“Our extreme sport is staying alive.” Got tears rushed to my eyes. - Autism & bipolar disorder for decades now. Thank you for this, self help can be so degrading sometimes, forcing people like me into a position of forcing remission. It’s about maintenance despite the weeds ready to grow back.
Same conditions and same sentiment - our inner dialogue, most especially in critical moments of inflammation, cannot be made into reality by our own sadness or some random desire to run and change it all. Grounding ourselves with other lovelies, healthy routines, and an innate desire to fight on for our curiosity and joy and contentment is what helps me traverse the bumps. I wish for this upon anyone struggling with their brain. Solidarity ❤
Today I put the Christmas tree up, washed the bed sheets and made dinner for myself and my partner. It was very tiring but it fulfilled me immensely. I'm 32 and saw my life turning out very differently, as most of us do. Thank you for this kind video. It makes me feel human again.
Good to hear it pal and this channel is a lot more useful and cheaper than psychologists and anti depressants…….will we have a great Christmas or what! Kind regards from Ireland….
No one really cares. Mental illness or not. The thing of it is, you care about what others think. There's a book out there about not giving a F. When you've learned that, you become less needy and less of a burden on others.
Empathy comes from knowing the pain the others have been through. You feel it in your bones when someone cares and fully loves you. Sympathy is where they feel bad, but from a distance. I appreciate both but I really just want a hug
I think when we expect people to be empathetic, we subconsciously give them a lot of power over us. Like you said, people think they are so empathetic, when in fact, they are simply just self righteous and, for the lack of better words, downright fake. That's why, in MY humble opinion, we absolutely have to train ourselves to only expect empathy and love from ourselves, no one else, in order to set ourselves up for disappointments and heartbreaks, which would then lead us to a spiral and end up with multiple episodes.
@@alexshaw3760Appreciate your comment😊. @The School of Life an exquisitely wise, often humorous and consistently humanitarian platform. Allowing us to connect & support one another.🤗
Brilliant video. 45 now and I am only just coming to terms with the fact the depression isn't just going to magically disappear one day. Sending love to you all.
39 same practice gratitude everyday like it’s a skill or new behavior in even in the smallest things in life. Also been sober from alcohol for 7 months good luck to you now and in the future
0:54 - Adopt a certain mindset 1:32 - Celebrate small wins 2:21 - Seek out the right people 3:29 - Care / remain vigilant to the likelihood of relapse Thanks for this video.
@ Gotcha. I’ve been struggling with hearing voices for years and I have kept my job the whole time but it’s an immense struggle sometimes. I’ve never got officially diagnosed for it though.
"We need to become the kind of people who can say, without bitterness or irony, 'Wednesday went well,' and recognize that as a serious accomplishment." This is one of the hardest things for me, but, gosh, I love it when I can pat myself on the back for doing just alright-for simply surviving the day without trying to do more than I can. Thanks for the video, and thanks for the community you're creating. I love you all, people of the comments. ❤
It’s a daily struggle. It’s like fighting twice as hard just to do what normal people do (work regularly, have energy, thinking clearly). Sucks bro. Depression is ass
I didn't get diagnosed with depression, I got diagnosed with a couple other disorders, but On God. I'm almost always veering between hope and despair. Others _seem_ to do it all easily, and seem to expect the same of me, when I feel like I have to put in tons of work just to get where they seem to be. It's tough not to be hard on myself when I constantly have the feeling that it's literally expected of me. It's just... tough. I often think of a line from a tv show I like, "Will I get the fixes I need? Will I be someone? Will I get the fixes I need to be someone?" I logically know everyone's got issues. And yet I don't really feel it in moments of hopelessness. Feels exhausting to strain with effort all the time simply to live.
That's something we all share, at least. It feels like people can talk to each other and treat each other however they please, but when we try to navigate a relationship, people act like we're breaking a million rules that only applies to us. Hard to feel like a part of a group or a trusted relationship when that keeps happening.
I said that this to my therapist lately. I am exhausted. It's been more than 14 years. My cPTSD and depression don't leave me. To top it all, pathological narcissists find me.
Oh boo hoo you want a pity party? Instead of feeling sorry for yourself how about you just ask yourself "What am I supposed to learn from this?" You don't need to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.
Suffering from severe OCD , it's not a quirk or personality type, it is one of the most disabling conditions in which the person is stuck in endless nightmare of their worst fear.
Sorry you have to go through that, I know a lot about the cycle and it’s really unbearable. I agree with you, and quite honestly, I don’t like that “neurodivergent” comes up because it puts all of this on the same level and makes it into a personality type. I hope that changes.
@@UlasMT Continuous 24X7 thoughts about worst fears that can come true. Thoughts that are so intrusive you just want to solve them and avoid anything else ( Esentially avoiding life ) . Compulsions that will take whole day and OCD is frequently associated with depression which makes the thing even worse. OCD theme change as your worst fear change , anything you value in life is a target for OCD
@@playstore7882 Wow, that sounds pretty intense and like a daily struggle indeed. I think daily about losing my loved one on a daily base (I can't escape this thought for some reason), and I also think worst case scenario's if something goes out of plan, does this sound familiar to you?
Been struggling with mental illness my whole life that I often feel like it’s never going to get better. Accepting that this is something that’s not gonna just go away and I may have to live with for the rest of my life wasn’t easy. But in a way this has been somewhat freeing as this has taught me to stop blaming myself focus on and appreciate the small wins in my life. It’s also important to have supportive people around me. It’s still a battle, but this reminded me that it’s okay to take it one step at a time.
“Our extreme sport is staying alive”. With the amount of aspirations I have in life, and the degree of those aspirations, I refuse to accept that I need to merely survive in my life. I want to look forward to more than just having an okay day.
Surviving is much tougher than it looks. I've literally almost died twice in my lifetime. If you think surviving isn't enough, you haven't lived enough life yet.
Surviving another day is a victory in itself. Our primitive ancestors never knew whether they would survive the next day. Our brains never evolved to think long term because of this. The brain just *loves* to look for problems. When your survival needs are met, your brain starts to give you psychological and philosophical problems to worry about.
Bully for you that things are going well enough and you have space an energy enough for aspirations. For some of us things aren't going that well, and we don't have the spoons for aspirations. Dreams are just another disappointment in the endless shit pile of existing. Don't discount how much of an accomplishment merely surviving is for some. You may aspire to more, and even be able to achieve more, and good for you, that's great for you. Such things are beyond some others, and poo-pooing the idea is, at best, unhelpful.
