In 2018 I did my Ancestry DNA and discovered an older half brother who lived in Hawaii where my Dad was stationed in the Navy before he met my Mom. It was surreal. I thought I was the oldest and turns out I have an older brother. Long story short, I told my parents, my Dad was surprised but both were accepting and my new brother and his family moved from Hawaii to Florida to live here and to spend time with my (our) Dad. We lost my Mom in 2021 and my new brother Keith being here for my Dad was a Godsend. We were blessed that everyone, even my Mom, accepted this gift of a new family member. The odd thing is, Keith is just like my Dad, they look alike and act alike and enjoy the same hobbies. But I remember the night I found out and how in shock I was and how I had no idea how to approach my parents. I stressed for days before I finally sat them down and told them. I told my new brother if another sibling pops up on Ancestry he will be the one to tell my Dad, I am not going through that again!
It's like winning the lotto! Sold the Potter's house, gained a brother, and bought a new project. 😎 Love your attitude, understanding and acceptance of your siblings. You are a great example to all of us, to let go of ego and have a kind heart. Love also that your Mum is so kind and accepting. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. 😉
I hope one thing comes out of these videos, the fact that honesty is always the best policy. Two peoples lives have been devastated because of lies and cover ups. Alex is such a stand up guy! If this was to happen to anyone, Alex is the guy who could handle things with grace and compassion! I hope everyone involved comes to a place of healing.
Alex, I just got acquainted with you this week. We have been snowed in so I binge watched the potters house and the musicians house. Today I listened to this. I just have to tell you that rarely in my long life have I met a person with such a good heart as yours. God bless you and help you with all these emotions. You are a truly good man.
Alex, your honesty in a difficult situation is absolutely amazing, and I along with your many viewers are proud of you. I admire that your mom is accepting and understanding of your sharing this story. She is a wonderful woman as you know. All families have secrets that effect their children and grandkids. I can understand the biological parents wanting to keep secret somethings about their early lives, but to be angry at the child is not only sad but selfish.
I've watched this 3 times. My heart is so full for your family. Poor Steven! His emotions must be all over the place not to mention the family who thought he was part of their murdered family member. This must be so tough for him. So glad he can learn about your dad from you. He must be so torn with happiness and heartbreak
You can’t choose what challenges that come in life, however you can choose how you respond to them. Your doing it right, I wish all involved could do the same
@@viviannefraser5974 or she knew and did not want to go through the nightmare of naming a living father. I worked in child support enforcement and would see women name many men to avoid naming the actual father for many reasons.
@@1962pjh . I don't usually comment on negative people in the comment section but... To throw out an accusation like that without any inkling of that or anything nefarious at all...is PATHETIC!
@@viviannefraser5974 I thought that, too, maybe. Surely she wouldn't have wanted her son to go through meeting that other family and everything on purpose.
Heather's parents seem to be blaming her for something she had absolutely no control over. Life is too short for those petty things. You will be an awesome steward of the family legacy. Congratulations. I'm happy for you, Heather, and Steven. And your kids get a new uncle! Everything for God's purpose. Your life is never dull. Blessings for all.
Agreed. They are the ones that have been lying/covering up/not acknowledging life changing information - not her - and as a result is has defrayed the family. Mistakes are made, it happens to us all. But to blame Heather for it?Shame on them.
They are mad at her for breaking open the egg they made silent, and exposed their own family to shame and . They are angry because their child shattered the shell and exposed their "dirty little lies". Poor child. They want to make ethe child suffer for exposing their lies, not for the heartache they are causing.
They seem soo mean . Some people like to blame others, instead of looking at themselves. It's a real shame. They can blame 23&1, for exposing the family secrets, not Heather. It's not her fault at all.
I feel for you all. I have a similar situation with a sister younger than me and a brother older than me. Our mom was not a very happy person in the 60's and early 70's. She was very young. On her senior high school photo besides her name, I guess the question asked was "what do you want to be"...and she said "Happy". I'm so thankful we finally found one another because that feeling of not belonging had haunted me throughout my life. Now I feel complete even through the unknowing years....those hurting and searching years. Bless you and yours...especially Steven, who finally has a bio family now and can belong.
When I was 17 my mother admitted to my brother, sister, and me that she had given birth to a son at the age of 15. She worried we would be upset. We were amazed and thrilled! Unfortunately, he never sought my mother out so we have never had the privilege to meet him. But, if he ever does, I will welcome him with open arms.
Have you taken a dna test though? What if he has tried to find you but the paper trail is not helping him? You have to help him by uploading to dna to different data bases.
Thank you for sharing. As an adopted person I have been hesitating on the 23 and me test I have sitting on my house. You have presented some new perspective that makes me feel more open to what results I might get. I think I've decided to send it in.
Adoption happens out of hardship and many times people have matured from those circumstances but some times they haven’t. Hope for the best, brace for the worst, accept it for what it is and know that you tried. 💛
My heart goes out to you, Heather, and Steven. I pray that the extended family who are having issues with these developments figure out how wrong it is to punish the children for decisions their parents made. I will pray for you all that you are able come together as siblings and develop an even stronger family.
@@1962pjh Except that rarely works, and when the truth comes out it's ridiculous to blame the kids for what you did. That's what's wrong. They're basically blaming Heather for being born.
I love how accepting you are of this new sibling. My family just went through the same thing in the summer of 2019. We found a half sister that lives out on the west coast and we're all from the east coast. Since both of our parents had passed on, us 7 siblings opened our arms and hearts to this woman who had been searching for the last 30 years of her life for any clue to her biological parents. Our parents were married with 4 children around the time she was born so it hurt our oldest sister more to find out. Because of covid, we haven't met yet but are in constant contact with her and shower her with love. All things pass and we, as a family, chose to accept and welcome a lost sibling into the fold.
I would only imagine that something like your story should only ever be exactly as you explained it in your comment. Of course for any child to find out that their parent(s) were not as monogamous or honest as they believed them to be. Even more so if they have passed before any thing comes to light thus not allowing anyone to get the story or facts from them directly. But in no way should a child now adult be treated in a bad or negative way . Simply because they had no choice or voice in the situation. They are only the outcome of a choice made by someone else in the past should they have been a child, teen, or adult at the time of those choices and actions....
Wow! Steven and Heather are so blessed to have found you as a brother. You are kind, generous and loving. I would warn you to watch out for pitfalls in all of this. Such events can leave someone traumatized and emotionally vulnerable. God bless you all as you navigate these waters.
What an absolutely crazy story. It's just nuts how many lives can be effected by one e-mail. Just one revelation and the same news hits the people involved completely different ways. For your new brother Steven, what a sad and tragic story about the lie he was told about his birth father. Alex, I hope you and he can build a nice relationship with him in the same way that you and Heather have. You are SUCH an amazing person and Steven is lucky to have found you. I wish you all the best of luck in this new relationship. And, if Steven allows it, I can't wait to meet him here on your channel! ❤️
It looks like The Foundling story, the real Paul Fronczak who was told his father didn’t love him and grew with that resentment all his life till months before dying.
The birth mother could have been in a relationship with the other guy when she had "contact" with Alex's father and then presumed that he was the father. That's why Alex should have maybe taken a bit more time to work all this out and not post it to the whole world after just one phone call with the new found brother.
@@lyndaf.6329 yeah, this is easily what the case was. His family had contact with Steven, so it sounds like it was definitely possible she thought it was him.
I am 65 and an adopted adult. I was adopted in 1956 and there are many different stories and as unique as each person. Cudos for you. The acceptance you are ready to give is great. It is not something a lot of non adopted people have. My half siblings found me before there was DNA. Did DNA last year and boy the surprises that were uncovered. Thankfully I belong to an online support group and they have helped me very much by being there for me. I think you realize that there is trauma in adoption and we each cope with that differently and are in different stages. Just be patient. Some are jealous of the sibling that got kept an raised with the parent. Some don't. The birth father I thought I had turned out not to be my birth father. I have reached out to the family of the man that shows up on my DNA but have not heard back from them and have no clue if I ever will. He likely didn't know. I applaud you for being so open and accepting.
Alex, I just want to say from the bottom of my heart as a Christian. That you really shine as a man God loves people like you. You help make the world a little better place by the way you conduct yourself as you do. God bless you this world would be a better place with more people such as yourself. God bless all of your beautiful family. Sincerely-Justin
WOWZA! The last time I tuned in, you were cleaning out a hoarders house, that was about 4 years ago and tonight I just came across this video. I enjoy watching you speak as you remind me of my brother. I do sincerely hope all this goes well for you, and you get to smell the roses.
Boy, you have a huge heart! What a mature and loving evaluation of their and your life with them. What you feel and what you are doing is 100% right. I can't imagine how you feel, but part of has to feel great. You talk about curiosity (inc.)! I'm so glad for you and your family. It's also OK to get a little misty eyed about this. Good on ya' cowboy!
Congratulations on the Potters House sale and congrats to you and Heather on finding your new brother. He is a lucky guy. Look forward to meeting him on one of your vlogs in the future!
