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  • This is what happened. I am okay & John is okay x
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 6 тис.

  • @ghidahamiyeh7768
    @ghidahamiyeh7768 7 років тому +1704

    i feel like john is an example of how you should be treated in the future. he came into your life to let you know how you should really be treated and to have your expectations ready for your future boyfriends. you never really realize how bad a guy is treating you until a better one comes along and i think that you will be ready for the future relationship that you deserve. everything happens for a reason and i think that john came into your life to show you that you dont deserve to be treated any less. everyone deserves the very best. love you shani

  • @brittanyley4170
    @brittanyley4170 7 років тому +861

    My boyfriend and I just broke up today. I totally feel your pain girl. We are STRONG and we will make it through this.

    • @sophiarachelllucia8744
      @sophiarachelllucia8744 7 років тому +2

      Brittany Ley aww...

    • @jesspownall459
      @jesspownall459 7 років тому +3

      Brittany Ley was my 18th birthday on monday and i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, i can relate to this video soooo fuckin much

    • @shazakram1232
      @shazakram1232 7 років тому

      I hope your okay! Xx

    • @katherinetashica
      @katherinetashica 7 років тому +1

      Same here babe, stay strong ❤️

    • @yaitavaldez8830
      @yaitavaldez8830 7 років тому +2

      I'm on the same boat!💓 we will get through it😊

  • @MichaelFinch
    @MichaelFinch 7 років тому +3999

    Love you so much

    • @Tahlia375
      @Tahlia375 7 років тому +9

      Such a cute bestie x

    • @amycraig2697
      @amycraig2697 7 років тому +2

      makeupbymichaelfinch I love you Michael!!

    • @fazza5407
      @fazza5407 7 років тому +1

      thats cute!!

    • @jasminesmith1411
      @jasminesmith1411 7 років тому +1

      friend goals

    • @tomiaro3043
      @tomiaro3043 7 років тому +1

      thats so cute i love you so much your such a good friend

  • @stephanielange
    @stephanielange 7 років тому +742

    Aw girl, I feel you! I went through pretty much the exact same thing with my ex before Darren. He is the nicest guy in the world, and absolutely beautiful but one morning I woke up and felt the 'ick'. For literally no reason at all i'd fallen out of lust with him. I still loved him with all my heart but I had to break up with him as I felt like i was leading him on and it was SO hard. Literally broke my heart to see him upset. But you have to do it. Stay strong lovely one! x

    • @mrcreator2804
      @mrcreator2804 6 років тому +1

      Stephanie Lange awwwww

    • @shez_3771
      @shez_3771 6 років тому +1

      Stephanie Lange aw

    • @exh-hm2sm
      @exh-hm2sm 6 років тому +1

      glad you did whats best X

    • @samarztk
      @samarztk 6 років тому +12

      wow you fell out of lust? there was your problem to begin with ...stupid

    • @katiefisher9033
      @katiefisher9033 6 років тому +1

      Stephanie Lange a

  • @ilianakada2130
    @ilianakada2130 7 років тому +1593

    this is so real. like honestly, what UA-camr have you seen that comes out and says the cold hard truth? No blaming anyone else, no lies, no disrespect, just the full truth. I have so much respect for you Shani.

    • @100BD
      @100BD 7 років тому +2

      and I bet the ads on the video putting money in her pocket make it a whole lot easier

    • @LB-uk3to
      @LB-uk3to 7 років тому +1

      Would be a whole lot easier if you would rack off and not make a comment on the difficulty of someone's situation when you clearly have no idea what it must feel like. 😊

    • @100BD
      @100BD 7 років тому +1

      I'm literally stating a fact, it doesn't take away my love for shani. Rack yourself off, k bye.

  • @mariadowling5607
    @mariadowling5607 7 років тому +871

    the words "I fell out of love with him" fucking crushed my soul. for both of you. because who you fall in and out of love with is not necessarily your choice, so your feelings could not be helped. and sad for him because....well it's obvious really.
    I love you and I love john and I love you and john together and ill continue to love you both separately.
    I really respect you for making this video and being honest and saying the real truth. and for sharing your emotions with us because I, along with probably many other viewers, cried along with you.
    I hope you guys remain friends and close and whatever your future brings for the both of you, I hope its happy and positive.
    p.s. you look fucking stunning in this (sorry for being tacky and swearing as much as you lmao)

    • @BellaSwan881
      @BellaSwan881 7 років тому +2

      dts d I think that he was too good for her. I mean, womens need to be delicate, sweet and stuff and men are the ,,powerful" side of relationship. Shani is very independent and need guy who is stronger than her. He was too cute and kind

    • @abbiekern389
      @abbiekern389 7 років тому +10

      Joanna no they don't. Fuck of with that shit.

    • @BellaSwan881
      @BellaSwan881 7 років тому +3

      Rita Terrazas It's not possible if you are fully happy with this person

    • @abbiekern389
      @abbiekern389 7 років тому +4

      Joanna yes it is.

    • @BellaSwan881
      @BellaSwan881 7 років тому

      Rita Terrazas And dont be mean. You dont know me so why are u calling me like that? Personal culture. Have you heard about it?

  • @celis99
    @celis99 7 років тому +1018

    My boyfriend broke up with me the other day because he fell out of love with me, so hearing your explanation on this topic really helped me kind of process it all a little bit better. Thank you Shani, stay strong!! 💖

    • @manueledelice2424
      @manueledelice2424 7 років тому +12

      Celine S Stay strong, too ❤️

    • @Bell-mw4lc
      @Bell-mw4lc 7 років тому +15

      Celine S this happened to me two moths ago, hardest thing to deal with and i'm still not over it at all

    • @Woaahhjennyy
      @Woaahhjennyy 7 років тому +6

      Izzy Maria it's okay you don't have to be over it stay strong boo

    • @antoniamarch1503
      @antoniamarch1503 7 років тому +2

      Stay strong girl break ups suck xx

    • @sarahkeown9322
      @sarahkeown9322 7 років тому

      Celine S hope ur okay gal x

  • @ShineBrightStars
    @ShineBrightStars 7 років тому +539

    respect to you for ending things with johnathan when you fell out of love rather than leading him on or cheating on him because you don't love him anymore. and you guys should totally still be friends because you obviously still care an extreme amount about him but just not in a relationship type way.