You (and i), dear reader, have a chronic condition, whatever it may be called. It is not our fault, and never has been. With support and by keeping life simpler, we CAN make it through and even ENJOY the small things. Don't take on too much, and be extra kind to yourself. This is what 52 years of these challenges have taught me. I love you! ❤
I wish this told us how to accept that our lives are just always going to be more painful and less joyful than others’, and that we need live more but are less likely to find it. THOSE are the struggles of my life as a middle aged person who’s been mentally ill since early childhood. I’ve accepted my limits, but the injustice of it all is what haunts me.
It makes me sad to look back and see how long I have been struggling but I am also grateful that I can empathize with those who are too. It has been a weird journey, but in a way I wouldn’t change it. The dark times can be very dark, but it has made me appreciate the beautiful times as well. The people who have stuck by me, I am forever grateful for. Don’t feel shame, we aren’t alone. Try to find beauty in the mundane.
I’m feeling so alone this morning, thank you for this wonderful video and comment section for reminding me that it’s not true. So many of us carry this 💔
Depression gripped me at 15 years old. It finally let go completely at 55. 40 years is a long time BUT IT DOES END. Stay in the battle. Knowing I've won (read: survived) is a magnificent feeling. I had no idea if i would eventually come out on the other side or not, but i did. Im not special. Your victory is up the road. You can absolutely make it. Please try. Please try. Honestly, every day you survive is a day you've won. Please keep winning. Dont let how you feel win. It doesnt deserve to win. YOU DO!
Today I picked up around my apartment, make sure the dishes were done, and cleaned the bathtub. I used more weed than I wanted to, and went to bed later than I wanted to, but I believe that if I keep trying, one day I will be better at these things. I accept that I am alone, and that it would likely be a disaster if I were to involve myself with someone else. I accept that my family doesn't understand my experience, and they have no obligation to. I pray for the sun and welcome to the moon.
Serious, this is like my condition right now....and too much people like us are living this kind of situation....i live this type of depression several times in my life....i face off, and now i'm alive, but this tipe of disease are like cycle..it never end...but in the end we are not alone, and we struggle everyday to stay alive, and to find a better way❤
Another dimension to this is the systemic/societal/governmental failure to provide better support for people with chronic mental illness. We need more resources, social safety nets and research!
Being physically ill on top of mentally ill is peak hell. Nobody knows the struggles and we're supposed to be normal, live normal, have the same capacity and tolerance to stress, and live the same lives as healthy people. Life is really rough and my health can't take it anymore.
My husband and his friends like to push their fitness 💪 by climbing mountains or walking aross the Spanish Alps ....or 😮? I have no need to prove my endurance, in travelling outside my own challenges Physical pain or emotional or both at the same time Endurance found in simple achievement . Putting washing on the line without having to wait hours until I can move is a win 😊
I love this. It may me cry. My only query would be "other, more robust people". I believe I am ever more robust than my previous levels of robustness with each passing moment of "staying alive", and that comparison with others is never helpful. Thank you for this video.
Somehow TsoL always releases videos that help to address my current challenges... I have several disorders on the go all the time: ocd, ptsd, gad. I feel abnormal all the time and it's exhausting having to hide your illnesses from the world so they won't judge you. This helps me to realise I'm not alone. And small wins are still wins. Thank you x
I cried last night until I Fell asleep, thinking everybody would be better without me, sometimes i feel so tired of trying. However today i woke up and made some exercise, I'm still sad, but i keep going. Thanks for the video, it made me feel less lonely
It's so nice to have found someone who really gets it. Thank you so much for this truthful, understanding & encouraging video. I was 14 when i started getting severe bouts of depressoon, anxiety & panic attacks but i became aware that i was desperatty inhappy at the age of 7 - i didn't understand what the hell was happening to me & it appeared no one could help me - i felt totally & utterly alone & have felt that for most of my life as i searched for meaning & causes & having been through lots of different therapy. Looking back i can see it's a combination of things perpetrated by a dysfunctional, violent & traumatic family life, further perpetuated by marrying out of one such situation & unwittingly into another. Accepting that bouts of deep depression, along witb other accompanying symptoms & resultant auto-immune conditions wi be part of my life & probably won't ever leave me is kind of freeing as i can put my energy intp buding up a tool box to help me cope when relapses come, & it has also helped me to appreciate the simpler things in life & to see the beauty in it.
Finally someone who doesn’t say that “things will get better” and who understands mental health issues well enough to acknowledge that it is chronic. From someone who has been feeling an indescribable sadness all their life due to schizotypal personality disorder: Thank you for this video
Oh, how I thank you for this video. Dystimia, complex trauma, generalized anxiety, just some of my diagnosis. In and out of therapy since fifteen. Now, sixty one years old, I am exhausted! I have been seeing my most recent therapist for about a year. And of late, I have been feeling - enough! Enough with the root causes, working on my issues and processing. There is no "fixing" this. I'm grateful for some of the tools I have learned that make it easier to be in my own skin. However, I now want to just be.
First of all, thank you for presenting deeper looks into these topics. We need more discussions on what to do when you just honestly cannot leave your difficult life position, but still want to fight, feel better and even make a difference. Each and every one person's bravery whilst fighting mental health issues, is hugely inspirational to me and so many other people. As humans, we have the unique ability to support and encourage overselves, even strangers across the whole world. The honest, shared care for one another's plight is one of our very best abilities, if not the very best one. Been thinking lately about some of the ideas mentioned in this video.. Have completely stopped pretending that if I were exceptionally rich, attractive, had great family etc. that I would somehow automatically still be able to be a emphatetic, virtuous person who's caring for others. No, while it could happen, the chances are high that I would live to 'make the most of my situation', in other words, I would enjoy my easy life and only ever have a surface level, detached understanding about what might possibly be happening to others, let alone spending much time and effort trying to actually help. And I came to realize, that 'easy life situation' is - however sweet - a state of ignorance about human condition. For our capacity for joy is not even on the same scale as capacity for psychological suffering, as anyone who's experienced both knows. And then the big realization kicks in - once you have been through some tough suffering, you cannot (and do not want to) go back to the dreams of the sweet ignorance of an easy life.. no, instead you develop a deep empathy for human condition (one of two strongest feelings I have personally experienced in my life) and can say with conviction - 'This is life as a human. So much suffering around, some of which I am intimate with but also fully realize that many others have it even much worse. I accept this life, this understanding of human condition and will work to help both myself and others to lessen the pain in the world as that is a goal truly worth fighting for'. Another big point to keep in our minds - don't let anyone (including - and perhaps especially - the critical voice in our head) try to form your sense of self-value based on things that that you truly have no control over. We don't need (to respect) anyone who judges you for what is out of your control to influence. Only ever accept (and even then, don't rely on it!) praise for effort/work that you have actually done.
