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Dad, you did great, full stop. I know it's hard, but based on what you kindly show us in your videos you are killing it every single day. Full disclosure: I'm about your and your wife's age and was just recently assessed and identified by a psychologist as autistic. It's been a wild ride trying to figure all this out. My presentation had a lot in common with Simon's, and my autism wasn't picked up on back then. Watching your family's videos has been therapeutic for me. It reminds me of the hard work my parents did for me and my siblings and how they found ways to accommodate my different needs even without any diagnosis or support. It was tough, but they killed it just like you're doing. Never doubt that your children love you and appreciate everything you do, and thank you for sharing your family's story with the world.
It s evening here and I was so sad and tired. Then I saw you ve uploaded a half an hour video with Ezra and that made me happy. I love how you include him in everything. And dad is a great narrator. Such inspiring family.
I was wondering if Ezra could learn some lessons, ABCs, etc, musically. He could listen to music through headphones. He may even learn to sing some phrases, or repeat songs, since I believe singing is in a separate part of the brain from speech. You have a lovely family. ❤️😊
@@7Aheadfamily No. But I’m sure your healthcare professional or autism specialist could provide some ideas. Songs for children might be a good idea to start with. Sorry I’m not an expert, but I’m sure there’s a lot of stuff out there for kids.
Simon does sooo well in the grocery store. I can see so much growth in him. Ezra did well too I liked that he listened to Dad when he was trying to open packages and when he said don't he stoped. My son really fusses more than them and would rip open any toy. Haha 😅.
I can tell how much cuteness these kids simon says hi you guys need to tell me why are these kids are so adorable every day im watching your channel it just made me happy tears🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹💚🧡🩷❤️🩵💛💜
He is sooo cute he is already a great helper at only 3 love how he helps his brother with things and does ezra take his shoes off anywhere do you have to put them back on more then once I know a boy who used to do that tan around without shoes on outside at school
I feel Ezra when you guys were waiting for your car. It’s hard to be in the store for a long time. You guys are awesome with your kids! I’ve read some of the comments that I don’t really agree with and wanted to let you know I think you guys are awesome! I knew you guys were in Utah but I didn’t know it was Salt Lake City. I went to Telos U in Orem for 2 years. Utah is such a pretty place 🙂
@@7Aheadfamily my stepmom pushing me out of my comfort zone and she said that if I wanted something I would have to speak plainly and not point at something I want and not murble under my breath and to speak up and speak to where someone can hear me plainly.
Awesome job dad! I have the same issues with my son when we leave the house for more than an hour. “We are learning patience” is the second most common phrase in my vocabulary lol. “Be careful” is the first. Keep up the great work!
Ezra does love his dad, he gives him comfort, and maybe a feeling of being more complete? and i guess that is why he can stay calm today, i can never stand being in walmart kind of places for longtime. He was sitting at his seat calmly too, while he drives and even looking to the camera directly - the camera was set towards left that we were seing more the window instead of Ezra, most of the time- . He does have an ironic smile and look, like he feels his intelligence is underestimated because of his handycaps. And i really appreciate you; Marie, how you are willingly the small mom of the big family, you have a precious hearth. In my religion, bringing up a girl well taken care and well educated opens up the door of the heavens. And you should be always equal between your kids, whom you have actually been barrowed by the creator and they are your tests to pass in this earthly life... but if you ever would need to be in favour of one, between your kids, it should be the girl... Marie, please say hello to Ezra too, when you get in the car for example, he would appreciate it.. Sorry for my preach, since you have broadcasted public, and i happened to watch it.; Thanks for making and sharing it.
He’s so skinny that his pants that fit his length always fall off and he doesn’t like wearing belts, so a lot of times, we just wear Highwater pants. 😊
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I'm more like Simon, it got really easy for me to hide my stimming and personal needs by controlling when and how people saw me. I didn't even know I was doing it. In some ways it seemed like I was doing better, but I needed to be honest with myself and others about my own needs in order to function enough to get by. It might seem easier as an adult to just hide or skip a complicated social situation but its terrible eventually. I haven't got it right yet, but I try to show a certain amount of my stimming and other behaviors so I'm comfortable and also people can get accustomed to who I am in an appropriate way
My dad always changes his oil on his 2002 ford excursion and tire rotation and his 2002 excursion has 577,000 miles on it and he changes the oil and rotate the tires on my stepmom 2012 ford expedition that has about 200,000 miles on it.
Wow! Simon speaks so fluently. We have a 17 months old that reminds me of Simon (with a bit more hyperactivity) and we are waiting for an assessment. He has pretend play, pointing but no speech and medium eye contact. Also he tip toes. Any video suggestion on how to teach the word ‘no’? Thanks for the nice content!
