I MADE A BIG MISTAKE! WILL I SURVIVE THE PHILIPPINES!
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- Think Hard Before You Decide to Retire to the Philippines! I Confess I was a Fool and Did So Many Things Wrong With my On line Relationship With a Filipina. Sending Money and Being Scammed. The was a Beautiful Asian Girl and we had been dating on line@mikesphilippineretirement @DumagueteRentals #scammed #philippines #Onlinescams
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For anyone who plans to get involved and "fall in love" with a Filipina "on-line" 😂 PLEASE do your due diligence! This should serve as a lesson for you. I was born and raised in the Philippines - I'm now a US citizen and have lived here for nearly 30yrs. This kind of story isn't new. Unfortunately, there are Filipino women whose only motivation is to "milk" an American or European man, some have quite a few victims while with a Filipino lover. These kinds of women know how to "work it" so be very, very CAREFUL and know the "red flags!"😆
yep all on dating websits need to be careful
Well more like they are very patient with high social intelligence
Its not only filipinas. But also lot of other countries. Where women are patient with social intelligence
In the west, women try to milk you too fast and in a very clumsey naive way 😂 So youre able to spot it
But in some other countries, they do it very patiently, slow, no rush, smooth. And have excellent social intelligence to play you in a way you would swear she isnt using you
I was in a dating online for almost 7 years never ever asked for money ..just want to find my man to love and live with.
offcourse it's because they are gullible as well (the victims)
the west is no better though, and as a westerner you have an edge in those countries
you just shouldn't expect to be a dumpy 50 something with crooked teeth, a moderate pension, obesity,.... and to then land a 25 yo online that would love you for you and devote herself to you?
i sympathise but in a way it's pretty clear that you should in fact work on yourself if you want a wife anywhere, doesn't matter what nationallity nobody likes someone that doesn't
Why Filos would try to improve their country, culture and mindset when they can just move to the United States huh? Always the easiest way.
I am a Filipina and I live in the USA. I feel sorry for you, you're a good person and she's a scammer.
I am a Filipina and I live in Europe.
Filipina here, I met my husband online mid 2008, during that time I am employed as a Resort Manager in Puerto Galera, he wants me to quit my job, he promised to support me financially all the way, but I refused. I am financially capable of taking care of myself I told him, he never sent me a gift or money, January 2009 he went to the Philippines and we got married, Oct 2009 i flew to the US . As I am watching your video it dawned on me, had I accepted my husband’s financial offers, he might not decide to come and marry me. Now we are still happily married. he respected me from the start.
sure
if he offered it he would have still come and likely would have married you as long as you did what he asked for the money,
i'm glad you kept working though.
Mike, the struggle in the Philippines is real. She used you because you allowed her to. Regardless of nationality, people will take advantage of other's generosity if given the opportunity. I wish you luck in retiring in the Philippines. It is a beautiful country and there are honest and nice people there.
Dude you get taken advantage of here in America..RElly?
Sooo true!
Why would you allow yourself to get scammed by a substandard girl
Foreigns please stop whining about whore bags scamming you
Red flags 🚩red flags from the beginning
Hello
Thank you for your nice message about some Filipinos
Sad that you warn viewers of Scammers! The world not the Philippines alone or any Asian country has Scammers, in the Western & European countries ONE need not Scammed they directly do it or take personal belongings off a person in PUBLIC even at broad daylight😂
Nothing new this Century has CHANGED! Be vigilant and meet the RIGHT ONES RIGHT KADIES OR MEN IN THE RIGHT PLACES my 2 cents!
Ladies*
Its not your fault, Mike. You are a good man. It can happen to anyone. Lesson well learned and move on. Take care, Mike.
Do you think a young woman would find attractive a big belly old man if it wasn’t for the money? 😂🤣
A real friend would call him a dumbass to hell with the nice guy bs. Nice guys get used
" Nice guys" are in it for themselves too. Young woman = ego booster.
I was stationed in the Philippines 1988-1991. I met my wife when I was 18, she was 20. We married when I was 19 and had a son. 35 years later, we're still together... but that feeling of "was I a meal ticket", never really goes away.
I don't no how you think like that ? Isn't a man job is to provider ? Or I am a old fashion but I have working from the day I married my late husband, but I can tell you now I would never look or value any man who lives on a woman hard earn cash, I bought my son up to be a provider not a scoutcher of a woman.
I am happy youre a realist , i always tell my american friends to look for someone who has no problem providing for themselves even in the event that things domt work out between the both of you. I honestly think that the comcept of kept women , comparable perhaps to Geisha's of japan for whom many emperors and nobility depended upon back in the day to provide companionship and loyalty was something i couldnt be on board with personally.
I feel like as times are now modern, i feel like women shoukd be able to feed, house, and pay themselves, and not depend on a man for everything,
My ex husband was surprised when he met me, sometimes i treated him out, bought him gifts equally and lavishly spoiled him as well. When he lost his job and was freaking out, i told him that i would live with him even in our car and would work too. Wherever he want, i woukd be there. Bragging aside , we lived a fairly ocmfortable life with constant relocation and travel, but we were able to enjoy the novelties at the time of a middle aged couple who could still enjoy, travel, eat wherever we wanted and have extras. I think in this day and age, its more important for men to find someone with whom they can enjoy shared life experiences with because as we get older, i feel like priorities are changing and now its not so much the sex and the arm candy appeal, but the shared values, life experiences and the companionship.. if we keep picking people in transactional settings and choose people whom we have to pay for, to enjoy the luxuey of their company, then thats essentially the foundation the relationshio was built on to begin with and therefore, you guys being the men, will always question that in your heads.
If the woman's life improved tremendously since getting together, Hopefully its because of their own merits and not because an american man came along and rescued them from poverty, Thats why i think the way to go is to not just go after looks and youth, but someone who you share to some degree, similar life experiences and woukd be an asset to the marriage.,
Theres a saying that, what you permit is what will continue.
