RIGHT?! It's giving religious cult and/or Mormons with all those damn kids. She can barely form her words, so they clearly didn't prioritize her education.
Right. Never even had to pay a bill yet telling grown folks what they should be able to afford. She sitting up listening to her well off, probably conservative parents and just repeating the brainwashing.
The second girl came from a house with money because the first girl was using studies to explain her facts while the second girl tried to excuse it by using her own experience. Your experience is not everyone's experience.
most upper class whites the grand parents are footing the bill for adult kids ie down payments for homes, cell phone, car note and paying kids daycare and tuition that how theyre survivng they keep that secret they have generational wealth and inheritance middle class is over 250k most americans are working class they are as far away from middle as possible
I grew up privileged, but my mom would've snatched me bald-headed if I ever gave this take. She grew up the youngest in a dirt poor family, so she made sure we didn't grow up spoiled.
Yep, she’s speaking from her feelings. Childlike. Maybe her parents supported her a little TOO much. They should prep us for the real world, not whatever this is… I feel bad for Emma
Poor child literally began with saying she was going to purposefully exclude the very existence of people who defy her example in order to try and sharpen a rather dull point.
Not really. Poverty and the reasons why it exists is a complex issue and she knew she didn't have the tools to address it, so she excluded it. Yet, everyone is still in an uproar over what she said. If you're not in poverty, and you choose to make more people, you need a plan and priorities and it can be done without struggle. How is this unattainable and impossible to comprehend?
@@unabashed Because you don't even need to be in poverty to be unable to afford kids. I'm not in poverty, and I almost shit over my cat's ER bill. She is excluding a massive amount of people, poverty and lower middle class, which unfortunately proves exactly how expensive children are.
@dontaycalvin7105 girl, you need to do a little more research bc once you make more that 25,000 a year, you don’t qualify for the benefits you are speaking by of.
@dontaycalvin7105 You only get those benefits if you're under the poverty line. My husband and I asked the government for help with childcare expenses, they essentially laughed in our face. We make too much in their eyes however if we were to put our baby in daycare that would break us. So unless we quit our jobs we get no help.
@dontaycalvin7105 but even with kids, if you make more than 25,000 you barely get help. My cousin had three kids she raises alone and she works at the postal office, she still has to pay for childcare. So she pays her older neighbor like 120 a week. That’s 480 a month not including rent and car note, insurance, gas and food. She does qualify for food stamps, but again it only scratches the surface. Kids still need clothes, she still wants to put them in sports and she still has to get them materials for school, for their hygiene products and miscellaneous items. My best friend had one kid and she is a manger, she doesn’t even qualify for food stamps! So making it seem like the government is just going to help bc you have kids. No.
It's funny because she says " I give you permission to scroll past my page because this is just my opinion and it's not important", but at the moment she felt the need to share her opinion to the rest of the world as if it was important....
Her solution is to "just be a stay at home mom!!!" Some men can't find jobs that pay for 100% of everything. And some don't want to and they often resent their wives for staying home.
I hate staying home with my kid and my income is literally what puts us over the line to being middle class. The stress on my husband to "try hard" and the stress on me to look at every penny is so exhausting! On top of it, it hurts my kid to be raised by stressed parents. We are so blessed having good and affordable daycare! I would not have my kid if I could not afford daycare.
“You’re privileged to live in America.” As a black woman that grew up in white suburbia and then moved away from that I forgot how insane some of these people are. Yeah I’m sure my ancestors felt “privileged” to be forced on a ship, taken to some strange land, made a slave, and all of thier children would be slaves etc. Like I’m sure my great grandma felt “privileged” to be the first black midwife in her area because for so long it was illegal to do so. I’m sure all my American-born ancestors felt “privileged” to be born in poverty and die in it. Jesus Christ. She reminds me of those white women when I was younger and would say things like “you speak so well,” and “you’re English is so good.” I only knew English I just had a different accent
As a white woman I agree with you 100% and I apologize for every privileged white person who’s let shit fall out of their mouth and spew onto you. These people are insane. I grew up upper middle class, but throughout my life I’ve seen such terrible mistreatment of people on lower incomes, especially the disabled, sick, and POC seem to be disproportionately affected (I wonder why! /s) you would have to be incredibly self centered to live in this world and not notice others suffering.
I have no kids and I know that raising kids is expensive that’s one of the MANY reasons I’m childfree by choice. I have no children and don’t want any. There’s nothing about being a parent that’s appealing to me.
And you will miss the blessing of having kids. Of course having kids is hard work!!! But the most satisfying things in life take hard work! I'm proud of that young lady for staying up for the truth. Even when others turn a blind eye to the truth.
@@opticalraven1935 no one "needs" to have children to understand anything. If it's so hard, and we all can see that, women who choose it want struggle and hardship. Why would you wish that on anyone?
$124,443.39 That is roughly how much my wife and I spent in 2023 on our four children. This does not include vacations or meals. I know this because I am getting ready to file taxes. Kids cost a pretty penny.
kids expensive tuition 10k a year not to mention private math tutoring 500$ a month hell no I cant afford to do that for two kids i would be in the poor house @@resolute1922
Omgggggt. Hold on. Dear lord, I'm so sorry I complained about spending 17k in daycare. I now realize people are out hear really spending money. Thank you for humbling me. Amen Because omgg that's a house (you know, in a not broken economy lol)
Just because, you have a camera and microphone, doesn’t mean you should give advice/opinions on things you know nothing about. We spend, 150 on my son’s school uniform and he is going to public school.
@@Sunny-tc3uldamnnn, how do they justify that price? We don’t have school uniforms where I‘m from so I don’t know, maybe $400 isn’t that unusual but in my imagination that uniform would have to have golden buttons and special fabric and all that to be that expensive 😅
Bless her heart. She keeps saying that the women prioritize career instead of being a stay at home mom to offset childcare etc. Like, where has she been to not have seen or heard all these men talking about 50/50 and are not providers. The women have work sweetie, they cannot afford to stay home because the men don't want to pay 100% of the bills.