  • @ellen1775
    @ellen1775 7 років тому +441

    this video broke my heart... thank you for being so honest with us all the time we love and appreciate you so much

  • @Izzieforeva
    @Izzieforeva 7 років тому +1377

    I'm glad you're open about this. Because falling out of love can happen, and it doesn't mean you're a bad person.

    • @saralelelel3433
      @saralelelel3433 7 років тому +6

      Vika Tobin same thing happened to me, so hard. :( I'm young though, it must be harder with him having to move out as well. :((

    • @maggiekarabel123
      @maggiekarabel123 7 років тому +45

      Vika Tobin I broke up with a great guy once because I knew he wasn't gonna be my husband. Everyone was mad at me at the time but I was right, after that I met the one.

    • @hollynairn4628
      @hollynairn4628 7 років тому +15

      Maggie Karabel that happened to me a year ago, I broke up with such a lovely guy that all my friends love, but I could see it just was not right and not going anywhere, but all my friends got mad at me and didn't understand, and were trying to demand an explanation when I didn't need to explain myself- it's for my own happiness. It sucked.

    • @joannemkz5521
      @joannemkz5521 7 років тому +2

      Shani has inspired me to follow my heart and do whats right. I'm in this exact same situation and was confused by my feelings but seeing somebody talk about this in a video made me realise whats best. Thank you Shani, I'll always love you! Xx

    • @maggiekarabel123
      @maggiekarabel123 7 років тому

      holly nairn People who really love you know you wouldn't do that to hurt him. You have to follow your heart!

  • @lurveNpeace
    @lurveNpeace 7 років тому +61

    My boyfriend and I broke up too last week. We're still best friends though. Not sure if it's healthy but time can only tell. My heart goes out to you girl, remember you're not alone.

    • @luciagonzalo6762
      @luciagonzalo6762 7 років тому +1

      Don't worry. If it's only been a week there's a lot of time to figure out what works for you and your ex.

    • @lurveNpeace
      @lurveNpeace 7 років тому

      Thank you. I hope so too. We're still best friends and we still contact each other, I guess time can only tell where it'll lead us to.

  • @EveChristie
    @EveChristie 7 років тому +437

    I love how honest and transparent you are on social media, stay strong xx

  • @abigailmartinez3813
    @abigailmartinez3813 7 років тому +645

    Greatest fear in my life ; to fall out of love ; for someone to fall out of love with me ; to love.... 😔

    • @Swiss_Girl
      @Swiss_Girl 7 років тому

      Abigail Martinez for how long were they together?

  • @habwbfbxjj2963
    @habwbfbxjj2963 7 років тому +78

    What i love most about her is shes so genuine and still cares for Jonathan. Im proud of you for being able to tell us about this, keep your head up princess we all love you❤

  • @FancyAFrock
    @FancyAFrock 7 років тому +1446

    "He treated you right and you left him good luck finding someone like that again". STOP SAYING THIS! Treating your partner right is literally an expectation of a relationship. You don't get a gold star for doing something you should already be doing. It's not her fault people treat others like shit. It's like saying "don't leave your job because you earn money, good luck finding another job where you earn money". Like yeah it's expected to earn money from a job just as it's expected to be treated right in a relationship. I know this isn't always the case and I know there are so many toxic relationships but toxic shouldn't be the norm. You shouldn't stay with someone just because they're nice. It's not fair to stay with someone who you don't love just because they do the one thing expected in a relationship.

    • @Es-uv1ph
      @Es-uv1ph 7 років тому +22

      Lilikoi lover Yesss. I was going to say something like this, but you worded way better than I would have.

    • @karafarnham6651
      @karafarnham6651 7 років тому +20

      this is the best comment i have ever seen.

    • @FancyAFrock
      @FancyAFrock 7 років тому +11

      Oh gosh I thought this would get buried!! Thank you for your kind words! I'm so happy we have strong empowering people out there! Everyone deserves love and not to settle for anything less :)

    • @mathildedalleau977
      @mathildedalleau977 7 років тому +3

      Wow this is the best comment / advise I've seen on the Internet. It means a lot to me ... this is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you :)

    • @petraa3899
      @petraa3899 7 років тому +3

      Lilikoi lover the best thing i've read about relationships.

  • @kylieaaliyah
    @kylieaaliyah 7 років тому +127

    Im crying with you, stay strong, good for you for doing something for yourself - many people make the mistake of loving someone more than themselves.... You are beautiful and you will find that connection

  • @elliemaree1995
    @elliemaree1995 7 років тому +190

    You didn't have to give us any explanation, but honestly thank you for feeling so comfortable with your viewers, and telling us what happened. You speak very respectfully of John and you've both handled this very maturely.

    • @elliemaree1995
      @elliemaree1995 7 років тому +7

      And I'm so glad you can still continue to both work together, and he is able to still see the dogs, and visit your family as their all close, and be a friend to you.

  • @SincerelyGracie
    @SincerelyGracie 7 років тому +854

    Honestly how do you look so good even while crying??? I went through a situation similar to this with my first boyfriend. We dated for 3 years and I ended up just knowing he wasn't the one. I was scared to leave the comfort as well. I thought I would never find genuine happiness but now I've finally found it and I'm expecting a baby. 💗

    • @pariss7881
      @pariss7881 7 років тому +5

      SincerelyGracie omg I love you Gracie !!!💕 😭 just watched your video how random!

    • @taylorlong8286
      @taylorlong8286 7 років тому

      SincerelyGracie congratulations!!

