I love this episode! As a single parent, I have to put my selfcare first. I pray, I work out, and I mediate. Also, unlearning hyperindependence and asking for help when necessary. I am learning to say no and not overwhelm myself when I'm feeling drained 😢
I completely understand it's on both sexes how we got here. I remember having to be independent and get sh.. done because I was a single parent. When I moved in with my then fiancé now husband I was beyond relieved to let him take over things. It was such a relief to not have to handle everything!!!! He allows me to be stay in my femininity and softness. He pours into me so I can be his wife the way it was intended. The last 13 years has been the best of my life. My daughter also saw and experience how a man is supposed to lead and treat a woman as well. My husband has shown by his actions I can trust his decisions to lead our family. That is all women want 💯.
THANK YOU!!!! This is a conversation I’ve had with women too many times! Where are the men who want to be men and the women who will let them???? My hand is raised! I’m sure I’m not alone.
❤❤❤this is good one! I am a 47 year old woman and I am just now trying to tap into the “Soft Life” I know I deserve. My daughters are grown and l was a single Mom so now it’s really about me and my softness. It’s hard to switch but I am working hard.
Hey Crystal I loved this episode talking about the soft life. It was something that I needed to hear. I am a 60 y/o that raised 3 kids.Sixteen years ago my only daughter passed after giving birth to a beautiful baby girl. Who I have been raising since birth. I Love her dearly wouldn’t had it no other way. She’s now at the age where she doesn’t want to spend the summer going to her dad. Summer was my only break. So this episode has shown me ways to take time out for myself and tap in to my soft side. Thank you so much and God Bless!
I laughed so much when Crystal talking to her imaginary guy 🤣🤣🤣especially the ending. Here are takeaways/keeps from today's episode. 1. Create your soft life, we ain't got to wait on a guy to have the soft life you deserve. You establishing your definition of your soft will be the standard of the guy you entertain to help continue to achieve and live in your softy. 2. As women we tend to get lost in the nurturing part of us towards others, at time neglecting we too need to nurtured to nurture. We ought to set a balance between work life, home life and social life that will give us the opportunity to breathe femininity. 3. Know what you need your partner to be able to provide you with in order for you to feel safe and do not accept nothing less. 4. To be able to live in your most authentic self is being able to live in your soft life. 5. As mom to a beautiful 3yrs young daughter, I want to be the example of how she should want to her life to be like. I don't really have much of a feminine side to me now and as you said that is definitely from the life I had to endure, well partially still enduring but I am working towards that change for myself and for my child. 6. Only you can define your definition of your soft life, don't look at what others are doing especially those on the internet. Your softy won't look like anyone else's. Keep it "honorable", and "soft" sweetie. For me I'm growing through establishing what my soft life looks like and going through working towards it. My keep it "blank" is keep authentic sweetie. Another great episode Crys thank you. God bless😇💝❤🙏
I love this Soft Life Era for you💛💛 you’re literally glowing !!!! & the imaginary man next to you on the couch had me in tears!! This is why i listen to the podcast and watch the youtube video😭😭💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
This episode is so good!!!! As an almost 29 y/o on the walk to get closer to Jesus…. this is something I needed to hear regarding relationships and not wasting my time anymore. ❤
This past 6 months is the first time I have been single, and unmarried since I was 24 years old. I’m 46 now. I am now trying to figure out what I want, what I like, and who I want to be the rest of my life. I didn’t even enjoy my 20”s, 30”s, or 40”s this far! Shameful. I’m loving finally being single. My youngest child will be of the legal “grown”, age in 24 months. God willing. I feel like starting a new career, getting more education, staying in the gym, and enjoying my life as single. I have had some good experiences with my ex-husband who passed away this January. I’m widowed. I’m still grieving, but I discovered I am enjoying being single again. Thank you for sharing your softness.
Chrystal thank you for allowing God to use you to pour into all of us. These conversations have been so therapeutic. I know you have been promoted from stylist....but babygirl you are dressing all of us in the spirit....God bless you!!❤❤❤
Omg... This is the place I am in this season of life. God is doing a new thing. From tomboy to the soft life. I started my cursing jar a few months back😂. Keep inspiring by being You! ❤
I agree with this. No one needs to validate us. We must love ourselves first just as we are. When individuals catch any glimpse of insecurity in us; they assume they can use that particular insecurity against us as their weapon of destruction
Crystal I Love it and You!! Yess my man is next to me(manifesting). I am enjoying all your episodes. Thank you for sharing this space with us. I Love this episode ❤
Love this podcast! My advice to the Mom who wrote in would be to start small with doing things for yourself. You can also include your kids. They love Mommy so teach them how you want to be treated and how they can help themselves instead of coming to Mommy first. It’s never to late to start this…the key is to just start!
