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Dealing with Loneliness
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- Опубліковано 18 сер 2024
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I get asked a lot about how to deal with loneliness. Unfortunately, like many others, there were times in my life when I felt lonely, deserted, and isolated.
Here are my thoughts on dealing with loneliness.
I mention in the video that it's probably not necessarily our fault if we're lonely. The way our society is constructed has us further apart than we've been in the past.
The benefit of this is that there are places you can find like-minded people and form connections!
On the other hand... Sometimes it is our fault. At least to some extent.
It may sound harsh, but there's a very real possibility that we may have some character flaw that seems to drive people away from us.
It may be easier to think of this in terms of other people, and not ourselves. For example, there may have been an overly aggressive person from whom you've distanced.
If this is you, that's okay. We all have flaws. We're all on a journey to self-improvement.
Even if you've irrevocably angered EVERY person you've met (which is highly unlikely), it's still not the end of the world.
There are people you haven't met yet that will love you.
At the end of the day, we don't need an army of friends to not be lonely.
In fact, it's entirely possible to be around many people and still lonely.
There is a HUGE difference between having 1 person and having nobody.
I hope this video can help some of you find that one person.
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0:00- Introduction
1:20- Loneliness Is Not Just About Being Alone
2:01- Is There Something Wrong With Me?
3:30- It Is Not Your Fault.
5:20- Soulmate Example
7:21- Being Choosy Is Not Necessarily Bad
9:49- Summary: It is Not Your Fault
10:49- It Is A Numbers Game
12:06- The Difference Of One
13:56- Sometimes It Is Our Fault
15:10- Trouble Fitting In
17:20- It’s Okay
19:50- Real Example
21:10- Be Helpful When You Can
23:56- Outro
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There are people you haven't met yet that will love you.
Thanks for waiting everyone! I'm back and will be making content on the regular schedule.
Welcome back!
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Thank you, I'll be more active on discord... See you there!
congratulations on getting married!
So true.
What a strange coincidence that I've been feeling nothing but loneliness lately and this video shows up. Hampton, you are a blessing in my UA-cam feed.
tbhh
Saaame
Ditto
Same :c
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Welcome back Hampton. Enjoyed hearing your perspective on this topic, it's bound to help at least 1 person 😉.
Hahaha thanks a bunch Daniel! I hope it does! ❤️
This video was already great but daniel being here makes it even greater!!!
Wow, Daniel watches Hampton, that’s awesome!!
@Intertwined Rain If u don’t know daniel from fitnessfaq then idk what to tell u
People always say how kind and positive Hampton is, but I don’t see many about how well spoken he is. I feel like his words make me feel like I’m not alone when I feel lonely. Thank you Hampton
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Hi bro. No homo
@@_Wai_Wai_ why’d you say no homo after saying hi
@@callmemobile5956 I know you are lonely, but please no homo
Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you. - Carl Jung
And additionally I think it's also having no one validating you as a person, not feeling recognised and loved.
It is a beautiful thought expressed in words. Bravo! No surprise you discovered that the earth is round way before the modern world.
Dear Hampton I know you don’t know me or probably will never ever read this, but this is TOTALLY the video I needed for a long time now, and I just wanted to say, thank you.
Like a lot of UA-camrs he usually reads the comments an hour or two after posting. I'm certain he will see your comment and appreciate the sentiment even if he doesn't comment back.
@@CoderGirl44 People like you give me hope that there’s still some decency and love out there and I’m really thankful for your kind words. This is my day one of improving myself , I will return to se how are you doing as well from one year on now (October 13 2021).
See ya on the other side!
@@argentandroid5732 thanks for the kindness of your message, and I wish you the best of success!
@@DiegoSilva-dk4io don't worry bro we are with you, for the past few months I've been suffering from loneliness but I have a wonderful family and a great friend that helped me get better hope you'll do great and find people you can connect with and so do I, best of luck for the future
I read it. I hope the video can help at all! Hang in there.
Loneliness is not about being alone, it's most likely about not being around the right people.
Totally agree
Not being around the right people is part of it, but it’s also feeling the loneliness that comes from being separated from yourself, where you feel like you could say, “I’m not myself today” but maybe you desist because the expected contemptuous response might be, “then who the f are you? Get away from me, ye freak!” So you feel even more lonely because you think there isn’t anyone who understands you, who knows what it’s like to feel like 100 percent yourself one day, and the next day like 30 percent of yourself.
