Happens everywhere. There's also another kind of loneliness you can be around friends and coworkers and still feel lonely because there's no one special
@HIS Footprints OnWater i feel u are heven sent. Thank you soo much, i have just spoken to my cousin who feels i should go to a therapist. My life has been a whirlwind.. Am 29 and i willing to try all ways get the joy i have missed out while i am locked in my house
@HIS Footprints OnWater no, isolating myself. I just feel i need and want to be alone. Everything off, am jusr on youtube trying to get encouragement through inspiration videos
I'm 55 I've been single for 30 yrs music has always been my company I've loved music since I was little I play a guitar acoustic my fav guitar and it's company too but being alone for soooo long it gets to you I find my strength and comfort in God almighty try him ppls you,l never ever regret it it's the best step U could ever make amen God bless and help ALL lonely ppl worldwide keeping everyone in my prayers Shalom xxxx🙏🙏🙏💔❤️💖🙌💓❤️❤️
Me too!!! I am 33 years old and music has been MY ONLY FRIEND! I love music too! And fashion! ☺️ I’ve been alone most of my life. No friends, my family doesn’t talk, my high school 🏫 boyfriend broke up with me In 2006 and i still can’t forgive him. After 15 years. Anyways I am here if you wanna talk 🙂
This is primarily the reason I left London 10 years ago. The loneliness became overwhelming. I just lived to go to work, I’d spend weekends without talking to a soul except shop staff etc. I moved home to the midlands to at least where my family were. I don’t have masses friends but the ones I do have are quality friends who’s company I enjoy. And coming home to the midlands I did meet my partner too.
I'm independent woman and been alone abroad ever since i got here. Alone at home and lonely. No friends. Work home work home which is my everyday routine. Sucks right? And I'm 39 now. 😢
When I'm alone (at home with family) I feel less lonier when I'm outside, even when I'm in a crowd full of people I still feel lonley, I just can't connect with anyone 😔.
kevin murphy hope they are nice to you. And i don’t think they’ll hate you if you told them you are an atheist, as a Christian myself I hope you meet good church people. Hopefully get a good perspective on Christianity too. Anyway don’t give up ✨
@Diana Connors Yes, we need conection and interaction with other human beings on a pretty regular basis. And Nothing will substitute. Not social media, television, reading, hobbies, or even our beloved pets. It's a core requirement of being human, I think.
The last time I was in London was November 2019. It was damn awful. The people sneered at eachother, and never smiled. Won't be going back anytime soon.
I live in Canada and loneliness does not discriminate.. I'm 62 y.o. and 'have to' work 45-50 hrs/week to support myself. I cant wait to retire but at the same time the intense loneliness I feel the instant I leave work and walk out those doors is like hitting a brick wall. I can almost feel the life, the energy and the color leave my body and soul. It's 'that' stifling! :(
Wow. I never new ppl feel this way. I'm in Canada don't have any friends , dont talk to much family but don't get lonely. I spend alot of time on self development ( working out,doing yoga and Journaling and creative work). This is an eye opener.
@@carolinespence15 Don't retire. I am 63 and don't plan on retiring for at least another 6 or 7 years. I am married and my husband is not going to retire for awhile, either. I tried staying home for awhile when I was unemployed and my life felt meaningless and isolated.
One can even argue the harsh weather in Canada during the weather surely must exacerbate the loneliness? Maybe the French-English language issue might increase the effects too?
@@SkinnyEMedia The weather is certainly an issue. If you don't make an effort to really get outdoors and get some exercise, despite the weather, you feel worse. The sun is sometimes not seen for many, many days. I would think that the English/French language thing might not be so much of an issue except in certain parts of the country such as Ottawa, where there are people of both backgrounds. However, in the larger cities, such as Toronto, there are people who speak many different languages and who often stick with their own cultures, and they often do not mix much with others. This can contribute to the sense of isolation.
Born n Raised n Philippines but never been lonely all my Life. I remember we work together eat together help our parents and church together. Everyday is a Gift! A cheerful mind merry Heart is sunshine n everyday Life no matter what. Attitude shine us. Behavior hunt us! 🙏❤️🙏
J Mar We all grow n Physically but Spiritually Orphan. Without Jesus Love We are All Hurt n Broken. Lonely n Needy. A Cycle of Life. In Nature Human Love is Selfish. Loving Jesus Loving ourself is the Greatest love of All. 🙏❤️🙏
No one ever comes to my home or asks so I go out and joined clubs so I can talk to humans. Suits me and I don't ever feel lonely. Got my TV and Netflix.
Not only the elderly, in the U.S. even millenials suffer loneliness more now than ever. Who is lonely at 25 or 30 years old, over long extended amounts of time? To me, that is amazing.
What about hobby/social clubs, volunteer work and shared living? If you sit around waiting for someone to knock on your door, you'll never get anywhere socially.
Try to live in the philippines you NEVER BE ALONE even in your entire life..we filipino never left alone every member of the family specialy our elders...
Used to find a touch of loneliness was delicious. Now my husband and kids have left ,so I come home to a cold, dark, empty space. Day in, day out. Day in, day out.
I am from Kansas, USA. In 2015, I studied in London for two weeks and followed that with two weeks of study in Edinburgh. I loved and continue to cherish my month in the UK. A part of my coursework was to study the culture. I love British culture and I had a blast. The one thing that shocked me was that a giant city like London and Edinburgh shut down so early. Another thing I found was that Brits seemed to be put off by genuinely gregarious persons. Socializing was difficult. I wanted to meet and converse with locals and it was terrifyingly difficult as a good-natured American. Through my stubbornness, I found fun company in England and Scotland and we're still friends to this day. I'm single and childless and loneliness is a battle. Despite this, I am surrounded by people who genuinely care. I would like to learn more and, if possible, help. I wholeheartedly believe there is a solution and that this might be a cultural issue. Why don't the English converse on the tube or the bus? Why do social settings shut down so early? Is it still negative to mingle with another class? I wish I could return and be everyone's friend because no soul deserves to live their life in isolation and loneliness.
I'm from Glasgow, about an hour away from Edinburgh, and you make fair points, I just don't know any other way. I think our culture is that it takes longer to get to know people but then they stay friends longer. Unfair as it is, I wonder if the people you met didn't think it was worth investing their time talking to someone who would soon be gone, instead of enjoying the conversation in the moment and taking the opportunity to learn about another culture. Coincidentally I know a bit of Kansas, I studied at KU in Lawrence for my junior year abroad, way back in 1989, but I was so shy I ended up having most of my friends being the other exchange students from France, Denmark, Germany, etc. They made more effort than me and reported a different problem - an American could have a long conversation with you one day, telling you a lot of personal stuff if not exactly their life story, and then blank you on the street the next day. Bearing in mind we were all exchange students who obviously had an interest in seeing American culture, they were confused and a little bit upset by this cultural difference. One big difference was that Americans were very generous personally, for example someone at the office for exchange students took 4 of us home to her family so we could see what a Thanksgiving was like, we took a trip on the small plane at their farm, and alumni are very generous giving money to the alma mater, way more than most are here. But it's very much a culture of winners and losers - if your life got messed up for some reason, lets say mental health or addiction, lots of people more or less didn't think you were fit to live and any government help to such people was a waste of hardworking taxpayer dollars. If you ended up living under a bridge it was your own fault so you deserved to suffer. So the idea of a safety net didn't seem there like in Europe. If you are a winner everyone wants to be associated with you and if you are seen as a loser you are on your own and it's very hard to escape.
@@MovieFanGlasgow If some outreach program exists or can be created, I would love to be a part of it. My mom is a volunteer for a program called "Senior Companions" where people call and visit the elderly who are living alone.
@@thomasbirdeno That's wonderful what your Mom is doing and your own intentions are very positive too. I know in the UK there are charities like Silverline which older people can phone up and many smaller ones which offer befriending phone calls or visits. It's unfortunate the government has often cut funding to things where (for example) a minibus will pick up older people and a lunch and social opportunities will be provided to them. Mind you I have read that it's quite common to have 80 year old people not want to go to our equivalent of senior centres because "they're full of old people!".
