True Forced Loneliness

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  • Опубліковано 4 вер 2024
  • My experience and struggle with True Forced Loneliness.

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  • @Jawskillaful
    @Jawskillaful 8 років тому +37

    Interesting video dude. I am a TFLer myself and have lived this way since my teens and am now 24 going to be 25 in two weeks. It's true tthat most women have already predetermined which men they are going to mate with based on their looks, social status and how much money they have and men like you and I unfortunately do not meet women's criteria of the status quo and because of this we will have the hardest time attracting attention from women. Contrary to popular beliefs confidence does not work for everybody when it comes to women, it only works for those who are already deemed desirable or attractive.

    • @Skelstoolbox
      @Skelstoolbox 5 років тому

      I'd disagree.. I used to get laid lots in highschool and early 20's but since getting out of prison and moving across the country where I know no one.. I haven't had a woman in 6.5 years.. I'm not sure what has changed other than my age.. I still look the same.. Now I'm invisible.. Even other fit guys in the gym agree.. Good looking men and women are a dime a dozen on the West coast..

    • @symesalexander5294
      @symesalexander5294 5 років тому +2

      Jawskillaful well fucking said bro 💯👍

  • @nothingforgrantedPS23
    @nothingforgrantedPS23 7 років тому +31

    People avoid me naturally, I think they can just sense I'm mentally ill.

  • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
    @AmaLoveGoddessTV Рік тому +17

    As a counselor I have clients like this. Some families fail men by either traumatizing, abusing, neglecting, or coddling them in childhood. Then they grow up to be poor minded, disabled, fearful, depressed men who lack social skills. It’s hard for them to make it in life.

    • @fdgod5066
      @fdgod5066 Рік тому

      so what's the solution for the men like us?

    • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
      @AmaLoveGoddessTV Рік тому +3

      @@fdgod5066 work to change you mindset. Overcome fear and low self esteem.

    • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
      @AmaLoveGoddessTV Рік тому +1

      @WumboDialysis bullshit your just making excuses

    • @benstewart2030
      @benstewart2030 Рік тому +10

      @wumbodialysis”just be confident bro” 😂

    • @AmaLoveGoddessTV
      @AmaLoveGoddessTV 11 місяців тому

      @@HermeticApostle yes it does because you attract what’s going on inside of you. That’s why you see attractive women stay with abusers… low self worth and esteem.

  • @kostantinos3705
    @kostantinos3705 7 років тому +15

    Greetings fellow! I'm 31 and suffer from TFL as well! :( I totally feel your pain and understand what you're going through! Women are very hard to seduce, and keep in mind, there is no woman who will suffer from from TFL, no matter how ugly, short, fat she is! Unless she is elderly (over 70), or handicapped/disfigured, mental illness, etc., those are exceptional cases.

  • @tridentisminty1985
    @tridentisminty1985 8 років тому +11

    I feel you I'm in the acceptance stage as well you made the right decision man moving back no shame in that you're in the process of rebuilding yourself i know you will make it out of the fire

  • @m0rr0ws0n4
    @m0rr0ws0n4 7 років тому +42

    in early human tribes u would have been thrown out and died or outright killed. But in modern society you get to live and suffer.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  7 років тому +17

      good to know

    • @JihadBunnydick
      @JihadBunnydick Рік тому

      ​​@@FiberOpticks😅

    • @NRIH144
      @NRIH144 8 місяців тому +1

      @@FiberOpticksRomans 10:9 = Eternal life +

    • @mr.r2362
      @mr.r2362 8 місяців тому +5

      I think people in early human tribes thought differently than your average individualistic, post modern narcissist. A strong community would have included you and found a use for you in their clan or village. You would have had strong male role models and truly nurturing female role models growing up as a boy, which would have helped you find your place in the community so you could contribute and survive with a sense of real belonging. Today's neighborhoods and cities are just open air mental asylums that isolate people from nature and healthy community, so it's not feasible to compare what "would have" happened since modern culture goes directly against how humans evolved to connect and thrive with each other in small, intimate bands of warriors/hunters/gatherers. And don't even get me started on how childish tendencies are extended into adulthood in schools and in mommy-knows-best households.

    • @king7795
      @king7795 Місяць тому

      No , he would have been used for a productive thing instead of being thrown and killed you stupid Narcy idiot , trad societies aren't like that evil

  • @retnik2028
    @retnik2028 8 років тому +8

    Your story really moved me. I'm kinda like you. In 16 years that I've been alive I had maybe 5 friends. They never really cared about me. That haven't changed to now. As of right now, the only time I'm socialising is when I'm at school. But they are only class mates, sometimes I have a short chat with them and that's it. After school I don't talk with anybody except my family members (On top of that one of them is my autistic brother). I have a lot of hobbies. Anime, music (most of the times good old school hip hop), video games, physics (wierd i know xD) and sports. I just don't have anybody to talk to about them. And they say life is good....

