21 signs you're NOT ready for a marriage : 1. You get jealous too quickly. A little jealousy is normal, because it shows that you don't want to lose your partner. But when you get so jealous, that you can't stand your partner talking to someone else, or you think that everyone who talks to your partner, is trying to take them away from you, then your jealousy becomes a problem. Be more confident about yourself, learn to trust your partner, stop fearing that someone will take away your partner from you. Be a friend to his or her friends, and get to know his people. 2. You withdraw and stop talking, when something offends you. Silent treatment is immature, and will make your partner feel disrespected, unwanted, and unimportant. Learn to solve conflicts through peaceful and wise communication. 3. You don't like to be corrected. You're not perfect, sometimes you'll make mistakes. You don't know everything, sometimes you need advice. Put aside your pride, stop being so defensive, and joyfully accept criticism and correction. For it will help you become a better spouse. 4. You always need people, to help you make decisions. Stop running to family and friends, for advice all the time. And start learning to think for yourself, and trusting your intelligence and wisdom, to make the right decisions. Use discernment, sound judgement, along with prayer, and God's guidance. 5. You're only focused on your happiness. Marriage is not only about your happiness. Marriage is trying to figure out, how you can keep your partner happy as well. Do to your partner, as you would like your partner do for you. 6. You can't express appreciation towards your partner. Constant complaining, finding faults, criticizing, belittling, nagging, will destroy a relationship. Learn to be more positive. Encourage your partner, support them, compliment them, adore and admire them. 7. You're impatient. You want others to do things faster, understand faster, learn faster, and obey faster. Learning to be patient with your partner, will show them that you care. 8. You don't have a clear plan for your future. A plan or vision for your life and marriage, leads to success. It keeps reminding you, to keep working hard, until you see the life you wish to live. 9. You're financial unstable. You don't have to be rich to marry, but you have to be able to provide enough for your family. 10. You can't accept your partner's differences. Your partner has different interests, hobbies, opinions, habits, lifestyle, etc. But you want your partner to be exactly like you, so you try to change them. Respect the way your partner is, and acknowledge that everyone is created differently. 11. You don't love yourself. You feel worthless, useless, and like you're a failure, mistake, and accident. If you're not happy all by yourself, how are you going to make someone else happy? 12. You're more in love with your friends and families, than with your partner. The love between you and your partner, will quickly fade away, when you give them the last place in your life. 13. You can't be honest and open, about what is going on inside of you. Talking about your feelings, can help your partner understand you better. Expressing your feelings and emotions, doesn't make you weak, it makes you stronger, and builds companionship, intimacy, and closeness. 14. In times of stress, frustration, and troubles, you struggle to control your emotions and anger, and often overreact. If you can't control your anger, and tongue, or if you feel like being physical abusive when you're angry, then you're not ready for marriage. When you feel triggered by your partner’s word choice, actions, or tone, practice self-control, instead of lashing out. 15. You lack communication skills. Communication is how you and your spouse share your thoughts and views, connect, and settle disputes. Healthy communication is open and honest, with a friendly tone, to avoid misunderstandings. Listen carefully, and speak gently. 16. You're not being real. You're afraid that the other person will not like you for who you are, so you pretend to be other people and personalities, just so you can impress them. Being fake, will create all sorts of relationship problems. Serve them only you, with all your flaws and weaknesses. 17. You don't know how to be romantic. Without romance, a marriage will start feeling boring and distant. Romantic love keeps couples close, connected, and passionate. 18. You don't have a sense of humor. You take life too seriously, and miss all the fun. Respectfully make fun of each other, act crazy sometimes, talk funny, and learn to reply with humor. 19. Laziness. You don't like doing housework, so you leave all the work for others. Start asking your partner if you can help with anything, even if they don't ask for your help. Sharing household chores, is very important to marital success. 20. You hold grudges. You can't forgive, you can't let go of feelings of anger and resentment. A marriage will have many new beginnings. In order to keep the marriage going strong, you must be willing to forgive, and make a fresh start. 21. You don't put God first. Many voices will speak to your mind, about your partner, but the only voice you should trust, is the voice of God, and what He tells you to do in your marriage. As you spend time in prayer and reading the Bible, let God instruct you, how to treat your partner. 🚫. 🚫 Do NOT be these 11 marriage partners 👇 _- 1. Don't be a quarrelsome partner. Instead of getting offended and irritated at every little thing, let love lead you. Learn to tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others, at the same time, solve conflicts peacefully, and gently. _- 2. Don't be an unhappy partner. Instead of walking around with a sour face, depressed, sad, stressed, angry, and unfriendly, learn to be happy, joyful, and put on a happy face. A smiley face can do wonders. _- 3. Don't be a babbling partner, or someone who talks excessively, from the minute they open their eyes in the morning, until they close their eyes in the night. Not everyone enjoys listening to foolish and meaningless talk, all day long. Some people like their peaceful quiet time. _- 4. Don't be a silent partner. While excessive talking can be annoying, silence can be frustrating. If you never communicate what's going on with you, how you feel, or what you like, but expect people to read your mind, this can lead to frustration. _- 5. Don't be an angry partner. Some people love being angry. They'll wait and look for an opportunity, to speak angrily, reply angrily, react angrily, behave angrily. Learn to manage your emotions, and replace your anger with love, compassion, kindness, friendliness, gentleness, and joy. Let the humility and love of Jesus show through your behavior. _- 6. Don't be a complaining partner. If you find joy in complaining and nagging, you need help and deliverance. Learn to be understanding, sympathetic, and supportive. You may not like everything that others are doing, but others also don't like everything you're doing. So be more positive, lower your expectations, and increase your patience and tolerance. _- 7. Don't be a selfish partner. Instead of only focusing on your own needs, happiness, and interests, look for ways to make your spouse happy, and offer your help, and assistance. _- 8. Don't be an unaffectionate partner, or someone who is cold, unemotional, uncaring, or unfriendly. Show your partner that you love them. Kiss them, hug them, cuddle with them, hold hands, massage them, send them love messages, tell them how you miss them, and adore them. _- 9. Don't be a boring partner. Be awesome, entertaining, funny, childish, playful, weird, and just a little crazy. _- 10. Don't be an evil partner. Don't entice or seduce your partner to slander, do or speak evil of others, fight or take revenge for you, or put them in dangerous situations. Don't make them feel like they have to beg or fight for your love. Don't be disrespectful to them, in your conversations, especially in public. Don't hurt their feelings, and not apologize. And don't flirt with other people, when they aren't looking. Be faithful, even when no one is watching. _- 11. Don't be an insecure partner. Don't try to control where they go, or who they talk to, because you're afraid to lose them. Don't get so quickly jealous, when they make a new friend. Don't get suspicious, and start spying on them. Don't try to make him or her jealous, by flirting with someone else, just to make them start chasing after you. _-
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed……...”-James 5:16.Your confession was bold but admirable.You’re Healed .
This is true. I’ve not been married but I’ve been in ungodly relationships where the other parties still struggled with that spirit. I know marriage magnifies it if anything else. Thank you for tuning in 🙏🏽
You are correct, the solution is not marriage, though marriage in honorable.... the solution is temperance, the fruit of the spirit alive in your words and deeds. fasting and praying will destroy the yoke of the lust of the flesh. You will walk into marriage whole if you bring your flesh under subjection to the Spirit of God.
The solution is to be born again according the Bible. These Christians have believed partial scripture and are not saved ……. They have been told just confessions is salvation What do we see ? People who have the same issues unbelievers have. What happened to crucifying the flesh ? What happened to being a new creature in Christ. What happened to if a man follows me he must first deny himself? They do none of that but have been told they are saved when the fact is they are not saved. And that is exactly why you do not see the miracles Jesus promised we would see
This is true… marriage should not be looked as the optimal solution. And I believe that for a time an individual can keep their flesh under control thus keeping their temple of God pure. The question I ask is this suppose to be indefinite obedience for years upon years without stumbling once? If an individual goes a year without giving in to lust but then they fail one day, then… what is to be said about that person failing?