My heart goes out to those people who have left comments expressing their loneliness etc. Praying that you all are able to find a breakthrough that will lead to opportunities to socialise with other like minded people. I know what it feels like to feel isolated & lonely even living in a smaller community it’s hard - especially if you feel you cannot relate to the majority of the population around you. I’m grateful I had the opportunity to move abroad when I did. Praying for all 🙏
I lived in the UK for a year in my twenties and I was so glad to go back to California. People are so uptight you can barely hear them talk. That UK culture is locked - there is no change, no excitement. Boring!
Don't sit around waiting for people and things to happen, go out and volunteer, create your own group, organize a gathering, so many options, keep a good balance of social and alone time, good luck
There are some people who prefer living alone, no matter their culture, health status, the social environment of where they live, employment or non-employment status, and so on.
Ever Forward I'm crazy for my own company I absolutely love being alone I do like people but can't live with anyone I can't share my bed and the main thing my toilet 🙈
When I lived in Sydney it was incredibly lonely and hated the place, now that I moved to a small town about 3 hours away it is not so lonely but when I do I enjoy a day trip to Sydney by train and enjoy the hustle & bustle without the loneliness when I lived there but glad to get home
This is socioeconomic problem, our grandparents didn't have much but never felt loneliness anxiety depression like we do these days and it'll get even worse
Kind of true. Past generations had larger families, were out in nature more, ate meals together at the table and were more spiritually inclined so I think all those things helped with their mental well-being. They would have been content to meet a nice person, marry and raise a family but nowadays we want to all and to be rich and famous so we feel like failures if we don't. I'm sure depression etc. still existed back then though but they just didn't have the vocabulary for it.
Join a club, volunteer, go out, online mingle, take initiatives, find a hobby, don't sit at home and wait for things to happen or for people to call you
(Sorry for my english) Lockon: Don't you think people do that already? And for sure did that for many years. Some of us get older and weaker as time goes by. It is not easy any longer to go to communities when you have trouble to walk or breath. And your friends have died or moved to another city. Just wait until you yourself get wounded. 😔😒😡
@@lolabandola3250 And it is not easy to go out and mingle when you have been alone for so long.. After my stroke I can bearly walk and I'm not old either. I am sad for all the lonely people and please everyone know you are not alone in it and you are important and valuable ❤️
It's true, you have to be proactive and go out there and meet people and stay in touch with the nice ones you find along the way. Also the best way to make friends is to be a good one yourself. However, being in lockdowns has been a test as you can't be with people face to face. Also I've noticed that you get older, your friends marry and have their own families to take care of, immigrate etc and you're social circle becomes smaller so I can empathise. Loneliness is a real social issue.
It's a problem here in the U.S.A. too. I've been going through it for quite sometime now. It sucks. How I get through it is to have some goals, any kind of goals. Mine are education going to college but its hard. Getting a pet may help. I'm picky these days most people love to self destruct with drugs & alcohol. I don't like drunks, nor cretins. Here in the States its so dumbed down with everyone dependant on technology, social media so its gotten worse in a lot of ways. Everyone stay strong we will all get through this keep going forward & don't give up.
I heard from vlogs that UK people are strange. They only talk about superficial things like the weather. If you talk about deeper stuff to make a connection or relationship, they run to their car or house to leave...very odd. No wonder you guys are lonely! Talk to lonely expats who serve your country! They deserve it ? Ok?
lmao that is pretty true actually . I'm in UK it's at times very lonely although meeting dog walkers is always good . there's a time and place for the deeper intellectual talks I miss them tho :(
I lost interest in most conversation since I just felt I was being annoying to people, talking about the weather comes naturally for me since my mum is from the islands, but it's not really talking it's just something we do.
I’m lonely too I’m 68 years old retired live on a fixed income my family kicked me to the curb I have no friends thank God for the gym I go there for days a week and that’s about it I watch a lot of sports 🥎 and I talk to myself but it’s OK I’m getting used to being lonely I kind a like it people these days care about nothing but yourselves very selfish world coming to I pray a lot to that helps so God bless all of you lonely people I’ll be lonely with you love y’all bye-bye
The people who are saying they've had a great job, great social life and big successful family don't evoke my sympathy as much as the people who have never had any of that and are lonely. The ones that have had it, well, i'm sorry but you experienced a great time and things do change, just think of the people who never had kids, a great buzzing career, great close knit family, massive network of friends and not to mention financial stability.
One of the factors feeding into a rise of loneliness is INFLATION i.e. people are working more earning less and less hence spending less time socialising , making friends.
Its extremely difficult to get deep connection with people in London. Everyone is just running after money and status, spend countless hours commuting to work and at work, staring at the mobile screens. Plus you can spend time with someone in the pub or sightseeing or whatever but no one really cares about you and your problems. If you manage to find a friend,most probably this person will move out/change job :(
King David felt lonely during times trying to lead the children of Israel out of troubles and dark times. It was mental, physical and most of all a spiritual well that had almost dried up within. Like David, people world wide are experiencing the same anxiety, a sense of loneliness, heavy burdened hearts hoping to seek help in times of need. Therefore David had to draw away to a solitary place to pray and ask the Lord God for strength and guidance through all the troubles he went through. 'I lift my eyes up to the hills from where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord the Maker of heaven and earth'. (Psalm 121) We to can seek and pray to the Lord God, asking Him for help in times of loneliness and need.
I am 65 years old. Living single for five years now, but definitely not lonely. I like my freedom, but i sometimes miss a company i can talk with. I like being alone, but i want to be with a friend to see a movie or to eat out with sometimes. I have a few friends, and my friends are a lot younger than i am. I guess this is the combination that works for me. I am alone, but i am not lonely.
I like normalcy, stability, sound mind. When I go out and about I find people who are drugged, drunken,messed up. I like being around some people. But I also like alone time. The bad in it all is why people think you have to drink alcohol or drug yourself mindless. Going out and volunteering is not always the answer either because some people are so evil they will accuse you of doing something you did not do. We come into this world as one person...and all of us leave it as an only one person. Just make it count in some way.plant fruit trees, visit the widows and fatherless, sow some kindness and share your bread.
I go out and go " shopping" everyday .In other words, I go to department stores and just talk to a few people. One lady wanted me to join her for coffee. Another time I just browse to smaller shops or even upscale. By the time I get home iam tired. Try it. Not to everyone just to a few c here and there and just look around. But don't go to the same ones. Train stations, air ports. I stay busy like that. On other days I volunteer.
This is sad because I grew up in London Shepherd's Bush and moved to America where I feel very Lonely at times but what you are describing about London is the exact same situation in New York or Any major US city. Eventually I'll move back but I do not think it can be London, growing up in England everyone had time and we had a sense of community local pub, church, football pitch whatever but I believe the pressure of life, housing and expense basic survival of London is a big factor. It's all about Money. Do you like to travel? I often go to Roma Italia or France or even Yorkshire to get away from London. Do you have family? Try to visit them or maybe join a social club. In USA they have Brit European clubs. Life is hard love try to cheer up. I try to enjoy my own company also. Blessings
Oh sweetheart, try and take up new activities and you will meet new friends that way. You could start at your local gym or church. It is never too late to take up a new activity, maybe something you did when you were younger? All the best.
Thank you for your advice. ME precludes any activity - I'm too far removed from orthodox religion - a very spiritual lady - I;m going to join up with the wild life asscn. at least the birds love me - ha!
I’ve learn to cope, I just moved to a new town been here A yr now, I have 0 friends & I’m not close with my family... I work from home & I go weeks alone other than being on social media but I have adapted it sad sometimes but I cry & move on!
Hello everyone. I'm based in Yorkshire, UK. If people are feeling lonely, maybe we could start a Facebook/Email group. If people live near each other, we could arrange something. What do you think?
if u r introvert then u will always feel lonely nomatter where u live. loneliness in old age is a problem of modern world where kids live separelty and u hv to look after urself and live with no love and enjoyment of life.
