to fix it. Sadly the imprint on the child remains. Very good movie for understanding poor parent-child emotional attachment and trauma. Even better for all parents to see what it means to be a parent and wife sometimes and the importance of having a balanced mind and mood for the child who didn't choose this life.

    • @Faith459
      @Faith459 Рік тому +4

      Heyyyyy!!! I follow you on UA-cam 😊

    • @lorimiller4301
      @lorimiller4301 Рік тому

      Ask a toddler and most will tell you that they picked their mommy or daddy. We have a choice and we definitely want to come here for the experience, no matter what it's like.

    • @elaineweinberg7094
      @elaineweinberg7094 Рік тому +2

      Its sad, she knew she needed help. She came and told her husband she needed help and he ignored her.

  • @tinamarie6146
    @tinamarie6146 2 роки тому +62

    Husband is self absorbed and non supportive...he is not involved with the daughter at all....the daughter is whiny and demanding....very spoiled...

    • @gregguralnik2512
      @gregguralnik2512 2 роки тому +20

      I agree that the daughter is whiny and spoiled but I don't fault that at all, look at who the parents were. Like you said, a self-absorbed, unsupportive, narcissistic father and a mother who needed a LOT of emotional growing up to do.

    • @winecrimesfoodandtime7119
      @winecrimesfoodandtime7119 2 роки тому +1

      @Amelia’s Productions as usual but always on mom

    • @marib.52380
      @marib.52380 2 роки тому +1

      I acted like Teenie when I was married years ago. I was already 26, but he was the only man I had ever been with and he was a lot older than me and acted just like this guy. We didn’t have children, but I frequently cried and felt like life was overwhelming. I needed to grow up!

  • @lrowe6494
    @lrowe6494 2 роки тому +45

    I remember when everything on the playground was metal.

    • @laurie113
      @laurie113 11 днів тому +1

      And it didn’t hurt any of us. Actually made us stronger

  • @pam0626
    @pam0626 2 роки тому +82

    Eileen Brennan was fabulous in this. I watched this as a kid and thought the issue was between the mother and daughter. But Teeny’s marriage was so dysfunctional. The husband wanted to keep her trapped in a box .

    • @miapdx503
      @miapdx503 Рік тому

      He wanted her barefoot and pregnant.

    • @pam0626
      @pam0626 Рік тому +35

      @@d.a.w.975 Going to work is not the only responsibility of a man. If he chooses to get married and have children, he also an obligation to be emotionally present for his family.

    • @dietrichjoanne
      @dietrichjoanne Рік тому +14

      @@RkristinaTay, the husband was a jerk. She kept asking for help. He ignored her. 🙁

    • @user-lh9pj5px3i
      @user-lh9pj5px3i 11 місяців тому

      Husband reminds me of that A**hole of a man, Yates, who's wife drowned their 5 kids in Texas. He knew she was depressed but got her pregnant anyway. On top of that he made her homeschool with little social interaction

  • @MygirlsGJPB
    @MygirlsGJPB Рік тому +11

    If my mother showed even the slightest bit of remorse for how she abused me I’d probably still be talking to her today. She physically and emotionally abused me, scapegoated me and encouraged my other family members to abuse me too. My mother never said she loved me or called me “baby” if she had maybe I could forgive her. There were plenty of times she told me she hated me, but I cannot remember once when she said she loved me. And that’s why I don’t speak to her anymore.

  • @robertwhitaker5718
    @robertwhitaker5718 2 роки тому +36

    I do think the dad realizes there are concerns he chooses to ignore the issues in his family

  • @Wrennie_bird08
    @Wrennie_bird08 Рік тому +10

    I used to babysit a family. They had a daughter, son, and baby daughter. The mother yelled at the son all the time. It wasn't physical, but it didn't have to be. She yelled at him so badly. He would just stand at the top of the stairs and cry for her. Crappy parents don't deserve children.

  • @trevorbarnhill3399
    @trevorbarnhill3399 2 роки тому +23

    I am very blessed. I have good parents on both sides. Especially my Mom. Sure, she was tough with me when she needed to be, but she has always been there for me from day one and she still is there whenever I need her.