Temperance is correct. Patience and self control are both fruits of the spirit, and we should be striving to obtain all of the fruits so that people could see that God abides in us. “You will know them by their fruit”. Thank you for watching ❤
I speak right now that the Lord Our God increases your influence and uses you to impact your generation. Your vulnerability hasn't gone unnoticed and I pray you are a beacon of light for the world... In Jesus' Name.
Laterras, I receive this word over my life. If influence comes with this obedience I just want it to be used for the Glory of the kingdom. In his name. Love the podcast, and all that it’s grown into. If the DFWP ever needs a seat filler I’m here. Thank you for tuning in big brother. I pray God keeps his hands on you.
You opened up on social media with almost 10k Followers, about the problem that you are having, so you are braver than 95% of most people. I'm Happy that you shared your testimony, please keep posting your (Authentic) Spiritual Content. Thank You!! #StayBlessed
I respect you tremendously because most religious people have to get caught before they confess but you recognize that confession is good for the soul and that’s why I believe you’re gonna be used in a magnificent way.
Much respect for your courage to share something so personal. It’s not easy to face yourself, let alone let the world in on that journey. That kind of honesty inspires growth for you and everyone watching. Keep shining
Found your channel 5 minutes ago when that video was recommended in my feed, and now you uploaded this 1 minute ago wow. Needless to say I appreciate God putting your channel in my path. Thank you!
I sincerely thank God for your life. This is exactly what we need. I pray that one day there will be a group chat or safe space for discussions like this, so we as women can have the tools to overcome this struggle (because it gets really tough).
So glad you’re sharing in such an open and honest manner. This is so important, so many men , women, single and married are facing this issue also. Unfortunately church folk don’t want to talk about it , be they standing behind the altar or in the pews. I’ve had conversations about this with men and women, and more with married women. The only way to come through this is to bring it into the light. I’m a 64 year old man and this is an issue with people my age. You are not alone. Keep talking about it , keep speaking out, keep praying . Remember the word says that we a saved by the blood of the lamb and our testimony. Your testimony is powerful and will help more people than you’ll ever know. God bless you my sister. Thank you for your bravery in Christ Jesus .
I’m watching a lot of people get free off of my truth and that itself is motivation to help win souls for the kingdom. Thank you for watching Matthew, may God bless you abundantly.
Just found your video today and wanted to show some love. I love chapter 7 and what Paul wrote. Thanks for the transparency and the way you’re being open about this topic. Continue living in truth and be the light for everyone. This world is filled with everything being so sexualized and pushing it out so far to destroy our relationship with the Lord. We need more people sharing and understanding that this is a real struggle. If you’re not careful by putting on the full body armor of God, you will fall into temptation. Will be praying that your content will reach to everyone Janel. God bless
God bless you Phillip. The cup of over sexualization is flooded and I hate it very much. But believers have to be bold despite the fact. Thank you for tuning in!
I completely agree with you, sis. When we bring our sins into the light, the enemy loses the power to expose them. You're absolutely right-sharing our struggles and how we overcame them transforms them into testimonies that can inspire and help others dealing with their own hidden battles.
I receive. It’s important we don’t take the word out of context simply for our benefit only but for the glory of the Lord. Thank you for watching Chris!
This is so real!! Thank you for your obedience and transparency. As you stated only fornication is talked about but we should talk more about lust in not only men but women.. marriage is not the answer especially if you’re dealing with some type of spirit that you need to be delivered from BEFORE marriage.
your honesty and vulnerability is refreshing, your overall countenance speaks volumes. Remember sanctification is a process but we don't do it alone for He is with us.
Thank you for creating a space for dialogue on this subject. I too have been dealing with this issue. Transparency is a sign of a contrite decision to change a behavior. Along with repentance, we have to commit to change. Hiding sin is never the solution and shame will enslave you. It’s not easy, but God knows our hearts and the support we need to overcome sin. Thank you thank you. May God continue to bless you throughout your journey. Happy Sunday Janel
Thank you for your recent video, it came at a perfect time, we are suppose to confess our sins among one another, don't feel bad about anything you did, we need honesty and courage to speak on topics like this to help a fallen Christian.....
Thank you so much. I didn’t realize the video would help so many people get free. I totally see it as Gods will being done. Thank you for watching Dawn, God bless you 🙏🏽
I'll be real. I saw the last video yesterday in the midst of my own physical struggles. It was an on time joint and was truly appreciated. You made beautiful points pertaining to the struggles of the flesh.
Amen, this is true, sis!!! Also, deliverance brings levels of freedom(for many of us the door to lust was open as children being exposed to some form of trauma), as does the renewing of the mind. Which empowers us with the capacity to exercise the fruits of the Spirit. Trusting and waiting on God as we submit our will to the will of God, knowing He will provide what's best for His daughters and sons concerning marriage, and our identity in Him.💯💯💯
Something you said that is powerful is leadership. There aren't a lot of Shepherds guiding us in the faith when it comes to relationships, lust, and marriage. That's why a lot of us are falling short.
I think that’s real for you to come out and testify this. I think you’ll lead a lot of women into gods favor and walking the right path. We all constantly need to be reminded even on our good days 🙏
Hi Janel. I'm so grateful that you made that video. Everything you mentioned was exactly what I had struggled with just this morning and your video couldn't have been timelier. Thank you!
Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t let anyone discourage you from continuing to share your testimony. It’s by the blood of the lamb and the WORD of their testimony.. 🙏🏾
I just viewed the other video and now viewing this one you are a true Woman of God and everything you have discussed is vitally needed in the True Body of Christ and those who will be saved. The church has hid for too long on these matters in every area. Many will be helped and healed through your transparency. May Jesus /Yeshua the Christ bless you as you bless and help others young and mature.
I receive this sister. Im letting him do his work in me and just being a vessel for him in this season. I think it’s important to be obedient because my obedience I know can influence others to follow suit. Good bless you sis!
Most people (particularly Christians) have a habit of saying "What you should do" but as you stated sis, you're doing what God said. Period. Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability. God bless you in your journey. As a married man, i still deal with temptation. I work around 90 percent of women in the workplace. It doesn't matter how much sex you have in your marriage, if you dont take thoughts captive you can STILL fall. But God is amazing ❤ Blessings to all.
U tell em sista, theres no need to be ashamed with us. Sum of us battle the same battle undercover. Its tuff for both sides. In christ we're all brotha and sista, its ok to share with us
I just saw your video on my recommendation list and I'm so glad I watched a few of them. Some of them made me cry as I felt like it was speaking to me. Thank you for creating this type of content and being transparent! God bless you 🙏
🙏🏾I love your bravery and transparency. You are stronger then you know. The fact that you are willing to talk about your struggles in your walk with christ say alot, especially with lust. Something that we all struggles with. Your right we do have to have more of these conversations. But if you have to stand alone with these conversations then keep standing alone. But I'm standing with you my sister in christ🙏🏾❤️.
I receive. I will stand on business if it just be me and God when I lay my head down. But I’m thankful for community too. Thank you for watching. God bless!
I needed to watch the earlier video and this video today. I'm grateful for my mentor who sent the first one to our accountability group, and I thank God for your life even as you obey His will. God bless you!
Thank you sister this video has been a blessing to me. This is a topic we need to discuss more often. I have grown up in the church and I needed direction on this. I have not heard much about this particular topic.
what people don't know is how hard it is stop or resist falling for lust. When i say you have just told what i've been battling for years to the letter, it's crazy. And one thing about this thing to is you keep coming back to it even after months of praying and going strong. it'll take a lot to get through this. BE strong, be prayerful and resilient cos even the internet will trigger you and the world will always tempt you in so many ways.
You are so on point about this.... If we just think he will keep letting these things we keep doing slide he will start taking blessings away it seems to me this is what happened to me for sure. Thank you beautiful sister good word..
