TOXIC emotional shopping cycle & DEBT (ex-beauty influencer story)
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- Опубліковано 25 гру 2019
- Blogging myself into debt!? This is a storytime about going into debt, financial tips, and explaining why influencers go broke. This is my storytime about youtube beauty blogging getting into debt after my shopping addiction. It's also an origin story to my emotional spending.
This might be the most vulnerable video I've ever filmed, so please be respectful and kind. I accept responsibility for my mistakes, I don't blame the community or my upbringing because it was up to me to unlearn and confront these behaviours.
Fortunately, my debt is just under 20K, that doesn't take away the guilt I have about letting a lot of my money slip through my fingers with careless spending.
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I’m Alexa, a reformed shopaholic and beauty guru on UA-cam since 2010. On my channel you'll find my journey towards slow living and productivity mindset. I’ve been on a beauty low/no-buy since 2019 and do use-up projects (i.e. project pan). If you have an itch to spend, I’ll do my best to convince you to keep your money! Thumbs up for that. - Навчання та стиль
SAME SAME SAME! This is my story. One thing I learned last year is that 1. I need to play in the items I own (makeup and clothing) to make sure I know what I have so I dont feel the need to shop. 2. for makeup, becoming an "expert" in a particular makeup item and using it up fulfills me a lot more than having a bunch of different stuff that I never use up. I learned that I often by based on suggestion, then keep buying because a specific item doesnt work the way I want...when really it COULD work how I want if I just took the time to learn it and keep using it...so yea...I am on a no buy this year, only repurchasing the items I need (primer, mascara, brows, stuff I love and use up).
Everyone has made financial mistakes you are going to turn things around this year! It's going to be ok. You're not alone No buy 2020 I'm in!
Yay! I'm definitely not scared of a no buy. I've been on low buy but now it's all about reaching the goals I set since I published this online 🤣 It's the getting organized that's intimidating. I'm sure we can get through this. Thanks for the support 😘
I put my makeup spending into actually buying a car this year! I’m
SUPER PROUD of myself! ❤️
Wow! Amazing, omg good for you. Seriously, what a great job!!
I. Love. This. This year I want to do the same! Get myself out of debt & only focus on ‘purchases’ that are necessary in nature! If you make a ‘frugal without being cheap’ series of videos this year, IM HERE FOR IT. bc I need inspo and I think all of us have to help one another out on this 2020 journey of saving them bucks 🙈🙈
I'm afraid I've been pretty cheap lately! I've been on a low-buy offline for the past year and all I've talked about are things I already own. Lol I actually will be spending this year, but I want those expenses to be related to physical activity or experiences that I can share with others (other than dinner and drinks). However, I don't know how this is going to play out exactly. I'll definitely be doing updates/vlogs. Thanks for your support, Chelsea!!
I wish I could hug you because I can relate to your story so much! I did do the ugly cry at the end because I understood everything you said. Your face lit up when you mentioned your project pan 2019, finishing up products is so rewarding indeed! It feels so good to use something up completely! And don't worry, so many of us can relate to wishing we did things sooner but mostly importantly 2020 is going to be EVEN BETTER than 2019 for you! When I took a look at my situation, I can't believe I allowed things to get out of hand the way it did. I feel guilty I didn't wake up sooner but I love this Maya Angelou quote (that has helped me through a lot), "When you know better, you do better". So 2020 will be my 3rd no buy year for makeup + nail polish and I'll probably add clothing to that list as well so I can save even more. I'm so excited I rediscovered you as well and I'm very very happy for all the wonderful things that will be ushered in for you in 2020. I 100% believe in you and you can accomplish every goal you listed
Thanks so much for your kind words and sharing your experiences, Zenorah! I'm working on releasing the guilt so I can better focus on my goals. It felt very cathartic to record this video. I feel it will help keep me accountable whilst relating to others going through the same thing.
I'm so glad the panning community exists! I've discovered so many channels covering beauty/fashion without revolving around over-consumption. It's all very exciting to me!
I used to follow you years back, it wasn't the right timing for me to get into panning. I recently rediscovered you from your collab with Danielle! it's funny how that happens.
