Why Is She Single?
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- Опубліковано 20 тра 2024
- A woman went viral after posting an emotional video asking the Internet why she’s still single at 29 years old even though she’s built a great life for herself and wants marriage. Let’s watch and react-don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comments below!
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Using social media as a personal journal is a huge red flag in my book.
A lot of young women are doing this. Why?
People seem to have forgotten the concept of intimacy and privacy these days
Seriously. It’s always women too. There is thousands of these videos on tik tok and stuff. Huge red flag. Embarrassing. And for life.
@@RachelNichols-writerit’s just off putting when people use it to air their grievances or talk about their personal lives. I don’t wanna be a part of someone’s life if it’s that public or if they use it to solve emotional problems they have.
Those are my biggest issues with it at least. Apologies, to the girl in the video, she’s very beautiful and that’s honestly awesome that she’s in great health and has her life together, but the “so I have this issue” TikToks, or the car and make up rants/frustrated discussions (not saying there are never valid or decent takes) are incredibly cringe.
I barely even got through the video, and that is the first thing I noticed! She's really not delivering a well thought out message, but just venting her feelings, most of which should not be shared with the world.
I will never understand people wanting to put their private life on social media. This girl's desperation will scare the shit out of any decent guy.
Excactly, and the funniest part is that other women (feminists) will applaud her for her bravery, for sharing "her journey", "her truth" and my my my, I, I, me, me and so on. Just peak narcissism. Who in his right mind wants to deal with her. The saddest part, she litterly cannot accept the fact, that she is the reason, "stop telling me im wrong", haha you could not make this up.
Because people are lonely. Why mock them for that?
@@watermelonlover745 Mockery is the correct response to this cringy and desperate behavior..
😂 so true! I was on a dating site and a woman was writing about her therapists, her 2 two divorces and that she's a mess and looking for someone who is man enough to handle her lol.
I wanted to message her that she's waving a red-flag that guys can see from space 🚩
....but i didn't, because it wouldn't be fair to the guys who are looking for a healthy relationship.
“when is it going to be MY turn” YIKES. if I was a man, I would steer clear away from this chick
Slapping the back of your hand into the palm of your other hand while crying in your car and complaining about your lack of a partner on TikTok is “literally” a red flag.
I came to the comments to say the same.
Closing your fist and punch while argumenting is very not desirable.
The act of closing a fist is not something you want in your own home.
all the hand gestures these days (which sorta seem intended to show off the fancy manicures) are so annoying
@@jaykay415 You led into what I was going to elaborate on: Hand gestures are actually a really good tell. Kinesiology isn't a solid psychology science - BUT there's a lot to it. And if you watch all these entitled, narcissistic, TikTok "guru" types who are all forcefully trying to tell the world what they want and "manifest" things... *they all do raised eyebrows, wide eyes, and a lot of similar hand gestures (slapping, pounding, or moving them like a sassy music conductor)* .
The hand gestures always come off condescending when directed towards men. (We don't even like our own bosses pounding their hands at us. We think about punching them most of the time if they do. So, if the woman who wants us to like them does it..........)
it is a visible indicator or sign of lack of control and calmness, very likely these types of individuals would physically lash out in a verbal disagreement, these are not calm, logical, or rational people who act in this manner, stay away from them
No, she isn't a calm, rational person at all. She's getting this mad because she's not getting what she wants. It's very clear that it's all about her. I mean, she won't even listen to advice that EVERYONE she knows including her psychiatrist is giving her. Clearly, she is a very independent person but to the point where everything has to be her way and she can do no wrong.
#1 reason I wouldn't be with someone like this is because if she isn't willing to listen to her family and friends then she sure as hell isn't going to listen to her significant other. With her, it will be a one-way street.
She probably has very high standards as well.
I dated a girl just like her years ago, she was absolutely drop dead gorgeous, really fit and independent, and not in a i-don’t-need-a-man type of way, just really independent, and then it all went downhill, we dated for almost 2 years and about halfway through i started checking out because it was all about her, always everyone else’s fault and very little accountability, well i wasn’t too heartbroken when we broke up, i’m now happily married and have 2 great kids, i still keep in touch with her every now and then and i know shes just like this girl still, in her early 30s and asking why she can’t meet anyone good for her when she literally drove everyone out. 🤷🏻♂️
How is your wife okay with you talking to your ex????????????
@@ezzmayy my wife has no problem with it, they have actually met before and she knows more or less her story and some of the shit shes been through, they’re even facebook friends if i’m not mistaken, my wife isn’t the jelaous type, when we met she knew that i had 3-4 very close female friends and i wasnt gonna stop talking to them or cut them off and she was ok with it, one of them was even my groomslady for our wedding and i was the Man of honor for hers, me and her husband are also very good friends.
If you are still friends, why not just tell her ? I don't think you should let her wonder if she is asking
She wants a guy to fit into the life she’s built for herself. Not build a life together with one. She’s beautiful but dumping all her baggage on social media ain’t helping. Huge turn off.
So women should be homeless and unemployed if they want a man?
She beautiful?...
HA HA HA HA !
It's a solid 4/10...
and noisy AF.
Imagine only one afternoon with her... ARGH!
No thanks.
Hard pass.
Just guve credit to brett and the comment. Cause it's verbatim what thy said
so many women think like this its actually annoying
That’s what I learned in dating over 30. People are set in their ways by then and eventually that is the end of things. That’s why you gotta find someone in your 20s and grow together.
All she said was: I, I, I, me, me, me.
Quit being an insufferable narcissist and maybe someone would like you.
Like she isn’t allowed to deeply care about her own life?
@@breezybrookshire not if she wants to share it with someone else.
@@breezybrookshire Sure she is, but the main words that came out of that video are ''I want, I want, I want''.
That right there is a big red flag. She never mentioned what she offers but rather what she wants.
Could also be the fact she might be picky, although for that last part we do not really know.
@@breezybrookshire Of course she is. Seems like she cares about herself a little *_too_* deeply, don't you think?
She might "want love in her life so badly", but clearly she doesn't know what *that* requires of her. It looks like she's looking for a simp more than an actual partner in life.
It's pretty obvious that she's mentally and emotionally unprepared to enter into a proper, wholesome, long-term relationship/marriage. A 29-year-old fully-grown woman with the obstinate self-centered childishness of a 7-year-old, who *refuses* to listen to her family and friends -- people who genuinely love her -- and would rather look for advice on *_Tiktok??_* If she really _cared_ about her well-being, why would she do that?
Sorry, but the ick is strong in her. The desperation and foolishness is bad enough, but posting all of this nonsense on the *_internet?_* Yeah nah, hard pass on this one.
wow ...
2:54 - "I am happy with my life"
3:19 - "what more do I have to do before I can be happy"
That's her problem right there
Her problem is wanting a man. most women's problem.
When women say they feel lonely : "You deserve love queen".
When men say they feel lonely : "Get off you damn loser".
