This is how I overcame my depression
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- Опубліковано 1 чер 2024
- Hey friends! This video idea came out of the blue for me. It took a while, but I wanted to share it.
I wanted to talk about my experience with depression and how I overcame it.
I'd love to hear your own stories in the comments section.
Because mental health is such a personal issue, I know many people feel strongly about it.
It's not my intention to make anyone angry. I'm not saying this will work for everybody. I'm not saying all depression is curable.
But this IS what definitively worked for me. I not only managed my symptoms, but I decidedly overcame depression and changed my life. I've since been very resilient to it.
I talk in the video about 3 things I did:
1.) ACKNOWLEDGED my depression but did not accept it as part of my core identity.
2.) Took ACCOUNTABILITY for things I PERSONALLY did to cause my current mental state.
I resolved issues and accepted blame for things that were my fault.
At the same time, I freed myself of guilt from things that were NOT my fault.
I forgave people that had wronged me, even if only for my own inner peace.
I actively identified fears and insecurities that wrongfully controlled my behavior.
3.) I focused on giving to OTHERS.
The last one is perhaps the most controversial, but it was a MAJOR game-changer for me.
Focusing on giving, loving, and helping others has radically improved my mental health.
I discovered that the days I felt the worst were the days where I was focused on MYSELF... even for justifiable reasons.
Reframing my worries and concerns into how I can benefit others leads to similar actions, but a better mental process for me.
Learning to want the best for others has been an extremely empowering mindset.
Legal Notice: Consult your doctor or mental health professional before taking any new health advice. This video does not replace a physical therapy program or consultation with a medical professional.
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0:00- Introduction
0:23- Disclaimer
1:05- Share Your Story
2:05- Exercise & Diet Helps Depression?
2:53- Acknowledgement
4:30- Intermission
4:51- Interpersonal Relationships
5:27- Accountability
6:32- Denial
6:52- We Are All Flawed
8:46- Learning To Forgive
9:16- Compassion
9:45- Identifying Our Insecurities & Fears
11:00- Resolving Issues
12:20- Helping Others
12:57- Give Without Expectation
13:27- Know How To Draw Boundaries
14:34- No: A Tutorial
15:04- "The Days When I Focused On Giving To Other People Are The Days I Felt The Best"
16:26- Outroduction
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Hey I'm really sorry there weren't any new videos last week. I ran into a LOT of technical issues. I felt like I worked all week but didn't get much released haha. Trying to renovate my process. Hope you all are well!
Glad to see you got over depression, my friend! And to everyone who sees this comment, you got this!
Hail hydra
Thanks man!
Don't worry about it, we appreciate whatever you are able to make. Love you friend
Loved this video! Thanks!
I liked the part where you specified that depression was never a part of your identity. It is SO easy to just say "i'm depressed, this is who I am now" and just keep sinking in it. Fighting this thought is very important, YOU are not meant to be unhappy, YOU are not meant to feel like this. Never hesitate to ask for help, some people may not understand what you're going through but you'll end up finding. YOU'RE GOING TO BE OKAY :)
The identity part kind of blew my mind! Amazing video and great comment!
It's really funny when some twitter girls make depression their personality trait
The way I prefer to say it is I’m struggling with depression instead of saying I’m depressed.
I think another important distinction to make is the difference between "I have depression" and "I am depressed". Everyone gets depressed sometimes, and everyone can make it out. Identifying with depression can also be thinking that it is an unchangeable part of your brain chemistry, which in 99.999% of cases, is just not true at all.
wow my comment really blew up ! thanks for all your stories and advices, it’s inspiring to read all of you :)
I've had a depression for a good 7 years now (I'm 21), and some days its not too bad. I've kind of learnt to deal with it so I can get through my day, but it always comes back at odd times and completely shuts me down. I've been to therapy, taken anti-depressants, and while they DID help, it was only short lived. I'm currently trying to push myself back into a healthy lifestyle of regular activity and healthy eating, as I used to do that and I felt a bit better than I currently do. The lack of motivation makes it hard, but I believe that I can get there.
I know not really anybody will see this, but it feels nice to be able to share this with a community who I feel cares about this kind of stuff.
Thankyou Hampton and everybody here
I see it, and I admire you for trying to improve! Have a great day, and I hope it gets better soon!
I used to be depressed and I could get panic attacks. For about 20 years.
6 weeks on a carnivore diet solved that. It made me feel so much better. I consider myself cured. And I´ve read that so many others are saying the same thing. If you haven´t tried it give it a shot.
100% relate. You sound like me right now. Lol 😂
That’s a long time, sorry to hear that.
I had very strong depression for years and magic mushrooms saved my life and after a couple doses I’m stressed free (:
Maybe they could help you out
Well I saw it and a few others too and in my Opinion it matters even when only a few People took their time for you. I hope you get trough your Depression and just wish you the best luck.
Lotta shit I've been through, I saw my first girlfriend get ripped open by a truck and die on the spot, born and raised into a divorced, drug/heroin and alcohol addicted households with no jobs and anger issues as the youngest son, my older brother being severely disabled and requiring constant attention, proper medication or else he would extremely spazz out and simply guessing what he wants as he couldn't talk, just make noises. Later on I had to share my room with my cousin for a long time, where he would get a lot of special attention from his dad and my mom who would tream him as my equal, which is fair in that situation.
I somehow pulled through to university, given I kinda HAD to study something according to my uneducated parents that couldn't even help me or actively done physical harm to me on bad grades, some days even bad handwriting when my mother would sit behind my back and watch me write huge essays over and over again, as every mistake or unreadable word resulted in firm smack on the back of my head and needing to restart the entire essay over.
But working in Germany and Studying kinda sucks when you live in a government funded household as you have to give up money for whoever lives with you that is being funded, in cases where you happen to make enough income, sometimes they would cut the payment completely, so you are basically stuck with below minimum wage work and thus I couldn't finish my studies as an Audio Engineer (which was a pointless endeveaor to begin with I've learned recently).
Traveled across and got my own 1 Room Apartment with some Government Study loans (that I still have to repay) and my Dad gets liver cancer. So ofc I go to see this asshat one more time, who wouldn't?
So my car crashed during that time and repair wasn't in for my financial situation so I couldn't return on time. During my forced stay until I could gather the money to get myself a way home with all my stuff I had to witness my father pass away too and suddenly a handicapped accessible apartment, my older brother and a funeral was all for me to take care of too. By the time I could get one thing done, bringing my brother into a foster care, I got notice that I wouldn't attend the university, thus the government suspected me of being fraudulent with the loans, cutting access to my home (which still booked rent for month afterwards) and my studies entirely for good, charging me with a huge upfront payment or possibly even jailtime.
So I had to take care of that as well in the only way I knew how in that situation, becoming criminal.
I can't give any details but lucky for me, the police was clueless and nobody was harmed physically although the insane stress put an immense burden on me for years now.
As of now I'm sitting on a fat list of mental health issues.
It took me 7 serious attempts at suicide,
including getting a gun illegally trying to shoot myself but getting ripped off with blank ammonition,
hanging myself but the wood ceiling support breaking and downing an entire packet of sleeping pills that apparently weren't including the right substances to kill me anyways,
to realize, I have something to do in this world, which is why it doesn't want me to stop existing.