Sorry but some Filipina is like that.
Too much young of your age is not good some of them looking same age
lol she only wanted to come to USA
Learned this lesson at 19 when stationed there. The old timers gave me the lowdown and I saw for myself. Never give money until you know the person and see where and how they live. Treat them all as a scammer until you can verify. Scammers and beggers are a total waste of time.
thank you for sharing
Words of wisdom. Anyone u meet online must be treated as a scammer. Totally agree.
@@craigk2644 long before the internet, nuns have been running something similar, foreigners sent money every for some poor kid. But the nuns open all the mails addressed to the sponsored child or teen.
the flaw in that advice is that the majority if not all US military men stationed in the Philippines 25-35 years ago dealt with "Bar girls". Somethings in the Philippines has changed over time and you can't consider every filipina a scammer or bar girl.
@@philippineswithjohndoe5529 No flaw. You could apply this to anyone in any country.
Money from a foreigner to a Filipina province girl is incredibly intoxicating. Unwittingly, we reinforce every stereotype she has ever heard about foreigners because in a matter of minutes she has access to more money than she ever imagined. It's best to not try to solve all of her problems as it might rob her of that inner spirit to persevere in the face of great hardships. It's a strong character trait that I know drew me to my wife. You don't want to snuff that out especially if you will take her to your home country. Tread lightly on the path of love with a Filipina because while it can end with the greatest of riches, the road is perilous and laden with cultural pitfalls and landmines of heartache if you are not careful.
well said
Very well stated and described.
You’d do everyone a great favor if you put your head together with Mike and walked through the perils and pitfalls and your thoughts on how to be successful.
It's a matter of helping your lady where necessary, but not allowing her to live a life of extravagance - which the right lady won't expect anyway. As you say, she should remain true to her roots. For example, rent a house for her if necessary, but "without" aircon ... that's an unnecessary luxury and expense, when electric fans will do the job. And if they're in a city, don't fund taxis or tricycles for every journey ... when a 10 to 15 peso jeepney fare gets her to the destination. It all takes time though, to build up the trust ... and definitely a face to face visit to be with her, and meet the family.
@donmcdonald4874 Thanks for the recommendation, I wouldn't be opposed to chatting with Mike, but it would have to be virtual as I'm not in the Philippines currently.
I heard lots of different story like that. Dont blame yourself your jst a nice man. You help someone in need thts her lost. God Bless U.
Many of us Americans have been in the Navy or military and have heard and experienced the horror stories associated with getting involved with Filipinas. Some have had great relationships but other young servicemen have been scammed or married and the wife sends all his money to her family, and they call this their culture.
I knew an American guy who was married to Filipina women, 5 times. And even after the 5th time he told me that he still had not yet found the love of his life. I wanted to tell him that maybe he should go back home in he USA, but I thought maybe it's best to leave him to learn the hard way. He was my boss.
Not all filiina are scammer,im 59,never been married and no kids,there are a lot of american are involved this kind of situation. Next time be wise,imagine she have two kids,still you like her.shes so lucky to have you.
@@maryanntalisic6016many lovely Filipinas. Modest women tha.
@@maryanntalisic6016am 59 too, single German, are you christian ?
which denomination ?
am 7h day adventist
@@joanofarcxxi Those men thinks Filipino women are better than American women lol ,This one maybe feel ashamed to go back to the American women. That why he keep marrying Filipino women hoping one day, it will work..That is called insanity
Hi Mike! Sorry to hear your story, hearing you seems you're a nice guy... feel so ashamed what my fellow filipina did this to you.... there's a lot like her not just in the Philippines...
Most in the Philippines
I've had at least 50-75 filipinas try to scam me in the last 10 years. I lost all respect for filipinas because of it. I dont even want to visit there now.
I admired you for being kind. You trusted too much. Anyway all good deeds will be rewarded.
I AM,,, ALready rewarded
You are not alone, Mike. I have helped a couple of Filipinos over there myself. I have seen many videos stating not to financially help but like you, I have a very big heart ❤️. Now, I have to admit to myself, I am just a foolish fixer by nature. I guess I had better learn to fix myself first.
Thank you for sharing your story...
God bless
Amen 🙏
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 be more smart because there’s a lot of scam words Girls in the Philippines 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks for sharing
My daughter has a bf in US but sometimes the bf insist to give money but my lady don't want although we really have a hard life.some special occassion the bf send some money too.
"have a big heart...lol...SIMP.
We're sorry for that experience you had with Filipinas, but there are more good ones out there... It's not in the culture but it's an individual choice .
Mike, don't ever feel bad about being a good person.
A man of character and morals is an easy target.
A man with a big heart is a big mark for the wrong type of woman.
I did a lot of praying, wondering what my next move was, wondering if I'm just going to die alone here in America.
I 100% believe god sent me on this path, watching youtubers like you, sharing your wisdom.
Without your wisdom, what an easy mark a guy like me would be.
Some of the battles were from god, to make you truly appreciate a woman like Janet and to help men like me.
God bless
thank you
@@todd7756 Ppl on the internet say the dumbest shit for attention.
I felt so sad with your story....many of us considered as a fool when it comes to love ..well,I salute your being a good hearted person to her despite of what she did to u...Hoping that you will find a better lifetime partner that will share with you her unconditional affection...good luck Sir..
Bro, never ever send these people money. God gave me discernment so I knew the red flags already. And I humiliated her so much that she will never try to scam another foreign guy again. Cheers from India. Mabuhay Philippines.
Janet is one hundred percent correct. Those women survived their entire lives without your money, and they will continue to survive without it. You can't get scammed if you don't send money. Yes Mike, you did get scammed, and mostly because you have a compassionate heart. That's why it's wise to not violate the rules.