No lies
the reddest of the red flags about this girl is that she recorded herself and put it on the Internet
Agree 100%. I'm like, "First thing you're gonna do to find a boyfriend, is to take this video down and never do this again."
well, she gave up, what else does she has to loose at that point? And what she is saying is the truth for millions of people
How many times did she say “me”?
@@Treasure-bl3cnthank feminism and equality bs.
no mattet how many "me or I" she said... this girl in the 80's would've had 4+ bf at this point.
(ofc not movie stars with huge yatchs)
I 1000000% agree with you. The nerve to record and post it is appalling in my opinion. Also, her dirty mouth is disgusting.
"Stop telling me I'm wrong."
. . . *"STOP TELLING ME I'M WRONG?!"*
. . . Girl, okay, you're right. And everyone else is wrong. You're too good for us, that's all.
That's what she wants. Lmfao everything out of her mouth was straight narcissistic spew, and she's shocked she's single.
Maybe she needs to find a bear.
@@Stormcrow_1Touché 😅
"Yes, dear."
"Eww!"
Truthfully, I think that's one of her main problems: She said so herself that her friends all had husbands and fiances, and they are saying there is something (though she won't say what it is) that she's doing wrong. Yet she refuses to listen to them..
If one of the people telling you that you are messed up is your therapist, then you in trouble.
At no point does she say that she wants a man. She says she wants "love" and "a life partner" but she never actually says that she wants a man. Subtle but important point, imo.
How so?
I was thinking the same thing
As a man, 3 red flags for me here 1) any women who pounds their hands into their fist like that 2) says like every 3rd word 3) women who go onto social media to vent
Facts
This video is probably fake. It’s all for views.
As a female- same. LOL
I don't necessarily agree with all of those, but she does just give off an energy of judgment and having quite stringent criteria for who would be acceptable to her.
“WHY 👏 DO 👏 I 👏 NOT 👏 HAVE 👏 A 👏 BOYFRIEND?! Men, make it happen! 👏👏👏” lmao so cringe
"It's just about me, and what I want!!"
Truly a mystery why someone like that is not in a relationship.
Ding! Ding! Ding!
Yup
Her therapist has probably been telling her to avoid social comparison - like her desire to be loved is about 'keeping up with the joneses'. Given my age, it's something I'm keenly aware of. If I comment about how my friends and peers are further along (married with several dozen children), it's a means of talking about regret and desire. Therapists can interrupt you every time you say the word 'should' on the notion that you're engaged in unhelpful thinking. It's genuinely annoying to be challenged to be agnostic about your loneliness. Like you're supposed to be perfectly zen.
She can’t find someone to be in a relationship with because she is already in an obsessive love relationship with herself.
@@victorcates9330 "... It's genuinely annoying to be challenged to be agnostic about your loneliness. Like you're supposed to be perfectly zen."
In a way, that's the truth, though. Amala is right when she thinks that men can "smell" desperation. They absolutely can; the bad apples will take advantage of it, too.
As hard as it is, try to live your best life; even when you're hurting.
I made a lot of not good connections out of desperation. After my ex put me in the hospital, I took two years for myself. No intercourse or even dates. I got to a point where I was okay with never meeting anyone again, in a romantic way. That I could live with just my animals on my own for the rest of my life and be happy. Once the desperation for love left, love came in. And it’s a beautiful, healthy, safe love. I truly do think when you let go of being desperate for love, it finds you. Don’t chase, attract ♥️
Yes! 💯! ❤
Same for me. I have never been desperate to find a partner, but when I swore off men for life was when one came into my life who actually deserves my best.
Exactly
Imagine being in therapy and still not having enough self-reflection to hear the words coming out of your own mouth.
I was out with my Dad one day and this woman passed by and my Dad turned to me and said "She's desperate, men sense desperation, good men run from it, bad men take advantage of it"" 🌻"Don't ever be like her, know your value, when you stop desperately seeking a relationship it will find you". Good talk Dad.
Huh, that makes me wonder if I'm still coming off as desperate. I know I get quite a few guys who obviously are, but I thought I had gotten over my desperation. My dad hasn't said anything about that, only clearly made it known he would like to be a grandpa soon and which guys gave him red flags ... which have been quite a few lately. So maybe I haven't? Well, if so, I know what I'm working on.
@@RoseBaggins I hope that you take it to heart that this was not written as a criticism against women but my Dad was right. The next time that you're out socially just step back and watch these women, focus in on the faces of the men surrounding them🌻The good men will express a micro facial gesture of disgust and walk away, the bad men will stick around because they smell the blood in the water and they're there to get what they want and they don't care about her. It is truly sad. My advice after 30 years of a good marriage would be involve yourself in activities that are interesting to you not what you think might be interesting to others and your cup will runneth over. When you're not actively seeking a relationship in everything you do you will find good men approaching you. Also tell your Dad to be quiet about the grandchildren thing (for now) that scares guys off. I wish you all the best and many blessings. Have a fantastic day❤
mehh. Part of that message is like saying "If you stop looking for a McDonalds ice cream machine that isn't broken, one will spontaneously show up at your doorstep."
@@RoseBagginsmakes me wonder the same about myself. I don't use dating apps and try to live my life, but the two guys I dated both ended things with me after 4 dates with the old "it's not you it's me" line...so I'm wondering if I'm coming off desperate and that's causing them to not feel connected to me. I'm almost 28 and never had a boyfriend.
@@rhondaloveloveloves9551 oh, I should have clarified, those conversations with my dad were with me only. He never mentioned grandchildren around any guys. Moms do more of that anyways. Still, the guy I am looking for has to open to having kids.
I will keep that in mind when I go out. But the more I think back, the more I realize just how few times guys have come up to me when I'm out and about. Only two guys have ever approached me, one on a bus and I was uncomfortable with him, the other at a Wal-Mart and he changed his mind when I greeted him back.
Marriage is about sharing love, not taking it.
Pic that mic back up, then drop it again.
Well said
Bars! 🙌
Marriage is a mutually beneficial contract.
My advice for anyone looking for a partner is to ask yourself "What do I bring into the equation?" as well as "What do I expect from my partner?". If what you're selling isn't worth what you're asking, the market will let you know.
Oh and fellow ladies: cross off "good looks" from your list of assets for a marriage. That's what gets you laid, what keeps the guy around is offering him actual unique services.
If you have a guy you're interested in, ask him and his friends (men tend to be very up-front about that) what he expects from life/a relationship. Take him at his word, don't try to change him (or yourself) and walk away if he's not a good fit.
@@p.s.shnabel3409 Your advice is good but don't look at a relationship as transactional as this will end badly. My ex girlfriend of 15yrs is transactional and like most who are this way is a toxic covert narcissist. Be careful and watch for the red flags. Love should be about mutual respect and caring for one another, like being in a life long friendship with strong feelings for each other. This was the advice from those around me who have been in lifelong happy relationships and also those who where with a narcissist in the past but found a new non-narcissistic partner.
Lady, just listen to yourself! No man wants to hear a woman shouting “Me, me, I, me,
I…”!