Not some new era messias yaddah,yaddah talk but actually a reason.
I have yet to find it out but in my pursue of this reason I could find glimpses of general happiness and furfillment, so what I want to do is find a way (quite possibly through a creative media outlet, be it Art, Music or even Video Games, I have a lot of experiences in all of these) to grant others who may be in similar or even worse situations compared to me and help them in any way I can to start regrowing that hope and search for plus take the steps necessary to gain control again over their lives.
I think nobody is gonna read this wall of text, but honestly, whoever, did anyways, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
May you not look who you once were or even are today but look towards who you can become and work at it one step at a time!
Stay safe!
You are an incredibly brave and resilient person. I hope you achieve whatever you're looking to achieve.
It’s incredible listening to your story. And I’m glad that you have become stronger and overcome your challenges. All the best to your life my friend
Your story is really inspiring, and I’m sure it’ll help others as it did for me (:
You are bound to become successful in life. With a will power so strong you overcame this much, you can overcome anything. You should be proud of how far you’ve come. Never stop improving. All the love. All the power.
I read this and it was inspiring. On youtube someone will always read what you right eventually.
I’ve had clinical depression since I was 12, here’s what helped, in the order I did them:
- Coming to terms with the diagnosis itself
- Telling my friends and family (that I trusted)
- Going vegetarian and eating healthy.
- Therapy! It took a few tries to find a therapist I clicked with, it really helps with the negative thought processes and such.
- Moving from a toxic environment to a better one.
- Minimalism, coming from a family of hoarders, this was important to me.
- Spoon theory
- Adopting a pet ( there were other people to help me take care of them)
- Psychiatric medicine. This one scared me and my family at first, but was necessary. Don’t be afraid of it, it may very well help you out a lot.
- Taking a gap year for my mental health. No work, no school, literally just focusing on my self and relationships.
Thanks for sharing your methods.
animals are a tremendously strong tool for healing
Excellent tips, kind of you to share. Thank you!
Such great points! How brave of you to give medication a try. Im really glad and hope it has helped. ☺
A gap year? Must be nice to not have to worry about bills or work or debt..
Funny how I was just thinking about some stupid scenarios where I was unable to climb out of my own insecurities and dark thoughts. Thanks for a quick reality check on where I am, thanks friend!
Edit: Wow to say I forgot this comment would be an understatement. Thankfully I've moved on from what ever was holding me down in the pass. I still feel gloomy new and then, but taking time to reflect and feel emotions have taken me far since I am now in my 2nd year of college. I was never good on expressing my feelings but to sum it up, I am thankful for all your kind and supportive words, thank you.
Praying for you friend God bless, you aren't alone
Best of luck on your journey
@@moss6235 God bless you we're in this together ❤️❤️
I have a couple of people I can rely on, that I know will not lie to me to make me feel better, to 'reality check' my thought process when it starts to get a bit dark. Is this real, or is this just my Depression Brain being a massive asshole again. They aren't the type to always tell me every negative thought is just my depression, but actually listen to my concern and tell me if it's based in reality and logic. 'I'm useless and no one loves me'
Sometimes I try to talk to my own brain or thoughts like I'm my own best friend. It's really easy to be hard on yourself, but it's important to be gentle. If my friend wouldn't be that hard on me, neither should I.
One thing that I don’t see enough people talking about is the value of commitment. The ability to commit to literally anything I found to be one of the most useful changes in my life. Whether it is keeping a promise, finishing a book or sticking to a workout routine. And the more you commit to certain things the easier it gets to commit to other things. I‘m saying this because it has helped me tremendously to convince myself that I‘m actually capable of persevering difficulties. I know that it is especially hard when you’re depressed to get anything done but even getting out of bed is a good start. It might be hard but it gets easier. Mental fitness, just like physical fitness, is a skill that can be learned and needs practice.
Remember this bro, The Hobbies, motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
@@obladioblada8614 quite the contrary, I think the hobbies, positive quotes, books, inspirational shows, surrounding yourself with good people etc. ALL HELPS as they all encourages you in every way possible. Scientific research has shown that being exposed to something long enough will have an impact on one’s psyche. It is okay to want to spread your faith, but please do not dismiss anything scientific to those who truly will benefit from them. It is a blasphemy in itself to help others decide what is good for them in the namesake of your faith.
This is my biggest struggle right now, and it makes me afraid to commit to other, bigger things. Felt good to see it spelled out
Thank you for sharing this. I find it helpful to write down my daily accomplishments. Writing them down is a way of recognizing and appreciating the littlest of things, and some days getting out of bed is a huge accomplishment.
Lets Celebrate our daily accomplishments. ~🧡~
~Love and peace to everyone ~
The Latest Kate has helped me with their random affirmations. My favorite so far is 'This is not the most difficult thin you have done. You made it through that, you can make it through this, too.' paraphrased, of course.
What worked for me:
- Exercise: starting super slow
- Self Compassion Meditation: this was an important one
- an environment that did not give tips but was just there and listened
- time
- a plant based diet/anti inflammatory diet: for me this seems to be important. My theory is that my depression is fueled or even triggered by subliminal inflammation
- reducing online time to a minimum
>an environment that did not give tips
Damn.
Sure, a healthy soul lives in a healthy body. If the body isn't healthy, there's also an impact on the soul.
Thanks a lot for sharing. Took a screenshot 🙂
@@14BIDISHA me too :)
❤
I came for the “push-up tutorial” and got hooked on this video on overcoming depression. Thank you for sharing your story and sage advice, Brother Hampton! Your vlogs are clear and unpretentious. Keep doing what you do.
We need more people like you in the industry
I don't know about that but I AM always trying to be better for you all!
@@HybridCalisthenics and that's what makes us love you, humble yet always hungry for progress
Be the change you want to see in the world. Try to become the person you think is having worth more of in the world in addition to praising others.
@@HybridCalisthenics we're proud of you Hampton :)
You might be surprise to learn how the kind of person who Hampton is, is taught and exemplified in the life of Jesus Christ. God refers Himself as I AM *cough* hint *cough*.
Jesus Christ is the Son of God who was crucified for proclaiming just that, an equal to the great I AM. Though blameless, Jesus died for the sins of the world so that we may repent of our own ways and be reconciled back to God, our Father.
It's not surprising how you say the industry "need" more people like Hampton. The Bible, i.e Scriptures, essentially said the same thing almost two thousand years ago, in Romans 8:19. I encourage you to pick up a Bible and see for yourself the inspiration for the type of person who Hampton is, and start in the book of Matthew. Or go to a church if you're hungry enough. Do both. Or simply ask questions here.
I am really depressed today and decided to watch Hampton to comfort me. I don’t even exercise, I just love his personality and he feels comforting like a friend and then I found this video. Love from Ireland 💖💖💖
Love back to Ireland from USA! I hope your life is on the upswing to good experience ✨️
🍀❤️❤️❤️🤗❤️❤️❤️🍀
Wow. I find Hampton so comforting too. I just found him this week. AND I live in Ireland too!!!
