Joint family system is totally disgusting everywhere there is immodesty , jealousy and this and that no privacy so Islam discourages this system seprate home is absolutely perfect
I agree with the late Dr Israr. The fact remains *there is NO concept of joint family system in Islam* no matter how Pakistani and Desi Muslims try to twist it. In Islam you marry and move out. That's what the prophet did and what the sahaba did and what non Desi Muslims continue to do today. Taking care of your parents is your duty as a child, not your wifes duty. She is responsible for her own parents. A wife has rights over her husband and in Islam she has the right to seperate housing and a husband must provide her with her own seperate portion of a locked room, seperate bathroom, seperate kitchen and seperate entrance. A Muslim husband cannot demand his wife stay with his parents, serve them and care for them. In fact he can't even demand she meet and talk to them if he doesn't like. She is entitled to run her own home her way and have privacy. The wisdom of Islam supercedes the Hindu Desi culture that South Asian Muslims sadly follow instead of Islam. The ignorance jahalat is so common that facts about Islam surprise them such as the nuclear family model of Islam.
You are right Saira but a concern rises here that our beloved Homeland doesn't have any proper old-age care, so where would the two old persons go in their old age if we practice Dr. Israr's Advice?????
We should need a drastic change in our society to become a Muslim society, to marry early and live seperatly from your parents.. In this way parents also must have much better life while saving for their old age, try to remain healthy, and can sport much better their children and society, not a burden on any one, our gov must have free old age health benefits.. for this reason we all should give our taxes.. for a healthy welfare society.. Free of gheebat, gossip, back biting, leg pulling, hatred, jealousy, jadu tona, nazre bud and lot more things destroying our society and which is killing the abilities of our men and women who can perform much better to build a healthy and prosperous society.. and the main reason of population increase is women show their strength in joint family to make as much kids, without even having a proper income to raise them as mentally and physically healthy adult, who will become a better citizen so this cycle continues if you don't think now...
Prophet married in moved out? Don’t put accusations on Islam. The wives of Prophet (PBUH) had separate HUJRAs. Do you know what a Hujra is? That is what you have in Islam. But since on a personal level you want old parents to be left on their own after they bring up a child, would you want your sons to leave you like that in your old age? Think. The problem is everyone wants to have their own way and use religion to gain their own benefits. As a wife, you want a separate house, but as a mother you will want to live with your sons.
Joint FAMILY system ,the worst system of all!!! .. THERE IS NO PRIVACY OF ANY KIND FOR SON'S WIFE...ITS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT "PARDA" BUT THERE ARE OTHER PROBLEMS TOO IN JOINTS FAMILY!! ...NO JOINT FAMILY SYSTEM ...PLEEEEZ!!
And that same women make daughter in law the domestic pet. Cycles goes on. Then that victim in law become mother in law and become the oppresser and then she make her child's daughter in law the domestic pet.. the women u r talking about that same women wait for their turn until they don't become the mother in law and then they make their new daughter the domestic pet.. it's a vicious cycle.. where victim is the women and oppressor is also the women. And the men choose to be the catalyst.
@@Orel-m5g But she should have the those obedience and humility first to the GOD .. then anyone else or else she will end up in dilemma of abstract morality ethics and obedience. So obedience and humility first to ALlAh then your family and neighbour and society..
@@Orel-m5g This is the status of women in your so called traditional islam.... The quran never mentions obedience ti husband .. U people have only one verse from quran u misinterpet it... And justify obedience to husband.. the quran uses word Qanitat. Qanitat from its root means obedience to Allah.. He never uses this word for anyone else and wow u are saying that she cannot give alms . Charity is one of the most imp obligations on both and woman who is the husband to stop her u are clearly violating the quran.. Only the case that if she is using the husbands money than she should ask him otherwise not... u people and your traditional islam have made the religion a complete mess...
There is a hadith about brothers-in-law being "death". The joint family system is a regional, cultural construct. It has little to no basis in Islam. Nor is there any example from the lives of the Prophet(saw) or his Sahaba(ra) that this was the norm for them. The elderly parents are the man's or woman's responsibility, therefore, if their interests are best served by living with their child, that's one thing. A system and society which urges non-mahrams to live together and not expect there to be problems is stupid. Dr. Israr's "opinion" is hence grounded in his sound knowledge of Islam and it's earliest adherents.
the daughter in law is expected to some. kind of uniquely invented machine who works all day, and serve everyone . and entertain the MIL too . and only the parents in law themselves should have the right over the children. and yes the DIL shouldn't never wake up late ....and tired.....what makes her tired she only does this , this , this and this .
