They were so confidently self-deprecating all night, but looked so vulnerable at the end. They joked about their relationship being doomed and brought up all their flaws like it was some silly joke. But then they realize they actually were happy and liked each other, and now all those flaws might be real obstacles and things they need to work on. Flaws might be easy to share with a stranger, but feel shameful once it's someone you know and like.
I liked the way they both started put as being quite cocky and by the end, their vulnerabilities were on display. I really warmed to the characters by the end and felt for them because they seemed so vulnerable once the cockiness had vanished. The two actors were incredible. It's quite a talent to be able to transform two characters from being annoying and unlikeable initially, to endeearing and vulnerable at the end.
Ever watch those "B" movies, Where the acting is terrible. Makes you wonder why these "Shorts" the actors... are so good sometimes? They are "Brad pitt" Quality but they get little recognition.
@@MrWolfheart111 I wonder why that is. Probably could be that they don’t have connections, which really sucks. I actually just realized that Nicolas Cage was related to the Coppola family, and that makes a lot of sense why it was easier for him to get recognized
They went from a confession high to a reality low. They both realized that was probably as good as it gets and nothing will ever come close again. That is the problem with insecurity. The doubt always comes back to match the high.
This is the best explanation out of all! Nothing will ever come close again and it's upon them to accept this and be with one another or move on and cherish this as an experience.
@Keyzer Soze oh yes sometimes there is. a highly insecure person is more susceptible to having their self image boosted by extrinsic forces ( someone else boosting their esteem, or a job, or some status advance). when that extrinsic force, that other person falls off the pedestal because something happened, like they left, or they did something to betray the ideal the other person saw them as, then that insecurity comes flooding back in. lesson is if you value yourself unconditionally then no one and nothing can give you an ego high or take it away.
@Keyzer Soze Insecurity brings the best highs. Tell a vain person they look amazing and it won't register because they already believe they do, tell someone who is insecure that they look amazing and you'll put them on cloud 9 for the rest of the day.
Yes, and ... the impact of what they've shared hits home. They've nowhere to hide. The kind of vulnerability that usually takes months or years to achieve, has happened on the first date. And what does one do with *that*?
I need to read the screenplay. I really loved it! Two emotionally unavailable people feeling this tremendous attraction and connection, only to realize that they are emotionally unavailable people at the end.
So, to understand the ending, I assume that they found the brutal honesty refreshing, and exciting, but once the hormones died down, they realised that they were terrible? Individually and as partners.
"Knowing-it-all" doesn't make good relationships, however, knowing each other flaws, compromising and growing together with your partner grows the relationship that is strong and binding. If you want something lasting, you need the time to build the trust through actions. Knowing is just the beginning.
Actually reminds me a bit my first date with my now wife. We were both pretty tipsy and just let it all out there. No surprises, just honesty. Totally clicked and still together after 3 years
@@madisonpage5483 Well, I should have looked at the name! You’re profile picture only underlines your ability to just be you! Plus, it is an excellent cartoon! All the best to you and yours! And many more years to come! Here’s to honesty! I think honesty + chemistry, really do play a big part of what makes a a good relationship. I’m definitely no expert. Wishing you the best! (Even your comments come across genuine.). Stay Safe and Be Well! Thanks for sharing. ❤️💙🥰 P.S. The very fact that you followed up with your simplistically honesty about your profile pic… Something about that is just genuine and sweet! And definitely one of the best cartoons around. Xoxoxo!
I read so many comments after watching and its very interesting how each person perceives what the show and relationship is all about. Its actually like reading a window into their soul and how they have learned many lessons in life. (Not the actors but all of us living life.) Some comments aligned exactly what I thought also. Again not that I am right, but I only know what my life has shown me so far. We are all 100% correct and 100% different.
I am actually serious when I say this. You story telling and how this story is filmed is actually better then most Hollywood films and such. This is ridiculously good.
Yeah, just tweak it down a few decibels. I think the music should have started out louder, and as the back and forth got faster and faster, started to dim, much like awareness does when you start getting in a really good conversation.
Nicely done. In a strange sort of perfectly logical way, NOTHING is more or a turn on than being vulnerable and having your vulnerability rewarded by the other's vulnerability. This couple took that to the extreme, peeling away one mask after another until they were completely naked emotionally and psychologically, so the post-orgasmic ending moment, when each was alone with their insecurity, was exactly right and touching.
I saw it exactly this way. Many in the comments section saw the couple in a negative light. Naked physically as well in the end and they seemed relieved at the end because someone accepted them with all their flaws(including the physical flaws).
Ok but even that beginning is wayyy more chemistry then u get from a regular online date. I had a coffee date with someone from an app once where we literally just sat for like 2 hours bc neither of us would say, ok well I should get going. We acknowledged the awkward silence and I kept trying to make conversation but he just didn’t have anything to say so I just stared out the window at a tree and legit told him about the tree moving in the wind. That was our riveting conversation. It sucked.
This is my dating approach, albeit often is one sided. We withhold out of fear of rejection for being who we really are, but you’ll lose the person eventually anyway if you start off with falsehoods or half truths. It’s very freeing to be a mess, yet someone will love you. Great short film!
What I got out of the film was, not that they were honest, but what they were honest about. They both realized they're awful people and deserved each other.