You got this! Good for you for getting him in early to get assessed. Speech is a tricky one. Repetition has helped our kids better understand words, like “no”
Some random notes about what I saw in this video: 1. About jealousy It looks like both Ezra and Simon are able to experience jealousy. My sister is level one like Simon and she also began to experience jealousy around his age (she is in her fifties now). It looks like Simon already recognizes what a smile means (probably from all of the daily therapies) which already puts his understanding of body language at least two years ahead of where I was at that age. I wonder if Simon would understand a preschool level cartoon episode about jealousy (The Dragon Tales episode “Cassie the Green-Eyed Dragon” comes to mind). 2. About patience Don’t be surprised if Simon and Ezra don’t understand the concept of patience yet. Due to a combination of a right hemisphere condition (as a result of complications from a premature birth) and also being on the spectrum I was at least twelve years old (in sixth grade) before I even began to understand a concept as abstract as this one. 3. About vocabulary I’m not surprised that Simon doesn’t yet understand homonyms or that words can have more than one meaning (for example his “bye” vs “buy” confusion). I didn’t understand that very well myself until I was in second or third grade (age eight or nine) when the teacher’s aide in my special education class had me work on several worksheets about this. This was when I learned that nouns could have more than one meaning. Sometime before age six I began to understand that certain verbs (or at least the word “go”) can have more than one meaning. As late as when I was in preschool (age five-and-a-half) I still didn’t understand this yet. When my mother taught me about traffic lights at that age the light would turn red and she would stop the car and say “red stop”. Then the light would turn green and my mother would say “Go mommy and Tommy”. At this point I didn’t understand this meaning of the word “go” (I still only associated it with “going to the bathroom”). Fortunately (in a way) I was still in Pampers at that age so clean up was relatively minimal. In the event that Simon might have the occasional misunderstanding like the ones I had when I was younger it might be a good idea to have extra towels somewhere in the car so that Simon can assist in the cleanup should any such misunderstandings and related mishaps occur. Since Simon is wearing underwear more often than I did at that age (or even a year or two older) it is likely that more opportunities will come up for him to learn how to clean up using towels when it is necessary to do so. Also it looks like Simon may be making mental comparisons between taking the car to the garage and going to the doctor (as shown by his phrase “car owie”). I don’t know if he was taught the comparison in therapy or whether he came up with it on his own but he’s still doing better with this than I did at that age. I think I was in kindergarten (age six) before I was able to make comparisons like this one. It’s also encouraging that he has started saying “dada” (and perhaps “mama”). It looks like he’s beginning to understand the basics of family relationships. Maybe he can learn about brothers and sisters next. 4. About understanding concepts such as “help” It will probably be another year or two before Simon really begins to understand how much help Ezra needs and why Ezra needs help with some activities that he is already able to do. This would not be unusual. For example in the series Caillou (available on Amazon, just like Dragon Tales) Caillou is slightly older than Simon (in most episodes) but he doesn’t yet understand why Alan in the episode “Caillou and the Dragon” is not able to do certain activities that he can do (such as climbing and swinging) even though he’s a year older. Alan in that episode likely has a different neurological condition from Ezra’s (although the episode (being no more than eleven minutes in length) doesn’t actually specify which one). It would have been interesting if they had kept Alan on the show for more than the one episode. It would have been interesting to see Caillou help him to learn some new skills in future episodes. I’m not sure why they didn’t go this route. Maybe the voice actor was only available for that one episode (Who knows?). Also regarding the episode “Caillou and the Dragon” I wonder if Simon might be ready (or at least nearly ready) to understand that episode on some level. I think this pretty much sums up my latest observations on this video for now.
Love those observations ❤️. Thank you for watching and sharing ❤️. You have an incredible memory! That is awesome and you can give such detail about your growing up years.
Think if you bought him sandals with straps would he take those off I don’t wear shoes or socks only sandals I don’t like the feeling of my feet being closed
That’s good idea. Ezra loves holding sandals, so when we put them on him he takes them off to hold them and throw them. We’ve gone through a lot of sandals! 😂
@@7Aheadfamily Honestly just how Simon is trying to help Ezra the best he can that's a very kind brother trust me my sister would never help me with anything she knows I'm autistic but she just still doesn't want to help me she still doesn't even care about so Ezra is so lucky to have lots of siblings that would love to help him your channel has really helped loads of people and it's made a impact god bless
Thank you ❤️ that means so much to us. ❤️ Yes! Ezra and Simon are very blessed to have awesome siblings, and Mark Benson and Marie are blessed to have Ezra in Simon as well ❤️.