Exactly! Hiding things like finances and difficulty from kids is destructive and causes young adults to crumble under pressure. Struggle is not always a bad thing to know and learn from. Emma needs humble pie
I agree that kids should learn at an early age that money doesn't grow on trees. My parents were part of the working class poor when my brother and I were coming up. However, they did a great job of ensuring we had everything we needed (and if they could afford it, wanted as well). As a family, when I was like 9 and my brother was 6, we would gather around the kitchen table on Fridays after my dad got home after work and cashed his paycheck. My mom would have the monthly bills on the table. I was responsible for using the calculator and calculating how much cash we needed to put in the appropriate envelopes every week in order to pay the bill when due. My father would make sure to bring the cash in different denominations in order to be able to put the exact amount in the appropriate envelope. My brother who was 6 was learning to count coins and responsible for adding whatever change in the envelope (ie: if the electric bill was $79 for the month and there were 4 paychecks for that month, then we needed $19.75 in the envelope every week). Doing this as a family instilled in us kids, the value of money, we learned about budgeting and prioritizing our needs vs wants. Once all of the bills were taken care of, whatever was left over was for groceries (trust me there wasn't that much left). However, my mom (who was a stay at home mom) was gifted in making $1 out of 15¢. We never missed a meal (breakfast, lunch or dinner). We may not have eaten filet mignon, but what we did eat filled us and we never went to bed hungry. When I was old enough to work part-time at 14, I contributed $50 to the household (although they never wanted me to, but I added the $ to the envelopes anyway as I appreciated my parents). The rest of the money I earned, I used it to buy personal items and clothing that I wanted. My brother did the same when he became of working age against my parents wishes. They just wanted us to use money we earned to buy our own stuff above and beyond what they provided. My parents are retired now and living on Social Security. I have done well for myself in life and I send them money just for the hell of it. it is the least I can do after all they have done for me and my brother. 😊
Why is it always rich people that want to prove us wrong about how expensive everything is. I live in Massachusetts like the first lady, if you want to have kids here both parents have to be high earners to live a very mediocre life, no amount of saving is going to fix that unless you're born with a silver spoon in your mouth
The first thing I thought of was: “Wow! She has nice teeth. What a privilege it was for her that her parents had the ability to afford braces for her and (let’s be conservative) at least 5 of her other siblings.” My son has braces and they are so expensive. Every time I take my kids to the dentist I pray that the X-rays of my daughter’s teeth will show that she won’t need them. That girl is sheltered and truly has no idea how privileged her life has been.
Low key… some people don’t even have “a career” they have JOBS so they can pay BILLS!!!! That’s it lol. I’m always so annoyed when people really don’t have any understanding of how other people live…what makes you think these luxuries are afforded to us???
Exactly!!! I heard somebody say that only one percent of people have "careers", everyone else just has a job. A job is something you wouldn't want to do unless you get paid, otherwise it's a hobby. I don't know a lot of people who like to clean out toilets for fun....
Her follow up video reminds me of yt women in the workplace who get called out for micro aggressions and then try to call you angry, bitter, or THEY start crying and claiming that THEY are the victim.
'You only need childcare if you are prioritzing your career" 9:14 *tell me you were not educated properly without telling me you were not educated properly.* This woman is 2/3rd "Duggar"
And even the Duggars needed to sell their children to the entertainment industry in order to raise all of them. Didn’t even pay their children, just spent all the money.
I promise you out of those 11 children, many of them baby sat the younger ones. And the college thing ain't looking too good. She doesn't want to talk about ppl in poverty? Babes that's most people.
the majority of women never plan on being single mothers, but it happens anyway. Shit happens. I grew up in the 80's to a single mother, in a country with subsidized childcare and it was a STRUGGLE for my mom. Even tho she tried to hide it, we noticed. It's good that this girl's been able to grow up without that worry, because I can tell you, as a child, knowing your parent is struggling is scary and stressful.
I never understood why parents like to hide their poverty. It is insulting and we know when there isn't enough food and we're having Ramen 4 weeks in a row.
@@opticalraven1935 because children shouldn't have to worry about adult matters. A child can't help fix the situation but they will wonder if it's their fault. It's one thing to say "we can't afford this" and another to let a child know the parents can barely pay for the home. While we may know that we're poor, we should never have to know exactly how close to homelessness we are.
Some people are just so privileged lol some people just ON THEIR OWN can barley afford to live let alone a whole family and a partner. Then there’s other things people don’t think about, childcare, tutoring services, after school programs or sports, all the bills go up (water, gas, groceries, rent because you have to have space for your children.) that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Even LAUNDRY you have to buy 3X the soap just to wash your childrens clothing 🤦🏽♀️ People are DELUSIONAL to think children aren’t a LUXURY to have at this point.
She said a whole bunch of nothing from her very privileged perspective 🙄 my mom let us see her tears, I saw how hard life can get, I’ll never hold it against her. My mom and dad did their best, love them so much. They made sure I didn’t have to struggle.
The OG creator is right. There are people who can’t afford to have kids. The second girl grew up in privilege. That’s what her mindset is and it shows. But her way of speaking dismissed the very accurate concerns that were raised and that’s why she’s wrong
Children are mentally, physically and financially expensive. My husband and I pay $1600 USD per month for childcare. Her food is around $100 per month, clothing is about $200 every 6 months when she grows, and also the cost of fun/entertainment and toys. Even health insurance is like $200 per month. 😢
Apart from that, you come home and can't take a course in the evening to advance your carreer, or hang out with colleges after work for networking. Or your child gets sick and you miss work or work from home being double stressed. And then you get sick. You will have a disadvantage with kids not only money wise.
@@angelikalaser7778This is massive mostly for women. On top of the expense, mothers can't advance their career the same as child free women and their lifetime income is lower. Also child free women will have extra money hopefully for savings/retirement and will massively benefit from compound interest where as most parents will not have the money to benefit from that.
Emma seems very earnest. But she is very naïve. The thought of “just downsize if you want kids so you can stay home” is absurd. Her family is LOADED and she just can’t see it.
And what would her mother have done if her father was injured or got into an accident or got severely sick? She would've had to go to work and pay for childcare for 10 kids😂😂😂😂
She propably would leave them with the older ones. I would love to see the older kids talk about how great it is to have 10 siblings you have to share with. It is always the younger ones of the siblings who idealize having a big family.
"Hey guys, we can't count "childcare" as an expense. Because you chose have a job" Does leaving a 75k job, to avoid paying for a 50k childcare make sense to her? "If you work hard, you'll have enough money to take care of a child." But, if you work hard, you need childcare & that is your choice
@@mignalyortiz4589 And many people work because they have to supplement their husband's income. Hubby is bringing in 100k & it is not enough. Wife gets the same job as hubby to supplement his income. But, they have kids. Now she earns R100k too, spends R60k on childcare & only R40k can supplement hubby's income.
It’s what rich people always are 🤷🏻♀️ Meanwhile us working class drones have no choice but to live in reality where life is actually hard and short and we must fend for ourselves
"Raising children when you're under the poverty line is a different situation conversation". No tf it isn't! Oh, how convenient that you just won't talk about poor people who can't afford childcare in order to argue the case that childcare is affordable. Let me create a statistic about obesity in the U.S. and just exclude everyone who is, was and will be obese. See? There's no problem with obesity at all! Not according to MY data~! /sarcasm 🙄
@@YeahIGotNuthinbut also people in statistical poverty can not afford a stay at home parent. Rents and mortgages are often 50% of a household income. Even for middle class nowdays.