"...the challenge of staying alive." Bingo. I'm 76 (been at this since the age of 7) - I have it all figured out...putting that knowledge into practice is the real challenge. Imprinted programs from childhood are horribly difficult to change. My progress and healing have been steady, slow, and continuing. Yet the dysfunctions within me keep resurfacing to do their damage. I may be at the crossroads of better times...or at my end.
One day at a time. At the end of each day, even if it's been awful, just think how strong you've been in getting through it and that you can at least do the same tomorrow. That's how I cope - day by day.
I’m older now and come to terms with my lot. My little life. I’m grateful for the small but intensely lovely things. This year a stray cat found me and after feeding him up and building a relationship with him, I found he does laps. Our house cat never has the patience for laps. This guy though.. so I sit outside whatever the weather under the roof of the workshop, for an hour and he sits in my lap just purring for that whole hour. At certain points he falls into a deep sleep, exhausted by his life. Who saved who? The peace I feel from that hour is just beautiful…❤ god bless my Scraggy cat 🐈
I thought bipolar disorder, autism, adhd, treatment resistant depression, and ptsd were bad. Then I got hammered by a post viral illness called long covid that made them all seem like a stubbed toe. I lost everything. I’m happier than ever despite the crippling symptoms. The school of life is a notable part of the success of this.
Thanks for sharing this I too have had the same experience with this long covid after having the year and a half from hell and mental health problems that stemmed from it. I'm on meds now and will stay on them they've saved me from utter devastation and M.E. I had as part of long covid totally was destroying my life. Big hugs to you. 🦋🙏🙂
Having bipolar disorder, I find the hardest part of this to be the question of where I should draw the outlines of my life. What can I do? How much of it can I do? How much *should* I do? It's ever changing and my expectations of myself need to be adjusted by the week. It's exhausting finding my way back to life every time I hit the wall and I try not to let bitterness chew me up at the thought that this is, in fact, forever and it's the one life I have. It's very, very difficult.
Yeah I feel this. “Am I happy or hypomanic?” is a question that comes up frequently, and quite honestly, it’s discouraging. Why can’t I be happy without it quickly turning into recklessness? Anyways, I understand you, and I really hope we find a way to not have to worry so much about this stuff. I know there are better things we can do
That is sadly extremely true and i had come to these conclusions myself. But it feels good to see a video confirming it. Its a very lonely and challenging road, but happiness can still be achieved if we are gentle with ourselves and we find the right people who understand us around us
Thank you so much for this, I have recently stopped battling and come to accept this is how I'm wired. It means so much listening to the video to feel understood, in a world where I've always felt mis-understood 💜
37 yo and i reallzed this very recently.. so true.. and i couldnt think of a better set of words and image to put it in a vid.. 👏👏 i hope this video reaches lots of people
When I was younger and had some friends they called me a fringe dweller. I told them I walk a narrow path on egg shells and broken glass. And i still am
Mi hermana tuvo una vida insoportable y logró cambiar la situación y hoy es una gran abogada. Ella y mi madre vivían en una ciudad pequeña desde que nació. Siempre causaba problemas, la típica chica problemática, y además fue diagnosticada con TDAH y necesitaba tomar medicamentos para la depresión. Hubo veces que causó tantos problemas que querían matarla, así que tuvieron que salir de la ciudad e ir a una más pequeña (fue cuando nací). Quiza cuidar a un bebé cambió su vida o ya no soportaba ser así, porque después de mudarse lo que escuché fueron los desafíos que enfrentó para cambiar de vida; trabajar desde los 14 años y hacer supletivo para cambiar de vida. Al alcanzar la mayoría de edad, estudió derecho mientras trabajaba y hoy es una de las personas que más respeto. Lo que ella pasó siempre me muestra que puedes superar las dificultades incluso con problemas. Solo imagínate en un futuro después de tus batallas, un lugar de felicidad, ¡siempre resiste!
School of life’s ability to simplify complex ideas in a visually engaging way makes it so helpful.Thank you for sharing such valuable knowledge and for inspiring me to create my own channel.
I went thru two committals half a decade ago. Going thru them was unbearable psychologically - you feel like your personality is changing; physically - you feel dumbed; and emotionally - you feel numb, allegedly due to medication. Now, looking back, however, I understand why people around could not and cannot relate. Just earlier today, I happened to reread my messages to confidants around that period of life and, though I can recall how I felt back then inwardly, the messages sound, at most, like a genuine tantalizing peep for help. No text can reflect the inner change you are going thru during such times. What helped was the certain mindset: bleak humor, pessimism, and compassion inasmuch as to allow oneself to be cynical and skeptical within one’s own self, meaning I was not holding back my mind from expressing itself and, at the same time, I was not pouring it out on other people. This has become a watershed lesson for me: one can think freely whatever one wants and it does not make one a bad person.
This is the first time in years I've watched a School of life video that didn't reinforce how incomparable my life is from everyone else's. For the first time in years they've given advice that isn't completely removed from anything remotely related to my life. Here's hoping this is a trend.
Pain is not something you cure, is simply something you accept, and then it goes on its own.. if we saw others not through our defensive egoism but simply as people who were and still are in some ways children, we would not be dispiriting against life for not being what we want... we would just simply see them as they are, and see the beauty behind it all and be there for them... our own egoism and self-centeredness is what makes us unhappy
This came along on a particularly hard day (so far) and I watched it while sobbing with grief. Over my mental illness and the lives it affects, most of whom are my family, many of whom are my own children. It's so awful to be so self-centeted (not being able to turn away from self "properly") and at the same time, be so terribly concerned about my loved ones under duress while caring for me, or not, I am a real burden. Yesterday I was ok. Today I am not. I don't understand myself and I mourn making plans, any plans. For what will the new day bring? And maybe after a night that didn't separate the two but rather bled into it. One thing is true, so far, even though as they seem to be coming less and less, there's good days and times in there, and I have learned to cling to that awareness because a good moment _will_ roll around again. Those times are what keep some of us going. Try not to forget there is light in the dark, sometimes it takes some patience.
Thank you for making the effort (which it surely must have been) to post this heartfelt comment. I'm sure your children wish they could take on some of your burden (as, indeed, you continue to think of them). I'm also experiencing my umpteenth recurrence, in my case of severe depression, and like you cling to the fact that some days are 'relatively good' and that more will, at some point, happen again. I hope yours will appear very soon. With best wishes from Oxford UK.
