10 Empowering Lifestyle Choices for Older Women Living Alone

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  • @mauraronda1265
    @mauraronda1265 Рік тому +12

    I love my friends but I honestly love being on my own. I do many things so I am never really bored. I’m alone but not lonely. I feel very comfortable love your tips!

  • @rubyokosi6946
    @rubyokosi6946 Рік тому +13

    I walk my doggo. I always connect with other dog walkers I see. I talk on the phone. I have a kindle and piles of books. I decorate a lot. Cleaning never ends 😊neither does shopping😁. I cook a good meal a couple of times per week. I love you tube. I never get bored!

  • @AnaBlanco-ke1he
    @AnaBlanco-ke1he Рік тому +9

    Wonderful ideas. I'm 62 and live alone. On health, I walk 30 minutes at sunrise. It's quiet and peaceful and great for my mental health. I'm learning new things; I love bread but switched to sourdough for health reason. Sourdough bread is not cheap, so I decided to learn how to bake my own bread! There are a lot of UA-cam channels on baking and they're all free. Baking bread is challenging but I'm not giving up and enjoying the journey. Thank you for all you do. You are such an inspiration.

  • @paulavukonich7679
    @paulavukonich7679 Рік тому +23

    Book clubs, learning about Buddhism, painting, exercising daily, duolingo French, gardening, and local travel. Just turned 66 and Margaret, I start my days with you. God bless and know you are loved and cared for.

  • @lauraholleman3560
    @lauraholleman3560 11 місяців тому +4

    Thank you so much for this video! I’m about to turn 65 and I’m dealing with some serious vision problems. You are so positive and encouraging! These are great suggestions and I really appreciate you taking the time and effort to share your wisdom.

  • @lindaferguson630
    @lindaferguson630 Рік тому +19

    After doing alot of travelling between 50 and 66 I really just wanted to concentrate on my home now. I do things like reading , drawing, look after my cats , playing my music. I feel like after having trauma, throughout my life I relish my alone time. All the things you have suggested Margaret I have done
    even learning french. So sometimes it can be the other way round. I have spoken to my daughter and grand daughter about this and they say that they totally understand.

  • @ariffle9402
    @ariffle9402 Рік тому +16

    Thank you so much. I just found you today. I am so happy that I did. I am almost 57 and I lost my mom in November. I've been so lost without her and I took care of her for many years. Darn dementia! So I'm alone now and feeling lost. I really am encouraged after watching this video and I am so glad to have the strength and guidance of such a wonderful community of women.

    • @brigidspencer5123
      @brigidspencer5123 Рік тому +3

      I’m so sorry for your loss!💐

    • @markmasterson4811
      @markmasterson4811 11 місяців тому +2

      Take time to mourn your mum and know you did your best by her, honouring her care of you in childhood. Remember her and praise her by moving forward in your life.

    • @victoriacritchlow9069
      @victoriacritchlow9069 6 місяців тому

      I totally understand I lost my soul mate mum 15 years ago and I'm still lost. She was my everything. I have good friends etc but not the same. Its hard to start a new life without you're mum but you will cope eventually and learn to live another life. You will be happy again its just different. Take care xx

  • @ginabisaillon2894
    @ginabisaillon2894 Рік тому +44

    I cook, I paint, I sew, I study the piano, and I exercise, and now I know why my mother used to say 24 hours were not enough in the day! The fact is, I have not found the time to travel, which used to be a major part of my life. I keep thinking I should get around to it before my health deteriorates, but prices have skyrocketed, and I'm only 81 and I don't want my money to run out before I do!

  • @artsyladie7
    @artsyladie7 Рік тому +9

    Loved this chat! It was very uplifting for me today. I am 71 and just lost my husband of 51 years suddenly this week. 😟 Now i have a single life to settle into once I take cate of more urgent business. Actually, I have been anticipating and studying this lifestyle for a while now. I knew him leaving this world before me was a possibility and I am still in good health. I absolutely love the pink top and roses theme! Thank you!

  • @ingenuity168
    @ingenuity168 Рік тому +18

    I love my own company the most. I feel so free.

    • @lauraswann5543
      @lauraswann5543 Рік тому +5

      Me too. Some people don't understand that. They think that if someone is alone they must be lonely. In my case, nothing could be further from the truth, I love being alone.

