TOM HOLLAND Gets Vulnerable About Mental Health & Overcoming Social Anxiety
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- Опубліковано 4 тра 2024
- Today, I am joined by Tom Holland, widely known for his portrayal of the Marvel superhero Spiderman, and recently for his role in The Crowded Room. Beyond acting, Tom Holland is known for his friendly and charismatic personality, often delighting fans with his playful interactions and energetic interviews.
In this episode, we get a glimpse of the true, behind-the-scenes, Tom Holland - the mental health struggles, dealing with anxiety, and getting sober. This episode will leave you with a deeper understanding of life, personal growth, and finding true happiness.
In this episode with Tom Holland, we discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:46 The Gift Of Supportive Parents
09:32 Tom Holland Addresses The “Nervous Breakdown” Rumors
14:24 On Being Diagnosed With Dyslexia
16:05 How Did Tom Holland Get Into Acting?
20:02 Tom Holland’s Love Of Sports
30:46 Recognizing Alcohol Addiction
40:41 How Sobriety Impacts Your Life & Career
45:25 Tom Asks Jay About Life As A Monk
49:32 Tom Holland’s Travel Bucket List
53:09 Tom Holland On Taking A Break From Acting
57:50 Tom Holland’s Acting Techniques
01:03:02 Tom Holland On Living In The USA
01:09:31 On Trusting Your Gut
01:15:48 Living A “Normal” Life & Staying Away From Hollywood
01:23:53 Swimming With Killer Whales
01:33:37 Tom Holland's Opinion On Pickleball
01:35:52 Who Are Tom Holland’s Inspirations?
01:40:26 Tom Holland Talks About Footballer Harry Kane
01:44:35 Tom on Final Five
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Hearing that Tom watches my videos to unwind absolutely brightened my day! Thanks for this incredibly insightful interview.
Yes , so cool ,isn’t it ?!? 🥳🙏🏼♥️
I mean your videos are S tier Chris ❤
Props to you chris!
Chris makes amazing videos
Thank you so much for the kind words and for being a part of brightening days!
I worked with Tom as a stuntman on one of his films. I sat in the backseat of a car for multiple shots with him which allowed us to chat for a little bit in between takes. He is just as humble and personable on the job/in person as he is in this interview. Great actor and a fantastic human being.
❤😊aaa❤qqqqqa
👏👏👏looks genuine really
Jesus it makes me so happy to hear it. God bless those who r unaffected by Hollywood and money, and God protect them cuz they need that in that awful industry. Be safe plz, Garrett, your job is quite dangerous 💖
I do want to like Tom Holland but he’s so short.
@@alanjaime2506 yeah thats short
To hear him talk about what good parents do to put their children's feelings first and hide their adult struggles is validating for a person who grew up with the opposite scenario.
Yeah same and I totally agree with him
Yeah it felt good to hear this
Am the same like. Tom's parente are amazing people.
I hear you bro, grew up in a similar scenario as you and opposite to tom’s but I just wanted to point out that it’s important to know that everything in this world has it’s blessings and curses. my parents never hid their struggles from me and my siblings. It was hard as a younging knowing that I couldn’t help them but today as a grow man i am able to help others with their struggles in any shape and form and I would like to think it’s because of the environment i grew up in. To clarify am not saying people who didn’t grow up in the same circumstances as me can’t also help people but i just feel like being in it for a long time truly makes you understand the necessity of helping eachother through thick times cause no one is making it far in this world on their own. Anyways sending love and guidance to everyone reading this, keep pushing.❤
That might work for young children, but after a certain age it can lead to lack of maturity and being too emotional
I think he is a great example of what good present honest parenting can do for a person.
Yes, truly!
He doesn’t have mental illness. He simply doesn’t know what actual mental
Illness is. Big big difference between nervousness and anxiety… and big big difference between feeling anxious and having an anxiety disorder.
