If You Struggle with Self Hatred as a Christian…

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  • Опубліковано 10 кві 2024
  • I struggled with hating myself, until God taught me not to. This is what he told me.
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  • @GodisInYourJobSearch
    @GodisInYourJobSearch Місяць тому +40

    “I trust Gods judgment more than mine” 😭😭

    • @red_box346
      @red_box346 Місяць тому +1

      Dude you just said a whole chapter that I agree with you. [ clapping 👏 my hands ✋ 👏 ]

  • @girlpowerpath
    @girlpowerpath Місяць тому +47

    Hating myself is a prideful thing, like am saying i know my self more than God. 😮😮
    This is the most eye opening thing ever

    • @Ready-ForTheEnd
      @Ready-ForTheEnd 8 днів тому

      Amazing way to flip it back on the person and blame them for their self hate. As always with Christians the best advice they can give is "it's your fault. You're the problem."

  • @seachick9860
    @seachick9860 2 місяці тому +61

    AYO THIS IS A WHOLE WORD BROTHERRRR!!!! 👏Say it louder for the people in the back because God is using you as his mouthpiece right now! I struggled with the same thing, but man, God is so gracious and powerful to heal us from self-hatred. His love is overwhelmingly good, and He doesn't want us to miss it. Will be praying for you!

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you so much 🙏 God is so good

    • @tb7-rf1fb
      @tb7-rf1fb Місяць тому

      Omg, what word salad vomit did you just puke all over UA-cam? Get a life.

    • @tb7-rf1fb
      @tb7-rf1fb Місяць тому

      @@Orlando-KangOrlando, you should be ashamed of yourself.

  • @Hedgehogsupremacy
    @Hedgehogsupremacy Місяць тому +22

    As a self-hater, I thank you for this video. I see absolutely no reason to love myself other than the fact that Jesus washed away my sins and made me righteous before Him. It’s hard to see how I can be righteous before God when I can be downright evil sometimes, but I know it’s not about my feelings. Glory to God!

  • @pcdeltalink036
    @pcdeltalink036 Місяць тому +19

    I have an encounter with God that happened not too long ago related to this topic. After failing once again to one of my primary sin areas I remember feeling very disgusted with myself. I was praying to God and basically said how I knew I was a lousy Christian and that he should just trade me in for someone better. Then these words came to my mind.
    "Tell me, if you had a child and they made a mistake would you somehow consider "trading them in" for a newer model? So to speak." Even not having kids I could immediately answer "No, I could never do that. They are still my child." Then the next words I got were "Neither will God do the same to you."
    I was comforted but a bit stunned at how much that answer calmed me down. I didn't realize it had been God speaking until I was going back over the encounter in my head a few hours later and realized "Wait...those thoughts weren't from me...oh my gosh!"

  • @hill7487
    @hill7487 Місяць тому +15

    "They're my creation too." For some reason that hit hard and I'm grateful, I want to be a better person, may the Lord guide all of us brothers and sisters in Christ.

  • @chizorom
    @chizorom Місяць тому +12

    Thank you so much for this video. Just before, I was crying out to God, apologizing because I suck and can't do anything right. God brought me to this channel and I watched two of your videos. Those really helped calm my sprit even further after prayer. Remembering that God loved me, chose me and cleansed me - despite knowing my iniquities - shows His graceful love. Who am I to call myself unclean or common after what God did for me? Also I came across Zechariah 4: 10: "Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin [...]". This also helped me a lot. Glory to God Almighty.

    • @monicahgacheru3640
      @monicahgacheru3640 Місяць тому

      Which version are you using 🤔

    • @chizorom
      @chizorom Місяць тому

      @@monicahgacheru3640 it’s the NLT version :)

  • @harold2
    @harold2 2 місяці тому +13

    I had a similar revelation about self-loathing. Seeing God move within me and another person, especially about a similar struggle, makes me want to praise God all the more. May God be with us; I look forward in our unity God has planned through Christ.