    • @jat6547
      @jat6547 Рік тому +3

      Good for you

    • @punchanella_0
      @punchanella_0 Рік тому +1

      You have the perfect life, I wonder why you even want to watch a movie like this. Seems you'd want to see a Disney movie.

    • @ruboo8053
      @ruboo8053 Рік тому

      People that say they have had a perfect life usually have the most chaotic…I knew a murderer once who said the same 😮

    • @trevorbarnhill3399
      @trevorbarnhill3399 Рік тому +1

      @@ruboo8053 Okay. Am I sensing sour grapes from you replying to my comment? I NEVER said I had a perfect life. No one has ever had a perfect life. I said that I am blessed to have two loving parents that gave me the best life possible to give me. But it wasn't perfect. But I was blessed. And still am blessed as I have a pretty good life. I make no apologies for it.

  • @sarafreeman5073
    @sarafreeman5073 2 роки тому +45

    I would hate to see how the mother would act if she had to work a job and take care of a home and child!

    • @hoomancatslave1738
      @hoomancatslave1738 2 роки тому +29

      Maybe she would actually thrive cuz her world and circle of control would be bigger? She legit had no support or resources, stuck at home 24/7 with the kid, with a husband dictating everything and ignoring her needs

    • @luxurylifela4559
      @luxurylifela4559 Рік тому +8

      @@hoomancatslave1738 I don’t think so. Early in the movie when the mom suggests the little girl go to nursery school, the dad says he took the job and they moved to help her get away from it all and so she wouldn’t have to work. He said she wasn’t giving the new situation a chance. I thought it implied that maybe she used to work. I think she just needed help.

    • @john-jimMilton13
      @john-jimMilton13 Рік тому

      A wife and bratty child what a pain in the ass, all his hard work would pay off if it were just for himself, living the high life, but they drag him down

    • @Hevva67
      @Hevva67 10 місяців тому +1

      It’s not a competition…. 🙄

    • @winifredherman4214
      @winifredherman4214 10 місяців тому +1

      @@john-jimMilton13Very messed up family!

  • @julieholland9639
    @julieholland9639 Рік тому +17

    This movie had me yelling at the screen almost. Not at the mother or the child but at the husband for being a fool. The woman needed help and wanted to get it yet husband pretending its not happening and being a male chauvinist. I'm glad that mental health has lost some of its stigma since this film was made

  • @Zeuszgrl
    @Zeuszgrl Рік тому +13

    This movie was surprisingly good with a profound message and some stellar acting performances, glad I took the time to watch it.

  • @hannahplane9528
    @hannahplane9528 2 роки тому +61

    My mom was like this. She had such a short fuse. I remember when I was I think 9 years old she was doing my hair and I didn’t like it so I took it down and she hit me the head with the brush and I remember putting my head down with all my hair in my face crying and feeling worthless and unloved. I also remember when I was 12 years old (I don’t exactly remember what happened it was probably me being a typical moody pre teen and I locked my door and my dad kicked down the door) but she was angry at something and came into my room after my dad kicked my door in and started just slapping me in my head and face I remember using my hands and arms to cover my head and even my dad who was angry at me as well just stopped and consoled me to see if I was okay. Those are 2 events that stick out and still make me cry sometimes wishing things were different (I’m 25 now). My mom now is the sweetest human being and I know she feels bad for what happened because I can’t even bring it up without her crying and saying “how much of an awful mother she is” but I still don’t think she realizes when I think about certain events that happened it literally breaks my heart and wishes I had a different mom who was calm cool and collected.

    • @lizberry9266
      @lizberry9266 2 роки тому +11

      So sorry for what you had to endure. Absolutely no excuse for taking out your unhappiness on a child. Glad she's more of a mum now though.

    • @keetanewman3543
      @keetanewman3543 2 роки тому +7

      Hope you have peace now. ♥️

    • @jenncampbell277
      @jenncampbell277 2 роки тому +2

      That’s not that bad jeez

    • @NotfromDetroit
      @NotfromDetroit Рік тому +1

      Glad y’all have a good relationship now.

    • @JustMe-mw4xt
      @JustMe-mw4xt 6 місяців тому

      No one with a trauma history should have kids.

