Women understand the importance of not making a permanent decision based on someone who could change his mind tomorrow. Men are human beings not gods!!!
and at the end of the day we kame that choice to choose them and their dreams and pack our dreams away. Someone told me to be careful of being too kind hearted, yes it is my nature but that is also my downfall and I never looked back.
@@lethiwevinjwa7247 Undisputed comment! My 47 year old brother just married a 26 year old girl! Mind you, this is his 3rd wife!!!!! Yes! Third wife. He never had any counselling but thinks he's ready to re-marry. The ink was not even dry on his last divorce. But jiki jiki he is married! Guess what! He is isolating his new young wife of 1 month from her family. She has ex-communicated her cousins etc! My brother is also estranged from me because I was holding him accountable for not seeing his daughter for 3 years and financially supporting his x-wife!! I was not invited to the wedding. Isolating this young lady is to his benefit and not hers. So that when he starts to emotionally abuse her, he can do it comfortably! I narrated this story because I AGREE WITH YOUR COMMENT 110%!!!!.
i don't regret building my life early in life ,I had mentality that if he comes let him come then if he wanna go he can take his jacket ....I heal but I'll b still having my house and cars. ,men can delay u guys yhooooo
Yoh, Nozipho's stoty traumatized me. By the time she cried, I was already in tears. Lapho, she's so soft spoken and looks fragile and she has good English, coming from a good home, with an amazing r/ship with her mom. How did they both miss the red flags. What broke my heart even more was how dhe still speaks well about him and fails to hold him accountable for his behaviour. When she said this is not my husband i could feel her desperation to blame other non existent factors as the cause so that she can restore her marriage. I just want the kids to grow up and give her the good life she deserves. I love her hle.
Please invite Nosipho to your podcast, you or Promise would have done a better job. Phindi and Mo's podcast is more suited for couples. It was a bit unfair for Nosipho to be interviewed by a couple that was lovie dovie and holding each other's hand while her marriage is in trouble and worse when they were asking her about her struggling marriage
Same Mommy. i will never raise another woman’s child while she’s still alive. i cannot. imagine raising her offspring/s while yena she’s outchea slaying w a six pack and nna i’m outchea being stressed out by her kids.
There is a lady here in Australia by the name of Mahali Selepe. She has a UA-cam channel. Please invite this lady to come and share her story...please. Yoh!!!😢😢😢😢😢 I woke up one day, looked at my life and ask myself hore what parts of my life were my OWN decisions and NOT what other people expected of me. My life has never been the same ever since that day. Because I realised that some of the decisions I made were solely bcos someone had an influence or it was expected that I do those things. It was so liberating to acknowledge that.
@@palesas6301 Welcome to FREEDOM! I wish you all the very best on your new journey. Please buy a journal titled 365 Days of Purpose. Sending you love from Australia..😍😍❤❤❤😘😘
The mistake you and Nozi did was trying to reconnect these men with the kids they abandoned and hoped they will play their part. You basically forced them to be fathers and they didn't want to be a part of it from the beginning. And because a leopard doesn't change its spots they then did the same with you😢
Very weird that a mother would advise their child to have a child with someone who has no intentions of marrying them I don’t get people who think marriage is too much of a commitment than a child
Some mothers lead their children that direction because they want to keep their children.They also dont want the child to get married and move out.They someone like that who will wanna give them a baby and leave them there with their families.Remember some of this children are bread winners.
As sad as this situation is..i honestly believe it was still all part of gods plan. If she had decided not to overlook those red flags, those 4 kids they have together wouldn't exist and his 3 wouldn't have experienced such a positive mother figure who today they stick up for as if she is their biological mom. Hope she is able to heal and move forward..and myb she was not aware of his past but history might be repeating itself with this new fiance because she is also overlooking red flags now.
Cc, I watched that interview. I also analyzed Nozipho the same way you did. How is it possible for a man not to love his product and love someone he doesn't share blood with.
Nah I blame Nozipho firstly she self abandoned in hopes that he will love her secondly girl has a brain to become to a doctor and she left that for a man. You gave that man the tight to feed you and starve you. Thirdly I doubt its the first time he cheats he probably has more than 8 kids outside. I want to feel sorry for but she neglected herself.
