we all know the parents had no intention of paying that money back, also Op needs to make sure that if she's ever in an accident her parents can't just pull the plug on her, they seem the type to do that to claim her stuff/life insurance, etc.
Likely sounds like she's already got a POA in place that's probably a trusted relative, and has long since learned not to expect anything of her parents.
Came here to say that same thing: the parents had zero intention of paying OP back, they got upset that they had to borrow money rather than just take money.
Your "parents" lost their role as family to you the moment they put all their love into the golden child. So well done for not going along and pay for their medical bills
As bad as the sister is, at least she's doing OP a favor by providing karmic justice, abandoning the parents when they needed her the most. Now they have lost both daughters.
Also, is really nice that Allison claims her stepkids as her own and is kind of crumby for OP to say "they're not her kids" If a man refused to claim his stepkids, he would have hell to pay.
@@PieNumber4that’s what I hated about her cause she is assuming so much about their relationship like it’s really none of your business and how do you know like she’s allison. As soon as I heard the last update, I couldn’t stand op anymore
She sounds extremely bitter. I was agreeing with her until the end rant about how pathetic her sisters life was and how dumb she was. Seemed like a bit much. made me think that maybe she was the asshole and isn't telling the whole truth.
@@corey1563her sister is manipulative and ungrateful, so of course OP isn’t gonna like her. It isn’t bitter to hate on a sister who you’ve known your entire life to be manipulative and braggy..
Also means they probably don't even get checkups. How the hell do you know if you are doing fine medically? Guy is gonna have a stroke and realize all the sodium intact was bad for him.
I'm glad to live in Canada, at least I don't need to go in debt if I get cancer or get into an accident. my taxes are actually lower than most americans pay for insurance and I don't have the surprise of getting rejected for bogus reasons
They spoiled one child to the point where she takes absolutely everything they do and did for granted who doesn't value them and neglected the other one to the point she doesn't view them as her parents anymore Imagine being that unbelievably incompetent as a parent
@@shinatina2466 It definitely sounds like the kind of bs some narcissist would make up after the fact to try to make you feel bad. 'oh I had this whole wedding fund for you that I've never mentioned until now, but now you've not given in to my unreasonable request I had no choice but to take it away'
If I was op I would've given them a 50$ voucher and be " There's your payment now never contact the unwanted every again " and walkout as they scream....
14:54 OK but why does the sister sound the most reasonable out of this entire story? Like yes she SHOULD be putting her new step kids & husband before everyone else. That’s what happens when you get married, you put your kids first & she treats her step kids like her own kids, that’s what she’s supposed to be doing. It sounds like OP is super jealous over her sister & sounds like the sister grew up & doesn’t want to be in the middle of the chaos.
Yea I thought most of the stuff the OP did sounded fairly reasonable but she does come off as kind of a bad person with the way she thinks it’s so bad that her sister refers to her step kids as her kids. Though the sister probably should have been a little more grateful.
I think OP sounded bitter. Like these two children that aren’t even Allison’s, but she chooses to be a bonus mom, are getting more love and affection than OP.
@Human-kb6xci would too if my parents favor one kid, and sometimes you cannot release your personal bias Thats said, i hope op are wrong and her sister do turns out to be decent stepmom
I think Alison cared more about the competition than op thinks, especially since she made such an effort to find her only to brag about her life, which could've been done over the phone, she wanted her sister to see personnally how "successful" she was
@alilith3476 no, to me, she doesn't want to get closer to op, she really wanna rub it in her face, why else would she show up all dressed up with all her new mannerism and only talk about her "incredible life" ? If she wanted to make a sisterly bond, she would've at least tried to know how op was doing, apologized for the past, have a conversation, not a f-ing monologue... Tbh, she probably also thought op would've a harder time rejecting her face to face
op isnt as innocent as she claims in the video, she is being tooo salty@@clamiyep7008 "i feel bad for OP but the way she writes this just sounds like shes leaving out a LOT. She even admitted that SHE was the one that tried to constantly one up her sister Allison and that Allison didnt even care about the "competition", but of course everyone reaches a breaking point. Conveniently though, OP just "knows" Allison was faking the hurt feelings for sympathy, because why would Allison actually feel hurt about her sister trying to diminish her every accomplishment and prove that shes actually better than Allison at everything? And then the way she degrades her for being a SAHM to kids that "arent even hers"?! This reeks of jealousy and I'm sure the parents are largely to blame for not fostering a healthy relationship between sisters, but OP does not come of as some kind of innocent saint, it sounds more like shes leaving out of LOT of details and embellishing others to make her sister sound worse and herself sound better. Everyone sucks here, parents most of all. OP says she cut off her crappy parents and sister, but then blasts her sister for essentially doing the same thing, just first."
@@Innocent64_. I agree, the part with "they aren't her kids" kinda weirded me out, I mean, biologically they aren't, but she has the right to love them as her own, as long as she is fully aware that they do have a biological mom who loves them too (and doesn't try to take her place) I'm cool with that. But even if op leaves stuff out (as long as it's not physical assault and bullying in general) her saltiness is KINDA understandable to some extent, it doesn't justify trying to curse her sister with a miserable life ofc. I just hope she'll be able to let go of that and do her own thing for herself instead of trying to spite her family, especially her parents, they don't deserve that much attention
@@alilith3476that rubbed me the wrong way, like ik it’s for your parents attention but she should have thought how outsiders would perceive WHAT she’s doing, and that probably runners alison the wrong way as well and wanted to humble her, that’s just a thing I thought of I’m more inclined to belive her story but there’s always 2 sides to a story
while OP is 100% valid with everything else in this post the constant "idk how she can refer to them as HER kids when they arent her biological kids" leaves a bad taste in my mouth
Yeah, I think this is a lot of trauma induced anger but yeah it does seem like OP isn't great either and at the very least has some pretty toxic beliefs
I think she deserved that right considering everything she’s been through, but I can’t help but think in the future she’ll use it as a way to emotionally manipulate
Throughout this, I thought that OP might be covering her own bad behaviors, but with Alison's visit, it kinda cemented that her family might actually be that bad.