Haha cant do cowboy boots, i struggle so much with shoes its something about leather , its okay with socks sometimes but if the cold leather touches my skin i cannot stand the feeling. So proud of little simon he is talking so well now 😊 thats all your hard work of easing anxiety and making talking fun rather than scary 😊 haha he is becoming a little camera man already i see , can definitely see him getting into vlogging himself later on. I think ezra was feeling a little left out in this one and that he got a little bit frustrated that he can't communicate with daddy as easily and that simon was getting a little more attention. As another none verbal auspie till my early teens sometimes it can be so frustrating because you want to communicate and in a way you are but its like speaking a different language and it can sometimes be hard to really understand that people dont understand what your sounds mean, i know when i was younger it would make me so angry when i was trying to communicate something specific but noone seemed to realise or the responses i got were nothing to do with the issue. That and waiting lol till this day i still hate waiting or looking for things in shops when we dont know what we are getting like gift shopping to the day i always do online so i dont have to walk around and look and get agitated that i cant go home yet 😅 poor little monkey i felt frustrated for Ezra myself , even as a 31 year old i would still find this situation so hard like you handled that amazingly i would of been like forget this i cant do it and just left the stuff and gone cause i still get uncomfortable stimming publically and would be pacing on my toes like crazy in agitation. It always makes me smile that Simon's excited tiptoe flap hands shuffle stim is exactly the same as mine even though im 31 😂 ...i know weve never met but watching your videos makes me feel like i have human companions that understand my brain and i tune in as soon as you post and stim along with the boys and feel like im right there with you guys in the moment , even to the extent if theres a sound or light change that happens that makes me uncomfortable i react to it as if i was literally there in the moment 😅 So happy to see everyones smiles in the end 😊 and Ezra's little happy trot before you got in the car Sorry all my comments are essays 😅
Your comments are gold! Thank you for sharing! It helps us to see more what our kids are thinking and feeling. Especially Ezra , thank you for your insights in helping us to see what he is going through. What recommendations do you have to help us help him learn how to communicate? What helped you the most when you were an early 18 to learn how to communicate and speak?
@@7Aheadfamily it's honestly so hard to pin because as individuals we are all so different but in my case the issue was largely anxiety related , and Im ADHD and my brain just moves so much faster than I could verbally keep up with like I would say three words at once and mess up the word cause I was thinking about the rest of the sentence rather than what I was saying...also the need to speak knowing everyone is desperate for you to talk is horrendously overwhelming especially if you have a difficulty with the structure of words and coordination like dyslexia and dyspraxia. With me honestly I'm not sure what it was I would repeat words others said when completely alone before I spoke In front of people and I had a really bad nervous stutter that made me really anxious around talking. I would say particularly in Ezra's case that he definitely does understand your words, maybe not all of them or process them all but he is listening and he definitely does communicate in his own way. All I can really suggest is to see if certain sounds reoccur playing close attention to the details of pitch , length ect , also movements that frequently come with the same noise. Everyone always looks for words or things that sound like words , but often the vocalisation in itself has its own meaning ....like some of Ezra's vocal sounds are definitely stimming but other times I almost think he has his own language and that some specifically mean something if that makes sense ,I'm not sure if in explaining what I mean very well
@@7Aheadfamily I think when I first started speaking I didn't feel like there was any pressure to at the time , it also helped that people spoke to me as if I could reply but didn't sorta then wait or focus on whether I actually would or not. I was trying to think of things that helped but honestly it just felt okay to
That makes a lot of sense! Thank you for explaining that to us ❤️. I think you’re right, Ezra does understand most of what we say, it’s just that communicating back to us that we’re really struggling with.
Cattiehays im shocked that on various you tube chanbels people are telling the parents who are the ecperts about the kids clothing etc ive seversl teedhirts and what i csll ethnic yoga pants because i love the soft material bufbivebpkenty of other clithes p,usbive a thing about having white bed sheets on my bad and no pilliw cases on and a lovely doft quilt but font like covers on it do yes at times it may look a bit grubby so im hoing to buy more white sheets and another quilt but i likecit and im what if went thtough fiagnosis process would bevlevel one snd the diagnosis was not through usual challenge but via two psychatriets and art psychotherapists ive gotmpl3nty of bedfing but when im having a bad time or meltdowns with bpd + autism i cuddle my blanket
After they messed up your truck, you took the car to them? I wouldn't ever go back there....Just sayin'....Your boys were very patient....Definitely took too long....
Right, but they took care of it, and it ended up being actually beneficial with the free rental for two months. I would not have gone back, however, if they hadn’t owned up and fixed their mistakes. Yes, we all learned a little patience that day. 😊
Plz get a PO Box so we can send stuff 2 you all. I'm just shocked at your kids clothes but the dad buys himself gym shorts.. Your kids need new clothes asap..