  • @ryleedeboucherville4642
    @ryleedeboucherville4642 7 років тому +693

    Shani. You didn't need to give us an explanation as it's none of our business, but now that you have it just shows how brave and strong you are and how comfortable you are with your viewers. It's upsetting to hear about this but at the end of the day, your happiness is your #1 priority. It sucks how you can't control your feelings. I'm just glad that John treated you well and I'm proud of how maturely you both are handling it. I have so much love for you girl xx

  • @CraftingWithTopaz
    @CraftingWithTopaz 7 років тому +879

    That's my worst fear. Falling out of love with someone after I've been with them for so long. Or crushing on someone and feel no spark when we finally talk or kiss

    • @LisaKlee123
      @LisaKlee123 7 років тому +2

      Topaz Brown second one happened to me. really sucked.

    • @dorramichel2778
      @dorramichel2778 7 років тому +1

      Try to avoid crushing on someone you don't know, it brings deceptions most of the time. You can have crushes on your sex friend, or friend, or your friend s best friend, someone you already hang out with from time to time, and someone you already did had intimacy with. The platonic love thing was pretty charming in Romeo & Juliet era, not anymore, not in the 21st century +Topaz Brown

    • @Allegedly_Me
      @Allegedly_Me 7 років тому +3

      Well for me this is the best comment I've read in weeks. Last year my boyfriend broke up with me after 4 years of being together (and a dog, and living together for 3.5 years) because he didn't love me anymore. He didn't want to talk about it or work on it or go to therapy or anything. After two months he wanted to get back together and said it was all a mistake etcetera. I took him back and then last month he broke up with me again. He didn't love me anymore, wasn't in love with me in anymore but in love with someone else. I told him he never fought for anything. When things get hard, or feelings get difficult he just gives up. He agreed. And that was it. My parents have gone through so much together and my mother has often said they might get a divorce but they never did, they worked on it. I thought I had that too, I would have done anything for him, even though maybe he wasn't the best thing for me (in hindsight you know). Two weeks before he left he talked with my mother and cried, said he wanted to marry me and that he loved me so much and would never hurt me like that again. I totally lost all faith in true love and commitment in that way.

    • @BR3NNAA
      @BR3NNAA 7 років тому +1

      OMG PLEASE SEND ME HELP!!! IM IN THE SECOND SITUATION RIGHT NOW AND I FEEL SO BAD 😭😭😭

    • @kaychristine2518
      @kaychristine2518 7 років тому +2

      BR3NNAA put yourself first, if you know you won't be happy with that person don't waste your time, go out and find someone you generally like and want to be with. Hope this helps x

  • @eviexo2406
    @eviexo2406 7 років тому +108

    You could tell how hard this was for her ... were all here for you and have so much respect for you that you've done this Xxx

  • @LilianTahmasian
    @LilianTahmasian 7 років тому +19

    This made me cry! Sending you positive vibes and hugs lovely! :( you're such a strong person, we all love you x

  • @sophiewragg218
    @sophiewragg218 7 років тому +140

    I don't actually know if I've ever commented on a UA-cam video but I am breaking up with my partner and moved out, it is really nice to someone be so upfront and I love that you didn't apologize for crying or edit it out or edit out cursing because it shows your followers that it's okay to show emotions and you don't have to apologize for them. So thank you!

  • @macyhobson5357
    @macyhobson5357 7 років тому +428

    I'm not crying, you're crying

    • @MsMaxmotivation
      @MsMaxmotivation 7 років тому +6

      Macy Hobson im not gona talk about my relationship , shes talking about it

    • @macyhobson5357
      @macyhobson5357 7 років тому +1

      Max X shit man, hope you feel better soon xx

  • @balletstar77
    @balletstar77 7 років тому +1586

    This was one of the most mature and respectful video I have seen in a really long time. Honestly I have so much love and admiration for you just by the way you were able to make this video and talk about yourself in a positive way and john.

    • @Conoisseur1430
      @Conoisseur1430 7 років тому +3

      Emma Chang "mature and respectful' swears like 300 times in the video.

    • @sallymallyy
      @sallymallyy 7 років тому +68

      Lol just because she uses profanities doesn't mean that she isn't mature and worthy of respect. Don't ruin Emma's comment because it's so true.

    •  7 років тому

      .....cool

  • @saram6256
    @saram6256 7 років тому +960

    I just got home from a nightclub drunk as fuck but I'm still here ! priorities bitch

  • @MindOfFinn
    @MindOfFinn 7 років тому +82

    You are honestly such a strong girl, your maturity towards your feelings and towards John's is so refreshing to see. Amicable break ups are often tough because to everybody else it seems like things are okay and they are usually met with a lot of confusion. Glad you have you family and friends around you that understand and I'm happy that you and John are talking and working through things! Keep your chin up, take as much time as you need and do what you love with people you love! Love ya dal 😘💜

  • @isobel6341
    @isobel6341 3 роки тому +5

    When I first watched this 3 years ago I didn’t get it at all, but this exact situation just happened to me and I came straight here. It comforted me so much so thank you x

  • @laurenwood3933
    @laurenwood3933 7 років тому +170

    I love how your voice sounds in this video

  • @skyewheatleyofficial
    @skyewheatleyofficial 7 років тому +999

    I would be mad at you if I watched this with makeup on because I legit cried when u cried 😂😭❤️ you're so strong babey girl! Think of how many girls and boys this video would have helped! You're amazing x

  • @britluvsmusic98
    @britluvsmusic98 7 років тому +785

    My boyfriend (now ex) recently broke up because he felt exactly like how you felt. We still love each other to bits but he didn't see a future with me. We are both good friends and still talk. I cried for weeks and sometimes I still get sad but I have finally processed what has happened and I am happy. It is very brave of you to make this video. Very proud. Much love xxx

    • @josieemarie
      @josieemarie 7 років тому +4

      Britnee Cameron same with me! It gets better xx

    • @stephboyd
      @stephboyd 7 років тому +9

      Completely same situation for me! 19 months with him, he's still my best friend. But at the time I thought the world was ending but I finally realised that it had to end and that I rather him as my best friend than completely out of my life.

