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I mixed on the first story. She essentially stole from an account that's intended for her but it's not her money yet. She clearly has no accountability and is making excuses for her actions while remaining completely unrepentant. I can only wonder where she learned that from. I agree that locking down the account is the best thing to do so she can't have access to it anymore. I'm just flabbergasted that she had access to it in the first place. You can't put that kind of money in front of a teenager and not expect them to be tempted. Again, boundaries. I also think the idea of having her contribute to her own college fund will teach her a lesson.
The original poster said that the daughter already contributes her own savings towards her college fund. She had about $5000 of her own savings put into that college fund and basically only took $5000 of other people's contributions towards that college fund. It wasn't right of her to take it out on her own but at the same time I think the original poster is being too harsh on their daughter. If she already had $5000 of her own money in there and promised to pay back the other $5000 then why does the OP choose not to believe her?
It sounds like other family members contributed the daughter saved up 5k herself, so it’s not all OPs money either. He’d need to refund everyone who contributed and the MIL also offered to cover the 5k$ that wasn’t his daughter’s contributions. Not saying the daughter was right but this seems like an over reaction. If he withdrew what he personally contributed that would be one thing.
i agree - and i do also think that the account should have been locked in the first place as she would not be allowed the money before college so there was no need for her to have access to it anyway.
I'm flabbergasted is that she paid and book hotel, plane tickets and convention tickets to her girlfriend. Like hello, she has to pay her things if she wanna go
As for the first story. I must first applaud you and the fact that you and your wife managed to save that kind of money for your daughter's college. Unfortunately, we, my now ex-wife, and I were never able to do that for either of our children. This being said, I too believe that your daughter acted very immaturely. Especially given the fact that she believes that both her and you and your family will always be in this good financial situation. So by making it seem like that money will no longer be there would definitely be an eye opener, especially for someone who really has no idea on how, or how bad and/or unfair life can truly be. If you don't prepare her now for what life can throw at her, then she will be very unprepared when it does occur. Also, I would recommend that you speak with your entire family and clue them in about this for two reasons. 1. To avoid backlash from your family. 2. So that everyone can help open her eyes about this. However, until she earns your trust again, I would definitely keep that money transferred into an entirely different account.
I agree with this bc she is a teenager and she should know better than do what she did is very immature heck my parents would back hand slap me if I ever did that I don't have a college fund account but I'm working on it by maself
1st story : I'm completely agreed with the narrator "not the OP", let the daughter pay that money back then give her access to college funds. It's not worth destroying whole college funds from a mistake.
I'm thinking that he should actually hold her to what she said. she said she would pay it all back so have it locked down until every sense of it is paid back by her. any money that is given to her by another family member will not count towards this money being freed and once every single cent of it is paid back then she can have access to it. there may be a point where he actually shows mercy, but it should not be right off the top or else she'll believe that if she went person cries that the whole world will crumble to her feet and that is something that will make horrible decisions for our society because the rest of us will have to deal with the spoiled brat that their family creates
Story 1: what the daughter did is stupid, no debate around that. But taking away her college funds (not locking the access, which should've been the case from the start, but closing it) is just as stupid. Not only that, but the narrator mentions the family made donations towards the funds, and seeing how the mother in law was willing to pay 5k on the stop, I'd say those donations were significant. So, unless they plan to give back all that money that was set up for the daughter's education, they are basically stealing money from their family if they keep it to themselves. To me, that is an insane overreaction and there are way better ways to handle the situation
NTA. Cancel it all anyway. Screw the refund. And yes absolutely lock down the account so nobody can do anything with it. And do not let anyone put anything in it to "replace" what she took. Also I have no problem with OP revoking all the money completely. Story 2 - NTA. If they want to talk shit about you then they can suffer the consequences for their stupidity. And there is Nothing wrong with you answering your nieces questions honestly.
Last stories I would consider the possibility she straight up lied to your friends as she seem be behaving quite badly and maybe she become an entitled person.
Story 2: I understand the sisters side of this whoel thing and i kind of understand OPs side, but putting the whole background aside, getting angry about not being able to milk your sister which you already dislike is quite stupid
story 2: how tf is it okay for your family to tell the children that you’re a gold digger and married your husband for money, but then when the kids ask you if it’s true, and you confirm it, that suddenly makes you the villain? that’s the equivalent of your aunts telling everyone that you’re gay, then when you confirm it, suddenly you’re “teaching the children that it’s okay to live your own life”
Dude- the OP and her "spouse" are happy with the arrangement and seem to be getting along just fine- I don't see the problem personally. The OP's family is way out of line though
Story 2: I find it kind of hilarious that the OP's family trying to claim the moral high-ground when it comes to her relationship but they also are getting all kinds of ass-mad when the family isn't getting free stuff from the OP's husband.
Story 2, If the Sisters didn't want their daughter being "influenced" by hearing about her Aunt's "Gold Digging" relationship, they shouldn't have talked about it while their daughter was either present or in earshot.
for story 2, if they want to denigrate the decision she made, they shouldn't benefit from it at all. they should treat that money like blood money and be insulted at being offered anything. if they're truly as pure as they pretend to be as it is, they're not holy. they're holier than thou. she actually did them a favor. now it isn't obvious for everyone to see that they're raging hypocrites. they're just individuals raging.
story 2: who actually is tue good digger now ? the op who is in a give and take relationship where both sides are happy and the sisters who treat op like crap but want to milk her of everything they can
Story 1: It’s for her own good. She needs to learn fiscal responsibility as soon and as often as possible. Terrible priorities to chase a famous person over investing in one’s self.
Story 2. The sisters have been talking smack about the married sister.... literally to their own children, or at least say these things within earshot on multiple occasions. The married sister simply isn't arguing about what the children have already heard, So.... it was the SISTERS that filled the children's heads with that kind of thought. So don't be blaming the married sister.