Great video! I’ve felt the same way, that’s one of the reasons why I slowed down on my channel, it’s exhausting trying to keep up
Oh, you're telling me! There are so many releases and brands now that I have trouble differentiating them or even caring to distinguish one from another. In the last decade UA-cam's beauty community has gone from tutorials to new product centric videos - it's too much.
This is why I think high school should have solid economic curriculum for students in Quebec. RRSPs, savings, loans, etc... we should get that data young to start thinking for the future at an age where we can plan ahead. I actually enrolled in a planning for your retirement class when I was 24 and I do not regret it, all the people there were in their 50s and that is just too late. I have been saving for my retirement since 24. Also stopped buying luxury items new, if I want designer stuff I buy it secondhand and resell it when I no longer use it. It’s possible to live a planned financial life while having fun!
You are preaching to the choir. We had a useless home-ec class and media studies where we learned NOTHING. Why didn't we have personal finance? Why didn't they teach things about emotional intimacy instead of a week of p-in-v sexual ed? I'm so grateful that I didn't get into luxury handbags or buy a car I wouldn't have afford. I have made mistakes but thankfully they haven't been as grave as others. Good on you for getting your finances together at a younger age! I hope you spread the word!
Alexa Likes I was lucky because I started dating my bf who I am still with now and he is more of a saver so he showed me how to budget. Back then youtube was only starting out I can only imagine the amount of youtubers or bloggers who are in debt trying to keep up with the joneses, always trying to one-up the next « influencer »
@@juleslaurence6790 Oh my goodness, The wrost thing is I'm always the frugal one in relationships who says, "let's go to the movies when it's 2 for 1 and I'm carrying snacks n my purse" ... must be a latin thing. My ex was terrible at finances, my current enjoys shopping more than I and is a sucker for uber and eating out. The onus is on me to make the right choices despite what others are doing.
Also .. years back, the money went straight to clothes and makeup in the hauls - now we're talking equipment too! Starting a channel now has an even bigger price tag because people are dishing out for the best camera, lights and mic before they've even monetized their channel.
Thank you for being so honest!
and thank you for stopping by ☺
Good luck on your no buy!! This was my second year project panning and has made me realize makeup takes so long to use up im considering a low buy for next year have a set $$ to spend wish me luck too!
I'm wishing you luck! I've been watching your videos. The panning community has been such a refuge for me this year along with decluttering videos and anything revolving around living with less. I'm less anxious now and I could care less about new releases. I don't want to produce content that depends on me over-spending.
Yes I know the feeling of sleepless nights because of debt... Holiday shopping as well can make one overwhelmed.. now that u know you can do better you will do better.. the same way you built your channel is the same way u can build your wealth.. DETERMINATION... 2020 here we come!
Yes, thanks for the words of encouragement. Everyone has been pretty understanding and I've done limited spending this Christmas. It's not really our custome to do big gifts - thank goodness~!
Thanks for talking about this. There is such a stigma about admitting debt. I definitely agree that you learn your spending habits from parents. My mom was frugal because we didn't have a lot growing up and I use to hate it. I wanted to keep up with my peers. I haven't always been great at managing money which is why I think talking about it is so helpful. There is a lot learn from each other because I always think I should be saving more or doing something different.
I hate the stigma. That's why it's so shameful and uncomfortable to talk about. How are you supposed to know anything about it if no one you trust in your personal sphere tells you about it? It's sort of like sex in that way, everyone dabbles in it one way or another but no one wants to talk about it.
Money is something you get judged on... What you do or don't do with it, how much you have... it's a messy thing. It's so much more relational than just numbers too! Ugh. My mom was only frugal when she went back to school, little did I know she was in debt for years until she sorted it out in my early 20s. I want to break the cycle.
It’s Never easy to own up to ones mistakes or
Regrets. I think you’ve taken that step and now it will only get easier! I know you can make all those 2020 resolutions come true!
Releasng guilt is a whole beast on it's own but I'm hopeful. Thank you so much!
I think to learn to "live within your means" is a difficult lesson for many. Bad spending habits can start so easily and their potential for harm may not be noticed until it is already a problem. I commend you Alexa for being very open about these kinds of topics.