I was a teenager in the 70's and remember several friends getting pregnant in just the way you said- partying! They were kids and did not have any future insight into what they were doing at a party for teens. They were just having fun. There was lots of drinking and some people with drugs. Add to that mix the raging hormones and you know what comes next. One friend got pregnant twice- by twin brothers! Another got pregnant three times. So, then they were faced with three options- keep the baby, put up the baby for adoption, or abortion. Some of them faced years of regret, therapy and depression from those teenage parties. Keeping a baby while not married was not accepted then as it is today. Adoption was an answer, but still heart-breaking for all involved. And, abortion left very deep emotional scars for some. Also, it was prior to the AIDS epidemic, so drunk kids were not always careful. Anyway, I would forgive the decisions that kids made 50 years ago and just move on with the wonderful news that there is a new brother in the mix. Congratulations on that!
Alex, I’m at a loss for words. When I got to about the 28 minute mark I was almost in tears. My heart and thoughts are with you as you go through this exciting and eventful journey of your life. I especially feel for Steven as he deals with what he went through the last 30 years of a lie. Thank you for sharing!!! Love your family tons!!
I am so glad that I recently found ur interesting channel...my respect and admiration for you has gone up 100 % with ur family story.. your brother and sister r so lucky to have found you....you will be your brother's mentor as u go thru ur life's journey together...all ready the bond is there with ur mutual love of old cars..antiques..etc...how amazing is that...u not only made ur new found siblings a brother but u have made them aunt and uncle!!! U said it well when u mentioned your lives coming full circle....thank u for such an honest..heart warming story....congratulations on ur growing 👪 family!!!!
I have never understood why people try to hide their backgrounds. I know my dad "dated" a lot, who cares. I've always said that we probably have other siblings. I would like to meet them if there are any.
What a crazy new adventure this is! Find a sister renovating the Potter's house and find a brother selling it. Mary did bring you more then subscribers on You Tube.
Yep buying a VW van can be life changing alright... finding out you have an older sibling a mere bump in the road of life...it's all perspective and how you approach life that makes the difference...and you my friend no doubt have the right approach and the proper perspective... My only sister called me some years ago and during our conversation she asked me if I have a copy of my birth certificate I said I believe so...she insisted I get it...so I got it located and got back on the phone...she says okay now read it to me...so I did...she says okay now read the names on it again...so I did...she says okay now what's Mom's name...I said her name she says yes that's right but what's your birth certificate say...I was stunned my Mom had signed my birth certificate with an alias...then my sister proceeded to tell me that my Dad may not be my Dad and that's why he was abusive to you and why she signed it using an alias and that's why she treated you like she did...both of them are deceased now...on their joint headstone it's his name and her alias...there's more to the story...there always is...the best thing for all involved is to be forgiving and move forward...cause Life is short don't waste energy on hate or hateful people... they have their own rewards... don't make theirs yours...Numbers 6:24-26
@@CuriosityIncorporated Just found your video and am new to your channel..and before I wrote my comment I wanted to see if you actually answer anyone here. And THIS is the only comment I see you answering after scrolling forever. All these people making such generous and kind comments to you and you don't have the time nor decency to answer even half of them back. What a friggin douchebag you are. First and last time wasting my time on your channel. 👎
Alex you are the right person to guide Heather and Steven through the uncharted waters that may come. You are a loving, caring, intelligent man who along with Melissa have raised 3 wonderful children. I wish you well in whatever situation you find yourself in because I know you always do your best. Congratulations on finding out you have a brother!🥰
It seems to me that Heather, Steven and yourself have integrity and have the COURAGE to live truthfully. The common thread there is your Dad’s DNA! He obviously was a very DECENT human being! Just because he impregnated a few people takes NOTHING away from him! There were TWO people having consensual sex and when you’re young “consequences” is not a word in your vocabulary, ESPECIALLY in that era! I love you all and I love how incredibly BRAVE you are to live your truth and embrace your heritage and not WASTE the opportunity! God Bless you all!
It’s interesting that the prior generation that created these issues are mad at the generation that is the result of said issues. Also congrats on the Potters house. I have enjoyed watching you work and fix it up.
Wow. I feel badly for your brother Steven. Having been misled, he missed the opportunity to know your dad. He's found that he's part of a great and loving family, though, and that is wonderful. Human beings are so freakin' complicated. Who knows why people lie about the things they lie about. There's so much unnecessary sadness and drama. Also, I am completely jealous about the VW van. My dad was a total VW gearhead and career military. We had a '72 VW bus, red and white, that my dad customized with 7 yellow ducks painted on the side, one for each kid. I'd give anything to have that bus back. Hope you enjoy renovating yours!
Wow, I was left after I was born, from one foster home to another, never really knowing who I was ! Then last year I took a DNA test found out my father was in the Navy ( world war 2 and my mom was a WAC , grandfather was a doctor!! I was very hurt that no one wanted me, but I'm over it !! I found out a lot more !!!! I know how you feel, ( kind of )!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Everything good Steven and Heather could ever realize about their father they will learn simply by knowing you, Alexander. Everything good in him is in full effect through the essence of who you are.
May the Lord bless each of you - every family member whose life will be changed by this new knowledge. May you be comforted, strengthened, enriched. May the bonds that are being twisted and stretched not be broken. May hearts be softened with love so you can grow and know one another. Hang in there, Alexander. And Heather. And now Steven.
Well, that’s quite a kick in the shorts. What a lucky couple of half-siblings to have you in the mix. The triumphant trio! Sharing your life is a fortunate opportunity for Heather & Steven to get to know you, Melissa, & your children. You seem shell-shocked & hopefully talking to us will help you, & your new family members, process all the news. You have such a kind heart & I hope for the best for all of you.
Yes, wild & free through through the early 70's. After into the Air Force in: More wild & truly free. Did 7 years and loved every minute of it. You are a good man Alex. That is a very sad story of your new brother. Get together with him & new sis.
The light of your goodness just shines so brightly❣️ Don’t ever change! You are a special force in this world. So happy that I share it with you and your lovely family 🤗👏🏻😉
From personal experience I know it can be difficult to open up to anyone outside your family in this type of situation. Up until I was 17, I was told my parents had a son but he was stillborn. I don’t remember the reason why but at 17 I learned that was very much alive and living 20 miles from us. That was 48 years ago and much has happened between him, our sister and me. One thing I learned and you mentioned- I’m not responsible for someone else’s actions 70+ years ago, just keep looking ahead. All the best luck yo you, Heather and Steven on this journey. ❤️❤️
I cannot imagine how Steven is feeling about all this and what he went through. Although I'm sure he can take comfort in knowing, through you, what a wonderful man his biological father was. I feel in some ways, this will give him much relief. I'm glad that he has you and Heather, two wonderful siblings, that anyone would be proud to have. Congrats to you all though, as I feel all three of you needed this at this point in your lives. Also, congrats on the sale of the Potter house.
I actually am crying for you & your siblings. You have always put family 1st & this is such a blessing for all three of you. It really does make me so happy for Heather & Steven they have you as their brother.
Of all the people to have as a brother, Steven is very blessed that it's you Alex. If everyone could be as open, loving, honest and passionate as you are the world would surely be a wonderful place.
Alex;love your channel and family, I’m 70 now and can tell you about 1969 (the year of Woodstock) and 1970, every hippy was hitchhiking,thousands of hippies, we hitched from Chicago to LA because it was the free and easy life , other hippies would pick you up and lots of hippie chicks out there and free love was just a way of expressing your life ☮️ style, all of you came from peace and love, and a little weed too Good luck with the new hippie van too, will need a ☮️ sign on the back and a 🌸 an the back
Amazing! The guy that makes strangers, who are alone and struggling, feel loved and cared for, finds out he has another brother out there in the world. Wow, if anyone deserves to have more people to love and call their own, it’s you, Alex! You are a living example that what a person sends out in the world, comes back to them twofold. Congratulations on your new brother!🎆🎇
As we age, we realize how very important FAMILY is. How thrilling this must be to gain another sibling. Continued prayers for Heather! I am sure you both will welcome your new sibling with open arms. I personally think Steven has hit the jackpot in the family department!
As I've aged, I've realised how messed up and abusive the people in my family are and how important it is for me to get the hell away from them so I can heal myself
@@scandisnowgirl3696 same, but I adopted a brother and he adopted me as a sister. Family is important, but only we can decide who -at the end- is our family.
Wow! That’s heavy! But what a treasure to find family! To sell the Potter’s house! To buy a van to refurbish! This bodes WELL for your 2022!!! I am happy for you! 😊❤️🎶🇨🇦🙏 Good for you for keeping your heart open! It’s a gift!
I just got chills when you mentioned the cars and antiques. This is so exciting for all three of you. You are providing Heather with a great amount of support and she needs it so much right now. You are a great brother.
Hey Alex, I totally know how you feel. During Covid I’ve found two sisters through Ancestry DNA, one on mothers side that I thought I could never find, and one on fathers side that I didn’t know existed. It’s definitely crazy times for sure. Maybe one day I can meet them in person but they’re both in the south western United States and I’m in Ontario. Because I’ve known both parents and the sisters have not, I guess I’m the steward of family information too. Lots of responsibility. Thanks for sharing your story!
Isn't life exciting?! I love stories like this, and look forward to hearing, and seeing more about your family. How lucky Heather and Steven are to have a brother like you.