Spot on. She did this to herself…she had a lot of opportunities to do something for her koda she chose indoda that said she was a nuisance of a girlfriend and couldn’t get rid off…imagine😮
Nozipho must brace herself the worst wrath from him is coming! He will now punish her with inconsistencies with children! He will gradually stop paying for their livelihood! I hope and pray I’m wrong but they become evil like that!
I think he started 😥nozi must divorce get a spousal support and maintenance.I know they will downgrade but it is better than nothing. She must use that small amount to start over the kids will adjust.
@@NtsakoMasoanganye-zc3nc yep I knew it! I know the moves of these people once they receive excitement from externally! They hate anything that reminds them of their past including their own kids! He forgets that Nozipho was being a decent human being when she took all the kids to be in one roof! She can easily take her own kids and restart her life with ease ! Cause she seems she has a good support system from her family! The new person must look after the rest if children too! But Nozipho will not abandon the kids she loves them too much! Commend her for that
@@andilengubane5178 I think now he is financially abusing her.He knows that she is not happy and there's chances she may leave so he gives her limited money so that she will not plan her exit plan.She is far from having an exit plan the only thing she can do is to divorce take spousal support and child maintenance and start afresh it not too late to fulfill her dreams.Some of the kids are at boarding school which will make things easier for her
Yoh let me go back and watch, because I also switched to another channel as soon as Mo started interrupting nozi when she was trying to explain how she grew up 😢
@@matlalampho4304 One is my brother. My mother and father's son. Covert emotional abuser of note! My ex SIL was perceived to be the devil bcos she battled with alcohol and was very outspoken. I used to defend her against attacks from my other siblings because I knew that my brother was a sleaze bag. He drove her to drink like that. Now they all see right through him.
@@sontofakude7724we didnt hear her properly they were interrupting when she was trying to talk they were cutting her and making the interview about themselves 🤷unless you don't know the purpose of an interview.Sharing your life stories as hosts is important to make the guest feel free but don't interrupt their stories.Nozi is a public figure not a mbali from soshanguve😊we will comment and share our views on her trending stories and she's an adult she has a choice to answer questions she wants and not answer questions she doesn't want. So if this topic bores you😐you can watch other videos and let those who want have their opinions.
Nozipho has been bekezeling i don't think her husband changed. He is a womaniser period. We as women we must learn to love and choose ourselves. Men choose themselves all the time.
No lies detected in your comment. He was a wild dog on a leash for a long time, but he got tired of pretending😂😂. Marriage and kids fooled everyone into believing that he was tame.
This was lovely, I felt like I'd joined a sisterhood support group. The only thing I didn't agree with was that you said men are not evil, because I feel like even our Lord and saviour Jesus Christ would confess that he never knew them.😂😂 Other than that, I feel like another part of my heart and bruised ego has been healed today.
😂😂Wena you are funny mahn. The way you narrate 😂😂 Madam Speaker, what are the chances of having a live where we discuss cohabiting/having sex before marriage as Christians?
Mo and Phindi were over familiar with Nozipho. I hope they take the constructive criticism they've received. She is not their friend, even if she was , the interview was not about them.
To sesinloga and other woman have you,your dreams ,your plan for life incase no one comes.If anyone comes, messes up and destroy the plans you have together go back to your dreams that you had before they came.Refuse for anyone to change you or drive you in a direction you've never planned for your life.Return to your factory settings where were you going before he came what were your plans before he came go back to being that person.Perseverance I see you are healed 90 + %and still healing the remaining -10% Its beautiful to see you so calm like this and so healed I love it for you.❤
Maybe something is wrong with me. But when you do something that you feel is right. Does that mean your partner must neglect his needs because of the right thing you did? I mean to say, Nozipho's husband is adamant he must serve his purpose and have more wives. Nozipho doesn't want to be part of that. Does the new fact now mean she was not supposed to raise all those kids? Did she play herself for making a good decision for her family just because the marriage is done? Nozipho didn't lose. It's just that life changes. It's not personal. People need to heal. And Zola didn't say let's take the kids. She decided to do it. And it was a good thing. Those children do not stop being hers because her marriage ended
I think the same as you. I don't believe it was a mistake. The kids had a good foundation. Maybe it is time she finds herself and builds something for her and the kids.