He's being Indistractable❤ 💯👍
I agree, but we shouldn't let that diminish his goals and his accomplishments! I do agree though, many people get these things mixed with each other. Everyone does experience depression, anxiety, etc, but they often forget about the crowd that don't go through the "phases"... that these things are their way of life and we're just coping everyday.@@user-qd1ei2ww6e
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My son who is 24 just told me that he stopped drinking alcohol all together because of this interview. Just so you know how you are changing people’s lives. I’m so grateful ❤️
definitely. Im 22 and I decided to do the same and it is the best decision i’ve ever made.
Tom Is such a Sweetheart :)
Wow, wish him all the best ❤ I can recommend meditation if starting to think about the negative thinking.
I literally did the same, at 32, because this interview.
Wow that's amazing!
I love how Tom made Jay talk about himself, being genuinely interested in his life
making connections gotta on his mental health list. its so sweet
You can tell he’s humble.
Yeaaa I loved that too how he brought the conversation to being 360. This is how we should have conversations with each other
Regardless of how you feel about his work, you can't deny that Tom's one of the few humble and realistic celebs, and I admire him for striving to keep it that way!
What’s wrong with his work?
@@MultitudeOfChaosNothing at all
@MultitudeOfChaos There are some Tobey/Andrew Spider-Man purists who've always hated Tom, simply because he isn't them and/or his version of Spidey started off as more of "Iron Boy, Jr." (Their words).
@@James-dj8rtno
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
Tom Holland is so emotionally mature, he is so kind and a nice guy and I feel like you could talk to him forever. I am glad to be a fan of someone like him because he is someone people can really look up to. I love Tom!
This is a calculated career move, IMO.
How is being emotionally mature and kind, a calculated career move?!
Obviously he wants more complex, mature roles.
@@BC08your life must be miserable to think that
@@Luke101 Not at all, but your life must be extremely simplistic and lackadaisical to think otherwise
I don't know that I've ever seen an "interview" where two people were bringing out the best in each other to such an extent, and being so open and receptive to each other's stories. You could just see them enriching each other's experience in real time. I loved it, I felt just so happy for them both :)
Agreed this podcast has been extraordinary
Glad you enjoyed the conversation! Tom was an amazing guest.
"Enriching each others experience in real time" your words are like drinking pure sugar syrup.
This is the most non-toxic masculinity I've ever experienced all in one place. Beautiful podcast, I really enjoyed it
What does masculinity have to do with it? 🤦🏻♂️ you obsessed with it ?
Shut up why bring in masculinity go work on youre self
there is no such thing as toxic masculinity therefore you're non-sensical
Lol there's definitely this forced agenda a bit. Most men aren't toxic. That's just what activists would have you believe and it became a buzzword.
There´s no Toxic Masculinity. Masculinity is part of male essence what there´s is Toxic Men and running in the same road, There´s no toxic feminility but toxic Women.
My son who is 24 just told me that he stopped drinking alcohol all together because of this interview. Just so you know how you are changing people’s lives. I’m so grateful ️
I rarely watch celebrity interviews, but hearing how balanced of a human Tom is, is refreshing. How he sets boundaries and can see this bigger picture of his place in the scope of things is really nice. I believe his close relationships. and connections to family and friends can be attributed to this. More people should try to a wholesome mind set he has. It’s unfortunate many people as he says loose themselves.
Seems like a great guy, and really enjoyable to listen to, and interesting to know about his upbringing.
Doesn't seem to me that he simply "tried" a wholesome mind set, but has a really interesting journey.
He's lucky to have that support from his family and friends
His gay sex scene threw me off, but then I saw zendaya (his partner) hooking up with 2 men at once in a raunchy sex scene.. and then I realized it’s all good, everyone deserves love ❤
Nah his raunchy gay scene was way too much over the top for me…. It was a drug fest no boundaries in your face wokefest & it’s enough already!!! Society is getting out of control… I for one am over it!