Yep. I'm around my parents everyday, and I love my parents, but I'm incredibly lonely all the same.
@@ltb1345 dont worry you'll grow up eventually. Passes fast
Loneliness is like hunger. Even if you're eating, you might not have the right nutrients in your food to be healthy.
It may not be fair to expect any one relationship to feel ALL the parts of your soul.
But if you recognize the value in many different people/relationships, you will probably find ways to be fed enough for all your needs.
You won't feel unloved or bereft.
It's like he read my emotions and uploaded this could not have been better timing.
❤️
For whatever it's worth...
I'm secretly rooting for all my lonely brethren and sistren in the comments.
You are loved, talented, and anyone would be lucky to have you as a friend. You have a LOT to offer. Don't give up!
Every 'failed' friendship or relationship is gradually narrowing down the pool of people who will truly change your life for the better.
You got this! You have an army of people here to support you.
I feel lonely long before covid, but it got worst during the pandemic and the worst part is that I prefer to be alone. With all of this, I created a social phobia. The more lonely I feel, more away I am from people.
I can empathise, I've always been pretty solitary but this last year or so has been much more solitary than usual. And even now it's hard to break that because the habit of being alone is so engrained, and things are still not really "back to normal" where I am.
I can understand it happened to most of us. What helped me was to look at the bright side of things. I became more health conscious, be grateful for little things, started looking for good hobbies. Cooking was the first one and today it is such a stress buster for me. There's nothing wrong in saying that you prefer to be alone sometimes because that's where you learn more about yourself and try to self reflect instead of having someone else's judgment or validation. If you don't love the person when you're alone then it might be more difficult when you're with someone.
For a lot of my life I've considered myself an introverted person who prefers to be alone. But because of that assumption I never tried breaking out of my shell, and when I did I felt so ALIVE talking with people. Not for everyone, but always make sure. Always try new things and do what you like more, do what you don't like less - but at least try it out.
Me too! I think of myself as the loneliest loner. And like you said, its a spiral. The more I stay alone, whether by choice or coincidence, the harder it is to be around other people. But as I write this, Hampton is saying it only takes one good friend. So, I’ll pray for that one person to come to me, and that I will not somehow drive them away when they finally come.
My honey passed on 9-21-21. And I am lonely. So I look forward to hearing from you.
I'm so sorry my friend. I hope and pray for you and your loved one to be well.
My condolences, wish all the best for you and your family.
My Condolences😔
I recently went through my mom's old pictures and was struck by how long she kept a core group of friends who stayed in the neighborhood and they all got together on a regular basis even through middle age. I actually envy that. Also, I just realized I'm overdue to invite some friends over for a night of crafting. 🙂
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I think something important to add to the sometimes it's our fault part is sometimes, you might be too unwilling to open up about yourself. Maybe due to trust problems, or you're just too closed off in general. I couldn't trust anyone enough to open up to for a long time and it made me seriously lonely. Thanks for the video, Hampton!
When I feel lonely I remind myself that my friend has just married his lovely fiancé so I need to back off a bit and hopefully one day there comes a new coffee episode :)
Thank you so much, dear friend, I really struggle with loneliness so much these days... I need to try building my little community, can't live like this =_=
Don't give up, friend. 👊🏼
@@lowellcalavera6045 Thank you, friend! 💚🖖
From calisthenics to life philosopher back and forth. A very well rounded dude and pleasant to listen to.
Loneliness isn't about the number of people you've around you but the inability to be comfortable with the most important person in your life, namely yourself.
Couldn't have picked better timing my friend, still reeling from a long term relationship that ended, this definitely helps me on those nights that are harder than most, thank you Hampton.
Stay strong friend. Wishing you all the best
I'm in one of those nights right now, and truth is I feel better after watching the video. Really hope you are doing good man
Loneliness is an excess of love inside you and no one to give it to. Some people feel more deeply than others and that intensity can be what is pushing them away
That's so on point, it's scary. Thanks for putting words to that.
Congratulations on your wedding. I hope it was everything you both wished for and more.