Nozipho neglected her needs for the family, he should've done the same. His "PURPOSE" ke bofebe? Yes, she was not supposed to raise those kids if that man thinks having another wife is okay. He should've waited for that new wife & asked her to raise the kids. Now the kids are meeting multiple women & getting confused + programmed into adultery & fornication. Yes, she played herself by making a good decision for the benefit of the family he shares with a man, that only makes good decisions for his own benefit. It is not personal? How is your family-life not "personal"? People must not be hurt, so there is no need to heal. WHAAAAAAAT!? She must take care of her exes kids? lol, while he fulfills his purpose. LMAO, Modimo nthuse. I hope I answered all your questions
Hahaha, ubuzalwana is a disability. I can attest. My ex boyfriend said the same thing kum. We have a child, wathi ndi needy. I actually believe him yazi.
Yazi the notion that says 'Red flags' were there she ignored them kinda confuses me..... which red flags guys that showed that one day he will want a second wife ??? Yes the three kids before he met Nozi, the laying about them (which is very common with men not declaring the truth in fear that the potential wife will reject them (not to say it's right but look, it's very common in our society and families got built still.... Okay they went ahead and built a family for a good 18 years and i feel that we have no information that suggests that Nozi was not happy in the marriage...(Maybe that's the leg missing for me) I just feel like at times life just happened guys, people can just decide one day to dishonour their marriage vows , I'm not sure if we can 'always' pin point every happening in this life to 'red flags' were there..... You know Nokia CEO said this statement with tears when they were out of market ....'We did everything right but we still lost customers .....
I hear you Ntsako. It’s just funny how when life happens in most cases the happening of life involves a man choosing to abandon his family. It can’t be life happening where a wife abandons 8 kids for a new ben10. It’s just sad
You’ve answered yourself but I’ll highlight that fact that you can’t trust a man to be a dedicated Honourable men if he abandoned and lied about his children….
The foundation of their relationship was built on sand. It would be interesting to know if they did pre-marital counselling. He lied about having kids. Not because he was protecting her feelings, but because he was afraid of what she could do if he told her. That screams selfish, lack of transparency and integrity! He lied by ommission to safeguard what was beneficial to him. That speaks to character. This man has always acted in his best interest. From the jump, this man has always chosen himself. He never wanted fatherhood because it was NOT convenient! However, Nozipho was a "fixer" and empath who ran around "fixing" situations that he created without consulting her. She carried his baggage from Day1till the day he decided to dibble and dabble his !@#$ in another woman's "whatever". Nozipho losing her dad may have had a significant role in being a "caretaker" to this grown ass man and those kids he abandoned. The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. Ppl who have had safe upbringings can become "fixers and savers". Trying to give others what they experienced. Overall it is a sad situation. She can only pick up the pieces and move forward with her life.
@@hlengiwehadebe_that within itself was a red flag . the kids ages, the lies. If that wasn't red flag enough then we dont know. The fact that he could leave the baby mama when the kid was so young to go marry HER . pity that women who marry and end up with cheaters feel like they have won until such a moment happens and then they realize they r the ones whoz lives were wasted
Tja rena di worse and honestly women we need to work regardless how much bacon a man brings those people will bring a lion to the house as long as he's happy in someone's life...Ku ruff guys..i found him with a 4 year old when he was getting worse with his rubbish i had to let go and cut including the kid after 20 years being married...these men they will even continue to leave those kids with us..like wtf???we are related to these kids because of their dads..if marriage is done they must pack with them..cos wow
Women understand the importance of not making a permanent decision based on someone who could change his mind tomorrow. Men are human beings not gods!!!
That’s what I tell myself when my husband ask for a baby while I don’t have a thirst for a baby
and at the end of the day we kame that choice to choose them and their dreams and pack our dreams away. Someone told me to be careful of being too kind hearted, yes it is my nature but that is also my downfall and I never looked back.