Listen, I so applaud you for your transparency on this topic! As a married senior blk male I too struggled with the stronghold of self pleasure ! My wife started having decreased desire for intimacy! These issues were due to hormonal changes changes brought on by menopause! I on the other hand had been faithful for 20yrs and took her lack of desire personal! But she asked me to go along with her to see her obgyn and discuss the possibilities of hormone replacement therapy! It was there that my world collapsed after hearing that she wasn't a candidate for this treatment! On top of that we were told that because of her history of a precancerous nodule removed from her pancreas , that there wasn't much that could be done! So as a Christian couple whose intimacy was brought to a halt! I didn't resist looking at porn for the sake of self pleasure at first! At least I wasn't stepping out on her! That is until I started feeling uneasy with the repetition of every night waiting until she went to sleep! Also at the same time the type of porn content that excited me was specific in nature and while it mirrored where we once were! It lead me to unreasonable expectations from a person that I knew inside and out! I remember climaxing and instantly feel dirty as if I had stepped out on her! Then I would slide to bed nxt to her and silently ask God for forgiveness once again? This went on for a couple of years and the devil beat me up with condemnation so much that I began to compromise my walk in other areas of concern! The scripture says it's the little foxes that spoil the vine or a little bit of leaven(yeast) cause the whole lump of dough to rise! Or in this case fall! We must be bodacious in fighting against our human( carnal ) tendencies! And in these last days where everything is acceptable by so-called Christians! The Lord is raising a Righteousness standard among His Chosen people! That requires one to be both audacious and transparent ! You are on the right path mysistah! I am a member of 2819 Church here in Atlanta and I tell you that this is very much a topic that is dealt with! Our Pastor Philip Mitchell is not gaslighting God's people and even deals with his own issues as a man of God! I am going to subscribe and pray for you!🙏✌️
Everything you said and went through was exactly what i had struggled with , God blessed me with your video at the right time and helped me realise that I'm not alone in the fight against the enemy and im free from bondage I'm grateful for your transparency may god continue to bless you
So many people struggle with it and in secrecy, it’s unfair to the believer to think this is just something that the enemy is using to corner them and them alone. I’m seeing a lot of people get free from my video. Thank you for watching. God bless you!
Keep being obedient to God sister!. I love how you breakdown that scripture in 1 Corinthians 7. Yes someone has to be theone address the uncomfortable topics in the body of Christ.
There’s nothing wrong with sharing sister. I truly believe you actually are really right sharing and also helping alot of people with your testimony. Keep it up and God bless for you trying to find the truth!🙏🏻😄
'Christians have peace with God, yet not every Christian enjoys it' - Ken Legg. I use to think I needed to do good works to receive blessings and work for my salvation, which created guilt, condemnation, and doubt. But fear is the opposite of love. Gods love works through grace, my salvation is not how perfect I am or what I can do for God, but its what he did on the cross for me and you. We are forgiven, past present and future. We dont work for Gods blessing, we are already blessed through faith. Its not his salvation combined with our works, only his righteousness washed over us for salvation..to him the glory, lest anyone should boast in self righteousness. If we say we dont sin, we are a liar..whether by a single thought, word, or deed. No one is good but God. Once we understand our position not condition, sin loses power. His grace helps us to resist sin while focusing on his kingdom and glory, rather than focusing on sin and be worried all the time, missing the peace of mind already provided for u. It doesnt change the nature of sin and resisting, but being saved by grace gives me peace. Heed the love of Jesus, come to me all who are burdened and I willl give you rest... Rest in his promise, not our own good works. I personally believe the 10 commandments are applicable to all people, a moral guide..commit it to memory. Paul reveals that without it, we would not know sin. Jesus expands by saying if you lust you commit adultery, if you hate in your heart you murder. Therefor the commandments are holy and good. Still, I am no better than a non believer except for faith in christ and his power to help me resist sin. Even Paul reveals the flesh and spirit are at war in our members until the day we die, who will save us from this body of death, Christ Jesus who saves us. In moments of weakness while on earth, God could chastise us for our own good like a loving Father so that we learn. But not to forget our position and identity as children of God, born again, sealed, sanctified by his sacrifice unto salvation, loved by him. From your brother in Christ here in New Zealand 🙏🏻❤️
Sister! Thank you for your obedience, and don't be discouraged! Continue to build upon the solid foundation of the word of God. Continue to be led by the Spirit. In His timing, your marriage will come. We are to seek first the kingdom and His righteousness. What God joins together, let no one separate. The key is always God. You don't want to choose a husband. Instead let God join you and the husband he's preparing for you. You're absolutely doing right. I will be praying for you and your struggles with lust. This has also been one of my biggest struggles. Please keep me in prayer as well.
Janel, much prayer, love and respect to you. You only have to answer to God, we all do. You are gracious enough to post this video when I feel you don't owe no one an explanation, everyone has a different walk who are in Christ. May we all arrive in God's House for all eternity. God bless you my sister in Christ. God hath made you shine like a diamond....for His Glory!
It’s refreshing to see your honesty and you being transparent. Some of us believers stumble when it comes to lust, even as women. It’s so rampant and easy to fall into, but glory to be Yah for his grace and mercy! If not, we’d be goners, it’s even better when you come back and know your wrongs and repent. Keep going strong, keep giving thanks to our Father in heaven❤️
Amen! I wanted to make an effort to show that content creators shouldn’t get slaps on the wrist. If we’re going to follow Christ in public we need to do so in private. Thank you for watching sis. God bless you!
Thank you for being obedient 🙏🏾. By you being transparent help a lot people. Especially me being celibate for almost 4 years and trying to control the lust. It’s not easy at all . I have been there by being transparent with people. We have to be real with one another in love. Thank you again 🙏🏾🫶🏾
Great follow up my sister in Christ. You are right on. Us men need you women to put God first and then bring that righteousness into a Godly relationship! Blessings 🔥😊
The journey is never easy for those who are called, but for those who are chosen, it becomes an all-out spiritual battle, Janel. We will face persecution from all sides-Jews and Gentiles alike. But take heart, Janel, and hold onto the words in John 15:33! and John 15:18-25.
Amen Janel you are lining up with the word of God. We have to do better and stay focused on not doing evil thru the word and prayer. Confessing one to another is one of the keys in being delivered. Iron sharpens Iron.
I celebrate you sis, love your honesty, sincerity and transparency. It's obvious your genuine love for the Lord, more grace n keep keeping it real. God bless you.
I'm super proud of your down to earth honesty and openness Lauren ❤. Your experiences will strengthen those having similar challenges. God bless and keep you great Woman of God ❤ 🫂 🤗
You are absolutely right! We are to have tough conversations about sexual immorality. Sexual immortality is not define by just adultery, fornication or homosexuality; self pleasure is also sexual immorality. We also need to discuss what it means as Christians that we are God’s temple. Think about what you are watching with God’s eyes, hearing with God’s ears, saying with God’s mouth. Additionally, thank you for speaking about 1 Corinthians. We have to read the entire chapter to understanding context and the audience to determine the spiritual lesson for us. As you stated, often times Christians will quote a verse without reading the entire chapter or understanding context. Thank you Sister in Christ. I pray for your continued strength as you follow in God’s path.
Thank you for being honest and sharing with us. The problem with society is we have learned to hide our sins and act like we are fine. Romans 3:23 remind us that we all have sinned. Each one of us have something we struggling with and to some, one sin looks worse than others and therefore we judge others, which has created a culture of hiding our sins. James 2:10 remind us that if we break one of the commandment we have fail in all. So we should stop hiding our sins and start confessing to each other so that we can hold each other accountable, and through confession we can get healing. James 5:16.
Amen. The Christian church is publicly falling apart right now because of secrecy dwelling too long. It has to stop. Thank you for tuning in. God bless!