@@ineedhoez for me its a certain limit-like kids should know life isnt a total cakewalk but they should be sheltered as much as possible (not worrying about bills, who dislikes you & such) but shes just young, she’ll learn soon enough i hope
@kamieyonce I feel you but I'm going to make my kids are going to volunteer at homeless shelters. They're going to have a full perspective and understanding of exactly how the world works even if that's not the lifestyle that they live. They're going to work for the things that they have. I feel like many of us Millennials grew up without so then we decided to try to give our kids everything and now they're spoiled and entitled and we need to bring it back. Kids don't need to worry about money, but we need to have conversations about money and they need to understand the family budget and how much things cost and why they are not going to get x, y, or z.
She’s young and still learning in life. She has to understand that her family was coming from another generation. This generation this time is inflated. Plus, there is no middle class in America anymore.
The girl in the jean jacket, I’m going to call her Jeanie. She didn’t have a complete thought in anything she said, she was just stringing words together and dropping in the words from the original video.
I don’t have kids, don’t want them but I have 7 nieces & nephews. They are my biggest life lesson on being a parent. Not just them but how I grew up. The real world is about to eat Emma up & she’s not ready for it.
I’m the eldest from a big family. My younger gen z siblings have no clue about how much we actually struggled financially so im not surprised by this girl’s view. I do inform my younger siblings about all the hardships we went through though so that they don’t have this warped sense of reality.
She said that s*** with her full chest like people are really choosing to go to work instead of taking care of their children😂😂😂😂😂. In a perfect world, I'm sure most women would love to stay at home with their kids for the first 5 years. 😂😂😂😂. Notice she says she's graduating with debt as well. Millennials don't want our kids to graduate with that, so if we can't pay for college for our kids, we're not having them
Exactly, the ego that it takes to say that people (women) don't want to stay home with their kids because they want to prioritize their career is audacious. First off Why invest in college if it's not going to pay off in a career, there you see her priorities... I digress. How many women are desperate to stay home with their children, or would like to stay home before they decide to have children, but cannot because they are chained to a desk under threat of homelessness and hunger. The same goes for men. No one wants a career really, they just want money. Why do they want money so bad? Because they want to subsidize their real life.
I am a millennial with one child in the Northeast of the US and my husband and I are both college educated and have STEM degrees and I was working full time when I was pregnant and ended up staying home for several years because after taxes and child care costs...I was barely bringing home $1000 USD a month and by us...that's like a minimum wage job. We also had $6k in medical debt after our daughter was born and I literally had a natural delivery without complications and no epidural. People would push us to have another kid for several years and I started getting snippy with them and asking them to front me the $50k it would take to get through the first couple of years if they were so interested. People who don't get this need to shut up and sit down. Its not fun to barely scrap by even though you literally did everything 'right' in your adult life up to having a child.
I have a good size savings, but not enough income. I'm single, no kids, one fur baby. She is expensive enough! I can't even imagine what it would be like with even one kid. I couldn't watch "Emma" ... did she say she had kids already? She was schooled by the adults, lol!
Diapers alone will make you wanna strangle yourself! Formula? Forget it! Then they have growth spurts and the jeans you bought them a month ago, they can't even put their foot in. Daycare is more expensive than rent and some mortgages! Lord.. I'm only a few years away from her going to college. If I do decide to have another child, I will have a plan! Like, people make a business plan.. yes, that's the type of planning I'm talking about. And I'll assume I very well will be doing this on my own.
Yep!! My son grows so much so fast so I'm always buying clothes constantly and they aren't cheap at all anymore one pack of underwear 10$!!! That was only a 5 pack I'm like what??? It costed 2$ to make these underwear packs but whatever
I paid $500 a month for six months straight in 2018 for formula and a few boxes of rice cereal. I only breast fed for 5 months. The formula is Alimentum and it was $45 plus tax per tin and it only lasted 3 days when mixed with cereal. Breast milk is best milk😂
@BlkOnyx0508 Not everyone can breastfeed, honey! Smh! I cannot stand breastfeeding warriors.. Everyone doesn't have the same body! You sound smug, less informed than you THINK you are, and ignorant!
1) housing in the 80’s average was around 80k ish. Now the average is $240k. 2) food is 3-4 times as much expensive Your parents did you a great disservice by not showing you what it is to be an adult with a budget etc
OMG! This girl actually just did a public TikTok literally to disagree with someone who said having kids is too expensive instead of just scrolling past if she disagreed and then lectured the whole internet for being mean and spiteful for publicly disagreeing with her on TikTok instead of scrolling past the evidence of her refusal to just scroll on past instead of calling people out that you disagree with. Too much money and not enough critical thinking skills. She’s also had the privilege of never being accountable for her actions, apparently.
Tell her folks to send back that EIC credit deduction they enjoyed for their entire marriage since "it's not that hard" you don't need the deduction, eh? Also little Ms. MA'AM.
In my city in Canada, a pound of butter has gone from $5 to $8 in the past year. The price of gas has risen 50%. I haven't had a raise in over 5 years. It's not a case of chosing not to buy a luxury bag versus daycare, but whether to have food or a roof over your head.
She says stay home with ur kids so not to pay for childcare, so 🤷 I'm guessing that u & child will be starving or homeless bse ur are not working meaning no money
The only people who are “able” to have lots of kids with no money are those who get visits from a social worker every other week because the kid is wearing the same dirty clothes and way too small shoes to school every day.
This is the kind of person who becomes a boss and won't understand why you need to take time off because you "chose to focus on your career", will vote to cut funding for everything because "daddy can just work hard". Scary!
Kids have always been expensive. They cost time and money. Only difference now us that people are finally realizing it and not bringing them into thos world. They saw what their parents went through 😂
I am wyt and I really think we need to stfu when it comes to what that chick was talking about! She is the type of young person I want to tell to sit down and shut it! She seriously needs to come down to earth and learn other peoples struggles!
When $5 is an expensive purchase, and you are completely ignoring the financial impact that one kid, much less multiple kids have, that's when you know children are too expensive. It doesn't necessarily mean you are broke or can't afford kids. It means that kids are expensive as hell, and you'd rather not acknowledge how much they siphon off your finances.
Emma clearly needs to live a little before she can say it’s not really that expensive to raise children. I’m really annoyed with her response to the pushback she was getting She said her opinion doesn’t matter and people are more than welcome to scroll past her video. Actually her opinion as a young white woman in her childbearing years is important unfortunately. She is a part of a demographic of women that has the ability to sway legislation that doesn’t benefit other women. Emma acting as if she is just this random girl with an opinion is very disingenuous. Thinking like hers is why access to abortion in certain states is limited.
She fails to realize that even if a mother stays home then that means the father has to overcompensate for that by working two jobs or working extra hours or getting a new job that pays way more. Either way you need more money!!!!! Either way you're paying for childcare (if she stays home that extra money you make bc she doesn't work- THAT IS childcare money!!!!)