That's the DUTY as a CHILD .....its SON'S DUTY NOT HIS WIFE'S. ...90% OF MARRIAGES FROM INDIA TO AMERICA ARE DISSOLVED DUE TO MEN'S MOTHER. ...WIFE HAS ALSO HER PARENTS AND AS A CHILD IT'S HER DUTY TO TAKE CARE OF HER PARENTS ..SHE HAS HER OWN PARENTS...SHE IS NOT ENTITLED TO BE ENSLAVED TO SERVE HER HUSBAND AND SERVE HER HUSBAND'S PARENTS. ....BEFORE MARRIAGE ,MEN MUST ARRANGE SEPERATE HOME ,SO THAT A WIFE HAS ALSO PRIVACY ESP.FOR INTIMACY WHICH IS THE PART OF MARRIAGE. ......AND YES HUSBANDS MUST BE HELPING EQUALLY ,SO THAT A WIFE HAS TIME FOR HERSELF AND HER PARENTS. .. WHAT'S THE VALUE OF DAUGHTERS THEN!?! ..HOW DAUGHTERS WILL BE VALUED .. HOW THEY ARE BLESSINGS COZ THEY ARE BROUGHT UP COZ A PERSON WHO BROUGHT UP DAUGHTERS WILL BE GOING TO HEAVEN.... KEY TO HEAVEN!?! WHAT'S BLESSING FOR DAUGHTERS!?!
بیبیو بچیو جن بوڑھے والدین کی بیٹیاں نہ پوں وہ کیا کریں باقی رہا پردے کا معاملہ توسو سال پہلے نذیر اکبر ابادی نے کہا تھا۔ بے پردہ نظر آئیں کل جو چند بیبیاں اکبر زمیں میں غیرت قومی سے گڑ گیا پوچھا کیے آپ کا پردہ وہ کیا ہوا ہنس کے بولیں کہ عقل کی مردوں پہ پڑگیا یہ اس زمانے کا شعر ہے جب عورتیں دو پردروں والا بر قعہ پہنتی تھیں اور جس تانگے پر سوار ہوتی تھیں اس کے چاروں طرف بھی چادر لگی ہوتی تھی جس نے نہیں کرنا تب بھی نہیں کیا جس نے کتنا ہے وہ اب بھی کرتی ہیں باقی رہی سونے کی ںات رات دو بجے سونا اور دو بجے اٹھنا نمازیں بھی گئیں اور ناشتے بھی گئیے
People who promote Hindu culture like joint family system say its a blessing. But if a husband is told to live with *his* inlaws they call it ghar jamai and other unflattering words. This reveals the patriarchal and biased tradition of joint family system because it favors only the husband/boy and his family. The girls parents are not offered the same blessing of staying close with their child/daughter, enjoy their grandkids, being cared for and served. All these benefits are for the boy and his family only. Such hypocritical boys and people forget that a girl is a also raised with love by her parents, and they will also grow old, they will also need care and help, and the duty of care for parents is a duty on the children (sons *AND* daughters) and not the daughters in law. *So the moral of joint family system is all benefits and care for the boys family and the girls parents don't need care, blessing and love but can just be abandoned and left to die.* And remember not all girls have brothers. Some are only children or only have sisters. Yet no husband will take in or live with his inlaws because rhen suddenly its a matter of ego and pride. Great system.... NOT... which is exactly why Islam is fair and encourages nuclear family system. We see no mention or examples of joint family system in Sunnah or Quran and no mention of inlaws rights over daughters in law. *There is no concept of joint family system in Islam and never will be no matter how much such hypocritical cultural Muslims try to argue against it.* Wives hve rights in Islam. Seperate housing with seperate locked room, seperate entrance, seperate kitchen and seperate bathronm is on of them. A husband can't force his wife to obey him in joint family system because of this. She is not obligated to obey him whnn what he demands is not Islamic nor his right other duty.
So, a concern rises here that our beloved Homeland doesn't have any proper old-age care, so where would the two old persons go in their old age if we practice Dr. Israr's Advice .?
Assalamualaikum, May allah have mercy on all of us. To have separate home for a wife never mean to leave the parents it is the son responsibility to take care of his parents if he doesn't then he will be held guilty on the day of judgement. Yes it is moral responsibility of a wife if she does serve son's parents it will be counted as ahsan for her.
Dr sahb rahma ALLAH 1 biyan me farmaya tha kia howa jo beta ni kamata maa baap shadi kr k ghr ly ay shadi jaldi kry agr beta kama ni raha to wo apna ghr kasy ly ga wo to rhy ga joint famliy me fir asi situation me kia kiya jye koi bhai rahnumai farmai😢
hmare nabi kareem ke waqt bhi log apne kheeme alag kr the or dr.israr sahahb bhi duniya se chale gae ye sb shikha kr aaj ke log in sb baato pr koi tawajju nhii dete joint family ke sath jabardast rakha rakha kr touching krte hai....