I don’t live in London ,but I do remember growing up in the 80s how different it was in my neighbourhood everyone knew each other and looked out for each other and it felt safe. Now everything is so fragmented and no one gives a damn
Interesting video. Before the fishing in the sea deteriorated I had dozens of friends I had met over the years, and continued to meet more every year. The club I belonged to had a great sense of community. Sadly all gone now. Since then I have taken up dancing (which can be done anywhere in the country) and have been overwhelmed by the sheer number of places I have been and numbers I have met with a similar interest. Been dancing 20 years in 2019, dance 2 or 3 times a week. Not felt lonely for years now, but I do know how it feels. Joining an organisation which is both active AND social will improve your feeling of isolation and improve your sociability. I have been self employed for over 20 years so have no work colleagues, (although I do meet people through work). The important thing is to get out there and pursue a passion. It will bring you into contact with others. London is possibly the most UNFRIENDLY place in the country!
Loneliness isn't so much a bad thing as much as it is an opportunity to be at peace with yourselves. Most people are rude, naïve, violent, creepy, and racist/sexist so what do you do? Poverty, unemployment, and broken families can exacerbate the effects. Finding good-hearted people in life can be difficult sometimes.
I agree, I've come across a lot of bullies and narcissists in my time at both school and in various workplaces but in every environment there's been some good souls who have been a source of support in an hour of need. No person's an island. You can't shut everyone out, just be selective about who you welcome in and watch people closely to detect the warning signs...
That is because you have Milo to love. I live with 5 cats including 'Boris the Russian Blue' (he is an extremely naughty boy), Fifi and Candy the Torties, Lala the Ragdoll and Bella the Whitechapel Mog and I've got his/their demanding miaows to keep me busy and why love a human when its so much nicer to love cats.
I've lived alone a few times and I've always gone to night school, local events, swimming, out with friends, visited friends. I didn't wait for it to come to me !!. Eventually I met someone like you do
My son passed away, I speak to his spirit,soul.God took him away. So the people have no children don't understand. They have their own luck,so please try and keep yourself busy I speak to people it always ends up in fighting. So I just sit in my room. I keep busy when I can
@@greenorange5408 im sorry if you have bad experience with the filipinos but there's still filipinos who are goodhearted... I can't deny the fact that some of my countrymen had lesser humanitarian values and that is very disappointing coz of those kind of people affects us all filipinos on how the world describe us. i just want to clarify that well- mannered filipinos still exist.
There a big difference living on your own because you choose to and being lonely. It's extremely important to like and appreciate your own company but I can understand we're all different and have different needs. It must be awfully hard at the moment with Covid and isolation! Sometimes we just have to take the first step, go sit on a bench go for a walk it helps.They talk about money on this program. But personally it doesn't have anything to do with that. You can have a knitting circle at home, a book circle, you can have a poetry evening with high tea and charge a small amount! you can teach cooking classes to young adults from home. You can even have a dinner party at home and everyone brings one dish of their choice to you and you share! At the moment I know it's really hard with lockdown and Covid but before or after that. Anyway... But you can get a alotmant do gardening and get to know other people and still keep a distance❤️Sharing is caring❤️❤️❤️
I struggle daily with loneliness I don’t have any real friends or trustworthy sisters I almost feel ashamed to admit my struggle like how do you admit to loneliness and that I sat in my car dreading going inside - that you miss conversation and eating with people or looking after someone because it makes you feel needed I started UA-cam to have someone to talk to and to eat with me. 😞🤦🏽♀️😔
No wonder why so many Brits end up living in Greece and Cyprus. I'm not surprised at all. I agree with Mark, capitalism is to blame. In order to find happiness, you have to be in an environent where people live simple and meaningfully and where people are socially connected. I've always preferred both Cyprus and Greece to Britain. No comparison.
It’s not just London it’s everywhere .We all want so much to end up with so little really sad . I think that’s why we should take the time to realize what’s really important to us in life. At 62 I think a lot of it is we’re not willing to settle anymore like we would when we were younger.
Thought I was the only one alone, most of the time. I always come in handy if someone needs me for anything. Don’t own a Car. Not Rich. Would dearly love some kind of Company. I’m nearly 70.
Hei！Dearest ！Thank you for your help when you were young. Thank you your country and US's help in our long hard time and walk with me when I'm down. YES！ the healing soft music and in many different aspects. Thank you. SALUTE.
Reading some of these comments I thought I was the only one ,suffering I struggle everyday the unhappiness i,m going through is unbearable ,the sad thing is nothing will change ,
Dear Tara thanks for your reply ,I will think about that ,but my confidence has gone ,that's what I need to try and regain,but thanks for finding the time to reply
London not only lonely. I don’t see and talk to people for weeks. Lol. So it’s good to hear I’m not the only one. Especially living in flats can be lonely 😞. London is not scary lots to do there lol 😆
i think most people can be soothed by social media contacts but that just makes it harder for those of us who can't. it's taken people out of the possible social circle making others feel more isolated. ei- I have no hope of dating online, it seems such an alien concept for me.
I think Loneliness stems from no one knowing whats going on inside you. People care less about others bc others have so many problems they just seem to be looking for help, not friendship, so people avoid each other. Its all very sad.
The background music was sad..its the old song by Bobby Vinton: Blue on Blue..heartache and sorrow..Blue on Blue..now that we are through..and I find myself..cant get over losing you..😪😪😪
I was born in the 1960s and because of the economics of the 80s and 90s many of us couldn't afford to have children in fact many of the girls I knew had children alone to collect welfare and ensure housing after high-school. But that ended in 1997. Many of my generation have virtually no family to speak of, the problem is that we are getting older and will soon be senior citizens. A lot of us seem to be dying much earlier then my parents generation . Many lived into their 80s and older. My generation which was called generation X are dying in our late 40s and early 50s, im 54 and I've had at least a dozen friends die in the last 10 years. Things are so different for gen x people compared to the ww2 generation ,like night and day, we've had it so much harder then they did.
It got worse when community's started breaking up . The community should have everything in it.So much for getting on.We might lose everything BUT if we have a community the people of the community will help you and your them . cafes pubs bingo halls churches shops gym's work They ALL need to be 10 mins walk at most from home.
I have been loan LU for well over 35 years due to various factors effecting my lobedo, got into routines or ruts which are hard to break. I’m not happy, fall into and out of relationships or friendships, suffer less lust for the ladies, but not an age thing, I seldom socialise and only a few real friends. Dating websites make me feel insecure, not keen on pubs.
How about apartment buildings with a communal lounge ? I think the internet has encouraged loneliness cos noone seems to learn the art of meeting people randomly while they are out and about
I hv a big family but my entire family is lonely. U can feel it. Everybody seems busy but no they r not. We must be cursed or something from our previous lives to be brought together like this. The sooner we all die the better. Many of us are not married, n it's a good thing i think....we r not passing on our cursed genes much.
Honestly I dont feel like London is a lonely city at all if you are willing to Invest time in building connections. I use social media and the internet alot. I've met really amazing people and i met new people often too, half of them become part of my life .The secret is selecting the right people and not wasting time with People who are self centered or emotionally unavailable.
I coukd be in "bad" mood if i dont see/meet and talk to my parents(now 80 and 84 years old) for more than 3 days. Thank God we live in the same city (bandung west java indonesia). My husband is very kind/ supportive to let me do so. Once a month i dine out wirh my parents. Or buy them fruits anytime i want. Take each of them twice a month for chek up to hospital to control their health problems.These makes me at ease...have a bit time to be with them. Whenever i hv time with my only 2 adult sons i usually try to put fowards the value of caring especially in family..
I'm 36 years old Indian, and I'm lonely. It's just i need someone be for me, not with me.. and that's the only solution. I have a good job but no family. Sometimes I turned suicidal but again life continued.
Aloneness & loneliness, in some ways similar, but not the same. Most of my life has been a solitary one. So for my life to be busy, i hate that. Much prefer aloneness.
