The SECRETS OF ATTACHMENT 😲❤️: Discover Your Attachment Style & Understand Why You Do What You Do
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Ahhh… attachment Styles! If you are someone that is looking to understand why you do the things you do, then I can promise you friend, your attachment style is a BIG part of that.
Do you have a hard time deciphering your patterns in life and relationships? Do you feel clingy? Or maybe like you're constantly on a rollercoaster of emotions? Or maybe you'd actually prefer to be alone 90% of the time?... All linked to your primary attachment style, my friend... and potentially some trauma you've dealt with along the way.
In this video, I will help you understand attachment theory, first developed by John Bowlby. And I will help you discover your attachment style and walk you through the effect your attachment style has on your relationships and in life in general (Hint: IT'S HUGE lol).
I will walk you through not only the characteristics and patterns of each attachment style, but also an explanation of why/how you may have developed it. And I promise you (again).. my experience has been that once you hear each of the four attachment styles, it won't take long before one resonates HEAVILY with you.
The Four Attachment Styles are:
- Secure Attachment Style
- Anxious Attachment Style
- Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
- Fearful avoidant Attachment Style (Also known as the Disorganized attachment style)
This is a deep one friend! And I've been wanting to share this for a while! This is a guide to Discover Your Attachment Style - Attachment Styles Explained 😊. I hope it impacts you as much as it has me ♥️
So are you ready to discover your attachment style and understand why you do the things you do? Let's dive in! ♥️
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0:00 What is Attachment Theory? / Attachment Styles Explained
4:02 Secure Attachment Style
6:11 Anxious Attachment Style
11:00 Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
16:54 Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
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Sending you SOO much love! 😍
Nae ♥️
You are back!!! 🥰
Heyyy my Facu!!! Yeesss!!! 😍 😍 😍 😍 I hope you enjoy!!!
Thank you for speaking about compassion for self and parents/caregivers. We're all wounded and growing and our parents are people too. LOVE this topic. I just figured out recently that I am a dismissive avoidant attachment style with friends. It's wild how I really care about people but I can't handle when others are possessive of me, try to control me, or I feel like I'm in too deep and can't get out. More on friendships PLEASE!!
Yesss!!! Omgness I love this comment Susan, thank you!!! And man I LOVEE the topic of attachment styles too! 😍😍♥️🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 and wow absolutely love the idea to make a video on friendships! I absolutely will!! There are SOOO many links to friendships and our attachment style!! I would be curious to know if you’re also dismissive in your romantic relationships too? I can hear a sense of feeling “trapped” in your comment, I’m not sure if that resonates?
I think something that could help with this - that I’m learning right along with you! - is setting proper boundaries as well. Sometimes dismissive avoidants can be REALLYY good at setting LARGE, solid boundaries but not so much the smaller ones - for instance if say you had a longer day and a friend wants to spend time with you, it can be easier to say a solid “no sorry not today” which is a strong boundary VS something like “sure, I had a bit of a long day but you’re okay to hang low for the night - watch a calm movie and order in, I’d be up for that 😊”
Both are boundaries - but one is keeping people out completely while the other is allowing people in while giving yourself the respect and space you need (Always remembering to check in with yourself to see what, if anything, you indeed can handle). Hopefully that makes sense! 😄💕 and such a GREAT video topic! I’ll definitely make one on this!
I am anxious and fearful
I have anxious attachment style for sure. I have severe abandonment issues from being adopted at the age of nine months. My parents and I finally got to a wonderful place where I feel loved and supported (I always was) but I felt I didn’t because of the rejection of my birth parents.
Wow .. watched this while at work, cried my eyes out - told my client I have puffy eyes because of hay fever lol
Aawww my Dewina!! I so get it!! Which one resonated with you the most?
@Nae's Laugh I would say the last one. When you said mm mm mmmm mmm mmm mmm mmm mmm mmm mmm, I was right there - nodding it out
How do I fix this?
Learning about attachment styles is not just about relationships but it really does impact so many areas of our lives - from work to friends to family to dreams. Even to things like, why do we deal with perfectionism or self sabotage. It's all linked more than you would know :). And personally, learning about it has really skyrocketed my self discovery and growth journey SO much. 🥰
Have you heard of attachment styles before this video? What are your thoughts on it?
No, I haven't heard anything about attachment styles before. 😕 Thanks to you, I can learn more about it.
On how I can change my attachment style for the better. 😊
Oh yesss!!! Don’t worry Lisa, I hadn’t heard anything about it either until about a year ago! So no worries at all ☺️☺️ yay for self awareness! Lol. I’m so excited to continue to walk you though it and 1. Help you learn more about yourself but also 2. Discover steps to become more secure! 😍😍🙌🏾🙌🏾 Yayyyyy!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Love your videos and glad you're back!🥰
Aahhh yesss sillytuna!!! First, love your name! 😍😂🙌🏾♥️ and second!! I’m so glad that you’re here! Your comment made me smile!! 😍😍💕🤗 HUGSSS!!!!!! 😍😍😍
Love this video, thank you!
Just finished your guide about values. It helped me a lot. Thank you very much! :)
Aawww yayyy!!!! I’m so happy to hear that Emilia!!! 😍♥️♥️🙌🏾🙌🏾 You’re so welcome! I’d love to hear what you discovered if you’d like to share! 😄😍😍
Loved this video , learnt a lot ,thanks Nae.