It’s impressive how believable this is. It made me realize how gratifying it is to reveal your weaknesses and still be accepted. They couldn’t resist going back for more.
I think the film shows how refreshing honesty can be and I think the end shows they both realized this could be something real because they were both truly themselves which isn’t common in dating these days. I don’t get anything about them being or realizing they’re terrible people, they’re just flawed like anyone else
this makes me realise how flaws are so human like im constantly trying to pull myself out of everything and to be perfect and mostly fail at it but the imperfections are what makes a person them and that's comforting
The ending says otherwise. Listening to someone's insecurities and accepting them are two different things. If they come to accept it, then yes that would be the most powerful couple in the world. Otherwise they're gonna use it against each other during arguments and eventually resent their connection. This couple looks sad already,they are overwhelmed by this much information.I doubt there would be a second date at all. Even if you don't do it this way, your partner would come to know about these insecurities eventually.
It’s crazy how much better and how much more realistic these shorts are then almost any movie I’ve seen. And you even learn a little something from each of them, glad I found this channel a while back.
Once i met with a brutally honest woman. It was fascinating and refreshing. I don't think i will ever meet someone like her ever again. But i really appreciated her honesty.
While I like the concept (gave me a bit of Before Sunrise vibes), I think there's a stark difference between honesty and focusing solely on one's bad qualities. Where was the honesty about things they like about themselves? Where was the transparency about their opinions of things that don't reflect something bad? This had a lot of potential but their conversations focused on only the bad to truly feel that they got to know each other
It feels good to "confess" everything but you aren't truly known in that. People may be aware of your faults because you told them but they don't truly understand you
@@4snailssake Beautifully said. We're more than our faults. Also, by telling someone our faults, we actually give them OUR version of those faults rather than letting them come to a conclusion on their own. Maybe their natural take is closer to "the truth."
Even after they confessed all the bad sides of themselves, in the end they are still too insecure and scared to feel happiness or affection, attachment and involvement of any sorts, and their facial expressions shows that fact slowly settling into them both.
@@sourabhpatel2391 all the self loathing, they try to one up another justifying their personalities to eachother. That they rushed into it because they found someone just like them, flawed and not worth it. You know like when you break up with someone and find a rebound…
@@echotube3111 Better to hate yourself so much that your opinion about whether you deserve a relationship has no value whatsoever. Let someone else more worthy of judging you decide whether you deserve a relationship or not. ;-)
And they went on to be the most successful couple in history. Honestly is truly the best policy. (The chemistry is INCREDIBLE! They should have a full movie as costars!)
I think no. The alcohol and partying lowered their defences and made it seem fun but in the reality of morning they had to still face themselves, and many times it's easier to run and hide than fight through your own issues while trying to build with someone else. I do however think overall it was cathartic and may cause them to slowly begin to address these things separately.
This is soul crushing. Along the lines of the "The Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind" movie from 2004. Beautiful, emotional, moving. Excellent acting, especially the very charismatic young male actor. Excellent directing as well, great instruction given to the actors to act happy and optimistic, a painful, strong contrast to one of the life's greatest tragedies that evolves in front our eyes. The person who wrote the text has a deep understanding of human nature and relationships, probably result of life experience. Brilliant work.
I think the end is not as much about they being bad people rather than about vulnerability And how when the rush of the moment passed They felt truly vulnerable and conscious with each other and with themselves. But i don't consider the ending as pessimistic as a lot of people seem to think it is. Vulnerability is a key element in being able to open up oneself to be loved and to love.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. What charmed me at first about this honesty stripped away the things that make falling in love fun - admiration, understanding, mutual love for anything…it all releases those endorphins and give you a rush. How good can a couple be, bonding over their worst selves? Will it help or hinder it?
I found it rather nice, accepting flaws, light hearted, fun vibe. the only thing is all the learning about someone should be done over a long period of time. other wise knowing everything about someone, making it completely predictable and killing the excitement
It will help. [source: happily married] In short; By honesty with time both parts will learn how their feelings like most importantly love affects each other. Both parts will be in best case a great addition to their whole existential development and rise victoriously upon all borders together. ("Never said its completely easy though. But do-able!" | The best decision I took in my whole life.)
Also to be loved you have to inspire yourself (every time from scratch). Then you can not "kill" the excitement. Predictability comes with feelings of being grounded and safe, like a harbor for ships. Ain't life being an vast ocean of expectations all the time? Yes. With an awareness for balance your flow becomes even better.
If they had mixed it up with things they admired and liked about themselves as well as the flaws, then maybe...But I find this pretty unrealistic and forgettable....sorry
I didn't have any issue understanding them, but I stopped to ask about the lingo in your comment. What is "eating up their words"? I'm not familiar with that phrase
@@helenepajot7744 yea good potential but a lost cause..since its supposed to be mainly dialogues based and not something that someone can understand just by visuals..
The fact that they are self aware of their flaws and are able to express them so effortlessly is amazing if only people were honest with themselves this would reality
Knowing other's flaws is not helping much in a long-term relationship, isn't it? They need time to accept and adapt to those flaws. Acknowledge the good and the bad is just the very beginning of a relationship. Lots of things need to be done in order to have a healthy long-term relationship.
i got the impression that it was about wishing you could say all the things you think about yourself to someone else, and they still stay with you. They still like you.