You are an amazing person. I was crying off and on throughout your story and then you said “my dad was very passionate…clearly” and I burst out laughing. What an incredible story. I do not understand why Heather is being “punished” for something she had no control over. Thankfully she has you which is a blessing.
Couple years ago, I had a sibling throw out some "words" during holidays about my parents. It rocked my world. It turns out they were lying but for a month or two, while waiting on genetic tests....I was in shock. I've had to forgive this sibling, but I am careful around him. I understand the repercussions of news like this. I'm glad my anchor, is my Lord and Savior. And I have an amazing husband and church family.
Wauw!!! I was thinking, the slogan in the 70's, Make Love, Not War....you, Heather and Steven are the living examples of that!! I hope Heather's parents, and Steven's mom, wil remember this too, full circle
Your a stand-up man Alex. My heart goes out to Steven. That’s a lot! Heather and Steven are very lucky to have found you as their brother. Best of luck to all of you on this new journey.
I’ve read about things like this before. I can’t imagine the panic that those DNA tests caused for people who kept secrets all those years. Imagine the dread they felt knowing everything could blow up at any time. So sad. Hopefully everything can be worked out and healed for all. Good luck
Well Alex, you are handling this life changing news in typical fashion, with welcoming understanding and acceptance! I pray your brother Steven will begin healing from the pain of the deception of the last 30 years! So hard to understand why these lies were necessary! I know you will be the best brother Heather and Steven could have ever hoped for! Keep being wonderful you because truth is ALWAYS the best policy! Two big treasured blessings in one day! Wow! Congratulations! You can do this Alex!
It's quite possible Steven's mother just took a guess at who his dad was...and guessed wrong. Sounds like they were pretty wild back then. Without DNA testing and ability to get a sample from each man she slept with around that time, how would she know for sure? Unless her son had a strong resemblance to one of the men...? But even then, if it was a one night stand and they never saw each other again, she'd just be going off memories...and possibly impaired ones at that, if she was drunk or high on drugs at the time. Maybe she picked the guy who was murdered because he was dead and couldn't share more of the truth or because her son could find his biological family easier, due to records about the murder? Who knows. I just feel bad for Steven to have believed all these years that his dad was dead, then find out he wasn't, but now it's too late to meet his real father. Also sad for him to discover the family he tried fit in with are not in fact his biological relatives. One thing I do know. He hit the jackpot with who his REAL siblings are! Heather and Alex will welcome him with open arms and do their best to comfort him through this time of processing all of this.
I am so moved by your story, Alex. Your family, old AND new, are so blessed to have you in theirs. Big hugs to you and Melissa. The two of you can do anything, and face anything, together. Godspeed.
God bless you!! We went through a similar situation in December 2020 when we learned that my husband’s sister’s dad was not my father in law. My in laws had kept this secret for over 60 years & we only found out when my MIL was dying. FIL has passed in 2014. So my SIL has a whole new family. It’s been quite a journey, especially for her, but my husband & his other sister have difficulty knowing his parents lied about their family all of his life. But if anything it has drawn us all closer.
Submitting your DNA to a genealogy can be incredibly enlightening….as long as everyone is ready for the results. I’m so excited for you and Heather and Stephen!,
I don't think everyone needs to be ready for the results. I think only you need to be ready. If your parents made mistakes that impact your life and want to hide them...too bad for them. Honesty is always the best policy. Lying to your child about who their parents are is unacceptable.
Wow, amazing story, Alex. When I was 30, I found out I had a half-sister and we've become very close over the years (we both grew up as only children). Last year, we found out we have a brother and he's lovely as well. So for 30 years I was an only child, now I have two younger siblings. Sending you much love...
Three kids that you know of!!! What an amazing start to 2022. Congratulations on selling the Potter House, I really enjoyed that whole series. Congratulations on finding another sibling, even at this late stage you can build a close familial relationship with this new brother. Great news on being able to finish your dream home as well! Love living vicariously through you.
So, after watching this video last night, I thought about you all night. One thing that stands out to me is your sweet Melissa! What quiet grace, strength & support she provides. The fact that she kept off camera to give you the space and time to share your story, but was literally an arms-length away for moral and emotional support, speaks to the wonderful person she is and the loving marriage you have. Lean on her. She is a treasure!! 💗🙏🏻😘
Just found your channel. Listening to you I understsnd the feelings you are having. I too have found 2 half siblings recently from doing Ancestry. I never knew my father,but Mum did give me a name and a little info about him, a Scottish merchant seaman she met in Victoria, Australia. I was an only child who was always interested in finding a little bit of my background, thats why I did Ancestry . Long story cut short. I have now a brother, 2 yrs younger who was adopted and a sister 4yrs younger who had 3 other siblings who have now died,which was sad to find out. We know there is another brother out there somewhere and another brother who had died also. So that makes 7 siblings, this man was definitely spreading the love around. We have been keeping in contact and we all have similar interests which I find weird and funny. We are excited to see who else is going to pop up. Have not met in person yet because of covid. Brother in New Zealand Sister in Melbourne, Australia and myself in Perth Western Australia. We are all spread out but hopefully meet this year. None of us are that young, Iam the eldest at 69, so cannot wait to have our sibling party. !!! So exciting. 😁
Alex, well I see a VDub Road Trip with your Bro and Sis in the future!! How AWESOME would that be?!? Please take your GoPro so THE BEST SUBSCRIBERS ON UA-cam, YOUR SUBSCRIBERS can join in!! Taking the time to send such heartfelt supportive comments has blown me away. YOU ARE AMAZING PEOPLE. SERIOUSLY ALL of YOU out there!! Even the Canadians.... Haha. Loved the 1/2 Canadian comment. ALL of this wouldn't exist if you bailed on your Dreams like your parents supported and instilled in you. I never thought UA-cam would introduce me to so many Cooool people that happen to be Canadian. Is it the Snow and Cold Weather?!? 😂 Perserverence. You nailed IT Brother. Thank you soooo much for your time and making this all happen. I was starting to lose Faith but you Alex and your viewer Family have changed my entire World for the BETTER with your Sincerity and Positive view on Life's winding road. I hope Steven gets to wrench a lil' on the BUS!! He probably likes Euro AAAAND Domestic also like us. 😀 KEEP UP THE HARD WORK and POSITIVELY SHARING THE GOODNESS WITH US ALL. Truly Blown Away and looking forward to your continued SUCCESS & SUPPORT. ✔
DUDE! Congratulations on all three of those things happening. 🤗 I don't think Steven understands just yet in what kind of a loving family he has landed here. AND in what kind of loving crowd that family is in too. I hope he will feel it, and I hope Heather and you guys keep feeling it. What a ride!
My dad had two other children that I met in my adulthood. It’s crazy how much my half brother and I were alike and had in common. Good luck with your new brother!
I just ran across this video and can't tell you how it hit me. I'm in my mid 60s and this same thing happened to me. I found a half sister who I absolutely love, a true instant connection. In finding her we found a half brother. A couple of years ago we found another half brother. Since then another half brother who isn't really interested. Most of us talk and share, the last one is the only one who doesn't. It's ok. My sis and I have decided the more the merrier. Some family members won't ever be ok and that's their choice but also their loss. You are only responsible for your relationship with each other. It's been 12 years now and I wouldn't trade it for anything. Just enjoy the relationship you have and how it is going to grow.
I love watching your shows but after I found this one I was completely enamored. Your story has many similarities to my life. I was told at age 21 that the father and his family were not biologically related to me. The way you described the feelings you had when you found out about your family was exactly how I felt when I was told. My mother later told me that that my real dad committed suicide before he ever knew about me. There are many other relatives who have very different stories about who he really is and could possibly still be alive somewhere in Germany. There are many other strange occurrences and stories that are a part of this and I would love to be able to put it all together somehow. Thank you for for being so open and having such a caring perspective about it all.
What a blessed man you are! Praying for healing for those who need it and I'm expecting great things this year for you and your whole extending family. The life you live is inspiring.
The thing that struck me most as I listened to your story was what Forgiveness truly is. Individuals who forgive are doing themselves the best thing they could ever do. When one forgives someone/something you are freeing yourself from continually being hurt by “whatever/whoever” PERIOD. You do this for yourself, not the other person.
I have a good feeling that all of the darkness with their family members is going to flood into this light soon, then the darkness will be overcome and love will fill their hearts. Sooner than later I hope. Life is precious, but short.
I had a rocky relationship with my Dad for many years, and bore the emotional scares from the situation for many years after he died. I have recently come to realise that what he did he did with the best of intentions, and in the only way that he could. Once I appreciated that, I suddenly realised that the emotional burden had left me, and that forgiveness had happened. I didn’t consciously ‘forgive’ my Father, it happened as a result of my change of viewpoint. It’s been an incredible realisation, and I can not move forward with a much lighter heart, truly loving my Dad.
My heart is breaking for you all.I'm living through the same situation.I only wish my brother was alive to talk to him. I'm so glad you are able to get to know your siblings.I will never understand why our families are treating us (the victims) of the situation likeit was our fault.I'm 74 and won't have the opportunity to get to know my extended family.I have given them all the info and photos I have and brought them up to date.Give yourself time to process all this.I know exactly how you feel Alexander.The blessing in all this , is that you have Melissa to help you through this. My love to all of you and your family.I also wonder if I have any more siblings.That is what happens when you have a handsome charismatic father who loves life .