Story 1: OP is 100% not the jerk here... the daughter is and anybody that is trying to defend her. A college fund account is for exactly that: COLLEGE!... not some convention holiday in Australia. It also doesnt matter that she put in some of her own money into this account. Want to spend money on this trip? Then use your own savings money, not money side aside for college. The OP was right in both locking the daughter out of the account, since it technically isnt her money to do with as she pleases, and that this teaches her that she can simply buy her way out of anything which is just wrong. If there's any money leftover after she's all finished with college, then fine, but certainly not beforehand. Story 2: Well, marrying for money is never a good thing, but seems the OP and the husband are happy so... to each their own there, i suppose. As for the sisters, they are 100% out of line with all the negative comments towards the OP, made even worse by saying it all to the nieces. The OP wasn't influencing them in any way shape or form... simply answering questions.... so the OP isn't doing harm in any way here. I think the OP just needs to limit contact here and honestly, they deserved to have the vacation cancelled. Story 3: Yeah screw those old Karens and the concierge for pretty much not enforcing the rules there. Stuff like that is just super annoying and inconsiderate and im glad the OP didnt take that crap for a second, and if it were me when they said "whoever complained i hope you're happy", i wouldve called them out on it. Put those stupid Karens back in their place and where there chairs belong. Story 4: While i think that the revenge on this dumb student was pretty amusing, its pretty obvious that he wasn't in any kind of "distress" and he was just being a douchebag. The whole 'checking for distress' and 'possible symptoms' gets blown way out of proportion nowadays and things could've taken worse turns for the student, rather then just a simple counselor visit. So, while i think it was funny, the OP probably shouldn't do that a second time and the student should just grow up. Story 5: Absolutely not the jerk here. Stories like this are exactly why you never loan out money, especially to family and friends. The OP was smart to not give money, and yes it totally would just enable her bad habits. The friends that are taking Sara's side are also jerks here. If there is a legit emergency, then maybe give a dime or two, but for a lavish lifestyle? No, screw that. Sara really does not sound like that good of a friend.
In Story 5: I would ask the other friends if they would lend "Sarah" money? And if they wouldn't, ask why they wouldn't and why that would be different?
Taking the ten thousand dollars is wrong but supernatural is a great show. I would do it to meet the guys who are in the show. It’s bad but it’s worth it
1st one absolutely ntah i am a teenager and that is an absolute bs excuse. It’s for college and that alone. I would lock it until she pays up at least half and shows that she understands that she did wrong. Yes it might be once in a lifetime but that’s when you pay for it with your savings not your college fund that was put in by others. You can pull your $5000 cause you put it in but the rest is from you, not the fund. If she fully understands she was wrong i would keep it locked so she can’t take any out but still give her the ability to go to college.
Well. If your sisters repeatedly feel like you're impacting their daughters in a negative way, you should indeed pull yourself out. You could say you're doing it for them.. 😂😂😂😂😂
So for the first story, I’m surprised she even have access to it in the first place, even if she wanted put some of her saving into it. OP isn’t the a-hole, he shouldn’t deny the fund completely. If the daughter want to act like an adult, make a plan and put interest into it. That way, she doesn’t believe she just “pay” her way out of it. Cuz if she miss a deadline then she have to pay interest and it is somefhinf when you loan money from banks or something if I remember it right. And if someone tried to pay it for her, deny ir. And if someone secretly giving her money to do so, removed that money and put it somewhere else. And keep it where she still owe. And the secret money is separate to give back to said person. That way, it give her a harsh lesson on how she can’t just “pay” her way out and rely on others. She need to learn how to do it on her own.
First story: YTA for letting your daughter have access to her college fund in the first place, and YTA for nuking her chances of going to college just because you allowed her to have access to that fund for her personal useage. If you wanted that money to go straight to college, you should have restricted access to that money at the start.
Story 1: OP’s daughter used the money that was specifically for college for something that wasn’t for college. It shows that she will spend her money impulsively if it’s just given to her (especially when she spouted the “my money, my choice” crap), but denying her the rest of college fund won’t do any good. Cutting off her access won’t really teach her anything either. If you want to teach her a lesson, let her have access to “her money” with no restrictions on what she can spend it on, don’t put any more money into the account, and then just sit back and enjoy the show when she goes to pay her college tuition and finds that she no longer has a college fund to pay it with because she spent it all on stupid crap. If it’s her money, then what happens once it’s gone because it all went into non-college related crap is on her.
Okay, im going to have a controversial opinion here, but with the first story, the dad is the asshole. Yeah, she made a mistake putting her money in that account forbher savings, but in the end, that was HER contribution. She isn't the asshole because she didn't take any more money than she contributed. Taking away her future because she spent her money on one last fun thing before college is an asshole move. My stepmom used to do this shit to me, and now im flipping burgers instead of working for the police as a sketch artist or doing stage makeup. Yeah, im in cosmetology school, but that's IN SPITE of that woman.
It's a college fund, not a savings account. It's for college, not her trip. If she had already gone to college and this was the leftover amount, then it would be okay... but since that wasnt the case, then no, she's in the wrong, not the dad. While threatening to take away the fund is a bit extreme, she's the jerk, not the dad.
@@QuickManEXEIt is a savings account. College funds or special accounts for education have restrictions. The fact the daughter was able to easily access for a withdrawal confirms that it was NOT a college fund account. Those ones have tax free direct debit instructions to colleges, bookshops and student housing and while anybody can deposit into them, withdrawals can be restricted to both signatories together; parent & over 18 student at the same time or more commonly, the parent only. The student can make direct debits to school & other education expenses but not withdrawal of cash.
Story 1: dont deny your kid college because that might be cutting short her future for ever. Just lock the account so only you can withdrew money from it. And IF you want to teach her a lesson cut the fund 10k short of completion so she will have to work to compensate for it due to her own irresponsible decisions 👀
I will find the poster for 1st story the jerk because even if she pays back the 10 thousand the college fund should be just used for college with ur approval of buying something.