I’m 25 got married at 18, currently expecting my 3rd child ❤️
That’s beautiful 🩷
I'm happily married for almost 20 yrs. now. "Love," means sacrifice. It means living for another person while the other person lives for you. What my wife and I have learned is that it is living for each other.
Yes you understand that She doesn't.
Similar with having kids. And we see how the birthrate is trending down all around the modern world. I suppose people really are way too focussed on themselves these days.
23 years myself - you hit that nail right on the head.
It's the difference between wanting to HAVE a husband, rather than wanting to BE a wife. I first saw that statement about men, but feels universal.
That's a really good viewpoint! She wants someone to fill the role. I've always liked being married.
BARZZ!!!!
Well said!
Yes, thr difference is always between wanting something vs. taking the steps to acquire it.
Yes, she's not wife material, yet she blames God for feeling leftover by men.
This makes me so sad. Because she’s not happy. And the more she focuses on herself the farther she gets from what she really wants. If she focuses more on doing for others and gives to others the faster she’d draw love into her life.
"I'm a successful independent women" is the biggest red flag for me that a women can say because it sounds a lot like she doesn't WANT a relationship because she will prioritise her work and herself way before any relationship.
Also I've found women who consider themselves "successfull" tend to have extremely high expectations for a man starting with the mythical 6-6-6 single straight guy
1:44 _"It's literally not about anyone else, it's just about ME and what I want"_ ...Sweetie, if you want a loving relationship with someone else in your life, it's "literally" *_not_* just about you.
Well I'm sure there are guys out there who are as lonely and desperate as her that he'll be a perfect doormat for her lol. Sure, the relationship will end very quickly, but I'm saying it's not impossible for her to get someone.
You noticed that, too? Big red flag for me.
And anyone who told her this she's probably ignored because she 'doesn't like being told I'm wrong'
All women are like that...
she's alone by herself.
who else is she gonna include in her talking???
this is what feminism does.
lonely women and lonely men... and happy lesbians and gays feminists.
the problem is 95% of women are pro feminism.
well... enjoy your feminism and ur equality bs.
Now YOU must aproach men... (men were told too many times Not to do it)
No wonder why american men are travelling other countrys to meet girls...
@@bunille She does not want those guys, of course. If they are desperate, they are not successful with women, which means they do not pass the vetoing process.
If your therapist, your family, your friends and everyone else is telling you that "You're doing everything wrong", then you're doing it wrong. That's probably the most loving thing they can tell you. Be glad that they love you enough to let you know the truth. It's better than living in a lie.
But she prefers the lie.
They hate truth.
Women ☕️
We r talking about one person's healing issues,😊No need to showcase ur incel behavior here @unlimited97
...and yet...
"I don't expect a lot."
Riiiiight.
Literally *everybody* is telling her that she's doing it wrong and straight up says she doesn't want to hear it.
Have fun with your dog, babe.
Desperation looks terrible on everyone.
"It's literally all about me, what I want"... and that's literally why you are single ma'am.......
👍
Feminine is amazing. Love and compassion by taking care of the people they love ❤️.
However feminism is a hateful ideology by women to hurt women.
For example, feminist women criticize women who have a baby as slavery. Pure self hate instead of advocating freedom of choice with full responsibility.
The ones who talk to themselves out loud, record it, and then put their monologues online to complete strangers, are the ones you don't want to wife up. Don't make your life a reality TV show, lady. That's just a huge red flag right there, in my honest opinion.
Feminine is amazing. Love and compassion by taking care of the people they love ❤️.
However feminism is a hateful ideology by women to hurt women.
For example, feminist women criticize women who have a baby as slavery. Pure self hate instead of advocating freedom of choice with full responsibility.
This. Learn u guys or u gonna cry later
Married 39 years next Sunday. Marriage is a 100% commitment on both parts. It helps to not be self absorbed and to actually care about your partner.
03:30 _”How much harder do I have to pray and manifest and wait?”_
She couldn’t be more passive.
Her will power will materialize the young Korean son of Samsung's CEO, and she will resist at first, in doubt if she cannot get the Samsung's CEO directly, but in the end his infinite shows of affection will win her heart.
@@ReinoldFZ🤣🤣🤣
manifesting is spending some time imagining what you want, feeling the feelings of having what you want, and bringing forth *gratitude* for being where you want. Then, it comes! (If you only think about it as "I *need,* I *want"* then you are in a mental place of lacking, you are focusing on what you don't have, and that leads to manifesting lack.)
Has "manifesting" ever worked... NO.
@@networth00 well some people's experience would differ in dramatic ways, but that's fine.
literally every single guy that has ever said things like this is met with an uproar of "WOMEN DONT OWE YOU ANYTHING" astounding to see this come full circle
Yea, if a guy would make a video like that he would be labeled as weak and pathetic
@@shwix6534 i agree a lot of young men feel the way she dose but its harder for us to talk about it we are expected to step up and carry on
True. He will be called like that from other men.....@shwix6534
I related a lot what she said to my life
"When is it my turn"
"Am I just supposed to be alone"
"My friends have their fiancees and I've been left behind".
At least I'm not the only one
@@Carts154 Men learn very early to be independent and self reliant because nobody likes or cares about men's emotions, least of all women.. I agree the double standards are everywhere. One of my favorite past times is to call out womens double standards.
The sheer amount of "me" this girl was using in this video speaks volumes. A relationship is a "we"
Screams "give me attention" and "I can never be wrong" vibes.
She doesn’t have a we. So of course she says me. She’s a cat lady just doesn’t realise it yet.
She's not in a relationship so how can she say we.
@@NotLikeLee She seems to be a dog person, which makes sense. Just as well, as I don't believe she'd understand the give-and-take negotiations required to happily live with a kitty. Hope the dog's OK too.
"it's really about me; it's what I want".... That's a problem in and of itself.
This girl needs to listen to the great song by The Supremes and also covered by Phil Collins, called "You can't hurry love" with the relevant line: "You can't hurry love, you just have to wait, love don't come easy, it's a game of give and take ...".
I have a 29-year-old daughter who unfortunately, believed the lie that she must only rely on herself and prove to the world that she can do it all and have it all as a single woman. The trouble is that these women now want to find a man to fit into the life that they've created for themselves instead of creating a life with a husband TOGETHER. Life's ups and downs are much easier to navigate when you have each other to lean on.
Yes I agree, I'm sure she's had her opportunities.
I can fix her
And life is awful for the whole family when one or both partners decide to rip and betray and destroy.
I’m your daughter’s age, there’s pros and cons to marriage and singleness. Seeing how the dating culture has degraded I’m very grateful to have married not husband at 21. There was a lot of hard times but it’s worth it thus far. I hope she accepts Jesus because ultimately He is the only One able to fulfill us not a man. I say this even though I’m married he is a flawed human being as I am. I encourage you both to read the book of John ❤
By the age of 30 most of the people have created their own life for themselves and want someone to join that life (both men and women), and it's normal. We have formed hobbies, job, habits, lifestyle, our personal goals and we do not decline it all in order to create something together with another person. In 30s and later we combine two built worlds/lives to be together, we don't build it from scratch like people in their early 20s do.