    • @ingenuity168
      @ingenuity168 Рік тому +5

      @@lauraswann5543 Absolutely. People can't understand we can be happy being alone.

  • @deananorris702
    @deananorris702 Рік тому +17

    I like to go to the gym. I have a free membership through my health insurance. I don’t attend them but they have classes where you can meet people. Weight training is very important for your bones. It helps strengthen your bones and builds muscle. Many gyms will help you develop a workout plan that’s customized just for you for free or you can hire a trainer. Exercise is a great way to stay physically fit and is beneficial if you suffer from depression.

  • @sherryhicks4156
    @sherryhicks4156 Рік тому +18

    I share my home with my son and family. I do have my own room and space. They respect it and leave me alone. I do travel a lot and really enjoy it. I love to learn. I've always loved it.

  • @BPe-ie9je
    @BPe-ie9je Рік тому +19

    Thanks. Really helpful. Declutter, too, eliminate excess, unnecessary, too.

    • @lindaanderson1016
      @lindaanderson1016 Рік тому +5

      Yes, get outside early for the natural light that will help set your circadian rhythm and get some vitamin D. I keep potted plants that require watering , others have a dog to walk.
      And get some kids outdoors. Offer to supervise or to help a mom take a nature walk or take kids to playground.
      And I am practicing physical therapy with You Tube pros Bob and Brad. Has been a great help with balance and strength.

    • @BPe-ie9je
      @BPe-ie9je Рік тому +1

      @@lindaanderson1016 excellent add

  • @seaglasscolor
    @seaglasscolor Рік тому +7

    I learned to crochet in my sixties and love it.

  • @MariaMartinez-jb3zn
    @MariaMartinez-jb3zn Рік тому +11

    I love being by myself! During the pandemic..well because of the necessity to do things when you have to be away from people. Thanks to UA-cam. I learned how to do gel nails,
    Acrylic meh..Embroidery & Cross stitch..relearned Watercolor…tried and succeeded with doing Zentangles..got a great set of colored pencils for adult color books. I make jewelry and bead…so many things to love 💕love to learn…oh I learned how to make a glass paperweight! I learned to bake bread over the past few years and of course this Cook from the Army still cooks ☝🏽I encourage everyone to expand your horizons..find the fun in life, cherish your moments! Love Yourself and know sometimes things change but that you can adapt your world to be safe!🙏🏽🙋🏻‍♀️👍🏽Mia

  • @christinacomer
    @christinacomer Рік тому +4

    I so reading the comments from others. I love Exploring in shops! Usually by myself as I seem to get distracted easily and I love walking around and coming back to something and looking at the same item again, to determine if I can really use it. I was giving some Lily of the Valley to replant in my garden, so I am working on that! I love rocks and have collected them from California and other states we have visited. I am going to place them in my garden in a unique way! Thanks for this topic Margerete!!!

  • @beateschilcher1656
    @beateschilcher1656 Рік тому +3

    Thank you! I very much appreciate your practical tipps. Here is mine: If you need a reason for going outside, consider this: Do it simply to perform a RANDOM ACT OF KINDNESS (RAK) for another person. Whover it may be. Pay a compliment to the elderly lady: Show her that she is seen. Ask the cashier at the supermarket how (s)he is doing, and listen to the answer. THE BENEFIT IS YOURS: such acts help boost YOUR self esteem, make you feel powerful, reduce the feeling of helplessness and increase positive feelings inside yourself. Little, honest gestures go a long way. Only one RAK a day can make YOU happier, and the other person as well. Aren´t we all here to make this a better world?

  • @MsNZgal
    @MsNZgal Рік тому +8

    Good morning from Australia. I love the roses in the background Margaret. I have been living part time in a van and part time house/pet minding but still have my hobbies. I love knitting and writting poetry and short stories. I have recently taken up rock painting. I leave painted rocks all over the place. You suit that color btw.