I don't know what's worse about the second story: the fact that the OP married out of money and not love or that marriage was being used for status by the husband.
There nothing wrong with marriage like that, both parties happily benefit from it and agreed upon the arrangements, if they don’t have issues and are not forced into one by the other, there isn’t anything morally wrong.
They are two adults living their best life. What's wrong with this? It is not for everyone but it works for them. Not every marriage needs to be an Hollywood romance XD.
Story 1: The parents screwed up by even telling her about the college fund in the first place. Let alone give her access. Cancel her trip and get back whatever you can. Tell her the shortage comes out of her $5,000.
Story 1: he's the jerk. That is HER $ & while he wants her to go to college, he sounds jealous. If he closes the account, he is stealing $ relatives gave her out of jealousy.
He is jealous because he wishes he was going with his girl(aka her mother) to Australia to see the cast of supernatural...😂😂😂 In all seriousness, OP should have opened an actual college account for his daughter not a savings account. It has withdrawal restrictions and some even gain higher interest. Its not too late though.
Story 1: Bad idea to deny the daughter the funds. This is actually a self imposed punishment area. She has $10k less to work with and the struggle with that will eventually show later unless she actually gets or is savvy with her finances. Does she plan on cutting college costs somewhere or taking loans? I do agree with locking the account to prevent any further withdrawals in case the daughter thinks of another financially dumb idea.
for the last story the op is not in the wrong. there was no specific need for the money: just for a vacation. and though, yes, you should take breaks when possible, the friend had seemingly already gone on multiple, and this sounds like an excuse to have just one more trip rather than a need for a break. so i think the op was right - especially considering that the friend would most likely keep asking if she gave in the first time.
For the second story. Your marriage can be seen as an arranged marriage, but without the involvement of elders. This has been common for thousands of years, and based on history, it actually worked quite well in the most part. However, it seems like your family is making this out to be something that it isn't. Clearly the both of you have agreed to this, and in all honesty, it seems more like your family is jealous of what you have and are just not willing to admit that to either you or themselves. So basically you are living a very old tradition and that isn't a bad thing as long as you and your husband are okay with it.
Did everyone forget in the first story about the collage funds that the girl herself put 5000 into the account herself so she took HER money back that she had saved into the account and would then pay back the money that SHE had put in so I don't think the girl is the jerk in thw first story but the op
1st story. Man acts like he was the ONLY person who put money in that account. Several people , including the daughter, out money in that account. HE is the only one with a problem with it. Touch of jealousy there, or envy
My responses to this. Story 1: She sounds like she doesn't even want to go to college. **Looks at her mother** But SHE needs to look at the situation with new eyes and a new perspective. The father had the correct Idea, but the wrong route. Story 2: ok, first off, they should've asked a better question. And they really need to read the constitution of independence beforehand because they need to TRULY open their eyes to the truth. Story 3: ok, the concierge should be fired, seeing that. Story 4: As a teenager doctor without a degree, I can tell you I would be diagnosing this teen as soon as I saw that. Story 5: she needs a psychiatrist or a physicist because she needs to open her eyes to her own situation. My brother is that way, so I can relate. Both my brother and the friend are like cats, doing things without connecting the dots of actions to consequences
Story 1 he not a jerk, i would have done the same thing lock the account. Story 2 the gold digger is not a jerk its her husbands summer house they don't respect her they just want the house. Story 3 he's not a jerk he paid for the views.
I feel like the first story the dad took it SLIGHTLY too far as since she is just a teenager locking up permanently at least till college is a bit much definitely after she pays back the $5000 but in teen years people are extra quick to do first think later so maybe a talk and how to handle it forward is better than only the father has access.
Oh, that college fund one. As a fan of the show supernatural I think this girl spot on. I think she did a good job. She use her $5000 that she put in plus $5000 of the college fund I mean come on this is like a once in a lifetime opportunity when will she get a chance to meet them??? Now I do think her paying for her friends. Everything is a little ridiculous unless the friend is going to pay her back at some point. Or if she was using this for her friends next, you know several years worth of birthdays and Christmases. But I don’t think that the college funds should be taken away from my kid for one and I have some fun and meet somebody from the show that she loves.
Story 1 the op is the jerk. As it sounds like he thinks that school is the most important thing ever. School says no to being happy, or having fun. So taking out some money for yourself is okay.
In regards to the college fun story, I think the original poster is absolutely the jerk in that case. Yes I can see where they are coming from and that the daughter did something incredibly dumb. Having said that, college is incredibly expensive and by the sound of that this account still has probably at least $100,000 in it when I was in college I would’ve killed so I had that kind of money just so I could’ve gone in without taking out too much debt, my family didn’t have that kind of money to pay for the whole thing myself and I wasn’t given any kind of college fund whatsoever from any of my relatives. I think original poster is right to lock down the account so their daughter cannot do something that stupid ever again. But I think it more appropriate punishment will be making the daughter had to get a student loan to cover the difference.
so in essence you are saying they should pay for an thief who stole 5k from them? because thats what she did I wasnt her money yet so she stole from her parents. clearly she isnt adult enough for colledge so she just cnat go unless she pays it herself
@@wowgek7 that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying it would be wrong for the parents to just completely take it away because of her doing something stupid, and it does look like the daughter is willing to pay it back. There’s still should be consequences by two take away someone’s entire college fund over the seems cruel to me
@@warrenrhinerson6373 oh but thats exactly what you are saying what she did is no difference then stealing from an stranger for example she ahd to opportunity and just did it. she only is willing to pay it back because she is caught sh had no trouble taking it in the first place. also according to the story its unlikely she CAN pay it back. and explain to me how taking away the college fund is mroe cruel then going to jail? because thats what would happen to most people stealing 5k and egtting caught
@@wowgek7 no that isn’t what I’m saying at all, and yeah, I do think it is different. Remember part of this was her money as well that she willingly put in to the college fund and granted we have no idea how much she put in and how much the parents put in. For all we know the $10,000 she took out was entirely the money that she put in. We don’t have the full story here. And yeah, I do think it would be cruel and unfair to take away that college fund for her over this. I think she should still be punished. But in a different way than this. I think not only were paying it, but forcing her to take out a student loan to cover the difference, and having to pay that off over the years would be a far more fair punishment. And answer the question of why I think, taking away to college fund, would be more cool than jail at this point, because the college fund was set up by her parents guaranteed to her by her parents all of her family pitched into it, including the daughter herself. Taking that away, would essentially be giving the finger to everyone who pitched into the college fund.