I’m learning to say no as well. I’ve been a people pleaser as well but never get the same energy I put in back out. It does feel good putting me first ❤️
This episode is up there with my favorites especially how sis keep talking to her imaginary man over there😂 ❤but on a real note it’s so much I took away from this episode mainly being to let some of the masculine energy go
Watching this just made me cry because I put the world on my shoulders when it comes to my kids. I was told by a man I was dating I'm self absorbed and arrogant because I told him I believe in self care and solo dates because we need that sometimes. So any way he broke up with me because he felt solo dates and self care is for single people. I feel like he's co-dependent and he don't have kids so he don't have a clue of what I go through
Yes, I now embrace my divine femininity. ✨️ It took a masculine man to allow me be soft. I am still a single mother. So I still have the life issues but I have a sacred space with him that I can take off the super cape. Learning to be better for my future husband.
Love the conversation on feminine energy. Being able to switch between both at the appropriate time is definitely the WIN. Btw, Crystal Renee girl, those Van Cleef & Arpels bracelets are 🔥. All $30k worth of them!!
Crystal was cracking me up talking to her future man lol 😆 Continue to speak it into existence girl! 🙌🏾 I think we all deserve a form of the soft life, whatever that looks like to each one of us. You definitely hit the nail on the head when you said women often take on these masculine roles or what is assumed that a man should traditionally do, because we do not trust them to do it or they have not proven themselves capable. And definitely a lot of what we see growing up can also effect the way we handle certain situations, so there are some things that may need to be unpacked perhaps in therapy and maybe some unlearning of behaviors that might not be so beneficial to us. Thanks for another insightful episode 🫶🏾
This was so true. Being a single mom of 3 for so long, I've gotten used to being forced to doing things on my own that I forget to tap into my feminity. But I'm sick of.
I recently discovered this series and I'm hooked! I love how you giggle and laugh at yourself - it really embodies how joy comes from within and when we love our own company, we make better decisions about the company we choose to keep.💖
I felt you on this episode and I feel like we could be cool friends in real life. I am blessed to have a mother who has always been feminine so that is how she raised me. Several of the men in my life over the years have complimented me on how they like the fact that I have a lady and know how to allow a man to be the man. It's a skillset that does have to be worked on though! And self care is of the upmost importance to make sure you can stay balanced. Massages, therapy, sleep, exercise, worship and prayer are all things that truly help me. Thanks for this episode Crystal. And you keep speaking that man into existence. Mine turned up when I lease expected him to and I am hoping the same for you girl!! ❤
I thoroughly enjoyed this post. I am definitely needing my soft life and tired of doing everything by myself. To many times black woman are told to be strong and your don't need a man. Well I need and want one. But like you said I need that man I can feel safe with and be soft with. Thank you for this! ❤
Crystal girl, I felt like you said here sis take this mirror because BABY you the nailed it on da head with this one. It's so good to know I'm not alone on this soft life journey. Thank you for creating this safe space for us all, but more importantly, black women. Can't wait for next week's episode. #KIPS❤
I feel you on the cursing. I have a curse cup at work. I’ve asked my employees to hold me accountable, so every time I curse, I put $1 for every curse word. I them I’ll treat them to lunch or dinner. GIRL…I have enough money in my cup to treat them to Ruth Chris, Eddie V’s😂 I’m naturally a soft girl to the point where people say I’m a true southern belle 🥰 I just want to be able to stay in my soft girl life!
I love her sooo much! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! Everything about you is so genuine! Your tone is soothing. Keep walking in your truth and purpose! :) I enjoyed this!
It was hard for me to turn off the I have to do this by myself mode when I got married, but I thank God my husband understood and helped me through the transition. Be patient with yourself while you learn. I had to get it through my head to give myself the grace and space I give freely to others.
I enjoyed this episode so much, because I’m definitely trying to tap into my soft life & finding the time & balance is hard, but I’m getting there. Thank you Crystal ❤️❤️❤️
This is the first time I have heard the term but I am ready for the soft life! I understand being tired of having all the responsibilities of carrying the household, but will definitely be practicing the soft life. It is time to enjoy myself. Thanks for sharing.
Soft life is awesome ,Crystal has score again,she just SO positive, kIPS Love you girl and always praying for you as you travel through the industry 💎💎🔥
It’s been a whole situation anytime feminine energy is discussed. I totally agree that the narrative of independence has no space for feminine energy is exhausting. Being a DC native, I will affirm folks will ignore your hello even when you are from here!! If you would have spoken, I would have said hello back.
I appreciate your definition of soft life. Taking care of yourself is number one. I have a 26 yo daughter, and she is a mommas girl and a fashionista. We talk all of the time during the day. She graduated from Clark Atlanta in May 2019. She moved back home to work and plan her next chapter in life and fashion career.