I was married at 39. I thought I was doing something wrong. I would ask for advice from close friends and my brothers to try and figure out what I was doing wrong. In my single life, I learned to be content in my life, work hard, and learn to be stable. In my waiting, I was busy. The loneliness was horrible. I had my cats and dogs, but the heartaches were as intense as ever. I also felt left behind. I started the journey to understand how to improve my life. Through a chain of events, I was set up on a blind date. The rest is history, and I realized all I learned in my singlehood I could use in my marriage. The main one is I'm content. I had worked hard, owned property, loved whatever I got into, and now I can work hard as ever in my marriage and be content. I never knew we could be so happy.
Congratulations!! Here's to many wonderful years together!! 🥂🥂
Stories like yours give me hope as I am not married either. Unfortunately have dealt with a bunch of guys who were giving my family and friends red flags, so it hasn't been an easy search. And the guys who were good, we weren't right for each other in terms of personality, or he wasn't ready yet.
Taking up a hobby, being active with something and being your own person is crucial to being an interesting person. Too many women believe that their looks alone will garner them a partner.
Sounds like me, but I’ve accepted that I’ll probably be single forever. I was caregiver to my sick dad in my 20s and 30s and was just too busy to even think about dating, marriage and kids. Now that I’m in my late 30s, I just have no motivation to start that life journey. I’m content with the life that I have and just want to be left alone.
Married at 39? Um yeah, I was on my 3rd husband by then. Men are out there.
@@kathymcmc cool flex. the idea is to only have one lol
well, if even your therapist is telling you you're doing this wrong, then you must be doing it wrong. if you don't want to listen to that, then why pay for a therapist?
Pressure! Wise words. I'm impressed by your thoughtful insight into both viewpoints.
Meanwhile, she's probably friend zoned a string of good men.
She did them a favor!
Thank you.
🏆
Nah...
It's not her case.
She scared them... even the good guys.
Yeah because men don't the same thing right? Men will overlook the good girl for the hot one.
I completely agree with Amala. This girl seems too arrogant, desperate, rude, and trying to do things to impress others. She needs to chill out and care more about others and less about herself.
You mean not being selfish
What will that do? I'm not being mean, but how will that help her?
@@rgn87654 She won't turn off and chase away every man in her life with her selfishness. That would help her. Any dude with a brain talks 5 minutes to her and sees whats up, then casually and slowly backs away and runs. As they should.
@@rgn87654it changes her mindset from feeling sorry for herself and brings out her love energy. She is wound too tight and she is love constipated because she is self-obsessed. The laxative is finding all the ways to share her love with others. Anyone - her family, helping children, helping strangers, her friends, etc That will shift her energy to find her man.
@@rgn87654 It gives off attractive energy. A relationship is a GIVE-and-take. You have to give to receive and be flexible to make the adjustments needed to have another person in your life, as they do the same. You might need and be willing to sacrifice some things, to COMPROMISE. Because it should never be "me, me, me; I, I, I,". It should be "we" and "us".
My guess is you turned down your life partner 9 years ago so you could sleep around first and "work on yourself". OR you have put the good guys in the friend zone for so long they finally gave up on you. It's always the same story with those chicks. I met my now husband at 19 and we worked on ourselves and stayed together while growing up and built our life TOGETHER. Now we're married and expecting our first baby 14 years later. I didn't set him aside all those years ago to go see what else was out there or think I couldn't become a better woman without him first.
I met my perfect girl when I was 17, she was one year younger. We were both in High School both had family problems and both had to go separate ways. Still the best year of my life, and though we never saw each other again I thank God for her every day. Every woman since then has been a disaster. Some people are meant to be in our hearts but not in our lives.
Dear Amala - I have started watching your videos a couple days ago and I have to say, I can’t get enough!
I am a 47-year old college professor and painter, I am from Italia and California; you lean more conservative that me, but I LOVE listening to you!
You are so eloquent and well-spoken. Your content is informative and fun. Incredibly mature for your age and extremely educated, your opinions are fair and I enjoy your calm, respectful and professional manner.
Your energy is very warm and sincere.
, and you have a tone and delivery i could listen to all day.
Keep growing and sharing and I hope one day to see you ( if you wish to) on CNN or even the BBC.. as the moderate/centrist voice.
Or maybe you will have your own night show! Bringing some sense and balance and a nuanced point of view.. something that is sorely missing.
I enjoy so much your content and your reasoned views, even if i do not agree with you all the time you seem to me a wonderful person to debate with and learn from. We need more moderate, peaceful voices - i also enjoy your frequent guest from Nashville, he also has a kind demeanor. Best of EVERYTHING and all the success and happiness.
I mean I'm a 29 year old single woman too. I feel lonely sometimes because I do want a partner in life. But NEVER would I make a video and post it on the internet complaining about it. They will ripe you to shreds no matter the reasons. It's the internet what kind of response did she think she was going to get. 😅
And when you quote your therapist...I think that means you need to keep working on yourself.
Tick, tock, tick, tock... 30 !
You have officially hit the wall.
@@JohnDoe-kg6gyJust proving my point. The internet trolls come out. 😂
@@Ktakahashi18
Exactly.
But it's true too...
Isn't funny?
@@Ktakahashi18 Lol don't mind him, a man that doesn't take your personality or what you can bring fof him as a priority, only shallow things like your age, isn't a man you wanna get involved with. Focus on being a good person, improve the things you know need improving, go out on a walk, spot a guy that is within your looks-range that you might be attracted to, be pleasant, and ask him out. More than likely he'll say yes.
@@JohnDoe-kg6gy this is a man who has been burned by women way too many times...
Dropping the “It’s just about me” attitude might help. Listening to your family, friends, and therapist might also help. Just because you don’t like what they’re saying doesn’t mean they’re saying you’re doing *everything* wrong. LISTEN.
I’ve been married for 31 years ❤
She's an attractive girl looks wise, but that attitude will run off every self-respecting man out there.
I think they literally ARE saying she's doing something wrong. And if everyone in your life is telling you ur wrong, it's hard not to feel attacked, ya know?
@@MrFlameboy15 I get what you’re saying. What I meant was that no one is saying she’s doing *everything* wrong (at least in my mind!). But maybe she is! She should learn from her friends who are engaged/married.
@ThisCharmingBat no yeah, I get what you mean. We really don't know all the details of her life to accurately judge. For all we know, each of her engaged/married friends COULD be telling her she's wrong and they all could be saying something different! Imagine how frustrating that must be. I just feel like it's a more complex thing than "changing her attitude." Besides, how is she supposed to be upfront about what she wants without saying what SHE wants? If it's something YOU want FOR you, you literally have to have an "about you" attitude.
She talks about "me me me" because she is the only one in her story. she is alone.