  • @adamdavis5383
    @adamdavis5383 11 місяців тому +12

    If you escape a abusive relationship I’m so proud of you ❤️

  • @kenzieh8925
    @kenzieh8925 2 роки тому +98

    Lol im gonna get hate but when robbie slapped that little girl on the playground that was bullying her i was like "yes".... i teach my kids that you never start a fight but you always stand up for yourself and finish it

  • @mellowsoundspectrum
    @mellowsoundspectrum Рік тому +11

    My dad was a salesman in the 70s and my parents were a lot like this couple. Divorce helped, but this feels so familiar.

  • @gypsyblack5994
    @gypsyblack5994 2 роки тому +47

    The husband was quite selfish. She WANTED to get help. How could he just neglect her needs for that? He is just as much to blame (if not more) for the abuise. He neglected his daughter and his wife. That poor little girl. So sad.

    • @AnastasiaLUVSU
      @AnastasiaLUVSU Рік тому

      ​@RetroMan 5OOO Oh please the child was a fucking brat. The kind of kid people abandon to put it nicely.

  • @mlobato1
    @mlobato1 2 роки тому +41

    This is my story
    The mother in this movie was exactly like me except when I would get angry for whatever reason either at my kid or whatever was going on in my life I would send my child to his room.
    So while he is in his room I would scream I would just let out whatever anger I had and yes he was fearful of me.
    My goal of course was not to hurt him not to take it out on him because that was my urge to take it out on him.
    I had to literally face my past as to why I had all that anger as to why I wanted to take it out on him and that helped me change.
    I told the story to my kid now as an adult and he does not remember one thing about him being scared of me
    And believe me my husband wanted more kids and to this day I have no regrets giving him more kids
    I knew at the bottom of my heart that I can only handle one child because of my anger issues.
    What I had done was break the cycle and now my son already has a plan of how to be a good father because he felt he was raised by good family.
    While I am watching this movie The mother realizes she has problems so she's getting help but what no one is probably looking at is the child.
    The child will repeat the cycle.
    The mother may have gotten help and no longer is verbal and abusive but the child has that seed planted in her now where she's now going to get older with anger issues and then she's not going to remember why she's angry all the time.
    When I talk to people and they're just all pissed off for no reason this is what I always think that they have this anger so molded in them that they don't even know what caused it.

    • @n.l.vannstallings4664
      @n.l.vannstallings4664 2 роки тому +5

      You seem like a good person 💗

    • @lesliekupchanko5001
      @lesliekupchanko5001 Рік тому +1

      What the mother has to do is talk to her daughter.
      Explain.
      Apologize.
      Children don't expect perfection.
      They are actually very understanding.

  • @katrinapirere5916
    @katrinapirere5916 Рік тому +23

    The scene were she was in the bathroom,and her Robby was on the other side really pulled on my heartstrings💔

  • @lindaluu.9796
    @lindaluu.9796 Рік тому +13

    I've just watched a few minutes and I believe the mother has so much angry that it's spilling over to the little girl. The dad is a total piece of work.

  • @Angelica71771
    @Angelica71771 Рік тому +10

    Parents need to understand the long term pain they are causing their children. I know a lot of us have been through similar things and this ends up being lifelong trauma to deal with. We need to be the change for our children. Learn and not do what has been done to us as this is very, very damaging. This movie had a lot of things we can learn from. Those older movies usually do:) I'm sorry to all those people who have at one point been hurt whether verbally, physically, or mentally. You're not alone💗

  • @robertwhitaker5718
    @robertwhitaker5718 2 роки тому +25

    I think we have to remember this was 79 and woman s roles in the family were defined in certain terms and aspects.

    • @nicoeeek.7181
      @nicoeeek.7181 2 роки тому +2

      Exactly!!

    • @sharonproctor4079
      @sharonproctor4079 Рік тому +1

      I got married in 79.after graduating college. I didnt have a child until 15 years later. I was not ready. I waited until I had a house and was able to stay home full time with my baby until she was in school. Then I worked weekends and some holidays
      I knew I was not ready to deal with a child in my twenties.

    • @laradavenport903
      @laradavenport903 Рік тому

      It does not matter!