@@DivaliciousCouponing are you not a fan anymore because of that scene?
Tom Holland is a real life superhero. Just a genuine and humble human being. Best conversation I've heard in a long, long time.
He’s a down to earth person who pretends for a living. Settle down with the real life super hero stuff 😂
Please explain what makes him a real life super hero😂 hes a humble inspiring human being sure, but where the fuck do u get real life super hero from, hes not gonna shag u lol
He was an amazing guest!
So proud of Tom for breaking away from social media. It seems harmless, but it can cause so much mental strain without people even realizing it. Stay healthy friends!! ❤
"You can be mentored by people you've never met" this is exactly what's happening for me rn
I don't know how I hadn't discovered this podcast prior to this one! You're an amazing host and I love how engaged you are with all of these conversations!
I'll be watching them all now!
It’s jojo, you should do a trying cuisine asmr video
Thank you so much & welcome!
hey jojo, i love your videos and i love listening to your takes on your commentary channel!
WOW!@@JayShettyPodcast. I've never seen any of your podcast show up on my YT feed until this one! - I HAVE LOT TO CATCH UP you're an amazing host!
This is also the first podcast episode of this channel I was recommended..😮
I enjoyed this so much I felt like I didn't want it to end. Great conversation!
Love you Lana! 😘
It is the same feeling we (your followers) get from your videos Lana :)
Wow thank you so much! Appreciate it
I could listen forever 😭😭🥹
Lana you gotta meet me in the room where the kisses ain't free
From his family dynamic to his discipline and awareness, I truly love learning more and more about him, and trying to mirror a lot of his qualities. It’s life changing
Tom Holland is one of the many living examples of what a great parenting can do ❤ he seems like the kind of person you would like to be friends with ☺️
No
The beauty of this podcast is that both are curious about eachothers perspective of life,tom is asking so many amazing question to jay it really makes this podcast amazing.
it’s so nice to see someone like tom being so open and friendly back and forth, felt like a real convo between friends!
This felt so natural!! Hope they do all those trips together and do another episode in the future
They had a great connection
This is definately a two way conversational podcast. Really loved the episode. Tom is as much interested in Jay's life as Jay is in his.
I hope they became friends after this.Their conversation is very seamless ❤
This was more of a deep conversation rather than an interview, in my opinion. Viewing Tom as just as a normal man with issues and goals in life is very refreshing. I see him more now than I did before.
I love how this is a deep conversation between two people who respect each other and not like a podcast or interview. Huge respect to Jay for not asking Tom anything about his relationship, rather he let Tom share what he wanted and didn't comment on it or ask for more information. Given how much people online want to know about Tom & and Zendaya, it would have been so easy to try to steer the conversation that way to increase views and likes.
If you didn't love Tom Holland before now this is the best way. He seems like such a genuine and wonderful person 😊
He definitely is!
@@JayShettyPodcast. please give us an update if you manage to fit in any of those adventures with Tom.
What an refreshing podcast! Tom is not only so open and honest, he also takes a real interest in Jay and takes on the role of asking him questions. This whole podcast felt like a really safe space for both of them to learn and reflect and inspire one another!
A safe space?? Would you like a pacifier and a call to mommy too.
@@jac9301Yeah a safe place. Without people like you, who judge others harshly to feel good about themselves.
I felt exactly the same, love too see it 😊❤
@@jac9301toxic masculinity in action
@@jac9301 Gross and insecure. Think about how showing weakness at your manual labor job would be a very bad idea. Now, remove the constant threat of losing your job for any momentary lapse. That security would be nice, right? People, such as yourself, are the reason "safe spaces" even exist.
As a mom, I can only really hope I'm doing just as good of a job as Tom's mom did, because I'would be so proud of a son like him. He is such good person.
This is not a podcast episode, this is a beautiful conversation which happened to have two mics and cameras. I LOVED IT ❤️
Same here! This is wonderful and inspiring. Mental health is everything.