She is just like any other girl.
if this were the 80's or 90's she would have a bf or many bfs at this point.
but men doesn't aproach women anymore, cause no one wants to end up in jail, over a simple chat, or after having an adventure...
she's just another outcome of feminism.
No wonder why american men are travelling to other countrys to meet girls...
enjoy your feminism and your equality BS. 😽😽😽🐈⬛🐈⬛🐈⬛🐈⬛
It made me feel sad when she said “as far as I’m concerned, I’m left behind”. Not too sure what she needs to do in order to ameliorate her suffering, but taking personal responsibility is a great start !
Most people are single due to past trauma or just through personal choice. If you're single, there's nothing wrong with that, either, dont feel pressured to find a partner if you don't want one. Dont let the wider world dictate your choices, and providing you're not harming anyone, you do you.
Wrong - if you're a woman, your eggs are dying by age 30. This is the age where your stock as a marriageable person starts falling faster than the stock market in 1929. Learn how to be a homemaker and give yourself some serious value. Everything else is fool's gold.
@folee_edge I'm guessing that you're a man from the graphic description of the female anatomy, there, and your confident declarative 'wrong!' statement. But, not everyone wants children and if you do, there's an option for IVF (I think ppl should have children when they're a bit older and healthier and fully formed as ppl, as long as they're not too old, Women can actually have healthy children until they're well into their fifties.) Not everyone wants relationships either, especially if they've had bad partners, in fact a lot of women are happier single, because they've had a bad deal from previous relationships due to sexist expectations, abuse, etc. Women nowadays have much more freedom to pursue things like education, work, travel, etc. and they're much more skilled than men, in general, when it comes to things like socialising and friendships, so they're more likely to have a rich and supportive networks, that a lot of men don't have. Sorry to sound harsh, but that's how it is.
I am a happy married (40 years) man. I was attracted to a young woman, who I observed being kind to others, who was service oriented, who could carry on an intelligent conversation, a good listener, no drama, and who I believed would be a wonderful mother to my future children. She was not perfect, but was perfect for me, and still is.
As a man, the "me me me me, it's all ABOUT me!" is a big no go. If a girl is looking for love, it should not be all about YOU, that's the last thing a man would want in a wife or for a partner. My wife is carrying, kind and selfless. The last thing on her mind is "me me me".
I think it goes both ways. And honestly it is the easiest thing to put your partner/family first when they do the same. We just celebrated our 19th anniversary last week. I feel loved every day and I make sure my husband feels the same. I feel bad for ppl like her though cos they don t even understand and they may never experience a loving relationship. Oh, and congrats for your loving mariage, I hope you can cherish each other for long!
@@lkrisztina7851finding someone to love is hard now a days, because some people don't like to compromise their freedom. When you fall deeply in love, it's all about THAT person, not just yourself . That's how it has always been with me and my wife. I would do anything for her, she is my everything. Happy wife happy life. I also wish you a very happy marriage.
My wife is the same, which is why it brings me so much joy to do things for her, because she never does!
Yes but what do you do for your wife.
Exactly, she's selfish it doesn't work in love.
I love watching your videos and it's great to hear your interpretation but it would be nice if you could link the original video that you're discussing so we could watch the whole thing.
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Men and women both want their significant other to be the cherry on top of their lives. Men don’t want to be cherries y’all.
So women should be homeless and unemployed if they want to find a man? Lmao
Nail on the head. Everything she saying is what men in her position have been saying for generations. She’s got the wrong energy. She
And we don't want to be piggy banks either
So men want homeless and unemployed women?
@acemarvel1564 you don't want a woman who has a life, makes money and has her sh*t together but you also don't want to be a piggy bank. And you guys say women are the complicated ones
happily married at 22 and all my friends laughed at me saying im quitting too soon and now they are 28 STRUGGLING to keep a girlfriend i count my blessings
AT 28 a man is just starting to go into his prime. Men don't have to marry young, men can wait.
That's excellent! Marriage is not easy, but it is wonderful. May God bless your loving sacrament 🙏💫
@aliendroid1 You're not a steak and no one wants to take a bite.
you should make a video saying exactly that. Let them be mad at you. You did it correctly!
I married, not young, but at 27 but I had a surprising number of unsupportive friends. They didn't like that the man I was about to marry was not perfect. They thought I should hold out for better. Those same naysayers are STILL single 10 years later and I have a husband and children that I love. Husband and I have had to grow together but there's nothing like marriage to sanctify!
I can say I was in her position last year. I had a major breaking point, which was actually the first step to truly healing. What I discovered was that happiness starts internal. Relying on the external will never make you happy. Once you realize that you can be happy without external objects and relationships to make you happy, you can truly live and love. I worked on myself for months before I started dating again. I've come to the point that I am perfectly content being alone. Not being in a romantic relationship will not diminish me as a person and I do not rely on it for true joy. When I started dating again, I went in with no expectations. I just wanted to go on a few dates, meet people, and have fun. Met my boyfriend in February and it feels like it came out of nowhere. We just flow so well and easily. We take it one day at a time and stay present with each other. We have similar goals and values. I don't focus on the future, just deepening our relationship every day and enjoying our time together.
I can relate to this woman in the video. I have healed the last few years and have learned boundaries and not letting unsafe people into my circle. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who aren't ready for a real relationship but they pretend to be ready. I live in a more rural area, my hometown, and keep seeing same people on dating apps so I have deleted those. I am putting myself out there & trying different activities/environments where good men may be... but it is more difficult than non-single people think. It's very easy to find a partner but this is one of the most important decisions of your life: choosing your spouse. It isn't simply just picking a random nice person.
I waited until 42 to find my life partner. Married 4 years later. She was worth the wait. Be patient, love comes and please dont settle.
Where did you guys meet and where is she from?
how old is she?
I'm alright with being single
A weirdo like me has no chance
Hard to have kids at 42
You married an old goat. I wouldn't brag.
I saw a young woman who kept saying
"I"
"Me"
"I want"
"I need"
Nothing about what is needed in a relationship with another person! As in
"We"
"Us"
But she doesn't have another person in her life to use the term we lmao, that would be wierd if she was saying "we, us" when she's alone, like she's talking about her multiple personalities
“If one more person tells me what’s wrong with me I swear Ive done enough!” She already said he may never correct her. Grabbing piranha? “You look great without that finger!” Speeding up towards the stopped cars? “Who really wants to survive a ride from the store?” Absolutely no correction or input other than positive affirmation, and an open wallet, and submissive house wife for her.
@@333kireinahime
That's the point. She should think in the plural. As in: "I want a life WE can build on!" Or as in: "I need another soul so WE can have tranquility in OUR lives!"
Now do you understand!
It’s wild how many people don’t realize a relationship is a partnership
There is no we??? How can she say we when she's alone?
I know it's fun to hate women, but get real.
Your logic is flawless! We need more people like you in this world.