Hi there, I am very grateful that you are upfront and transparent about your set-back. I think one of the worst things we can do is to try and HIDE what we done and pretend all is well. But I think if more people were open about their problems and asked for help then it would help. Accountable people, whom we can talk to and pray with helps. I had this friend that I could phone at more or less any time and we could talk and pray together. It helped
As Christians, we find deliverance in truth, which is a characteristic of God this lord of freedom. That said, I'm proud of you because you're correct. We should tell the truth and aim to obey God's word.
Great video! Great response! I agree with you. This is a perfectly acceptable and NEEDED subject to unpack and be real about. There is nothing you need to do to "fix it" in your own purposing, like "find a husband." People have all sorts of opinions and most of them are coming from their own religious programming or their own insecurity to face the reality of what they are struggling with.
I agree with this. It’s the reason why many get married and battle with spiritual spouses and corn addiction in marriage. They aren’t rectifying this with God they are rectifying it with their flesh. God bless you, thank you for tuning in!
Habits are formed in about 30 days. Remember Lust is not what LOVE is made of. Stick with the Journey & keep God first in all you do and it will pay off. So many suffer from it. Thanks for sharing as other need your help
It's called integrity. God sees everything, and we're supposed to live in secret as we do in the light. We can't be rescued from sin by earthly things because we've already been rescued from sin by Jesus. Thank you for being candid! We are alive one day at a time. We have to live one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, and even one second at a time. The only way that we can live for God and be holy is to submit ourselves to the Holy Spirit and be led by Him instead of being led by our soul (mind, will & emotions.) We can be led by The Spirit or we can be carnal Christians. Thank you again for speaking out. It's admirable.
The thing about vulnerability is when people aren’t ready to accept truth, they create ways for you to not walk in your truth. Thank you for your obedience! I know the “confessing of your sins to one another” scripture is often quoted but to confess without understanding the price of obedience would be disobedience 😂🤷🏽♂️ Also, if you weren’t at peace with God about what he has healed you from, that video would’ve never been uploaded. Saying all of this say, you did nothing wrong. You answer to God, not man and for that we’re forever grateful 🙏🏽❤️
There is nothing wrong in his eyes with you sharing your humanity with his children because we all are his creation with the same elements and he uses us all under the same intentions... So you continue to express if no one can relate and understand, hope you noticed I used the conjunction "and" not or because there is no choice when it comes to him if anyone think so they need him more so!!! I have no problem expressing myself like now because he wants us to show each other much more and we do not but I will say this "I love you" so continue to be you through him Ms. Lauren God has you even if you find yourself veering off he will catch you remember he understands you more than anyone!!! Continue to talk to him and never let him out of your thoughts... You're blessed it shows in a glow around you! Oh I saw in one of the comments stating you get jealous quickly we have a jealous God how ironic we are an image of him only not him!😎
These aren''t things that get spoken about. If only this had been something that was focused on when we were younger especially from that young teen to young adult age, no one has to go through these things, that is exactly why there should be diligent prophets but I do believe their has been an attack on the church recently. Great work ma'am!
People fall all the time and doesn't matter how many times you fall. What matters the most is being able to rise up when you fall because often times when people fall, some continue on the similar path of destruction.
Your not alone lust is being used to attack us heavily right now along with unforgiveness both your original video and this one popped up in my feed God doesn't make mistakes you didnt make these videos in vain thank you for your obedience for me its not just lust alone its the work it takes to get rid of it through constantly fasting mediation on scriptures and praying amongst all the other demons I have to fight against daily its alot
100 percent correct sister,one thing I learned with this walk with God is people don't study the bible and always judging someone sin and don't check thier temple, iam praying for you keep the videos coming until next time bless you
Glad to hear you received many positive comments about the previous video you posted on this topic. Question for anyone willing to prove a response: Does God expect absolute perfection when it comes to us keeping His Temple/our bodies pure by not giving into lust ever? I would say the answer to that is yes. But there are 365 days to n a year. I personally am able to go many months without giving into my flesh. But to go 1 year, 5 years, a decade and further without ever once failing… seems humanly impossible. If God is expecting absolute perfection from us, before He deems us ready for a spouse… then we will never be ready.
Great content! Kudos to you for being vulnerable and transparent! Trust the process and stay the course. This realm of sexual immorality opens up a demonic portal that requires a lot travailing. Blessings Shalom🙏🏿
I agree with you that we need to be doing public confession in order to encourage oothers that, falling doesnot mean you should run away from God but rather to draw near to him acknowleging that we are unable without Him. We need His grace to help usin our weaknesses. ❤❤
First, to come out, and be vulnerable tells me a lot about you. I see a teachable spirit. I see humility. I see strength, not weakness. I see victory. I see light. I see a lady desiring God more than anything else. I see a daughter of Zion who knows who and whose she is. I see a Queen loved by Jesus, now and always.
I saw this segment on the news a few years back, that said, 50 to 60% of preachers struggle with watching corn. I thought that was mind blowing. So, a lot of the leaders in the church need to increase their closeness with the LORD also. and we need to pray for them too.
21 signs you're NOT ready for a marriage :
1. You get jealous too quickly. A little jealousy is normal, because it shows that you don't want to lose your partner. But when you get so jealous, that you can't stand your partner talking to someone else, or you think that everyone who talks to your partner, is trying to take them away from you, then your jealousy becomes a problem. Be more confident about yourself, learn to trust your partner, stop fearing that someone will take away your partner from you. Be a friend to his or her friends, and get to know his people.
2. You withdraw and stop talking, when something offends you. Silent treatment is immature, and will make your partner feel disrespected, unwanted, and unimportant. Learn to solve conflicts through peaceful and wise communication.
3. You don't like to be corrected. You're not perfect, sometimes you'll make mistakes. You don't know everything, sometimes you need advice. Put aside your pride, stop being so defensive, and joyfully accept criticism and correction. For it will help you become a better spouse.
4. You always need people, to help you make decisions. Stop running to family and friends, for advice all the time. And start learning to think for yourself, and trusting your intelligence and wisdom, to make the right decisions. Use discernment, sound judgement, along with prayer, and God's guidance.
5. You're only focused on your happiness. Marriage is not only about your happiness. Marriage is trying to figure out, how you can keep your partner happy as well. Do to your partner, as you would like your partner do for you.
6. You can't express appreciation towards your partner. Constant complaining, finding faults, criticizing, belittling, nagging, will destroy a relationship. Learn to be more positive. Encourage your partner, support them, compliment them, adore and admire them.
7. You're impatient. You want others to do things faster, understand faster, learn faster, and obey faster. Learning to be patient with your partner, will show them that you care.
8. You don't have a clear plan for your future. A plan or vision for your life and marriage, leads to success. It keeps reminding you, to keep working hard, until you see the life you wish to live.
9. You're financial unstable. You don't have to be rich to marry, but you have to be able to provide enough for your family.
10. You can't accept your partner's differences. Your partner has different interests, hobbies, opinions, habits, lifestyle, etc. But you want your partner to be exactly like you, so you try to change them. Respect the way your partner is, and acknowledge that everyone is created differently.
11. You don't love yourself. You feel worthless, useless, and like you're a failure, mistake, and accident. If you're not happy all by yourself, how are you going to make someone else happy?
12. You're more in love with your friends and families, than with your partner. The love between you and your partner, will quickly fade away, when you give them the last place in your life.
13. You can't be honest and open, about what is going on inside of you. Talking about your feelings, can help your partner understand you better. Expressing your feelings and emotions, doesn't make you weak, it makes you stronger, and builds companionship, intimacy, and closeness.
14. In times of stress, frustration, and troubles, you struggle to control your emotions and anger, and often overreact. If you can't control your anger, and tongue, or if you feel like being physical abusive when you're angry, then you're not ready for marriage. When you feel triggered by your partner’s word choice, actions, or tone, practice self-control, instead of lashing out.
15. You lack communication skills. Communication is how you and your spouse share your thoughts and views, connect, and settle disputes. Healthy communication is open and honest, with a friendly tone, to avoid misunderstandings. Listen carefully, and speak gently.