Being "gifted" and Asperger's is weird. Sometimes you're a genius, sometimes you're unable to do anything. I only love myself when I'm improving. While that coping mechanism helped gain quality of life when I was comfortable, it makes the lows worse and harder to escape. No need to be harsh against yourself. If you're advancing, it's enough. "Speed" or "efficiency" or "life skills" don't matter. It's the satisfaction of dealing with it that prevents me from ending it all. It's not all pain. Life is not all pain. Promise.
I'm writing this, but I also struggle with hopelessness and generalization during tough times. No one's perfect, I kinda wrote this talking to myself:)
@@soup-not-edible We all do, I feel, talking also to ourselves. I like your sentence about the satisfaction. There’s something sweet in it. It’s like finding pearls in the dark, beauty in unexpected places. I do feel (or would like to be open to whenever I can) that every problem and lack has a beautiful side, like an invitation to discover something that we wouldn’t otherwise. I wish you well. 💚
Gee, thanks:) I like sweet things. It's simple, but chocolate probably saves lives. I think the smartest way to live is to find the easy happiness, the one we ignore because grand dreams are appealing. Be weird, be free. Find your easy happiness if the "usual" way of living doesn't fit. Most likely, you'll find something you enjoy, and you could make it a job!
I’ve had PTSD for 10 years and OCD and dermatillomania for more than 15 years now… I dont know what to do anymore, multiple skin treatments, lots of makeup and balms and I am so close to believing I can do it sometimes I can finally get out of it But I go back to it next day, I wake up and I harm myself the moment Im slightly stressed or bored or just… thinking. “Ah, it tastes like blood again” And disappointment overtakes once more.
Everything in this video is so true. I try to enjoy the good days and I do, but I also get so tired afterwards. And I know bad days will come irrespective of actually conditions. It's a very, very insecure and unsettling world but I know it's not at the core of anything I feel. And while the good days pass, so do the bad days, if you let it wash over you, pass overhead, like so much weather, it will clear. Maybe as we age we have less hope as resilience but in it's place hopefully something more valuable emerges - insight and strategies for coping. It's not easy however. Finding self love and forgiveness is something to cling to whatever.
Beautifuly put. We only need a couple of good things that if we focus on regularly enough bring joy, despite so many apparent shortfalls. Where attention goes, evergy flows so I try to focus on the good bits and that increases their occupancy in my life 🐾
When I have a dark day or days, I always tell myself that I've been coping with this for years and I've been here before. That I've always gotten through and had brighter days. (And even in the darkest day I've always had at least one thing to be grateful for, even if it feels like the only thing is that I have is a roof over my head and food to eat.) It’s not easy. Because it feels like you're carrying a lead weight on your heart and the only things you can feel are pain and fear mostly. But I remind myself that there's light at the end of this. This is the roller coaster of my life and when I'm on the ups I try to enjoy them as much as possible without over analyzing the feeling of happiness I'm experiencing.
Thank you. Listening to this was very liberating and I love the downhill slide - very me - lol, my downhill ALWAYS takes me by surprise. Your work is so helpful. Thank you for sharing it.
spent 30+ years dealing with repressed trauma, feeling like a monster, and that anything good in my life was a sin. Now I'm left with PTSD, anxiety, depression, and burn out. Pushing 50 and am really struggling with the idea that I'll never get to have anything close to a "normal" life. The unfairness of it all is utterly unbearable.
At some point, some of us get so tired it’s not worth surviving anymore. I feel more and more like that with each loss, each traumatic incident, each devastation. I too asked this of my therapist a few weeks back. I just don’t see living a life of just survival to try to feel better or even good. Maybe what is after this life is better. Or after this life is just nothing. Either way, that seems more attractive than a life of this.
It's the bleak/dark/wry humor that carries me around and through. I laugh at the absurdity of myself and us and all our foibles (well, most). When I sense the despair sneaking up on me to attack, snickering in its face can take the wind out of its sails.
“Our extreme sport is staying alive.” Got tears rushed to my eyes. - Autism & bipolar disorder for decades now. Thank you for this, self help can be so degrading sometimes, forcing people like me into a position of forcing remission. It’s about maintenance despite the weeds ready to grow back.
So true❤❤
Same conditions and same sentiment - our inner dialogue, most especially in critical moments of inflammation, cannot be made into reality by our own sadness or some random desire to run and change it all. Grounding ourselves with other lovelies, healthy routines, and an innate desire to fight on for our curiosity and joy and contentment is what helps me traverse the bumps. I wish for this upon anyone struggling with their brain. Solidarity ❤
Today I put the Christmas tree up, washed the bed sheets and made dinner for myself and my partner. It was very tiring but it fulfilled me immensely. I'm 32 and saw my life turning out very differently, as most of us do. Thank you for this kind video. It makes me feel human again.
Small things my niqa..small things add up🤙🏾
Thanks for your motivating story
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Good to hear it pal and this channel is a lot more useful and cheaper than psychologists and anti depressants…….will we have a great Christmas or what! Kind regards from Ireland….
Proud of you!
People think they're so empathetic, yet having mental illness all I see is people judging me as a weirdo. Thanks for that.
People can be empathetic to someone they can relate to. They don't know what it is to have mental illness. And most probably don't want to know.
There's a difference between those who are empathetic and those who are people pleasers.
People pleasers are egotistical selfish' but it is what it is
No one really cares. Mental illness or not. The thing of it is, you care about what others think. There's a book out there about not giving a F. When you've learned that, you become less needy and less of a burden on others.
Empathy comes from knowing the pain the others have been through. You feel it in your bones when someone cares and fully loves you. Sympathy is where they feel bad, but from a distance. I appreciate both but I really just want a hug
I think when we expect people to be empathetic, we subconsciously give them a lot of power over us. Like you said, people think they are so empathetic, when in fact, they are simply just self righteous and, for the lack of better words, downright fake. That's why, in MY humble opinion, we absolutely have to train ourselves to only expect empathy and love from ourselves, no one else, in order to set ourselves up for disappointments and heartbreaks, which would then lead us to a spiral and end up with multiple episodes.
You are the most invested person in your life. Understanding yourself is a lifetime occupation.
Rest, reload & try again. Repeat as necessary.
A beautiful comment. Thank you for the reminder.
@@alexshaw3760Appreciate your comment😊.
@The School of Life an exquisitely wise, often humorous and consistently humanitarian platform. Allowing us to connect & support one another.🤗
Sunk-Cost fallacy be like
Brilliant video. 45 now and I am only just coming to terms with the fact the depression isn't just going to magically disappear one day. Sending love to you all.