"i really don't self-improve, i just make self-aware jokes to mitigate the damage" "can you just imagine just how I drink? It's funny now but it'll be really sad in the morning. I'm gonna blame you for enabling me" "I think I'm still in-love with two of my ex-girlfriends" HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAH LITERALLY ME
really wondering if the ending means relationship. sad if it's just a one night stand. there is subtraction of love ... and heartbreak. really superb acting. ❤
It was all a game, leading to this ecstasy. And it's suddenly not a game anymore. Realizing that everything that's been said is true, and will now slowly materialize. What now ?
@@natalielambert4378 This reminds me of the saying that goes : "A friend is somebody who knows us well, yet likes us anyway !" On one side agreeing with you, a first date wearing the mask of polished personality would be like spending a day cleaning up my house before the first time I'd welcome her for dinner : not only a lie, but also unsustainable, the promise of a quick disappointment. However I feel like this movie could hint that this opposite extreme would be just as misleading. Firstly because those flaws they playfully enumerate are only the ways that they see themselves. A loving partner discovers us the way we are with his own eyes, and shows us reflections of ourselves much better than we'd see them ourselves. Secondly, because a rich relationship makes us evolve quickly, individually and as a pair, and brings us to uncharted flaws and strength territory. In the end, not having a plan, not trying to control a lot, moderating both fears and enthusiasms, remaining authentic, trying to see clearly through calm moments and letting the flow run where it needs to, letting life prove how it has more imagination than we do, would be a beautiful form of art. But it requires trust in fate.
I really love this video. I think about dating like this, with brutal honestly, frequently. I crave it. But alas, I've never met anyone else that knows themselves this well or would be willing to admit they do.
Omg same I am very self aware but I don't have the chutzpah to start conversation like that, but if the guy I was with started I could definitely continue the conversation
I'm thinking there should be groups like this for self help about relationships, I know there's Facebook groups for it, I'm part of one. I think it would be a wonderful idea that instead of just self development for relationships it would be a dating pool of people to willing to start dating with revealing their flaws. I once met someone brave enough to suggest to go on their longest walk of life partly for a challenge and on that walk we opened up, cried and then become best friends. No we're not dating but just trying to show that while it's not easy, being honest helps a lot and pays back.
And I don't even fully know myself but it's still worth talking about what you think your flaws and drives are even if you realize you weren't fully honest to yourself..
Wow! Great stuff. Do not usually enjoy videos like this but so far I have seen a few of these from you guys and they are so well done! This one about the raw, open, honesty that is required in a relationship and the ability to accept that we are all flawed and move forward. We all need to be able see our flaws before we are able to make ourselves better people.
Their actions are supportive together, their honesty pure. It's interesting to see how the words seem louder than the actions because they shock us. It's hard to be that vulnerable, it was beautiful to watch.
Everyone who says they want brutal honesty upfront most likely never experienced it. Been there, but now in my maturity prefer slow rolls that build over time.
Makes visual the post orgasmic clarity. Of how when we are being driven solely by our mating drive, we tend to make decisions not in our long term benefit.
Never overshare or jump into bed with someone on a first date if you want a long term relationship. Get to know them one day at a time, get to know their friends and family, what they believe, who they are. It all takes time and patience to build something that will last.
They lay so much on the table, like peeling and onion getting deeper and deeper. One honest couple just touching what ACTUAL love may be like. No persuasion, no one sidedness just a learning experience that has respect, closeness and trust
I was actually expecting things to go REALLY south as they began to reveal some really deep secrets, "I've killed someone" "I robbed an old lady" but no...they remained innocent. Decent chemistry between the actors...but the issue with relationships like this is, once you "give it all away" too soon...there's not much left afterwards. Where do you go from here?
u accept someone's insecurities and flaws because of the good you see in them and you love them, they did everything without love lol, that why it'll never work, not because they're terrible people. relationships are about balance.
But how does love even come about in the 1st place? Even people who are deeply in love started out as strangers in the beginning. They weren't just suddenly magically in love from the very start. That's something that takes time to build & develop, but in the meantime it could be said they laid the groundwork for potential feelings to blossom.
when people know each other for the first time we kiss in the cheek, at least in south america. A hug is kinda inappropiate as you said though, but it is pretty arbitrary if you think about it.
They covered everything on their first date, so now they have absolutely nothing else to work on. Who knew putting your best foot forward was not putting your best foot forward.
But is it really effective to unload everything at once? You haven't gotten the time to even fall in love so you're just bombarded with all these bad things and will just begin to dislike the person. When you feel love for the person and that love grows stronger you have more reason to stay and work on yourselves and the relationships. If you deep dive immediately you will be left feeling hopeless and like pursuing the relationship is pointless, you already know all the bad things, you know you will be disappointed and you will have this in mind at all times so you can't enjoy good things with them. And you don't have any love for them that can support you and keep you going. Of course it is important do base your relationship on honesty and feeling that you can be yourself with them, those are the ones that last, but you shouldn't unpack everything at once. You're not ready for that and it can ruin every chance you have at happiness and love. That is just My opinion and take away from this film, I'm an optimistic person yk.
