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How Japan Makes Money from Loneliness (Notes From a Lonely Japanese Salaryman)
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- Опубліковано 14 сер 2024
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How does loneliness support the Japanese economy?
This video will be Part 1 of a two-part video series, where Part 1 will be dedicated to first introducing the different types of businesses that have largely sprouted in Japan in the recent years or have risen in their popularity, that primarily targets the immense size of the lonely population of Japan as its main clientele, and play a role in the Japanese economy by supplying the services in demand.
And instead of listing these number of businesses in Japan that benefits from the nation's loneliness epidemic, in the form of business A, B, C, D, E,
we decided to introduce them in the form of a first person narrative of a fictional Japanese character named Masa, in relation to his life-long struggle against loneliness in its progressive stages. Hope you enjoy.
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I graduated from Waseda University 早稲田大学 (the alma mater of the current Japanese Prime Minister, Chairman of Samsung Group, CEO of Sony, president and CEO of Honda, etc) with a degree in Global Political Economy 国際政治経済学科 at the Department of Political Science and Economics 政治経済学部, and have lived, studied and worked in Japan for over 10 years.
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⌚️ Timestamps:
0:00-2:15 “The mother was smiling on her face, but in actual reality, her entire body was crying.”
2:15- 5:17 40% of the people in Japan are lonely.
5:17-6:49 The Story of Masa
6:50- 8:19 Pursuit of realism, rather than sensationalism
8:20- 11:42 Sponsor
11:43-16:03 Stage 1- Spark of Loneliness
16:04-19:33 Stage 2- Progressive Awareness of Loneliness
19:34-21:12 Stage 3- Active Solution-Seeking against Loneliness
21:13- 26:28 Stage 4- Renunciation, and Acceptance of Loneliness as an Inevitable Part of Being
26:29 Stage 5- Death Through Loneliness
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Our Book:
THE SECRETS OF THE JAPANESE MIND- Demystifying the Japanese psyche towards life, gender, love, sex and more.
payhip.com/b/eBk45
Based on my decade-plus years of experience living in Japan, our book will mainly be of fruit for reaching two goals:
1.Maximizing utility that is to be had in a Japanese setting, or a setting composed of Japanese people, by being able to understand why they do what they do (and not just sit there and complain of how they do things so differently)
2.Avoid the years of trial-and-error and pain in which I had to personally face when interacting with people from this island nation, composed of individuals whose psychological framework was by far the most idiosyncratic to that of people from any other country where I’ve lived in (South Korea, UK, Australia, China, Malaysia, etc)
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◆About us◆
AL
I graduated from Waseda University 早稲田大学 (the alma mater of the current Japanese Prime Minister, Chairman of Samsung Group, CEO of Sony, president and CEO of Honda, etc) with a degree in Global Political Economy 国際政治経済学科 at the Department of Political Science and Economics 政治経済学部, and have lived, studied and worked in Japan for over a decade.
I am in charge with the research and presentation on our UA-cam Channel.
HELEN
My wife Helen majored in Japanese Language for her bachelor's degree, and has broad experiences working in Japan as a Japanese translator.
Helen is in charge of the beautiful editing and thumbnail designs that you see on our UA-cam Channel.
Bro this is the most blackpilled essay Ive ever seen. Its tough to swallow but we need to understand the reality of what we are dealing with.
I've just come across your videos today, but this one... This one is the best. The combination of reality and fiction, plus your voice and music choice was just, amazing.
A comment and a like so that others may find this too as it deserves many more eyes
It is miserably exaggerated, or tell me, are Japanese people so apt at failing as social beings?
Thanks for putting this excellent video together... although it's subject matter is anything but. I'm in America, but in the age of the internet, it's only gotten harder to meet other people to form genuine connections with, not just romantic ones. This might be more prevalent in Asia for now, but it's coming soon to the rest of the world.
Thank you. And yes, I do also believe that some of the developments that are currently happening in Japan could also eventually manifest in other nations around the world in similar forms. -AL
your fictional story is so emotional and and it feels like a story of a real person living in loneliness for aeon.
Oh yes, only in japan is talking to coworkers or people in the park is considered creepy while rneting a girlfriend not creepy. SMH
I get it... being lonely feels like almost crying all day long from wake to sleep. Any relief I'd give anything for..
I'm happy being me I love myself the issue isn't that I don't respect or care for me.i have fun being me but I would like to share my life with another. I get it.