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  Рік тому

      Wonderful! You are an inspiration - thank you for your kind words 🌺

  • @junethiel632
    @junethiel632 Рік тому +12

    How much time do you have to read this, dear Margaret?🙂 I have been playing the piano since age 9, did music as a full academic subject through high school, learned to play the pipe organ, led various choirs. I myself have been singing in at least one choir (at a time) since aged 4! At 54, I discovered I actually have a good mezzo soprano voice, and these days people pay me to sing to them in concerts! I often organize concerts in our village hall, which has my fellow residents dancing in the aisles....even though some have to use a walker to get onto their feet!!! Then I am a graphic designer, fine artist, botanical painter, professional calligrapher and I have become rather adept at using what I have, refinishing furniture. Recently I acquired a cordless drill!!! I have started a seniors' support group in the retirement community where I now live (though I have not retired at all), in order to encourage others and walk along with anyone who feels alone or grief stricken. I also sew my own clothes. And of course, I still play piano and organ - currently in high demand in my community and also surrounding suburbs. I sing in 7 languages, and speak three fluently. Currently learning French and the most widely-spoken African language in South Africa, Zulu. I believe it is respectful to try and at least greet and thank folk in their own language. But of course, I adore languages!!! I arm chair travel every night via UA-cam, recently revisited Interlaken and Zurich. I regularly chat with colleagues all over the world. I see myself as having a very rich life, albeit needing to live frugally, as post-Covid my careful investments have disappeared......I am extremely grateful for the gifts, skills and abilities I have - this is how I celebrate life! There is simply no time to be down-hearted or sad - I am WAY too busy!

  • @mariarooney6262
    @mariarooney6262 Рік тому +5

    Excellent list. You are looking beautiful after your surgery, Margaret. That color and that top look so good on you. I was told that for every day in the hospital, it takes 1 week to recover. I gave myself 2 days for every day in the hospital. I’m so happy you are recovering, and I know you have learned much from the experience, and will continue learning. You are so appreciated and loved, Margaret. ❤️

  • @deborahmartin1432
    @deborahmartin1432 Рік тому +2

    I like living alone I’m busy all the time. Lots of flowers outside and garden. Shopping decorating with the season lots of work.

  • @Summerrose400
    @Summerrose400 Рік тому +8

    I enjoy baking cakes and muffins for family as my daughter is coeliac and a vegan ! That’s a challenge for sure. I also enjoy gardening and learning new and interesting things by watching documentaries on all sorts of things from space and astronomy, history of all sorts and nature documentaries such as life in the Mariana Trench or volcanoes. I find I enjoy watching documentaries rather than reading about it as I have memory issues and find concentrating difficult. So much to learn !

  • @AyaSmith-rb2hp
    @AyaSmith-rb2hp Рік тому +9

    You look beautiful in that necklace and pink sweater!

  • @katiamartinelli3911
    @katiamartinelli3911 Рік тому +2

    I exercise, yoga, go to the movies and theatre, museums, restaurants by myself, study piano, volunteering, try to study another language, travel of course not all together

  • @barbaramclean7108
    @barbaramclean7108 Рік тому +4

    Lovely videos, very interesting and inspiring, I love to do gardening, I love plants a lot, since I'm now retired, I'm learning Spanish on line, I'm also into health and nutrition so I try different dishes, smoothies, I read, listen to music and sometimes I watch good inspiring movies, I also joined a community group where I'm meeting new people, omg life is good, I am so grateful to God for every single day, may God continue to bless you Margaret, and keep recuperating well.❤❤❤❤❤

  • @karengagnon831
    @karengagnon831 Рік тому

    I like that you are so natural and real it is refreshing

  • @vyvienvp3413
    @vyvienvp3413 Рік тому +7

    " Wrinkles and Crinkles", love it! Galleries and respective caffees, liberies offer great time, people watching or just meditating X:)

  • @alicewarner9331
    @alicewarner9331 Рік тому +4

    The senior center in town has a hundred things going on each week. LLL is a once a month get together to go to museums or a winery etc. Check out the one near you. I love mine and meet different people in each class or group I try. Some things are on line so it works if you can't get out. ❤

  • @carolefox6553
    @carolefox6553 Рік тому +13

    I recently read about a small town in Midwest U.S.A. where the incidence of heart disease was dramatically below the national average. Because it was a small town, people knew and cared about many other people. Then times changed and more people moved in and out. The connectedness that had produced feelings of wellbeing, feelings that had translated into actual physical wellbeing, was lost and the town's health advantage was lost. Another reason why isolation is so dangerous.

  • @donisecoonrod3072
    @donisecoonrod3072 Рік тому

    You look beautiful in the soft pink! And your message is always beautiful too! Thanks.

  • @luisafrnz5932
    @luisafrnz5932 Рік тому +1

    Love your posts, some great ideas, you look radiant.