Yes 😮
Tom is so emotionally intelligent, I’m impressed by not only the actor he is, but purely the person he has become. Really proud and loved this episode so much 🤍
that doesnt exist hun , lol
yes I said the said thing while watching this, he seems so emotionally mature/intelligent and this has been a great interview! I love especially how he has his boundaries set when it comes to specific areas of his life - mainly his relationship with Z, but I can definitely understand how they keep that so sacred and close to them.
@@ayoub.boughaba”hun” it does.
@@winter8646 "sacred and close to them" meanwhile he's always talking about their rs in interviews and mentioning her name for fame lol
@@lunagd2450 well I’ll admit, I did peep that part - about the interviews of him mentioning her, but I honestly don’t think it’s for fame, tbh lol. Yeah so that is quite interesting, how he’ll mention her in other interviews etc but not this one as much. But maybe, it’s because he’s actually sitting down with someone for more then 10-20 minutes and he probably figured discussing their relationship ( like more into details were just off limits) I’m assuming. Also, idk if it was me or not, but he came off kinda anxious a bit. Just moving around a bit and he couldn’t really just sit that still. Maybe he was nervous, I know when i start to feel anxious I just start to move around and get like fidgety as well. But I’m not really sure
Couple of kind, vulnerable, hard-working London boys showing us what healthy masculinity and connection can look like. Love it.
Tom is so emotionally intelligent, I’m impressed by not only the actor he is, but purely the person he has become. Really proud and loved this episode so much
Tom and Zendaya come across as just everyday people following their dreams. That is what I love about each of them. I am not obsessed with their personal relationship because that is their business but I must admit that I love seeing them interacting in interviews. I hope that they come out of the entertainment business unscathed.
Almost two hours with Tom. That's perfect. Thanks so much for inviting him❤
Of course, it was a pleasure to have him on the podcast!
This is probably the best interview I’ve seen! The conversation just flows beautifully and smoothly. The respect you both have for each other is admirable! A lot of interviewers should definitely take some serious notes!
Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you very much!
But how can u all understand English.these guys are so faster 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I'm understanding with subtitles 😅
@@youngchullee36 😢
@@shaikhlion2266I mean I just do?
i love when interviews don’t feel like interviews. when they are more like a simple conversation about life between two people that are obviously enjoying each other’s company. such a great host!!
How do we all learn to be as grounded as Tom Holland?! What a gem!
I've never been one to listen to long celeb interviews but this podcast episode was gold. I've always been a huge fan of Tom Holland just for the kind of person he is. And I wish more people had his compassion, maturity and humility. Thank you Jay for such an enlightening episode.
he’s truly a role model for our generation
Tom Holland is such a good person I wasn't a fan of his spiderman for the longest when I was younger (nothing to do with his acting more to do with the writing) but I became a huge fan of him as a person and his parents raised a good man and that goes for the rest of his family
His Spider-Man is my favourite, he's a great peter parker. Can't wait for his new trilogy, he's going to boss it
@@AnxyTpYou think Tom's gonna go into another MCU trilogy ? Whenever he's being asked about the future of Spider-Man I always get the vibe that Tom, as grateful as he is, is kind of done & ready to move on to the next thing.
@@shanouboubouSpiderman 4 is happening Tom already said if they can't outdo No way home with 4 it's done
The more Tom speaks the more I get to like him, what a down to earth person
This is the most beautiful and natural conversation I’ve ever heard. I love that Tom is not just being interviewed, but he’s genuinly interrested in Jay’s experiences and opinions. The best episode yet!! ❤
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it as much as I did
I love how Tom even as a celebrity appears so humble and down to earth. He seems like such a positive influence. I also highly respect that although he is a big world celebrity he has boundaries for his personal life. And Jay does such a great job of getting genuine and thought provoking interactions out of the guest. Thank you
Nice to see an interview where the interviewer actually listens to their guest and allows them to talk without disturbing their flow.