I seem to have been guided to your page at the exact right moment. I have felt truly lonely lately as I was diagnosed with a medical condition that causede to give up my career.
Your words helped me so much and I truly thank you. I could honestly listen to you all day, and I like everyone else, look forward to many morning coffees together.
My dream is also to get married to the woman of my dreams at my future wedding. I would love to get married in Japan. I love the Japanese culture since I was a boy.
yo, hope you're doing good now!
This has came at the best time really, I just have been giving my whole life, and everyone I’ve ever helped has just left me. And although this may seem like an exaggeration, it’s not. I’m just so lonely all the time, and have no idea how to stop it.
I can relate to you soo much! You're not alone!
Idk if this helps lately these years I've been alone too, what I've done to forget that feeling I've been teaching myself martial arts, learning a new language and started a tiny business. Idk it helps sometimes or write your thoughts on a journal I used to do that to drop some weight off my thoughts sound stupid but it helped. I hope this tip will help you
@@ripvanwinkle1537 thank you, I’ve have been doing this, and it helps. But I think the constant giving of favors and helping with nothing in return has been kinda keeping me down :/
Trust me is not. People does this to me all the time. Look for good people that give than take.
@@johnsonfamilynaturals your page looks cool
Something really helpful for me was the book ‘How to win friends and influence people’ by Dale Carnegie.
The title may sound extreme, but it really made me aware about how to talk to people.
It also helped me to understand other people.
A big step for self growth and being social for sure!
Good luck all and feel free to message :)
Oh yes! A great read!
"Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise!"
@@Kris_Makes_Videos_at_3am You got it girl ;)
I was gonna put my phone away for the night but like, dang, I gotta watch this
It really do be like that
All the interesting videos come up when your putting your phone away😭
I've always been alone and enjoyed it. But lately I've been feeling very isolated. It makes me worried because I've been neglecting building relationships for years and almost feel like that ship has sailed. Thanks for making this video. It has helped put things into perspective.
I literally was crying about being lonely hours before u uploaded the video. Thank you Hampton.
“We are all working on ourselves. We’re all on some path of self-improvement, in some way. So it’s okay. You’re definitely not alone.”
Your words always give me a different perspective on things, thank you so much for the time you put into helping other people such as myself :)
Dear Hampton, I've been watching your videos quite a while and I'd like to personally thank you for somehow knowing my problem and helping me with em. I've been terrified for several years with being a loner (with grad school and all that) and I really wanted to give everything up altogether. I guess it's fight or flight kicking in. Making effort back then, and even now to make acquaintances seems futile. But these videos about fitness (I'm still obese tho') and personal care, I can't thank you enough for...everything.
Thank you for being your wonderful self. I'm cheering for you on your journey and in super happy for every step of progress you've made. Keep it up!!!
One thing that made me feel real lonely is that even though I had a couple good friends, I felt like they had more friends and closer friends than me. That thought was always the worst.
Coming from a Christian perspective, I remember a time when I felt lonely. I was around a lot of great peers and friends, yet I was convinced that no one truly cared about me and I felt I had nothing unique or special with anyone - I was feeling pretty cynical about friendship in general :/ but I went home and went to a random vending machine, bought a chocolate bar and to my surprise 2 came out. I started crying! I thought ‘who’s going to eat this other one?’ I felt in that moment God coming to my side to remind me that He is always with me, my closest companion and that being close to Him was most important. And that from closeness with him I would be able to unconditionally love and give to other people and that deep friendships would return to me. To this day I really feel blessed in my friendships :)
This put the biggest smile on my face! The universe judged you and decided you were worth 2 chocolate bars. Love it!
@@GlynScotford ahaha it made me so happy! 😂
Amen, thank you very much for sharing :)
I’ve been feeling lonely, for a very long time. It’s hard to find anyone who even wants to talk to me. I’m 16 and I’m on my third high school and I’m a Junior, it’s just hard. Ive been working out and just doing good in school and you know, I’m happy I think, I work out everyday and I play video games, I just it’s sad to wake up with no texts or end school with nothing or going to bed with nothing. I don’t have anyone lol. But I’m glad my mom and step dad are here for me and that’s all I need I think. I don’t know.
it’s like we’re the same person man…
Parents are definitely helpful but I'm in the same kind of space in life and I think that you and I both kinda need more. Parents are like a foundation we can return to, but we need friends to build relationships with, you know?