And you can not afford to get sick or lose your job even more if you are the sole provider. Also 50% of all marriages end up in a divorce, now there are 2 households depending on 1 income and the stay at home parent needs a job after years of unrmployment. This is just horrible.
Emma is very naive and simultaneously very blessed. Baby just didn't have the range for this convo but that's on her mama and the education system for making her think she did 😂😊
Also, I think Emma missed the whole point of the OG video. No one is saying you CAN'T have kids in this economy. It's a conversation about the reality that what used to be a comfortable salary/economy to raise children for most people is shrinking. Fewer and fewer people are able to provide the same quality of life that was once more accessible.
This is actually the good thing about social media. Emma was able to put her opinion out there and learn from older women and adjust her view a little. You can see in her second video she still has some growing to do, yes, but overall her and hopefully other young girls benefited from the response videos.
I find it so funny how people under 25 think they're life coaches. They're views are still idealistic at that age and they aren't even aware of it because they lack life experience. They think they're adults but to people 30+ they're children with no life experience.
so the younger responder clearly doesn’t understand the term “ basic necessity “. These are items that any human needs to live (food, clothing, shelter, Healthcare, personal hygiene products)
My Life With the Walter Boys. None of the kids knew the parents were stressed, and they could have lost the farm. It was the kid from a different family that was staying with them for a summer that figured out there were financial troubles. The kids knew nothing. The kids were as old as 17 and as young as 3 or 4. They knew nothing. Why? Because the parents kept them in the dark about how hard it was to have all the responsibilities of an adult.
I dont think it's a good thing for kids to be this sheltered. From some things yes of course wait until they are teenagers but people are not preparing their kids for adulthood by over sheltering them.
This is a general statement.. Im a mom of 2 special needs kids ..and it does get expensive ..i work part time bcz i dont have a sitter . And i dont recieve alot of resources ...and honestly i dont want or expect sympathy ..i work when i can and i love on my kids as much as i can ..everyone lives a different lives..being a single parent is hard .. no one has a place to judge ..we need to be more understanding as ppl ..and not be so quick to judge god bless❤
Can we talk about the cost it is to even give birth in a hospital? Without insurance it’s like $30-50k and insurance doesn’t cover the full cost usually. It ain’t free for sure!
Unpopular opinion; it was also difficult for our parents. So when they do say something insensitive, such as, "we kept you in clothes and fed you", please bear this in mind. Don't fight me! It was actually hard for them. No one was telling them how much it would cost them in those days.
@magnarcreed3801 I'm not sure you are aware of how life works. In the past, these sorts of calculations weren't done. There were many factors encouraging people to have children and multiple children. The affordability of having them was a much more abstract proposition. Also, college/University fees or even childcare weren't really relevant. You seem very angry, I'm sorry to have upset you.
Why I have a strong feeling, that her father manages some kind of church and just collects people's donations and don't pay taxes?
Best believe her parents benefited from the government with all of those children. Wouldn’t shock me if they have land via USDA etc.
I saw another video where they said her dad is a CEO.
RIGHT?! It's giving religious cult and/or Mormons with all those damn kids. She can barely form her words, so they clearly didn't prioritize her education.
I have that same feeling!
usual scenario and use donations for them self that what a lot of these non profits do.
Is that a child without children giving advice on how to afford having children? I think I've heard enough.
maybe if she were a teen mom (not encouraged) she’d have a leg to stand on. But like our elders would've said: stay out grown folk business.
Notice how she wouldn't say what her dad does for a living but they middle class. It's giving pull yourself up by your bootstraps.
@@Kinksgalorethis exactly
@@Kinksgalore clock it! she didn’t wanna say the quiet part out loud
Pahahahahaahahha!!!!
Emma… please adults are talking.
This the one! 😂😂❤️❤️
She lives in an echo chamber. Tone deaf.
She responded and STILL didn't get It 😂😂😂
Plus, she’s looks like she still at home. I can guarantee she still at home.
"Well it is a priority and a choice everyone can make" 😂 this girl is Gen Z with Boomer mentality.
Right. Never even had to pay a bill yet telling grown folks what they should be able to afford. She sitting up listening to her well off, probably conservative parents and just repeating the brainwashing.
The second girl came from a house with money because the first girl was using studies to explain her facts while the second girl tried to excuse it by using her own experience. Your experience is not everyone's experience.
I am petty but I would tell her, that her parents clearly did not prioritize her education 😂 You can be rich but still know how bad others have it.
most upper class whites the grand parents are footing the bill for adult kids ie down payments for homes, cell phone, car note and paying kids daycare and tuition that how theyre survivng they keep that secret they have generational wealth and inheritance middle class is over 250k most americans are working class they are as far away from middle as possible
Society doesn’t have a responsibility to protect her from being dragged in the comments by adults who actually have children. 🙃
Oh my god yes, the way she was trying to wag her finger as those who dared respond to her opinion at the end.... She's a Karen in training
I grew up privileged, but my mom would've snatched me bald-headed if I ever gave this take. She grew up the youngest in a dirt poor family, so she made sure we didn't grow up spoiled.
I really want to know if her parents and siblings with children watched her video and laughed. 🤣
She couldn't even fully articulate what she believed or why she believed it.
Yep, she’s speaking from her feelings. Childlike. Maybe her parents supported her a little TOO much. They should prep us for the real world, not whatever this is… I feel bad for Emma
Poor child literally began with saying she was going to purposefully exclude the very existence of people who defy her example in order to try and sharpen a rather dull point.
This exactly.
Not really. Poverty and the reasons why it exists is a complex issue and she knew she didn't have the tools to address it, so she excluded it. Yet, everyone is still in an uproar over what she said. If you're not in poverty, and you choose to make more people, you need a plan and priorities and it can be done without struggle. How is this unattainable and impossible to comprehend?
@@unabashed Because you don't even need to be in poverty to be unable to afford kids. I'm not in poverty, and I almost shit over my cat's ER bill. She is excluding a massive amount of people, poverty and lower middle class, which unfortunately proves exactly how expensive children are.
@@unabashed Yes really.
@@unabashed”how is this unattainable.”
Um…. Do you have $300,000 I can borrow? 🙏 I need it if I’m gonna have a kid like you want me to
Kids are expensive. Why is the first girl trying to act like they aren’t?
@dontaycalvin7105 girl, you need to do a little more research bc once you make more that 25,000 a year, you don’t qualify for the benefits you are speaking by of.
Because her parents probably paid a lot of what she has.
@dontaycalvin7105 You only get those benefits if you're under the poverty line. My husband and I asked the government for help with childcare expenses, they essentially laughed in our face. We make too much in their eyes however if we were to put our baby in daycare that would break us. So unless we quit our jobs we get no help.