We already sent you the address. Here it is again. 75 E Center ST unit 234 SPRINGVILLE UT 84663 You are welcome to send whatever you want. I do want to let you know, Ezra has so many clothes but the ones that fit him better lengthwise are ones that he doesn’t like to wear, because he hates wearing belts. His favorite is sweatpants that are tight enough around his waist. That means that usually they are shorter on him. He likes T-shirts. So we have probably about 20 T-shirts for him that he wears. Maybe more. And he has about 10 different pairs of pants and five different pairs of shorts. For the videos we like to put him in seven head T-shirts he has many white black and blue T-shirts. So if you see him in a white T-shirt and lots of videos, it’s probably not the same T-shirt. Because he has four different white T-shirts with our logo on it. I hope this adds some clarification to the situation.
@@7Aheadfamily I'm sorry about those negative comments. My son Jaxon has the same issue with pants, by the time they fit his waist they're already too short on his legs. I really hope those comments don't get y'all down. Your family's channel is really my favorite thing on the internet 🫶🏻✝️
For the moment i have a problem with the trick"s of nature*s enemy,to close my perception,so i like it all kids...in nature.. kids...aliances,but i can not....
Ezra is in need of clothes that fit him & maybe Simon does 2. Ezras wearing pants that come up 2 his knees & your buying gym shorts 4 yourself! I'm not understanding that....
I just gave you a long answer on your last comment so please look at that. I gave you the address there as well. But please remember that the reason he’s wearing those pants is because he likes those types of pants. It doesn’t have anything to do with The lack of clothes in his closet.
Yeah I can’t stand wearing full length pants as well I only like shorts that go to my knees they have to fit right and be the right fabric and colour. I tried buying clothes to ‘fit in’ because all the girls I knew would only wear skinny jeans and crop tops or dresses some of the worst thing for me to wear I just can’t relax until I can take the uncomfortable clothes off it’s just my preference like everyone has their own preference/style that feels like you and is comfortable to go through the day Ezra’s just look like 3 quarter pants nothing wrong with that at all x
@@7AheadfamilyMy child is currently 38 months old and has been able to make many simple sounds for nearly a year, but he can make random sounds and still cannot say single words in the right situation.
@@7Aheadfamily and he is also Non-verbal, I wonder what is going on in his mind, and hopefully just hopefully that you will be able to hear his wonderful voice one day!!!! 💗💙
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my cat never made it (today) :( and idk how to process:(
Dad, you did great, full stop. I know it's hard, but based on what you kindly show us in your videos you are killing it every single day. Full disclosure: I'm about your and your wife's age and was just recently assessed and identified by a psychologist as autistic. It's been a wild ride trying to figure all this out. My presentation had a lot in common with Simon's, and my autism wasn't picked up on back then. Watching your family's videos has been therapeutic for me. It reminds me of the hard work my parents did for me and my siblings and how they found ways to accommodate my different needs even without any diagnosis or support. It was tough, but they killed it just like you're doing. Never doubt that your children love you and appreciate everything you do, and thank you for sharing your family's story with the world.
Thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
It s evening here and I was so sad and tired. Then I saw you ve uploaded a half an hour video with Ezra and that made me happy. I love how you include him in everything. And dad is a great narrator. Such inspiring family.
Thank you for those kind words ❤️ so glad you liked the video. 😊
Lol obviously they include him. He’s their son lmao
I was wondering if Ezra could learn some lessons, ABCs, etc, musically. He could listen to music through headphones. He may even learn to sing some phrases, or repeat songs, since I believe singing is in a separate part of the brain from speech.
You have a lovely family. ❤️😊
Thank you! Yes! I would love to do more music therapy with Ezra . He does love music most of the time. 😊
Do you have any music therapy recommendations?
@@7Aheadfamily No. But I’m sure your healthcare professional or autism specialist could provide some ideas. Songs for children might be a good idea to start with. Sorry I’m not an expert, but I’m sure there’s a lot of stuff out there for kids.
For sure! We will look into that some more. 😊
@@laurasimmons6034 Quite the smart idea!
its so great how Simon helps Ezra, and I think Ezra appreciates it
Agreed!!
Simon does sooo well in the grocery store. I can see so much growth in him. Ezra did well too I liked that he listened to Dad when he was trying to open packages and when he said don't he stoped. My son really fusses more than them and would rip open any toy. Haha 😅.
Yes. I am impressed that he stopped opening up the package
I love that Simon likes to help his brother Ezra! ❤
Yes! That is so nice ❤️.
Loved Simons little songs, and the ‘ok’ so sweat, he’s coming on so much.