  • @Anonymous-it5rc
    @Anonymous-it5rc 2 роки тому +23

    "it isn't a touch, it's hard work" she's right

  • @lauranovak8407
    @lauranovak8407 2 роки тому +35

    If I had a name like Teeny, I'd be pissed off too!

    • @daniellelala5045
      @daniellelala5045 Рік тому +1

      Or being a girl named Robbie or Bobbie or jimmy Jane too!

    • @labradoriteatheart
      @labradoriteatheart Рік тому +1

      Teeny is short for Bettina. If her nickname had bothered her she wouldn't use it.

  • @brandylou9132
    @brandylou9132 Рік тому +16

    When this movie was produced this kind of thing was not talked about much. Families hid the abuse, and counseling, therapy, and psychology has a stigma. I lived in a family that would have benefited from support. Thank goodness as an adult I got support which brought healing so I didn't pass on the problems. Good for the producers for covering this important topic

  • @feleciaclemons5074
    @feleciaclemons5074 2 роки тому +30

    Damn.. she slapped her good!!! I felt that thru the screen😭😱

  • @roxannwest4100
    @roxannwest4100 2 роки тому +28

    And this is why I'm not a mother, and don't plan on being one sadly, I have ADHD As an adult and a child along with a cognitive learning impairment,I can barely take care of my self BY myself ,let alone a child ,I recently just got a dog , and sometimes the dog gets under my skin when he doesn't want to listen he's a dashound Werner dog ( very stubborn ) :) I keep my cool but still, hard at times learning ... I also been recently diagnosed with PTSD And anxiety ..... Due to living with a narcissist , my man of 13 years now, I unfortunately never saw how he was until about 5 years ago sadly

    • @raquelpk2
      @raquelpk2 2 роки тому +4

      That’s a selfless choice . I command you for that . I have adhd along other stuff from child abuse . And sexual abuse as a child . I’m a mother now and trust me it’s very very difficult . I wish I would’ve gotten help early on before I had kids . I did change the abuse cycle. My family never shows love or affection and I changed that. Also stopped the cycle of teen pregnancy in my family . But at times I think they deserve a better mom .

    • @GlassOnion602
      @GlassOnion602 Рік тому +2

      You made a smart choice! It’s better to accept who you are and where your limits are. I have a grown daughter who does not to be a mom, so I get it. She was adamant during her teens too and I never lost sleep worrying she’d get pregnant LOL!

    • @judywhitear
      @judywhitear Рік тому +4

      I hope you don’t loose your temper with an innocent little dog that can’t protect itself 😢

    • @RitchellVilleta
      @RitchellVilleta Рік тому +1

      @@GlassOnion602 dogs are more important than children.

    • @ankalee7341
      @ankalee7341 Рік тому +2

      Please don’t hurt the dog

  • @lala-gj4oo
    @lala-gj4oo Рік тому +18

    i've always thought that cheryl ladd is a class act and that hasn't changed. she still is.

  • @robertwhitaker5718
    @robertwhitaker5718 2 роки тому +54

    Mom is like an immature child raising a child

    • @taraji_b
      @taraji_b 2 роки тому +8

      This movie is seriously rétarded. “Getting help” means leaving your good husband, putting your child in state care and living in a shelter and relying on a therapist to run your life? What a crock of shit.

    • @olderandwiser5916
      @olderandwiser5916 2 роки тому +2

      @Tiny Bear , I was waiting for someone to actually say it as it is. I agree with you 💯 %, but usually I'm the only one who sees things as they are. They all need a serious reality check and grow the eff up. Mommy got knocked up and married straight outta high school, the kid would have driven me in to a looney bin, daddy was having some "grow the eff up" issues as well, then we have this "I wanna please everyone" issue again and booze is definitely not the best way to fix three totally messed up human beings.
      Solution: split up, mommy get an education and a job, daddy: quit drinking, focus on your career, kid....quit being such a hateful, spoiled, entitled and demanding little monster, stay in boarding school and become a good member of society (not a pregnant teen).
      Last but not least, stay away from milk because you're probably all lactose intolerant and as a side effect you all become really hateful.
      It seems to me that every one is pitying the mother and her child, the dad is only focused on his career and is the money maker that wants everything his way.
      This principle would have worked well if they would have waited ten years, but I guess birth control wasn't exactly what they had in mind. Most of the comments were somewhat the same, so there we have the solution. Get on with your life.