16. You're not being real. You're afraid that the other person will not like you for who you are, so you pretend to be other people and personalities, just so you can impress them. Being fake, will create all sorts of relationship problems. Serve them only you, with all your flaws and weaknesses.
17. You don't know how to be romantic. Without romance, a marriage will start feeling boring and distant. Romantic love keeps couples close, connected, and passionate.
18. You don't have a sense of humor. You take life too seriously, and miss all the fun. Respectfully make fun of each other, act crazy sometimes, talk funny, and learn to reply with humor.
19. Laziness. You don't like doing housework, so you leave all the work for others. Start asking your partner if you can help with anything, even if they don't ask for your help. Sharing household chores, is very important to marital success.
20. You hold grudges. You can't forgive, you can't let go of feelings of anger and resentment. A marriage will have many new beginnings. In order to keep the marriage going strong, you must be willing to forgive, and make a fresh start.
21. You don't put God first. Many voices will speak to your mind, about your partner, but the only voice you should trust, is the voice of God, and what He tells you to do in your marriage. As you spend time in prayer and reading the Bible, let God instruct you, how to treat your partner.
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Do NOT be these 11 marriage partners 👇
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1. Don't be a quarrelsome partner. Instead of getting offended and irritated at every little thing, let love lead you. Learn to tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others, at the same time, solve conflicts peacefully, and gently.
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2. Don't be an unhappy partner. Instead of walking around with a sour face, depressed, sad, stressed, angry, and unfriendly, learn to be happy, joyful, and put on a happy face. A smiley face can do wonders.
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3. Don't be a babbling partner, or someone who talks excessively, from the minute they open their eyes in the morning, until they close their eyes in the night. Not everyone enjoys listening to foolish and meaningless talk, all day long. Some people like their peaceful quiet time.
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4. Don't be a silent partner. While excessive talking can be annoying, silence can be frustrating. If you never communicate what's going on with you, how you feel, or what you like, but expect people to read your mind, this can lead to frustration.
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5. Don't be an angry partner. Some people love being angry. They'll wait and look for an opportunity, to speak angrily, reply angrily, react angrily, behave angrily. Learn to manage your emotions, and replace your anger with love, compassion, kindness, friendliness, gentleness, and joy. Let the humility and love of Jesus show through your behavior.
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6. Don't be a complaining partner. If you find joy in complaining and nagging, you need help and deliverance. Learn to be understanding, sympathetic, and supportive. You may not like everything that others are doing, but others also don't like everything you're doing. So be more positive, lower your expectations, and increase your patience and tolerance.
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7. Don't be a selfish partner. Instead of only focusing on your own needs, happiness, and interests, look for ways to make your spouse happy, and offer your help, and assistance.
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8. Don't be an unaffectionate partner, or someone who is cold, unemotional, uncaring, or unfriendly. Show your partner that you love them. Kiss them, hug them, cuddle with them, hold hands, massage them, send them love messages, tell them how you miss them, and adore them.
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9. Don't be a boring partner. Be awesome, entertaining, funny, childish, playful, weird, and just a little crazy.
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10. Don't be an evil partner. Don't entice or seduce your partner to slander, do or speak evil of others, fight or take revenge for you, or put them in dangerous situations. Don't make them feel like they have to beg or fight for your love. Don't be disrespectful to them, in your conversations, especially in public. Don't hurt their feelings, and not apologize. And don't flirt with other people, when they aren't looking. Be faithful, even when no one is watching.
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11. Don't be an insecure partner. Don't try to control where they go, or who they talk to, because you're afraid to lose them. Don't get so quickly jealous, when they make a new friend. Don't get suspicious, and start spying on them. Don't try to make him or her jealous, by flirting with someone else, just to make them start chasing after you.
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“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed……...”-James 5:16.Your confession was bold but admirable.You’re Healed .
Amen❤❤❤
Marriage doesn't solve the problems of lust, but willing obedience to the words of God and the leadership of the holy spirit.
This is true. I’ve not been married but I’ve been in ungodly relationships where the other parties still struggled with that spirit. I know marriage magnifies it if anything else. Thank you for tuning in 🙏🏽
You are correct, the solution is not marriage, though marriage in honorable.... the solution is temperance, the fruit of the spirit alive in your words and deeds. fasting and praying will destroy the yoke of the lust of the flesh. You will walk into marriage whole if you bring your flesh under subjection to the Spirit of God.
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The solution is to be born again according the Bible. These Christians have believed partial scripture and are not saved ……. They have been told just confessions is salvation
What do we see ? People who have the same issues unbelievers have. What happened to crucifying the flesh ? What happened to being a new creature in Christ. What happened to if a man follows me he must first deny himself?
They do none of that but have been told they are saved when the fact is they are not saved. And that is exactly why you do not see the miracles Jesus promised we would see
I love Chai tea. I need to be in Christ back this is disgusting what was allowed to happen to me.
This is true… marriage should not be looked as the optimal solution. And I believe that for a time an individual can keep their flesh under control thus keeping their temple of God pure. The question I ask is this suppose to be indefinite obedience for years upon years without stumbling once? If an individual goes a year without giving in to lust but then they fail one day, then… what is to be said about that person failing?
Temperance is correct. Patience and self control are both fruits of the spirit, and we should be striving to obtain all of the fruits so that people could see that God abides in us. “You will know them by their fruit”. Thank you for watching ❤
As a 58-year-old black male married for 31 years young lady I applaud you. I would be proud to have you as a daughter-in-law.
Thank you for watching Mr Philly. I’m glad these videos could bless you 🙏🏽
I speak right now that the Lord Our God increases your influence and uses you to impact your generation. Your vulnerability hasn't gone unnoticed and I pray you are a beacon of light for the world... In Jesus' Name.
Laterras, I receive this word over my life. If influence comes with this obedience I just want it to be used for the Glory of the kingdom. In his name. Love the podcast, and all that it’s grown into. If the DFWP ever needs a seat filler I’m here. Thank you for tuning in big brother. I pray God keeps his hands on you.
You opened up on social media with almost 10k Followers, about the problem that you are having, so you are braver than 95% of most people. I'm Happy that you shared your testimony, please keep posting your (Authentic) Spiritual Content. Thank You!! #StayBlessed
More authentic content on the way. Thank you for watching and enjoying the content. It’s well received 🙏🏽
I respect you tremendously because most religious people have to get caught before they confess but you recognize that confession is good for the soul and that’s why I believe you’re gonna be used in a magnificent way.
I receive brother in Christ. There’s freedom in truth, more should embrace it. Thank you for watching and supporting the channel.🙏🏽
Much respect for your courage to share something so personal. It’s not easy to face yourself, let alone let the world in on that journey. That kind of honesty inspires growth for you and everyone watching. Keep shining
THISSSSSSSSSSSS WE LOVE U GIRL JESUS LOVES U U LOOK SO BEAUTIFUL BTW- A FEARFULLY AND WONDWEFULLY MADE DAUGHTER OF CHRIST
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Found your channel 5 minutes ago when that video was recommended in my feed, and now you uploaded this 1 minute ago wow. Needless to say I appreciate God putting your channel in my path. Thank you!
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I receive! I’m glad that you could be led here and that the content could touch you. Thank you for tuning in 🙏🏽🤍
@@JanelKLauren have you watched J cooked testimony?
I sincerely thank God for your life. This is exactly what we need. I pray that one day there will be a group chat or safe space for discussions like this, so we as women can have the tools to overcome this struggle (because it gets really tough).
I receive this. I want the best for us and it starts with the conversation. Thank you for watching Tamera🤍
So glad you’re sharing in such an open and honest manner. This is so important, so many men , women, single and married are facing this issue also. Unfortunately church folk don’t want to talk about it , be they standing behind the altar or in the pews. I’ve had conversations about this with men and women, and more with married women. The only way to come through this is to bring it into the light. I’m a 64 year old man and this is an issue with people my age. You are not alone. Keep talking about it , keep speaking out, keep praying . Remember the word says that we a saved by the blood of the lamb and our testimony. Your testimony is powerful and will help more people than you’ll ever know. God bless you my sister. Thank you for your bravery in Christ Jesus .