I did my expat adventure over twenty years ago - in eastern Europe. This was the advice I got from the experienced expats then. It served me well, and now I'm passing it on to you all in my turn. The other best piece of advice I have, just go. There is no substitute for being in country with boots on the ground. Just go!
well said
I agree, just plan a trip to the Philippines and stay in western hotels and meet people in public, take a good guide book and enjoy yourself. You will make plenty of friends and meet lots of women because you are a Westerner, they All want a Western friend or more and make sure you are bossing it?
Sorry , that you had a bad experience buddy , it’s not a scam , it’s just an emotional response from someone with a big heart , you seem a very nice guy . I haven’t been to the phillpines before, I have spoken to a few on dating apps , but they just ask for money straight away or want to give a show for money , so deleted them straight away ,
He didnt scam himself dude!! She scammed him!!
You have a good heart and good intentions, Mike. I'm not sure if it was a scam but she was dishonest, and you dodged a bullet so overall you got lucky. I would think the advice would be don't ever think you are in a relationship with someone you never met. If you don't mind helping someone out, then you shouldn't expect anything in return. We are all human and as a man I've helped a few women out in my life. I think it's built into our DNA to want to be problem solvers or maybe white knights. Always keep your expectations low for someone you never met. In the end it was a learning experience and you ended out with Janet. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for sharing Stan
It's a kind of lessons learned...
I’m very fortunate to have a Girlfriend who makes decent money, and lives with her affluent parents. She has repeatedly rejected offers of support, until after we’re married in January.
Then I will be sending support to her and my Step-Daughter, until I can get them to the States.
It’s not just Filipinas who do these things, Mike. I had a Russian lady, last year (she was living in SoCal), who I was sending money and gifts to. A good friend of mine, who lives in the area, was able to locate her and her live-in Boyfriend! Lesson learned.
Glad you found a good lady Jerry
I was thinking thinking the same thing.
Have you actually met this lady you are going to marry?
i married Janet
Because you are a kind and good heart person she takes advantage of you. You are not stupid you are just a kind and loving person who just likes to help. Don't worry God has lots of reward for you 🙏
Sorry to hear your experience Mike. I just married my American husband last month after talking with him for 7 months. I am proud to say that I never asked him to send me money even until now. During his vacation here, I also spent money for our foods. I don't want him to shoulder everything. I honestly don't want to be labeled as gold digger. I love him so much and I don't want him or his family to think that I just love him because of his money. He's a very kind man, hardworking and loving. He's a good catch already because that attitude is seldom to find from Filipino guys. I cannot dare to use or hurt him in any way.
After 7 months of talking? This is funny.
Wow 7 months of dating this man and your already married? Don’t you think it’s too soon?not enough time to get to know him well. Did you do a background check? To see if his a convicted felony. Don’t get me wrong not trying to bash but I think 7months of being married is way too early.
You do have a right to ask money from these westerners. Why do you think they are going for women in developing countries? To escape financial responsibilities they would be required to fulfill by law in the USA. The law protects women in the USA and not so much in poor developing countries.
@@Accuface2000 sad but it’s true
@@Accuface2000 People like you are perpetuating the problem just by leaving these kinds of comments. Men are getting away from western women because of their sense of entitlement, their feminist ways; either can't or won't cook, clean and have zero skills in many cases. They're overweight, not taking care of themselves, blaming men for all their problems, and going woke. It's in the books, movies, social media, and even encouraged by government and organizations. The laws clearly favor women in many ways, that's why most men are either checking out of the dating game, or going for a more *traditional* woman in another country. It has nothing to do with bringing them out of poverty, or escaping anything. If anything, western men are *avoiding* taking action which could cause them undue hardship from a western woman, which is quite likely to happen. The top 5% of men get all the women and all the sex, those men never settle down because they have so many options. Those women in turn mess around until they get close to hitting the wall and wonder why they end up alone with cats. Well - the averge everyday man wanted them when they were in their 20s but they didn't want to settle down. Passport bros don't have to deal with this nonsense. Western culture is collaping, very quickly, and these other countries will prosper greatly from not only the collapse of the US empire, but also from the collapse of the fiat dollar.
Thanks for opening up. Special thanks for making things right with the landlord. Glad she worked with you.
Our pleasure!
Very sad that you were scammed. You seem very caring and kind.
I am so sorry Mike for what happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story.
Based upon your story, Mike, it appears that you went out of your way to demonstrate that you were an easy mark, and either the girl decided on her own, or she was convinced by someone close to her, that it would be a good idea to take advantage of the situation. And that's what happened. Thankfully, you learned an important lesson and have become a source of valuable advice because of it. Learning from the mistakes we make (and we all make mistakes) is a desirable trait. 👍
thank you for the comment Noah
You are not foolish but you are have a kind heart,soft heart,caring heart and that is gentleman so much, it's only the lady is problem
You have learned a great lesson Mike! But please don’t regret. Because everything you have done is with a true heart and you enjoyed the time genuinely by doing something great. She’s the loose to lose a great guy like you. On the hindsight, you were able to protect yourself from being robbed more. Thank Goodness, it happened in Philippines and so it’s not so expensive. Because this also happens in USA & when it happens here - it becomes much more expensive
You are lucky that you came to know the truth not too late and you could cancel your trip. Otherwise you would have suffered much more financial & emotional damage. Some guys came to realize the reality too late; they were used for financial gain & for coming to the USA. Many good guys became victims unfortunately
Sorry to hear about what had happened…you are a good guy .
Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sorry that you went through all of this. Your situation is an eye opener for many people.
thank you Vincent
@@mikesphilippineretirement why would a " girl" in her 20s be with a man around 50-60? It s not realustic , not logical when you really think about it. Easy to forget your own age, cause we all feel younger inside. Feelings are the same , age is just a number, but still when you look in the mirror you will remember your age. I am a 61 year old woman. No philipinian " boy" in his 20s would want me. Not even if I was 51.
Yes you were foolish, blind, but ok.