That's what kills me. They make their life decisions and cover it up when it's embarrassing to save face. They get caught out, and instead of owning their mistakes, they blame the people who had no say in their decisions.
I can very much relate to all of this, because I went through a similar story myself. Two things about it do strike me: the fact that it seems vital to all of us to know our ancestry, because as long as you don't know who your mom or dad are, you feel as if you have no roots in this world, as if you don't belong...if you were adopted you live with a feeling of not being good enough. The same is true if you have a mom that was left by your biological dad because of you entering the world - and you being denied by him as a result of it. The other thing that comes to my mind immediately is the "Lying moms" ...: (I know that there are many variations of the story of course, not all involve men leaving pregnant women - but -) - It is the society that disrespected or flatout despised and mistreated unmarried pregnant women for centuries and did so up to maybe the late 1970 s - in the western society - and still does in many others societies today. These stories show the result of that hypocrisy or bigotry, the impact it has on more than "just" that child, if the society feels there is a woman to blame for a thing two people are responsible for and leave those women or girls alone with it. (And how many women have been punished for something men have been praised for over centuries.... ) Today with these stories and so many people doing dna testing to find out where their family roots origin from, we realise how deeply our society is impacted by all the hiding, lying, giving kids up for adoption and what not ... I am deeply touched by your story - and I am feeling for your "new" brother. It is so sad. - and I know you don't anyway - but we cannot actually blame his mother for something our society is to blame for too. As a matter of fact: society should realise and learn finally that we are all responsible for our children not only that one single mom. All children deserve to be welcomed and embraced with honesty and love.
I shed tears thru this whole story. You are amazing to openly welcome your new brother into your life. I share the what if’s that this man is certainly going through. Wondering what life would have been like if he been raised by your father. God bless you for being such a stellar brother to all of your half siblings. I have six of my own half siblings and have little to no relationship with them. They were all raised by our father while I lived life on the outside. It was definitely an experience meeting them all when I was 19. I wonder if I had waited until I was older if maybe we would be more inclined to get to know each other. They were all children when I first met them. I’m very excited for you, Heather and your families as you get to know the new addition to your family!!
One of the reasons why I watch your videos, is this display of a consistent character that is open, understanding and in the now. I am a Canadian living in the USA for the last 20 years, so I love listening to the accent!
This makes me cry. You are a true kind and forgiving man. Your parents did a good job raising you. I know some of these feelings and family problems. It is wonderful you can be honest about your life. This is such a lesson for your children. Bless you and your siblings. You are all very lucky to have each other. I pray that some day your oldest brother and you can come to an understanding.💞💓💗
Thank you for sharing. My husband found out at 60 that he was raised by a step-dad. His bio father had passed and his half siblings want nothing to do with him. It's hard. We didn't create this truth, but we have to live not knowing anything more than the basic info.
My mother when she was 83, yes 83 found out she has a half sister 12 years younger. From ancestry DNA. My mom was an orphan. It was so amotional when everyone met. She waited her whole life to meet her sister.
It is with mixed emotions that I congratulate you on selling Mary’s house. I wanted that house so badly, but just was not in a position to buy it at present. I had decided that, if the house sold, I was not meant to have it. I hope the new owners know and honor the story of your work on the house. How amazing that they have your UA-cam videos to follow the story. You are an amazing man and Heather and Steven are so fortunate to be a part of your life. This must be incredibly emotional for you and I admire your commitment to being a strong, supportive brother. This is definitely going to be a life changing year for you and your whole family. God bless. Thank you for continuing to share your life with us.
I can relate to everything you shared. Discovered, somewhat like you and Heather, I was not related to my family members through a 23 & Me test. My parents are both deceased and there was always a joke in the family that the reason I looked different is because the stork dropped off the wrong baby at my house or that I was adopted. I learned through DNA that my sisters are not genetically related to me, but I have over 1,000 distant relatives that connect to me through DNA but none look like me or my sisters. There are 2 elderly women who are just as dumbstruck as I am to learn we're distant cousins and none of us can figure out the common ancestry line. After reaching out to a few others and not finding the connection I gave up. I'm so glad you're discovering kind, caring family and are connecting. Maybe I too will have that experience some day. Wishing you, your immediate and your extended family many opportunities to spend time together and enjoy each other's company.
Is it possible they switched babies in the hospital? Sadly, that does happen. I don't know how old you are, but the further you go back the greater the chance of that happening. One place to look (and I don't know how you'd go about starting that process) is how many babies were born the same day or two as you, in that hospital? Where are they now? Has anyone posted anything on the internet looking for people born at that hospital at the same time? (I solved a family mystery by finding someone on the internet because they saw my question on a website and contacted me with the answer - mystery solved). Not all the answers are found in DNA. :)
@@MrsAnitaMClas I have found biological parents for others using the same method that is used in cold case crime solving, genetic genealogy. I build multiple family trees from DNA matches and then try to find where they intersect to create YOU. I do this free, for fun, kinda like solving brain teasers. If you would like me to help you, just let me know.
Alex, you are MY BROTHER too!! I have loved watching you and Melissa for about 6 months now and feel so attached! You have such a warm and honest take on life and family. Now everyone would like you to be their brother. What an interesting story with your siblings. You are just the right person to pull everyone together! And a big congratulations on selling the Potter house!
Alex, I avidly watch your videos but this one had me crying and smiling in equal measure. I sincerely hope everything works out for you all and that everyone involved learns to appreciate what a wonderful addition to the family you are. I couldn’t help but think “is there is no limit to your collecting? Cars, guitars, watches, pens, siblings!” 😉. Don’t ever stop being you Alex - we love your kindness, openness and humility. You are a rare piece and we’d all love one of you in our collection ❤️❤️❤️
My head has just exploded watching this. I wish you all good luck and strength for your journey ahead. What an absolutely unique situation you three have landed in.
Alex has a TON of other relatives in Scotland and another gaggle in Germany - one of whom you'll be delighted to hear was LEAD RAP SINGER in a band. We descend from the same "Northumberland Roots" your Dad spoke of but I appear to be the only one of us with Past Life Recall. Im proud to have remembered your Dad who was my Uncle Donnie who stepped in to help us when our father, PC James Robertson, died a most horrible & undeserved death in 1950. I'm good at DIY because Uncle Donnie delayed emigration to Canada & gave me a 1yr Apprenticeship; He taught me Trade Skills. I remember him standing at our Back Door in a black leather jacket and a flat cap. What's unusual about this is that I KNEW who his Dad was when I didn't even know who Alex was!?! I saw him onscreen and immediately thought "I bet your Dad's called DON & he always wears a black leather jacket and a flat cap" - then Don appeared alongside Alex in his car (which I thought was hilarious because at the time we had 7 Doctors in the Family and he drove an Ambulance LOL! You couldn't make it up).and there he was exactly As Described. When young he wore a black leather jacket and he still wore a flat cap. TWO men emigrated. I think they were both motorcyclists. (Me too).
In 2018 I did my Ancestry DNA and discovered an older half brother who lived in Hawaii where my Dad was stationed in the Navy before he met my Mom. It was surreal. I thought I was the oldest and turns out I have an older brother. Long story short, I told my parents, my Dad was surprised but both were accepting and my new brother and his family moved from Hawaii to Florida to live here and to spend time with my (our) Dad. We lost my Mom in 2021 and my new brother Keith being here for my Dad was a Godsend. We were blessed that everyone, even my Mom, accepted this gift of a new family member. The odd thing is, Keith is just like my Dad, they look alike and act alike and enjoy the same hobbies. But I remember the night I found out and how in shock I was and how I had no idea how to approach my parents. I stressed for days before I finally sat them down and told them. I told my new brother if another sibling pops up on Ancestry he will be the one to tell my Dad, I am not going through that again!
Every single video of yours shows that you are a decent human being! We need more people like you in the world
Mad decent
And we just found one more.
It's like winning the lotto! Sold the Potter's house, gained a brother, and bought a new project. 😎
Love your attitude, understanding and acceptance of your siblings. You are a great example to all of us, to let go of ego and have a kind heart. Love also that your Mum is so kind and accepting. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. 😉
I hope one thing comes out of these videos, the fact that honesty is always the best policy. Two peoples lives have been devastated because of lies and cover ups. Alex is such a stand up guy! If this was to happen to anyone, Alex is the guy who could handle things with grace and compassion! I hope everyone involved comes to a place of healing.
Alex, I just got acquainted with you this week. We have been snowed in so I binge watched the potters house and the musicians house. Today I listened to this. I just have to tell you that rarely in my long life have I met a person with such a good heart as yours. God bless you and help you with all these emotions. You are a truly good man.
Alex, I can't imagine a better person to be the "family steward." You are a credit to your Dad's memory and I wish you the best.
To know Alexander is to know his father.
Ditto.
You are an angel for real.
Well said.
"Life is short and you should be accepting as a human being." Truer words were never spoken, Alex Archbold.
That Heather is a lovely person speaks volumes to how she was raised. Hoping and praying her parents face reality and they make amends with her.
good point. cool channel flea. nice lamb moment there
@@pomskylifenova7344 thanks!