Great video. I totally agree about the men who are time wasters❤️learning to move on for those situations can be tough, but is necessary in order for us to receive who God truly has for us.
thank you so much for being you and keep building confidence for youth and adults,i'm a 27years old tanzanian girl i get inpired and confident every time i tune in a new episode,be blessed sis this really helps me
Thank you Crystal, I loved and I truly look forward to every episode. A couple things that really spoke to me was being a people pleaser. I too had to start saying "no" more. The other thing was the things you would teach a daughter if you had one. I had one son, and from him a granddaughter, whom I started her at an early age getting pedicures, nails done and a "mima and me" shopping spree, now she loves thoses things. I make certain, I get massages, get my nails and toes done, get my hair done and have a housekeeper; those are things I do for a soft life. Thank you for sharing. I can tell that you put 200% into your craft, which is why me and many others love you so much. Continue to make time and space to always pamper yourself. You deserve it. ❤
I've grown to appreciate cooking. It makes me happy to know that my children and grandchildren will eat and enjoy their meals. In addition, I'm confident that someone I meet will appreciate my domestication.
I'm embracing the soft life. I put oil in my car and do maintenance on my home. just because I can do, I 'm tried. So now I call my sons or call a handy man. Like you said I miss having a man and male energy in my life. Femininity is so powerful so I'm tapping into it.
I love this speak the truth crystal and yess the soft life , I had to do that even though I was married but my husband was in the military and deployed off and on so I had to hold down the fork at home being mom and dad..I became very independent and did a lot on my own..and now I still do things myself even though my husband around now, but that's just me..I learn to step back and let hubby do his thing as the man in my life.
Mannnnnnnnnnnnnn, I can so relate to this. When I joined the military and was speaking to people, one lady told me..."Ain't nobody that got d--- happy in the morning." I stopped after that, only spoke to people who spoke to me (and was shock when they did). I also understand the not stepping up and having to call around to get something fix when I'm dealing with somebody. Come on SOFT LIFE, working on that RIGHT NOW! Thank you for saying these words out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes Ms. Crystal!! I can totally relate to what you are saying. I have always been that strong women who does it ALL. I'm so ready for living a soft life!
Whew Chile! Talk about tired!! I have raised children after divorce … held down a job .. coached club and high school track and field to help our young ladies go to college not to mention I gave the Army 20 years!! Been to two conflicts in the middles east!! I’m now 60 and tired !!! It’s time for the soft life!!!
Everything you said when you answered the question what makes you feel safe is everything I wrote down in my prayer journal that was in September of 2022. On January 1st I met Him thats what I knew when I met him that he was Him. Everything I wrote down n prayed for is this mans character. My 1st thing was a man after Gods own heart. When I say God is good He is . I wanted a tall man as well because Im 5'11, God delivered because my Bae is 6'9... God gave me the desires of my heart. I have waited for this kind of love my whole adult life. God's timing is never wrong. Continue to keep your faith and trust God ladies. In September all I heard was suddenly and swiftly. I never imagined that it would happened so soon yet God is a promise keeper. I just had to share because you sound so much like me when I was waiting on the one God made just for me. ❤
OMG...I love love love your energy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dis is sooo me....started out single...got married...got divorced (single mother)..dated....single again.....married (AGAIN) in the process of dumping the load (AGAIN).....single mother once again at 52 I'm not giving up and will be waiting on husband #3...I will do it til I get it RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!! So I'm use to doing it ALLL myself EVEN WHEN I WAS MARRIED!!!!!!
Hello Crystal, You mentioned previously on one of your podcast, that you weren’t sure about starting this podcast. Well thank you for stepping out on Faith. When you pray. Let my light so shine, that men(women) may see my good works and you(God) get to GLORY to God. You are doing just that. Through what you are doing sharing your testimonies you are touching so many women. Young and old. Giving encouragement to keep PUSHING. That we all make mistakes, because we are human. But when we have that spiritual relationship with God and work on our self love and loving others, it helps. So thanks again for being open. The world need more young ladies like you. May the blessings you share to others fall back on you.
I have been tackling everything solo dolo for over a decade now. Lately, I have become overwhelmed, however things have to be done and adulthood doesn't stop .... Exhales I need a SOFT LIFE. DAMN.
So don't do the things you want done right, make other people do them because 'muh soft life', 'muh femininity'. I wonder if this very trend is why women make less comparatively to men worldwide? 🤔
I truly appreciate you. I’m a single black woman raised two children and feel like because I didn’t allow myself the self care because I put everyone else first.. thank you for the reminder of soft life
This is exactly where I am now. I'm sooo tired of holding everyone down. I'm exhausted! Physically, Mentally, Emotional, and Spiritually!!! I want the SOFT LIFE!
I am a single mother and I do EVERYTHING by myself!!! I have no support system at all because I cut everyone off that was narcissistic and toxic. It's definitely hard and I'm currently tired!!!!! Tryna make ends meet and stuff.. I'm drained!!!
Girlllllll I'm literally just finding your page and when I tell you I was called to your page! Every episode speaks directly to what I've been feeling, thinking and going through!! LOVE your channel!!
2 minutes in and this reminds me of a book called "Black Girls must die exhausted" which shows the struggle trying to do everything and be everything for everyone and being so depleted at the end of life.
Amazing video Crystal! I've loved your character on Sistas from the get go, big ups to Tyler for Zatima! we love the shows.....I too have an invisible man hahahaha, I love him so much!!!!!!