    • @Charlotte-vd1bp
      @Charlotte-vd1bp 7 років тому +5

      literally going through it rn and I feel so alone

    • @britluvsmusic98
      @britluvsmusic98 7 років тому +5

      Stephanie Boyd at first I thought that my life was literally over but over time everything was making sense and I realised his happiness matters too. If he's happy, I'm going to be happy too

    • @britluvsmusic98
      @britluvsmusic98 7 років тому +7

      Charlotte aww girl. It honestly gets so much better. I found distracting myself worked so well. Time flies much faster

  • @Gabi-dm4un
    @Gabi-dm4un 6 років тому +13

    I feel for you. This happens A LOT in relationships and I hope you are truly adamant with your decision. There is obviously so much more that may have helped you make your decision. But you do need to understand that this feeling will come in almost every relationship you may get into. The feeling may be stronger or weaker but it will come back. You need to learn that someone in the relationship will eventually fall out of love. This may be for many different reasons. It usually happens if both of you get too comfortable with each other and stop being spontaneous. This will make you feel bored. You will get that feeling of wanting something new or just having time to stay single. That same spark that you felt during the peak of your relationship will NOT STAY LIT FOREVER. Understand that relationships require work from both partners. Both partners must want to make the effort to be together. You have to find a new spark by doing things differently. Be spontaneous with your relationship. That is what makes it interesting and fun. It will help you remember why you fell in love with him in the first place. But because you seem certain about your decision, there must be more to your decision than just "falling out of love." Love is hard. Love hurts. But most importantly love requires work. You should always put your happiness before anyone else. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Be true to yourself before you can be true to anyone else.

  • @daisypalmer7421
    @daisypalmer7421 7 років тому +138

    I am so glad that you are still both on good terms and supporting each other

  • @beckyhalpin442
    @beckyhalpin442 7 років тому +437

    this broke my heart :( , i hope you are okay xx , i love you

    • @Makeuphuney
      @Makeuphuney 7 років тому +6

      B she says on her bio she's okay

    • @beckyhalpin442
      @beckyhalpin442 7 років тому +9

      didn't see that , sorry for being concerned ?

    • @eviexo2406
      @eviexo2406 7 років тому +2

      Makeuphuney she can still say it

    • @kateh3718
      @kateh3718 7 років тому +2

      Makeuphuney was just letting you know Shani was okay since you said you were hoping she was okay.. it was an innocent thing, no need to apologize for being concerned as there's nothing wrong with being concerned & yes Evie Xo, she can say it

    • @jane2068
      @jane2068 7 років тому +2

      B lol she was just letting you know

  • @susiea1028
    @susiea1028 7 років тому +21

    giiiirl watching this felt like i was watching my breakup all over again. me and my boyfriend of over 2 years broke up a few months back for the same exact reason. honestly the amount i relate to you right now is crazy, these hormones are also getting to me. it's so important that you put your self first in situations like this. for months and months me and my ex knew our relationship wasnt normal all down to me falling out of love, even though you feel guilt for it your right it's the best decision. i honestly envy you for the fact you guys are on such good terms. if you feel like you need a break hun please do it, take a break and refresh yourself. i admire you so much shani and we're all here for you 💗x

  • @mikaylafalslev7472
    @mikaylafalslev7472 7 років тому +53

    I see all these people posting about if he treated her so well why did she fall out of love and that she was selfish but honestly it seems to me that you have never come close to experiencing a situation like hers. It's hard knowing that you have the perfect guy but not perfect for you and realizing that what's wrong is you and not them.
    I read a comment about how she doesn't deserve to cry when that's total bullshit. She's putting her self first and in doing so she's hurting someone she loves dearly and that's not a good feeling KNOWING you're the reason for someone hurting. So what would you rather have her do? Stay with him and just constantly fight and get annoyed with each other. Worst case senerio she cheats because she's unhappy or vice versa. If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be and sometimes it's hard to accept that.
    Anyways I love you shani. feel better❤️❤️❤️

    • @Haileyrodriguez288
      @Haileyrodriguez288 3 роки тому

      u could break up wit someone not go out ur way to cheat thats wrong

  • @nurulafiqahmohamadkhir1968
    @nurulafiqahmohamadkhir1968 7 років тому +41

    u sometimes need to find urself & put you first to find that someone. and u don't need a guy for happiness, you are your own happiness babe xxxx lots of love!!

  • @victoriacosta2891
    @victoriacosta2891 7 років тому +1053

    this is what I'm so afraid of

    • @leighgm
      @leighgm 7 років тому +4

      Victoria Costa love is something to be afraid of :) but we do take risks anyway

    • @yuta4469
      @yuta4469 7 років тому +17

      That's why I'm never getting into a relationship anymore lol. It's so dangerous and complicated

    • @JPieps147
      @JPieps147 7 років тому +22

      I'm more afraid of doing this to someone, rather than it happening to me

    • @sweetmarasme
      @sweetmarasme 7 років тому +11

      this happened to me after a 3 years realtionship.. That shit's hard.

    • @okalaniwilson4159
      @okalaniwilson4159 7 років тому

      HONESTLY

  • @RubyGolani
    @RubyGolani 7 років тому +993

    I just want to wrap my arms around you and give you the biggest hug.
    Respect for stepping up and making the decision.
    Once you focus on you, everything else will fall into place. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @sunset5907
    @sunset5907 7 років тому +86

    Shani, its ok. You dont have to be sorry. The love that you felt at the start if your relationship isnt always permanent, it can change and it isnt bad at all. Dont worry for the hate comments, we still love and support you❤️

  • @rahneebransby
    @rahneebransby 7 років тому +1463

    I love you SO much, always here; through everything 💛👯‍♂️

  • @peytonclapperton8833
    @peytonclapperton8833 7 років тому +272

    we will support you no matter what! never think we need an explanation but thank you for sharing your emotional and personal life with us xx

  • @linja3060
    @linja3060 7 років тому +207

    i honestly have so much respect for you. i sadly know so many girls who are in unhappy relationships but they don't break up because they're scared of being alone and feel like they 'need' a boyfriend to be happy. love the message you're sending ❤️ hope you enjoy your single life!! 😁

  • @rachelsegal3242
    @rachelsegal3242 7 років тому

    I have SO much respect for you coming out and talking about it instead of hiding it like so many people do after they've spent so long plastering their relationship all over social media. I understand that they don't have to tell us or explain it, but I really appreciate that you want to be transparent to your followers instead of acting like the relationship never happened.