Thank you so much!😊
You are doing great, patience is a virtue 😊
So true!! ❤️ thank you 🙏
I can tell how much cuteness these kids simon says hi you guys need to tell me why are these kids are so adorable every day im watching your channel it just made me happy tears🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹💚🧡🩷❤️🩵💛💜
Thank you for sharing. ❤️
@@7Aheadfamily aww your welcome beautifuls🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
its free and you're busy, no judgement on oil filter and change lol. I love putting my hands on things in general though
True, true, there are many advantages to doing it yourself as well. 😊
Hey 👋 7 ahead family look like you love shopping 😊❤
Well, I wouldn’t say that, but it was a fun adventure anyway. 😊
He is sooo cute he is already a great helper at only 3 love how he helps his brother with things and does ezra take his shoes off anywhere do you have to put them back on more then once I know a boy who used to do that tan around without shoes on outside at school
Ezra likes to take off his shoes. He once threw his shoe off of Niagara Falls
I feel Ezra when you guys were waiting for your car. It’s hard to be in the store for a long time. You guys are awesome with your kids! I’ve read some of the comments that I don’t really agree with and wanted to let you know I think you guys are awesome! I knew you guys were in Utah but I didn’t know it was Salt Lake City. I went to Telos U in Orem for 2 years. Utah is such a pretty place 🙂
Thank you ❤️. That means a lot. 😊 yes! Utah is a great place. 😊
Simon's speech is improving… 🗣️🧩
Yes, a bunch lately! He has been doing schooling from 9 o’clock in the morning till 7 o’clock at night, and it’s really been incredible improvement.
And he loves it. 😊 Which makes all the difference.
@emilygenerallee9071 I didn't start speaking plainly until I was about 7 years old and I have level 2 autism which is between Simon and Ezra.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️. What do you think helped you the most to start talking?
@@7Aheadfamily my stepmom pushing me out of my comfort zone and she said that if I wanted something I would have to speak plainly and not point at something I want and not murble under my breath and to speak up and speak to where someone can hear me plainly.
I like the sunglasses that Adam was wearing in this video
Thank you! They were a cheap five dollar pair. 😊
@@7Aheadfamily nice
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Awesome job dad! I have the same issues with my son when we leave the house for more than an hour. “We are learning patience” is the second most common phrase in my vocabulary lol. “Be careful” is the first. Keep up the great work!
That is awesome!🩵🩵🩵
Simons speach is improving so much
It is!😊❤️😊
Ezra does love his dad, he gives him comfort, and maybe a feeling of being more complete? and i guess that is why he can stay calm today, i can never stand being in walmart kind of places for longtime. He was sitting at his seat calmly too, while he drives and even looking to the camera directly - the camera was set towards left that we were seing more the window instead of Ezra, most of the time- . He does have an ironic smile and look, like he feels his intelligence is underestimated because of his handycaps. And i really appreciate you; Marie, how you are willingly the small mom of the big family, you have a precious hearth. In my religion, bringing up a girl well taken care and well educated opens up the door of the heavens. And you should be always equal between your kids, whom you have actually been barrowed by the creator and they are your tests to pass in this earthly life... but if you ever would need to be in favour of one, between your kids, it should be the girl...
Marie, please say hello to Ezra too, when you get in the car for example, he would appreciate it..
Sorry for my preach, since you have broadcasted public, and i happened to watch it.;
Thanks for making and sharing it.
Thank you for your thoughts and advice. You bring up some good points. Thanks!
It’s not easy even for us. I get so frustrated with my store they changed it all around. I know we’re nothing is anymore.
Right! Always moving things around. 😊
Simply...i sing the next notes...differences...is more to talk about how different they are but in harmony
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Nice video Adam, Simon and Ezra!
Glad you enjoyed it
I was laughing when Simon had the camera. Better watch out, or he will become a Hollywood cameraoperator 😜
Right! He likes being in the limelight. 😊
Why are his trousers short in him
He’s so skinny that his pants that fit his length always fall off and he doesn’t like wearing belts, so a lot of times, we just wear Highwater pants. 😊
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I'm more like Simon, it got really easy for me to hide my stimming and personal needs by controlling when and how people saw me. I didn't even know I was doing it. In some ways it seemed like I was doing better, but I needed to be honest with myself and others about my own needs in order to function enough to get by. It might seem easier as an adult to just hide or skip a complicated social situation but its terrible eventually. I haven't got it right yet, but I try to show a certain amount of my stimming and other behaviors so I'm comfortable and also people can get accustomed to who I am in an appropriate way
I was spacing my engagement so that I was able to mask successfully and to observe well enough to strike like a hawk socially.
I love that! Thank you for sharing your experience and real life story. It’s so helpful. ❤️
❤️❤️❤️ that makes sense. Thank you.
the unstructured format is good occasionally, it really shows a lot that might be missed otherwise
Thanks for that feedback! Glad you liked it!
Everytime when I have to wait, I would get frustrated, I wish I can learn how to be patience soon
Sometimes I even get impatient with myself if I’m not patient. 😊 - Holly
My dad always changes his oil on his 2002 ford excursion and tire rotation and his 2002 excursion has 577,000 miles on it and he changes the oil and rotate the tires on my stepmom 2012 ford expedition that has about 200,000 miles on it.