Alex, your honesty in a difficult situation is absolutely amazing, and I along with your many viewers are proud of you. I admire that your mom is accepting and understanding of your sharing this story. She is a wonderful woman as you know. All families have secrets that effect their children and grandkids. I can understand the biological parents wanting to keep secret somethings about their early lives, but to be angry at the child is not only sad but selfish.
I've watched this 3 times. My heart is so full for your family. Poor Steven! His emotions must be all over the place not to mention the family who thought he was part of their murdered family member. This must be so tough for him. So glad he can learn about your dad from you. He must be so torn with happiness and heartbreak
Your brother has yet to learn how what a wonderful person has come into his life. To have Alex for a brother is a true blessing!
You can’t choose what challenges that come in life, however you can choose how you respond to them. Your doing it right, I wish all involved could do the same
Maybe Steven’s biological mom didn’t know who his actual father was?🙃
@@viviannefraser5974 or she knew and did not want to go through the nightmare of naming a living father.
I worked in child support enforcement and would see women name many men to avoid naming the actual father for many reasons.
@@viviannefraser5974 Maybe she assumed it was her steady bf at the time. Maybe she didn't realize she was raped at that party.
@@1962pjh . I don't usually comment on negative people in the comment section but... To throw out an accusation like that without any inkling of that or anything nefarious at all...is PATHETIC!
@@viviannefraser5974 I thought that, too, maybe. Surely she wouldn't have wanted her son to go through meeting that other family and everything on purpose.
Heather's parents seem to be blaming her for something she had absolutely no control over. Life is too short for those petty things. You will be an awesome steward of the family legacy. Congratulations. I'm happy for you, Heather, and Steven. And your kids get a new uncle! Everything for God's purpose. Your life is never dull. Blessings for all.
Agreed. They are the ones that have been lying/covering up/not acknowledging life changing information - not her - and as a result is has defrayed the family. Mistakes are made, it happens to us all. But to blame Heather for it?Shame on them.
They are mad at her for breaking open the egg they made silent, and exposed their own family to shame and . They are angry because their child shattered the shell and exposed their "dirty little lies". Poor child. They want to make ethe child suffer for exposing their lies, not for the heartache they are causing.
They seem soo mean . Some people like to blame others, instead of looking at themselves. It's a real shame.
They can blame 23&1, for exposing the family secrets, not Heather. It's not her fault at all.
I feel for you all. I have a similar situation with a sister younger than me and a brother older than me. Our mom was not a very happy person in the 60's and early 70's. She was very young. On her senior high school photo besides her name, I guess the question asked was "what do you want to be"...and she said "Happy". I'm so thankful we finally found one another because that feeling of not belonging had haunted me throughout my life. Now I feel complete even through the unknowing years....those hurting and searching years. Bless you and yours...especially Steven, who finally has a bio family now and can belong.
When I was 17 my mother admitted to my brother, sister, and me that she had given birth to a son at the age of 15. She worried we would be upset. We were amazed and thrilled! Unfortunately, he never sought my mother out so we have never had the privilege to meet him. But, if he ever does, I will welcome him with open arms.
Have you taken a dna test though? What if he has tried to find you but the paper trail is not helping him? You have to help him by uploading to dna to different data bases.
Thank you for sharing. As an adopted person I have been hesitating on the 23 and me test I have sitting on my house. You have presented some new perspective that makes me feel more open to what results I might get. I think I've decided to send it in.
Good luck to you, and may you find what you are looking for.
Adoption happens out of hardship and many times people have matured from those circumstances but some times they haven’t. Hope for the best, brace for the worst, accept it for what it is and know that you tried. 💛
Susan: Please, guard your heart. The results could be an Alex', or it could be Heather's, or it could go really badly.
My heart goes out to you, Heather, and Steven. I pray that the extended family who are having issues with these developments figure out how wrong it is to punish the children for decisions their parents made.
I will pray for you all that you are able come together as siblings and develop an even stronger family.
@@heidifritz3053 Because we don't know the whole story. Maybe the mom's are protecting the children by keeping the real story from them.
@@1962pjh Except that rarely works, and when the truth comes out it's ridiculous to blame the kids for what you did. That's what's wrong. They're basically blaming Heather for being born.
yes! I thought why in God's creation is it the child's fault? Its the sins of the parent not the innocent child...prayers to you all
I await for the story of forgiveness, growth, love and restoration. Amazing how God's timing is perfect 💖
Really maybe there angry because it’s all over you tube doesn’t anyone see a problem with this
I love how accepting you are of this new sibling. My family just went through the same thing in the summer of 2019. We found a half sister that lives out on the west coast and we're all from the east coast. Since both of our parents had passed on, us 7 siblings opened our arms and hearts to this woman who had been searching for the last 30 years of her life for any clue to her biological parents. Our parents were married with 4 children around the time she was born so it hurt our oldest sister more to find out. Because of covid, we haven't met yet but are in constant contact with her and shower her with love. All things pass and we, as a family, chose to accept and welcome a lost sibling into the fold.
I would only imagine that something like your story should only ever be exactly as you explained it in your comment.
Of course for any child to find out that their parent(s) were not as monogamous or honest as they believed them to be. Even more so if they have passed before any thing comes to light thus not allowing anyone to get the story or facts from them directly.
But in no way should a child now adult be treated in a bad or negative way . Simply because they had no choice or voice in the situation.
They are only the outcome of a choice made by someone else in the past should they have been a child, teen, or adult at the time of those choices and actions....
...when I grow up I want to be just like you...I'm 74...you're my hero...God bless you and your family...
Wow! Steven and Heather are so blessed to have found you as a brother. You are kind, generous and loving. I would warn you to watch out for pitfalls in all of this. Such events can leave someone traumatized and emotionally vulnerable.
God bless you all as you navigate these waters.
What an absolutely crazy story. It's just nuts how many lives can be effected by one e-mail. Just one revelation and the same news hits the people involved completely different ways. For your new brother Steven, what a sad and tragic story about the lie he was told about his birth father. Alex, I hope you and he can build a nice relationship with him in the same way that you and Heather have. You are SUCH an amazing person and Steven is lucky to have found you. I wish you all the best of luck in this new relationship. And, if Steven allows it, I can't wait to meet him here on your channel! ❤️
It looks like The Foundling story, the real Paul Fronczak who was told his father didn’t love him and grew with that resentment all his life till months before dying.
It is a crazy story, but it is exactly the story that was supposed to happen. So amazing.
The birth mother could have been in a relationship with the other guy when she had "contact" with Alex's father and then presumed that he was the father. That's why Alex should have maybe taken a bit more time to work all this out and not post it to the whole world after just one phone call with the new found brother.
Happy New year to you all and what a year it's going to be!! Good luck with everything, love the videos you do.
@@lyndaf.6329 yeah, this is easily what the case was. His family had contact with Steven, so it sounds like it was definitely possible she thought it was him.
I am 65 and an adopted adult. I was adopted in 1956 and there are many different stories and as unique as each person. Cudos for you. The acceptance you are ready to give is great. It is not something a lot of non adopted people have. My half siblings found me before there was DNA. Did DNA last year and boy the surprises that were uncovered. Thankfully I belong to an online support group and they have helped me very much by being there for me. I think you realize that there is trauma in adoption and we each cope with that differently and are in different stages. Just be patient. Some are jealous of the sibling that got kept an raised with the parent. Some don't. The birth father I thought I had turned out not to be my birth father. I have reached out to the family of the man that shows up on my DNA but have not heard back from them and have no clue if I ever will. He likely didn't know. I applaud you for being so open and accepting.
Alex, I just want to say from the bottom of my heart as a Christian. That you really shine as a man God loves people like you. You help make the world a little better place by the way you conduct yourself as you do. God bless you this world would be a better place with more people such as yourself. God bless all of your beautiful family.
Sincerely-Justin
WOWZA! The last time I tuned in, you were cleaning out a hoarders house, that was about 4 years ago and tonight I just came across this video. I enjoy watching you speak as you remind me of my brother. I do sincerely hope all this goes well for you, and you get to smell the roses.
Boy, you have a huge heart! What a mature and loving evaluation of their and your life with them. What you feel and what you are doing is 100% right. I can't imagine how you feel, but part of has to feel great. You talk about curiosity (inc.)! I'm so glad for you and your family. It's also OK to get a little misty eyed about this. Good on ya' cowboy!
Congratulations on the Potters House sale and congrats to you and Heather on finding your new brother. He is a lucky guy. Look forward to meeting him on one of your vlogs in the future!
Oh 1970’s what a decade well done you for being so loving and embracing the truth. Mad respect to you for how you are handling this.
I was a teenager in the 70's and remember several friends getting pregnant in just the way you said- partying! They were kids and did not have any future insight into what they were doing at a party for teens. They were just having fun. There was lots of drinking and some people with drugs. Add to that mix the raging hormones and you know what comes next. One friend got pregnant twice- by twin brothers! Another got pregnant three times. So, then they were faced with three options- keep the baby, put up the baby for adoption, or abortion. Some of them faced years of regret, therapy and depression from those teenage parties. Keeping a baby while not married was not accepted then as it is today. Adoption was an answer, but still heart-breaking for all involved. And, abortion left very deep emotional scars for some. Also, it was prior to the AIDS epidemic, so drunk kids were not always careful. Anyway, I would forgive the decisions that kids made 50 years ago and just move on with the wonderful news that there is a new brother in the mix. Congratulations on that!