I'd want to live somewhat below my means in the long-run. What's crazy is that it's not taught. If you grew up in a impoverished family, you think living pay-to-pay is okay. Now we have lenders who have no problem signing you up for loans etc... that shouldn't happen. Cars are another money pit. Buy now, pay later is such a messed up culture. Thanks for watching!
I’m so glad I saw this video. I’ve been an on & off watcher but actually subscribed to you because of this video. I feel like UA-cam specifically watching the beauty channels got me into buying so much makeup more than I could ever finish.I love makeup, always have, but it got out of control.At some point I get embarrassed too to look around and see too much to the point I get overwhelmed with everything. I kinda miss the days when I had less makeup but everything was being used and most were favorites without being overwhelmed.Ive been really trying to change I unsubscribe from most beauty boxes and just left two but might actually just leave 1.I look forward to your new content perhaps it motivates me more.
Been following you since you did "Stealing Beauty" Don't be too hard on yourself. At least you are learning from the experience!
Thanks for being around! I needed to get this off my chest because I've noticed more bloggers have the same issues and dellusions about shopping. I've definitely learned my lesson but now I actually have to clean up. ☺
You are strong more then what you think Alexa you are amazing 2020 is gonna be an amazing year for you. You got a very positive and honest energy that will bring you to a lot of new experiences in your life. you are the best I ♥ you girl.
Thanks so much for the positive reinforcement. Looking forward to a new year and much more concious living!
So happy you shared this! We need to all realize consumerism is a thing and so many of us want to fit in, be cool, whatever so we overspend. I know I went out on my own and went bananas. Definitely looking to do a video like this to bring awareness. 💚 Thank you!
Oh girl, it's crazy. I'm fortunate to be at the point where I'm looking at this behavior critically at 30 and not later. I want to do some budgeting and planning for this before the year begins. Thanks girl 😘
Hey Alexa! This is so great that you are reflecting how far you have come with UA-cam. I remember your look book/ haul videos. I remember following you when I was looking for hair tutorials and discovered you. Since I am on my own debt free journey, I would love to see how you are planning to get out of debt. Thank you for sharing. :)
This is what I look forward to the most! I'm thinking of monthly/quartly updates to keep myself accountable. I was very inspired by Aja Dang, though my debt is no where near hers (thank goodness). Thanks so much for your support. I hope you are making excellent headway on your debt free journey!
Love your honesty and bravery, thanks for sharing your story! Very relatable and inspiring.
Thank you so much!
You don’t need to buy new makeup just use what you have for tutorials. Also loved watching your story time videos. I have the same addiction. My one and only new year resolution is to stop shopping. Don’t know how long it will last as I have tried before and failed many times. But UA-cam does make you buy makeup so it’s good to see videos like this it makes me realise and helps me to convince myself for a while I should stop.
Exactly, I've done all of my last reviews the last year (except 3*) with products that I didn't buy this year or that were from PR. I'm not sure I enjoy filming tutorials per say. They aren't as needed any more since there are plenty of expert MUAs on UA-cam. I was more trial/review based with the occasional get ready with me for fun or how to do something in particular type videos. Right now, I'm pretty into project panning.
You know what's helped me with low-buy in 2019 and what will help me succeed this year? A couple of things, decluttering (I read Marie Kondo in 2018) and channels like The Personal Philosophy Project by Cinzia. Cinzia did a video called what to do when you are bored with a list of things to do and NOT spend money. Maybe check them out and see how it goes! You never know ☺
Great video, I really like when youtubers open up and you get to know them a little more.
If you like these sorts of videos and are interested in finances in particular here's a few to watch: Style Apotheca, Aja Dange, Stacy Flowers, Samantha March.. there's so many and they've inspired me to talk about this.
@@AlexaLikes I follow Style Apotheca,I will watch the others you recommend
Loved hearing your backstory. It's wild how easily we can slip into the habit of shopping for all of the latest things. I think everyone is REALLY backing away from it now. I know I certainly want FAR less intake happening. I love using up stuff, but by god it's near impossible now!