Poor women in poor country wants out of poverty so of course they look for wealthy, older men in other countries.
Nothing new about that.
When my daughter was in her 20s I would have been terrified if a much older man groomed her. I would never trust him and done everything to get her away.
Bless your heart Mike, you helped out a family in need for a period of time, that is never something to feel silly or ashamed about. The Lord bless you and keep you safe
I appreciate that
Very open and honest of you and I appreciate that. Also a generous guy.
A lesson learned.
Thank you
Thanks for being honest Mike. I’m in the states still and do the same thing but only to help because I have a good heart like you. After years of chatting I decided to wait til I get there in person to find someone to move in with. It’s something you volunteer to do because of how hard there life is . Truly one of your best videos 😀
I appreciate that
There is a big difference between a pen-pal and a financial sinkhole.
Yes, help if you can out of.your charitable heart,but not for something else
Calvin talks about this on a regular basis. Never get involved with LDR relationships. Wait until your boots are on the ground to start looking and even then be patient, decide where you want to live then look for the right one for you.
yes he does but that happen in 2015 and i was foolish at the time
I am sorry that this happened to you Mike. These scammers are expert cons. Even the most intelligent people like yourself have been duped. You are not alone. Its running rampant . BUt awareness is happening with all the scambaiters that impart important info on what redflags to look for and watch out for. Thankyou for your video and I am sure that it will help some people who just may fall for all this scamming crap.
Sorry 4 your bad experience, next time be careful & God bless u, take care yourself, ok?
thank you...
My be l am right person to u..l am profesional nurse here riyad saudi with good heart and fear with God..not all fingers same..
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Thank you for sharing your story Mike. Your honesty and self awareness is what separates you from many of the others vloggers.
I appreciate that
Thanks Mike for being so honest about your experience. Lessons learned. Not a fool Mike, genuine care for less fortunate people and some people will always take advantage of that. Keep the good heart but eyes wide open
I appreciate that
Mr.mike sir. Thank you for being a good man, proud of you for finding her out! She doesn’t deserve you kind heart.
Mike, that was a rough wakening and unfortunately, you are not the only one. Friends of mine have passed through similar stories in other countries such as Mexico, Thailand, China, etc. Take your time and be very careful.
Thank you for sharing George
A few rules to live by if you’re going to go to Southeast Asia to retire : 1. Never ever support your LDR in anyway until you can go hands on with her. Talk all you want , FaceTime . But never lead with your wallet. When you get to your Island have her background checked out. Don’t ever commit to anything until you are physically there.. I have been to the Ph off and on for years trust me on this. . If she is online with you trust and believe she is online with Someone else Xs 5. Yes my Boy you got scammed big time
Oh definitely. He's just too slow realize it. I hope he truly learned his lesson. If he's been scammed a second time then something is wrong him, is all.
If he doesn't give money, the woman will just go to all the other men she's chatting with, as you rightly pointed out, she might be keeping 10 or 20 in rotation. Mike sent her less than $100 per time, but if she got the same amount from 20 desperate old men from around the world, she would be on easy street in the Philippines. And whoever stops giving, she will ghost him.
You're so trusting and with a compassionate heart
thanks for your comment
Mike, I'm sorry to hear about your experience. Remember, you're never too old to learn from them.
You are not stupid. You are decent and caring, and you just need to find someone who appreciates people like you in this life.
May God heal your wounds from that bad experience. I love you.
Great story. I visited Asia nine times and lived there for 9 months while working abroad. Your story is like the one I have heard hundreds of times. I have seen guys buy houses and when they get there the girls whole family lives in the house and he’s not welcome. When you run out of money you are no longer welcome. Like you say, stay with the girl, visit her family and see first hand what you are getting into. Some of these girls have half a dozen men sending them money and each guy thinks he’s the only one and she’s waiting for him.
Thank you for sharing
Mike, don't let anybody make you think that you are stupid. You and I share the same weekness: we are too empathic. When I was sending money to a Filipina before, my mother said: "You are just like your father, he would also have given the shirt off his body!" While I experience being compared to my father as a compliment - he was a great guy in every way, not only to me but to my mother, my wife and even his staff - my mother did have a point. Being taken for a ride once too often, I have become much less generous. But once in a while I still can't resist helping the underdog. You can't kick off of being empathic, the way you can kick off of smoking or drinking, because it is in your nature. It is an integral part of who we are and we should be proud of it. That being said: learn from the experience, move on and hold on more tightly to your money in the future.
thanks, I don't feel stupid..lesson learned and moved on
Oh please 🙄.. you could have helped someone in your own country! Why fall for these women from the Philippines.. because you think they are better 😂.. they sure are better scammers!
@@mikesphilippineretirement But you didn't learn your lesson. You said this has happened to you more than once, and moreover your profile photo shows the latest woman you're paying for.
I am a widower. I was in the Philippines in January 2024 for a month. Too many bells & whistles went off. I detected subterfuge. The woman was very surreptitious. There was no exchange of money or request for gifts. I rented a car and carted her, her family, and her extended family around the huge island of Negros Occidental & Oriental, and fed them. No big loss. Discrepancies such as her four adult children didn't look like siblings; the son had a German first name, and she addressed him using a German diminutive name. One daughter looked caucasian. The storyline changed here and there. Once in the US, I challenged her about the big discrpancies. Once the cat was out of the bag, I got the big door slam: "GOODBYE." I was told that I asked a lot of questions. One daughter told her that I was unusually intelligent. I took it as a warning that they were not upfront with me and that they were studying my strengths and weaknesses.
A kind heart is hard to live with, but a greedy, self centered life is impossible to live with. I have a kind heart but I have learned after watching two years of Expat stories on LDR's, I'll just stay to myself until I'm settled in and gain an understanding of life on the ground. I'm sure many guys have been taken advantage of and I'm guessing they all had a kind, trusting heart. It's sad.Thanks for sharing your story, Mike. Your honesty speaks volumes on your character. Hope you and Janet are well! Mark in Dallas.