You're right, all I've heard from that girl is "me me me"
My two cents for her if by chance she read this is "less me and more good"
I’m single and have been single for a while. I’ve become comfortable and content on my own, with a fulfilling job, education, my dog, and lots of hobbies! I would love to meet the right man too, and I admit it’s really hard to find, especially someone who aligns values wise. And it can be difficult to see everyone around settling down, but honestly we just gotta make the most of our situations in life. Rather than focusing on what we don’t have, it’s so much better to focus on what we do have! There is always room for personal growth, and the better version of yourself you become, I think the better relationship you will have in the future! And it’s not in a selfish way either, I think we should continue to nurture relationships and care for others as singles because it brings a lot of meaning to life. I think this girl is focusing too much on herself, making the situation more painful than it needs to be.
I'm also 29 and single. I can relate to a lot of what you're saying, but I also understand where she's coming from. I think I'm a pretty strong and happy person, but I'd be lying to say that I never have thoughts like this or worry that l'll never find the right person. It's an unhealthy but common trap to compare ourselves to others. It's ok to acknowledge that, as long as it doesn't take over your life. I also don't think it helps when people shame single adults for not getting married or having kids by a certain age, calling them "selfish". They may be going through financial stress or a bad breakup. I think it's better to be a healthy individual and have standards for a potential partner (even if it means being single for longer) than to commit to the wrong person.
Notice how those women NEVER say 'I want someone TO love'.
It is ALL about themselves.
Thanks, no thanks.
Right? Where was her declaration of, "I have so much love to give" amongst all of her I want, I want, I want...?
To overflow with love is to have received that love from God. Feminism is an active rejection of that love, so there is none to give.
They’re tired of giving love and receiving little in return.
dont fall for it men. these women spend their best years rejecting good men, making fun of them, being a feminist. Now when the lights start coming on they turn to their emotional manipulation to try to get a simp to bail them out. And for what? used up, hight bodies, mental issues, blah blah blah the list goes on and on and on.. Let them stew in their own poor life choices.
It’s in human nature to want to be loved. I doubt you want to waste your emotions on people who don’t care for you.
Single as an apple. Its hard to find people these days.
Definitely a spoiled apple
Wtf bro, who hurt you?
I don't know what you mean. There's billions of them...?!
Ain't that the truth. Age of the dating apps. It sucks out here.
@@Ktakahashi18 It does brother. It does
Amala , the fact that you are 23 and so wise is so admirable. You do your research and are well spoken. Kudos to you . I feel bad for this 29 year old partnerless woman but she hasn’t taken anyone’s advice . Why would she now ?
5:42 well said about the needy anxious energy that can be felt by others
I absolutely feel her pain. I’m a 28 yo single woman. Conservative, Christian, Nurse Practitioner.
I understand the anxious desperation. But instead of becoming fixated on what I don’t have, I try to renew my mind in Christ and change my attitude from sorrowful bitterness to that of thankful/grateful joy that is found in the Lord. It’s a process but I know my ultimate fulfillment, hope, love, and comfort is in Christ.
It absolutely makes a difference when you put your focus on something other than yourself and your needs. Focusing on Christ is one of the best ways to combat the loneliness I felt during singleness, and even now when I experience loneliness in marriage!!!
I like your energy, but as a nurse you probably understand why nurses don't exactly have the best reputation in regards to partnership qualities.
@@WannabeShady90 I have known quite a few nurses and even doctors who are happily married or in long-term relationships. Your career choice should not have any affect on your relationships or indicate great or terrible characteristics.
You can have a more difficult time to prioritise your relationship while in demanding careers, but ultimately there is s sacrifice that comes in being in a relationship. Many, these days espeically, are not willing to make sacrifices to better their relationships. This not only goes romantically as well, but also with friendships and family. People these days don't know or understand sacrifice or comprimise and prefer just to cut ties from everyone and everything. At least, my bit of wisdom and observation.
@beck7360 and thats the difference between you and this woman. Also, I can say this as a married woman myself, MAKE sure, you ask God to make the match for you. Find someone who is devoted to God (not just someone who is in all church activities, but bears no fruit). The man you seek ought to live a life of prayer, be committed to God and constantly seeking his will, just as you are. Too many men in church are wolves in sheep's clothing...so pray over every 'christian' man who professes interest. Seek God's confirmation. If the Holy Spirit says no, then it's no. You wait on God. Because if you choose to move in your own understanding instead (eg you meet someone who checks all the boxes and God still says 'no')-- then you will come to God's conclusion much later...with years wasted, and heartache/+ emotional scars to show for it. I know people who didnt listen and regret it. Surely God looks at the heart so his match will be someone who is your 'KIND" but not necessarily your 'type'. Different things...but your kind is rooted in compatibility which is essential for a marriage to thrive. The 'type' is more physical but who cares about looks when there is little to no compatibility. Wait on the Lord and he will not disappoint. He will redeeem the time. Even if you marry at 30 or at 33 with God's match, in a few short years you will have attained all that could have had, had you married earlier. But when you marry early without his match--- you lose the time- no matter how early you started. Because the latter will be full of strife and struggle. God Bless you!
Single, Male, 29, handsome, kind, handyman business owner, cook, clean, 2 dogs, one cat, want kids. But still single af. IDFW any women that give off this exact , sharp, hardened, “savage” type of girl boss behavior. Gives off this “chew men up and spit them out” vibe, this “i will leave you the second im not happy” type energy. Women seeking excitement not security are the absolute biggest turn off.
Hang in there! My 29yr old son is in the same boat. Women today are scary. I hope you and my son both find a good one. ♥️
@@Paige-kn4zr thanks! Good luck to your son too
Another fellow 29 year old here. Same situation hah
Us lesbians don't have it any easier.
Women are so quick to just dismiss, block and pretend you don't exist at the slightest little flaw.
There is a rise in passport brothers. Men are going overseas to find traditional wives. Women in the West are undate-able.
I’m 29 and have been married for 9 years. This is my first impression of a total stranger, so take it with a grain of salt, but I don’t get the feeling she is a very humble person. The way she stubbornly brushed off all of her friends, family, even her therapist. This is a girl who refuses to admit when she’s wrong, which is insanely toxic in a marriage. Marriage is all about compromise: meeting someone in the middle on a lot of things.
She says she “just wants love,” but I suspect she has extremely nit-picky expectations for her partners. Which is fine, if you’re honest about how particular you are and understand how that affects your ability to find someone.
I can understand her despair and agree that her yearning is relatable. But her demeanor feels incongruent with her desire. Especially that weird post about “Peter Pan Syndrome.”