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому +2

      100% all the praise goes to God 🙏

  • @infiniteriver93
    @infiniteriver93 Місяць тому +3

    Powerful video! Thank you! Especially for me on the self judgement and judgement of others. "Hey, they're my creations too!" Powerful. " I ask God to teach me how He feels about them, God tell me your favorite part about this person, God tell me what it was like when you were making them and designing them, tell me how much you Love them" Really needed to hear this message and wisdom tonight. It's shifted my mind back on track, the battlefield of the mind, it's a daily struggle against "the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." (Ephesians 6:12)

  • @siriaperez97
    @siriaperez97 2 місяці тому +22

    "Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. " Philippians 1:6 Thank s for sharing how has been part of your process in this topic and how God has been transforming your way of thinking and valuing yourself in the light of His Word, it's really worthy and brave, many people today (specially the new generations) need to hear this message. God bless your work and allow you to continue being a conduit for more people to know Him and experience His immense love and mercy. Greetings from Mexico :)

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому +4

      Thank you so much for the kind words. Greetings back from Canada

    • @pcdeltalink036
      @pcdeltalink036 Місяць тому +2

      I consider Phil 1:6 my life verse because it is a reminder that no matter how much I screw up he is still working and he will keep working on me.

    • @arjanhassing6345
      @arjanhassing6345 Місяць тому

      Did you all see and know that we are the generation that SHALL see His second coming?
      In fact within maximum 5 years....probably even THIS year?!
      Search...and YOU SHALL SEE.
      The day that the land/nation shall be born in a day THAT generation shall NOT pass away till all things SHALL be fulfilled.
      Israel was born in a day in 1948.
      A generation is 70 years or 80 years if it is an strong generation according to the psalms.
      1948+70=2018.
      1948+80=2028.
      So let's say...maximum 5 years is allready beyond biblical scriptural calculation.
      Look up,y/our redemption is getting really really really nigh...
      ✝️📖🙏🕊🫂❤️

  • @lovely-gui452
    @lovely-gui452 Місяць тому +3

    There is no coincidence with God. As I finish saying ‘God to be honest I hate myself in my heart’ this video is the first thing that pops up once I open UA-cam. I’m still struggling but I will give to it God cuz I’m exhausted from my not being to let go and forgive myself for my past!

  • @IdiOtt-uv8oq
    @IdiOtt-uv8oq 2 місяці тому +32

    Damn from an angry swearing sneako and andrew tate fan to a devout Christian. Respect bro!

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому +17

      It’s crazy that God was so patient with me all that time. Appreciate it man God bless

    • @IdiOtt-uv8oq
      @IdiOtt-uv8oq 2 місяці тому

      @@Orlando-Kang Hey, ik this is offtopic but can u make a video about how to manage suppressed emotions as a Christian? I have these deep rooted anger issues but for years I have suppressed it in order to not get punished by my family. I wonder if as a christian I should be letting out my anger onto others in order to get it out of my chest or I should remain to suppress it in order to be a good christian. What are your thoughts?

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому +13

      Hey man, I’ll pray and think about making a video as my thoughts get more fleshed out on this but I’ll share with you my initial thoughts, although take ‘em with a grain of salt. Firstly, I’m sorry that your family put you in an environment that caused you to suppress emotions, that’s gotta be really frustrating.
      The first option is rough because it definitely feels good, but we put unnecessary burden on and anger on people that don’t deserve it, and even if they do, God called us to love others and forgive right?
      The second option of suppression is unfair to you. Why should you have to bottle emotions down and hide that part of yourself because other people treated you bad? And also suppression in general can cause us to have the emotions come out in subconscious ways we cannot control.
      I remember I was pretty wrapped up in anger and cynicism, and I tried to hide them because I thought a good Christian wouldn’t feel that way. And Gold told me that he was my father, and that he was there for me. So I let it out on God in a sense. I shared my anger with people the world and God too (even though obviously I was wrong) and he forgave me because he’s infinitely loving and because I was vulnerable with him he was able to shape my heart so the emotions would dissipate and there was nothing to suppress anymore. It’s kind of like Jacob wrestling with the angel. Sometimes in our frustration you need to wrestle with God and LOSE, and as you lose he shapes you and changes the root of your heart. I hope that makes sense?