Wow! That is awesome. They are getting their miles out of those cars!
Pilot escort for oversize loads so they put alot of miles on their vehicles like 2002 excursion and 2012 expedition
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing ❤️
Hola 👋 Walmart deveria patrocinar su canal ❤❤❤. Yo compro hay Jogeers para mi niño son más cómodos solo que si tengo secarlos en frio .
Right 😊
Wow! Simon speaks so fluently. We have a 17 months old that reminds me of Simon (with a bit more hyperactivity) and we are waiting for an assessment. He has pretend play, pointing but no speech and medium eye contact. Also he tip toes. Any video suggestion on how to teach the word ‘no’? Thanks for the nice content!
You got this! Good for you for getting him in early to get assessed. Speech is a tricky one. Repetition has helped our kids better understand words, like “no”
Some random notes about what I saw in this video:
1. About jealousy
It looks like both Ezra and Simon are able to experience jealousy. My sister is level one like Simon and she also began to experience jealousy around his age (she is in her fifties now). It looks like Simon already recognizes what a smile means (probably from all of the daily therapies) which already puts his understanding of body language at least two years ahead of where I was at that age. I wonder if Simon would understand a preschool level cartoon episode about jealousy (The Dragon Tales episode “Cassie the Green-Eyed Dragon” comes to mind).
2. About patience
Don’t be surprised if Simon and Ezra don’t understand the concept of patience yet. Due to a combination of a right hemisphere condition (as a result of complications from a premature birth) and also being on the spectrum I was at least twelve years old (in sixth grade) before I even began to understand a concept as abstract as this one.
3. About vocabulary
I’m not surprised that Simon doesn’t yet understand homonyms or that words can have more than one meaning (for example his “bye” vs “buy” confusion). I didn’t understand that very well myself until I was in second or third grade (age eight or nine) when the teacher’s aide in my special education class had me work on several worksheets about this. This was when I learned that nouns could have more than one meaning.
Sometime before age six I began to understand that certain verbs (or at least the word “go”) can have more than one meaning. As late as when I was in preschool (age five-and-a-half) I still didn’t understand this yet. When my mother taught me about traffic lights at that age the light would turn red and she would stop the car and say “red stop”. Then the light would turn green and my mother would say “Go mommy and Tommy”. At this point I didn’t understand this meaning of the word “go” (I still only associated it with “going to the bathroom”). Fortunately (in a way) I was still in Pampers at that age so clean up was relatively minimal. In the event that Simon might have the occasional misunderstanding like the ones I had when I was younger it might be a good idea to have extra towels somewhere in the car so that Simon can assist in the cleanup should any such misunderstandings and related mishaps occur. Since Simon is wearing underwear more often than I did at that age (or even a year or two older) it is likely that more opportunities will come up for him to learn how to clean up using towels when it is necessary to do so.
Also it looks like Simon may be making mental comparisons between taking the car to the garage and going to the doctor (as shown by his phrase “car owie”). I don’t know if he was taught the comparison in therapy or whether he came up with it on his own but he’s still doing better with this than I did at that age. I think I was in kindergarten (age six) before I was able to make comparisons like this one.
It’s also encouraging that he has started saying “dada” (and perhaps “mama”). It looks like he’s beginning to understand the basics of family relationships. Maybe he can learn about brothers and sisters next.
4. About understanding concepts such as “help”
It will probably be another year or two before Simon really begins to understand how much help Ezra needs and why Ezra needs help with some activities that he is already able to do. This would not be unusual. For example in the series Caillou (available on Amazon, just like Dragon Tales) Caillou is slightly older than Simon (in most episodes) but he doesn’t yet understand why Alan in the episode “Caillou and the Dragon” is not able to do certain activities that he can do (such as climbing and swinging) even though he’s a year older. Alan in that episode likely has a different neurological condition from Ezra’s (although the episode (being no more than eleven minutes in length) doesn’t actually specify which one). It would have been interesting if they had kept Alan on the show for more than the one episode. It would have been interesting to see Caillou help him to learn some new skills in future episodes. I’m not sure why they didn’t go this route. Maybe the voice actor was only available for that one episode (Who knows?).
Also regarding the episode “Caillou and the Dragon” I wonder if Simon might be ready (or at least nearly ready) to understand that episode on some level.
I think this pretty much sums up my latest observations on this video for now.
Love those observations ❤️. Thank you for watching and sharing ❤️. You have an incredible memory! That is awesome and you can give such detail about your growing up years.
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8:00 I would wear the cowboy boots if they had a size 4 in kids. They look stylish
Agreed! I thought they looked pretty good. 😊.