I am so happy now with my life
Yes, I know. It's written all over your face... You're at peace and I'm truly happy for both you snd Janet. And, your'e over 18,000 subscribers! I think I subscribed when you were at like 2,000. A good content provider gets rewarded by UA-cam. Thank you for all you do, Mike. @@mikesphilippineretirement
Thanks for sharing your experience. This may help some guys planning to come to the Philippines to avoid getting involved with the wrong girl. Lots of nice guys out there.
I hope so too
You have a very kind heart Mike, that's the good thing in you. You have done the right thing. You are teaching that Filipina of LOST OPPORTUNITY. What happened was big loss for her than you.
❤I am sorry for you Mike, as a Filipino, I am not proud of what she did and everything about her. Your kindness, generosity and love took the best out of you, as a Bisaya, what she did was bad even for what she is in. Taking advantage and being inconsiderate is never a good value...Mike, the first lesson in trusting a Filipino is like raising a.bird...if the bird asks to be fed and comes back 3 to 5 times then be careful and find another for it will come back, but if the bird after being fed and stays for good, then that's it. You need to check for a long time any Filipina that you want be with and the only way to do that is to physically check her
Thats good advice mike. Takes a real human being to share your experience. Before I met my wife I didn't give anything, and she never asked. After meeting her and her family I got her pregnant. I liked her, I loved her. So I did the right thing and married her. We now have 3 beautiful kids that I adore.
Good stuff
Ditto me. 8 years and still going.
waxed first before marrying.
So you're hooked Mike. You are worthy of real love. Be more careful 😮
You are not foolish, you only have a good heart and trust the wrong person. God bless you ❤
Maybe you are not meant for each other and someone else deserves your love and trust 😊
Excellent Mike. It’s takes guts and the virtue of humility to share such a story. 👍 but it can serve a greater good purpose for those of us here on the other side of the world looking into making the Philippines our home.
You also showed in your actions to this person kindness and compassion. Then picked you self up and kept going in hopes of better turn out next time. “Better to have Loved and lost then to have never loved at all”now look we you are now😮.
See you in December.
Eric
Eric
thank you Eric
Mike you really an angel to her..inspite of her stupidity you still there for her with an open hands. You really a Good guy Mike..God bless you always and you have more blessing to receive Mike.
You were not scammed the girl lost an opportunity to be with a kind person. She lost it all.
thank you
alot poor pinay look for a older american happens , she used you because she new you had a good heart
how come he was not scammed when she even got pregnant from another man?
Facing loneliness sometimes it’s very hard . Everybody of us did same of your mistakes , more or less, in life. To me happened in Ukraine , it could happen everywhere . Learning from our mistakes: it’s learning to live . I admire you to share your experience: a great message ❤❤❤
You're nice guy Mike, with a good heart and compassionate. Don't think bad of yourself, in your heart you did the right thing and received an education and have now educated many of us, thank you Mike.
welcome
That was compassion. That was love. "What matters most is that you loved at all." Lessons learned.
thank you for the comment
We live and learn. It’s part of the process. Thank god for UA-camrs like you who expose theses issues. whether it’s a scam or not, we can all learn!
we can only hope
Your story is almost exactly the same as many guys arriving in Thailand. Yes, Janet said it best:
DO NOT SEND MONEY UNTIL YOU MEET IN PERSON
Here in Thailand they call it "Sponsor". You pay for the lady to live in her private apartment until you arrive. Guess what, your not the only guy online who is sponsoring your girl.
Dont feel bad, it happens so often, almost 99% of the time. Guys will get caught up in the dream. Some buy cars, house or monthly payments. Its all part of a scam.
Just remember, "When in Asia, you are not the Hunter...like you think you are. The girls are really the hunter and you're the prey "
Janet said you are right meet in person first
A friend you meet online is nothing but a stranger. A real friend is when you are able to pinch the person.
Even after you meet the gal they still can lie and steal as much as possible.
Correct ,never give money to one you never met , just don't do it
@@happygolucky2 How many people you heard of in the News that They Got Killed or betrayed by their "best-friend" ha, ha, ha.
Thanks for this cautionary tale.
Our pleasure!
Your story sounds like so many others I have heard. I spent a long time chatting with a girl here. Probably around one year and she never asked for anything. I had started out chatting to her in a chat room then we started chatting privately and did video calls every day. So I decided I was going to come to the Philippines to visit her. When I got here she was not the same in person as online. I had told her I wanted to as much as I could in the short time I would be here and she said yes she would tour me around. Well that did not work out so good. Most days she did not want to do anything except stay in bed all day. So things were not so good. Then I had my backpack stolen from her place and without going into detail I did get it back but it all seemed like a setup but she denied that. After I left that was when she started asking for help. I didn't send much as she was working. She said she just needed to catch up on her bills as she took time off work to spend with me. Long story short the asking for money kept coming and that coupled with what happened when I was there I ended the relationship. After that I did help some a little but only for a load or maybe $20 for their birthday. I soon got to the point that I told anyone that asked I don't send money to someone I just met online. Most just stop talking, some I told I had no money to send and they would say I live in the west and have a job so I have lots of money. So because of all that now I just say sorry we have not met and I don't send money to someone I have not met in person and I make no promises to anyone. I am very cautious these days and don't trust right away.
thank you for sharing
You also Slept with a Woman that You Don't know without Getting Tested for STDs. You Guys are Crazy; OH But SO harsh on the women in America; because According to YOU "men" We are "No Worth it" ha ha ha. You Get what you Deserve.
"..Most days she did not want to do anything except stay in bed.." Is'nt that wonderful, what you complaining about ?