Aww I’m so happy to hear that Srila! 😍 you are so so welcome my girl! ♥️♥️🤗
Fearful avoidant video please 🙏 ❤
Aahhh Yessss Maggie!!! I was just thinking of making one too so this is confirmation! I will post here when it’s released! 😍🙌🏾♥️♥️♥️ I will make a few on it - on identifying but also healing. Just know healing and growth IS possible friend!!! ♥️♥️♥️
Not to confess, but I am SO avoidant/dismissive! EVERY statement was me nodding my head yes! I've closed myself off completely from giving/receiving love! Gosh, it never dawned on me that when people ask me personal questions, I shut it down-sharply!!! I say things like: "oh, we're not talking bout me right now ." Or I'll flip it back on them! Deep down, I yearn to love, & be loved. I guess that's the Capricorn in me-!♑️😔🙅🏾
Oooooo Pockahantiss!!! Missed you friend!!! 😍😍♥️♥️💕💕🙌🏾🙌🏾 thank you for being so HONEST!!! I loveeedddd this!!! Seriously, recognition and awareness is the FIRST step!!! Friend that was 100% me too, nodding at everything the first time I heard about the fearful avoidant type lolll… so you are not alone. But yesss girl! SOOOOO many dismissive types really LONG for love but have a hard time expressing it because they 1. Don’t know how 2. Don’t think it would ever be met… so for example, when someone asks about you - you don’t not answer because deep down you don’t want to be seen or known … but a part of you probably feels like if I tell them this and they don’t care or react the way I would need them to (like they actually care) that would hurt even MOREEE so I’d rather not even try…. The thing about this girl.. and I think I mentioned this in my vulnerability video as well… is that sometimes people will not handle our personal stories well… they may very well be like “oh really?… cool” and jump back to them… but that does NOT mean that you aren’t worthy of being heard, and seen, and VOCALIZING it again next time it comes around. Because someone doesn’t give you space doesn’t mean you’re any less worthy of taking up space… does that make sense? It’s something I would encourage you to digest and really meditate on. That you are worthy of taking up space… good space… just as much as the people are that you are holding space for. ♥️💕💕💕💕. It’s something I say to myself as well my girl! But just yea… for leaning dismissive and being willing to type this comment and be so vulnerable you are ABSOLUTELYYYY on the right track my friend!!! And I can’t WAIT to see to your journey going forward!!! 😍♥️💕🙌🏾 Sending you so much love!!!
@@NaesLaugh Hey Nae’. I needed to read this message! Thanks for taking the time to acknowledge me this morning. It’s tough. After what happened Friday-, women’s rights… well…. Anyway, thanks for the reply.
You are so welcome my friend!!! I’m sending you soooo much love!!! More than you know ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I resonated with everything you just wrote and noticed you are a Capricorn just like me. We just want to love and be love ❤️
Me too
I am an avoidance/ dismissive type all the way 😭 I am trying to do better with my youngest as he is more sensitive than my older son. I would like to see more videos on this topic type. Thank you. New subscriber
i liked this video a lot. i would be interested to hear your thoughts on separation anxiety and how it manifests in relationships
Oohhh I’m so happy to hear that Diana!!!!! 😍😍♥️
But that’s such a good question! I think it definitely varies depending on which type you most relate with… Now separation from a loved one isn’t easy for ANYONE! But it may typically affect a type that leans more on the anxious side a bit stronger bc this type can learn to heavily rely on others to help soothe their emotions, provide for their needs as well as provide comfort. It can show up in ways like reaching out various times or having a hard time coping with emotions when not able to get in contact. Now I talk a lot about needing things from other people and that’s because we absolutely DO! 😍♥️. But typically the anxious type doesn’t have too many issues with this… what they do have more issues with is getting those same needs met .. by themselves sometimes too. I’ll definitely talk on this more but that’s what I would recommend you think on… what needs are / were you getting met in your relationship that are not present because of the separation - comfort? Attention? Validation? Security?… is there any way you could provide this security for yourself? Any way you can learn to validate yourself? Give yourself attention or comfort?…. It’s definitely not easy for sure especially if you’re not used to focusing on you but it’s just something to think about that may help ♥️♥️
Fearful Avoidant style videos please
Happy to see you again. I can you tell you this I believe that I was in the last attachment style when I was a kid. Please do some videos on this subject. Thanks! 🙂
Hiii Lisa!!!!! 🤗🤗 I love your self awareness! 😄 Would you say you have the same or similar attachment now? Or have you become more secure throughout the years?
@@NaesLaugh Hi, Nae! 🙂 Yes, I do believe that I'm more aware of it now than I was in the past.
Oohhh that’s awesome Lisa!!! Self reflection and awareness is so keyyyyy to the healing process!!! A lot of healing also stems from converting the common thoughts I spoke about in that section - I am misunderstood, I am unseen, I am unsafe (emotionally), I am rejected, I am defective - and trying to find truth in the oppositee of that thing, if that makes sense… finding areas in your life where you are accepted, or thinking about a person you do or have felt really safe with, even if just for a short time. When you bring these things to memory and remember that you’ve done it before it’ll help you to see that it issss possible for you because you’ve done and felt the opposite. That you’re not subjected to be that way forever… and that if it was possible before, it can be possible again…♥️ Just one of many ways to go about healing but I’m so proud of you as someone who resonates with a DA to be so self aware and acknowledge that. That’s really huge! 😍♥️♥️ I’ll definitely do more on this for you!
So how do I fix this. The last attachment type
Hey where did u disappear 🥺