Idk she sounds bitter. I was agreeing with her until the end rant about how pathetic her sisters life was and how dumb she was. Seemed like a bit much. made me think that maybe she was the asshole and isn't telling the whole truth.
@corey1563 actually I agree with you, I definitely think towards the end OP was saying things that were maybe a bit uncalled for. ( I put this emoji 🫵 because I see this guy in every single comment section)
The only thing I don't like in this story other than op's god off with family Is the fact that OP seems to believe that a step-parent can't be an actual parent to children.
@@RandomPersonOf2005 because the protag can't possibly also be an ahole in her own right. It would make the immersion unsatisfying when the antagonists are so hateable
I think OP should have written up a contract that she would lend the money, but her parents would have to pay her back plus interest. Then she would see her parents’ reactions.
Went NC with my parents. About 18 years with my dad, maybe 6-7 with my mom. Best decision I ever made. Don’t keep people in your life who don’t value you or treat you well. Never spend time spinning your wheels, trying to improve a narcissist. They NEVER improve.
This persons view of her sisters new family is kinda gross. Like it’s pretty sweet that she calls her step kids her kids. You can absolutely fall in love within a year. Sounds like this person specifically dislikes her sister and is making up ways her life must be miserable in her own head.
nah, when you marry someone 10 yrs older than you and that too a father of 2 kids who is also a wealthy businessman that sounds to me as a gold digger or a stupid women who likes to be used a a maid
Damn, its *not* because OP’s sister is a narc golden child who was manipulative to OP for many years?? OP is just making up reasons her sister insufferable?? lol be fr, Allison is a narc who only amounted to being a golden child and a tool for her new husband to get partial custody of his kids. She’s a boring and superficial person, never showed accountability to OP, and has the audacity to insist OP take care of parents who never loved OP
Just seems like the situations screams glorified nanny tho. I mean another example is he didn't have time for the kids before the marriage so why would he suddenly have time for them after the marriage? Also he got main custody of the kids because of the marriage.
@@shortangel333but it also has me thinking could she be putting this in a bad perspective, she’s already shown she over exaggerates about the step kid stuff and has a twisted look on why her sister is mad her little sister is trying to one up you on everything, just has me thinking a lil but I’m more inclined to believe she is telling more of the truth 👍
So wild that the medical bills are not covered by the truck driver’s insurance. In Australia, we have third party insurance and if it’s the truck driver’s fault in Australia, then your medical bills are covered.
I feel bad for OP but the way she writes this just sounds like shes leaving out a LOT. She even admitted that SHE was the one that tried to constantly one up her sister Allison and that Allison didnt even care about the "competition", but of course everyone reaches a breaking point. Conveniently though, OP just "knows" Allison was faking the hurt feelings for sympathy, because why would Allison actually feel hurt about her sister trying to diminish her every accomplishment and prove that shes actually better than Allison at everything? And then the way she degrades her for being a SAHM to kids that "arent even hers"?! This reeks of jealousy and I'm sure the parents are largely to blame for not fostering a healthy relationship between sisters, but OP does not come of as some kind of innocent saint, it sounds more like shes leaving out of LOT of details and embellishing others to make her sister sound worse and herself sound better. Everyone sucks here, parents most of all. OP says she cut off her crappy parents and sister, but then blasts her sister for essentially doing the same thing, just first.
And the way she kept going at how allison's children aren't her children like wtf?? She's raising them. OP is so rude aswell. She definitely isn't a 100% innocent
Yeah I really get the sense that OP's sister isn't as awful or even and privileged as OP thinks. It sounds like the parents pitted them against each other and OP now is going to interpret everything the sister does as manipulative and evil. And emphasizing that the adopted kids aren't her "real" kids and somehow should matter less than the biological family that OP herself knows is awful is just really messed up.
You reap what you sow. The parents had some nerve demanding OP cover their medical bills when the abused OP for years while spoiling the other kid, and for not having health nor auto insurance. OP was right not to help them, she’d never see that money again.
They f**ked around and found out. My mother is a card carrying narcissist. Out of her kids, she raised two more just like her. The two narcs have a history of verbal, physical, emotional, and mental abuse to the family and don't have anything to do with the rest of us as they have decided we are "low class". They're also great at projecting. 😊 VLC and better mental health FTW!
OP needs to keep her birth givers and sibling completely out of her life and she definitely could benefit greatly from counseling to heal her traumas. Poor woman. I can’t imagine what that kind of incessant abuse would do to a person.
There is one thing that annoys me about OP: Her constant need to say that her sister's stepchildren are not her children... Biology doesn't matter, and if OP's sister thinks of them as her own kids then that's not wrong in any way - actually makes me wonder what kind of stepmother OP would be if she were to marry some single father...
Maybe if you were ignored because of blatant favoritism and only wanted because of money reasons, you'd feel the same. You all are so stupid and slow and insensitive about peoples struggles.