  • @pamelaplatten1574
    @pamelaplatten1574 Рік тому +2

    I take photo,s I joined a camera club I live alone l a have made so many new friends l have also learning line dancing l just keep busy so l don’t lonely love listening to you l have got so much out of your show so thank you

  • @peggybaggenstoss3817
    @peggybaggenstoss3817 Рік тому +1

    My Bucket
    Lost will never be 100% achieved as I constantly add to it. I love your videos. ❤️

  • @ruthcopely7695
    @ruthcopely7695 Рік тому +5

    Visit your public library for a wealth of interesting resources and helpful staff. 🥰

  • @elenapullen753
    @elenapullen753 7 місяців тому

    I wish I had a best friend like you !!!

  • @lauraswann5543
    @lauraswann5543 Рік тому +5

    I have the opposite problem. I have gone through an enormous amount of trauma , some of it quite recently, and now I cherish my alone time. I have two close friends and a few casual friends, and I really don't need any more friends than that. My problem is that I am a very kind person, and people in my apartment block, usually women,keep wanting to make friends with me, walking with me to my apartment and expecting to be asked in for coffee and I just say goodbye. My day has been ruined today because I went to my favourite place in the communal garden, where I go to be alone, and a woman kept me standing for two solid hours on my injured leg talking non stop and I just could not get away from her. I am a very kind person, I did not want to hurt her feelings by walking away so I stood listening to her talk about things that were totally irrelevant to me, with the pain in my leg getting worse.Then she walked back to my apartment and stood outside my apartment door expecting to be asked in. If anyone knows, will someone please tell me how to get away politely from people like this? Thank you.

    • @barbaraoerding8157
      @barbaraoerding8157 Рік тому +3

      I can totally relate.There are no perfect answers other than to say that you must sit down and walk away to wherever you can sit down, providing you can get a word in edgewise. In the future, do your best to avoid those types of people. ☺️

    • @sharonc9235
      @sharonc9235 Рік тому +12

      Just say you have a problem and you cannot stand for long, just say "i wont keep you,i need to go now,have a lovely day/evening " then go

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +11

      Laura. I second What the other two posters said. After teninutes BEST to say you have an appointment and must Rush. This person is overstepping boundaries. Don't let that happen. It is one thing to be kind and polite, another entirely to let this type of person into your space.

    • @Diana-yz1fc
      @Diana-yz1fc Рік тому +10

      You have to treat yourself as if you are important...I'm very nice too to my own detriment..but I cannot let others invade my space and time so straight up tell them what you feel. " I gotta sit down" " I have some stuff to do" " I'd love to talk but I gotta go" be a little assertive cause people will do what they want and you don't have time for that!😄😘 Love yourself deeply and make people respect your time and space.

    • @lindaferguson630
      @lindaferguson630 Рік тому +8

      So true. When you have trauma in your life you really just want your own time to do what you want.

  • @trudywaggoner1914
    @trudywaggoner1914 Рік тому +5

    Love Podcasts on ALL topics! Learning everyday. Thx for all you do! You r looking great!👏👏👍👍🥰🥰

  • @francesbrown850
    @francesbrown850 Рік тому +1

    Oh my goodness how beautiful you look in pink with the pink flowers behind you.

  • @peggybaggenstoss3817
    @peggybaggenstoss3817 Рік тому +1

    I use castor oil, Frankincense,
    Mixed with coconut oil on my face and neck/ décolleté area.

  • @jan-christinejohnson5256
    @jan-christinejohnson5256 Рік тому +5

    Margaret, recent widower Jack Church has sensible and encouraging UA-cam broadcasts for the new chapters in many of our lives. Highly recommend 🌿

    • @sandraforeman2329
      @sandraforeman2329 Рік тому +3

      82 is my age and living in a retirement home. Some people living here think that spoiling themselves is very selfish, and that they should be helping other people. A psych friend of mine said that is not selfish that is called SELF NESS. If we all fill up our vessel, then we have more to give to others.

    • @Teffi_Club
      @Teffi_Club Рік тому +1

      ​@@sandraforeman2329 Keep spoiling yourself. Great to see you are connected to the world. 🤗

  • @annescott5442
    @annescott5442 Рік тому +3

    I have just found your channel and have been particularly interested to listen to your video on estrangement.
    It helped to know many mother's are hurting just like me.
    After over twenty years trying to get along with my daughter,38 ,l am done and although l wish with all my heart it were not this way, l am at peace and have sadly lost interest in her.What l wondered is do you think you can kill love ? because l feel after all the abuse and hurt she caused me, and having tried and tried to make things right,apologising when it should have been her, helping her out of debt... maybe l thought l could buy her love...l am done with her and have little if any feelings left for her.
    I'd be so interested to know what others think.