You're ok my friend, you'll be ok. I'm 19, very much the same issue, had it back then, kinda have it now. I too am lucky to have good parents and a few good friends. You will find someone, I don't know when but you will. Till then, keep working out and playing good games and studying. Good luck and I wish you the best my friend.
You'll find a good friend it took me years to find a legit friend. But now he got a girlfriend u know what that means so yeah right now we're on the same boat. But the guy I'm talking about he is good guy I just wished he visit once in a while
@@jostrr man, we got it, I’m just waiting for college… well after I graduate I’m going into the military to make me better as a person and to find more friends hopefully lol.
I actually dealt with so much loneliness before and I can actually say that, I don't feel that lonely anymore cause I start working out and actually start journaling and just being gratefull to everything even with small little thing and the thing is that you will actually get lonely every now and then and it's alright, it's a natural emotions you juat need to let it all out and cry that's just it. you gotta accept that you are irrational being and that of you being that lonely is actually not true
This is the video that I needed since I feel so distance from my friend group and I had to cut off two of my closest friends since they got into a relationship and basically forgot about me. Thank you so much Hampton and I aspire to be you. And I hope everyone can overcome their problems alongside with me
I'm having one of the worst days in years and this video just popped up in my feed. Hampton, I wanna thank you from the bottom of my heart!
This is the real emotional constructive video I needed at the moment. 💞
I hope you are doing better.
This will likely sound weird, but I spend a lot of time alone, but I am significantly less lonely than I used to be. Partially because I found some friends, and people I enjoy spending time with.
But by far the biggest thing that ameliorates loneliness is a concept few people understand: you are a form of company with yourself. When you are alone, for better or worse, you are spending time with yourself. That is a form of company. You are only physically alone; mentally you are plural.
When I don't like spending time with myself, and I don't enjoy my own company, that is when I feel most lonely, and isolated. Often this springs up from negative self-talk, or malingering on my failures, deficiencies and what I lack.
Once I learned how to enjoy my own company, and find peace with who I am and what I enjoy doing, not only did I come to enjoy solitude more, but I also found people who also enjoyed my company. Not many, and not often, but enough to feel a little less alone.
Start by learning to enjoy your own company, then the rest will naturally follow.
Congrats on ur marriage!!! Best wishes and many blessings on your future together!
Thanks also for this video! I just today had a breakdown partly from loneliness and this video was truly heaven sent! Thank you for sharing your content it’s making a huge impact on my life and the world! God bless you and thank you!
Wow, my loneliness has been peaking day by day to insane levels these past few months, seen one friend a week ago and 3 weeks ago, that's about it and the more I'm at home the worse it gets...I gotta go out for a walk tomorrow. Thanks for the upload!
Hello Hampton! Congrats on getting married!
when I was a child at school I used to stand with groups of people to not look out of place but was too afraid to converse so would seem awkward and the group would gravitate away from me.This would lead to me becoming depressed throughout my school years. I also have ODD so when I was younger I would release my anger in the toilets by punching the walls. I think I was looked on as the weird, introverted kid at school and have never been able to shake it even as an adult. I work as an artist/animator so have never found friends from work because I work from home. I have tried to connect with people over social media including other artists who do similar work but have mostly been aired or have had short conversations which have led to nothing. I feel very isolated and lonely but I will start implementing some of the things from this video. I started watching you when I started getting into shape in 2018 but my favourite videos are your coffee with Hampton videos.
This guy manages to be so soft and gentle while also ruthlessly disintegrating your ego. Good content.
Being alone is like quitting a bad habbit. Its painful in the beginning but once you embrace it you cant go back
I enjoy my alone time too! But in my opinion, you don't have to be lonely to be alone.
wow the algorithm is getting more and more precise lately. this is exactly what I need rn, thanks a lot Hampton!! :)
Hope you are feeling good now :)
You mentioned that you try to make it short, please don't. I love these long talks and just helps me relax and reflect on myself and perspective of others. Thank you again.
The algorithm autoplayed this after one of your other videos, and you have no idea how much I needed this today. Thank you so much.