@@samabug she already accepted that she always thought of her sister competitively because of their parents treatment towards both of them she grew up like that with that kind of people you can't always think that every person should be very good she was atleast better than her family and her sister and by the way OP told us about her sister doesn't looks like she actually cared for the children but just withstood them for the sake of the bank balance
But the reason she didn't help her parents was to not look like a gold digger so I don't get what you are saying the last part. Also the end of statement is just speculation which is obv bias since she already thinks little of her sister.@@LLawliet-yf2fy
Maybe it was jealousy too? Like, op definitely seemed like she was putting a lot of emphasis on blood relations bc of how much she wished her family loved her, at least for the sake of being related to her. Op sounds really bitter and like she hasn't worked through her issues yet
Op grew up in a broken home with a psychotic family dynamic and you’re wondering why they don’t simply understand proper family dynamics or show empathy towards this particular matter when nun had ever been show to them by their own parents let alone a step parent
Like other people have commented already, op doesn't sound like the good apple she thinks she is. I get that she's probably ranting, but she comes across as very arrogant, bitter and jealous. She really needs to work through her issues
@@Skygirl-rp4ob Ig that's bc she's the one that should feel like she owes it to their parents? Either way I was talking about how nasty she talked about the decisions the sister made. Like not lending money that isn't hers to give to their parents, prioritizing her new family/prioritizing taking care of her new toddlers, but also at the very least visiting their parents for a few days, all those decisions sound very logical and like the sister has her priorities right. Like as a person she sounds just as unlikable but I don't feel like she did anything particularly wrong in this story...
@@Skygirl-rp4ob her sister is nasty. She mocks her own parents who loved her and didn't even come see them after the accident. Her sister is a garbage human
op is right not to give the money but is extremely shallow and insecure. the stuff about the husband not loving her sister and the vendetta against step kids was strange.
Something doesn't add up. She said they celebrated their 21st birthday and then followed with the parents going to the beach with Allison to celebrate her 21st birthday without OP. So which is it, did you or did you not celebrate your bday with her? This is classic reddit.
Maybe I am too sensitive on this topic, but the one thing that rubbed me the wrong way was how OP kept dismissing Alison who is married and already made a family with her new husband as a mom. Yeah, they aren't her kids biologically, but if she loves them and wants to be their stepmom, what is the problem with that? Am I missing something here? Just seemed mean to kept saying they weren't her kids.
Bc OP is still competing with Alison , Alison seemed to have grew out of the competition and cut off her parents, OP is still looking for approval of some kind and flaws to compare and contrast, Alison ain't even paying attention to it anymore
No longer their daughter. The father makes it sound like they thought of her as a daughter all along but the truth is they didn't see her as a daughter until needing her. OP should have said she stopped seeing them as her parents a long time ago so the feelings mutual. And also to the uncle why doesn't he do something instead of trying to assign blame. Or does he lack brains just like the actual parents do.
Not buying that the parents didn't have insurance. The father works as the head sales-rep at a company and his wife works in HR? No one who gets to those positions is going to not have insurance.
OP should have sent a long email on how they mistreated her growing up and that she wants nothing to do with them for the rest of the life. She let them off way too easy. They will take their conviction of being in the right to the grave.
Something about OP's tone makes me think she's not as innocent and wonderful as she thinks she is. She said that she spent her whole childhood trying to one-up Allison, but Allison wouldn't engage. Sounds to me like OP was the one with the toxic behavior. She says Allison was manipulative, but she's not really saying how, which leads me to think that's just OP's interpretation of Allison's personality. I do think she's telling the truth that Allison was the favorite, but it sounds like that was on the toxic parents, not Allison. And why does she have a problem with how happy Allison is with her life with her husband and stepchildren? She's just making assumptions at this point that he's using her, but she's never even met him, so how would she know? They might have a beautiful, loving relationship. Allison clearly prefers her life in California over blood family. It sounds to me like everyone sucks here, but Allison was smart enough to get a life she wanted far away from this toxic situation. And now the parents have lost both kids - the one they like and the one they don't.
Live in a country where you don’t end up risking bankruptcy in a medical emergency. Additionally I think if the truck driver was at fault then the trucking company would be required to pay their medical expenses
Exactly. Which means the story is fake. Why the hell would the insurance of the trucking company only pay for the vehicle and not their medical/emotional damages?
They will never return your money. Think about it? The bills have been paid so why should they care? And remember, they didn't call you, your uncle did. That shows how little respect they have for you.
OP sounds so desperately jealous of her sister that it's funny, lol. Yeah, people fall in love faster than a year sometimes, yeah, people also agree to "use" each other too! Stop comparing already, go be the strong, independent person you so deeply want reddit to think you are!
Why would OP be jealous of a heavily dependent sister who clearly only married a man for his money while he married her to have partial custody of his kids that don’t even like her? OP sister sounds insufferable, yappin about how her life is meanwhile OP literally is sitting there listening to crap she doesnt care about.
Yeah cause the busy business man who didn't have time for his kids now will suddenly have all the time for his new stay at home wife who can take care of the kids. Delusional.
@@shortangel333 Legions of women have worked with husbands who were gone from day-to-day life longer and gave less. Being a busy, much travelled worker in a world of international trade is a standard above a certain pay grade in the west. Delusional is the man who thinks he knows the details of a life he hasn't lived. Like you.
And that is what happens when you treat a child like she is unwanted. "Allison" is just developing her narcissism and hiding behind the "trad wife" mask.
This story is sooooo SUS... i honestly don't believe OP, after the 1000 time telling us about the dumb twinsister who is boring and not loved because the kids are not her blood and her husband has an ex..me think she is the bitter one who is not as nice as she tries so hard to make us believe.
6:30 Nope no no By default, you're better. Allison didn't try to see them or consider helping pay them. Like you said, they're strangers to you. You're not at all obligated to help them. Why is a stranger more obligated to help other strangers but their own daughter isn't?
Why is someone's daughter obligated to pay for her parents medical bills anyways? We can't confirm whether or not Allison at least considered it, but like... even if they're family, they CHOSE not to have insurance when they could afford it, and Allison is under no obligation to help them other than "because family." It might not be morally correct, but asking your daughter and her rich husband to pay for YOUR medical bills because you CHOSE to not have insurance and they're rich isn't morally correct either.