@@mphomatshaya2740 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Men are not here to suffer... They will always put themselves first
@@lethiwevinjwa7247 Undisputed comment! My 47 year old brother just married a 26 year old girl! Mind you, this is his 3rd wife!!!!! Yes! Third wife. He never had any counselling but thinks he's ready to re-marry. The ink was not even dry on his last divorce. But jiki jiki he is married! Guess what! He is isolating his new young wife of 1 month from her family. She has ex-communicated her cousins etc! My brother is also estranged from me because I was holding him accountable for not seeing his daughter for 3 years and financially supporting his x-wife!! I was not invited to the wedding. Isolating this young lady is to his benefit and not hers. So that when he starts to emotionally abuse her, he can do it comfortably!
I narrated this story because I AGREE WITH YOUR COMMENT 110%!!!!.
i don't regret building my life early in life ,I had mentality that if he comes let him come then if he wanna go he can take his jacket ....I heal but I'll b still having my house and cars. ,men can delay u guys yhooooo
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I wish I knew this. I found out late.
Yoh, Nozipho's stoty traumatized me. By the time she cried, I was already in tears. Lapho, she's so soft spoken and looks fragile and she has good English, coming from a good home, with an amazing r/ship with her mom. How did they both miss the red flags.
What broke my heart even more was how dhe still speaks well about him and fails to hold him accountable for his behaviour. When she said this is not my husband i could feel her desperation to blame other non existent factors as the cause so that she can restore her marriage. I just want the kids to grow up and give her the good life she deserves. I love her hle.
She's in denial. That is her husband. He has been that way since the day they met
@@IamBaratiexactly 😭😭😭!
Please invite Nosipho to your podcast, you or Promise would have done a better job. Phindi and Mo's podcast is more suited for couples. It was a bit unfair for Nosipho to be interviewed by a couple that was lovie dovie and holding each other's hand while her marriage is in trouble and worse when they were asking her about her struggling marriage
They were so inconsiderate indeed l saw that it was very strange.
Of all things I'm going to regret in life, raising other people's kids is not going to be one of them
Same Mommy. i will never raise another woman’s child while she’s still alive. i cannot. imagine raising her offspring/s while yena she’s outchea slaying w a six pack and nna i’m outchea being stressed out by her kids.
@@MOSIMA. And ba tella gore. Such a thankless experience
There is a lady here in Australia by the name of Mahali Selepe. She has a UA-cam channel. Please invite this lady to come and share her story...please. Yoh!!!😢😢😢😢😢
I woke up one day, looked at my life and ask myself hore what parts of my life were my OWN decisions and NOT what other people expected of me. My life has never been the same ever since that day. Because I realised that some of the decisions I made were solely bcos someone had an influence or it was expected that I do those things. It was so liberating to acknowledge that.
I had a revelation of this yesterday!
@@palesas6301 Welcome to FREEDOM! I wish you all the very best on your new journey. Please buy a journal titled 365 Days of Purpose. Sending you love from Australia..😍😍❤❤❤😘😘
Men will always and forever choose themselves 🤞even if you can be 200% humble a s wife 😢
I know I am a man, but I am struggling to understand how a man ignores and neglect his blood. There is no excuse for this.
Nozi's life is a trigger to most ladies, we've been through a lot hey!!! Le nou I'm still traumatized by my life story
The mistake you and Nozi did was trying to reconnect these men with the kids they abandoned and hoped they will play their part. You basically forced them to be fathers and they didn't want to be a part of it from the beginning. And because a leopard doesn't change its spots they then did the same with you😢
No lies detected ma’am
Very weird that a mother would advise their child to have a child with someone who has no intentions of marrying them
I don’t get people who think marriage is too much of a commitment than a child
Some mothers lead their children that direction because they want to keep their children.They also dont want the child to get married and move out.They someone like that who will wanna give them a baby and leave them there with their families.Remember some of this children are bread winners.
As sad as this situation is..i honestly believe it was still all part of gods plan. If she had decided not to overlook those red flags, those 4 kids they have together wouldn't exist and his 3 wouldn't have experienced such a positive mother figure who today they stick up for as if she is their biological mom. Hope she is able to heal and move forward..and myb she was not aware of his past but history might be repeating itself with this new fiance because she is also overlooking red flags now.
Cc, I watched that interview. I also analyzed Nozipho the same way you did.
How is it possible for a man not to love his product and love someone he doesn't share blood with.
Nah I blame Nozipho firstly she self abandoned in hopes that he will love her secondly girl has a brain to become to a doctor and she left that for a man. You gave that man the tight to feed you and starve you. Thirdly I doubt its the first time he cheats he probably has more than 8 kids outside. I want to feel sorry for but she neglected herself.