I'm new to this community. I love your heart and lovely spirit. I look forward to watching more. Loneliness has been a big thing for me because of trauma and recently making a lot of tough decisions. Trauma tends to create isolation. I'm doing well and am grateful for the awareness of what's going on inside of me. And when I am able, I truly enjoy reaching out to serve someone else. So, here's to healing journeys! 🙏🤗
Absolutely insane lighting, great job Hampton, great video
The first time I saw your video I subscribed immediately. Your flow and vibe, everything about you is just so comfortable with me. This is the first time I left my comment on your channel. Thank you for making these videos and making me feel being understood. Thank you for telling me that it may be my fault or not that it's hard for me to have deep connection with people. But most important is that we don't have to be so hard on ourselves and it there's something we know we could do better, then we could always make self-improvement.
Congratulations on getting married man happy for you!!!
This literally came out at the perfect time. Was searching forthis exact video last night. Thanks.
I watch your videos to practice my English. Love your calm voice and beautiful messages. I've learned a lot throughout Coffee with Hampton series. Thank you so much and have a nice day too 😇
Thank you, Hampton! You are trying to help the WHOLE person - not only fitness but mental health as well. I really respect and appreciate that.
I just wanna say, your videos have really saved me from dark times. Thank you for staying pure and true to yourself. I appreciate your work and points of view.
There is a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely.
What a a lot of people need to learn is to be happy around themselves. This will by the law of attraction pull people to you that want to be happy as well and most people want to. I have the fortune to have a group of friends that i know for nearly 20 years now and I am only 29. Still i had times when i felt lonely even with them and the deep connection we had. It was until I learnt to be truly content with who I am and what I was doing and how i perceived myself as being who I wanted to be and going where I wanted to go that i felt blessed.
Being alone was never the issue. I am pretty outgoing and know maybe too many people. As you said you can only hang out with so many friends, but you should never forget that you have to hang out with yourself all the time.
To be a good friend learn to be a good friend to yourself first, everything else comes afterwards and being alone wont feel like being lonely. I enjoy me time as much as I enjoy being around my friends. Somedays I chill for myself somedays I want to hang out and its my free choice. I think that makes a big difference. People are very sensitive to neediness, I guess.
I hope this helps someone one day :)
Thanks for speaking on this Hampton,
I'm personally married, have plenty of coworkers, a few friends, and see hundreds of people a day working in a vaccination clinic, yet I'm so lonely in the last year or two. I don't connect strongly with friends and that's definitely the problem. It's also true that I find myself being choosy about friends, and I think others being choosy has meant our connections have become tenuous and faded.
At least knowing these things means taking some control!
How the hell can someone have such a soothing voice no matter the topic? I swear I’m both being put to sleep while being drawn into the conversation so deeply.
Also who knew I needed this so much
A great point brought up is that those you think are happy, may not be as happy or "put together" as they seem. We are all struggling to find our way in this world. My advice to my younger self would be to not worry about what others think. Don't stop yourself from being immature and goofy just because you're afraid to look dumb. Those who become comfortable looking silly will find much more joy in their lives. And those who put you down for being yourself are usually insecure and upset, looking for any reason to put others down for a little ego boost. I found myself gaining more friends when I realized that I am not the center of everything. When you realize everyone is more concerned about how they look rather than your dance moves, you can dance like nobody is watching. And even if your dance moves are bad, your confidence will draw people in. Life is short, enjoy the hell outta it!!
I am so glad I came across your channel!
You're always so sincere and thorough in your explanations and opinions, I love the openness you have here about the positive and the negative sides of the problem. Coffee with Hampton is definitely a huge help for a lot of people and I'm glad you're going to keep it up, as well as your workout videos. It's just such a blessing for me to have found your channel, you're so positive and you always make me smile. You made my day with this video.
This is weird, I have been having a hard time coping with this, and it came at a very opportune time. Thanks brother Hampton.
When I moved away for university in 2019, I moved to a city where I was completely alone. I knew no one, had a couple of friends in cities a few hours away, but in the actual city I moved to I was completely alone. So when I met my class for the first time, I saw a girl who had bright neon green hair, and it's a very trademark colour of a specific brand. And I recognised it because I had used that colour myself in the past! So I started talking to her, and we bonded about having funky colours in our hair (mine was electric blue at the time).