@@Skygirl-rp4ob didn't say that. Children aren't obligated to help their parents no matter the scenario. I'm just saying how does it make sense to expect someone that you have no relationship with to help you in your time of need rather than someone who you’re involved with almost all the time? Why does it make sense for a stranger to be obligated to help you and not your own flesh and blood? Just calling out the stupidity of the parents
I would have taken the note they left on your birthday and reported them to whoever I could. Especially as a child. I definitely would have been telling everyone and proving that they were horrible parents. Find a new family who would accept you or just get away from the toxicity.
With parents like that, were I informed that they got in an *cc*dent, I'd say, "Well, that's unfortunate. The s*rv*v*ng part, anyways." And then hung up. Also the US health system works with financial agencies to allow people to pay over time. The parents had no intention of paying OP back because if they wanted that kind of arrangement, they would've just gone through the hospital's partnered financial agency and saved themselves the embarrassment of asking their children.
@@princessmarlena1359 Yeah, I actually didn't think that would trigger it, but it did, and I had to redo my comment. Their censorship is getting so ridiculous, I can't even make sense of it from their perspective anymore.
They forgot one should go through life making friends not enemies. You never know when you'll need the help of a friend because you certainly won't get help from an enemy. And you shouldn't make enemies with your family.
if this 1/4 of this story is true you are better off without them. And i would tell the people you are closest to so they know to never let anyone claiming to be family know anything about you!
Honestly Im remaining neutral on this one. The Parents were trash for favoring the Sister all her life. Taking her places, celebrating victories and being manipulated and only reaching out to the OP for financial help. But as the story went on, it got pretty difficult to take the OPs side in all of this. It felt more like she was bragging about her achievements and still in competition. So while I think more power to her about sending her parents away after years of trauma, at the same time, I can't take her side.
Your story has many connecting points with my life story, just you were lucky to cut them off when you were young enough. I understood the reality almost near my 40s when they squeezed me financially and emotionally. Now they don't contact me at all but send indirect messages with other people that they are not doing well. So still waiting for my support. You did the right thing. You have to show the way to the narcissistic people no matter who they are. Live a happy life with the ones you choose to keep near and share valuable time with. ❤
Why was this even questionable in the first place? Literally what did you stand to gain from helping them? Oh no they'll be mad at you? Screw them. They didn't care about you
we all know the parents had no intention of paying that money back, also Op needs to make sure that if she's ever in an accident her parents can't just pull the plug on her, they seem the type to do that to claim her stuff/life insurance, etc.
Likely sounds like she's already got a POA in place that's probably a trusted relative, and has long since learned not to expect anything of her parents.
Came here to say that same thing: the parents had zero intention of paying OP back, they got upset that they had to borrow money rather than just take money.
Your "parents" lost their role as family to you the moment they put all their love into the golden child. So well done for not going along and pay for their medical bills
You know you’re not talking to the original poster, right?
@@blainetate743I’m sure they know.
How is it "natural " for a parent to only give love to one child? Y'all need to stop with these AI stories lol
Don't you mean her donors?
They're tramps who deserve nothing from OP
As bad as the sister is, at least she's doing OP a favor by providing karmic justice, abandoning the parents when they needed her the most. Now they have lost both daughters.
Also, is really nice that Allison claims her stepkids as her own and is kind of crumby for OP to say "they're not her kids"
If a man refused to claim his stepkids, he would have hell to pay.
@@PieNumber4that’s what I hated about her cause she is assuming so much about their relationship like it’s really none of your business and how do you know like she’s allison. As soon as I heard the last update, I couldn’t stand op anymore
And the Fun fact that Alisson eventually she will be thrown away by her husband when she gets tired and she will come back crying to her parents
The parents are in no position to demand anything from op. Treat somebody like they don’t matter or as an after thought: expect the same treatment.
_"Parents"_ Played Stupid Games; and *WON STUPID PRIZES !!!*
How refreshing to hear an OP has a spine of steel. No whining, no straddling the fence, just straight up !@#$ that noise. Go OP.
She sounds extremely bitter. I was agreeing with her until the end rant about how pathetic her sisters life was and how dumb she was. Seemed like a bit much. made me think that maybe she was the asshole and isn't telling the whole truth.
@@corey1563her sister is manipulative and ungrateful, so of course OP isn’t gonna like her.
It isn’t bitter to hate on a sister who you’ve known your entire life to be manipulative and braggy..
@@corey1563 fr, like the part about her children and husband not loving her is a bit far for somebody who heard about it
What spine? She never stood up for herself and hid away. Had OP told them off you'd be right.
Except for when she said it was a hard decision to say no to paying for the POS parents. Why was it so hard?
Parents Didn't Believe in Medical Insurance? Just live healthily is all you need. What morons.
*Meanwhile with hospital bills*
Well, they obviously didn't expect all that iron to be introduced to their diet in the form of a truck.
Also means they probably don't even get checkups. How the hell do you know if you are doing fine medically? Guy is gonna have a stroke and realize all the sodium intact was bad for him.
I'm glad to live in Canada, at least I don't need to go in debt if I get cancer or get into an accident. my taxes are actually lower than most americans pay for insurance and I don't have the surprise of getting rejected for bogus reasons
But if you disagree with or protest the policies of your Prime Minister or his party, you will get de-banked and investigated.
When you raise a narcissist, don't be surprised when they act the same to you.
They spoiled one child to the point where she takes absolutely everything they do and did for granted who doesn't value them and neglected the other one to the point she doesn't view them as her parents anymore
Imagine being that unbelievably incompetent as a parent
Maybe its due to me not being a parent but i always thought that not being an asshole was common sense.
I'm surprised that they even had a wedding fund for OP. Uncle must be lying.
Or they told uncle it was a fund but really it was just for them
@@shinatina2466 It definitely sounds like the kind of bs some narcissist would make up after the fact to try to make you feel bad. 'oh I had this whole wedding fund for you that I've never mentioned until now, but now you've not given in to my unreasonable request I had no choice but to take it away'
As I always say if your family members are favouring one child instead of all of them equally they’re terrible people.