@@warrenrhinerson6373 im only talking about the 5k she hasnt put in that other 5k is her money plain and simple even if she wasted it on something stupid. so that point isnt relevant. I go by the info we have and that is that she has taken 10k while putting in 5k if she fo example would have put in 7500 instead the point still stands so unless she has put at elats 10k in she stole plain and simple. lol her paying it back isnt punishment though thats repairing the damage nthing more nothing less. and your last point doesnt hold water either. your assuming op wants to keep all the money the family put in thats just an assumption though. most likely he would give the money back to them if he did that. if he kept it he would be stealing himself afterall. also college fund are never guaranteed. I coould tell my kids there is an colledge fund that doesnt mean they are entitled to the money. what for example if they decided to NOT go to college? not telling the kids the fund is there is an stupid decission as well because they might to decide to NOT go to college due to the debt they would build so you would need to tell them so they can make the right decission for them. in essence the colledge fund is nothing more then the prmoise that you college is (partly?) paid for if you decide to go.
story 1 I disagree it wasnt ehr money asside from that 5k so inessence she stole 5k from her parents. to me that would mean clearely she isnt adult enough to go to college so she can go when she pays for it herself
op's not the jerk, but his daughter is a jerk, like who in their right mind uses college funds for a trip or to a concert out of state instead of going to college, going to college classes.
Story 1: I agree with the narrator. OP, you need to calm down. Your are blowing this out of proportion. True, what your daughter did was stupid. But, she did say she would pay it back. She is not weaseling out with money. She is trying to repay a debt that can easily be resolved. Chill out, bro!
2:18 sorry but it is a bit of a jerk but it is her money, but if it’s not enough for College, tell her you won’t pay it I’d let her fail sorry but overall you are not the jerk
Story 1, OP is the jerk. I'm 31 and i've never been outside the united states. I understand that a fund like that is set up for your daughter to go to college but her life only gets harder after that. Before she even knows what's happened the world will have beat her into submission. Taxes, holding down a full-time job, saving for retirement, trying to keep some kind of social life, so many people think that once you get out of college you have it made but that's not true at all. Life is basically a downhill spiral at that point. Even if you are lucky enough to land your dream job and make a shit load of money doing it (which she probably won't because i'm guessing art major just from your description), most people aren't going to have international money or international time. Let her have this because it really is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Story 2, OP is also a jerk. She's a whore, she admits to being a whore, and she just told her nieces that that's a perfectly acceptable lifestyle. Newsflash, it's not and it's not ok to tell someone's kids that it is. She overstepped a major boundary and needs to apologize for it.
story 1 i have to disagree with the narrator the daughter took money out something that would help more get better in life without asking who knows if she will end up using the rest for something stupid so no op is in the right for what he did
The sister could do what she wants with her life, but there is no way she would be allowed around my children. There is a word that we call women and men like them.
Even if she goes to college and take out a student loan, she'll have her future husband if she gets married to pay for her student debt. There's one thing about entitled people that they will never change their ways even if they become adults and have family of their own.
Did you miss the part that she is a lesbian with a girlfriend? Nice of you to assume that women's sole ambition in life is to be married to and depend on men...pretty pathetic and gross 🤮. This girl also contributed $5000 to that account so its not as if she sat on her butt waiting for some man to give her money. You better check you misogyny.
In story 4, I'd say the OP is the jerk. While the student definitely was an issue, labeling them with psychological issues after one crude angsty teen drawing seems too far imo. Especially considering that it was the only possibly serious indicator. The OP isn't any sort of psychiatrist as far as we know, so it's honestly kind of messed up that the school is having teachers field diagnosing students
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I mixed on the first story. She essentially stole from an account that's intended for her but it's not her money yet. She clearly has no accountability and is making excuses for her actions while remaining completely unrepentant. I can only wonder where she learned that from. I agree that locking down the account is the best thing to do so she can't have access to it anymore. I'm just flabbergasted that she had access to it in the first place. You can't put that kind of money in front of a teenager and not expect them to be tempted. Again, boundaries. I also think the idea of having her contribute to her own college fund will teach her a lesson.
Exactly!
The original poster said that the daughter already contributes her own savings towards her college fund. She had about $5000 of her own savings put into that college fund and basically only took $5000 of other people's contributions towards that college fund. It wasn't right of her to take it out on her own but at the same time I think the original poster is being too harsh on their daughter. If she already had $5000 of her own money in there and promised to pay back the other $5000 then why does the OP choose not to believe her?
It sounds like other family members contributed the daughter saved up 5k herself, so it’s not all OPs money either. He’d need to refund everyone who contributed and the MIL also offered to cover the 5k$ that wasn’t his daughter’s contributions. Not saying the daughter was right but this seems like an over reaction. If he withdrew what he personally contributed that would be one thing.
i agree - and i do also think that the account should have been locked in the first place as she would not be allowed the money before college so there was no need for her to have access to it anyway.
I'm flabbergasted is that she paid and book hotel, plane tickets and convention tickets to her girlfriend. Like hello, she has to pay her things if she wanna go
As for the first story. I must first applaud you and the fact that you and your wife managed to save that kind of money for your daughter's college. Unfortunately, we, my now ex-wife, and I were never able to do that for either of our children.