Phantom Worral Compared to having to speak to some paranoid individuals that ask intrusive questions, It is better and happier. People be kidding themselves
Give me an example of intrusive question, a lot of UK people sounds paranoid when run away from answering decent questions which is the way to know each other better...🙄
Petruta Jucatoru Stranger: Are you muslim?...you look muslim? Me: No, im jewish? Stranger: You look african? How is that...jews are white...etc Whats your name Me: yohannes Stranger: laughs..thats not your name Stranger 2: are you gay..? ( obviously taking the piss) Me: no Etc.. Now a days i tell them to take a hike..
Society itself is has lost its humanity, everything has turned into a consumer world where technological gadgets now play a part of entertainment and amusement, findind and making friends is not easy due to most people will find awkward for someone to be approached by and just start a conversation not to mention approaching women nowadays that will be considered sexual harassment. We have lost the interaction habit between us, how do we get back? I think awareness will be answer to it, social media may be a tool but I find it very artificial, creating a movement will be a good idea, connect to all those who feel alone and want to meet new friends, choosing a place to meet for a coffee chat or similar and see how it goes.
Lonely people n UK can teach you a lesson:To Be Reserved. Their feelings is only to themselves Sometimes you feel bad why you talked to them. I have many friends from UK and they talk alot. We met inSpain.When there is an organizational event we share a hotel room and have some fun.We used to be open at each other. They are nice people.
Im 58 and ive been divorced over 20 years now and had a Brain Haemorage.Heart attacks.Strokes etc i leart not to trust people my meds and money were getting stolen by so called friends so its safer to be on my own sometimes a week would go by and i would only speak to the staff in the chemist.
Actually, we just have to change our perception of things. Companionship and friendship are like money. If we let go of being obsessed with them, it would be a great load off our shoulders. Or we can simply substitute pets and UA-cam for people.
Hello Michelle, do everything you can to improve your area and skills . Start with small cheap things that you find interesting. Don’t forget the library . Cheers.
@Jon Young: So who will take care of you (or your dog) when you're ill and can barely get out of bed? Your crops don't grow due to frost so where do you go to get an alternative food source without neighbours to barter with? Who let's you know about an impending storm when your radio is broken or the health status of a relative? Who do you laugh with or reminisce with? Who shows you a quicker, easier way to cut logs? Total isolation isn't good for your heart or mind and can stunt your intellectual development. It can even be life threatening. It's interesting that three people I've had disputes with in recent years all live alone and have poor social skills imo. Something tells me that there may be a cause and effect thing going on here because they don't seem to know how to collaborate or negotiate with others and are very set in their own ways. I enjoy meeting new people from all backgrounds but like my moments of solitude too so I can reflect. There's a balance to be had. Too much of one or the other can be detrimental.
@@lah1667 Everything you say is the "ideal way" to live , but not always possible. I believe men are more adept to living alone more then women simply because we had to compete for everything we have while facing a life of set backs and rejection. Thus to retire to a simple low drama way of life has its appeal.
You can be anywhere in the world and feel lonely. You can be in a crowded city and thousands of people walking by while you're sitting on a bench. Some people make eye contact with you and don't even say hello, you say hello and some don't even say hi. In my opinion this is the worst feeling of loneliness. Living in a runned down city is the worst. Being in the woods or out in the country doesn't always make you feel lonely. When you're alone, embracing nature is a good thing, you can become very creative and resourceful. Less is more and being in touch with yourself from with in and being greatful all what little you may have. If you have good health you have everything! You become more in touch with God! When you walk with the Lord you're not always feeling lonely! It would be Wonderful if all of the lonely people got together in one place, were ever arranged to be together to communicate to chase away loneliness.
again, you miss the point that loneliness is a feeling that arises when you around people you don't get along... while your description is about solitude
@@dominic6055 😲 If I missed the Point! Oh! Please Excuse Me! For Hurting your Feelings! 😲 Would you rather be Happy!? or Right and at the same time be Miserable?!
Happens everywhere. There's also another kind of loneliness you can be around friends and coworkers and still feel lonely because there's no one special
Old School , i agree with you on that 100%. Hahaha!
100% correct. Lately i have been feeling the same way. Mybe i dont need to be on this world
@HIS Footprints OnWater i have been feeling this way for a the whole 2019 year. I just feel really tired
@HIS Footprints OnWater i feel u are heven sent. Thank you soo much, i have just spoken to my cousin who feels i should go to a therapist. My life has been a whirlwind.. Am 29 and i willing to try all ways get the joy i have missed out while i am locked in my house
@HIS Footprints OnWater no, isolating myself. I just feel i need and want to be alone. Everything off, am jusr on youtube trying to get encouragement through inspiration videos
I'm 55 I've been single for 30 yrs music has always been my company I've loved music since I was little I play a guitar acoustic my fav guitar and it's company too but being alone for soooo long it gets to you I find my strength and comfort in God almighty try him ppls you,l never ever regret it it's the best step U could ever make amen God bless and help ALL lonely ppl worldwide keeping everyone in my prayers Shalom xxxx🙏🙏🙏💔❤️💖🙌💓❤️❤️
Nice what kind of music?
Thank you.
Me too!!! I am 33 years old and music has been MY ONLY FRIEND! I love music too! And fashion! ☺️ I’ve been alone most of my life. No friends, my family doesn’t talk, my high school 🏫 boyfriend broke up with me In 2006 and i still can’t forgive him. After 15 years. Anyways I am here if you wanna talk 🙂
ASK GOD for a spouse!! and dont go looking in bars or clubs; i asked God and met him a week later, now married almost 50 happy years!!
This is primarily the reason I left London 10 years ago. The loneliness became overwhelming. I just lived to go to work, I’d spend weekends without talking to a soul except shop staff etc. I moved home to the midlands to at least where my family were. I don’t have masses friends but the ones I do have are quality friends who’s company I enjoy. And coming home to the midlands I did meet my partner too.
Nini L. 9 years. If you want to be anonymous, London is the place to live.
Weezer! ...i want to go there for work and to find a husband. Hopefully. Then leave for USA
Nini L. Well ... Good luck with that.
I'm happy for you...
@@cutelittledoll, is that really true?
You can be alone but not lonely and you can feel lonely in a crowd.
Billy Bronco it’s much harder for the elderly woman to go to the pub on there own. I feel so lonely ‘‘tis last couple of years
I'm independent woman and been alone abroad ever since i got here. Alone at home and lonely. No friends. Work home work home which is my everyday routine. Sucks right? And I'm 39 now. 😢
@@sjavsgscb2784 I know it can be tough but you can learn to enjoy your own company.
@@BillyBronco73 I am alone for 15 years now 😢
When I'm alone (at home with family) I feel less lonier when I'm outside, even when I'm in a crowd full of people I still feel lonley, I just can't connect with anyone 😔.
Many of my family died and I am not that old I long for the old days when I had family parties ..now they are all gone
I joined a church even though I'm an atheist just so I could be around people and talk.
kevin murphy hope they are nice to you. And i don’t think they’ll hate you if you told them you are an atheist, as a Christian myself I hope you meet good church people. Hopefully get a good perspective on Christianity too. Anyway don’t give up ✨
kevin murphy no way lol hope it’s worked out well. There’s an app/website called meet up where you can meet like minded people
Kevin, I love your honesty. I sincerely hope that you have found fulfilment.
Have a great big 2020👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
I'm thinking of doing the same thing! Amazing to find your comment, glad i'm not alone in it.
Candy Cat does that really work?
The system is responsible and peoples worship the money.
We’re all slaves to $ till the day we die.
i was and still am lonely. i just learnt to love my own company because else i wud end my life. it was that bad.
Tomahawk me neither
I have my little puppy his name is Snickers, I don't feel lonely, he gives me a lot of happiness.
Smoke some weed, ma nigga. It will fix you right up.
I am so sorry to hear about this...can't you talk with people on Internet?
@Diana Connors Yes, we need conection and interaction with other human beings on a pretty regular basis. And Nothing will substitute. Not social media, television, reading, hobbies, or even our beloved pets. It's a core requirement of being human, I think.
The last time I was in London was November 2019. It was damn awful. The people sneered at eachother, and never smiled. Won't be going back anytime soon.