  • @justycekay4052
    @justycekay4052 7 років тому +109

    The mental strength you have Shani is absolutely inspiring. Sit down, have a glass of wine with Bin and call it a day. You deserve more than the world. Stay strong and keep on keeping on girl! X

  • @courtneywarn606
    @courtneywarn606 7 років тому +57

    Darl you made me cry!!!! It reminded me so much of when my boyfriend and I broke up but after a few months apart to have space and think about our relationship we grew stronger and now we're back together. Maybe as time goes on and you have some time apart everything will work out for the best. But you've always got to make yourself happy before anyone else can! I wish you all the best babe! xxx

  • @h22nn22h
    @h22nn22h 7 років тому +83

    You know when something is lacking in a relationship. You're so strong for making this realization and moving on without him, many people including myself decide to just settle. I admire that about you. Love you babe! We know this is tough and you still care for him, don't worry.

    • @WuMyth
      @WuMyth 7 років тому +2

      "I'm never gonna find someone who treats me like I should be treated"... finds guy who does.... breaks up with him... why do people have sympathy for these girls they just fuck themselves

    • @h22nn22h
      @h22nn22h 7 років тому +1

      Zed she acutallyyyyyy said she felt* (meaning in the past she felt that way). No need to be hateful. When you're young and feel like you won't find someone who will treat you like you deserve, you will easily settle for someone who makes you feel good about yourself which sounded like she did and realized it. Doesn't mean they didn't care for eachother, it just wasn't right for the long term.

    • @WuMyth
      @WuMyth 7 років тому +1

      yea he clearly didn't give her enough emotional abuse... none of that fun drama most girls need otherwise they 'fall out of love'... lol

  • @beccaemily3294
    @beccaemily3294 6 років тому +6

    And now you're back together. Im so happy for you both, you needed to go through that break up to realise who you truly love. Sending love and happiness to you both. Love you shani im glad you found your way x

  • @yungnugget3545
    @yungnugget3545 7 років тому +204

    My boyfriend broke up with me for the same reason that you broke up with John. It hurt so much because he is my soulmate and he was the best thing I ever had, and it took me so long to let him in and fully give him my heart, and it seemed like as soon as I was head over heels in love with him he fell out. He told me that he didn't see a future with me but that he still wanted to be friends. I tried to hold it together and tried to be his friend but it just hurt so much and seeing his life go on with out me was something I couldn't do. I blocked all of his social media and only kept his number under the first letter of his name so that I'm not reminded of him. He was pretty upset with me blocking him, but at the same time I was pretty upset that he broke up with me lol so I just told him I had to do it. Sometimes when he contacts me I can't reply because I can feel myself falling back into a cycle of hurt, and I'm just starting to move past it. He did what's best for him, and I'm doing what's best for me, and that's the best I can do right now. Thank you for making this video it really gave me a different perspective on relationships and love. I love you, stay strong.

    • @melissacubas6170
      @melissacubas6170 7 років тому +2

      yung nugget omg i feel you this literally happened to me like a few weeks ago and i was totally not expecting that i know everything happened for a reason but i just cant believe it. I mean time heals everything so .....
      stay strong siss

    • @FACEBOOKinPINK
      @FACEBOOKinPINK 7 років тому

      Pretty much the same thing happened to me too. I still get very upset sometimes and it hurts but you gotta stay strong and we all will find someone who'll love us just the way we are

    • @paulinachavarria6637
      @paulinachavarria6637 7 років тому

      yung nugget even though it hurts... sometimes its best not to have any contact with your ex... it just kills you when you see him! do whats best for you even though its hard! stay strong

  • @Tropicaljuce
    @Tropicaljuce 7 років тому +1243

    "he's still my manager" SAAAAAY WHUUUUUT

    • @Kennyjaq
      @Kennyjaq 7 років тому +48

      eleri like fuck..

    • @leahpeci
      @leahpeci 7 років тому +186

      Mmm not healthy. I can only see that ending badly :( but good luck to her x

    • @sydneexo
      @sydneexo 7 років тому +46

      Marlena from Makeup Geek has her ex husband helping to run her company and brand, and has for years. If you don't end on bad terms there is nothing to say you can make a business relationship work. He may get phased out as the years progress but for her to lose a business manager on top of all this would cause more stress.

    • @sabrinajessica9489
      @sabrinajessica9489 7 років тому +22

      eleri must be really hard on him if he still loves her 😕

  • @MichelleneFryson
    @MichelleneFryson 7 років тому +183

    This just happened to me. Though I am John. :( Major broken heart.

  • @clearlycaroline
    @clearlycaroline 7 років тому +16

    Thank you so much for this. My boyfriend of 4 years recently broke up with me so he could "find himself" and it's still so hard because literally everything now has changed. This helped so thank you

  • @goglamgurl4479
    @goglamgurl4479 7 років тому +605

    Honestly, that's very mature of you to tell him how you really feel long term. You don't want to waste your time nor Johnathan's time in future terms. If you don't feel REALLY in love or it doesn't feel right with that person, you need to move forward.

  • @AshCleverly
    @AshCleverly 7 років тому +214

    god bless your beautiful soul, girl. i have SO much respect for you, it's takes a lot of fucking courage to admit something as painful as that and i know just how hard it is. take it easy and know that so many people love you x

  • @yukyayukyukya2330
    @yukyayukyukya2330 6 років тому +8

    my mom and her ex were together for 6 years, but they broke up. few months later she met my dad and they got married after 3 months getting to know each other, now they’ve been married for 26 years ❤️

  • @Ca_1021
    @Ca_1021 7 років тому +102

    I'm so proud of you shani for being so honest with yourself. You will grow from this

  • @Missmasha11
    @Missmasha11 7 років тому +25

    When I was hearing this, it was like listening to myself. I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago for the same reason. But we need to think about ourselves first! Time solves everything. xx

  • @laurenduck1489
    @laurenduck1489 7 років тому +477

    Shani, I'm ashamed to say I always thought you were an immature party girl (not always a bad thing, especially at our age), but I was so wrong. This video has changed my whole perception of you. You are so smart emotionally, strong, and just wise beyond your years. To be in a healthy relationship and see it is still not right for you and to leave sooner rather than later is so smart. I'm so sorry for the breakup, and so sorry for my previous perception of you.