It is wild! I can't remember the last time I bought makeup or skincare because I completely ran out of one category of beauty product. I was always buying things that were on sale or thinking, "I better hold onto that just in case" and essentially hoarding. I understand the excitement of new launches, wanting to try something different and having a collection. I don't want a large collection any more. It's going to take me a while to get there, maybe 3-4 years I suspect.
Sometimes, I can't tell if people are buying less or companies are making much more, but it seems like everything goes on promotion now and often!
Hi again, leaving another comment. I loved this video, Alexa. You were so honest, real, and brave. I don’t have a mountain of debt but I do spend way more than I should on beauty stuff. I have to say that before watching UA-cam beauty videos, which I discovered in 2013, partly led to my increased spending. I’m planning on not spending anything close to what I did before, in 2020. I also think that all these points systems that Ulta, Sephora, etc, feed on consumerism in the beauty milieu. But I’ve noticed that every so often they raise the price point on their tiers which makes me so angry. So here’s to a 2020 with less spending and a fatter bank account! You deserve more subscribers because you’re not out there touting how much we need to buy this thing and that palette. Thank you and Happy New Year 🎊. Oh, and love all the pictures you inserted, especially of your mom. What a hottie! Oh, and you asked for suggestions. Maybe this one won’t be a crowd pleaser but it would be great if you could make a couple about your relationship with your mom and how it’s changed since you were a kid
The points at sephora at terrible. $100 = 100 points which only buys a perfume sample if you are lucky. That's insanity. Mom is my number one fan - she's an angel. I did a hair tutorial with her ages ago when I hardly knew what to do on UA-cam. I very much wish us all fatter bank accounts in 2020! Cheers and Happy New Year and thanks for the support!
Hi Alexa, a long time viewer here.
I’ve watched pretty much all your journey on UA-cam and girl you have grown.
You’re one of the very few youtubers who still worries about quality content.
Keep up the good work.
I’ve always admired your honesty and we’ll always support you.
2020 fresh new start.
Aww I know, Gabby! I recognize you, girl! I'm the kind of person who never feels like they are doing enough, so it means a lot to me to hear that. I try to be transparent while still withholding enough to have some privacy. It's scary for me to think peers, acquintances and even some strangers watch me online and know so much! LOL Thanks for supporting and hopefully I can set a positive example for others just like the people I've admired who have opened up about this!
I just recently found your channel and I really like it. I like that you do project pan and no buy, cause I'm also trying to do that now. Great job on the video!
Thank you! I'm on my second year of beauty no-buy and living a low buy lifestyle and I'm absolutely loving it. I'm happy to share this journey and compare experiences on here.
I really appreciate your vulnerability here. ❤️❤️❤️
Ah thanks so much!! I knew I wasn't the only one and wanted to share. Fortunately, I've done a lot to improve. Happy new year, by the way!
Love your openness about this topic and wishing you the best in 2020. It definitely does seem like money is a taboo topic but I think if people talked about it more, they would hopefully learn to spend their money more wisely!
Yeah, I find it odd. We have no issues posting passive aggressive subtweets but money is taboo?! I think because we tie it into status and expect everyone to know what to do with it like it were second nature. It's very easy to never look at what you are spending in a world where credit debt is normalized. Thanks so much for the feedback! Happy holidays.
I wondered what happened to your look books. I really enjoyed them and it sucks that rude people ruined that for you. Sorry you went through that.
I'm actually grateful for that happening because it got me to workout and stop spending all my money on clothes I only wore for the internet! Now, I'm such a creature of comfort. I live in lounge wear, enjoy chunky sweaters, lululemon leggings (3 pairs on constant rotation), chelsea boots, and I thrift from time to time. I like clothes that feel and look good! Thanks so much for stopping by - rude people don't bother me like they did before 2013, I grew tougher skin with age haha!
32? you look like 24 :D
Thanks, I'm turning 32 in April actually!
I relate to you soo much. I recently realized that I have a shopping addiction. I love watching haul videos and to make myself feel better, I buy new stuff. I'm approaching 30 and still live at home and have student debt. and credit card debt. I'm tired of feeling bad about myself and having no money. I have decided in 2020 that I will not buy anything I don't need e.g. a clothing no buy. or just a no buy in general. I feel you girl. The guilt is real. I hope 2020 treats you well and wish you all the success on your no makeup buy. :)
Wishing you the same good fortune! We can do this and let's stop feeling like sh*t. Fortunately, I've dropped buying excessive amounts of makeup and clothes in the last year but the debt from mismanaging my finances is going to take more time.