I live in Canada and loneliness does not discriminate.. I'm 62 y.o. and 'have to' work 45-50 hrs/week to support myself. I cant wait to retire but at the same time the intense loneliness I feel the instant I leave work and walk out those doors is like hitting a brick wall. I can almost feel the life, the energy and the color leave my body and soul. It's 'that' stifling! :(
where do you live?
Wow. I never new ppl feel this way. I'm in Canada don't have any friends , dont talk to much family but don't get lonely. I spend alot of time on self development ( working out,doing yoga and Journaling and creative work). This is an eye opener.
@@carolinespence15 Don't retire. I am 63 and don't plan on retiring for at least another 6 or 7 years. I am married and my husband is not going to retire for awhile, either. I tried staying home for awhile when I was unemployed and my life felt meaningless and isolated.
One can even argue the harsh weather in Canada during the weather surely must exacerbate the loneliness? Maybe the French-English language issue might increase the effects too?
@@SkinnyEMedia The weather is certainly an issue. If you don't make an effort to really get outdoors and get some exercise, despite the weather, you feel worse. The sun is sometimes not seen for many, many days. I would think that the English/French language thing might not be so much of an issue except in certain parts of the country such as Ottawa, where there are people of both backgrounds. However, in the larger cities, such as Toronto, there are people who speak many different languages and who often stick with their own cultures, and they often do not mix much with others. This can contribute to the sense of isolation.
Born n Raised n Philippines but never been lonely all my Life. I remember we work together eat together help our parents and church together. Everyday is a Gift! A cheerful mind merry Heart is sunshine n everyday Life no matter what. Attitude shine us. Behavior hunt us! 🙏❤️🙏
That's what is missing. Our family units started to erode in the 1960s and it has only gotten worse since then.
J Mar We all grow n Physically but Spiritually Orphan. Without Jesus Love We are All Hurt n Broken. Lonely n Needy. A Cycle of Life. In Nature Human Love is Selfish. Loving Jesus Loving ourself is the Greatest love of All. 🙏❤️🙏
true!
No one ever comes to my home or asks so I go out and joined clubs so I can talk to humans. Suits me and I don't ever feel lonely. Got my TV and Netflix.
The price of hyperindividualism. The westerners need to realize that they've played themselves in the end.
Well put
Illnesses can make you lonely also as people don’t want to make the time ...
Sad 😔
So I go out wen I can to help others . That encourage me too
Right idea. The best way to make friends is to try to be one.
Not only the elderly, in the U.S. even millenials suffer loneliness more now than ever. Who is lonely at 25 or 30 years old, over long extended amounts of time? To me, that is amazing.
What about hobby/social clubs, volunteer work and shared living? If you sit around waiting for someone to knock on your door, you'll never get anywhere socially.
exactly some times people just want to moan
Try to live in the philippines you NEVER BE ALONE even in your entire life..we filipino never left alone every member of the family specialy our elders...
I love how you guys take care of each other and are so family oriented, wish I lived in a country like that where everyone matters.
False am a Filipino no wife no children 38 years old no stable job i'm alone and lonely..
What if you dont have family?
Ariel De Jesus Sounds like a nightmare lol
I will come and live there
Used to find a touch of loneliness was delicious. Now my husband and kids have left ,so I come home to a cold, dark, empty space. Day in, day out. Day in, day out.
I know that feeling all to well. I was married for 13 years, no children tho but I know:-)
I am from Kansas, USA. In 2015, I studied in London for two weeks and followed that with two weeks of study in Edinburgh. I loved and continue to cherish my month in the UK. A part of my coursework was to study the culture. I love British culture and I had a blast. The one thing that shocked me was that a giant city like London and Edinburgh shut down so early. Another thing I found was that Brits seemed to be put off by genuinely gregarious persons. Socializing was difficult. I wanted to meet and converse with locals and it was terrifyingly difficult as a good-natured American. Through my stubbornness, I found fun company in England and Scotland and we're still friends to this day. I'm single and childless and loneliness is a battle. Despite this, I am surrounded by people who genuinely care. I would like to learn more and, if possible, help. I wholeheartedly believe there is a solution and that this might be a cultural issue. Why don't the English converse on the tube or the bus? Why do social settings shut down so early? Is it still negative to mingle with another class? I wish I could return and be everyone's friend because no soul deserves to live their life in isolation and loneliness.
Will you be my friend
I'm from Glasgow, about an hour away from Edinburgh, and you make fair points, I just don't know any other way. I think our culture is that it takes longer to get to know people but then they stay friends longer. Unfair as it is, I wonder if the people you met didn't think it was worth investing their time talking to someone who would soon be gone, instead of enjoying the conversation in the moment and taking the opportunity to learn about another culture. Coincidentally I know a bit of Kansas, I studied at KU in Lawrence for my junior year abroad, way back in 1989, but I was so shy I ended up having most of my friends being the other exchange students from France, Denmark, Germany, etc. They made more effort than me and reported a different problem - an American could have a long conversation with you one day, telling you a lot of personal stuff if not exactly their life story, and then blank you on the street the next day. Bearing in mind we were all exchange students who obviously had an interest in seeing American culture, they were confused and a little bit upset by this cultural difference. One big difference was that Americans were very generous personally, for example someone at the office for exchange students took 4 of us home to her family so we could see what a Thanksgiving was like, we took a trip on the small plane at their farm, and alumni are very generous giving money to the alma mater, way more than most are here. But it's very much a culture of winners and losers - if your life got messed up for some reason, lets say mental health or addiction, lots of people more or less didn't think you were fit to live and any government help to such people was a waste of hardworking taxpayer dollars. If you ended up living under a bridge it was your own fault so you deserved to suffer. So the idea of a safety net didn't seem there like in Europe. If you are a winner everyone wants to be associated with you and if you are seen as a loser you are on your own and it's very hard to escape.
@@rumapatel2689 Of course
@@MovieFanGlasgow If some outreach program exists or can be created, I would love to be a part of it. My mom is a volunteer for a program called "Senior Companions" where people call and visit the elderly who are living alone.
@@thomasbirdeno That's wonderful what your Mom is doing and your own intentions are very positive too. I know in the UK there are charities like Silverline which older people can phone up and many smaller ones which offer befriending phone calls or visits. It's unfortunate the government has often cut funding to things where (for example) a minibus will pick up older people and a lunch and social opportunities will be provided to them. Mind you I have read that it's quite common to have 80 year old people not want to go to our equivalent of senior centres because "they're full of old people!".
My heart goes out to those people who have left comments expressing their loneliness etc. Praying that you all are able to find a breakthrough that will lead to opportunities to socialise with other like minded people. I know what it feels like to feel isolated & lonely even living in a smaller community it’s hard - especially if you feel you cannot relate to the majority of the population around you. I’m grateful I had the opportunity to move abroad when I did. Praying for all 🙏
I lived in the UK for a year in my twenties and I was so glad to go back to California. People are so uptight you can barely hear them talk. That UK culture is locked - there is no change, no excitement. Boring!
Don't sit around waiting for people and things to happen, go out and volunteer, create your own group, organize a gathering, so many options, keep a good balance of social and alone time, good luck
Lockon Stratos if you have a mental condition like I do that's not an option.
Lockon easy to say though.
I do, but these things take a hella lot of time and bonds aren't made over night that's for sure.
Lockon Stratos a step in the right direction I agree.
@@louiseleite3866 I can talk with you...
There are some people who prefer living alone, no matter their culture, health status, the social environment of where they live, employment or non-employment status, and so on.
agree 100% I love living alone and being alone.
Yes and I live in South London and consider myself one of them
True, but even if you prefer to live alone you need human contact.
Ever Forward I'm crazy for my own company I absolutely love being alone I do like people but can't live with anyone I can't share my bed and the main thing my toilet 🙈
That's probably me
When I lived in Sydney it was incredibly lonely and hated the place, now that I moved to a small town about 3 hours away it is not so lonely but when I do I enjoy a day trip to Sydney by train and enjoy the hustle & bustle without the loneliness when I lived there but glad to get home
Wonder if ending twitter or Facebook would end loneliness. We’re we lonely before it?