This being said, I too believe that your daughter acted very immaturely. Especially given the fact that she believes that both her and you and your family will always be in this good financial situation. So by making it seem like that money will no longer be there would definitely be an eye opener, especially for someone who really has no idea on how, or how bad and/or unfair life can truly be. If you don't prepare her now for what life can throw at her, then she will be very unprepared when it does occur.
Also, I would recommend that you speak with your entire family and clue them in about this for two reasons.
1. To avoid backlash from your family.
2. So that everyone can help open her eyes about this.
However, until she earns your trust again, I would definitely keep that money transferred into an entirely different account.
I agree with this bc she is a teenager and she should know better than do what she did is very immature heck my parents would back hand slap me if I ever did that I don't have a college fund account but I'm working on it by maself
1st story : I'm completely agreed with the narrator "not the OP", let the daughter pay that money back then give her access to college funds. It's not worth destroying whole college funds from a mistake.
I'm thinking that he should actually hold her to what she said. she said she would pay it all back so have it locked down until every sense of it is paid back by her. any money that is given to her by another family member will not count towards this money being freed and once every single cent of it is paid back then she can have access to it. there may be a point where he actually shows mercy, but it should not be right off the top or else she'll believe that if she went person cries that the whole world will crumble to her feet and that is something that will make horrible decisions for our society because the rest of us will have to deal with the spoiled brat that their family creates
Story 1: what the daughter did is stupid, no debate around that. But taking away her college funds (not locking the access, which should've been the case from the start, but closing it) is just as stupid. Not only that, but the narrator mentions the family made donations towards the funds, and seeing how the mother in law was willing to pay 5k on the stop, I'd say those donations were significant. So, unless they plan to give back all that money that was set up for the daughter's education, they are basically stealing money from their family if they keep it to themselves. To me, that is an insane overreaction and there are way better ways to handle the situation
NTA. Cancel it all anyway. Screw the refund. And yes absolutely lock down the account so nobody can do anything with it. And do not let anyone put anything in it to "replace" what she took. Also I have no problem with OP revoking all the money completely.
Story 2 - NTA. If they want to talk shit about you then they can suffer the consequences for their stupidity. And there is Nothing wrong with you answering your nieces questions honestly.
Last stories I would consider the possibility she straight up lied to your friends as she seem be behaving quite badly and maybe she become an entitled person.
If your other friends feel so strongly that the first friend needs help so badly they should be the ones to give her the money for the trip
Story 2: I understand the sisters side of this whoel thing and i kind of understand OPs side, but putting the whole background aside, getting angry about not being able to milk your sister which you already dislike is quite stupid
She probably thinks that Joe is gonna magically forgive the loan lol
story 2: how tf is it okay for your family to tell the children that you’re a gold digger and married your husband for money, but then when the kids ask you if it’s true, and you confirm it, that suddenly makes you the villain?
that’s the equivalent of your aunts telling everyone that you’re gay, then when you confirm it, suddenly you’re “teaching the children that it’s okay to live your own life”
Dude- the OP and her "spouse" are happy with the arrangement and seem to be getting along just fine- I don't see the problem personally. The OP's family is way out of line though
Story 2: I find it kind of hilarious that the OP's family trying to claim the moral high-ground when it comes to her relationship but they also are getting all kinds of ass-mad when the family isn't getting free stuff from the OP's husband.
Agreed, you can't call someone a gold-digger, then expect to use the gold they have dug, or their summer house!
Yep I’d just be angry with her advice to the niece, about her pretending to be a gay friend’s gf, I don’t want my daughter to be apart of such drama.
2:09 you should have locked it where only you had access to it when she was an infant.
Story 2, If the Sisters didn't want their daughter being "influenced" by hearing about her Aunt's "Gold Digging" relationship, they shouldn't have talked about it while their daughter was either present or in earshot.
for story 2, if they want to denigrate the decision she made, they shouldn't benefit from it at all. they should treat that money like blood money and be insulted at being offered anything. if they're truly as pure as they pretend to be as it is, they're not holy. they're holier than thou. she actually did them a favor. now it isn't obvious for everyone to see that they're raging hypocrites. they're just individuals raging.
story 2: who actually is tue good digger now ? the op who is in a give and take relationship where both sides are happy and the sisters who treat op like crap but want to milk her of everything they can
Story 1: It’s for her own good. She needs to learn fiscal responsibility as soon and as often as possible. Terrible priorities to chase a famous person over investing in one’s self.
Story 2. The sisters have been talking smack about the married sister.... literally to their own children, or at least say these things within earshot on multiple occasions. The married sister simply isn't arguing about what the children have already heard, So.... it was the SISTERS that filled the children's heads with that kind of thought. So don't be blaming the married sister.
Make her pay it back. But let her go to school
Story 1: OP is 100% not the jerk here... the daughter is and anybody that is trying to defend her. A college fund account is for exactly that: COLLEGE!... not some convention holiday in Australia. It also doesnt matter that she put in some of her own money into this account. Want to spend money on this trip? Then use your own savings money, not money side aside for college. The OP was right in both locking the daughter out of the account, since it technically isnt her money to do with as she pleases, and that this teaches her that she can simply buy her way out of anything which is just wrong. If there's any money leftover after she's all finished with college, then fine, but certainly not beforehand.
Story 2: Well, marrying for money is never a good thing, but seems the OP and the husband are happy so... to each their own there, i suppose. As for the sisters, they are 100% out of line with all the negative comments towards the OP, made even worse by saying it all to the nieces. The OP wasn't influencing them in any way shape or form... simply answering questions.... so the OP isn't doing harm in any way here. I think the OP just needs to limit contact here and honestly, they deserved to have the vacation cancelled.