I’m watching a lot of people get free off of my truth and that itself is motivation to help win souls for the kingdom. Thank you for watching Matthew, may God bless you abundantly.
@@JanelKLauren Bless you 🙏🏿
Thank you for speaking out what I couldn't.Thank you for giving me hope through Jesus and your obedience.
I’m so glad this conversation is being had. A community is definitely needed.❤
Amen sis!
Just found your video today and wanted to show some love. I love chapter 7 and what Paul wrote. Thanks for the transparency and the way you’re being open about this topic. Continue living in truth and be the light for everyone. This world is filled with everything being so sexualized and pushing it out so far to destroy our relationship with the Lord. We need more people sharing and understanding that this is a real struggle. If you’re not careful by putting on the full body armor of God, you will fall into temptation. Will be praying that your content will reach to everyone Janel. God bless
God bless you Phillip. The cup of over sexualization is flooded and I hate it very much. But believers have to be bold despite the fact. Thank you for tuning in!
I completely agree with you, sis. When we bring our sins into the light, the enemy loses the power to expose them. You're absolutely right-sharing our struggles and how we overcame them transforms them into testimonies that can inspire and help others dealing with their own hidden battles.
Amen, it’s beautiful watching so many get free. Thank you for watching sister ❤
You're doing good Janel, your intentions are right. You're also rightly dividing the word of Truth. God bless you dear!
I receive. It’s important we don’t take the word out of context simply for our benefit only but for the glory of the Lord. Thank you for watching Chris!
This is so real!! Thank you for your obedience and transparency. As you stated only fornication is talked about but we should talk more about lust in not only men but women.. marriage is not the answer especially if you’re dealing with some type of spirit that you need to be delivered from BEFORE marriage.
your honesty and vulnerability is refreshing, your overall countenance speaks volumes. Remember sanctification is a process but we don't do it alone for He is with us.
I receive this. Thank you for tuning in 🙏🏽
Thank you for creating a space for dialogue on this subject. I too have been dealing with this issue. Transparency is a sign of a contrite decision to change a behavior. Along with repentance, we have to commit to change. Hiding sin is never the solution and shame will enslave you. It’s not easy, but God knows our hearts and the support we need to overcome sin. Thank you thank you. May God continue to bless you throughout your journey. Happy Sunday Janel
AMEN young Lady, you are an inspiration to humanity!!!
I’m just letting him use me🫶🏽 God bless you Paul!
Thank you for your recent video, it came at a perfect time, we are suppose to confess our sins among one another, don't feel bad about anything you did, we need honesty and courage to speak on topics like this to help a fallen Christian.....
Thank you so much. I didn’t realize the video would help so many people get free. I totally see it as Gods will being done. Thank you for watching Dawn, God bless you 🙏🏽
Standing ovation, Sistah! God continue to keep U & BLESS ALL that U DO!! 🙌🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🙏🏿
I receive this. God bless you!
I'll be real. I saw the last video yesterday in the midst of my own physical struggles. It was an on time joint and was truly appreciated. You made beautiful points pertaining to the struggles of the flesh.
Glad it could help free you. God bless you.
Amen, this is true, sis!!! Also, deliverance brings levels of freedom(for many of us the door to lust was open as children being exposed to some form of trauma), as does the renewing of the mind. Which empowers us with the capacity to exercise the fruits of the Spirit. Trusting and waiting on God as we submit our will to the will of God, knowing He will provide what's best for His daughters and sons concerning marriage, and our identity in Him.💯💯💯
I whole heartedly believe this and come into agreement either way this. God bless 🙏🏽🤍
Something you said that is powerful is leadership. There aren't a lot of Shepherds guiding us in the faith when it comes to relationships, lust, and marriage. That's why a lot of us are falling short.
Amen, I found it easier to take over my own walk and ask God for guidance and it’s been more fruitful. Thank you for watching and God bless you 🤍
I think that’s real for you to come out and testify this. I think you’ll lead a lot of women into gods favor and walking the right path. We all constantly need to be reminded even on our good days 🙏
While this may not be a subject for everyone in public sphere, there are millions that need to have this conversation.
I totally agree. Thank you for tuning in. I’m glad to be in agreement with other believers. God bless you!
Hi Janel. I'm so grateful that you made that video. Everything you mentioned was exactly what I had struggled with just this morning and your video couldn't have been timelier. Thank you!
I really rock with sis. This level of vulnerability isnt easy. Going to be following the journey as a new Sub
Welcome to the family 🙏🏽
Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t let anyone discourage you from continuing to share your testimony. It’s by the blood of the lamb and the WORD of their testimony.. 🙏🏾
I receive! May his will be done🙏🏽
I just viewed the other video and now viewing this one you are a true Woman of God and everything you have discussed is vitally needed in the True Body of Christ and those who will be saved. The church has hid for too long on these matters in every area. Many will be helped and healed through your transparency. May Jesus /Yeshua the Christ bless you as you bless and help others young and mature.
I receive this sister. Im letting him do his work in me and just being a vessel for him in this season. I think it’s important to be obedient because my obedience I know can influence others to follow suit. Good bless you sis!
Most people (particularly Christians) have a habit of saying "What you should do" but as you stated sis, you're doing what God said. Period. Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability. God bless you in your journey. As a married man, i still deal with temptation. I work around 90 percent of women in the workplace. It doesn't matter how much sex you have in your marriage, if you dont take thoughts captive you can STILL fall. But God is amazing ❤ Blessings to all.
U tell em sista, theres no need to be ashamed with us. Sum of us battle the same battle undercover. Its tuff for both sides. In christ we're all brotha and sista, its ok to share with us
No shame, guilt, or condemnation for those who are in Christ ❤
I just saw your video on my recommendation list and I'm so glad I watched a few of them. Some of them made me cry as I felt like it was speaking to me. Thank you for creating this type of content and being transparent! God bless you 🙏
🙏🏾I love your bravery and transparency. You are stronger then you know. The fact that you are willing to talk about your struggles in your walk with christ say alot, especially with lust. Something that we all struggles with. Your right we do have to have more of these conversations. But if you have to stand alone with these conversations then keep standing alone. But I'm standing with you my sister in christ🙏🏾❤️.
I receive. I will stand on business if it just be me and God when I lay my head down. But I’m thankful for community too. Thank you for watching. God bless!
I needed to watch the earlier video and this video today. I'm grateful for my mentor who sent the first one to our accountability group, and I thank God for your life even as you obey His will. God bless you!
Thank you sister this video has been a blessing to me. This is a topic we need to discuss more often. I have grown up in the church and I needed direction on this. I have not heard much about this particular topic.
Amen, more open dialogue is needed in the church. Thank you Demarcus for tuning in.
@JanelKLauren indeed
what people don't know is how hard it is stop or resist falling for lust. When i say you have just told what i've been battling for years to the letter, it's crazy. And one thing about this thing to is you keep coming back to it even after months of praying and going strong. it'll take a lot to get through this. BE strong, be prayerful and resilient cos even the internet will trigger you and the world will always tempt you in so many ways.
You are so on point about this.... If we just think he will keep letting these things we keep doing slide he will start taking blessings away it seems to me this is what happened to me for sure. Thank you beautiful sister good word..