This was Insightful, another page of notes!! So use to taking care of everything that it’s hard to step back but I’m gone try to relinquish control! cheers to ANOTHER great episode 🥂 but Crystal that last minute of this episode had me wheezing, you and your imaginary man on the couch 😂
I've been waiting for crystals notification!! She's become such a big part of my life,I miss her in-between episodes. This one cracked me up&built me at the same time. I am all for sipping some wine on a Tuesday afternoon for no reason . As a single Mom,My life revolves around my Kids so much! Sometimes I forget to apply that soft life.... love the casual chilled OOTD ❤❤❤
It was my own daughter that brought it to my attention that I was being too strong or masculine as a woman. She told me to ask my male companion to do some of the stuff around the house and stop wearing myself out trying to do it all. I already knew that but I was use to doing it all myself. It's always been just my daughter and I, so I had no choice. I finally asked him and he gladly started doing my yard and other things that I asked. We're no longer together but I've learned to take care of me 1st and keep up my softer side.
*listened to a bit of the background and pausing before going to finish the video* I've been on a journey to embracing my feminine self over the past 5 or so years and watching SO many videos on what amounts to this topic by creators of all sorts of different backgrounds (including reading books). The resources along my journey have NEVER been limited to just WW, but I only learned the term Soft Life this week. I feel like it's the perfect term to encapsulate the sort of lifestyle life I've been striving for newrly half my adult life, but I was a little confused as to why when I searched the term specifically only black creators showed up. 😂 I'm glad I'm watching your video. Thank you for sharing the background as to why this term exists. While many of the lifestyle aims are the same (a peaceful life, easy, free of drama, a safe inviting and clean home, a splash of luxury here and there, etc) I now know to be very thoughtful and intentional when using specifically the term Soft Life so I don't appropriate it. *Resumes watching the video*
Good Afternoon 😊 Ms. Crystal Renee Hayslett and Chat Loving this podcast and all the inspiration that you share with us!!!! Keep up the great work on Sista's and Zatima!!!! Love 💕 you as always!!!!
🥰 I can relate to all that was said. Even talking to my imaginary man.😂. I love it. Yes I agree we need to give ourselves more grace and we can be more compassionate with others and still be true to ourselves and not sacrifice our own peace and joy to make another person comfortable. Finding the balance of the masculine and feminine energy that is within all of us . Thank you for sharing!
I resonate with this…I will take the lead or be put in the position to take the lead but now I want to embrace my soft life. So tired of wasting time on thing that drain me.
I love this episode! As a single parent, I have to put my selfcare first. I pray, I work out, and I mediate. Also, unlearning hyperindependence and asking for help when necessary. I am learning to say no and not overwhelm myself when I'm feeling drained 😢
This woman is awesome. My prayer for her is that she finds a man of her dreams and more success..🌹🙏🏾❤️
I completely understand it's on both sexes how we got here. I remember having to be independent and get sh.. done because I was a single parent. When I moved in with my then fiancé now husband I was beyond relieved to let him take over things. It was such a relief to not have to handle everything!!!! He allows me to be stay in my femininity and softness. He pours into me so I can be his wife the way it was intended. The last 13 years has been the best of my life. My daughter also saw and experience how a man is supposed to lead and treat a woman as well. My husband has shown by his actions I can trust his decisions to lead our family. That is all women want 💯.
So... all women want is to literally not have any hardship? Jesus Christ. Men are just fucked
Awesome !!! This is exactly what i want to manifest....want m'y boys to know what is a masculine divine energy
I let go of the “strong black woman mentality” several years ago. It’s a set-up! #letsgetrealandheal it’s time ladies. Blessings ❤️🙏🏽
I so AGREE!
Same. It’s most definitely a set up.
@@cammiecam3032 amen 🙏🏽
@@Sincerely_Tiffany amen 🙏🏽
I guess that's a great thing
Soft life is about taking care of yourself. We get so caught up in having a partner we forget about ourselves. I’m happy and single 😌
This came right on time Crystal. Thank you for reminding us how we get so caught up in life we forget to be Soft an feminine. 😊😊😊
Yess. Right on time. I opened my youtube and here she was
THANK YOU!!!! This is a conversation I’ve had with women too many times! Where are the men who want to be men and the women who will let them???? My hand is raised! I’m sure I’m not alone.
❤❤❤this is good one! I am a 47 year old woman and I am just now trying to tap into the “Soft Life” I know I deserve. My daughters are grown and l was a single Mom so now it’s really about me and my softness.
It’s hard to switch but I am working hard.
Hey Crystal I loved this episode talking about the soft life.
It was something that I needed to hear. I am a 60 y/o that raised 3 kids.Sixteen years ago my only daughter passed after giving birth to a beautiful baby girl. Who I have been raising since birth. I
Love her dearly wouldn’t had it no other way. She’s now at the age where she doesn’t want to spend the summer going to her dad. Summer was my only break. So this episode has shown me ways to take time out for myself and tap in to my soft side.
Thank you so much and God Bless!