ڈاکٹر اسرار صاحب اس بات کے بھی حامی تھے کہ اولاد کی شادی جلد کر دی جائے اگرچہ وہ کمانے کے لائق بھی نہ ہوں یعنی ماں باپ لڑکی بیاہ کر لے آئیں کمانے کا کام بعد میں بھی ہوسکتا ہے ۔ تو پھر کیسے یہ ممکن ہے کہ وہ علیحدہ گھر پہلے لے؟؟
Ghar bad me bna len gy jald shadi buht zaroori hy phir alagh ghr second number pe buht zaroori hy...islam ne is masla ka buht acha hal btaya hy k walden shoro sy pesa jama kren Bache k alagh ghr aur karobar k liye uski achi perwarish acha mahool taleem den jub wo baligh ho jaye foran us k pasand ka rishta dhoond k uska simple nikah kr den bap uska hath pakar k us k new ghar usko ruksat kr k bole k beta aj mene tere sub haqooq Ada kr diye us din sy Bache k fraiz start ho jaye gy k wo apne parents k haqooq Ada kre us k pas karobar b hy ghr b hy biwi b hy jo kamaey us k 3 hisey kare pehla apna ghr chlane k liye dosra parents k liye teesra apni aulad k future k liye jama kre
@@talibvoicelive2451 یعنی باپ تو ساری عمر اسی کام میں ہی لگا رہے گا اگر اس کے سات آٹھ بیٹے ہوں پھر تو اگر وہ اپنے آپ کو بیچ بھی دے تب بھی اپنے سب بیٹوں کا الگ گھر اور کاروبار نہ بنا سکے، اسی میں زندگی ختم ہوجائے اس کی اس کی اپنی تو جیسے کوئی زندگی ہی نہیں
Jo lakho apnay Shadii per barbaad kernay simple nikaah ho aur chota sa Walima Azeezo ke liye baki jo Rakam bachay usmein eik hi ghar mein Alagh portion aram say bansakta ya Eik room ko banaya ja saktay.
Ek room ho Sath simple wash room simple kitchen or uska or bv k portion me uski permission k bgher koi na ay Bs itna Kafi h shadi pr 8 lac khrch Mt kren UN peso se ye km krlen or lrki b jahez me falto Saman or jewelry gold k bjae wo pesy lrky ko de de taky ghr ml jae usy separate
Joint family system is a system originating in the Hindu culture which hqs been inherited and adopted by subcontinental/South Asian Muslims. Majority of Muslims don't live like this. Only Desi Muslims do. And this system is made by boys to benefit boys and their families. It conveniently disregards the girls parents and how the girls/wives leave their parents and their home after marriage but mommas boys husbands somehow can't leave their parents home. What nonsese. The joint family system is culture. It will ever be Islamic. In Islam we only see nuclear family system:You marry move out and live with your spouse. You care for your own parents and visit them as often as you like. The wife can care for her own parents and visit them too. This is how it is in Islam.
You are right we should discourage joint family system and encourage old age homes. For should convey ua spouse to make a home for u and go for another nikah if he is not supporting u.becase islam has given him the right to marry 4.
Joint fmly system tb tk sahi tha jb logo ki avrg age 50 55 saal hoti thi aaj ka jamana jahan 80saal log jite ho vaha koi batae ki ghr ke bujurgo ka khyaal kon or kese rkha jaega..? Jo Miya biwi bade shahro me akele rahkar jindgi kaat rahe he unse pucho ki kitti mushkile he nuclear fmly me ghr me kuch ho jaae to dukan bnd krke ghr phucne me ek ghnta lgta he.. Teesra yh ki nuclear fmly me insan finencial mamlo me jaha hota he vhi rh jata he aajke jamane me akele business ko felana badaa tera kaam he . business bada bhi ho jae to ghr ki jimmedariya nhi smbhlti.. Joint family me bche achhe se plate he log ek dusre ko sambhalte he..
Parda waqae nh hopata.but phr bhi parda karte h hum.4 uncle and their families rehte h hum.agr ksi ki family Apne ghr chali Jaye tau peeche unke husb ko poora zarurat sa Saman milta h Nd maa bap ki khidmat bhi hojati hai tau joint buhat behtar h.jhagre bhi hote b but behtar h
moulana sahib kya alag alag ghar bananey ka zimma bhi aap letey hein?? Aap ko maloom hona chahiye ki ek duniya aisi bhi hai jo rizq ke liye pareshan rehtey hein...subah ka khana agar hai magar shaam ka nahi...aise mein kya aap unko alag ghar bananey mein madad farmayey gey??
bro so joint family is not made haram u can live in joint family but it is very difficult to follow hijab rules for female and men so it is better to live individual
Marhoom Dr israar ahmed sahab jo bhi bol rahe hai wo apne dil se baatein bana bana kar nahi bol rahey.. joint family k bare me ye baatein Islam kehta hai.. kisi islamic scholar ki khud ki banai hui baatein nahi hai ye.. Islam me joint family k concept ko pasand nahi kiya gaya.. bina jane kisi cheez ko bura kehna munafiqat hai.. Allah aapko hidayat dein.. Allah hu akbar
No problem,GHAR JAMAI bhi bana jansaka hai... Jan AURATVUN OAWS KE SAATH RAHE TO KOI KHARABI NAHI,TO MARD BHI REH SAJTA HAI...AISE MEI AURAT TO KAM SE KAM BAGHAIR KISI PROBLEM KE REH SAKTI HAI....IN LAWS TIES ARE STRESSFUL FOR WOMEN.