I had depression when I was 27 for a couple of years... Thankfully, my partner told me eventually "I think you may be depressed. You're showing most of the signs and you need help. It's not your fault but you need to get therapy or it's going to ruin our relationship." That was a huge eye-opener, going to therapy showed me that my depression stemmed from fear; fear of who I may become, fear of not measuring up, fear of my life not going where I wanted to, etc.
Understanding that I cannot live my life through the lens of projecting into the future, searching examples of what will happen if X, Y, or Z, based on how people that have made those decisions have ended up. Because they are in their own journey and there are millions of little decisions that are different. Because, while it is impossible to be 100% different, what differentiates us is enough to divert our journeys massively. And more importantly, be intentional with your motivation (finding it and keeping it in focus), and you will find your own way
If you're going through depression, I hope you get better. You're an amazingly strong person to be able to go through depression. It's completely fine if you wanna cry. If anyone makes fun of you for crying, cut them off. Stay safe and happy, my friend :D
I'm doing well now! But I've definitely cried before, haha. Life is rough sometimes, but it also can be beautiful.
@@HybridCalisthenics Glad to hear. Stay safe my friend :D
You guys want to cry? My eyes just cry on their own without asking me. I can't cry when I want to or not when I don't want to.
@@MrCmon113 It's the same for most of us. But I hope it gets better for you, buddy. Stay safe and stay strong! You are a champion :D
@@MrCmon113 i got childhood traumas because of my "dad" and i can't cry and im going through even more depression because i can't speak to my girlfriend how i really feel because of her parents.
I've been dealing with hopelessness for the past 3 years. After graduating from college, I was completely lost. At the same time my family was going through very tough times. So instead of finding my way out of the situation, I turned into a couch potato. I spent my days playing video games, browsing NSFW content on internet. So much time wasted. But since last few weeks, I've started to take small steps. I quit video games and p*rn, and enrolled for new classes. I'm waking up early and going for a walk. I'm also keeping a journal to manage my thoughts. I know the road ahead of me is tough one, but I'm going to show up every day and do my absolute best.
Remember this bro, The motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
Hopelessness. That’s the killer for me.
Hopelessness causes me to use the most dangerous word in my vocabulary, “tomorrow.”
@@obladioblada8614 Dude, your spamming your religion at these comments just comes off as preying & opportunistic.
@@obladioblada8614 Shut up
@@steeg03 Okay just remember what I said bro
saying that "depression is not a part of your identity" is actually very strong. as a healthcare professional, we are taught to refer to patients as patients, not as their ailments. for example, we tell a patient that they have diabetes, not that theyre a diabetic. their ailment is not their identity. "i have depression" rather than "i am depressed"
I'm fascinated by the combination of fitness and emotional health videos on the same channel. I love this guy.
I was literally just wallowing in my own self pity. My breathing doesn't feel as constricting knowing you aren't alone during these troubling times
Keep your head up king, don't let your crown fall
@@georgemelissinos9128 thank you for the kind words 🙏 but I am the one replying back to the true King. Here u go 👑
@@Splashus_Klay there's more then one seat on the throne, king
@@georgemelissinos9128 thank you fam! I hope you are doing wonderful on this blessed day. The throne has more than one seat, and I gladly vacate my spot for you 👑
@@Splashus_Klay I hope all your days are blessed king and I'd gladly abdicate my throne if it meant someone such as yourself could rightfully sit on it
Its important not to ignore stress sadness or depression. Many small warning signs show up before it gets really bad.
Dear friends pls pay attention to yourself. we forget this too often and burn up ourselves for others
The thing that causes / aggravates depression for me is difficulty setting and achieving goals due to many overwhelming challenges and colossal failures in the past and addiction to binge-watching UA-cam, shows and movies in the present. Also, not having any friends and social support system.
We always hear things like “be positive”, “be happy”, and these sometimes, can be the worst things to say to someone who is depressed. To those who find themselves in the dark, just remember that “being positive” is another way of saying “turn your face towards the sun”. Positivity is not a state of mind, but rather, an attitude or set of actions taken to help you feel better and alive. You can still be disappointed/sad/grumpy whilst trying to be positive. Emotions are only a fraction of an reaction, not a permanent state of things. Being conscious of thoughts, words and actions helps tremendously though it can be hard at first but gets much better with practice. Keep going!!! PS we care so much about instant chain of successes and how others see us that culminated to what it is; it is time we start to focus on ourselves, physically and mentally:)
"Be positive" or "be happy" are phrases completely without substance. Almost like saying "fly" or "walk through that brick wall". Give a person the tools or environment to do those things or stop telling people to do the impossible. Not being happy is a physical state of the brain, and the brain needs to be re-wired over time to even be able to be happy.
"to stop the Chain of hatred, we got to forgive first"
-Naruto
Very true but its hard to forgive the unforgivable
@@hayley1594 forgiveness comes from within yourself, not others. What makes someone "unforgivable" is your inability to forgive the said individual. As hard as it may be, the decision is yours to make!
@@ruru_nii4800 also very true it's not all a grudge that stops forgives but the self that is unwilling to knowing this some still cant even I well not yet
@@hayley1594 for what it's worth, what helps me to find forgiveness for others is to ask myself; is this stopping me from achieving my goals/happiness? If it's not getting in your way to achieve that what you want, it will save you a lot of weight. Why? To forgive means to let go of your problems involving another individual. This said problem will only be pulling you back if you don't let go.
@@ruru_nii4800 yes although when u make it apart off u you it will always be troubling thank you
For me it’s finding something to do that makes you feel the most alive. For me that’s music. For some it’s hiking, or building something, or whatever.
I'm still looking for that thing
@@minecraftstation6422 same
For me , its drawing . Thats the thing im so good at :)
@@novablaze8075 cool :)
@@minecraftstation6422 I didnt deal with depression myself but I think it would be logic that the thing is probably outside.. Idk but for me it makes sense. I personally love riding bikes🚀🤷♂️
Hampton, thank you for remaking this video, your efforts are greatly appreciated!
My journey out of depression started with a single piece of fruit. I wasn't eating well, I was sleeping all the time, and I never left my house. This was all last summer, which is not normal for me to be depressed when it's nice outside. After months and months AND MONTHS of not feeling well or feeling myself, I was SO tired of feeling that way. So I made the decision that I want to feel better, and just coming to that decision was incredibly difficult. I started small. I literally started with one piece of fruit. While eating it, I acknowledged that I was doing something kind for myself. I held onto that feeling and let it fill my being as much as I could. I decided I wanted to at least TRY doing one kind thing for myself each day, even if it was only eating one piece of fruit.
That was a couple months ago, I'm still on this journey. I'm not making fast progress, but I am making progress. I'm starting to feel like ME again. And now whenever I have a REALLY bad day, I am more kind to myself because of what I've been through. Small steps are the key for me.
Drink a glass of water, sit in a sunny spot on the floor and feel the sun's warmth, or eat a piece of fruit.