I laughed so much when Crystal talking to her imaginary guy 🤣🤣🤣especially the ending. Here are takeaways/keeps from today's episode.
1. Create your soft life, we ain't got to wait on a guy to have the soft life you deserve. You establishing your definition of your soft will be the standard of the guy you entertain to help continue to achieve and live in your softy.
2. As women we tend to get lost in the nurturing part of us towards others, at time neglecting we too need to nurtured to nurture. We ought to set a balance between work life, home life and social life that will give us the opportunity to breathe femininity.
3. Know what you need your partner to be able to provide you with in order for you to feel safe and do not accept nothing less.
4. To be able to live in your most authentic self is being able to live in your soft life.
5. As mom to a beautiful 3yrs young daughter, I want to be the example of how she should want to her life to be like. I don't really have much of a feminine side to me now and as you said that is definitely from the life I had to endure, well partially still enduring but I am working towards that change for myself and for my child.
6. Only you can define your definition of your soft life, don't look at what others are doing especially those on the internet. Your softy won't look like anyone else's. Keep it "honorable", and "soft" sweetie.
For me I'm growing through establishing what my soft life looks like and going through working towards it. My keep it "blank" is keep authentic sweetie.
Another great episode Crys thank you. God bless😇💝❤🙏
Crystal has the most contagious laugh! Lol
I love this Soft Life Era for you💛💛 you’re literally glowing !!!! & the imaginary man next to you on the couch had me in tears!! This is why i listen to the podcast and watch the youtube video😭😭💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
This episode is so good!!!! As an almost 29 y/o on the walk to get closer to Jesus…. this is something I needed to hear regarding relationships and not wasting my time anymore. ❤
A woman needs a man! Period! All the women saying I don’t need you but I want you, SAVE IT! We need each other! 🤷🏾♀️ Love you, Crystal!!!!
I’m so very here for the soft life!!! I’m ready to not be so hard and be able to really rest in my femininity.
This was so good. Especially when you said to stop wasting time with men who have shown that they can't be who you need them to be. 😊❤
This past 6 months is the first time I have been single, and unmarried since I was 24 years old. I’m 46 now.
I am now trying to figure out what I want, what I like, and who I want to be the rest of my life. I didn’t even enjoy my 20”s, 30”s, or 40”s this far! Shameful. I’m loving finally being single.
My youngest child will be of the legal “grown”, age in 24 months. God willing.
I feel like starting a new career, getting more education, staying in the gym, and enjoying my life as single.
I have had some good experiences with my ex-husband who passed away this January.
I’m widowed.
I’m still grieving, but I discovered I am enjoying being single again.
Thank you for sharing your softness.
It’s the consistency with the imaginary man for me 😂😂😂 I’m manifesting right along with you sis!
Cring
Chrystal thank you for allowing God to use you to pour into all of us. These conversations have been so therapeutic. I know you have been promoted from stylist....but babygirl you are dressing all of us in the spirit....God bless you!!❤❤❤
Omg...
This is the place I am in this season of life. God is doing a new thing. From tomboy to the soft life. I started my cursing jar a few months back😂. Keep inspiring by being You! ❤
This the self talk we all need every morning. To appreciate ourselves as women and making sure we take care of out needs. No one needs to validate us.
I agree with this. No one needs to validate us. We must love ourselves first just as we are. When individuals catch any glimpse of insecurity in us; they assume they can use that particular insecurity against us as their weapon of destruction
Crystal I Love it and You!! Yess my man is next to me(manifesting). I am enjoying all your episodes. Thank you for sharing this space with us. I Love this episode ❤
Love this podcast! My advice to the Mom who wrote in would be to start small with doing things for yourself. You can also include your kids. They love Mommy so teach them how you want to be treated and how they can help themselves instead of coming to Mommy first. It’s never to late to start this…the key is to just start!
that part. Thanks for the reminder sis
I’m learning to say no as well. I’ve been a people pleaser as well but never get the same energy I put in back out. It does feel good putting me first ❤️
This episode is up there with my favorites especially how sis keep talking to her imaginary man over there😂 ❤but on a real note it’s so much I took away from this episode mainly being to let some of the masculine energy go
Watching this just made me cry because I put the world on my shoulders when it comes to my kids. I was told by a man I was dating I'm self absorbed and arrogant because I told him I believe in self care and solo dates because we need that sometimes. So any way he broke up with me because he felt solo dates and self care is for single people. I feel like he's co-dependent and he don't have kids so he don't have a clue of what I go through
Yes, I now embrace my divine femininity. ✨️ It took a masculine man to allow me be soft. I am still a single mother. So I still have the life issues but I have a sacred space with him that I can take off the super cape. Learning to be better for my future husband.
Love the conversation on feminine energy. Being able to switch between both at the appropriate time is definitely the WIN. Btw, Crystal Renee girl, those Van Cleef & Arpels bracelets are 🔥. All $30k worth of them!!