I found Cinzia from The Personal Philosophy Project channel on UA-cam has helped. I also watch a lot of anti-consumer beauty channels like Lauren Mae Beauty, Abby Williamson, Smokey Glow and just beauty related content that does not revolve around hauls (like project pans). *Skip the hauls.* Decluttering, panning or shopping your stash helps relax the shopping itch too!
be proud of yourself and what you have shopped so far. they will be your investments to the future where you won't have to shop so much and focus on saving🌷
The fact that you are more self-aware than before is an accomplishment in its own! Be kind to yourself, but also set up rules and boundaries so you can meet your goals. My mom always said, guilt is futile.. so lets use it to make better choices for our future selves :)
Exactly, guilt serves little purpose. You realize what you did wrong when you didn't know better and move on with grace by not making the same mistakes going forward.
Girl! Thank you so much for sharing something so personal.. I wish more people would talk about this. I fell into that trap too.. it’s really tough to get out of spending so much which you’re bored or just to give you a boost or rush. I also feel guilty about all the money I spend on clothes /makeup (and I still do it! ) but I’ve been getting a lot better at it. It helps to have long-term goals .. watch you tubers who aren’t always spending their money and sniping your own closet instead of always bringing in something new ! Good luck- I know you can do it! Perhaps you can document your journey? I would love to follow along :)
Thanks Sarah! Helps to know I'm not the only one. I've been a conservative spender since being off for a year and it really opened my eyes about not needing much. I'm super into anti-consumerism beauty bloggers and panners these days. Unfortunately, it's going to take some time to lose the debt. I maybe document parts of it that I feel comfortable sharing. Thanks for watching and stopping by. Happy holidays, Sarah!
I love this video so much. It takes courage to speak about these things, and you were very articulate in this video. You made some fantastic points, but the main thing I want to say is that you can always earn more money. Try not to beat yourself up for the past and things you can't change. I've done some really embarrassing things in the past too, but now that I know better, I can try to be better. We all do the best we can in the moment. You're young, smart, and talented... I'm sure you'll look back at this video and be proud of how far you've come. *HUGS*
Thanks, Lesley - watching your journey has been really helpful, by the way! I've definitely realized that I need to put the regret for the money that is gone in the past. I'm taking action to earn more this year and put the money to work. I'm grateful that my debt is small enough that I could very possibly handle it in 12-18 months and start saving for a better future.
You can make it Alexa, thank you for sharing your story with us.
Thanks, Ruth. I'm already making some headway and it feels great. Thanks for the words of encouragement.
I think the beauty debt HAS TO be more common than we think especially for people starting out now. You started even before I did, but when I started blogging in 2011, there was definitely the urge to buy everything new "because I needed new material to get my blog going", but not like now. With Instagram, the need to buy and have the newest is insane. While I have more makeup/skincare than I could ever need, I have slowed down in the last two years and while I am very fortunate to not have any debt (my dad is a financial planner so the moment I started working in high school saving was a big deal), I always feel like I could save more than I do and not spend. I'm never going to be a minimalist and I know that I will probably be VIB Rouge for as long as the program is around because beauty is where I enjoy spending money, but I've decided that as long as I can save at least a third of my paycheck each month, I'm happy. I think once you start seeing that initial growth in savings/decrease in debt, you will want to do even more for that "savings high"! Looking forward to seeing your progress!
It's VERY common. Makeup aside, the equipment is another HUGE investment. We used to be able to blog with cheap cameras or our cellphones. The industry standard is now a beauty room and a DSLR with lights and backdrops! I don't know if you've watch Samantha March before, she did a video series about spending all her savings on makeup for blogging. There are some fashion bloggers who have opened up about this kind of debt too.
Having a mentor in or an education in personal finance is a huge privilege. Perhaps if my dad were alive I would have known better - not sure how he was with money as a whole but I'm living and learning. Thanks for stopping by!