Maybe in theory, but in the real world if you try your hardest to just come off as an absolute PROBLEM on your first date, you will not be having a second one lol. Let them learn with time and accept the flaws as they show. If you just go into it like “yeah man I’m a total p.o.s. and I hate myself lollll” normal people will be dodging you left and right.
as long as they dont try to involve in each other life, they will be perfect safe haven for each other. Is actually an unique type of friendship that gonna last very long n very supportive
I wish one could know so much about themselves on the first date but I'm sure that's impossible.. regardless I would be impressed if someone knows that much about themselves to be able to reveal such useful information to someone else.. I wish this could happen but feels like a fairly tale...
This hits close to home. After so much damage -- especially damage to long-standing relationships we think will last -- we begin to almost crave this sort of forwardness of flaws. We want to skip the song and dance of discovering them organically and just know for sure whether this person will "survive us." Unfortunately, the song and dance is a necessary part of it. You can be honest about everything and still not really know somebody until you've resonated with them for awhile.
High quality film. Somehow came at just the right time as I went on a 1st date the other day filled to the brim with chemistry only to not get a 2nd. Funny how it all goes.
This was great fun and very well acted. The sound quality could have been better, but directed well and loved the increasing pace as the story moved forward until they ended up in bed. Then that quiet, extended, static, held two-shot at the end which could be interpreted in several ways.....
They condensed the first 40 years of a GOOD marriage down into a single date.
Cool way to put it!
41 years here. Can confirm.
@@laurieschnurer7614 haha.... also 41!
First 40 years?......
This is more like the first 3 months of every relationship
They were so confidently self-deprecating all night, but looked so vulnerable at the end.
They joked about their relationship being doomed and brought up all their flaws like it was some silly joke. But then they realize they actually were happy and liked each other, and now all those flaws might be real obstacles and things they need to work on. Flaws might be easy to share with a stranger, but feel shameful once it's someone you know and like.
Well said.
" Flaws might be easy to share with a stranger, but feel shameful once it's someone you know and like."
beautiful
The perspective is as cute as you 🐼
Excellently analyzed
damn that's deep
I liked the way they both started put as being quite cocky and by the end, their vulnerabilities were on display. I really warmed to the characters by the end and felt for them because they seemed so vulnerable once the cockiness had vanished. The two actors were incredible. It's quite a talent to be able to transform two characters from being annoying and unlikeable initially, to endeearing and vulnerable at the end.
How cocky?
Nailed it. Brilliant film.
Ever watch those "B" movies, Where the acting is terrible. Makes you wonder why these "Shorts" the actors... are so good sometimes? They are "Brad pitt" Quality but they get little recognition.
@@MrWolfheart111 I wonder why that is. Probably could be that they don’t have connections, which really sucks. I actually just realized that Nicolas Cage was related to the Coppola family, and that makes a lot of sense why it was easier for him to get recognized
@@akatastrophe it’s because you
have to *transgender* to make it big
They went from a confession high to a reality low. They both realized that was probably as good as it gets and nothing will ever come close again. That is the problem with insecurity. The doubt always comes back to match the high.
This is the best explanation out of all! Nothing will ever come close again and it's upon them to accept this and be with one another or move on and cherish this as an experience.
Finally someone that nailed it, spot on
Exactly. So many other people explaining the ending didn't really get it.
@Keyzer Soze oh yes sometimes there is. a highly insecure person is more susceptible to having their self image boosted by extrinsic forces ( someone else boosting their esteem, or a job, or some status advance). when that extrinsic force, that other person falls off the pedestal because something happened, like they left, or they did something to betray the ideal the other person saw them as, then that insecurity comes flooding back in. lesson is if you value yourself unconditionally then no one and nothing can give you an ego high or take it away.
@Keyzer Soze Insecurity brings the best highs. Tell a vain person they look amazing and it won't register because they already believe they do, tell someone who is insecure that they look amazing and you'll put them on cloud 9 for the rest of the day.
I think at the end they realize how awful of a person they really are and it hits them that they are with someone they truly deserve.
True.
so thats wat the ending ment. thank u
I know, you can see it on the expression on their faces.
❤️❤️
Yes, and ... the impact of what they've shared hits home. They've nowhere to hide. The kind of vulnerability that usually takes months or years to achieve, has happened on the first date. And what does one do with *that*?
You're strong when you know your weaknesses
You're beautiful when you appreciate your flaws
You're wise when you learn from your mistakes
Thank you alot for the selfesteem I needed this!
Damn. Nailed it to three. But that is all relative isn't it
thank you
Good saying.
Half way there. Just need to full on figure out the second.
I need to read the screenplay. I really loved it! Two emotionally unavailable people feeling this tremendous attraction and connection, only to realize that they are emotionally unavailable people at the end.
and this is the best interpretation of this video.
So, to understand the ending, I assume that they found the brutal honesty refreshing, and exciting, but once the hormones died down, they realised that they were terrible? Individually and as partners.
Mystery is seductive
@@westernman7340 illusion's are...
Mental illness doesn't make you a bad person.
@@ClariJoy Depending on the mental illness, yes it does. It can directly and specifically be blamed for making someone a terrible person.
@@ClariJoy Promiscuity and degeneracy make you a bad person.