    • @IdiOtt-uv8oq
      @IdiOtt-uv8oq 2 місяці тому

      @@Orlando-Kang Yeah, that helps a ton bro. Although I still struggle with this, I will keep your comment in mind. Thanks man! If there r other solutions to this, lmk or make a video bout it, I will def watch it

  • @natalywoodman3504
    @natalywoodman3504 Місяць тому +4

    Self Hatred has crippled me and unfortunately my relationship with Jesus. I pray that I overcome this, this has been the biggest thing that I have been struggling with. It’s hard for me to personally accept God’s unconditional love. I had to finally admit to myself, I choose to believe the lies of the enemy instead of God‘s truth, and what he says about me. Realizing that I’m so prideful and feeling ashamed of that, keeps me in this awful cycle. Lord Jesus, I want to believe; Help my unbelief!
    Anyone here, Pray for me if you will
    Thank you for your video it brought me to tears

  • @betty5799
    @betty5799 2 місяці тому +7

    You can hate the sin, and not the sinner. Thank You so much for sharing

  • @AliciaLovesYAHUSHA
    @AliciaLovesYAHUSHA Місяць тому +1

    I praise YAHUAH for using you as His servant to share this message. It had me weeping. 😭 It shifted my perspective. Thank you, YAH. And thank you, brother, for the video. ❤

  • @trashaccount4357
    @trashaccount4357 2 місяці тому +6

    This came up in the suggestions when I was having a hard time with it, thank you for putting this out there

  • @amahlendlovu9992
    @amahlendlovu9992 Місяць тому +1

    Amen! Thank you so much for sharing brother. God is too good. When I initially received Jesus Christ as my Lord, I was saved from depression, self-hatred and unaliving thoughts. Unfortunately those thoughts are trying to creep back in because of my struggles with perfectionism and self righteousness. Again, Thank you so much for sharing brother, this entire video spoke to me

  • @AprilDokubo
    @AprilDokubo Місяць тому +1

    This really spoke to me. Holy Spirit thank you for this.

  • @owenbarber4728
    @owenbarber4728 Місяць тому +2

    Bro i had to pause the video and take a sec when you said this 2:35. Amen brother imma have to wrestle with that one.

  • @AndroxineVortex
    @AndroxineVortex Місяць тому +2

    Thank you so much for this. I've lived for so long with constant anxiety and falling into seriously dark and deep depressions to the point where I question if it's even possible for God to love me and if I should just end myself.
    I'm starting to trust God and believe His words that He's for me and not against me.
    I am so weak and all I have is a mustard seed sized faith, but Jesus says that's enough.
    If you are struggling with self hatred and having dark thoughts, please get good biblical counseling. God is greater than your fear and depression! Trust in the name of Jesus. Peace be with you

  • @McT-ge8sc
    @McT-ge8sc 2 місяці тому +3

    What you’re doing is amazing Man, always get something out of these videos God Bless 🙏
    Noticed blame game at the end too lol

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому

      Appreciate it man and yeah it’s the original piano song blame game sampled lol. God bless

  • @vioinigracia7
    @vioinigracia7 2 місяці тому +4

    hey, I somehow found your channel and your contents are so relatable to me. please keep making these videos 🥹 God bless you!