Alex, I’m at a loss for words. When I got to about the 28 minute mark I was almost in tears. My heart and thoughts are with you as you go through this exciting and eventful journey of your life. I especially feel for Steven as he deals with what he went through the last 30 years of a lie. Thank you for sharing!!! Love your family tons!!
I am so glad that I recently found ur interesting channel...my respect and admiration for you has gone up 100 % with ur family story.. your brother and sister r so lucky to have found you....you will be your brother's mentor as u go thru ur life's journey together...all ready the bond is there with ur mutual love of old cars..antiques..etc...how amazing is that...u not only made ur new found siblings a brother but u have made them aunt and uncle!!! U said it well when u mentioned your lives coming full circle....thank u for such an honest..heart warming story....congratulations on ur growing 👪 family!!!!
@GREAT AWAKENING TEAM DENMARK why do you say that?
I have never understood why people try to hide their backgrounds. I know my dad "dated" a lot, who cares. I've always said that we probably have other siblings. I would like to meet them if there are any.
Once again, you show the best of humanity....so much compassion and caring. So admire you, Alex.
What a crazy new adventure this is! Find a sister renovating the Potter's house and find a brother selling it. Mary did bring you more then subscribers on You Tube.
Hadn’t seen that connection
What a awesome thought. I love it.
Yep buying a VW van can be life changing alright... finding out you have an older sibling a mere bump in the road of life...it's all perspective and how you approach life that makes the difference...and you my friend no doubt have the right approach and the proper perspective...
My only sister called me some years ago and during our conversation she asked me if I have a copy of my birth certificate I said I believe so...she insisted I get it...so I got it located and got back on the phone...she says okay now read it to me...so I did...she says okay now read the names on it again...so I did...she says okay now what's Mom's name...I said her name she says yes that's right but what's your birth certificate say...I was stunned my Mom had signed my birth certificate with an alias...then my sister proceeded to tell me that my Dad may not be my Dad and that's why he was abusive to you and why she signed it using an alias and that's why she treated you like she did...both of them are deceased now...on their joint headstone it's his name and her alias...there's more to the story...there always is...the best thing for all involved is to be forgiving and move forward...cause Life is short don't waste energy on hate or hateful people... they have their own rewards... don't make theirs yours...Numbers 6:24-26
@@CuriosityIncorporated Just found your video and am new to your channel..and before I wrote my comment I wanted to see if you actually answer anyone here. And THIS is the only comment I see you answering after scrolling forever. All these people making such generous and kind comments to you and you don't have the time nor decency to answer even half of them back. What a friggin douchebag you are. First and last time wasting my time on your channel. 👎
Alex you are the right person to guide Heather and Steven through the uncharted waters that may come. You are a loving, caring, intelligent man who along with Melissa have raised 3 wonderful children. I wish you well in whatever
situation you find yourself in because I know you always do your best. Congratulations on finding out you have
a brother!🥰
It seems to me that Heather, Steven and yourself have integrity and have the COURAGE to live truthfully. The common thread there is your Dad’s DNA! He obviously was a very DECENT human being! Just because he impregnated a few people takes NOTHING away from him! There were TWO people having consensual sex and when you’re young “consequences” is not a word in your vocabulary, ESPECIALLY in that era! I love you all and I love how incredibly BRAVE you are to live your truth and embrace your heritage and not WASTE the opportunity! God Bless you all!
So many chills, Alex! I am "chuffed" for you. And SO excited for Heather and Steven! I am sure your dad is on the other side orchestrating this!
The world needs more people like Alex. I appreciate your heart. It comes through so loud and clear in this video. So grounded and caring.
It’s interesting that the prior generation that created these issues are mad at the generation that is the result of said issues. Also congrats on the Potters house. I have enjoyed watching you work and fix it up.
This is weird! And more with all the religious stuff they always have at hand… till a sibling shows up!! Zero consistency!!
Wow. I feel badly for your brother Steven. Having been misled, he missed the opportunity to know your dad. He's found that he's part of a great and loving family, though, and that is wonderful. Human beings are so freakin' complicated. Who knows why people lie about the things they lie about. There's so much unnecessary sadness and drama. Also, I am completely jealous about the VW van. My dad was a total VW gearhead and career military. We had a '72 VW bus, red and white, that my dad customized with 7 yellow ducks painted on the side, one for each kid. I'd give anything to have that bus back. Hope you enjoy renovating yours!
Wow, I was left after I was born, from one foster home to another, never really knowing who I was ! Then last year I took a DNA test found out my father was in the Navy ( world war 2 and my mom was a WAC , grandfather was a doctor!! I was very hurt that no one wanted me, but I'm over it !! I found out a lot more !!!! I know how you feel, ( kind of )!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing....you are truly helping me and maybe others to understand and move forward. It's a blessing. 🙏
Everything good Steven and Heather could ever realize about their father they will learn simply by knowing you, Alexander. Everything good in him is in full effect through the essence of who you are.
beautifully said
Well said!
Absolutely
Congratulations on finding more family.
🙏🙏 Prayers for family reconciliation & healing 🙏🙏
May the Lord bless each of you - every family member whose life will be changed by this new knowledge. May you be comforted, strengthened, enriched. May the bonds that are being twisted and stretched not be broken. May hearts be softened with love so you can grow and know one another.
Hang in there, Alexander. And Heather. And now Steven.
Wow! You put into words what my heart is feeling.💖
Well, that’s quite a kick in the shorts. What a lucky couple of half-siblings to have you in the mix. The triumphant trio! Sharing your life is a fortunate opportunity for Heather & Steven to get to know you, Melissa, & your children. You seem shell-shocked & hopefully talking to us will help you, & your new family members, process all the news. You have such a kind heart & I hope for the best for all of you.
Yes, wild & free through through the early 70's. After into the Air Force in: More wild & truly free. Did 7 years and loved every minute of it. You are a good man Alex. That is a very sad story of your new brother. Get together with him & new sis.
The light of your goodness just shines so brightly❣️
Don’t ever change!
You are a special force in this world. So happy that I share it with you and your lovely family 🤗👏🏻😉
From personal experience I know it can be difficult to open up to anyone outside your family in this type of situation. Up until I was 17, I was told my parents had a son but he was stillborn. I don’t remember the reason why but at 17 I learned that was very much alive and living 20 miles from us. That was 48 years ago and much has happened between him, our sister and me. One thing I learned and you mentioned- I’m not responsible for someone else’s actions 70+ years ago, just keep looking ahead. All the best luck yo you, Heather and Steven on this journey. ❤️❤️
I cannot imagine how Steven is feeling about all this and what he went through. Although I'm sure he can take comfort in knowing, through you, what a wonderful man his biological father was. I feel in some ways, this will give him much relief. I'm glad that he has you and Heather, two wonderful siblings, that anyone would be proud to have.
Congrats to you all though, as I feel all three of you needed this at this point in your lives.
Also, congrats on the sale of the Potter house.
And an amazing wife who recognized what a wonderful partner is when she married Alex.
I actually am crying for you & your siblings. You have always put family 1st & this is such a blessing for all three of you. It really does make me so happy for Heather & Steven they have you as their brother.
Of all the people to have as a brother, Steven is very blessed that it's you Alex. If everyone could be as open, loving, honest and passionate as you are the world would surely be a wonderful place.
Alex;love your channel and family, I’m 70 now and can tell you about 1969 (the year of Woodstock) and 1970, every hippy was hitchhiking,thousands of hippies, we hitched from Chicago to LA because it was the free and easy life , other hippies would pick you up and lots of hippie chicks out there and free love was just a way of expressing your life ☮️ style, all of you came from peace and love, and a little weed too Good luck with the new hippie van too, will need a ☮️ sign on the back and a 🌸 an the back
Amazing! The guy that makes strangers, who are alone and struggling, feel loved and cared for, finds out he has another brother out there in the world. Wow, if anyone deserves to have more people to love and call their own, it’s you, Alex! You are a living example that what a person sends out in the world, comes back to them twofold. Congratulations on your new brother!🎆🎇
I totally agree!
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As we age, we realize how very important FAMILY is. How thrilling this must be to gain another sibling. Continued prayers for Heather! I am sure you both will welcome your new sibling with open arms. I personally think Steven has hit the jackpot in the family department!
Jackpot: at long last Steven finds his real family and that’s a good thing! 🤩
As I've aged, I've realised how messed up and abusive the people in my family are and how important it is for me to get the hell away from them so I can heal myself
@@scandisnowgirl3696 same, but I adopted a brother and he adopted me as a sister. Family is important, but only we can decide who -at the end- is our family.
Wow! That’s heavy!
But what a treasure to find family!
To sell the Potter’s house!
To buy a van to refurbish!
This bodes WELL for your 2022!!!
I am happy for you! 😊❤️🎶🇨🇦🙏
Good for you for keeping your heart open!
It’s a gift!
I just got chills when you mentioned the cars and antiques. This is so exciting for all three of you. You are providing Heather with a great amount of support and she needs it so much right now. You are a great brother.