Story 3: Yeah screw those old Karens and the concierge for pretty much not enforcing the rules there. Stuff like that is just super annoying and inconsiderate and im glad the OP didnt take that crap for a second, and if it were me when they said "whoever complained i hope you're happy", i wouldve called them out on it. Put those stupid Karens back in their place and where there chairs belong.
Story 4: While i think that the revenge on this dumb student was pretty amusing, its pretty obvious that he wasn't in any kind of "distress" and he was just being a douchebag. The whole 'checking for distress' and 'possible symptoms' gets blown way out of proportion nowadays and things could've taken worse turns for the student, rather then just a simple counselor visit. So, while i think it was funny, the OP probably shouldn't do that a second time and the student should just grow up.
Story 5: Absolutely not the jerk here. Stories like this are exactly why you never loan out money, especially to family and friends. The OP was smart to not give money, and yes it totally would just enable her bad habits. The friends that are taking Sara's side are also jerks here. If there is a legit emergency, then maybe give a dime or two, but for a lavish lifestyle? No, screw that. Sara really does not sound like that good of a friend.
In Story 5: I would ask the other friends if they would lend "Sarah" money? And if they wouldn't, ask why they wouldn't and why that would be different?
Wait, who's supposed to be the gold digger? Sounds like the sisters are. OP is in a business arrangement.
They judge and look down upon her yet want the benefits her life brings...such hypocrites.
Taking the ten thousand dollars is wrong but supernatural is a great show. I would do it to meet the guys who are in the show. It’s bad but it’s worth it
1st one absolutely ntah i am a teenager and that is an absolute bs excuse. It’s for college and that alone. I would lock it until she pays up at least half and shows that she understands that she did wrong. Yes it might be once in a lifetime but that’s when you pay for it with your savings not your college fund that was put in by others. You can pull your $5000 cause you put it in but the rest is from you, not the fund. If she fully understands she was wrong i would keep it locked so she can’t take any out but still give her the ability to go to college.
Well. If your sisters repeatedly feel like you're impacting their daughters in a negative way, you should indeed pull yourself out. You could say you're doing it for them.. 😂😂😂😂😂
So for the first story, I’m surprised she even have access to it in the first place, even if she wanted put some of her saving into it.
OP isn’t the a-hole, he shouldn’t deny the fund completely. If the daughter want to act like an adult, make a plan and put interest into it. That way, she doesn’t believe she just “pay” her way out of it. Cuz if she miss a deadline then she have to pay interest and it is somefhinf when you loan money from banks or something if I remember it right. And if someone tried to pay it for her, deny ir. And if someone secretly giving her money to do so, removed that money and put it somewhere else. And keep it where she still owe. And the secret money is separate to give back to said person. That way, it give her a harsh lesson on how she can’t just “pay” her way out and rely on others. She need to learn how to do it on her own.
First story: YTA for letting your daughter have access to her college fund in the first place, and YTA for nuking her chances of going to college just because you allowed her to have access to that fund for her personal useage. If you wanted that money to go straight to college, you should have restricted access to that money at the start.
Story 2: after what i hear, i feel like she is in some sort of open marriage thingy. It's weird but they respect each other so it's good ENOUGH
For the college one take out all of what you put in then when she pays back the 5,000 she didnt make herself then put the money back in.
last story : why dont the friends who take her side loan her the money instead and see how they still feel
You know, every time I hear the words “Gold Digger” I always have the urge to listen to Gold Digger by Ludacris Ft. Li’l Fate and Bobby V.
Story 1: OP’s daughter used the money that was specifically for college for something that wasn’t for college. It shows that she will spend her money impulsively if it’s just given to her (especially when she spouted the “my money, my choice” crap), but denying her the rest of college fund won’t do any good. Cutting off her access won’t really teach her anything either. If you want to teach her a lesson, let her have access to “her money” with no restrictions on what she can spend it on, don’t put any more money into the account, and then just sit back and enjoy the show when she goes to pay her college tuition and finds that she no longer has a college fund to pay it with because she spent it all on stupid crap. If it’s her money, then what happens once it’s gone because it all went into non-college related crap is on her.
Okay, im going to have a controversial opinion here, but with the first story, the dad is the asshole. Yeah, she made a mistake putting her money in that account forbher savings, but in the end, that was HER contribution. She isn't the asshole because she didn't take any more money than she contributed. Taking away her future because she spent her money on one last fun thing before college is an asshole move. My stepmom used to do this shit to me, and now im flipping burgers instead of working for the police as a sketch artist or doing stage makeup. Yeah, im in cosmetology school, but that's IN SPITE of that woman.
It's a college fund, not a savings account. It's for college, not her trip. If she had already gone to college and this was the leftover amount, then it would be okay... but since that wasnt the case, then no, she's in the wrong, not the dad. While threatening to take away the fund is a bit extreme, she's the jerk, not the dad.
@@QuickManEXEIt is a savings account. College funds or special accounts for education have restrictions. The fact the daughter was able to easily access for a withdrawal confirms that it was NOT a college fund account. Those ones have tax free direct debit instructions to colleges, bookshops and student housing and while anybody can deposit into them, withdrawals can be restricted to both signatories together; parent & over 18 student at the same time or more commonly, the parent only. The student can make direct debits to school & other education expenses but not withdrawal of cash.
Story 1: dont deny your kid college because that might be cutting short her future for ever. Just lock the account so only you can withdrew money from it. And IF you want to teach her a lesson cut the fund 10k short of completion so she will have to work to compensate for it due to her own irresponsible decisions 👀
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I will find the poster for 1st story the jerk because even if she pays back the 10 thousand the college fund should be just used for college with ur approval of buying something.
I don't know what's worse about the second story: the fact that the OP married out of money and not love or that marriage was being used for status by the husband.