@@shahilalam1230 it's not about HIJAB BUT ALSO ABOUT PROBLEMS AND INTERFERECE FROM IN-LAWS IN SONS WIFE'S LIFE...HOW SHE SITS, HOW SHE WALKS ,WHAT SHE TALKS,,HOW SHE TALKS,WHAT SHE DRESSES,WHERE SHE GOES,ETC.NO PRIVACY FOR SEX, NO PRIVACY OF HER LIFE AND DECISIONS ,SHE BECOMES A KIND OF DOMESTIC ANIMAL...ARE YOU READY TO LIVE SUCH LIFE!?!... ..WOMEN NEED MORE PRIVACY AS A WOMAN ANS INDIVIDUAL... ..IN FINANCIAL PROBLEMS,MEN CAN LIVE IN A WIFE'S FAMILY COZ AS A MAN HE DOESN'T SUFFER SUCH PROBLEMS AS WOMAN DUFFERS..... INTERFERECE IN THEIR BODIES!! ...THERE ARE OTHER PROBLEMS ALSO FOR A WOMAN,WHY SUCH THINGS ARE BEING IGNORED ????? ...OLD AGE PARENTS IS JUST AM EXCUSE ... WIFE HAS ALSO AGING PARENTS AND YES WIFE HAS ALSO PARENTS..THEY DON'T INTERFERE IN SON IN LAW'S LIFE... ...MAN NEED TO ADJUST OR THINK FROM WOMAN'S POINT OF PERSPECTIVE,ITS NOT A BIG DEAL! ... WOMAN'S INDIVIDUALITY IS LOST IN JOINTS FAMILY RUBBISH SYSTEM!! ...
یعنی شادی نہیں کرنی چاہیے کیونکہ آج کل کے دور میں لڑکا اپنی جوانی میں اس قابل نہیں ہوتا کہ الگ گھر لے سکے اور اگر کرایہ پہ گھر لے تو لڑکی والوں کو یہ اعتراض ہوگا کہ لڑکے کا تو اپنا گھر ہی نہیں ہے
junaid shafi ap ko is tarah nai bolna chaye or bolnay se phelay soch len k kis ko kia bol rai hen sharam ani chaye ap ko.aik musalman ko ye zaib nai dayta k wo is tarah kisi ko b bolay.
If ur wife is not in your control, don't blame joint family system. Ask the same question to ur wife if her brother got separated from her family, what views she will have about her sister in low? I don't want to impose ur decision on ur wife but give her the sense of responsibility, if you love your parents. Because one day, in your old days your children will have the same issue. The example you set for them will be followed automatically. So, bare in mind the consequences of your decision.
@Ishrat Ali yehy khayal mujhe b aya hai k agar larki k walidain akailai reh saktai hain tau larkai k kiun ni!! Aur agar larki larkai k walidain ka khayal rakh saktybhai tau larka larki k walidain ka kiun ni!!! Btw, ishrat name mardun ja b hota hai n aurtoon ka bhi... agar aap bhae hain tau ye poochna hai k kia aap apnai saas susar ko apnai pas rakh saktai hain!!!! Sirf is liyai poocha hai k mashrai me koi hai jis ka itna hausla hai k ni!!!!
Wife in control..?? brother waseem S Wife koi machine ya paltu janwar nahi hoti jisey control me rakha jaye.. And joint family system ko islam me pasand nahi kiya gaya.. First, go get some knowledge about Islam n then comment..
Yea banda zameen par mojood her insaan ko qabron may zinda gaadna chahta hey, tab he is shakhs ki nazar may insaano ka aapas may parda mumkin hosakega. Nonsense! 👿
Joint family system is totally disgusting everywhere there is immodesty , jealousy and this and that no privacy so Islam discourages this system seprate home is absolutely perfect
Beshak parda khatam hojata hai
Nabi e kare ne farmaya
devar too mout hai
he is not giving his opinion he is telling that there is no concept of joint family system in islam
bht dukh hta h joint system ma agar in laws ma ehsaas ki kami ho.unki ziyadti aur sakht ilfaaz dil tor dety hain krwa kr dty hain
I agree with the late Dr Israr. The fact remains *there is NO concept of joint family system in Islam* no matter how Pakistani and Desi Muslims try to twist it. In Islam you marry and move out. That's what the prophet did and what the sahaba did and what non Desi Muslims continue to do today. Taking care of your parents is your duty as a child, not your wifes duty. She is responsible for her own parents. A wife has rights over her husband and in Islam she has the right to seperate housing and a husband must provide her with her own seperate portion of a locked room, seperate bathroom, seperate kitchen and seperate entrance. A Muslim husband cannot demand his wife stay with his parents, serve them and care for them. In fact he can't even demand she meet and talk to them if he doesn't like. She is entitled to run her own home her way and have privacy. The wisdom of Islam supercedes the Hindu Desi culture that South Asian Muslims sadly follow instead of Islam. The ignorance jahalat is so common that facts about Islam surprise them such as the nuclear family model of Islam.
The wholesome comment.. I agree with each and every word of it.. Thank you so much @Saira_ for commenting and writing these facts.. JazakAllah!
You are right Saira but a concern rises here that our beloved Homeland doesn't have any proper old-age care, so where would the two old persons go in their old age if we practice Dr. Israr's Advice?????
@@mfd8926you are still not getting the point
We should need a drastic change in our society to become a Muslim society, to marry early and live seperatly from your parents.. In this way parents also must have much better life while saving for their old age, try to remain healthy, and can sport much better their children and society, not a burden on any one, our gov must have free old age health benefits.. for this reason we all should give our taxes.. for a healthy welfare society.. Free of gheebat, gossip, back biting, leg pulling, hatred, jealousy, jadu tona, nazre bud and lot more things destroying our society and which is killing the abilities of our men and women who can perform much better to build a healthy and prosperous society.. and the main reason of population increase is women show their strength in joint family to make as much kids, without even having a proper income to raise them as mentally and physically healthy adult, who will become a better citizen so this cycle continues if you don't think now...