    • @bevhayter6189
      @bevhayter6189 Рік тому +4

      Your message could have been written by me. I have had no contact with my son for 23 years. I have 2 grandchildren, one of whom I have not met. I am reconciled to this, after trying for years, to change the situation. We have to think of ourselves and being healthy, happy women. Thanks, for your post.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +3

      Anne. I don't believe you can kill love. But you did your best to engage. It may well be that your daughter has serious psychological issues, in which case nothing you did made Any impact. You simply burned yourself out trying. It is very hard.

    • @MoM-do7js
      @MoM-do7js Рік тому +4

      I have the same situation with my 31 year old daughter. I’ve been bailing her out for years and truly it doesn’t seem appreciated. I’ve gotten extremely disrespected verbally. Thank God, she found another to live with and my house has been peaceful as heck ! You can love them from a distance. I’m 64, so we are 33 years difference. My interests are different than hers so as much as I would like to live with her, it just doesn’t work. You get used to having your own space and life. Just cut the cord and let go and let God 🕊💚🌾.

    • @annescott5442
      @annescott5442 Рік тому +2

      ​@@doloresaquines1529Thank you for your reply.I just wondered, is it possible for love to die as l have no feelings left for her...she was the sweetest little girl too.

    • @annescott5442
      @annescott5442 Рік тому +3

      ​@@MoM-do7jsThank you for replying ...it's a heartbreak for sure.

  • @annieis300
    @annieis300 Рік тому +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @jeanettesuzannebrooks1963
    @jeanettesuzannebrooks1963 Рік тому +2

    Ice cream truck/camper van build, entomology with the grandkids, making videos with them, car camping at their house, cold water plunging, dance-belly and west coast shag, Arabic language and conflict resolution skills-- these are my current aspirations! Btw that’s a beautiful pink theme in the screen!

  • @bethlahore8929
    @bethlahore8929 Рік тому +4

    I'm 63. I live alone. Yes. I can do anything I want. My problem is now that I CAN do what I want I can't decide what I WANT to do. I have started a very small herb garden on the deck. I've tried preserving food ( neither are passions, but preserving food, I prefer my own canned vegetables)
    I craft...I've got a drill and sander. A cricuit, I crochet. But nothing I've found sparks. I've even tried crafting with aluminum cans. I'm not a gardener,

    • @genie674
      @genie674 Рік тому +2

      Yes, it's finding that passion! I also do a few things but only for something to do not because passionate about it.

    • @carolflorence900
      @carolflorence900 Рік тому +1

      How about volunteering....it gets you out and circulating

    • @breefinn2284
      @breefinn2284 Рік тому +3

      So many choices and opinions of what to do and when to do it. Isn't it exhausting? Whenever I feel overwhelmed I do things to care of myself that I didn't have time to do when I worked. Proper skincare, a bubble bath, an actual manicure, proper haircare, exercising, eating healthy instead of convenient foods, etc. If I don't have a "productive" day, at least I can feel better while waiting for inspiration to strike. Enjoy yourself today!

    • @bethlahore8929
      @bethlahore8929 Рік тому

      @carolflorence900 I'm burned out on volunteer. I've done all kinds of volunteer work from time I could walk, I've been on board of directors for multiple non profits and, I'm tired.

    • @LovieNagakannie
      @LovieNagakannie 5 місяців тому

      I am 67year I live alone I bake and sew take a walk with my friend to the shop I love to go out

  • @MorePlausible
    @MorePlausible Рік тому

    I'm 35...omg got to find a man before I get your age!
    Also, your accent sounds Anglo-American/with South African tinge.

  • @vga3245
    @vga3245 Рік тому

    Too much talking on American videos, not any demonstration on the life of an older women living alone. Her cleaning, what tools does she use cleaning to make her life easier, her cooking, what does she cook for herself, where does she go? Does she still drive? Does she exercise, does she have pets? Does she cook for her pets, if so what does she cook? Does she have children or grandchildren? Do they come to visit? Does she have a social life, if not what does she do for self entertainment?