Spot on. She did this to herself…she had a lot of opportunities to do something for her koda she chose indoda that said she was a nuisance of a girlfriend and couldn’t get rid off…imagine😮
She walked into a house built on sand and full of cracks, hoping that it'll withstand hurricanes
truth
she over stayed for what
Nozipho must brace herself the worst wrath from him is coming! He will now punish her with inconsistencies with children! He will gradually stop paying for their livelihood! I hope and pray I’m wrong but they become evil like that!
This is what I fear. I hope she has a strong support system around her.
I think he has started already just that Nosipho is not willing to share more
I think he started 😥nozi must divorce get a spousal support and maintenance.I know they will downgrade but it is better than nothing. She must use that small amount to start over the kids will adjust.
@@NtsakoMasoanganye-zc3nc yep I knew it! I know the moves of these people once they receive excitement from externally! They hate anything that reminds them of their past including their own kids! He forgets that Nozipho was being a decent human being when she took all the kids to be in one roof! She can easily take her own kids and restart her life with ease ! Cause she seems she has a good support system from her family!
The new person must look after the rest if children too! But Nozipho will not abandon the kids she loves them too much! Commend her for that
@@andilengubane5178 I think now he is financially abusing her.He knows that she is not happy and there's chances she may leave so he gives her limited money so that she will not plan her exit plan.She is far from having an exit plan the only thing she can do is to divorce take spousal support and child maintenance and start afresh it not too late to fulfill her dreams.Some of the kids are at boarding school which will make things easier for her
I can relate 😢😢on the crying part without being hurt by anyone and I hate feeling like that😢
Yes!!! Guy knows her so well that he understands gore he can get away with anything because his loving wife will forgive.
Nna i was honest from day 1 that i step parent nobody's child.I order my gucci in peace & we continue to love each other in our self love
Yoh let me go back and watch, because I also switched to another channel as soon as Mo started interrupting nozi when she was trying to explain how she grew up 😢
Most nice guys are dangerous because their niceness is covering a lot of things.
@@matlalampho4304 One is my brother. My mother and father's son. Covert emotional abuser of note! My ex SIL was perceived to be the devil bcos she battled with alcohol and was very outspoken. I used to defend her against attacks from my other siblings because I knew that my brother was a sleaze bag. He drove her to drink like that. Now they all see right through him.
I hear the lady is hurt. She must heal and move on. Using the energy to get revenge, its a waste of time.
And that guy is married she is the side if you a guy acting like he has someone he is seriuous with if not a whole wife
She should direct her energies to getting herself back and factory settings before this guy came along.
The red flags were there in the beginning.
It was a red mountain and she decided to ignore it.
truth it was never perfect from on set
I hope she will come to Madam Speak or Promise angizwanga kahle Mo & Phindi bayimoshile yonke
Yini ongayizwanga? Letha ezakho izindaba sizozwa kahle bomamgobhozi eish!
@@sontofakude7724we didnt hear her properly they were interrupting when she was trying to talk they were cutting her and making the interview about themselves 🤷unless you don't know the purpose of an interview.Sharing your life stories as hosts is important to make the guest feel free but don't interrupt their stories.Nozi is a public figure not a mbali from soshanguve😊we will comment and share our views on her trending stories and she's an adult she has a choice to answer questions she wants and not answer questions she doesn't want. So if this topic bores you😐you can watch other videos and let those who want have their opinions.
say that again they were interrupting
Nozipho has been bekezeling i don't think her husband changed. He is a womaniser period. We as women we must learn to love and choose ourselves. Men choose themselves all the time.
No lies detected in your comment. He was a wild dog on a leash for a long time, but he got tired of pretending😂😂. Marriage and kids fooled everyone into believing that he was tame.
she did bekezel for too long ebona
I love you Madam Speaker,it’s your humour for me😂
Saying “love of my life “ while he was paining you. Man can make you stupid
This was lovely, I felt like I'd joined a sisterhood support group. The only thing I didn't agree with was that you said men are not evil, because I feel like even our Lord and saviour Jesus Christ would confess that he never knew them.😂😂
Other than that, I feel like another part of my heart and bruised ego has been healed today.