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому

      Thanks man, I know its a struggle but keep on keepin on.

  • @stayingsaneamidtheinsanity2499
    @stayingsaneamidtheinsanity2499 7 років тому +4

    I'm sorry you are going through that. It's really difficult to be isolated. I' ve been there!

  • @Sockboss1
    @Sockboss1 8 років тому +55

    don't want to judge you.... cause clearly you aren't in the best shape in life but maybe you should change your mentality. For example, you are in your 30s wearing a pokemon hat.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому +10

      Touche'

    • @thelastunicorn4751
      @thelastunicorn4751 8 років тому +6

      UA-cam Hero - I think the pokemon hatbos sexy as FUCK.

    • @rodrigobonzanini8235
      @rodrigobonzanini8235 6 років тому +8

      "Don't want to judge you"... but you ARE judging him... what's the problem with wearing a Pokemon hat???

    • @Skelstoolbox
      @Skelstoolbox 5 років тому +1

      Do you really think if he changed all that he'd do well with women? Really? The guy gets turned down by escorts.. I've never even heard of that.. Poor soul..

    • @roberthurtado9784
      @roberthurtado9784 5 років тому

      It's the lack of social proof, i mean you see what these crunchy granola looks maxx cucks get away with; seriously if you are in a group people won't see you as a target as much- use people to escpae the target spotlight.

  • @markmontoya1954
    @markmontoya1954 8 років тому +11

    were all in this fight together

  • @symesalexander5294
    @symesalexander5294 5 років тому +6

    Same here bro Same here bro 😥😔😢🙄😟😦😒😕😞☹️ No woman and I mean women at all finds me attractive or desirable

  • @justanaverageperson544
    @justanaverageperson544 7 років тому +1

    I have only heard of TFL after this very video today. I'm not a virgin but ive never had a gf and im turning 30 soon. I have been employed the whole time and i too havr had to move back home. Thank you for sharing your story it helps me as feel less alone and fortunate because my situation has a glimmer of hope.

    • @Jg-lq6hs
      @Jg-lq6hs 6 років тому

      R you still tfl’d

  • @rysiukasztan5750
    @rysiukasztan5750 7 років тому +4

    i think you are cool guy. I was also sick i had a cancer i was 2 years in a house lonely and desperate for love .after that i went to germany with my father

  • @reygonzalez5001
    @reygonzalez5001 Рік тому +3

    Unfortunately life has never been fair, and to acknowledge that you are incapable of being with anybody because of shitty genetics shows that you are a kind person.

  • @cacoca79
    @cacoca79 8 років тому +5

    im thin and clean shaven and dont wear kiddie clothes, and women have never liked me

    • @nothingforgrantedPS23
      @nothingforgrantedPS23 7 років тому +5

      cacoca79: Are you gay?

    • @seanlewis1148
      @seanlewis1148 5 років тому +1

      Nothing for Granted What makes you think that he's gay, if women don't wanna fuck with him?

    • @FvckEmWeUp
      @FvckEmWeUp Рік тому

      Who asked abt kiddie clothes?

  • @Comesailaway
    @Comesailaway 8 років тому +5

    Women in other countries becoming "Westernized." No Escape.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому +1

      You may be right but I have better luck with a fresh start where the whole community hasn't deemed me as a loser.

    • @nonexistenceisbliss9528
      @nonexistenceisbliss9528 4 роки тому +4

      Sorry but women's nature is Universal.

  • @epsilon2461
    @epsilon2461 Місяць тому +1

    Thought that was justin bieber for a sec

  • @kicknitoldschool91
    @kicknitoldschool91 8 років тому +8

    People develop their personalities. TFL have not had the right foundation to develop those skills

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому +3

      I agree part of the personality is developed but a lot of is based on genetics. I'm an INFP so by nature there is going to be a lot less opportunities due to my introvertedness. Doesn't stop me from trying, its just a lot more difficult going against the grains.

    • @polishsandman
      @polishsandman 8 років тому +1

      I am probably INTP.But i can't get how is possible to have so big struggles I live the way similiar to you but i don't give a shit so much.I'm worried that I have exact problem as you.

    • @JihadBunnydick
      @JihadBunnydick Рік тому +1

      ​@@FiberOpticks I'm an INFP too, it's hard relating to normies/most women.