Crystal was cracking me up talking to her future man lol 😆 Continue to speak it into existence girl! 🙌🏾 I think we all deserve a form of the soft life, whatever that looks like to each one of us. You definitely hit the nail on the head when you said women often take on these masculine roles or what is assumed that a man should traditionally do, because we do not trust them to do it or they have not proven themselves capable. And definitely a lot of what we see growing up can also effect the way we handle certain situations, so there are some things that may need to be unpacked perhaps in therapy and maybe some unlearning of behaviors that might not be so beneficial to us. Thanks for another insightful episode 🫶🏾
Women have been taught to take these roles by other women complaining. You can't have the best of both worlds simultaneously.
This was so true. Being a single mom of 3 for so long, I've gotten used to being forced to doing things on my own that I forget to tap into my feminity. But I'm sick of.
Yesss it's time for my Tueday Tap in! The queen of SOFT LIFE is about to teach as well as preach. 🧡🧡🧡 #KIPS
I recently discovered this series and I'm hooked! I love how you giggle and laugh at yourself - it really embodies how joy comes from within and when we love our own company, we make better decisions about the company we choose to keep.💖
Thats so crazy because I was so trying to be hard and now i realized i had to stop it.. thank you for the Crystal. your new platform is dope. love it!
I felt you on this episode and I feel like we could be cool friends in real life. I am blessed to have a mother who has always been feminine so that is how she raised me. Several of the men in my life over the years have complimented me on how they like the fact that I have a lady and know how to allow a man to be the man. It's a skillset that does have to be worked on though! And self care is of the upmost importance to make sure you can stay balanced. Massages, therapy, sleep, exercise, worship and prayer are all things that truly help me. Thanks for this episode Crystal. And you keep speaking that man into existence. Mine turned up when I lease expected him to and I am hoping the same for you girl!! ❤
I thoroughly enjoyed this post. I am definitely needing my soft life and tired of doing everything by myself. To many times black woman are told to be strong and your don't need a man. Well I need and want one. But like you said I need that man I can feel safe with and be soft with. Thank you for this! ❤
Facts...🙏🏾😊
Crystal girl, I felt like you said here sis take this mirror because BABY you the nailed it on da head with this one. It's so good to know I'm not alone on this soft life journey. Thank you for creating this safe space for us all, but more importantly, black women. Can't wait for next week's episode. #KIPS❤
Chrystal got me over here dying lauging.....She is killing me talking to her imaginary Boo....She gives us so much life!!🤣
That part took me out😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
made me feel a lot better when I did it at one point in my life.
I love everything about this episode.. I feel like you were talking directly to me.. Thank you for helping me realize I deserve to be soft❤
I feel you on the cursing. I have a curse cup at work. I’ve asked my employees to hold me accountable, so every time I curse, I put $1 for every curse word. I them I’ll treat them to lunch or dinner. GIRL…I have enough money in my cup to treat them to Ruth Chris, Eddie V’s😂 I’m naturally a soft girl to the point where people say I’m a true southern belle 🥰 I just want to be able to stay in my soft girl life!
I love her sooo much! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability! Everything about you is so genuine! Your tone is soothing. Keep walking in your truth and purpose! :) I enjoyed this!
I love you sooooo much. This episode was AMAZING! Thanks for reminding us we deserve to live a soft life!!! ❤❤
Amen Crystal! You are so right. I am soooo tired of doing it all and being so strong. I would love to just be the softer me.
This is so very needed! Absolutely embracing the Soft life! We love it here💖💞
I really love these episodes. She is so silly😂!!
We October born are special... thank you for being everything that motivates me on daily bases
Cring
I came out with so much this episode...I definitely need to find a balance with my soft life, and masculinity 😩🤗..thank you Crystal
I love this video, it has become one of my daily self love videos, I love you for this❤
This was a calm & hilarious episode, love your humour with your man 😂😂
It was hard for me to turn off the I have to do this by myself mode when I got married, but I thank God my husband understood and helped me through the transition. Be patient with yourself while you learn. I had to get it through my head to give myself the grace and space I give freely to others.
I enjoyed this episode so much, because I’m definitely trying to tap into my soft life & finding the time & balance is hard, but I’m getting there. Thank you Crystal ❤️❤️❤️
“When people show you who they are believe them”! - A word!
Watching this episode for a second time and mayne she really dropped some gems!
It’s the Libra in us I had to refrain from saying Yes to everyone
It really is!
It was hard but I found peace in say no I really learned a lot about myself and others..
Yes and I’m so over it. Didn’t even realize I was ppl pleasing but it’s exhausting
@@Its_danabyesss giving very overwhelmed
I believe it is
Thank you for your transparency. I’ve been going through these things for the past few years and had to put me first
This is the first time I have heard the term but I am ready for the soft life! I understand being tired of having all the responsibilities of carrying the household, but will definitely be practicing the soft life. It is time to enjoy myself. Thanks for sharing.
It is commonly used in conversations in Nigeria..