  • @Olivia-no7mi
    @Olivia-no7mi Рік тому +16

    Thank God My Parent's Never Treated Me And My Sibling's Like That But To All Those Who Have Been Abused You're In My Prayer's.❤🙏🏻

  • @tweeglaister4885
    @tweeglaister4885 10 місяців тому +4

    A lot of women found it very difficult to be stuck at home all day with kids - it's not everyone's cup of tea. That said, there's never any excuse to abuse kids - they didn't ask to be born. It also sets them up for a lifetime of trauma to a greater or lesser degree. The best thing they can do is try not to repeat the mistakes of their parents with their own children but that takes a lot of inner strength and the support of a caring partner.

  • @davidneal9368
    @davidneal9368 Рік тому +24

    Like I've always said just because you bring a child into the world doesn't make you a parent.

  • @clairehoare8764
    @clairehoare8764 Рік тому +10

    The mum is unwell and this causes her to lash out because she can’t cope. Not her fault, she’s trying to help herself.

  • @CashcaltC-uh2tf
    @CashcaltC-uh2tf Рік тому +29

    I understand violence and abuse is never the answer but in her defense I will say that kid was a BRAT!!!...

    • @tracymeyer1398
      @tracymeyer1398 Рік тому +6

      That's the fault of the parents for not providing the attention the child needed.

    • @daniellemartinez8810
      @daniellemartinez8810 Рік тому +4

      @@tracymeyer1398because that kid doesn’t have boundaries at home. She’s spoiled and straight up needed some serious redirection

    • @authorcole
      @authorcole Рік тому

      I agree that child was a brat and needed her butt busted not beat, but a good spanking

    • @authorcole
      @authorcole Рік тому

      @@tracymeyer1398 well they gave her enough attention to spoil her rotten. That child deserved a butt whipping not a beating. But a spanking she did need.

    • @jennifers2017
      @jennifers2017 Рік тому +6

      Yes, finally someone points this out, major behavioral issues. Of course it came from being mistreated by the mother. Being a child you don’t know how to process emotions and being abused by a parent comes out as misbehaving. Children are always a product of their environment and it’s up to us to break the cycle.

  • @RamonaRayTodosSantosBCS
    @RamonaRayTodosSantosBCS Рік тому +7

    Subdural hematoma. That's what happened to my daughter at 18months.She was removed from her home. I adopted her at age 2 1/2. Luckily she is fine. But it caused her delays and learning disabilities. She's is an adult and a great mom. No reprecussions from the allergies abuse.

  • @deedrathelibra
    @deedrathelibra 2 роки тому +33

    This was soooo hard to watch, but I wish more people with children would.

    • @thelizfamilyvlogs6187
      @thelizfamilyvlogs6187 2 роки тому +1

      So they could understand that they are not alone.

    • @Julie44Inlouisiana
      @Julie44Inlouisiana 2 роки тому +5

      People should watch this before they have children too. Children will not make a bad relationship better.

  • @lorrisbits
    @lorrisbits 2 роки тому +39

    I wish this movie had gone deeper, it really glossed over a lot. It made it seem easy, with beautiful people in an idyllic situation. Abuse is not this simple, and although they touch on points. It is a good movie, but if it had been a little more real, it would have been better.

    • @bredaobrennan9993
      @bredaobrennan9993 2 роки тому +1

      💜

    • @angmoulton8528
      @angmoulton8528 2 роки тому +4

      Even fancy people with fancy things have abuse issues and emotions they need to deal with

    • @Tami_L96
      @Tami_L96 2 роки тому

      Its a *MOVIE* and movies are for *ENTERTAINMENT* purposes.

    • @tjp2109
      @tjp2109 2 роки тому +3

      I think the acting is incredible. They knocked it out of the park, but I see what you mean. What I find a bit unrealistic is the parents have a fight, makeup, then are back at it the next day or seems like it. Irl, people usually try to make a go of it for a few weeks before old habits come back.