"Knowing-it-all" doesn't make good relationships, however, knowing each other flaws, compromising and growing together with your partner grows the relationship that is strong and binding. If you want something lasting, you need the time to build the trust through actions. Knowing is just the beginning.
some of their flaws were deal breaker like still being in love with his ex
I agree, when someone one tells you something is different from knowing it by yourself and experience it far long.
Actually reminds me a bit my first date with my now wife. We were both pretty tipsy and just let it all out there. No surprises, just honesty. Totally clicked and still together after 3 years
Sweet ❤️
Madison Page same n still together after 31 years..though I was more frank n open about myself than my husband😊
Good for you, your profile picture is kinda ironic tho lol
@@echotube3111 haha yeah...especially since i'm a girl...just happen to love Rick & Morty!
@@madisonpage5483 Well, I should have looked at the name! You’re profile picture only underlines your ability to just be you! Plus, it is an excellent cartoon! All the best to you and yours! And many more years to come! Here’s to honesty! I think honesty + chemistry, really do play a big part of what makes a a good relationship. I’m definitely no expert. Wishing you the best! (Even your comments come across genuine.). Stay Safe and Be Well! Thanks for sharing. ❤️💙🥰
P.S. The very fact that you followed up with your simplistically honesty about your profile pic… Something about that is just genuine and sweet!
And definitely one of the best cartoons around. Xoxoxo!
The actors are phenomenal....just wow
The guy especially, yes. Even his movements were real
Wow - the awkwardness at the end is so palpable, like the ticking clock in the background. So much for getting to really know one another ....
Most understated devastating ending.
Sometimes it really be like that after you sleep with someone you think is just so awesome you’re like ?? Damn alright be that way
They did get to know one another and that was the sadness in the end.
I read so many comments after watching and its very interesting how each person perceives what the show and relationship is all about. Its actually like reading a window into their soul and how they have learned many lessons in life. (Not the actors but all of us living life.) Some comments aligned exactly what I thought also. Again not that I am right, but I only know what my life has shown me so far. We are all 100% correct and 100% different.
Yes!!!
I am actually serious when I say this. You story telling and how this story is filmed is actually better then most Hollywood films and such. This is ridiculously good.
I really luv this; I just wish the background music wasn't so loud so you could actually hear their conversation.
Yeah, just tweak it down a few decibels. I think the music should have started out louder, and as the back and forth got faster and faster, started to dim, much like awareness does when you start getting in a really good conversation.
What about ASMR? I like the idea
Turn on closed captioning.
@@TheRuns2 If you have to turn on CC, you've either failed at audio or are Chris Nolan (which are the same thing).
@@TheRuns2 This is what I had to do.. lol
Nicely done. In a strange sort of perfectly logical way, NOTHING is more or a turn on than being vulnerable and having your vulnerability rewarded by the other's vulnerability. This couple took that to the extreme, peeling away one mask after another until they were completely naked emotionally and psychologically, so the post-orgasmic ending moment, when each was alone with their insecurity, was exactly right and touching.
I saw it exactly this way. Many in the comments section saw the couple in a negative light. Naked physically as well in the end and they seemed relieved at the end because someone accepted them with all their flaws(including the physical flaws).
Ok but even that beginning is wayyy more chemistry then u get from a regular online date. I had a coffee date with someone from an app once where we literally just sat for like 2 hours bc neither of us would say, ok well I should get going. We acknowledged the awkward silence and I kept trying to make conversation but he just didn’t have anything to say so I just stared out the window at a tree and legit told him about the tree moving in the wind. That was our riveting conversation. It sucked.
This is my dating approach, albeit often is one sided. We withhold out of fear of rejection for being who we really are, but you’ll lose the person eventually anyway if you start off with falsehoods or half truths. It’s very freeing to be a mess, yet someone will love you. Great short film!
What I got out of the film was, not that they were honest, but what they were honest about. They both realized they're awful people and deserved each other.
It’s impressive how believable this is. It made me realize how gratifying it is to reveal your weaknesses and still be accepted. They couldn’t resist going back for more.
I think the film shows how refreshing honesty can be and I think the end shows they both realized this could be something real because they were both truly themselves which isn’t common in dating these days. I don’t get anything about them being or realizing they’re terrible people, they’re just flawed like anyone else
the greatest present you can give a lover is to understand yourself enough that you can tell them who you are...
this makes me realise how flaws are so human like im constantly trying to pull myself out of everything and to be perfect and mostly fail at it but the imperfections are what makes a person them and that's comforting
We are often attracted to who is not good for us or maybe we see ourselves in others flaws
Healthiest first date I’ve ever seen. Alain de Botton would be proud.
They will probably the most successful couple in the history of humanity...
Literally
The ending says otherwise. Listening to someone's insecurities and accepting them are two different things. If they come to accept it, then yes that would be the most powerful couple in the world. Otherwise they're gonna use it against each other during arguments and eventually resent their connection. This couple looks sad already,they are overwhelmed by this much information.I doubt there would be a second date at all. Even if you don't do it this way, your partner would come to know about these insecurities eventually.
@@Ana-tt8rv definitely read that
I clearly watched a different film than everyone who liked this comment.
@@Ana-tt8rv You are right.. very good comment💜👌🏻
I fell in love with both of them. That’s how charmingly honest they where.
It’s crazy how much better and how much more realistic these shorts are then almost any movie I’ve seen. And you even learn a little something from each of them, glad I found this channel a while back.