Hey Alex, I totally know how you feel. During Covid I’ve found two sisters through Ancestry DNA, one on mothers side that I thought I could never find, and one on fathers side that I didn’t know existed. It’s definitely crazy times for sure. Maybe one day I can meet them in person but they’re both in the south western United States and I’m in Ontario. Because I’ve known both parents and the sisters have not, I guess I’m the steward of family information too. Lots of responsibility. Thanks for sharing your story!
I hope Steven’s Mother genuinely believed his father was the unfortunate murder victim and did not intentionally tell him a falsehood 😟
Isn't life exciting?! I love stories like this, and look forward to hearing, and seeing more about your family. How lucky Heather and Steven are to have a brother like you.
You are an amazing person. I was crying off and on throughout your story and then you said “my dad was very passionate…clearly” and I burst out laughing. What an incredible story. I do not understand why Heather is being “punished” for something she had no control over. Thankfully she has you which is a blessing.
Couple years ago, I had a sibling throw out some "words" during holidays about my parents. It rocked my world. It turns out they were lying but for a month or two, while waiting on genetic tests....I was in shock. I've had to forgive this sibling, but I am careful around him. I understand the repercussions of news like this. I'm glad my anchor, is my Lord and Savior. And I have an amazing husband and church family.
Wauw!!! I was thinking, the slogan in the 70's, Make Love, Not War....you, Heather and Steven are the living examples of that!! I hope Heather's parents, and Steven's mom, wil remember this too, full circle
Your a stand-up man Alex. My heart goes out to Steven. That’s a lot! Heather and Steven are very lucky to have found you as their brother. Best of luck to all of you on this new journey.
I’ve read about things like this before. I can’t imagine the panic that those DNA tests caused for people who kept secrets all those years. Imagine the dread they felt knowing everything could blow up at any time. So sad. Hopefully everything can be worked out and healed for all. Good luck
I love the way you, Steven and Heather are handling all this. My prayers and best for all of you.
Oh goodness my heart just hurts for Steven, he's got a lot to process
Your Mom and Dad sound wonderful. Your character shows the truth of who you are. Opening your arms to your family. May God continue to bless you 🙏
Your Dad was awesome Sir, No judgement! He raised quite a man! As a father myself, we all try our best!
Well Alex, you are handling this life changing news in typical fashion, with welcoming understanding and acceptance! I pray your brother Steven will begin healing from the pain of the deception of the last 30 years! So hard to understand why these lies were necessary! I know you will be the best brother Heather and Steven could have ever hoped for! Keep being wonderful you because truth is ALWAYS the best policy! Two big treasured blessings in one day! Wow! Congratulations! You can do this Alex!
It's quite possible Steven's mother just took a guess at who his dad was...and guessed wrong. Sounds like they were pretty wild back then. Without DNA testing and ability to get a sample from each man she slept with around that time, how would she know for sure? Unless her son had a strong resemblance to one of the men...? But even then, if it was a one night stand and they never saw each other again, she'd just be going off memories...and possibly impaired ones at that, if she was drunk or high on drugs at the time. Maybe she picked the guy who was murdered because he was dead and couldn't share more of the truth or because her son could find his biological family easier, due to records about the murder? Who knows. I just feel bad for Steven to have believed all these years that his dad was dead, then find out he wasn't, but now it's too late to meet his real father. Also sad for him to discover the family he tried fit in with are not in fact his biological relatives.
One thing I do know. He hit the jackpot with who his REAL siblings are! Heather and Alex will welcome him with open arms and do their best to comfort him through this time of processing all of this.
I am so moved by your story, Alex. Your family, old AND new, are so blessed to have you in theirs. Big hugs to you and Melissa. The two of you can do anything, and face anything, together. Godspeed.
God bless you!! We went through a similar situation in December 2020 when we learned that my husband’s sister’s dad was not my father in law. My in laws had kept this secret for over 60 years & we only found out when my MIL was dying. FIL has passed in 2014. So my SIL has a whole new family. It’s been quite a journey, especially for her, but my husband & his other sister have difficulty knowing his parents lied about their family all of his life. But if anything it has drawn us all closer.
How awesome funding out you have a brother! I can’t wait to watch more. These siblings will be blessed and their lives enriched by knowing you❤️
Submitting your DNA to a genealogy can be incredibly enlightening….as long as everyone is ready for the results. I’m so excited for you and Heather and Stephen!,
I don't think everyone needs to be ready for the results. I think only you need to be ready. If your parents made mistakes that impact your life and want to hide them...too bad for them. Honesty is always the best policy. Lying to your child about who their parents are is unacceptable.
Wow, amazing story, Alex. When I was 30, I found out I had a half-sister and we've become very close over the years (we both grew up as only children). Last year, we found out we have a brother and he's lovely as well. So for 30 years I was an only child, now I have two younger siblings. Sending you much love...
Three kids that you know of!!! What an amazing start to 2022. Congratulations on selling the Potter House, I really enjoyed that whole series. Congratulations on finding another sibling, even at this late stage you can build a close familial relationship with this new brother. Great news on being able to finish your dream home as well! Love living vicariously through you.
So, after watching this video last night, I thought about you all night. One thing that stands out to me is your sweet Melissa! What quiet grace, strength & support she provides. The fact that she kept off camera to give you the space and time to share your story, but was literally an arms-length away for moral and emotional support, speaks to the wonderful person she is and the loving marriage you have. Lean on her. She is a treasure!! 💗🙏🏻😘
Just found your channel. Listening to you I understsnd the feelings you are having. I too have found 2 half siblings recently from doing Ancestry. I never knew my father,but Mum did give me a name and a little info about him, a Scottish merchant seaman she met in Victoria, Australia. I was an only child who was always interested in finding a little bit of my background, thats why I did Ancestry . Long story cut short. I have now a brother, 2 yrs younger who was adopted and a sister 4yrs younger who had 3 other siblings who have now died,which was sad to find out. We know there is another brother out there somewhere and another brother who had died also. So that makes 7 siblings, this man was definitely spreading the love around. We have been keeping in contact and we all have similar interests which I find weird and funny. We are excited to see who else is going to pop up. Have not met in person yet because of covid. Brother in New Zealand Sister in Melbourne, Australia and myself in Perth Western Australia. We are all spread out but hopefully meet this year. None of us are that young, Iam the eldest at 69, so cannot wait to have our sibling party. !!! So exciting. 😁
sounds exciting! Wish you the best!
Warning: it's addicting!!!
Alex, well I see a VDub Road Trip with your Bro and Sis in the future!! How AWESOME would that be?!? Please take your GoPro so THE BEST SUBSCRIBERS ON UA-cam, YOUR SUBSCRIBERS can join in!! Taking the time to send such heartfelt supportive comments has blown me away. YOU ARE AMAZING PEOPLE. SERIOUSLY ALL of YOU out there!! Even the Canadians.... Haha. Loved the 1/2 Canadian comment. ALL of this wouldn't exist if you bailed on your Dreams like your parents supported and instilled in you. I never thought UA-cam would introduce me to so many Cooool people that happen to be Canadian. Is it the Snow and Cold Weather?!? 😂 Perserverence. You nailed IT Brother. Thank you soooo much for your time and making this all happen. I was starting to lose Faith but you Alex and your viewer Family have changed my entire World for the BETTER with your Sincerity and Positive view on Life's winding road. I hope Steven gets to wrench a lil' on the BUS!! He probably likes Euro AAAAND Domestic also like us. 😀 KEEP UP THE HARD WORK and POSITIVELY SHARING THE GOODNESS WITH US ALL. Truly Blown Away and looking forward to your continued SUCCESS & SUPPORT. ✔
DUDE! Congratulations on all three of those things happening.
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I don't think Steven understands just yet in what kind of a loving family he has landed here. AND in what kind of loving crowd that family is in too. I hope he will feel it, and I hope Heather and you guys keep feeling it.
What a ride!
By sharing your stories, you impart your kindness to us. We are all better people for your acts of love and kindness.
My dad had two other children that I met in my adulthood. It’s crazy how much my half brother and I were alike and had in common. Good luck with your new brother!
I just ran across this video and can't tell you how it hit me. I'm in my mid 60s and this same thing happened to me. I found a half sister who I absolutely love, a true instant connection. In finding her we found a half brother. A couple of years ago we found another half brother. Since then another half brother who isn't really interested. Most of us talk and share, the last one is the only one who doesn't. It's ok. My sis and I have decided the more the merrier. Some family members won't ever be ok and that's their choice but also their loss. You are only responsible for your relationship with each other. It's been 12 years now and I wouldn't trade it for anything. Just enjoy the relationship you have and how it is going to grow.
I love watching your shows but after I found this one I was completely enamored. Your story has many similarities to my life. I was told at age 21 that the father and his family were not biologically related to me. The way you described the feelings you had when you found out about your family was exactly how I felt when I was told. My mother later told me that that my real dad committed suicide before he ever knew about me. There are many other relatives who have very different stories about who he really is and could possibly still be alive somewhere in Germany. There are many other strange occurrences and stories that are a part of this and I would love to be able to put it all together somehow. Thank you for for being so open and having such a caring perspective about it all.
What a blessed man you are! Praying for healing for those who need it and I'm expecting great things this year for you and your whole extending family. The life you live is inspiring.
Amen!