You go this, and I'm so glad you're here. ❤️
I don’t know if it was actually depression that I was dealing with, I had major burn out and didn’t feel like doing anything. Believe it or not, Hampton helped me get out of that. I started watching all of his videos and started looking at life and everything in a different way. So thank you Hampton, thank you for pulling me out of my state of burn out. I would argue that u saved my life
First i had to get rid of alcool to start getting over my depression. I found out that even while drinking very little, alcool poisoned my thoughts more and more. I feel much better when i don't drink at all.
Second of all, besides of talking to a professional, starting working out really helped getting my stresslevel down and feeling way better.
I like eating, and i cannot live without pizza for example. Even if i don't try to get under a certain % of body fat i can feel that, when i try to lose a few kg and i eat "cleaner" for a certain time, again i feel better. Even if i can't directly see a changing on my body. So for me, a clean diet and working out really helps. But you don't need to force it. If you want a rest indiet or workout, just pause for a bit. But try not to lose control over it.
Alcohol is a depressant. I’m glad you figured that out. Glad you’re doing better!
Bro you got this 👊
Yep alcohol is poison. Literally.
Glad you're aware!
About alcohol: I noticed the same thing. When going through a rough time, I found that my anxiety was out of control the days after I drank, even if it was just a couple beers with friends. You don't have to be a drunk to be negatively affected by alcohol.
@@agarqueen9126 yes it is. But being aware of it and don't touching it at all are two very different thinks.
And the biggest problem of all: alcool is everywhere. And if you decide not to drink, most people look at you as if you would have a high infectious desease.
I always got hung up over this one girl, it wasn't necessarily depression but it destroyed me when I saw her hanging out with this one guy, you have to keep in mind that this girl is amazing and different to most others. But recently I had a breakthrough and I realized she isn't my property and I can't force her to like me so if I grow up being single for the rest of my life then so be it. I'm enjoying life more and friends are super important.
im so so proud of you
Dude I had a similar experience and breakthrough a while ago too!
you all are so strong
Great job man
Heartbreak and unrequited love is one of the most painful things. Good job for getting through it bro, I hope you're alright ❤
Pointing out other's flaws rooting from your own insecurities is probably the most accurate thing I've ever heard. Most people when they insult someone else about their appearance are projecting. Why would they fixate on a certain thing if not?
Thank you for this video!
I have chronic depression as well as I am chronically suicidal and currently in a severe phase (do not worry though, I am taken care of). For me, a lot changed when I realized that my parents, especially my mother, are narcissists. I had been taught that I was not good enough from early childhood. My upbringing based on having to serve other people's needs and disregarding my own. This went as far as not even noticing my own needs anymore (which bites me in the b*tt today). I definitely support your message of trying not to become too self-absorbed. But also, reflect on what you've been doing so far. If you have been emotionally exploited by others, allow yourself to focus on yourself. Practise to say no. Learn to sit in your emotions and give them space to tell you what you need. I've been living my whole life just to please other people. This includes my career (which I internally hate) and my leisure activities (which never brought me actual joy, just looked cool from the outside or were approved by my parents). Eventually, there came a point where my needs and the outside motivated path clashed so much, I burned out and almost killed myself. I felt like I can never be happy. I felt like I'd always have to be a slave to others. Now, I am on a very exhausting path of learning to feel my own needs. Learning how joy actually feels. And collecting the courage to set boundaries and to change my life in a way that meets my needs. Probably, I will even start from scratch with my career, which is super scary at age 27 and having to quit the PhD program I am currently in. (Yeah, having a PhD is very important for my parents. Doesn't matter how much I suffer. *facepalm*) But if it means I can be happy, everything's worth a try.
So if some of this resonates with anyone reading this, maybe read into narcissism and see, whether a parent oder other significasnt person in your life might have such a negative effect on you. (I can also recommend the book "Will I ever be good enough? - Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers" by Karyl McBride - although this is very specific. But there are also resources for sons or narcissistic families in general.)
If anyone read this far I wish you a wonderful day and if you are currently suffering from any illness, mental of physical, I wish you a safe healing journey and all the best for the rest of your hopefully wonderful life!
Lots of love from Germany 💕
Once I got completely away from my narc mom everything got better. My dad and both siblings are also toxic--drugs, personality disorders, alcohol, cruelty, so I had to leave the whole mess.
Du bist wunderlich, so sind wir allen. Wir brauchen dein feuer im Welt!
You ever try DBT therapy? Very good to develop effective skills including radical acceptance and emotional regulation and distress tolerance. If not look at it to fine tune, never get complacent
I think my parents and/or the people around me weren't narcissistic. But were somewhat neglectful or wanting me to be what they weren't or bullying, in some cases. Anyway, the issues were not the same, but they affected me well into adulthood. I slowly learned how to break away from those people and issues. It started with observing others whose behaviors worked a lot better than what I learned in my family. And also trying to learn from my own mistakes and to better myself.
My depression was a result of lack of love from closed ones... i was told by those around me that strength is everything... and so self love is all that i have.. always expected to achieve extraordinary in almost all aspect of life whether it be academics or work life...all to make my closed ones proud... honestly UA-cam is the vent that allow me to express creativity and letting off steam from life’s burnout...
The depression is still there and keeping it at bay is a responsibility...
Hope you guys make it through as well ❤️
Damn that sounded like me lol... Hope you do better
There's always hope. I find that wherever there's love, there's hope.
Remember this bro, The self love, motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
I like how you put that. After what I've experienced depression will likely be a lifelong thing for me but that doesn't mean I'll always be miserable. I can keep it at bay.
That last point, being happy for others and wanting them to do well, when you know it won't necessarily benefit you is so powerful. Someone once said that depression is one of the most selfish conditions you can have, because you focus solely on yourself but when you wish good things for others, with no possible reward for yourself, that's when you truly grow.
Though I get where you are coming from, that statement does tug at my heartstrings a bit. Because, when your body says no, for whatever reason, and you struggle to get out of it, having a “selfish condition” doesn’t help. When I was under my “grey blanket” as I describe the feeling, I knew it was partially selfish. I knew other people (my wife) had to work harder because I couldn’t at that time. At that point in time, I was not capable of thinking of others. But, now that I have climbed out from under that grey blanket, I can absolutely say that focussing on others and wanting them to do well is good. THough I do forget sometimes.
@@macfanguy My bad, I meant selfish in more of a unintentional way, because of course with depression it isn't our choice. I was talking more about how we look so inwards, that when we do look outwards, it can be relieving/relaxing. And I'm so glad to hear you are doing better too!
No worries at all! Thanks for responding.
Man, you are so wise. This whole video you described the things I've started to come to realize within the last few months at the age of 23. This gives me so much hope for 2023 in a few days. Personally I've dealt with depression since I was 9 and I honestly don't think I can take even one more year of how I've been living since that time. Thank you.
This explains how you're so nice, compassionate, and lovely.
I feel like the "No" part is the most important. Introspection helped me a ton but no is a really big part both for yourself and the others. Saying no to others on some things like "wanna go out?" when you're not feeling it instead of "I'm sick" will be liberating, helped me say no to myself aswell...no to sodas, no to junk food, no to compuslive buyings, no to stupid/crazy/useless stuff and more.
Thanks
@@clementruzario5905 you're welcome. Have a great day :D
Yeah, I learit from a book called "I feel guilty when I say No"
I am not depressed but it's feel good listening you.