@@AlexaLikes I really should stop by more often!
I can't imagine being a teenager now and wanting everything since advertising is so targeted to younger people. Consumerism is definitely at an all time high. I was indeed very lucky to have my dad be in the finance sector AND be smart about it! I used to think he was just trying to be controlling with my money, but I know the value of it now. It's never too late and I think if you have the discipline to pan 20 products (it's really quite challenging) you can most certainly tackle this!
@@JayneLim Oh that and snapchat, tiktok and instagram stories. All those apps would have been like crack for me in my teens!
Thanks so much, I fully intend on being as disciplined. I can be really stubborn once something comes to my mine! haha See you on the gram :)
Thank you for opening up and sharing!! I highly recommend watching or reading the ‘barefoot investor’ to help budget your money for spending ☺️
Thank you for being so honest. I'm doing a no buy year x
No worries! Best of luck. I'm on my second year and I haven't looked back.
You are one of the first beauty you tubers I started watching (mainly bc you are latina like myself). You make great content and it’s so common for this culture to suck you into consumerism. Last year I started watching Hannah Louise Poston and she inspired me to creat a beauty budget. I also read Mari Kondos book as well. I still love makeup and enjoy it so much, and a budget doesn’t make me feel limited. I have a real savings and pay my debts with progress. You are going to discover a lot about yourself during the no buy and it’s going to make you a stronger, more aware person! Consumerism is a crazy place. You got this!
I saw Hannah and I love the ideas behind her videos, but I just couldn't get into them 😅. It might be a communication miss-match. I wish there were more people of color or just non-white people making videos about finance - have you noticed the lack of diversity there!?
Anyway, I found Aja Dang, Style Apotheca, Stacy Flowers, Samantha March and others I could watch...
Fortunately, last year was a low-buy. It was SO eye-opening. I purchsed 5 makeup items in total and I'm confident about not feeling the need for makeup/clothes. Now I'm more concerned with curbing my eating out and getting out of debt! I need to start budgeting too!
Thansk for your insight! I'm so happy others are working through it too!
Alexa Likes I have noticed some lack of POC within that topic and I wonder if it’s because of the algorithm not promoting them or if it’s bc of there not being any content of the sort. Your story of your mom immigrating from Honduras is very familiar to mine as well, specifically how consumerism is strong among the Latino community. I’m working on making a video series of how my low buy Year was so effective and eye opening. Im working towards creating a channel to post such related items. I can’t wait to follow you through this portion of tour journey in 2020!
Keep up the great work with your videos- makeup or no makeup, whichever topic you will cover I shall click on the video!
Thanks again, Jules!
A very offbeat topic and a job well done 👏. I think ' emotional shopping' is the right term and it's important to recognise and deal with it.
Thank you! I'm glad this chapter of my life got closed and hopefully it shows others it is possible to overcome.
I wish you the best on your journey I'm trying to do a no spend year too so fingers crossed i make it this time!
Thanks so much! I'm very pumped and hope I can keep the fire burning. This is something I want to document for my own sake to keep accountability. Wishing you better luck this time!
Oh Alexa! We all pick up things from our parents. In my case... when I was a little girl my dad was far too tight with the money! I remember in secondary school walking n all then shops thinking 🤔 you know what? Ill buy all sort of pretty things for myself one day. It was difficult to save up I had to starve myself. Then I meet an irish man so came to Europe and because he was good to me i got addicted to shopping. Now we divorced and yes... i hate myself for not saving 😣 BUT the main thing is we learned and that what life’s about ?? 🤷🏽♀️ thanks for sharing babe ❤️❤️
Oh yeah. Man, that's quiet the story. Mom sort of had a similar situation happen. When she came to Canada and got married. She didn't have to worry about money, but her childhood was economically difficult.
We've had so many discussions on the matter and have gotten better - because we both had compulsive shopping behaviours.
With everything that has happened in 2020, this year has been so much easier to reduce spending for both of us. Thanks for sharing your story and the kind words.