    • @chavellaminerva
      @chavellaminerva 7 років тому +15

      I so agree with what you said. Shani is a genuinely good and beautiful person. I think she really was comfortable with John and he def treated her like a queen. A real gentleman would give an impact like that she's mature beyond her year. They both wonderful people who know how to cope as an adult.

    • @shairaliehogan7273
      @shairaliehogan7273 7 років тому

      Honestly same

  • @mbxox7179
    @mbxox7179 6 років тому +2

    I remember watching this video 7 months ago and it inspiring me, and i recently broke off a relationship where i constantly wasn't happy and was constantly arguing with him over him making me unhappy. I've literally just watched this video again and I'm crying with how upset i am over the relationship ending but crying with happiness over putting myself and my own happiness first. This video is exactly what i needed

  • @joannas7653
    @joannas7653 7 років тому +54

    Time heals everything, Shani. Keep surrounding yourself with friends and family and stay positive. You'll find another someone who will treat you just as well as you wish and so will John. You guys are both amazing people. Sending love to both of you!

  • @BeccaLuvsYoux
    @BeccaLuvsYoux 7 років тому +138

    I stopped watching love island for this. I'm so sorry Shani, it's so so awful to see you like this, we love you💖💖

    • @rebekahandrews5285
      @rebekahandrews5285 7 років тому +7

      Becca Discombe Me too!
      Fuck Olivia and her attention seeking 😂

    • @BeccaLuvsYoux
      @BeccaLuvsYoux 7 років тому +2

      Rebekah Andrews i cannot stand the girl!! really wanted Mike to mug her off

    • @wtfisthisshizz
      @wtfisthisshizz 7 років тому

      Becca Discombe LOOOL love island is so much better than this

    • @emmaramshaw8832
      @emmaramshaw8832 7 років тому

      Did Olivia choose mikeeeee? Who got bootedddd?

  • @tundrabean
    @tundrabean 7 років тому +311

    my 2 year relationship ended today. and crazy enough his name was john as well. i probably shouldn't be watching this ...

    • @isabelsanchez2986
      @isabelsanchez2986 7 років тому +31

      Katie Elizabeth - my two year relationship just ended too stay strong girl ❣️

    • @ellapicton6397
      @ellapicton6397 7 років тому +18

      wait until you have a 4 year relationship end! not fun

    • @amuna2492
      @amuna2492 7 років тому +7

      Katie Elizabeth - you're gonna be ok gurl youre strong

    • @isabelsanchez2986
      @isabelsanchez2986 7 років тому +2

      Ugh I don't even wanna know what that feels like 2 years is hard enough stay strong girl

    • @tundrabean
      @tundrabean 7 років тому +2

      ahahahahhaah you guys! his old female friend tagged him in a pic of them drinking together so i'm GOOD! 👏🏼👏🏼 thanks for the nice words though!!

  • @DaneraNW
    @DaneraNW 6 років тому +8

    Who’s here after watching her new Vid about her and John getting back together😩😩😩❤️

  • @hbkkbbkjnljknk.okmokmoom8645
    @hbkkbbkjnljknk.okmokmoom8645 7 років тому +37

    omg i understand you .you are the Most important "thing" in your life , and that's okay!
    You can do that!!!

  • @oompacrime
    @oompacrime 7 років тому +110

    I don't even know you but when you started crying, I felt so bad for you. Like, I even started crying

  • @SamanthaWicks
    @SamanthaWicks 7 років тому +196

    Fuck when bindi and peanut were brought up I balled 😭😭 But I think it's fair to say we all still have a place for you and John in our hearts. He helped you grow into the beautiful person you are today but you also grew yourself! You're so so strong and so independent Shani and I think we have all witnessed that in this video but also in the past. You've helped me through so much and I could never be more greatful for what you've taught me over the years. Remember everything will be okay eventually and you will always have the support of me and everyone else for what you choose to do next on your life adventure! Loving you always xx oh and remember to smile ❤️❤️

  • @iluvnickjonas0502
    @iluvnickjonas0502 7 років тому +1

    Shani, I can't thank you enough for posting this video.I am going through a TERRIBLE breakup right now. I thought he was the one for so long until I realized I had totally lost myself. I was so blinded by all the good things he did for me, I overlooked the fact that he was extremely controlling. It was so unhealthy and it led me into terrible anxiety and panic attacks. Two weeks ago I found the strength to break things off and it has been hell ever since. You know I also went through a period of guys treating me like shit and I was in such a bad place. A part of me wanted to stay in this relationship because I was afraid of not finding anyone better. In the end you have to do what is best for YOU. So much respect for you girl. Nothing but love for you.

  • @chantelletaylor2142
    @chantelletaylor2142 7 років тому +18

    This actually broke my heart seeing her so upset. Balling my eyes out😭💗

  • @jesspownall459
    @jesspownall459 7 років тому +223

    i've literally just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years and i can't relate to you so so much, i fell out of love too and it's awful i felt sooooo bad but i sat and thought "no, this time i have to put myself first" like that vision of a future etc just disappeared and sometimes we can't help that, we love you and john sooo much, independence is so important or you just rely on having someone there all the time💔 love you shani xx

    • @jesspownall459
      @jesspownall459 7 років тому +15

      the part where you talk about where you shouldn't put up with guys that treat you like shit💔 thank you so much.