Even though I've never been to Japan, I have interacted with Japanese people online, and when you talk to them, it turns-out that the emphasis is actually more on the word PEOPLE. I'm an animator/designer by profession, so a part of my job is to read & make media for a living.
The "Weird Japan" fad always rubbed me the wrong way, because I always found it to be infantilizing. Guess what! The reason why 'random & weird' things are funny, is because that's what comedy is. It's SUPPOSE to make you question your own reality. And if yours IS grueling 24/7 desk job with the only breather being getting drunk with your friends afterhours, ANY type of fantasy is frankly welcomed.
The wackier a product is, the better it's novelty, and that's the closest thing to """love""" a product can ever make, sadly.
This narrated story has a making of a movie. Ad a plot twist and it can be a netflix movie. LOL
Keep doing what you're doing! I enjoyed this video, very well put together.
Thank you, Justin. -AL
I'm so glad I am married (9yrs) I feel so deeply for those who are lonely. I was lonely once too. I can only imagine how hard it is in these times. Things are so different now. Dating and just socializing has changed so much. Good luck my friends, I am wishing you find what you are looking for.
just praying to God to find me a better half dont worry for us!
U are indeed very lucky.
Many of us are not this lucky and there will be much more of us in the future, bcs of the things u have mentioned.
fantastic, just fantastic. Truly well made. I am lucky to live in central europe and have some loyal and true friends who want to spend time with me. i still feel lonely occasionally, but at least i know some people care for me.
Thank you. And glad to hear that you are getting by well. -AL
I find it very difficult to sympathise with someone who claims he's suffering from loneliness and a lack of genuine connection with another human being when it's so obvious he only sees other people as a means to an end ie as a cure for his loneliness.
He's very self-centered and looks at only what other people can/cannot provide for him. He lacks empathy and a genuine interest in other people and that is why he keeps failing in these endeavours to form relationships with others.
Even with the marriage story all he focused on was how he didn't feel any real love for his wife. Love is not something you feel, it is something you build with someone else. Instead he chose to run away and find temporary solaces with those establishments, which left him feeling even emptier.
"It's not like I'm part of any group or activity outside of work, either" from that statement it is already clear that he is not serious about wanting true human connection.
I do not fully blame the people who use these services but it really makes no sense that they expect anything profound by participating in them. They should wake up to reality
all he asked is for someone to comfort him and you failed to realize that
@@zt680 and you failed to comprehend what I wrote because that's literally what I said
I agree. I was rolling my eyes the entire story.
And i find it difficult to understand how people start thinking about an issue by blaming the victim. He wanted a good connection with someone else and his wife just did not happen to be it, he was mostly married under social pressure as said.
And no, relationship does not have to be "built" especially not someone you didn't really connect with. What a transactional attitude.
It’s obvious from the story that he didn’t want to marry his wife. Instead, it was forced onto him (and her) by societal pressure and expectations. He says he didn’t love her, but I’m sure she also didn’t feel much, judging from the circumstances leading to their marriage. I’m sorry but you just can’t force feelings or a connection when there isn’t any. I’m not talking about infatuation, which is harmful in the long term, but you have to feel something for the other, in order to “build” the love. Or else you could build it with anyone, but that’s not the case. If he’d married, for example, the girl from the renting services, the situation likely wouldn’t be so dire. There obviously wasn’t much chemistry between him and his wife, which is essential
Superb work! I love your videos, and this one is especially great. I realized I wasn't subscribed, so I just did! Keep up the awesome story telling, guys!
wow another great video... what a vivid, empathetic fiction. I really enjoyed a more insightful, less sensational look at some of the more unique business products and services of 21st Japan. Tons to think about! also super nice to hear from Helen, a fellow snack lover!
Thank you Vanessa!
Wow what a real poignant video, the journal format was spot-on. Really connects the various services together
Reading what Dale Carnegie and Benjamin Franklin and Aristotle said about friendship would help.
Excellent video, super interesting and also very sad. Finding real connections with others is becoming harder and harder even in other countries nowadays, it does get lonely 😢
This is so eye opening. I could never believe this is happening in real life, I really need to travel and study more. I’m looking forward to part 2.
Also I have a question. A monthly pay of 200,000 yen is considered low in Japan? If so, how much is considered average for a salaryman?
Hi, there. On a realistic basis, a monthly salary of 200,000 yen is considered quite average in Japan. However, when it comes to the desired salary in which an individual would expect from a potential partner or spouse, 200,000 yen is still quite low to be deemed as the "ideal salary", and for the standards of many, too low to even be perceived as middle-class.