@@AlexaLikes she raised a very good girl I have to say 😊 ❤️
I'm going on a No-Buy this year aswell. I understand you 100%. Looking forward to more videos on that topic! Let's curb consumerism! X
It's so exciting to find many others doing the same. I'll be reviewing and trying to use as much products I already have and getting more creative with video topics. Let's do this!!
@@AlexaLikes Absolutely! I'm happy so many others question their consumenrism aswell, it's much needed nowadays amongst all the beauty youtubers. It's amazing to support each other aswell :) looking forward to seeing more of you!!
Great ! It looks very good! Sustain the great job!
Newly dubbed and I dig you! I am hoping to get a channel myself so I appreciate your guidance and helpful tips in this video! Happy 2020 !
Oh yes, create sinking fund for the equipment and channel props you want. Try your best to use what you have. That's my top advice, because for most of us UA-cam becomes a hobby. If it pays dollars, it's like doing an over time shift once a month. Yes it can turn into a job, but for most people it's not quick so it's best to pace yourself. Wishing you good luck! I'm planning some UA-cam beauty blogging related videos this month.
@@AlexaLikes Wow thank you again for your kindness! I will be keeping my eyes peeled for that blog. Thank you again so very much ☺
This video is awesome and I believe will help so many in the same boat (or heading there!). Would love to follow your no buy, but maybe with a deal of the month thrown in (maybe drugstore, maybe on sale). Something affordable once a month that complements what you already own (even a new shampoo!). ☺️
I'm actually swimming in shampoo/conditioner, body wash, hair products and skincare... for this reason, I have no reason to shop at all (with limited exceptions).
The only thing I've gone through are razors. I'm looking to invest in a safety razor - a much more sustainable option that plastic throw-aways.
I received so much of it from PR up until 2017. PR has scaled back to focus on instagramers with 10K in the lifestyle and fashion niche - they also send much less which I appreciate so much. That's a whole other topic for a video I'm planning in the future.
I agree with every word you said! And I’m experiencing some of what you are as well, the only thing I would do differently stay home there is nothing wrong with that. We live in a different economic society now. I live on my own, and I have kids me and my mom still discuss moving in together just to help each other lol.
I'm actually staying. I was going to move out with my ex in July but since that ended, I'm on my way to paying off my debt even faster by staying home. ♥️ Thanks for the reco
Great news is that you got the message so moving forward you’ll be financially sound.
I was on a low buy last year - makeup and clothing aren't strong triggers anymore. But, confronting and explanding on the issue is my plan moving forward to become financially healthy. 😌
Alexa Likes ♥️🙌
I found your channel through this video and have subscribed. I found you to be genuine and honest. I really appreciate your honesty. I can relate so much. I love to see videos on the emotions behind your purchases and how you have overcome them (what your secret? Lol)
Part of it was quiting my dead end job in October 2018 and deciding to take time off to reflect (kind of like an adult gap year). I definitely want to unpack this in further videos, I'm happy you found this video. Thank you for the great topic idea!
Alexa Likes cant wait for the video ❤️
You should listen to Dave Ramsey
Mom got me Ramsey's book for Christmas. I really do not agree with the religious sentiments or tackling the smallest debt first unless it has the highest interest - everything else is gold. I also follow Aja Dang, Style Apotheca and Stacy Flowers - all youtubers who follow him. My plans involve focusing on physical and financial health this year.
Excited to find your channel! Im.doing a No Buy year for all of 2020 and makeup is a huge part of that. Looking forward to following your journey! Maybe we can be accountabilibuddies LOL!
Yessss! I'm doing project pans to combate the urges And there will be no buying makeup this year for sure. Glad we're in this together!
@@AlexaLikes yes I have never heard of project plans so I'm exploring the whole concept for the first time. It's really exciting!
Project pan is really helpful if you are a makeup shopper and have a lot of things already. It helps you focus on enjoying what you already have and sort of make a challenge of it. Project pan really helped me understand how long it takes to go through makeup. Spoiler alert, It takes forever. Lol
@@AlexaLikes AHAHAHAHA I love it! I'm going to definitely be doing it now that I'm starting a No Buy year! I would love to pan some products!
You go girl. It’s never too late.
Thank you! 😭✨
Hi! Check out Aja Dang’s channel. So has helped me greatly. You will love her!