Happily married husband and father here. From watching this video, there's a few obvious things. Firstly, this is sad. You can tell she genuinely wants a human connection, someone to share life with. But here is my take on why it's not happened. She immediately says something to the effect of "it's about me and what I want", which is a horrible attitude to take. Men (at least the vast majority) want a woman who is willing to put herself second, not behind the man, but behind their future kids. So selfishness and self-centredness are extremely undesirable traits for men. Secondly, she keeps reiterating how she has built this perfect life for herself, which is just that, it's a life for herself. Now she wants a man to come along and slot nicely into it, which realistically won't happen. Most men want to at least play a big role in building a life for their families, not falling into a pre-built life they had nothing to do with. Whether she (or you) likes it or not, men are typically providers, it's hardwired into most of us, so the idea that this has been taken away from us is not desirable. Thirdly, she's crying to a camera in a car on social media. I think I can safely say for most men, that is a huge red flag. Narcissism runs rampant in this generation, and nowhere is it more obvious than this section of social media. So what's the takeaway for an young women reading this? The takeaway is that you don't have to become a property owning millionaire girl boss with side hustles and businesses, if you want to find a good man to marry (If you don't care about marriage and love, then go for it). You don't need to do therapy to work on yourself, just be a good, kind, humble, friendly person, and showcase the desires you know men want. You can call it sexism if you want, but that's stupid. As a man, I showcased the traits I possess to my now wife when I was dating her, because I wanted her to know that if she chose me to spend her life with, this is what she could expect, and it was what she wanted. I wasn't fake to myself, or lying, I was showing her what I am, what I can do, that I know she wanted! Men usually want nurturing women, with a high maternal instinct (even if they don't think they want kids). It's not that hard, but in the days of social media (thankfully I got married just before dating apps became a thing) and rampant toxic feminism, I can see how so many young women get themselves confused in their 20's, only to realise it in there 30's once they realise it may be a bit too late to be 'picky' about a partner (as she states, by that age most high quality eligible men are gone).
Most helpful comment here...I wish she could read this and take these pointers...
She asks- then tells you to stop telling her. Go figure.
Ding! Ding! Ding!
She’s in a highly emotional state.
She literally said that all her friends and non-friends are forcing their advice on her. I'm sure she's heard enough and that's why she's saying she doesn't want to hear it anymore, not necessarily because she's just such an incessant narc, like the comment section implies.. But I'm sure YOUR, a stranger's, opinion is correct about a person you see for the first time and know nothing about.
Who said she's asked??
Where is she looking? "This me , I want this, I need it , I deserve it." Finding a soul mate is about loving and serving someone, and being best friends and hanging out together. Love is finding the joy in that. The soul mate is finding someone who does the same for you. It's not about the me, is about the other. When its right, the other makes it about you.
When that person doesn't show up in your life though, it's so unbelievably painful.
You hit the nail on the head.
Im happily in a relationship after being single for 5 years, I had to let God work within me and He still is. Im 30 years old dating for 8 months so far and planning on getting married next year! Love is sacrificial.
Awesome. Congrats.
Amen
Married 24 years this June. My mom still teases me that I married the teacher instead of the lawyer with the vineyard but I prioritized compatibility over money. My husband truly is my soulmate but I know that many women would pass up on someone great because their list of requirements is so long that they struggle to find this idealized perfect fit. Ladies open your eyes there are many good men out there if you’re willing to look beyond an impossible list of requirements.
make a video teaching young women. Ignore modern women. they are doomed to be chad's toy then get cats and drink wine while crying.
Congrats on being married for so long!!!! Hope you have a great 24th anniversary next month!!❤🎉
@lou....
FAR TOO MANY girls are looking for $$$, before anything else - that's not Love !!
Reading your comment fills me with hope without knowing your relationship it sounds like your husband knows how lucky he is to have you I hope you two have a long happy life together I'm 37 and would love to just once feel like I was important to someone but I'm 5 ft 6 doesn't seem like that I'll be granted that in this life
@ada...
Don't let your height, be a determining factor. If you have other things going for you, you'll be OK !!
The problem is clear with the clip right at the start.. "it's about me" not about anyone else. A relationship is about TWO people, not just yourself.
True, but when you've been alone for a long time, it's difficult to describe how viscerally painful this is. I hear you, but it's hard to understand when someone hasn't experienced this.
55 yrs old. Single. Well, I can understand where she’s coming from. That desperation can lead you to some pretty terrible places. Focus on yourself, and date the things you enjoy doing. Spend time with your family and your friends and your hobbies. Form deep connections there, so that when the right person does come along, you are capable of forming a deep connection with him or her. Whatever floats your boat. Sometimes it’s hard to be alone. But most of the time I am perfectly fine with it. a domestic violence Survivor and I will not be in that situation ever again. And when you start to become desperate to be in a relationship that opens the door for people to take advantage. Keep loving yourself.
this is when you know it is absolute and true love: when you know and feel it is just about you alone and what you want and no one and nothing else.
Am I the only one who thought that was Rachel Zegler for a minute?
No. 😅
She is gonna have 7 non-dwarves to pick from
Same
@@chilidaemon7113 LOL
I've been married for 37 years but at about the 15 year mark it was pretty shaky. I suggested going to counseling and she said, 'Why? So one more person can tell me I'm wrong?' I said, 'Honey, if everybody's telling you you're wrong...(gasp)...maybe you're WRONG!'
lol bet she didn’t take that very well?
My dad is like this and gets mad at my mom, sister, and i for “ganging up on him”. No one in my family has listened to me about getting counseling though
God sent her her soulmate several years ago when she was in late high school through early 20s. He was just a "mid" as the younger generation says. She feels she is too attractive and successful to give those guys a second glance. She ignored the right guy early on because he wasn't all 6's... maybe he was 5'7" tall, wore glasses and enjoys staying home and at work, but he was too boring for her.
He would have been loyal, supportive and responsible, not chasing after other women, but she looked down on him or threw him into the friend zone. He stayed there until God told him to move on, so he's gone. Now she is wondering where this guy is, why God isn't sending here the soulmate she feels she deserves.
Then again, all through her video I only heard "Me, me, me, I, I, I..."
She's closing into the wall and is starting to panic. She needs to stop dwelling on how much she thinks she's awesome and "all that".
Barely a man exists in the western world who cares one bit how independent she is or what her income is... and many find that a turn-off, so she should stop trying to use it as a flex. Guys don't care if you make six figures or four figures, just be nice and have the ability to cooperate without being condescending to guys you think you're better than.
My best advice for this girl is to focus less on her image and more on her reaction to life. I would tell her that the next step is to learn to cope with the fact of being alone. Being alone is not as bad as people play it out to be. She’ll be fine. I don’t think she’s a bad person, just someone who wants to be seen and acknowledged. That’s probably why she rejected any negative criticism because that’s a soft topic for her. I hope she finds healing through her insecurities. We all have them. The best we can do is be understanding. People like this need our help the most.
Being a 39 year old man, I have seen a clear shift from when I was dating to today, and nobody knows what love is- when I was growing up, specific “love languages” didn’t exist unless you were talking about Latin, Spanish or French, simply one sided receiving of benefits of a relationship is not love and definitely not language or communication- today love means security, looking good in pics, what feels good at the moment, and how to benefit as much as possible without reciprocating- the sad thing is that even women my age changed right along with the times, I got left in the last century
Yep, spot on jj. 39 to 55 yr old woman too.