If I have latched onto a stereotype that is completely not true let me know, the boundaries of it.
The stereotype I'm going to expound on is the one of the child being pushed by their parents to excel at school.
Such a child would spend their day avoiding too much interaction with their classmates. After regular school they would usually attend a cram school that emphasizes math. Then home to domestic chores, the evening meal, then possibly off to another cram school again either for math or some other subject/s.
After graduation and having gotten into a secondary University (not a top school but still a respectable college).
4 years later after a schedule similar to High School (no time to socialize).
This person who for the entirety of their life from the time they finished the equivalent of Elementary School, their parents started pushing for Academic Excellence so their child could get into a prestigious University.
The standards are high and the top Universities only take so many new students, so even with top marks, a high performing Highschool Student will probably miss the cutoff for a top secondary school.
Parental disappointment is not as bad because in reality their child made it into a very good college, not just one that could confer a high status to the students and almost guarantee a high salary career.
So while the focus of this little narrative still went to a good school and have landed an okay position, (what the job is and with whom we'll leave to more knowledgeable readers)
An analysis of our now adult child.
The child is lonely.
Why?
Because of the focus on Academics and very little interaction with their peers both male and female. At best they have the social and emotional IQ of a 12 year old but the knowledge of an adult that they are woefully unprepared after years of Academia they have no idea how to make friends with their coworkers.
They work for a company that demands they dedicate their lives to the company, which means for the first 5 years they give everything to the company including free time. Thus this adult wakes up and realizes they've sacrificed a lot to their parents and now to society and a company/their job...
They realize they are lonely and they discover the "Loneliness Businesses", and in an attempt to escape this vault that was built around them, starting with their parents then at some point having been infused with their parents need to raise a child who could take care of them , at least financially in their old age.
In the form of Academic Excellence became their only vision and completed what their parents started.
Unfortunately due to the cultural need to appear calm and put together, not an emotional wreck. Our child is hurting due to lack of socialization and they have no idea how to bridge the gap that has become a chasm they cannot cross to form real connection/s with anyone.
This is in essence what I see that happened in Japan, boys were slightly More desirable than girls, but not to the extent they are in China. Are pushed to excel so they can get a job as an adult so they can eventually support their parents in their old age. Well they succeeded but at the cost of their child's ability to form real and meaningful connections to their peers. Socially stunted, and in fear of never having a normal life, marriage is not what their parents had, it's more like having a roommate that is just as withdrawn into a cocoon formed by society neither can or will try to connect because neither can let their guard down.
In this sad instance meaning Masa can only make temporary connections with the women in the Hostess Clubs because he's drinking and that lowers inhibitions. It's kinda sad that the only way people especially those in such a nation with raw potential, that they literally cannot make lasting social connections without resorting to alcohol.
In my 20s a little alcohol went a long way. But never saw it as a cure for anything.
A true story from Okinawa Japan
I spent 3 years there while in the military.
My nextdoor neighbor's wife got a job off base at a Japanese automotive shop as an English speaker to ease the communication gap between the owners and their customers. Their customers being U.S. Military members and their spouses.
In Japan if you own a car (as a Japanese citizen, every two years it has to go through an inspection) well as a Military member you also have to have your car inspected every two years. Except when the powers that be hammered out the agreement of what us Army, Air Force, Marines and Navy personnel, would have to do for being given the privilege of operating a vehicle in their country (a quick class on the difference in road signs and how to understand what they meant in a short afternoon class attended by our spouses as well. We were given a Japanese driver's license (American military version)
While a Japanese citizen has to spend thousands of dollars taking driving classes from private schools. It also takes years, at the end when they receive their license, they are considered Professional Drivers, I'm not sure about print tests or driving tests for taxis or driving a truck, but race car driver is a professional driver, or at least that's what they told us in our intro to driving in Japan.
I digressed. We Americans had the distinct pleasure of having to submit our cars every other year. So we had a special inspection setup every year. If it wasn't the basic 2 year inspection it was the American inspection.
Our neighbor had worked there for several months when the owners threw a cook out/ party. Of course the neighbor's wife attended and so did he.
There were two groups the women and the men.
As the evening progresses and the beer is flowing, my neighbor realizes that he's having less and less trouble understanding the guys, and he commented on the fact he felt they were speaking English better, they however told him that the reason he could understand them better was the fact he was drunk.
Side Note
Japanese have been taught "The Queen's now King's English for decades. Many Japanese can speak proper British English sans the English accent. They don't and stick with broken English so they don't make a mistake.