Thank you guys for having this dialogue. The part about being sober and living through sobriety literally punched me in my face. It was exactly what I needed to hear.
I am now 2.5 years sober and it continues to be the best thing I've ever done for myself and others around me. Thank you Tom for being vocal around this subject and hopefully the more people it reaches, the better!
Quitter
@@RumblesBettr 💀
I saw a UA-cam short of Tom explaining alcohol and decided to check this video out. I’m 23 and going through the same issues Tom did. Haven’t quit yet but this makes me so happy to hear someone who was in same position and pushed through it. I thought I would have to drink forever to be comfortable socially until I saw this. Thank you Tom for giving me hope
One of the best conversations on life, a healthy state of mind, and finding peace I've heard. It was less an interview and more a deep philosophical conversation at a friends' home.
The flow of the conversation between you two is so effortless and easy I loved watching this felt like two friends catching up
i love how Tom asked questions back. And they were like deep or really interesting and not obvious. Liked it
Tom Holland as a guest asks such elaborate questions and listens so interested and respectfully that a lot of the time it feels like he is the host of this podcast.
I knew is was an extraordinary actor from watching his films and shows, but I had no idea he was such an extraordinary human being in general!
Thank you for having Tom Holland on the podcast, Mr Shetty. And thank you Mr Holland for being on the podcast, and for taking on "The Crowded Room" series. It's hard to imagine how Mr Holland was able to compartmentalize that well between that series and real-life, even without thinking too deep about it.
The crowded room wss the best tv series that i have seen this year and let's face it best performance by any actor in years it must have been so hard this was like joker on cocaine I mean 6 completely different characters
It's also how real and scarily relatable it is@@parsaalishiri8138 Am watching it for the 4th time, all 10 episodes
Tom is such a great conversationalist. I felt like I was in the room with both of them
"Conversationalist" that's crazy bro💀
@@IM-vf6ry it's literally a word
@@IM-vf6ryur a kid bro😂
you weren't tho you nerd
He was a great guest! Glad you enjoyed the episode.
Im 15 and I have already decided I don’t want to drink. Hearing Tom talk about how it has improved his life and how he’s the DD and how it’s fun to see his friends a little drunk while he’s sober just makes me know that my decision is going to be something that really makes my life better.
Indeed.
19 here, never feel the hype around drinking and being drunk.
Like you cant be emotionally vulnerable and be honest without some alcohol usage?
That’s sad.
Keep it. For you. And you’ll meet like-minded friends i promise.
(P/s: i do enjoy cocktails, and drink for the taste too. Or on very rare occasion with really closefriends, or family.
Never got hung over or too drunk to know what’s going on tho)
islam prohibits alcohol, says a lot doesnt it?
@@user-wh3rp1br5g are you asking if I’m Islam. If so no, I’m a white Christian, liberal, girl.
@@user-wh3rp1br5gislam also says having multiple wifes is ok. Islam also says women should obey their husband. Islam also says women should cover their hair and face. Says alot doesnt it
@@aaroncousins4750 indeed it says a lot, during the time of the prophets war was happening here and there therefore lots of men were died in war, leaving a lot of woman being alone and not have a man to support them, this is why it was allowed for men during that time to marry up to 4 wives, which is still allowed today because it was allowed to our prophet we still do it today but not many because there is no war going on, next Woman should obey their husband which part of this is wrong actually? should a wife not obey their husband the head of family, if a woman was walking alone at new york at night what would be the reason she was scared of? obviously men! then that is were good men come to protect the woman, basically woman needs men to protect them why should a wife not obey their husband? woman should cover their hair this is also a way Allah SWT protects woman if your were to put a woman wearing a crop top and shorts in the middle of the street would men look at them in a weird way? would they think of evil, dirty things looking at the woman? imagine if this were your own sister? you would feel sick, so Allah SWT tells the woman to cover up head to toe to protect them from the lust of man, allah knows how men thinks because is the one created them , this is way allah protects woman, Say alot doesnt it?