@dontaycalvin7105 but even with kids, if you make more than 25,000 you barely get help. My cousin had three kids she raises alone and she works at the postal office, she still has to pay for childcare. So she pays her older neighbor like 120 a week. That’s 480 a month not including rent and car note, insurance, gas and food. She does qualify for food stamps, but again it only scratches the surface. Kids still need clothes, she still wants to put them in sports and she still has to get them materials for school, for their hygiene products and miscellaneous items. My best friend had one kid and she is a manger, she doesn’t even qualify for food stamps! So making it seem like the government is just going to help bc you have kids. No.
I love how social media has given people so much confidence to spew absolute nonsense. Emma said a whole lot of nothing.
👀🤨🤔What??…. what did you say about the First Girl?
@@peanutslaughter I meant the 1st girl to respond, terrible wording I know
@@zayinthesky 😲oh ok that makes sense.. Also Her Name Is Emma
It's funny because she says " I give you permission to scroll past my page because this is just my opinion and it's not important", but at the moment she felt the need to share her opinion to the rest of the world as if it was important....
Her solution is to "just be a stay at home mom!!!" Some men can't find jobs that pay for 100% of everything. And some don't want to and they often resent their wives for staying home.
I hate staying home with my kid and my income is literally what puts us over the line to being middle class. The stress on my husband to "try hard" and the stress on me to look at every penny is so exhausting! On top of it, it hurts my kid to be raised by stressed parents.
We are so blessed having good and affordable daycare! I would not have my kid if I could not afford daycare.
She thinks like most absent dads think , that's the ironic part of it 😂
This
Tupac said it best, “Mama made miracles every thanksgiving!”
“You’re privileged to live in America.” As a black woman that grew up in white suburbia and then moved away from that I forgot how insane some of these people are. Yeah I’m sure my ancestors felt “privileged” to be forced on a ship, taken to some strange land, made a slave, and all of thier children would be slaves etc. Like I’m sure my great grandma felt “privileged” to be the first black midwife in her area because for so long it was illegal to do so. I’m sure all my American-born ancestors felt “privileged” to be born in poverty and die in it.
Jesus Christ. She reminds me of those white women when I was younger and would say things like “you speak so well,” and “you’re English is so good.” I only knew English I just had a different accent
We have no universal health care, no living wage, everything is run by corporations......what a privilege
As a white woman I agree with you 100% and I apologize for every privileged white person who’s let shit fall out of their mouth and spew onto you. These people are insane. I grew up upper middle class, but throughout my life I’ve seen such terrible mistreatment of people on lower incomes, especially the disabled, sick, and POC seem to be disproportionately affected (I wonder why! /s) you would have to be incredibly self centered to live in this world and not notice others suffering.
I have no kids and I know that raising kids is expensive that’s one of the MANY reasons I’m childfree by choice. I have no children and don’t want any. There’s nothing about being a parent that’s appealing to me.
She needs to have children to know how hard it is.
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This !
And you will miss the blessing of having kids. Of course having kids is hard work!!! But the most satisfying things in life take hard work! I'm proud of that young lady for staying up for the truth. Even when others turn a blind eye to the truth.
@@opticalraven1935 no one "needs" to have children to understand anything. If it's so hard, and we all can see that, women who choose it want struggle and hardship. Why would you wish that on anyone?
$124,443.39
That is roughly how much my wife and I spent in 2023 on our four children. This does not include vacations or meals. I know this because I am getting ready to file taxes.
Kids cost a pretty penny.
We have one child. But child rearing is so expensive my dream of adopting will not happen due to expense.
kids expensive tuition 10k a year not to mention private math tutoring 500$ a month hell no I cant afford to do that for two kids i would be in the poor house @@resolute1922
Omgggggt. Hold on.
Dear lord,
I'm so sorry I complained about spending 17k in daycare. I now realize people are out hear really spending money. Thank you for humbling me.
Amen
Because omgg that's a house (you know, in a not broken economy lol)
I don’t get why parents complain how expensive kids are and yet keep having kids. 4? Wow. Yea. Of course they cost a lot.
Just because, you have a camera and microphone, doesn’t mean you should give advice/opinions on things you know nothing about.
We spend, 150 on my son’s school uniform and he is going to public school.
I have two boys $400 on their’s and that’s budget. And that’s not even shoes.
@@Sunny-tc3uldamnnn, how do they justify that price? We don’t have school uniforms where I‘m from so I don’t know, maybe $400 isn’t that unusual but in my imagination that uniform would have to have golden buttons and special fabric and all that to be that expensive 😅
Wow she sure has a lot to say for someone who isn't a millennial and grew up in what sounds like luxury 😭
shes in california shes definitely not broke
Bless her heart. She keeps saying that the women prioritize career instead of being a stay at home mom to offset childcare etc. Like, where has she been to not have seen or heard all these men talking about 50/50 and are not providers. The women have work sweetie, they cannot afford to stay home because the men don't want to pay 100% of the bills.
Hell, most men won't even do 50/50. Most of the time, men only do 30%, if that.
And tbh is it wise to depend solely on a man?
They don’t breed with them if they don’t . Pick better
@@holliecharles684 Did I say that? Stay on topic please and don't make unwarranted assumptions
@@motorcyclesandmakeup1297 Not the topic of discussion. However I'm childfree and financially independent.
Maybe that's the problem. Maybe if we stop hiding things from our kids so they understand how the world really works.
Exactly! Hiding things like finances and difficulty from kids is destructive and causes young adults to crumble under pressure. Struggle is not always a bad thing to know and learn from. Emma needs humble pie
Yup. I agree with this. Stop lying to ur kids, because going into adulthood with no knowledge is a terrible way to start life.
I agree that kids should learn at an early age that money doesn't grow on trees. My parents were part of the working class poor when my brother and I were coming up. However, they did a great job of ensuring we had everything we needed (and if they could afford it, wanted as well). As a family, when I was like 9 and my brother was 6, we would gather around the kitchen table on Fridays after my dad got home after work and cashed his paycheck. My mom would have the monthly bills on the table. I was responsible for using the calculator and calculating how much cash we needed to put in the appropriate envelopes every week in order to pay the bill when due. My father would make sure to bring the cash in different denominations in order to be able to put the exact amount in the appropriate envelope. My brother who was 6 was learning to count coins and responsible for adding whatever change in the envelope (ie: if the electric bill was $79 for the month and there were 4 paychecks for that month, then we needed $19.75 in the envelope every week). Doing this as a family instilled in us kids, the value of money, we learned about budgeting and prioritizing our needs vs wants. Once all of the bills were taken care of, whatever was left over was for groceries (trust me there wasn't that much left). However, my mom (who was a stay at home mom) was gifted in making $1 out of 15¢. We never missed a meal (breakfast, lunch or dinner). We may not have eaten filet mignon, but what we did eat filled us and we never went to bed hungry. When I was old enough to work part-time at 14, I contributed $50 to the household (although they never wanted me to, but I added the $ to the envelopes anyway as I appreciated my parents). The rest of the money I earned, I used it to buy personal items and clothing that I wanted. My brother did the same when he became of working age against my parents wishes. They just wanted us to use money we earned to buy our own stuff above and beyond what they provided. My parents are retired now and living on Social Security. I have done well for myself in life and I send them money just for the hell of it. it is the least I can do after all they have done for me and my brother. 😊
Why is it always rich people that want to prove us wrong about how expensive everything is. I live in Massachusetts like the first lady, if you want to have kids here both parents have to be high earners to live a very mediocre life, no amount of saving is going to fix that unless you're born with a silver spoon in your mouth
Because they're delusional.