    • @jesspownall459
      @jesspownall459 7 років тому +3

      i'm commenting as i watch it fs, i feel bad now u said don't give me sympathy but i just relate sooooooooo bad like i am so fucking happy and we only broke up on monday?? like i feel bad that i am happy but i am?? you are my favourite person on earth

  • @nicolamcmillan1809
    @nicolamcmillan1809 7 років тому +33

    Falling out of love happens, you'll both be happier soon enough. Stay strong girl, everyone's here for the both of you 💘💘

  • @carabagan5230
    @carabagan5230 7 років тому +353

    Shani's getting bashed for thinking about her feelings, she's going through a tough time stop saying mean shit to her she doesn't deserve it. If she doesn't wanna be with him any longer she doesn't have to, "I feel bad Jonathan" or "he treated her so well" just stop the negativity against her, if Shani wasn't on the internet this wouldn't be such a big discussion/debate.

    • @dorramichel2778
      @dorramichel2778 7 років тому +7

      " Breaking up is not easy, its fu**in hard to get the word out of your mouth " It's funny she saying this, cause for men it's so efin easy to go to a girl and tell her it's over, they can care less if she be hurtin', chocked, crying or whatever. So PLEASE don't feel guilty about it, meantime there are thousands of men in this world breaking thousands of girls hearts everyday by saying bye bye to them for NO reason (the majority of the time)

    • @marylouisemcdonald8512
      @marylouisemcdonald8512 7 років тому +1

      Dorra Rahali I don't think it's easy for men to say goodbye , I think breakups are hard for both men and women! Iv broken up with people and they've broken up with me but any time it's Happened it's been incredibly hard for both of us. I think some guys are jerks yes.. But so are some women. Anyway I think it's great what's she's doing a lot of people wouldn't have the strength she's being honest with him and that's what he deserves

  • @shaylivano
    @shaylivano 7 років тому +281

    i hate seeing you cry omg, this actually made me tear up, we love you and we're here if you ever need us of course (even if you say you're fine) we're glad you're okay babe, love you so much x

  • @margheritaarisio9133
    @margheritaarisio9133 7 років тому +77

    I feel your pain.
    it hurts, I know.
    be strong.

  • @Koda.greyyyy
    @Koda.greyyyy 7 років тому +933

    Take your time, if you need a break from UA-cam do it we will wait for you.

    • @lauraknss157
      @lauraknss157 7 років тому +5

      BeverlT Martinez agreed

    • @kristinagraham6270
      @kristinagraham6270 7 років тому +1

      BeverlT Martinez Oh, I thought this was her job?

    • @MsDemily
      @MsDemily 7 років тому +4

      Kristina Graham it is but she doesn't have a boss or anyone to answer to so she can come and go as she pleases

    • @kristinagraham6270
      @kristinagraham6270 7 років тому

      Demi Pomare I own my business and I would never take a break over a 2 year relationship. Nor would i allow my employees to do so. Someone will always be there you take your place. This UA-cam thing won't last forever. Adults never take breaks.

    • @MsDemily
      @MsDemily 7 років тому +2

      ok fam. put yourself on the internet we'll see how you react when someshit goes down LOL being a social media influencer may be the hardest profession, mentally and emotionally to do. so if you think the shits so easy how about you do it xo

  • @AmysMakeupBox
    @AmysMakeupBox 7 років тому +3

    You made me cry 😭 ❤️ hope you're ok babe :( xxxxxx

  • @bianca9750
    @bianca9750 7 років тому +88

    I'm glad you and john dated, I've been watching from the start and seeing how happy he made you, made me happy. I'm glad I got to see an example how a guy SHOULD treat you. I remember watching someone of your vlogs or snapchat story and seeing how you treat eachother, I remember telling my self that I want to find a relationship like that not anything less. This relationship changed me and certainly changed you and john, great example of why everything happeneds for a reason!

  • @snowpuffxx
    @snowpuffxx 7 років тому +201

    Not all relationships are meant to be forever - we have best friends that we had in school that we don't talk to anymore but they were wonderful while they lasted and no regrets! Boyfriends are the same...it was perfect when the relationship was there, but then it's also okay when things change ❤️

  • @cescalang9354
    @cescalang9354 7 років тому +253

    This video was actually so helpful. I was on the other side of my breakup, my boyfriend fell out of love with me and it was the hardest thing to understand. He didn't explain it that well because I think he struggled with it to and hearing it from someone else has really helped it to be put into perspective. Thank you💕

  • @vanessa4truth297
    @vanessa4truth297 7 років тому +7

    Oh my love you made the right decision. I completely understand what you're going through and trust that when you get older you will find lasting love. I used to be just like you, falling out of love with wonderful men but it's simply because you aren't ready. You are ambitious and independent so go do you and forgo relationships for a while. Enjoy your youth and fall in love later.

  • @tswizzy34
    @tswizzy34 7 років тому +804

    why am I crying in the club right now

    • @danielle1682
      @danielle1682 7 років тому +32

      Taylor * lmao idk why this cracked me up so much. Why are you watching UA-cam in the club? Hahaha

    • @stormietolar3675
      @stormietolar3675 7 років тому +9

      I wish I could post the meme rn

    • @musicaddiction211
      @musicaddiction211 7 років тому +15

      www.google.com.au/search?q=why+am+i+crying+in+the+club+right+now&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjd1JTm0orVAhUBopQKHVHGB80Q_AUICigB&biw=767&bih=751

    • @captain6939
      @captain6939 7 років тому

      Hey girls 👱🏻‍♀️

    • @misssoleil2056
      @misssoleil2056 7 років тому +39

      ain't no crying in the club girl

  • @anckkk
    @anckkk 7 років тому +396

    I feel bad for John in case if he still really loves you, since he will still be staying in contact with you and your family it must be really hard for him knowing that you don't feel the same. I think for him to move on faster, he shouldn't be in contact with you that much. Hope everything turns out good for both

    • @tacocat6740
      @tacocat6740 7 років тому +50

      anckkk I was thinking the same thing. I feel bad for John 😭😥😖

  • @biancajohnston2172
    @biancajohnston2172 7 років тому +102

    Literally just had a really upsetting break up a day after you and john broke up. Knowing you were almost going through the same thing made me feel so much understandable and better.