So sorry dear,but God rewards you dear
Sorry about your experience with Filipino women. As a filipina married to a Canadian, the experiences you have paints a bad picture to those decent Filipinas out there. I met my husband thru a family friend in Vancouver and not online. He comes from a pretty well off family and his parents are well connected in Canada. I remember before we got married, we sat down together and talked about finances and he was pleasantly surprised I’m not a broke filipina.😂 We are now here in the Philippines and I’m lucky to be able to continue working as a dentist while he is retired. Just an advice, it’s better for you or anyone out there to spend some time here and travel around the country for awhile. Don’t get fixated on having a relationship just because there’s an “abundance “ of arm candies. Don’t paint every women here in one colour because it’s not true.
Hey Mike, I appreciate you telling your story, it takes a strong man to admit some things in the past that didn't work out but hopefully will save some others in the future...much respect sir...to a good life now ...🥂 Salud my friend
my life is very happy now
You are a kind person Mike. Your advice is of great value to all who wish to listen.
Hi Mike, Admirable for you to put yourself out here and be vulnerable and share this personal painful lesson to help viewers avoid it. It shows a genuine care for those who may find themselves tempted to get attached to and help a remote Filipina in the same way. We have caring hearts and a White Knight syndrome can be preyed upon if we are not careful. Ego feeds on it. It happens way too often I hear so such personal warnings should not be understated. It will take self control but when we move out there its critical to keep money private and out of the dating relationship as much as possible. If they ask say “not in my budget”- this is a good test before getting heart involved. Being generous is seen as weakness in non committed relationships contrary to what your ego says. Better to be tight in the open, giving covertly if possible. Avoid looking like a soft touch; it encourages dishonesty and disrespect.
thank you for the comment
Trusting in someone who you care about does not make you a chump, betraying someone that cares about you makes her a chump. It is good that you found out eventually that she did not care for you as much as she cared for your money though. Now you have another beautiful Filipina that does care for you more than your money. It just makes you a good man.
Oh my listening to your video made me feel like Im being scammed or Was I foolish 😀
. Im a filipino workin here in Thailand and I met online a broke guy just retired that time on Feb 2021 and been talking for nearly 2 years now without seeing each other due to his physical infirmities and lots of health issues that hinders him to come see me. His first plan was cancelled due to concerning issues. He just had another knee surgery few weeks ago and telling me to come see me by Feb but honestly my feeling to him is more on empathy as by nature, Ive got a strong spirit of empathy.I wanted much to stop talking to him at the very beginning but upon telling me all his health problems, I felt like God has used me for him to have somebody to ease his high level of stress, to share his worries, challenges in life.
I loved him but i feel its more on pity. I never asked for money but he sent as his birthday gift to me besides he told me he has a meager pension cuz he was just doin secretarial job due to his physical infirmities and that pays too little he says. He is even paying child support for his youngest 17 y.o son and still supporting his daughters college schooling.
Actually I plan to stop talkin to him when he gets better or totally recovered from his surgery and i dont want him to come because in the first place it would be real difficult for him to travel if he is here due to his infirmities and besides I need a life time partner. He couldnt retire in my country due to his healrh issues and he is taking lots of meds that he gets every end of the month from a drug store picked by the company that pays for it. Our constant talk was more about him, his regular headaches, physical pain . Sometimes i feel tired but My heart says listen to his problems so he could feel better 😀
@@ron9236they all just want money 🤑💰. Do you honestly believe they could love ❣️😘 you for real? 😂😅😮
You were SCAMMED. Those who tell the truth always are. Blaming yourself is exactly what they want you to do because they have nothing but contempt for truth and fair play.
@fazbell thanks for the comment
I tell the truth, but I don't get scammed...
Great advice Mike.
She was in a boarding house, it was Mike not her who wanted her not living in those conditions, she was perfectly happy in those conditions, that is normal life Fe for her . But Mike being uneducated about her normal life wanted better living conditions for her, she did not want that Mike did. But somehow you say Mike is not a fool ? The guy does not have a clue about living conditions in the Philippines but is not a fool. Not only is he a fool he is a very uneducated fool.
@Fazbell , Yes Sirrrrrr correct, that's why I will never date a Filipina again born and living in The Philippines. I am allergic to a devious cunning manipulative societal culture of just using and gaming Black or White Foreigners for their money 💰. I have been seeing this going on for almost 2 decades now travelling back n forth to The Philippines from the UK, they DON'T love you they just love your wallet.The hospitality and warm friendly disposition of the people in general and the incredibly beautiful landscape of The Philippines are the ONLY things that keep me going back. It's no longer The Philippines I once knew way back in 2008 and I heard its become quite expensive post plandemic. 2017; and 2019 was my last 2 recent vacations there. I love Panay Island.♥️ the people there are cool very different from the people of Cebu Lol 😆.
Learn a huge lesson and pls. Be careful with your heart..I am Pinay married to American guy but im very honest to him no doubts about feelings..He is very supportive with me i dont ask anything from him but his heart just like u...long story short we been married for 20 yrs with 2 beautiful children..
Hello Mike sorry to hear about your bad story. Remember scammers are everywhere if they know or saw your generosity they will come to you, telling you about their problems and ask your help… Helping somebody is good but not too much. Do not spoiled them or to your girl. Be very careful. Now you learned your mistakes. Not all Filipina are bad… You have a good heart Mike. I am sure theres a good woman for you.Take care and God bless you. Full watched. Thanks for sharing. Sending love and support😊.
thanks for watching...
As an observer, it's interesting how trusting American men are of these young foreign women. As a very nice independent, beautiful American woman, how trusting do you think he will be after this. I refuse to bear the wrath that these untrustworthy relationships cultivate. Thank you for sharing.
Mike, you have been scam, you are such a good person . I've been scam once upon a time. So, it's a lesson to most. It's well said Mike.
Great video, Mike. Sometimes, the truth isn't what we want to hear, but your story is something a lot of guys need to listen to. 👍
I appreciate that
I feel like she definitely scammed you. She knew it from the start. Stay vigilant. Thank you for your story. Much love and stay safe.