The thing that struck me most as I listened to your story was what Forgiveness truly is. Individuals who forgive are doing themselves the best thing they could ever do. When one forgives someone/something you are freeing yourself from continually being hurt by “whatever/whoever” PERIOD. You do this for yourself, not the other person.
Yes when you forgive you free a prisoner, yourself.
I have a good feeling that all of the darkness with their family members is going to flood into this light soon, then the darkness will be overcome and love will fill their hearts. Sooner than later I hope. Life is precious, but short.
I had a rocky relationship with my Dad for many years, and bore the emotional scares from the situation for many years after he died. I have recently come to realise that what he did he did with the best of intentions, and in the only way that he could. Once I appreciated that, I suddenly realised that the emotional burden had left me, and that forgiveness had happened. I didn’t consciously ‘forgive’ my Father, it happened as a result of my change of viewpoint. It’s been an incredible realisation, and I can not move forward with a much lighter heart, truly loving my Dad.
My heart is breaking for you all.I'm living through the same situation.I only wish my brother was alive to talk to him. I'm so glad you are able to get to know your siblings.I will never understand why our families are treating us (the victims) of the situation likeit was our fault.I'm 74 and won't have the opportunity to get to know my extended family.I have given them all the info and photos I have and brought them up to date.Give yourself time to process all this.I know exactly how you feel Alexander.The blessing in all this , is that you have Melissa to help you through this. My love to all of you and your family.I also wonder if I have any more siblings.That is what happens when you have a handsome charismatic father who loves life .
I’m so sorry you went through this your whole life.
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That's what kills me. They make their life decisions and cover it up when it's embarrassing to save face. They get caught out, and instead of owning their mistakes, they blame the people who had no say in their decisions.
Bless your heart Alex ... I pray this new, old, sibling will be a family member that will enrich your life in the best way possible.
I can very much relate to all of this, because I went through a similar story myself. Two things about it do strike me: the fact that it seems vital to all of us to know our ancestry, because as long as you don't know who your mom or dad are, you feel as if you have no roots in this world, as if you don't belong...if you were adopted you live with a feeling of not being good enough. The same is true if you have a mom that was left by your biological dad because of you entering the world - and you being denied by him as a result of it.
The other thing that comes to my mind immediately is the "Lying moms" ...: (I know that there are many variations of the story of course, not all involve men leaving pregnant women - but -) - It is the society that disrespected or flatout despised and mistreated unmarried pregnant women for centuries and did so up to maybe the late 1970 s - in the western society - and still does in many others societies today. These stories show the result of that hypocrisy or bigotry, the impact it has on more than "just" that child, if the society feels there is a woman to blame for a thing two people are responsible for and leave those women or girls alone with it. (And how many women have been punished for something men have been praised for over centuries.... ) Today with these stories and so many people doing dna testing to find out where their family roots origin from, we realise how deeply our society is impacted by all the hiding, lying, giving kids up for adoption and what not ... I am deeply touched by your story - and I am feeling for your "new" brother. It is so sad. - and I know you don't anyway - but we cannot actually blame his mother for something our society is to blame for too. As a matter of fact: society should realise and learn finally that we are all responsible for our children not only that one single mom. All children deserve to be welcomed and embraced with honesty and love.
You have a pure soul! Very happy for you! For those that can’t except it’s their loss.
I shed tears thru this whole story. You are amazing to openly welcome your new brother into your life. I share the what if’s that this man is certainly going through. Wondering what life would have been like if he been raised by your father. God bless you for being such a stellar brother to all of your half siblings. I have six of my own half siblings and have little to no relationship with them. They were all raised by our father while I lived life on the outside. It was definitely an experience meeting them all when I was 19. I wonder if I had waited until I was older if maybe we would be more inclined to get to know each other. They were all children when I first met them. I’m very excited for you, Heather and your families as you get to know the new addition to your family!!
One of the reasons why I watch your videos, is this display of a consistent character that is open, understanding and in the now. I am a Canadian living in the USA for the last 20 years, so I love listening to the accent!
This makes me cry. You are a true kind and forgiving man. Your parents did a good job raising you. I know some of these feelings and family problems. It is wonderful you can be honest about your life. This is such a lesson for your children. Bless you and your siblings. You are all very lucky to have each other. I pray that some day your oldest brother and you can come to an understanding.💞💓💗
Thank you for sharing. My husband found out at 60 that he was raised by a step-dad. His bio father had passed and his half siblings want nothing to do with him. It's hard. We didn't create this truth, but we have to live not knowing anything more than the basic info.
What a blessing for all of you to have found the truth and each other.
My mother when she was 83, yes 83 found out she has a half sister 12 years younger. From ancestry DNA. My mom was an orphan. It was so amotional when everyone met. She waited her whole life to meet her sister.
It is with mixed emotions that I congratulate you on selling Mary’s house. I wanted that house so badly, but just was not in a position to buy it at present. I had decided that, if the house sold, I was not meant to have it. I hope the new owners know and honor the story of your work on the house. How amazing that they have your UA-cam videos to follow the story.
You are an amazing man and Heather and Steven are so fortunate to be a part of your life. This must be incredibly emotional for you and I admire your commitment to being a strong, supportive brother.
This is definitely going to be a life changing year for you and your whole family. God bless. Thank you for continuing to share your life with us.
Such graceful sentiments 💌
@@frankiedominguez1872 thank you
I'm sorry you didn't get the house, but you may yet. You never know. Most people now don't keep a house for more than 5 years before they move on.
Pamela, I hope you find somewhere just as perfect for you when the timing is right 🍀🍀🍀
I am so happy for you and I can see the happiness in your face. Your a wonderful family and deserve all the best.
I can relate to everything you shared. Discovered, somewhat like you and Heather, I was not related to my family members through a 23 & Me test. My parents are both deceased and there was always a joke in the family that the reason I looked different is because the stork dropped off the wrong baby at my house or that I was adopted. I learned through DNA that my sisters are not genetically related to me, but I have over 1,000 distant relatives that connect to me through DNA but none look like me or my sisters. There are 2 elderly women who are just as dumbstruck as I am to learn we're distant cousins and none of us can figure out the common ancestry line. After reaching out to a few others and not finding the connection I gave up. I'm so glad you're discovering kind, caring family and are connecting. Maybe I too will have that experience some day. Wishing you, your immediate and your extended family many opportunities to spend time together and enjoy each other's company.
Is it possible they switched babies in the hospital? Sadly, that does happen. I don't know how old you are, but the further you go back the greater the chance of that happening. One place to look (and I don't know how you'd go about starting that process) is how many babies were born the same day or two as you, in that hospital? Where are they now? Has anyone posted anything on the internet looking for people born at that hospital at the same time? (I solved a family mystery by finding someone on the internet because they saw my question on a website and contacted me with the answer - mystery solved). Not all the answers are found in DNA. :)
Hire a genealogist that works with dna
@@MrsAnitaMClas I have found biological parents for others using the same method that is used in cold case crime solving, genetic genealogy. I build multiple family trees from DNA matches and then try to find where they intersect to create YOU. I do this free, for fun, kinda like solving brain teasers. If you would like me to help you, just let me know.
With "work" you can find them. Also uncles, aunts, nephews, etc,
Alex, you are MY BROTHER too!! I have loved watching you and Melissa for about 6 months now and feel so attached! You have such a warm and honest take on life and family. Now everyone would like you to be their brother. What an interesting story with your siblings. You are just the right person to pull everyone together! And a big congratulations on selling the Potter house!
Alex, I avidly watch your videos but this one had me crying and smiling in equal measure.
I sincerely hope everything works out for you all and that everyone involved learns to appreciate what a wonderful addition to the family you are.
I couldn’t help but think “is there is no limit to your collecting? Cars, guitars, watches, pens, siblings!” 😉.
Don’t ever stop being you Alex - we love your kindness, openness and humility. You are a rare piece and we’d all love one of you in our collection ❤️❤️❤️
My head has just exploded watching this. I wish you all good luck and strength for your journey ahead. What an absolutely unique situation you three have landed in.
I SWEAR I AM SO GLAD I FOUND THIS CHANNEL....I ABSOLUTELY ADORE YOU & YOUR HEART. GOD BLESS U & YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY HONEY 💛
Alex has a TON of other relatives in Scotland and another gaggle in Germany - one of whom you'll be delighted to hear was LEAD RAP SINGER in a band. We descend from the same "Northumberland Roots" your Dad spoke of but I appear to be the only one of us with Past Life Recall. Im proud to have remembered your Dad who was my Uncle Donnie who stepped in to help us when our father, PC James Robertson, died a most horrible & undeserved death in 1950. I'm good at DIY because Uncle Donnie delayed emigration to Canada & gave me a 1yr Apprenticeship; He taught me Trade Skills. I remember him standing at our Back Door in a black leather jacket and a flat cap. What's unusual about this is that I KNEW who his Dad was when I didn't even know who Alex was!?! I saw him onscreen and immediately thought "I bet your Dad's called DON & he always wears a black leather jacket and a flat cap" - then Don appeared alongside Alex in his car (which I thought was hilarious because at the time we had 7 Doctors in the Family and he drove an Ambulance LOL! You couldn't make it up).and there he was exactly As Described. When young he wore a black leather jacket and he still wore a flat cap. TWO men emigrated. I think they were both motorcyclists. (Me too).