    • @tanyabonnette1796
      @tanyabonnette1796 2 роки тому

      Agree completely

  • @shorty7363
    @shorty7363 Рік тому +10

    I never knew Nicole Eggert was a child actress. I first saw her as a teen on Charles in Charge. Any movie with Cheryl Ladd is a good movie!👍 Thanks for the upload.💜

    • @Hereismytwocents2011
      @Hereismytwocents2011 Рік тому

      She also played Samantha's friend in the first couple seasons of Who's The Boss.

    • @PrayerRider
      @PrayerRider Рік тому

      Nicole Eggert also played Hooker’s daughter Chrissy on T.J. Hooker with William Shatner in the 1980’s. She was about this same age.

  • @thehonestchristian492
    @thehonestchristian492 2 роки тому +15

    This is the typical dysfunctional family dynamic. He compares her to the "perfect" way to parent. She tells him she's essentially overwhelmed and he looks perplexed as to how she could possibly be overwhelmed. She says she needs help he minimizes it "you just need to controll your anger". She was either embarrassed or afraid when the lady came to the house while her husband was home. But let's just blame it all on the woman. Ok...seriously.

  • @lynettekomidar2819
    @lynettekomidar2819 2 роки тому +26

    I see many people just didn't understand the movie

    • @my3pups
      @my3pups 5 місяців тому +3

      You can't say that, people understand from their own perspectives.

    • @latrelltsantiago3196
      @latrelltsantiago3196 3 місяці тому

      I think you didn't understand it.
      It's apparent by your ignorant comment.

  • @LifeUnchainedMe
    @LifeUnchainedMe Рік тому +10

    This movie is so triggering. After all these years, I still have ptsd and scars that never seem to fade. Trust isn’t easy for me either. I just want to be the one to break the cycle and do better with my own future children. They deserve better.

    • @EWAMILENAP
      @EWAMILENAP Рік тому

      @Life Unchained Me ♡You've been hugged today♡

  • @alewolf7
    @alewolf7 Рік тому +7

    My narcissistic mother tried to kill me couple of times, abused me non stop, my father protected her instead, I ended up passing by several foster or friends homes until I was on my own. I don’t talk to them. My dad prefers to make sure everyone thinks they are a good family and I just didn’t like my mom and left. One time staying at one of their friends house an adult male was in charge of for 3 days and got raped when I was 6 years old and that changed my life forever. I’m now a single parent , I do anything & everything to protect my daughter. It’s our responsibility as adults to be there for our kids every single day. Also speak up when you see neighbors neglecting their children

  • @leahsmith191
    @leahsmith191 Рік тому +13

    Totally against abuse but children who are abused live in fear and try very hard not to upset their abuser. The writer really made this little girl seem like a devil. Abused children will act out but not against their abuser at this age.

  • @carolineherzog1735
    @carolineherzog1735 2 роки тому +19

    It was a wonderfull movie and made me cry. I had the same story as Jainie and needed 380 hours of psychogolist. It was so hard it hurts me so much. The first year I always was crying about all I should going through as a child plus sexual abuse. But.....I also broke the cyrcle...and I never ever hurt my son, I always loved him with all of my heart. I showed him that he is special.
    He is now an adult and is a very smart, intelligent, sensitive young man and I am proud of him.
    But forgivness for my father took me 15 years to see him again. My mother always ignored me and was cold and never showed me any feelings....becauce I looked like my dad who beat and raped her the whole time.
    Everything is possible to fight for your child to be happy and beloved.

  • @lovearttherapyalways
    @lovearttherapyalways Рік тому +13

    Thanks for this. Such a realistic movie portraying how family issues can be passed on and continued if not addressed. Real stuff we all should have the courage to look at and love and help eachother through it. God bless!

  • @sbarr10
    @sbarr10 Рік тому +15

    My late sister and I made the decision to not have children for this reason. Nowhere as bad as this - we did not end up in the hospital with bad injuries. But all the slapping and hitting and the ugly words and the emotionally absent father. If we had talked to our mother the way this child acted our skin would have been painful and red from the wooden spoon. It took way too long to unlearn everything about bad parenting in order to ever be good parents. It really sucks for a child when a parent is at the core unhappy.