So so sorry trusting to much good heart. You have and sadly you are not the only man who has suffered this kind of behaviour and scams I hope you find real love and decent woman in time
Your story is painful and completely understandable. I go there for 6 months at a time every year. I have learned to be hard. I help some folks but only the ones I call friends and have met in person. Everyone suffers from poverty so everyone has a sad story to tell. We are seen as rich to them so it is easy for them to feel comfortable asking for help. It just requires being more restrictive on your support until you are actually there
Agree with you , a retired pinay here and live in Europe.
Mike, I was in a net cafe in Cebu, and there were several ladies around me all chatting to foreigners basically on the beg, all calamity Jane types. you know a never ending series of family disasters that need foreign support. Of course when they saw me, a couple gave me their numbers, so not any remotely grateful for the help, sadly it is almost an industrial process here, so many Filipinas see it as a means to an end.
thank you for sharing
As a single parent i try to work to support my son.... until he graduate in university..... thanks sir u have god heart
At first here you are meeting someone that you really got along with, starting to develop a relation on line, you start to have close feelings with her, starting to build somewhat like a, trust anything she starts telling you, you totally start to believe her, sometimes your emotions starts to kick in because you want the best for her, anything she asks and tells you, you surely follow, that drive in you where in your heart speaks more than your mind, you're thinking everything's fine and going your way sending all kinds of financial support till this very moment the excitement and all till one day shit hits the fan, reality check... The feeling was just hard to accept. Time will only make things heal. Thanks for sharing your story Mike. I'm sure there are more others out there who can relate to your story.
well said lloyd
This should be a must watch video for anyone thinking about getting involved with a filipina, especially an online relationship. A good rule of thumb to follow is: "Would I do this for a woman in my home country?" The problem is that when the 'in love euphoria' hits, all logic, reason, and practicality goes out the window. Also, many of us older guys pine for a 'traditional relationship,' which really doesn't exist anymore (as least in the way it was when we were being raised), where the man provides all the financial support and the woman doesn't provide any. In the modern world, except for rare situations, this is totally impractical. She MUST bring something to the table other than just sex and youth. For myself, I completely refuse to help raise another man's child, sorry if this sounds selfish, but if the roles were reversed, I would not ask for support from my partner for any previous children I had. Further, our family needs come FIRST before any requests are considered from other family members and, if it is to be a regular thing, she has to provide that income. As men here, we have to be strong in ways we're not taught to be in the West, which means showing our partner the door, if necessary.
thank you for your comments
You hit the nail on the head! "Would they do that for a woman in your home country." I've seen in the military what these men do for filipina women they would not do for their wives who were in the states. These woman pretend to be servile and child-like and it's all about manipulation. One of them got pregnant and tried to pin it on a soldier who had a vasectomy. Had it not been for that, he would not have known she was cheating all along.
Good word of Advice 😁
You have a good heart Mike, and it looks like she was not one of those pushy scammers, it just escalated. I am Australian and have been scammed by filipinas to varying degrees, but fortunately it has by no means cleaned me out financially, I think its a matter of getting out and cutting your losses, trying again and being wiser the next time.
Lesson learned. I really feel sorry for you. Next time never get your self fooled by a woman especially at her age. Not everyone in the Philippines is thesame. Just like in the US ,a lot of scammer are doing their best to scam people from other countries like the Philippines.
Too honest Mike. We've all been there and it hurts but sometimes life sucks. Then we move on and put it aside. Couldn't happen to a nicer guy, God bless you Mike. You found what you were looking for in life. Your lovely wife Janet
thanks Richard
Amazing story they could not have happened to a nicer guy. Whether you believe it or not, you are the winner. She is deceitful, and you will always be a nice guy with a great virtue.
Mike, you hit pay dirt with this subject! LOL What you got into is actually a big business for so many Filipinas! I would not be surprised if she had a half dozen other guys doing the same thing at the same time. I lived there for 20 years starting in 1973 and saw this all the time. They have this program down pat and have been doing it since I can remember. When I left I had over 20,000 employees on six islands and I was constantly trying to get foreigners untied from these schemes and you are very lucky to have gotten off fairly cheaply. I just hope that your story goes a long way to let others to watch their $$$'s. And with the introduction of cell phones and burner phones within the easy reach of beautiful young ladies they are simply using the ATM's between their legs to make small fortunes quickly. Good video and I hope many others heed your warning. Good job. LT
Hello Mr Larry Turner. Thanks for comments. Sounds like you have enough experience yourself to st5art a YT channel. For someone like me who is considering retiring ibn the Philippians in 1 to 2 years, how can I get in touch with you if I wanted to ask you for advice?
Thanks for being so open. I am meeting my LDR in October for the first time and it is definitely scary to think about something like this happening but I know anything is possible
Good luck!! more good stories than bad ones..God Bless
Jon, best of luck mate ... don't be too scared off by the horror stories. There are honest ladies to find, and just as many LDR success stories ... but you don't hear about those.
me too, October. thankfully my Filipina does not ask for money.
@@waltgreen8759 Think very hard before going there, don't fall into the trap!
What is LDR
Of all people who loves sharing their stories , this person (mike) is my favorite of all. He talks a lot and I loved to listen every story and experienced he had . What I loved most is that , I learned a lot when he is the one who spoke. I wish I am as mature as these people .(speaking about Mike and janet )
thank you Charlyn
I go by the golden rule. If a guy wants to send his hard eared gold to someone he's never met in-person that's his choice. Just be aware of the fact you will probably ruin that girl. It's like the rich family that spoils their kids with cash. You might have just corrupted the girl without realizing it. She will be expecting money from any future expat she meets. If she has a job let her continue working until you guys meet in person and establish a real relationship. Throwing money at someone can end badly as Mike and many other have discovered.
well said
Thanks Mike for being so honest…..there will always be “scammers” out there and people like you (me) who get taken in. As someone once said or close to it give a man a fish and he can eat dinner, teach him how to fish….well you know the rest. Sounds like you learned your lesson at a relatively low cost. Be well, my friend, and be safe.
thanks Halburke
Hi Mike. So sorry to hear about your outcome. Rest easy, yo will find true and trusting love one day.