His grace is sufficient but we should ALSO appreciate it 😢. Thank you for watching 🙏🏽
Listen, I so applaud you for your transparency on this topic! As a married senior blk male I too struggled with the stronghold of self pleasure ! My wife started having decreased desire for intimacy! These issues were due to hormonal changes changes brought on by menopause! I on the other hand had been faithful for 20yrs and took her lack of desire personal! But she asked me to go along with her to see her obgyn and discuss the possibilities of hormone replacement therapy! It was there that my world collapsed after hearing that she wasn't a candidate for this treatment! On top of that we were told that because of her history of a precancerous nodule removed from her pancreas , that there wasn't much that could be done! So as a Christian couple whose intimacy was brought to a halt! I didn't resist looking at porn for the sake of self pleasure at first! At least I wasn't stepping out on her! That is until I started feeling uneasy with the repetition of every night waiting until she went to sleep! Also at the same time the type of porn content that excited me was specific in nature and while it mirrored where we once were! It lead me to unreasonable expectations from a person that I knew inside and out! I remember climaxing and instantly feel dirty as if I had stepped out on her! Then I would slide to bed nxt to her and silently ask God for forgiveness once again? This went on for a couple of years and the devil beat me up with condemnation so much that I began to compromise my walk in other areas of concern! The scripture says it's the little foxes that spoil the vine or a little bit of leaven(yeast) cause the whole lump of dough to rise! Or in this case fall! We must be bodacious in fighting against our human( carnal ) tendencies! And in these last days where everything is acceptable by so-called Christians! The Lord is raising a Righteousness standard among His Chosen people! That requires one to be both audacious and transparent ! You are on the right path mysistah! I am a member of 2819 Church here in Atlanta and I tell you that this is very much a topic that is dealt with! Our Pastor Philip Mitchell is not gaslighting God's people and even deals with his own issues as a man of God! I am going to subscribe and pray for you!🙏✌️
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Appreciate u sis! You just popped up and this is right on time! Ty for your obedience... Now im going to go and watch the other one
Everything you said and went through was exactly what i had struggled with , God blessed me with your video at the right time and helped me realise that I'm not alone in the fight against the enemy and im free from bondage I'm grateful for your transparency may god continue to bless you
So many people struggle with it and in secrecy, it’s unfair to the believer to think this is just something that the enemy is using to corner them and them alone. I’m seeing a lot of people get free from my video. Thank you for watching. God bless you!
Keep being obedient to God sister!. I love how you breakdown that scripture in 1 Corinthians 7. Yes someone has to be theone address the uncomfortable topics in the body of Christ.
I appreciate you. Thank you for vulnerability.
There’s nothing wrong with sharing sister. I truly believe you actually are really right sharing and also helping alot of people with your testimony. Keep it up and God bless for you trying to find the truth!🙏🏻😄
'Christians have peace with God, yet not every Christian enjoys it' - Ken Legg. I use to think I needed to do good works to receive blessings and work for my salvation, which created guilt, condemnation, and doubt. But fear is the opposite of love. Gods love works through grace, my salvation is not how perfect I am or what I can do for God, but its what he did on the cross for me and you. We are forgiven, past present and future. We dont work for Gods blessing, we are already blessed through faith. Its not his salvation combined with our works, only his righteousness washed over us for salvation..to him the glory, lest anyone should boast in self righteousness. If we say we dont sin, we are a liar..whether by a single thought, word, or deed. No one is good but God. Once we understand our position not condition, sin loses power. His grace helps us to resist sin while focusing on his kingdom and glory, rather than focusing on sin and be worried all the time, missing the peace of mind already provided for u. It doesnt change the nature of sin and resisting, but being saved by grace gives me peace. Heed the love of Jesus, come to me all who are burdened and I willl give you rest... Rest in his promise, not our own good works. I personally believe the 10 commandments are applicable to all people, a moral guide..commit it to memory. Paul reveals that without it, we would not know sin. Jesus expands by saying if you lust you commit adultery, if you hate in your heart you murder. Therefor the commandments are holy and good. Still, I am no better than a non believer except for faith in christ and his power to help me resist sin. Even Paul reveals the flesh and spirit are at war in our members until the day we die, who will save us from this body of death, Christ Jesus who saves us. In moments of weakness while on earth, God could chastise us for our own good like a loving Father so that we learn. But not to forget our position and identity as children of God, born again, sealed, sanctified by his sacrifice unto salvation, loved by him. From your brother in Christ here in New Zealand 🙏🏻❤️
Powerful truth backed by scripture excellent teaching
@@justinparks3312 Hey thanks brother Justin, that was encouraging. All glory to God
You are speaking the truth! We are lacking transparency because people are ashamed…..
There’s no shame guilt or condemnation for those who are in Christ. We have to have these conversations. Thank you for watching!
Sister! Thank you for your obedience, and don't be discouraged! Continue to build upon the solid foundation of the word of God. Continue to be led by the Spirit.
In His timing, your marriage will come. We are to seek first the kingdom and His righteousness.
What God joins together, let no one separate. The key is always God. You don't want to choose a husband. Instead let God join you and the husband he's preparing for you.
You're absolutely doing right. I will be praying for you and your struggles with lust. This has also been one of my biggest struggles. Please keep me in prayer as well.
I receive this wisdom and I thank you for tuning in. God bless you!
@@JanelKLauren and also you. In Christ Jesus!
May God bless you for addressing one the major challenges confronting a growing Christian every day.
Thank you, there’s not enough time left here before Christ’s return to not be attempting to save souls. God bless you.
All Praises To The Most High! Continue following and trusting what God is telling you to do.
God bless you!🙏🏽
Janel, much prayer, love and respect to you. You only have to answer to God, we all do. You are gracious enough to post this video when I feel you don't owe no one an explanation, everyone has a different walk who are in Christ. May we all arrive in God's House for all eternity. God bless you my sister in Christ. God hath made you shine like a diamond....for His Glory!
This word is edifying. Thank you for sharing this wisdom and tuning in. God bless you 🙏🏽
This is of God!! 🔥 Proud of you Sis! ❤ Stay in the Word! Continue to swim in it!!👏🏾👏🏾
God bless you and I receive this!
It’s refreshing to see your honesty and you being transparent. Some of us believers stumble when it comes to lust, even as women. It’s so rampant and easy to fall into, but glory to be Yah for his grace and mercy! If not, we’d be goners, it’s even better when you come back and know your wrongs and repent. Keep going strong, keep giving thanks to our Father in heaven❤️
Amen! I wanted to make an effort to show that content creators shouldn’t get slaps on the wrist. If we’re going to follow Christ in public we need to do so in private. Thank you for watching sis. God bless you!
Thank you for being obedient 🙏🏾. By you being transparent help a lot people. Especially me being celibate for almost 4 years and trying to control the lust. It’s not easy at all . I have been there by being transparent with people. We have to be real with one another in love. Thank you again 🙏🏾🫶🏾
Great follow up my sister in Christ. You are right on. Us men need you women to put God first and then bring that righteousness into a Godly relationship! Blessings 🔥😊
I appreciate this sentiment greatly. Thank you for watching. God bless you!
Obedience is Better than sacrifice 🙏🙏🙏🥰🥰🥰
The journey is never easy for those who are called, but for those who are chosen, it becomes an all-out spiritual battle, Janel. We will face persecution from all sides-Jews and Gentiles alike. But take heart, Janel, and hold onto the words in John 15:33! and John 15:18-25.
all the way from Kenya ....😍love the commitment
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Amen Janel you are lining up with the word of God. We have to do better and stay focused on not doing evil thru the word and prayer. Confessing one to another is one of the keys in being delivered. Iron sharpens Iron.
Thanks Woman of God. This is on time and we all need to be transparent and accountable over our struggles.🙏🏾💪🏾❤
Amen!
Our struggles and the overcoming of them is our testimony
your openness from that last video is what led me to follow you. I cant wait to continue your content journey with you.
Keep strong powerful woman of God. Stay encouraged.
Great testimony Sis. Don’t be discouraged by Churchianity. Those concerned about gifts of the Spirit, but never the fruit of the Spirit.
I’m encouraged greatly to see people getting free. God is so good. God bless you for tuning in ❤
I had a sister tell me once that she wants to be so deep in God that when ever a man finds her he must go through God to get to her.
I celebrate you sis, love your honesty, sincerity and transparency. It's obvious your genuine love for the Lord, more grace n keep keeping it real. God bless you.