Totally agree!
No matter with all the promise of hope in the beginning, our human flaws will eventually destroy it.
Always
Once i met with a brutally honest woman. It was fascinating and refreshing. I don't think i will ever meet someone like her ever again. But i really appreciated her honesty.
How did it go?
@@sophias.8323 same question.
While I like the concept (gave me a bit of Before Sunrise vibes), I think there's a stark difference between honesty and focusing solely on one's bad qualities. Where was the honesty about things they like about themselves? Where was the transparency about their opinions of things that don't reflect something bad? This had a lot of potential but their conversations focused on only the bad to truly feel that they got to know each other
Yes and that is what they realized in the end. No second date I assume
Great observation 💖💛💚
Before Sunrise! I love that movie
It feels good to "confess" everything but you aren't truly known in that. People may be aware of your faults because you told them but they don't truly understand you
@@4snailssake Beautifully said. We're more than our faults. Also, by telling someone our faults, we actually give them OUR version of those faults rather than letting them come to a conclusion on their own. Maybe their natural take is closer to "the truth."
I've never had expressed so much emotions in life than they both made in 10 minutes.
Even after they confessed all the bad sides of themselves, in the end they are still too insecure and scared to feel happiness or affection, attachment and involvement of any sorts, and their facial expressions shows that fact slowly settling into them both.
Ending seems to show they rush into things because they hate themselves.
How that two corelates?
@@sourabhpatel2391 all the self loathing, they try to one up another justifying their personalities to eachother. That they rushed into it because they found someone just like them, flawed and not worth it. You know like when you break up with someone and find a rebound…
I hate myself so much I don't think I deserve a relationship lol
i disagree. i think they both realized how bad they are and they finally found what they deserve, their equals
@@echotube3111 Better to hate yourself so much that your opinion about whether you deserve a relationship has no value whatsoever. Let someone else more worthy of judging you decide whether you deserve a relationship or not. ;-)
And they went on to be the most successful couple in history. Honestly is truly the best policy.
(The chemistry is INCREDIBLE! They should have a full movie as costars!)
A fantastic, sparkly witty script executed with some skill by really two good actors
So was there a second date or no? What do you think?
I think no. The alcohol and partying lowered their defences and made it seem fun but in the reality of morning they had to still face themselves, and many times it's easier to run and hide than fight through your own issues while trying to build with someone else. I do however think overall it was cathartic and may cause them to slowly begin to address these things separately.
Was that entire film supposed to be the span of an entire single night?
No second date
no
@@whoisharo4689 right
This is soul crushing.
Along the lines of the "The Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind" movie from 2004.
Beautiful, emotional, moving.
Excellent acting, especially the very charismatic young male actor.
Excellent directing as well, great instruction given to the actors to act happy and optimistic, a painful, strong contrast to one of the life's greatest tragedies that evolves in front our eyes.
The person who wrote the text has a deep understanding of human nature and relationships, probably result of life experience.
Brilliant work.
Awww, now they can be terrible people together.
the high school couple buly.
aint that how it all works....
I mean... you're not wrong lol
Lol! Too true...
House of cards like
I think the end is not as much about they being bad people rather than about vulnerability
And how when the rush of the moment passed
They felt truly vulnerable and conscious with each other and with themselves.
But i don't consider the ending as pessimistic as a lot of people seem to think it is.
Vulnerability is a key element in being able to open up oneself to be loved and to love.
I think they are showing a real, raw, and vulnerable relationship. What most don't portray in this world. It's dramatized and sarcastic in a sense.
Gezz..it might be the best short movie ever..the script, the twisted end..its amazingly and a bitter sad truth in it...wonderful
I love this--it's satirically warm & sweet and really beautiful.
The raw chemistry here is impeccable
this feels way more realistic than any conversation or date on a movie or show
Can you imagine if you met someone like this in a first date and you just laid all of your crap out on thr table. How amazing and refreshing!
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. What charmed me at first about this honesty stripped away the things that make falling in love fun - admiration, understanding, mutual love for anything…it all releases those endorphins and give you a rush. How good can a couple be, bonding over their worst selves? Will it help or hinder it?
I found it rather nice, accepting flaws, light hearted, fun vibe. the only thing is all the learning about someone should be done over a long period of time. other wise knowing everything about someone, making it completely predictable and killing the excitement
It will help. [source: happily married]
In short; By honesty with time both parts will learn how their feelings like most importantly love affects each other. Both parts will be in best case a great addition to their whole existential development and rise victoriously upon all borders together.
("Never said its completely easy though. But do-able!" | The best decision I took in my whole life.)
Also to be loved you have to inspire yourself (every time from scratch). Then you can not "kill" the excitement. Predictability comes with feelings of being grounded and safe, like a harbor for ships. Ain't life being an vast ocean of expectations all the time? Yes. With an awareness for balance your flow becomes even better.
Bonding over negativity, does this match up with reality?
If they had mixed it up with things they admired and liked about themselves as well as the flaws, then maybe...But I find this pretty unrealistic and forgettable....sorry
I couldn't understand 90% of what they said.... thanks to eating up their words..
I didn't have any issue understanding them, but I stopped to ask about the lingo in your comment. What is "eating up their words"?
