One of the thousands of instances of "Be the change you want to see in the world" You cannot help people overcome their judgment if you cannot overcome yours
I mean yeah I guess but there definitely seems like there’s judgment that’s radically more founded. I mean if there’s someone you’re looking at who’s judgmental but they’re terrible people like they hugely abusive and they judge people for stupid things and it’s mostly to make themselves feel better about how bad they are while your judgment is aimed at people genuinely being horrible and abusing others that judgment wether useful or not certainly makes more sense. Also you’d need some level of judging the difference between things to know what’s wrong and wrong without good judgment you wouldn’t have that ability. Usually good judgment about if this person is good to be around or not you’ve got to judge their behavior to know that. Know whether you get emotionally involved or not is a different matter but I feel like some level of judgment is a natural part of knowing what we want to associate with. Also I seems like horrible people always say to not judge because they’re horrible and don’t want to be judged so I don’t think that advice always comes from a noble place. It’s like calling someone a judgmental prude because they won’t be gross and have no ethics or boundaries in their behavior. Some people like shame judgment and judge people for having it so they can be how they want and not feel judged.
I learned that if you do not agree with what people say or do, you should let them know. So that they become aware that they won't have complacency from your side. I don t mean to be rude. I mean to be assertive. And if they continue to come with the same negativity again, the border line, only will become thicker. They choose to be how they are, and you also can choose to respond to it, in order to give you peace of mind 🙏
This is the power of Consciousness. The answer will emerge from this space with clarity and creativity. Maybe it will be to stay quiet and compasionnate.
Good question, at some point, there is an obligation to respond to someone’s paranoia or we’d risk validating it. Accepting things as they are works up to a point.
I would say the more you *think* you know, the more you judge. The less you *actually* know, the less you judge. I remember how judgement-free I was as a child, even when I was the victim of bad behavior, and my lack of judgement was because I just couldn’t know anything about people, or why they were acting like that. As I had no answers and not even questions, I just observed, and my body reacted accordingly.
@@RogerioLupoArteCientifica It's about thinking you know, that's what i had in mind, yes. Because, if you know you don't know, you know and you don't judge, you go search for the truth - if you want to. And that's the best way to spend your time. The highest reward is to find the truth, because with knowing the truth comes a solution and inner peace.
Of course you get to choose your relatives on a higher lever. And judgement on the so called outside is your own judgement about yourself otherwise it wouldn't be reflected back to you.
The people who are blind and have so many problems with the world, if they become my problem then I am no less blind than they, I have seen this in my own experience. I think it is natural to want to bring people with you on this journey, watching others worry and ruminate over and over, but our words can have little effect and sometimes stir more negative emotions, in the end we must accept where they are and maybe offer a gentle nudge here and there, even if it is simply to remark on what a beautiful day it is.
Saying: "being amidst judgemental people" - is a judgement too. So? He just means that we all can feel more comfortable in some particular environments & more uncomfortable in some others, this is very human. A vegetarian person will not feel comfortable in a steak house, a hindu will take time to adapt to a foreign country like America or China, a writer or artist who likes silence & seclusion for creative work might not enjoy working in loud places. It is a question of habits & adaptability. When we are in a very different environment to which we are used to, we feel judged cause we attract attention. When someone is different, looks different, dresses different, speaks & behaves different to the environment, usually the environment looks & might judge. developing healthy understanding & indifference to this, is healthy, like a form of dissociation or what is called: 'being in the world, but being off it"
i'm one of his family members and all we were saying is the crime in cities is rising and good people should move out of the cities. It wasn't directed at one specific culture which is comitting the majority of the violent crimes. It is so much more relaxing living with top cultures
this maybe isn't the right place to ask these questions, there's a lot of personality disorders that need to be understood by studying psychology. Here you'll probably only get a vague answer that doesn't address the core problem. If your relatives suffer NPD you always have a choice to cut ties with them, and that probably is in your best interest, because they will never change. The only choice you have is to move away and surround yourself with people who deserve your love and attention.
NPD can destroy everyone around that person. It's sad really because as far I know from what I've learnt it mostly stems from trauma and they're stuck outing out toxic patterns which eventually destroys there own life.
@@inspiringmedia3716 Yes, this is why I said it's best to move on and cut ties, because no improvement can be done and they tend to erode everything around them like a black hole sucking your life energy.
@@IDA...15 just mind u, not all difficult ppl are on NPD spectrum, many people have narcissistic traits who are not fully fledged NPD, then you also have the whole cluster B, and some people can also just be arrogant without being necessarily npd, they can see their mistakes, honestly apologize, have empathy etc. So there's a lot of nuance to this, this is why it's important to study it. This is the knowledge that will truly empower you in life. When dealing with such people, knowledge is everything.
@@amonynous9041 Thank you. I have read about and observed this kind of people too many years and now I can tell you that all these challenges appearing to me for knowing myself better, increasing my awareness.
One of the thousands of instances of "Be the change you want to see in the world"
You cannot help people overcome their judgment if you cannot overcome yours
I mean yeah I guess but there definitely seems like there’s judgment that’s radically more founded. I mean if there’s someone you’re looking at who’s judgmental but they’re terrible people like they hugely abusive and they judge people for stupid things and it’s mostly to make themselves feel better about how bad they are while your judgment is aimed at people genuinely being horrible and abusing others that judgment wether useful or not certainly makes more sense. Also you’d need some level of judging the difference between things to know what’s wrong and wrong without good judgment you wouldn’t have that ability. Usually good judgment about if this person is good to be around or not you’ve got to judge their behavior to know that. Know whether you get emotionally involved or not is a different matter but I feel like some level of judgment is a natural part of knowing what we want to associate with. Also I seems like horrible people always say to not judge because they’re horrible and don’t want to be judged so I don’t think that advice always comes from a noble place. It’s like calling someone a judgmental prude because they won’t be gross and have no ethics or boundaries in their behavior. Some people like shame judgment and judge people for having it so they can be how they want and not feel judged.