Thanks for being alive today ☀️
39 same practice gratitude everyday like it’s a skill or new behavior in even in the smallest things in life. Also been sober from alcohol for 7 months good luck to you now and in the future
0:54 - Adopt a certain mindset
1:32 - Celebrate small wins
2:21 - Seek out the right people
3:29 - Care / remain vigilant to the likelihood of relapse
Thanks for this video.
"Our extreme sport is the challenge of staying alive" made me tear up. Hit too close to home. Thank you for this video.
Am struggling with schizophrenia.....
It's been soo difficult
This video.made me cry
Are you able to keep a job?
@adamrocks19 am not working
@ Gotcha. I’ve been struggling with hearing voices for years and I have kept my job the whole time but it’s an immense struggle sometimes. I’ve never got officially diagnosed for it though.
@@adamrocks19 great u r That u r able to work & manage it
@@nandinirm2234 Thanks. Sorry to hear about your struggles and hope you get better. Although I don’t know you, I feel your pain.
"We need to become the kind of people who can say, without bitterness or irony, 'Wednesday went well,' and recognize that as a serious accomplishment."
This is one of the hardest things for me, but, gosh, I love it when I can pat myself on the back for doing just alright-for simply surviving the day without trying to do more than I can.
Thanks for the video, and thanks for the community you're creating. I love you all, people of the comments. ❤
I love your comment ❤ thank you. It's hard to give oneself credit for things others can do so easily.
Much love to you too.
It’s a daily struggle. It’s like fighting twice as hard just to do what normal people do (work regularly, have energy, thinking clearly). Sucks bro. Depression is ass
Haha real ass😂
Thanks for being alive today ☀️
Perfectly said. It's a daily struggle just for me to remind myself to enjoy life and that everything is okay
I didn't get diagnosed with depression, I got diagnosed with a couple other disorders, but On God. I'm almost always veering between hope and despair. Others _seem_ to do it all easily, and seem to expect the same of me, when I feel like I have to put in tons of work just to get where they seem to be. It's tough not to be hard on myself when I constantly have the feeling that it's literally expected of me. It's just... tough.
I often think of a line from a tv show I like, "Will I get the fixes I need? Will I be someone? Will I get the fixes I need to be someone?"
I logically know everyone's got issues. And yet I don't really feel it in moments of hopelessness. Feels exhausting to strain with effort all the time simply to live.
Struggling BPD here, the crippling loneliness that comes with the struggle is literally killing me at times.
That's something we all share, at least. It feels like people can talk to each other and treat each other however they please, but when we try to navigate a relationship, people act like we're breaking a million rules that only applies to us. Hard to feel like a part of a group or a trusted relationship when that keeps happening.
BPD too...I hug you ❤️
I said that this to my therapist lately. I am exhausted. It's been more than 14 years. My cPTSD and depression don't leave me.
To top it all, pathological narcissists find me.
It helped me when I stopped making it part of my identity and treated it like a chronic health condition that I am responsible for managing.
Studying stoicism and Marcus Aurelius helped me get tougher with my cptsd
@@JennWatsonthank u soo much
Oh boo hoo you want a pity party?
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself how about you just ask yourself
"What am I supposed to learn from this?"
You don't need to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.
@@AutismoGamerthe best advice is often compassionate. I’m not sure how anyone would respond well to advice like this
🙏 thank you. This is exactly how i have felt my entire life. I feel less alone hearing others live the same way
I have dealt with severe depression since I was a child. I appreciate this approach very much
God bless you love, you have something to contribute to the world.
So glad Alain De Button back narrating the video again
Suffering from severe OCD , it's not a quirk or personality type, it is one of the most disabling conditions in which the person is stuck in endless nightmare of their worst fear.
Sorry you have to go through that, I know a lot about the cycle and it’s really unbearable. I agree with you, and quite honestly, I don’t like that “neurodivergent” comes up because it puts all of this on the same level and makes it into a personality type. I hope that changes.
Really curious, but what do you feel and experience (on a daily base)?
@@UlasMT Continuous 24X7 thoughts about worst fears that can come true. Thoughts that are so intrusive you just want to solve them and avoid anything else ( Esentially avoiding life ) . Compulsions that will take whole day and OCD is frequently associated with depression which makes the thing even worse. OCD theme change as your worst fear change , anything you value in life is a target for OCD
@@playstore7882 Wow, that sounds pretty intense and like a daily struggle indeed. I think daily about losing my loved one on a daily base (I can't escape this thought for some reason), and I also think worst case scenario's if something goes out of plan, does this sound familiar to you?
Thanks for being alive today ☀️
Been struggling with mental illness my whole life that I often feel like it’s never going to get better. Accepting that this is something that’s not gonna just go away and I may have to live with for the rest of my life wasn’t easy. But in a way this has been somewhat freeing as this has taught me to stop blaming myself focus on and appreciate the small wins in my life. It’s also important to have supportive people around me. It’s still a battle, but this reminded me that it’s okay to take it one step at a time.
Sometimes the most productive thing to do, is rest. And that's okay ❤❤
“Our extreme sport is staying alive”. With the amount of aspirations I have in life, and the degree of those aspirations, I refuse to accept that I need to merely survive in my life. I want to look forward to more than just having an okay day.
That’s what I struggle with.
Surviving is much tougher than it looks. I've literally almost died twice in my lifetime. If you think surviving isn't enough, you haven't lived enough life yet.
Good!
Surviving another day is a victory in itself. Our primitive ancestors never knew whether they would survive the next day. Our brains never evolved to think long term because of this.
The brain just *loves* to look for problems. When your survival needs are met, your brain starts to give you psychological and philosophical problems to worry about.
Bully for you that things are going well enough and you have space an energy enough for aspirations.
For some of us things aren't going that well, and we don't have the spoons for aspirations. Dreams are just another disappointment in the endless shit pile of existing.
Don't discount how much of an accomplishment merely surviving is for some. You may aspire to more, and even be able to achieve more, and good for you, that's great for you. Such things are beyond some others, and poo-pooing the idea is, at best, unhelpful.
You (and i), dear reader, have a chronic condition, whatever it may be called. It is not our fault, and never has been. With support and by keeping life simpler, we CAN make it through and even ENJOY the small things. Don't take on too much, and be extra kind to yourself. This is what 52 years of these challenges have taught me. I love you! ❤
Thank you kind internet stranger...Love you too!❤
Thanks ❤❤I needed it so much
I love the wisdom of this comment. Blessings on your life. ❤
I wish this told us how to accept that our lives are just always going to be more painful and less joyful than others’, and that we need live more but are less likely to find it. THOSE are the struggles of my life as a middle aged person who’s been mentally ill since early childhood. I’ve accepted my limits, but the injustice of it all is what haunts me.