I'm not familiar with that phrase
thank you! same here :) - such a great masterpiece anyway, touching & straight to the core... Self-awareness and honesty, yep that's the key
@@mikochild2 well... they start speaking but mumble towards the end..
@@helenepajot7744 yea good potential but a lost cause..since its supposed to be mainly dialogues based and not something that someone can understand just by visuals..
@@rolladice8739 oh ok. Got it. I'll have to use this idiom some time. I like the sound of it. Thank you for answering. 😊
This is hilarious but also.... Why is this such an amazing 1st date idea 😂 they look like they clicked so well.
Just something I didn't want to see end. Captivating and enchanting. Please make a sequel!
this is something i wished i could download and litterally frame on my wall at home, its THAT good.
The fact that they are self aware of their flaws and are able to express them so effortlessly is amazing if only people were honest with themselves this would reality
Loved this one- actors were so good.
Knowing other's flaws is not helping much in a long-term relationship, isn't it? They need time to accept and adapt to those flaws. Acknowledge the good and the bad is just the very beginning of a relationship. Lots of things need to be done in order to have a healthy long-term relationship.
i got the impression that it was about wishing you could say all the things you think about yourself to someone else, and they still stay with you. They still like you.
This just goes to show that the greatest talents aren’t necessarily the most marketed.
I am a minute deep and I have to say, already, the talent in this short is incredible!!
"i really don't self-improve, i just make self-aware jokes to mitigate the damage" "can you just imagine just how I drink? It's funny now but it'll be really sad in the morning. I'm gonna blame you for enabling me" "I think I'm still in-love with two of my ex-girlfriends" HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAH LITERALLY ME
I've been watching this twice a year every year for the past three years, never ever gets old
really wondering if the ending means relationship. sad if it's just a one night stand. there is subtraction of love ... and heartbreak. really superb acting. ❤
A total one nightstand, . energy spent goodbye
It was all a game, leading to this ecstasy. And it's suddenly not a game anymore. Realizing that everything that's been said is true, and will now slowly materialize. What now ?
@@kartofff Yep, but still, it's all on the table at the beginning. This is perhaps how it should be.
@@natalielambert4378 This reminds me of the saying that goes : "A friend is somebody who knows us well, yet likes us anyway !"
On one side agreeing with you, a first date wearing the mask of polished personality would be like spending a day cleaning up my house before the first time I'd welcome her for dinner : not only a lie, but also unsustainable, the promise of a quick disappointment.
However I feel like this movie could hint that this opposite extreme would be just as misleading. Firstly because those flaws they playfully enumerate are only the ways that they see themselves. A loving partner discovers us the way we are with his own eyes, and shows us reflections of ourselves much better than we'd see them ourselves. Secondly, because a rich relationship makes us evolve quickly, individually and as a pair, and brings us to uncharted flaws and strength territory.
In the end, not having a plan, not trying to control a lot, moderating both fears and enthusiasms, remaining authentic, trying to see clearly through calm moments and letting the flow run where it needs to, letting life prove how it has more imagination than we do, would be a beautiful form of art. But it requires trust in fate.
@@kartofff wow brilliant!
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I really love this video. I think about dating like this, with brutal honestly, frequently. I crave it. But alas, I've never met anyone else that knows themselves this well or would be willing to admit they do.
Omg same I am very self aware but I don't have the chutzpah to start conversation like that, but if the guy I was with started I could definitely continue the conversation
I'm thinking there should be groups like this for self help about relationships, I know there's Facebook groups for it, I'm part of one. I think it would be a wonderful idea that instead of just self development for relationships it would be a dating pool of people to willing to start dating with revealing their flaws.
I once met someone brave enough to suggest to go on their longest walk of life partly for a challenge and on that walk we opened up, cried and then become best friends. No we're not dating but just trying to show that while it's not easy, being honest helps a lot and pays back.
And I don't even fully know myself but it's still worth talking about what you think your flaws and drives are even if you realize you weren't fully honest to yourself..
I thought I was the only one 😯
@@runningwithSaul i really like this idea. It could be a reddit group or a Facebook group. High key, be a funny dating app or dating game.
Wow! Great stuff. Do not usually enjoy videos like this but so far I have seen a few of these from you guys and they are so well done! This one about the raw, open, honesty that is required in a relationship and the ability to accept that we are all flawed and move forward. We all need to be able see our flaws before we are able to make ourselves better people.
Their actions are supportive together, their honesty pure. It's interesting to see how the words seem louder than the actions because they shock us. It's hard to be that vulnerable, it was beautiful to watch.
This storyline and the acting was brilliant! Thank you.
Honestly, I really wish this kind of transparency was the reality of dating. It would save ppl time and heartbreak.
Everyone who says they want brutal honesty upfront most likely never experienced it. Been there, but now in my maturity prefer slow rolls that build over time.
Makes visual the post orgasmic clarity. Of how when we are being driven solely by our mating drive, we tend to make decisions not in our long term benefit.
Never overshare or jump into bed with someone on a first date if you want a long term relationship. Get to know them one day at a time, get to know their friends and family, what they believe, who they are. It all takes time and patience to build something that will last.
I’m guessing these two are just more self aware than most. Frankly, many people I know are very much like this, they just don’t know it.
I was expecting this to be some kind of College Humor skit. But it actually felt very genuine and very human.
