I'm Trying This Out - Changing Behavior
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- Is this prompt dependence or just stalling an activity she doesn't want to do? Let's talk through it. I tell you what, they say parenting is hard but I never could have imagined the brain work it takes when you are dedicating so much time to helping someone gain independence and navigate every aspect of the world...but I wouldn't change it for anything.
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I am with you Asa. No laundry in heaven
Praise the Lord for NO LAUNDRY!
@@kathyhyatt6468 I don’t mind doing laundry, I just wish I could do more than one thing at a time with the water. I have a well, so like you can’t take a shower and use the washer at the same time
It makes things you don’t want to do easier when you have someone doing it with you.
It teaches her teamwork but show you are there to support her.
I hope you guys have a great weekend. Cilla I hope you feel better before your holiday ❤
Abbie shaking her head yes to Rizzo needing a bath 😅❤Cilla feel better ❤
I like your voice over, you have a nice voice.
I’m still getting rid the chest cold I had.. hope Cilla feels better soon 🤗🩵
Abby your hair looks so pretty!!
I love a voice over, you have a very therapeutic voice when you do voice over and you should read stories I'd love that
I love folding laundry!! I do it for my house, and my kids’ house! The idea of fresh cleaned laundry, warm out of dryer and folded in its nice little package and then put away immediately, makes me feel accomplished!! 🤗
I've been following you guys for a few years. I'm convinced that much of Abbie's behaviors are just her personality. That's not to say that her autism doesn't influence that at all, though.
I completely agree
Love and Prayers from KY.
Crab Rangoon, Chicken on a stick, and Eggrolls as appetizers and Honey Chicken as the main entrée. Cilla feel better soon, and I love your new jeans.
Get well sooon Pricilla!
My Chinese order is Crab Rangoon, chicken and broccoli, egg rolls . Abby is doing so well with her tasks 😊
I had a bad cold between Christmas Eve and the second week of January! I caught it from my brother-in-law! 😭💔🤦♀️
New pants Cilla? They fit you great and are so cute. We used to have a dog that loved ice! 💚
All the stuff I see Abby accomplish I am hoping and praying 🙏 my Ryder will be able to do one day.
Abbie beef and broccoli are my jam, too!! Love that stuff. Cilla feel better soon.
Beef and broccoli is my favorite, too, and I also get stressed when somebody/anybody tries to divide it up! Seriously! When I was a kid I’d have to label the leftovers box so everyone knew to keep their paws off my beef n broccoli. It’s a thing
Yes I love your voiceover!
Love you all!! 🙂
We give my son a Rubbermaid bin full of flyers and newspapers that he is allowed to shred up as long as they stay in the bin he can go to that bin whenever he wants to shred something. It’s there. It’s something that works for us. I thought I’d share it might work for other parents.
Prayers
Cilla I hope you feel better. My husband is also not feeling great so I am sleeping in the guest room. Any time I am sick or he is sick I am usually the one who goes to the guest room. Not sure why but I just don’t want to be sick or spread anything. We also try really hard not to go to bed angry as well.
Stopping along the way in is also a total teenager young adult move. She is just being a typical young person.
I'm not into nails, normally....but I'm really liking Priscilla's new nails (dress 'em up OR down!) -- they would go awesome w/denim!!! 👍👍
It may take longer but Abbie knows she as to clean up her shredding paper, but I think its just her personality coming through a lot, when she stops and waits then starts again, I think she is hoping you will do it your self lol. Feel better soon Cilla. Blessings.
Asa, you so sound like the mamas at home when it comes to laundry 😂!!!
Hey there, Abby, letting you know that you’re not alone my son Gavin is the same way with food. He loves cheese puffs and he hast to have the whole bag right next to him even though we put a handful of them in a little Ziploc bag for him he has to know where the big bag is at all times. He’s very very protective of his food..❤❤❤
I’ve sometimes wondered about the pet hair and how you guys keep it looking so cleaned up all the time. I have multiple dogs as well and know how quickly the hair starts showing. It occurred to me watching this that you’re constantly sweeping up Abbey’s paper so that has to help! Random thought I had. Another thought-wasn’t Abbey signing to go to the bathroom when she was trying to get out of cleaning? My son did that every single time I told him to do something, he always had to go to the bathroom in the middle of it. He’s neurotypical. That is a universal thing! Who knew!
Vacuums
Yep! She often has to suddenly go to the bathroom as soon as the works starts lol.
Feel better Priscilla❤️🫂
Once she is already feeling sick the germs are already shared. Have fun sleeping on the couch.