Me too
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I thought moving from outside to inside was a good transition to talk about introspection.
That aside, I find that doing the things I love (jogging, exercising) on my own is rather therapeutic and helps me get away from negative thoughts.
For me it was recognising that I’m never gonna be perfect and nobody else is, you gotta just keep being you, and keep trying.
Have a nice day folks.
My story’s pretty short. I was depressed from struggling in university. I contemplated for a month before I decided to drop out. I feel liberated and I’m never looking back.
How did you found the strength to leave the university? Like to left behind all the fear and the feelings like... I made it too far or its too late to do another thing or what else can I do if not this career?
I'm proud of you genuinely because I'm still struggling to get over my diploma or continue it despite it's not what I want to be in the first place...
4:47 this moment could really be the cutest thing I have seen on youtube, including cat videos
I'd easily listen to a 2 hour podcast of him talking about anything 😌
When I was depressed I started cooking for my friends and that really helped a lot 😃
Same here
I'm not really good at expressing my thoughts through text, and I don't like typing long paragraphs, but thank you soo much for this video Hampton. A lot of people struggle with this especially around their teenage years, and a lot of the time it's brushed aside as "teen angst" but it should be taken far more seriously. I do believe now there is a greater focus on treating mental health, but not enough people are willing to admit that they have an issue, so I'm really glad that you mentioned this.
If you feel like you might be depressed, have anxiety, or any other problems with your mental health, please don't hesitate to talk to someone, whether it be a therapist, family, or even members of the community. I personally have never really felt comfortable talking to my other friends and family about my problems, but this community has provided an outlet where I feel myself and a lot of others can express themselves more easily. Thank you Hampton and everyone else for making such a strong and kind community for us to be a part of.
I strongly agree with the idea that a lot of our problems stem from ourselves. I used to be an incredibly angry person, I never understood why, but I would lash out and hurt others constantly. Eventually I realized that all my anger towards others was actually anger i had towards myself (typical answer IK); however, rather than working on why I was so angry with myself, I doubled down on that hate. I became a nicer person on the surface, but inside I was significantly worse. I've managed to work on loving myself more, and I want to say that you have helped me a lot in that process. And to anyone else struggling with this, you may have heard it before, but truthfully seeing that other people struggle or feel the same way that you do helps a lot.
Anyways, I gotta go to work. Thank you again for this video Hampton, and I love all of you my friends ❤.
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Man, i know it's not always easy, but talk to your family about it! You don't have to prepare a script to do it! It's not something that you have to do flawlessly, or to some dear friend to you, someone in your circle that you REALLY trust, someone that you know will listen to you as you talk, you will feel uncomfortable, but it's okay!
Bro just yesterday. My brother made me realize that. I would always play the victim. When someone was rude to me. But I would never express why I am truly mad at the. And this would alway build up. Remember all the bad and rude things they did to me. But now I understand they are not always mad at me. But mad at that moment. So I just I have to discuss that I don't like me treated that way. And they will tell me their side of the story. But now I understand the no reason to run from the problem. When you can just discuss the problem you have with the person. And he you can fix that problem. I understand that you being angry is didn't than. But as the little brother in the family. I could understand that intense angry for no reason.
This man changed my life. It wad really hard for me to keep waking up every single day with no one who would listen to me talk or would just say im over reacting. But once i started listening to him and getting into working out it has been a little bit easy for me to get through every day so thank you hampton you have changed my cluttered 15 year old brain to a motivated one . Im currently not working out due to an injury but the doctors said that i could do some light workouts in a week.
Also could you make a video on how to deal with an aggressive stray dog this injury was due to that.
- a person who admires you
Postpartum with my first son was a struggle. Lack of sleep and figuring out how to care for whole human life took a toll on me mentally. My husband and I had just finished our own counseling and I had lost some family in this process. I also stopped working to be a stay at home mom knowing it was what is best for my child (and myself) but at the time I didn't realize I had placed so much of my identity in my career and I felt like I was no longer myself. After he started sleeping through the night my life changed for the better. After my second child who is now 5 months old and just starting to sleep more I have struggled greatly. Much of what Hampton says resignates. We turn things so inwardly and it's just not the way to start healing. This go of suffering has been more intense and much more difficult to process. I am still in the throws of the battle. 2 books have helped me immensely, sinclair Ferguson by grace alone and depression looking up from the stubborn darkness by Edward t. Welch.
Long term insufficient sleep is a huge depression trigger for me, it really messes up my brain chemicals.
Even if this is “just” your own personal journey, I found it really refreshing to hear you talk about how a healthy lifestyle isn’t necessarily enough to manage depression. It tends to annoy me that every time I look for help in a new place, the first advice I get is “eat well, sleep well, exercise”… like, I lead the healthiest lifestyle in the world and I still feel like absolute crap sometimes. And then I feel like there’s something fundamentally, unfixably wrong with me if this is somehow not enough.
My own journey through depression was deeply rooted in abandonment and lack of romantic relationships...
People say it's better to be alone than in bad company. I had gone way past that point, to the point where bad company is better than being alone. After 5 years of depression and loneliness and being unable to consult with a doctor, I did enter a bad/abusive relationship, and it did help. Absolutely did.
And then after 2 years of that relationship, I was still depressed but I was strong enough to go my separate way and get medical help.
To anyone who is in that phase of getting better, I'd tell you that if you still often feel low, it's normal. You don't just get cured on a given day. It's a slow process and it's ok. Don't beat yourself up about it because it's just getting better little by little. But there's plenty you'll already be able to enjoy even before you're totally cured.
Maybe if you're lonely enough, it's like saying "eating anything is better than starving".
Sure we might sometimes be better off skipping a meal than eating trash food. But sometimes if it has been way too long since we've had any food at all, then even donuts is better than continuing to starve.
Only you can know what is best for you at any given time. Good for you, that you made the best choices you could when you could.
I hope you continue to be kind to yourself.
@@Marialla. The food metaphor is one I've often used to try and explain my past struggles. I find it very apt.
You restored my hope in humanity, thank you brother hampton, society needs more people like you.
Be like him then
-exercise
-good food
-swimming in cold lakes
-hiking and camping
these 4 things changed my life and got my out of the 5 year rut i was in
Therapist here: one caveat about forgiveness. Forgiveness can be good and healing, but don't try to force it if you can't. You don't have to forgive to move one, you can decide not to forgive and move on. Some abuse is just unforgiveable for some people and trying to force forgiveness on yourself when you don't feel it can be damaging. If you can forgive, good. But you won't go to hell or not be able to move on if you can't. It's ok not to forgive, too, it doesn't make you a bad person.
focusing on family and friends, seeing a therapist and finding projects that interested me really helped with my depression
Yeah but it doesn't complete you Remember this bro, The self love, motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
Sometimes its realizing that the family or friends you have are the problem. That's what it was like for me. As soon as I cut off the parasites my world went 180.
@@obladioblada8614 FYI, Obladi spams the same comment over & over, always trying to invalidate others in order to push his religion. It's rather nauseating he needs to tear others down to plug his religion.