Yes, Aja and style apotheca inspired me. I've watched her for 3 years. Thank goodness my debt isn't in the 6 digits!!!
I will do the same thing, when i thought about how much i spend, i could have bought a furniture for that amount i spent, we all make mistakes. But its not too late. Lets do it!
I'll be doing quarterly no buy updates. A lot has changed. I have a No Buy Rules video going up on the 21st and I will modifying it as I go on.
I see someone recommended Dave Ramsey already (I agree with you, I don’t agree with him 100% of the time) so check out The Financial Diet (they totally understand Millennials) or the syndicated show, Til Debt Do Us Part (a little dated but overall great for couples). As a 1st GEN Latina like yourself, I completely get the sentiment “inheriting poor financial habits” from your parents 🤷🏻♀️ we all go through it, I have $70K in student loans that I’m aggressively paying off and I’m the odd one in my group because I had to cut back on getting my nails done/going to concerts/etc soo it’s nice to find like minded people 👍🏼 #2020NoBuy
I watch them all the time and follow them on IG.
I watch them all the time and follow them on IG. I'm no longer coupled, unfortunately but it gives me plenty of opportunities to focus of my debt and job hunt. My habits are rubbing off on others in my surroundings, some just think I'm crazy. Lol we can do this, I'm wishing you strength and sending positive vibes your way. I'm so happy we're not alone!
Good luck to you.
Thank you, Lisa!
Hi girl... I can total understand...I am also 32.. in August.
I discovered makeup community in 2016.. since then I started live vods on facebook and my insta page.. did the same think than u.. test all the time new things.. even when I haven't money.. I did buy "pay later" and then started in 2019 see that I have more then 400 € to pay off.. since then I started to do low buy and even panning but I still buyed.. so I decided last month to go on total no buy.. I have now almost 300€ to pay off. For me is that much becouse i dont go to work i needed to say it my husband that he can give me every month some money to pay this off.. I did already declutter give away and sell some stuff but its not enough. It will be hard to keep no buy.. but.. I want to go through till the end of year and see how everything will change. Wish I also luck girl
Wishing you luck too! Thanks for sharing your story. At least now we know much better!
@@AlexaLikes exact. We can learn from our mistakes
I, too, am a smitten kitten 🐱
Just think if you had done this destructive behavior all your adult life and now at 58 have to savings or Retirement. I wish I could break the addiction.
git it girl, 2020 is your year ;)
Amen, Grant!
Is Mango like forever 21 but in Canada?
No, it was slightly pricier Zara but also Spanish. It used to be a commission paying retail job, which made it feel more like a boutique and the locations were much smaller than Zara or forever 21.
I think it's brave you share the hard parts. However, you should also address the underlieing issues which kept you addicted to first clothes shopping and then beauty shopping. Apart from the pressure to buy, usually there are also personal unmet emotsional needs or unresolved trauma underneath which fuels buying items we do not need. It's the good emotions you get from items, it's the attention you get, it's the ritual and certainty that it gives you, as opposed to complicated human relationships and undefined life situations. I also sense loneliness. You do not want the items, you want people in your life to talk to, that's probably what's underneath the blogging as well. You crave for human connections and if it's strong enough, and the needs have been unmet since childhood, the loneliness can influence unwise financial decisions.
I talk about these things in other videos dated years back related to unpacking shopping addiction and have since overcome financial issues. Loneliness is pretty natural in human existence, especially when both your parents pass away untimely. It's much better to just accept them than combat with impulsive behaviors. However, video blogging is my passion and nothing to do with it, I've been making videos since childhood before posting anything to the internet. It even dictated my choice in my university degree.
Yes! Another Canadian youtuber. Excited to see your updates. I am in the panning community too. There is a really great project starting on January 20th if you want to join. Check out emilynmax (UA-cam channel) and check out deck of panning. If you want to join in I can invite you too the Instagram group
Thanks for the invitation. In going to have a look. I'm not sure how many projects I can do at once, since I'm new at this and have 2 going already.
Great news, 2022 UPDATE ua-cam.com/video/e7vDvZkdDug/v-deo.html