Please read THE UNEXPECTED GIFT OF TRUAMA by Dr Edith Shiro. Best of luck to you 🤗
It makes me sad to look back and see how long I have been struggling but I am also grateful that I can empathize with those who are too.
It has been a weird journey, but in a way I wouldn’t change it.
The dark times can be very dark, but it has made me appreciate the beautiful times as well. The people who have stuck by me, I am forever grateful for.
Don’t feel shame, we aren’t alone.
Try to find beauty in the mundane.
His voice feels nice to ears.
I’m living with schizophrenia, BPD and PTSD and this was very touching to the soul thank you Alan.
Are you able to work still?
I hope you are OK, don't give up
I’m feeling so alone this morning, thank you for this wonderful video and comment section for reminding me that it’s not true. So many of us carry this 💔
How are you?
Hi
Can we be friends?
Depression gripped me at 15 years old. It finally let go completely at 55. 40 years is a long time BUT IT DOES END. Stay in the battle. Knowing I've won (read: survived) is a magnificent feeling. I had no idea if i would eventually come out on the other side or not, but i did. Im not special. Your victory is up the road. You can absolutely make it. Please try. Please try. Honestly, every day you survive is a day you've won. Please keep winning. Dont let how you feel win. It doesnt deserve to win. YOU DO!
Today I picked up around my apartment, make sure the dishes were done, and cleaned the bathtub. I used more weed than I wanted to, and went to bed later than I wanted to, but I believe that if I keep trying, one day I will be better at these things. I accept that I am alone, and that it would likely be a disaster if I were to involve myself with someone else. I accept that my family doesn't understand my experience, and they have no obligation to. I pray for the sun and welcome to the moon.
Serious, this is like my condition right now....and too much people like us are living this kind of situation....i live this type of depression several times in my life....i face off, and now i'm alive, but this tipe of disease are like cycle..it never end...but in the end we are not alone, and we struggle everyday to stay alive, and to find a better way❤
I love the person I have become after letting in the school of life over the past few years. That is my current victory.
Another dimension to this is the systemic/societal/governmental failure to provide better support for people with chronic mental illness. We need more resources, social safety nets and research!
Being physically ill on top of mentally ill is peak hell. Nobody knows the struggles and we're supposed to be normal, live normal, have the same capacity and tolerance to stress, and live the same lives as healthy people. Life is really rough and my health can't take it anymore.
My husband and his friends like to push their fitness 💪 by climbing mountains or walking aross the Spanish Alps ....or 😮?
I have no need to prove my endurance, in travelling outside my own challenges
Physical pain or emotional or both at the same time
Endurance found in simple achievement .
Putting washing on the line without having to wait hours until I can move is a win 😊
This video just makes me more depressed and hopeless.
I love this. It may me cry. My only query would be "other, more robust people". I believe I am ever more robust than my previous levels of robustness with each passing moment of "staying alive", and that comparison with others is never helpful. Thank you for this video.
Somehow TsoL always releases videos that help to address my current challenges... I have several disorders on the go all the time: ocd, ptsd, gad. I feel abnormal all the time and it's exhausting having to hide your illnesses from the world so they won't judge you. This helps me to realise I'm not alone. And small wins are still wins. Thank you x
my ADHD exhausts me...but I learned that I need to celebrate my accomplishments. this video came out straight from my latest cognitive therapy session
I could never relate to a youtube video so much as this one
Situation is worse for people who can't afford therapy 😢
This channel and it's community Post are like therapy ❤❤
Most of the time I don’t know how to live life so I watch these videos to help me deal with my shit 😅
Thanks, this one really helped
You are not alone
I cried last night until I
Fell asleep, thinking everybody would be better without me, sometimes i feel so tired of trying. However today i woke up and made some exercise, I'm still sad, but i keep going. Thanks for the video, it made me feel less lonely
Happy your still here on this earth ! Keep on keeping on one day at a time 😊🙏🏽
I want you will be happy!! ❤ be aware!
It's so nice to have found someone who really gets it. Thank you so much for this truthful, understanding & encouraging video. I was 14 when i started getting severe bouts of depressoon, anxiety & panic attacks but i became aware that i was desperatty inhappy at the age of 7 - i didn't understand what the hell was happening to me & it appeared no one could help me - i felt totally & utterly alone & have felt that for most of my life as i searched for meaning & causes & having been through lots of different therapy. Looking back i can see it's a combination of things perpetrated by a dysfunctional, violent & traumatic family life, further perpetuated by marrying out of one such situation & unwittingly into another. Accepting that bouts of deep depression, along witb other accompanying symptoms & resultant auto-immune conditions wi be part of my life & probably won't ever leave me is kind of freeing as i can put my energy intp buding up a tool box to help me cope when relapses come, & it has also helped me to appreciate the simpler things in life & to see the beauty in it.
I needed to see this today. This really sums it up so succinctly for me. Thank you for this.
Brilliant, insigtful and, ultimately incredibly helpful and supportive. Thank you.
Finally someone who doesn’t say that “things will get better” and who understands mental health issues well enough to acknowledge that it is chronic. From someone who has been feeling an indescribable sadness all their life due to schizotypal personality disorder:
Thank you for this video
Oh, how I thank you for this video. Dystimia, complex trauma, generalized anxiety, just some of my diagnosis. In and out of therapy since fifteen. Now, sixty one years old, I am exhausted!
I have been seeing my most recent therapist for about a year. And of late, I have been feeling - enough! Enough with the root causes, working on my issues and processing. There is no "fixing" this. I'm grateful for some of the tools I have learned that make it easier to be in my own skin. However, I now want to just be.
I've managed to overcome things I didn't know were possible to overcome. It took years, but don't give up
First of all, thank you for presenting deeper looks into these topics. We need more discussions on what to do when you just honestly cannot leave your difficult life position, but still want to fight, feel better and even make a difference.
Each and every one person's bravery whilst fighting mental health issues, is hugely inspirational to me and so many other people. As humans, we have the unique ability to support and encourage overselves, even strangers across the whole world. The honest, shared care for one another's plight is one of our very best abilities, if not the very best one.
Been thinking lately about some of the ideas mentioned in this video..