Good question ! Probably not as much.
I'm a 61 y.o. single female and very lonely in the U.S. There's no awareness of lonely people here. I wish I could reach out to your callers.
This is socioeconomic problem, our grandparents didn't have much but never felt loneliness anxiety depression like we do these days and it'll get even worse
Kind of true. Past generations had larger families, were out in nature more, ate meals together at the table and were more spiritually inclined so I think all those things helped with their mental well-being. They would have been content to meet a nice person, marry and raise a family but nowadays we want to all and to be rich and famous so we feel like failures if we don't. I'm sure depression etc. still existed back then though but they just didn't have the vocabulary for it.
Join a club, volunteer, go out, online mingle, take initiatives, find a hobby, don't sit at home and wait for things to happen or for people to call you
(Sorry for my english) Lockon: Don't you think people do that already? And for sure did that for many years. Some of us get older and weaker as time goes by. It is not easy any longer to go to communities when you have trouble to walk or breath. And your friends have died or moved to another city. Just wait until you yourself get wounded. 😔😒😡
@@lolabandola3250 And it is not easy to go out and mingle when you have been alone for so long.. After my stroke I can bearly walk and I'm not old either. I am sad for all the lonely people and please everyone know you are not alone in it and you are important and valuable ❤️
@@garycooper9207Hello! Let's have some chat. Do you live in US? I live in Sweden. ☺🍀⚘🍀
Is covid so is not many places to go and peaple frightening to much to talk to you
It's true, you have to be proactive and go out there and meet people and stay in touch with the nice ones you find along the way. Also the best way to make friends is to be a good one yourself. However, being in lockdowns has been a test as you can't be with people face to face. Also I've noticed that you get older, your friends marry and have their own families to take care of, immigrate etc and you're social circle becomes smaller so I can empathise. Loneliness is a real social issue.
People should care more about one another, i believe people have become very selfish, that's why loneliness is so prevalent.
It's a problem here in the U.S.A. too. I've been going through it for quite sometime now. It sucks. How I get through it is to have some goals, any kind of goals. Mine are education going to college but its hard. Getting a pet may help. I'm picky these days most people love to self destruct with drugs & alcohol. I don't like drunks, nor cretins. Here in the States its so dumbed down with everyone dependant on technology, social media so its gotten worse in a lot of ways. Everyone stay strong we will all get through this keep going forward & don't give up.
I heard from vlogs that UK people are strange. They only talk about superficial things like the weather. If you talk about deeper stuff to make a connection or relationship, they run to their car or house to leave...very odd. No wonder you guys are lonely! Talk to lonely expats who serve your country! They deserve it ? Ok?
lmao that is pretty true actually . I'm in UK it's at times very lonely although meeting dog walkers is always good . there's a time and place for the deeper intellectual talks I miss them tho :(
I lost interest in most conversation since I just felt I was being annoying to people, talking about the weather comes naturally for me since my mum is from the islands, but it's not really talking it's just something we do.
This is specific to the UK? What a loada rubbish.
im british, yes I would agree with you, they don't have any depth
I’m lonely too I’m 68 years old retired live on a fixed income my family kicked me to the curb I have no friends thank God for the gym I go there for days a week and that’s about it I watch a lot of sports 🥎 and I talk to myself but it’s OK I’m getting used to being lonely I kind a like it people these days care about nothing but yourselves very selfish world coming to I pray a lot to that helps so God bless all of you lonely people I’ll be lonely with you love y’all bye-bye
Hello sir I am 21 and experiencing same thing ...hope you are doing good maybe...but if you wanna talk we can ...
why not do volunteering and get some cheap social hobbies
ASK GOD for the right husband!!
The people who are saying they've had a great job, great social life and big successful family don't evoke my sympathy as much as the people who have never had any of that and are lonely. The ones that have had it, well, i'm sorry but you experienced a great time and things do change, just think of the people who never had kids, a great buzzing career, great close knit family, massive network of friends and not to mention financial stability.
I need a friend
One of the factors feeding into a rise of loneliness is INFLATION i.e. people are working more earning less and less hence spending less time socialising , making friends.
Its extremely difficult to get deep connection with people in London. Everyone is just running after money and status, spend countless hours commuting to work and at work, staring at the mobile screens. Plus you can spend time with someone in the pub or sightseeing or whatever but no one really cares about you and your problems. If you manage to find a friend,most probably this person will move out/change job :(
King David felt lonely during times trying to lead the children of Israel out of troubles and dark times. It was mental, physical and most of all a spiritual well that had almost dried up within. Like David, people world wide are experiencing the same anxiety, a sense of loneliness, heavy burdened hearts hoping to seek help in times of need. Therefore David had to draw away to a solitary place to pray and ask the Lord God for strength and guidance through all the troubles he went through. 'I lift my eyes up to the hills from where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord the Maker of heaven and earth'. (Psalm 121) We to can seek and pray to the Lord God, asking Him for help in times of loneliness and need.
I am 65 years old. Living single for five years now, but definitely not lonely. I like my freedom, but i sometimes miss a company i can talk with. I like being alone, but i want to be with a friend to see a movie or to eat out with sometimes. I have a few friends, and my friends are a lot younger than i am. I guess this is the combination that works for me. I am alone, but i am not lonely.
The quietest way to resolve loneliness is to get involved with church and the activities they provide along with worship.
I like normalcy, stability, sound mind. When I go out and about I find people who are drugged, drunken,messed up. I like being around some people. But I also like alone time. The bad in it all is why people think you have to drink alcohol or drug yourself mindless. Going out and volunteering is not always the answer either because some people are so evil they will accuse you of doing something you did not do. We come into this world as one person...and all of us leave it as an only one person. Just make it count in some way.plant fruit trees, visit the widows and fatherless, sow some kindness and share your bread.
I go out and go " shopping" everyday .In other words, I go to department stores and just talk to a few people. One lady wanted me to join her for coffee. Another time I just browse to smaller shops or even upscale. By the time I get home iam tired. Try it. Not to everyone just to a few c here and there and just look around. But don't go to the same ones. Train stations, air ports. I stay busy like that. On other days I volunteer.
Seeing couples and families reminds me of what's missing. Avoid shopping on a Saturday.
This is sad because I grew up in London Shepherd's Bush and moved to America where I feel very Lonely at times but what you are describing about London is the exact same situation in New York or Any major US city. Eventually I'll move back but I do not think it can be London, growing up in England everyone had time and we had a sense of community local pub, church, football pitch whatever but I believe the pressure of life, housing and expense basic survival of London is a big factor. It's all about Money. Do you like to travel? I often go to Roma Italia or France or even Yorkshire to get away from London. Do you have family? Try to visit them or maybe join a social club. In USA they have Brit European clubs. Life is hard love try to cheer up. I try to enjoy my own company also. Blessings
This is now a whole week that I haven't talked to anyone! UA-cam saves my sanity, but now my inbox emails are unavailable!!
Beth Summers
Beth, I care!
Oh sweetheart, try and take up new activities and you will meet new friends that way. You could start at your local gym or church. It is never too late to take up a new activity, maybe something you did when you were younger? All the best.
Thank you for your advice. ME precludes any activity - I'm too far removed from orthodox religion - a very spiritual lady - I;m going to join up with the wild life asscn. at least the birds love me - ha!
Happy for you
@@wordsfromtheheart-bethsumm6897 you hire me as your care taker.. I am sure you will have no time for yourself
I’ve learn to cope, I just moved to a new town been here
A yr now, I have 0 friends & I’m not close with my family... I work from home & I go weeks alone other than being on social media but I have adapted it sad sometimes but I cry & move on!
Hello everyone. I'm based in Yorkshire, UK. If people are feeling lonely, maybe we could start a Facebook/Email group. If people live near each other, we could arrange something. What do you think?
if u r introvert then u will always feel lonely nomatter where u live. loneliness in old age is a problem of modern world where kids live separelty and u hv to look after urself and live with no love and enjoyment of life.