They lay so much on the table, like peeling and onion getting deeper and deeper. One honest couple just touching what ACTUAL love may be like. No persuasion, no one sidedness just a learning experience that has respect, closeness and trust
Love the ambiguous ending
Birmingham!! Don't know whether to be proud or ashamed of the fact I recognised every single bar in the video
I was actually expecting things to go REALLY south as they began to reveal some really deep secrets,
"I've killed someone"
"I robbed an old lady"
but no...they remained innocent.
Decent chemistry between the actors...but the issue with relationships like this is, once you "give it all away" too soon...there's not much left afterwards. Where do you go from here?
On adventures.
@@krashd true afff brooo
Thank god for such an amazing SHORT story. So tired of "short" stories being 30-45 minutes.
u accept someone's insecurities and flaws because of the good you see in them and you love them, they did everything without love lol, that why it'll never work, not because they're terrible people. relationships are about balance.
But how does love even come about in the 1st place? Even people who are deeply in love started out as strangers in the beginning. They weren't just suddenly magically in love from the very start. That's something that takes time to build & develop, but in the meantime it could be said they laid the groundwork for potential feelings to blossom.
Keeping my perspective uncomplicated. Simply brilliant short film that did not have to be a long film.
This new generation sure is quick to hug strangers!
@Freedomfighter2020
This new generation sure is quick to judge strangers.
I guess you was not part of the 60s free love generation?
@@Rottingboards he could be born in the 80s or 90s for all we know. maybe even 2000.
when people know each other for the first time we kiss in the cheek, at least in south america. A hug is kinda inappropiate as you said though, but it is pretty arbitrary if you think about it.
I don't know what appeals to me about this but.... idk, just being brutally honest is such a gift.
Is that them falling in love at the end with all the fear and insecurities seeping in as well, or is it just me?
I thought the same. That they were completely stripped down and it was scary to be this real with someone and it hit them in the end.
They covered everything on their first date, so now they have absolutely nothing else to work on.
Who knew putting your best foot forward was not putting your best foot forward.
I actually liked this more than romantic comedies out there. It feels genuine
All the little lies we tell ourselves about our partners. We want to know everything, but we can't handle very much.
I kinda like this honesty. I think you should just let it out. I mean its going to show up one of these days if you stick together.
But is it really effective to unload everything at once? You haven't gotten the time to even fall in love so you're just bombarded with all these bad things and will just begin to dislike the person. When you feel love for the person and that love grows stronger you have more reason to stay and work on yourselves and the relationships. If you deep dive immediately you will be left feeling hopeless and like pursuing the relationship is pointless, you already know all the bad things, you know you will be disappointed and you will have this in mind at all times so you can't enjoy good things with them. And you don't have any love for them that can support you and keep you going.
Of course it is important do base your relationship on honesty and feeling that you can be yourself with them, those are the ones that last, but you shouldn't unpack everything at once. You're not ready for that and it can ruin every chance you have at happiness and love.
That is just My opinion and take away from this film, I'm an optimistic person yk.
@@Ellatornqvist if you dislike the person, then it’s just not the right one for u buddy
Maybe in theory, but in the real world if you try your hardest to just come off as an absolute PROBLEM on your first date, you will not be having a second one lol. Let them learn with time and accept the flaws as they show. If you just go into it like “yeah man I’m a total p.o.s. and I hate myself lollll” normal people will be dodging you left and right.
as long as they dont try to involve in each other life, they will be perfect safe haven for each other.
Is actually an unique type of friendship that gonna last very long n very supportive
Wow that was really well made! A masterpiece really.
But thats already written. "Before sunset"?
@@axelvinet1983 No. "The Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind".
@@miovicdina7706 love that movie, its like love in a perfect loop
This is spectacular chemistry.
I wish one could know so much about themselves on the first date but I'm sure that's impossible.. regardless I would be impressed if someone knows that much about themselves to be able to reveal such useful information to someone else.. I wish this could happen but feels like a fairly tale...
This hits close to home. After so much damage -- especially damage to long-standing relationships we think will last -- we begin to almost crave this sort of forwardness of flaws. We want to skip the song and dance of discovering them organically and just know for sure whether this person will "survive us." Unfortunately, the song and dance is a necessary part of it. You can be honest about everything and still not really know somebody until you've resonated with them for awhile.
Kudos to the actors !
That was awesome. I LOVE it.
Oh my goodness!! It is so nice n chill in some weird way...
Thankfully there were captions; could barely understand what they were mumbling about
Wow watching this makes me wanna go on a date 😘 . There is really something so genuine and fresh about their chemistry ❤️
It's called acting.
It almost turns into a horror story as they each realise there’s a monster in the bed
Does this feel strangely healthy to anyone else??? Get it all out there right away and if we still like each other let’s give it a go!!!
This was a lot different than I expected. Definitely gave me the feels.
High quality film. Somehow came at just the right time as I went on a 1st date the other day filled to the brim with chemistry only to not get a 2nd. Funny how it all goes.
The date they needed before they meet the right one
This was great fun and very well acted. The sound quality could have been better, but directed well and loved the increasing pace as the story moved forward until they ended up in bed. Then that quiet, extended, static, held two-shot at the end which could be interpreted in several ways.....