It as a high of 84 today in Tampa.♥️ love my Florida sunshine
Yes, there is some wicked flu, RSV, or whatever going around. Hoping the family is in the best of health going into vaca mode.🙏🙏🙏
glue??🙂
@@jaytotheell auto spell mis-corrected😡 I think you and others may have experienced the same, but know what I meant.
Ugh, yeah. My spouse just spent 4 days in bed with something that was as bad as a flu but with only a minimal fever. Its terrible whatevet it is.
I felt blah for like 2 days this week too. It must be a change from the cold to warmer. I told my husband it must be spring because it’s 50 here and it’s now February 1st. 😂
I’m in Alabama. I want the warm weather over the cold. I grew up in Michigan. Prefer hot weather
I’m in Alabama too (I grew up here) and I'm so sick of the cold. My friend from Montana laughs at me when I say it's cold. 😂
She even does the knee bump to get the cushion under. Every day is a win
I went back and rewinded to see that Abbie did the knee bump with the cushion!
Asa does the laundry, helps with Abby, seems like he does everything, does he have any single brothers? lol 😂
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Yes, never go to bed angry!!!!
Hi abbie and family,are y'all ready for the weekend, hope y'all are having a wonderful friday and stay safe out there❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
Praying for you Priscilla
5:45 my usual favorites are #1-Crab Rangoon, then I’ll settle for general Tso’s chicken, beef & broccoli, orange chicken, chicken/pork/or shrimp fried rice, dumplings of all varieties…basically I just love Americanized Chinese food lol don’t even get me started on Japanese food! I could destroy a plate of hibachi and bowl of miso soup right about now
I believe we all have activities we enjoy for fun, but we have to put away our supplies when we're done. (I hate cleaning the snippings when I cross-stitch 😊). Abbie's a smart cookie. She understands that the cleanup after is necessary, I think one reason is because Cilla keeps a beautiful house and that's just how Abbie was raised, she knows to keep the house nice and tidy just as being normal for y'all's family. My mom keeps a clean house, I'm naturally messy, so I resist when she wants me to clean my mess and I'm neuro typical 😅 I'm on Abbie's side on this. What's a little paper on the floor between friends? It's fine. No one will mind it being there for a bit. Lol 😅
Chicken and king prawn chow mein. Love curry samosas too from our Chinese takeaway. Enjoy❤️
Love the voice over!!!😅
Have a great weekend!! It's gonna seem weird with no football on. Get well quick Pricilla! xo
I enjoy the voice over very much. You're right leave a woman alone, if we are moody. 😂
Abby is a blessing and she is also blessed to have a dad who is also a teacher, and Priscilla .
All wonderful in Heaven. No tears. Maybe Abbie is not feeling well either.
We have a standard order at our Chinese restaurant. He gets General Tso’s with pork fried ice, I get sweet n sour chicken with pork fried rice. Then I get us each two pork egg rolls. The meals are large so we have dinner tonight and lunch tomorrow (which is why we each get two egg rolls). My sauce comes on the side, thank goodness. They give me so much! I wouldn’t eat the chicken soaked in that much sauce.
We don’t get takeout often. Whatever has been going around and around, I’ve had it. Woke up sick on Christmas Day and it’s been pretty consistent since. I’m down a few days, better for a day or two (I go shopping and do laundry and clean). I think I over do it too fast. Then I’m down again for a few days. I want it to just end. Went to doctor to find out what it was. The guy was so sick, I rushed to get away from him! Come on! Cancel if you are that sick! He has refused to see me when I’ve been really sick, makes me do a virtual appointment. No telling how many people he has infected!
Those faces Abby made while sitting next to her mom were funny.
We all loove to eat! But hate cleaning up. Part of life.
And Rizzos leg twitch with the cilla scratch hahaha
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Hello Love your videos happy weekend hope you all have a wonderful day love from Canada New Brunswick ♥️♥️🙂🙂🙏🇨🇦🙏
My Chinese take out is honey garlic pork,beef fried rice,barbecue pork chow mien,almond fried chicken, egg rolls, and a side sweet n sour sauce 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I like when you do the voiceover That's very nice
I love veggie fried rice or veggie lo-mein, with spring rolls on the side! I’m a vegan!
My go to order is either Beef and Cashew nuts and fried rice or sweet corn and chicken soup or honey chicken and fried rice 😊
QUESTION? Have you tried using a small hand held dust pan to sweep the paper into for Abbie to pick up and tip into the trash? Not the long stick handle kind the small handle ones wish I could upload a pic of one to show you but I hope you know what I mean just thought it might make the paper clean up quicker because you can fit more paper on the pan then she can fit in her hand. Love watching your videos 😊
And after I wrote that question you brought out the dust pan 🤦♀️ hahaha I guess you have tried it lol
Chow mein, egg rolls, beef broccoli and king paper chicken. I am glad you stay on task with her.