  • @dawnlauwrens3983
    @dawnlauwrens3983 Місяць тому

    I am a Christian lady from South Africa 🇿🇦 and I struggle so badly with self hatred, but my logic and and belief in God tells me how can I hate the creation that a perfect God created? But convincing myself to not hate myself is another story...thank you for this video...I am grateful that I am not alone.
    Pride/self hatred=sin
    How can we overcome this sin?
    By surrendering our sin and overcoming it through Jesus Christ.
    Glory to God...Amen🙏🙌

  • @Angie31646
    @Angie31646 Місяць тому

    I resonate with this video deeply, I have dealt with self hatred for 30 years, I truly truly appreciate this message, May God Bless You 🙌 as you Bless others 😊

  • @ayneedels7749
    @ayneedels7749 Місяць тому +1

    Many Alaskan native youths could do well to hear this from you. The village youth have the highest suicide rate in the country. It’s a very spiritually dark place. Id like to encourage you to fly out for just a week mission trip. God could work powerfully through you up here.

  • @cleofeq
    @cleofeq Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing this dear brother.. self hatred is pride, thinking I know myself better than God knows me.

  • @jayepi189
    @jayepi189 2 місяці тому +2

    God has blessed me through you Dan, I'm so surprised by the insights He's giving through you. Thank you for being a vessel for His glory brother, let's trust in Him and wait patiently ✝️🐑🕊️

  • @zaad5273
    @zaad5273 Місяць тому +1

    Subbed after watching. Please keep doing what you're doing. God bless!

  • @gmac8586
    @gmac8586 28 днів тому

    Canuck! I saw the Canadian flag in your neighbour's yard. What a relief to hear you talk b/c there aren't too many Christians here in Canada - at least where I am.

  • @multiversal_clown
    @multiversal_clown 2 місяці тому +2

    Keep up the fantastic work man, I’m sure God is proud ✝️

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому

      Thank you that means a lot God bless

  • @kevinerose
    @kevinerose 27 днів тому

    For many of us it has taken much longer for us to understand these things. But you have it right, we are all made in the image of God. We must always understand that. Good teaching here brother.

  • @lietnguyen8605
    @lietnguyen8605 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much Orlando. Today is my good day I find out your UA-cam, because I struggle about reading Gospel, I don’t know where to begin.thank you so much.

  • @KelsthelightPretorius
    @KelsthelightPretorius 20 днів тому

    On a saterday i was reading about how god loves us so much ❤
    He truly appreciate our design

  • @blessedone1631
    @blessedone1631 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much. It definitely helps me. Not hate myself but hate my sins

  • @sarahmacrae25
    @sarahmacrae25 Місяць тому +1

    I am being blessed by your videos. Keep going! God is definitely using you to show people his heart of love for them and I can really relate to your messages. Asking God what he cherishes in each person we meet is a great idea to stop any judging. I have also concluded that negative self image is prideful. God explained to me recently that I would find it very offensive if someone ripped up a photo (image) of my loved one, so He is also deeply hurt when we tear ourselves down as we are made in his image.

  • @Moonstonn
    @Moonstonn Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for sharing this. The root of who I am, or certain aspects of me, isn't evil but its how I chose to use it outside His direction. God bless you!!

  • @lazse5896
    @lazse5896 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you this message is helping the people of God who needed this. 💐

  • @sweetalice4346
    @sweetalice4346 Місяць тому

    You have made me understand how God loves us. Thank you so much! God bless you☺

  • @johnp7739
    @johnp7739 29 днів тому

    Good video and you're spot on about self-hatred and self-pity being form of pride. I also heard someone say narcissism and self-loathing were very similar and people could toggle from one to the other very quickly. You see this a lot with social media. "I'm great! I'm popular! People like me!....quickly becomes "People are ingorning me...they like thi person more," etc.

  • @Christinettvo
    @Christinettvo Місяць тому

    You are so anointed and your love for God is so evident.