It means a life without stress or sometimes not wanting to go out and do something
Soft life is awesome ,Crystal has score again,she just SO positive, kIPS Love you girl and always praying for you as you travel through the industry 💎💎🔥
That was the longest week ever lol
So happy to have my #KIPS Tuesdays back!!! 🫶🏾🩷
It’s been a whole situation anytime feminine energy is discussed. I totally agree that the narrative of independence has no space for feminine energy is exhausting.
Being a DC native, I will affirm folks will ignore your hello even when you are from here!! If you would have spoken, I would have said hello back.
I appreciate your definition of soft life. Taking care of yourself is number one. I have a 26 yo daughter, and she is a mommas girl and a fashionista. We talk all of the time during the day. She graduated from Clark Atlanta in May 2019. She moved back home to work and plan her next chapter in life and fashion career.
Great video. I totally agree about the men who are time wasters❤️learning to move on for those situations can be tough, but is necessary in order for us to receive who God truly has for us.
“Yeah Girl! Cheers!!”😂 You are naturally genuine❤
I’m a 23 year old guy I have no business watching this 😂 but I like your podcast and your perspective on relationships.
Run away
thank you so much for being you and keep building confidence for youth and adults,i'm a 27years old tanzanian girl i get inpired and confident every time i tune in a new episode,be blessed sis this really helps me
Thank you Crystal, I loved and I truly look forward to every episode.
A couple things that really spoke to me was being a people pleaser. I too had to start saying "no" more.
The other thing was the things you would teach a daughter if you had one. I had one son, and from him a granddaughter, whom I started her at an early age getting pedicures, nails done and a "mima and me" shopping spree, now she loves thoses things.
I make certain, I get massages, get my nails and toes done, get my hair done and have a housekeeper; those are things I do for a soft life.
Thank you for sharing. I can tell that you put 200% into your craft, which is why me and many others love you so much. Continue to make time and space to always pamper yourself. You deserve it. ❤
Love this. Thank you so much for sharing!!! Keep shining Queen!!!
The ending had me in tears😂😂😂 crystal i love you so much! You’re amazing and so inspiring ❤ keep doing what you’re doing girl 💯
Crystal , thank you so much for this. Everything you said, on point. You made my day; I love it!
I've grown to appreciate cooking. It makes me happy to know that my children and grandchildren will eat and enjoy their meals. In addition, I'm confident that someone I meet will appreciate my domestication.
I'm embracing the soft life. I put oil in my car and do maintenance on my home. just because I can do, I 'm tried. So now I call my sons or call a handy man. Like you said I miss having a man and male energy in my life. Femininity is so powerful so I'm tapping into it.
I love this speak the truth crystal and yess the soft life , I had to do that even though I was married but my husband was in the military and deployed off and on so I had to hold down the fork at home being mom and dad..I became very independent and did a lot on my own..and now I still do things myself even though my husband around now, but that's just me..I learn to step back and let hubby do his thing as the man in my life.
Hey Crystal, I know understand the assignment. I appreciate you and all your wisdom and positivity. Thank you 🙏🏾 God Bless 🫶🏾🫶🏾
Mannnnnnnnnnnnnn, I can so relate to this. When I joined the military and was speaking to people, one lady told me..."Ain't nobody that got d--- happy in the morning." I stopped after that, only spoke to people who spoke to me (and was shock when they did). I also understand the not stepping up and having to call around to get something fix when I'm dealing with somebody. Come on SOFT LIFE, working on that RIGHT NOW! Thank you for saying these words out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes Ms. Crystal!! I can totally relate to what you are saying. I have always been that strong women who does it ALL. I'm so ready for living a soft life!
Whew Chile! Talk about tired!! I have raised children after divorce … held down a job .. coached club and high school track and field to help our young ladies go to college not to mention I gave the Army 20 years!! Been to two conflicts in the middles east!! I’m now 60 and tired !!! It’s time for the soft life!!!
OMGEEEE, Crystal, I love your laugh....it takes me OUT every time!!!! LOL
Everything you said when you answered the question what makes you feel safe is everything I wrote down in my prayer journal that was in September of 2022. On January 1st I met Him thats what I knew when I met him that he was Him. Everything I wrote down n prayed for is this mans character. My 1st thing was a man after Gods own heart. When I say God is good He is . I wanted a tall man as well because Im 5'11, God delivered because my Bae is 6'9... God gave me the desires of my heart. I have waited for this kind of love my whole adult life. God's timing is never wrong. Continue to keep your faith and trust God ladies. In September all I heard was suddenly and swiftly. I never imagined that it would happened so soon yet God is a promise keeper. I just had to share because you sound so much like me when I was waiting on the one God made just for me. ❤
OMG...I love love love your energy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dis is sooo me....started out single...got married...got divorced (single mother)..dated....single again.....married (AGAIN) in the process of dumping the load (AGAIN).....single mother once again at 52 I'm not giving up and will be waiting on husband #3...I will do it til I get it RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!! So I'm use to doing it ALLL myself EVEN WHEN I WAS MARRIED!!!!!!