It's because they want to keep us in poverty.
At this point, they’re just trolling us. 😂
Why have kids when some of these men are children themselves???
The first thing I thought of was: “Wow! She has nice teeth. What a privilege it was for her that her parents had the ability to afford braces for her and (let’s be conservative) at least 5 of her other siblings.” My son has braces and they are so expensive. Every time I take my kids to the dentist I pray that the X-rays of my daughter’s teeth will show that she won’t need them. That girl is sheltered and truly has no idea how privileged her life has been.
Low key… some people don’t even have “a career” they have JOBS so they can pay BILLS!!!! That’s it lol. I’m always so annoyed when people really don’t have any understanding of how other people live…what makes you think these luxuries are afforded to us???
Exactly!!! I heard somebody say that only one percent of people have "careers", everyone else just has a job. A job is something you wouldn't want to do unless you get paid, otherwise it's a hobby. I don't know a lot of people who like to clean out toilets for fun....
Her follow up video reminds me of yt women in the workplace who get called out for micro aggressions and then try to call you angry, bitter, or THEY start crying and claiming that THEY are the victim.
Thank God I am self employed and don't work with others.
You hit the nail on the head!
'You only need childcare if you are prioritzing your career" 9:14 *tell me you were not educated properly without telling me you were not educated properly.* This woman is 2/3rd "Duggar"
And even the Duggars needed to sell their children to the entertainment industry in order to raise all of them. Didn’t even pay their children, just spent all the money.
Do people not realize that people used to have lots of kids because they would die....of disease, neglect and a lack of resources....?
I promise you out of those 11 children, many of them baby sat the younger ones. And the college thing ain't looking too good. She doesn't want to talk about ppl in poverty? Babes that's most people.
She must be a middle or younger sibling.
the majority of women never plan on being single mothers, but it happens anyway. Shit happens. I grew up in the 80's to a single mother, in a country with subsidized childcare and it was a STRUGGLE for my mom. Even tho she tried to hide it, we noticed. It's good that this girl's been able to grow up without that worry, because I can tell you, as a child, knowing your parent is struggling is scary and stressful.
I never understood why parents like to hide their poverty. It is insulting and we know when there isn't enough food and we're having Ramen 4 weeks in a row.
@@opticalraven1935 because children shouldn't have to worry about adult matters. A child can't help fix the situation but they will wonder if it's their fault. It's one thing to say "we can't afford this" and another to let a child know the parents can barely pay for the home. While we may know that we're poor, we should never have to know exactly how close to homelessness we are.
@@opticalraven1935because it hurts and seeing your child worry and hurting makes it so much worse!
You don't want to hurt people you like
It's very scary and stressful for a child to know how much their parents struggle. I remember those times 🥺
Some people are just so privileged lol some people just ON THEIR OWN can barley afford to live let alone a whole family and a partner. Then there’s other things people don’t think about, childcare, tutoring services, after school programs or sports, all the bills go up (water, gas, groceries, rent because you have to have space for your children.) that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Even LAUNDRY you have to buy 3X the soap just to wash your childrens clothing 🤦🏽♀️ People are DELUSIONAL to think children aren’t a LUXURY to have at this point.
This !! All of what you listed is why can’t no mf out here shame me for being childless. EYE know kids are expensive
Meds, allergies,, and also if the child is disabled which you have to pay double sometimes. Ppl like her really don't think
So single parents have left the chat according to this chick 😂 capitalism doesn’t allow anyone to not consider focusing on career lol. She’s v naive
She said a whole bunch of nothing from her very privileged perspective 🙄 my mom let us see her tears, I saw how hard life can get, I’ll never hold it against her. My mom and dad did their best, love them so much. They made sure I didn’t have to struggle.
The OG creator is right. There are people who can’t afford to have kids.
The second girl grew up in privilege. That’s what her mindset is and it shows. But her way of speaking dismissed the very accurate concerns that were raised and that’s why she’s wrong
What in the handmaids tale is going on here
💯🙄😂🙄😂🙄😂🙄😂😂😂
Children are mentally, physically and financially expensive. My husband and I pay $1600 USD per month for childcare. Her food is around $100 per month, clothing is about $200 every 6 months when she grows, and also the cost of fun/entertainment and toys. Even health insurance is like $200 per month. 😢
Apart from that, you come home and can't take a course in the evening to advance your carreer, or hang out with colleges after work for networking. Or your child gets sick and you miss work or work from home being double stressed.
And then you get sick.
You will have a disadvantage with kids not only money wise.
@@angelikalaser7778This is massive mostly for women. On top of the expense, mothers can't advance their career the same as child free women and their lifetime income is lower. Also child free women will have extra money hopefully for savings/retirement and will massively benefit from compound interest where as most parents will not have the money to benefit from that.
Emma seems very earnest. But she is very naïve. The thought of “just downsize if you want kids so you can stay home” is absurd. Her family is LOADED and she just can’t see it.
She is Just living in White girl land God bless her
Not all white people are multi millionaires who are divorced from reality like Emma!
RICH girl land
@@kristens8718 exactly.
That's NOT a privilege being a stay at home mom.... Wow
And what would her mother have done if her father was injured or got into an accident or got severely sick? She would've had to go to work and pay for childcare for 10 kids😂😂😂😂
She propably would leave them with the older ones.
I would love to see the older kids talk about how great it is to have 10 siblings you have to share with.
It is always the younger ones of the siblings who idealize having a big family.
Big families tend to turn older kids into backup parents against their will
"Hey guys, we can't count "childcare" as an expense. Because you chose have a job" Does leaving a 75k job, to avoid paying for a 50k childcare make sense to her?
"If you work hard, you'll have enough money to take care of a child."
But, if you work hard, you need childcare & that is your choice
I don't think she realizes that some people also work so they will have health insurance which is really expensive.
@@mignalyortiz4589 And many people work because they have to supplement their husband's income.
Hubby is bringing in 100k & it is not enough. Wife gets the same job as hubby to supplement his income. But, they have kids. Now she earns R100k too, spends R60k on childcare & only R40k can supplement hubby's income.
Emma! Emma! Emma! Adults are talking. I'll get your bottle of milk while we finish adult conversations. 😊
Let me guess Emma is still a teenager or early 20s.
Bingo. Girls like her need to shut up.
She’s absolutely delusional !!!!!