You should’ve said “ if I’m being yelled at for not paying, then also yell at Allison as she’s not paying either”
If I was op I would've given them a 50$ voucher and be " There's your payment now never contact the unwanted every again " and walkout as they scream....
Thats even better than what I thought of 🤣🤣🤣
Personally I wouldn’t have even given them a single cent
@@daisymay6505well they gave you a 50$ voucher the least you should do is return it with their humiliation
The only thing I’d give them is two middle fingers.
@@daisymay6505 $50 is worth it to get that sting in.
Having twins and only loving one of them is not even remotely natural behavior.
Worst case scenario one of them would be given up for adoption.
14:54 OK but why does the sister sound the most reasonable out of this entire story? Like yes she SHOULD be putting her new step kids & husband before everyone else. That’s what happens when you get married, you put your kids first & she treats her step kids like her own kids, that’s what she’s supposed to be doing. It sounds like OP is super jealous over her sister & sounds like the sister grew up & doesn’t want to be in the middle of the chaos.
Yea I thought most of the stuff the OP did sounded fairly reasonable but she does come off as kind of a bad person with the way she thinks it’s so bad that her sister refers to her step kids as her kids. Though the sister probably should have been a little more grateful.
I will say, OP's sister sounds like a decent stepmom. the kids are her kids, no matter biology, when talking with family
That part's pissing me off. Why do they keep talking about how they're not even her kids? She married their dad, they're part hers now.
Yeah, Op was obviously done dirty, but also it sounds like the apple didn't fall far from the tree.
I think OP sounded bitter. Like these two children that aren’t even Allison’s, but she chooses to be a bonus mom, are getting more love and affection than OP.
I'm glad someone else noticed that
@Human-kb6xci would too if my parents favor one kid, and sometimes you cannot release your personal bias
Thats said, i hope op are wrong and her sister do turns out to be decent stepmom
I think Alison cared more about the competition than op thinks, especially since she made such an effort to find her only to brag about her life, which could've been done over the phone, she wanted her sister to see personnally how "successful" she was
Or try to get close to a sister who seemed so intent on being better than you, if Allison really just wanna brag she could have done it on the phone
@alilith3476 no, to me, she doesn't want to get closer to op, she really wanna rub it in her face, why else would she show up all dressed up with all her new mannerism and only talk about her "incredible life" ? If she wanted to make a sisterly bond, she would've at least tried to know how op was doing, apologized for the past, have a conversation, not a f-ing monologue...
Tbh, she probably also thought op would've a harder time rejecting her face to face
op isnt as innocent as she claims in the video, she is being tooo salty@@clamiyep7008
"i feel bad for OP but the way she writes this just sounds like shes leaving out a LOT. She even admitted that SHE was the one that tried to constantly one up her sister Allison and that Allison didnt even care about the "competition", but of course everyone reaches a breaking point. Conveniently though, OP just "knows" Allison was faking the hurt feelings for sympathy, because why would Allison actually feel hurt about her sister trying to diminish her every accomplishment and prove that shes actually better than Allison at everything? And then the way she degrades her for being a SAHM to kids that "arent even hers"?! This reeks of jealousy and I'm sure the parents are largely to blame for not fostering a healthy relationship between sisters, but OP does not come of as some kind of innocent saint, it sounds more like shes leaving out of LOT of details and embellishing others to make her sister sound worse and herself sound better. Everyone sucks here, parents most of all. OP says she cut off her crappy parents and sister, but then blasts her sister for essentially doing the same thing, just first."
@@Innocent64_. I agree, the part with "they aren't her kids" kinda weirded me out, I mean, biologically they aren't, but she has the right to love them as her own, as long as she is fully aware that they do have a biological mom who loves them too (and doesn't try to take her place) I'm cool with that. But even if op leaves stuff out (as long as it's not physical assault and bullying in general) her saltiness is KINDA understandable to some extent, it doesn't justify trying to curse her sister with a miserable life ofc. I just hope she'll be able to let go of that and do her own thing for herself instead of trying to spite her family, especially her parents, they don't deserve that much attention
@@alilith3476that rubbed me the wrong way, like ik it’s for your parents attention but she should have thought how outsiders would perceive WHAT she’s doing, and that probably runners alison the wrong way as well and wanted to humble her, that’s just a thing I thought of I’m more inclined to belive her story but there’s always 2 sides to a story
while OP is 100% valid with everything else in this post the constant "idk how she can refer to them as HER kids when they arent her biological kids" leaves a bad taste in my mouth
Yeah, I think this is a lot of trauma induced anger but yeah it does seem like OP isn't great either and at the very least has some pretty toxic beliefs
@@Darkstar1484runs in the family ig, though many of these stories are fake.
I think she deserved that right considering everything she’s been through, but I can’t help but think in the future she’ll use it as a way to emotionally manipulate
Throughout this, I thought that OP might be covering her own bad behaviors, but with Alison's visit, it kinda cemented that her family might actually be that bad.
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Idk she sounds bitter. I was agreeing with her until the end rant about how pathetic her sisters life was and how dumb she was. Seemed like a bit much. made me think that maybe she was the asshole and isn't telling the whole truth.
@corey1563 actually I agree with you, I definitely think towards the end OP was saying things that were maybe a bit uncalled for. ( I put this emoji 🫵 because I see this guy in every single comment section)
yes exactly, she literally talked about the kids like 5 times lmao, she seems salty @@corey1563
The only thing I don't like in this story other than op's god off with family Is the fact that OP seems to believe that a step-parent can't be an actual parent to children.
And that her husband couldn't possibly love her after only 1 year
It's probably the trauma from neglect talking.
@@RandomPersonOf2005 because the protag can't possibly also be an ahole in her own right. It would make the immersion unsatisfying when the antagonists are so hateable
Well it's her opinion though.Could be right, could be wrong.