Hello Crystal, You mentioned previously on one of your podcast, that you weren’t sure about starting this podcast. Well thank you for stepping out on Faith. When you pray. Let my light so shine, that men(women) may see my good works and you(God) get to GLORY to God. You are doing just that. Through what you are doing sharing your testimonies you are touching so many women. Young and old. Giving encouragement to keep PUSHING. That we all make mistakes, because we are human. But when we have that spiritual relationship with God and work on our self love and loving others, it helps. So thanks again for being open. The world need more young ladies like you. May the blessings you share to others fall back on you.
I have been tackling everything solo dolo for over a decade now. Lately, I have become overwhelmed, however things have to be done and adulthood doesn't stop .... Exhales I need a SOFT LIFE. DAMN.
I can relate to every word on this episode!! Thanks for your honest perspective!
omg this is me!!! If you want things done right, do them yourself. That's something I had to unlearn
Fucking what
So don't do the things you want done right, make other people do them because 'muh soft life', 'muh femininity'. I wonder if this very trend is why women make less comparatively to men worldwide? 🤔
I truly appreciate you. I’m a single black woman raised two children and feel like because I didn’t allow myself the self care because I put everyone else first.. thank you for the reminder of soft life
This is exactly where I am now. I'm sooo tired of holding everyone down. I'm exhausted! Physically, Mentally, Emotional, and Spiritually!!! I want the SOFT LIFE!
I am a single mother and I do EVERYTHING by myself!!! I have no support system at all because I cut everyone off that was narcissistic and toxic. It's definitely hard and I'm currently tired!!!!! Tryna make ends meet and stuff.. I'm drained!!!
Girlllllll I'm literally just finding your page and when I tell you I was called to your page! Every episode speaks directly to what I've been feeling, thinking and going through!! LOVE your channel!!
2 minutes in and this reminds me of a book called "Black Girls must die exhausted" which shows the struggle trying to do everything and be everything for everyone and being so depleted at the end of life.
Amazing video Crystal! I've loved your character on Sistas from the get go, big ups to Tyler for Zatima! we love the shows.....I too have an invisible man hahahaha, I love him so much!!!!!!
I so needed to hear this. Cause I’m always doing for everybody else and taking little time for myself.
This was Insightful, another page of notes!! So use to taking care of everything that it’s hard to step back but I’m gone try to relinquish control! cheers to ANOTHER great episode 🥂 but Crystal that last minute of this episode had me wheezing, you and your imaginary man on the couch 😂
I've been waiting for crystals notification!! She's become such a big part of my life,I miss her in-between episodes. This one cracked me up&built me at the same time. I am all for sipping some wine on a Tuesday afternoon for no reason . As a single Mom,My life revolves around my Kids so much! Sometimes I forget to apply that soft life.... love the casual chilled OOTD ❤❤❤
It was my own daughter that brought it to my attention that I was being too strong or masculine as a woman. She told me to ask my male companion to do some of the stuff around the house and stop wearing myself out trying to do it all. I already knew that but I was use to doing it all myself. It's always been just my daughter and I, so I had no choice. I finally asked him and he gladly started doing my yard and other things that I asked. We're no longer together but I've learned to take care of me 1st and keep up my softer side.
Yes we are tired. Take care of yourselves sisters . Self care is imperative 💜🙏🏽💐
*listened to a bit of the background and pausing before going to finish the video*
I've been on a journey to embracing my feminine self over the past 5 or so years and watching SO many videos on what amounts to this topic by creators of all sorts of different backgrounds (including reading books). The resources along my journey have NEVER been limited to just WW, but I only learned the term Soft Life this week. I feel like it's the perfect term to encapsulate the sort of lifestyle life I've been striving for newrly half my adult life, but I was a little confused as to why when I searched the term specifically only black creators showed up. 😂 I'm glad I'm watching your video. Thank you for sharing the background as to why this term exists. While many of the lifestyle aims are the same (a peaceful life, easy, free of drama, a safe inviting and clean home, a splash of luxury here and there, etc) I now know to be very thoughtful and intentional when using specifically the term Soft Life so I don't appropriate it.
*Resumes watching the video*
Good Afternoon 😊 Ms. Crystal Renee Hayslett and Chat
Loving this podcast and all the inspiration that you share with us!!!! Keep up the great work on Sista's and Zatima!!!!
Love 💕 you as always!!!!
Speak it into the universe. God hear you and molding that man. Just as he has mold your life to this point. ❤
🥰 I can relate to all that was said. Even talking to my imaginary man.😂. I love it. Yes I agree we need to give ourselves more grace and we can be more compassionate with others and still be true to ourselves and not sacrifice our own peace and joy to make another person comfortable. Finding the balance of the masculine and feminine energy that is within all of us . Thank you for sharing!
Loved this episode 🩷 the vibe of this video is so calming. This felt like a chat with my big sis.
I resonate with this…I will take the lead or be put in the position to take the lead but now I want to embrace my soft life. So tired of wasting time on thing that drain me.
Sweetie you are talking directly to me…I am loving your channel ❤
I love this episode. I’m learning to embrace the soft life! Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us ❤
Crystal never miss with this podcast! GEMS on GEMS!