Hearing you of all people speak on this is about to be huge for so many of us!!! Thank you for your always kind words!✊🏾
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Hampton, you are adorable. Inside and out. I appreciate how you communicate. Your wisdom is beyond your years. I also so appreciate your positive attitude even when dealing with uncomfortable issues. 🙏🏻💗
take it easy there, Sandra
I've been going through this fight for depression since I was about 13. The thing is, with having it for so long, you incorporate its destructive mindset into your everyday life. You don't want to brush your teeth, constantly think about how your friends really aren't your friends, any responsibility takes so much energy. Lately, I have been trying my absolute hardest to part from this. I dont want this depression to be who I am like I have for the last ten years. The best part that I feel really helps is, I haven't been as secretive about my feelings.
I had an issue where, I was feeling down, really really down. I would hop into the discord with friends, have what I thought was an obvious tone in my voice that indicated I wasn't in a very good way. My friends ask everyone how their day was, and I always say 'Fine'. As our time either talking or gaming continued, I'd get more and more frustrated, I would have constant thoughts like 'Why aren't they asking me if I'm okay? I'm obviously not.. They must not care enough to see it.'
That mindset helped no one at all. My friends cannot read my mind as to what I'm feeling. I also said I was fine, when I could have been honest about how I'm doing. It always made everynight end with me questioning our friendship and if they really cared. That vicious cycle tore me down even in really good game nights.
I've realized, I need to speak up about how I feel. I've been hurt in the past before, and that made me want a barrier, something that showed I just don't need to talk about my feelings. It made trusting my friends very hard, and I am sure it has dulled enjoyment in situation where I could have been happy.
What I am working on now, is openly communicating with them about my situation. I talk about my struggles, and what I have on my mind. I let them know straight up if something is bothering me. I dont talk about everything, as bring vulnerable to someone is one of the (imo) scariest things. It leaves you open to attack. But I am trying to stop looking at it that way.
I thank Hybrid a lot for his selfless dedication to the wellness of others, and hope that my story may help or enlighten anyone here. We're all going through something, I believe in you, friends. You can do it.
I believe in you friend, you can do it! xx
Very sensible and insightful. I'm in my 20s and still working through a deep internalized shame that I don't even where exactly it came from. Accountability has been an empowering tool for me too, though I find that it takes time and constant awareness to not slip back into my "shamepression"
Oh my god, I know i am out of the topic but I have to say something.
In the end of the video, a thought flew through my mind that,
'What if he would have forgotten to turn on the camera before doing all this?'
Would he really make the video again ?
And then you proceeded to tell that this is your second time doing the same thing.
I really appreciate it, because the plus point is that you became more specific and the video was even shorter, you really didn't waste any time.
Coming back from the worst place in my life heres what i did that really changed everything
- exercise
- reaching out to a therapist
- slowly quitting alcohol
- having a creative outlet
- getting into spirituality and changing my mindset
- meditation
- making sure i stayed social and reached out to friends
- and getting plants for some reason they really add a lively energy to your indoor environment
My brother and I both struggled with depression, and he lost the battle 3 years ago. Hearing you casually say it’s your brother Hampton while going into this topic got me in my chest a little bit. It’s been dark and I have been keeping it to myself because I feel as if when I talk to people about what’s in my head it will imprint on them as well and not let them be happy again either. Things I see in the world or in life that I am sure I’m not alone in worrying about, but the feeling that I have to avoid flipping that switch in others is strong. Like I have to be alone with it. Deciding to be better is hard but believing it feels impossible sometimes. I’m just trying to keep my eyes on the next step ahead of me instead of the horizon for now.
Well I have MDD which is yeah one of the more severe versions of depression.
I by no means am past it but what made me finally take a few steps in the right direction was talking to my brother, my asparations, how I see my future, my thought process. Laying it all out helped me make the final desicion of going to therapy.
To put it in an easier way before I saw depression as a curse I had to deal with now it feels no different than my flat feet. It is a net negative and I can't do much of what normal people do because of it but there are ways to treat and live with it without making it my entire life. It's always by my side but it is not me, I am not my depreasion itself, there are days where I have to drag myself by chains and those days will never go. I accepted this and am moving on better than I ever had in my entire life
Man, if I was raised around, or grew up with, or had friends like this dude…whatever…
Pretty sure life would have went differently. Growing up, that is. This has to be the most awesome dude on UA-cam. His quick 4 min vids with poignant suggestions, successful workouts and stretches.
I got into a DARK depression around, 34. Same time I lost a job I gave 12 years to, so sure, that was probably a main catalyst to it. But so many other unresolved issues. Should be (with a healthy mind) be able to lose a job: and YES that shit is going to hurt, sometimes it can hurt BAD…but eventually get back up, fight again.
But no; I let the chains of depression and dark thoughts (and I do believe in a God so, yeah I believe in an oppressor; to each their own) grip me so bad; it’s taken me years. I’m lucky and blessed enough to have a wife that fought by my side, always remembering who I truly am. And my daughter…I was able to be with her, help teach and raise her in very young years…so I’m a believer in things happen for a reason, absolutely. Not “ALL” things, some things are just consequences, other things just…happen. The free will of mankind, and whatever the world throws you sometimes.
This topic is very strong. Depression is rampant especially with recent times. Be mindful of who you’re around. Be aware of what you’re putting into your mind, your body. Stay close to family…if that family isn’t toxic. If so (and that is hard for those who can’t be around family) try to find one.
Not preaching at all; just things that helped me which, kinda seem common sense don’t they? Take care of yourselves everyone. That’s the only way we can help take care of each other.
Hampton is the wholesome and loving big brother we all needed 😭😭 Thank you for existing my friend.
"The days where I focused on giving to other people are the days I felt the best"
That felt so unreal and kinda amazed that also kinda calm me at the same time or something just by reading that.
This dude is amazing. I am not depressed but I am watching this video just as an excuse to hear his voice. Because it's so calm and peaceful. It's almost if not more bright and warm as sunlight
This was nice of you to make. I got to a point where I didn't believe I'd get out of it. I didn't believe I was good enough. I didn't think I was worthy of God's love or if he loved me why he would put me through this, why he didn't help me out. I was far too deep in. But after years of pain, and being sent to a therapist after I started having physical issues due to depression and anxiety, I am starting to feel a bit more hopeful. I still struggle to get out of bed and eat all my meals and study but I've opened up to few friends (some more supportive than others) but that's really helped. Forgiveness towards my parents is also something I've been working on. Good luck to me and everyone else out there! Much love and prayers 💖
I hear you and I feel for you. I hope you can come to understand that God always loves you, and he doesn't take away your pain but he's with you through it. I'm so proud of you for fighting and I hope you know that you're doing good enough, no matter what you do. Take care :]
Oh dang I know what that's like. God's love is so great and it always is, it's such a shame that we struggle to accept it so often.
Glad to hear that you’ve opened up to others. That can be one of the most difficult parts of a struggle. Best of luck to you
I've dealt with depression a bit over the last 2-3 years of my life, and it came and went in cycles, kind of like a wave washing in over the coast, sometimes it was just a small wave, while other times it would be like a tsunami.