Beautiful teaching, thank you Adya
I learned that if you do not agree with what people say or do, you should let them know. So that they become aware that they won't have complacency from your side. I don t mean to be rude. I mean to be assertive. And if they continue to come with the same negativity again, the border line, only will become thicker. They choose to be how they are, and you also can choose to respond to it, in order to give you peace of mind 🙏
The first step of dealing with judgement is to not judge who's judging you.
This is the power of Consciousness.
The answer will emerge from this space with clarity and creativity. Maybe it will be to stay quiet and compasionnate.
So helpful. Thank you, Adya.
This question I recognize so much! 🙏 The answer Adyashanti gives is the best from knowing, being almost 82! It takes so many years….
Thanks for this, 🎯♥😶 🙏☮ wishing love, grace, courage and understanding for all.
Such a wonderful, wise teacher. So authentic. I don’t know another like hun
Good question, at some point, there is an obligation to respond to someone’s paranoia or we’d risk validating it. Accepting things as they are works up to a point.
Hatred from another might be uncovering it to be seen to be Felt
That it be healed❤
The less you know, the more you judge.
I would say the more you *think* you know, the more you judge. The less you *actually* know, the less you judge. I remember how judgement-free I was as a child, even when I was the victim of bad behavior, and my lack of judgement was because I just couldn’t know anything about people, or why they were acting like that. As I had no answers and not even questions, I just observed, and my body reacted accordingly.
@@RogerioLupoArteCientifica It's about thinking you know, that's what i had in mind, yes. Because, if you know you don't know, you know and you don't judge, you go search for the truth - if you want to. And that's the best way to spend your time. The highest reward is to find the truth, because with knowing the truth comes a solution and inner peace.
Four things belong to a judge: to hear courteously, to answer wisely, to consider soberly, and to decide impartially.
Socrates
You dont have to be with your relatives if you not enjoying theirs company.
Fantastic video, thank you
It doesn't stick.
I want to join but I don’t have any more money. Good work.!
please i'm so trying to stop payement I do not want to engage any longer helpppppp
The third No sounded so Italian it was convincing 😂
I wonder if Adya planned to match his hair to the background (or the other way around?). Nice aesthetic!
Of course you get to choose your relatives on a higher lever. And judgement on the so called outside is your own judgement about yourself otherwise it wouldn't be reflected back to you.
Was it not him who was judging or wanting them- or her- to be different?
The people who are blind and have so many problems with the world, if they become my problem then I am no less blind than they, I have seen this in my own experience. I think it is natural to want to bring people with you on this journey, watching others worry and ruminate over and over, but our words can have little effect and sometimes stir more negative emotions, in the end we must accept where they are and maybe offer a gentle nudge here and there, even if it is simply to remark on what a beautiful day it is.
This was great 😂 and relatable. ❤🙏
Saying: "being amidst judgemental people" - is a judgement too. So? He just means that we all can feel more comfortable in some particular environments & more uncomfortable in some others, this is very human. A vegetarian person will not feel comfortable in a steak house, a hindu will take time to adapt to a foreign country like America or China, a writer or artist who likes silence & seclusion for creative work might not enjoy working in loud places. It is a question of habits & adaptability. When we are in a very different environment to which we are used to, we feel judged cause we attract attention. When someone is different, looks different, dresses different, speaks & behaves different to the environment, usually the environment looks & might judge. developing healthy understanding & indifference to this, is healthy, like a form of dissociation or what is called: 'being in the world, but being off it"
i'm one of his family members and all we were saying is the crime in cities is rising and good people should move out of the cities. It wasn't directed at one specific culture which is comitting the majority of the violent crimes. It is so much more relaxing living with top cultures
People sometimes see a realist as being judgemental or harsh or in this case racist.
Top cultures, lmao
Um, it's "judgment."
this maybe isn't the right place to ask these questions, there's a lot of personality disorders that need to be understood by studying psychology. Here you'll probably only get a vague answer that doesn't address the core problem. If your relatives suffer NPD you always have a choice to cut ties with them, and that probably is in your best interest, because they will never change. The only choice you have is to move away and surround yourself with people who deserve your love and attention.
NPD can destroy everyone around that person. It's sad really because as far I know from what I've learnt it mostly stems from trauma and they're stuck outing out toxic patterns which eventually destroys there own life.
@@inspiringmedia3716 Yes, this is why I said it's best to move on and cut ties, because no improvement can be done and they tend to erode everything around them like a black hole sucking your life energy.
I like your expression "like a black hole".
From now one I will remember it when I'll meeting difficult people.👍🙏❤️
@@IDA...15 just mind u, not all difficult ppl are on NPD spectrum, many people have narcissistic traits who are not fully fledged NPD, then you also have the whole cluster B, and some people can also just be arrogant without being necessarily npd, they can see their mistakes, honestly apologize, have empathy etc. So there's a lot of nuance to this, this is why it's important to study it. This is the knowledge that will truly empower you in life. When dealing with such people, knowledge is everything.
@@amonynous9041 Thank you. I have read about and observed this kind of people too many years and now I can tell you that all these challenges appearing to me for knowing myself better, increasing my awareness.
Wow! Thanks!
Bro won’t let go .
they're "should"-ing me. they shouldn't.
🪞