I don’t live in London ,but I do remember growing up in the 80s how different it was in my neighbourhood everyone knew each other and looked out for each other and it felt safe. Now everything is so fragmented and no one gives a damn
That's so correct I grew up a teen in the 80s in Liverpool
Paul Mcdonough 80s? bruh ur old lol
@sarah jones people here are Very cold
Siya Shilla i was born in 2039
@@arjanpatel4895 thanks, I was a kid in the 80s. Do you call your mother or your aunt old too?
Interesting video. Before the fishing in the sea deteriorated I had dozens of friends I had met over the years, and continued to meet more every year. The club I belonged to had a great sense of community. Sadly all gone now. Since then I have taken up dancing (which can be done anywhere in the country) and have been overwhelmed by the sheer number of places I have been and numbers I have met with a similar interest. Been dancing 20 years in 2019, dance 2 or 3 times a week. Not felt lonely for years now, but I do know how it feels. Joining an organisation which is both active AND social will improve your feeling of isolation and improve your sociability. I have been self employed for over 20 years so have no work colleagues, (although I do meet people through work). The important thing is to get out there and pursue a passion. It will bring you into contact with others. London is possibly the most UNFRIENDLY place in the country!
Loneliness isn't so much a bad thing as much as it is an opportunity to be at peace with yourselves.
Most people are rude, naïve, violent, creepy, and racist/sexist so what do you do? Poverty, unemployment, and broken families can exacerbate the effects. Finding good-hearted people in life can be difficult sometimes.
Most people aren't what you mentioned, you're the problem
Lockon Stratos quite right, most people are nice
@@tom4412 no they're not...
I agree, I've come across a lot of bullies and narcissists in my time at both school and in various workplaces but in every environment there's been some good souls who have been a source of support in an hour of need. No person's an island. You can't shut everyone out, just be selective about who you welcome in and watch people closely to detect the warning signs...
@@lah1667 in my experience I’ve found most people to be pleasant, friendly and nice.
Where have you found people that aren’t the above.
Turn loneliness into solitude. I love being alone.
That is because you have Milo to love. I live with 5 cats including 'Boris the Russian Blue' (he is an extremely naughty boy), Fifi and Candy the Torties, Lala the Ragdoll and Bella the Whitechapel Mog and I've got his/their demanding miaows to keep me busy and why love a human when its so much nicer to love cats.
I've lived alone a few times and I've always gone to night school, local events, swimming, out with friends, visited friends. I didn't wait for it to come to me !!. Eventually I met someone like you do
Living alone is different than being alone. Being alone is when you have no one in life to talk to.
My son passed away, I speak to his spirit,soul.God took him away. So the people have no children don't understand.
They have their own luck,so please try and keep yourself busy
I speak to people it always ends up in fighting.
So I just sit in my room.
I keep busy when I can
Go to the Philippines you can talk and have a friendly convo to everyone.
philippines are lovely people-------
Lezlie Feliminiano
The most selfish people on this Earth are Philippines..,
@@greenorange5408 im sorry if you have bad experience with the filipinos but there's still filipinos who are goodhearted... I can't deny the fact that some of my countrymen had lesser humanitarian values and that is very disappointing coz of those kind of people affects us all filipinos on how the world describe us. i just want to clarify that well- mannered filipinos still exist.
I'd love to live in a warmer climate without snow and all this shit.
@@nefelibata4190 i want to experience how it feels like having a snow..
There a big difference living on your own because you choose to and being lonely. It's extremely important to like and appreciate your own company but I can understand we're all different and have different needs. It must be awfully hard at the moment with Covid and isolation! Sometimes we just have to take the first step, go sit on a bench go for a walk it helps.They talk about money on this program. But personally it doesn't have anything to do with that. You can have a knitting circle at home, a book circle, you can have a poetry evening with high tea and charge a small amount! you can teach cooking classes to young adults from home. You can even have a dinner party at home and everyone brings one dish of their choice to you and you share! At the moment I know it's really hard with lockdown and Covid but before or after that. Anyway... But you can get a alotmant do gardening and get to know other people and still keep a distance❤️Sharing is caring❤️❤️❤️
Its Here in The States too.
I struggle daily with loneliness I don’t have any real friends or trustworthy sisters I almost feel ashamed to admit my struggle like how do you admit to loneliness and that I sat in my car dreading going inside - that you miss conversation and eating with people or looking after someone because it makes you feel needed I started UA-cam to have someone to talk to and to eat with me. 😞🤦🏽♀️😔
Give me a shout mate if you'e still feeling lonely.
I'll subscribe to your channel. Well done for being proactive
No wonder why so many Brits end up living in Greece and Cyprus. I'm not surprised at all. I agree with Mark, capitalism is to blame. In order to find happiness, you have to be in an environent where people live simple and meaningfully and where people are socially connected. I've always preferred both Cyprus and Greece to Britain. No comparison.
what did capitalism do to cyprus and greece?
Agreed, smaller places I think could be a good idea.
There should be common platform where people can meet .if they are lonely next generation will be more lonely and depressed
It's also happening in Australia.😔
It’s not just London it’s everywhere .We all want so much to end up with so little really sad . I think that’s why we should take the time to realize what’s really important to us in life. At 62 I think a lot of it is we’re not willing to settle anymore like we would when we were younger.
Can we be friends
Volunteering. Singing in a choir. Some people may have health issues
Thought I was the only one alone, most of the time. I always come in handy if someone needs me for anything. Don’t own a Car. Not Rich. Would dearly love some kind of Company. I’m nearly 70.
Hope everything mends up for you however I'm here if you want to talk email me at waqah9@gmail.com
Me too! We can talk!
alejandrasotodeltoro@gmail.com 🙂
It's not just the parents that get lonely.
My parents are somewhat semi retired and are gone for half the year.
Hei！Dearest ！Thank you for your help when you were young. Thank you your country and US's help in our long hard time and walk with me when I'm down. YES！ the healing soft music and in many different aspects. Thank you. SALUTE.
Reading some of these comments I thought I was the only one ,suffering I struggle everyday the unhappiness i,m going through is unbearable ,the sad thing is nothing will change ,
wozzi71 things can and will change. Please talk to your doctor if you’re feeling hopeless
How can i help you ?
Dear Tara thanks for your reply ,I will think about that ,but my confidence has gone ,that's what I need to try and regain,but thanks for finding the time to reply
@@wozzi71 : How are things now?
Thank you very kindly
London not only lonely. I don’t see and talk to people for weeks. Lol. So it’s good to hear I’m not the only one. Especially living in flats can be lonely 😞. London is not scary lots to do there lol 😆
i think most people can be soothed by social media contacts but that just makes it harder for those of us who can't. it's taken people out of the possible social circle making others feel more isolated. ei- I have no hope of dating online, it seems such an alien concept for me.
I hear you but online friends can be a great thing:-)
watching here while being alone as migrant nurse and homeless....
without Jesus everybody is lost and alone--------------------even with lots of people
Amen! To be lost is a Terrible feelings to be unknown is unsure is to live n fear worry anxiety depressed loneliness emptiness wonder and Yoyo. 🙏😍🙏
I live alone and pray in the morning and at night it helps praise the lord.
I am so sad to hear it!!
How about volunteers visit to those precious people, God loves
them!!
I think Loneliness stems from no one knowing whats going on inside you. People care less about others bc others have so many problems they just seem to be looking for help, not friendship, so people avoid each other. Its all very sad.
I live in Mayfair
No community
The background music was sad..its the old song by Bobby Vinton: Blue on Blue..heartache and sorrow..Blue on Blue..now that we are through..and I find myself..cant get over losing you..😪😪😪
I was born in the 1960s and because of the economics of the 80s and 90s many of us couldn't afford to have children in fact many of the girls I knew had children alone to collect welfare and ensure housing after high-school. But that ended in 1997. Many of my generation have virtually no family to speak of, the problem is that we are getting older and will soon be senior citizens. A lot of us seem to be dying much earlier then my parents generation . Many lived into their 80s and older. My generation which was called generation X are dying in our late 40s and early 50s, im 54 and I've had at least a dozen friends die in the last 10 years. Things are so different for gen x people compared to the ww2 generation ,like night and day, we've had it so much harder then they did.