Prophet married in moved out? Don’t put accusations on Islam. The wives of Prophet (PBUH) had separate HUJRAs. Do you know what a Hujra is? That is what you have in Islam.
But since on a personal level you want old parents to be left on their own after they bring up a child, would you want your sons to leave you like that in your old age? Think. The problem is everyone wants to have their own way and use religion to gain their own benefits. As a wife, you want a separate house, but as a mother you will want to live with your sons.
SUBHAN ALLAH ALHUMDULILLAH ALLAH AKBAR.
Joint FAMILY system ,the worst system of all!!!
.. THERE IS NO PRIVACY OF ANY KIND FOR SON'S WIFE...ITS NOT ALWAYS ABOUT "PARDA" BUT THERE ARE OTHER PROBLEMS TOO IN JOINTS FAMILY!!
...NO JOINT FAMILY SYSTEM ...PLEEEEZ!!
Joint family bohot bari naimat
@@chabdullah3650 joint family acha h agr shriyt ka pta h ek muslman h to ye sbko pta hota h shriyt kya kehta h
@@chabdullah3650 chal niksl harami suwar ki olad kaafir zindeek
@@chabdullah3650 kiyu taake bhabhi devar lage hon ?
@@squeen2181pata sabko hai abhi bhi parde ke ahkamat lekin Kon follow karraha hai
Today's quarrel in our joint family brought me to this video
... WOMEN BECOME DOMESTIC PET IN JOINT FAMILY.
And that same women make daughter in law the domestic pet. Cycles goes on. Then that victim in law become mother in law and become the oppresser and then she make her child's daughter in law the domestic pet.. the women u r talking about that same women wait for their turn until they don't become the mother in law and then they make their new daughter the domestic pet.. it's a vicious cycle.. where victim is the women and oppressor is also the women. And the men choose to be the catalyst.
@@Orel-m5g But she should have the those obedience and humility first to the GOD .. then anyone else or else she will end up in dilemma of abstract morality ethics and obedience. So obedience and humility first to ALlAh then your family and neighbour and society..
@@Orel-m5g correct
@@Orel-m5g This is the status of women in your so called traditional islam.... The quran never mentions obedience ti husband .. U people have only one verse from quran u misinterpet it... And justify obedience to husband.. the quran uses word Qanitat. Qanitat from its root means obedience to Allah.. He never uses this word for anyone else and wow u are saying that she cannot give alms . Charity is one of the most imp obligations on both and woman who is the husband to stop her u are clearly violating the quran.. Only the case that if she is using the husbands money than she should ask him otherwise not... u people and your traditional islam have made the religion a complete mess...
@@Orel-m5g ur wife is not ur entire house's servant
There is a hadith about brothers-in-law being "death". The joint family system is a regional, cultural construct. It has little to no basis in Islam. Nor is there any example from the lives of the Prophet(saw) or his Sahaba(ra) that this was the norm for them. The elderly parents are the man's or woman's responsibility, therefore, if their interests are best served by living with their child, that's one thing. A system and society which urges non-mahrams to live together and not expect there to be problems is stupid. Dr. Israr's "opinion" is hence grounded in his sound knowledge of Islam and it's earliest adherents.
sjalal, in the hadith, it's just in-laws, not brother in-law.
@@balochxbrother in law is in law, you don't get that?
@@basitreyaz6338 i get it, bro
@@balochx oh, sorry. i misunderstood your comment.
I got it now.
@@basitreyaz6338 it's ok, bro. no need to be sorry.
the daughter in law is expected to some.
kind of uniquely invented machine who works all day, and serve everyone . and entertain the MIL too . and only the parents in law themselves should have the right over the children. and yes the DIL shouldn't never wake up late ....and tired.....what makes her tired she only does this , this , this and this .
That's the DUTY as a CHILD .....its SON'S DUTY NOT HIS WIFE'S.
...90% OF MARRIAGES FROM INDIA TO AMERICA ARE DISSOLVED DUE TO MEN'S MOTHER.
...WIFE HAS ALSO HER PARENTS AND AS A CHILD IT'S HER DUTY TO TAKE CARE OF HER PARENTS ..SHE HAS HER OWN PARENTS...SHE IS NOT ENTITLED TO BE ENSLAVED TO SERVE HER HUSBAND AND SERVE HER HUSBAND'S PARENTS.
....BEFORE MARRIAGE ,MEN MUST ARRANGE SEPERATE HOME ,SO THAT A WIFE HAS ALSO PRIVACY ESP.FOR INTIMACY WHICH IS THE PART OF MARRIAGE.
......AND YES HUSBANDS MUST BE HELPING EQUALLY ,SO THAT A WIFE HAS TIME FOR HERSELF AND HER PARENTS.
.. WHAT'S THE VALUE OF DAUGHTERS THEN!?!
..HOW DAUGHTERS WILL BE VALUED .. HOW THEY ARE BLESSINGS COZ THEY ARE BROUGHT UP COZ A PERSON WHO BROUGHT UP DAUGHTERS WILL BE GOING TO HEAVEN.... KEY TO HEAVEN!?! WHAT'S BLESSING FOR DAUGHTERS!?!