😂😂Wena you are funny mahn. The way you narrate 😂😂
Madam Speaker, what are the chances of having a live where we discuss cohabiting/having sex before marriage as Christians?
This sex before marriage is what giving men leverage to play with women
Kkkk 😂boys are not here to suffer 😅😅
Tupperware is a red flag with Mjolo 😂😂😂 ask Sonia
😂😂😂Tupperware is a very sensitive thing
😂😂 Tupperware and cheesecake or any cake nje.I heard a story of cake recently 😂😂😂 red flags those ones
I started to call my daughter sister earlier in the year, Wow I thought I was crazy 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Mo and Phindi were over familiar with Nozipho. I hope they take the constructive criticism they've received. She is not their friend, even if she was , the interview was not about them.
True 🙌🏽
Yhooo thr husband was worse..imagine whole hour,but not much more from Nozi
Yah no I couldn’t watch the video from the interview I really tried I’m so glad you covered this because I really wanted to know her story 🥺🥺
after 3 weeks am only watching this now... you are funny without trying... this woman being was crazy struu🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
100% Madam! Learn from life experiences. Guard your heart with all your might. We are becoming...life is a journey.
Basimane ga ba re rate guys 😭😭 No ways! 🤣😂😂
To sesinloga and other woman have you,your dreams ,your plan for life incase no one comes.If anyone comes, messes up and destroy the plans you have together go back to your dreams that you had before they came.Refuse for anyone to change you or drive you in a direction you've never planned for your life.Return to your factory settings where were you going before he came what were your plans before he came go back to being that person.Perseverance I see you are healed 90 + %and still healing the remaining -10% Its beautiful to see you so calm like this and so healed I love it for you.❤
I wish you conducted the interview ,there were disturbing Her alot
😂 'Awukaze wanqaba sibuyelane'. Hhhey these people are full of themselves! Ps I am not laughing, it's disbelief sometimes I just laugh for comfort...
I love you Madam Speaker
I gree with madam speaker from my experience I'll also say don't give sec chance.
Maybe something is wrong with me. But when you do something that you feel is right. Does that mean your partner must neglect his needs because of the right thing you did? I mean to say, Nozipho's husband is adamant he must serve his purpose and have more wives. Nozipho doesn't want to be part of that. Does the new fact now mean she was not supposed to raise all those kids? Did she play herself for making a good decision for her family just because the marriage is done? Nozipho didn't lose. It's just that life changes. It's not personal. People need to heal. And Zola didn't say let's take the kids. She decided to do it. And it was a good thing. Those children do not stop being hers because her marriage ended
I think the same as you. I don't believe it was a mistake. The kids had a good foundation. Maybe it is time she finds herself and builds something for her and the kids.
Nozipho neglected her needs for the family, he should've done the same. His "PURPOSE" ke bofebe? Yes, she was not supposed to raise those kids if that man thinks having another wife is okay. He should've waited for that new wife & asked her to raise the kids. Now the kids are meeting multiple women & getting confused + programmed into adultery & fornication. Yes, she played herself by making a good decision for the benefit of the family he shares with a man, that only makes good decisions for his own benefit. It is not personal? How is your family-life not "personal"? People must not be hurt, so there is no need to heal. WHAAAAAAAT!? She must take care of her exes kids? lol, while he fulfills his purpose. LMAO, Modimo nthuse. I hope I answered all your questions
😂😂😂Bathong Perseverance 😂😂😂
All these stories sounding like everyone is talking about my ex😢😂😂
Le sure gore gase di clone mara😳🤔
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😂 ke di clone chomi
@@estherseanego 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Banna ba ba tshwana shem. Wa tseba you'd think ba bua ka motho wa gago.
Clone, cloner, cloned. Clones, all of them😂😂
Sorry but i couldn't finish the interview...Mo and Phindi interjected alot in the interview
Trust me when you take care of step kids the father relaxes. I have seen it with ny mom and my sibling
It's a serious disability. I agree with u
The was a point where she said the husband would tell her that there was a time he couldn't get rid of her
@@refilwemotlhaga3748 Ijoooo! Bathong!!