Don’t help them and the dad was dumb for not having insurance
I think OP should have written up a contract that she would lend the money, but her parents would have to pay her back plus interest. Then she would see her parents’ reactions.
Send them a $50 gift card.
What an amazing detail to remember!!! That would have been awesome. I doubt the parents would have gotten the reference though!
I give people I don't like gift cards but I use like half of it and give it to them. What are they gonna do?
Give the parents a $50 gift card and a get well note.
Went NC with my parents. About 18 years with my dad, maybe 6-7 with my mom. Best decision I ever made. Don’t keep people in your life who don’t value you or treat you well. Never spend time spinning your wheels, trying to improve a narcissist. They NEVER improve.
This person needs some heavy therapy. The bitterness that is spewed is sad. Stop giving them headspace. Get some therapy, and move on with your life.
The uncle is a damn instigator.
Good for you, OP. Hold on to your peace of mind. Its hard to get back once you lose it. Good luck and many blessing for your future.. 😊
The person that wrote this story needs therapy and gots some serious issues.
and then the parents wonder why their children hate them so much
This persons view of her sisters new family is kinda gross. Like it’s pretty sweet that she calls her step kids her kids. You can absolutely fall in love within a year.
Sounds like this person specifically dislikes her sister and is making up ways her life must be miserable in her own head.
nah, when you marry someone 10 yrs older than you and that too a father of 2 kids who is also a wealthy businessman that sounds to me as a gold digger or a stupid women who likes to be used a a maid
Damn, its *not* because OP’s sister is a narc golden child who was manipulative to OP for many years?? OP is just making up reasons her sister insufferable?? lol be fr, Allison is a narc who only amounted to being a golden child and a tool for her new husband to get partial custody of his kids. She’s a boring and superficial person, never showed accountability to OP, and has the audacity to insist OP take care of parents who never loved OP
Just seems like the situations screams glorified nanny tho. I mean another example is he didn't have time for the kids before the marriage so why would he suddenly have time for them after the marriage? Also he got main custody of the kids because of the marriage.
@@shortangel333but it also has me thinking could she be putting this in a bad perspective, she’s already shown she over exaggerates about the step kid stuff and has a twisted look on why her sister is mad her little sister is trying to one up you on everything, just has me thinking a lil but I’m more inclined to believe she is telling more of the truth 👍
So wild that the medical bills are not covered by the truck driver’s insurance. In Australia, we have third party insurance and if it’s the truck driver’s fault in Australia, then your medical bills are covered.
"Parents" Played Stupid Games; and won stupid prizes
parents, dont eff around, or else this will happen to you
I feel bad for OP but the way she writes this just sounds like shes leaving out a LOT. She even admitted that SHE was the one that tried to constantly one up her sister Allison and that Allison didnt even care about the "competition", but of course everyone reaches a breaking point. Conveniently though, OP just "knows" Allison was faking the hurt feelings for sympathy, because why would Allison actually feel hurt about her sister trying to diminish her every accomplishment and prove that shes actually better than Allison at everything? And then the way she degrades her for being a SAHM to kids that "arent even hers"?! This reeks of jealousy and I'm sure the parents are largely to blame for not fostering a healthy relationship between sisters, but OP does not come of as some kind of innocent saint, it sounds more like shes leaving out of LOT of details and embellishing others to make her sister sound worse and herself sound better. Everyone sucks here, parents most of all. OP says she cut off her crappy parents and sister, but then blasts her sister for essentially doing the same thing, just first.
FR THO OMG
And the way she kept going at how allison's children aren't her children like wtf?? She's raising them. OP is so rude aswell. She definitely isn't a 100% innocent
@@Kiarathegoat omg yeah i felt the same like does she want her sister to hate the kids????
Yeah I really get the sense that OP's sister isn't as awful or even and privileged as OP thinks. It sounds like the parents pitted them against each other and OP now is going to interpret everything the sister does as manipulative and evil. And emphasizing that the adopted kids aren't her "real" kids and somehow should matter less than the biological family that OP herself knows is awful is just really messed up.
Could also be a cultural thing. Many of these aren't from the USA.
When my kids ask me if I have a favorite I just tell them they drive me equally nuts 🙂
>Truck driver is responsible for the accident
>They have to pay for their own medical bills that resulted from the accident
Yeah, no.
that was so stupid of them for not getting insurance
You reap what you sow. The parents had some nerve demanding OP cover their medical bills when the abused OP for years while spoiling the other kid, and for not having health nor auto insurance. OP was right not to help them, she’d never see that money again.
WHY DO PARENTS FAVOR ONE CHILD OVER THE OTHER GOD DAMN...
Unless OP forced the parents to sign a contract, she'd never see that money again if she helped her sperm and egg donors.
They f**ked around and found out. My mother is a card carrying narcissist. Out of her kids, she raised two more just like her. The two narcs have a history of verbal, physical, emotional, and mental abuse to the family and don't have anything to do with the rest of us as they have decided we are "low class". They're also great at projecting. 😊
VLC and better mental health FTW!
This is usually how it is with the golden child. My mom did everything for my brother and he treats her like 💩
OP needs to keep her birth givers and sibling completely out of her life and she definitely could benefit greatly from counseling to heal her traumas. Poor woman. I can’t imagine what that kind of incessant abuse would do to a person.
A commercial trucking company will have huge insurance, they can sue the insurance for the medical bills it’s so simple.
I think it's really weird that OP keeps saying "oh but they're not really her kids" when if a man refused to claim his step kids he'd have hell to pay
There is one thing that annoys me about OP: Her constant need to say that her sister's stepchildren are not her children...
Biology doesn't matter, and if OP's sister thinks of them as her own kids then that's not wrong in any way - actually makes me wonder what kind of stepmother OP would be if she were to marry some single father...
Why does the OP sound like such a brat? There's so much bitterness and resentment in her words.