Don't give up, guys. There are still some women out there that haven't had the Kool aid. (59 swf here)
This is very true. I’m a millennial and I don’t know how to love anyone unconditionally. I can only love a man conditionally. I can’t even love my kids unconditionally. I left my husband because he couldn’t provide shelter for me and the children. I have chosen to remain single and it’s because I cannot love. I don’t even know what it is. I really don’t know how someone can love someone unconditionally. It’s sad
@Naomi-bw5qs I'd say that is normal. Everything we do has conditions associated to t said act. Love, most definitely has conditions attached. Unfortunately, these conditions have changed over time. And instead of positive changes, they r negative changes. Which, I think, is what Jared is talking about based on his comment. I would also say, love for your husband/wife etc, is very, very different to how we love our children.
How the hell does this girl have 2 million subscribers?
Read this wise quote from someone on a UA-cam comment section: "Not knowing why you're single, is why you're single."
This is the age old anxiety of those type of women who have a strict view of who exactly they want rather than just being a human being who reaches out to other human beings and shares compassion and passion and interest in people as people. Men, just like women; don't want to be objectified as a commodity product or an asset to materialism.
I dont even talk to people with dogs. major red flag for me.
Fr 😂 mentally unstable ppl
Everyone keeps telling me I'm wrong, but I keep doing the same things. And I'm sick of people telling me I'm wrong.
You're right lady, it's my fault your life doesn't make you happy.
If you've seen the full video --> you don't need to blame yourself for her unhappiness, because she is in fact very happy. She said so herself. (In case it wasn't obvious) 😂😂😂
I'm 31 and have been married for almost 3 years at this point.
I actually feel for her because I understand her. There was a time when I heard men talk about what they wanted in a wife and complain that they couldn't find anyone like that while literally sitting in a room with girls who met their standards if they would've actually stopped to talk to the girls in their lives already
It's like every young adult church group ever smh...
So true! I once had a guy that I met through church volunteering describe his ideal woman and he almost described me to T (but not height and not...a sexual preference he had). He and I went to church and the gym together, and he called me beautiful. Then, a month into that, just as I was thinking he was about to ask me on an official date, he tells me that he knows I'm into him and doesn't see me that way.
Another guy we volunteered with at church told me that he liked that he and I were both single because it meant we could flirt. We had similar career goals and family goals. One time, he jumped over a couch just to sit next to me and talk to me. I started to ask him out and then remembered how negatively the church reacted to women asking men out, so I stopped myself. He ended up asking me out. About three weeks later I told him we needed to talk and then he tells me that he felt I was trying to pressure him into a relationship. After he asked me out...
There was another guy that I suspected was into me and was a pretty decent guy. We had similar career goals and family goals. However, he had just finished high school and I was a year or two out of college.
Sometimes their standards are too strict, and they limit their options. I know one guy who had a list of criteria a woman must meet to be able to be in a relationship with him: tall, slim, not curly hair, between 33 and 35 and without children, has not been married before, has a high education, must have a respectful (in his opinion) job (not a seller, a manager, etc.), has a large family (parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, etc), didn't have a lot of boyfriends before, must not expect a lot of gifts and flowers (if ever), must be able to give him a child (even though it is not a frequent story when a woman has her fist kid after 35), and other things I forgot. No wonder by the age of 39 he had to "allow" women to meet fewer and fewer number of criteria.
Thank you! She's honestly super relatable, so I don't know why people are slamming on her so much. No wonder people are single-no one wants anyone that acts like a human being apparently.
Same like me and a lot of my girlfriends are having the hardest time finding the right person despite seemingly having a plethora of options. Kind, beautiful, spiritually strong women no one seems to want. I give one of my guy friends the insta of a girlfriend when they seem each other’s type and they proceed to never talk.
I’m a 37yo male and single and I know exactly why. As Jordan Peterson puts it “all the women are rejecting you? The problem is you.”
I can sadly relate to the feeling of being left behind, it's not a nice state to be in, and you can just see people couple up, while getting the question all the time "why don't you have a girlfriend/wife".
I'm grown, I'm divorced, and I have great kids. As far as dating goes, I'm done.
Same here
Sounds good.
I just need to take care of the big D
Reconcile with your ex
@@shirin8609Hell no. I'm fine.
52 yrs old. Single, hetero male.
Divorced, 2 kids, nothing to offer.
Surf pretty good though.
Orange County women don’t dig me. I don’t make over $100k.
How is that nothing to offer? I think single parents should try to go for other single parents, it's really hard to date someone with kids if you don't have kids yourself, start going to more family events with your kids I think you'll have alot of luck finding women who are the same age and can relate to being divorced with kids
@@333kireinahime I tried that. He had 2 older teenage daughters. Unfortunately they pretty much ruled his life and I was too old to wait around until they decided to let go of the strings
I think when you get to a certain age you have to expect that most people in your age group will come with some kids.
I knew this when I got divorced at 32 with three young children. I ended up with someone childless but other men I went on dates with were fathers. My children are wonderful and I was always happen to welcome stepchildren.
@@Jdb74985maybe look for a man with sons, I know teenage girls can be terrible, both my sisters are in that age range right now and I know I was much easier to handle as a teen, I would have been very happy if my dad had a woman who truly loved him (he’s still with my mom neither of them love each other and basically stayed together for us kids, it’s sad)
@@Jdb74985 do you have kids?
You are so on point
I figured it out from the first sentence in your intro. Its about ME, and what I WANT. NUFF SAID
I read that title as " She Asked The Internet Why She’s 29 " and was genuinely confused why she did not get the birds and bees talk at 29. 🤣
lol you are so real for this! i need to fix the title haha
"I'm happy, I have a beautiful life"
starts whining ...
I have got similar story with My friend - woman, who is medicine doctor. She had multiple partners, but according to Her no one from them fit. The reason for that is her expectations. Woman is looking for Man with same degree or higher, same or higher money savings, etc. when Man, who is university professor can have poor hair dresser as a Wife and be extremaly happy. This is modern Women trap. They are looking for social advancement in relationship. Coming back to My doctor friend - she was happy with one man, but she rejected him, because he was "only" car mechanic.
This is the best way for woman to be forever alone and later have mental disease and more later complete desperation, which of course will have toxic finish.
No family, no kids, just bitterness, tears and depressia. Because he was "only" car mechanic.
I know other Women, who get free from this trap of thinking and they are happy.
Amala provides great insight, as usual!
"It's all about me and what I want" and feeling personally attacked when someone gives you criticism is giving narcissism.
That is all I heard. ME ME ME ME, I, I , I . modern women are only about themselves and never learn. They NEED a man but act like they don't when young then cry when men predict when the tears will fall.
She's wants a plug and play guy. Someone she can plug into HER life. Instead of looking for someone to build a life with.
From multiple experiences, I can say work on yourself (career or sport or travel or exercise, etc.). it is like a getting a job, once you get one, everyone wants to give you one. You need to be patient; do not follow what society tells you, follow your heart. I recommend going out to movies, arriving early and socializing. Go to a coffee house. A warm smile opens up a lot for you.
That "strong start" was so messed up haha but so funny.