It’s what rich people always are 🤷🏻♀️
Meanwhile us working class drones have no choice but to live in reality where life is actually hard and short and we must fend for ourselves
"Raising children when you're under the poverty line is a different situation conversation". No tf it isn't! Oh, how convenient that you just won't talk about poor people who can't afford childcare in order to argue the case that childcare is affordable.
Let me create a statistic about obesity in the U.S. and just exclude everyone who is, was and will be obese. See? There's no problem with obesity at all! Not according to MY data~! /sarcasm 🙄
Her dad didn’t pay for childcare either bc he had her mom. Lol
@@YeahIGotNuthinbut also people in statistical poverty can not afford a stay at home parent.
Rents and mortgages are often 50% of a household income. Even for middle class nowdays.
@@angelikalaser7778 yeah, back then it was 20 to 30 percents and that didn’t include the surge in groceries or gas
They ate Emma up but like the one lady said its because her parents did such a damn good job🤷🏾♀️🤭
Honestly, I think it's a disservice. Children should understand how hard it is
@@ineedhoez for me its a certain limit-like kids should know life isnt a total cakewalk but they should be sheltered as much as possible (not worrying about bills, who dislikes you & such) but shes just young, she’ll learn soon enough i hope
@kamieyonce I feel you but I'm going to make my kids are going to volunteer at homeless shelters. They're going to have a full perspective and understanding of exactly how the world works even if that's not the lifestyle that they live. They're going to work for the things that they have. I feel like many of us Millennials grew up without so then we decided to try to give our kids everything and now they're spoiled and entitled and we need to bring it back.
Kids don't need to worry about money, but we need to have conversations about money and they need to understand the family budget and how much things cost and why they are not going to get x, y, or z.
She’s young and still learning in life. She has to understand that her family was coming from another generation. This generation this time is inflated. Plus, there is no middle class in America anymore.
The girl in the jean jacket, I’m going to call her Jeanie. She didn’t have a complete thought in anything she said, she was just stringing words together and dropping in the words from the original video.
The first thing the young lady needs to do is reshape what she thinks “poverty” looks like and then we can have a realistic discussion about this.
I have only one child and when I tell you the level of expense! Im constantly cutting corners. It's crazy.
Let’s ask Emma what her dad does for work
I don’t have kids, don’t want them but I have 7 nieces & nephews. They are my biggest life lesson on being a parent. Not just them but how I grew up. The real world is about to eat Emma up & she’s not ready for it.
I’m the eldest from a big family. My younger gen z siblings have no clue about how much we actually struggled financially so im not surprised by this girl’s view. I do inform my younger siblings about all the hardships we went through though so that they don’t have this warped sense of reality.
I see the community college didn't help much. For the the "its your priorities" lady.
She said that s*** with her full chest like people are really choosing to go to work instead of taking care of their children😂😂😂😂😂. In a perfect world, I'm sure most women would love to stay at home with their kids for the first 5 years. 😂😂😂😂.
Notice she says she's graduating with debt as well. Millennials don't want our kids to graduate with that, so if we can't pay for college for our kids, we're not having them
Exactly, the ego that it takes to say that people (women) don't want to stay home with their kids because they want to prioritize their career is audacious. First off Why invest in college if it's not going to pay off in a career, there you see her priorities... I digress. How many women are desperate to stay home with their children, or would like to stay home before they decide to have children, but cannot because they are chained to a desk under threat of homelessness and hunger. The same goes for men.
No one wants a career really, they just want money. Why do they want money so bad? Because they want to subsidize their real life.
I am a millennial with one child in the Northeast of the US and my husband and I are both college educated and have STEM degrees and I was working full time when I was pregnant and ended up staying home for several years because after taxes and child care costs...I was barely bringing home $1000 USD a month and by us...that's like a minimum wage job. We also had $6k in medical debt after our daughter was born and I literally had a natural delivery without complications and no epidural. People would push us to have another kid for several years and I started getting snippy with them and asking them to front me the $50k it would take to get through the first couple of years if they were so interested. People who don't get this need to shut up and sit down. Its not fun to barely scrap by even though you literally did everything 'right' in your adult life up to having a child.
I live in Massachusetts, she’s right. Childcare costs are outrageous.
I never knew how difficult it was for my Mother until after I was grown. At times I think she never wanted me to know.
My mom used to bust me upside my head and call me out my name so I had a pretty good idea
I have a good size savings, but not enough income. I'm single, no kids, one fur baby. She is expensive enough! I can't even imagine what it would be like with even one kid. I couldn't watch "Emma" ... did she say she had kids already? She was schooled by the adults, lol!
Diapers alone will make you wanna strangle yourself! Formula? Forget it! Then they have growth spurts and the jeans you bought them a month ago, they can't even put their foot in. Daycare is more expensive than rent and some mortgages! Lord.. I'm only a few years away from her going to college. If I do decide to have another child, I will have a plan! Like, people make a business plan.. yes, that's the type of planning I'm talking about. And I'll assume I very well will be doing this on my own.
Yep!! My son grows so much so fast so I'm always buying clothes constantly and they aren't cheap at all anymore one pack of underwear 10$!!! That was only a 5 pack I'm like what??? It costed 2$ to make these underwear packs but whatever
I paid $500 a month for six months straight in 2018 for formula and a few boxes of rice cereal. I only breast fed for 5 months. The formula is Alimentum and it was $45 plus tax per tin and it only lasted 3 days when mixed with cereal. Breast milk is best milk😂
@BlkOnyx0508 Not everyone can breastfeed, honey! Smh! I cannot stand breastfeeding warriors.. Everyone doesn't have the same body! You sound smug, less informed than you THINK you are, and ignorant!
1) housing in the 80’s average was around 80k ish. Now the average is $240k. 2) food is 3-4 times as much expensive
Your parents did you a great disservice by not showing you what it is to be an adult with a budget etc
Yeah
I took the world
I get the impression she is still living at home
Right. $30k in the 80s would be worth almost $120k today.
@@hope329030k in 1985 is 86k today with inflation adjusted.
OMG! This girl actually just did a public TikTok literally to disagree with someone who said having kids is too expensive instead of just scrolling past if she disagreed and then lectured the whole internet for being mean and spiteful for publicly disagreeing with her on TikTok instead of scrolling past the evidence of her refusal to just scroll on past instead of calling people out that you disagree with. Too much money and not enough critical thinking skills. She’s also had the privilege of never being accountable for her actions, apparently.
Yeah, you can clearly see she was one of the youngest... The older ones were probably parenified
Tell her folks to send back that EIC credit deduction they enjoyed for their entire marriage since "it's not that hard" you don't need the deduction, eh? Also little Ms. MA'AM.
In my city in Canada, a pound of butter has gone from $5 to $8 in the past year. The price of gas has risen 50%. I haven't had a raise in over 5 years. It's not a case of chosing not to buy a luxury bag versus daycare, but whether to have food or a roof over your head.