UK society is sick...it doesn't put importance to relationship parents-children...I hate this environment, quality material life is good though
I struggle with loneliness living in Pakistan where life isnot that busy in countries like UK ,USA and Canada etc.
This was back in 2012, does this still apply in 2019?
Oh yes, it does. Very sad indeed. 😔
Lockdown has made it worse so it's still true...
It got worse when community's started breaking up . The community should have everything in it.So much for getting on.We might lose everything BUT if we have a community the people of the community will help you and your them . cafes pubs bingo halls churches shops gym's work They ALL need to be 10 mins walk at most from home.
I have been loan LU for well over 35 years due to various factors effecting my lobedo, got into routines or ruts which are hard to break. I’m not happy, fall into and out of relationships or friendships, suffer less lust for the ladies, but not an age thing, I seldom socialise and only a few real friends. Dating websites make me feel insecure, not keen on pubs.
Jack Sugden if
How about apartment buildings with a communal lounge ? I think the internet has encouraged loneliness cos noone seems to learn the art of meeting people randomly while they are out and about
I hv a big family but my entire family is lonely. U can feel it. Everybody seems busy but no they r not. We must be cursed or something from our previous lives to be brought together like this. The sooner we all die the better. Many of us are not married, n it's a good thing i think....we r not passing on our cursed genes much.
Honestly I dont feel like London is a lonely city at all if you are willing to Invest time in building connections. I use social media and the internet alot. I've met really amazing people and i met new people often too, half of them become part of my life .The secret is selecting the right people and not wasting time with People who are self centered or emotionally unavailable.
In London the general people in the streets don't speak English. It's not racist, it's just a fact.
Funny
How do they live there??? Is it possible??
Nothing wrong with giving musicians money.
I coukd be in "bad" mood if i dont see/meet and talk to my parents(now 80 and 84 years old) for more than 3 days. Thank God we live in the same city (bandung west java indonesia). My husband is very kind/ supportive to let me do so. Once a month i dine out wirh my parents. Or buy them fruits anytime i want. Take each of them twice a month for chek up to hospital to control their health problems.These makes me at ease...have a bit time to be with them.
Whenever i hv time with my only 2 adult sons i usually try to put fowards the value of caring especially in family..
it hurts
The tune was played in the background where the elderly men were woodworking..sad..
My daughter in law said she's committed to caring for her parents when s
They age. Doesn't know how she'd care for me. Made me so sad
I'm 36 years old Indian, and I'm lonely. It's just i need someone be for me, not with me.. and that's the only solution. I have a good job but no family. Sometimes I turned suicidal but again life continued.
Read self help books
pray to allah
talk to allah in your heart.
Make allah your companion
Hey come on! Stop thinking ab suicid. Go to the bar but don't drink much! Just find someone to talk!
The only thing worse than being alone is not being alone.
how true!!
That's absolutely not true. And only when you've been isolated do you realize that other people are what bring joy to us all
Aloneness & loneliness, in some ways similar, but not the same.
Most of my life has been a solitary one. So for my life to be busy, i hate that.
Much prefer aloneness.
Looks like London has meetup groups- if you don't see one you like, you can start one going-e.g. get togethers coffee shops to talk, or go to events.
Im happy being alone, the only time im not happy is when people try to talk to me.
People like you are kidding yourselves
Phantom Worral Compared to having to speak to some paranoid individuals that ask intrusive questions, It is better and happier. People be kidding themselves
Give me an example of intrusive question, a lot of UK people sounds paranoid when run away from answering decent questions which is the way to know each other better...🙄
Petruta Jucatoru
Stranger: Are you muslim?...you look muslim?
Me: No, im jewish?
Stranger: You look african? How is that...jews are white...etc
Whats your name
Me: yohannes
Stranger: laughs..thats not your name
Stranger 2: are you gay..? ( obviously taking the piss)
Me: no
Etc..
Now a days i tell them to take a hike..
Society itself is has lost its humanity, everything has turned into a consumer world where technological gadgets now play a part of entertainment and amusement, findind and making friends is not easy due to most people will find awkward for someone to be approached by and just start a conversation not to mention approaching women nowadays that will be considered sexual harassment. We have lost the interaction habit between us, how do we get back? I think awareness will be answer to it, social media may be a tool but I find it very artificial, creating a movement will be a good idea, connect to all those who feel alone and want to meet new friends, choosing a place to meet for a coffee chat or similar and see how it goes.
I think its also because of their weather where it always rains which can result to Seasonal Affected Disorder. Im not making this up
That's depressing living in a country that rains a lot. I probably ould give up on life if I have to endure that weather most of the time.
Lonely people n UK can teach you a lesson:To Be Reserved.
Their feelings is only to themselves
Sometimes you feel bad why you talked to them.
I have many friends from UK and they talk alot.
We met inSpain.When there is an organizational event we share a hotel room and have some fun.We used to be open at each other.
They are nice people.
Im 58 and ive been divorced over 20 years now and had a Brain Haemorage.Heart attacks.Strokes etc i leart not to trust people my meds and money were getting stolen by so called friends so its safer to be on my own sometimes a week would go by and i would only speak to the staff in the chemist.
Sorry sweetie... 😢
well said
Ionleyness leads to boredom that's the killer
Actually, we just have to change our perception of things. Companionship and friendship are like money. If we let go of being obsessed with them, it would be a great load off our shoulders. Or we can simply substitute pets and UA-cam for people.
I dream of living in a remote area in a 16x12 log cabin , wood stove and cast iron frying pan, and a dog.
If I had the necessary skills to be self sufficient and the money to do so , I wouldn't mind living in a cabin in the wilderness.
Hello Michelle, do everything you can to improve your area and skills . Start with small cheap things that you find interesting. Don’t forget the library . Cheers.
@@jonyoung6405 Thanks ! ☺️👍
@Jon Young: So who will take care of you (or your dog) when you're ill and can barely get out of bed? Your crops don't grow due to frost so where do you go to get an alternative food source without neighbours to barter with? Who let's you know about an impending storm when your radio is broken or the health status of a relative? Who do you laugh with or reminisce with? Who shows you a quicker, easier way to cut logs? Total isolation isn't good for your heart or mind and can stunt your intellectual development. It can even be life threatening. It's interesting that three people I've had disputes with in recent years all live alone and have poor social skills imo. Something tells me that there may be a cause and effect thing going on here because they don't seem to know how to collaborate or negotiate with others and are very set in their own ways. I enjoy meeting new people from all backgrounds but like my moments of solitude too so I can reflect. There's a balance to be had. Too much of one or the other can be detrimental.
@@lah1667 Everything you say is the "ideal way" to live , but not always possible. I believe men are more adept to living alone more then women simply because we had to compete for everything we have while facing a life of set backs and rejection. Thus to retire to a simple low drama way of life has its appeal.
You can be anywhere in the world and feel lonely. You can be in a crowded city and thousands of people walking by while you're sitting on a bench. Some people make eye contact with you and don't even say hello, you say hello and some don't even say hi. In my opinion this is the worst feeling of loneliness. Living in a runned down city is the worst.
Being in the woods or out in the country doesn't always make you feel lonely. When you're alone, embracing nature is a good thing, you can become very creative and resourceful. Less is more and being in touch with yourself from with in and being greatful all what little you may have. If you have good health you have everything! You become more in touch with God! When you walk with the Lord you're not always feeling lonely!
It would be Wonderful if all of the lonely people got together in one place, were ever arranged to be together to communicate to chase away loneliness.
I've missed the big outdoors during lockdown more than I have people!
@@lah1667😳 Don't be Afraid to get out doors and take a walk in a park or woods. Nothing like fresh air and sunshine!
🤓 ☮️ & ❤️
again, you miss the point that loneliness is a feeling that arises when you around people you don't get along... while your description is about solitude
@@dominic6055 😲 If I missed the Point! Oh!
Please Excuse Me!
For Hurting your Feelings!
😲 Would you rather be Happy!? or Right and at the same time be Miserable?!