MASHALLAH ❤️
بیبیو بچیو جن بوڑھے والدین کی بیٹیاں نہ پوں وہ کیا کریں باقی رہا پردے کا معاملہ توسو سال پہلے نذیر اکبر ابادی نے کہا تھا۔ بے پردہ نظر آئیں کل جو چند بیبیاں اکبر زمیں میں غیرت قومی سے گڑ گیا پوچھا کیے آپ کا پردہ وہ کیا ہوا ہنس کے بولیں کہ عقل کی مردوں پہ پڑگیا یہ اس زمانے کا شعر ہے جب عورتیں دو پردروں والا بر قعہ پہنتی تھیں اور جس تانگے پر سوار ہوتی تھیں اس کے چاروں طرف بھی چادر لگی ہوتی تھی جس نے نہیں کرنا تب بھی نہیں کیا جس نے کتنا ہے وہ اب بھی کرتی ہیں باقی رہی سونے کی ںات رات دو بجے سونا اور دو بجے اٹھنا نمازیں بھی گئیں اور ناشتے بھی گئیے
satisfied with your opinion.
14 non mehrams living under one roof and getting the bahu to cook for 50 people is NOT ISLAMIC
Truth
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Joint FAMILY is ALWAYS Worst...when the Husband Is not GHAR JAMAI!!
saudi mein there is no joint family if couple is married they get separated but doesn't mean they leave their parents
I love it
People who promote Hindu culture like joint family system say its a blessing. But if a husband is told to live with *his* inlaws they call it ghar jamai and other unflattering words.
This reveals the patriarchal and biased tradition of joint family system because it favors only the husband/boy and his family. The girls parents are not offered the same blessing of staying close with their child/daughter, enjoy their grandkids, being cared for and served. All these benefits are for the boy and his family only.
Such hypocritical boys and people forget that a girl is a also raised with love by her parents, and they will also grow old, they will also need care and help, and the duty of care for parents is a duty on the children (sons *AND* daughters) and not the daughters in law.
*So the moral of joint family system is all benefits and care for the boys family and the girls parents don't need care, blessing and love but can just be abandoned and left to die.* And remember not all girls have brothers. Some are only children or only have sisters. Yet no husband will take in or live with his inlaws because rhen suddenly its a matter of ego and pride.
Great system.... NOT... which is exactly why Islam is fair and encourages nuclear family system. We see no mention or examples of joint family system in Sunnah or Quran and no mention of inlaws rights over daughters in law. *There is no concept of joint family system in Islam and never will be no matter how much such hypocritical cultural Muslims try to argue against it.*
Wives hve rights in Islam. Seperate housing with seperate locked room, seperate entrance, seperate kitchen and seperate bathronm is on of them. A husband can't force his wife to obey him in joint family system because of this. She is not obligated to obey him whnn what he demands is not Islamic nor his right other duty.
100% facts based upon Quran & sunnah👍
But almost every parents have boy kid
So, a concern rises here that our beloved Homeland doesn't have any proper old-age care, so where would the two old persons go in their old age if we practice Dr. Israr's Advice
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Assalamualaikum, May allah have mercy on all of us. To have separate home for a wife never mean to leave the parents it is the son responsibility to take care of his parents if he doesn't then he will be held guilty on the day of judgement. Yes it is moral responsibility of a wife if she does serve son's parents it will be counted as ahsan for her.
Abdul samad 👍
@@mfd8926you are right I think it is based on financial stability of the Son or father of the Son.
Aqalmando KE LIYE ACCHA MESGE HAI AUR KAMZARF ,KHUDGHARZ PATRIARCHAL CULTURE KE LIYE AQALBANDI KA!!
Agr husband alg na hona chahy apny gr walon sy to Kya bv apni bachon ko ly k alg ho skti ??
Dr sahb rahma ALLAH 1 biyan me farmaya tha kia howa jo beta ni kamata maa baap shadi kr k ghr ly ay shadi jaldi kry agr beta kama ni raha to wo apna ghr kasy ly ga wo to rhy ga joint famliy me fir asi situation me kia kiya jye koi bhai rahnumai farmai😢
الله يرحمكم ويسكنكم فسيح جناته
Mere 5 jet hai same problem mujhe bhi hoti hai karna chaha kar bhi nai hota shohar ko koun samjhaye bole toh kahi yeh naa samjh lein k badekhlak hai
hmare nabi kareem ke waqt bhi log apne kheeme alag kr the or dr.israr sahahb bhi duniya se chale gae ye sb shikha kr aaj ke log in sb baato pr koi tawajju nhii dete joint family ke sath jabardast rakha rakha kr touching krte hai....