So the fact that my neighbor recognized the fact the guys were speaking English better because the alcohol relaxed their inhibition towards making a grammatical error, therefore speaking better English when drunk.
I hope auto correct hasn't messed up my meanderings too much.
I heard that mixers or what used to be known as match making parties would do well in Japan from what I have heard from my Japanese friends I think.
Fascinating story. Completely fictional. I’m sure it’s partially true. It’s odd for people to feel lonely when people are right in front of them. This man doesn’t know how to connect with his own wife who happens to accept his status and salary, but the woman in the apps wanted someone with higher status and salary. He rather go for unattainable women or women he can rent. Thus, will not develop a deeper connection with his wife. It seems loneliness is actually the preference since it’s an artificial existence to allow someone to pursue their vices.
We have all this tech for connection, but we're all more alone than ever nowadays
I live in Hong Kong and face similar issues as Masa. The social norms here are bit laxer with regards to talking to coworkers and people in public but there is still a barrier. Also long work hours and mentally draining work does not leave me with much motivation to date and make connections.
I already knew I was heading in this path, but knowing what I know now it's a depressing life
I already lost 3 friends what's the point anymore. I hate when people say " you meet someone" if I was 16 then and then 28 now still the same don't want to reach 57 and still the same boat.
What a production! You should have more viewers. But then, if people really cared about lonely people, we wouldn't have this problem to begin with.
Great summary on Japan social problems!
You should create another branch of the story where the main character had children and the children ran away because of treatment they received at home and becomes Toyoko kids😞
The first thing to realize is that Japan's policies are not made by the Japanese government but by the United States. The meaning is that the Japanese government is not for the sake of the Japanese people. I think it's hard for people in other countries to notice that.
The Japanese have been at a disadvantage from the beginning. Japan is such a country.
Your videos are very good I only think the background music is too persistent as your voice is interesting enough to listen to alone.
Either some men get ready to be the "bad guys" and break this stuff apart, it will keep getting worse. Sad, but true
I truly understand isolation and being introverted my whole life, my choice and it's just a disposition not a disease lol (you are either introverted, extroverted or a bit of both) Culture or not, why do I feel like marriage is like a breeding program "
Either you do or don't. It's just a choice, why take it so seriously and like its life or death, or you don't have a choice, you do it because that's what everyone does??
I just understand this subjected way of thinking. It's wrong.
There are too many celebrated that don't want to marry or have kids, just not interested and happy with their life and what they enjoy which is empowering.
No offense even if humans were going to go extinct, I'd still have these feelings.
Yeah that step 2 to step 3 was a really big one. I could never take that step.
Bro's mistake was he should have tried kikon app instead of healmate, get down and get dirty....that always makes life worth living!
Jeez this is beyond depressing….
Im not Japanese but i can very much relate to being deprived of relationship with loving parter. And i know this is a problem that is most common in Asia but it's definitely soon gonna be wide spread across most 1st and 2nd world countries considering the trends.
One thing I can't relate tho is that if i would manage to get a wife, i would cherish her more than anything in my life. I could never understand a man who struggles to find a love parter so hard yet be so unhappy after getting married... It should be the opposite, he should be overjoyed, even if it's not the dream wife, it's still a woman who agreed to become ur lover for the rest of ur life, with whom u can create a family.
Anyway tough situation in Japan but it really looks like a "dystopian future" that will be the norm everywhere around the world in the future. Reminds of bladerunner 2049, where u can have a virtual girlfriend (Japan already created virtual waifus) and where main protagonist is a lonely man with no connection to a real person.
Very relatable character for me and tbh many other men.
When a friendship or relationship started to become transactional, it is not genuine relationship anymore.
All the things this fictional character do is very transactional. He wants to not feel lonely, not to find connection.
The story is lumping all of Japan's social problems into 1 extreme example of a person, but yeah, it does highlight the worst exploitation of the Japanese work culture and loneliness epidemic. Sigh... I hope PM Kishida's reforms would finally make a difference for Japan
Having a woman that comes with the apartment is from the movie *Soylent Green.*
ryuno WHAT
Man, the gold digging and exploitation are real 😢
Otherwise arranged marriage?
The West is different. Marriage is for the rich or a thing of the past here.
This isn't anything new
i don't think woman, are coming back to reality, to many online jobs, they can make easy money at, and to many men, with issues. Death Spiral, i had my fun and still can, so goodluck Fellas!