  • @glennz6686
    @glennz6686 7 років тому

    Smart move living with parents.Would not option for me but I'm glad that you have option

  • @UltimateMoralizer
    @UltimateMoralizer 8 років тому +2

    Hey, Samuel. Good video. I have had quite a few opportunities with females in the past, but I decided to let go of my emotional attachments, accept and move on as there aren't many women who share the same values as me in this day and time. It's a fact that women who sleep around become incapable of love and undesirable. Also, genetics isn't the reason why so many men live TFL. Social conditioning is what's truly to blame. It's Western culture that has demoralised our society. It's satanic. It's all about promiscuity, megalomania, superficiality and materialism.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому +1

      Thanks. I can kind of see that through the media and the promotion of sex and addiction.

    • @polishsandman
      @polishsandman 8 років тому

      but this all culture is just easier when it comes to sex,because it is only what matters with women

  • @legrostas2033
    @legrostas2033 8 років тому +5

    fucking US health system... here in Quebec you wouldn't have been indebted cause of your health, it's all paid with our taxes in a public system (but we have to wait very long time when our condition isn't very urgent).

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому

      Yeah the healthcare system here is fucked. You can see how everything is designed to keep you behind from bad credit to the health care system. If something happens to you when you are young like it did to me with my liver, then you get debt which leads to bad credit cause honestly no one has 15,000 (the medical portion of the 30k in debt I am in, the other portion from schooling and borrowing money from friends that they said I don't have to pay back but I feel obligated to) laying around starting out and pay 500$ a month on top of rent, car payment, car insurance, and survival funds is ridiculous so you have to take a hit to your credit and pay them back less than they want at a slower pace. Upon taking a hit to the credit, it makes it hard to find a good job that you can actually afford to pay off the debt because they do the background check and see you have bad credit and don't want to hire you so you have to work these piss poor jobs until its payed off. Here is the loop, more things arise while you are paying off your debt and perpetuate your debt in bad credit until before you know it your 65 and still paying off the debts at a dead end job because you could never clear the credit. I might have to file Chapter 13 bankruptcy and wait 7 years for it to clear because. This isn't cutting it anymore.
      But you see the loop you can get caught in is dumb and you get stuck there.

    • @legrostas2033
      @legrostas2033 8 років тому +1

      yeah maybe you should consider the personal bankruptcy and restart all over for the better, but I know nothing in the subject, so I don't know how bad it can affect your background credit.

    • @janemadison3542
      @janemadison3542 7 років тому

      Maybe people should take care of themselves. This man look unhealthy. Why should we have to pay for that.

  • @rysiukasztan5750
    @rysiukasztan5750 7 років тому +4

    you can leave everything in vegas

  • @HeathenDeluxe
    @HeathenDeluxe 7 років тому +18

    Wears Pokemon hat, has anime posters on walls, lives with parents.. blames society for being single.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  7 років тому +24

      1. Don't have the hat anymore.
      2. I don't live with my parents anymore.
      3. I only have 1 anime poster left now and its from Samurai Champloo.
      6 months changes a lot of things.
      I have 2 degrees. Drive a nice car. Have a semi-decent paying job. Have a work-out routine.
      Still single. Still a virgin. Difference is, I don't really care anymore. I don't want a broken ass bitch with 6 kids anyway.
      Laugh at me being a virgin, yes. I cri eritiem.

    • @dicloniusgames
      @dicloniusgames 7 років тому +4

      Never change dude.

    • @VladuxTutorials
      @VladuxTutorials 6 років тому +7

      so you are not allowed to have a passion for something nowadays..

    • @stevenbroughton9264
      @stevenbroughton9264 6 років тому +6

      I respect u . Seem like a smart and cool dude. Don't change who u are for others. I been trying to do that my whole life and always ended up not being myself and they noticed. Even tho I had sex and I guess I could attract women sometimes I still suffer from chronic depression and that drives them away. It sucks when ur born with decent looks but can't keep interesting or intelligent conversations. I guess what I'm trying to say is the grass in not greener on the other side unfortunately. Just be urself and hope fully u run into somebody that cares for who u really are. No lie I'm still struggling with that. Try to stay positive. Thx for the vid. Good luck

    • @Skelstoolbox
      @Skelstoolbox 5 років тому +2

      Do you really think if he changed all that he'd get pussy?? Really?? The guy gets turned down by escorts.. I've never even heard of that!! Poor soul..