Have completely stopped pretending that if I were exceptionally rich, attractive, had great family etc. that I would somehow automatically still be able to be a emphatetic, virtuous person who's caring for others. No, while it could happen, the chances are high that I would live to 'make the most of my situation', in other words, I would enjoy my easy life and only ever have a surface level, detached understanding about what might possibly be happening to others, let alone spending much time and effort trying to actually help. And I came to realize, that 'easy life situation' is - however sweet - a state of ignorance about human condition. For our capacity for joy is not even on the same scale as capacity for psychological suffering, as anyone who's experienced both knows.
And then the big realization kicks in - once you have been through some tough suffering, you cannot (and do not want to) go back to the dreams of the sweet ignorance of an easy life.. no, instead you develop a deep empathy for human condition (one of two strongest feelings I have personally experienced in my life) and can say with conviction - 'This is life as a human. So much suffering around, some of which I am intimate with but also fully realize that many others have it even much worse. I accept this life, this understanding of human condition and will work to help both myself and others to lessen the pain in the world as that is a goal truly worth fighting for'.
Another big point to keep in our minds - don't let anyone (including - and perhaps especially - the critical voice in our head) try to form your sense of self-value based on things that that you truly have no control over. We don't need (to respect) anyone who judges you for what is out of your control to influence. Only ever accept (and even then, don't rely on it!) praise for effort/work that you have actually done.
"...the challenge of staying alive." Bingo. I'm 76 (been at this since the age of 7) - I have it all figured out...putting that knowledge into practice is the real challenge. Imprinted programs from childhood are horribly difficult to change. My progress and healing have been steady, slow, and continuing. Yet the dysfunctions within me keep resurfacing to do their damage. I may be at the crossroads of better times...or at my end.
One day at a time. At the end of each day, even if it's been awful, just think how strong you've been in getting through it and that you can at least do the same tomorrow. That's how I cope - day by day.
I’m older now and come to terms with my lot. My little life. I’m grateful for the small but intensely lovely things. This year a stray cat found me and after feeding him up and building a relationship with him, I found he does laps. Our house cat never has the patience for laps. This guy though.. so I sit outside whatever the weather under the roof of the workshop, for an hour and he sits in my lap just purring for that whole hour. At certain points he falls into a deep sleep, exhausted by his life. Who saved who? The peace I feel from that hour is just beautiful…❤ god bless my Scraggy cat 🐈
I thought bipolar disorder, autism, adhd, treatment resistant depression, and ptsd were bad. Then I got hammered by a post viral illness called long covid that made them all seem like a stubbed toe. I lost everything. I’m happier than ever despite the crippling symptoms. The school of life is a notable part of the success of this.
Thanks for sharing this I too have had the same experience with this long covid after having the year and a half from hell and mental health problems that stemmed from it. I'm on meds now and will stay on them they've saved me from utter devastation and M.E. I had as part of long covid totally was destroying my life. Big hugs to you. 🦋🙏🙂
learning to be kind to yourself can be the hardest thing but also the most beneficial
Having bipolar disorder, I find the hardest part of this to be the question of where I should draw the outlines of my life. What can I do? How much of it can I do? How much *should* I do? It's ever changing and my expectations of myself need to be adjusted by the week. It's exhausting finding my way back to life every time I hit the wall and I try not to let bitterness chew me up at the thought that this is, in fact, forever and it's the one life I have. It's very, very difficult.
Yeah I feel this. “Am I happy or hypomanic?” is a question that comes up frequently, and quite honestly, it’s discouraging. Why can’t I be happy without it quickly turning into recklessness? Anyways, I understand you, and I really hope we find a way to not have to worry so much about this stuff. I know there are better things we can do
Or you could just Do and the rest is just trash to be put in a box.
Do or do not; there is no try. - Yoda
It feels like a cross to bear. But this is more of a mission than a burden, it must be completed.
Thanks
You're not alone - and you're wonderful 🫂❤️🤩
This made me cry
That is sadly extremely true and i had come to these conclusions myself. But it feels good to see a video confirming it. Its a very lonely and challenging road, but happiness can still be achieved if we are gentle with ourselves and we find the right people who understand us around us
Coming up on 17 years of anxiety and depression. I've gotten used to it, but I feel such sadness for my husband and 2 teenage girls.
this healed something in me
Thank you so much for this, I have recently stopped battling and come to accept this is how I'm wired. It means so much listening to the video to feel understood, in a world where I've always felt mis-understood 💜
I needed this, thank you
37 yo and i reallzed this very recently.. so true.. and i couldnt think of a better set of words and image to put it in a vid.. 👏👏 i hope this video reaches lots of people
When I was younger and had some friends they called me a fringe dweller.
I told them I walk a narrow path on egg shells and broken glass.
And i still am
Mi hermana tuvo una vida insoportable y logró cambiar la situación y hoy es una gran abogada.
Ella y mi madre vivían en una ciudad pequeña desde que nació. Siempre causaba problemas, la típica chica problemática, y además fue diagnosticada con TDAH y necesitaba tomar medicamentos para la depresión. Hubo veces que causó tantos problemas que querían matarla, así que tuvieron que salir de la ciudad e ir a una más pequeña (fue cuando nací). Quiza cuidar a un bebé cambió su vida o ya no soportaba ser así, porque después de mudarse lo que escuché fueron los desafíos que enfrentó para cambiar de vida; trabajar desde los 14 años y hacer supletivo para cambiar de vida. Al alcanzar la mayoría de edad, estudió derecho mientras trabajaba y hoy es una de las personas que más respeto.
Lo que ella pasó siempre me muestra que puedes superar las dificultades incluso con problemas. Solo imagínate en un futuro después de tus batallas, un lugar de felicidad, ¡siempre resiste!
School of life’s ability to simplify complex ideas in a visually engaging way makes it so helpful.Thank you for sharing such valuable knowledge and for inspiring me to create my own channel.
I went thru two committals half a decade ago. Going thru them was unbearable psychologically - you feel like your personality is changing; physically - you feel dumbed; and emotionally - you feel numb, allegedly due to medication.
Now, looking back, however, I understand why people around could not and cannot relate. Just earlier today, I happened to reread my messages to confidants around that period of life and, though I can recall how I felt back then inwardly, the messages sound, at most, like a genuine tantalizing peep for help. No text can reflect the inner change you are going thru during such times.
What helped was the certain mindset: bleak humor, pessimism, and compassion inasmuch as to allow oneself to be cynical and skeptical within one’s own self, meaning I was not holding back my mind from expressing itself and, at the same time, I was not pouring it out on other people. This has become a watershed lesson for me: one can think freely whatever one wants and it does not make one a bad person.
This video gets it so well.