    • @alliechambers126
      @alliechambers126 7 років тому +3

      Same here girl. We're all in this together! :)

  • @ninapetriskova3194
    @ninapetriskova3194 7 років тому

    you know what? i like when youre being vulnerable even crying and being honest , that makes it real, that makes YOU real and human and thats cool, thank you for the video

  • @kimmaaayxo
    @kimmaaayxo 7 років тому +16

    Shani! What you just did just proves how much of a fucking honest and amazing person you are. You didnt wait, always put yourself first and you wont hurt yourself or John ❤️ I love you Shan, be strong we are all here for you! I hope for nothing but blessings and many great opportunities.

  • @julyssa6084
    @julyssa6084 7 років тому +288

    I WANTED TO WIPE THE TEARS OFF HER FACE OMG 😭😭❤️❤️

    • @dianacarrero8687
      @dianacarrero8687 7 років тому +1

      Julyssa it's so sad 😩

    • @ShaniGrimmond
      @ShaniGrimmond  7 років тому +38

      Julyssa aww love you xxx

    • @julyssa6084
      @julyssa6084 7 років тому +3

      Shani Grimmond OMG YOU REPLIED OMG SHANI I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @mollycanterbury1667
    @mollycanterbury1667 7 років тому +35

    shani just want you to know 1.2 million people are always with you including me we all love you just the way you feel about jonathan xoxo

  • @TravellingwithMother
    @TravellingwithMother 7 років тому

    omg honestly I watch so many youtubers and you are the only one I truly feel connected to on a real friendship level! Even though we live on opposite sides of the country.... **HUGS YOU!**

  • @jasminefernandez6494
    @jasminefernandez6494 7 років тому +64

    Omg shani you're the most kind and genuine person on this earth

  • @emilyb8268
    @emilyb8268 7 років тому +30

    i totally understand how you feel I broke up with my boyfriend because like you I just fell out of love, it really hurt to break up with him but I know that he will find someone who is the one for him. After we broke I was really heart broken but i knew it was the right thing to do. So I totally get you and I just wish I could give u a hug right now❤

  • @micaelabattelino
    @micaelabattelino 7 років тому +7

    I have an immense respect for you. It's hard to show these kind of emotions in general but to share them on social media is a whole different story. We are all here for you, hun. Sending all my love to you!

  • @HarrieSilver
    @HarrieSilver 7 років тому +127

    Hey Shani, please look up relationship OCD, I have this as well as many other people but something that goes under the radar because many people think they just "fall out of love" ROCD has ruined my life for years, any relationship that I've had for the past 4 years has been ruined by ROCD, I can be fully in love and then in one second it will just go, although I know I love my boyfriend deep down, I always worry/get anxious that I don't and after a while makes me feel unhappy, but I know that whenever I break up a relationship for this reason it happens again in my next relationship exactly the same. There's info on the internet for this and getting therapy helps, although this may not be your case I thought it might help

    • @alexisbradley1725
      @alexisbradley1725 7 років тому +8

      iEmSilver omg this has helped me a lot. I never knew what it was with me

    • @itselleyy
      @itselleyy 7 років тому +7

      I have this!!!

    • @raeofsun8931
      @raeofsun8931 7 років тому +5

      iEmSilver I HAVE THIS AS WELL. It's honestly awful

    • @itselleyy
      @itselleyy 7 років тому +1

      Donovan Green omg that means so much thank you!!😍☺️

    • @anBanBan
      @anBanBan 7 років тому +5

      Oh my god, I looked this up and I actually think I have this.... I'm always doubting my relationship with absolutely NO reason at all...

  • @arielcarnahan8120
    @arielcarnahan8120 7 років тому +24

    Sometimes it's good to be selfish and put yourself first honey. You're a beautiful bright independent women Shani! Love you ❤️xx

  • @itsmeannah4285
    @itsmeannah4285 7 років тому +1129

    I never clicked so fast.

  • @TBNZVLOGS
    @TBNZVLOGS 7 років тому +23

    Honestly the only thing I grabbed out of this video was a box of tissues. I want to support you as much as I possibly can. I love you because you are an intelligent, beautiful, and inspiring woman. Stay Strong and don't let anything or anyone get in your way!❤️❤️❤️

  • @singerforlifexo
    @singerforlifexo 7 років тому +3

    Ugh girl I'm so sorry, you really are doing the right thing for yourself. It's tough but sometimes you just lose feelings and that's ok; it happens. Don't feel bad for doing it, if it's not meant to be then it's not and that doesn't mean you two can't be on amazing terms, not every breakup needs to be a bad one. You're doing what you need too!

  • @coleb9985
    @coleb9985 7 років тому +89

    Wishing you and Jonathan the best, your both great people who deserve well from what I can see!! Xoxo

  • @helenaevaa3200
    @helenaevaa3200 7 років тому +27

    I'm happy you made this video to show and tell about your situation. That makes you very strong to be able to be vulnerable in this way. Maybe this will help others who end up breaking up and help them get over it. I'm still young and have a lot to experience so this will help me to realize I will get in situations like this almost everyone does. But stay strong girl. Cry as much as you need but remember the right one will come your way someday.

  • @alisonvandam4950
    @alisonvandam4950 7 років тому +1090

    I had no idea that Jonathan was her manager...

    • @babycakes7231
      @babycakes7231 7 років тому +121

      Alison Martin that might have played into why she fell out of love with him 🤔

    • @MRAWSOME6698
      @MRAWSOME6698 7 років тому +22

      you know what they say, just fuck the hand that feeds you

    • @LauraSinclairxox
      @LauraSinclairxox 7 років тому +11

      you are an idiot...he never started as her manager!! Piss off elsewhere

    • @MRAWSOME6698
      @MRAWSOME6698 7 років тому +1

      fffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffan girl am I right?????? ;)

    • @alexanderjanich1685
      @alexanderjanich1685 7 років тому +1

      what is wrong with you? 😂

  • @beki2729
    @beki2729 6 років тому +13

    Watching this while seeing your comeback post!! Yaaaaaas guuurl, best decision to realise he is Perfect for you! Seriously i wish you the best!!

  • @liftgracefully
    @liftgracefully 7 років тому +49

    You need to call up micheal, sit down, and eat with each other. It works😂💕😘