It turns out she did have friends in the city, lived with them, even, but they were incredibly toxic to her. Yelling at her for little things, belittling her, all the textbook manipulation tactics. She was so beat down, depressed, and felt so hopeless about everything. I was a lonely kid living alone for the first time, but I had already gone through manipulation and toxic friendships before, and I recognised what was happening to her. We became each others lifelines - I helped her leave those old friends, helped her gain new friends, helped her gain stability with her own place (and even lent out my couch when she needed it), and she helped me feel less alone as a fresh-faced 21 year old living alone for the first time in a city bigger than anything I'd ever lived in, coming from a small countryside village.
Then came lockdowns, and we stayed together - we were each others social circle, kept hanging out, going for walks in order to not make each other sick, just in case - and we're still best friends to this day. She graduated this year and is going for her masters, I'm still working on graduating due to my disability absolutely wrecking my grades at one point, but we stuck together. We chose each other because we could grow together, and today, three years later, we're both much more stable, grown people with ambitions and hope for the future. Dealing with loneliness is tough, but once you find the people who will love you just as much as you love them, you'll never be truly alone again.
Is it just me that feels like im the only one that gives people my full attention when I talk to them and doesn’t get it returned?
Nah, but I also think that while it is frustrating when a conversation partner doesn't match your energy, you don't really owe them your full attention. It kinda just makes me feel underappreciated while they have no idea what's going on, so it's not super worthwhile to do so?
@@lowercase_ash that is a much better wording for that than i have ever came up with
It's ok my friend. One day, I'm sure you'll find someone that matches your energy and you'll become the best of friends. Never lose your energy, the day when someone reciprocates will be super special, never stop.
I know the feeling💚
Bro this is so relatable as I experience this at school
Amazing perspective and eloquently spoken! Everyone here is benefiting from this modern world because it brought us the chance to hear all your insights through the internet when otherwise we never would have gotten the chance. Thanks for all your content.❤️😃
Hampton, I found your channel a few months ago & I'm glad I did. You're very wise my friend. We need more ppl like you in this world.
Thank you for making a video on this Hampton.
I think one problem currently is pretty much everyone is lonely and depressed, so it is hard to even be the one to reach out. Everyone always looks down, like they got somewhere better to be, like they have their own lives they’re rushing to get back to. Why would anyone even reach out when everyone just looks like they can’t be bothered?
They get home to connect with internet friends. Because these are the only people you can say whatever tf you want and they won't judge you. Everybody harbour deep and dark secrets and desires and it's great you don't need to put on a mask like in the real world.
Of course I'm talking only on anonymous forums like Reddit or 4ch. Everyone seems to lie on social media like instagram or Facebook because people can see your face and you are actually responsible for what you say.
Dude. You have brought so much needed light into my life. Thank you.
I actually feel very comfortable with receiving no messages for hours and hours. Now I have time to work out, study, read a lot of books and watch movies and series
Oh my gosh!!! I actually asked for this video on discord and THE MAN did it! Thank you Hampton! (you guys send discord messages too, he answers a lot)
"Kind Words" is an awesome game to cheer others up and let yourself be cheered up when I feel down. It always makes my day feel more meaningful when I write some letters to others who need it, and also get some supporting words back.
I found you originally for fitness related stuff as I started a few months ago. I was a shit in at the time, didn't want to go out unless I had to for work, groceries and medical. I even intentionally took 6 months off work to just lock myself away. I always assumed I was damaged goods. However finding your stuff has been a blessing, I have gone out to several events since december 8th now. I still feel out of place but that's slowly going away, I still can't hold a conversation with people I just met though, all one word answers. However that was better than 0, so I see it as a win. I also rewatch these videos when I feel I need to. Just trying to get everything locked in my memory.
Hampton, I have so much love for you. Thank you so much for who you are and what you do.
I have to agree with Hampton. When I started my first professional job, i felt incredibly lonely. I couldnt even think of who to have lunch with. I worked with older people who were busy and didnt have a reason to hang out after work. Colleagues mybage seemed to already have their social groups and even when I was invited to parties, I didnt fit in.
It was awkward and uncomfortable and took a lot of time and effort. But I made myself go talk to people, host lunches, go to parties and social events, volunteer for things.