  • @diiamnds
    @diiamnds Місяць тому +1

    Goodness, I love this🙏🥲

  • @Lovetob
    @Lovetob Місяць тому

    1:13 hits me hard. Praise the Lord 🙏🏻❤

  • @Jt2REAL1
    @Jt2REAL1 Місяць тому

    That first scripture I thought how can we say we love God and hate ourselves but we’re made in His image 🤯 time to go a better way

  • @KelsthelightPretorius
    @KelsthelightPretorius 20 днів тому

    Beeen feeling this way alot.
    Sometimes i dont remember the goodness and his creative heart .
    I am made wonderfully and so beautiful.
    Its hard because this world has so much opinions on how women should be.
    But god is a such a amazing god.
    To use my vessel ❤
    I want to live fully for him
    My past is to broken and messy .
    But realise he chose me to live for him ❤

  • @mediummoo7376
    @mediummoo7376 Місяць тому

    Hey man loving these videos, just how simple, down to earth, and short and sweet with the touch of creativity thrown in is inspiring. Not to mention how uplifting the words that you have to speak are. I haven't been having much community or conversation within the church recently and watching these videos I know is no substitute but really helps me feel less alone in the struggles on my walk of faith and you inspire me to chase after God and read scripture more. Thank you!

  • @hdp007
    @hdp007 16 днів тому

    Orlando, you are really gifted at sharing these Words, thank you for your work in making these videos, I know it’s not easy.

  • @angelinaoliver1587
    @angelinaoliver1587 Місяць тому

    Your authenticity is refreshing. Thank you for listening to God's call on your life, these videos are a real blessing.

  • @tab207
    @tab207 Місяць тому

    I always come back to feeling like I’m Esau

  • @InChristIDelight
    @InChristIDelight 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you so much for making the videos God called you to make. The devil is a liar but YAHWEH IS GOOD

  • @user-qj4mw8de4r
    @user-qj4mw8de4r 2 місяці тому +1

    What a word! Gid bless

  • @GodisInYourJobSearch
    @GodisInYourJobSearch Місяць тому

    Wow. Needed this. Thank u! Great channel. God is really moving through you brother.

  • @Perspective13
    @Perspective13 Місяць тому

    So grateful to have found your channel!

  • @willie8229
    @willie8229 Місяць тому

    You have a lot of wisdom that Holy Spirit has revealed to you at your age...keep doing what you're doing! Be blessed. Jeremiah 1:6-8

  • @nmyolivas
    @nmyolivas Місяць тому

    So awesome! God is so Good! He is love!

  • @donprovolone1425
    @donprovolone1425 Місяць тому +1

    You smoke pipe? Unrelated but I thought I saw one lol defo needed this video today. I appreciate what you're doing 🤙🤙❤️❤️☦️☦️

  • @TheQuest4Peace
    @TheQuest4Peace Місяць тому

    Thank you lord for sending me this message.

  • @sullecram1498
    @sullecram1498 Місяць тому

    Hating yourself Is a prideful thing !

  • @bigirishlady
    @bigirishlady Місяць тому

    Thank you. I’ve needed this teaching my whole life. ❤️

  • @AChristianWomansJourney
    @AChristianWomansJourney Місяць тому

    Amen! Praise God! An image bearer!!!

  • @melkadis
    @melkadis Місяць тому

    We all need this

  • @joeshecook5148
    @joeshecook5148 2 місяці тому +1

    That's a beautiful message thank you❤❤❤❤❤

  • @amy52347
    @amy52347 28 днів тому

    May God bless you! Thank you for the messages you are sharing in your videos. I just subscribed today.

  • @steelveal7
    @steelveal7 2 місяці тому

    Ooooh praise God! Ty for sharing what He’s brought you an understanding of!

  • @katyst-cyr3107
    @katyst-cyr3107 Місяць тому

    Love your authenticity and courage 👍🙏🏼

  • @michellem756
    @michellem756 Місяць тому

    I thank God for your message.

  • @caitlinb4077
    @caitlinb4077 Місяць тому

    Really beautiful. Thank you!

  • @andrewwyatt8016
    @andrewwyatt8016 Місяць тому

    Dude, keep these up!