  • @SwearfoGod.
    @SwearfoGod. 6 років тому +2

    i have a nice personality

  • @joelcarroll6002
    @joelcarroll6002 5 років тому +1

    I like listening to you hash out your thoughts but im not sure what youre trying to say though i didnt listen to much.

  • @deegalaz7755
    @deegalaz7755 8 років тому +1

    nice video dude.

  • @nothingforgrantedPS23
    @nothingforgrantedPS23 7 років тому +2

    I'm 27 and haven't punched my v card.

  • @Pathowatch
    @Pathowatch 8 років тому +1

    Hi i am very alone and don't know what to do to fix this problem. So you know having or making friends doesn't fix the problem. Any tips

  • @kevinknight3599
    @kevinknight3599 6 років тому +6

    That hat is terrible destroy it

  • @prod.gregupnext2958
    @prod.gregupnext2958 8 років тому +1

    good video bro

  • @joehinojosa8314
    @joehinojosa8314 5 років тому +3

    Start a church, ministry against Loneliness. I AM. Loneliness is a "disease" like Cancer.

    • @acuerdox
      @acuerdox Місяць тому

      look up, paul vanderklay, and ask people in the comments what is the TLC, they'll guide you.

  • @davaris1224
    @davaris1224 7 років тому +3

    There's only one thing that can help you. Do NEVER concentrate on your looks or personality! None of that matters when it comes to women. They cannot love these things and they will not see such values in you anyway. So, it's completely worthless if you are above average or even good looking, young, old or you have an interesting personality, many interests, a good behaviour etc. There's only ONE thing women are able to love in a man. And it has fucking nothing to do with the bs that he himself would consider attractive in a man.
    If you are a TFLer, always ask yourself one question and one question only: What is my utility value as a man? Imagine you're a busman. Do not think about a woman as the co-driver that will help you change a tyre when shit hits the fan! Think of her as a first class bus rider!
    The type of utility value may change with the woman you're trying to attract, so bear this in mind. Some of them look directly for money / financial status, others for social value / social status. But it's never the values you established in your character and how well you have trained your body. Never the looks and personality you may or may not have inherited from your parents. It's what you have built with these values and what you have achieved by doing so. Not what you WILL achieve, but what you have already achieved!
    So, if you like a girl, think about the things that make you a good utility for her. Either financially or socially. If you do not have any in that particular case or only a few, don't bother to ask her out. It won't work! And remember, it wasn't the looks and overall persona. You failed as a good bus driver (for HER as a VIP passenger). That's all!
    The last thing I want you to do now is to think about the following: Now that you know these things, how probable is it that you still even want a woman? For me, realizing this stuff was a major changing point. I'm not sure anymore if I want a parasitic bitch in my life that can only love my utility value, instead of the human being I am.

    • @nonexistenceisbliss9528
      @nonexistenceisbliss9528 4 роки тому +3

      BIGGEST FUCKING COPE I’VE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE.
      LOOKS >>>>>>> EVERYTHING ELSE

  • @nothingforgrantedPS23
    @nothingforgrantedPS23 7 років тому

    Dudes smart as shit! Shit being good here.

  • @METALBUG999
    @METALBUG999 8 років тому +2

    check out FOREVER ALONE FEELS on youtube.

  • @swizzlefirma9750
    @swizzlefirma9750 5 років тому

    how are things going for you nowadays, dude? any updates?
    cheers

  • @geroldgrimel4811
    @geroldgrimel4811 5 місяців тому

    7:00 No, finding a partner has nothing to do with 'skills'. Could you name what these skills are? Nobody can. There's a lot of factors that go into finding a partner, but there's no criteria. If there were, things would be very different.

    • @acuerdox
      @acuerdox Місяць тому +1

      if there are skills for keeping a friend then there are skills for that, more than anything it's not so much a skill but a story that's needed, why do people make plans for having a "career" many years in advance instead of just going out to work when cash runs low? because they've gotten this story from somewhere (TV and the like) about how somebody finds their "dream job" or maybe it's a story about "job security" or maybe they just heard that "chicks dig football players" could be anything, there are stories like that for dating too, those stories set up expectations and mark what's appropriate behavior and many other things, the more that story is well defined and shared by the general population the easier dating gets.

    • @geroldgrimel4811
      @geroldgrimel4811 Місяць тому +1

      @@acuerdox Makes sense.

  • @ShutingFromTheSky
    @ShutingFromTheSky 8 років тому +2

    after you pay off your bills....DO NOT LEAVE THAT HOUSE!!! save it ..build your 401k save save..break free of that 9 to 5 before you are 50. if you have to take a vacation..goto Thailand.it is cheap!