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Think if you bought him sandals with straps would he take those off I don’t wear shoes or socks only sandals I don’t like the feeling of my feet being closed
That’s good idea. Ezra loves holding sandals, so when we put them on him he takes them off to hold them and throw them. We’ve gone through a lot of sandals! 😂
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Did Simon enjoy going to the shop and Ezra
Yes, he liked it🩷
Hey, That was a great video
Thank you!!!
What was your favorite part about it so we can do more like that!
@@7Aheadfamily Honestly just how Simon is trying to help Ezra the best he can that's a very kind brother trust me my sister would never help me with anything she knows I'm autistic but she just still doesn't want to help me she still doesn't even care about so Ezra is so lucky to have lots of siblings that would love to help him your channel has really helped loads of people and it's made a impact god bless
Thank you ❤️ that means so much to us. ❤️ Yes! Ezra and Simon are very blessed to have awesome siblings, and Mark Benson and Marie are blessed to have Ezra in Simon as well ❤️.
@@7Aheadfamily Aw no problem
Haha cant do cowboy boots, i struggle so much with shoes its something about leather , its okay with socks sometimes but if the cold leather touches my skin i cannot stand the feeling.
So proud of little simon he is talking so well now 😊 thats all your hard work of easing anxiety and making talking fun rather than scary 😊 haha he is becoming a little camera man already i see , can definitely see him getting into vlogging himself later on.
I think ezra was feeling a little left out in this one and that he got a little bit frustrated that he can't communicate with daddy as easily and that simon was getting a little more attention. As another none verbal auspie till my early teens sometimes it can be so frustrating because you want to communicate and in a way you are but its like speaking a different language and it can sometimes be hard to really understand that people dont understand what your sounds mean, i know when i was younger it would make me so angry when i was trying to communicate something specific but noone seemed to realise or the responses i got were nothing to do with the issue. That and waiting lol till this day i still hate waiting or looking for things in shops when we dont know what we are getting like gift shopping to the day i always do online so i dont have to walk around and look and get agitated that i cant go home yet 😅 poor little monkey i felt frustrated for Ezra myself , even as a 31 year old i would still find this situation so hard like you handled that amazingly i would of been like forget this i cant do it and just left the stuff and gone cause i still get uncomfortable stimming publically and would be pacing on my toes like crazy in agitation.
It always makes me smile that Simon's excited tiptoe flap hands shuffle stim is exactly the same as mine even though im 31 😂 ...i know weve never met but watching your videos makes me feel like i have human companions that understand my brain and i tune in as soon as you post and stim along with the boys and feel like im right there with you guys in the moment , even to the extent if theres a sound or light change that happens that makes me uncomfortable i react to it as if i was literally there in the moment 😅
So happy to see everyones smiles in the end 😊 and Ezra's little happy trot before you got in the car
Sorry all my comments are essays 😅
Your comments are gold! Thank you for sharing! It helps us to see more what our kids are thinking and feeling. Especially Ezra , thank you for your insights in helping us to see what he is going through. What recommendations do you have to help us help him learn how to communicate? What helped you the most when you were an early 18 to learn how to communicate and speak?
@@7Aheadfamily it's honestly so hard to pin because as individuals we are all so different but in my case the issue was largely anxiety related , and Im ADHD and my brain just moves so much faster than I could verbally keep up with like I would say three words at once and mess up the word cause I was thinking about the rest of the sentence rather than what I was saying...also the need to speak knowing everyone is desperate for you to talk is horrendously overwhelming especially if you have a difficulty with the structure of words and coordination like dyslexia and dyspraxia. With me honestly I'm not sure what it was I would repeat words others said when completely alone before I spoke In front of people and I had a really bad nervous stutter that made me really anxious around talking.
I would say particularly in Ezra's case that he definitely does understand your words, maybe not all of them or process them all but he is listening and he definitely does communicate in his own way. All I can really suggest is to see if certain sounds reoccur playing close attention to the details of pitch , length ect , also movements that frequently come with the same noise. Everyone always looks for words or things that sound like words , but often the vocalisation in itself has its own meaning ....like some of Ezra's vocal sounds are definitely stimming but other times I almost think he has his own language and that some specifically mean something if that makes sense ,I'm not sure if in explaining what I mean very well
@@7Aheadfamily I think when I first started speaking I didn't feel like there was any pressure to at the time , it also helped that people spoke to me as if I could reply but didn't sorta then wait or focus on whether I actually would or not. I was trying to think of things that helped but honestly it just felt okay to
That makes a lot of sense! Thank you for explaining that to us ❤️. I think you’re right, Ezra does understand most of what we say, it’s just that communicating back to us that we’re really struggling with.
That’s so cool, so you were like 12 when you started speaking?
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You forgot your sit belt
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How come Ezra has moved seats? 😃
He moves seats sometimes. He likes to be in the middle when there aren’t other kids in the back seat.