I love how Tom is also asking Jay questions making the dialogue more inclusive and interesting to hear experiences from both of them
Just wow.I just became a fan of Tom Holland as a person.His outlook and the energy he carries is so rare and authentic.Thank you Jay for this wonderful podcast.
It's so wholesome seeing guests ask questions about Jay's experience as a monk. It's so respectful and many guests asked him like Joe Jonas Lili Reinhart.
The mutual respect is sooo sooo important. I LOVE THIS
LOVE RULES 🫶🏻
“A champion is someone who had it all, lost it all & got it right back again” - Tom 👏🏽 wow
tom seems like a real genuine guy its cool to see for a hollywood superstar like that
Tom Holland is such a chill dude; man he sounds like he would be a very good friend 🫅🏻
This might be the best interview with Tom I've ever seen (even tho it felt more like a chat between old friends). Tom is my fave actor and what I admire him for is the fact how normal, humble, nice, open, genuine, easy-going and funny he is while also being smart and thoughtful. This conversation was really interesting, insightful, informative and inspiring, just like Jay's questions and input into this conversation. BTW, I absolutely agree about The Crowded Room being a great show.
Thank you for your comment! Glad you enjoyed the episode ❤
Disagree. I love all his interviews and very interesting except he did with Tom. Tom doesn't know what he is talking , he is every where. The only i heard is screaming each other and loughing to much. I just sow he did interview with Selena Gomez and i was so very interesting to listen .❤
One of the best interviews I have ever seen. Two remarkable people having an incredible conversation. Both gentlemen were sincere, humble, incredibly interesting and respectful of each other. I will definitely watch this again. My day started out pretty crappy and I feel a lot better now. Thank you Tom and Jay!
Thank you! Glad the podcast lifted your spirits!
I love the way Tom responds while listening to Jay; it's not just simple 'uh-huh' like many others, but Tom inserts words like 'sure', 'absolutely' 'love it', 'totally!' ' a 100%'...etc.etc.
Tom is an excellent communicator. Not only he is very eloquent but also he makes his counterparty aware that he is well listened. You can tell that Tom is an intelligent and caring man.
What the hell bot
seeing interviews (or rather conversations) like this really + truly reminds me of who is on the side of light in this world. it's also not so black and white, all or nothing, light or dark, but a conversation like this TRULY made me comprehend that it's a choice that we all make, and the action of doing so is relative to our life circumstances, our living situations, and yet it's a choice that we all intentionally make, perhaps over and over again, oftentimes the constant making of it is more a reminder to ground ourselves in what we truly value and know to be true than anything else.
Hearing Tom speak about the need to take a brief break from filming crowded room to tend to his well-being and find balance is a testament to his humanity.
His emotional intelligence is astonishing his mind is so healthy it’s amazing to see. Also he is such a great storyteller you could listen to him for houuuurs. I just love this guy 🤗
This is was one of the best interviews I've ever heard! It felt like sitting in on a heartfelt, intentional conversion. Both Tom and Jay asked questions, related to eachother, and brought their experiences to the table. I learned so much about how genuine Tom is and this man i havent seen before! This is awesome!
I also appreciate that he would ask questions that let Tom transparently say why he took breaks, instead of tagging it or wording it in a way the press does to force a narative.
I get the allure now. Tom seems very genuine & relaxed.
Tom Holland is a great young man. Also, obviously very empathetic and a good listener. Great episode. Thank you, Jay!
He was a wonderful guest!
I absolutely love and respect this man and how he expresses what kind of a healthy father is and how parents should treat their children correctly, it's amazing.