ڈاکٹر اسرار صاحب اس بات کے بھی حامی تھے کہ اولاد کی شادی جلد کر دی جائے اگرچہ وہ کمانے کے لائق بھی نہ ہوں یعنی ماں باپ لڑکی بیاہ کر لے آئیں کمانے کا کام بعد میں بھی ہوسکتا ہے ۔
تو پھر کیسے یہ ممکن ہے کہ وہ علیحدہ گھر پہلے لے؟؟
Ghar bad me bna len gy jald shadi buht zaroori hy phir alagh ghr second number pe buht zaroori hy...islam ne is masla ka buht acha hal btaya hy k walden shoro sy pesa jama kren Bache k alagh ghr aur karobar k liye uski achi perwarish acha mahool taleem den jub wo baligh ho jaye foran us k pasand ka rishta dhoond k uska simple nikah kr den bap uska hath pakar k us k new ghar usko ruksat kr k bole k beta aj mene tere sub haqooq Ada kr diye us din sy Bache k fraiz start ho jaye gy k wo apne parents k haqooq Ada kre us k pas karobar b hy ghr b hy biwi b hy jo kamaey us k 3 hisey kare pehla apna ghr chlane k liye dosra parents k liye teesra apni aulad k future k liye jama kre
@@talibvoicelive2451 یعنی باپ تو ساری عمر اسی کام میں ہی لگا رہے گا اگر اس کے سات آٹھ بیٹے ہوں پھر تو اگر وہ اپنے آپ کو بیچ بھی دے تب بھی اپنے سب بیٹوں کا الگ گھر اور کاروبار نہ بنا سکے، اسی میں زندگی ختم ہوجائے اس کی
اس کی اپنی تو جیسے کوئی زندگی ہی نہیں
@@thatgirlsahar aik beti k maa baap beti k peda htay sy jahez bnana Shru krdetay hein uska to aik lrkay k maa baap lrkay Ka ghr kyn nhi bna sktay
Jo lakho apnay Shadii per barbaad kernay simple nikaah ho aur chota sa Walima Azeezo ke liye baki jo Rakam bachay usmein eik hi ghar mein Alagh portion aram say bansakta ya Eik room ko banaya ja saktay.
Ek room ho Sath simple wash room simple kitchen or uska or bv k portion me uski permission k bgher koi na ay
Bs itna Kafi h shadi pr 8 lac khrch Mt kren UN peso se ye km krlen or lrki b jahez me falto Saman or jewelry gold k bjae wo pesy lrky ko de de taky ghr ml jae usy separate
Joint family system is a system originating in the Hindu culture which hqs been inherited and adopted by subcontinental/South Asian Muslims. Majority of Muslims don't live like this. Only Desi Muslims do. And this system is made by boys to benefit boys and their families. It conveniently disregards the girls parents and how the girls/wives leave their parents and their home after marriage but mommas boys husbands somehow can't leave their parents home. What nonsese.
The joint family system is culture.
It will ever be Islamic.
In Islam we only see nuclear family system:You marry move out and live with your spouse. You care for your own parents and visit them as often as you like. The wife can care for her own parents and visit them too. This is how it is in Islam.
If a mother dislikes her son bcz he refused joint family. What is Allah teachings on this issue
I also want to know
My divorce reason was joint family system (Hindu pariwar)
Islam is our religion but our Deen is Hinduism
You are right we should discourage joint family system and encourage old age homes.
For should convey ua spouse to make a home for u and go for another nikah if he is not supporting u.becase islam has given him the right to marry 4.
Very nice , practical , logically justified message!!👍..will not be understood by IDIOTS!!
Haha damn true
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Joint fmly system tb tk sahi tha jb logo ki avrg age 50 55 saal hoti thi aaj ka jamana jahan 80saal log jite ho vaha koi batae ki ghr ke bujurgo ka khyaal kon or kese rkha jaega..?
Jo Miya biwi bade shahro me akele rahkar jindgi kaat rahe he unse pucho ki kitti mushkile he nuclear fmly me ghr me kuch ho jaae to dukan bnd krke ghr phucne me ek ghnta lgta he..
Teesra yh ki nuclear fmly me insan finencial mamlo me jaha hota he vhi rh jata he aajke jamane me akele business ko felana badaa tera kaam he . business bada bhi ho jae to ghr ki jimmedariya nhi smbhlti..
Joint family me bche achhe se plate he log ek dusre ko sambhalte he..
Parda waqae nh hopata.but phr bhi parda karte h hum.4 uncle and their families rehte h hum.agr ksi ki family Apne ghr chali Jaye tau peeche unke husb ko poora zarurat sa Saman milta h Nd maa bap ki khidmat bhi hojati hai tau joint buhat behtar h.jhagre bhi hote b but behtar h
Every thing has + and - choose wisely .for some joint is gud for some separate family is gud cannt Paint all with same brush
Ni h
I have the same opinion but there practical problems to implement it.
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moulana sahib kya alag alag ghar bananey ka zimma bhi aap letey hein?? Aap ko maloom hona chahiye ki ek duniya aisi bhi hai jo rizq ke liye pareshan rehtey hein...subah ka khana agar hai magar shaam ka nahi...aise mein kya aap unko alag ghar bananey mein madad farmayey gey??
bro so joint family is not made haram u can live in joint family but it is very difficult to follow hijab rules for female and men so it is better to live individual
Marhoom Dr israar ahmed sahab jo bhi bol rahe hai wo apne dil se baatein bana bana kar nahi bol rahey.. joint family k bare me ye baatein Islam kehta hai.. kisi islamic scholar ki khud ki banai hui baatein nahi hai ye.. Islam me joint family k concept ko pasand nahi kiya gaya.. bina jane kisi cheez ko bura kehna munafiqat hai.. Allah aapko hidayat dein.. Allah hu akbar
No problem,GHAR JAMAI bhi bana jansaka hai... Jan AURATVUN OAWS KE SAATH RAHE TO KOI KHARABI NAHI,TO MARD BHI REH SAJTA HAI...AISE MEI AURAT TO KAM SE KAM BAGHAIR KISI PROBLEM KE REH SAKTI HAI....IN LAWS TIES ARE STRESSFUL FOR WOMEN.