Hahaha, ubuzalwana is a disability. I can attest. My ex boyfriend said the same thing kum. We have a child, wathi ndi needy. I actually believe him yazi.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂...Sis!
Invite her please
Caller m sorry the guy sounds like he is married he has a whole wige not a girlfriend sisi
You are no alone in being triggered. I share your sentiments on taking in kids🙆🏽♀️
Yazi the notion that says 'Red flags' were there she ignored them kinda confuses me..... which red flags guys that showed that one day he will want a second wife ???
Yes the three kids before he met Nozi, the laying about them (which is very common with men not declaring the truth in fear that the potential wife will reject them (not to say it's right but look, it's very common in our society and families got built still....
Okay they went ahead and built a family for a good 18 years and i feel that we have no information that suggests that Nozi was not happy in the marriage...(Maybe that's the leg missing for me)
I just feel like at times life just happened guys, people can just decide one day to dishonour their marriage vows ,
I'm not sure if we can 'always' pin point every happening in this life to 'red flags' were there.....
You know Nokia CEO said this statement with tears when they were out of market ....'We did everything right but we still lost customers .....
I hear you Ntsako. It’s just funny how when life happens in most cases the happening of life involves a man choosing to abandon his family. It can’t be life happening where a wife abandons 8 kids for a new ben10. It’s just sad
You’ve answered yourself but I’ll highlight that fact that you can’t trust a man to be a dedicated Honourable men if he abandoned and lied about his children….
The foundation of their relationship was built on sand. It would be interesting to know if they did pre-marital counselling.
He lied about having kids. Not because he was protecting her feelings, but because he was afraid of what she could do if he told her. That screams selfish, lack of transparency and integrity! He lied by ommission to safeguard what was beneficial to him. That speaks to character. This man has always acted in his best interest. From the jump, this man has always chosen himself. He never wanted fatherhood because it was NOT convenient! However, Nozipho was a "fixer" and empath who ran around "fixing" situations that he created without consulting her. She carried his baggage from Day1till the day he decided to dibble and dabble his !@#$ in another woman's "whatever". Nozipho losing her dad may have had a significant role in being a "caretaker" to this grown ass man and those kids he abandoned. The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.
Ppl who have had safe upbringings can become "fixers and savers". Trying to give others what they experienced. Overall it is a sad situation. She can only pick up the pieces and move forward with her life.
@@hlengiwehadebe_that within itself was a red flag . the kids ages, the lies. If that wasn't red flag enough then we dont know. The fact that he could leave the baby mama when the kid was so young to go marry HER . pity that women who marry and end up with cheaters feel like they have won until such a moment happens and then they realize they r the ones whoz lives were wasted
@@madams___speakerBut women do leave their homes. Men are just not vocal about it.
Girl that man is in realationship a serious one he is not serious with tou
People's up bringing determine their behaviorial patterns.
Do your research before you commit
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He can’t think of anything nice?😭😭😭😭 Men don’t love us shem
Haii mannn, we dont put ourselves first 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂Bashimane the boys
😂😂😂😂 32:49 bags of potatoes maar madam
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Tja rena di worse and honestly women we need to work regardless how much bacon a man brings those people will bring a lion to the house as long as he's happy in someone's life...Ku ruff guys..i found him with a 4 year old when he was getting worse with his rubbish i had to let go and cut including the kid after 20 years being married...these men they will even continue to leave those kids with us..like wtf???we are related to these kids because of their dads..if marriage is done they must pack with them..cos wow
Just because ur men was cruel to you doesn't mean we all like that coz nani nikhohlakele that's why some of you look 45 in 25 years
As for Sfufa moyeni 😂😂😂😂😂😂 udikiwe finish
I don't understand how you still love people who abused you? Wa re rutulla Madam
I'm still learning
I wanted to ask about the head. Hear it for the first time that the diagnosis was there. Thanks😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
45:58 😂😂😂😂 yangiqeda Maddam
Why are you eating while on video? Please respect your viewers.
Don’t disrespect me like that. Don’t you dare.
Labantu bayasicelemba shame yooo sicelembekile silapha yazi yoo
🤣🤣🤣🤣 ndiyaqala uliva eli gama "sicelembekile"
😂😂 celemba stru!
The way you narrate painful stories , you end up making one lauph .
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Bo zalwane... 😂