One of the best conversations. The back and forward with questions. More like friends.
i’ve never related to someone more. we’re close in age and look a lot alike, have been struggling with crippling social anxiety and drinking a lot to deal with it, otherwise just being stuck in my house. super inspiring and he gives me hope
I loved how open he was with his sobriety & how it has inspired his mom to give up drinking. It also makes me happy because Zendaya has also been very vocal about never wanting to drink alcohol & avoiding the party culture in Hollywood, so it's great knowing he's surrounded by a wonderful support system in his journey to sobriety.
i love how private he is about his relationship
notice how Tom maintain the conversation with words “Amazing” “Fantastic” what makes this interview the way interesting and alive
What a genuine, humble human being. Defo someone you would want in your close circle. Huge respect for Tom.
Tom should do more podcasts. He's great at holding a conversation and telling stories.
I agree! He was on the "SmartLess" podcast with Jason Bateman and Will Arnett recently and he also did one with Seth Meyers, the podcast is called "Family Trips with the Meyers Brothers" and his episode is supposed to come out soon.
I can see that as a positive for him 😮.
@@millsromeI listened to the Meyer Brothers podcast, it's really fun! Always love Tom's interviews because he talks so well, and podcasts are better than tv interviews, more relaxed.
What a genuine humble human Tom is.
I truly admire you, Tom, for recognizing what the industry could do to you and putting yourself first. That's an insight most people don't reach, and for you to do that at such a young age is truly admirable
I just love how this felt like a genuine conversation and not an interview just because it's Tom Holland. Thank you for this one, Jay! I really learned quite a lot!
36:13 It's such a fresh nice perspective about alcoholism. I know I have a problem since covid "ended" and I didn't end the daily consumption. I tried to stop so many times but each time I would see my friends again, they would push me to have at least a drink, two drinks, one shot, two shots...because we are young let's live, and also I'm not the stereotype of the alcoholic person who does crazy stuffs and causes scenes. I'm a chill alcoholic, I started drinking to calm my nerves, to go to school and be an obedient student. Then it was to have fun, to black out "to enjoy life" and to forget the working week. Except, I know now, enjoying life as nothing to do with being drunk. At least not for me. Tom was lucky to have a supportive circle. I've never had that. Maybe it's time for me to cut off with my friends and seek support elsewhere. It's so hard to do it alone. But it gets even more lonely to be around people who supposed to love you, care for you but never do.
I love your honest, open conversation around mental health and alcohol. So good to hear people of influence (whether you want to be an influencer or not haha) having these deep discussions. Tom is a great example of how you don't have to be an "alcoholic" (hate that term) or hit some sort of "rock bottom" to decide alcohol just isn't serving you anymore. And giving it up can actually open up your life and enhance your experience of life as opposed to meaning you'll never have fun again. Thank you 🙏
I admire how Jay's aura is so light; every visitor that goes on his podcast appears incredibly relaxed. It's just beyond beautiful!
Almost forgot who was Interviewing who at one point! 😂😂😂 Tom is the definition of a fantastic communicator. Great speaker and listener - no wonder he’s been so successful. Talent only takes you so far. Knowing how to build connection with other humans is the real secret to success in life - master the skill and you’ll be able to go wherever you want.
Great discuss - thanks Jay. ❤
Discussion*
It is so refreshing to hear a man speaks so openly, and authentically. He seems to embrace his vulnerability AND also embrace the masculine as well. I’m a forever fan of Tom now :)
I admired Tom for a long time since he played Peter Parker! He works hard and let people know he is the Spider-Man! He is so truly to tell his life, so admirable!
This feels refreshing. To see Tom without makeup speaking about life as we all know it. He plays a character on screen, in late night Tv interviews and in the red carpet. What the rest of us don’t realize is he plays a character to go to Starbucks, the mall, etc. We really can’t understand what it’s like to always be on. He’s done all of this in his formative years when one’s ego is developing.
Tom, I am happy for you that you’ve woken up a bit early on. The journey will become easier and takes a lifetime indeed. Just being conscious enough to realize how unconscious we are is 99% of the battle.