2:17 hits so deep !!! Preach !!!
Thank you very much for this.
For me, acceptance is big part of my chronic goal of managing and reducing symptoms.
Have a good holiday.
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This is me. I'm in so much mental trouble....I have a good job and musical talents, but I'm finished, this is the fight of my life in every moment.
This is the first time in years I've watched a School of life video that didn't reinforce how incomparable my life is from everyone else's. For the first time in years they've given advice that isn't completely removed from anything remotely related to my life. Here's hoping this is a trend.
Pain is not something you cure, is simply something you accept, and then it goes on its own.. if we saw others not through our defensive egoism but simply as people who were and still are in some ways children, we would not be dispiriting against life for not being what we want... we would just simply see them as they are, and see the beauty behind it all and be there for them... our own egoism and self-centeredness is what makes us unhappy
This came along on a particularly hard day (so far) and I watched it while sobbing with grief. Over my mental illness and the lives it affects, most of whom are my family, many of whom are my own children. It's so awful to be so self-centeted (not being able to turn away from self "properly") and at the same time, be so terribly concerned about my loved ones under duress while caring for me, or not, I am a real burden. Yesterday I was ok. Today I am not. I don't understand myself and I mourn making plans, any plans. For what will the new day bring? And maybe after a night that didn't separate the two but rather bled into it.
One thing is true, so far, even though as they seem to be coming less and less, there's good days and times in there, and I have learned to cling to that awareness because a good moment _will_ roll around again. Those times are what keep some of us going. Try not to forget there is light in the dark, sometimes it takes some patience.
Thank you for making the effort (which it surely must have been) to post this heartfelt comment. I'm sure your children wish they could take on some of your burden (as, indeed, you continue to think of them). I'm also experiencing my umpteenth recurrence, in my case of severe depression, and like you cling to the fact that some days are 'relatively good' and that more will, at some point, happen again. I hope yours will appear very soon. With best wishes from Oxford UK.
Being "gifted" and Asperger's is weird. Sometimes you're a genius, sometimes you're unable to do anything. I only love myself when I'm improving. While that coping mechanism helped gain quality of life when I was comfortable, it makes the lows worse and harder to escape. No need to be harsh against yourself. If you're advancing, it's enough. "Speed" or "efficiency" or "life skills" don't matter. It's the satisfaction of dealing with it that prevents me from ending it all. It's not all pain. Life is not all pain. Promise.
I'm writing this, but I also struggle with hopelessness and generalization during tough times. No one's perfect, I kinda wrote this talking to myself:)
@@soup-not-edible We all do, I feel, talking also to ourselves. I like your sentence about the satisfaction. There’s something sweet in it. It’s like finding pearls in the dark, beauty in unexpected places. I do feel (or would like to be open to whenever I can) that every problem and lack has a beautiful side, like an invitation to discover something that we wouldn’t otherwise. I wish you well. 💚
Gee, thanks:) I like sweet things. It's simple, but chocolate probably saves lives. I think the smartest way to live is to find the easy happiness, the one we ignore because grand dreams are appealing. Be weird, be free. Find your easy happiness if the "usual" way of living doesn't fit. Most likely, you'll find something you enjoy, and you could make it a job!
Loved this video! So true!!
I’ve had PTSD for 10 years and OCD and dermatillomania for more than 15 years now… I dont know what to do anymore, multiple skin treatments, lots of makeup and balms and I am so close to believing I can do it sometimes
I can finally get out of it
But I go back to it next day, I wake up and I harm myself the moment Im slightly stressed or bored or just… thinking.
“Ah, it tastes like blood again”
And disappointment overtakes once more.
Everything in this video is so true.
I try to enjoy the good days and I do, but I also get so tired afterwards. And I know bad days will come irrespective of actually conditions.
It's a very, very insecure and unsettling world but I know it's not at the core of anything I feel.
And while the good days pass, so do the bad days, if you let it wash over you, pass overhead, like so much weather, it will clear. Maybe as we age we have less hope as resilience but in it's place hopefully something more valuable emerges - insight and strategies for coping. It's not easy however. Finding self love and forgiveness is something to cling to whatever.
Sobering tear-dripping episode. Thank you!🙏
thanks for the video. i severely appreciated it. it gave me the will to keep on
Beautifuly put. We only need a couple of good things that if we focus on regularly enough bring joy, despite so many apparent shortfalls. Where attention goes, evergy flows so I try to focus on the good bits and that increases their occupancy in my life 🐾
When I have a dark day or days, I always tell myself that I've been coping with this for years and I've been here before. That I've always gotten through and had brighter days. (And even in the darkest day I've always had at least one thing to be grateful for, even if it feels like the only thing is that I have is a roof over my head and food to eat.) It’s not easy. Because it feels like you're carrying a lead weight on your heart and the only things you can feel are pain and fear mostly. But I remind myself that there's light at the end of this. This is the roller coaster of my life and when I'm on the ups I try to enjoy them as much as possible without over analyzing the feeling of happiness I'm experiencing.
Thank you. Listening to this was very liberating and I love the downhill slide - very me - lol, my downhill ALWAYS takes me by surprise. Your work is so helpful. Thank you for sharing it.
0:40 "A chronic condition of the mind..."
This is the most helpful School of Life video in a long time
Overwhelmingly ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Thanks, 🙏,, the school of life,,,
spent 30+ years dealing with repressed trauma, feeling like a monster, and that anything good in my life was a sin.
Now I'm left with PTSD, anxiety, depression, and burn out. Pushing 50 and am really struggling with the idea that I'll never get to have anything close to a "normal" life. The unfairness of it all is utterly unbearable.
At some point, some of us get so tired it’s not worth surviving anymore. I feel more and more like that with each loss, each traumatic incident, each devastation. I too asked this of my therapist a few weeks back. I just don’t see living a life of just survival to try to feel better or even good. Maybe what is after this life is better. Or after this life is just nothing. Either way, that seems more attractive than a life of this.
"We have a chronic condition of the mind, not an illness."
Thank you. ❤
Thank you so much for this video
It's the bleak/dark/wry humor that carries me around and through. I laugh at the absurdity of myself and us and all our foibles (well, most). When I sense the despair sneaking up on me to attack, snickering in its face can take the wind out of its sails.
Not an illness… this helps…
Made me stop trying to fix it
Cant wait for more content from this channel!
I was a mess before I found your channel
Thank you.
i needed that, thank you
Very sensible advice
i am learning to live with it...
I've always been mad, I know I've been mad, like the most of us are. It's very hard to explain why you're mad, even if you're not mad
That is Pink floyd right?
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