Maybe if you were ignored because of blatant favoritism and only wanted because of money reasons, you'd feel the same. You all are so stupid and slow and insensitive about peoples struggles.
Why was OP so upset that her sister seen her husband's children as her own??
yes!! that seemed so weird to me! like that's a good thing that she does.
@@samabug she already accepted that she always thought of her sister competitively because of their parents treatment towards both of them she grew up like that with that kind of people you can't always think that every person should be very good she was atleast better than her family and her sister and by the way OP told us about her sister doesn't looks like she actually cared for the children but just withstood them for the sake of the bank balance
But the reason she didn't help her parents was to not look like a gold digger so I don't get what you are saying the last part. Also the end of statement is just speculation which is obv bias since she already thinks little of her sister.@@LLawliet-yf2fy
Maybe it was jealousy too? Like, op definitely seemed like she was putting a lot of emphasis on blood relations bc of how much she wished her family loved her, at least for the sake of being related to her. Op sounds really bitter and like she hasn't worked through her issues yet
Op grew up in a broken home with a psychotic family dynamic and you’re wondering why they don’t simply understand proper family dynamics or show empathy towards this particular matter when nun had ever been show to them by their own parents let alone a step parent
12:25 I died when she said I hadn’t asked
Like other people have commented already, op doesn't sound like the good apple she thinks she is. I get that she's probably ranting, but she comes across as very arrogant, bitter and jealous. She really needs to work through her issues
Fr! She's so nasty to her sister when because she commited the "crime" of not wanting to help her family, despite OP not wanting to either!
@@Skygirl-rp4ob Ig that's bc she's the one that should feel like she owes it to their parents? Either way I was talking about how nasty she talked about the decisions the sister made. Like not lending money that isn't hers to give to their parents, prioritizing her new family/prioritizing taking care of her new toddlers, but also at the very least visiting their parents for a few days, all those decisions sound very logical and like the sister has her priorities right. Like as a person she sounds just as unlikable but I don't feel like she did anything particularly wrong in this story...
@@Skygirl-rp4ob her sister is nasty. She mocks her own parents who loved her and didn't even come see them after the accident. Her sister is a garbage human
op is right not to give the money but is extremely shallow and insecure. the stuff about the husband not loving her sister and the vendetta against step kids was strange.
If I were in your place , I would send a note with 50 dollars, written " get well soon , I am going to the beach with my mil and fil "
Something doesn't add up. She said they celebrated their 21st birthday and then followed with the parents going to the beach with Allison to celebrate her 21st birthday without OP. So which is it, did you or did you not celebrate your bday with her? This is classic reddit.
They have one child. That child should support her parents.
no
@@openjoistt yes. They need to leave OP alone.
She understands her husband, seemingly sees her as the maid he has fun with?
Maybe I am too sensitive on this topic, but the one thing that rubbed me the wrong way was how OP kept dismissing Alison who is married and already made a family with her new husband as a mom. Yeah, they aren't her kids biologically, but if she loves them and wants to be their stepmom, what is the problem with that? Am I missing something here? Just seemed mean to kept saying they weren't her kids.
Bc OP is still competing with Alison , Alison seemed to have grew out of the competition and cut off her parents, OP is still looking for approval of some kind and flaws to compare and contrast, Alison ain't even paying attention to it anymore
No longer their daughter. The father makes it sound like they thought of her as a daughter all along but the truth is they didn't see her as a daughter until needing her. OP should have said she stopped seeing them as her parents a long time ago so the feelings mutual. And also to the uncle why doesn't he do something instead of trying to assign blame. Or does he lack brains just like the actual parents do.
id offer them a loan with 5% interest with their house as collateral
Play dumb games win stupid prizes
Not buying that the parents didn't have insurance. The father works as the head sales-rep at a company and his wife works in HR? No one who gets to those positions is going to not have insurance.
OP should have sent a long email on how they mistreated her growing up and that she wants nothing to do with them for the rest of the life.
She let them off way too easy. They will take their conviction of being in the right to the grave.
Op sounds super judgemental, treating everybody as under her. "Why is she treating other people's children as her own?" Says everything about her.
God forbid women be a little judgemental🙄
I feel bad for OP where her family is concerned, but her bitterness spilling over onto her comments about her sister's family was too much.
Something about OP's tone makes me think she's not as innocent and wonderful as she thinks she is. She said that she spent her whole childhood trying to one-up Allison, but Allison wouldn't engage. Sounds to me like OP was the one with the toxic behavior. She says Allison was manipulative, but she's not really saying how, which leads me to think that's just OP's interpretation of Allison's personality. I do think she's telling the truth that Allison was the favorite, but it sounds like that was on the toxic parents, not Allison. And why does she have a problem with how happy Allison is with her life with her husband and stepchildren? She's just making assumptions at this point that he's using her, but she's never even met him, so how would she know? They might have a beautiful, loving relationship. Allison clearly prefers her life in California over blood family.
It sounds to me like everyone sucks here, but Allison was smart enough to get a life she wanted far away from this toxic situation. And now the parents have lost both kids - the one they like and the one they don't.
Live in a country where you don’t end up risking bankruptcy in a medical emergency. Additionally I think if the truck driver was at fault then the trucking company would be required to pay their medical expenses
Exactly. Which means the story is fake. Why the hell would the insurance of the trucking company only pay for the vehicle and not their medical/emotional damages?
They will never return your money. Think about it? The bills have been paid so why should they care? And remember, they didn't call you, your uncle did. That shows how little respect they have for you.
This make me sad, I'm a triplet and I could never live a day without my other two.
Sounds like the division was created by the parents favoring one over the other. Or her twin is evil, it happens
@TheJadedLibraGuy-qy9cy Yeah basically. I notice a lot of times parents favoritism creates adults most people don’t want to know.