I fine it was a marriage of convention for both op and her husband
Sounds like the husbands gay with a rich homophobic family. Or one that demanded the “right” bride, the op fulfilled
There nothing wrong with marriage like that, both parties happily benefit from it and agreed upon the arrangements, if they don’t have issues and are not forced into one by the other, there isn’t anything morally wrong.
They are two adults living their best life. What's wrong with this? It is not for everyone but it works for them. Not every marriage needs to be an Hollywood romance XD.
College is a waste of time anyway
Story 1: The parents screwed up by even telling her about the college fund in the first place. Let alone give her access. Cancel her trip and get back whatever you can. Tell her the shortage comes out of her $5,000.
Op in 1 should just leave the college money to her and let her learn her own lessons
7:30 don't bite the hand that feeds you and then act like the victim
Story 1: he's the jerk. That is HER $ & while he wants her to go to college, he sounds jealous. If he closes the account, he is stealing $ relatives gave her out of jealousy.
I wouldn’t say Jealous, but you are right.
He is jealous because he wishes he was going with his girl(aka her mother) to Australia to see the cast of supernatural...😂😂😂 In all seriousness, OP should have opened an actual college account for his daughter not a savings account. It has withdrawal restrictions and some even gain higher interest. Its not too late though.
That is why I dispise most old rich people who think they are better than everyone else because they have money.
Story 1: Bad idea to deny the daughter the funds. This is actually a self imposed punishment area. She has $10k less to work with and the struggle with that will eventually show later unless she actually gets or is savvy with her finances. Does she plan on cutting college costs somewhere or taking loans?
I do agree with locking the account to prevent any further withdrawals in case the daughter thinks of another financially dumb idea.
for the last story the op is not in the wrong. there was no specific need for the money: just for a vacation. and though, yes, you should take breaks when possible, the friend had seemingly already gone on multiple, and this sounds like an excuse to have just one more trip rather than a need for a break. so i think the op was right - especially considering that the friend would most likely keep asking if she gave in the first time.
For the second story.
Your marriage can be seen as an arranged marriage, but without the involvement of elders.
This has been common for thousands of years, and based on history, it actually worked quite well in the most part.
However, it seems like your family is making this out to be something that it isn't.
Clearly the both of you have agreed to this, and in all honesty, it seems more like your family is jealous of what you have and are just not willing to admit that to either you or themselves.
So basically you are living a very old tradition and that isn't a bad thing as long as you and your husband are okay with it.
Did everyone forget in the first story about the collage funds that the girl herself put 5000 into the account herself so she took HER money back that she had saved into the account and would then pay back the money that SHE had put in so I don't think the girl is the jerk in thw first story but the op
The other 5000 is a bit extreme to take out but at the same time why would she have access in the first place if its only for collage
Story 2 - If they don't approve, then they get to not benefit
1st story. Man acts like he was the ONLY person who put money in that account. Several people , including the daughter, out money in that account. HE is the only one with a problem with it. Touch of jealousy there, or envy
Story one. I don't think the stealing from her college fund is nearly as bad as the fact that you let her watch that show
My responses to this.
Story 1: She sounds like she doesn't even want to go to college. **Looks at her mother** But SHE needs to look at the situation with new eyes and a new perspective. The father had the correct Idea, but the wrong route.
Story 2: ok, first off, they should've asked a better question. And they really need to read the constitution of independence beforehand because they need to TRULY open their eyes to the truth.
Story 3: ok, the concierge should be fired, seeing that.
Story 4: As a teenager doctor without a degree, I can tell you I would be diagnosing this teen as soon as I saw that.
Story 5: she needs a psychiatrist or a physicist because she needs to open her eyes to her own situation.
My brother is that way, so I can relate. Both my brother and the friend are like cats, doing things without connecting the dots of actions to consequences
Shes not gonna fail art school theere and move to germany and mak epolitics right?
She's right I wouldn't do it myself if I want to marry somebody I would want to because I love them not because they have money
Story 1 he not a jerk, i would have done the same thing lock the account. Story 2 the gold digger is not a jerk its her husbands summer house they don't respect her they just want the house. Story 3 he's not a jerk he paid for the views.
I feel like the first story the dad took it SLIGHTLY too far as since she is just a teenager locking up permanently at least till college is a bit much definitely after she pays back the $5000 but in teen years people are extra quick to do first think later so maybe a talk and how to handle it forward is better than only the father has access.
She can still go to college. She can get a job and get loans to pay for college.
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As a black individual I was thinking something else
Oh, that college fund one. As a fan of the show supernatural I think this girl spot on. I think she did a good job. She use her $5000 that she put in plus $5000 of the college fund I mean come on this is like a once in a lifetime opportunity when will she get a chance to meet them??? Now I do think her paying for her friends. Everything is a little ridiculous unless the friend is going to pay her back at some point. Or if she was using this for her friends next, you know several years worth of birthdays and Christmases. But I don’t think that the college funds should be taken away from my kid for one and I have some fun and meet somebody from the show that she loves.
On first story I agree with narrator
After I posted that comment, I realized, you said she put her own money in there, so couldn't we just say she did use some of her own money?
Story 1 the op is the jerk. As it sounds like he thinks that school is the most important thing ever. School says no to being happy, or having fun. So taking out some money for yourself is okay.
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But she was very immature for not asking...