At some point, I did start establishing closer relationships with the people around me. I did this by being continuing to attend social events, by being more open in my conversations, by being more willing to initiate by offering to have coffee or lunch, and mainly by working on long-term volunteer activities.
Remembering that experience of loneliness as a new hire, I make it a point to reach out to new people with a friendly face and connect them to resources and community where I can. It reminds me to keep myself open to new connections even if I have enough connections that I dont feel lonely.
Why do I find your voice calming and convincing... I will start listening to this guy, what he says make sense.
i love this camera angle, background and the nature noises. it feels like im there having coffee w hampton. great video, would love to see more!
I really appreciate how you present hard questions with such love and touch. Thanks for your content. Resonates a lot
Great upload time. Having no friends in a new high school is starting to take a toll on my mental health.
With the point you made about just enjoying having someone to message through your day is 100% I absolutely love to have that someone who I can just message anything to and it's so great! Glad your back man I love your videos, whether it's these ones or you calisthenics ones, much love man👌
Thank you, Hampton. I come back to this video every now and then. I've struggle with social anxiety since I was 13; whilst I've improved a lot in that regard since then, I still struggle with connecting with others and keeping friends. I'm still happy for all the interactions I've had, I just still have a lot to figure out and improve on.
I like your positive outlook, and you have a lot of wisdom that I find helpful. Thanks for being there for others, even strangers on the internet that you can't see haha.
Your video always come at the right time
I've grown up in a way that I was barely connecting with other people and only place I was socializing was school,always had one or two good friends and never felt lonely,until lockdown arrived and with no trust to my family,I don't really have a strong connection with them,but I have a precious grandma who encourages me every time I run out of steam and has helped me a lot and because of her I don't feel lonely despite having no 9ne to talk to other than her,and I'm grateful for that
You can see Hampton puts a lot effort in his videos and words. Just look at the sky in the background.
I know this is 8 months late but WOO CONGRATS ON YOUR WEDDING DUDE THATS AWESOME
“… the difference between zero and one…” Every word a masterpiece. Great talk altogether, thank you, Hampton.
Thank you for this video Hampton, I'm right now in college, I have people around me but I still feel lonely, this video really helped.
Again, thank you so much.
I needed this video, this hit my soft spot and I feel like I pushed one of my closest friends away and I've been feeling terrible ever since. They were one of my true closest best friend I've ever met and I miss them
Hampton, Thank you for doing this. I have been alone for a few years after my divorce. I do have my kids and family that I visit whenever needed, but what I've learned from living alone is that there is strength with being alone. At times, it feels empty but the rebound from those periods create a mentally stronger mindset when I am around people.
Thank you for all your kindness and sharing of love. You are a kind fellow human.
After watching this video I've just realised that I should appreciate what I have now. I have a wonderful best friend who always supports me and helps me to hold on. I've recently met a good person online and we have nice conversations. And it feels alright but it seems that everyone has a lot not so close friends that company who they can hang out with. But not me. And when it pops up I start to think that something's wrong with me. Sometimes I don't even know if I want to have more friend or is it just a social pressure. I'm trying to let this situation go and just let things go how they go. Thank you so much for this video, Hampton!
Congratulations on your marriage Hampton. I hope you and your wife live life to the fullest forever! Thanks a lot for the talk!
saving this for when school starts!! hoping I won’t have to come back and watch this tho
In regards to you saying people are naturally more lonely because everything is spread apart (because of the internet, and transportation like cars) I really feel that this is so accurate in feeling lonely. I was just thinking recently that I've been getting all my fitness information from you and other parts of the internet, but what would I do if I wanted to learn this stuff before the internet? You (or some other fitness teacher) would be someone local that I would get to meet and learn from, in person. Instead, I'm learning from you but I'll never get to meet you or spend time with you, or express my gratitude (THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR EVERYTHING!)
Another similar thing is ordering stuff online; recently I made the decision to actually go to a music store instead of ordering something from home, and even just being in the atmosphere of the store and talking to the people who work there was great.
This is a super important video. It's not often you hear that people who are NOT acting well still deserve compassion (I would even say they might be some of the ones who need it the most) and a chance to improve themselves. It's true that you can't blame others for your own actions, but it will be easier to improve oneself if there are still people who believe you are not irredeemable.