  • @oaklandsoldier8520
    @oaklandsoldier8520 Місяць тому

    I struggle with self hate and acceptance because as a man living in this world, it feels like im not good enough, handsome enough or tall enough for anything.

    • @gmac8586
      @gmac8586 28 днів тому

      1 Samuel16:7 for men. 1 Peter 3:3-4 for women. We are a new creation in Christ, he will finish the good thing he started in you. Phil 1:6.

  • @lauriegahagan2859
    @lauriegahagan2859 Місяць тому

    Yes I do this! You can't lie to God.

  • @hannahg6052
    @hannahg6052 2 місяці тому

    soooo good. thanks for the video!

  • @fullsunoo
    @fullsunoo Місяць тому

    amen... thank you brother.

  • @denabatt
    @denabatt Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing this. ❤🇨🇦

  • @sadgilouis2092
    @sadgilouis2092 Місяць тому

    🔥🔥🔥 powerful word

  • @kyleegarcia5569
    @kyleegarcia5569 Місяць тому

    This is profound!

  • @kaymojil7669
    @kaymojil7669 Місяць тому

    (The transition tunes are real nostalgic)

  • @sw00t_yprd79
    @sw00t_yprd79 Місяць тому

    Glory be to God

  • @rachelhayhurst-mason7846
    @rachelhayhurst-mason7846 Місяць тому

    Praise God 🤗

  • @NateLefebvre-co8ud
    @NateLefebvre-co8ud 2 місяці тому

    Great video

  • @sumanhenehan7036
    @sumanhenehan7036 Місяць тому

    I believe that the Holy Spirit of the LORD Most High is inspiring you in creating your videos. I pray millions and millions of people will watch and be inspired by them.

  • @kaymojil7669
    @kaymojil7669 Місяць тому

    Amen!!!!

  • @davidskolik5303
    @davidskolik5303 Місяць тому +1

    Maybe a lot of the self-hatred stems from your beliefs. You will always be damaged in his eyes. Being commanded to love him, lest you want eternal torture. With a friend like that, who needs enemies.

    • @gmac8586
      @gmac8586 28 днів тому

      "You will always be damaged in his eyes." That is a lie. If you believe this, you don't know scripture. Isaiah 44:22, 2 Cor 5:17, Rev21:5. If you think you're perfect, good luck in convincing yourself. You can't hide from yourself forever. 1 John 1:8-9. Just look at the world! If you believe it's good and headed in the right direction, then go for it. When I look at the sad state of the world, it just proves to me even more that the Bible is Truth. We are commanded to love God for our own good. Being without God is torture, but we put ourselves there, not God. He gives us free will and respects our choice us if we reject him. Rejecting him is rejecting everything good and life itself. That's hell. We cannot be with a Holy God without being born again. That's why Jesus came. John 3:16.

  • @inspiringsimple
    @inspiringsimple Місяць тому

    How do I forgive my parents? How do I love them? I do I get over the pain and sadness?

  • @KelsthelightPretorius
    @KelsthelightPretorius Місяць тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @BrambleJam
    @BrambleJam Місяць тому

    What makes this more difficult for some, like me, is when we feel this way from having neuro divergent brains like from autism and other mental disorders.
    How do we overcome something that inherently makes me damaged goods?

    • @gmac8586
      @gmac8586 28 днів тому

      Stop judging yourself by the world's standards.

  • @veronicaarias211
    @veronicaarias211 Місяць тому

    把它貼在你認識的河流上

  • @logia7
    @logia7 2 місяці тому +1

    So, the message is to hate the sin?

    • @Orlando-Kang
      @Orlando-Kang  2 місяці тому +5

      Definitely a big part of it

    • @logia7
      @logia7 2 місяці тому

      @@Orlando-Kang Thanks, very inspring video! I subscribed

  • @c4mailmanpb
    @c4mailmanpb Місяць тому

    Let me tell you something. You are wise beyond your years young man. I love your videos because of your honesty and your wisdom. Don’t stop.

  • @andreina9469
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