    • @123pickles
      @123pickles Рік тому +3

      Same reason my 3 brothers and I never even got married and had no children. My father died when we were young. She didn't even try to get a job. She would always tell us it was our fault she had no life. And all of us worthless kids would never amount to anything. I remember somewhere in our childhood, for a few years, mother used to tell us that she had a gun hidden and was going to shoot us all in our sleep at night. If we had talked to our mother the way that child did, we would have ended up in a hospital too. I do not believe anyone ever got taken away from their parents, after getting whooping's in the 70's. That just didn't happen back then. My mother used to make me strip before she whipped me with the belt. She would scream her sisters name at me, like I was her sister. She would go into a rage and froth at the mouth. When we used to take showers in the locker room, If someone would notice the belt marks I would tell them, they were hickeys. I wasn't allowed to date. When she died my brothers had her cremated that day. No funeral. No grave. No tears.

    • @sbarr10
      @sbarr10 Рік тому +1

      @@123pickles 😢

    • @Hevva67
      @Hevva67 10 місяців тому

      My Dad was abusive to my mum and I became abusive too, through learned behaviour. I never 100% wanted a child, but I decided never to have any, anyway, it’s not something I sought out. I even took the Morning After Pill once so I didn’t get pregnant, with a guy who was a bit like the husband in this film. Because deep down I didn’t want to tie him to me with a child, and didn’t think it was a great idea (it was his idea after an argument to try and have a child)… I might have been a good mum, but you just don’t know. I wouldn’t have wanted any child to experience what I did growing up. I’m also possibly Neurodivergent and these can often have greater impact for ND kids..

  • @Outfox90sbaby
    @Outfox90sbaby 2 роки тому +16

    Let’s see husband is self centered and refuses to acknowledge the needs of his wife. She needs a life of her own and sense of purpose outside of being a mother/wife. Daughter is extremely bratty and ungrateful even..Mother lacks independence and the ability to stand up for herself. She outright asks for help which she’s made to feel bad about. Husband even somewhat leaves her in isolation. We could go on… but I’ll finish the movie

  • @UKImmigrationLawGeek
    @UKImmigrationLawGeek 2 роки тому +122

    The acting in this movie is amazingly good. The scene in which Robbie is playing with her dolls is very telling.
    The timestamp for this is @33:49.

    • @Hevva67
      @Hevva67 10 місяців тому +1

      That was me with teddy bear, as a child. My parents are long gone, but my old bear friend is still around and much loved.

    • @UKImmigrationLawGeek
      @UKImmigrationLawGeek 10 місяців тому +1

      @@Hevva67 It is so lovely to have a cuddly bear. It is awful that that was you with your teddy bear as a child and from what your post, you have endured and survived. Things such as your cuddly bear can be so important and comforting.

  • @PrayerRider
    @PrayerRider Рік тому +4

    I had a wonderful mother! I could never imagine her acting any way other than her sweet self. We lost her to a road accident when I was 19.

  • @iraidasantana6364
    @iraidasantana6364 2 роки тому +55

    Cheryl Ladd has been such an underrated actress.

    • @sandib4234
      @sandib4234 2 роки тому +3

      Yes, she is amazing!

    • @susanford2388
      @susanford2388 2 роки тому +7

      I agree. I think her films are always worth watching. Just like Christine Lahti, I think she too is underrated.

    • @bobbiejones9266
      @bobbiejones9266 2 роки тому +1

      Yes she is!I have always loved her and her acting. I watch anymovieo find that she is in

    • @antonrowell6627
      @antonrowell6627 2 роки тому +2

      Her acting is truly fabulous in this film. She will always be a Charlie's Angel too!

    • @lesliekupchanko5001
      @lesliekupchanko5001 Рік тому

      I think her good looks undermines her good acting.
      Because she's so pretty people assume she's a Bimbo.
      She's not.
      Most of her movies were very, very meaningful.
      I hope she enjoyed her acting career.

  • @westcoastkayla588
    @westcoastkayla588 2 роки тому +16

    I am watch this because I forgot to pay my Netflix bill lol