@@7Aheadfamily that makes sense wouldn’t want to be by himself
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Cattiehays im shocked that on various you tube chanbels people are telling the parents who are the ecperts about the kids clothing etc ive seversl teedhirts and what i csll ethnic yoga pants because i love the soft material bufbivebpkenty of other clithes p,usbive a thing about having white bed sheets on my bad and no pilliw cases on and a lovely doft quilt but font like covers on it do yes at times it may look a bit grubby so im hoing to buy more white sheets and another quilt but i likecit and im what if went thtough fiagnosis process would bevlevel one snd the diagnosis was not through usual challenge but via two psychatriets and art psychotherapists ive gotmpl3nty of bedfing but when im having a bad time or meltdowns with bpd + autism i cuddle my blanket
Agreed! Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
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After they messed up your truck, you took the car to them? I wouldn't ever go back there....Just sayin'....Your boys were very patient....Definitely took too long....
Right, but they took care of it, and it ended up being actually beneficial with the free rental for two months. I would not have gone back, however, if they hadn’t owned up and fixed their mistakes. Yes, we all learned a little patience that day. 😊
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How old os simon now ? 3,5 ?:)
He is 3. 😊
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You once told me about 20/20 vision of your kids. How do we get autistic kids tested? My son is 2.5 year old and he definitely won't answer the chart.
Our autistic kids won’t be able to look at a chart either. We had them tested with a machine that the eye doctor uses to test babies’ eyes.
Oh. OK.
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Going for an eye check up today. His screen exposure was high. Let's see what happens.
That’ll be interesting. Good luck! 😊😊
I never talk with you again...but I can not ...to be silent
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Plz get a PO Box so we can send stuff 2 you all. I'm just shocked at your kids clothes but the dad buys himself gym shorts.. Your kids need new clothes asap..
We already sent you the address. Here it is again. 75 E Center ST unit 234
SPRINGVILLE UT 84663
You are welcome to send whatever you want. I do want to let you know, Ezra has so many clothes but the ones that fit him better lengthwise are ones that he doesn’t like to wear, because he hates wearing belts. His favorite is sweatpants that are tight enough around his waist. That means that usually they are shorter on him. He likes T-shirts. So we have probably about 20 T-shirts for him that he wears. Maybe more. And he has about 10 different pairs of pants and five different pairs of shorts. For the videos we like to put him in seven head T-shirts he has many white black and blue T-shirts. So if you see him in a white T-shirt and lots of videos, it’s probably not the same T-shirt. Because he has four different white T-shirts with our logo on it. I hope this adds some clarification to the situation.
@@7Aheadfamily I'm sorry about those negative comments. My son Jaxon has the same issue with pants, by the time they fit his waist they're already too short on his legs. I really hope those comments don't get y'all down. Your family's channel is really my favorite thing on the internet 🫶🏻✝️
Thank you so much, that means so much to us. ❤️ Yeah, where are used to catiehays‘s comments. She means well. 😊
I like to be wild..hard to be educated
Yes! The traditional classroom does make it hard to be wild. 😊
Not for me
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Does make it easy to be empty
Well that’s good. 😊
Maybe if i use two finghers to stop my nose a second to talk an word...
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What is the height you racing in the when he sitting on high chair p Sanam Jung younger brother and don'ts in the what younger brother doing
I am sorry. I don’t fully understand the question. Are you asking what Ezra’s height is when he sits in his high chair? If so he is about four feet.
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Ezra is in need of clothes that fit him & maybe Simon does 2. Ezras wearing pants that come up 2 his knees & your buying gym shorts 4 yourself! I'm not understanding that....
I just gave you a long answer on your last comment so please look at that. I gave you the address there as well. But please remember that the reason he’s wearing those pants is because he likes those types of pants. It doesn’t have anything to do with The lack of clothes in his closet.
Yeah I can’t stand wearing full length pants as well I only like shorts that go to my knees they have to fit right and be the right fabric and colour. I tried buying clothes to ‘fit in’ because all the girls I knew would only wear skinny jeans and crop tops or dresses some of the worst thing for me to wear I just can’t relax until I can take the uncomfortable clothes off it’s just my preference like everyone has their own preference/style that feels like you and is comfortable to go through the day Ezra’s just look like 3 quarter pants nothing wrong with that at all x
Agreed. :-) Thank you ❤️
Ezra is still screaming and making sounds, why can't he speak?
Because he has apraxia of speech which makes it really difficult for him to say specific sounds like words. ❤️
@@7AheadfamilyMy child is currently 38 months old and has been able to make many simple sounds for nearly a year, but he can make random sounds and still cannot say single words in the right situation.
Thank you so much for sharing. We wish you guys the very best. 😊
@@7Aheadfamily and he is also Non-verbal, I wonder what is going on in his mind, and hopefully just hopefully that you will be able to hear his wonderful voice one day!!!! 💗💙
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I’m not sure I understand. 🤔