I feel like the reason that I ended up becoming depressed is probably something that a lot of young guys my own age see themselves in: Problems with girls/girlfriends, a lack of motivation, and a lack of self-respect, self-acknowledgement and a lack of understanding yourself, in terms of identity and sexuality.
My most major "wave" of depression, was after an especially tough break up I had, with a girl who I genuinely loved, who did not love me the same as she had done just a couple of months prior. After she had broken up with me I found out she had been talking with another guy for some weeks leading up to our break up, and I would blame myself for not being good enough, and that is where the lack of self-respect comes in. I always thought of myself as a lower being than most people though I would often excel within different fields, and whenever anything bad happened I would directly take the blame for it in any way I could.
During the period after this break up, I resorted to things like alcohol to try and escape my problems, but realized it wasn't the way to go. I then started trying to prioritize my health, going to the gym more, and what really made a difference was spending time with myself, coming to terms with myself and confronting myself with my actual wrongdoings and reflecting the blame of all the things I had blamed myself for. I would often (and still do) go to the gym at ridiculous times (12am to 2-3am) to work on myself as the gym would be empty and it felt like a safe space.
I later came to terms with my sexuality as well, though I am still not 100% on this, as its a constantly changing climate, but I feel more comfortable in my own body now than I ever have.
I also worked on, as mentioned in the video, forgiveness. Sometimes I was too forgiving, other times I did not forgive at all, and I learned to control this somewhat during my time of self-reflection. Though I wish I had the possibility to forgive some people who had done me wrong in the past, or even apologize myself for some of my own wrongdoings, I have cut all ties to those people, which in itself probably helped me more than apologizing. Escaping, and allowing me to free myself of their judgement.
This was a bit long but damn, if you read all this I can only say congratulations haha, I'm happy I've reached the point in life that I have, though I still experience these waves of existential dread sometimes, I have learned to know myself better as a person, and I hope that whatever you're going through, will release you from its chains, so you can live out your full potential. And remember, there are two important stages, when you're going through something, personally accepting it yourself, and acknowledging your own needs (spending time with yourself), and talking out about it.
*'Do things that make future you happy, instead of present you'*
This was a wake up call for me.
It's not always like this, but it is a lot of the times.
Gotta leave that here instead of adding it to my other extremely long comment, good luck!
Overall, this is an extremely helpful video, but as Hampton said, this is his personal experience. Our experiences, from what he shared, sounded fairly similar to mine but had one major difference. At the end, when he talked about seeing things as helping other people, he benefitted from that. I, on the other hand, feel like I need to take time away from that mindset and start being selfish. As someone who's still going through her struggle, I'm not sure if this means I have to think about me for a while or if I will have to find a boundary and stick to it. But personally, I've found productivity, and slow progress, in thinking about myself. This takes a lot of reflection, and so far it's a dangerous balance, because, if you're anything like me and you mess up in this mindset, you think its all your fault, even when it's circumstantial. All this to say, there is a vast spectrum between selfish and selfless, and you need to find the place that's comfortable for you. It's very likely to change over time as you hurt, heal, or become successful in whatever you achieve. I hope you have a wonderful day ❤
Both sides of the same coin.
It sounds cliché, but balance is key.
Feeling happy is a selfish something, but a good one.
Feeling happy at the cost of others is wrong I believe.
Making others feel happy at the cost of yourself is also wrong I think.
Maybe true happiness is letting go of thinking about happiness altogether and just feel it.
Okay this went too philosophical ^^'
Good luck on your journey ;)
I'm currently working on my master's degree in marriage and family therapy. I really appreciated your disclaimer at the beginning that you were sharing this anecdotally, not as a mental health professional. This was an interesting take on depression. Your approach reminded me of the serenity prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference." We have to be willing to own up to and change if we are contributing to situations that make us feel depressed, but we also must recognize that some things are not in our control and be willing to let those things go.
8:16 so who's to blame?
8:40 for our own sake.
9:30 🤝🧗♂️
10:00 introspection: what made u snap at them
10:20 take a step back, before u treat others the same way u were treated
11:10 forgiving for your own peace of mind
identifying & resolving hidden insecurities/triggers
12:10 helping others, not selflessly, but bc u want to, without expectation
13:00 birthday *gift*, not bday trade 😂
13:29 drawing boundaries: it's ok to say no
14:30
16:00 ☺
seeing other ppl, genuinely wanting the best for them, wanting them to thrive, to feel loved, to succeed, even if that means surpassing where ur at,
that's a v empowering place for u to be mentally
When I try to teach humility to my child. To say sorry and to move on and do better. I am trying to give them power. That they have a choice. We can’t control everthing that happens to us, but we can control how we choose to react.
When I was in a cycle of stress last year during my senior year being stuck inside, not going to school, and going to work 6-8 hours 5 days a week all I did was sleep. I would wake up at 5 a.m. drag myself through a subpar workout at school(for football which I ended up quiting) and feel like I hadn't accomplished anything, to sleeping from the end of practice (around 7 a.m.) to 2 p.m. (not doing schoolwork at all) and then heading to work and repeating the cycle 5 days a week all while eating like crap for a whole half the school year I was really depressed. I never said I was depressed to anyone as I never felt like I was on the cusp of toaster bath so I didn't want to be disrespectful towards people with actual depression. My parents were worried so they had me do the usual talk with someone at the doctor's office, "Are you depressed?" I said no as I did ever time I was asked this question and that was that. I guess during that time I was more embarrassed than anything that some stranger was asking me if I wanted to harm myself. Prior to this I never really cried at all but sometimes at night I would just lay awake and ball my eyes out listening to "What a Wonderful World." After I quit my job and football I started my own fitness journey and realized that everything we were doing in the weight room was fundamentally wrong(from us being taught to quarter squat, to not having tought us proper deadlift form, to just straight not having much in the way of an actual workout planned for longer than a week) so I started looking up videos on youtube on how to do correct form, good programing, and how to progress on certain exercises such as the pull up which lead me to your channel. Through your channel, Clarence Kennedy, Daddy Noel, and others I have a better understanding of fitness and your guy's videos make bring a smile to my face most of the time(like your fruitfly video). What I'm trying to say is you have been a big help to me and I wanted to thank you. How positive you are really brings a smile to my face every time you pop up in my feed. Thanks for all the useful tips you give aswell.
Remember this bro, The Hobbies, motivational words, positive thinking and just being grateful stuff doesn't help bro, the emptiness in your heart will never be filled with all of those thing because there's only who can fill your heart, give you peace, love, joy and be satisfied with your life is by accepting Jesus Christ in your heart and surrendering your life to him read your bible to know more about him and for sure, he will fill that emptiness in you heart. back when I didn't know Jesus I had an anxiety, depression and I always overthink, I tried the meditation and motivation stuff and new age stuff but it didn't work, meditation just gives me more depression and anxiety and it opened the doors to demons in my life where I always had a nightmare.
Kneeovertoes guy has pretty good content too related to form and athletism in general
Yeah depression doesnt necessarily mean you want to end your life. Sometimes the depression comes from knowing that one day it will and theres nothing you can do about it.