Rooting you on. Best to you, your family, and your loved ones, now and always.
I especially loved when Jay and Tom were talking about their interactions with wildlife,being present and so close to the animals,it's incredible how connected it makes one feel.What I admire about Tom is that he's so down to earth and humble,humility shines through.I really felt like by the end it was just like old pals sharing stories and catching up on life.Thank you Jay for this conversation ❤️
It was such a pleasure chatting with Tom! Thanks for your comment ❤
This was incredible to watch, two genuine people having a genuine conversation where they genuinely want to understand and hear and understand each other.
Recently started my sobriety, this was very insightful.
I'v been drinking 2/3 times a week for 10 years and now I'm on a soba path.. listening to Tom was incredibly similar to my past situations, where I was afraid of missing out on social engagements but it's the best thing I've ever done!!
Love this podcast! ❤
Tom could totally do a show where he speaks with people (like a podcast or host a travel show where he talks to people about life). He's such a well rounded thoughtful human being who always seems genuine in his interest in others.
Tom is so emotionally intelligent and tender hearted! Really enjoyed this episode.
As a person who had never liked alcohol ever since I tried it years ago, I'm just happy to hear about how you love being that sober friend. Happy that the choice you took was supported by your friends.
1:06:51 sign that Tom is actually really good at finding things people love to talk about and ask questions about it. You can see how host's eyes light up after Tom's question. Tom is really high emotionally intelligent
This was such a good listen. I'm a 22 year old who has lived in wisconsin my entire life. I am 7 1/2 months alcohol free....and I never would have imagined how good it feels. No more headaches, no more week long depression, no more blackouts, no more regrets. When pulling away, you really notice how much of an impact it has on your whole life. Living in a state where alcohol is the culture makes you forget its a poison. Proud of the both of you and also talking about not pushing it on other people you have yo choose it for yourself ❤
I am also the same age but felt the complete polar opposite most of my life so I am not sure how to go about changes if I am being honest with you mate personally.
@@TheBlackPlatoon757either way, changes should happen, and we should never look back with regret. Like stages of becoming a butterfly, it cannot become a caterpillar again…and becoming a butterfly took a lot of pain to get there.
If you sense something needs to change, don’t compare yourself to others to see what you should or shouldn’t be doing…look to whoever you sense is the great Creator, ask them who they want you to be and work towards that daily.
@fuzzykittens04
You put it beautifully. It’s difficult to be surrounded people who see poison or addiction as normal.
People who literally can’t function without a cup of coffee think that’s normal. That’s bondage, friend.
You broke free from bondage of alcohol, keep speaking out about that. You will offer strength to others through your experience.
@@8dreamersfarm Thanks, I needed this so much.
@@8dreamersfarmThere's no creator to have a chat with.
This is one of the best episodes in a long time and sounded like two friends chatting! I love how open, honest and down to earth Tom is, also clearly so respectful of his relationship with Zendaya, a real gentleman!
I had to quit alcohol because of a medication I'm on. Hearing Tom talk about the struggles with quitting has been really powerful. I'm considering not drinking after I'm done with it because of this.
loving the positive vibe with asking for help with anything
He is such a great example of healthy masculinity, introspection and connection to himself. Beautiful to watch you too interact!
Tom Holland really understands the risks involved with Hollywood 1:16:33 As Tom said, “you can get lost in it” is such a true and bold statement. But I’m just grateful that he has taken time off for himself and had an amazing interview. Let’s go Tom 🙏 Great interview from Jay Shetty.
Hearing and seeing the emotions and honesty and passion in the voices is very refreshing. Listening to Tom speak on releasing himself from alcohol resonates with me with trying to release myself from negativity. Fantastic conversation fellas!
I absolutely loved this interview. It's very engaging from both, good questions, both are just having a great conversation and giving us inspiration and enlightenment from their experiences. Amazing. I loved hearing Tom talk like this, very open and authentic. Also, jay is great st what he does.