The guy thing, falling asleep anywhere 😂
I know but just a suggestion. How about having Abby using foxtail and dust pan.
My son does the pause when doing chores too….
Who doesn’t pause when they are doing chores, I even pause for a few minutes
@ its more than a second to pause ,it’s like a distraction and pause with a prolonged period of not sure and not willing to continue at that moment …
General chicken is my all time go to, girl lol
2:31 Did Rizzo ate ice? I didn't know dogs could eat an ice cube. Well it's like chewing on frozen water than drinking water
6:09 shrimp lo mein for me. I love a noodle and seafood dish.
Sweet and sour chicken hong kong style, special fried rice and crispy seaweed is my favourite Chinese food order
Maybe put ice pack name on it. So she understands it belongs freezer. Like prints out pictures sticking on freezer and more. She understands it is. ~ Candace
Hi-5 dad for remaining firm during clean up prompting. Try being the grandparent who is autistic with ocd. My grandchildren love making the mess but as you can imagine hate and fully disregard cleaning it up. I clean it all up... I as you know cannot deal with leaving it as they left it. The grandchildren when asked to clean up after themselves look at me like I am speaking to them in an alien language. I don't, to this day have the patience for that. 😭😖
I love Cillas, Daisy jeans ! Layne Bryant?
You could take all the paper Abby shreads to a pet shop or kennels to use.
5:45. My Chinese food order is usually my favorite chicken Lo Mein.
It’s the only job I love doing! 🤪
Body doubling. She could need it modeled in order to get it done. We are a ADHD/Autism house. We have to do a lot of body doubling with our youngest, especially to clean up toys. Which, I imagine, is the same for Ab with her papers.
Hope Priscilla doesn't get sick...to close to vacation!
Chicken and tomato is amazing 😊
Some dogs knows when their owners are sick
I love General Tso chicken, shrimp fried rice, crab rancoon, beef and broccoli
Shes a teenager/young adult. She might not talk back like a neurotypical teen, but thats her way of being a typical teen. I mean, a neurotypical teen being asked to do a task they dont want to and being stubborn about it is going to talk back, huff, work slow, stop, etc. Abby is doing the same in her way.
You have a great way to work with her. Could you help my non-neurodivergent daughter (age 30) who doesn’t finish activities. That she too needs prompting.😞😉🤷♀️
Priscilla's pants so pretty! Where are they from?
I always get a large mushroom chicken and a large cashew chicken
May I ask where you got Abbie's top? I want one for myself. TIA! 😃
Hello beautiful Maass family ❤️ 😘
What season of the year.?
It’s January in Florida,winter time
Maybe she stops because she gets overwhelmed by just the fact that it’s a task 8:34
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I like have chicken fried rice no veggies white rice noodles chicken no veggies and either sesame chicken or sweet and sour😂❤❤
Have you ever given her a bag and a garbage can at the same time?
She would shred the garbage bag as well. It's not just shredding that she enjoys. She also likes to form a nest of shredded paper around her
They never sold their previous house? 😮
I'm not trying to tell you or your family what to do. I was wondering, have Abbie, every just rest for a while, after coming home from her day service school. Instead, get right to working on putting things away.
Sometimes they need break too you know
Don't give her paper period then she won't make a mess if she does make a mess she needs to be punished just because she has autism does not mean she can't be punished
Shredding paper is a highly desired activity and a sensory activity for her. It's what she does to unwind after her day in her vocational program. That would be no different than telling someone to not allow their children to have toys. To you it's a mess, to her it's fun and needed.
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hi Asa
The general's chicken and spring rolls..
you say beef and broccoli is her jam. Everything is her jam. How do you know what she likes because she eats everything my favorite Chinese is orange chicken or sweet-and-sour chicken
It's what she enjoys the most when we have given her Chinese. Just like anyone else, you can tell when she likes things.
I don’t hear any pleases
From Asa you mean?
@ any of them
Asa has explained many times that saying please to Abbie is redundant. She needs clear concise instructions.
In the same way she usually needs prompted to say thank you because it's a social construct, being polite has no real purpose.
When you possess very basic language skills, words like please are just extra fluff and can cause confusion. Verbal manners are a societal norm and not at all necessary for communication or learning
It is not any fun being sick with a cough or sniffle. I think abbie is capable of talking..she is not quite at that point. It is possible..