@@obladioblada8614 Fyi, Obladi is using the comments section to target people who have overcome & persevered with the marketing of his of religion. He thinks he has the only true solution so he'll tear down others to plug his religion.
Big hearted, Compassion, being helpfull, enjoying those qualities brings peace of mind, forgiving letting go builds up spiritual wellness, and it really does shows your positivity and positive change within oneself. 👌
Agree to the statement *'depression was never a part of your identity'*
I've been depressed for a while and diet and exercises also aren't helping me. It's actually very good to hear that they didn't help you as well, because sometimes it's frustrating to go like "WELL I'M EATING BANANAS AND DOING PUSH UPS WHERE IS MY SEROTONIN THEN?". Also good reminder that active people also can be depressed. I was sedentary and depressed before and going for a walk definitely helped back then, but it doesn't help now that I'm more active. I still don't know what will help me this time, but let's keep searching.
I was very depressed and couldnt deal with 'mindstorm' that was happening in my head. I was lost teenager, had family problems, alcohol, my parents never believed in me, always put fear in my life. I was so afraid of everything new happening in life that i got paralyzed. One day i just asked myself: Do you really wanna live unhappy, full o fear, self blaming life? I stood with a choice, try to change my mental health, or just end my life. 2nd option is always easy, but i said no! One thing that helped me much at the start was realizing one simple thing: I am NOT MY THOUGHTS. Human brain produces all this selfblaiming garbage, but you are not this, you cant control it, but what you can do is not identify with it, leave it flowing, and dont connect with this. We are all part of this world, and we all have just a little, short life. Dont waste it on negative, selfdamaging stuff.
Hampton, you are one of the most positive persons ive been watching on YT. Thanks for all the work, and kindness you put in your content :)
The world needs more humans like you.Thank you for promoting so much positivity and kindness, it's why you blew up.
Honestly man, thank you.
I've recently realised that I'm not happy with how I'm living my life. It's getting better but one key thing that jumped out at me from what you said was that I can choose who and what I want to be.
Thank you man, I really appreciate everything you have done.
The thing that helped me most was getting away from my parents and two siblings, giving up on any expectation that they would ever be what family is supposed to be. (Drugs, alcohol, personality disorders, disrespect, abuse). Now I rarely get depressed, and if I do it's usually due to lack of sleep.
My thoughts created problems for me, just the thought of them made me have problems that didn't exist. Don't create problems that don't exist!
Encouraging people to live for others (at least as much as they can) is incredible. I have been through different severity levels of depression, but even in my darkest times I knew in my heart that even if I am unhappy with my life, I still have something to offer others who may be worse off than I am. This was very inspirational-- you're doing great work, Hampton!
Respect!
I delt with a combination of depression and grief when I loss my mom. Sucks but gotta stay focus and gotta keep moving forward
I am a young 72 and fairly healthy and active. After watching and enjoying many of your "Coffee with Hampton" and your fitness videos, I now see you as a very intelligent, caring, and common sense person. You are becoming quite discerning about this crazy world we live in. You speak calmly and intelligently. I think you stand out from the crowd! I also like your calm, natural settings and your editing. Your talks motivate me to keep going. Please keep up the good work, Hampton!🙏😉😊
Amazing video! For me, I realised I had to make a clearer distinction between accountability and guilt. What happens to you may not be your fault but how you cope with it IS your responsibility.
Two years since this video and you are still helping so many people every day by being you and by sharing your knowledge. Thank you, Brother Hampton, and coffee cheers! 😊☕
Not getting too much into your own head and instead focusing on others can be a good way of getting out of a hole. What has also helped me a lot was to find a big mid to long term goal that motivates you so much that you want to live life and enjoy life again. It can reframe your entire mindset, it's so powerful.
Regarding forgiveness, I can and have forgiven before. However, the one thing I cannot and never will forgive is people abandoning me in times where I needed them the most. These people are dead to me.
Not if you're a pathological people pleaser, you can also be "too much in your own head" about whether you are satisfying others enough or not
The majority of my depression and anxiety now is reduced to when I’m not eating, sleeping, or drinking water properly. It used to be worse before I went see a cognitive behavorial therapist to help cope with my ptsd and ocd.
This was really really good. I am a mental health therapist and also run a wellness program in a community mental health facility, and from both my professional and personal experiences, I have to say you are so spot on. I’m really impressed that you’ve come to so much knowledge and understanding at such a clearly young age. Very inspirational.
You’re super amazing! I love this video 💙 You’ve helped me so much. Keep doing what you are doing! Your doing an amazing job. God bless your soul 💙
Thank you for being your wonderful self!
This may seem like exageration but honestly you are the one who pulled me out of my self loathing and got me hooked to physical exercise.
This did wonders to my mental health.
Maybe it was your way of talking that made me hate myself less and less, how you always told that the motive of exercise was to feel good and attain your true actual form, not trying to turn into some ideal model. This mentality helped a lot and from the past six months I can feel myself turning healthier both physically and mentally.
Hope you read this.
A heartfelt thanks 🙏
I used to excercise a lot, then I got depression with anxiety and doing excerise made me felt worst, because I was very demanding with myself and nothing was enough. so I quit excericising to stop that obsession. When I felt ready again I started but with precaution of my goals and mindset about it.
That interpersonal relationships was a interesting bit, id always catch myself thinking about it then forcing myself 2 work harder or do more ot just cuz of things in the past, mistakes im tryin to fix, strange tho cuz it makes my performance extend way beyond others
Thank you for this today, I needed it.
I am 39 years old and coming out of a depression that may have started 5 years ago. Not living true! I agree with your advice Hampton and wish I knew this wisdom earlier in my life. This video is now saved to a playlist I’m building for the young women in my life. Thank you, wise young man! ❤
I had depression of some sort starting in January 2020 when I got covid before it was widespread. I realized after ~10 months what was really happening with me, that I was lonely. Looking back on it, I am grateful that I became depressed. It gave me a depressive synicism, and I saw myself for who I was. I saw how out of shape I was and started working out for real, and here I am, and here I'm happy.
I’m truly happy for you , bro
This video’s vibes is literally cozy and makes u feel already happy, i like those kind of videos where you talk to us about some kind of a subject.
Love your energy and ora Hampton! you are a true human being in its most beautiful sense❤
Dear Hempton. You don't know how many people of different ages and counties appreciate you, I am one of them. Almost your mother's age. Let all blessings reach you and never get sad or depressed. May Almighty bless you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you so much, brother. You're a light to the world ❤️
Your down to earth-ness alone has helped me and I'm sure many others as well, thank you for the extra mile!
Awesome effort. Hearing from you about depression was really helpful in understanding my own situations.
You are what you have around you. Being alone , whilist didnt remove my depression, made me understand it and work with it
I think that itself, is a way of healing from depression:)
The opposite to depresion is expression. Express how you feel, it helped me and ite still helps me a lot.
This is all so good; in fact, it’s excellent. It’s more than ‘food for thought’; you give some concrete tools for helping yourself move forward from depression. I’ve shared with a couple of friends who I think will appreciate you as much as I do. I’m a fan of your exercise videos but I’m also a fan of your life commentaries. You are one heck of an articulate man, Hampton.