Roof is more important. I’ll eat ramen packs before I stop paying rent
She says stay home with ur kids so not to pay for childcare, so 🤷 I'm guessing that u & child will be starving or homeless bse ur are not working meaning no money
The only people who are “able” to have lots of kids with no money are those who get visits from a social worker every other week because the kid is wearing the same dirty clothes and way too small shoes to school every day.
This is the kind of person who becomes a boss and won't understand why you need to take time off because you "chose to focus on your career", will vote to cut funding for everything because "daddy can just work hard". Scary!
Childcare right now is a second mortgage.
I’m struggling as it is… to imagine that having kids willl not be “as hard” is asinine
That chick MADE ME LAUGH! Bless her heart she doesn’t know what it really is in our economy.
It’s sad. She never talks to her parents about anything but smalltalk. So it seems 😢
They have 11 kids, I bet she was mostly raised by the older ones
If this little girl don't take a juice break and sit in the corner somewhere.
Kids have always been expensive. They cost time and money. Only difference now us that people are finally realizing it and not bringing them into thos world. They saw what their parents went through 😂
I am wyt and I really think we need to stfu when it comes to what that chick was talking about! She is the type of young person I want to tell to sit down and shut it! She seriously needs to come down to earth and learn other peoples struggles!
OK! Who is gonna tell her? 🤷🏾♀️
Crazy they don't talk about thisin politics
When $5 is an expensive purchase, and you are completely ignoring the financial impact that one kid, much less multiple kids have, that's when you know children are too expensive. It doesn't necessarily mean you are broke or can't afford kids. It means that kids are expensive as hell, and you'd rather not acknowledge how much they siphon off your finances.
Emma clearly needs to live a little before she can say it’s not really that expensive to raise children. I’m really annoyed with her response to the pushback she was getting
She said her opinion doesn’t matter and people are more than welcome to scroll past her video. Actually her opinion as a young white woman in her childbearing years is important unfortunately. She is a part of a demographic of women that has the ability to sway legislation that doesn’t benefit other women. Emma acting as if she is just this random girl with an opinion is very disingenuous. Thinking like hers is why access to abortion in certain states is limited.
Awwww… bless her privileged, precious, 10 siblings, no kids having heart. 😂
She fails to realize that even if a mother stays home then that means the father has to overcompensate for that by working two jobs or working extra hours or getting a new job that pays way more. Either way you need more money!!!!! Either way you're paying for childcare (if she stays home that extra money you make bc she doesn't work- THAT IS childcare money!!!!)
And you can not afford to get sick or lose your job even more if you are the sole provider. Also 50% of all marriages end up in a divorce, now there are 2 households depending on 1 income and the stay at home parent needs a job after years of unrmployment. This is just horrible.
She has the life knowledge and math skills of a 10 yr old. Oof
A society that looks down on the ones that bring life. Great!!
Poor little tink tink with the rose colored glasses! I'm married with one child in a two income household and its still not an easy ride.
Emma is very naive and simultaneously very blessed. Baby just didn't have the range for this convo but that's on her mama and the education system for making her think she did 😂😊
Also, I think Emma missed the whole point of the OG video. No one is saying you CAN'T have kids in this economy. It's a conversation about the reality that what used to be a comfortable salary/economy to raise children for most people is shrinking. Fewer and fewer people are able to provide the same quality of life that was once more accessible.
This is actually the good thing about social media. Emma was able to put her opinion out there and learn from older women and adjust her view a little. You can see in her second video she still has some growing to do, yes, but overall her and hopefully other young girls benefited from the response videos.
I find it so funny how people under 25 think they're life coaches. They're views are still idealistic at that age and they aren't even aware of it because they lack life experience. They think they're adults but to people 30+ they're children with no life experience.
so the younger responder clearly doesn’t understand the term “ basic necessity “. These are items that any human needs to live (food, clothing, shelter, Healthcare, personal hygiene products)
She probably thinks “basic necessity” means the latest iPad or something 😑
My Life With the Walter Boys. None of the kids knew the parents were stressed, and they could have lost the farm. It was the kid from a different family that was staying with them for a summer that figured out there were financial troubles. The kids knew nothing. The kids were as old as 17 and as young as 3 or 4. They knew nothing. Why? Because the parents kept them in the dark about how hard it was to have all the responsibilities of an adult.
I dont think it's a good thing for kids to be this sheltered. From some things yes of course wait until they are teenagers but people are not preparing their kids for adulthood by over sheltering them.
Her family had 11 children 20-30 years ago. I want to see that in 2024...
The comment she made about “differing opinions” at the end of the second TikTok is giving closet trump supporter vibes
YES!! Everything she said are conservative talking points, all of which are completely divorced from reality and are intended to make everyone poor.
This is a general statement.. Im a mom of 2 special needs kids ..and it does get expensive ..i work part time bcz i dont have a sitter . And i dont recieve alot of resources ...and honestly i dont want or expect sympathy ..i work when i can and i love on my kids as much as i can ..everyone lives a different lives..being a single parent is hard .. no one has a place to judge ..we need to be more understanding as ppl ..and not be so quick to judge god bless❤
If you know it was going to be this hard going into it would you have not done it? Or has it been worth it?...❤
Emma mom quit working to stay at home, so they lost income, if her dad left, she would be a stay at home mom with 11 kids
Can we talk about the cost it is to even give birth in a hospital? Without insurance it’s like $30-50k and insurance doesn’t cover the full cost usually. It ain’t free for sure!
Emma was definitely giving Joshua Generation. Yikes. 🥴
This girl needs some damn life experience!! 😂 I guess the internet the ones to give it to her 😂
Unpopular opinion; it was also difficult for our parents. So when they do say something insensitive, such as, "we kept you in clothes and fed you", please bear this in mind. Don't fight me! It was actually hard for them. No one was telling them how much it would cost them in those days.
Sounds like they were dumb then. Don’t need someone telling you shit to plan better by just looking at prices.
@@magnarcreed3801 are you OK?...
@@DeborahWalkerXOXO
Yes. And much better than people that cannot do basic math on their own.
@magnarcreed3801 I'm not sure you are aware of how life works. In the past, these sorts of calculations weren't done. There were many factors encouraging people to have children and multiple children. The affordability of having them was a much more abstract proposition. Also, college/University fees or even childcare weren't really relevant. You seem very angry, I'm sorry to have upset you.
@@DeborahWalkerXOXO
Even before I had that shit online, with the pressure, and as a child I did the math.
And the Delulu Award goes to..
A big family is 5 kids? Try 2 or 3, baby!! smh.. she ain't gotta clue! Lol.. hell, 1 is a lot!!! 😂
AND....when trying to find childcare, it's hard to find people you can TRUST!! 😢
That second girl is a completely dunce…
She could’ve saved that bs in the drafts.