Also YES to the internet making the friendship pool bigger. I grew up on a small island and all my life I've had amazing internet friends. I never understood people who claim that online friends are not "real friends". What do you mean? From all the world, these were the people I really CHOSE to talk to. No geographic limitations!
And to all of you out there feeling lonely, I really hope you can find real connection soon. Despite being overall a happy and bubbly person, I've also sometimes felt very lonely in life. But then I eventually find some nice people! Some stay, some go, and new ones come! A big hug to you and good luck ♥
What!!?? I didn't even know about you marrying,I guess I'm kinda late but Congratulations man!! All the best!!
This was incredibly validating. I cannot stress how much I needed to watch this today. Thank you, Hampton.
A couple months ago I was feeling really lonely, and I just noticed this now. I’m watching this now so that I can be better with this later if it comes back, so thank you!
I very much enjoy your positivity Hampton. My experience is exactly this one, I feel very lonely, I have no one to talk to or no one that understands me. And I usually don't mind, but like you said, humans need to connect. I just feel it's unfair, because I've always tried to live my life being the best I could be to others and myself. I'm still hoping I can find this 1 person that will change everything. Thanks for this video and your content in general.
That point at the end about a friend hating you, but there being others. I don't think that helps. I've been in that situation where a friend never wants to talk to you again. I could make new friends, but is it even worth it, it hurt so much to lose the friend I had, but new friends aren't going to make me feel that good. And I might lose them to. We value stuff we have a lot more than stuff we could have. It's been 10 years since I lost the friend I had, and even now I want them back more than I want any sort of new friend/things. I can't do anything to make them like me because the fear that I feel regarding my relationship with them, effects me negatively in the way I interact with them. I just had to give up and accept that they hate me, and hope someday they need me more than they hate me, as unlikely as that may be.
There is no way a new friend could be as valuable to me, as getting back the friend I lost. My ideal person even if they're absurdly rich, would still not be as good as just, not having lost the friend I had.
I'm in a similar situation, and while I miss the friend I had, I remember that I was living my life just fine before I got to meet them, and if they're out of my life now, there's nothing I can do to bring them back so I need to find myself a life I can be happy with again, just as I was happy before meeting them. Detaching from them is really hard, but it's necessary if I'm ever going to continue to enjoy a meaningful life and not be hampered down by depression and self-pity. I did learn things about myself from losing the friendship though, and the things I've learned can help guide me as I find new people to spend time with and feel connected to. Think about what you may have learned, and use it as a starting point to finding the friends that do care about you.
Best of luck! I hope you're well.
Couldn’t have been more convenient. Just went through a whole week of people cancelling on me and being ditched. Thank you ❤️
Wtf, why are you so wholesome bro?🥺 I only discovered your content last week and each video just makes me like you that much more. Keep winning bro, you're such an inspiration :)
Congrats on the marriage! I've just been getting into the cali game, and your videos have been super helpful and encouraging!
Welcome back Asian Jesus
I am in a very dark place right now and your video really helped me. Thank you.
really enjoyed this video, even though i already managed to overcome my loneliness, don't have the largest friend group but they're very close to me and I can easily have a rewarding chat with a total stranger. i think it wasn't so much loneliness as it was shyness, i had (and still have to a degree) confidence/esteem issues, and always thought no one would care all that much about me, even if i did muster the courage to talk with them. but i was incredibly wrong, everyone tells me i'm one of the nicest and funniest people they've met, don't really believe it but i'll take it lol. unfortunately this kinda opened up another problem for me, on the opposite end of the spectrum. now that i'm more comfortable socially i end up creating connections with people i end up regretting afterwards, be it they display some toxic traits or just simply not worth the amount of time they demand from me. i know i should not give these people my time, but most of the friends i do make are people i see often such as in school or work, and are hard to avoid. i also sympathise and have felt the pain of being ignored when just wanting a friend, so it is extremely difficult for me to push them away. any advice for this would be appreciated
Thank You Hampton for bringing this topic. I don't have a lot of people in my life but I am glad that whoever are there I can reach out to them if I ever feel the need to talk to someone. With that being said I love my own company. I firmly believe that if you cannot love yourself when you're alone then it will be even more difficult when there will be someone around.
having been struggling with some severe lonely problems lately this helps, no its not an instant fix but its nice to hear about ways to move forward