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Hey Mike - appreciate the honesty. I've sent a few bucks to a girl in Thailand, as soon as I stopped sending money I never heard from her again. I was a willing participant, like you thinking to be the nice guy in this girl's life and to see if she was real. But I also knew the possibility of the downside, which eventually occurred. So, again like you, nothing ventured nothing gained - I did lose a few bucks. But I did not lose a fortune. I'm alive and well, and looking forward to my future trips to Thailand and the Philippines.
I'm not surprised to hear that, I dated Thai women, normal ones,not bar girls....they were pretty good HOWEVER in the end even they started asking if I could help out with money, nothing crazy but still I have a feeling it's hardwired into them. From my experience,Thais and Africans are the worst countries for women asking for money.
I believe you were scammed, Mike, and I am pretty sure her boyfriend was her partner in crime. I am so sorry that these women are just so heartless to do things like these to any person or man with good intentions. As a filipina, I am sorr, Mike. My boyfriend is an american too. And I never ask any financial support from him even if he wants to buy or send me money. I always tell him I have money and I don't need it since I have a job. We already met and started our k1 journey with our joint expenses. ❤
your husband is a lucky man
@@mikesphilippineretirementshe's lucky 🍀 to get green card and he's a sucker 😅
@@sadenbrick You may be right.
Yes I found out when I returned to UK, a friend found her “hidden” Facebook and it was all on there. At first I found it hard to believe that she was like that and her whole family involved too, but the evidence was clear and so I ended that. I think us guys get blinded and lose our sense of judgement. Be careful out there, and good luck to you in the future 😊
This could happen in any poor country. A well-off old guy wants a young woman and becomes a sugar daddy. As soon as he doesn't pay up anymore she ditches him and looks for someone else with cash.
Excellent video. I try not to judge. I wish you all the happiness.
Wow 😮I was kinda surprised to hear that story coming from you Mike except knowing that you are a loving, caring man with a big heart . You wouldn’t have given it if you didn’t have it but you really dug deep. I’m definitely not here to judge as I’ve also given up a bit both while living in the states and while living in the Philippines 🇵🇭. Mostly my wife’s family for questionable emergencies that seemed to dissipate when I asked for video and receipts which couldn’t be produced hence the money stopped to those family members till this day. There are many others that still get holiday and birthday gifts and parties that I fund or they wouldn’t have anything at all. But for the grace of God, go I.
God Bless Charles
Charles, exactly mate ... don't be afraid to help your lady or her family, when they're in genuine need. But equally so, make it clear you'll expect to see receipts. Just like Ronald Reagan used to say ... "trust but verify".
@@txtworld loved Ronald Regan as U.S.President
You were just too kind. You were not scammed because she didn't ask for the money and you're not foolish as well. It's not foolishness if you help someone you love.
She may not have asked for money but set up this "poor me" scenario that I have 2 kids, they have no food, I'm pregnant, etc. & all of that could have been a bunch of lies. And she probably had a boyfriend or two on the side the whole time and the 2 of them are spending the money having a great time. Anyone who isn't honest & is without good intentions is a scammer to some degree.
I've a different story. I met a man and we chatted online for 3 years . We met after 3 years and lived together for almost 8 months, only 8 months because he as cancer. I took care of him, looked after him but his time came and I was left alone, exactly alone with nothing . So in order to move on and recover from grief, I went back home. I'm still grieving and missing him...
Im so sad for you knowing your challenging experiences here in the Philippines with a woman whom you trusted her very much but it turns out a frustrating painful experiences.That s a long time to stay here in the Philippines.This just recently i discovered your channel and worth listening..Hopeful you are recovered now and so happy and contented with your life..Enjoy your future..
Yes Mike trust yourself and I'm sorry for that scams she did to you.
I gave up on the expat “This is my Life” show…They all want to over express how wonderful they’re life is with no worries/stress while under reporting the actual cost of living n the Philippines, while white washing the struggles of life living abroad. Thanks for sharing your struggles and pitfalls, it makes you look more human. In the category of humility your one of the better ones.
thank you
You are a brave man to tell this story…I have a whopper of a story that has been going on for three years and $80,000 later with a Filipina the age of my granddaughter…in my case it was one problem after another that I subsidized…I have no one to talk to about this… too embarrassed and I was still sending her money up to a week ago…
send me an e mail mikesphilippineretirement@gmail.com
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Hello Mike, thanks for being honest telling your bad story. Has been a relief for me to listen to you because I experienced a quite similar story one year ago with a colombian woman. We are good people and in some way we need to be fulfilled by rescuing a woman. We knew that was too risky helping in the distance in a online relationship that triggers our fantasies, but in spite of that we stumbled on the same stone because WE ARE HUMAN and I am happy to be human especially after listening to you. Obviously the best we can do as you suggest is learning the lesson. I hope to be in Filipinas for the first time at the end of the year and it would be nice to meet you. Your advice is always welcome.
thanks for sharing
There are Plenty of Great Good Women in AMERICA that don't NEED papers. You can find them everywhere in America, but you are programmed to think that women in the USA are the Worst and find every Excuse to Discriminate against the ones in the USA because of the eXOTIC-fantasy you form inside your heads! there are plenty of More Decent Women in AMERICA. And, I personally have travelled Around the World and I am always Surprised to learn how many men these foreign women SLEEP with and Having Unprotected S*X, the fact that they have So many children from these thugs back in their countries without having the finances to even Raise those Children Properly - is Proof that They Don't have a GOOD Head On their Shoulders. Why do you guys are playing with YOUR LIVES that way?? .