@@Catherine.Dorian. I got feeling that evil one is OP.
If you decide to go NC with your family, always change your phone number, email, and any other social media.
Does the drunk driver's insurance cover all injuries?
OP sounds so desperately jealous of her sister that it's funny, lol. Yeah, people fall in love faster than a year sometimes, yeah, people also agree to "use" each other too! Stop comparing already, go be the strong, independent person you so deeply want reddit to think you are!
Why would OP be jealous of a heavily dependent sister who clearly only married a man for his money while he married her to have partial custody of his kids that don’t even like her? OP sister sounds insufferable, yappin about how her life is meanwhile OP literally is sitting there listening to crap she doesnt care about.
Yeah cause the busy business man who didn't have time for his kids now will suddenly have all the time for his new stay at home wife who can take care of the kids. Delusional.
@@shortangel333 Legions of women have worked with husbands who were gone from day-to-day life longer and gave less. Being a busy, much travelled worker in a world of international trade is a standard above a certain pay grade in the west.
Delusional is the man who thinks he knows the details of a life he hasn't lived.
Like you.
the sister literally abandoned her own parents. She is a narcissist and the worst person!
He didn’t have car insurance? That’s illegal
You should've blocked them or changed numbers as soon as you left home!
"No" is a full and complete sentence.
Literally sounds like what Panda mothers do when they get two babies lol
Mother calls op ungrateful. Gratitude implies that they had done something to earn it.
And that is what happens when you treat a child like she is unwanted. "Allison" is just developing her narcissism and hiding behind the "trad wife" mask.
12:05
**slaps** Don't call me needy!
This story is sooooo SUS... i honestly don't believe OP, after the 1000 time telling us about the dumb twinsister who is boring and not loved because the kids are not her blood and her husband has an ex..me think she is the bitter one who is not as nice as she tries so hard to make us believe.
Yeah, I'm pretty much
99.99999% positive they sure AF wouldn't help her if she was the one severely injured in the hospital and in need.
Alison was just a stay-at-home nanny not a stay-at-home mom
just don't pay for them . they turned their back on you so you can do the same
6:30 Nope no no
By default, you're better. Allison didn't try to see them or consider helping pay them. Like you said, they're strangers to you. You're not at all obligated to help them. Why is a stranger more obligated to help other strangers but their own daughter isn't?
Why is someone's daughter obligated to pay for her parents medical bills anyways? We can't confirm whether or not Allison at least considered it, but like... even if they're family, they CHOSE not to have insurance when they could afford it, and Allison is under no obligation to help them other than "because family." It might not be morally correct, but asking your daughter and her rich husband to pay for YOUR medical bills because you CHOSE to not have insurance and they're rich isn't morally correct either.
@@Skygirl-rp4ob didn't say that. Children aren't obligated to help their parents no matter the scenario. I'm just saying how does it make sense to expect someone that you have no relationship with to help you in your time of need rather than someone who you’re involved with almost all the time?
Why does it make sense for a stranger to be obligated to help you and not your own flesh and blood?
Just calling out the stupidity of the parents
whole family needs therapy
I would have taken the note they left on your birthday and reported them to whoever I could. Especially as a child. I definitely would have been telling everyone and proving that they were horrible parents. Find a new family who would accept you or just get away from the toxicity.
In a Golden Child situation like this: you offer to MATCH whatever money the Golden Child sends them. Now, YOU are't out on a limb, all alone.
With parents like that, were I informed that they got in an *cc*dent, I'd say, "Well, that's unfortunate. The s*rv*v*ng part, anyways." And then hung up.
Also the US health system works with financial agencies to allow people to pay over time. The parents had no intention of paying OP back because if they wanted that kind of arrangement, they would've just gone through the hospital's partnered financial agency and saved themselves the embarrassment of asking their children.
Niiiiice, with that first part especially. I get why you had to use the asterisks, GestapoTube hates free speech.
@@princessmarlena1359
Yeah, I actually didn't think that would trigger it, but it did, and I had to redo my comment. Their censorship is getting so ridiculous, I can't even make sense of it from their perspective anymore.
What is with her opinion on step-kids? She seems judgmental and bitter against the fact that the sister has a step family
They forgot one should go through life making friends not enemies. You never know when you'll need the help of a friend because you certainly won't get help from an enemy. And you shouldn't make enemies with your family.
I'd move too, so the next time one of them showed up to my place they'd find it vacant or with other occupants 🤣
pay the bill, if they don’t give the money, sue them
I love how u will not tell people that u know but u will tell random people
if this 1/4 of this story is true you are better off without them. And i would tell the people you are closest to so they know to never let anyone claiming to be family know anything about you!
If it’s the other trucks fault why do they need you to pay the medical bills?
i think we need alison's view to actually give a opinion on this cuz i think the op isnt as innocent as she claims she is
Honestly Im remaining neutral on this one. The Parents were trash for favoring the Sister all her life. Taking her places, celebrating victories and being manipulated and only reaching out to the OP for financial help. But as the story went on, it got pretty difficult to take the OPs side in all of this. It felt more like she was bragging about her achievements and still in competition. So while I think more power to her about sending her parents away after years of trauma, at the same time, I can't take her side.
Go find some Voodoo masters😂😂😂
The long game story
Look NG forward to update after youngest kid turns 18 😂
Your story has many connecting points with my life story, just you were lucky to cut them off when you were young enough. I understood the reality almost near my 40s when they squeezed me financially and emotionally. Now they don't contact me at all but send indirect messages with other people that they are not doing well. So still waiting for my support.
You did the right thing. You have to show the way to the narcissistic people no matter who they are. Live a happy life with the ones you choose to keep near and share valuable time with. ❤
Embarrass the hell out of them
Why was this even questionable in the first place?
Literally what did you stand to gain from helping them?
Oh no they'll be mad at you? Screw them. They didn't care about you