Whith that first story that money is not hers until she _goes to college,_ right? It's a _college_ fund, after all
In regards to the college fun story, I think the original poster is absolutely the jerk in that case. Yes I can see where they are coming from and that the daughter did something incredibly dumb. Having said that, college is incredibly expensive and by the sound of that this account still has probably at least $100,000 in it when I was in college I would’ve killed so I had that kind of money just so I could’ve gone in without taking out too much debt, my family didn’t have that kind of money to pay for the whole thing myself and I wasn’t given any kind of college fund whatsoever from any of my relatives. I think original poster is right to lock down the account so their daughter cannot do something that stupid ever again. But I think it more appropriate punishment will be making the daughter had to get a student loan to cover the difference.
so in essence you are saying they should pay for an thief who stole 5k from them? because thats what she did I wasnt her money yet so she stole from her parents.
clearly she isnt adult enough for colledge so she just cnat go unless she pays it herself
@@wowgek7 that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying it would be wrong for the parents to just completely take it away because of her doing something stupid, and it does look like the daughter is willing to pay it back. There’s still should be consequences by two take away someone’s entire college fund over the seems cruel to me
@@warrenrhinerson6373 oh but thats exactly what you are saying what she did is no difference then stealing from an stranger for example she ahd to opportunity and just did it.
she only is willing to pay it back because she is caught sh had no trouble taking it in the first place. also according to the story its unlikely she CAN pay it back.
and explain to me how taking away the college fund is mroe cruel then going to jail? because thats what would happen to most people stealing 5k and egtting caught
@@wowgek7 no that isn’t what I’m saying at all, and yeah, I do think it is different. Remember part of this was her money as well that she willingly put in to the college fund and granted we have no idea how much she put in and how much the parents put in. For all we know the $10,000 she took out was entirely the money that she put in. We don’t have the full story here.
And yeah, I do think it would be cruel and unfair to take away that college fund for her over this. I think she should still be punished. But in a different way than this. I think not only were paying it, but forcing her to take out a student loan to cover the difference, and having to pay that off over the years would be a far more fair punishment.
And answer the question of why I think, taking away to college fund, would be more cool than jail at this point, because the college fund was set up by her parents guaranteed to her by her parents all of her family pitched into it, including the daughter herself. Taking that away, would essentially be giving the finger to everyone who pitched into the college fund.
@@warrenrhinerson6373 im only talking about the 5k she hasnt put in that other 5k is her money plain and simple even if she wasted it on something stupid. so that point isnt relevant. I go by the info we have and that is that she has taken 10k while putting in 5k if she fo example would have put in 7500 instead the point still stands so unless she has put at elats 10k in she stole plain and simple.
lol her paying it back isnt punishment though thats repairing the damage nthing more nothing less.
and your last point doesnt hold water either. your assuming op wants to keep all the money the family put in thats just an assumption though. most likely he would give the money back to them if he did that. if he kept it he would be stealing himself afterall.
also college fund are never guaranteed. I coould tell my kids there is an colledge fund that doesnt mean they are entitled to the money. what for example if they decided to NOT go to college?
not telling the kids the fund is there is an stupid decission as well because they might to decide to NOT go to college due to the debt they would build so you would need to tell them so they can make the right decission for them.
in essence the colledge fund is nothing more then the prmoise that you college is (partly?) paid for if you decide to go.
story 1 I disagree it wasnt ehr money asside from that 5k so inessence she stole 5k from her parents.
to me that would mean clearely she isnt adult enough to go to college so she can go when she pays for it herself
I can see both side of the story 1
The entitled daughter on the first story has got to be a blonde
op's not the jerk, but his daughter is a jerk, like who in their right mind uses college funds for a trip or to a concert out of state instead of going to college, going to college classes.
but i hope that she learns her lesson.
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Story 1: I agree with the narrator. OP, you need to calm down. Your are blowing this out of proportion. True, what your daughter did was stupid. But, she did say she would pay it back. She is not weaseling out with money. She is trying to repay a debt that can easily be resolved. Chill out, bro!
2:18 sorry but it is a bit of a jerk but it is her money, but if it’s not enough for College, tell her you won’t pay it I’d let her fail sorry but overall you are not the jerk
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Story 1, OP is the jerk. I'm 31 and i've never been outside the united states. I understand that a fund like that is set up for your daughter to go to college but her life only gets harder after that. Before she even knows what's happened the world will have beat her into submission. Taxes, holding down a full-time job, saving for retirement, trying to keep some kind of social life, so many people think that once you get out of college you have it made but that's not true at all. Life is basically a downhill spiral at that point. Even if you are lucky enough to land your dream job and make a shit load of money doing it (which she probably won't because i'm guessing art major just from your description), most people aren't going to have international money or international time. Let her have this because it really is a once in a lifetime opportunity.
Story 2, OP is also a jerk. She's a whore, she admits to being a whore, and she just told her nieces that that's a perfectly acceptable lifestyle. Newsflash, it's not and it's not ok to tell someone's kids that it is. She overstepped a major boundary and needs to apologize for it.
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story 1 i have to disagree with the narrator the daughter took money out something that would help more get better in life without asking who knows if she will end up using the rest for something stupid so no op is in the right for what he did
I'm with the narrator
i thought that the college money is for college not for stupid stuff.
@@viviennemorgan7217College is kind of stupid unless you get a STEM degree.
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Story 1: Dad is being the jerk.
You say "like" a little too much
The Op on story one is not the jerk
The sister could do what she wants with her life, but there is no way she would be allowed around my children. There is a word that we call women and men like them.
Even if she goes to college and take out a student loan, she'll have her future husband if she gets married to pay for her student debt. There's one thing about entitled people that they will never change their ways even if they become adults and have family of their own.
Did you miss the part that she is a lesbian with a girlfriend? Nice of you to assume that women's sole ambition in life is to be married to and depend on men...pretty pathetic and gross 🤮. This girl also contributed $5000 to that account so its not as if she sat on her butt waiting for some man to give her money. You better check you misogyny.
I think you missed the part where she has a girlfriend XD
@@orelliaorellia142 Thanks for correcting me but I focusing more on her since she's the one who took out the money from her college fund.
In story 4, I'd say the OP is the jerk. While the student definitely was an issue, labeling them with psychological issues after one crude angsty teen drawing seems too far imo. Especially considering that it was the only possibly serious indicator. The OP isn't any sort of psychiatrist as far as we know, so it's honestly kind of messed up that the school is having teachers field diagnosing students
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