Keep your head up Lauren. You'll overcome this.
I'm super proud of your down to earth honesty and openness Lauren ❤.
Your experiences will strengthen those having similar challenges. God bless and keep you great Woman of God ❤ 🫂 🤗
You are absolutely right! We are to have tough conversations about sexual immorality. Sexual immortality is not define by just adultery, fornication or homosexuality; self pleasure is also sexual immorality. We also need to discuss what it means as Christians that we are God’s temple. Think about what you are watching with God’s eyes, hearing with God’s ears, saying with God’s mouth.
Additionally, thank you for speaking about 1 Corinthians. We have to read the entire chapter to understanding context and the audience to determine the spiritual lesson for us. As you stated, often times Christians will quote a verse without reading the entire chapter or understanding context. Thank you Sister in Christ. I pray for your continued strength as you follow in God’s path.
Thank you for being honest and sharing with us. The problem with society is we have learned to hide our sins and act like we are fine. Romans 3:23 remind us that we all have sinned. Each one of us have something we struggling with and to some, one sin looks worse than others and therefore we judge others, which has created a culture of hiding our sins. James 2:10 remind us that if we break one of the commandment we have fail in all. So we should stop hiding our sins and start confessing to each other so that we can hold each other accountable, and through confession we can get healing. James 5:16.
Amen. The Christian church is publicly falling apart right now because of secrecy dwelling too long. It has to stop. Thank you for tuning in. God bless!
Hi there, I am very grateful that you are upfront and transparent about your set-back. I think one of the worst things we can do is to try and HIDE what we done and pretend all is well. But I think if more people were open about their problems and asked for help then it would help. Accountable people, whom we can talk to and pray with helps. I had this friend that I could phone at more or less any time and we could talk and pray together. It helped
As Christians, we find deliverance in truth, which is a characteristic of God this lord of freedom. That said, I'm proud of you because you're correct. We should tell the truth and aim to obey God's word.
I just came across your video and I had to sub. I pray that God continue to keep you and give you the strength you need. You got this ❤
Thank you for tuning in Alex. It’s a blessing to have you here!
Great video! Great response! I agree with you. This is a perfectly acceptable and NEEDED subject to unpack and be real about. There is nothing you need to do to "fix it" in your own purposing, like "find a husband." People have all sorts of opinions and most of them are coming from their own religious programming or their own insecurity to face the reality of what they are struggling with.
I agree with this. It’s the reason why many get married and battle with spiritual spouses and corn addiction in marriage. They aren’t rectifying this with God they are rectifying it with their flesh. God bless you, thank you for tuning in!
Go girl, get your call going! You are empowered for this! Great video❤
Habits are formed in about 30 days. Remember Lust is not what LOVE is made of. Stick with the Journey & keep God first in all you do and it will pay off. So many suffer from it. Thanks for sharing as other need your help
Keep talking about it!This is valuable and vulnerable that is what builds true connection. Follow God, not people, and definitely not church culture
Hell of a word sister 💯 Bold like a lion 🦁
Your honesty is why I subscribed
It's called integrity. God sees everything, and we're supposed to live in secret as we do in the light. We can't be rescued from sin by earthly things because we've already been rescued from sin by Jesus. Thank you for being candid! We are alive one day at a time. We have to live one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, and even one second at a time. The only way that we can live for God and be holy is to submit ourselves to the Holy Spirit and be led by Him instead of being led by our soul (mind, will & emotions.) We can be led by The Spirit or we can be carnal Christians. Thank you again for speaking out. It's admirable.
Thank you. My story is my brothers and sisters in Christ story as well, we all deserve freedom. Thank you for tuning in🙏🏽
The thing about vulnerability is when people aren’t ready to accept truth, they create ways for you to not walk in your truth.
Thank you for your obedience! I know the “confessing of your sins to one another” scripture is often quoted but to confess without understanding the price of obedience would be disobedience 😂🤷🏽♂️ Also, if you weren’t at peace with God about what he has healed you from, that video would’ve never been uploaded.
Saying all of this say, you did nothing wrong. You answer to God, not man and for that we’re forever grateful 🙏🏽❤️
I wish I could like this several times. Thank you for tuning into my channel. God bless you!
@ Thank you for creating a channel centered around truth and vulnerability!! It’s an honor to be here 🙏🏽
There is nothing wrong in his eyes with you sharing your humanity with his children because we all are his creation with the same elements and he uses us all under the same intentions... So you continue to express if no one can relate and understand, hope you noticed I used the conjunction "and" not or because there is no choice when it comes to him if anyone think so they need him more so!!! I have no problem expressing myself like now because he wants us to show each other much more and we do not but I will say this "I love you" so continue to be you through him Ms. Lauren God has you even if you find yourself veering off he will catch you remember he understands you more than anyone!!! Continue to talk to him and never let him out of your thoughts... You're blessed it shows in a glow around you! Oh I saw in one of the comments stating you get jealous quickly we have a jealous God how ironic we are an image of him only not him!😎
These aren''t things that get spoken about. If only this had been something that was focused on when we were younger especially from that young teen to young adult age, no one has to go through these things, that is exactly why there should be diligent prophets but I do believe their has been an attack on the church recently. Great work ma'am!
People fall all the time and doesn't matter how many times you fall. What matters the most is being able to rise up when you fall because often times when people fall, some continue on the similar path of destruction.
Your not alone lust is being used to attack us heavily right now along with unforgiveness both your original video and this one popped up in my feed God doesn't make mistakes you didnt make these videos in vain thank you for your obedience for me its not just lust alone its the work it takes to get rid of it through constantly fasting mediation on scriptures and praying amongst all the other demons I have to fight against daily its alot
100 percent correct sister,one thing I learned with this walk with God is people don't study the bible and always judging someone sin and don't check thier temple, iam praying for you keep the videos coming until next time bless you
Glad to hear you received many positive comments about the previous video you posted on this topic.
Question for anyone willing to prove a response:
Does God expect absolute perfection when it comes to us keeping His Temple/our bodies pure by not giving into lust ever? I would say the answer to that is yes. But there are 365 days to n a year. I personally am able to go many months without giving into my flesh. But to go 1 year, 5 years, a decade and further without ever once failing… seems humanly impossible.
If God is expecting absolute perfection from us, before He deems us ready for a spouse… then we will never be ready.
Great content! Kudos to you for being vulnerable and transparent! Trust the process and stay the course. This realm of sexual immorality opens up a demonic portal that requires a lot travailing. Blessings Shalom🙏🏿
So so so MUCH RESPECT for you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻God bless you and thank you for sharing 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
I agree with you that we need to be doing public confession in order to encourage oothers that, falling doesnot mean you should run away from God but rather to draw near to him acknowleging that we are unable without Him. We need His grace to help usin our weaknesses. ❤❤
Fire seeing how your video blew up, obedience is key. I shared it with one of my friends
First, to come out, and be vulnerable tells me a lot about you. I see a teachable spirit. I see humility. I see strength, not weakness. I see victory. I see light. I see a lady desiring God more than anything else. I see a daughter of Zion who knows who and whose she is. I see a Queen loved by Jesus, now and always.
I saw this segment on the news a few years back, that said, 50 to 60% of preachers struggle with watching corn. I thought that was mind blowing. So, a lot of the leaders in the church need to increase their closeness with the LORD also. and we need to pray for them too.
11:36 you answered the question I always asked myself Subbed up btw 🙏🏾
❤🎉 What can I say, thank you dear. I love the way you love the lord. Blessings
It’s some truth to everything but yours is more commendable and respectable 🙌🏽
May God bless you woman!
Have you ever had a really deep conversation with yourself on why you aren't covered(Married)? What were your conclusions?
I’ll answer this in my Q&A. Thanks for watching!
@ I'll be sure to catch it. Thanks for responding.
Def agree with you. EXPOSE darkness.
The devil can’t use what all can see!