@@shahilalam1230 it's not about HIJAB BUT ALSO ABOUT PROBLEMS AND INTERFERECE FROM IN-LAWS IN SONS WIFE'S LIFE...HOW SHE SITS, HOW SHE WALKS ,WHAT SHE TALKS,,HOW SHE TALKS,WHAT SHE DRESSES,WHERE SHE GOES,ETC.NO PRIVACY FOR SEX, NO PRIVACY OF HER LIFE AND DECISIONS ,SHE BECOMES A KIND OF DOMESTIC ANIMAL...ARE YOU READY TO LIVE SUCH LIFE!?!...
..WOMEN NEED MORE PRIVACY AS A WOMAN ANS INDIVIDUAL...
..IN FINANCIAL PROBLEMS,MEN CAN LIVE IN A WIFE'S FAMILY COZ AS A MAN HE DOESN'T SUFFER SUCH PROBLEMS AS WOMAN DUFFERS..... INTERFERECE IN THEIR BODIES!!
...THERE ARE OTHER PROBLEMS ALSO FOR A WOMAN,WHY SUCH THINGS ARE BEING IGNORED ?????
...OLD AGE PARENTS IS JUST AM EXCUSE ... WIFE HAS ALSO AGING PARENTS AND YES WIFE HAS ALSO PARENTS..THEY DON'T INTERFERE IN SON IN LAW'S LIFE...
...MAN NEED TO ADJUST OR THINK FROM WOMAN'S POINT OF PERSPECTIVE,ITS NOT A BIG DEAL!
... WOMAN'S INDIVIDUALITY IS LOST IN JOINTS FAMILY RUBBISH SYSTEM!!
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Vaseem itne Gharib ho to IN LAWS KE SAATH REHNA MARD KA HARAM NAHI HAI KAM SE KAM AURAT TO ARAM SE RAHEGI!!
in balochistan if u buying urself a house=leaving ur parents
And it's like you are out of our cast now
@@hammadbaloch1002 and out of family aswell
@@muhimmen yes they never understand personal privacy . Said dege share ancho
Joint family, is very bakwas
یعنی شادی نہیں کرنی چاہیے کیونکہ آج کل کے دور میں لڑکا اپنی جوانی میں اس قابل نہیں ہوتا کہ الگ گھر لے سکے اور اگر کرایہ پہ گھر لے تو لڑکی والوں کو یہ اعتراض ہوگا کہ لڑکے کا تو اپنا گھر ہی نہیں ہے
Ye ghlt bt h etraz ni krna chahie
junaid shafi ap ko is tarah nai bolna chaye or bolnay se phelay soch len k kis ko kia bol rai hen sharam ani chaye ap ko.aik musalman ko ye zaib nai dayta k wo is tarah kisi ko b bolay.
If ur wife is not in your control, don't blame joint family system. Ask the same question to ur wife if her brother got separated from her family, what views she will have about her sister in low? I don't want to impose ur decision on ur wife but give her the sense of responsibility, if you love your parents. Because one day, in your old days your children will have the same issue. The example you set for them will be followed automatically. So, bare in mind the consequences of your decision.
Waseem S
Dear kid. Get some study and then pour some logical shit out
Dr sahab giving the logical out come of joint family system. You cannot say that because you drive safe so the traffic rules should not be made
@Ishrat Ali yehy khayal mujhe b aya hai k agar larki k walidain akailai reh saktai hain tau larkai k kiun ni!! Aur agar larki larkai k walidain ka khayal rakh saktybhai tau larka larki k walidain ka kiun ni!!! Btw, ishrat name mardun ja b hota hai n aurtoon ka bhi... agar aap bhae hain tau ye poochna hai k kia aap apnai saas susar ko apnai pas rakh saktai hain!!!! Sirf is liyai poocha hai k mashrai me koi hai jis ka itna hausla hai k ni!!!!
@Ishrat Ali tu pagal hai, pehley English toh sahi seekh le baad mein likhna
Wife in control..?? brother waseem S
Wife koi machine ya paltu janwar nahi hoti jisey control me rakha jaye..
And joint family system ko islam me pasand nahi kiya gaya..
First, go get some knowledge about Islam n then comment..
Dr israr sharam Kar joined family bohot bari naimat hai Alhamdulillah meri joint family hai
Aap sharm karo jo Allah ka hukum reject karahe ho hindu culture ke liye
Can you please give me reference pf Allah ka hulam? @@abby1AB
@@sheryswati5968Bukhari 5232
Reference toh de de behan? @@abby1AB
Yea banda zameen par mojood her insaan ko qabron may zinda gaadna chahta hey, tab he is shakhs ki nazar may insaano ka aapas may parda mumkin hosakega. Nonsense! 👿