  • @Bootlegeus
    @Bootlegeus 8 років тому +2

    Nice Agumon beanie

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому +1

      Thanks, its charmander XD.

    • @yungyamaji8107
      @yungyamaji8107 8 років тому +1

      charizard* :D

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому

      I think the hat is the last of my worries when it comes to getting women.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому

      My fucked up teeth
      My fucked up nose
      My giant forehead
      My repulsive personality
      These are just a few things.

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому

      Opinions Don't Change Facts
      The only one of those that is opinionated is the personality. The other 3 are facts regardless of what I think or what anyone else thinks. No amount of positive thinking will ever get a human to move Mount Everest with their bare hands. When that happens because of positive thinking I'll continue replying to this comment.

  • @IamPsybo
    @IamPsybo 5 років тому +1

    Bro go to the Philippines or overseas .. that guy with no arms married a hot chick

  • @gentsupreme3934
    @gentsupreme3934 7 років тому +5

    at least you have a car and are driving

    • @soioioioioioio34
      @soioioioioioio34 2 місяці тому +1

      a car is a burden. That's why I sold mine. Having a car is a problem

  • @samowarow
    @samowarow 8 років тому +3

    Maybe, you tried to pick up girls with this hat?

    • @FiberOpticks
      @FiberOpticks  8 років тому +1

      Nah I usually suit up if I'm going out with intentions to get a girl.

    • @overman6563
      @overman6563 7 років тому +3

      Wearing the hat would probably work with girls. You need to be counter-intuitive with women. However, I would recommend going MGTOW and staying away from women. Women would fuck you around so much mate.

  • @ckzckw
    @ckzckw 7 років тому +2

    I think the best starting point is therapy, you may want to take childhood based therapy. You're basically a late bloomer, i.e not interested in girls at teenage.
    If you're still unemployed then volunteer in something so you can put it on your CV and when you get that job stay at home save your money to buy your own house but instead convert part of your parents home into your own studio.
    Please go to gerlach website, I recommend therapy not because I think you were abused, but dating is something parentts should encourage in their children and there are certain life skills that many children don't have not because of intentional neglect but just missed experiences.
    For a guy you are still very young, like seriously for women come 30 they get treated like left over whores but it's usually the non promiscuous women that struggle the same way the TFL men do. Stay away from angry men like commentors on here who call all women whores. Like really? SMH. Not so much genetics but personality, society wants people to be users in corporate world. BTW most people secretly envy your self discipline, don't try to fit in but learn to praise yourself and your personality but as a man you MUST have at least two hobbies or passions that don't involve sitting in front of a computer.
    There is nothing wrong with how you were born. Please try to move to high green leaf diet for your health and get into green juicing alkaline foods. Please focus on just going out and experiencing different things. Congratulations on not falling for the life in debt living with loans or credit cards, get yourself an extra job and pay them off sooner

    • @nuclearpugg
      @nuclearpugg 2 роки тому

      He was interested in girls at teenage why would he not be interested in girls when he was at his prime age and so were the girls. You act like he chose this

    • @ckzckw
      @ckzckw 2 роки тому

      @@nuclearpugg I think you're just looking to troll. If you read my 2nd paragraph it is very clear that I do not think he chose those not even a hint.

    • @JBRitchie8
      @JBRitchie8 11 місяців тому +1

      dawg shut up

  • @Khriss98
    @Khriss98 8 років тому

    I love r hat bro

  • @barlec2788
    @barlec2788 Рік тому +1

    In chile you will look like a chad

    • @acuerdox
      @acuerdox Місяць тому

      jajaja por que en chile???

  • @texazmade713
    @texazmade713 11 місяців тому +2

    I'm a guy let's hang out

  • @GrandAdmiralGamez
    @GrandAdmiralGamez 8 років тому

    You do not have to accept an incel life of TFL. It is a struggle, but you can dig your way out of it. It starts with you. Begin your personal development journey now: thegrandadmiral.com/category/personal-development/

  • @texazmade713
    @texazmade713 11 місяців тому +6

    Justin Bieber is that you?

    • @clich126
      @clich126 11 місяців тому +3

      It does

  • @RashaudMonroe
    @RashaudMonroe Рік тому

    How u gon say u born with skills .. thats how i got the skill? I put in the work over and over and over until it got ingrained in my dna fuck my mind

    • @RashaudMonroe
      @RashaudMonroe Рік тому

      U just fuckin gave up … you dont even workout or care about your health .. why would anybody want to love you ?

    • @blackcelneet
      @blackcelneet 11 місяців тому

      @@RashaudMonroeshut up